He had his chance, and grass is always greener on the other side with him, so he can go graze else where! He can't replace me. I am one in a million. I'm free!!!
What’s so infuriating is that after they’ve ghosted us, they try to come back into our lives like nothing ever happened-gas lighting and more mind games😡 The nerve of them. Ignore, ignore, ignore, and stay no contact.
yes yes....and if you bring up what happened or think you can discuss it and get closure, they then say something like, oh, I am over that or that didn't really upset you did it? or you are so sensitive .. and make you feel like it was your fault or you took it all too seriously. Gaslighting big time. Best to , as you say, ignore them and move on.
After I left the female narc, I'm very happy, I enjoy playing a lot of golf, bought a 49 chevy truck, installed a pool table. There's no room, or desire to have her back in my life. I don't want demon driven people in my life in any form or fashion. She made her bed, now sleep in it. Enjoying the happy life, why would any sane person want to be in that again? Not this boy!
I agree with you wholeheartedly. 3 years I dated a narcissist but I knew it was something you just validated it and it's all true what you're saying about their characters 100000
Both may be defense mechanisms to cover up inadequacies, insecurities, and shame Narcs don't want to admit. They are a pile of 💩 I don't want to be near. I try to stay clear of the stench and bad vibes that Narcs seem to emit.
I just got out of a narcissistic relationship. Being empathic is a nightmare when dealing with narcissist. The guilt I feel for being taken for granted is real. Walking away and not looking back is difficult but it can be done.
Yes I agree, did a lot for her even wash her clothes, walk her dog, gave her ride to work and I live 60 miles away plus gifts and $$$. Then dump me and tell me she has a boyfriend that turn her to Europe. She has a better supply .
Thank you, I had a Nervous breakdown, due to this monster, and the sad part is I still love him, but I realize its over, can't go back, I'm in the process of getting Counseling, thank you again for this Lecture, you are Awesome.
Fk council you no to be tuffer this is your decision say never ever again again and again they turn up you ring police or don't ever get a friend for the kids but never ever bring them to your life they turn up go away cheerz it just happened to me 45 years tried to council him an never ever again they play on and on mental game
He forgets that I never forget anything...No...NO...AND NO!!!!! OMG...NO!!!NOBODY OWNS ME...Thank you Andrew, I needed this reminder...I will continue to tune in to this channel and moving forward... 🙏✌❤🤓😎
This video is spot on, he really thought the grass was greener on the other side, and he discarded me like trash, ignored me and I felt so so low and rejected, now he’s miserable, but I am NO CONTACT, it took some yrs to get here and I still have a ways to go, but never ever will I subject myself to that.
Good for you, put your energies into living your best life. It's so worth it. This is my last post on those losers, I noticed they are not worth my time. FINITO...
Narcs also need to have as many sources of supply as possible, so they will try to come back to achieve this : even just to be friends !!! Shut them OUT FOREVER !!!
"I never seen anything like that in my entire life, Krazy sicko lunatic with bad wicked evil ill INTENTIONS torward people Constantly and Continuously in the eyes and ears Of GOD"! 🙏🙏🙏
True 🙏 Every time you open the door again, it gets worse and worse. It is important not to open the door again, they will treat you worse because you have opened the door 🙏❤️🙏
You are so true I opened the door again and it was even worse than the last time I new this would happen but I'm so in love with him I went back but I left again because now I truly truly understand now
After 8 years beeing with a Narcissist she left me out of the blue for someone else thats 1 and a half year ago now ! Few months ago she reached out with some BS story just to give me a bad feeling about myself …. I dont give a F anymore i gave her my heart and soul she broke that and that will never happen again ! Good luck and alot of love for everyone who is going dealing with this remember you have a heart of 💛 and the narcissist 🖤 a black hole …. Peace
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. Think of this every time you're tempted to go back to the narcissist.
💯 this, my ex wife tried to monkey branch to her friends husband our neighbours, he dumped her after he had had his fun she came back hoovering flirting gaslighting it's scary how they actually believe they have done nothing wrong
The disrespect I endure will never be forgiven or forgotten, he's dead to me. He better don't want me back I will be his worst nightmare I know too much now. I actually think me blocking him is saving him not me because I'm so ready for battle.
You have to forgive him for *your* sake, honey - not for his. We do that to keep our light shining, to free ourselves from the prison of bitterness, to uproot any roots of hatred and to let go of any resentment. And for believers, we have to forgive because the Lord asks us to in Mark 11:25 - it's a command, not an option - otherwise He won't forgive us either (we also have to bless our enemies.. and yep, being a Christian is no picnic!). None of us want to do it because we feel like we leave them off the hook, but that's not the case. Forgiving someone does not mean that we have to be close to them, see them again nor take them back. We can forgive them while staying No Contact. Just let go and let God - He will deal with them. I pray everyday for the Lord to help me forgive the Narcs, and I'll do so until I get there. Hopefully you will be inspired to do the same so that your beautiful heart doesn't keep any un-forgiveness inside. God bless x
@@dominiquec316 Yes I agree with you 💯% I was in the early stage of the breakup and its normal for anyone to have anger in the beginning, I'm at peace now I wish him well and even prayed for him to love and just be good to the person he's with, with time anger fade and you forgive and move on. I leave him to time now and God. 🙏
I gave 18 years of my life to that monster. He was my everything. I loved him so much. He threw me away like I was garbage. I hope he knows me well enough, and he is smart enough to know better than to EVER try to even speak to me or be anywhere near me. Honestly at this point I think all I'd be able to do is laugh in his face. May he rot.
Also, as I told the last narc I dealt with, they don't need a reason to lie, to abuse, or mess with your head. They do it because they CAN. The Hoover is to appease their ego and can be just because they are bored. They thrive on drama and chaos. Any attention is better than no attention. Starve them.
I'm going to listen to this everyday! I fell in love with my mid range covert narc when I was 15. 33 years later I'm out. He literally drove me crazy (prozac valium 8 years of therapy about MY childhood and family of origin) No contact with him and his family, who always saw him as the hard working, caring husband has cleared my head. Once you see them for what they are, remember you also see yourself for what you are; kind, compassionate, intimate, genuine, loving, authentic, life GIVING. Give these gifts to yourself because you are worthy of them.
Glad you got out, it took me 13 years, it was a huge decision because it affected me financially as well. I tried and tried to make it work for HER and her kids sake even but it got unbearable. Now I’m alone and have to work 5 more years but I’m happier and free (except for the stalking, she’s back trying to suck me in again/still been over 2 years she will hound me forever she said so, it pisses me off and she knows it but unless I file a police report/order she’ll continue. I’m actually a bit concerned.
