NOTE: Procrastination and laziness are two different states. You can be both lazy and a procrastinator. Procrastination is an active process of choosing to do something else instead of what you 'should' be doing. Laziness is linked to apathy and an unwillingness to act. It's an intrinsic unwillingness to put in the effort to achieve your goals. Being clear on what they are still doesn't excuse bad behavior. . Another way of looking at this - I procrastinate with housework but I easily work 7 days week on my business almost all year round. Doesn't make me lazy. I just don't enjoy house work. More reasons you procrastinate & how to overcome them here 😊: ua-cam.com/video/mult2Vlmums/v-deo.html
This is so crazy because it’s so true, now that I can reflect within myself after learning that procrastination is from an Emotional discrepancy. Mine is the opposite, I know that if I move forward with my success, once I become successful within a few months of finally “pushing the flashing Button” that will initiate my success, I will leave my GF bc she has no ambition for her own goals. So I’ve been procrastinating getting on with my success. I’m holding myself back on purpose, you could say and I’ve been trying to rip off the bandaid for a while now. I’ve known this about our dynamic, but it’s very interesting to confirm this internal conflict. This is spot on.
Totally understand you! It’s my biggest challenge and has made tes me so much I get even very anxious about anything now .. even doing things I like so much 😢 it’s horrible I’m very thankful I just found these video now! These psychologist is really very good
A bad advice actually, you should be doing your task for the sake of doing it, not for the sake of the reward. The answer she gave is kinda like how scientists in the 1960s used to train rats.
I'll read your comment next time (and you won't do the same with mine, if you reach the emoticon at the end of this phrase). 😋 Ps: But you'll be always allowed yo REread it.
@@ShadeZahrai I love the part when it's gibberish word salad but the light camera and make up is on point. Porn is banned in India. Tiktok is also banned. Now this is trending.. 😁😁😁😁😁😁
Awesome video! It's basically mostly fear (of unwanted outcome) in most cases. At least for me... I just power through it with a simple tactic nowadays. As I know the fear (urge to procrastinate) is the strongest before starting or in the very beginning of doing the task, I use my "cold water" approach. I call it that way because it reminds me of entering cold water/sea/lake/whatever... It's the best (but the hardest) to just jump right in and not to analyse too much. It will be terrible for a few seconds, but soon you'll be swimming and the water won't seem so cold anymore. The same is with the "scary" task - just grind through the initial stage and it won't seem so scary anymore. Our minds trick us so often.
@@ShadeZahrai I love the part when it's gibberish word salad but the light camera and make up is on point. Porn is banned in India. Tiktok is also banned. Now this is trending.. 😁😁😁😁😁😁
Your reels are very helpful. I suffer from decision exhaustion, which is a step beyond decision fatigue. Recently, my life has been very stressful. It’s one crisis after another. I’m just muddling through. Thank you for helping me understand! ❤
Great take on procrastination. It’s so good to see how much more people are understanding emotional states and how they affect well-being when referring to productivity. I’m only 29 but even in my childhood, no teacher ever put emotional regulation and procrastination in a sentence...people were just called lazy or poor at managing time.
Exactly what I suffer from. I fear the complexity of the Project and whether I'll be able to nail it. So, the solution as David Allen said, is to clarify our tasks.
I think I can agree with this. I'm working on a project that should've had a simple path to resolve instead it just got unnecessarily complex and now I'd rather do anything else than face this emotional suffering.
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I am a girl and I do that too. I see anyone, man or woman who I find to be beautiful, attractive and eye catching, I click right away and yeah she is very beautiful.
Procrastination is a habbit, where mind is compelled to repeat it again and again because we have been doing it since we came into senses, and it has deepen the roots that we are unable to break this rooted habbit
You hit the nail on the head here…for me it’s fear of not being able to accomplish the task and a negative outcome if it is not achieved. Thanks for the perspective!
Yes true, if your listen sad music your emotions become sad & you don't even want to go out of bed, but if you listen energetic/happy song after that you feel very energetic & can thousands of miles...or do workout easily.👍🏻
Let me add something 😊 to it - there's nothing which is perfect, we all have evolved to be better than what we were according to our resources and mental capabilities. everytime we have come up with new ideas and new solutions to get better, upgrading ourselves for new challenges. I love what you do 😅😅😅😅
I love this. It strips the guilt and self loathing that is attached to the concept of procrastination from it and activates the possibility to overcome it. To take the emotional aspect away from a problem opens up the solution.
