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Great interview!!! I’m happy that you are learning Portuguese. I’m from Rio de Janeiro but living in Sweden. If you need any help…I’m here😊 By the way… I love your channel!!👏🏻👏🏻💕
I have always needed 8 hours sleep. Also, In 42 years of marriage my husband and I never slept apart. I strongly believe in couples sleeping together. I never had a problem getting a full night’s sleep all my life until he passed away 5 years ago. . Now I realize listening to this broadcast that it has to do with cortisol levels because of my husband no longer being with me. Not having him here has been stressful for me. I miss him terribly. His passing has been the most challenging circumstance I have ever gone through and I have gone through a LOT of pain and loss. We loved each other very deeply. I still love him. I am getting better and I know this is all a part of the grief journey. Blessings and peace to all who are on this journey of grief and to all who aren’t as well. We all need peace. ❤️
@@wildonez3076 thank you so much. How kind of you. We really worked hard at our marriage but it was true love. We were crazy for each other. My husband was an extraordinary man.
I’ve had chronic fatigue from past illnesses and every day I would wake up and throughout the day repeat things like “I’m so tired”, “I’m exhausted”. Then one day I decided I was going to stop telling myself that. I couldn’t bring myself to say something like “I feel well rested” but instead would say things like “I’m ready to get this day going”. It has really improved how I feel.
00:26 😰 Stress is contagious as cortisol, the main stress hormone, can leak from one person's sweat and affect others. 01:21 🧠 Our brains continue to grow and change from 25 to 65, improving higher functions like emotional regulation, problem-solving, and bias control. 03:19 💼 CEOs' stress levels can have a significant impact on their organization, and managing stress is crucial for leadership. 13:18 🤰 Hormones like cortisol and sex steroids can affect individuals' physiological responses and interpersonal dynamics, including menstrual synchronization and stress contagion. 22:08 💪 Physical exercise can help reduce stress by sweating out excess cortisol from the body. 22:21 📝 Managing stress involves strategies like aerobic exercise and journaling to reduce cortisol and negative thoughts associated with stress. 24:00 📝 Quality sleep is crucial for the brain's health and managing stress levels. Ideally, 8 hours and 15 minutes in bed is recommended for most people. 25:52 📝 The brain has a glymphatic system that actively cleanses toxins during sleep, taking 7 to 8 hours. Sleeping on your side is recommended for this process. 30:28 📝 Co-sleeping or sleeping together can promote bonding, warmth, and the release of oxytocin, enhancing emotional connections. 37:52 📝 Intuition is the result of stored wisdom and experiences in your nervous system, and it may be more readily acknowledged by women, though both men and women possess it. 44:11 🧠 Understanding Pandemic Impact: The psychological effects of the pandemic, such as isolation and loss, have not been fully acknowledged or planned for, and their long-term consequences are not well understood. 46:32 🌿 Nature's Healing: Spending time in nature has positive effects on physical and mental health, and it's essential to make time for it even as we return to our old routines. 47:27 💖 Purpose Beyond Self: Having a purpose that transcends personal gain, like volunteering or helping others, is crucial for mental health and overall well-being. 52:05 🧐 Neuro-Aesthetics: Incorporating creative activities and aesthetics into daily life, like art, music, and nature, has a profound impact on mental health, physical health, and longevity. 53:16 🔄 Embracing Ancient Wisdom: The solutions to our current challenges may lie in the timeless wisdom of our ancestors, making it unnecessary to reinvent the wheel. 01:07:04 🧠 Understanding beliefs: To address behaviors, it's crucial to dig below thoughts into the beliefs that underlie them. 01:07:48 📝 Deliberate practice: Changing behavior involves deliberate practice, replacing old habits with new ones through consistent effort. 01:09:56 💪 Three steps to change: Recognize patterns, understand consequences, and set intentions for who you want to become. 01:12:44 🧬 Generational trauma and epigenetics: Trauma can affect gene expression, but resilience and healing are possible through understanding and effort. 01:26:57 🏋️♂️ Neuroplasticity and exercise: Aerobic exercise can accelerate neurogenesis, benefiting memory and cognitive function. Weight training has different brain-related effects. 01:28:17 🧠 Visualization can lead to muscle growth, demonstrating the power of our thoughts in shaping our bodies. 01:30:01 🍇 Opt for darker-skinned foods like black beans, blueberries, and dark chocolate, as they contain antioxidants (anthocyanins) beneficial for brain health. 01:31:10 💤 Create conditions for neuroplasticity by getting enough sleep, being physically active, managing stress, and maintaining hydration. 01:33:32 🧠 Building self-esteem and confidence involves identifying negative thoughts, creating positive affirmations, and changing your inner narrative. 01:39:26 🧩 Neurodiversity encompasses a range of brain differences, and the increase in diagnoses may be due to better recognition and adaptation to the changing world. 01:49:26 🧠 Our thoughts and perceptions can have a significant impact on our physical health and well-being. 01:50:35 📏 Posture and musculoskeletal coordination can improve when individuals change their behavior to match a younger age, as shown in a study with octogenarians. 01:53:20 🗣️ The words we use can significantly affect our behavior, as seen in an experiment with medical students who walked more slowly when exposed to words associated with retirement. 01:57:38 🧘 Visualizing and expressing gratitude for your desired outcomes can shift your brain from a fear state to a trust state, facilitating personal change. 02:00:33 🎭 Overcoming limiting beliefs, especially those imposed by others, can lead to embracing one's creativity and potential for personal growth.
thank you for this!! It helps to get to the parts I need to hear most right now until I get the time to watch it fully in the next week or so (fingers crossed 🤞🏻 lol) Much appreciated❤
Listening to this it made me wonder what the world would be like if we taught our children how to manage their bodies and minds and emotions rather than some of the nonsense they get taught in school. A curriculum based on social skills, self care and resilience would change the world.
It would be Great if we could support this as a culture but as a parent one can and should take on this responsibility and not expect the school systems to do this work that begins at birth. I would support parenting and child development classes in school-- tho in the current political situation I'm certain some would attack that as well.
@@artymiss3707 I agree that children should learn this at home too but there are two major problems with that in my view. Firstly so many parents barely get to see their children because they are having to be at work to pay the bills. Kids are basically having to go into institutions such as nurseries and schools almost from birth now. They get dropped off at 8 or 9 and picked up at 5 or 6 or even later sometimes and when they get home it's time for them to go to bed. At weekends parents are exhausted and have so many chores to do. Family time is so rare. That's no criticism of parents, I'm sure that they would love to be able to spend more time with their kids but society is making it so hard to do that. My second thought is, and this, again, is no disrespect to parents but we were never brought up to do that and many of us struggle to understand how to do it for ourselves (which is why so many of us are struggling so much). I include myself in that. We were never taught so how can we teach what we don't know and understand ourselves. We are flawed ourselves as adults and as parents, we are often hurting and damaged snd don't know how to fix it. If we could focus on teaching our children these skills then they can pass it on to their children as more skilled teachers and healthier parents. It make a few generations but what a difference it would make to society. If we are open to it we could even learn to pick up these skills and learn from our children as they learn. I know it's not a realistic thought and it will never happen, it's a totally 'snowflake' idea and society doesn't want us healthy because it doesn't fit what it requires of us and the people in power need to keep us just working and making money and paying taxes etc. But imagine ehat they world would be like if we we were healthier, happier, kinder, more secure and heartfelt human beings with children growing up the same way
My parents both had terminal cancer. I quit my job, moved states and moved in with them to be their caregiver. They died 13 months apart. I was with them nearly every minute of that time. Two weeks after their deaths I broke out in hives all over my body. I had never had hives in my life. I went to the doctor and he asked if I had been stressed. I told him what I had been doing and that I was actually the least stressed I had felt in two years. He said that now my mind and body could relax it was releasing all of the emotions and stress I had been suppressing while caring for my parents. The body/mind connection is real. Edited for misspelling.
My condolences for your loss. You obviously loved them very much. What the doctor said to you was similar said to me when diagnosed with anxiety disorder. Dr said I was having a panic attack when I described what was happening to me and I didn't want to believe it "because nothing was going on" at the time the attacks occurred. I was relaxed and in class where I wanted to be or just driving my car in no "stress" at the time. But then he explained it didn't have to be happening at the time. It was a build up and symptom of stress at other times. And I was living in an abusive stressful situation, so, he was right. It's amazing what our minds and bodies are capable of for not just surviving but growing and healing as well 🙏
What I like about this show and especially Steven Bartlett is that he gives the guests a chance to speak without interrupting them. It's like a breath of fresh air.
I, too, appreciate the host's gracious and generous gift of space, acknowledgement, and offering up silence ~ in order to foster contemplation, as well as enabling guest participants to truly connect with the host's audience.
@@staywellandstrong4199 indeed! He is a phenomenal interviewer, bar none on youtube. Just noticed he mentioned Dragon's Den, which i think i saw on a TV listing so perhaps he is on a tv show to boot.!
Anyone who sais " toxins" seriously as if its science, maybe theyre grifting ...althought she surely is, i will explain if youre curious, im too tired atm Have a good day ( just wanted to write my observation somewhare)
8h sleep is being pushed everywhere and none of the podcasters challenge that idea. For example, none of the indigenous tribes that we've studied, past or present, on every continent, sleep more than 7h. Unless they're sick.
Me and my husband have slept separately A LOT over the last few years because of his snoring and problems with insomnia (now resolved). We are closer than ever. Very bonded. Sleep is so important, especially with 5 kids, if you cannot sleep because of your husband's snoring, don't hesitate to sleep alone!! It's more important to just get the actual sleep! We cuddle lots whenever around each other, and snuggle up to watch movies together on the couch, that's the main thing
There are solutions. Start by taking him to a biological or holistic dentist make sure all metals are out of mouth, root canals out and start an Ayurvedic oral health and nasal routine. Mouth taping at night, air purifier in the room, xylitol spray last thing at night.
I sleep near my two sons most nights. My boyfriend and I sleep together one night usually and every weekend. I think its great but I have been told it's bad. It's fun to know the weekend is special and we are extra romantic. I do want him in the house, though. I think I would have a hard time falling asleep if he wasn't here.
I ha e grown up with allergies and eczema and asthma as well as being chubby in the belly and face. I grew up in a dysfunctional home and this entire cortisol/stress response has helped me connect the dots on the reason I've always fought inflammation. I constantly struggle with my weight and stress management. Now I realize it's stress. Life changing podcast! Thank you!
yes you have high "ACE score" where ACE stands for Adverse Child Experiences - google, take the test and read summarised study. Which is another way of saying "betrayal trauma" & ComplexPTSD & generational trauma. Those words will help connect more dots I hope❤😊❤
How gloriously refreshing to have two curious, warm, superclever people share a great conversation! Stephen interviews empathetically! Tara responds empathetically! A lesson in connection, with countless important benefits for us Hallelujah 💐🌺
The best thing I ever did was sleep in the same bed as my babies, into childhood. I was mortified when my first born would not settle, he would cry until he vomited when I followed all the “advice” when trying to get a sleep routine ❤ I couldn’t stand the thought of him being distressed. My motherly instinct was extremely distressed upon seeing him like that and I realised that my instincts in relation to my children are right. I loved every minute of sharing a bed with my husband and two boys. I never drank and co slept and they were always safe. Now that they have left home, I’m blessed that I had those beautiful close years snuggling into my boys.
My eldest is autistic (didn't know obviously when she was a baby). She liked feeding in bed but couldn't sleep with me, she doesn't like physical touch. My younger one was in my bed until she felt ready to leave - aged 11. I don't regret a thing.
I used to love sleeping with my parents. They would read me stories and I remember my dad had one of those blankets that are always building up static electricity and after we'd turn off the lights he would rub it a bunch and then it would look like a lightning storm. I thought it was so cool. Then my younger brother came along and everyone said that I was eyeing his pacifier, but I had my own room the whole time. I would just start thinking and wondering what everyone was doing, because at that age your family is everybody. My little brothers crib was in my parents room and we'd all hang out before bedtime and I'd go to my room. There were so many times I would sneak into my parents room in the middle of the night with just a blanket and pillow and sleep on the floor beside my mom. I'm glad to have read this post, because it brought back really good memories. You both sound like great loving parents. Take care 🙏 ❤
Is it normal for parents to not sleep with their child? Infant and early childhood? I thought it was common to sleep with a baby till it's atleast like 4 5 years
Well I am so glad she got her MD and PHD because she is a very rare doctor who can make complex topics so easy to understand. And her words of wisdom give so much hope for healing and change.
@Twisted_Jokeunbiased here but can you educate me on what’s bs about her. i’m genuinely curious & not trying to be a smartass. i just really enjoy learning about every side of the “fact” so i can look at info from a unbiased perspective
@atrxespi8735 read the actual studies, I'm a weightlifter and I know study she's talking about very well, it was not increase in muscle size but strength which is a huge difference, the study was done of student athletes which is a massive difference as well that she should mention. It's normal to experience strength growth after long rest, every strength athlete will take week or 2 off before competition, you need time to regenerate. ---------- Her claims about cortisol in sweat are also mad, she just manipulates facts, sweat produced from exercise and stress is completely different, sweat produced by stress contains pheromone that makes you stressed as it's an alarm pheromone, it just let's our brain know that there's danger somewhere near us. It's disgusting that doctor, a person that should be trustworthy, is talking shit like this.
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I was married 42 yrs. I tried for yrs. sleeping alone ,it was horrible. A cat adopted me. Then during covid when the earth stood still someone abandoned a dog who had recenting weaned pups. She was terrified. Well we are now all bonded and sleep together. I have love and heartbeats again.