Definitely keep giving to yourself. When I saw my narc for what he was, my entire lookout on life changed. It's been a lot of bad, but there's been strides of growth in me. For example, June 6, I left, forever this time. I had tried so many times for so many years to leave. I even moved out with my daughter 5 years into our marriage because he punched her in the face, but then he went to prison, and I never even thought about living with him after that. For 7 years we lived separated. Anyway, my outlook was dismal, you know, what did I do wrong? Why is this happening, I did everything I could? Or Why was I so stupid? Then out of nowhere I changed those thoughts to tell myself I didn't do anything wrong, so why should I feel so guilty, rejected, and miserable when he's the wrong one? I have that phrase and reminding myself the reasons (disrespect, pride, evil, destruction, chaos, disorder, dysfunction...you know narcissist character traits) I freaking left him, and then I feel courageous, bold, and confident a lot of days. Others I have to take it moment by moment.
When I dumped the Narc after an 18 year nightmare he wanted us to be friends for the sake of our son, he wanted me to visit his new home and see him in a new environment, I have no idea what that meant, did he think the environment made him a better person??? I said no, I would never be his friend and he turned immediately into the monster that was so familiar to me.
I’m going through the same thing now. 12 years. I don’t know if it was a mutual discard but I seen the writing on the wall. When you have someone that tells you the love they are giving you is not enough and if I don’t like it I can look else where. Either you just don’t care or you have supply waiting for you. Any sense it is all unhealthy. I didn’t know narcissism was this real. Awful people.
Narcissists come with contempt, they believe they are expressing emotion , when they are only expressing judgement filtered through their twisted perspective . The only defence against the narcissist is truth !
They often don't go back because they have secured a new replacement. When the nee replacement fails - again - they just merrily go find another one. Endless pattern of behaviour.
@@mrorlov2706 they destroy lives. My ex left me only breathing and then told me to go kill myself when I could hardly move. Classy, huh? he is an architect in Finland.
Run and don't look back...they can be good for a short period but the abuse rolls around again and again like a broken record. The sad part is they could be a successful person but the choice to cheat and treat you like a piece of shit treating you so bad
Don't do it! They want you back to punishment you for leaving them in the first place! They also think you're stupid for returning and they will think you like this treatment, and go even harder! So don't do it! I speak from experience.
@Mil-Spec J If they left you count your blessings. Pick up yourself, and get back into your life! All they have done is found another person to abuse, and control. They get bored easily so they cheat very easily, as thry have no boundaries, ( Even if they say they do!) The same thing they did to you they will do to another person. So praise God, they are gone!! Just know they may come back to you, they will once again love bomb you yo the max. Attempting to make you give them another chance! Once they are in they will be far worse. They think you're stupid or must like being abused because you took them back! They will be even more abusive, and belittling. They showed you who thry are, you fell in love with the false person, it was all FAKE!! The mean person, the one who hides behind the mask, has now dropped it, so they can let out their true selves. Whatever you do DONT GO BACK!! Remember they are not the wonderful.person you thought they were. Remember all of the abuse and pain they caused. Heal yourself, love on yourself, forgive yourself, and move on. And learn the traits so. it never, ever, ever happens to you again. May God be with you every step of the way! ❤️ ((HUGS)) YOU CAN DO THIS!!!
@@mustbeheard9834 Not easy ill tell you that cause we have a child together and im learning alot about narcs and Wow was i love bombed and and now trauma bonded! Thank you so much I been taking it day by day 🙏💪🏽
@Mil-Spec J Well..., you can always drop.your child off at a relative's, or a,close friends house. That way you don't have to see him! I'm so sorry this happened to you but will be fine in time, You need time to heal, just make sure you are around positive NORMAL people, and love on yourself! With narcs, sometimes you don't know till you know! PS. I had a child with one too...,
After almost 4 years, my ex then appeared on my Instagram request. One thing I learned from a lot of videos and articles about narcissism is that THEY WILL NEVER CHANGE, THEY ONLY WANT WHAT YOU CAN GIVE THEM, THEY WILL NEVER RECIPROCATE. BETTER KEEP THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE LIKE THEY NEVER EXISTED, KEEP NO CONTACT. IGNORE.
I have said once,I have said it a thousand times. All the intelligence and knowledge they were gifted which intelligence and knowledge are energy and power, anyway they should've taken those gifts and use them for the common good of mankind instead of wasting them on cruelty to their fellow men and women,lies and deceit,they are destroying themselves as they destroy others and don't even know it.
This is true. He never answered a question, I ask. He never talked about himself. Thank you! Each video I'm more BLESSED and STRONGER. I'M PRAYING I NEVER GO BACK. HE IS A BUG, ALWAYS PICKING at me. I'm sick of his attitude, saying how I broke his heart. A fog. GOD BLESS.
I helped my ex husband through college. Nurtured & cared for him when he was sick. Gave him three beautiful children. He discarded me after thirty years of marriage for an alcoholic girlfriend he met on the internet. She is now in prison. He may very well want me back but I would never put myself back in that situation. He is SOL. I value myself way too much. No contact is the greatest blessing on earth.
My wife of 21 years left as soon as the kids went their way. Daughter is in college. Son is in trade school. I had confronted her with her behavior and narcissism 8 months ago and just waited. She left. 7 days later started openly dating with no regard. Told me “you should date…I am”. I waited…last weekend, she wants to be back. Nope. The divorce will be final in 40 days. These videos are so important to realize what happened, what happens and what they want. Thank you. BTW: being prepared years in advance really helps if you are stuck or not quite ready (emotionally, physically or financially). Freedom!!!!
Absolutely right. After my narc ex gf tried to return to me twice, trying many manipulative lies and empty promises, the last time I saw her profile picture on fb before blocking her, I saw a fake smile, while her holding a bottle of alcohol. What a shameful view it was, truly sad and horrable people, who try to hide their sadness
Another great reminder that we're not alone and narcissists follow similar patterns. We all like to believe we're special and in some cases that someone can change for us, but if they're a narc they really won't - that doesn't diminish your worth or the fact that you're a shining light in this world. We're all worthy of love, care and respect no matter what the narc tells or has told us.
My ex narc has started texting me again. Just little things like I hope you are having a good day....LOL! THAT'S RIGHT! I BLOCKED HIM! DIDN'T EVEN HAVE TO THINK TWICE! CAUSE I AM DONE!!!!! Thank you so much Andrew for being a true friend. I wish you the very best. From Texas
That's hysterical but it's so true they always want the best Supply they ever had back but they never change so the best thing you can do is have no contact to not look in your rearview mirror do not go back because the love bomb you for a little bit and then the same crap will happen all over again it's a vicious cycle from hell and I thank you so much dear for helping so many people
Thankyou so much. Just today a message popped up...He messaged 'I cannot live without you' 'you are my rock' 'my guardian angel'! 13 wasted horrible years spent with this vile individual! I am at peace!
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thankyou Andrew. It is so true and your videos keep me focussed. It is very much a 'day at a time'! You are helping me so much with this healing process.