A great value Shade. It happens to me too. I just push through and love to do that always during those situations. I always take those as an opportunity for me to grow through. Grateful to you for highlighting it here.
So you're telling me that I'm laying on my bed watching this and other haikyuu text videos because I'm scared of what will happen if I write notes of science INtReStInG
Haikyuu!! It's the fact that you want the reward but dread the process. If you like the process of making those notes you may not procrastinate it so much
To be fair she does have a point. Sometimes we feel no enthusiasm towards said task or we lose enthusiasm as a result of self doubt. So when you have said task, find reasons to value its importance and do it. PS just procrastinated and proved her points. 😌
@@seanbernard6516 Exactly right! When you have reasons to complete it (and you value those reasons), you will inherently feel motivated to complete it. Thanks for the comment Sean 😊
Or you might have undiagnosed severe ADD, as was my case. On medication now, and life feels like a cake walk. Like I've been treading water with cinder blocks tied to my feet for the last 30 years and now they are off.
Good for you i as well deal with mental health but try not rely solely on meds but im glad they help you peace and love my friend hope your well and dont be a stranger all who read this that goes for you as well 😎
Lmao yeah the reason you think life is a cakewalk now is because you’re on cocaine. Adderall is just regulated coke. Feels fucking amazing right? Just wait until you’re burnt out. Have fun with the temporary cakewalk though
@floppa floppovich are you so insecure that you attack people with chemical imbalances like honestly what did you hope to accomplish with this comment in addition to that legalized cocaine as you call it is sometimes the difference between life and death now i will not argue that there are no risks in taking these medications but for some it really is the reason they can function and not because they are addicted so for you to make that comment was not only unecessary but ignorant as well I hope you get help if you need it and be well
I’ve heard this maybe 3 times since it was posted, and every time it helps me realise something and get over a little hurdle that was hiding behind procrastination… I think I need to rewatch this once a month and least!!! Thank you soooo much 🙏🏻❤️
Yes - so true. As someone who's actively working on their issues with control, I find myself procrastinating most when I am afraid of the outcomes or feel I am not in control of what the deliverable at hand is.
Thank you very much I had no rationalization concerning ma procrastinating . Your suggestions , elegantly expressed , has given me hope that I can overcome this overwhelming emotional setback and start over with the reward instead of failure ideology . I appreciate you taking the time to share . God bless
I heard someone say: the better decision that you take is to reduce the number of decisions you take on a daily basis, that way you'll overcome what you called: decision fatigue. Thanks, so inspiring
Shadé's short videos deserve an honor for its full compact tips that aren't time consuming. It aims to help people not to earn more watch time. It's like eating a delicious whole chocolate cake in just a short time.
Procrastination - it applies on me. I always try to avoid the important things and replace them with some other things. Need to improve. Thanks for the beautiful message 😊
Procrastination has served me well. Too often the project is cancel, postponed or a better way is found at the last minute making the chore much easier
I almost subconsciously realised this but didn't give any weight to it. This gave huge weight to it, so thank you. For me, it's most often the lack of willpower from a bad sleep habit (phone addiction), but this is probably fueled by my lack of self-efficacy which hurts my self-esteem.
I know very little about emotions behind Procrastion, may be 10%. But you made it 100% clear to me. This is a striking point..!!! I will observe carefully if there is an any procrastinating tasks... Thank you Shade..!!
NOTE: Procrastination and laziness are two different states. You can be both lazy and a procrastinator. Procrastination is an active process of choosing to do something else instead of what you 'should' be doing. Laziness is linked to apathy and an unwillingness to act. It's an intrinsic unwillingness to put in the effort to achieve your goals. Being clear on what they are still doesn't excuse bad behavior. .
Another way of looking at this - I procrastinate with housework but I easily work 7 days week on my business almost all year round. Doesn't make me lazy. I just don't enjoy house work.
