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Hi Ryan. I'm very conflicted with phase 3. We have kids together. How should i not reach out if i need something from him for my kid? I don't wanna talk to him but there are things that I need from him. Should i just wait for him to contact me instead?
I’ve always complained that I wanted to be in a relationship, but now that I am in one, I’ve realized that I actually like being single and independent more.
You got me shattered,why did this to me as right moment i needed you just because of being beside of me...but why now?? if i was GOD, you'd do this to me tho???
@@hotmess6633 I broke up with him and from that day have lost interest in dating im so focused on my lifestyle changes that i rarely think of men or even talk to people in general
Saaaammmmeeee 😖 and i really enjoy being single but i dont want to hurt his feeling bc hes done nothing wrong, but on the other hand i feel like im being really selfish about it and maybe i should just pull myself together? I really dont know what to do
I feel like I’m single because my boyfriend barely talks to me anymore. He’s been ignoring my calls and texts. Obviously, we can’t see each other in person right now because of quarantine, but what’s the point of breaking up with him over the phone or through text when he won’t answer my other calls and texts? I’m the one who tries to keep our relationship together, but he doesn’t do anything. I might talk to my guy friend (Just a regular friend who is a boy, not my boyfriend) about it since he’s the one who put me and my boyfriend together. Everyone else gives me bad advice. They either say “Just break up with him” or “Just keep calling and texting him until he answers his phone” I don’t 100% want to break up with him (Because I’m torn) and I don’t want to blow up his phone because he will be annoyed.
I am so sad & scared to break up with my partner. He hasn't done anything wrong, he's a good man but my heart hasn't been in it for a long time. I know I have to have the conversation but I can't bear to see him in pain. I wouldn't wish this on anybody.
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Trust me, just rip that bandaid off. You’ll be better for it and it will give him an opportunity to find someone that’s more compatible with him, because just understand, every day that goes by that you don’t honor yourself by being in something that no longer serves you, it’s *one day less* you have of feeling totally fulfilled in a great relationship. Show him heart, thank him for the good times, and allow yourself time to fully heal and move on 😉
I met a guy online that was wanting to move too fast with me. We have only been talking for 2 months and the first month he was saying I love you and then he’s talking about marriage at least within 1 year... I couldn’t take it... the talk about marriage and sex and all this was making me super uncomfortable and I had already been in 3 very abusive relationships in the past so I don’t trust easy...
Everyone is like “I deserve better,” “he’s awful.” My boyfriend is actually absolutely amazing.... I’m the toxic one. 😞 And that’s why I need to break up, to get better.
you know what. we're both in the same situation and i honestly don't know what to do since he keeps on refusing but istg i'm so done with myself .. what i always see at myself is that there's always wrong about me and he never tries to comfront me about it which makes me kinda feel like he doesn't care at all it just makes it even worse at my side.
Oh, my... Whoever you are, you've got some big balls to say it. I really respect that. Seeing how old your comment is, I hope you're healing and doing much better now!
I feel you there. I’m going through the exact same thing. It’s not that I don’t love him, I do, but i’m continuing to hurt him over and over, and the best thing to do for him is to end our relationship. Even if it breaks my heart too.
I’m on my first relationship and I realized that relationship is not a thing for me, I want to be single and my current boyfriend deserves more better girlfriend than a girlfriend that doesn’t want to be in an relationship. He DID NOT do anything wrong to me, I just need to love and accept myself before I love anybody else and if this goes on, I think I will hurt his and my feelings more. Thank you so much for these amazing advices😊.
sameee and hes so emotional and gets jealous all the time and i cant anymore i have so much going on and i need time alone but he doesnt give me any rime alone and i just cant do it anymoreee
I've learned that people are going to react how they want to react. Especially if they're emotionally immature. I've tried to end a relationship the nicest way I possibly could, and I still got a nasty reaction. This is how people react when they saw it coming and they know they've messed up.
I’m with this guy . He’s the sweetest. He opens doors for me , tells me I’m beautiful often, he will buy me anything I want, he listens to me etc. He’s the epitome of a great boyfriend . One thing that makes me not want to be with him is that he’s honestly boring . Personality is very dry. I’m a free spirit. I like doing different things and exploring. He’ll do the same routine everyday with no problem. He’s predictable. I think about breaking up with him often but I don’t want to regret losing a great man. He treats me like a queen. Then again if I stay I don’t want to cheat on him with someone else cause I frequently find my eyes wondering looking at other guys . I’m
I’m so glad to have come across this comment because I’m feeling the exact same way. I feel like a jerk for even wanting to break up with such a good guy, but I think I want something different... I don’t know what to do anymore!!
Omg same thing happened with me and guess what.. I have done everything that video said..and now he's like.. give me a chance give a chance.... We will solve this I will fix this... For the 7th time. His calling me 15-20 times in a day and keep msging me all day.. now WHAT??????
My boyfriend is an amazing guy.. he’s so perfect and he’s extremely loyal and he doesn’t take well to heartbreak, at all. he was in a toxic relationship before me but i just really like someone else.. things are just falling apart.
I’m having a panic attack watching this video rn I’ve been doing the first 5 steps the past few day’s not knowing I was doing steps and imma break up with Him today and I feel horrible and don’t wanna hurt him but we aren’t right for each other. Thank u for helping me see I’m doing it right. Wish me luck today.
Hey I broke up with my boyfriend with your method. It was such a cold but easy break up. After everything I said he just said “ok” and then I left and he only stopped me to tell me to take my camera I let him barrow. He must have never really cared and I always felt that way through the whole relationship. It was always just about him. More than a week later he contacted me because he had no one to turn to when he was in distress and now I’m glad I did it because I’m only important if I’m there for him and I’m his shoulder to cry on. The second day I started crying because I missed him but I kept reminding me why I left and referred to the list of reasons why I was leaving. That really helped. Anyway thank you.
He’s such a lovely person but I’m in such a hard place I can’t handle it. I don’t want to hurt him but I can’t deal with it, he is kinda clingy and likes my attention, obviously there isn’t anything wrong with that but I just can’t give him the time and it’s making me panic, I don’t know what to do :((
Same, I had to break up with my boyfriend for kinda the same reason. He was a great person but it was just that I was in a really bad place. I couldn't make time to be happy for him and be active in our relationship. I also felt like I just didn't like him anymore. I know that sounds petty but I got with him because of the fact that my first boyfriend, for a year, tore my heart out of my chest, ripped in half, then stomped on it. I felt the need to fill that hole with the first guy I saw.
I just said WE'RE DONE! DON'T CALL ME! Never heard from him again. You have to block them completely. No friends, no friends with benefits or any of that crap.
@@datingcoachryanpatrick Thanks Ryan 🙂 I've been single for 10 years. I casually date but haven't found "Mr. Right". I'm not going to settle for just any guy, I'm choosing wisely 😉
I told him don't talk to me and he tried reaching out in person many times (I blocked him on everything else). I ignored him each time. 6 months so far no contact and it works for me. Screw him and his feelings. He should have thought about that before screwing me over. I found someone new who's the total opposite and hoping this is a keeper for life!
If your watching this video your ready to break up with him....and that's okay better WILL come :) Ik its hard cause "I don't wanna hurt him" or "I don't wanna regret it" ,but there's a reason you got to this point; don't turn back now
I thought i love my boyfriend but he is trying to change me to be his dream girl and i hate it i realised that i just liked how he was kind and loving toward me but now i hate myself even more when i stuggle to love my self because of him i am really done
Yes! That is exactly my situation. We got into an argument and he said “ you’re beautiful inside and out but if only you cooked better meals for me than you’d be a diamond” ( FYI I don’t live with him. I live with my parents so cooking more food would just make my mom mad because she’ll think I’m wasting money. So instead I buy outside food for him. I didn’t want to upset my parents or him so I thought buying him food would be okay) at this point I’ve realized MY value and he isn’t worth my effort
I know it’s hard, but believe me, when you do it, it’s gonna feel less painful, and the weight in your chest, will lighten, just do it. I know some will not be able to accept it, but please don’t do this alone, have someone to back you up. JUST DO IT, YOU GOT THIS.