A narc mother even gets crazy when my absence is "too long". At first when she visit, I'm asking: ' not one negative word' before greeting her. Another one texting on how I am, I do not open the message. As far as the east from the west...
Andrew, they will hoover eventually. They will hoover for as long as you keep that portal open. Nothing gets better, unfortunately. One day they will be alone
@@callumhaigh8233 Look up the official video for the song called Sweet But Psycho by Ava Max and listen to it every day until those lyrics comes into your head whenever you think of your Narc. Once you've accepted this is who she is, then you will have no fear and no contact!! Good luck!!
Yes, Andrew, you described such an accurate picture of how a narcissist behaves. Like you, I don’t wish the pain I went through even on my worst enemy of how being discarded feels like. It was the worst time in my life. I became not only mentally but physically sick where I needed to be on meds just to be able to eat to sustain myself. It was literally like being ripped into pieces and thrown out in the dirtiest trash can yet these narcs don’t realize what they had done to us. They act like they did nothing wrong. That’s why it’s a disorder!! It’s like a psychopath going about his/her normal routine after brutally murdering someone on the street. It’s quite scary how the brain of the narc works. Now even the thought of my ex narc makes me want to vomit. Thank you for your videos. They help so much when I need to hear and be validated on the trauma I went through. A failed relationship with a narcissist isn’t just two people who loved each other and then deciding to break up. No, not at all. It’s a torturous f’ing mind game they play with abuse, betrayal, lies, etc that you feel absolutely destroyed when it’s over. My ex is now living with the low grade supply he cheated on me with during the discard and back then he treated her like a queen while tearing my heart out. Yet now he calls and texts me with excuses to see me as if he cares. WTF! I hope he goes to hell!!!
Yep. Ripped into pieces and thrown into a dirty trashcan daily with jealous rages over nothing and threats and manipulations and false accusations. And on top of all he cheated on me constantly on phone or in person with other women. Never thought people like that existed!
@@purelove8972 Same here. Never knew people as horrible as my ex existed. He needs to come with a warning sign that says- I am a psycho narcissist who cheats, lies and steals.
Kristine, same situation with me but I'm wondering how it is possible that he still can call and text you?! After hell you went thru and your phone number is still available to him? I can't beleive😒
@@lidiyas7153 He is such a sick person. I had blocked his number but he calls from strange unfamiliar numbers ( maybe burner phones or other people’s numbers) and leaves messages. If I knew it was from him I would delete all messages without even checking them but I don’t know that bc I don’t know these numbers. He also had his mom try to contact me. He also tried to email me too. Something I would never be able to understand is why these narcissists can’t move on when they were the ones who did the discarding and destroyed the relationship in the first place. They are crazy!
Rinse ,wash ,repeat, exactly! It disgusts me that I was so weak and willing I am done! They will never discuss what they did, Try it , Tell them you want yo talk about what they did Then You will know
Hi Andrew....Thank You for your solid life changing information. 💯 They are cowards...evil...truly lazy...liars...just miserable everyday....Slam the door and nail it shut ....They underestimate that a person can and will walk away and not look back...1000 percent... Andrew wishing you a wonderful weekend in Costa Rica....Blessings..
I walked out of a horrible relationship some years back, i don't know why i had put up with the crap for so long, i don't think we do. I was told by her father to get out because like her previous relationships i would end up with nothing. I just walked out & went silent!!. She got in touch a couple of times but never got a reaction. I suddenly realised how unhappy i had been!, i was now happy & a couple of years after she first tried to contact me she tried again! & got, Nothing!!! ... silence, & it worked. I am happy now & glad i listened to her father. He made me relise what i was getting & what i was losing which would of been me!!
You're so so right! I've not been given him attention, looking at him and the daggers come, then the apologies come, then the hateful comments, and so much more.. it's a horrible repetition of fake love with many lies! Thank you so much.. the lights growing!!!
KittyKatKlub. Thank you for sharing this.. educating is the purpose of the channel and sharing my experiences and insight with the community is how we learn 🙏🙏☀️☀️.. I appreciate your kindness and support ❤️🙌☀️Welcome!
It took me finally actually standing up on my two fit and slamming(!) My first down on a table after the horrid beast of a sibling who had been verbally and viciously abusing an elderly women with dementia..our mother...( My mom and I were not that close at all until her final years)then this sibling turned those dagger eyes on me and started right in my face(that was the last time for me) I have never been so ready to protect myself if need be. They are sadistic monsters. ( If I had to watch her do this to any other person but especially an elderly person not even our mother I would have felt the same disgust.)
Excellent comments, 100% Vile Creature that will not stop while they can walk on earth 😢 You were never loved by anyone with Narcissistic personality which is a hard thing to take in and no Empathy and Vile Depressing mental illness in one package, She was even placed in a Mental institution and makes you wonder why they ever let her out 😂 And working in a School now is unbelievable 👹🙈
They will trouble , and distress you ! But we have snapped out of absorbing , and reacting, and now we observe and respond . Keeping it simple , I certainly do not want to live in their world , and they can't function in mine . The narcissist Only misses the power , and control they had over you . They do not recognize , us as a person , so they have no appreciation , we were loving , caring , attentive , and it was genuine. They credit themselves , their ability to deceive, manipulate , take advantage . That is their world Be not anxious , observe , and respond accordingly. Their goal ? If they can get us absorbing , and reacting they then can "feel" like masters of their own universe
Thank You Andrew! Your videos regarding these evil miserable souless POS are truly the best available to narc survivors. Thank You for what you do for fellow Narc Survivors. It's incredible how unbelievably accurate your videos are. Video Gold! You are truly making a difference for survivors!!!
He always takes me back if I discard ! Even after months , I used to think that was crazy 😜 it’s is crazy to Me , the narcissist wants you back no matter how toxic it’s seems he want to keep you under his control
I am going through this right now. After taking him back for 8 years- I finally see who he is. I get upset with myself for having a forgiving personality and somedays I can't even wrap my head around the fact that people like this exist. Thank you for spreading awareness on this.
What really brings the narc down is eventually revealing o them that you had your back-up supply all the while that you were "playing" them. Their egos carry them away and they believe in their own grandiosity -- that you'll put up with their infidelity or neglect because you love them, only to find out that your back-up supply has been stashed right under their noses. So, before your swan song, make sure the narc knows about your reserve supply stash who, ironically, is probably also a narc. They can then commiserate with each after after you've discarded them both.
Thank you for this video! One of the last times my nex and I tried talk things out…I noticed he wanted a “clean slate” and I wouldnt let him have it so he discarded. Things didn’t really start to sink in until about 2 months later. I am now in no contact and becoming happier every day you are right…they are bullies and cowards and I’m happy I see the situation for exactly what it was now 🙏🏼 He will never get me back….I’m ready for real happiness.
All of your sessions that I've watched have helped me heal and take closure of my 15 year marriage with a narcissist. If not for your posts, I'd still be doubting myself. God bless you and thank you for taking the time to help others heal.
