I’m not as conservative as a lot of you guys may be, but I don’t see how anything on here is controversial. I feel like it’s common sence . Much love ❤️
Well modern feminism will run men down, portray them as bumbling idiots, needing direction, leadership or guidance of women to be useful. So this video's content counters the narrative mass media and pop culture have been projecting for the last 60+ years.
@@dustinsindledecker154 cooking him nice dinners, cleaning up after yourself, being interesting in what he says , and not letting urself go ; u think that’s a slave ?
@@dustinsindledecker154 I mean as long as he doesn’t make you feel like you have to forcefully I think it’s fine to do those things out of your own will
@@dustinsindledecker154 But when you're a housewife you have all the energy to make dinner for the family. And what about the husband? If both spouses are hard working people, is it fair to just make the husband the catering to the woman's needs? Because apparently the woman offering to make dinner and look after her man is slavery?
This is a beautiful reminder even for me who’s been married for over 10 years. Thank you. I like to buy small gifts for the husband, like his favorite snack, when I go to the grocery store. He does the same for me and it lets me know he’s thinking of me. ❤️
@@user-qg5jw1kb3r our friends will say I spoil him and I know laugh and find me strange but my husband loves and respects me and his kindness to me and others just inspires me every day. Xx
Only a couple of years ago I had a huge problem with your channel. It was being advertised to me and I was so far from being a conservative or traditional woman that I admit that I even blocked you! How times have changed! When I have the time I would love to email you my story and how I really love your channel and message to women and families!
I was similar, although not a liberal or conservative. I was warned against her, which made me curious eventually and I think she is a lovely and genuine person
@@dustinsindledecker154 Do you even know what a grifter is? How the hell is she a grifter when she's been a Conservative traditional Jewish woman for a long time? And how is it indoctrination to CHOOSE to watch her content because you have matured and decided to convert to a more classic traditional life?
I'm a pretty young guy, and I'm not traditional by any means, but what you discussed in this video is pretty reasonable to be honest. I think these are just polite things that both parties in the relationship that go both ways, no matter your sexuality. These are just great rules to follow and will definitely lean the relationship towards a happier direction.
Ugh, the way that people SO OFTEN conflate traditional family values with ABUSE or BRAINWASHING which is disgusting. Also: I live for Abby just saying, "That is trash." and "That is stupid about the straw man arguments thrown at her. Sassy Abby is 100%
Ironically Your first statement is a strawman arguement 🤦♀️ Nobody is saying traditional family values are abusive. People are only calling abusive values abuse. No sane person on the planet has a problem with traditional roles people have a problem with forced traditional roles.
As a man, I can confidently say these are all great ideas. I think the two most important to me would be the listening, but the other is one you didn't mention: staying faithful to your husband. No cheating! I know it goes without saying, but these days, does it really? All the voices of secular culture around you are urging wives to cheat. Resist!
My husband follows a Keto diet which works really well for him while I don't follow a Keto diet. Keeping this in mind, one way I respect him is by purchasing foods and cooking meals for him that adheres to his diet. Sometimes it means cooking two separate meals but I enjoy doing that for him.
Last year when I found your videos I really didn’t like or agree with them tbh. I remember even being upset by some of the things you were talking about such as modesty and being traditional. Lately I’ve been in a journey to become more of a Traditional woman myself and I’m forming a relationship with god so I’m trying to be more modest and now I love your channel 😌 thank you for sharing your lifestyle and opinions even if the majority of today’s society doesn’t agree with you. I’m really enjoying your content 💕 I hope you and your family are well, peace and love to you Abby.
Of course respect your husbands but there's time when you need have to have constructive criticism or tell him to fix problems in the relationships. It's unrealistic to have 100% praise all the time, we have to know when to praise and respect but also criticize and talk about issues to improve the marriage and not let problems linger.
@@ilincabogza men weren't perfect but they still took care of their wives and whenever there was a crisis they'll give up themselves for their family, there are things that can be learnt from traditional men they weren't monsters back in the days they were just flawed like we are too
@@elvisanthony6817 i believe your perspective is very optimistic. No doubt such men existed- but abuse was in much higher rates and this can only be explained one way
@@ilincabogza but fatherless home rates are higher now, and children without a father has all odds stacked against them we've leaned too much to a point that it's detrimental, we need balance that's my point we take the good features of both traditional and modern men to make things better
@@elvisanthony6817 i believe no role model is better then a bad role model. Sure, some things that they did were good-but nothing is stopping anyone from adhering to such values. We have just discovered that life is a little bit more flexible, that mental health contributes and that we can find ways for balance. It's just a matter of choosing.
I don’t see how anyone could argue with these even if they don’t agree with traditional values. This is literally just doing your part to make a relationship work. Honestly I was expecting something way worse - gross attitudes about submission, mostly - so I was quite pleasantly surprised.
I’m with you on not poking fun at your husband in front of him or behind his back. I know the relationship between the sexes isn’t the best but the spouse bashing needs to stop. If you’re gonna sit there complaining about your husband or wife, why did you get married!?
What people on both extremes of the political spectrum fail to realize is that, as the silent majority, we do not want to watch a video on how to honor your husband or even your wife. We want to watch one on how to honor BOTH and what extremists on the right AND left fail to realize is that by pandering to a certain demographic, (in this case men) you lose the vast amount of support that you could be getting from people like me who want to see balance. ps. please stop telling me what I need and whom I am.
This sounds more like a You problem than a We problem. You blame Abby for catering to a certain demographic, but then you claim to speak for BOTH sides? Sorry, but who are you to think you speak for anybody? Also, it's her channel. She can talk about whatever she wants. Also, you contradicted yourself with that last statement. If you feel like she's telling you what to do, then you probably feel guilty or ashamed of something in your own life, which pretty much is the only reason you posted your comment anyway.