More reasons you procrastinate & how to overcome them here 😊: ua-cam.com/video/mult2Vlmums/v-deo.html
This is so crazy because it’s so true, now that I can reflect within myself after learning that procrastination is from an Emotional discrepancy.
Mine is the opposite, I know that if I move forward with my success, once I become successful within a few months of finally “pushing the flashing Button” that will initiate my success, I will leave my GF bc she has no ambition for her own goals. So I’ve been procrastinating getting on with my success. I’m holding myself back on purpose, you could say and I’ve been trying to rip off the bandaid for a while now.
I’ve known this about our dynamic, but it’s very interesting to confirm this internal conflict.
This is spot on.
Where are you from ?
What Mic do you use?
My God ... What a discovery ...lolz! Please stop wasting our time.
I love your videos. Big fan 😁
I bought two books on procrastination.I haven't read them yet to be honest.
_That's me!_
Aaaah ah ah ah
There's always tomorrow
I have one book i bought 17 yrs ago, just finished it last month.
Lol perfect comment ngl haha
Fear of failure and overthinking things can lead to procrastination. Something I personally need to work on.
Same here
this is my thing as well. Also working on it, because its such a challenge!
Totally understand you!
It’s my biggest challenge and has made tes me so much I get even very anxious about anything now .. even doing things I like so much 😢 it’s horrible
I’m very thankful I just found these video now!
These psychologist is really very good
same here.
I’m not a procrastinator. I’m just extremely productive at unimportant things
That's literally what procrastination is.
@@sacreddeer3361 That's the joke he was making.
@Kamron Kadirov I think they do get it but they want to be annoying. No one can be this dense at humour.
@@coryCuc If it only was a joke.
The best
She's right: the emotions that come with doing something are the things that you dread doing. She's got me subbed.
Actually, not necessary that you dread but more to do with the fear of not being good enough.
"Give yourself a reward for completing tasks." - underrated advice!
A bad advice actually, you should be doing your task for the sake of doing it, not for the sake of the reward. The answer she gave is kinda like how scientists in the 1960s used to train rats.
it works for me I've been doing it for years like she said it's all mental and everyone doesn't have the capability to motivate them selves @@Gre3k
I'll watch this video next time
Haha good one :P
Haha i got ur joke after i scrolled down think im a bit slow learning😅
I'll read your comment next time (and you won't do the same with mine, if you reach the emoticon at the end of this phrase). 😋
Ps: But you'll be always allowed yo REread it.
Jajajajajajajajajajaja
Ohhhhh good one😂
Love the part where you say it's not a "self regulation issue" but an "emotional regulation issue". Beautiful distinction 🙌
Thanks Vincent 😊🙏
Vincent Bellitto I agree
That is very true, I procrastinate so much more when I am depressed...
Infinite Adam Same!
@@ShadeZahrai I love the part when it's gibberish word salad but the light camera and make up is on point.
Porn is banned in India. Tiktok is also banned.
Now this is trending.. 😁😁😁😁😁😁
I never thought that this less-than-1minute video can give so much advice.
Better than those 10:01 minute videos on self improvement.
Thanks.
Well said good
Procrastinating is definitely a problem for me. I'm going to start working on it with these pointers tomorrow.
There's no time like the future 🤣
Y not today ?
@@dineshv8440 ummm...because I'm procrastinating?
Never do tomorrow what you can do the day after tomorrow
You nailed it! Mostly its fear of failure and chasing perfection that keeps me from doing the things I WANT to do.
_That's me_
Awesome video! It's basically mostly fear (of unwanted outcome) in most cases. At least for me...
I just power through it with a simple tactic nowadays. As I know the fear (urge to procrastinate) is the strongest before starting or in the very beginning of doing the task, I use my "cold water" approach.
I call it that way because it reminds me of entering cold water/sea/lake/whatever... It's the best (but the hardest) to just jump right in and not to analyse too much. It will be terrible for a few seconds, but soon you'll be swimming and the water won't seem so cold anymore. The same is with the "scary" task - just grind through the initial stage and it won't seem so scary anymore.
Our minds trick us so often.
Ah love this - thanks for sharing Luka! and so true - once you get through that initial 'fear', it's smooth sailing! Thanks for this comment 😊🙏
@@ShadeZahrai me too🙌🏽
💎💎💎
Thaaas right!!! Have a great day!