Your videos have truly been an eye 8:599:029:27 opener and education. I have thought all of this but you have verified all of this. I hate that we have gone through all of this. I am sorry. I am so happy you are doing better. The truth is there are so many narcissists out there. Right you are…I wish I could make your face. 😊❤🎉
That is EXACTLY what I called him once I realized what was really going on..and was ready/able to admit it......a bully and a coward.... Feels good to finally be able to vent....☺️..safely
Andrew, I really appreciate your videos. They are very uplifting. I’m glad God put it on your heart to make these you tube videos. People like myself need to learn this knowledge. Thank you again.
Thank you for the reminder here Andrew. I see the games now that I threw him out. I will not forget because I have a journal of how he treated me. I read it every time I feel like giving up. He never wanted to talk about anything, and exactly right, he never took ownership for why we parted severely time. The book IS closed. Thank you for reminding me who we are. Gave him way too many chances. And even though it’s not easy moving forward, I would never want to be on the roller coaster of hell again.
Thank you Andrew 2 months ago I left a relationship like this my breaking point was when he choked me, I still stayed then slowly realised I was living in hell all this time, broke it off, he still has my pictures on social media, he destroyed my self confidence, gave me anxiety, depression, I came across your video by pure chance, and everything you said has happened to me...UK London.🤗 And now your videos are helping me to stay well away from him and anyone remotely displays any of these signs. Thank you.
The narc is watching... the time it spent causing doubt and chaos in my mind clearly wasn't enough as I am free from the mental abuse!!! Have settled back into my beautiful self and loving life... life is good, living beautifully as a solo unit is fantastic!!! Excellent words Andrew!!!!
The most great description of how is life with narcissist. If not experienced would not know . Now I know. They are very dangerous creatures. Stay far from them.
thank you ❤ these videos are my strength as I continue with no contact.
Welcome..🙏💯💜
He had his chance, and grass is always greener on the other side with him, so he can go graze else where! He can't replace me. I am one in a million. I'm free!!!
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What’s so infuriating is that after they’ve ghosted us, they try to come back into our lives like nothing ever happened-gas lighting and more mind games😡 The nerve of them. Ignore, ignore, ignore, and stay no contact.
NO CONTACT is the solution always💯💯🙌☀️
Absolutely
yes yes....and if you bring up what happened or think you can discuss it and get closure, they then say something like, oh, I am over that or that didn't really upset you did it? or you are so sensitive .. and make you feel like it was your fault or you took it all too seriously. Gaslighting big time. Best to , as you say, ignore them and move on.
@@jenniferjacobs228 Absolutely
They have the audacity to try to come back like nothing happened, some people's ego is outrageous.
After I left the female narc, I'm very happy, I enjoy playing a lot of golf, bought a 49 chevy truck, installed a pool table. There's no room, or desire to have her back in my life. I don't want demon driven people in my life in any form or fashion. She made her bed, now sleep in it. Enjoying the happy life, why would any sane person want to be in that again? Not this boy!
My heart goes out to all that have experienced this and hugs stay strong.
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I agree with you wholeheartedly. 3 years I dated a narcissist but I knew it was something you just validated it and it's all true what you're saying about their characters 100000
God bless you... Or providing the food for the soul replenish..❤️🩹
"Bully and a coward" describes these people precisely.
Thank you
It’s completely true 💯💯
losers, lazy, unreal, monsters, liars, omg! I can go on and on...get help and love yourselfers 🤗❤
Yes big bullys
Both may be defense mechanisms to cover up inadequacies, insecurities, and shame Narcs don't want to admit. They are a pile of 💩 I don't want to be near. I try to stay clear of the stench and bad vibes that Narcs seem to emit.
We are that 3 lb LOBSTER, GRADE A...THEY WON'T GET US AGAIN!!
My gate is locked. My car is in the tractor barn, the door is locked and the lights are off. No one is home for the narcissist!
I just got out of a narcissistic relationship. Being empathic is a nightmare when dealing with narcissist.
The guilt I feel for being taken for granted is real. Walking away and not looking back is difficult but it can be done.
Sending healing energy 🙏💯🙌
In the same boat. I’m working on getting out currently.
@@Pia-mia You must!!, then go silent, there is no flavor in nothing!!. They will find another victim soon enough
Hear you. I ended him again and it lasted three weeks. He was worse as I had boundaries. He was sicker. He says I broke him
I'm currently going through the process myself. Sucks
I won't never forget how I was treated never felt so low in my life. ❣️
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Oblivion is what these monsters deserve.
Yes I agree, did a lot for her even wash her clothes, walk her dog, gave her ride to work and I live 60 miles away plus gifts and $$$. Then dump me and tell me she has a boyfriend that turn her to Europe. She has a better supply .
Thank you, I had a Nervous breakdown, due to this monster, and the sad part is I still love him, but I realize its over, can't go back, I'm in the process of getting Counseling, thank you again for this Lecture, you are Awesome.
Thank you for sharing this.. I appreciate you honesty and understand it’s not easy.. continue to be strong and moving forward 🙏🙌☀️
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Fk council you no to be tuffer this is your decision say never ever again again and again they turn up you ring police or don't ever get a friend for the kids but never ever bring them to your life they turn up go away cheerz it just happened to me 45 years tried to council him an never ever again they play on and on mental game
....and that IS the toughest, most hurtful part! .......still loving and caring for a person who is incapable of loving back! They lose!!
I totally understand. Sorry. I still love mine too
It's so odd how they don't want to break ties with you so they can keep the book open. DO NOT GIVE IT TO THEM.
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He forgets that I never forget anything...No...NO...AND NO!!!!! OMG...NO!!!NOBODY OWNS ME...Thank you Andrew, I needed this reminder...I will continue to tune in to this channel and moving forward... 🙏✌❤🤓😎
My next once told me that I was dangerous because I remember everything.
This video is spot on, he really thought the grass was greener on the other side, and he discarded me like trash, ignored me and I felt so so low and rejected, now he’s miserable, but I am NO CONTACT, it took some yrs to get here and I still have a ways to go, but never ever will I subject myself to that.
Beautiful message.. this is moving forward and leaving the narcissist in the past… great work ☀️🙌🙏
KARMA IS THE BEST BYTCH!!
@@PITTSBURGH06 💯💯👊👊
Good for you, put your energies into living your best life. It's so worth it. This is my last post on those losers, I noticed they are not worth my time. FINITO...
Yes I felt the same! Inspired by your post!
Narcs also need to have as many sources of supply as possible, so they will try to come back to achieve this : even just to be friends !!! Shut them OUT FOREVER !!!
They don’t want to come back to you they want to come back to the comfort that you provided them
Great point ☀️💯
They want to come back to their punching bad, maybe the next person won’t accommodate their BS .
Sorry no glasses, punching bag, I meant haha
Narc has no patience , even they want to come back, they mess up and who wants them back anyway.
