The thing is, they will be hoovering all their past supplies and were probably randomly doing that while you thought you had an exclusive relationship with them. It never ends and you are not, and never were, "special" to them. That is hard to get over, for sure.
I had 2 exes who hovered me a few times and I fell for it multiple times thru my 20s and 30s. Didn't know they were narcs. Didn't know about narcs. But I finally figured out at the least that they were toxic bulkshitters. And I had outgrown that.
They just want to set the "reset" button and have it go back to when you were beat down doing everything for them and they were able to do whatever they wanted to do. Because life was good for them. They don't comprehend that WE were miserable in the relationship. And they don't care either.
All of the above and more 🤣🤣🤣 Hoovering with lie after lie after lie. Before I used to believe the bs but now it just makes me laugh,and I feel sorry for them. Yes. Feeling sorry for someone is worse than hating them. Your wisdom exposes the smoke and mirrors the narcissists use. Most important thing is to not shame yourself for believing them before you had this education. Once you know better, there is no going back. You’re a knight in shining armour Andrew, saving us empaths from the narcissistic destruction. Love your work 🙏🏻
If the narcs return it’s because they didn’t find yet their new source of supply ! My ex narc called me to tell me how much he loved me, missed me, and that he wanted me back in his life . And I answered “ no thank you ! I’m very happy by myself with my son and dog” And imagine what happened: the monster came back : he yelled at me, insulted me .. I hang up and blocked him. It was a big mistake answering to his call. So no contact ! We have to realize and accept that they are not normal, reasonable ,and that they won’t change . They are and my ex, particularly, sick in their mind . If we don’t want what they want , oh my god, they become so angry . So please , let’s stay strong all together and keep the “ No contact” 🙏Namaste
I was never hoovered for the exact reasons you mention. When I packed up all of my stuff and moved out, she was rageing at me, but I saw her with the mask off. A broken shell of a person who was completely destroyed in childhood, a vision that still haunts me to this day. Blocked on all fronts, never looked backed, and continued on my upward trajectory, I win.
If you ever say to yourself "I can handle it" - stop, go no further - run as fast as you can the opposite way. If you say that, you most certainly cannnot handle it!
Andrew is 100% right mine got cancer I did all for him he disgarded me and his family helped him he will eventually destroy them he can't help himself. I'm so done this channel and Andrew that I listen too many times a day to keep me strong the truth is here thankyou Andrew ❤❤❤❤
And he did, after 7 weeks. Sending pics, songs of us, and called my work, I didn’t answer so he asked me to call him. He said I was the best he ever had. I told him he was not for me. He got so mad and said so many mean things! Actually meaner than ever. I should not of even replied! I Blocked him on everything !
After a horrible discard, people would tell me to prepare because he would come back. They gave it six months and that his new relationship would not last. During that time of despair, I hoped they were right . Almost like clock work, six months later, he definitely made attempts to contact me. Andrew is absolutely right! Then he came back again wanting to return, regretting what he did. Again, just like Andrew and others predicted . It’s almost like narcs know when we’re doing well. The predictions are easy because narcissism is a personality disorder. They all repeat the same patterns Stay strong, continue to heal, be strong in your faith and self love. So grateful for this community. Reading all the comments was pivotal in my healing, knowing I wasn’t alone.
@@mookiefinn4732 it was just like an intense feeling of doom felt like a storm cloud above my head didnt feel good felt awkward uncomfortable made me wanna run faster in the opposite direction.
Yes I was going crazy like what am I doing wrong I’m giving you anything you want and everything what am I doing wrong That’s where she had me I was I was wrong
Beautiful! There comes a time eventually where you not only can forgive that narcissist, you can thank them for contributing to the person you have become after the experience.
I have known this narcissist for 40 yrs he found me all through those yrs. I am an empath perfect target. I had no idea he was a narcisist until we finally got back together 5 yrs ago. A huge mistake he gad completely changed into a monster. He made my life a HELL! I finally educated myself and got out.
I knew my ex for almost 50 years we liked each other in highschool but always argued. I have lived with him for the past year and moved into my own place 2 months ago. Since then it has been hoover, love bomb then devalue discard. Wash rinse repeat. I am now in the discard once again. I have actually seen all cycles in one day. Its torture but I'm getting stronger and although it is still painful it wasn't as bad this time...he's a broken record and I can come home to my own place now to get away from the abuse and hopefully grow stronger.
6:45 "sheep in wolf's clothing" - I know this was unintentional but it's a perfect description of how the empath needs to be to go "no contact" with the narc, thanks Andrew :)
I am a great grandmother, a high school boyfriend who definitely was a narcissist got in touch with a friend who lived in my town. Triangulating her to meet me! How ridiculous is that? I left him over 50 years ago! Holy cow they never give up searching for supply!
You’re the love of my life, god I’ve heard that so many times. You’re my should mate. I’ll do whatever you want. I’ll call all these girls I’m in contact with when you’re next to me and you’ll see they are just High School friends. I told him To late. You promised that before and you’re still talking with them. One sent a video of herself dancing at 1:30 in the morning. And he wrote back nice moves. He said I don’t trust him and he left only to Hoover me with hundreds of emails begging me back. I miss who I met, not the Narc that showed up in this relationship. Moving forward now and not looking back. Thank you for your support Andrew and for everyone else here that suffered in a narcissist fog.
The part at 11:00 made me smile big: "No, you don't do any of that! NO, absolutely not!" Love your enthusiasm in guiding us in the right direction, Andrew. ❤💪
You did GREAT JOB with this message from the beginning to the end! This happened to me but believe me I shut it down!! They come back as if NOTHING NEVER HAPPENED!!! The enemy is a LIAR!! Ty, Andrew!!! ❤️
You're the best friend I go to in the middle of the night for support. Sure, it may only be a youtube video, but it's still a reassuring voice when I need it most.