I never actually thought I'd be watching these videos for help. It really hurts, for both parties. I thought my grandfather's funeral was horrible, but I'm the one dumping so why does it hurt even more than that. :/
What I've been doing these past few days is preparing to breakup. I've been keeping my distance as each day goes by. I hate hurting people's feelings but the bottom line is that we are not compatible. 1 .month together. Thanks for this video! Very informative
Might have to get the authorities/courts involved by either getting him evicted (if his name isn't on the lease/deed) or get a restraining order if he's doing anything a judge feels like where you might need protection..
If you have an older brother, close male friend or your dad or uncle ask them to call the guy and very stern tell him he needs to leave you alone or they will involve the police
I’m dumb watching this after I broke up with him today, and I feel bad for him. He started crying. He did nothing wrong it was just me I just didn’t want to be in a relationship and I shouldn’t of said yes. It would’ve been better to say no, but I said yes. I was getting lots of anxiety when we started dating I just like being single. Some of his friends hate me. I just like being single
as someone who took this videos advice, im coming back to say what i would have liked to hear upon making my decision. if you find yourself scared to instantly regret breaking up pause and reflect over the reasons you felt in your soul to do it in the first place. the heaviness and saddening feeling in your heart is only temporary, you didn’t make the wrong decision, you’re grieving someone who filled a spot in your life with their love and kindness and it’s a beautiful process. though it may be uncomfortable in the beginning sit with your emotions. soon you will start to feel peace within yourself. be gracious to yourself. and give credit for being able to make a mature and difficult decision, one that will allow you and the other to be truly fulfilled in the long term. ❤️ i truly hope this helps anyone reading this. i was scared but i do not regret it. i am blessed w our memories & i wish for his kindness and love to be cherished abundantly with whomever his significant other may be.
I just got in a relationship and I realised that I hate it. It’s just so much pressure and I just wanna break up. But I really don’t know how. Like, we literally just got together. I accepted because I wanted to have a boyfriend. But I just want it to end
I needed this I’m not in love with my boyfriend anymore too much hurt happened I need this to happen soon I’m afraid he’s gonna hurt himself or go into a deep depression
I told my ex boyfriend that I needed a break: I was going through a lot and needed space. I left it as long as I could and about a month and a half went by and he called and said “...look, I get it, it’s over. I took a job in another state...” he admitted that friends began telling him it must be over, that helped him realize it. I had tried 2 other times but it was always turned into a negotiation or melt down with him. This was the best way with this guy.
Oh god, I broke up with my boyfriend. He was nice but i just didn't feel like I wanted to be with him and I felt like we didn't work out. The only reason I got with him was because my previous boyfriend ripped my heart out of my chest, threw it in a fire, then tore it in two. A lot of stuff happened that he did that really really hurt me. I felt the need to get with someone just to fill that hole that the previous guy left. I felt really bad but it also felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders.
He’s is always really clingy and possessive so I want to break up with him because i don’t find myself thinking about him anymore, I want to get away from him and avoid all contact, but he’s also depressed because his mum has cancer and he always talks about me stopping him from just ending everything. I don’t know what to do, please can someone give me some advice, anything is welcome 🙏 Also thank you for your video, it has given me a perspective about everything going on in my life and I’m grateful for that, thank you
You’ve got to let him go then. It’s terrible his mum has cancer, but he should *never* hang that over your head as if that were your responsibility. It’s highly manipulative for him to do that. He has other family members that can act as his support system for that; it doesn’t have to be you if the love is gone. I’d say just stick to the script prescribed in this video and you should do just fine. You’ll be happy you did this for yourself, and ultimately, he’ll also be better for it and be free to find the person he’s supposed to be with 😉 Thanks for your kind words on my channel and I hope to see you around. Good luck! You got this!
I'm just afraid of getting sucked back in and things blowing up in my face. I don't have much luck in this arena. Things go bad fast for me. This is really good advice!
This was the best break up advice I ever saw while looking for a civil way of breaking up with a good man that I simply was not in love with. I do agree step 7 was perhaps one of the best tips I never saw anywhere else. It answers their questions specifically the “is there anything I can do to win your heart back?” It’s hard to answer but you have to be honest and it ties up lose ends.Some people are easier to break up with but sometimes it simply is the heart not feeling synergy with the person you are with. Also remember don’t talk about the future if you know there isn’t one. Seriously I’ve sent this video to everyone that I now wants to end their relationship. Thank goodness for finding it!
I wish I watched this before the break up. I write a script, I keep my composure. I convey the reason based on my feeling. However, I didn't ask "do you have any question?". Instead I said, "can you say something ? I want to hear your side". But he just remain silent and say nothing. I thank him for his time. And said "good luck for your plan there". God.. it is really hard. I really want us to work out. But it just doesn't work out
This is all very valuable information! My Ex's narcissism helped me to fight my urges to text or call him. Even with him dragging out the divorce I wanted to lash out at him SO many times. It helped tremendously...and our daughter advised me as well, to go "No contact". 👍
This video was very helpful. I broke up with my boyfriend and I do feel better, but still mixed with emotions. As soon as we broke up, he blocked me from all social media. It is sad but made me realize who he really is and I’m glad im not with him anymore.
I got out of a 19 year relationship and been dating someone for 6-7 months. I realize I’m not ready to be in a long relationship again. He is very caring but I don’t think I should be in a relationship now.
Uhh so I'm going to break up with my bf. He's really funny, great person, cute and all that. But lately we haven't been talking much, It's not because of corona and stuff like that, it's been going on for a few months. The thing is I really don't know what to sayyyy-
@@gwennalderton8939 Honestly. And I know he has the time to talk to me because he literally streams on youtube but can't even be bothered to say goodnight anymore.
while watching this video and videos similar to it, all of my stress and anxiety about if i should/shouldn’t break up with him, how to do it, how he’ll react, etc has gone away and i’m starting to realize that i think this decision is best for me right now 😐
i watched this video for the first time just over a month ago and i broke things off with my boyfriend just over two weeks ago. he didn’t do anything wrong, i just wasn’t in love with him anymore and knew that it was unfair for me to stay with him. if you’re in a similar situation, please know that i feel for you. do not feel bad, this is not your fault, you cannot help how you feel. i know it’s hard to breakup with someone, especially if they’ve done nothing wrong, but just know you’ll both feel better for it in the end. sending so so so much love to everyone going through this.
These comments have helped me so much realize that I’m not the only one going through this… such a nice guy. But he’s not “the one”…. It’s so hard to hurt him 😢
I'm in a relationship for 2 years now, and I think I really did love him, but now these feelings just faded. And every time he drinks, he gets very toxic and verbally and emotionally abusive. I have very low self-esteem and depression, and we're supposed to move in together in June (as soon as I finish uni), but now that I think about it....It's wrong. So I'm planning to break up with him in April after I finish my dissertation. But oh boy is it hard....
you can do it. i believe in you. just remember what it would make you feel spending the next 2 years (and more) with him as well with the exact way your relationship is right now and with the exact way your boyfriend makes you feel right now. would you be happy?