@@ShadeZahrai I love the part when it's gibberish word salad but the light camera and make up is on point.
Porn is banned in India. Tiktok is also banned.
Now this is trending.. 😁😁😁😁😁😁
The jokes on you, I don't procraste. I simply don't fini
Prismaticmind 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
Underrated comment
Quality!
😂😂
I’m such a procastinator, I was 3 years old when I finished my first sentence, and even then it was “I’ll do it tomorrow.”
I'm so enamored with how she speaks❤
Thank you lady. You've helped me in a very critical time. My work is my livelyhood and this is exactly what I've been experiencing. Thank you
I like your confidence Shadé, It's mesmerizing.
I love your accent. It is a mix I've never heard that makes it unique.
Your reels are very helpful. I suffer from decision exhaustion, which is a step beyond decision fatigue. Recently, my life has been very stressful. It’s one crisis after another. I’m just muddling through. Thank you for helping me understand! ❤
Wish I had come across this years ago. You are a blessing to all those who actually listen.
Too kind, thank you Derek. 🙏🏽 Glad you're getting value from the content.
OMG!! You don't how well you're making improvements in my life...thank you so much!!
Great take on procrastination. It’s so good to see how much more people are understanding emotional states and how they affect well-being when referring to productivity. I’m only 29 but even in my childhood, no teacher ever put emotional regulation and procrastination in a sentence...people were just called lazy or poor at managing time.
It really helps to have a deeper understand of how our psyche works. And you raise the importance of educators being educated in these fundamentals.
I just realized, I can never approach to a beautiful lady like her. 😭😭😭
Yea u can . Focus on having fun . Nothing else
here you are procrastinating again dude😂
Surely. You have pointed out right thing and it changed thinking way.
A lot of Love and Respect 💕
U r healer because u r eyes r
Warm and bright
I just wanna say you're beautiful!
Too kind! Thank you! 😊🙏
Shade Zahrai how old are you btw?
I tell the same.
Exactly what I suffer from. I fear the complexity of the Project and whether I'll be able to nail it. So, the solution as David Allen said, is to clarify our tasks.
You said absolutely correct mam
🙂🙂
Plz tell how to improve myself
Giving Reward and avoiding distraction.
Duly noted
Thanks a lot.
I totally agree with what you said in this video , what I like about you is that you always tell the root cause of the problem
Yes, emotional regulation AND lack of confidence in one’s abilities.
This actually makes sense.. "when there's a possibility of failure you procrastinate" 🤔🤔🤔
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The lesson here is NEVER TRY
I think I can agree with this. I'm working on a project that should've had a simple path to resolve instead it just got unnecessarily complex and now I'd rather do anything else than face this emotional suffering.
@@Uzodesign if it has got anything to do with the front end development be it HTML CSS vanialla JS or REACT , I can help
@@sidheshwartiwari9834 Actually, I'm trying to load the MLS data into the Houzez WordPress theme without manually typing in all that data and I can't seem to find a way. Please email me at uzodesign@gmail.com
I'm a simple man, I see a beautiful girl, I click.
We are indians 😂
I am a girl and I do that too. I see anyone, man or woman who I find to be beautiful, attractive and eye catching, I click right away and yeah she is very beautiful.
@@Luna_Anonymous Aww shucks everyone! 😊🙏
@@Luna_Anonymous thanks girl. You have more balls that all those White Knights
Hahahaaaa
Reward yourself and avoid distraction around. Thanks for sharing.
I learn so much from you whenever I listen to you. Emotional regulation... Thank you Shade
Procrastination is a habbit, where mind is compelled to repeat it again and again because we have been doing it since we came into senses, and it has deepen the roots that we are unable to break this rooted habbit
You dont get it.
Which only highlights why conscious awareness is so important, to break the pattern.
*habit
THIS...is what schools should be teaching.
Great Video! Longer videos might help. Love watching your videos, truthfully speaking. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much for the kind words - happy you enjoyed it! We have some longer videos coming soon, promise 🙂
Shadé Zahrai hi, if you’re making longer videos, it would be good if you could tackle the emotional aspects of procrastination.