Having to separate from a complete narcissistic circle,family, friends, and the ex was very hard. I had to start from nothing and they've consistently tried to get back in,you know. Andrew you are so right that they still have ways to keep track of your life and progress. I'm glad I found this channel 💛
Don't beat yourself up! It's just like the old school psychologists said, "You are just subconsciously emulating a pattern you grew up with.' Same here and I appreciate your comment so much because I'm escaping the damaged one by one of those people just like your situation. There's 7 billion people in the world. Not that I have a ton of faith in it anymore, haha! Nonetheless, we're not going to have the same damaging types getting free rein in our life anymore
@@Scott-nr2ji no, because we know what behavior to look out for It's just really hard and scary to not have a safety net of any kind especially where I have kids you know..
If I could only describe how horribly, cruelly and shockingly my narcissist ex discarded me, it will seem like he had left me forever. However, just like how you explained, he is trying to return as if he did nothing wrong even if I have gone no contact. I blocked him but he’s finding creative ways to try to contact me and it’s disgusting. It is so pathetic. Now that I have the education to know exactly what he’s all about, there is no way in hell that I would even give him one second of my time. Thank you, Andrew! 🙏
And beware the "long game." I'm not a stupid person, but I got duped. For the last time. He's going for total destruction (of me) now...And this will be the final chapter for all time.
One of the reasons the narc may not hoover again, is because he knows that you are aware of his game. So by your reaction during the seperation and no contact afterwards, he knows you are useless for him, it means they know you read them,they know you , you got it,all their games and lies ,so they do not spend too much time and strenth for hoover again,because they know there is no chance to fool us anymore. They know too by now that we know already who they are and what their game is. Thanks for the wonderful topic Andrew. Wonderful as always.
2 years after I finally broke free from the Narc, settled in my new home and enjoying a fresh start, he turns up on Christmas morning with gifts for me and our son, I felt physically sick. He acted like nothing had happened and came out with BS about nostalgia at Christmas, this guy ruined every Christmas for 18 years! I never engaged much but it’s hard when you have a child together, I never let him in my home. Since then he’s been calling every other day and on New Year’s Day I told him not to call again because I have moved on and I don’t want him in my life anymore, I hope he takes that on board. I know he just wants to cause me pain and I sensed the envy in him too.
Got a faux-pology,. Nope, nope, nope. A year of NC and he still stalks. I have realized that he is truly disordered… although I could not see it for many years. I don’t know if he will ever stop stalking, but I am done with him forever.
Yes I will.. thanks 🙏 I did know this existed.😢 I got Real hurt with domestic violence . She hurt me . And I feel ashamed for being a man I could not do it myself.👍😥🙏🙏
My aunt fell for a second go with her narc and her ending was the saddest thing the family had ever seen. I wish she could have heard this. Powerful stuff! Thank you.
@@MelanieP7M She suffered a nervous breakdown of course, though she stayed mentally sharp, but she turned into a shell of a woman and died in a nursing home. Her children visited when they could but her husband went on living the life of the "stud" he thought he was until he finally rode off into the sunset. She was a loving, beautiful woman, an artist, an empath for sure, and loved by many people. We've heard from Andrew some of the things narcissists can do to us so we can only imagine the hell she went through while trying to live with him. He love bombed her into a "second chance" and that was her undoing. May she rest in peace. 😇🙏
To show you how my mind set has changed. I dreamt of her the other night. She wanted back and the beautiful person I thought I had was just wonderful. Things felt so good. In my dream, I stopped myself, saying wait, you are a narcissist! Telling myself I'm not doing this ever again. She began to cry in my dream, which she knew was my weakness. I didn't fall for it! I wished her hope that she finds love someday and I walked away. That was just a dream, but my strength was there and I'm done with her. Yes, she's forgiven, but I've got nothing to do with her.
Thank you Andrew!💜💜💜 This is so important to keep in mind! It is ALWAYS a one way street with them...take, take take! They live in lack and fear! They are energy vampires! Since he has been out of my energy, I am stronger, lighter and actually look 10 years younger...I am in my 60s. I will never feed a vampire again!!
They all told me how they had terrible childhoods and my heart melted. I've always taken care of people so that worked for them. Now that I know that I say " I'm sorry that happened to you , take good care of yourself bye bye ".
I left that narc for him to know that i had enough of him and their is no more patience or time for him or the crazy and evil, I am getting silent calls from a different number that i block!!! Never again!!! Happy to be off that rollercoaster !
It is so sad...when I am finally done ( after I have given chance after chance and know I have given the relationship my all, not knowing I was dealing with a narcissist) , I am just “Done”. No going back...😌♥️🙏💃
You will be fine. Give it TIME. I almost died, but I made it. Take it one day at a time and listen to the videos. Get out with some friends. God bless you and best wishes to you.❤️💙⚘️⚘️
Hi Andrew, I thought I was well on my healing path but had a set back. I have had no contact whatsoever for 11 months. But tonight I was missing the good times. I had to talk myself out of it. I had to remind myself that he never loved me..that I only missed the love bombing stage. That eventually I do want to love again when ready. And I immediately found you on UA-cam so you can remind me of the reality of this relationship. It really was the worst relationship I ever had. I was married before and my husband passed away 3 years ago. This Narcissistic relationship was the 1st relationship after being widowed for a year. I wasn't looking but met him when out shopping. I thought dinner was harmless but boy was I wrong!
Think that "the good times" only existed, in order to maintain you in the relationship.. I keep saying that to myself because after I broke up with my narc, he always "reminds" me the good moments we had (?) As I listen to his monologue, I secretly laugh, because I know is bs
This is so what is current experience..I was in love for a year..it ended 2 months ago..I had no knowledge that people Iike him existed..I was used and abused trying to assure him of my love..never realizing he was INCAPABLE of loving a anyone..I heeded your advise..found my inner strength..just went no contact after a some awful events ..I was progressing nicely until Valentines Day..when he reappeared looking dishuffled and indesperate need of haircut..as he tried to deny a theft of my property along with sob stories I almost felt pity ..I treated him as if he were a stranger whe he search my face for a glimpse of weakness or tears as before to no avail..today I found nude photos from him of some beautiful young lady and some he sent to her in return..what a prince..lol..for a second I wanted to react..caught myself and did not..TY..without your support and sharing your own experiences I would probably not survived this...God Bless You return he sent of
Yes it's been 18 years since I broke up with my ex narc and he's still trying to make contact. Thanks for your vlogs they have helped me so much. ❤️ from Sweden🇸🇪
The best therapy for narcs is to just ignore them indefinitely like they don't exist. Don't block them,(if they follow you, don't follow back).Let them watch your stories on social media as you live your best life. It will hurt them to the core
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone but the problem with blocking is that they will see that you were deeply affected by their actions to reach that conclusion. Its like a low-key win for them...... Anyway its just my opinion.
