Breaking Up With a Good Partner. Episode 22
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- Опубліковано 30 січ 2017
- Breaking up is a significantly daunting idea. Whether you're the person who is getting broken up with or the person doing the breaking up... either way you cut it, breakups suck.
A lot of times, you know it's the right thing to do to breakup, but in other instances the decision of whether or not to break up actually isn't obvious at all. This episode is for those of you who are in relationships that are actually pretty good, where the obvious reasons for a breakup aren't so clear.
you have no idea how much that soothed me. I just broke up with my boyfriend,an amazing,loving and sweet person who was willing to give me the world and treated me like a treasure. I can't stop feeling like I'm selfish and greedy for wanting anything more but I had known for a while that something was missing and my feelings for him weren't as genuine or strong as his. I'm tormented with the thought that I made a mistake and that I'll never be as loved as I was with him,but I just can't see us together and I keep thinking about what else is out there,and it just wouldn't be feel fair for me to stay with him for the security he provided while he did it out of pure love. For anyone going through this I know how painful it is but we have to listen to what we really need,and cut the relationship now before it turns toxic and starts feeling like a responsibility.
were both so completely love eAZch others how we completed each others.hes my soulmate that i finally found,but d pandemic gives us frustration. we're tra in d difflerent world.so heartbreaking moment 💔😢😢😢
Definitely keep this comment in mind regarding women
@@godsangel67able hello my brother , i came into this video to see if they actually can come up with something logical but it's just a bunch of women reassuring each other in a video of a woman reassuring them for views.
Hey how are you doing now?? Because I’m currently going through this and it is NOT easy
Just got out of a relationship for the same reasons! It hurts like a burn right now and I dont want to make stupid decisions in my weak moments like apologizing and getting back together. I am hoping the time will soon come when i finally thank myself for breaking it up for the right reasons.
I broke up with my bf yesterday. Because i felt like my emotional needs are being neglected. I can't change his whole personality. So i decided to leave. He is a good person with a golden heart. But i can't stay in a relationship where i feel like I'm not getting the treatment i deserve. I put off this decision for 2 years because i was very insecure and thought i don't deserve my fairy tale love. I haven't gotten rid of those insecurities yet. But i don't want to stay with someone i can't be sure of.
This video helped me in validating my reason for the break up. I was rethinking my decision because of guilt. But now I'm sure i did the Right thing, even though i may not find my dream love and could stay single forever. Now that I'm single, I won't be expecting someone to love me the way i deserve to be loved. I will have to learn to love myself and I'm ready for it. Thank you god for recommending this video. And i thank the ones who made this video. ❤❤
First time I hear someone feeling the same way I do! Thank you!
This was very reassuring and I needed it right now! Thank you!
Never have I ever related with a youtube video more than this one. Thank you so much, you're amazing.
Finally! I can’t find any videos that explain my situation. I love my ex. I think he’s great. I’m not angry or resentful, but I was unhappy. He’s not for me. I carry so much guilt. But my choice would be to be single than there, and I wish him all the luck and happiness in the world.
Haha! Lies! I found another video that made the light bulb come on! Described us do well, my jaw hit the floor. He is a covert narcissist, and I am the empathetic scape goat that always pitied him. He is not a good guy. He made my life hell for no reason, and some how made me feel sorry for him for it!
oh well that was a roller coaster 😀 but i’m glad you made it out!
this is the first video I see of someone who spoke my actual situation. Thank you!
I feel so related. We're three years into our relationship. I have found something mission since the second and It's been a torture I constantly think about missing my single days. He's a very good guy loyal, and kind and will give me the world. I'm thinking about bkreaking up with him or seprating by the end of this year
What ended up happening?
He deserves better.
july 20,2021. i just broke up with d best man i ever met in my life. hes so wise,respect,tender,romantic etc.
i cant loose him but i felt so releive after i said it. but still hurt,we both cried,he cant take d sadness as i do.😢💔
Love you..I just broke up..she was great..I miss her..and love her a lot..but I couldn't stay with her nature. I rather stay single
This is so amazing, I listened twice. This should be more popular
This truly is a hidden gem!
Like they say the grass is never greener on the other side if they treat you right
Thanks a lot for this video, Baya Voce. It gave me some support during this break up situation I'm in right now. I feel it confirmed my intuition. I'm glad you said there are no wrong choices, just different lessons to be learned. I can also very much relate to the thing you said about leading with love in doing what's not only best for ourselves but also fair and respectful to our partner/ex partner. It's certainly not respectful and loving at all not to be fully committed to the relation when they are. I put my faith in this decision. Love to everyone out there, on both sides of the situation
LOVED this episode!
