I grew up in a family where one of the messages was "If you express an emotion (that others can see) someone will use that against you." Particularly for my father it was a fact of life. No one ever asked me how I was doing.
I am a 58 year old woman and didn't start my emotional awareness until our marriage went through a separation. I took a call on the book called The Emotionally Healthy Woman by Scazerro. It was a powerful journey. I have learned so much and continue to have to choose to be aware of my emotions and make healthy decisions based on those. I wish I had read the book when I was 20. I would have parented our children in a healthier awareness of their emotions.
I learned, at an early age, that there were families who were loving and caring and I learned to watch people and see how they handled situations within their family and I learned from them. I was careful to not show much emotion at home but have learned, over the years, that I do have value, even though my mother never valued me, and I think that's what has made a difference for me.
At first when I started this journey, 6ys ago. I struggled to sense sensations. Now I can label some feelings, and also sensations frequently link to feelings but I often still struggle to know what I am feeling and if I do know I often still shut them down, especially anger, by a variety of dissociative techniques
This was exactly what i needed. Thanks you so much for explaining. I feel so heartbroken though that I'm older and only learning this now, but at least i can turn things around
It is so hard for me to identify my emotions. It’s hard to stop and think because I never did that growing up. I’m in a place where I feel like I could identify what I “should be feeling” or “could be feeling” about certain things, but I still don’t let myself actually feel those things fully. It’s something I want to keep working on but is so difficult to do.
Regret for me is a ship that sailed long, long ago. The one thing I wanted is so information based along with techniques, that playing catch up is impossible.
I'm 62 and have never been in tune with my feelings. Before I discovered you, I had no idea. I took you quiz and said yes to each question. It was a relief to put a name to it. You have helped me more than you know. I regret that I didn't have this information 30 years ago. It would have helped to save me much heartache.
Growing up with severe CEN and a large family, I learned to mask my feelings and put on a “Happy Face” in front of others and the family. The face I presented to the world was a totally different person than what I was feeling in the inside, and I thought this was normal to be like. I learned to pretend to be this outgoing helpful person. When you are one of the oldest children, you take on responsibilities that are not your own to get positive reinforcement from your parents. Because of the emotional neglect, I tried to get positive attention by cleaning the house and helping out. It worked to a degree. My identity developed outward instead of inward. I didn’t have a strong sense of being my own person but had a group identity. In our society, this is not a workable mentality, so I had major adjustments in the real world from this. I developed a totally different mask for the world to see of this overly helpful person, neglecting to realize that I exist too. I couldn’t say “no” because I just assumed others would be able to read my mind and realize that they were asking too much, but I couldn’t say “no” or handle the rejection of it, as my identity revolves around keeping the “group” “others” happy. I was nothing if they weren’t happy I guess. The bottom line is I was trying way too hard to get and keep approval of others, and even then, it didn’t work. I also had the scapegoat situation with my family, since I was older and not happy not being allowed to think for myself. I wasn’t allowed to have emotions, or allowed to think for myself. The scapegoating on top of this made me think I was flawed and a bad person at default. I ended up getting super OCD and had eating disorders, because I thought if I achieved to be perfect, that this would invite less criticism. People didn’t respond well to my ocd need to have things super neat, because it took so long to do anything. People also wondered why I was always being “so nice” and either felt something was off about it, or just took advantage of it. The only people that liked me were people that saw weakness. I attracted people that could sense something venerable. Once I realized that I count too, and was getting frustrated with others taking advantage of me, I had to completely leave and start a new life to give myself enough space to learn how to cope in a world with people and still think of myself too. I had to completely start over, because I wanted something totally different than the default behavior that people had found myself in. Just sharing in case others can use this info. 😊
Thank you for sharing. I relate with pretty much everything you wrote. In my case I was raised very religious although I was never sure if the law of how we were supposed to act was from my parents or from the church culture. Maybe both. Thanks again for sharing everything you wrote. I feel less alone reading it. And I feel sad and angry and regret and resentment for both of us.