It’s taken me nearly a year to realise the person I’m with doesn’t treat me right. He’s never taken me out on a date, he only wants me round when he ‘needs’ me, but he was sometimes there when I needed him. Trouble is I’ve never broken up with someone before and I have anxiety so I’m really stressed over it. Am I supposed to do it in person? And I have NO idea what to say either😭😭
Me and my partner just have stopped communicating almost entirely and I feel it's gone stale I want to keep a friendship with him but I know our relationship wont last. Thank you this video was helpful
My bf has been so dry recently. Whenever I ask him what's wrong, he always says nothing is wrong then continues to be petty and dry. I haven't done anything wrong. I give him all my attention and love but he suddenly stopped returning it 😞
Thank you so much for this video. I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years now but I have realized that my boyfriend is not compatible with my family and I am not compatible with his. Family is very important to me and he is not on the same page about that with his own family. I have also realized I can’t see myself marrying him (let alone anyone) and I don’t want children but he does. Our futures do not line up and neither do a bunch of our values/beliefs (which often causes disagreements that can never be solved bc neither of us can compromise on these topics). I realized that I wanted to be out of the relationship when we became physically separated and I didn’t miss him that much. I was happy being by myself and doing things alone or with others/without him. I started making plans for a future where I didn’t think about where he was fitting in. I don’t mention him to family much anymore or only talk about him when asked. I find myself longing for independence. This just really sucks because he has never really done anything wrong and has treated me very well. I am so thankful for him in my life and being with me, but the long run doesn’t exist for us. I feel like I’m doing something so bad and wrong, so guilty.. I’m definitely going to cry, but it’s got to be done.
I'm in a long-term relationship (about 8 years) and I've come to the decision that we need to end it. I've thought about it a lot, and it's not a conversation I'm looking forward to, but I know that it's ultimately for the best. This is the hardest thing I've ever had to do. 😔 I appreciate this video, it definitely helps.
I am currently in a relationship and this guys and I have been dating for about 6 months now but like a week later I don’t like him anymore, but we’ve been friends for so long I don’t wanna hurt him. That’s why I looked up the video but I’m also scared. And right now while in the relationship I’m in I realize I like my best friend way more because talks to me way more than my boyfriend, so I’ll take the advice, thanks!
Very wise. Sorry to be ease dropping. Been planning to break up with my girlfriend and thought I'd also spy in on what advice is being given to women. Of course a lot of it can apply for me as well and if I was the one being broken up with I would want my girlfriend to follow this advice for me.
Hello Ryan, I wanted to thank you for this video! I broke up with my first boyfriend last week en your video really helped me prepare. I broke it off with him without much trouble, and I am more relieved than ever before. Thank you once more!
I want to break up with him cuz im not ready and he is sooo in love with me he said he would die for me and he loves me more than his family but i think i wasn't ready and he said if i break up with him he will jump from the top of the building this is so hard for me idk what to do he is deadly in love with me but I'm not ready idk what to do please if someone has been through this help me im not here to let him die 💔💔
Omg hi! ريتال الغامدي I don’t know if you are still with this guy, but it sounds like you really need to break up with him. I know that he must be so In love with you, but it is VERY wrong for him to do this to you. He is just trying to guilt you and make you feel bad and stay with him but you definatly shouldn’t. I would definatly break up in a nice way though. Let him know that you care about him so much but you feel that what he is doing is manipulative even if he doesn’t mean it to be. Please do not stay with him if you feel like this! You do not deserve to be treated like that. Lmk what ended up happening
Very good advice. I come to the conclusion, my hand written break up letter to my long distance borderline ex, I wrote in 2008, was not the worst. If even possible, one should break up in person of course. Though I wouldn't take a plane to break up
This was really brilliant. I m looking to end a relationship after 3 mo where he was really sweet for the first 2 mo, although drank to excessive every night. He’s been really short w me and rude to me lately and it always relates to him being drunk, hungover, or didn’t have time to get lunch for himself and hangry bc he drank late w his neighbors the night before where he’s agro to me. Beyond that, I know he really cares and I wanted to break it off in person. He s still a human and someone I’ve cared about the last few months. He has some limiting beliefs that are now impacting us. Thank you for such wisdom, I may be listening to this over and over tomorrow before going over to break it off.
He told me he liked me I always liked him but he’s a really good friend and after all that happened it’s just different and I know it’s gonna be different forever but just because 2 people like each other doesn’t mean there right for each other but I don’t wanna break his heart
Been with my bf for over a year and we’ve honestly just hit such a rough patch and it really really doesn’t feel like we are going to make it at this point. The things we argue about make me feel like he’s constantly blaming me or accusing me of shit his EX did to him. He’s a great guy and I love him but it’s just gotten to be too much. I can’t deal with his clingy-ness and constantly talking about his ex.
Same... he talks about his 4 exes all the time and is too clingy... the thi g is he is living here with me so I gotta figure out a way to kick him out... I just don't feel like I'm myself anymore. I'm not being me like I used to be...
Thank you for the video. I am breaking up with my boyfriend today and I have been really struggling with how. I have my friends and family support but this is my first boyfriend and I am so nervous. I watched your other video about know if your dating the wrong guy and it helped me even more.
I broke it off today. I've come to realize slowly he wanted to be with him on his terms only. He slowly began texting me less, made himself less available and became distant. He pleaded to stay with me, but had the nerve to say things were better with us before he asked me to be his girlfriend . I explicitly asked him if he was ready for such and never suggested to be his girlfriend.I explained my concern of his lack emotional lack of commitment, yet he could never utter one word what he liked about me. He wants his cake and eat it too..
it's hard for me because i had feelings for him for a year now and when we started dating i lose all my feelings but i can't tell him that i don't have feelings for him anymore...i will wait 2-3 months more ik this will hurt my feelings and his but i will tell him that i am so busy with school and i can't think about boyfriend...it sucks because he is my first boyfriend and we are dating for 17 days but i miss my single life and i feel so young...but he love me so much...i don't know how can i do this but i need to do this...i am so sad in this relationship, but i can't end this now because he is giving me all his love...i feel so bad💔😭
i can feel you girl..we where dating for 1 week and i didn't feel anything for him...idk why i lose feelings for him but i did it and i told him i wanted to be still friends with him but he was mad at me and yeah after 3 months he is still mad at me and yeah he was my first boyfriend and i'm 13 years old and yeah i found another bf who i had feelings for him for just 5 days and we started dating 8 days after i broke up with my first bf and now i'm happy with him...now i know that how long you have feelings for him and how long you know him that is worse for relationship...i have chance to get to know my second aka my bf who i'm dating now and that's so fun and it's so funny when you two ask each other dumb things about each other...but know that if you pretend to be happy with him in front of him because the break up will hurt him and you too...i wish you luck girl...just reply to this coment with your instagram and i will text you and i will tell you everything about me and my ex bf and what i did and how i was feeling...i'm here for ya'll
Same situation 😩 He is saying he will die 😭😭 But I am not feeling anything for him what should I do he doesn't trust me not understand but love me alot 😭😭 But trust and understanding is also important Its enough I am going to break with him Tomorrow
He's so nice, he talks about our future, he always says I'm the most important person of his life.. but I need to end it I deserve better and it's just I don't want to become selfish... 😞 I fell bad for him 🙁.
These steps also work for my situation that I am in right now which is having dated this guy for about a year now who is obviously not committing to me and that I know is not the right one for me. Thank you.
He didn’t do anything wrong, he is so good to me and even though I’m young I know I wanna marry someone who is also religious because I wanna raise my children religious and I wanna baptize then and bring them to church. I want my partner to also believe in God because i personally feel like it will put my kids in an awkward situation if they have “choose” and it would be confusing if mom believes one thing and dad believes another... I think he needs to know this so he doesn’t waste his time, he deserves someone who sees a future with him ... :/
Broke ties off with someone who was “my friend with benefits” did mostly everything right what you are talking about, not all of it but most. I broke it off not because I stopped loving this person. I did it because I hated the way he put me down. On social media and in private. But today I saw he send a virtual rose to a mutual friend and It crushed me.