Kinda same here.. Broke up nearly 3 weeks ago (though I was trying to achieve that for months), and I have blocked him from everything but his phone number just to let him know I am not bothered and that am above all that.. (also for me to know what he is up to, because he may act dangerously) But I think is not the solution.. Everytime he calls and listen to his monologue its a huge waste of time for me.. If he continue to not use wisely his phone, I will block his number too
Oh, I fell for for it. After all I've learned, I still fell for it. Took him days to treat me like crap again. I'm glad I fell for it. I think I needed it... Think I needed one last straw to break my back. Heartbroken. Done. Blocking him. Moving forward. Thank you for this.
I am staying strong and not tolerating it at all! I just want to be with my immediate family and other empathic people as we need to stick together in this evil world!
You hit the nail on the head. They are egotistic. They can't live with losing control. He used our kids to get new about me. The kids are in the middle. He only love himself. It's sad but it's reality.
Haven't received the Hoover, yet... But I am to the point where I feel grateful for having had this experience, so I could learn things about myself that I needed to, in order to grow, heal, and expand. Just as we are players in their world, they are also brought into our existence for a reason. Difference is... we are loving, compassionate, and empathetic people, and they are soulless. Feels good when you care less and less, and know if they do Hoover you, they will get no response. Much love and healing to all!❤
I never thought it would happen to me although I really thought I knew and could trust my loyal friend. Sad to say that I still have to dodge bullets in this narc infested world. NO CONTACT... and don't looking back. Stay strong and safe...
Because they have to keep their supply! They always circle back on old supply!! Why can't the narcissist move forward? It seems they always live in the past.🤔🤔🤔🤔 Silence is the best key to keep them away!
I’m just glad I’m not getting hoovered at the moment. I’m doing ok back to on my own. I just need enough time to heal, hoping he’s busy with the new painkiller. I’m so grateful for the daily reminders and reality checks “No Don’t Do It” 😁
So much truth here. I blocked the narcissist for 12 years- grew curious, and unblocked him. Within a week I received a message from him. I repeated all the old mistakes. 18 months later it’s finally over. He has cancer and his illness was always a factor in me wanting to keep contact to make sure he was ok. Finally- I hit my breaking point. I did the “nuclear” option and contacted his wife. I couldn’t believe the relief I felt when I did it. I felt that finally I had some power. I need to keep educating myself to stay strong. Like so many, I live with guilt and anger for letting him into my life again.
Because I’m healed, when I got the Hoover after a month. I made it clear and funny.. I said I liked the person I initially met, but then I met the familiar spirit attached to you, and so it’s a no for me that we shall never communicate again. And have not heard from him again.
Went no Contact (58 y/o) finally accepted the Narc, enabler, etc., would never, ever change, the false accusation and smears just kept getting worse. The last false accusation, as usual the entire family participated, I thought I'm almost 60, I have NOTHING to lose and cut the cord shaking, but blocked every single one of them, phone, email, all social media. I've flourished since, the best I've felt, probably ever. It has been painful but nothing like being in "the system" called biological family.
It's nothing less than spiritual warfare! Going through this could have ended me, and very well would have had I not found this channel and became educated. But what a painful lesson to learn. Thank you Andrew,for lifting me up.
I was in a relationship for 18 months with a lady , I couldn’t understand for a while what was going on cut it short I was questioning myself all the time then I just realised I was dealing with a narcissist lady I left a few times and yes got Hoovered back in , I’ve blocked her on everything I’m out and staying strong and continue to educate myself. Thanks for the great advice 🤙
Been watching marathon of your videos it has helped me processing it more with your videos. The pandemic threw me back thinking about the Narc. God really uses you to speak to me and others. Now 14 years ups and downs but I am still strong.
Ha ha..😀😄Andrew you made me laugh about the sheep and wolves Lol..as my first meeting with my narc he was wearing a sheepskin coat 😂😂so a narc wolf in sheep's clothing 😂Great video on how they return 👍they sure do and think its quite normal when of course its totally ridiculous in our minds and new life we're creating..Bless you 🙏 😇💜
Andrew, the narcissist did hoover me and I put him to work on doing home repairs. Odd jobs ect.... work work is all I gave the narcissist until he got the message that I wasn't returning to that horrible relationship . He got the message.
Thanks Andrew ! I really needed this message today! Im learning through the grapevine that , this thing I was dealing with is more vile than I could have imagined! It’s really shocking! And I feel ridiculous for not seeing his true nature! Lesson learned! He always said he identified with the wolf totem ! Peace and blessings everyone here gaining knowledge 💕
Thank you Andrew. I no longer miss any of the narcissists. You are so right when you said that it is always about them. I pray and hope that none of them come knocking at my door! If they do I'm not answering the door!
Yep. Had that happen when I was in a new relationship, and a new state! And my son's and I went through the narcissistic cycle of his again.. and again. Now my son's to said narcissist are young adults and I don't let him near me the cycle is finally broken. Even my son's won't see him
You are such a beautiful soul. And person . Inside and out. I can’t wrap my mind around how something like this could happen to you. It happened to me . But you are genuinely beautiful. 🙏🙏🙏
I am so grateful your videos came onto my feed today. I needed to hear this. He has come back - seriously, with packages that were accidentally left at his house. Also told me all the changes he has made, and that I was the only true love of his life, and that he is looking for the whole thing - the "happy ever after". By you saying all those words Andrew - practically verbatim, my brain has reconnected! I am finally my own again, after going through the very worst experience in my life, and I am happy. Months have gone by - 9 months and here he is. And I can't believe, after all the research I have done, that I would think, at a very weak point, "well, maybe if we get counseling". Sheesh! THANK YOU!!!! I am now on video five this evening, and not done. And I also blocked him from my phone. OK - back to my happy place!