Thank you both for sharing your experiences. I can really relate. I am proud of you for making such positive changes in your life. That takes extraordinary courage and is very inspiring to me. I am at a place where I am learning to put my feelings and wellbeing first too. ❤
Myself and my wife are talking about this frequently. Both of us had childhoods where we were either ignored or told how we 'should feel' which suggested that how we really felt was wrong. However, our parents feelings were paramount, they were not to be angered, displeased and disrespected and there were consequences which taught us that their feelings mattered VERY much. So we learnt to keep quiet, swallow our feelings, deny them to keep parents on an even keel. They aren't going to change but we are working on listening now to our feelings and respecting them. Thank you for your videos, you put things into perspective.
This was my life. Sadly. I listened to others on what was good for me. Had no idea how to make life choices. Painful. Add abuse to the picture and much more complex. And I was gaslit into thinking my feelings were invalid. Thank you.
Thank you for giving the realisation that my need for validation, nature of constantly doubting myself, feeling I'm not smart enough to understand things and being blank to questions like how I feel, what I want etc is an outcome of the disconnect in my circuit. And your statement that memories are anchored in feelings make me realise why I have very little memory of my childhood in general and my feelings, emotions and thought process at that time. Dr Jonice, I'm so grateful for your efforts and to have stumbled upon your videos, discovering the missing link between my intelligence and my understanding. Thank you....more power to you✨
My parents were there for the big moments in my life, but very few of the little ones. There was a prescribed list of emotions (all happy/positive) that I was allowed to have growing up, and if I felt anything negative, I was told I had no right to feel that way. As a result, I never learned how to process negative emotions, so I began to hide all my emotions for fear of them being discounted/invalidated. As an adult, I find I have unintentionally surrounded myself with people who react this same way, so I still fear that my emotions are invalid, and merely a burden on those around me.
Thank you! This was very helpful. I had repressed my feelings for a long long time. Now im starting to tune into them and taking a risk to share when appropriate. I work part time as a cashier at a state university and today there were students coming in non stop for 1 hour straight. I was the only cashier. I contacted the director, who had already left the dining hall. He contacted the supervisor on duty only then did someone come so i could take a break. I spoke to the supervisor when my shift ended. She said they were short staffed and she was working at different stations. She also gave me her phone number too. From my perspective i think management should check on the 1 cashier or have someone else check on them. I was so stressed out and was sharp with some of the students. For me to speak to the supervisor was a risk. I’m glad I did it in a professional way- that was challenging - when all i wanted to do was vent my anger at her. After a number of years of working with her, i believe she might be high functioning autistic.
So you are saying that there are parents in the world who actually teach their kids about emotions, make room for them, help their kids process them, etc? And actually attentively validate their kids feelings? If such families exist, I have never met them.
Thank you for sharing and helping others. This spoke to me,I cried because of how much this hit home with me. I've also realized, despite wanting to break the cycle my children have also experienced this due to my lack of understanding and healing.
A therapist (a retired psychiatrist) said to me once that depression is caused by emotions (like anger) which are not property processed. I grew up in a large family where we NEVER talked about how we felt. When he said this I didn’t understand what he meant and I still don’t. What does it even mean? I am so disconnected from my emotions (helps me survive at work) and I’ve realized that my fiancé and all my friends are similar. I remember once a male friend talking about how he and his wife decided to have a child because she felt it was time and I was absolutely shocked that he paid any attention whatsoever to how she felt about the situation at all… 🤔
Anhedonia. Interesting. I love learning new words. In a movie theater recently, watching a comedy, I was the only one laughing out loud. I thought, this is really funny, why is no-one else laughing? Perhaps, anhedonia. ~sigh
That was powerful information. As a child I was often shamed for expressing emotions. I can see how I’ve gone through life easily disassociating from my feelings to cope through difficult times.❤️🩹
Thank you for your video and can identify with emotional neglect- my issues is that I’m very well aware of how I feel but I tend to not want to take responsibility for them because part of me Believes that it won’t feel as good and as real as if it came from someone else I’d want to show interest and ask about how I’m feeling ect., it’s something I can’t seem to want to get over and it’s definitely hindering me with connecting with myslf and healing…I love your content and appreciate the help you bring to others. Thank you❤
How can a person learn the words to match the feeling? How can I learn what a feeling feels like? I can't tell the difference between feelings, except some are positive and some are not.