Exactly.. who wants them back anyway 💯💯
Not Us they need to stay GONE. BYE BYE
They got patience ... it’s been 20 yrs and he still Hoover’s !!!
"I never seen anything like that in my entire life, Krazy sicko lunatic with bad wicked evil ill INTENTIONS torward people Constantly and Continuously in the eyes and ears Of GOD"! 🙏🙏🙏
True 🙏 Every time you open the door again, it gets worse and worse. It is important not to open the door again, they will treat you worse because you have opened the door 🙏❤️🙏
The doors 🚪 are closed.. forever 🙌💯
True….and ouch. 💯
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone wow!!! for sure hahaha.....
You are so true I opened the door again and it was even worse than the last time I new this would happen but I'm so in love with him I went back but I left again because now I truly truly understand now
@@staceybarnett1801 you ok...mine got worse. I had boundaries and he went crazy after day five.....he was so sicker
After 8 years beeing with a Narcissist she left me out of the blue for someone else thats 1 and a half year ago now ! Few months ago she reached out with some BS story just to give me a bad feeling about myself …. I dont give a F anymore i gave her my heart and soul she broke that and that will never happen again ! Good luck and alot of love for everyone who is going dealing with this remember you have a heart of 💛 and the narcissist 🖤 a black hole …. Peace
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Remember they dont miss you they miss possessing you they do not really love you. Dont fall back into the trap. Stay strong.
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The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. Think of this every time you're tempted to go back to the narcissist.
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Now I've found out she's been with other men, No way!!! Dirty brass
You are sooooo right
💯 this, my ex wife tried to monkey branch to her friends husband our neighbours, he dumped her after he had had his fun she came back hoovering flirting gaslighting it's scary how they actually believe they have done nothing wrong
We were the best source of supply. The gain in narcissistic abuse relationship is that we leave the stupid and naïve factor with them.
I can feel it. He has a very strong dark energy that I can feel even though he's hundreds of miles away. It's making me nauseous.
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I'm so proud of you Andrew! Thank you for being here .
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That feels so good to know , and it's helping me look at them like hilarious clowns and laugh cuz that's the best medicine.
The disrespect I endure will never be forgiven or forgotten, he's dead to me. He better don't want me back I will be his worst nightmare I know too much now. I actually think me blocking him is saving him not me because I'm so ready for battle.
Thank you for sharing this.. my hope is you are healing and moving forward ❤️💯🙌
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I am Andrew, it wasn't easy I took 2 years of my precious life studying adout narcissist that is an associate degree for me.
Right there with you
You have to forgive him for *your* sake, honey - not for his. We do that to keep our light shining, to free ourselves from the prison of bitterness, to uproot any roots of hatred and to let go of any resentment. And for believers, we have to forgive because the Lord asks us to in Mark 11:25 - it's a command, not an option - otherwise He won't forgive us either (we also have to bless our enemies.. and yep, being a Christian is no picnic!). None of us want to do it because we feel like we leave them off the hook, but that's not the case. Forgiving someone does not mean that we have to be close to them, see them again nor take them back. We can forgive them while staying No Contact. Just let go and let God - He will deal with them. I pray everyday for the Lord to help me forgive the Narcs, and I'll do so until I get there. Hopefully you will be inspired to do the same so that your beautiful heart doesn't keep any un-forgiveness inside. God bless x
@@dominiquec316 Yes I agree with you 💯% I was in the early stage of the breakup and its normal for anyone to have anger in the beginning, I'm at peace now I wish him well and even prayed for him to love and just be good to the person he's with, with time anger fade and you forgive and move on. I leave him to time now and God. 🙏
I gave 18 years of my life to that monster. He was my everything. I loved him so much. He threw me away like I was garbage. I hope he knows me well enough, and he is smart enough to know better than to EVER try to even speak to me or be anywhere near me. Honestly at this point I think all I'd be able to do is laugh in his face. May he rot.
Also, as I told the last narc I dealt with, they don't need a reason to lie, to abuse, or mess with your head. They do it because they CAN. The Hoover is to appease their ego and can be just because they are bored. They thrive on drama and chaos. Any attention is better than no attention. Starve them.
Thank you for sharing this.. completely agree.. 💯☀️
“They thrive on drama and chaos”. Truer words were never spoken. AMEN
Yes mine sent videos of himself and texts ..of I I I ...all him.....I took him back to see...lasted three weeks and I got rid of him again.
I'm going to listen to this everyday! I fell in love with my mid range covert narc when I was 15. 33 years later I'm out. He literally drove me crazy (prozac valium 8 years of therapy about MY childhood and family of origin) No contact with him and his family, who always saw him as the hard working, caring husband has cleared my head. Once you see them for what they are, remember you also see yourself for what you are; kind, compassionate, intimate, genuine, loving, authentic, life GIVING. Give these gifts to yourself because you are worthy of them.
Beautiful growth and progress..🙏💯🙌
👍👍. Let him Have his Family.... THEY'RE just as BAD as Him!!!!! The Good thing is, You DON'T have to be HIS MISERY ANYMORE 👍👍👍❤️
Glad you got out, it took me 13 years, it was a huge decision because it affected me financially as well. I tried and tried to make it work for HER and her kids sake even but it got unbearable. Now I’m alone and have to work 5 more years but I’m happier and free (except for the stalking, she’s back trying to suck me in again/still been over 2 years she will hound me forever she said so, it pisses me off and she knows it but unless I file a police report/order she’ll continue. I’m actually a bit concerned.
Definitely keep giving to yourself. When I saw my narc for what he was, my entire lookout on life changed. It's been a lot of bad, but there's been strides of growth in me. For example, June 6, I left, forever this time. I had tried so many times for so many years to leave. I even moved out with my daughter 5 years into our marriage because he punched her in the face, but then he went to prison, and I never even thought about living with him after that. For 7 years we lived separated. Anyway, my outlook was dismal, you know, what did I do wrong? Why is this happening, I did everything I could? Or Why was I so stupid? Then out of nowhere I changed those thoughts to tell myself I didn't do anything wrong, so why should I feel so guilty, rejected, and miserable when he's the wrong one? I have that phrase and reminding myself the reasons (disrespect, pride, evil, destruction, chaos, disorder, dysfunction...you know narcissist character traits) I freaking left him, and then I feel courageous, bold, and confident a lot of days. Others I have to take it moment by moment.
You GO GIRL !
When I dumped the Narc after an 18 year nightmare he wanted us to be friends for the sake of our son, he wanted me to visit his new home and see him in a new environment, I have no idea what that meant, did he think the environment made him a better person??? I said no, I would never be his friend and he turned immediately into the monster that was so familiar to me.