Thanki youu!!!
So much of the grass is greener on the other side mentality. The I deserve better. No wonder dating is so f****d up.
Yeah..
@@Drikkerbadevandyes sadly. “The fear of missing out” always thinking you can find better:/
That was excellent advice! Very well spoken!
Needed this.
How does one break up in a healthy way? With a good partner.
You gotta tell them how you really feel
Just broke up with a girl who didn’t have any major red flags, but something was missing. I finally did it and feel a whole lot better now. Taking a few months off and and jumping back in the pool.
hey how did it go?
Same king i feel like 5 tons of pressure was lifted off of me she wasn’t bad at all and she was willing to give me the world if she could but i also felt like something was missing no matter what i did my feelings weren’t as genuine with her as hers was been about 2 weeks now since the break up
You have no idea how calming and wonderful it is to see that men go through this too. We are all in the same boat ❤
People have to stop getting into relationships with the intention of being complete by the other person, it's just going to harm the other person in the end
I like how her relationship revolved around game theory, like a squirrel trying to find that perfect nut. One who is inclined to think about other possibilities while with someone is a serial monogamist. Being completely forthcoming about the relationship having an expiration date would've spared all the negative emotions.
I'm awfully curious as to whether or not this breakup was influenced by him being less attractive than she would've preferred...
I'm now curious as to where he's at now in life and where you're at in regards to love and relationship ...
I just broke up with my ex because we weren't growing together as a couple or individually, but at the end of the day he was such a sweet person and a great guy. So now i felt guilty bc fundamentally he was a great guy, but theres always those things that you see that builds up that you feel like aren't the best for you. So it kinda felt really selfish breaking up with him. But im glad that i was able to watch this video.
Finally! This is just what I needed ✨ it’s hard to relate with other people going through breakups because their reasons are far different from mine. He was actually amazing but you know the rest
The same here..😢
There is no perfect relationship. Sometimes it is as good as it gets in life.
Exactly. But girls watch too msny hollywood movies
Ive thought about it so much Ive literally asked myself that question and couldn't come to an answer. Worse he has adhd and I know the rejection for him will hurt worse so I gotta really need to be definite here. Hes hoping for forever and scared he might lose me while Im thinking flip flop all the time. I feel there might be someone better out there for me... but what if I never find it. And i deserve that as Ive survived since childhood until nearly half my lifetime in abuse and I cant bare the thought the rest of my life left after Ive practically exscaped all this (granted with cptsd and baggage 😣...) for once I want to live the good or near enough I always dreamed of... but for now all I got is him... am I slamming the door on a realistic light in the dark and never see that again and Im just having a 'poverty mindset' has honestly Im just starting out and don't feel I really had the chance to date... so how do i know. Something dynamically I feel hes not the one, especially when i felt like someone was and I was excited about prior which didn't get off the ground.. but still gives me (false?) hope that there is better out there, and I feel the urge to date abit more first... but idk Im feeling confused and tired of singlehandedly trying to keep things afloat as a sociatal outcast and abuse survivor and it makes it so much more harder to find someone who would be ok with all that and still be willing to love me... so maybe Im over estimating myself rn too with my hopes and dreams that arent achievable... plus Im not physically attracted to him and I never really had the chance to date someone that I am... but I feel like he has a good heart, makes space for me to be understanding and reminds me he cares... so maybe realistically thats enough but I personally feel guilty and putting him silantly through hell when he senses my indecision and even if hes ok to stay and work it through, for me it doesn't sit right. Like you said I need to be either all in, or out. And a couple of times now i was going to try and break up but every time I talk to him I think hes so lovely or either I lose my words or courage to say it... because to a degree I do love him and he does make me happy... so idk. 😭🙈🙈
But you don't even know what you DÓ want.
This is absolutely delusional.
Relationships take constant work, that also goes for keeping that spark alive.
Been with my bf for 3 years, broke up with them every month for the first year, tried really really hard the second year and stayed silent the third year. I’m so numb
Yes I broke up with my boyfriend today and it was very hard for me to do but I just feel like we're not evenly yelled and it was hard for me because he's perfect he cooks he helps me clean he's such a good man he nurtures me any cares for myself but I just felt something was missing
Loved you on road rules
This is such a good video.
