Reclaim Your Past: Breaking Through Childhood Emotional Neglect - Rapid Transformational Therapy®️

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  • @skyflowerz
    @skyflowerz 2 роки тому +130

    “If you want quiet, have goldfish. Don’t have children.” Lol totally true though.

  • @annettegulliver7592
    @annettegulliver7592 2 роки тому +37

    I never mattered to my parents until they needed care.

  • @ecwilliams777
    @ecwilliams777 Рік тому +136

    You ABSOLUTELY DO NOT "have" to see elderly parents who continue to be abusive

    • @LiliaandNova
      @LiliaandNova Рік тому +3

      This.

    • @ModelKamlaKay
      @ModelKamlaKay Рік тому +5

      Exactly, what’s why she said you need to let them know that is not acceptable behavior if you are with them as an adult and they are being abusive. Glad she clarified that in the video.

    • @tnt01
      @tnt01 Рік тому +1

      Isn't it the law in the U.S. and in Canada, that you can't abandon the elderly? Is there not a legal obligation of some sort? Curious.

    • @ecwilliams777
      @ecwilliams777 Рік тому

      @@tnt01 absolutely not. Obviously it's moral to support the elderly but it's not legally binding

    • @robertafierro5592
      @robertafierro5592 Рік тому +1

      There ya go! That goes for "friends" also.

  • @flamissia4
    @flamissia4 Рік тому +58

    Thank you for addressing this invisible source of suffering. Due to my mother's narcissism, I was neglected, and since I wasn't physically abused, for most of my life I didn't know why I was suffering from loneliness, depression and low self confidence. I really believed down deep I was defective and it was my fault, but I wasn't aware of these subconscious limiting beliefs. Hypnotherapy helped me see this.

    • @RapidTransformationalTherapy
      @RapidTransformationalTherapy  Рік тому +5

      Recognizing and addressing these subconscious limiting beliefs is a crucial step toward healing and self-acceptance.
      Regards,
      Team Marisa

    • @tanusreedbnt6710
      @tanusreedbnt6710 9 місяців тому +3

      Why do I feel that ur speaking for me.....I had d same experiences n always talked horribly to myself.....I always had n still have issues with keeping friendships or any other relationship in general and I always blamed myself for this....but d pain of having a depressed mother nd a over expecting n angry father impacted me

  • @MjF809
    @MjF809 Рік тому +31

    I was raised in a psycopathic/ Narcissistic family...something very wrong and broken with them...nothing wrong with me. I forgave all of them...however they " dont want to heal" and I chose to......SO I DID!!
    And I promise...SO CAN YOU!
    I chose not to repeat this life for me and my daughter....I walked away permanently.
    I choose to love them from afar.
    Love who you are...you deserve love.
    Go for it...know
    I BELIEVE IN YOU! You..GOT THIS!
    What I believe about you doesn't matter..
    What YOU BELIEVE....DOES.
    With love and gratitude always...

  • @jessharris8294
    @jessharris8294 10 місяців тому +19

    …neglect is ABUSE

    • @SanctifiedLady
      @SanctifiedLady 2 місяці тому +1

      Yes, unintentional abuse… numb unknowing parents that are also products of emotional neglect

  • @orangoetan2967
    @orangoetan2967 8 місяців тому +20

    The problem with neglect is that it is so subtle. It is in the absence of care, not the presence of hurtful behaviour per se. The examples in this video keep coming back to outright abuse, either physical or verbal, and only in a couple examples touch on recognizing neglect. So, not as helpful for those hoping to understand more of emotional neglect I find.

  • @MjF809
    @MjF809 Рік тому +20

    Whoever you are...whatever you face...you deserve the best life wants to give you!! YES YOU!!!

  • @AlejandraGarcia-gz7og
    @AlejandraGarcia-gz7og 5 місяців тому +7

    My mom told me to figure it out when I was 8 my clothes weren’t dry for school and force me to go to school with wet clothes 😢 dad was never present
    I’m still learning everyday to be present with myself and know myself each day

    • @J-equineheart
      @J-equineheart 4 місяці тому +2

      That's so sad and wrong 😔 I used to have to wash socks in the sink for school and go with them still wet because my mom didn't care to make sure we had clean clothes. I was about the same age. Sorry you were treated like that ❤️

  • @lauragadille3384
    @lauragadille3384 Рік тому +19

    I wish there was a magic wand to take all of my pain from emotional abuse.