Joanne this is exactly how they are once the mask slips.. monsters .. thank you for sharing ☀️🙌🙏
I’m going through the same thing now. 12 years. I don’t know if it was a mutual discard but I seen the writing on the wall. When you have someone that tells you the love they are giving you is not enough and if I don’t like it I can look else where. Either you just don’t care or you have supply waiting for you. Any sense it is all unhealthy. I didn’t know narcissism was this real. Awful people.
Coparenting with them is horrible
He wanted to lure you back in. Then it would have gotten far worse.
YEP, JUST SAY - NO - AND SEE THE MONSTER AS THE MASK SLIPS!!!! WOOOPS - RUN!!!
Everybody is catching on to them.
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There will never be a day when I don't remember the misery the narcissist inflicted.
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Yup! I drove straight to the Police Station when he was stalking me! Presumed he could be chummy again😡😡😡”NOT”…
Narcissists come with contempt, they believe they are expressing emotion , when they are only expressing judgement filtered through their twisted perspective . The only defence against the narcissist is truth !
Truth 💯💯💯.. 🙌🙏..
Only defense is........a crucifix!!!
@@justpde ha ha ha ha ha ha ha 😁
BLOCK THEM. STSY OFF SOCIAL MEDIA...NARCS ARE MONSTERS!
Mine said he was sorry 100 times but he kept lying about his debt and tried to take me down w him.
They often don't go back because they have secured a new replacement. When the nee replacement fails - again - they just merrily go find another one. Endless pattern of behaviour.
The cycle continues…
I personally think its a blessing in disguise when they just don't come back
@@mrorlov2706 they destroy lives. My ex left me only breathing and then told me to go kill myself when I could hardly move. Classy, huh? he is an architect in Finland.
@@mrorlov2706 They are DEMONS! I'VE BEEN THERE TOO..
Knowledge is POWER
Completely true 💯
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Run and don't look back...they can be good for a short period but the abuse rolls around again and again like a broken record. The sad part is they could be a successful person but the choice to cheat and treat you like a piece of shit treating you so bad
Thank you for sharing this Teresa 🙏💪☀️
Don't do it! They want you back to punishment you for leaving them in the first place! They also think you're stupid for returning and they will think you like this treatment, and go even harder! So don't do it! I speak from experience.
Great point..
But what if they left you?
@Mil-Spec J If they left you count your blessings. Pick up yourself, and get back into your life! All they have done is found another person to abuse, and control. They get bored easily so they cheat very easily, as thry have no boundaries, ( Even if they say they do!) The same thing they did to you they will do to another person. So praise God, they are gone!! Just know they may come back to you, they will once again love bomb you yo the max. Attempting to make you give them another chance! Once they are in they will be far worse. They think you're stupid or must like being abused because you took them back! They will be even more abusive, and belittling. They showed you who thry are, you fell in love with the false person, it was all FAKE!! The mean person, the one who hides behind the mask, has now dropped it, so they can let out their true selves. Whatever you do DONT GO BACK!! Remember they are not the wonderful.person you thought they were. Remember all of the abuse and pain they caused. Heal yourself, love on yourself, forgive yourself, and move on. And learn the traits so. it never, ever, ever happens to you again.
May God be with you every step of the way! ❤️ ((HUGS))
YOU CAN DO THIS!!!
@@mustbeheard9834 Not easy ill tell you that cause we have a child together and im learning alot about narcs and Wow was i love bombed and and now trauma bonded! Thank you so much I been taking it day by day 🙏💪🏽
@Mil-Spec J Well..., you can always drop.your child off at a relative's, or a,close friends house. That way you don't have to see him! I'm so sorry this happened to you but will be fine in time, You need time to heal, just make sure you are around positive NORMAL people, and love on yourself! With narcs, sometimes you don't know till you know! PS. I had a child with one too...,
After almost 4 years, my ex then appeared on my Instagram request. One thing I learned from a lot of videos and articles about narcissism is that THEY WILL NEVER CHANGE, THEY ONLY WANT WHAT YOU CAN GIVE THEM, THEY WILL NEVER RECIPROCATE. BETTER KEEP THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE LIKE THEY NEVER EXISTED, KEEP NO CONTACT. IGNORE.
I have said once,I have said it a thousand times. All the intelligence and knowledge they were gifted which intelligence and knowledge are energy and power, anyway they should've taken those gifts and use them for the common good of mankind instead of wasting them on cruelty to their fellow men and women,lies and deceit,they are destroying themselves as they destroy others and don't even know it.
Well said and I completely agree.. thank you for sharing this 💯☀️
This is true. He never answered a question, I ask. He never talked about himself. Thank you! Each video I'm more BLESSED and STRONGER. I'M PRAYING I NEVER GO BACK. HE IS A BUG, ALWAYS PICKING at me. I'm sick of his attitude, saying how I broke his heart. A fog. GOD BLESS.
So well expressed, they will NEVER change we can only change how we react to their actions!
Completely correct 💯💯☀️🙌
Yes
I helped my ex husband through college. Nurtured & cared for him when he was sick. Gave him three beautiful children. He discarded me after thirty years of marriage for an alcoholic girlfriend he met on the internet. She is now in prison. He may very well want me back but I would never put myself back in that situation. He is SOL. I value myself way too much. No contact is the greatest blessing on earth.
My wife of 21 years left as soon as the kids went their way. Daughter is in college. Son is in trade school. I had confronted her with her behavior and narcissism 8 months ago and just waited. She left. 7 days later started openly dating with no regard. Told me “you should date…I am”. I waited…last weekend, she wants to be back. Nope. The divorce will be final in 40 days. These videos are so important to realize what happened, what happens and what they want. Thank you. BTW: being prepared years in advance really helps if you are stuck or not quite ready (emotionally, physically or financially). Freedom!!!!
Thank you for sharing this 🙏💯🙌
Absolutely right. After my narc ex gf tried to return to me twice, trying many manipulative lies and empty promises, the last time I saw her profile picture on fb before blocking her, I saw a fake smile, while her holding a bottle of alcohol.
What a shameful view it was, truly sad and horrable people, who try to hide their sadness
Thank you for sharing..😌💜🙏
Another great reminder that we're not alone and narcissists follow similar patterns. We all like to believe we're special and in some cases that someone can change for us, but if they're a narc they really won't - that doesn't diminish your worth or the fact that you're a shining light in this world. We're all worthy of love, care and respect no matter what the narc tells or has told us.
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My ex narc has started texting me again. Just little things like I hope you are having a good day....LOL! THAT'S RIGHT! I BLOCKED HIM! DIDN'T EVEN HAVE TO THINK TWICE! CAUSE I AM DONE!!!!! Thank you so much Andrew for being a true friend. I wish you the very best. From Texas
That's hysterical but it's so true they always want the best Supply they ever had back but they never change so the best thing you can do is have no contact to not look in your rearview mirror do not go back because the love bomb you for a little bit and then the same crap will happen all over again it's a vicious cycle from hell and I thank you so much dear for helping so many people
Welcome 🙏 Heidi Thank you 😊
Stay strong because the world is full of these people
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"I can see through you... See your TRUE colors..."