I yesterday broke up with my boyfriend so I am watching your video, despite of the fact that we always got along and still love each other, I had to take this harsh decision becuase fairy tale is different than real life
Insatiable and insane! This happened to me three times and they all came back. Right now I'm waiting on the 4th. This FOMO is an unfair and deep rooted issue because no woman admits to having these issues when entering a new relationship. Awesome and find out too late SMH.
I hope you never took any of them back. Creatures like these are insatiable, unloving, and selfish. Let them find what they're looking for.
If you're breaking up with a person because a spark is gone and that's it, you might want to look at yourself before entering another relationship, the other person is not supposed to complete you or fix a part of you that's broken, thats all the spark was, a false sense of all your problems within being resolved (or the pretense that this person IS the resolution to the problems)
I know after about 6 months of a 2 year span. My ex would leave me for simple misunderstandings or disagrievance for if I did agree a 100% with her period I then started to employ A. Boundary or understanding between us if there was a problem, we have to discuss it. But I wouldn't allow her to just return without us understanding each other because her leaving every moment's notice caused me a lot of insecurity with her endurance for a relationship. I told her we have to be able to discuss things civilly and not get frustrated with me. Because I decided we need to be able to understand each other before we can continue on. Unfortunately, this went on for another year. And a 1/2 with her just wanting to move back in. And pretend or disregard what the last conflict was. And heard us up and leaving and playing the silent treatment or casting me as.
Great video!
Thank you 🙏🏼
We gonna meet tomorrow for closure and I dunno how i'll tell her how i feel. This is exactly what i was looking for. She's an amazing partner, wife material even but i don't think shes the one for me :((( this sucks but i know it would be for the best....
This is a great video!!
Desr God you just described my dilema and I dont know anyone close to me who is going through the same
I don't know what to do, I'm moving to another City, but when confronted with the question, would I rather be single or with him? I believe I would choose him a million times, so, I don't fucking know
You said he broke off the engagement??? Which one is which???
Very good advice, however, your sound is much too low, had to crank the volume to max to hear you!
I still don’t know what to do ….
Can I help? I just went thru this. I can probably help with how he will react and what he will do.
You don’t make clear what it is you are missing. Is it a deeper emotional intimacy?
💰💰
Karma comes back. Godspeed!
Can you do more videos on this I’m struggling
Watch Elliot hulse and read 3 percent man from Corey Wayne
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Womans hypergamy is undefeated. Never underestimate a womans about y to love you one week, then want to leave you the next week...
I'm a straight guy watching this. It's a bullshit double standard that men are allowed to feel/think this way and it's perfectly fine but if a woman says the same thing she's villianized. Men openly date on looks and it's considered natural and normal but if women do the same, they're evil.
Hypergamy and Fear of missing out. It's rising due to social media and shortening attention spans and of course the unlimited options in their pockets.
Video is too quiet
then turn up your volume
Fact is that there is no one who is good but God. Let’s keep in mind, while you are unmarried and unengaged, some of you may have the God given freedom to reject those people of the opposite gender of yourself who want to mutually marry you, and guess what? In that situation, it’s okay. When it’s not good is when you are already engaged and married, because then the situation is that you feel lust for someone else or are ungrateful and only care about yourself and that doesn’t work out well in the long run for you, them, and others who are subjected to your bad behavior.
I’m sorry but no , eventually if you’re breaking up with someone who didn’t do anything wrong to a certain degree you do deserve to carry that guilt , self accountability
This is an immature response. Some people fall out of love. You would rather someone stay in a relationship that they aren’t happy in? Even if their partner is good to them? That’s being selfish and not in a good way. To guilt someone to stay with someone just because they are good to them. A lot more goes into a relationship than that.
I definitely prefer being with him than single.
So i tried to choose him over everyone else. But every 6/months to a year i will consider breaking up.
Idk, he wont leave because he is infatuated with me and wont admit thay he would be happier without me.
Just broke up with a girl who didn’t have any major red flags, but something was missing. I finally did it and feel a whole lot better now. Taking a few months off and and jumping back in the pool.
Did you feel that you could find someone more attractive?
@@Digitalknifeparty I’m feeling this right now
@@davebruzdzinski424 Ditto. My gf and I got in a fight last night. It’s getting to the point that I need to walk away but I still care for her a lot but I know I need to do it