I'm sorry you suffered for so long I'm not even married but we're on year 4 now and I feel like it's getting worse and worser than worst. I feel like the world is against me when he's not around maybe it's just a mental health thing...
Yess he bad mouth his ex and since we broke up he doing the same about me . He dont want to take accountability of his own fault always blaming others also a red flag
The older you get, the less likely you are to feel it's really the ex. That tactic won't continue to work as he tries to pick up someone new. He won't figure out why, but other people will. 😮
Everyone needs to be single for a season after a relationship ends or in general to truly know/ heal / get independent. Imo thar way you can be peaceful with or without a partner
Thankyou!! Exactly the words I needed to hear. Every word applied to my current life and now I know how to proceed forward. Much love and appreciation x
I've done, I'm going through this now 😪 super exhausting and draining. Yes I and he was testing me from the beginning 😳 I'm in the midst of trying to cut ties and time now.
Yeah I realised I allowed it. The woman I was left for is beautiful and gorgeous. Jesus so beautiful. The signs were there and I let him thinking he was my best friend. So no more. Time to move on. I’m good as I am. I have my own gifts and blessings to come. My looks don’t have anything to do with it ♥️🙏
So true its happen to me. Saw the danger 4yrs before but thought there would be a change luckly when I saw what was about to happen I retreated instantly
I ended the FWB after 2 yrs ....and it was a blessing. Suddenly he became "interested" in some married woman..while telling me he has no emotions and was emotionally unavailable and didnt love and bla bLa bla. Then tells me shes just a good friend ..at the same time saying "i dont know how i feel about her" All in the same day...what a fukin joke. A confused joke.
Red flags are certainly a big thing I'm looking for now. They were mostly confusing earlier in life, but at this point, I'm not interested in even feeling a bit confused, much less putting up with a clear red flag situation. 😮
You are right. I really appreciate you, for your knowledge and wisdom. I wasted time, for the last time in 2015. I learned some valuable, and painful lessons. I will not be a “collector of 🚩”.
But to me alone is miserable 😢 i spent 4 yrs single..and so much alone time , walking alone, eating alone, watching tv alone, shopping alone.....it really eats at the soul. Its lonely.
They should not be showing the red flags in the first place stop victim blaming he was manipulative and gaslighting from the get go don't blame the woman for that
Let me speak on forcing yourself to be with someone. 1991 i was 19 i met my ex husband at white Castle we were working there his second job my only at the time i already had ine daughter and he had one in Colorado he pursue me but i was not attracted at all i was like well even though he's 11 years older he's mature and nice other than i was going with before, so we got married in 1995 we had 4 daughters together and i divorced him in 2012 because he was mean sometimes to everyone never abused though but i was so miserable all them years i thought god was gonna punish me if i left so i stayed that was all my fault i forced myself
When you're single and you're not looking for anyone at this time. I don't even want to be involved. I'm trying to put you know. Do what I need to do for me. So why are you wasting your time? It doesn't make a difference with phone number. I have or whom I'm talking to I have a business line that where's my personal job? That's my Home Office, the area code so I'm entitled to do so. If I want to talk to you, I'll talk to you if I do not want to talk to you. I have the right not to talk to you. This is my life. This is my bill and whatever I do I do. As long as I'm not out hurting anyone. As long as I'm not out doing anything. That is not that is illegal. Then something's wrong with the picture. You could track me, but something's wrong with you too
Now...but when I start sleeping on the couch..they can be nice now but I feel that is fony love. Now even telling me to come back to bed. I am about to move out an leave him here. Holla back.
What if i met him online and we talked in vc,everytime we have talk in vc his alwys busy,then i said ok...then he messge me i response ok...I feel like his too bus to make time to talked to me in the phone
“Red flags become regrets, down the road, if you ignore them.”
The red flags you ignore in the beginning become the reasons you leave in the end. 😢
This is a t-shirt.
SO VERY TRUE
Sometimes we ignore the red flags and still entertain and feel the same way! Learning experiences along the way.
Yup! So many red flags! No one else to blame but myself!
That was me… for 20 years of marriage. But I Finally opened my eyes!
Cries it still hurts knowing he took the best yrs of my life
Same here, just left him.