    • @chriscouri4149
      @chriscouri4149 9 місяців тому +3

      You can be your own magic wand. I am in the middle of my journey which started a long time ago with depression and anxiety. I was on Lexapro for many years and then Cymbalta. My Mom got really ill in July 2023 and I thought I was going to have a breakdown. I got myself to therapy (super important for me) and found a therapist I vibe with. I stopped my antidepressant under doctors care. I went through such depression. I started researching what this was and how I can help myself. I found I was not alone. I also found that my self talk wasn’t good. I changed the narrative. I tell myself how good I am and that I have a lot to offer and also it is okay to feel my feelings. II am looking at the world differently. I found comfort. Now I am feeling pretty good with no meds. I wish you all the best ❤️. I hope it helps you.

    • @Bambi12-764
      @Bambi12-764 3 місяці тому

      If it wasn’t for my faith in Jesus - I would not have made it. The self loathing was way too strong for me. Jesus saved me from myself.

  • @rileyhoffman6629
    @rileyhoffman6629 Рік тому +17

    When I asked my mother a question she didn't know the answer to, she looked down her nose and said, "Stupid child!" Just one of the repeated slights. I'm 70, with a PhD, a published author, more, and I still feel inadequate.

    • @RapidTransformationalTherapy
      @RapidTransformationalTherapy  Рік тому +1

      Acknowledging the source of these feelings is a significant step toward healing and self-acceptance. Reach out to our trained RTT® professionals for personalized guidance bit.ly/3QdQiud
      Regards,
      Team Marisa

    • @richardvervoorn6626
      @richardvervoorn6626 11 місяців тому

      Same ‘situ’ here less,the PHD. You have achieved so much despite…Be,strong

    • @gothope5915
      @gothope5915 8 місяців тому +2

      Im 53, work as celebrity makeup artist and going back to school for masters in Psychology and family still thinks im not good enough. For years I couldn't figure out why that critical voice until I realized I can't get validation from people.

    • @PaigeSquared
      @PaigeSquared 2 місяці тому

      When I walked for my graduate degree, my mom made a jab about whether she or I would be the first in the family to get a PhD. By that time, I really wanted a break from academia and I wasn't even remotely interested. It was so out of touch, irrelevant.

  • @anixxbel759
    @anixxbel759 11 місяців тому +8

    My mother was always belittling me and never showed any belief in me or encouragement.

  • @DNS0875
    @DNS0875 Рік тому +19

    It’s like hearing my own life story. I had no clue. Dear me, I’m so lovable, I’m enough, I’m appreciated, inspiring and necessary.🎉

  • @JamieBadois
    @JamieBadois 3 місяці тому +2

    I am the youngest of 5. I can remember feeling ignored by everyone in my family growing up.

  • @LessThanThree76
    @LessThanThree76 2 роки тому +32

    I wish I had the energy and will power to praise and love myself, but I’m completely exhausted and worn out from my life-long anxiety and hypervigilance caused by childhood emotional neglect and abuse. 😐

    • @option7
      @option7 2 роки тому +2

      I feel this

    • @md4639
      @md4639 Рік тому +3

      😢😢😢
      I see you, I see your pain 🙏🙏😢😢

    • @sarahmottram3369
      @sarahmottram3369 Рік тому +1

    • @rahtikone
      @rahtikone Рік тому +3

      Iam 61 years old it is too late for me and very sick .Bad childhood maybe helps me come angry alcoholic now 3 years sober🤕👽

  • @erykahhoney588
    @erykahhoney588 Рік тому +45

    😢 I’m 40 and just realized how emotionally neglected I was. Sigh.