I sleep alone, as a Single 36 year old man. I couldnt imagine sleeping next to a snoring, constantly shifting potential partner next to me. No thanks, I'd rather sleep alone. Thank you very much.
I was wondering if animals in the bed would be a good alternative. Im glad you found some little fluffy companions. Im trying to persuade my good friend to get a pet as she is so isolated. She is anxious about being able to provide for a pet, but i think she needs one more than she realises.
@@IgorMironov-rq4yeyes this is natural thinking and feeling for those taught not to nest together as human babies, who are then taught by male separated culture to literally think alone.
Well Steve has definitely lived up to his promises. This podcast just keeps getting better and better. I watch at least one or more episodes every week day.
Dr. Tara is a brilliant educator. This was by far the most engaging, educational, inspiring, fascinating, … and every other adjective that could describe her genius, interview you have done yet. Thank you!!!
When she spoke about the importance of co-sleeping, I felt it. Because I sleep close to my husband I could sense when something was wrong with him and was able to wake up and eventually call the emergency services and help arrived in time to save his life.
Hopefully you let your babies and children also sleep with you, too? Because they are the vulnerable needy little humans. But most parents put their children away in a seperate room by themselves whereas they as grown up adults never sleep alone. I bet sudden childhood death could be prevented by not letting the little ones sleeping alone.
@@TheresaMueller Our daughter always sleeps in the room with one of us. Never in the same bed of course though, because of the risk of SIDS. We just follow the doctor guidelines for safe sleep. That is one of my fears though, for them to suddenly pass unexpectedly. Don't think I could live with it
@@TheresaMueller What a Horrible Cruel thing to say about Sudden Infant Death! You obviously have never known a parent who has experienced this tragic loss.Their grief and guilt is 1:44:33 of SIDS. It could happen to any infant born with a Propensity for it. It is a Medical condition, and could happen to any infant regardless of where or with whom they are sleeping. Please only remark on what you Absolutely Medically have Full Knowledge of. Thank you.
I could literally sit and listen to this woman ALL DAY what an incredible person you have brought onto the podcast. I feel so lucky to have been able to listen to this especially at the point in my life im at currently. We can all learn so much from Tara i think everyone in the world would benefit from listening to her. Amazing
Right, except her pushing some of the debunked "theories" as facts is complete unscientific, nonsense. Women synching periods for "for alpha males", for one 🤪🤪🤪 junk science at it's worse.
@@Thewhiteandorangeshe clearly stated that when she doesn’t know about something she looks at historical facts. It’s just a theory she is sharing based on things we know about how life worked back then.
Agreed. I find most women hard to listen to, normally because of what, when or how they say it, meaning content, timing and delivery, but Dr. Sharot is so very smart and pleasant to hear.
As a massage therapist I have been isolated in tiny stuffy rooms for hours on end with stressed out people in direct contact with their skin almost every day for the past 19 years and I have six pack abs.... Leading people to believe that stress is contagious and gives you belly fat is just going to make people feel ashamed to share their stress with others and lead to isolation and loneliness. We are all here to support each other and stress is an inevitable part of life. Sharing our struggles with the people in our lives to get feedback and support is healthy part of being human and helps us to learn and grow. If someone is truly in a downward spiral and not investing in the best version of themselves but trying to make you feel responsible for their bad decisions then a boundary is necessary to prevent that person form bringing you down. If someone is truly looking to solve a tough problem in their lives or share an unpleasant experience they have had by all means be there for them and give them your best advice and sympathy. You're not going to end up catching their stress or getting belly fat.
Thank you. And I've always appreciated the relaxation, empathy, and recuperation of resilience I've received getting stress deep in my tissue released with methodical kneading from professionals like you! ❤
Hi the reason you have this perspective is because you are a mentally strong person. We have mirror neurons that try to copy others subconsciously so the weak naive takes on other people's probs easily
@@FiladelfiaNowNo, it's not just "weak" "naive" people who take on others' stress. It can be people who care about others and take on other's pain. People who are sensitive, whose sensitivities can give them gifts that other's may not have. They can learn how to protect themselves or better yet, transmute the energy so that it doesn't hurt their bodies as much while still being just as caring. They are not weak or naive.
That might be your experience, but there have been a lot of moments in my life when someone was stressed out, and it spilled over into me. I was good at managing it and able to kind of get rid of it pretty quickly (like within a few minutes or hours), but it DOES happen. Also, I know of way more overweight ppl (with belly fat that never seems to go away no matter what they do) than fit ppl who are always stressed out and do not get decent rest. Your experiences are yours, but there are millions of ppl who experience what she explained about stress and belly fat. Plenty of them out there get stressed out just bc they’re around others who are. It’s not that complicated, and it happens often. And altho I don’t know you, I’d also venture to say it’s possible that you might not be as empathetic OR as aware of others’ feelings as some ppl are. Maybe you’re indifferent to how others feel since you’re around stressed out ppl all day when they first come in? Just a guess lol
Sleeping apart had been the BEST thing I could have ever done in my relationship. I always felt I was strange for not liking sleeping with a partner and suffered in silence for too long. I soon grew resentful of previous partners who would wake me up rolling around or breathing etc beside me. Of course I liked cuddling etc but when it came to sleep it was a definite no no. I feel closer than ever to my partner now that we don’t sleep in the same bed and I can actually get some good rest and enjoy my life feeling rested and awake in the day. I mention this not saying ‘I’m right, she’s wrong’ but to remind people some things don’t work for everyone. A credited doctor should know better than to talk in such harsh absolutes. Within our evolution and what’s ‘best’ for humans there are invariably a cohort of us who definitely do not thrive with this. I for one would be extremely miserable being forced to attempt to sleep beside a partner long term, no matter how much we loved each other, if I meant I always felt miserable and sad from lack of sleep.
Yep, we finally decided to prioritize what's best for us rather than conforming to societal norms. What irks me is that the media is calling it 'sleep divorce'-seriously, what the heck? We're happier, friskier, and more well-rested now that we have two rooms to choose from for snuggling etc. I was miserable before; my hubby is a snorer and a twitcher, and he likes to go to bed early in total darkness. I prefer a lot of covers and a cold room, he is the opposite. Weve been married forever and will stay that way because we took this initiative.
@@LGski964 yes I know there are many of us, a lot of my family and friends feel the same. I guess it’s not something you bring up in public unless you’re amongst close friends etc but I know so many couples now who sleep alone and are so much happier in their relationships. I wish more people knew they don’t have to put up with bad sleep, they don’t have to feel guilty for not liking sleeping beside their partner. Life is just so much better when I can choose when to hug, snuggle with my significant other, and knowing I can rest well alone when I feel like sleeping
Omg me too!!! I RELISH/LOVE sleeping alone! It’s my time! My ex use to tuck me in and I loved it! Unfortunately he lost his mind on 6/28/23 and strangled me to the point of almost passing out. I called the police immediately. We haven’t spoken in over 3 months now. He is always sick; mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. The few times I tried to sleep with him I didn’t sleep a wink and it was excruciating! Also, going through menopause there’s no way I could sleep with another human being! I’d literally kick them out of the bed! Lol. It’s simply too hot and too much energy! When I do sleep with someone I prefer a king size bed so at least there’s some room to not be touching! There are NO ABSOLUTES in the human experience!
I had the pleasure to attend one of her exec programs at MIT and loved it - her book "The Source - The Secrets of the Universe, The Science of the Brain" is an absolute must-read. I am navigating between science and spiritual communities and she is one of the very few scientists who identify the overlaps and alignment between these 2 modalities. A lot of scientists are completely ignorant to the spiritual side of things.
As a Christian who has prayed in the name of Jesus and seen cancer meltaway where I placed hands to pray I think a better place to start is the Bible, book of John(just yesterday I found there is a movie called Gospel of John which is the reading of the gospel of John with visuals in the background on UA-cam). I’m not saying remember your childhood religion (Jesus was constantly rebuking the religious teachings of the day that had nothing to do with him) I’m saying build a relationship with God. That’s different. The demonic is a counterfeit that tries to steal the good that God has and lead people ever so slightly down the wrong path. What does John 14 and 1 Corinthians 14 say?
@@-Collin I work with scientists daily and unless things can be codified and logically explained grounded in what science knows to date they tend to put it off as "some new-age stuff". Oddly enough both sides speak to some of the same phenomena but just use different words and language for it. I think the world in general would be better off in being open to describing the same thing in different ways and that still being true :-)
@@SRose-vp6ew Laying on of hands is not just a religious practice. Body practitioners also heal (I'm one of them) with Reiki, kinesiology, Quantum Touch, therapeutic touch, polarity & on & on. Those can be done by anyone of any religious beliefs or background. Be well...
My mother died from COPD. After she died I researched and came across an article on a medical website that said chronic stress can harden the tissues in the lungs leading to permanent damage. And she was so stressed much of the time. I also realised later how lonely she must have felt due to one circumstance and another. 😢 I do believe that loneliness leads to a constant state of what I would call “Quiet Stress”. Just a personal thought.
It’s sad to read you found out too late to help your mother not be so lonely. Is your father still around? Your grandparents? Other relatives? Close friends? How have you changed your routine/life to help them not feel so lonely? Don’t let your newfound knowledge go to waste.
My wife and I have been together for 11years. 10 1/2 of those years we slept together. Through that time attaining quality sleep was a struggle due to our starkly contrasted sleeping styles, no matter how big the bed or how much we tried. This also stressed our marriage. 8 months ago we moved into a new home and decided to try sleeping in our own rooms. Since then not only has our quality of sleep DRASTICALLY improved but also our marriage and bonding and closeness! We kiss each other good night every night and good morning every morning, that has never changed. Our quality of happiness in our marriage is so much better because we now can sleep peacefully. So I respectfully disagree with NEEDING to sleep together. We are all unique and we all have our own needs and individual requirements due to how we were raised which affects us neurologically, physically and emotionally. My suggestion is to test your marriage sleeping situation as we did and see what works best for your UNIQUE relationship.
I believe what she is saying is a generalized statement for masses.. what u have experienced is an exceptional situation . Thanks for sharing cz sometimes we are good sleeping together but at rimes we need space.
@@naokoye2734I’m a lady and I sleep alone and I absolutely love it! And it hasn’t changed my relationship with my husband at all. We all need some space.
I agree with this. Me and my wife of 23 years sleep apart because we both sleep differently. She likes the fan pointing right at us. That actually bugs me and hurts my throat sometimes. Lol, we are happy and our sex life is of quality and enough for our ages. I'm certain the quality is much better for the both of us at this age. Im 43 and she is 45.😢
She’s a true gem. Thank you for letting her finish her sentences and not pushing, rushing her while she talked and not trying to add something to everything she said (like some others did)It was truly amazing to watch your conversation with her. #weneedmoretara
This was an amazing interview and the best 2 hours I’ve spent on UA-cam in years. She is clearly brilliant and he is a wonderful interviewer. Well done.
As a brown femme learning about neuroplasticity and creating the life of my dreams, I feel so inspired to see Dr. Tara Swart on this podcast and doing the amazing work she does. Thank you for having her and all that you do to share modern wisdom 🙏🏽
I’m 82, and was widowed in 2017. I’m sleeping better mostly now. But I was caregiver for my mother from 2002 to 2010, then my husband got ill and I cared for him from 2012 to 2017. But I’ve gained weight all over. Ugh! But I think Im okay being alone. Loving your podcast though thank you.
Yes...we all entrain with others in some way. For a happy person being around a chronically stressed person can become very detrimental weighting down a person into depression. All emotions have frequencies, high and low.
"people who focus on what they want don't typically get what they want and people who focus on what they have to offer typically get what they want". Really profound.
Thank you for this podcast. In 2017 I had a brain aneurysm and stroke and when I woke up in the hospital I said to myself {I love myself, I forgive myself, I heal myself) Long story short I believe that helped in my healing process.
I had a NED due to a sadden respiratory stop. Alone in the house. I saw myself that I was accompanied by a " being" toword a field of light, and I looked back over my left and I saw many folders with all my projects, and I was telling to myself:"I don't need them many more..." But that being sent me back, saying, "You have a lot of work to be done. I caught my breath, brething heavily. A year or so later, I had a stroke. The second night in the hospital, I heard a strong voice from Up Right toward Left down, saying: " Don't touch my child!!!!" The third day I was home working in the garden ... very little weakness on my left side. ALWAYS TRUST G O D. 💯 Keep up the good faith❤😂😊
I just stumbled upon this video, and if there’s any possibility that either the speaker or the interviewer may see this message, I just want to say thank you. Intelligent, though provoking content! Wholesome, nothing woke, or inflammatory. No virtue-signaling, no posturing, no propaganda…and a refreshing absence of ego from either of you. Simply a beautiful conversation between two earnest hearts. And as a bonus, I particularly loved that both of you spoke about and honored your partners. Simply beautiful. I learned a lot! Thank you
She mentions unconscious bias, however. An idea whose attributed studies have all been thoroughly discredited as presenting bogus conclusions but is still used to push woke ideology. Be warned and skeptical.
Same here, I stumbled across this. I've been going through some stuff lately mentally and this has gave me so much food for thought and so much action I need to make to realign myself. I was on the right path but slipped off and this podcast has just so brilliantly laid out my pathway to sort my sh** out again but even better this time 🙏🙏🙏
The bit about feeling safe enough to enjoy items of beauty really resonates with me. Literally just today I was watching the sunset and thought about what I was doing last year at this time and the year before. I remember thinking I don't remember certain things about my surroundings during this time. It was because I was leaving my husband last year and the year before I was fighting him and trying to figure a way out of the mess. This past month has marked a time where the toxic people are mostly out of my life and I can truly enjoy my 3 acres, grass, trees, sunrises and sunsets in relative peace and safety at least for now. In addition to that, I have time to listen to these podcasts and have some tools to tackle the cortisol! I have learned so much from these people and conversations.