@@dustinsindledecker154 "You right wingers want freedom for your side, but not for others". I could say the exact same thing about people like you. The difference is, people like Abby don't care what people like you think. So, why bother? Why waste your time? You can be as salty as you want, but your criticism won't change anything.
@@jacksonrocket3218 Attack? What attack? Who said anything about being attacked? I'm saying why should a UA-camr be subjected to the demands of what other people want? If you want a neutral point of view, then go look for it, or create it yourself.
@@gregallnatt2486 You do sound very indignant and aggressive that’s why I said no one is attacking you. The internet is for sharing your opinion and she was just stating that. You obviously are a very closed minded individual, and it is true that the middle has no representation.
i have a genuine question for you abby no hate i’m trying to understand your beliefs better… but why is not shaving your legs considered “letting yourself go”? it’s natural and i feel like you are kind of implying that girls who don’t shave their legs aren’t as beautiful. and also, you say that a woman should want to stay beautiful for her husband, but don’t you think it’s more important for a woman to want to stay beautiful for herself? self empowerment and self love?
"it’s natural" So is body odor. I still wear deodorant. "and i feel like you are kind of implying that girls who don’t shave their legs aren’t as beautiful." Yes, that's exactly what she's saying. Get over it, that's the entire point of cosmetics, to make yourself more beautiful. "you say that a woman should want to stay beautiful for her husband, but don’t you think it’s more important for a woman to want to stay beautiful for herself? self empowerment and self love?" No, all women ever do these days is love themselves, and then you complain "Where have all the good men gone?😭" How do you expect to find a good partner when you are 100% and unapologetically selfish?
It's also natural for men to have lots of hair in the genital parts so next time you go down on a guy and he has a jungle on his pants don't complain, just gobble it up.
Agree completely! And since I have a son now, I will always tell him yes respect and treat your lady wonderfully. But expect her to do the exact same back to him. I stay at home and respect my husband so much.
Do you find that in relationships where both the man and woman are working the woman still ends up doing more of the cleaning? Men generally don’t clean very thoroughly so it seems like women would end up doing (or re-doing) his chores too lol
I agree with all of this, so many women see respect as “oppression”. I stay home/homeschool, I take the complete lead for the housework. He works full time outside the house, his time home and gone deserves respect. I feel cherished when he’s home because he’s stress free from a clean/loving home.
@@monikagolab8892 mainstream feminist opinion, yes. Most feminists don't know how to respect/know how to react when treated with respect. Try opening a door for em
@@monikagolab8892 all I see on the internet is women saying “men aren’t sh!t” “make your man do this”. So many women are saying that treating a partner as an equal is them doing more than they should. Modern feminism is the destruction of the happy home, beating men down and putting the woman on top. It IS mainstream, too many first world/privileged women scream oppression.
@@dustinsindledecker154 I believe in equality too. I think husbands should spoil their wives with love and attention, and likewise wives to their husbands.
@@dustinsindledecker154 Funny when it comes to mowing the lawn, fixing the sink, changing tires, or assembling furniture equality no longer matters to you.
My husband really appreciates it when I give him praise for things he does for us. For example, he found and fix a leak in our vehicle that was buried in the engine and would have costs hundreds of dollars if taken to the dealer. I'm not always good with it but I try to show him that respect.
@@lena5465 Really? It's just normal? Maybe its normal for men, but women here keep squawking about how everything they do is for themselves and men have to accept them being 100% selfish.
Ok, but why would I shave my legs? God's creation is perfect. He in all His infinite knowledge gave me those little hairs on my legs. I would be dishonoring Him if I shaved them, the way transgenders dishonor God's creation.
If you actually have respect it'll reveal itself in its own little ways and it won't need to be a conscious effort to show that you respect the other person!!! ps : the best point was the dinner , I agree with that one as a man 100%
Yes! My family always held the value of God first, spouse second, children third. My husband and I share chores evenly- marriage is not 50/50. Sometimes it’s 100/0, 70/30, 60/40. We all need grace and support when life gets difficult!
I love this list Abby! It's wonderful and a very good viewpoint on marriage as a whole. I have had it rough these past few months, Endometriosis, Polycistic Ovarian Syndrome and surgery so my fiancé has been an incredible support for me through all of this. He's been taking care of the house and the homestead while I was recovering from my operation. But now that I'm fully healed and my conditions are managed I can get back into the swing of things. I love that you said respect goes both ways, too often I see couples married or not are just horrible to each other and it's so sad to see. A little respect, love and kindness goes a long way. One way I show him love and respect is by teaching him how to bake lol it's silly I know but I'm a great baker and a novice cook. Whereas he's a great cook and a novice baker. But we learn so much from each other's skills and we encourage each other even when we mess up, its so fun too and we share our treats with our neighbors. Great video, also you look lovely! ❤️
Wish men would keep up their looks. Or try at all. Beards can be trimmed. Shaves/trims should be often, tidy. Wash before sex, especially if expecting something "extra".
Also would like to add on top of your point on respect! Love keeps no score, so even if you have the chores split (if you're both working) but you take on some extra chores that were his, don't become bitter and hold that against him! Do it with thankfulness and joy, bringing honor to God and your husband as you complete them!
You can say what you want, but completely disregarding the literal oppression women are experiencing once again in this country is so on brand for you isn’t it?