  • @debbierennox931
    @debbierennox931 9 місяців тому +4

    Your describing me as a child at the age of 50 I was diagnosed with complex post traumatic stress disorder now at 53 I am managing my emotions and walking for excercise that helps my mental health a lot

    • @RapidTransformationalTherapy
      @RapidTransformationalTherapy  9 місяців тому +1

      Hello and well done!,
      I would suggest you subscribe to Marisa’s UA-cam channel to receive the latest videos and free meditations Marisa creates: ua-cam.com/users/MarisaPeer1 or go directly to watch her videos here: www.youtube.com/@MarisaPeer/videos
      To access Marisa's free gifts visit marisapeer.com/free-gifts/
      You are more than welcome to join our I Am Enough community Facebook group. It is a hugely supportive group who are sharing their stories and support each other facebook.com/groups/iamenoughbymarisapeer/
      You can access the free I am Enough meditation here: marisapeer.com/i-am-enough-meditation
      You can access the Lovability course here: applyrtt.com/lovability-course
      We hope this helps.
      Kindest regards,
      Marisa Peer Team

  • @J-equineheart
    @J-equineheart 4 місяці тому +2

    My childhood was a huge tangled mess of parental alcoholism, emotional neglect, bullying, loneliness, belittling in the name of jokes, and to this day, no real connection, love, support, or care about me or my sibling's lives, or my parents 9 grandchildren!

  • @mukonawa9438
    @mukonawa9438 Рік тому +24

    Seeing people's comments is encouraging cause, at least I know I'm not the only person who feels happy to know there's a solution to my problem. Thank you so much. This is one of the best videos I've watched. It gives me hope and has really encouraged me ❤

  • @chriscouri4149
    @chriscouri4149 10 місяців тому +5

    Of course, when you are going through this it is extremely difficult. She does explain it in a simplistic way. The inner turmoil seems insurmountable sometimes but other times it’s not as bad. My hope is that the inner turmoil will diminish. I started meditating and it gives me relief.

  • @linnhjertberg1110
    @linnhjertberg1110 Рік тому +7

    It feels so comforting to know I am not the only one that has gone through this but in the same time it's sad to know that a lot of other people experienced this pain. Stay strong everyone and I hope we will all heal in the future ❤❤❤

    • @trudibentley1445
      @trudibentley1445 11 місяців тому +1

      Hi, I agree. You have to look where your parents came from and how they were raised. They could only treat us the way they were treated, and needing anything to do with fixing emotions meant you were crazy. Who wanted to admit that?! Both my parents worked, so the mental and physical abuse I suffered was at the hands of my siblings and an uncle. My parents did the best they could with the knowledge and resources they had at hand. They were both the babies in their families, and theirs was a true love. However, I believe us kids were neglected because they were both narcissistic in that they put each other on the pedestal. The kids were there to clean the house. SMH

    • @linnhjertberg1110
      @linnhjertberg1110 11 місяців тому

      @@trudibentley1445
      I'm so sorry you had to go through this. Healing is so hard but i really hope we will💗 I'm realizing only now that actually all my problems with self esteem and low self worth are due to my childhood and it hurts. But i guess that's already great to be aware of it and i have to work my way through this somehow. Good luck on your healing journey🍀

  • @trudibentley1445
    @trudibentley1445 11 місяців тому +4

    Both of my parents are gone, and I don't have a relationship with my siblings who thought making fun of me was a great way to pass the time away. Dad was gone almost all the time as a truck driver, and Mom's answer was for me to ignore them, they'd quit when I stopped reacting. I was born a sensitive child or something happened when I was extremely young that caused my mind to discern how those in authority were feeling. I then figured out how to act accordingly, so I wouldn't "rock the boat." I have been doing this for so long, I still catch myself doing it.
    I grew up in one of those households where "kids are to be seen and not heard!" Between the ages of 3 and 4, I remember my dad scolding me for my temper. I've been working on learning how to express emotions, but everything comes out as anger. Either that or I have a number of people gaslighting me. Which could be someone's agenda, to see me fail as my soul mission is to eradicate domestic violence. Internal and spiritual warfare at the same time. Thanks for reading!

    • @eliciahealing
      @eliciahealing 17 днів тому +1

      Thich Naht Hahn wrote a whole book “Anger” helped me a lot

  • @mindfulpaths101
    @mindfulpaths101 Рік тому +20

    Honestly have goosebumps. Addressed every necessary point and hit the nail on the head!

  • @JennaIaremchuk
    @JennaIaremchuk 4 місяці тому +1

    I received so much love from Marisa through this video.