Me too! Thank you for sharing. For me, it is further confirmation that I did the right thing and the sunrises and sunsets have become beautiful companions.
This was amazing. I am a 66 year old woman pondering retirement and all things related. After listening to this episode, I realized that while I have lived… what I want to do is dedicate thought, energy, practice and visualize HOW I want to live my remaining years, this is not a decline but a rebirth and celebration of sorts. I joke that I am still strong, feisty, strong and youthful ( as though those attributes are waning). I realize my perspective must be they ARE me and I want them to continue to define me.
so happy for you the journey is beautiful ❤ i’m 43 an im on the journey been here about 4 years an still holding on i pray when i reach your age im able to have found the happiness i search for ❤an living it with all love 💕 keep going
I am65 and have lived a very full life I am male never had children but I see the coming years as a adventure. As I age I have learned graduate for each day
Regarding reframing our words instead of saying “I have to” I say “I get to” which feels so much lighter. Also, when I feel stuck in any situation I like to ask myself “what else is possible?” And/or “how does it get any better than this?” These questions create a lot of space for me. Trusting this can be supportive for someone out there ❤ I found this entire podcast so juicy and informative! Thank you 🙏🏼 excited to share with others.
I find your choice of words amusing and provoking. You found “this podcast so juicy” is well descriptive. I’d like to add, that it was also obtainable juiciness! it wasn’t making a mess where I lost possession of it. It was fully comprehensible 🙂
Covid I sang on starmaker ❤ once I sang 14 hours no. Stop singing helped me thru covid x starmaker rockssss mojothepyruttarrr is I add me il sing wiv ya arrr❤
My purpose is to write ✍️ stories to educate the youth on saving the planet, Tubular Dudes my 1st book will be free ,pirates good v evil mojothepyrutt versus captain Nikodemus arrr to be sure to be sure ❤ lots more books 📚 done and a coming along ❤
I was 58 years old when I finally cried over the death of my mother 48 years ago, and the death of my father ten years ago. It was prompted by the death of my best friend of 16 years-a dog. I cried like my survival depended on the universe hearing it. The catharsis was completely unexpected and incredible. It was like an out of body experience. I still don't completely understand it, but I feel like a new person. I still miss my buddy.
Sometimes we need something very simple and pure, like the relationship to a dog, to find the point of weakness in us, we can let pass and accept. As soon as we open up to such feelings, there is a good chance, that we can't lock ourselves up against all the other true and deep feelings inside of us and so maybe they will start to find their way out and that mostly very loud and long. I'm very happy that you got to that point!
There is so much trauma.. I have had a similar experience. I feel like I've regressed back into childhood. Like I'm learning to crawl for the first time.
I think this is my favourite conversation of them all, and I love a lot of them! The amount of useful information she covered was immense. I found her super inspiring, relatable, engaging. The way she explained everything was easy to understand. I will be reading her books and listening to her podcast without doubt. Well done Steven, another one smashed out of the park!! I love Diary of a CEO and don't worry, I'm subscribed on everything :)
This woman is creative in a very rare way - she uses a large collection of hard-won tools to touch and sculpt and paint the human mind in a way that creates potential for better life. This is god level creating. Thank you for your extremely powerful interview skills that make space for such people to express themself. So thankful for this experience.
I want to say that Dr Tara Swart is an excellent speaker. She pulls information together so well. I can clearly hear the doctor in her- she has so much information and she connects it all so well into whats happening- why- and the practical ways you can help your life. I really like this approach to information. Thank You.
Im a male INFJ. I trust intuition above all else. 99% of the time It's proved to be right in my life. I dont always get a gut feeling about something though. Usually in a situation of danger or truth and lies.
One of the best life changing podcasts I've heard. I'm 46, I wish I'd heard this as a younger person, but it's not too late for me to rewire my brain, amazing news! Clear and practical information that I will use now for the rest of my life!!!
This has been a most interesting, engaging, inspiring and exciting conversation! Definitely in my top 5 to date! There were SO many take-aways that I will have to listen AGAIN! TY. My neice asked, "how do you find time to listen to a TWO hour talk"... I told her that I do mindless activities: laundry, put on make-up, curl/straighten hair, clean/tidy house or use cardio equipment (i.e. exercising). And oftentimes, I need to pause and replay because I have 4 teens in an active house. I hope that helps someone else...
Steve, I consume copious amounts of UA-cam content, and this is the first time I've subscribed to a channel. Your guest curation is second to none, I'm constantly blown away by their insights and I can't thank you enough for asking these questions we are all thinking. Please keep up the great work and thank you!
My daughter was diagnosed with ADHD at 5. Afterwards, it was a constant struggle with therapy, counseling, hospitalizations, etc. but nothing really changing until now (middle school). In a time when kids are said to become hormonally unstable she has mellowed out DESPITE the fact that we stopped medication and therapy bc of the pandemic. But guess what this podcast made me realize? As soon as she hit middle school she became HEAVILY involved in the arts. You name it: chorus, orchestra, drawing, writing and she’s actually VERY talented. Not until this episode did I make this connection and now I’m awestruck and humbled that something we just stumbled into could be the real solution. Im so thankful for this podcast and I’m certainly about to be a fan of everything Dr. Tara Swart!
Co sleeping, eye contact, touch, laughing all just innately make us feel good is what I gather from what she’s said so far. And this helps me feel better because recently I’ve been examining why I want to feel a connection with ppl, a relatability, safe, desired. So much so that I’ve distanced myself in a way from things that have to do with ppls approval. It has its benefits because I’m learning self soothing but this helps to know that it just is a feeling. Thank you!
I find it refreshing that people still sit down and have stimulating conversations where everyone grew and bonded in a beautiful ways.There's hope in humanity.The care for ones self as well as empathy for someone else's growth is also extending out to the vibration in the world.Healing.
I admire the intelligence of Tara, her calm demeanor and your thoughtful questions. You are a brilliant interviewer Steven…I love how your brain works! By far you are the best, keep up the great content.😊
She is spot on about grief, i unexpectedly lost two close ppl in my life while going through lockdown and trying to recover from bc treatment , had to pack the family sell up and move interstate to deal with my grief hit rock bottom to finally submerge and to begin to grieve in a healthy way and finally have goals that I would love to achieve. nature and sea change has been my therapy. I need to read her book 💕
Wishing you the very best. I understand grief all too well. You’re absolutely right about nature and being near/at the Sea! I’m still at the beginning. Anyways, I wanted to wish you the very best. You are not alone. ❤
I **LOVE** this woman. I agree with her: we can all start with ourselves. I don't rely 100% on the Internet to live. I walk whenever I can just to get outside but also to feel my body alive and alert in itself. No machines. She is FANTASTIC.
This is the real podcast. The one which pushes you to hear more and more at the same time allow you to take a pause and think about it. The Way Steven asks his doubts and curiosities so humbly makes me feel like Iam having a real time conversation with them at the same time. Felt so good❤️ And Steven your selection of Guests is just Incredible! Excited for more!
She mentions unconscious bias, however. An idea whose attributed studies have all been thoroughly discredited as presenting bogus conclusions but is still used to push woke ideology. Be warned and skeptical.
watching this with Fibromyalgia (cortisol overloaded nervous system) .. Breath of fresh air to hear a Dr preaching and putting the truth out there. Look after each other folks. Love, movement, sleep, partnerships, community. ❤
Dr. Tara is the most CREATIVE woman, using her knowledge and high character to CHANGE the world… much more impactful than being an actress!! I am truly blessed by this interview, and THANK YOU for interviewing her with the pertinent and broad reaching real-life important questions!!! Your podcasts are VERY ORGANIZED… and YOU are organized… it helps so many of us… on the house or office organization, just do 10 minutes at a time and be gracious with yourself. Thank you. THANK you. Thank YOU for being the man you are, inspiring us with your amazing interviews!!
One of the most profound things she said that resonated with me was. “I don’t live like that” & “I’m careful with who’s in my tribe” Man that helped me on multiple levels! Actually something I’ve been in prayer over came out in this video! Good is good and I truly enjoy listening to this dr speak she is incredibly wise.
This entire introduction is what I said to my partner, whilst driving yesterday!!!! stress IS CONTAGIOUS!! So the conversations we have make us more susceptible to taking it on. We must be careful - there is life and death in the power of the tongue. As well as proximity to someone who is stressed! Can't wait to finish watching this!!!! Love this podcast!
Of course it is! IT is what has been thrown at us from every angle over the past 3 years. The powers that shouldn’t be gave us “ a summer vacation “ to reevaluate their strategy. FUCK THEM AND THEIR DIVIDE AND CONCUR STRATEGY! The heart attacks didn’t come from stress, they came from the nazi injections that most allowed through fear to be injected into the masses. Wake up. Stand up. No more! WE ARE MANY they are FEW! We have the numbers and ability to claim back our constitution and land. The question is why is no one who has a voice telling this TRUTH! Every one else can fuck off. SO BE IT DONE. The only way out of this is walking through. 💚
I've realized that when I speak with this other friend of mine, who constantly thinks the whole world is against her, the conversation drains me emotionally. I don't look forward to conversing with her because I get stressed.
@@DementiaCaregiversCorner you are in control of what you will allow in your space. When you no longer accept others to contaminate your space, they will accept you or disappear. You hold the power . Those who leave were never meant to stay. Level up. Its a hard lesson for us and a weight lifted. Freedom is beautiful.
@@slcoly1 I am slowly learning that, I am getting there. I've also realised that since i am putting it out there to her that there are certain topics that I would rather not talk about, it seems like we have nothing to talk about anymore, if you know what i mean...Thank you very much
@@DementiaCaregiversCorner heart fully I know what you mean. It’s happening all around me. We are learning to stay in love not in acceptance. Its a hard way, constantly being scrutinized and held accountable for who we have become. In a world with no accountability and acceptance of anything goes is “ the way “ We are in for the long haul. I flex every day to my children and husband to remind them what strength looks like! ITS HARD! Stay strong in this battle that will not be won with weapons, it will be won by keeping your mind , your CROWN. You will.
I'm 65 and mistaken for my 30's...I say no to negative people and situations. I'm always challenging myself in small ways. I love everything shared here today. Thank you 💯 🥰💐🙏🏻💛🌿🌻🌿
I believe it, I am in my 50's and have still been asked for I.D. a few times, for buying a bottle of wine at Aldi. They said they have to ask if you look under 30yrs. ... Alkaline electric foods can see wrinkles and grey hair reverse.
@@nicolesawyer7117 byyy the way, it's not actually socially normal to toss out the witchcraft idea since one it's discriminatory and two it sounds idiotic! Being a troll like that is really being someone who is by definition a burden to society. Just sayin'. (i ain't socio-politically correct, and on top of this, u might be best off not voting or breeding, for the benefit of the rest of us.)
yep. I'm a man in my early 50's. Pandemic hit and killed my two dear elder friends who were also my brain-trust and also like a comedy-trust, so to speak. Since my early 40's i realized suddenly how toxic some ppl i'd known forever, were rapidly becoming (the men in particular). Had to cut most of them off! It's stunning to see the changes in ppl over time, and how vulnerable some are to socio-political trends etc, namely men, regardless of political orientation (tho mostly rightwing) showing increasingly conservative beliefs with age (in a very pathetic and bad way)
Fascinating conversation. I'm 80 and was, of course, particularly interested in that control study of 80-year-olds (near the end of this video). I enjoy good health and expect to continue doing so, despite a few aches and pains I didn't have (or notice?) when I was younger. The problem is, my peer group is very focused on the failure of their bodies and talk about their "bad knees," and "getting my hip replaced," and other medical problems all the time. I call it "the organ recital" and try to steer clear of it as much as possible. This video has reinforced my doing that. So thanks! 😊
Peer group is just entering in a mental state where they expect and suffer from health problems. My advice is don’t get “infected “ with these friends mindset and make friends with younger people who appreciate your wisdom and don’t obsess about health issues
I loved this episode! This lady is very wise and real.. I could listen to her speaking all day, very well spoken and can explain things very clearly and in an interesting way. She is well connected to her soul.. what an amazing person and a gift to the world 🥰
What I learned from this interview is that we all need to teach our children that language is EVERYTHING. This way, we can rebuild a new future society that values self-improvement ❤️🙏🧿
I just found this channel, and I absolutely love the energy of the man interviewing. What a warm, grounded, and non-ego based male. What a lovely person. I really learned a lot from this interview. I've never heard of Tara before this but thoroughly enjoyed her beautiful voice and calm demeanor. ❤️ Best 2 hours of my day today. Thank you both. 😊
@@noahghost4476exactly. Why is it always intellectual “Females” that gotta adopt using this terminology in protest of non-intellectual guys. Like… I know you don’t want to see the hypocrisy in you saying “I do it because they do it” but the generalization implication I identify as equally stupid from both genders. (Yes there are two 😂). Only socially awkward or disruptive guys say “females” in context like this, That’s who you’re parodying. Then there’s the other archetype that just goes “there’s nothing wrong with it, I’m not implying anything”. The “totally not-holier than thou” act works on nobody… regardless of your gender. The “Not” backhanded compliment at men speaks volumes of the priorities of the comment about this video. You got baited
@@LucyBullwhip every human thinks this way and that isn't projecting, that is a fact. Ignorance and manipulation is always the tools of choice for the less secure and btw you've just shown your self
It breaks my heart to hear how important sleeping next to someone can be to your over all health, but we’re expected to have our babies and children sleep by themselves in their own room.