Love ❤️ this. I’ll definitely do that. I did a lot of recovery in my early 20s which I talk about on my channel in the vid titled how to love yourself. I find this topic very interesting, as while my mom was there for me in so many ways and we were very close, I don’t think she ever really validated my emotions. Weird right? My dad was not able to do so due to a BPD and that made growing up quite difficult for me. I think had they been on top of the job they could have realized and helped me early on with crippling social anxiety. I was eventually helped by my best friend at around 14 years old and that was amazing as he was only 15, playing (psychological) doctor. His help was the first step and major one to a full recovery. I think mom was so traumatized by her own situation with dad, mine just wasn’t ever considered. I recently came to believe my dad wasn’t my biological dad, but they never let on about that. I only figured out (that it’s a huge possibility) a couple years ago and am currently doing dna testing to try to confirm what I now highly suspect. I think I am really good at paying attention to my feelings when they’re more serious, such as not liking my job. But where I might be lacking is a more constant conversation with myself in daily situations about my feelings. So I will stop ✋ and check in with myself throughout the day to see how I am feeling about things. Thank you for your insight on this. ❤
I will try this. I have spent my life trying not to feel anything, and I've pretty much got it perfected now. Getting back in touch with my feelings is so hard. I usually just feel nothing. Or maybe I feel numb, is what you'd say. But this is a place to start. So I'll start it before sleeping tonight. Thank you for the suggestion.
Hello, A couple questions that I had.. 1) What forms of displacment usually occur, for those who suffer from CED? Is it usual to have anger issues, assume negative intent from others? 2) If a major abuse happened in childhood, and the parent responded with memorial neglect, how does that compound the impacts?
Thank you, I defenitely would love to hear more from you, so I immediately subscribed :) I especially like the fact, that you have given not only the infos, but also the solution how we can fix the problems ❤️
I think this is why I can never stick with a counselor. They ask me how I feel and I have one work, "ok" and when they ask me to expand I run and never look back. Just like I can't answer that question when my husband asks. Will I ever get unstuck and be able to get in tune or know what my emotions are? It's very daunting to me.
I have been shut down for a long time, every now and then I am aware that communication with my feeling self has been severed, when you say to ask yourself "what am I feeling in my body right now?" do you mean what can I feel in my body, such as bodily sensations? I really appreciate your time on this.
Thanks for the video with this very important topic. The excercise of "Achtsamkeit" or being present in the moment can help very much. As well if we are friendly also to unconfortable emotions the can occure. In the sense to invite them to be present and to e.g. feel where they are locatet in the body - as you told in the video feelings give us important information about ourselfs. And perhaps let us take better decisions for ourself, if they are known and felt well...
Not only... trying to be present in the moment is something somatic and cognitive... sorry my english is not the best. But of course one can ask where we feel our feelings in the body - than its more or less somativ. Does that help?
This is one symptom of CEN that doesn't match with me. My problem is that I don't know how to handle strong emotions, especially negative ones. I get overwhelmed, especially by conflict. I do not handle stress well at all.
You will find lots of guidance and help for understanding what was missing in your childhood and healing it in yourself in my FREE CEN Breakthrough Series: bit.ly/cenchallenge3 To find out if you grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect, take the Free Emotional Neglect Test: bit.ly/entest To learn more about how to understand, manage, and override your emotions, see my bestselling book, Running on Empty, for just $10: bit.ly/runningonemptybook Find out more about Emotional Neglect at: www.emotionalneglect.com.