  • @SanctifiedLady
    @SanctifiedLady 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for saying this is unintentional. I never pushed. I repeated the cycle of what I was taught.
    It’s something how I never spoke up to my mother and my son never spoke up to me. I thought it was because he was a teen.
    I was numb, never identified with feelings at all. Now I’m estranged I finally realized I was the monster in my son’s life.
    Doing all the things that I didn’t have (private school all the bells and whistles of education) as a single mother that’s abandonment and emotional neglect.
    I was there but ADHD overwhelmed… before he was a teenager we were close and playful. Counseling since he was 4 -16yrs old ADHD ODD.
    Teen years with the rebellion, I shut down.
    I’m trying to fix it! 😢

    • @RapidTransformationalTherapy
      @RapidTransformationalTherapy  2 місяці тому

      We are all shaped by what we were taught. Don’t be too hard on yourself-now that you’re aware, you can begin to heal and rebuild. 💛

  • @ashleysorganics3122
    @ashleysorganics3122 2 роки тому +22

    Thank you so much for sharing this. So powerful! The part about not normalizing abuse really hit home for me.

    • @RapidTransformationalTherapy
      @RapidTransformationalTherapy  2 роки тому

      Hi Ashley,
      You're welcome, it is great to hear that this video has resonated with you!
      Marisa Peer Team

  • @fiery_aries1293
    @fiery_aries1293 2 роки тому +9

    What if i'm an adult but still feel like i need them or someone and can't stand on my own?

  • @cn4243
    @cn4243 2 роки тому +14

    The way your words speak to our hearts Marisa is beyond every Imagination! The way you helped me with your youtubevideos I surely believe you re the best therapist in the world and thats my opinion but I need to put it on the internet I find it really important that someone mentions it so that many people can benefit from these videos I send you all my love as a greek fan of yours Keep on uploading

    • @RapidTransformationalTherapy
      @RapidTransformationalTherapy  2 роки тому

      Hi there! Thank you so much for your kind words towards Marisa, I will be sure to pass them on. Marisa Peer Team 🌺

  • @science_sahla_mahla
    @science_sahla_mahla Рік тому +7

    Thank you for the supportive content❤

  • @lauragadille3384
    @lauragadille3384 Рік тому +5

    Ty for saying to not normalize my Father's abuse towards me

  • @Sam88-l4k
    @Sam88-l4k 8 годин тому

    I had emotional abused, being screamed at for the smallest things, constantly negativity, never pointing out the good stuff, emotional black mail, guilt tripping, boardline physical occasionally. I never forget at 13 my mum screaming in my face, by this point i was always trying to get away from that type of situation, so i tried to leave the room, and my mum grabbed me and held me in the room by digging her nails into my arms, still screaming at me, i raised my fist, and she said go on hit your own mother while she was digging her nails into my arm. I never did. But the toxicity led me to isolating in my room, and my anger grew after every screaming match. Punched a hole in my door, was made to feel very guilty, despite being pushed to a point where i couldn't cope. Unfortunately the older you get, the trauma seems to build in your mind, and you question yourself whether i was abused or not, that's the worst part. But my traits as an adult was pushing for perfection in work, seeking praise, or validation for everything, binge drinking to dangerous levels, being on my own, avoiding any form of confrontation. Sleeping issues because my mind goes a thousand miles per hour over night with thoughts

  • @kunstdigitalagency
    @kunstdigitalagency 4 місяці тому

    You just saved me, by unlocking my biggest trauma from childhood. there is no thanhs big enough to express my gratitude❤

  • @sannajohanna5579
    @sannajohanna5579 Рік тому +2

    Thank you very much! First of all: at the same time I am happy to see that I am not alone with this feeling- it means that I am normal, not imageing things. I am also sad because no child should have this experience: killing his/her soul and spirit and living numb so many years!
    I am 58 years old and I realise now that every time, when I get enthusiastic about something, I kill that feeling directly, like it was a BAD thing to feel joy and happiness. I give up easilly all my needs, stuff and even money for someone else. I often get very nice things and experiences, but then - I loose it quite fast, or give up, as if it was wrong to have that wonderful thing, person or prosperity. For example, recently I found an old teddy bear from an atique shop. I bought it because it looks exactly as the teddy bear I had when I was a child. My mom burned it in the fire place, because in her opinion, it was dirty. Maybe it was, but we could have cleaned it. She mocked me when I cried seeing my dear teddybear dying in the fire and threatened to hit me if I do not stop crying. Well, now I got it back! It was dirty as well and had lost his eye, I paid 100€ for it. I cleaned it, as we could have done with the original, I gave him new eyes and now it looks wonderful and happy teddy! And when I look at it, I feel a bit naughty and bad because I got back what I love - what do you say, mom? I can imagine her coming in, seeing that teddy sitting in my couch and her face: How you dare to get that dirty thing … or something.
    Every tine when I look at my teddy bear, I feel that I have got something back from myself. One piece is back! Even I am not playing with it any more:)
    Why do I feel that I am a bad girl when I buy something that I like?
    This video explains a lot!