I had to break up with someone even though it probably wasn't even real. He was a total flake! I finally got tired of going back and forth, breaking up and making up. He would always worm his way back in and I didn't press him about what wasn't working early on. This time I did press him because if he wasn't gonna change I wanted it OVER, no more in and out. So sadly that's what happened and it's OVER now. I still kind of hate that it ended, because I feel like it could have worked if it wasn't for third parties. Also things got a bit psycho with texts in the end, and I regret that, but I didn't want to deal with crap any more, so I made myself be firm. If I'd been nice about it and said we could still be friends, I'd find myself right back in the same boat. If it's meant to be one day, it will be, after BOTH of us get it together. But for now at least I don't feel like a yo yo any longer 💗
the guy I'm with moved the relationship too fast and has tried to talk me into sex multiple times. hes very inappropriate and brags about things like depression and anxiety. I'm not happy but idk how to break up with him or if I should. ideas?
Yes, this definitely isn't a healthy situation for you Reina. Have you watched my video "How To Break Up With Your Boyfriend" yet? This will walk you through how to do it in a clear, mature fashion ----> ua-cam.com/video/UDuqq1pRA3g/v-deo.html
he’s very sweet and I will forever like him a little bit.... but I think I’m lesbian.... and it’s gonna be so much harder considering I have to do it over text. I hate to be the bad guy, but I’m just going through so much. I never wanted this to happen, but I have to do it. It’ll be hard to let go of him. I can’t tell him that I’m lesbian because somehow my family could find out.... oh god I’m so gonna die- I will edit this so I can tell you how it went ♥︎ Edit: ok, so no one really cares but I needed to pour my feelings out, but it went ok. he said that he felt the same way, but I’m not sure he did....
After one year in my relationship I realized that we argue more than we talk positively, I find more and more things about him that I don't like and it drives me crazy! I don't want to hurt him, but the truth is better than lie!
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Hi Ryan. I'm very conflicted with phase 3. We have kids together. How should i not reach out if i need something from him for my kid? I don't wanna talk to him but there are things that I need from him. Should i just wait for him to contact me instead?
I’ve always complained that I wanted to be in a relationship, but now that I am in one, I’ve realized that I actually like being single and independent more.
You got me shattered,why did this to me as right moment i needed you just because of being beside of me...but why now?? if i was GOD, you'd do this to me tho???
@@samirj1387 wut?
Same 😭
That's because you're not with the right person.
@@samirj1387 what are you talking about?
Lets be honest.. you searched for this.
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Yes
Yup
Yes but the thing is step one yeah I kinda regret it
He didn't do anything wrong, i just dont love him anymore...
Same 😭😭I'm Even feed up with life I want to run away
Ree Beckie i feel u ree
the fact me n my boyfriend patch up sooo PLS HELP
@@hotmess6633 I broke up with him and from that day have lost interest in dating im so focused on my lifestyle changes that i rarely think of men or even talk to people in general
Ik I have a online bf but my parents don't know and I wanna break up..
I’m taken but I rather be single 😶
Axsthetic Milana same 😕
Saaaammmmeeee 😖 and i really enjoy being single but i dont want to hurt his feeling bc hes done nothing wrong, but on the other hand i feel like im being really selfish about it and maybe i should just pull myself together? I really dont know what to do
I feel like I’m single because my boyfriend barely talks to me anymore. He’s been ignoring my calls and texts. Obviously, we can’t see each other in person right now because of quarantine, but what’s the point of breaking up with him over the phone or through text when he won’t answer my other calls and texts? I’m the one who tries to keep our relationship together, but he doesn’t do anything. I might talk to my guy friend (Just a regular friend who is a boy, not my boyfriend) about it since he’s the one who put me and my boyfriend together. Everyone else gives me bad advice. They either say “Just break up with him” or “Just keep calling and texting him until he answers his phone” I don’t 100% want to break up with him (Because I’m torn) and I don’t want to blow up his phone because he will be annoyed.
You feel that way for a reason,and I hope you find out why cause its okay to feel like you need "you" time.
Axsthetic Milana -ok but kinda a mood
I am so sad & scared to break up with my partner. He hasn't done anything wrong, he's a good man but my heart hasn't been in it for a long time. I know I have to have the conversation but I can't bear to see him in pain. I wouldn't wish this on anybody.
His sin absolutely was not something else just it was being your partner..
I feel you, how are you doing now?
@@samirj1387 🙄🙄🙄
Me tooo🙂..we have lots of fight recent days..But now okey..but my heart don't give any space to him..I don't know what to do🙂🙂
Im in the same situation as you
*You comment and your boyfriend sees this comment on this video*
your boyfriend: 👁👄👁
I've actually thought about sending him the video.
😄 😄 😄
Kudos for the video content! Excuse me for chiming in, I would love your thoughts. Have you considered - Lammywalness Bright Love Guide (google it)? It is an awesome one off guide for learning how to rekindle your relationship minus the hard work. Ive heard some super things about it and my BF finally got cool success with it.
Danngg why would he be watching this tho 😭🤚
ha this is why i dont let anyone know my yt account
I have to break up with my boyfriend, but I can’t bring myself to do it. He’s nice, but it seriously isn’t working. Can someone give me advice. 😟
Trust me, just rip that bandaid off. You’ll be better for it and it will give him an opportunity to find someone that’s more compatible with him, because just understand, every day that goes by that you don’t honor yourself by being in something that no longer serves you, it’s *one day less* you have of feeling totally fulfilled in a great relationship. Show him heart, thank him for the good times, and allow yourself time to fully heal and move on 😉
Ryan Patrick thank you so much. This is great advice. You’re amazing. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!
I did it! He wasn’t pleased, BUT I DID IT! 😁😁😁
@@doggyblox8484 🙌🏼🙌🏼
1. Thank him for all his doing
2. Thank him for making you the way you are
3. Pray to god that he will be happy
4.Bid him goodbye
THE END
This Is so sad but I have to do it... I deserve way better. 😞
Fr🥺😭same right here
we all living the same life huh 😔
Same here girl!
Me too
I hope you went through it for yourself! That's what I keep telling myself, I love myself enough to do this.
My boyfriend is so sweet and funny I’m just dealing with a lot right now and can’t do it anymore
Simmer Amberly same
Same
Same but I still wanna hold on because if feel like if I let him go I won’t find anyone else as nice and cute 🤧
@@parislondon2538 can i ask what did you do at last?
I met a guy online that was wanting to move too fast with me. We have only been talking for 2 months and the first month he was saying I love you and then he’s talking about marriage at least within 1 year... I couldn’t take it... the talk about marriage and sex and all this was making me super uncomfortable and I had already been in 3 very abusive relationships in the past so I don’t trust easy...
Everyone is like “I deserve better,” “he’s awful.” My boyfriend is actually absolutely amazing.... I’m the toxic one. 😞
And that’s why I need to break up, to get better.
I see an angel here,as your blood-in-vein brother, i'm on my knees to you
you know what. we're both in the same situation and i honestly don't know what to do since he keeps on refusing but istg i'm so done with myself .. what i always see at myself is that there's always wrong about me and he never tries to comfront me about it which makes me kinda feel like he doesn't care at all it just makes it even worse at my side.
Oh, my... Whoever you are, you've got some big balls to say it. I really respect that.
Seeing how old your comment is, I hope you're healing and doing much better now!
Wow I feel the same way !!!