@@venuzcraig7108Cried 3 times today
I'm sorry you suffered for so long I'm not even married but we're on year 4 now and I feel like it's getting worse and worser than worst. I feel like the world is against me when he's not around maybe it's just a mental health thing...
Same!!! However, we didn’t waste our time!! Cry it out, then get better!! ❤
I, too, ignored truths for temporary happiness. 🙈😏
Yess he bad mouth his ex and since we broke up he doing the same about me . He dont want to take accountability of his own fault always blaming others also a red flag
Everything came back to me.... NEVER WOULD YOU HERE HIM ADMIT FAULT!!!!
The older you get, the less likely you are to feel it's really the ex. That tactic won't continue to work as he tries to pick up someone new. He won't figure out why, but other people will. 😮
Wished you guys were sharing these gems about 20 yes ago .Thank you Bro !🙏💯
Everyone needs to be single for a season after a relationship ends or in general to truly know/ heal / get independent. Imo thar way you can be peaceful with or without a partner
I love your energy, messages, and style. Thank you for being you!❤
Learning about my Echoism - giving up my boundaries because loving more would make them value me
You are right and I accept responsibility for allowing it!
I made those mistakes and glad I am learning from it
You dropped so many Gems 💎 in this video! Hope women take heed
If he never makes time for you,let him go
Yes! "Main and only woman energy." He can throw his scraps to someone else.🙌🏾
I'm getting a divorce I like my peace I wasted 23 years
Me, too. Ugh
Damn girl
25 for me!
Congrats Girl 🎉 you’ll be happier and blessings will flow
❤❤❤
Guilty! Ignored the dang red flags
Im single to and im free of all the pain yeah !!!
I saw one red flag right away. I saw other things which I suspected may be red flags. But the final one, I walked away, I'm gone permanently
Exactly when u take responsibility for you staying when u shouldnt have. That when u grow. Amen ❤
Thankyou!! Exactly the words I needed to hear. Every word applied to my current life and now I know how to proceed forward.
Much love and appreciation x
I hear you
So true! Women need to hear these things from a man’s perspective! 👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 Thank you Derrick!! 🫶🏽
He speaks from a bitter single mother perspective
Why are you telling me that? Clearly I appreciate him and his perspective so you won’t get anything from me.
@@Undisputed00 And what he went through and learned by is being generously shared.
Much appreciated.thank you so much because lot of us didn't have fathers or big brothers.
I've done, I'm going through this now 😪 super exhausting and draining. Yes I and he was testing me from the beginning 😳 I'm in the midst of trying to cut ties and time now.
Yeah I realised I allowed it. The woman I was left for is beautiful and gorgeous. Jesus so beautiful. The signs were there and I let him thinking he was my best friend. So no more. Time to move on. I’m good as I am. I have my own gifts and blessings to come. My looks don’t have anything to do with it ♥️🙏
👋🏽 guilty… I’m SO happy to be single & enjoying every moment.😊
I called him out and he changed it up
So true its happen to me. Saw the danger 4yrs before but thought there would be a change luckly when I saw what was about to happen I retreated instantly
I agree and when I realised that it was the worst feeling why I did it to myself. Times wasted can't be refunded
I watched your webinar 6weeks ago and i was single from that day im grateful
This is something I do all the time! Not sure why I fall into this time and time again, and how I am missing all the flags to beggin with
Amen, I understand threes a crowd.
Definitely three is a crowd.
After our first kiss,he said next time no lipstick!
Wow I needed to hear you
I ended the FWB after 2 yrs ....and it was a blessing. Suddenly he became "interested" in some married woman..while telling me he has no emotions and was emotionally unavailable and didnt love and bla bLa bla.
Then tells me shes just a good friend ..at the same time saying "i dont know how i feel about her"
All in the same day...what a fukin joke. A confused joke.
Red flags are certainly a big thing I'm looking for now. They were mostly confusing earlier in life, but at this point, I'm not interested in even feeling a bit confused, much less putting up with a clear red flag situation. 😮
I'm going through this at this moment
To avoid all of this AGAIN, I’ll be single for a season! It’s peaceful to say the least.