You would want to respect your parents, friends, children, coworkers… why not also respect your husband? Nothing wrong with wanting to respect your spouse! That should make sense to everyone.
a lot of modern men haven't really proven themselves to be worth submitting to, though. respect, yes, as a human being, but i won't really submit to a man in debt, who's mean, who expects me to work, pay half the bills, and do all the housework, have sex like a pornstar, etc. etc. women need to respect, but men need to be worthy of that respect, and we both have fallen short.
I'm a single virgin young woman who has never dated and never had any interest and time for it. I'm not even a traditional conservative. But this is something we can all genuinely agree on. Respect is so important and the key value to a healthy relationship. You need to have respect for one another.
I always thought it was so odd when women would berate their husband's and say they married an idiot or something. Well it seems to me like she's the bigger idiot for marrying some body they didn't find worthy of respect.
I come from a family where all my uncles clean and do a lot in a house hold. They all cook, clean, wash the dishes and iron clothes and so does the women. In my culture that hardly ever the case because in my culture men are very misogynist and old fashion. I agree with all you said but as long its both ways. Men talk behind the women's back partners should have each others back period.
I definitely need to be better about doing at least 50% of the house work. It’s hard when he is going to school full time but I am doing that and working full time and I use that as too much of an excuse. I honor my husband by being active in our faith as a couple and encourage us to always strive to be better for each other and the world.
I love the sass! And excellent advice. I agree, especially with the “not teasing your husband.” I’ve always found it uncomfortable when people women put their husbands down.
If your wife talks badly about you/ makes fun of you in front of her friends then you were probably not the first choice. No one will make fun of someone that they respect. Unfortunately most marriages are between women who are slightly past their prime and "good guys" i.e. the reliable but unexciting men that they do not fully respect or desire.
@@hellobruh4209 Nah, I've seen women who are in love When a woman is in love with you she will uplift you every opportunity she gets. She will fight people who talk badly about you. She will even lie about you to make you look good. The issue is that love does not exist in most marriages since women marry second or third choice men like I said. Anyone who puts you down lack respect for you, you can be light hearted without putting another person down.
I'm a married man. I have no clue why this video got suggested to me lol. Most of what you said is regular stuff. I agree everyone should be respecting each other. I have not had the experience of my wife or wives in general "bad mouthing" though this could very well be a regional thing. I'm from the northeast and we tend not to gossip even with friends and relatives. We have a culture of keeping our business private or maybe we're too busy talking about snow lol. I do worry that you're stuck on men and women are different and haven't moved on to just: Every person on the planet is different. Perhaps you have an it just isn't relative to this video. It's just that people who think too black and white are easily taken advantage of and you seem like a nice young woman and it would be a tragedy if someone tricked you into something harmful.
I show respect to my husband by showing gratitude for all the hard work he does and the beautiful life we’re able to have, and also by trying to perform acts of service for him in anyway i can- whether that be cooking, cleaning, laundry, or helping with a project around the house 💛
I love it this list! A lot of women take some of these things for granted and just get worst in their marriage… and that’s such a not respectful and not intelligent thing to do. Things like these are so important for us women to talk about it and to support one another! Thank Abby!❤️❤️❤️
I am so grateful that women like Abby are bringing awareness to traditional values that have been lost in our current society, especially when it comes to how we treat men! Thank you for all that you do! Keep up the amazing work. ❤️❤️❤️
Hey Abby i've had to pull a shapiro special and log into my alt account so the knuckleheads I trick into following me because of my extreme views don't catch wind that i'm just playing both sides for money. Anyway just logged in to say thank god you made this video one thing I like to do to respect my hubby is not mention when he sits by the TV and spends hours of his day watching the COPS eating gravel cause when I mention it to him he screams " IT'S MY LIFE IT'S MY LIFE I LET YOU LIVE WITH ME I LET YOU WATCH I LET YOU WAAAAAAAAAAAATCH" and honestly that's not very respectful to either of us not to mention the fact that he eats so much gravel he gets blocked up and his insides turn into a rock tumbler smoothing out the meals I feed him every night into round more digestible pieces which he says passes easily through his body but I know it isn't true because he spends half of his time at work on the toilet cause he's so dang gum blocked up. Any way great vid
Hat's off to the Shapiro family. I will add though, I really don't think God gives a sh*t if your house is messy. I would think he has more important things to worry about than a sink full of dishes.
Yea and no. Yes there are many more important things, but God does care about cleanliness. The Bible is full of guidance on cleanliness. It even says that God can smell.
I tend to agree, but there's a reason people say "cleanliness is next to Godliness." Taking care of that with which you have been blessed is a big part of showing your gratitude and appreciation. To that end, I think that cleaning/striving for cleanliness can be an act of worship. But, that's just the way that I look at it. 🤷♂️
Oh, I think you see those wives making fun of their husbands because you surrounded yourself with conservative people, those are for same reason really toxic about their relationships, you don't see it that much in more liberal couples. But then again "wife bad" is the bottom of most conservative men humour, so I guess it's just fair, they fit themselves just perfectly.
Ur a sweet girl and I do believe in respecting others but I would be lying to myself if there wasn’t something insidious going on with conservative influencers….🧐
@@dustinsindledecker154 "women need to respect their men as men need to respect their women, men need to cherish their women as women need to cherish their men, but men and women are different and they need different kind of attentions, they compIement each other YoU mEaN WoMeN hAvE To bE SIaVeS aNd mAiDs 😵
Tell that to some of the teenage girls and early 20's women who preach they want a nice, committed, caring, loyal boyfriend who won't use her for sex only but go for the narcissists, bad men, emotional unavailable or cheating men. They get in they're feelings, claim men are horrible, sex users and all men cheat. Those younger women didn't appreciate the nice, committed, caring or loyal traits until they were in they're older 20's and 30's when they realized they're window of getting married or having a baby is getting narrower every year.