Hi Dr. Webb Are there times when we should not speak our truth to someone else due to the fact that they are going through a horrible time in life right now? My daughter is expecting her first baby and the baby has a life-threatening heart defect. She will need open-heart surgery within the first couple weeks of life. My daughter is beside herself. She is full of pregnancy, hormones, she is snippy. She doesn’t want to hear other peoples opinions or feelings at this particular time because she has all she can do to handle her own she said. And I understand this. She has said things that have hurt me recently and I really feel like I should not address this at this time. Perhaps maybe waiting till after the baby is born and the surgery is done and things are back a little bit more to normal. Do you agree with me not saying anything at this time? My heart tells me it’s just not the right time to be saying anything about my feelings. I would love to hear your opinion.
My parents did their best...I dont think I could have done any better in their place. But...im pretty messed up. My first marriage was really bad n vient
Your info may be good but your web page is just another self serving greedy rip off. In order to access your page you want me to post 5 social media posts about this?? You're out of your mind if you think anyone wants to broadcast their mental health on social media. Unfollowed.
Its refreshing to hear someone open a video on mental health with actual mental health credentials. Thank you!
I grew up in a family where one of the messages was "If you express an emotion (that others can see) someone will use that against you." Particularly for my father it was a fact of life. No one ever asked me how I was doing.
I am a 58 year old woman and didn't start my emotional awareness until our marriage went through a separation. I took a call on the book called The Emotionally Healthy Woman by Scazerro. It was a powerful journey. I have learned so much and continue to have to choose to be aware of my emotions and make healthy decisions based on those. I wish I had read the book when I was 20. I would have parented our children in a healthier awareness of their emotions.
I learned, at an early age, that there were families who were loving and caring and I learned to watch people and see how they handled situations within their family and I learned from them. I was careful to not show much emotion at home but have learned, over the years, that I do have value, even though my mother never valued me, and I think that's what has made a difference for me.
Wow, that's amazing. I'm inspired by your young self's resilience and resourcefulness.
At first when I started this journey, 6ys ago. I struggled to sense sensations. Now I can label some feelings, and also sensations frequently link to feelings but I often still struggle to know what I am feeling and if I do know I often still shut them down, especially anger, by a variety of dissociative techniques
This was exactly what i needed. Thanks you so much for explaining. I feel so heartbroken though that I'm older and only learning this now, but at least i can turn things around
It is so hard for me to identify my emotions. It’s hard to stop and think because I never did that growing up. I’m in a place where I feel like I could identify what I “should be feeling” or “could be feeling” about certain things, but I still don’t let myself actually feel those things fully. It’s something I want to keep working on but is so difficult to do.
Same! I think I can identify them when I am with a safe person like my partner, but it's still hard to actually feel them, exactly!
Same! I think I can identify them when I am with a safe person like my partner, but it's still hard to actually feel them, exactly!
Regret for me is a ship that sailed long, long ago. The one thing I wanted is so information based along with techniques, that playing catch up is impossible.
I'm 62 and have never been in tune with my feelings. Before I discovered you, I had no idea. I took you quiz and said yes to each question. It was a relief to put a name to it. You have helped me more than you know. I regret that I didn't have this information 30 years ago. It would have helped to save me much heartache.
Growing up with severe CEN and a large family, I learned to mask my feelings and put on a “Happy Face” in front of others and the family.
The face I presented to the world was a totally different person than what I was feeling in the inside, and I thought this was normal to be like.
I learned to pretend to be this outgoing helpful person. When you are one of the oldest children, you take on responsibilities that are not your own to get positive reinforcement from your parents. Because of the emotional neglect, I tried to get positive attention by cleaning the house and helping out. It worked to a degree. My identity developed outward instead of inward. I didn’t have a strong sense of being my own person but had a group identity. In our society, this is not a workable mentality, so I had major adjustments in the real world from this.