I haven't said a word for the last two hours and I am pretty sure I just went through ten years of therapy... Super eye opening episode. Thank you for this Steven and Tara!
19:55 it's not exercise or eating better but going to the root cause behind the cortisol. This explains a lot. 22:00 skin problems 22:15 the solution is either to sweat the cortisol out or journaling your thoughts out so that you stop turning in circles inside your mind.
This is far and above in my now number of years THE most beautiful, powerful emotionally earthmoving piece of information and time well spent I have ever experienced. I sobbed at parts and felt empowered at the same time. Tara is beyond brilliant , yes a ray of light that can change the world- along with your brilliant way of asking and listening . I never miss an episode. Many, many thanks.
I couldn't have said it better ❤ You two are amazing at giving others answers. And I felt opened and freed. I just learned this year that my challenged math skills have a name...Dyscalculia! I am in my 60's and felt stupid for not understanding math ever. I got thru it enough to get in College, but almost as soon as I finished the last problem, it was all forgotten. I twist two numbers around the majority of time, both writing or saying them. Usually the first two. Thank you for ripping my self imposed "label" off! ❤
The best podcast I’ve ever come across. It’s long and I had zero intention of watching it all, just had it on while in the gym but it grabbed me with both hands and I watched intently until the end and even saved it to watch later again. This is coming from someone who’s watched 1000’s of hours of podcasts. Also headed over to Tara’s channel to subscribe and binge some more. So interesting, happy days🎉
That's a big one. I'm a biomed scientist in recovery from alcohol. The way the nervous system overfires when you lift the suppressant of alcohol from it without drugs like librium or benzodiazapines to bring you safely off alcohol and your nervous system to gradually get back to normal is VERY SCARY to experience. I didn't fit but I know plenty of people who have, and also with not that much alcohol taken away and not necessarily drinking non stop for weeks either. Some people can have a seizure after just one week of far less than a bottle of spirits a day! This lady is not an expert in alcohol or a neurologist, she's an ex psychiatrist with research in neuroscience. There are many many more fields of medicine where doctors are far more qualified and learned about alcohol
Going into surgery for cancer & I prayed that If I prepared myself like I was training for My past marathons - by eating healthy like I was while training & exercising. I am So glad I found this channel because I want to be as “mind - ready” going into this “ASAP -found -cancer! Working and still going to drs appointments have kept me calm & I haven’t had fear, anxiety nor sadness. I feel humorous books & some tv shows are good. Blessings ❤❤❤❤🙏
I can't help but think of how much of a better place our world would be if people just sat down and tried to understand each other like Steven does. Exceptionally empathic coordination and prodigious relativity seeking; Bravo, and I look forward to your future works.
It would be really nice if people would be christ like. I mean, he was the greatest man who lived on the earth. He said an example for people to follow. If only people did not go off to war and did what he said by loving your neighbor, then we would have no problems such as what's happening in the gaza.
I don't disagree that it would be good if people were more Christ like. However, you do realize that the Palestinians have had their land occupied for like 75 years? Imagine an army iof troops murdering a bunch of villages around you, and you had no one to aid you??? T
I have fought in the streets and professionally for many years.. i have this bond in both professionally and in the streets… a real un seamingly unbreakable bond!! Ty for this
I was married 22+ years (to a narcissist). I now know why he didnt like to sleep in bed with me; had TOO many other partners! I wish i knew about narcissism before him! I wasted most of my life.😢 i enjoyed ALL of your information and conversations. Cant wait to hear more from you. It is hard to find someone that speaks clearly w/o the overuse of "like". My ears and brain immediately shut down with that.
Yes taking a hot bath with Epson salts and Essential Oils is crucial. I am a massage therapist and while I was working up in the north United States before I move south to retire, every morning I would have to soak in hot tub to release all the negativity that I picked up from my clients the afternoon and evenings before. I was too tired to do it when I came home at night. But it certainly made me feel healthy and optimistic and wanting to work and doing what I love in spite of the negative impact you can create on the human body. Thank you thank you thank you From the depths of my heart for posting this podcast. I have never been part of the herd and it created a lot of loneliness but I had to follow my heart my mind and my gut as soon as I could in early adulthood. I am best around free spirits and free thinkers because we all encourage each other and help each other. I miss that. I don’t have that here in the south of the United States. Living in the south is like living in another country.. Money can be very freeing experience and enable you to grow faster and better if you use it to enhance your knowledge and wisdom and you give it out to others so they may too prosper. ❤
I like this lady. She makes a lot of sense. We are energy and energy can repel or attract. If someone is negative and stressed or upset you can feel it. Or if someone is happy and or confident or comforting you can feel it. Their are unseen forces at work everywhere. The universe is so much more then most believe. 😊
What a worthy and wonderful 2 hours with Dr Tara Swart! I feel lucky to have witnessed this conversation and have learned so much from it! Well done Steven for continuing to nurture this platform with your tapestry of interesting guests so they can share their journeys, experience and insights with the rest of us! Thank you and keep doing what you're doing! ✨
“People who focus on what they want don’t typically get what they want. People who focus on what they have to offer typically get what they want.” - Steve Bartlett
I think the concept of feeling safe when out in nature expands to our relationship with others as well. A perfect example of this is the universal overall feeling of safety and trust with others near you also participating in the same type of activity as you. When camping, for example, people commonly are not overly worried about their belongings being stolen from your tent, which obviously can't be locked. A feeling of comradery prevails.
Great example, of a group of strangers abiding to an often unwritten social contract of behavior, to make a situation livable and safe for all people in that group.
That doesn't always apply, sadly...in a small community there is often one unruly, noisy individual who spoils the living experience for all the others, like playing loud muzak at 3am, for example😢
Yeah, because first rule of going into the woods is to go with someone/people you trust to not leave you buried there 😂 "Circle of trust"😂 comes in handy 👍
After a brain hemorrhage that destroyed my optic nerve on the right, would explain to me why it was so easy for their father to alienate alienate me since 2010. Their father was/is an extreme narcissist (another podcast), and imposed a lot of suffering. I've been searching for what went wrong and what I can do about it to reconcile with my children. This is a very important piece of that puzzle. Thank you
The mind and brain. Never to be underestimated. Two people in a wheelchair post stroke; the one who only thinks about exercise, has less muscle wastage than the one who doesn’t. I understand all about stress - I have chronic illness through burnout. My body was in survival mode for years. Stress is a killer. Fact. Thank you for doing this x
I read 13% muscle gains was measured from weight lifters just imagining weight training hard for two weeks wtf!? and 6weeks in a cast un-used for 6weeks withers to weak n puny😮 mind blown must see myself stretching, swimming, exercising, hiking, skydiving, weight training hard, and doing yoga😂❤on roof
I’ve been 95% bedbound with severeME & I still have muscles & learning this I realise that when I think about things I wish I could still do I visualise myself doing it when I’m thinking about it rather than getting morose and getting upset depressed etc. I’ve trained my brain to think like this because I realised how much energy my brain burns so I had to learn how to minimise emotional stress & other stresses.
I could listen to Tara all day, every day. Such a beautiful spirit and an intelligence. She has a talent of sharing her immense knowledge in a way that is easy to understand. Her beauty radiates from deep within. I would love to spend time in her presence. I am grateful for this episode :)
Thank you Dr. Tara Swart for such a wonderful discussion on stress and the mind-body connection. I connected with the part talking about post-pandemic & how we need to address our mental health & not sweep it under the carpet - ie connect with others and also volunteer. There's so much we can learn from other people and from our ancestors. I found lots of little gold nuggets through the whole interview. Thank you Steven for another amazing podcast/video!!
Thank you Tara for sharing your story with us. If you enjoyed this conversation could you do us a favour and HIT that like button on the video! Helps us a lot ❤ share your favourite part of the convo below 👇🏾
where the f*ck are the bookmarks????? Are you getting lazy with 3.39 mln subs.????????? 😉
Can anyone give me advice on how to make better UA-cam videos?
Done ! Amazing guest. I really appreciate your follow up questions! They are natural & necessary! Thank you!!!
Great interview!!!
I’m happy that you are learning Portuguese.
I’m from Rio de Janeiro but living in Sweden.
If you need any help…I’m here😊
By the way…
I love your channel!!👏🏻👏🏻💕
I listen to Jordan Peterson, Triggernomatry, PBD, and others. Your content is great, and I have enjoyed your videos as well.
I have always needed 8 hours sleep. Also, In 42 years of marriage my husband and I never slept apart. I strongly believe in couples sleeping together. I never had a problem getting a full night’s sleep all my life until he passed away 5 years ago. . Now I realize listening to this broadcast that it has to do with cortisol levels because of my husband no longer being with me. Not having him here has been stressful for me. I miss him terribly. His passing has been the most challenging circumstance I have ever gone through and I have gone through a LOT of pain and loss. We loved each other very deeply. I still love him. I am getting better and I know this is all a part of the grief journey. Blessings and peace to all who are on this journey of grief and to all who aren’t as well. We all need peace. ❤️
It's so beautiful to to know that a love like that could still exist!!
My condolences, I hope you find solace, comfort and rest in this new chapter 💕.
What was the keys to your beautiful marriage?
@@wildonez3076 thank you so much. How kind of you. We really worked hard at our marriage but it was true love. We were crazy for each other. My husband was an extraordinary man.
@@mariahatthemoment gosh! How dear of you to say that. Thank you. Blessings ❤️
I’ve had chronic fatigue from past illnesses and every day I would wake up and throughout the day repeat things like “I’m so tired”, “I’m exhausted”. Then one day I decided I was going to stop telling myself that. I couldn’t bring myself to say something like “I feel well rested” but instead would say things like “I’m ready to get this day going”. It has really improved how I feel.
Thank you for sharing this! 🙏🏻❤ I've dealt with chronic fatigue since my preteens and I am going to use your technique. Thank you again. ❤
Power of suggestion ❤
This is amasing. Hope you tested yourself for irons, thyroids , etc
Thank you for sharing
Thanks for sharing
00:26 😰 Stress is contagious as cortisol, the main stress hormone, can leak from one person's sweat and affect others.
01:21 🧠 Our brains continue to grow and change from 25 to 65, improving higher functions like emotional regulation, problem-solving, and bias control.
03:19 💼 CEOs' stress levels can have a significant impact on their organization, and managing stress is crucial for leadership.
13:18 🤰 Hormones like cortisol and sex steroids can affect individuals' physiological responses and interpersonal dynamics, including menstrual synchronization and stress contagion.
22:08 💪 Physical exercise can help reduce stress by sweating out excess cortisol from the body.
22:21 📝 Managing stress involves strategies like aerobic exercise and journaling to reduce cortisol and negative thoughts associated with stress.
24:00 📝 Quality sleep is crucial for the brain's health and managing stress levels. Ideally, 8 hours and 15 minutes in bed is recommended for most people.
25:52 📝 The brain has a glymphatic system that actively cleanses toxins during sleep, taking 7 to 8 hours. Sleeping on your side is recommended for this process.
30:28 📝 Co-sleeping or sleeping together can promote bonding, warmth, and the release of oxytocin, enhancing emotional connections.
37:52 📝 Intuition is the result of stored wisdom and experiences in your nervous system, and it may be more readily acknowledged by women, though both men and women possess it.
44:11 🧠 Understanding Pandemic Impact: The psychological effects of the pandemic, such as isolation and loss, have not been fully acknowledged or planned for, and their long-term consequences are not well understood.
46:32 🌿 Nature's Healing: Spending time in nature has positive effects on physical and mental health, and it's essential to make time for it even as we return to our old routines.
47:27 💖 Purpose Beyond Self: Having a purpose that transcends personal gain, like volunteering or helping others, is crucial for mental health and overall well-being.
52:05 🧐 Neuro-Aesthetics: Incorporating creative activities and aesthetics into daily life, like art, music, and nature, has a profound impact on mental health, physical health, and longevity.
53:16 🔄 Embracing Ancient Wisdom: The solutions to our current challenges may lie in the timeless wisdom of our ancestors, making it unnecessary to reinvent the wheel.
01:07:04 🧠 Understanding beliefs: To address behaviors, it's crucial to dig below thoughts into the beliefs that underlie them.
01:07:48 📝 Deliberate practice: Changing behavior involves deliberate practice, replacing old habits with new ones through consistent effort.
01:09:56 💪 Three steps to change: Recognize patterns, understand consequences, and set intentions for who you want to become.
01:12:44 🧬 Generational trauma and epigenetics: Trauma can affect gene expression, but resilience and healing are possible through understanding and effort.
01:26:57 🏋️♂️ Neuroplasticity and exercise: Aerobic exercise can accelerate neurogenesis, benefiting memory and cognitive function. Weight training has different brain-related effects.
01:28:17 🧠 Visualization can lead to muscle growth, demonstrating the power of our thoughts in shaping our bodies.
01:30:01 🍇 Opt for darker-skinned foods like black beans, blueberries, and dark chocolate, as they contain antioxidants (anthocyanins) beneficial for brain health.
01:31:10 💤 Create conditions for neuroplasticity by getting enough sleep, being physically active, managing stress, and maintaining hydration.
01:33:32 🧠 Building self-esteem and confidence involves identifying negative thoughts, creating positive affirmations, and changing your inner narrative.
01:39:26 🧩 Neurodiversity encompasses a range of brain differences, and the increase in diagnoses may be due to better recognition and adaptation to the changing world.
01:49:26 🧠 Our thoughts and perceptions can have a significant impact on our physical health and well-being.