@@dustinsindledecker154 Oh right, doing laundry is such a horrible oppression. If only they could be privileged like men and working 60 hours weeks instead.
I hate abbey, and disagree with her 99% of the time but she almost had me with this video. I agreed with mooostly everything up until the part where she says you gotta look good for your husband. Fuck that, if he don't love me when when I look like shit then he gotta go
Jesus Herbert Walker Christ, you don't love him if you refuse to do him any kindness. It's like saying "I'm not going to carry the groceries for my wife, because if she don't love me when she has to carry the groceries than she gotta go."
Ignoring your looks is a good recipe to make him search outside the house for other women who take care of themselves and look feminine. Men are more visual than women on average so looking good for women is a must.
THANK YOU for this video!! It truly is so popular/common and SO annoying and just gross to be present in a conversation where women are bashing (even jokingly) their husbands. I just don’t get it. It’s not cool. It’s not funny or fun. I truly try to do the opposite whenever I’m in that situation with people. I try to point out the wonderful things that my husband does. And sometimes, to lighten the mood, I will laugh about and point out how I* am actually the one that’s doing these bad habits or negative things that other people are saying their husbands do. And I feel like it’s kind of a verbal slap in the face or reminder to them to stop talking bad about their husbands or other people in general.
I hate to agree. So many marriages these days fall apart because there's no respect. This tips are great but things can get hard once multiple babies/children come in to the picture. The house may not always be clean, some nights there might be fish sticks for dinner, the laundry baskets may be over flowing at some point. I am pregnant with three young ones under 4 and have chronic illnesses.. and while my house can't always be clean or the most delicious dinners every week, and definately look like crap, I believe there are other ways we can respect our husbands. I always tell my husband how much I appreciate him and talk to him kindly and softly (which can be hard sometimes especially after kids.) I also expect my husband to offer me security, to lead our household, provide for our family but recognise that if things so south that we need to have leniency and patience and understanding of each other. Without understanding marriages can fall apart very quickly because there are times in our lives when we can't always perform the waybwe usually would.. which is whybits important to also respect each other in other ways.
I like that you said "then maybe you're not ready to get married" rather than "then maybe this isn't the video for you", because honestly, those are the women who MOST need to finish the video and get a little bit "triggered" by being forced to question their beliefs. Anyway, good video, it's a bit tragic that something so straightforward isn't considered common sense, but here we are.
I just accidentally stumbled upon your channel. But I must say, as a young man (and who isn't even married), I found this extremely interesting, as well as encouraging to hear. And by the way, I would like to ask you out of sheer curiosity and with all due respect : Do you happen to be Jewish? (And I am not, just to clarify). But I do sing Opera. Lovely work on your part.
Been a subscriber for a while and enjoy your content. I do believe that women are oppressed in today's society, and I believe we are in certain circumstances, victims of men (i.e. domestic abuse situations). I have also been happily married for 7 years. These aren't mutually exclusive. Not believing the same things you believe doesn't mean I'm not ready for marriage, or that I cannot have a successful marriage. We are all different.
I’m not as conservative as a lot of you guys may be, but I don’t see how anything on here is controversial. I feel like it’s common sence . Much love ❤️
Well modern feminism will run men down, portray them as bumbling idiots, needing direction, leadership or guidance of women to be useful. So this video's content counters the narrative mass media and pop culture have been projecting for the last 60+ years.
@@dustinsindledecker154 cooking him nice dinners, cleaning up after yourself, being interesting in what he says , and not letting urself go ; u think that’s a slave ?
@@dustinsindledecker154 I mean as long as he doesn’t make you feel like you have to forcefully I think it’s fine to do those things out of your own will
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Exactly! It's not slavery if you offer that to him and is something you both agree on.
@@dustinsindledecker154 But when you're a housewife you have all the energy to make dinner for the family.
And what about the husband? If both spouses are hard working people, is it fair to just make the husband the catering to the woman's needs? Because apparently the woman offering to make dinner and look after her man is slavery?
I agree, respect is the number one thing men look for in a relationship in general. Also respect should go both ways.
No only men should be respected
@@stevenwolfe8419 tf it’s not 1700
@@Risalingisa so what if it's not 1700
@@stevenwolfe8419 lol wut
This is a beautiful reminder even for me who’s been married for over 10 years. Thank you. I like to buy small gifts for the husband, like his favorite snack, when I go to the grocery store. He does the same for me and it lets me know he’s thinking of me. ❤️
That is so sweet!!
Me too.... I love treating my hubby. Some laugh at me but I don't care as we are happy. God is good x
@@sambailie4773 really? Who laughed at you😒?
@@user-qg5jw1kb3r our friends will say I spoil him and I know laugh and find me strange but my husband loves and respects me and his kindness to me and others just inspires me every day. Xx
Doing small things for others does feel better than I thought
Only a couple of years ago I had a huge problem with your channel. It was being advertised to me and I was so far from being a conservative or traditional woman that I admit that I even blocked you! How times have changed!
When I have the time I would love to email you my story and how I really love your channel and message to women and families!
I'd love to hear!!
I was similar, although not a liberal or conservative. I was warned against her, which made me curious eventually and I think she is a lovely and genuine person
@@dustinsindledecker154 based af
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Do you even know what a grifter is? How the hell is she a grifter when she's been a Conservative traditional Jewish woman for a long time?
And how is it indoctrination to CHOOSE to watch her content because you have matured and decided to convert to a more classic traditional life?