You hit the nail on the head here…for me it’s fear of not being able to accomplish the task and a negative outcome if it is not achieved. Thanks for the perspective!
Thank you Shadé, for pointing out the difference!
My dishes are piling up and it's one hundred percent due to laziness and nothing to do with emotional regulation.
My sink is always empty. Always. Dishes are wayyy more important than learning.
Think positively: Dishes in the sink are like chocolate. We have to save them to some time later, otherwise we won't have it.
@@pawel7196 I'm not sure if that's sarcasm or not.
@@JohnBGood1 lol I have two kids it seems like my sink is filled again by the time I'm done.
@@joshuareynolds23 don't worry about that. As soon as they grow up, it will become worse.
Damn I love what you do ... your advices are always helpful
So the reason why I don't wanna get up to do laundry isn't because of laziness but because I might fail at it? Nice
😁
Lol its more likely that it's a mundane task you don't want to do
Priorities? Like I just missed by hw timeline coz I was reading comments on a random yt short
Because you're afraid to die after
Well I fail at that part :)
Yes true, if your listen sad music your emotions become sad & you don't even want to go out of bed, but if you listen energetic/happy song after that you feel very energetic & can thousands of miles...or do workout easily.👍🏻
You are blessed and blessings for a lot of people. God bless you.
Let me add something 😊 to it - there's nothing which is perfect, we all have evolved to be better than what we were according to our resources and mental capabilities. everytime we have come up with new ideas and new solutions to get better, upgrading ourselves for new challenges. I love what you do 😅😅😅😅
Great 😌 💓 well said
I love this. It strips the guilt and self loathing that is attached to the concept of procrastination from it and activates the possibility to overcome it. To take the emotional aspect away from a problem opens up the solution.
Beautifully said!
@@janetjack9982 Absolutely agree! 😊🙏 💓
@@ShadeZahrai yes I agree 💯🙌❣️ stay safe everyone
Exactly,
Could you please upload some lengthy videos 5 - 10 minutes; based on your strategic topics,, I'm a big fan of you, Love from Oman 🇴🇲👌👌👌
They’re coming soon, promise! 🙏 Appreciate the support!
Shade Zahrai you are a really amazing person. Thanks for the new information that you give. We will wait for the long videos
M A Thank you so much for the support! 🧡
So basically one should end the fear of failure in order to end the procrastination...
A great value Shade.
It happens to me too. I just push through and love to do that always during those situations. I always take those as an opportunity for me to grow through.
Grateful to you for highlighting it here.
Peoples judgment also plays a role
“Can we make a support group for Procrastinators??
“Tomorrow.”
Scorpio male ♏️ 🙄 I'm in! But not tomorrow, next week mabey!🤔
I know all that and yet procrastinate. 😂
Also you are too beautiful to be able to focus on what you are saying.
So you're telling me that I'm laying on my bed watching this and other haikyuu text videos
because I'm scared of what will happen if I write notes of science
INtReStInG
Depends on what the science class is for 😊
Of course
Japani
Haikyuu!!
It's the fact that you want the reward but dread the process. If you like the process of making those notes you may not procrastinate it so much
@@pranjalpatil3360 Couldn't have said it better myself 😊
I swear your explanation is soooo much on point ,
Watched so many videos...but till now this is the bang on cause and meaning of procrastination....❤
I just turn my phone onto flight mode and stay off social media entirely. Then get to work. 👍
. . . nah it's laziness we know this "we" being procrastinators.
To be fair she does have a point. Sometimes we feel no enthusiasm towards said task or we lose enthusiasm as a result of self doubt. So when you have said task, find reasons to value its importance and do it. PS just procrastinated and proved her points. 😌
@@seanbernard6516 Exactly right! When you have reasons to complete it (and you value those reasons), you will inherently feel motivated to complete it. Thanks for the comment Sean 😊
Or you might have undiagnosed severe ADD, as was my case. On medication now, and life feels like a cake walk. Like I've been treading water with cinder blocks tied to my feet for the last 30 years and now they are off.
Please do not grow to rely on it or take it too much. The positive effects eventually go down but the negatives stay
What meds are helping you?