I feel you there. I’m going through the exact same thing. It’s not that I don’t love him, I do, but i’m continuing to hurt him over and over, and the best thing to do for him is to end our relationship. Even if it breaks my heart too.
I’m on my first relationship and I realized that relationship is not a thing for me, I want to be single and my current boyfriend deserves more better girlfriend than a girlfriend that doesn’t want to be in an relationship. He DID NOT do anything wrong to me, I just need to love and accept myself before I love anybody else and if this goes on, I think I will hurt his and my feelings more. Thank you so much for these amazing advices😊.
How did it go? 😭 I’m in the same situation
Hi there! I'm going through the EXACT SAME thing right now so I know how you feel. I'm here to offer support if you need it.
Me too!!! 😖
That was me when I got into my very first relationship..I feel you,girl
Exactly the same here girl😔
I don’t love him anymore. Even the thought or the sight of him makes me feel uncomfortable. I’m anxious to tell him although I have to...
Ooo same here
Suzanne Vatsayan I finally did it and it feels soooo good ! What about you ?
Oli déli that’s greattt I’m so scared to do it
@@Eva.ckerman please tell me how i can't
Same, when we started dating whenever I got a notification I hoped it was him but now I hope it isn’t, and when he texts me I feel all weird
God he’s so clingy I honestly can’t! I prefer being single :(
YESSIR
Tbh same 🤧
sameee and hes so emotional and gets jealous all the time and i cant anymore i have so much going on and i need time alone but he doesnt give me any rime alone and i just cant do it anymoreee
serena eid I feel you 😩😤
SAME!
How do you go about breaking up while also being so afraid of any type of confrontation?! That’s my struggle
You could maybe write a note saying how you feel and take it from there
I know I was worried about that too but then quarantine happened and we don’t live together so I could break up over text
Don't do that to me,i don't deserve it
im struggling too ;
I've learned that people are going to react how they want to react. Especially if they're emotionally immature. I've tried to end a relationship the nicest way I possibly could, and I still got a nasty reaction. This is how people react when they saw it coming and they know they've messed up.
I’m with this guy . He’s the sweetest. He opens doors for me , tells me I’m beautiful often, he will buy me anything I want, he listens to me etc. He’s the epitome of a great boyfriend . One thing that makes me not want to be with him is that he’s honestly boring . Personality is very dry. I’m a free spirit. I like doing different things and exploring. He’ll do the same routine everyday with no problem. He’s predictable. I think about breaking up with him often but I don’t want to regret losing a great man. He treats me like a queen. Then again if I stay I don’t want to cheat on him with someone else cause I frequently find my eyes wondering looking at other guys . I’m
I’m so glad to have come across this comment because I’m feeling the exact same way. I feel like a jerk for even wanting to break up with such a good guy, but I think I want something different... I don’t know what to do anymore!!
Same...
Same but my problem is my boyfriend can be well kinda clingy
Omg same thing happened with me and guess what.. I have done everything that video said..and now he's like.. give me a chance give a chance.... We will solve this I will fix this... For the 7th time. His calling me 15-20 times in a day and keep msging me all day.. now WHAT??????
@@timilaprajapati2059 same for the 7th time.. I can't do even a break up yar.. this is frustrating. Why the hell he keep begging
I'm not ready to break up, because everytime I think of it my heart hurts. I also am finding it hard to stay. Not sure what to do at this point.
Do u have reasons or u just wanna be single?
@@Masa-dj4mt i personnaly want it cause i dont really have feelings anymore
@@anjones1979 yeah break up than u will feel sm more better and free
This is exactly how I’m feeling
I'm single for years now... I don't even know why am I watching this.. 😂😂 but watching your videos are fun and informative...
U beach, u r so lucky. Aghhh
You are lucky..
Don’t ever get into the relationship except getting married..
It hurts!
Lol girl
Same 😄😘
My boyfriend is an amazing guy.. he’s so perfect and he’s extremely loyal and he doesn’t take well to heartbreak, at all. he was in a toxic relationship before me but i just really like someone else.. things are just falling apart.
same instead losing feelings i’m dealing with a lot right now, stress also exhausted on everything i’m so scared too tell him.
You're shattering me😭
Chris Brown said it the best. They ain’t loyal.
how did you get yourself in a position where you like someone else though?
@@spacepod100 maybe she just wanna create rumors 🙂))))
I’m having a panic attack watching this video rn I’ve been doing the first 5 steps the past few day’s not knowing I was doing steps and imma break up with Him today and I feel horrible and don’t wanna hurt him but we aren’t right for each other. Thank u for helping me see I’m doing it right. Wish me luck today.
You got this, Sage! 👌🏼
😥 you did bad things to me
I'm terrified of doing this.. I love him but he's destroying me.. I'm exhausted, I deserve better..
I wonder how you were doing. I'm in this situation rn. We've been trying to work things out but i feel so alone. I need to do this.
I used your technique and executed it last night. It was perfect! Everything happened peacefully and amicably. Thank you so much. I feel so relieved.
Jist coz ur guy may be calm but mine is extremely possessive and says that he will kill me if i leave him 🤐
@@Tanu1802_ oh no how are you now? How did things end up? Your boyfriend seems toxic
@@Tanu1802_ hey did you breakup with him? Did it go well?
Hey I broke up with my boyfriend with your method. It was such a cold but easy break up. After everything I said he just said “ok” and then I left and he only stopped me to tell me to take my camera I let him barrow. He must have never really cared and I always felt that way through the whole relationship. It was always just about him.
More than a week later he contacted me because he had no one to turn to when he was in distress and now I’m glad I did it because I’m only important if I’m there for him and I’m his shoulder to cry on. The second day I started crying because I missed him but I kept reminding me why I left and referred to the list of reasons why I was leaving. That really helped.
Anyway thank you.
Vaishakhi Bagul wtf is your problem
@@vishbagul Shut up.
@@LittleKittyCat what did he comment?
He’s such a lovely person but I’m in such a hard place I can’t handle it. I don’t want to hurt him but I can’t deal with it, he is kinda clingy and likes my attention, obviously there isn’t anything wrong with that but I just can’t give him the time and it’s making me panic, I don’t know what to do :((
Time to cut him loose the right way 😉
Same, I had to break up with my boyfriend for kinda the same reason. He was a great person but it was just that I was in a really bad place. I couldn't make time to be happy for him and be active in our relationship. I also felt like I just didn't like him anymore. I know that sounds petty but I got with him because of the fact that my first boyfriend, for a year, tore my heart out of my chest, ripped in half, then stomped on it. I felt the need to fill that hole with the first guy I saw.
@Mini Moose sameee...i just got with him bc i felt bad to break his heart
@@ana-bm3kt Me too
I just said WE'RE DONE! DON'T CALL ME! Never heard from him again. You have to block them completely. No friends, no friends with benefits or any of that crap.
Amen!
@@datingcoachryanpatrick 😉🙋♀️🙋♀️
@@datingcoachryanpatrick Thanks Ryan 🙂 I've been single for 10 years. I casually date but haven't found "Mr. Right". I'm not going to settle for just any guy, I'm choosing wisely 😉
Why? I didn't do anything bad to you,i respected you all the time,you're toooo creepy right now
Why u gotta be so toxic 😥
I told him don't talk to me and he tried reaching out in person many times (I blocked him on everything else). I ignored him each time. 6 months so far no contact and it works for me. Screw him and his feelings. He should have thought about that before screwing me over. I found someone new who's the total opposite and hoping this is a keeper for life!
Did you break up with him or did you just tell him not to talk to you?