Two years she left me alone and in the last year and a half she has become super obsessed. I don't wish anything bad upon anyone but geez man
Thankyou so much. Just today a message popped up...He messaged 'I cannot live without you' 'you are my rock' 'my guardian angel'! 13 wasted horrible years spent with this vile individual! I am at peace!
Education is empowerment.. thank you for sharing this and being here.. great progress Vicki 🙌☀️
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thankyou Andrew. It is so true and your videos keep me focussed. It is very much a 'day at a time'! You are helping me so much with this healing process.
I'm so up on this stuff I discard narcissists and whip em with information they gave me. They still contact me and I still say NO NO NO 🎉
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Andrew this is a spectacular description so on point, that it gave me chills. Really really good. Thank you so much
Thank you Summer.. I appreciate your kindness ☀️🙌🙏.. I am grateful to be able to share my experiences and insight with you 🙏🙌💯
A narc mother even gets crazy when my absence is "too long". At first when she visit, I'm asking: ' not one negative word' before greeting her. Another one texting on how I am, I do not open the message. As far as the east from the west...
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Andrew, they will hoover eventually. They will hoover for as long as you keep that portal open. Nothing gets better, unfortunately. One day they will be alone
Thank you Val.. time catches up with the narcissist eventually..,
That’s what worries me. I blocked her off everywhere but she managed to ring me up. I fear her return
@@callumhaigh8233 Look up the official video for the song called Sweet But Psycho by Ava Max and listen to it every day until those lyrics comes into your head whenever you think of your Narc. Once you've accepted this is who she is, then you will have no fear and no contact!! Good luck!!
I’m gonna take that to the hilt. Nothing is more satisfying than seeing a narc writhing and squirming out of desperation.
Yes, Andrew, you described such an accurate picture of how a narcissist behaves. Like you, I don’t wish the pain I went through even on my worst enemy of how being discarded feels like. It was the worst time in my life. I became not only mentally but physically sick where I needed to be on meds just to be able to eat to sustain myself. It was literally like being ripped into pieces and thrown out in the dirtiest trash can yet these narcs don’t realize what they had done to us. They act like they did nothing wrong. That’s why it’s a disorder!! It’s like a psychopath going about his/her normal routine after brutally murdering someone on the street. It’s quite scary how the brain of the narc works. Now even the thought of my ex narc makes me want to vomit. Thank you for your videos. They help so much when I need to hear and be validated on the trauma I went through. A failed relationship with a narcissist isn’t just two people who loved each other and then deciding to break up. No, not at all. It’s a torturous f’ing mind game they play with abuse, betrayal, lies, etc that you feel absolutely destroyed when it’s over. My ex is now living with the low grade supply he cheated on me with during the discard and back then he treated her like a queen while tearing my heart out. Yet now he calls and texts me with excuses to see me as if he cares. WTF! I hope he goes to hell!!!
Have you considered going no contact and blocking…
Yep. Ripped into pieces and thrown into a dirty trashcan daily with jealous rages over nothing and threats and manipulations and false accusations. And on top of all he cheated on me constantly on phone or in person with other women. Never thought people like that existed!
@@purelove8972 Same here. Never knew people as horrible as my ex existed. He needs to come with a warning sign that says- I am a psycho narcissist who cheats, lies and steals.
Kristine, same situation with me but I'm wondering how it is possible that he still can call and text you?! After hell you went thru and your phone number is still available to him? I can't beleive😒
@@lidiyas7153 He is such a sick person. I had blocked his number but he calls from strange unfamiliar numbers ( maybe burner phones or other people’s numbers) and leaves messages. If I knew it was from him I would delete all messages without even checking them but I don’t know that bc I don’t know these numbers. He also had his mom try to contact me. He also tried to email me too. Something I would never be able to understand is why these narcissists can’t move on when they were the ones who did the discarding and destroyed the relationship in the first place. They are crazy!
Rinse ,wash ,repeat, exactly!
It disgusts me that I was so weak and willing
I am done!
They will never discuss what they did,
Try it ,
Tell them you want yo talk about what they did
Then You will know
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Hi Andrew....Thank You for your solid life changing information. 💯 They are cowards...evil...truly lazy...liars...just miserable everyday....Slam the door and nail it shut ....They underestimate that a person can and will walk away and not look back...1000 percent...
Andrew wishing you a wonderful weekend in Costa Rica....Blessings..
Thank you Juan.. I appreciate your kindness and support ☀️🙌🙏🇨🇷.. Namaste 🙏
Once we are awaken, we never look back. They think they can come and go as they please and be accepted, hell No rejection is for our protection.
100% Correct They are all that is mentioned here. NARC's SUCK.
I walked out of a horrible relationship some years back, i don't know why i had put up with the crap for so long, i don't think we do. I was told by her father to get out because like her previous relationships i would end up with nothing. I just walked out & went silent!!. She got in touch a couple of times but never got a reaction. I suddenly realised how unhappy i had been!, i was now happy & a couple of years after she first tried to contact me she tried again! & got, Nothing!!! ... silence, & it worked. I am happy now & glad i listened to her father. He made me relise what i was getting & what i was losing which would of been me!!
Thank you for sharing 🙌🙏💯
You're so so right! I've not been given him attention, looking at him and the daggers come, then the apologies come, then the hateful comments, and so much more.. it's a horrible repetition of fake love with many lies! Thank you so much.. the lights growing!!!
Beautiful progress eleverette77 🙏☀️✊💯
NOPE! NEVER, EVER, EVER, NEVER AGAIN. 🚫 💯
This gave me chills, I don’t think it’s your intention to scare us. Your intention is to educate us!! Thank You!
KittyKatKlub. Thank you for sharing this.. educating is the purpose of the channel and sharing my experiences and insight with the community is how we learn 🙏🙏☀️☀️.. I appreciate your kindness and support ❤️🙌☀️Welcome!
It took me finally actually standing up on my two fit and slamming(!) My first down on a table after the horrid beast of a sibling who had been verbally and viciously abusing an elderly women with dementia..our mother...( My mom and I were not that close at all until her final years)then this sibling turned those dagger eyes on me and started right in my face(that was the last time for me) I have never been so ready to protect myself if need be. They are sadistic monsters. ( If I had to watch her do this to any other person but especially an elderly person not even our mother I would have felt the same disgust.)