I developed a totally different mask for the world to see of this overly helpful person, neglecting to realize that I exist too. I couldn’t say “no” because I just assumed others would be able to read my mind and realize that they were asking too much, but I couldn’t say “no” or handle the rejection of it, as my identity revolves around keeping the “group” “others” happy. I was nothing if they weren’t happy I guess.
The bottom line is I was trying way too hard to get and keep approval of others, and even then, it didn’t work.
I also had the scapegoat situation with my family, since I was older and not happy not being allowed to think for myself. I wasn’t allowed to have emotions, or allowed to think for myself. The scapegoating on top of this made me think I was flawed and a bad person at default.
I ended up getting super OCD and had eating disorders, because I thought if I achieved to be perfect, that this would invite less criticism.
People didn’t respond well to my ocd need to have things super neat, because it took so long to do anything. People also wondered why I was always being “so nice” and either felt something was off about it, or just took advantage of it.
The only people that liked me were people that saw weakness. I attracted people that could sense something venerable.
Once I realized that I count too, and was getting frustrated with others taking advantage of me, I had to completely leave and start a new life to give myself enough space to learn how to cope in a world with people and still think of myself too.
I had to completely start over, because I wanted something totally different than the default behavior that people had found myself in.
Just sharing in case others can use this info. 😊
Thank you for sharing. I relate with pretty much everything you wrote. In my case I was raised very religious although I was never sure if the law of how we were supposed to act was from my parents or from the church culture. Maybe both. Thanks again for sharing everything you wrote. I feel less alone reading it. And I feel sad and angry and regret and resentment for both of us.
@@scottba Thanks! I grew up super religious too. 🤔 Interesting!
Thank you both for sharing your experiences. I can really relate. I am proud of you for making such positive changes in your life. That takes extraordinary courage and is very inspiring to me. I am at a place where I am learning to put my feelings and wellbeing first too. ❤
@@NoelleandOwen 🥰🤗🥰
Ditto. Congratulations & best wishes on your newfound life!
Myself and my wife are talking about this frequently. Both of us had childhoods where we were either ignored or told how we 'should feel' which suggested that how we really felt was wrong. However, our parents feelings were paramount, they were not to be angered, displeased and disrespected and there were consequences which taught us that their feelings mattered VERY much. So we learnt to keep quiet, swallow our feelings, deny them to keep parents on an even keel. They aren't going to change but we are working on listening now to our feelings and respecting them. Thank you for your videos, you put things into perspective.
This was my life. Sadly. I listened to others on what was good for me. Had no idea how to make life choices. Painful. Add abuse to the picture and much more complex. And I was gaslit into thinking my feelings were invalid. Thank you.
Thank you for giving the realisation that my need for validation, nature of constantly doubting myself, feeling I'm not smart enough to understand things and being blank to questions like how I feel, what I want etc is an outcome of the disconnect in my circuit. And your statement that memories are anchored in feelings make me realise why I have very little memory of my childhood in general and my feelings, emotions and thought process at that time.
Dr Jonice, I'm so grateful for your efforts and to have stumbled upon your videos, discovering the missing link between my intelligence and my understanding. Thank you....more power to you✨
My parents were there for the big moments in my life, but very few of the little ones. There was a prescribed list of emotions (all happy/positive) that I was allowed to have growing up, and if I felt anything negative, I was told I had no right to feel that way. As a result, I never learned how to process negative emotions, so I began to hide all my emotions for fear of them being discounted/invalidated. As an adult, I find I have unintentionally surrounded myself with people who react this same way, so I still fear that my emotions are invalid, and merely a burden on those around me.
What am I feeling right now? What a great question and training! Thank you.
Amazing. How can you feel right about something if you block yourself. Now that's insightful
I know how it feel... Now learning it.
I like the suggestion of once per week. I might be able to manage one emotion per week.