If your watching this video your ready to break up with him....and that's okay better WILL come :)
Ik its hard cause "I don't wanna hurt him" or "I don't wanna regret it" ,but there's a reason you got to this point; don't turn back now
Don't break up with me miranda,please
Thanks. That was a nice comment to put out!! Awesome
Ok, thank you. ❤️
Because of this comment Ill break up with him. Thanks
Damn this hit hard
i already know the breakup is gonna go SOUTH.
Same 😭😭😂💔💔
Same
I thought i love my boyfriend but he is trying to change me to be his dream girl and i hate it i realised that i just liked how he was kind and loving toward me but now i hate myself even more when i stuggle to love my self because of him i am really done
JUNGKOOK SHIII 2002 sameee
JUNGKOOK SHIII 2002 did you get to do it, I’m in a similar situation myself
Me too
Yes! That is exactly my situation. We got into an argument and he said “ you’re beautiful inside and out but if only you cooked better meals for me than you’d be a diamond” ( FYI I don’t live with him. I live with my parents so cooking more food would just make my mom mad because she’ll think I’m wasting money. So instead I buy outside food for him. I didn’t want to upset my parents or him so I thought buying him food would be okay) at this point I’ve realized MY value and he isn’t worth my effort
Same.
I know it’s hard, but believe me, when you do it, it’s gonna feel less painful, and the weight in your chest, will lighten, just do it. I know some will not be able to accept it, but please don’t do this alone, have someone to back you up. JUST DO IT, YOU GOT THIS.
Ah I needed this, thank you I needed motivation lmao
Kramapude Cushion || np C:
Aah ty for this!! I needed it >~
I have no one to back me up :/
@@Masa-dj4mt
I might not know you, but i’ll back you up!
i’ll be here if anything goes wrong! ^^
I realized during my relationship with my boyfriend that I’m actually gay. I wonder how he’s gonna take it.
if this ain’t me
How did it go?
That's kinda big deal. No point in keeping two people unhappy. I hope you're doing okay, rn.
I never actually thought I'd be watching these videos for help. It really hurts, for both parties.
I thought my grandfather's funeral was horrible, but I'm the one dumping so why does it hurt even more than that. :/
You hurted me of all aspects
What I've been doing these past few days is preparing to breakup. I've been keeping my distance as each day goes by. I hate hurting people's feelings but the bottom line is that we are not compatible. 1 .month together. Thanks for this video! Very informative
i really want t be single... but he loves me sooo much and it makes it hard for me to break up with him i wish he is the one breaking up with me
GIRL SAME
omg sameee
Omggg me toooo!!!!!!
Why is this me oh my god
Semm
You break up with him, by zoning out and knowing that you deserve so much more. Your amazing, know your worth
Any tips when you've already tried this and he still wont leave? We live together.. I'm exhausted
Might have to get the authorities/courts involved by either getting him evicted (if his name isn't on the lease/deed) or get a restraining order if he's doing anything a judge feels like where you might need protection..
Teri S. girl call the cops
If you have an older brother, close male friend or your dad or uncle ask them to call the guy and very stern tell him he needs to leave you alone or they will involve the police
Same.. he keep begging and crying and keep calling and msging me all day. And I'm exhausted too
same boat, he won’t leave and tells me to call the cops to get him out
I’m dumb watching this after I broke up with him today, and I feel bad for him. He started crying. He did nothing wrong it was just me I just didn’t want to be in a relationship and I shouldn’t of said yes. It would’ve been better to say no, but I said yes. I was getting lots of anxiety when we started dating I just like being single. Some of his friends hate me. I just like being single
Exactly the same w me
same. i said yes but i literally just went though a breakup with someone i reallllyyyy liked so-
as someone who took this videos advice, im coming back to say what i would have liked to hear upon making my decision. if you find yourself scared to instantly regret breaking up pause and reflect over the reasons you felt in your soul to do it in the first place. the heaviness and saddening feeling in your heart is only temporary, you didn’t make the wrong decision, you’re grieving someone who filled a spot in your life with their love and kindness and it’s a beautiful process. though it may be uncomfortable in the beginning sit with your emotions. soon you will start to feel peace within yourself. be gracious to yourself. and give credit for being able to make a mature and difficult decision, one that will allow you and the other to be truly fulfilled in the long term. ❤️ i truly hope this helps anyone reading this. i was scared but i do not regret it. i am blessed w our memories & i wish for his kindness and love to be cherished abundantly with whomever his significant other may be.
I just got in a relationship and I realised that I hate it. It’s just so much pressure and I just wanna break up. But I really don’t know how. Like, we literally just got together. I accepted because I wanted to have a boyfriend. But I just want it to end
me too 😔
ME TOO 😭😭😭😭
Me too
I needed this I’m not in love with my boyfriend anymore too much hurt happened I need this to happen soon I’m afraid he’s gonna hurt himself or go into a deep depression
I told my ex boyfriend that I needed a break: I was going through a lot and needed space. I left it as long as I could and about a month and a half went by and he called and said “...look, I get it, it’s over. I took a job in another state...” he admitted that friends began telling him it must be over, that helped him realize it. I had tried 2 other times but it was always turned into a negotiation or melt down with him. This was the best way with this guy.
Oh god, I broke up with my boyfriend. He was nice but i just didn't feel like I wanted to be with him and I felt like we didn't work out. The only reason I got with him was because my previous boyfriend ripped my heart out of my chest, threw it in a fire, then tore it in two. A lot of stuff happened that he did that really really hurt me. I felt the need to get with someone just to fill that hole that the previous guy left. I felt really bad but it also felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders.
he probably feels what you felt 💀.
that's wasn't nice from u
I feel you too much.
I'm breaking up with my boyfriend tomorrow, he's a sweet guy but ultimately not what I want for a husband. This video helped.
He’s is always really clingy and possessive so I want to break up with him because i don’t find myself thinking about him anymore, I want to get away from him and avoid all contact, but he’s also depressed because his mum has cancer and he always talks about me stopping him from just ending everything. I don’t know what to do, please can someone give me some advice, anything is welcome 🙏 Also thank you for your video, it has given me a perspective about everything going on in my life and I’m grateful for that, thank you
You’ve got to let him go then. It’s terrible his mum has cancer, but he should *never* hang that over your head as if that were your responsibility. It’s highly manipulative for him to do that. He has other family members that can act as his support system for that; it doesn’t have to be you if the love is gone. I’d say just stick to the script prescribed in this video and you should do just fine. You’ll be happy you did this for yourself, and ultimately, he’ll also be better for it and be free to find the person he’s supposed to be with 😉 Thanks for your kind words on my channel and I hope to see you around. Good luck! You got this!
I'm just afraid of getting sucked back in and things blowing up in my face. I don't have much luck in this arena. Things go bad fast for me. This is really good advice!
I gotta break up with my boyfriend because I like him or whatever but it just wont work out 🤦♀️😭
Don't break up with me libby, you're really heart-breaking
This was the best break up advice I ever saw while looking for a civil way of breaking up with a good man that I simply was not in love with. I do agree step 7 was perhaps one of the best tips I never saw anywhere else. It answers their questions specifically the “is there anything I can do to win your heart back?” It’s hard to answer but you have to be honest and it ties up lose ends.Some people are easier to break up with but sometimes it simply is the heart not feeling synergy with the person you are with. Also remember don’t talk about the future if you know there isn’t one. Seriously I’ve sent this video to everyone that I now wants to end their relationship. Thank goodness for finding it!
I wish I watched this before the break up.
I write a script, I keep my composure.
I convey the reason based on my feeling.
However, I didn't ask "do you have any question?". Instead I said, "can you say something ? I want to hear your side". But he just remain silent and say nothing.
I thank him for his time. And said "good luck for your plan there".