I'm a pretty young guy, and I'm not traditional by any means, but what you discussed in this video is pretty reasonable to be honest. I think these are just polite things that both parties in the relationship that go both ways, no matter your sexuality. These are just great rules to follow and will definitely lean the relationship towards a happier direction.
Ugh, the way that people SO OFTEN conflate traditional family values with ABUSE or BRAINWASHING which is disgusting.
Also: I live for Abby just saying, "That is trash." and "That is stupid about the straw man arguments thrown at her.
Sassy Abby is 100%
I agree!
Because traditionally women didn’t get respect inside or outside the home.
Ironically Your first statement is a strawman arguement 🤦♀️
Nobody is saying traditional family values are abusive. People are only calling abusive values abuse.
No sane person on the planet has a problem with traditional roles people have a problem with forced traditional roles.
We should respect all human beings
Thank you for posting this!!! Point #4 is so true!!!
As a man, I can confidently say these are all great ideas. I think the two most important to me would be the listening, but the other is one you didn't mention: staying faithful to your husband. No cheating! I know it goes without saying, but these days, does it really? All the voices of secular culture around you are urging wives to cheat. Resist!
My husband follows a Keto diet which works really well for him while I don't follow a Keto diet. Keeping this in mind, one way I respect him is by purchasing foods and cooking meals for him that adheres to his diet. Sometimes it means cooking two separate meals but I enjoy doing that for him.
Last year when I found your videos I really didn’t like or agree with them tbh. I remember even being upset by some of the things you were talking about such as modesty and being traditional. Lately I’ve been in a journey to become more of a Traditional woman myself and I’m forming a relationship with god so I’m trying to be more modest and now I love your channel 😌 thank you for sharing your lifestyle and opinions even if the majority of today’s society doesn’t agree with you. I’m really enjoying your content 💕 I hope you and your family are well, peace and love to you Abby.
"When I talk abt honoring and respecting my husband I get on my high horse..." she's so close to being self aware.
Love you girl! You keep getting hate from people that hate themselves and can never be happy
lol you have that backwards
Of course respect your husbands but there's time when you need have to have constructive criticism or tell him to fix problems in the relationships.
It's unrealistic to have 100% praise all the time, we have to know when to praise and respect but also criticize and talk about issues to improve the marriage and not let problems linger.
This is beautiful.
Nice list
Based. Men need to respect themselves as men, and start acting masculine again. Respect from women will come once this happens again
Yes, because back when men were manly they definetely respected women so much, right? Right?
@@ilincabogza men weren't perfect but they still took care of their wives and whenever there was a crisis they'll give up themselves for their family, there are things that can be learnt from traditional men they weren't monsters back in the days they were just flawed like we are too
@@elvisanthony6817 i believe your perspective is very optimistic. No doubt such men existed- but abuse was in much higher rates and this can only be explained one way
@@ilincabogza but fatherless home rates are higher now, and children without a father has all odds stacked against them we've leaned too much to a point that it's detrimental, we need balance that's my point we take the good features of both traditional and modern men to make things better
@@elvisanthony6817 i believe no role model is better then a bad role model. Sure, some things that they did were good-but nothing is stopping anyone from adhering to such values. We have just discovered that life is a little bit more flexible, that mental health contributes and that we can find ways for balance. It's just a matter of choosing.
Respect and politeness go a long way in all relationships. Unfortunately, these are qualities greatly lacking in our society.
Agreed!
These are great reminders. I struggle the most with putting effort into my appearance. I'm a classic INTP. Abby, what is your Myers-Briggs type?
No respect necessary
30000% agree!
Thank you for taking up, this issue about liberal thing, maybe next generation will understand it in whole.
I don’t see how anyone could argue with these even if they don’t agree with traditional values. This is literally just doing your part to make a relationship work. Honestly I was expecting something way worse - gross attitudes about submission, mostly - so I was quite pleasantly surprised.
More women need to have this outlook! Your husband is a lucky guy.
I’m with you on not poking fun at your husband in front of him or behind his back. I know the relationship between the sexes isn’t the best but the spouse bashing needs to stop. If you’re gonna sit there complaining about your husband or wife, why did you get married!?
What people on both extremes of the political spectrum fail to realize is that, as the silent majority, we do not want to watch a video on how to honor your husband or even your wife. We want to watch one on how to honor BOTH and what extremists on the right AND left fail to realize is that by pandering to a certain demographic, (in this case men) you lose the vast amount of support that you could be getting from people like me who want to see balance.
ps. please stop telling me what I need and whom I am.
This sounds more like a You problem than a We problem. You blame Abby for catering to a certain demographic, but then you claim to speak for BOTH sides? Sorry, but who are you to think you speak for anybody? Also, it's her channel. She can talk about whatever she wants. Also, you contradicted yourself with that last statement. If you feel like she's telling you what to do, then you probably feel guilty or ashamed of something in your own life, which pretty much is the only reason you posted your comment anyway.
@@dustinsindledecker154 "You right wingers want freedom for your side, but not for others". I could say the exact same thing about people like you. The difference is, people like Abby don't care what people like you think. So, why bother? Why waste your time? You can be as salty as you want, but your criticism won't change anything.
Calm down, all she was saying was that we want representation on and respect on both sides which is just the truth. No one is attacking you.
@@jacksonrocket3218 Attack? What attack? Who said anything about being attacked? I'm saying why should a UA-camr be subjected to the demands of what other people want? If you want a neutral point of view, then go look for it, or create it yourself.
@@gregallnatt2486 You do sound very indignant and aggressive that’s why I said no one is attacking you. The internet is for sharing your opinion and she was just stating that. You obviously are a very closed minded individual, and it is true that the middle has no representation.