Thank you! This was very helpful. I had repressed my feelings for a long long time. Now im starting to tune into them and taking a risk to share when appropriate. I work part time as a cashier at a state university and today there were students coming in non stop for 1 hour straight. I was the only cashier. I contacted the director, who had already left the dining hall. He contacted the supervisor on duty only then did someone come so i could take a break. I spoke to the supervisor when my shift ended. She said they were short staffed and she was working at different stations. She also gave me her phone number too. From my perspective i think management should check on the 1 cashier or have someone else check on them. I was so stressed out and was sharp with some of the students. For me to speak to the supervisor was a risk. I’m glad I did it in a professional way- that was challenging - when all i wanted to do was vent my anger at her. After a number of years of working with her, i believe she might be high functioning autistic.
So you are saying that there are parents in the world who actually teach their kids about emotions, make room for them, help their kids process them, etc? And actually attentively validate their kids feelings? If such families exist, I have never met them.
I’m sure they are not the norm. Probably families where mom and/or dad are therapists 😂
Thank you for sharing and helping others.
This spoke to me,I cried because of how much this hit home with me.
I've also realized, despite wanting to break the cycle my children have also experienced this due to my lack of understanding and healing.
❤❤❤❤❤❤
Great video.
How old is a reminder of how I raised my son after being raised this way. Sad but true
A therapist (a retired psychiatrist) said to me once that depression is caused by emotions (like anger) which are not property processed. I grew up in a large family where we NEVER talked about how we felt. When he said this I didn’t understand what he meant and I still don’t. What does it even mean? I am so disconnected from my emotions (helps me survive at work) and I’ve realized that my fiancé and all my friends are similar. I remember once a male friend talking about how he and his wife decided to have a child because she felt it was time and I was absolutely shocked that he paid any attention whatsoever to how she felt about the situation at all… 🤔
My interpretation (as a layperson) is that being disconnected from your emotions can cause a feeling of emptiness and anhedonia.
Anhedonia. Interesting. I love learning new words. In a movie theater recently, watching a comedy, I was the only one laughing out loud. I thought, this is really funny, why is no-one else laughing? Perhaps, anhedonia.
~sigh
Wow, it's like you were talking to only me. Thank you.
This information is priceless. Thank you so much!
That was powerful information. As a child I was often shamed for expressing emotions. I can see how I’ve gone through life easily disassociating from my feelings to cope through difficult times.❤️🩹
Thank you for your video and can identify with emotional neglect- my issues is that I’m very well aware of how I feel but I tend to not want to take responsibility for them because part of me Believes that it won’t feel as good and as real as if it came from someone else I’d want to show interest and ask about how I’m feeling ect., it’s something I can’t seem to want to get over and it’s definitely hindering me with connecting with myslf and healing…I love your content and appreciate the help you bring to others. Thank you❤
So glad to see you on YT. Your books are wonderful!
How can a person learn the words to match the feeling? How can I learn what a feeling feels like? I can't tell the difference between feelings, except some are positive and some are not.
This is so helpful.
Love ❤️ this. I’ll definitely do that. I did a lot of recovery in my early 20s which I talk about on my channel in the vid titled how to love yourself. I find this topic very interesting, as while my mom was there for me in so many ways and we were very close, I don’t think she ever really validated my emotions. Weird right? My dad was not able to do so due to a BPD and that made growing up quite difficult for me. I think had they been on top of the job they could have realized and helped me early on with crippling social anxiety. I was eventually helped by my best friend at around 14 years old and that was amazing as he was only 15, playing (psychological) doctor. His help was the first step and major one to a full recovery. I think mom was so traumatized by her own situation with dad, mine just wasn’t ever considered. I recently came to believe my dad wasn’t my biological dad, but they never let on about that. I only figured out (that it’s a huge possibility) a couple years ago and am currently doing dna testing to try to confirm what I now highly suspect. I think I am really good at paying attention to my feelings when they’re more serious, such as not liking my job. But where I might be lacking is a more constant conversation with myself in daily situations about my feelings. So I will stop ✋ and check in with myself throughout the day to see how I am feeling about things. Thank you for your insight on this. ❤
I will try this. I have spent my life trying not to feel anything, and I've pretty much got it perfected now. Getting back in touch with my feelings is so hard. I usually just feel nothing. Or maybe I feel numb, is what you'd say. But this is a place to start. So I'll start it before sleeping tonight. Thank you for the suggestion.