    • @RapidTransformationalTherapy
      @RapidTransformationalTherapy  Рік тому

      It takes great strength to recognize and address these emotions. Thank you for sharing your story.
      Regards,
      Team Marisa

    • @Jo-annSamurai3069
      @Jo-annSamurai3069 8 місяців тому +1

      Hi Sanna It’s great that you were able to get a replica teddy of the one that was destroyed when you were a child. That experience sounds so traumatising.
      I hope you hold on to your teddy that’s a big win for your child within.

    • @RapidTransformationalTherapy
      @RapidTransformationalTherapy  8 місяців тому

      💖
      Marisa Peer Team

  • @glennsloss9326
    @glennsloss9326 4 місяці тому

    THANK YOU Marissa

  • @nicolesavioz6601
    @nicolesavioz6601 2 роки тому +5

    Phenomenal ! Thank you.

  • @carolallison862
    @carolallison862 Рік тому +1

    Thank you, couldn’t have come at a better time. 🇬🇧

  • @Dutchamp
    @Dutchamp 9 місяців тому +3

    58 years old now, found out why my behavior wasnt right. My parents neglected my brother and me. Im mature for say 40 years now. I see the bad things that overcame to me. My brother died last year course of drugs that ruin his life course he drug himself so could forget the neglect. But in the end he didnt get him self loose from his demons.
    He died and i found him dead and cant forget his face and expression. He died at age 54. Now hes got rest.
    Laat week my eyes went open in my relationship with my loving girlfriend who i now met one year ago. She is so wonderful to help me in anyway.
    Sexual abused by an other man who found me desperate need of normal love.
    But his methode was to buy me anything i wanted in exchange for his sexual needs. Nowadays i would do him harm but in reality dont want his memory.
    My father was hitting me or saying im notting. Etc etc day in day out.
    One sick thing he did was he asked me you see this ball? I said yes, he asked what colour is it? Answered red .. it was red no doubt he hit me hard and told me its yellow you fool. This kind of sickness was normal day in and out.

    • @RapidTransformationalTherapy
      @RapidTransformationalTherapy  9 місяців тому +2

      Hi,
      We are very sorry to hear of your pain and would like to take this moment to remind you of how worthy you are, how this world is much better with you in it and that there are lots of options available to you, should you need them.
      Sending you love and support, and a reminder that you are loved, needed, and enough. You always were and you always will be.
      If you wish to seek therapeutic support, I would advise booking an RTT session. You can connect with one of our certified and trained RTT professionals to find the best support for you here
      professionals.rtt.com/
      Marisa Peer Team

  • @RebeccaRuano
    @RebeccaRuano 2 роки тому +6

    Exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you! I'll now tell myself 😉

  • @Channel-gr9di
    @Channel-gr9di 2 роки тому +4

    She's truly wonderful

  • @judynewkirk4200
    @judynewkirk4200 Рік тому +1

    This information is so important. It has answered so many questions for me. Thank you so much 💓

    • @RapidTransformationalTherapy
      @RapidTransformationalTherapy  Рік тому +1

      I'm delighted to hear that the information has been valuable and helped address your questions.
      Regards,
      Team Marisa

  • @123mymona
    @123mymona Рік тому +2

    Amazing, thank you❤

  • @ayasarsour2860
    @ayasarsour2860 Рік тому +1

    Thank you

  • @helenasollei8798
    @helenasollei8798 Рік тому +2

    Wow i thank you for this powerful explaination ❤

  • @pattybranchess6655
    @pattybranchess6655 6 місяців тому +4

    I'm, 40 and I'm not independent =( I'm still in the same hell I was as a child, burnt out to the ground and beyond, and unable to move on. I just want to disapear. Death used to be a hopeful though, now I'm so scared there is an after life...