I like dresses and skirts... My husband likes me in jeans and a flannel shirt/t-shirt....
Guess what I wear 🤷👖👕❤️
i have a genuine question for you abby no hate i’m trying to understand your beliefs better… but why is not shaving your legs considered “letting yourself go”? it’s natural and i feel like you are kind of implying that girls who don’t shave their legs aren’t as beautiful. and also, you say that a woman should want to stay beautiful for her husband, but don’t you think it’s more important for a woman to want to stay beautiful for herself? self empowerment and self love?
"it’s natural"
So is body odor. I still wear deodorant.
"and i feel like you are kind of implying that girls who don’t shave their legs aren’t as beautiful."
Yes, that's exactly what she's saying. Get over it, that's the entire point of cosmetics, to make yourself more beautiful.
"you say that a woman should want to stay beautiful for her husband, but don’t you think it’s more important for a woman to want to stay beautiful for herself? self empowerment and self love?"
No, all women ever do these days is love themselves, and then you complain "Where have all the good men gone?😭" How do you expect to find a good partner when you are 100% and unapologetically selfish?
It's also natural for men to have lots of hair in the genital parts so next time you go down on a guy and he has a jungle on his pants don't complain, just gobble it up.
ABBY REMOVES COMMENTS THAT COMPLETELY DESTROY HER ARGUMENTS. CRY ABOUT IT MORE
Agree completely! And since I have a son now, I will always tell him yes respect and treat your lady wonderfully. But expect her to do the exact same back to him. I stay at home and respect my husband so much.
Respect is earned- (this is just my opinion)
How are you going to marry someone who you don't respect? Seriously.
It's dumb to marry someone you don't respect
this is just basic common sense for any one in a relationship. no need for your sanctimonious pick me crap.
you tell her!
Do you find that in relationships where both the man and woman are working the woman still ends up doing more of the cleaning? Men generally don’t clean very thoroughly so it seems like women would end up doing (or re-doing) his chores too lol
Yes! Thank you! I was looking for ways to show my husband respect. Getting married Saturday and I want to be the best wife I can be! 🥰
Mazel tov!!
Put God first in your marriage and your husband second always🙏❤
I agree with all of this, so many women see respect as “oppression”. I stay home/homeschool, I take the complete lead for the housework. He works full time outside the house, his time home and gone deserves respect. I feel cherished when he’s home because he’s stress free from a clean/loving home.
@@monikagolab8892 mainstream feminist opinion, yes. Most feminists don't know how to respect/know how to react when treated with respect.
Try opening a door for em
@@monikagolab8892 all I see on the internet is women saying “men aren’t sh!t” “make your man do this”. So many women are saying that treating a partner as an equal is them doing more than they should. Modern feminism is the destruction of the happy home, beating men down and putting the woman on top. It IS mainstream, too many first world/privileged women scream oppression.
That sounds like a dynamic you agreed to though....
good for you. that works for you guys. don’t concern yourself about what works for others
You’re mixing dependency and respect together
i have a nonbinary spouse
making him his favorite dinner was a great tip! i love watching his face light up when I bring out the homemade chicken pot pie
@@dustinsindledecker154 It's just a nice gesture that she did for her husband out of love, it's okay for adults to be served and pampered sometimes.
@@dustinsindledecker154 I believe in equality too. I think husbands should spoil their wives with love and attention, and likewise wives to their husbands.
@@dustinsindledecker154 Funny when it comes to mowing the lawn, fixing the sink, changing tires, or assembling furniture equality no longer matters to you.
My husband really appreciates it when I give him praise for things he does for us. For example, he found and fix a leak in our vehicle that was buried in the engine and would have costs hundreds of dollars if taken to the dealer. I'm not always good with it but I try to show him that respect.
It's just normal that your husband make things to you or your family actually, if you have to give him a medal there is a big problem
@@lena5465 Really? It's just normal? Maybe its normal for men, but women here keep squawking about how everything they do is for themselves and men have to accept them being 100% selfish.
what if i’m marrying him only bc he’s rich?
Respecting my husband was a bit of a mystery, like what does that look like?! Thank you, Abby, for fleshing it out for me.
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Ok, but why would I shave my legs? God's creation is perfect. He in all His infinite knowledge gave me those little hairs on my legs. I would be dishonoring Him if I shaved them, the way transgenders dishonor God's creation.
It's all about mutual respect.
Her husband is a lucky man...
If you actually have respect it'll reveal itself in its own little ways and it won't need to be a conscious effort to show that you respect the other person!!!
ps : the best point was the dinner , I agree with that one as a man 100%
The “bye” was so elegant!
Yes! My family always held the value of God first, spouse second, children third.
My husband and I share chores evenly- marriage is not 50/50. Sometimes it’s 100/0, 70/30, 60/40. We all need grace and support when life gets difficult!
I am respectfully staring
This is good advise, no just for women, but married people in general.
OMG. I love this. You are awesome. More people need to hear and understand this.
I love this list Abby! It's wonderful and a very good viewpoint on marriage as a whole. I have had it rough these past few months, Endometriosis, Polycistic Ovarian Syndrome and surgery so my fiancé has been an incredible support for me through all of this. He's been taking care of the house and the homestead while I was recovering from my operation. But now that I'm fully healed and my conditions are managed I can get back into the swing of things. I love that you said respect goes both ways, too often I see couples married or not are just horrible to each other and it's so sad to see. A little respect, love and kindness goes a long way. One way I show him love and respect is by teaching him how to bake lol it's silly I know but I'm a great baker and a novice cook. Whereas he's a great cook and a novice baker. But we learn so much from each other's skills and we encourage each other even when we mess up, its so fun too and we share our treats with our neighbors. Great video, also you look lovely! ❤️
Wish men would keep up their looks. Or try at all. Beards can be trimmed. Shaves/trims should be often, tidy. Wash before sex, especially if expecting something "extra".
how do you feel about homosexual relationships?
no
Also would like to add on top of your point on respect! Love keeps no score, so even if you have the chores split (if you're both working) but you take on some extra chores that were his, don't become bitter and hold that against him! Do it with thankfulness and joy, bringing honor to God and your husband as you complete them!