Hello, A couple questions that I had.. 1) What forms of displacment usually occur, for those who suffer from CED? Is it usual to have anger issues, assume negative intent from others? 2) If a major abuse happened in childhood, and the parent responded with memorial neglect, how does that compound the impacts?
Thank you, I defenitely would love to hear more from you, so I immediately subscribed :) I especially like the fact, that you have given not only the infos, but also the solution how we can fix the problems ❤️
I think this is why I can never stick with a counselor. They ask me how I feel and I have one work, "ok" and when they ask me to expand I run and never look back. Just like I can't answer that question when my husband asks. Will I ever get unstuck and be able to get in tune or know what my emotions are? It's very daunting to me.
I have been shut down for a long time, every now and then I am aware that communication with my feeling self has been severed, when you say to ask yourself "what am I feeling in my body right now?" do you mean what can I feel in my body, such as bodily sensations?
I really appreciate your time on this.
Thanks for the video with this very important topic. The excercise of "Achtsamkeit" or being present in the moment can help very much. As well if we are friendly also to unconfortable emotions the can occure. In the sense to invite them to be present and to e.g. feel where they are locatet in the body - as you told in the video feelings give us important information about ourselfs. And perhaps let us take better decisions for ourself, if they are known and felt well...
Are you talking about somatic therapies? I can't get the volume to work on this video.
Not only... trying to be present in the moment is something somatic and cognitive... sorry my english is not the best. But of course one can ask where we feel our feelings in the body - than its more or less somativ. Does that help?
This is one symptom of CEN that doesn't match with me. My problem is that I don't know how to handle strong emotions, especially negative ones. I get overwhelmed, especially by conflict. I do not handle stress well at all.
Absolutely correct, thank you ❤
Is the disconnection a type of dissociation?
Great video. thanks doctor
Thank you
You will find lots of guidance and help for understanding what was missing in your childhood and healing it in yourself in my FREE CEN Breakthrough Series: bit.ly/cenchallenge3
To find out if you grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect, take the Free Emotional Neglect Test: bit.ly/entest
To learn more about how to understand, manage, and override your emotions, see my bestselling book, Running on Empty, for just $10: bit.ly/runningonemptybook
Find out more about Emotional Neglect at: www.emotionalneglect.com.
Hi Dr. Webb Are there times when we should not speak our truth to someone else due to the fact that they are going through a horrible time in life right now? My daughter is expecting her first baby and the baby has a life-threatening heart defect. She will need open-heart surgery within the first couple weeks of life. My daughter is beside herself. She is full of pregnancy, hormones, she is snippy. She doesn’t want to hear other peoples opinions or feelings at this particular time because she has all she can do to handle her own she said. And I understand this. She has said things that have hurt me recently and I really feel like I should not address this at this time. Perhaps maybe waiting till after the baby is born and the surgery is done and things are back a little bit more to normal. Do you agree with me not saying anything at this time? My heart tells me it’s just not the right time to be saying anything about my feelings. I would love to hear your opinion.
Your heartt speaks the truth directly to you. Hope all turned out well with grand-baby and daughter. ❤️
My parents did their best...I dont think I could have done any better in their place. But...im pretty messed up. My first marriage was really bad n vient
I lead myself down the wrong path. Rebelling against a dictatorship. What is to gain at a late stage of life?
I'm regretful because I've wasted my life. Please explain the emotional heart?
What if I ask myself what am I feeling and the answer is NUMB?
Wu Wei is the art of not trying and involves that
Rejection
Your info may be good but your web page is just another self serving greedy rip off. In order to access your page you want me to post 5 social media posts about this?? You're out of your mind if you think anyone wants to broadcast their mental health on social media. Unfollowed.
You did post your mental health on social media. . .