Thank you for the strong yet compassionate message Andrew.. Your approach and delivery is nicely balanced for survivors at any stage of healing. I don't expect to ever get a real Hoover, however I've recently had times, where I thought " I'm healed enough to take a peek" but there's no way I would do it. Thank God and people like you sharing info, from the day of the discard I knew my ex was a fraud and only wanted to get far far away lol. My heart and prayers goes out to all of those who still desire the illusion ( the narc). God will break that trauma bond, and will give you truth, healing, peace. Amen
Yep. my narc unblocked and tried to hoover me. Left multiple comments on my Facebook, texts from weird numbers on my phone. She has a new supply, even... Insanity. I actually didn't respond to the texts or comments. Felt kinda good. We do have the power... Just takes fortitude and strength to use it. No contact, as much as possible.
Andrew thank you from the deepest depths of my BIG heart. Having been, what I now realise, was an abusive relationship with a Covert Narcissist for the last 12 years I’ve just managed to step out of the fire with my sanity intact - only just though. But I’m healing and getting back to the strong, confident and independent woman I always was. He couldn’t break that and he knew it in the end which I think is why he discarded and ghosted me and also probably because he’d found his next victim. My recovery from the abuse is almost complete, it’s taken 3 months. It’s thanks to my beautiful friends, my own regained strength of charterer and, last but not least YOUR amazing videos giving us Empaths all your educational, kind advice and support. You’re a truly wondrous soul Andrew.Love from me and all your other followers back here in the UK🌈💜
Everything you have said Andrew is 💯 true. The Narcissist is zero substance! Never will I return to my ex. I ❤ this video thank you! it’s a reminder to stay on track
Surprise: We suddendly are the best thing that has ever happened to them & they have the arrogancy to try & come back & talk about wanting to be a friend...helllo? We cannot be a fool again. Ty
The thing is, they will be hoovering all their past supplies and were probably randomly doing that while you thought you had an exclusive relationship with them. It never ends and you are not, and never were, "special" to them. That is hard to get over, for sure.
I understand..💯💯
I heard my narc calling his past supplies🤢
I had 2 exes who hovered me a few times and I fell for it multiple times thru my 20s and 30s.
Didn't know they were narcs.
Didn't know about narcs.
But I finally figured out at the least that they were toxic bulkshitters. And I had outgrown that.
@@truffaut650truffaut6I have HELPED mine find his! Because I believed the sob story! Which I didn't know was just triangulation in the first place.
@@FieryKTarot no its just what men do. Avoid.
You're exactly right Andrew. It's always all about benefiting them. They never have your best interest at heart. I miss him like I miss a migraine.
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Very well said ‼️💎
"I miss him like I miss a migraine." - Touché So true.
They looking for a handout, they hoping ur still asleep
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its always been about The Bag & The Money, in central america we say 'ellas siempre son interesadas'
They just want to set the "reset" button and have it go back to when you were beat down doing everything for them and they were able to do whatever they wanted to do. Because life was good for them. They don't comprehend that WE were miserable in the relationship. And they don't care either.
They almost always return. Especially if they inadvertently see you happy and brimming with light and energy again.
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OR you look great, or with another partner and you're happy, THAT is the best!
It's a narc Beacon
Love this magic ~ Little do they know how much we don’t miss them
Never ever do a do over with a Narc.
"Your not a option!
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There is NO greater privilege than being history in the mind of a narcissist ! 🙏❤️❤️
Amen 🙏🙏💯💯
All of the above and more 🤣🤣🤣 Hoovering with lie after lie after lie. Before I used to believe the bs but now it just makes me laugh,and I feel sorry for them. Yes. Feeling sorry for someone is worse than hating them. Your wisdom exposes the smoke and mirrors the narcissists use. Most important thing is to not shame yourself for believing them before you had this education. Once you know better, there is no going back. You’re a knight in shining armour Andrew, saving us empaths from the narcissistic destruction. Love your work 🙏🏻
If the narcs return it’s because they didn’t find yet their new source of supply !
My ex narc called me to tell me how much he loved me, missed me, and that he wanted me back in his life . And I answered “ no thank you ! I’m very happy by myself with my son and dog” And imagine what happened: the monster came back : he yelled at me, insulted me .. I hang up and blocked him.
It was a big mistake answering to his call.
So no contact ! We have to realize and accept that they are not normal, reasonable ,and that they won’t change . They are and my ex, particularly, sick in their mind .
If we don’t want what they want , oh my god, they become so angry .
So please , let’s stay strong all together and keep the “ No contact”
🙏Namaste
Thank you for sharing this Laetitia 🙌🙏💯💪
They get worse! He was coming in for the kill, great on you that you went no contact!
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, ANDREW!!! GOD BLESS YOU!!! MUCH LOVE AND RESPECT TO YOU!!!
I was never hoovered for the exact reasons you mention. When I packed up all of my stuff and moved out, she was rageing at me, but I saw her with the mask off. A broken shell of a person who was completely destroyed in childhood, a vision that still haunts me to this day. Blocked on all fronts, never looked backed, and continued on my upward trajectory, I win.
You WIN.. Brad 💯💯💪💪🙌🙌
Never say never Brad I had one come back after 40 years!
Glad you blocked her but if they can find you they will come back
Trying to manipulate to make money's
GREAT for you!
If you ever say to yourself "I can handle it" - stop, go no further - run as fast as you can the opposite way. If you say that, you most certainly cannnot handle it!
Beautiful message Claudia.. thank you 💯🙌🙏
Omgoodness))))$$$$ rite/
Andrew is 100% right mine got cancer I did all for him he disgarded me and his family helped him he will eventually destroy them he can't help himself. I'm so done this channel and Andrew that I listen too many times a day to keep me strong the truth is here thankyou Andrew ❤❤❤❤
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And he did, after 7 weeks. Sending pics, songs of us, and called my work, I didn’t answer so he asked me to call him. He said I was the best he ever had. I told him he was not for me. He got so mad and said so many mean things! Actually meaner than ever. I should not of even replied! I Blocked him on everything !
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When you choose you, you really see how they feel about you.