You can say what you want, but completely disregarding the literal oppression women are experiencing once again in this country is so on brand for you isn’t it?
1000% agree with this
This video is sexist 🙄.
Reality is sexist
Not gonna lie, I’m typically a hater, most of the content on this channel irritates me. I thought this video was good, though. Solid, basic principles
this comment section is like a episode of the twighlit zone, lead by a equally creepy figure.
@@dustinsindledecker154 i feel bad for her unborn kids, that is if she can ever get her uterus not to abort them naturally.
You would want to respect your parents, friends, children, coworkers… why not also respect your husband? Nothing wrong with wanting to respect your spouse! That should make sense to everyone.
a lot of modern men haven't really proven themselves to be worth submitting to, though. respect, yes, as a human being, but i won't really submit to a man in debt, who's mean, who expects me to work, pay half the bills, and do all the housework, have sex like a pornstar, etc. etc. women need to respect, but men need to be worthy of that respect, and we both have fallen short.
@@maddiesenator5491 of course, but they're much more few nowadays
I'm a single virgin young woman who has never dated and never had any interest and time for it. I'm not even a traditional conservative. But this is something we can all genuinely agree on.
Respect is so important and the key value to a healthy relationship. You need to have respect for one another.
You might be asexual.
Giggity giggity goo
I always thought it was so odd when women would berate their husband's and say they married an idiot or something. Well it seems to me like she's the bigger idiot for marrying some body they didn't find worthy of respect.
"People should respect each other" - thank you, Captain Obvious....
I love this subject! I literally googled it a couple days ago! Thank you 💗 you’re awesome
I come from a family where all my uncles clean and do a lot in a house hold. They all cook, clean, wash the dishes and iron clothes and so does the women. In my culture that hardly ever the case because in my culture men are very misogynist and old fashion. I agree with all you said but as long its both ways. Men talk behind the women's back partners should have each others back period.
I definitely need to be better about doing at least 50% of the house work. It’s hard when he is going to school full time but I am doing that and working full time and I use that as too much of an excuse. I honor my husband by being active in our faith as a couple and encourage us to always strive to be better for each other and the world.
I love this video. reminds me so much of the premarital counseling lessons we took with our Rabbi
Can your voice break glass
I love the sass! And excellent advice. I agree, especially with the “not teasing your husband.” I’ve always found it uncomfortable when people women put their husbands down.
If your wife talks badly about you/ makes fun of you in front of her friends then you were probably not the first choice. No one will make fun of someone that they respect. Unfortunately most marriages are between women who are slightly past their prime and "good guys" i.e. the reliable but unexciting men that they do not fully respect or desire.
I really hope you don't mean a light hearted joke
not all relationships have to be formal and uptight
@@hellobruh4209 Nah, I've seen women who are in love When a woman is in love with you she will uplift you every opportunity she gets. She will fight people who talk badly about you. She will even lie about you to make you look good. The issue is that love does not exist in most marriages since women marry second or third choice men like I said. Anyone who puts you down lack respect for you, you can be light hearted without putting another person down.
incel
“Past their prime” excuse me
@@oddity8261 Average age of marriage is around 29. A 29 year old woman is past her prime.
Thank you Abby !! 💜✨ needed to be reminded of this today
I'm a married man. I have no clue why this video got suggested to me lol. Most of what you said is regular stuff. I agree everyone should be respecting each other. I have not had the experience of my wife or wives in general "bad mouthing" though this could very well be a regional thing. I'm from the northeast and we tend not to gossip even with friends and relatives. We have a culture of keeping our business private or maybe we're too busy talking about snow lol. I do worry that you're stuck on men and women are different and haven't moved on to just: Every person on the planet is different. Perhaps you have an it just isn't relative to this video. It's just that people who think too black and white are easily taken advantage of and you seem like a nice young woman and it would be a tragedy if someone tricked you into something harmful.
I show respect to my husband by showing gratitude for all the hard work he does and the beautiful life we’re able to have, and also by trying to perform acts of service for him in anyway i can- whether that be cooking, cleaning, laundry, or helping with a project around the house 💛
I love it this list! A lot of women take some of these things for granted and just get worst in their marriage… and that’s such a not respectful and not intelligent thing to do.
Things like these are so important for us women to talk about it and to support one another! Thank Abby!❤️❤️❤️
Very good reminder, it’s easy to let myself go sometimes when I get depressed. I needed this! Thank you. ❤
I am so grateful that women like Abby are bringing awareness to traditional values that have been lost in our current society, especially when it comes to how we treat men! Thank you for all that you do! Keep up the amazing work. ❤️❤️❤️
Hey Abby i've had to pull a shapiro special and log into my alt account so the knuckleheads I trick into following me because of my extreme views don't catch wind that i'm just playing both sides for money. Anyway just logged in to say thank god you made this video one thing I like to do to respect my hubby is not mention when he sits by the TV and spends hours of his day watching the COPS eating gravel cause when I mention it to him he screams " IT'S MY LIFE IT'S MY LIFE I LET YOU LIVE WITH ME I LET YOU WATCH I LET YOU WAAAAAAAAAAAATCH" and honestly that's not very respectful to either of us not to mention the fact that he eats so much gravel he gets blocked up and his insides turn into a rock tumbler smoothing out the meals I feed him every night into round more digestible pieces which he says passes easily through his body but I know it isn't true because he spends half of his time at work on the toilet cause he's so dang gum blocked up.