  • @JonathanS-ki8zn
    @JonathanS-ki8zn Рік тому

    What an extraordinary video! I am going to watch this several times. Another uplifting video.

  • @michaelapayne7165
    @michaelapayne7165 2 роки тому +6

    I struggle with food and diets, i always eat too much , could this be beacause my older sister is the best daughter in my mums eyes

  • @miathompson1172
    @miathompson1172 Рік тому +3

    Another great video.

  • @aniruddhbadnikar6739
    @aniruddhbadnikar6739 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for details and support

  • @cammy_cat
    @cammy_cat 8 місяців тому

    Thank you so much, I really needed and valued this video x

  • @nicholascaley501
    @nicholascaley501 Рік тому

    Thank You ❤

  • @robertafierro5592
    @robertafierro5592 Рік тому +3

    You really can't reclaim a something once it's tarnished to that degree. When your family sucks youre pretty much on your own.

    • @RapidTransformationalTherapy
      @RapidTransformationalTherapy  Рік тому

      I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a challenging situation with your family.
      Regards,
      Team Marisa

    • @wespaul9345
      @wespaul9345 11 місяців тому

      I agree. We are not cars. Panel beating won't repair this stuff. Not totally anyway. What surprises me is how much women and mother's get away with obvious anti social behaviour. They rarely get punished. There's always excuses. And now the reality is mgtow. I don't know what is wrong with woman in western culture aside from they expect everything. At 60 I avoid them. Don't want to be alone with them lest I get accused of something hideous. And b4 you go crazy girls. My household was from age 4 all women. You need to acknowledge your evil.

  • @joelkalyan6732
    @joelkalyan6732 2 роки тому +1

    Exactly whatb i was looking for from best person
    Is there a way to communicate our desires

    • @RapidTransformationalTherapy
      @RapidTransformationalTherapy  2 роки тому

      Hi Joel.
      Our trained RTT® therapists can help you deal with childhood emotional neglect and address any additional goals you may have. You can connect with a therapist here - bit.ly/YT-Find-A-RTT-Therapist
      Please let us know if you have any further questions,
      Marisa Peer Team

  • @priestess6835
    @priestess6835 Рік тому +1

    Gosh I needed this

  • @saradmr7409
    @saradmr7409 Місяць тому

    Sono italiana, ci sono terapisti a Pescara? Grazie

  • @1vtmom966
    @1vtmom966 10 місяців тому

    @9:47 That's precisely the reason I got married to an abuser at 18!

  • @claire360outdooradventures7

    Is this the same for an emotional neglected i think from age 12 iam 47 now xx

  • @louisehastings1207
    @louisehastings1207 4 місяці тому

    If it's not my fault, then why does it hurt so much?

  • @patriciagriffin1505
    @patriciagriffin1505 Рік тому +2

    I think many of us can have both neglect and other types of physical abuse

  • @btfields323
    @btfields323 Місяць тому

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @SonjasStars
    @SonjasStars Місяць тому

    🙏🙏🙏❤️

  • @nunusnews361
    @nunusnews361 5 місяців тому

    😢💔

  • @runnyhunny786
    @runnyhunny786 2 роки тому +1

    🙏🌻

  • @jophillipsillustration
    @jophillipsillustration 2 роки тому +1

  • @mindfulpaths101
    @mindfulpaths101 Рік тому

    MIC DROP

  • @veragiraud1908
    @veragiraud1908 Рік тому +10

    Disappointed by this particular video, as it talks more about abuse than neglect. Neglect is more about silence than words, absence rather than presence.

    • @RapidTransformationalTherapy
      @RapidTransformationalTherapy  Рік тому +2

      Indeed, neglect is a complex issue. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, and I'll certainly keep this in mind for future content.
      Regards,
      Team Marisa

    • @larsstougaard7097
      @larsstougaard7097 5 місяців тому +2

      Yes it can be on very subtle unspoken levels that can seem invisible

  • @enderl5761
    @enderl5761 2 місяці тому

    Avoid this click bait video. She’s trauma dumping & offers no solution beyond generics.