After a horrible discard, people would tell me to prepare because he would come back. They gave it six months and that his new relationship would not last. During that time of despair, I hoped they were right . Almost like clock work, six months later, he definitely made attempts to contact me. Andrew is absolutely right! Then he came back again wanting to return, regretting what he did. Again, just like Andrew and others predicted . It’s almost like narcs know when we’re doing well. The predictions are easy because narcissism is a personality disorder. They all repeat the same patterns Stay strong, continue to heal, be strong in your faith and self love. So grateful for this community. Reading all the comments was pivotal in my healing, knowing I wasn’t alone.
Thank you for sharing this insight 💯🙏🙌☀️
They want to play with their toy again.
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when she tried to come back i felt horrible
I understand completely 💯💯
Why?
I feel sadness for her. To see her text . I can’t help her. I never answer her text. I pray for her 😶🙏🙏💪🏽
@@mookiefinn4732 it was just like an intense feeling of doom felt like a storm cloud above my head didnt feel good felt awkward uncomfortable made me wanna run faster in the opposite direction.
Yes I was going crazy like what am I doing wrong I’m giving you anything you want and everything what am I doing wrong That’s where she had me I was I was wrong
The Narc always returns I had several return one from high school 40 years ago & one from 30 years ago… & 10 years ago with a fake account
Thank you La Vegan 💯🙌🙌
I agree! They're sick people. I can't escape my ex from 11 years ago he always finds me.
Beautiful!
There comes a time eventually where you not only can forgive that narcissist, you can thank them for contributing to the person you have become after the experience.
Beautiful growth and healing message 💯🙌🙏
Not sure I will ever thank him. But I can accept the strength I showed by getting over it.
@@wildrose12.47 Excellent point and very true. All credit goes to yourself
@@wildrose12.47 Exactly how I feel!
I have known this narcissist for 40 yrs he found me all through those yrs. I am an empath perfect target. I had no idea he was a narcisist until we finally got back together 5 yrs ago. A huge mistake he gad completely changed into a monster. He made my life a HELL! I finally educated myself and got out.
Thank you for sharing this Pamela 💯💯🙌🙌
I knew my ex for almost 50 years we liked each other in highschool but always argued. I have lived with him for the past year and moved into my own place 2 months ago. Since then it has been hoover, love bomb then devalue discard. Wash rinse repeat. I am now in the discard once again. I have actually seen all cycles in one day. Its torture but I'm getting stronger and although it is still painful it wasn't as bad this time...he's a broken record and I can come home to my own place now to get away from the abuse and hopefully grow stronger.
My ex knows she can’t come back. She knows that she would be legally trespassing!!!!!!
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6:45 "sheep in wolf's clothing" - I know this was unintentional but it's a perfect description of how the empath needs to be to go "no contact" with the narc, thanks Andrew :)
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I am a great grandmother, a high school boyfriend who definitely was a narcissist got in touch with a friend who lived in my town. Triangulating her to meet me! How ridiculous is that? I left him over 50 years ago! Holy cow they never give up searching for supply!
They think they can still feed off of you and your energy.
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You’re the love of my life, god I’ve heard that so many times. You’re my should mate. I’ll do whatever you want. I’ll call all these girls I’m in contact with when you’re next to me and you’ll see they are just High School friends. I told him To late. You promised that before and you’re still talking with them. One sent a video of herself dancing at 1:30 in the morning. And he wrote back nice moves. He said I don’t trust him and he left only to Hoover me with hundreds of emails begging me back. I miss who I met, not the Narc that showed up in this relationship. Moving forward now and not looking back. Thank you for your support Andrew and for everyone else here that suffered in a narcissist fog.
Welcome 😌🙏💯
The part at 11:00 made me smile big: "No, you don't do any of that! NO, absolutely not!" Love your enthusiasm in guiding us in the right direction, Andrew. ❤💪
Thank you Wishpool 💯🙏🙌
If he has someone why does he keep lying and saying there is no one and keeps saying he loves me I am the one he wants
I loved that bit too
Don’t let the ugly in others, destroy the beauty that is within you.
You did GREAT JOB with this message from the beginning to the end! This happened to me but believe me I shut it down!! They come back as if NOTHING NEVER HAPPENED!!!
The enemy is a LIAR!! Ty, Andrew!!! ❤️
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You're the best friend I go to in the middle of the night for support. Sure, it may only be a youtube video, but it's still a reassuring voice when I need it most.
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Having to separate from a complete narcissistic circle,family, friends, and the ex was very hard. I had to start from nothing and they've consistently tried to get back in,you know. Andrew you are so right that they still have ways to keep track of your life and progress. I'm glad I found this channel 💛
Thank you Aimee..🙏🙏😉💯
In a very similar boat. It's sad and painful ,but my family's life is much more peaceful and happy!
yes it really messes with ur worldview
Don't beat yourself up! It's just like the old school psychologists said, "You are just subconsciously emulating a pattern you grew up with.' Same here and I appreciate your comment so much because I'm escaping the damaged one by one of those people just like your situation. There's 7 billion people in the world. Not that I have a ton of faith in it anymore, haha! Nonetheless, we're not going to have the same damaging types getting free rein in our life anymore
@@Scott-nr2ji no, because we know what behavior to look out for
It's just really hard and scary to not have a safety net of any kind especially where I have kids you know..
If I could only describe how horribly, cruelly and shockingly my narcissist ex discarded me, it will seem like he had left me forever. However, just like how you explained, he is trying to return as if he did nothing wrong even if I have gone no contact. I blocked him but he’s finding creative ways to try to contact me and it’s disgusting. It is so pathetic. Now that I have the education to know exactly what he’s all about, there is no way in hell that I would even give him one second of my time. Thank you, Andrew! 🙏
Beautiful Kristine 💪💪💯💯
If their mouth is open, they are lying. Be careful.
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And beware the "long game." I'm not a stupid person, but I got duped. For the last time. He's going for total destruction (of me) now...And this will be the final chapter for all time.
One of the reasons the narc may not hoover again, is because he knows that you are aware of his game. So by your reaction during the seperation and no contact afterwards, he knows you are useless for him, it means they know you read them,they know you , you got it,all their games and lies ,so they do not spend too much time and strenth for hoover again,because they know there is no chance to fool us anymore. They know too by now that we know already who they are and what their game is. Thanks for the wonderful topic Andrew. Wonderful as always.