Excellent comments, 100% Vile Creature that will not stop while they can walk on earth 😢 You were never loved by anyone with Narcissistic personality which is a hard thing to take in and no Empathy and Vile Depressing mental illness in one package, She was even placed in a Mental institution and makes you wonder why they ever let her out 😂 And working in a School now is unbelievable 👹🙈
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They will trouble , and distress you ! But we have snapped out of absorbing , and reacting, and now we observe and respond . Keeping it simple , I certainly do not want to live in their world , and they can't function in mine . The narcissist
Only misses the power , and control they had over you . They do not recognize , us as a person , so they have no appreciation , we were loving , caring , attentive , and it was genuine. They credit themselves , their ability to deceive, manipulate , take advantage . That is their world
Be not anxious , observe , and respond accordingly. Their goal ? If they can get us absorbing , and reacting they then can "feel" like masters of their own universe
Well said R S ! Thank you 🙏 🙌☀️
100% sir 👍
He leached on to me after 3 weeks of dating! Wanted to move into my home!! Yuk! Now I have been stalked since August 2022🤬
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Thank You Andrew! Your videos regarding these evil miserable souless POS are truly the best available to narc survivors. Thank You for what you do for fellow Narc Survivors. It's incredible how unbelievably accurate your videos are. Video Gold! You are truly making a difference for survivors!!!
Thank you Dan . I appreciate your kindness and support.. I am grateful ☀️🙌🙏
THE NARC IS A SHARK LOOKING FOR THAT 3 LB LOBSTER, GRADE A SUPPLY, BUT WE WON'T GIVE IT TO THEM!
Thank you Andrew
God BLESS YOU ! NO CONTACT FOREVER AND EVER WITH NARCISSISST ! Thank You !
He always takes me back if I discard ! Even after months , I used to think that was crazy 😜 it’s is crazy to
Me , the narcissist wants you back no matter how toxic it’s seems he want to keep you under his control
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I am finding it hard to heal. Still going through divorce with a covert narcissist that ruin my life. Help me lord.
You are here.. take things slowly.. build boundaries.. focus on yourself.. become educated.. the path is long .. you are amazing 💯🙌☀️
Yes help us
He will help you. I asked my counselor how do I get over a 20 year relationship???? She said it takes time.
Happened/happening to me. If only the N would show some kind of understanding of their destructive behaviour. Not gonna happen.
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I am going through this right now. After taking him back for 8 years- I finally see who he is. I get upset with myself for having a forgiving personality and somedays I can't even wrap my head around the fact that people like this exist. Thank you for spreading awareness on this.
Welcome 🙏
I can't go back to this backstabber. He literally put me into legal bankruptcy. He has never apologized.
What really brings the narc down is eventually revealing o them that you had your back-up supply all the while that you were "playing" them. Their egos carry them away and they believe in their own grandiosity -- that you'll put up with their infidelity or neglect because you love them, only to find out that your back-up supply has been stashed right under their noses.
So, before your swan song, make sure the narc knows about your reserve supply stash who, ironically, is probably also a narc. They can then commiserate with each after after you've discarded them both.
Andrew Thank You!
Welcome 🙏
Absolutely brilliant! Spot on to the T. It's chilling how accurate this video is and to what I've recently experienced. Wow!
Welcome and thank you for being here 🙏🙌
This is fantastic, so true. 🙏
Yesssssss he said don't talk about the past. The past is past he said.
You are spot on ! Facts, facts, facts !! Thank you, sir!!
Welcome 🙏
Rock Solid "NO"! EXACTLY!
Thank you for this video! One of the last times my nex and I tried talk things out…I noticed he wanted a “clean slate” and I wouldnt let him have it so he discarded. Things didn’t really start to sink in until about 2 months later. I am now in no contact and becoming happier every day you are right…they are bullies and cowards and I’m happy I see the situation for exactly what it was now 🙏🏼 He will never get me back….I’m ready for real happiness.
Welcome always 🙏💯🙌
Amen
Maybe his house needs cleaning, laundry done , and yard mowed. 😂
I know him so well... Not doing it !
All of your sessions that I've watched have helped me heal and take closure of my 15 year marriage with a narcissist. If not for your posts, I'd still be doubting myself. God bless you and thank you for taking the time to help others heal.
Welcome 🙏💯🙌
Thank you Andrew..... You are helping so many people. I am moving forward.
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Your videos have truly been an eye 8:59 9:02 9:27 opener and education. I have thought all of this but you have verified all of this. I hate that we have gone through all of this. I am sorry. I am so happy you are doing better. The truth is there are so many narcissists out there. Right you are…I wish I could make your face. 😊❤🎉
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That is EXACTLY what I called him once I realized what was really going on..and was ready/able to admit it......a bully and a coward....
Feels good to finally be able to vent....☺️..safely
Andrew, I really appreciate your videos. They are very uplifting. I’m glad God put it on your heart to make these you tube videos. People like myself need to learn this knowledge. Thank you again.
Welcome 🙏 Liam.. Always ☀️🙏🙌
BLOCK THEM. STAY OFF SOCIAL MEDIA!
Thank you for the reminder here Andrew. I see the games now that I threw him out. I will not forget because I have a journal of how he treated me. I read it every time I feel like giving up. He never wanted to talk about anything, and exactly right, he never took ownership for why we parted severely time. The book IS closed. Thank you for reminding me who we are. Gave him way too many chances. And even though it’s not easy moving forward, I would never want to be on the roller coaster of hell again.
Thank you Andrew 2 months ago I left a relationship like this my breaking point was when he choked me, I still stayed then slowly realised I was living in hell all this time, broke it off, he still has my pictures on social media, he destroyed my self confidence, gave me anxiety, depression, I came across your video by pure chance, and everything you said has happened to me...UK London.🤗
And now your videos are helping me to stay well away from him and anyone remotely displays any of these signs.
Thank you.
Welcome Abbey 🙌☀️🙏.. thank you for being here 🙌
Well done for sticking up for yourself and being free
Videos like yours save lifes thank you
Welcome 🙏❤️
The narc is watching... the time it spent causing doubt and chaos in my mind clearly wasn't enough as I am free from the mental abuse!!! Have settled back into my beautiful self and loving life... life is good, living beautifully as a solo unit is fantastic!!!
Excellent words Andrew!!!!
Thank you Cheryle..🙏🙌🙌
Facts!
Loved the bit about fangs sinking into you🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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I really needed to hear this today, thank you so much! 5+ years of no contact. Moved on to a much better and happier life. 💕
Welcome 🙏🙌☀️
That clean slate thing is so true. Never any ownership. Always my fault.
😐 they are so annoying thank you so much for the information.
Welcome 🙏 always ❤️
Nervous Breakdown is right!! Broke up in July now outa the blue texts on New Years Eve
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Nailed this video!
My same experience! Especially the coming back with a clean slate..... forget the past, he said!
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I just TOTALLY blocked the narcissist but not before I told it off completely. Your video helps so very much.❤
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LOL NO WAY he GONE and don't want him NEAR ME 😜
💪💯Yes Susan yes 🙌
The most great description of how is life with narcissist. If not experienced would not know . Now I know. They are very dangerous creatures. Stay far from them.
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Getting high on my own healthy supply works great. Thank you Andrew! ❤️
Beautiful Tim..🙌💯
Always you speak my mind, it was you speak ro me direct.
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