01:50:35 📏 Posture and musculoskeletal coordination can improve when individuals change their behavior to match a younger age, as shown in a study with octogenarians.
01:53:20 🗣️ The words we use can significantly affect our behavior, as seen in an experiment with medical students who walked more slowly when exposed to words associated with retirement.
01:57:38 🧘 Visualizing and expressing gratitude for your desired outcomes can shift your brain from a fear state to a trust state, facilitating personal change.
02:00:33 🎭 Overcoming limiting beliefs, especially those imposed by others, can lead to embracing one's creativity and potential for personal growth.
thank you for this!! It helps to get to the parts I need to hear most right now until I get the time to watch it fully in the next week or so (fingers crossed 🤞🏻 lol) Much appreciated❤
Nice! Tks
Thank you so much for this 😊
Thank you❤
Thank you kindly 🙏 🎉😂❤.
I keep coming back to Diaries of CEO because the interviewer doesn't interrupt his brilliant guests. I appreciate that so much!
Plus he really does his assignment first by reading his guests' books! Such a wonderful man
Listening to this it made me wonder what the world would be like if we taught our children how to manage their bodies and minds and emotions rather than some of the nonsense they get taught in school. A curriculum based on social skills, self care and resilience would change the world.
I highly agree with you.
Agreed. However, the oligarchs and governments don't want people with healthy minds and bodies.
That is a lovely sentiment and I fully agree with you.
It would be Great if we could support this as a culture but as a parent one can and should take on this responsibility and not expect the school systems to do this work that begins at birth.
I would support parenting and child development classes in school-- tho in the current political situation I'm certain some would attack that as well.
@@artymiss3707 I agree that children should learn this at home too but there are two major problems with that in my view. Firstly so many parents barely get to see their children because they are having to be at work to pay the bills. Kids are basically having to go into institutions such as nurseries and schools almost from birth now. They get dropped off at 8 or 9 and picked up at 5 or 6 or even later sometimes and when they get home it's time for them to go to bed. At weekends parents are exhausted and have so many chores to do. Family time is so rare. That's no criticism of parents, I'm sure that they would love to be able to spend more time with their kids but society is making it so hard to do that.
My second thought is, and this, again, is no disrespect to parents but we were never brought up to do that and many of us struggle to understand how to do it for ourselves (which is why so many of us are struggling so much). I include myself in that. We were never taught so how can we teach what we don't know and understand ourselves. We are flawed ourselves as adults and as parents, we are often hurting and damaged snd don't know how to fix it. If we could focus on teaching our children these skills then they can pass it on to their children as more skilled teachers and healthier parents. It make a few generations but what a difference it would make to society. If we are open to it we could even learn to pick up these skills and learn from our children as they learn.
I know it's not a realistic thought and it will never happen, it's a totally 'snowflake' idea and society doesn't want us healthy because it doesn't fit what it requires of us and the people in power need to keep us just working and making money and paying taxes etc. But imagine ehat they world would be like if we we were healthier, happier, kinder, more secure and heartfelt human beings with children growing up the same way
My parents both had terminal cancer. I quit my job, moved states and moved in with them to be their caregiver. They died 13 months apart. I was with them nearly every minute of that time. Two weeks after their deaths I broke out in hives all over my body. I had never had hives in my life. I went to the doctor and he asked if I had been stressed. I told him what I had been doing and that I was actually the least stressed I had felt in two years. He said that now my mind and body could relax it was releasing all of the emotions and stress I had been suppressing while caring for my parents. The body/mind connection is real. Edited for misspelling.
My body broke out into hives after finalizing my divorce. This was many years ago, but the diagnosis makes sense. Sorry for ur loss.
what a wise doctor. Not so many out there that know things like this.
@@marianneselkey3380Me, I was diagnosed wit an autoimmune. I am well now.
Sorry for your loss . What a great Son or daughter you are .
My condolences for your loss. You obviously loved them very much.
What the doctor said to you was similar said to me when diagnosed with anxiety disorder. Dr said I was having a panic attack when I described what was happening to me and I didn't want to believe it "because nothing was going on" at the time the attacks occurred. I was relaxed and in class where I wanted to be or just driving my car in no "stress" at the time. But then he explained it didn't have to be happening at the time. It was a build up and symptom of stress at other times. And I was living in an abusive stressful situation, so, he was right.
It's amazing what our minds and bodies are capable of for not just surviving but growing and healing as well 🙏
What I like about this show and especially Steven Bartlett is that he gives the guests a chance to speak without interrupting them. It's like a breath of fresh air.
Unlike Jay shetty who uses famous guests to big himself up constantly interrupting guests but this guy here is fab 👍🏽
I, too, appreciate the host's gracious and generous gift of space, acknowledgement, and offering up silence ~ in order to foster contemplation, as well as enabling guest participants to truly connect with the host's audience.
@@staywellandstrong4199 indeed! He is a phenomenal interviewer, bar none on youtube. Just noticed he mentioned Dragon's Den, which i think i saw on a TV listing so perhaps he is on a tv show to boot.!
I like that too. ❤❤
Anyone who sais " toxins" seriously as if its science, maybe theyre grifting ...althought she surely is, i will explain if youre curious, im too tired atm
Have a good day ( just wanted to write my observation somewhare)
I am awake late at night listening to how important it is to sleep for 8 hours!
😃 😊
Try exercise. Don't eat so much before sleeping.
Haha! The irony.... me too!!
Holy hell! So learning Spanish and picking up piano again will help me keep up my sleep schedule more consistently via improved execute function!?
8h sleep is being pushed everywhere and none of the podcasters challenge that idea. For example, none of the indigenous tribes that we've studied, past or present, on every continent, sleep more than 7h. Unless they're sick.
To the person reading this. Even though I don’t know you, I wish you the best life has to offer 🙏🏻🙌😊♥️
Same right back to you. ♥️🙏
Same ❤
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Thank you so much, I wish you the same! ❤
Back at ya 😊
Me and my husband have slept separately A LOT over the last few years because of his snoring and problems with insomnia (now resolved). We are closer than ever. Very bonded. Sleep is so important, especially with 5 kids, if you cannot sleep because of your husband's snoring, don't hesitate to sleep alone!! It's more important to just get the actual sleep! We cuddle lots whenever around each other, and snuggle up to watch movies together on the couch, that's the main thing
Totally agree on that!
Inclined bed therapy helps stop snorring.
Has he been tested for sleep apnea? I have CPAP machine now and snore is gone.
There are solutions. Start by taking him to a biological or holistic dentist make sure all metals are out of mouth, root canals out and start an Ayurvedic oral health and nasal routine. Mouth taping at night, air purifier in the room, xylitol spray last thing at night.
I sleep near my two sons most nights. My boyfriend and I sleep together one night usually and every weekend. I think its great but I have been told it's bad. It's fun to know the weekend is special and we are extra romantic. I do want him in the house, though. I think I would have a hard time falling asleep if he wasn't here.
I ha e grown up with allergies and eczema and asthma as well as being chubby in the belly and face. I grew up in a dysfunctional home and this entire cortisol/stress response has helped me connect the dots on the reason I've always fought inflammation. I constantly struggle with my weight and stress management. Now I realize it's stress. Life changing podcast! Thank you!
May you flourish, grow in good health, continue to bless others, & succeed in everything you do..❤
yes you have high "ACE score" where ACE stands for Adverse Child Experiences - google, take the test and read summarised study. Which is another way of saying "betrayal trauma" & ComplexPTSD & generational trauma. Those words will help connect more dots I hope❤😊❤
@imsaltylit3101 it truly is. 1990s was 1st ever incest books published. We've come a long way❤️
@rocheclip I went through the same ordeal with dysfunctional home life and eczema. My skin issues disappeared when I moved to zero contact.
Knowledge truly is power. ❤
How gloriously refreshing to have two curious, warm, superclever people share a great conversation! Stephen interviews empathetically! Tara responds empathetically! A lesson in connection, with countless important benefits for us Hallelujah 💐🌺
What I said but said better 😂
The best thing I ever did was sleep in the same bed as my babies, into childhood. I was mortified when my first born would not settle, he would cry until he vomited when I followed all the “advice” when trying to get a sleep routine ❤ I couldn’t stand the thought of him being distressed. My motherly instinct was extremely distressed upon seeing him like that and I realised that my instincts in relation to my children are right. I loved every minute of sharing a bed with my husband and two boys. I never drank and co slept and they were always safe. Now that they have left home, I’m blessed that I had those beautiful close years snuggling into my boys.
My eldest is autistic (didn't know obviously when she was a baby). She liked feeding in bed but couldn't sleep with me, she doesn't like physical touch. My younger one was in my bed until she felt ready to leave - aged 11. I don't regret a thing.
I used to love sleeping with my parents. They would read me stories and I remember my dad had one of those blankets that are always building up static electricity and after we'd turn off the lights he would rub it a bunch and then it would look like a lightning storm. I thought it was so cool. Then my younger brother came along and everyone said that I was eyeing his pacifier, but I had my own room the whole time. I would just start thinking and wondering what everyone was doing, because at that age your family is everybody. My little brothers crib was in my parents room and we'd all hang out before bedtime and I'd go to my room. There were so many times I would sneak into my parents room in the middle of the night with just a blanket and pillow and sleep on the floor beside my mom. I'm glad to have read this post, because it brought back really good memories. You both sound like great loving parents. Take care 🙏 ❤
Is it normal for parents to not sleep with their child? Infant and early childhood? I thought it was common to sleep with a baby till it's atleast like 4 5 years
Well I am so glad she got her MD and PHD because she is a very rare doctor who can make complex topics so easy to understand. And her words of wisdom give so much hope for healing and change.
I got more out of this than any other talk, must be the MD PHD combo she’s effortlessly smart
@Twisted_Jokeunbiased here but can you educate me on what’s bs about her. i’m genuinely curious & not trying to be a smartass. i just really enjoy learning about every side of the “fact” so i can look at info from a unbiased perspective
She's also a doctor that talks shit and can't read, unless she can and she is just a liar, idk what's worse
@atrxespi8735 read the actual studies, I'm a weightlifter and I know study she's talking about very well, it was not increase in muscle size but strength which is a huge difference, the study was done of student athletes which is a massive difference as well that she should mention.
It's normal to experience strength growth after long rest, every strength athlete will take week or 2 off before competition, you need time to regenerate.
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Her claims about cortisol in sweat are also mad, she just manipulates facts, sweat produced from exercise and stress is completely different, sweat produced by stress contains pheromone that makes you stressed as it's an alarm pheromone, it just let's our brain know that there's danger somewhere near us.
It's disgusting that doctor, a person that should be trustworthy, is talking shit like this.
So true and thank you so much for helping me with my life journey
What I always like about Stephen Bartlett is that he gives guests a chance to talk without interrupting them. It's like a breath of fresh air.
Unlike Jay shetty who uses famous guests to big himself up constantly interrupting guests but this guy here is fab 👍🏽
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I was married 42 yrs. I tried for yrs. sleeping alone ,it was horrible. A cat adopted me. Then during covid when the earth stood still someone abandoned a dog who had recenting weaned pups. She was terrified. Well we are now all bonded and sleep together. I have love and heartbeats again.
A rabbit has shown me the love that no human had, it is clear to me now how to love God because I've the experience
I sleep alone, as a Single 36 year old man. I couldnt imagine sleeping next to a snoring, constantly shifting potential partner next to me. No thanks, I'd rather sleep alone. Thank you very much.
I was wondering if animals in the bed would be a good alternative. Im glad you found some little fluffy companions. Im trying to persuade my good friend to get a pet as she is so isolated. She is anxious about being able to provide for a pet, but i think she needs one more than she realises.
Yes, we are sleeping with other animals because we are so divided and profoundly lonely.
@@IgorMironov-rq4yeyes this is natural thinking and feeling for those taught not to nest together as human babies, who are then taught by male separated culture to literally think alone.
Well Steve has definitely lived up to his promises. This podcast just keeps getting better and better. I watch at least one or more episodes every week day.
he is a peedough
Hope you subscribed
Dr. Tara is a brilliant educator. This was by far the most engaging, educational, inspiring, fascinating, … and every other adjective that could describe her genius, interview you have done yet. Thank you!!!
When she spoke about the importance of co-sleeping, I felt it. Because I sleep close to my husband I could sense when something was wrong with him and was able to wake up and eventually call the emergency services and help arrived in time to save his life.
I am eager to cuddle my wife tonight after listening
Hopefully you let your babies and children also sleep with you, too? Because they are the vulnerable needy little humans. But most parents put their children away in a seperate room by themselves whereas they as grown up adults never sleep alone. I bet sudden childhood death could be prevented by not letting the little ones sleeping alone.
@@TheresaMueller Our daughter always sleeps in the room with one of us. Never in the same bed of course though, because of the risk of SIDS. We just follow the doctor guidelines for safe sleep.
That is one of my fears though, for them to suddenly pass unexpectedly. Don't think I could live with it
@@TheresaMueller
What a Horrible Cruel thing to say about Sudden Infant Death! You obviously have never known a parent who has experienced this tragic loss.Their grief and guilt is 1:44:33 of SIDS. It could happen to any infant born with a Propensity for it. It is a Medical condition, and could happen to any infant regardless of where or with whom they are sleeping. Please only remark on what you Absolutely Medically have Full Knowledge of. Thank you.
"Their grief and guilt is Incomprehensible
Doing something kind for someone w/out any motive behind it, is true kindness. Thank you for sharing.