Good for you i as well deal with mental health but try not rely solely on meds but im glad they help you peace and love my friend hope your well and dont be a stranger all who read this that goes for you as well 😎
Lmao yeah the reason you think life is a cakewalk now is because you’re on cocaine. Adderall is just regulated coke. Feels fucking amazing right? Just wait until you’re burnt out. Have fun with the temporary cakewalk though
@floppa floppovich are you so insecure that you attack people with chemical imbalances like honestly what did you hope to accomplish with this comment in addition to that legalized cocaine as you call it is sometimes the difference between life and death now i will not argue that there are no risks in taking these medications but for some it really is the reason they can function and not because they are addicted so for you to make that comment was not only unecessary but ignorant as well I hope you get help if you need it and be well
she always gives the best advice
She hit the nail on the head !
Damn lady ur eyebrows caught my attention
Constipation is just procrastination of the poo💩
What if distraction that is so beautiful like you that I don't want to avoid.
Loved how u speak Shadé Zahrai
I love this woman.
I’ve heard this maybe 3 times since it was posted, and every time it helps me realise something and get over a little hurdle that was hiding behind procrastination…
I think I need to rewatch this once a month and least!!!
Thank you soooo much 🙏🏻❤️
Yes - so true. As someone who's actively working on their issues with control, I find myself procrastinating most when I am afraid of the outcomes or feel I am not in control of what the deliverable at hand is.
The way you speak, blow my mind
Thank you very much I had no rationalization concerning ma procrastinating . Your suggestions , elegantly expressed , has given me hope that I can overcome this overwhelming emotional setback and start over with the reward instead of failure ideology . I appreciate you taking the time to share . God bless
I heard someone say: the better decision that you take is to reduce the number of decisions you take on a daily basis, that way you'll overcome what you called: decision fatigue. Thanks, so inspiring
You hit the nail on the head!
Solve the emotional foundation of your procrastination. Wow 👏😮👏.
Rewarding is again kind of motivation!
Thanks for trying to move the needle of reality towards that better future for all of us. Us humans need all the help we can get.
Shadé's short videos deserve an honor for its full compact tips that aren't time consuming. It aims to help people not to earn more watch time. It's like eating a delicious whole chocolate cake in just a short time.
Thanks for your valuable words
You are absolutely right.
Very well explained !!! Decision fatigue and uncertainties 👏🏻👏🏻
Thank You Shadè 🙏🏾
Wow. She nailed it. I needed to hear this. Thanks Shade!!
Avoiding distractions is the key!
great advice, truly. you’re absolutely right
I don't know about others but I felt her words are exactly about me and for me
after 55 years, this makes sense and explains my procrastination and anxiety that go hand in hand.
I agree. Fear of failure can also be overcome by taking the task in "nibbles", which are more manageable.
I enjoy listening to you, Shadé.
Should we hear you or should we see you.. because both things are amazing
Thank You Mam❤️, Your Aura is on next level
Jay Shri Ram 🙏❤️😌
Emotional regulation sounds spot on!
Procrastination - it applies on me. I always try to avoid the important things and replace them with some other things. Need to improve. Thanks for the beautiful message 😊
Thanks for hinting at the psychological trick. You really gave a great satisfying explanation and hint on how to overcome it.
mam you'r personality like a angel
True. There's an emotional sub text behind procrastination. Contrast that with performing tasks where you are fully engaged.
She hit it on the nail for me!
Procrastination has served me well.
Too often the project is cancel, postponed or a better way is found at the last minute making the chore much easier
Thank you so much.. You are doing a great thing.. Please continue to do good work.. All love and respect to you..♥️
I almost subconsciously realised this but didn't give any weight to it. This gave huge weight to it, so thank you. For me, it's most often the lack of willpower from a bad sleep habit (phone addiction), but this is probably fueled by my lack of self-efficacy which hurts my self-esteem.
I really appreciate your advice and you delivery on it. Thank you❤
I know very little about emotions behind Procrastion, may be 10%. But you made it 100% clear to me. This is a striking point..!!! I will observe carefully if there is an any procrastinating tasks... Thank you Shade..!!
Technique
1. reward after complete the task,
2. avoid distraction around,