God.. it is really hard. I really want us to work out.
But it just doesn't work out
This is all very valuable information!
My Ex's narcissism helped me to fight my urges to text or call him. Even with him dragging out the divorce I wanted to lash out at him SO many times. It helped tremendously...and our daughter advised me as well, to go "No contact". 👍
This video was very helpful. I broke up with my boyfriend and I do feel better, but still mixed with emotions. As soon as we broke up, he blocked me from all social media. It is sad but made me realize who he really is and I’m glad im not with him anymore.
I got out of a 19 year relationship and been dating someone for 6-7 months. I realize I’m not ready to be in a long relationship again. He is very caring but I don’t think I should be in a relationship now.
Uhh so I'm going to break up with my bf. He's really funny, great person, cute and all that. But lately we haven't been talking much, It's not because of corona and stuff like that, it's been going on for a few months. The thing is I really don't know what to sayyyy-
I'm in a similar situation, our communication sucks
Same.. no commication unless its from me..
@@gwennalderton8939 Honestly. And I know he has the time to talk to me because he literally streams on youtube but can't even be bothered to say goodnight anymore.
How'd it go?
I'm planning on doing it this Friday
OMG, I've never thought about that but everything you've said makes so much sense! I appreciate that insight!
I want to break up with my boyfriend because he constantly calls me old. I’m 49, he’s 43.
@Illusionchild Thanks. We broke up.
Good for you! Seriously he is immature
I never called you old, i mean i was joking with you and i didn't know what i'm saying across the other of my words..bluh bluh,forgive me btw
@@samirj1387 😂
@@samirj1387 😂😂😂😂lmao
while watching this video and videos similar to it, all of my stress and anxiety about if i should/shouldn’t break up with him, how to do it, how he’ll react, etc has gone away and i’m starting to realize that i think this decision is best for me right now 😐
i watched this video for the first time just over a month ago and i broke things off with my boyfriend just over two weeks ago. he didn’t do anything wrong, i just wasn’t in love with him anymore and knew that it was unfair for me to stay with him. if you’re in a similar situation, please know that i feel for you. do not feel bad, this is not your fault, you cannot help how you feel. i know it’s hard to breakup with someone, especially if they’ve done nothing wrong, but just know you’ll both feel better for it in the end. sending so so so much love to everyone going through this.
These comments have helped me so much realize that I’m not the only one going through this… such a nice guy. But he’s not “the one”…. It’s so hard to hurt him 😢
This was extremely helpful!! Thank you so much! This deserves more likes
Thank you! I'm hoping more people on the channel get around to checking it out! I feel it's the best way to leave 👍
I'm in a relationship for 2 years now, and I think I really did love him, but now these feelings just faded. And every time he drinks, he gets very toxic and verbally and emotionally abusive. I have very low self-esteem and depression, and we're supposed to move in together in June (as soon as I finish uni), but now that I think about it....It's wrong. So I'm planning to break up with him in April after I finish my dissertation. But oh boy is it hard....
you can do it. i believe in you. just remember what it would make you feel spending the next 2 years (and more) with him as well with the exact way your relationship is right now and with the exact way your boyfriend makes you feel right now. would you be happy?
@@leak.9822 I broke up with him yesterday. It was hard but I did it. We stayed friends,tho I can't hell but constantly doubt my decision
Wow..your videos is what I've looking for... Yes now I realize I don't need a Rebound relationship. Thank you for helping me.God bless You!
Why wyeth? Why you threw me in the trash pail? I was a filthy toilet paper to you??
It’s taken me nearly a year to realise the person I’m with doesn’t treat me right. He’s never taken me out on a date, he only wants me round when he ‘needs’ me, but he was sometimes there when I needed him. Trouble is I’ve never broken up with someone before and I have anxiety so I’m really stressed over it. Am I supposed to do it in person? And I have NO idea what to say either😭😭
Me and my partner just have stopped communicating almost entirely and I feel it's gone stale I want to keep a friendship with him but I know our relationship wont last. Thank you this video was helpful
The fact this process is the most helpful in applying to how I'm going to divorce my spouse is all the more reason I need to go....
Ryan you're so amazing! And down to earth. Thank you for this video!!
This is the best breakup advice I've found thank you.
My bf has been so dry recently. Whenever I ask him what's wrong, he always says nothing is wrong then continues to be petty and dry. I haven't done anything wrong. I give him all my attention and love but he suddenly stopped returning it 😞
Thank you for insightful advice. I will take note of this and use it in the future 😌
i fell in love with someone while in a healthy relationship, i feel like a monster.
Thank you so much for this video.
I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years now but I have realized that my boyfriend is not compatible with my family and I am not compatible with his. Family is very important to me and he is not on the same page about that with his own family. I have also realized I can’t see myself marrying him (let alone anyone) and I don’t want children but he does. Our futures do not line up and neither do a bunch of our values/beliefs (which often causes disagreements that can never be solved bc neither of us can compromise on these topics).
I realized that I wanted to be out of the relationship when we became physically separated and I didn’t miss him that much. I was happy being by myself and doing things alone or with others/without him. I started making plans for a future where I didn’t think about where he was fitting in. I don’t mention him to family much anymore or only talk about him when asked. I find myself longing for independence.
This just really sucks because he has never really done anything wrong and has treated me very well. I am so thankful for him in my life and being with me, but the long run doesn’t exist for us. I feel like I’m doing something so bad and wrong, so guilty.. I’m definitely going to cry, but it’s got to be done.
I'm in a long-term relationship (about 8 years) and I've come to the decision that we need to end it. I've thought about it a lot, and it's not a conversation I'm looking forward to, but I know that it's ultimately for the best. This is the hardest thing I've ever had to do. 😔 I appreciate this video, it definitely helps.
Yea,you will,cuz your love about me was not something higher than terrestrial love,congrats to you miss winner😥
Make a celebration, murmuringly say:" winner! winner! chicken dinner!"😐😢😢😢😢😢
Ryan, this was very detailed and so great.
This is the best video I have seen on this topic. And trust me I’ve seen a lot. Thank you!
Wow, thank you Mary! 😀
I am currently in a relationship and this guys and I have been dating for about 6 months now but like a week later I don’t like him anymore, but we’ve been friends for so long I don’t wanna hurt him. That’s why I looked up the video but I’m also scared. And right now while in the relationship I’m in I realize I like my best friend way more because talks to me way more than my boyfriend, so I’ll take the advice, thanks!
Very wise. Sorry to be ease dropping. Been planning to break up with my girlfriend and thought I'd also spy in on what advice is being given to women. Of course a lot of it can apply for me as well and if I was the one being broken up with I would want my girlfriend to follow this advice for me.
Hello Ryan,
I wanted to thank you for this video!
I broke up with my first boyfriend last week en your video really helped me prepare.
I broke it off with him without much trouble, and I am more relieved than ever before.
Thank you once more!
Thank you, I REALLY needed this 🙏
I want to break up with him cuz im not ready and he is sooo in love with me he said he would die for me and he loves me more than his family but i think i wasn't ready and he said if i break up with him he will jump from the top of the building this is so hard for me idk what to do he is deadly in love with me but I'm not ready idk what to do please if someone has been through this help me im not here to let him die 💔💔
Omg hi! ريتال الغامدي I don’t know if you are still with this guy, but it sounds like you really need to break up with him. I know that he must be so In love with you, but it is VERY wrong for him to do this to you. He is just trying to guilt you and make you feel bad and stay with him but you definatly shouldn’t. I would definatly break up in a nice way though. Let him know that you care about him so much but you feel that what he is doing is manipulative even if he doesn’t mean it to be. Please do not stay with him if you feel like this! You do not deserve to be treated like that. Lmk what ended up happening
OMG im in the same situation...i only got with him because i felt bad to break his heart....if u want to break up with him just tell him the truth
Very good advice. I come to the conclusion, my hand written break up letter to my long distance borderline ex, I wrote in 2008, was not the worst. If even possible, one should break up in person of course. Though I wouldn't take a plane to break up
This was really brilliant. I m looking to end a relationship after 3 mo where he was really sweet for the first 2 mo, although drank to excessive every night. He’s been really short w me and rude to me lately and it always relates to him being drunk, hungover, or didn’t have time to get lunch for himself and hangry bc he drank late w his neighbors the night before where he’s agro to me.