I could literally sit and listen to this woman ALL DAY what an incredible person you have brought onto the podcast. I feel so lucky to have been able to listen to this especially at the point in my life im at currently. We can all learn so much from Tara i think everyone in the world would benefit from listening to her. Amazing
Totally! Every time I listen, I learn more 😊🙏
Right, except her pushing some of the debunked "theories" as facts is complete unscientific, nonsense. Women synching periods for "for alpha males", for one 🤪🤪🤪 junk science at it's worse.
Couldn't agree more. Schools should incorporate this learning into the NC.
@@Thewhiteandorangeshe clearly stated that when she doesn’t know about something she looks at historical facts. It’s just a theory she is sharing based on things we know about how life worked back then.
Agreed. I find most women hard to listen to, normally because of what, when or how they say it, meaning content, timing and delivery, but Dr. Sharot is so very smart and pleasant to hear.
I feel so honored and privileged to have found this podcast.
When one is ready, a Teacher comes forth.
That was poetic
And true💯
So true@@lisah9709
Me too!
It's crazy how every interview is ridiculously helpful. ❤
And not enough time to listen. Feel like creating a 30 hour day.
What was helpful about it?
Right?!
@@ceterisparibus8966watching you troll the CEO
They are so ridiculously full of bull shit.
As a massage therapist I have been isolated in tiny stuffy rooms for hours on end with stressed out people in direct contact with their skin almost every day for the past 19 years and I have six pack abs.... Leading people to believe that stress is contagious and gives you belly fat is just going to make people feel ashamed to share their stress with others and lead to isolation and loneliness. We are all here to support each other and stress is an inevitable part of life. Sharing our struggles with the people in our lives to get feedback and support is healthy part of being human and helps us to learn and grow. If someone is truly in a downward spiral and not investing in the best version of themselves but trying to make you feel responsible for their bad decisions then a boundary is necessary to prevent that person form bringing you down. If someone is truly looking to solve a tough problem in their lives or share an unpleasant experience they have had by all means be there for them and give them your best advice and sympathy. You're not going to end up catching their stress or getting belly fat.
Thank you. And I've always appreciated the relaxation, empathy, and recuperation of resilience I've received getting stress deep in my tissue released with methodical kneading from professionals like you! ❤
Hi the reason you have this perspective is because you are a mentally strong person. We have mirror neurons that try to copy others subconsciously so the weak naive takes on other people's probs easily
@@FiladelfiaNowNo, it's not just "weak" "naive" people who take on others' stress. It can be people who care about others and take on other's pain. People who are sensitive, whose sensitivities can give them gifts that other's may not have. They can learn how to protect themselves or better yet, transmute the energy so that it doesn't hurt their bodies as much while still being just as caring. They are not weak or naive.
As a massage therapist aren't you lessening their cortisol and increasing serotonin and oxytocin in them?
That might be your experience, but there have been a lot of moments in my life when someone was stressed out, and it spilled over into me. I was good at managing it and able to kind of get rid of it pretty quickly (like within a few minutes or hours), but it DOES happen.
Also, I know of way more overweight ppl (with belly fat that never seems to go away no matter what they do) than fit ppl who are always stressed out and do not get decent rest.
Your experiences are yours, but there are millions of ppl who experience what she explained about stress and belly fat. Plenty of them out there get stressed out just bc they’re around others who are.
It’s not that complicated, and it happens often. And altho I don’t know you, I’d also venture to say it’s possible that you might not be as empathetic OR as aware of others’ feelings as some ppl are. Maybe you’re indifferent to how others feel since you’re around stressed out ppl all day when they first come in? Just a guess lol
Sleeping apart had been the BEST thing I could have ever done in my relationship. I always felt I was strange for not liking sleeping with a partner and suffered in silence for too long. I soon grew resentful of previous partners who would wake me up rolling around or breathing etc beside me. Of course I liked cuddling etc but when it came to sleep it was a definite no no.
I feel closer than ever to my partner now that we don’t sleep in the same bed and I can actually get some good rest and enjoy my life feeling rested and awake in the day.
I mention this not saying ‘I’m right, she’s wrong’ but to remind people some things don’t work for everyone. A credited doctor should know better than to talk in such harsh absolutes. Within our evolution and what’s ‘best’ for humans there are invariably a cohort of us who definitely do not thrive with this. I for one would be extremely miserable being forced to attempt to sleep beside a partner long term, no matter how much we loved each other, if I meant I always felt miserable and sad from lack of sleep.
Yep, we finally decided to prioritize what's best for us rather than conforming to societal norms. What irks me is that the media is calling it 'sleep divorce'-seriously, what the heck? We're happier, friskier, and more well-rested now that we have two rooms to choose from for snuggling etc. I was miserable before; my hubby is a snorer and a twitcher, and he likes to go to bed early in total darkness. I prefer a lot of covers and a cold room, he is the opposite. Weve been married forever and will stay that way because we took this initiative.
@@LGski964 yes I know there are many of us, a lot of my family and friends feel the same. I guess it’s not something you bring up in public unless you’re amongst close friends etc but I know so many couples now who sleep alone and are so much happier in their relationships.
I wish more people knew they don’t have to put up with bad sleep, they don’t have to feel guilty for not liking sleeping beside their partner. Life is just so much better when I can choose when to hug, snuggle with my significant other, and knowing I can rest well alone when I feel like sleeping
Omg me too!!! I RELISH/LOVE sleeping alone! It’s my time! My ex use to tuck me in and I loved it! Unfortunately he lost his mind on 6/28/23 and strangled me to the point of almost passing out. I called the police immediately. We haven’t spoken in over 3 months now. He is always sick; mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. The few times I tried to sleep with him I didn’t sleep a wink and it was excruciating!
Also, going through menopause there’s no way I could sleep with another human being! I’d literally kick them out of the bed! Lol. It’s simply too hot and too much energy!
When I do sleep with someone I prefer a king size bed so at least there’s some room to not be touching! There are NO ABSOLUTES in the human experience!
Sleep with a snorer Dr
I am exactly the same , sleep is so important and interrupting my sleep creates stress
I had the pleasure to attend one of her exec programs at MIT and loved it - her book "The Source - The Secrets of the Universe, The Science of the Brain" is an absolute must-read. I am navigating between science and spiritual communities and she is one of the very few scientists who identify the overlaps and alignment between these 2 modalities. A lot of scientists are completely ignorant to the spiritual side of things.
As a Christian who has prayed in the name of Jesus and seen cancer meltaway where I placed hands to pray I think a better place to start is the Bible, book of John(just yesterday I found there is a movie called Gospel of John which is the reading of the gospel of John with visuals in the background on UA-cam). I’m not saying remember your childhood religion (Jesus was constantly rebuking the religious teachings of the day that had nothing to do with him) I’m saying build a relationship with God. That’s different. The demonic is a counterfeit that tries to steal the good that God has and lead people ever so slightly down the wrong path. What does John 14 and 1 Corinthians 14 say?
I just ordered the book thank you!
Thanks for mentioning this. I am wary of any scientific source that's ignorant of mindfulness.
@@-Collin I work with scientists daily and unless things can be codified and logically explained grounded in what science knows to date they tend to put it off as "some new-age stuff". Oddly enough both sides speak to some of the same phenomena but just use different words and language for it. I think the world in general would be better off in being open to describing the same thing in different ways and that still being true :-)
@@SRose-vp6ew Laying on of hands is not just a religious practice. Body practitioners also heal (I'm one of them) with Reiki, kinesiology, Quantum Touch, therapeutic touch, polarity & on & on. Those can be done by anyone of any religious beliefs or background. Be well...
My mother died from COPD. After she died I researched and came across an article on a medical website that said chronic stress can harden the tissues in the lungs leading to permanent damage. And she was so stressed much of the time. I also realised later how lonely she must have felt due to one circumstance and another. 😢 I do believe that loneliness leads to a constant state of what I would call “Quiet Stress”. Just a personal thought.
I am sorry to hear of your mother. I wish you healing and love. ❤🙏🏾
@@ltcarlston Thank you very much.
thank you for this! i will try my best to look after my mother
I think that’s why all the nicest people die. Or so many say about dead friends.
It’s sad to read you found out too late to help your mother not be so lonely. Is your father still around? Your grandparents? Other relatives? Close friends? How have you changed your routine/life to help them not feel so lonely? Don’t let your newfound knowledge go to waste.
My wife and I have been together for 11years. 10 1/2 of those years we slept together. Through that time attaining quality sleep was a struggle due to our starkly contrasted sleeping styles, no matter how big the bed or how much we tried. This also stressed our marriage. 8 months ago we moved into a new home and decided to try sleeping in our own rooms. Since then not only has our quality of sleep DRASTICALLY improved but also our marriage and bonding and closeness! We kiss each other good night every night and good morning every morning, that has never changed. Our quality of happiness in our marriage is so much better because we now can sleep peacefully.
So I respectfully disagree with NEEDING to sleep together. We are all unique and we all have our own needs and individual requirements due to how we were raised which affects us neurologically, physically and emotionally.
My suggestion is to test your marriage sleeping situation as we did and see what works best for your UNIQUE relationship.
Thank you for
Sharing I thought I was odd preferring to sleep alone glad I’m not alone
I believe what she is saying is a generalized statement for masses.. what u have experienced is an exceptional situation . Thanks for sharing cz sometimes we are good sleeping together but at rimes we need space.
@@naokoye2734I’m a lady and I sleep alone and I absolutely love it!
And it hasn’t changed my relationship with my husband at all.
We all need some space.
I agree with this. Me and my wife of 23 years sleep apart because we both sleep differently. She likes the fan pointing right at us. That actually bugs me and hurts my throat sometimes. Lol, we are happy and our sex life is of quality and enough for our ages. I'm certain the quality is much better for the both of us at this age. Im 43 and she is 45.😢
Well, snoring affects the quality of sleep for both partners, even if one person is the culpri. 😎t
She’s a true gem. Thank you for letting her finish her sentences and not pushing, rushing her while she talked and not trying to add something to everything she said (like some others did)It was truly amazing to watch your conversation with her. #weneedmoretara
She's a very deluded woman
So whats the reason to always look into someone left eye??
@@eric7964 It makes dopey people think she knows something they don't.
@@eric7964connection, eases their nervous system (as long as not stressed while doing so)
She's a liar
This was an amazing interview and the best 2 hours I’ve spent on UA-cam in years. She is clearly brilliant and he is a wonderful interviewer. Well done.
Same ❤️
Brilliant and sexiest when “ guhlz” work in offices and not women.
Brilliant and sexist when “ guhlz” work in offices and not women.
Same ♥️
she made many a claim which were not strongly supported by scientific research... be careful what you believe
I can listen to Dr. Swart all day. She reduces my cortisol levels.
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As a brown femme learning about neuroplasticity and creating the life of my dreams, I feel so inspired to see Dr. Tara Swart on this podcast and doing the amazing work she does. Thank you for having her and all that you do to share modern wisdom 🙏🏽
I’m 82, and was widowed in 2017. I’m sleeping better mostly now. But I was caregiver for my mother from 2002 to 2010, then my husband got ill and I cared for him from 2012 to 2017. But I’ve gained weight all over. Ugh! But I think Im okay being alone.
Loving your podcast though thank you.
For years, I’ve been telling people that stress is contagious, but didn’t have “science” to back me up. Thank you for this video!!
How'd y come to that conclusion
Yes...we all entrain with others in some way. For a happy person being around a chronically stressed person can become very detrimental weighting down a person into depression. All emotions have frequencies, high and low.
Similar to when people say, you're stressing me out!
The antidote to stress is faith.
@melissaconroy2804 ...note that 'appreciation is a biggie, too!
"people who focus on what they want don't typically get what they want and people who focus on what they have to offer typically get what they want". Really profound.
I never watch podcast this long but this was so valuable
Thank you for this podcast. In 2017 I had a brain aneurysm and stroke and when I woke up in the hospital I said to myself {I love myself, I forgive myself, I heal myself) Long story short I believe that helped in my healing process.
wow I can only imagine
wow, now that's a story I'd enjoying hearing every detail.
I had a NED due to a sadden respiratory stop. Alone in the house. I saw myself that I was accompanied by a " being" toword a field of light, and I looked back over my left and I saw many folders with all my projects, and I was telling to myself:"I don't need them many more..." But that being sent me back, saying, "You have a lot of work to be done. I caught my breath, brething heavily. A year or so later, I had a stroke. The second night in the hospital, I heard a strong voice from Up Right toward Left down, saying: " Don't touch my child!!!!" The third day I was home working in the garden ... very little weakness on my left side.
ALWAYS TRUST G O D. 💯
Keep up the good faith❤😂😊
I just stumbled upon this video, and if there’s any possibility that either the speaker or the interviewer may see this message, I just want to say thank you. Intelligent, though provoking content! Wholesome, nothing woke, or inflammatory. No virtue-signaling, no posturing, no propaganda…and a refreshing absence of ego from either of you. Simply a beautiful conversation between two earnest hearts. And as a bonus, I particularly loved that both of you spoke about and honored your partners. Simply beautiful. I learned a lot! Thank you
I thank you for letting us know about this, very informative. I didn't know you tube had anything like this.😮
She mentions unconscious bias, however. An idea whose attributed studies have all been thoroughly discredited as presenting bogus conclusions but is still used to push woke ideology. Be warned and skeptical.
Really enjoy listening to your program. 🤗🌹
Completely. Even my cortisol-induced 'inflammatory' response waned upon watching this.