Thank you always Mani..💯🙌🙏
Could be a she as well
@@WalkrFilms Of course !!
2 years after I finally broke free from the Narc, settled in my new home and enjoying a fresh start, he turns up on Christmas morning with gifts for me and our son, I felt physically sick. He acted like nothing had happened and came out with BS about nostalgia at Christmas, this guy ruined every Christmas for 18 years! I never engaged much but it’s hard when you have a child together, I never let him in my home. Since then he’s been calling every other day and on New Year’s Day I told him not to call again because I have moved on and I don’t want him in my life anymore, I hope he takes that on board. I know he just wants to cause me pain and I sensed the envy in him too.
Sending prayers and positive energy Joanne 💯🙏🙌💯
Keep yourself safe and that baby too. You know what you are fighting against; kudos to you.
Can just imagine, especially the jealousy,,its as cold as the grave..
They return to see if they still have control over you. Everything they do is about control.
Completely true 💯💯
A Narcissist want's to control, destroy and dim another humans light ‼️💎 Starseed Scapegoat of two Narcissistic parents. ▪️🔺
Got a faux-pology,.
Nope, nope, nope.
A year of NC and he still stalks.
I have realized that he is truly disordered… although I could not see it for many years.
I don’t know if he will ever stop stalking, but I am done with him forever.
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NEVER AGAIN, NEVER!!! I HAVE PEACEFUL MIND NOW. THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR VIDEOS, ANDREW! 💖💙💜💚❤
Welcome Donna..🙏💯🙌
She text me and I didn’t answer her.😥 I pray for her. 🙏🙏
Continue to maintain your boundaries Wille..💪💪💯💯🙌🙌
Yes I will.. thanks 🙏 I did know this existed.😢 I got Real hurt with domestic violence . She hurt me . And I feel ashamed for being a man I could not do it myself.👍😥🙏🙏
My aunt fell for a second go with her narc and her ending was the saddest thing the family had ever seen. I wish she could have heard this. Powerful stuff! Thank you.
Welcome Eloise 💯🙌🙏
What happened to her?
Did he murder her?
@@MelanieP7M She suffered a nervous breakdown of course, though she stayed mentally sharp, but she turned into a shell of a woman and died in a nursing home. Her children visited when they could but her husband went on living the life of the "stud" he thought he was until he finally rode off into the sunset. She was a loving, beautiful woman, an artist, an empath for sure, and loved by many people. We've heard from Andrew some of the things narcissists can do to us so we can only imagine the hell she went through while trying to live with him. He love bombed her into a "second chance" and that was her undoing. May she rest in peace. 😇🙏
@@barbarafordham9185 Thank you for asking. I answered in a previous text.
To show you how my mind set has changed. I dreamt of her the other night. She wanted back and the beautiful person I thought I had was just wonderful. Things felt so good. In my dream, I stopped myself, saying wait, you are a narcissist! Telling myself I'm not doing this ever again. She began to cry in my dream, which she knew was my weakness. I didn't fall for it! I wished her hope that she finds love someday and I walked away. That was just a dream, but my strength was there and I'm done with her. Yes, she's forgiven, but I've got nothing to do with her.
This video is right on
Point!! Im so done with
These hoovers im not
Falling for these games!
Beautiful growth Stephen.. 💪💪🙏🙏🙌🙌💯💯
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you!
Thank you Andrew!💜💜💜
This is so important to keep in mind!
It is ALWAYS a one way street with them...take, take take! They live in lack and fear! They are energy vampires!
Since he has been out of my energy, I am stronger, lighter and actually look 10 years younger...I am in my 60s. I will never feed a vampire again!!
Beautiful message thank you Linda 💯🙏💪😊
They all told me how they had terrible childhoods and my heart melted. I've always taken care of people so that worked for them. Now that I know that I say " I'm sorry that happened to you , take good care of yourself bye bye ".
Thank you for sharing this Kyna..💯🙌🙏
They always get us with the victim crap
they keep showing up like a bad penny
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I left that narc for him to know that i had enough of him and their is no more patience or time for him or the crazy and evil, I am getting silent calls from a different number that i block!!! Never again!!! Happy to be off that rollercoaster !
Beautiful empowerment Yvonne 😉🙏💯🙌
It is so sad...when I am finally done ( after I have given chance after chance and know I have given the relationship my all, not knowing I was dealing with a narcissist) , I am just “Done”. No going back...😌♥️🙏💃
Moving forward everyday ..💯🙌☀️🙏
You will be fine. Give it TIME. I almost died, but I made it. Take it one day at a time and listen to the videos. Get out with some friends. God bless you and best wishes to you.❤️💙⚘️⚘️
Hi Andrew, I thought I was well on my healing path but had a set back. I have had no contact whatsoever for 11 months. But tonight I was missing the good times. I had to talk myself out of it. I had to remind myself that he never loved me..that I only missed the love bombing stage. That eventually I do want to love again when ready. And I immediately found you on UA-cam so you can remind me of the reality of this relationship. It really was the worst relationship I ever had. I was married before and my husband passed away 3 years ago. This Narcissistic relationship was the 1st relationship after being widowed for a year. I wasn't looking but met him when out shopping. I thought dinner was harmless but boy was I wrong!
Sending prayers and positive energy to you 💯🙌😊🙏
Think that "the good times" only existed, in order to maintain you in the relationship.. I keep saying that to myself because after I broke up with my narc, he always "reminds" me the good moments we had (?)
As I listen to his monologue, I secretly laugh, because I know is bs
Yes, I used to laugh inside when my narc would self-congratulate...telling me he's SO good to me. No, I thought..you're not!