Beyond that, I know he really cares and I wanted to break it off in person. He s still a human and someone I’ve cared about the last few months. He has some limiting beliefs that are now impacting us. Thank you for such wisdom, I may be listening to this over and over tomorrow before going over to break it off.
Thank you for sharing your story! I can relate.
Thank you for this. I've been thinking about what I should say and this helped me a lot.
Feeling better as I go through how I'm going to break up , I'm relieved as to trying to figure out how to fix it , Ty for this advice
He told me he liked me I always liked him but he’s a really good friend and after all that happened it’s just different and I know it’s gonna be different forever but just because 2 people like each other doesn’t mean there right for each other but I don’t wanna break his heart
Been with my bf for over a year and we’ve honestly just hit such a rough patch and it really really doesn’t feel like we are going to make it at this point. The things we argue about make me feel like he’s constantly blaming me or accusing me of shit his EX did to him. He’s a great guy and I love him but it’s just gotten to be too much. I can’t deal with his clingy-ness and constantly talking about his ex.
Same... he talks about his 4 exes all the time and is too clingy... the thi g is he is living here with me so I gotta figure out a way to kick him out... I just don't feel like I'm myself anymore. I'm not being me like I used to be...
Hey great video im gonna try it out thankyou so much you have saved my life
Thank you for the video. I am breaking up with my boyfriend today and I have been really struggling with how. I have my friends and family support but this is my first boyfriend and I am so nervous. I watched your other video about know if your dating the wrong guy and it helped me even more.
I broke it off today. I've come to realize slowly he wanted to be with him on his terms only. He slowly began texting me less, made himself less available and became distant. He pleaded to stay with me, but had the nerve to say things were better with us before he asked me to be his girlfriend . I explicitly asked him if he was ready for such and never suggested to be his girlfriend.I explained my concern of his lack emotional lack of commitment, yet he could never utter one word what he liked about me. He wants his cake and eat it too..
it's hard for me because i had feelings for him for a year now and when we started dating i lose all my feelings but i can't tell him that i don't have feelings for him anymore...i will wait 2-3 months more ik this will hurt my feelings and his but i will tell him that i am so busy with school and i can't think about boyfriend...it sucks because he is my first boyfriend and we are dating for 17 days but i miss my single life and i feel so young...but he love me so much...i don't know how can i do this but i need to do this...i am so sad in this relationship, but i can't end this now because he is giving me all his love...i feel so bad💔😭
i can feel you girl..we where dating for 1 week and i didn't feel anything for him...idk why i lose feelings for him but i did it and i told him i wanted to be still friends with him but he was mad at me and yeah after 3 months he is still mad at me and yeah he was my first boyfriend and i'm 13 years old and yeah i found another bf who i had feelings for him for just 5 days and we started dating 8 days after i broke up with my first bf and now i'm happy with him...now i know that how long you have feelings for him and how long you know him that is worse for relationship...i have chance to get to know my second aka my bf who i'm dating now and that's so fun and it's so funny when you two ask each other dumb things about each other...but know that if you pretend to be happy with him in front of him because the break up will hurt him and you too...i wish you luck girl...just reply to this coment with your instagram and i will text you and i will tell you everything about me and my ex bf and what i did and how i was feeling...i'm here for ya'll
Same situation 😩
He is saying he will die
😭😭
But I am not feeling anything for him what should I do he doesn't trust me not understand but love me alot 😭😭
But trust and understanding is also important
Its enough I am going to break with him Tomorrow
He's so nice, he talks about our future, he always says I'm the most important person of his life.. but I need to end it I deserve better and it's just I don't want to become selfish... 😞 I fell bad for him 🙁.
These steps also work for my situation that I am in right now which is having dated this guy for about a year now who is obviously not committing to me and that I know is not the right one for me. Thank you.
How do you break up with someone who said he will kill his self if I break up with him
this is how my bf is
He didn’t do anything wrong, he is so good to me and even though I’m young I know I wanna marry someone who is also religious because I wanna raise my children religious and I wanna baptize then and bring them to church. I want my partner to also believe in God because i personally feel like it will put my kids in an awkward situation if they have “choose” and it would be confusing if mom believes one thing and dad believes another... I think he needs to know this so he doesn’t waste his time, he deserves someone who sees a future with him ... :/
There is a person out there for everyone.
Broke ties off with someone who was “my friend with benefits” did mostly everything right what you are talking about, not all of it but most. I broke it off not because I stopped loving this person. I did it because I hated the way he put me down. On social media and in private. But today I saw he send a virtual rose to a mutual friend and It crushed me.
Thank you for this, very clear and helpful.
Will try tonight and see how it goes. 🤞🏽
I had to break up with someone even though it probably wasn't even real. He was a total flake! I finally got tired of going back and forth, breaking up and making up. He would always worm his way back in and I didn't press him about what wasn't working early on. This time I did press him because if he wasn't gonna change I wanted it OVER, no more in and out. So sadly that's what happened and it's OVER now. I still kind of hate that it ended, because I feel like it could have worked if it wasn't for third parties. Also things got a bit psycho with texts in the end, and I regret that, but I didn't want to deal with crap any more, so I made myself be firm. If I'd been nice about it and said we could still be friends, I'd find myself right back in the same boat. If it's meant to be one day, it will be, after BOTH of us get it together. But for now at least I don't feel like a yo yo any longer 💗
the guy I'm with moved the relationship too fast and has tried to talk me into sex multiple times. hes very inappropriate and brags about things like depression and anxiety. I'm not happy but idk how to break up with him or if I should. ideas?
Yes, this definitely isn't a healthy situation for you Reina. Have you watched my video "How To Break Up With Your Boyfriend" yet? This will walk you through how to do it in a clear, mature fashion ----> ua-cam.com/video/UDuqq1pRA3g/v-deo.html
You threw me in the trash place,i never remember that when i asked you repeatedly to have sex or something... it is a pretext i realized...
@@samirj1387 stfu
Hi, It's very helpful. Thank you for this.
Great advice. Thank you!
I watched this after my break up 4 days 😂 luckily i still did everything exactly u mentioned. Really helpful
and how are you feel after a year?
@@greentea2619 a little lonely cause I'm still single. But it's okay, better men will come. Thank you for asking
he’s very sweet and I will forever like him a little bit.... but I think I’m lesbian.... and it’s gonna be so much harder considering I have to do it over text. I hate to be the bad guy, but I’m just going through so much. I never wanted this to happen, but I have to do it. It’ll be hard to let go of him. I can’t tell him that I’m lesbian because somehow my family could find out.... oh god I’m so gonna die-
I will edit this so I can tell you how it went ♥︎
Edit: ok, so no one really cares but I needed to pour my feelings out, but it went ok. he said that he felt the same way, but I’m not sure he did....
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After one year in my relationship I realized that we argue more than we talk positively, I find more and more things about him that I don't like and it drives me crazy!
I don't want to hurt him, but the truth is better than lie!
He wants me to do things that make me uncomfortable but he’s a really nice guy, and I’m scared to break his heart..