Any way great vid
I totally agree Abby… Men need respect and encouragement
I love this. Completely agree with all of this. Love your perspective Abby. 🥰
Great points, thank you.
Hat's off to the Shapiro family. I will add though, I really don't think God gives a sh*t if your house is messy. I would think he has more important things to worry about than a sink full of dishes.
Yea and no. Yes there are many more important things, but God does care about cleanliness. The Bible is full of guidance on cleanliness. It even says that God can smell.
I tend to agree, but there's a reason people say "cleanliness is next to Godliness." Taking care of that with which you have been blessed is a big part of showing your gratitude and appreciation. To that end, I think that cleaning/striving for cleanliness can be an act of worship. But, that's just the way that I look at it. 🤷♂️
Cleanliness is next to godliness🙏✝️👨👩👧👦
Oh, I think you see those wives making fun of their husbands because you surrounded yourself with conservative people, those are for same reason really toxic about their relationships, you don't see it that much in more liberal couples. But then again "wife bad" is the bottom of most conservative men humour, so I guess it's just fair, they fit themselves just perfectly.
I 100% love and agree with this! 🥰
Ur a sweet girl and I do believe in respecting others but I would be lying to myself if there wasn’t something insidious going on with conservative influencers….🧐
"where did all the good men go?"
"searching for women who think like this"
@@dustinsindledecker154 "women need to respect their men as men need to respect their women, men need to cherish their women as women need to cherish their men, but men and women are different and they need different kind of attentions, they compIement each other
YoU mEaN WoMeN hAvE To bE SIaVeS aNd mAiDs 😵
Tell that to some of the teenage girls and early 20's women who preach they want a nice, committed, caring, loyal boyfriend who won't use her for sex only but go for the narcissists, bad men, emotional unavailable or cheating men.
They get in they're feelings, claim men are horrible, sex users and all men cheat.
Those younger women didn't appreciate the nice, committed, caring or loyal traits until they were in they're older 20's and 30's when they realized they're window of getting married or having a baby is getting narrower every year.
@@dustinsindledecker154 Oh right, doing laundry is such a horrible oppression. If only they could be privileged like men and working 60 hours weeks instead.
This is all good stuff
I love this, it's so important to remember these values ❤
Understand that a man can and will walk away.
Ok I see you
I hate abbey, and disagree with her 99% of the time but she almost had me with this video. I agreed with mooostly everything up until the part where she says you gotta look good for your husband. Fuck that, if he don't love me when when I look like shit then he gotta go
Jesus Herbert Walker Christ, you don't love him if you refuse to do him any kindness. It's like saying "I'm not going to carry the groceries for my wife, because if she don't love me when she has to carry the groceries than she gotta go."
Ignoring your looks is a good recipe to make him search outside the house for other women who take care of themselves and look feminine. Men are more visual than women on average so looking good for women is a must.
THANK YOU for this video!! It truly is so popular/common and SO annoying and just gross to be present in a conversation where women are bashing (even jokingly) their husbands. I just don’t get it. It’s not cool. It’s not funny or fun.
I truly try to do the opposite whenever I’m in that situation with people. I try to point out the wonderful things that my husband does.
And sometimes, to lighten the mood, I will laugh about and point out how I* am actually the one that’s doing these bad habits or negative things that other people are saying their husbands do.
And I feel like it’s kind of a verbal slap in the face or reminder to them to stop talking bad about their husbands or other people in general.
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I hate to agree. So many marriages these days fall apart because there's no respect. This tips are great but things can get hard once multiple babies/children come in to the picture. The house may not always be clean, some nights there might be fish sticks for dinner, the laundry baskets may be over flowing at some point. I am pregnant with three young ones under 4 and have chronic illnesses.. and while my house can't always be clean or the most delicious dinners every week, and definately look like crap, I believe there are other ways we can respect our husbands. I always tell my husband how much I appreciate him and talk to him kindly and softly (which can be hard sometimes especially after kids.)
I also expect my husband to offer me security, to lead our household, provide for our family but recognise that if things so south that we need to have leniency and patience and understanding of each other. Without understanding marriages can fall apart very quickly because there are times in our lives when we can't always perform the waybwe usually would.. which is whybits important to also respect each other in other ways.
I like that you said "then maybe you're not ready to get married" rather than "then maybe this isn't the video for you", because honestly, those are the women who MOST need to finish the video and get a little bit "triggered" by being forced to question their beliefs. Anyway, good video, it's a bit tragic that something so straightforward isn't considered common sense, but here we are.
I just accidentally stumbled upon your channel. But I must say, as a young man (and who isn't even married), I found this extremely interesting, as well as encouraging to hear. And by the way, I would like to ask you out of sheer curiosity and with all due respect : Do you happen to be Jewish? (And I am not, just to clarify). But I do sing Opera. Lovely work on your part.
Been a subscriber for a while and enjoy your content. I do believe that women are oppressed in today's society, and I believe we are in certain circumstances, victims of men (i.e. domestic abuse situations). I have also been happily married for 7 years. These aren't mutually exclusive. Not believing the same things you believe doesn't mean I'm not ready for marriage, or that I cannot have a successful marriage. We are all different.
This was so convicting 😂😂😂 I have been trying to not have a sour attitude when cleaning my home.
i always respect my man by calling him daddy
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