This is so what is current experience..I was in love for a year..it ended 2 months ago..I had no knowledge that people Iike him existed..I was used and abused trying to assure him of my love..never realizing he was INCAPABLE of loving a anyone..I heeded your advise..found my inner strength..just went no contact after a some awful events ..I was progressing nicely until Valentines Day..when he reappeared looking dishuffled and indesperate need of haircut..as he tried to deny a theft of my property along with sob stories I almost felt pity ..I treated him as if he were a stranger whe he search my face for a glimpse of weakness or tears as before to no avail..today I found nude photos from him of some beautiful young lady and some he sent to her in return..what a prince..lol..for a second I wanted to react..caught myself and did not..TY..without your support and sharing your own experiences I would probably not survived this...God Bless You
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Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌☀️
I pray for her. 🙏 I can’t do it. I was going crazy at a point. Getting better with your video. Now I know. Thank you 🙏
Beautiful to hear Willie..🙏💪💯🙌
Forget their ass !Put it behind you Remember how they left you ! Leave them without supply !
It’s ugly and scary . This one look like witches went I took my blindfolded if you know what I mean I was blinded with love
Yes it's been 18 years since I broke up with my ex narc and he's still trying to make contact. Thanks for your vlogs they have helped me so much. ❤️ from Sweden🇸🇪
Welcome V&H..💯🙌🙏🇸🇪🇨🇷🙌
It's been nearly 11 years for me abd and he never found me. I changed my phone #, I moved, and I went off social media.
They just refuse to go away
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The best therapy for narcs is to just ignore them indefinitely like they don't exist. Don't block them,(if they follow you, don't follow back).Let them watch your stories on social media as you live your best life. It will hurt them to the core
Blocking is the way..
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone but the problem with blocking is that they will see that you were deeply affected by their actions to reach that conclusion. Its like a low-key win for them...... Anyway its just my opinion.
Kinda same here.. Broke up nearly 3 weeks ago (though I was trying to achieve that for months), and I have blocked him from everything but his phone number just to let him know I am not bothered and that am above all that.. (also for me to know what he is up to, because he may act dangerously) But I think is not the solution.. Everytime he calls and listen to his monologue its a huge waste of time for me.. If he continue to not use wisely his phone, I will block his number too
Oh, I fell for for it. After all I've learned, I still fell for it. Took him days to treat me like crap again. I'm glad I fell for it. I think I needed it... Think I needed one last straw to break my back. Heartbroken. Done. Blocking him. Moving forward. Thank you for this.
Welcome JSpin..💯🙌🙏
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone ❤️
I am staying strong and not tolerating it at all! I just want to be with my immediate family and other empathic people as we need to stick together in this evil world!
Beautiful Lisa..🙏🙌💯
Thank you Andrew for this education. Healing after 16 years.
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You hit the nail on the head. They are egotistic. They can't live with losing control. He used our kids to get new about me. The kids are in the middle. He only love himself. It's sad but it's reality.
I understand completely 💯🙌🙏
Haven't received the Hoover, yet... But I am to the point where I feel grateful for having had this experience, so I could learn things about myself that I needed to, in order to grow, heal, and expand. Just as we are players in their world, they are also brought into our existence for a reason. Difference is...
we are loving, compassionate, and empathetic people, and they are soulless. Feels good when you care less and less, and know if they do Hoover you, they will get no response. Much love and healing to all!❤
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I never thought it would happen to me although I really thought I knew and could trust my loyal friend. Sad to say that I still have to dodge bullets in this narc infested world. NO CONTACT... and don't looking back.
Stay strong and safe...
Beautiful message of inspiration and boundaries 💯🙌🙏
Fair warning: Never fall for a hoover. Stay strong! Thanks Andrew.
Because they have to keep their supply! They always circle back on old supply!! Why can't the narcissist move forward? It seems they always live in the past.🤔🤔🤔🤔 Silence is the best key to keep them away!
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I’m just glad I’m not getting hoovered at the moment. I’m doing ok back to on my own. I just need enough time to heal, hoping he’s busy with the new painkiller. I’m so grateful for the daily reminders and reality checks
“No Don’t Do It” 😁
Thank you Cathy..💯🙏🙌
So much truth here. I blocked the narcissist for 12 years- grew curious, and unblocked him. Within a week I received a message from him. I repeated all the old mistakes. 18 months later it’s finally over. He has cancer and his illness was always a factor in me wanting to keep contact to make sure he was ok.
Finally- I hit my breaking point. I did the “nuclear” option and contacted his wife. I couldn’t believe the relief I felt when I did it. I felt that finally I had some power. I need to keep educating myself to stay strong. Like so many, I live with guilt and anger for letting him into my life again.
Thank you for sharing this insight August..💯🙌🙏
Because I’m healed, when I got the Hoover after a month. I made it clear and funny.. I said I liked the person I initially met, but then I met the familiar spirit attached to you, and so it’s a no for me that we shall never communicate again. And have not heard from him again.
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Went no Contact (58 y/o) finally accepted the Narc, enabler, etc., would never, ever change, the false accusation and smears just kept getting worse. The last false accusation, as usual the entire family participated, I thought I'm almost 60, I have NOTHING to lose and cut the cord shaking, but blocked every single one of them, phone, email, all social media. I've flourished since, the best I've felt, probably ever. It has been painful but nothing like being in "the system" called biological family.
Thank you for sharing this Jayne 💯🙌🙏
An educated empath is the narcissist’s worst nightmare. It ain’t happening.
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It's nothing less than spiritual warfare! Going through this could have ended me, and very well would have had I not found this channel and became educated. But what a painful lesson to learn. Thank you Andrew,for lifting me up.
Welcome 🙏🙌💯
I was in a relationship for 18 months with a lady , I couldn’t understand for a while what was going on cut it short I was questioning myself all the time then I just realised I was dealing with a narcissist lady I left a few times and yes got Hoovered back in , I’ve blocked her on everything I’m out and staying strong and continue to educate myself. Thanks for the great advice 🤙
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I love the way you use plain language to describe who the narcissist is
Thank you 🙏
lt will get worse every time you go back.
Completely correct 💯💯
Thank you, Andrew, for helping us to understand.
Welcome 🙏
Recently, I happened to see one of the flying monkeys at a local store. I had never seen this person there before. There were no exchange of words.
This is good for you.. maintain your boundaries and continue to move everyday 💯🙌💪💪
Been watching marathon of your videos it has helped me processing it more with your videos. The pandemic threw me back thinking about the Narc. God really uses you to speak to me and others. Now 14 years ups and downs but I am still strong.