Same here, I stumbled across this. I've been going through some stuff lately mentally and this has gave me so much food for thought and so much action I need to make to realign myself. I was on the right path but slipped off and this podcast has just so brilliantly laid out my pathway to sort my sh** out again but even better this time 🙏🙏🙏
The bit about feeling safe enough to enjoy items of beauty really resonates with me. Literally just today I was watching the sunset and thought about what I was doing last year at this time and the year before. I remember thinking I don't remember certain things about my surroundings during this time. It was because I was leaving my husband last year and the year before I was fighting him and trying to figure a way out of the mess. This past month has marked a time where the toxic people are mostly out of my life and I can truly enjoy my 3 acres, grass, trees, sunrises and sunsets in relative peace and safety at least for now. In addition to that, I have time to listen to these podcasts and have some tools to tackle the cortisol! I have learned so much from these people and conversations.
More power to you. I know exactly what you mean..the stress of fighting everyday… the toll that takes on your health 😭😭
Me too! Thank you for sharing. For me, it is further confirmation that I did the right thing and the sunrises and sunsets have become beautiful companions.
Lovely ! I'm. Pleased to read about successfully turning your life. Bless you.
Congratulations on your new life 🎉
@@justawaitress8421 Thank you!
Listening to this was 2 hours well spent. Thanks for sharing.
This was amazing. I am a 66 year old woman pondering retirement and all things related. After listening to this episode, I realized that while I have lived… what I want to do is dedicate thought, energy, practice and visualize HOW I want to live my remaining years, this is not a decline but a rebirth and celebration of sorts. I joke that I am still strong, feisty, strong and youthful ( as though those attributes are waning). I realize my perspective must be they ARE me and I want them to continue to define me.
Seems like you are having a mid life crisis.
64 and same!
so happy for you the journey is beautiful ❤ i’m 43 an im on the journey been here about 4 years an still holding on i pray when i reach your age im able to have found the happiness i search for ❤an living it with all love 💕 keep going
Great sharing
I am65 and have lived a very full life I am male never had children but I see the coming years as a adventure. As I age I have learned graduate for each day
Regarding reframing our words instead of saying “I have to” I say “I get to” which feels so much lighter. Also, when I feel stuck in any situation I like to ask myself “what else is possible?” And/or “how does it get any better than this?” These questions create a lot of space for me. Trusting this can be supportive for someone out there ❤
I found this entire podcast so juicy and informative! Thank you 🙏🏼 excited to share with others.
I find your choice of words amusing and provoking. You found “this podcast so juicy” is well descriptive. I’d like to add, that it was also obtainable juiciness! it wasn’t making a mess where I lost possession of it. It was fully comprehensible 🙂
Covid I sang on starmaker ❤ once I sang 14 hours no. Stop singing helped me thru covid x starmaker rockssss mojothepyruttarrr is I add me il sing wiv ya arrr❤
My purpose is to write ✍️ stories to educate the youth on saving the planet, Tubular Dudes my 1st book will be free ,pirates good v evil mojothepyrutt versus captain Nikodemus arrr to be sure to be sure ❤ lots more books 📚 done and a coming along ❤
Ah my cat 🐈 😻 🐈⬛️ 😍 is 1st thing I see when she jumps up into my pirate ship I made for a purrrr telling me she wants breakfast ❤😂❤
What ever you say...
I was 58 years old when I finally cried over the death of my mother 48 years ago, and the death of my father ten years ago. It was prompted by the death of my best friend of 16 years-a dog. I cried like my survival depended on the universe hearing it. The catharsis was completely unexpected and incredible. It was like an out of body experience. I still don't completely understand it, but I feel like a new person. I still miss my buddy.
This is so beautiful & healing. I hope you find new best friends. 🐕 🐩 🐈⬛ 🐈
Sometimes we need something very simple and pure, like the relationship to a dog, to find the point of weakness in us, we can let pass and accept. As soon as we open up to such feelings, there is a good chance, that we can't lock ourselves up against all the other true and deep feelings inside of us and so maybe they will start to find their way out and that mostly very loud and long.
I'm very happy that you got to that point!
@@IlluminaAssel opened the flood gate, opened the dam. Love for a pet can be so pure & deep, really gets in there.
There is so much trauma.. I have had a similar experience. I feel like I've regressed back into childhood. Like I'm learning to crawl for the first time.
@@cowoverthemoo yes, 🥹 time for healing ❤️🩹
I finished this podcast and feel better about myself and where I am in life. Thank you ❤
I think this is my favourite conversation of them all, and I love a lot of them! The amount of useful information she covered was immense. I found her super inspiring, relatable, engaging. The way she explained everything was easy to understand. I will be reading her books and listening to her podcast without doubt. Well done Steven, another one smashed out of the park!! I love Diary of a CEO and don't worry, I'm subscribed on everything :)
She's a bullshitter. 😆 Had you fooled. Just follow Jesus.
I agree. She is next level. Learned so much
This woman is creative in a very rare way - she uses a large collection of hard-won tools to touch and sculpt and paint the human mind in a way that creates potential for better life. This is god level creating.
Thank you for your extremely powerful interview skills that make space for such people to express themself. So thankful for this experience.
I want to say that Dr Tara Swart is an excellent speaker. She pulls information together so well.
I can clearly hear the doctor in her- she has so much information and she connects it all so well into whats happening- why- and the practical ways you can help your life. I really like this approach to information.
Thank You.
Right!! She’s incredible
Feels like he genuinely made her day with the comment about how art is in her name.
Im a male INFJ. I trust intuition above all else. 99% of the time It's proved to be right in my life. I dont always get a gut feeling about something though. Usually in a situation of danger or truth and lies.
If you keep having brilliant people like this on your channel, I will watch these podcasts forever.
One of the best life changing podcasts I've heard. I'm 46, I wish I'd heard this as a younger person, but it's not too late for me to rewire my brain, amazing news! Clear and practical information that I will use now for the rest of my life!!!
Me too! I'm 40 and thought I was stuck in my ways and it was too late to change, but after watching this, I'm going to try!
Same here
I’m 73 and am resetting my brain due to a massive life change. It’s tough but it’s happening. An interesting challenge.
@@zoomtulips603973 is the new 37..
Honestly I listen to a lot of podcasts and this content is one of the most enlightening I have ever heard.
This has been a most interesting, engaging, inspiring and exciting conversation! Definitely in my top 5 to date! There were SO many take-aways that I will have to listen AGAIN! TY.
My neice asked, "how do you find time to listen to a TWO hour talk"...
I told her that I do mindless activities: laundry, put on make-up, curl/straighten hair, clean/tidy house or use cardio equipment (i.e. exercising). And oftentimes, I need to pause and replay because I have 4 teens in an active house.
I hope that helps someone else...
Steve, I consume copious amounts of UA-cam content, and this is the first time I've subscribed to a channel. Your guest curation is second to none, I'm constantly blown away by their insights and I can't thank you enough for asking these questions we are all thinking. Please keep up the great work and thank you!
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*by her insight. Dr. Tara Swart, her.
My daughter was diagnosed with ADHD at 5. Afterwards, it was a constant struggle with therapy, counseling, hospitalizations, etc. but nothing really changing until now (middle school).
In a time when kids are said to become hormonally unstable she has mellowed out DESPITE the fact that we stopped medication and therapy bc of the pandemic. But guess what this podcast made me realize?
As soon as she hit middle school she became HEAVILY involved in the arts. You name it: chorus, orchestra, drawing, writing and she’s actually VERY talented.
Not until this episode did I make this connection and now I’m awestruck and humbled that something we just stumbled into could be the real solution.
Im so thankful for this podcast and I’m certainly about to be a fan of everything Dr. Tara Swart!
The arts have been undervalued in America for some time now. Dance is another why for “hyper” individuals to calmly go about life.
Your daughter was probably acting out her boredom of whatever she was learning before getting introduced to the arts.
Yes art therapy is powerful !!
Art and movement.. 💚
Can you share the link for the podcast?
Co sleeping, eye contact, touch, laughing all just innately make us feel good is what I gather from what she’s said so far. And this helps me feel better because recently I’ve been examining why I want to feel a connection with ppl, a relatability, safe, desired. So much so that I’ve distanced myself in a way from things that have to do with ppls approval. It has its benefits because I’m learning self soothing but this helps to know that it just is a feeling. Thank you!
I find it refreshing that people still sit down and have stimulating conversations where everyone grew and bonded in a beautiful ways.There's hope in humanity.The care for ones self as well as empathy for someone else's growth is also extending out to the vibration in the world.Healing.
How our elders were....only bring positives to the table.
I admire the intelligence of Tara, her calm demeanor and your thoughtful questions. You are a brilliant interviewer Steven…I love how your brain works! By far you are the best, keep up the great content.😊
She is spot on about grief, i unexpectedly lost two close ppl in my life while going through lockdown and trying to recover from bc treatment , had to pack the family sell up and move interstate to deal with my grief hit rock bottom to finally submerge and to begin to grieve in a healthy way and finally have goals that I would love to achieve. nature and sea change has been my therapy. I need to read her book 💕
Wishing you the very best. I understand grief all too well. You’re absolutely right about nature and being near/at the Sea! I’m still at the beginning.
Anyways, I wanted to wish you the very best. You are not alone. ❤
Application of knowledge is power. Having wisdom means nothing unless you apply it.
Dr. Tara’s voice so soothing. I could listen to her speak all day.
I feel the same; this particular British accent is perfect and balanced and soothing. I love the English language , especially when well spoken.
Me too! if I wanna lose braincells ofc
Agreed.
@@mikeshakur7446 ok dude okkk
yes
I **LOVE** this woman. I agree with her: we can all start with ourselves. I don't rely 100% on the Internet to live. I walk whenever I can just to get outside but also to feel my body alive and alert in itself. No machines. She is FANTASTIC.
This is the real podcast. The one which pushes you to hear more and more at the same time allow you to take a pause and think about it.
The Way Steven asks his doubts and curiosities so humbly makes me feel like Iam having a real time conversation with them at the same time. Felt so good❤️
And Steven your selection of Guests is just Incredible!
Excited for more!
♥️
She mentions unconscious bias, however. An idea whose attributed studies have all been thoroughly discredited as presenting bogus conclusions but is still used to push woke ideology. Be warned and skeptical.
She is so brilliant, I felt so sad at the end because I feel her frustration but at the same time she built such a beautiful career. So proud of her !
watching this with Fibromyalgia (cortisol overloaded nervous system) .. Breath of fresh air to hear a Dr preaching and putting the truth out there. Look after each other folks. Love, movement, sleep, partnerships, community. ❤
covid vaccine Ian? that's on the list of side effects..
Dr. Tara is the most CREATIVE woman, using her knowledge and high character to CHANGE the world… much more impactful than being an actress!! I am truly blessed by this interview, and THANK YOU for interviewing her with the pertinent and broad reaching real-life important questions!!! Your podcasts are VERY ORGANIZED… and YOU are organized… it helps so many of us… on the house or office organization, just do 10 minutes at a time and be gracious with yourself. Thank you. THANK you. Thank YOU for being the man you are, inspiring us with your amazing interviews!!
I would love her to cite the menstruation syncronising@Twisted_Joke
One of the most profound things she said that resonated with me was. “I don’t live like that” & “I’m careful with who’s in my tribe” Man that helped me on multiple levels! Actually something I’ve been in prayer over came out in this video! Good is good and I truly enjoy listening to this dr speak she is incredibly wise.
The number of times Steven said "interesting" indicates how mind-blowing this conversation is.
This entire introduction is what I said to my partner, whilst driving yesterday!!!! stress IS CONTAGIOUS!! So the conversations we have make us more susceptible to taking it on. We must be careful - there is life and death in the power of the tongue. As well as proximity to someone who is stressed! Can't wait to finish watching this!!!! Love this podcast!
Of course it is! IT is what has been thrown at us from every angle over the past 3 years.
The powers that shouldn’t be gave us “ a summer vacation “ to reevaluate their strategy.
FUCK THEM AND THEIR DIVIDE AND CONCUR STRATEGY!
The heart attacks didn’t come from stress, they came from the nazi injections that most allowed through fear to be injected into the masses.
Wake up. Stand up. No more!
WE ARE MANY they are FEW!
We have the numbers and ability to claim back our constitution and land.
The question is why is no one who has a voice telling this TRUTH!
Every one else can fuck off.
SO BE IT DONE.
The only way out of this is walking through.
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I've realized that when I speak with this other friend of mine, who constantly thinks the whole world is against her, the conversation drains me emotionally. I don't look forward to conversing with her because I get stressed.
@@DementiaCaregiversCorner you are in control of what you will allow in your space. When you no longer accept others to contaminate your space, they will accept you or disappear.
You hold the power . Those who leave were never meant to stay.
Level up.
Its a hard lesson for us and a weight lifted.
Freedom is beautiful.
@@slcoly1 I am slowly learning that, I am getting there. I've also realised that since i am putting it out there to her that there are certain topics that I would rather not talk about, it seems like we have nothing to talk about anymore, if you know what i mean...Thank you very much
@@DementiaCaregiversCorner heart fully I know what you mean.
It’s happening all around me.
We are learning to stay in love not in acceptance. Its a hard way, constantly being scrutinized and held accountable for who we have become.
In a world with no accountability and acceptance of anything goes is “ the way “
We are in for the long haul.
I flex every day to my children and husband to remind them what strength looks like! ITS HARD!
Stay strong in this battle that will not be won with weapons, it will be won by keeping your mind , your CROWN.
You will.
I'm 65 and mistaken for my 30's...I say no to negative people and situations. I'm always challenging myself in small ways. I love everything shared here today. Thank you 💯 🥰💐🙏🏻💛🌿🌻🌿
You color your hair?