You are right. I really appreciate you, for your knowledge and wisdom. I wasted time, for the last time in 2015. I learned some valuable, and painful lessons. I will not be a “collector of 🚩”.
So so true especially the last tip
Indeed!
Thank you
Thank you!!!
Stop it.
But to me alone is miserable 😢 i spent 4 yrs single..and so much alone time , walking alone, eating alone, watching tv alone, shopping alone.....it really eats at the soul. Its lonely.
Ignorance is not bliss.
Yep have been exactly in the same situation until just recently and then was done but he still trying
Thank you. I send 20 years
You are sooo right
All those red flags he mentioned also apply to women
🔥🔥🔥 Thankyou D. Looking forward to the session. 😘😘😘
I'm guilty 😢of this
LET'S GO.!!!!!!!!!!!!
They should not be showing the red flags in the first place stop victim blaming he was manipulative and gaslighting from the get go don't blame the woman for that
Yes, I did that definitely 😢
“I like to viciously clap dem booty cheeks”
- Derrick J
Ignoring the red flags isn't worth it. Being single and happy pays more
Yup!! So true!!
I missed ALL the red flags and it's ALL my fault!! I wasted 25years! 😢
Raises both hands .. me my fault ❤ but now I’m getting wiser.
Yes, that was me 😢
I am not partaking in the 🌰 milk and have never been happier! 🎉
Your videos are so deep and soooooo real , wow!
Thank you for your informative words God Bless
You’re still doing this? Wow. I’m impressed
thanks for your support
He's telling the truth
I'm single ,and I stay with someone but it's ok if he has someone,and I don't really care,but if he wants to go he can ,cause someone will be mine
Is it “HE”, “ME “ or “WE”???????????????????
What’s wrong here? Does anyone read the word of God and ask for his wisdom and discernment?
Speaking truth
Derrik, how did you get your experiences to where you know so much?
Thank you😊
More red flags than a communist parade
Yes
YES
Didn't miss- blew past! That's worse
Yall new generation philosophers with these red flags, why yall can't stop the world problems.
Keep teaching
Let me speak on forcing yourself to be with someone. 1991 i was 19 i met my ex husband at white Castle we were working there his second job my only at the time i already had ine daughter and he had one in Colorado he pursue me but i was not attracted at all i was like well even though he's 11 years older he's mature and nice other than i was going with before, so we got married in 1995 we had 4 daughters together and i divorced him in 2012 because he was mean sometimes to everyone never abused though but i was so miserable all them years i thought god was gonna punish me if i left so i stayed that was all my fault i forced myself
When you're single and you're not looking for anyone at this time. I don't even want to be involved. I'm trying to put you know. Do what I need to do for me. So why are you wasting your time? It doesn't make a difference with phone number. I have or whom I'm talking to I have a business line that where's my personal job? That's my Home Office, the area code so I'm entitled to do so. If I want to talk to you, I'll talk to you if I do not want to talk to you. I have the right not to talk to you. This is my life. This is my bill and whatever I do I do. As long as I'm not out hurting anyone. As long as I'm not out doing anything. That is not that is illegal. Then something's wrong with the picture. You could track me, but something's wrong with you too
That would be me.
We aint forget Derek......
Happy holidays
I made this big mistake I blame my self for it
I did this to myself shouldn’t left long time ago
Dang !!
Now...but when I start sleeping on the couch..they can be nice now but I feel that is fony love. Now even telling me to come back to bed. I am about to move out an leave him here. Holla back.
I... .😢
What if you been friends for 9 years then your moving to dating and he bad mouthing his ex?
That’s been me ! 🤚🏽
Bro talkin about himself
You’re so wise and so good looking, damn I get distracted :)
Have a glass of water
@@Jezebel568😅
@@danaparfitt2491 sup shawty
That's me. 😬
I .... Omg I right now 💡
been there done that
Internship, waah. Interesting. I like this video.
I I I yes thank God for you D!!
What if his kids or work on call? What his job makes you number 2 . Like he is deployed.
Hellloooooo somebody!!!!!
I knew better
But
No
I did it anyways
So you right
My fault
Me too
What if i met him online and we talked in vc,everytime we have talk in vc his alwys busy,then i said ok...then he messge me i response ok...I feel like his too bus to make time to talked to me in the phone