Thank you for sharing this Donovan..🙌💪💯🙏
NO CONTACT FOR LIFE!!!! THANKYOU ANDREW🤗❤️👊🏾
Welcome Shannon 💯💯💪💪
Damn right - you can learn and change - they can learn but can't change!
Absolutely correct 💯💯
Ha ha..😀😄Andrew you made me laugh about the sheep and wolves Lol..as my first meeting with my narc he was wearing a sheepskin coat 😂😂so a narc wolf in sheep's clothing 😂Great video on how they return 👍they sure do and think its quite normal when of course its totally ridiculous in our minds and new life we're creating..Bless you 🙏 😇💜
😂😂💯💯.. beautiful Kim.. 😂😂
Andrew, the narcissist did hoover me and I put him to work on doing home repairs. Odd jobs ect.... work work is all I gave the narcissist until he got the message that I wasn't returning to that horrible relationship . He got the message.
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Thank you Andrew! I am gaining my soul back & LIFE IS AWESOME!!
Beautiful growth J DR..💯🙌🙏
Best argument ever to resist the hoover. Many thanks !🌹
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Thanks Andrew ! I really needed this message today! Im learning through the grapevine that , this thing I was dealing with is more vile than I could have imagined! It’s really shocking! And I feel ridiculous for not seeing his true nature! Lesson learned! He always said he identified with the wolf totem ! Peace and blessings everyone here gaining knowledge 💕
Thank you Epiphany..💯🙌🙏
The sheep in wolves clothing is hilarious! It fits well actually with a couple people I know. Thanks for the laugh. And the video.
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Thank you Andrew. I no longer miss any of the narcissists. You are so right when you said that it is always about them. I pray and hope that none of them come knocking at my door! If they do I'm not answering the door!
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The Narcissist "I love you" means I love what you do for me because I also love me.
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Yep. Had that happen when I was in a new relationship, and a new state! And my son's and I went through the narcissistic cycle of his again.. and again.
Now my son's to said narcissist are young adults and I don't let him near me the cycle is finally broken. Even my son's won't see him
Thank you for sharing this Beth.. maintaining your boundaries is the path 💯🙌🙏💪💯
You are such a beautiful soul. And person . Inside and out. I can’t wrap my mind around how something like this could happen to you. It happened to me . But you are genuinely beautiful. 🙏🙏🙏
I am so grateful your videos came onto my feed today. I needed to hear this. He has come back - seriously, with packages that were accidentally left at his house. Also told me all the changes he has made, and that I was the only true love of his life, and that he is looking for the whole thing - the "happy ever after". By you saying all those words Andrew - practically verbatim, my brain has reconnected! I am finally my own again, after going through the very worst experience in my life, and I am happy. Months have gone by - 9 months and here he is. And I can't believe, after all the research I have done, that I would think, at a very weak point, "well, maybe if we get counseling". Sheesh! THANK YOU!!!! I am now on video five this evening, and not done. And I also blocked him from my phone. OK - back to my happy place!
Welcome always 💪☀️🙌🙏💯😊
Thanks Andrew!~~~
Welcome 🙏
Thank you for the strong yet compassionate message Andrew.. Your approach and delivery is nicely balanced for survivors at any stage of healing. I don't expect to ever get a real Hoover, however I've recently had times, where I thought " I'm healed enough to take a peek" but there's no way I would do it. Thank God and people like you sharing info, from the day of the discard I knew my ex was a fraud and only wanted to get far far away lol. My heart and prayers goes out to all of those who still desire the illusion ( the narc). God will break that trauma bond, and will give you truth, healing, peace. Amen
Thank you P 4:8.. I appreciate your kindness and sharing 💯🙌🙏❤️
This is free Powerful therapy one on one. Thank you so much.
Welcome 🙏
Yep. my narc unblocked and tried to hoover me. Left multiple comments on my Facebook, texts from weird numbers on my phone. She has a new supply, even... Insanity. I actually didn't respond to the texts or comments. Felt kinda good. We do have the power... Just takes fortitude and strength to use it. No contact, as much as possible.
Beautiful insight Eric..💪💪😉😉💯💯
I owe the Narcissist nothing not even respect. I wan't nothing to do with him.
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Andrew thank you from the deepest depths of my BIG heart. Having been, what I now realise, was an abusive relationship with a Covert Narcissist for the last 12 years I’ve just managed to step out of the fire with my sanity intact - only just though. But I’m healing and getting back to the strong, confident and independent woman I always was. He couldn’t break that and he knew it in the end which I think is why he discarded and ghosted me and also probably because he’d found his next victim. My recovery from the abuse is almost complete, it’s taken 3 months. It’s thanks to my beautiful friends, my own regained strength of charterer and, last but not least YOUR amazing videos giving us Empaths all your educational, kind advice and support. You’re a truly wondrous soul Andrew.Love from me and all your other followers back here in the UK🌈💜
Welcome always 💯🙏🙌🇬🇧🇨🇷🙌
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Very encouraging video, Andrew. Yes, we need to stay no contact for our own healing. New subscriber here and I like your style.
Welcome to the community JAK.. thank you for being here 💯🙌🙏☀️
just want to thank you for validating my gut wrenching heartache, I'm so grateful and happy to have found your channel
I appreciate your kindness and sharing 🙌🙏💯
Thank you brother 👍
Welcome Jonathan 💯🙌🙏
Thank you for this 🙏 it's taken me 4 years to finally leave. Me and my daughters deserve better! Still heartbroken at times. Sending peace ✌️
Welcome Jenny 🙌💯💪🙏
Awww girl
Everything you have said Andrew is 💯 true. The Narcissist is zero substance! Never will I return to my ex. I ❤ this video thank you! it’s a reminder to stay on track
Surprise: We suddendly are the best thing that has ever happened to them & they have the arrogancy to try & come back & talk about wanting to be a friend...helllo? We cannot be a fool again. Ty
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Focus on your healing, you are worth the nurturing. Thanks Andrew!
Welcome always 💯🙏🙌😊
Thank you again Andrew. You always make me feel stronger. Love and God Bless you
Welcome Denise 💯🙌🙏
Thank you, love you, Andrew, 🙏🙏🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵
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