That’s either witchcraft or people are just being nice 😂
I believe it, I am in my 50's and have still been asked for I.D. a few times, for buying a bottle of wine at Aldi. They said they have to ask if you look under 30yrs. ... Alkaline electric foods can see wrinkles and grey hair reverse.
@@nicolesawyer7117 byyy the way, it's not actually socially normal to toss out the witchcraft idea since one it's discriminatory and two it sounds idiotic! Being a troll like that is really being someone who is by definition a burden to society. Just sayin'. (i ain't socio-politically correct, and on top of this, u might be best off not voting or breeding, for the benefit of the rest of us.)
yep. I'm a man in my early 50's. Pandemic hit and killed my two dear elder friends who were also my brain-trust and also like a comedy-trust, so to speak. Since my early 40's i realized suddenly how toxic some ppl i'd known forever, were rapidly becoming (the men in particular). Had to cut most of them off! It's stunning to see the changes in ppl over time, and how vulnerable some are to socio-political trends etc, namely men, regardless of political orientation (tho mostly rightwing) showing increasingly conservative beliefs with age (in a very pathetic and bad way)
Fascinating conversation. I'm 80 and was, of course, particularly interested in that control study of 80-year-olds (near the end of this video). I enjoy good health and expect to continue doing so, despite a few aches and pains I didn't have (or notice?) when I was younger. The problem is, my peer group is very focused on the failure of their bodies and talk about their "bad knees," and "getting my hip replaced," and other medical problems all the time. I call it "the organ recital" and try to steer clear of it as much as possible. This video has reinforced my doing that. So thanks! 😊
That's amazing, good for you! Wishing you continued good health.
Lol @ the organ recital!
I attend too many such recitals approaching 60. Thank you-hilarious term for this that I’ll use to broach the topic with my friends.
I had an ex boyfriend whose 80 odd year old uncle actually delighted in organ recitals. It Drove me nuts 🥜. Now I live in the 🌳 forest. 😂
Peer group is just entering in a mental state where they expect and suffer from health problems.
My advice is don’t get “infected “ with these friends mindset and make friends with younger people who appreciate your wisdom and don’t obsess about health issues
I loved this episode! This lady is very wise and real.. I could listen to her speaking all day, very well spoken and can explain things very clearly and in an interesting way. She is well connected to her soul.. what an amazing person and a gift to the world 🥰
What I learned from this interview is that we all need to teach our children that language is EVERYTHING. This way, we can rebuild a new future society that values self-improvement ❤️🙏🧿
Even the Bible says this really.we are condemned by what comes out of our mouth not what comes in. So interesting .
erm, rebuild a new society that values decent values, ethics and self improvement along such ways.
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I just found this channel, and I absolutely love the energy of the man interviewing. What a warm, grounded, and non-ego based male. What a lovely person. I really learned a lot from this interview. I've never heard of Tara before this but thoroughly enjoyed her beautiful voice and calm demeanor. ❤️ Best 2 hours of my day today. Thank you both. 😊
...male
@@noahghost4476exactly. Why is it always intellectual “Females” that gotta adopt using this terminology in protest of non-intellectual guys. Like… I know you don’t want to see the hypocrisy in you saying “I do it because they do it” but the generalization implication I identify as equally stupid from both genders. (Yes there are two 😂). Only socially awkward or disruptive guys say “females” in context like this, That’s who you’re parodying.
Then there’s the other archetype that just goes “there’s nothing wrong with it, I’m not implying anything”.
The “totally not-holier than thou” act works on nobody… regardless of your gender. The “Not” backhanded compliment at men speaks volumes of the priorities of the comment about this video. You got baited
Youre just saying that because you found him physically attractive, just call it what it is.
I’ll be on the show next week. Be sure to tune in 😘
@@LucyBullwhip every human thinks this way and that isn't projecting, that is a fact. Ignorance and manipulation is always the tools of choice for the less secure and btw you've just shown your self
It breaks my heart to hear how important sleeping next to someone can be to your over all health, but we’re expected to have our babies and children sleep by themselves in their own room.
Good point
It depends on who you’re sleeping next to
Sleeping next to my loving and affectionate cat is fantastic! Much better than with my x husband . That was absolute TORTURE
Sleeping next to my dog is one of the most healing experience in my life.
I have 5 chilldren and when they were little until the age of 5 / 7 they co.slept w me. Hubby was in a separete room:)
I haven't said a word for the last two hours and I am pretty sure I just went through ten years of therapy... Super eye opening episode. Thank you for this Steven and Tara!
19:55 it's not exercise or eating better but going to the root cause behind the cortisol. This explains a lot. 22:00 skin problems 22:15 the solution is either to sweat the cortisol out or journaling your thoughts out so that you stop turning in circles inside your mind.
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Thank u for this -fell asleep first time listening t this
This is far and above in my now number of years THE most beautiful, powerful emotionally earthmoving piece of information and time well spent I have ever experienced. I sobbed at parts and felt empowered at the same time. Tara is beyond brilliant , yes a ray of light that can change the world- along with your brilliant way of asking and listening . I never miss an episode. Many, many thanks.
I couldn't have said it better ❤ You two are amazing at giving others answers. And I felt opened and freed. I just learned this year that my challenged math skills have a name...Dyscalculia! I am in my 60's and felt stupid for not understanding math ever. I got thru it enough to get in College, but almost as soon as I finished the last problem, it was all forgotten. I twist two numbers around the majority of time, both writing or saying them. Usually the first two. Thank you for ripping my self imposed "label" off! ❤
You need to stop advising people to eat plant based. Whole Foods, yes. But plant based being pushed is irresponsible.
The best podcast I’ve ever come across.
It’s long and I had zero intention of watching it all, just had it on while in the gym but it grabbed me with both hands and I watched intently until the end and even saved it to watch later again.
This is coming from someone who’s watched 1000’s of hours of podcasts.
Also headed over to Tara’s channel to subscribe and binge some more. So interesting, happy days🎉
😂😂😂I'm soooo stressed out I will definitely do the same and maybe watch it twice
You did a great job listening and leading the interview. I loved the pace, the vibe, and how well and calmly you both led to brilliant conversation.
I would love to hear her speak to addiction. The changes in the brain when drinking stops, the pathways. Recovery of the brain.
I, too, was hoping that they would touch on addiction
johann harri
You damaged the brain so..
❤yes, pleaz… I’d love to hear from her on all things “addiction-ish”❤
That's a big one. I'm a biomed scientist in recovery from alcohol. The way the nervous system overfires when you lift the suppressant of alcohol from it without drugs like librium or benzodiazapines to bring you safely off alcohol and your nervous system to gradually get back to normal is VERY SCARY to experience. I didn't fit but I know plenty of people who have, and also with not that much alcohol taken away and not necessarily drinking non stop for weeks either. Some people can have a seizure after just one week of far less than a bottle of spirits a day! This lady is not an expert in alcohol or a neurologist, she's an ex psychiatrist with research in neuroscience. There are many many more fields of medicine where doctors are far more qualified and learned about alcohol
Going into surgery for cancer & I prayed that If I prepared myself like I was training for
My past marathons - by eating healthy like I was while training & exercising. I am
So glad I found this channel because I want to be as “mind - ready”
going into this “ASAP -found -cancer! Working and still going to drs appointments have kept me calm & I haven’t had fear, anxiety nor sadness.
I feel humorous books & some tv shows are good. Blessings ❤❤❤❤🙏
Prayers for you. Keep up the positive thoughts
You've got this! 🙏💕
Thank 🙏 you very much & a good & healthy life to you: Wonder Woman 🦸♀️✨🥰✨
I can't help but think of how much of a better place our world would be if people just sat down and tried to understand each other like Steven does. Exceptionally empathic coordination and prodigious relativity seeking; Bravo, and I look forward to your future works.
Sounds like woo aimed at seeling her book. Where is she a "doctor" from?
8621 if you research this more you will see there is science around this. Experiment with your feelings ,there is a wonderful world there .
It would be really nice if people would be christ like. I mean, he was the greatest man who lived on the earth. He said an example for people to follow.
If only people did not go off to war and did what he said by loving your neighbor, then we would have no problems such as what's happening in the gaza.
I don't disagree that it would be good if people were more Christ like. However, you do realize that the Palestinians have had their land occupied for like 75 years? Imagine an army iof troops murdering a bunch of villages around you, and you had no one to aid you??? T
I have fought in the streets and professionally for many years.. i have this bond in both professionally and in the streets… a real un seamingly unbreakable bond!! Ty for this
I was married 22+ years (to a narcissist). I now know why he didnt like to sleep in bed with me; had TOO many other partners! I wish i knew about narcissism before him! I wasted most of my life.😢 i enjoyed ALL of your information and conversations. Cant wait to hear more from you. It is hard to find someone that speaks clearly w/o the overuse of "like". My ears and brain immediately shut down with that.
So interesting. It was the exact same situation in my marriage as well
Dr Swart, is one of the humans that gives me hope for humanity. ☺ What a smart person. I learned so much. Literally amazing skills.
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Yes taking a hot bath with Epson salts and Essential Oils is crucial. I am a massage therapist and while I was working up in the north United States before I move south to retire, every morning I would have to soak in hot tub to release all the negativity that I picked up from my clients the afternoon and evenings before. I was too tired to do it when I came home at night. But it certainly made me feel healthy and optimistic and wanting to work and doing what I love in spite of the negative impact you can create on the human body. Thank you thank you thank you From the depths of my heart for posting this podcast. I have never been part of the herd and it created a lot of loneliness but I had to follow my heart my mind and my gut as soon as I could in early adulthood. I am best around free spirits and free thinkers because we all encourage each other and help each other. I miss that. I don’t have that here in the south of the United States. Living in the south is like living in another country.. Money can be very freeing experience and enable you to grow faster and better if you use it to enhance your knowledge and wisdom and you give it out to others so they may too prosper. ❤
Interesting about needing to soak. You made me understand why my religion requires a ritual ablution before praying.
Judge much?
I like this lady. She makes a lot of sense. We are energy and energy can repel or attract. If someone is negative and stressed or upset you can feel it. Or if someone is happy and or confident or comforting you can feel it. Their are unseen forces at work everywhere. The universe is so much more then most believe. 😊
What a worthy and wonderful 2 hours with Dr Tara Swart! I feel lucky to have witnessed this conversation and have learned so much from it! Well done Steven for continuing to nurture this platform with your tapestry of interesting guests so they can share their journeys, experience and insights with the rest of us! Thank you and keep doing what you're doing! ✨
This woman is amazing, her knowledge is priceless . She is very powerful
She strikes me as being a strikingly very bright woman, and very disciplined.
What a human being. How blessed must those who get the chance to repeatedly interact with someone like this actually feel, I can only imagine.
And sexist & agist when “guhlz” work in offices and not women.
I just wanna thank the two of you for all of the insight that you’ve given me. I have a lot to think about, and a lot to work on…Thank you again.
“People who focus on what they want don’t typically get what they want. People who focus on what they have to offer typically get what they want.” - Steve Bartlett
So true !!!
I think the concept of feeling safe when out in nature expands to our relationship with others as well. A perfect example of this is the universal overall feeling of safety and trust with others near you also participating in the same type of activity as you. When camping, for example, people commonly are not overly worried about their belongings being stolen from your tent, which obviously can't be locked. A feeling of comradery prevails.
Great example, of a group of strangers abiding to an often unwritten social contract of behavior, to make a situation livable and safe for all people in that group.
That doesn't always apply, sadly...in a small community there is often one unruly, noisy individual who spoils the living experience for all the others, like playing loud muzak at 3am, for example😢
Yeah, because first rule of going into the woods is to go with someone/people you trust to not leave you buried there 😂
"Circle of trust"😂 comes in handy 👍
After a brain hemorrhage that destroyed my optic nerve on the right, would explain to me why it was so easy for their father to alienate alienate me since 2010. Their father was/is an extreme narcissist (another podcast), and imposed a lot of suffering. I've been searching for what went wrong and what I can do about it to reconcile with my children. This is a very important piece of that puzzle. Thank you
Dr. Swart seems like such a beautiful person in and out.
The mind and brain. Never to be underestimated. Two people in a wheelchair post stroke; the one who only thinks about exercise, has less muscle wastage than the one who doesn’t. I understand all about stress - I have chronic illness through burnout. My body was in survival mode for years. Stress is a killer. Fact. Thank you for doing this x
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I read 13% muscle gains was measured from weight lifters just imagining weight training hard for two weeks wtf!? and 6weeks in a cast un-used for 6weeks withers to weak n puny😮 mind blown must see myself stretching, swimming, exercising, hiking, skydiving, weight training hard, and doing yoga😂❤on roof
I’ve been 95% bedbound with severeME & I still have muscles & learning this I realise that when I think about things I wish I could still do I visualise myself doing it when I’m thinking about it rather than getting morose and getting upset depressed etc. I’ve trained my brain to think like this because I realised how much energy my brain burns so I had to learn how to minimise emotional stress & other stresses.
I could listen to Tara all day, every day. Such a beautiful spirit and an intelligence. She has a talent of sharing her immense knowledge in a way that is easy to understand. Her beauty radiates from deep within. I would love to spend time in her presence. I am grateful for this episode :)
Intelligent and sexiest when “ guhlz” work in offices and not women.
Intelligent and sexist when “ guhlz” work in offices and not women.
Thank you Dr. Tara Swart for such a wonderful discussion on stress and the mind-body connection. I connected with the part talking about post-pandemic & how we need to address our mental health & not sweep it under the carpet - ie connect with others and also volunteer. There's so much we can learn from other people and from our ancestors. I found lots of little gold nuggets through the whole interview. Thank you Steven for another amazing podcast/video!!