World Leading Psychologist: How To Detach From Overthinking & Anxiety: Dr Julie Smith | E122
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- Опубліковано 11 тра 2024
- This weeks episode entitled 'World Leading Psychologist: How To Detach From Overthinking & Anxiety: Dr Julie Smith' topics:
0:00 Intro
00:58 What made you want to help people?
05:32 How did a therapist make it onto tiktok?
14:13 Dealing with rejection
23:46 The consequences of having a big platform
32:11 Having the right values & goals
39:04 How do we make meaningful change?
40:36 How do I change my mood?
42:46 How important is sleep?
45:12 How to stay motivated
48:09 What is the cure for overload?
51:23 The balance of embracing emotions vs ignoring them
54:32 The stigma around addressing a situation
01:00:41 How do you build confidence
01:03:21 How important is it to not make decisions in high emotion moments?
01:07:32 Building self esteem by having a good relationship with failure
01:12:36 Using our breathing to manage anxiety
01:20:53 Is it important to understand we’re going to die?
01:24:39 The importance of relationships
01:32:07 Are you happy?
01:33:33 The last guest question
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From today we will be releasing two episodes a week every week, Monday and Thursday… and what an episode to start with! Dr Julie Smith has been a sensation on tiktok with education around mental health and today she shares those insights with us.
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Love it! thank you so much
BRILLIANT Steve & Julie 🙏🙏
Steven this is such a brilliant episode, I have learned a lot from this conversation between you and Dr Julie Smith. Powerful and thought provoking 👌. Big thumb up to and your team for producing such a top notch and high quality video ✨. Also, your hair looks super smart, which hair product are currently using? I am interested for sure 💪.
So glad you are doing extra shows. I love the podcast, found you via Molly Mae & have been working my way through the old episodes aswell.
I thought a good episode would be for you to answer the questions which have been left in the diary usually for your next guest? Would be interested to hear you answers!!
One of the mostvaluable conversations I’ve listened to here. Thank you 🙏🏻
‘Look at your emotions with curiosity.. no judgement’
So powerfully simple and effective but hard to do!
Everyone judges
@@fayekalantzis4523 yeah, it is just a human behaviour in our thoughts
Why?
What for?
Hmm that pretty interesting!
Very true always question why are you feeling like this
I try to go to a
positive memory to evict a current negetavie thought pattern.sometomes it works...not always. gosh shes adorable!
Thanks for having me 🙌
From a total Lifetime of severe Anxiety , Anorexia with binge purge subtype and stress this vlog is absolutely mindblowingly brilliant and so easy to understand as well my Lovely Xxx
@@susiewatts1982 Thank you Susie.
You’re most welcome hunnie Xxx
Thanks Dr Julie. Cant wait to read your book xx
This was great. Looking forward to getting your book x
Overthinking and anxiety can be overwhelming and exhausting. To detach from these feelings, it's important to practice mindfulness, focus on the present moment, and engage in activities that bring you joy. Try to challenge negative thoughts and reframe them in a positive light. Remember to prioritize self-care and seek support from loved ones or a mental health professional if needed. With time and effort, you can detach from overthinking and anxiety and cultivate a sense of inner peace and calm.
Thx🙏 saved me from watching the vid got goosebumps already
The biggest point is “focus present moment “😊
Indeed. Many people are their own worse enemy in that regard. It comes from losing your objectivity which is easily done. No matter how much training you have or how intelligent you are. As we see here, even a psychologist does things she'd normally spot straight away in a patient but she can't see herself doing often. Because doesn't have the same objectivity as when dealing with patients.
It's just the nature of being human and the whole nature of ego and conscious thought. We tend to be very critical of ourselves and prone to self-doubt some of us. Anxiety disorders are often a learned behaviour, a negative bias outlook and feedback loop which as you say, you can detach from by developing mindfulness which is a very powerful tool I recommend. I learned that myself through CBT after suffering with anxiety for years. When you practice mindfulness you regain objectivity and are able to recognize thoughts and feelings as being irrational and unhelpful, so can learn to change how you think and behave.
When you learn mindfullness and start applying it in your daily life it's like a relevation if you suffer from anxiety, panic attacks, phobias, compulsive/addictive behaviours or whatever. Suddenly you realise that you don't have to feel and experience that or think that way anymore. Some people have been doing it for so long, often most their lives, it seems normal, and even comfortable to them often. For many people it's a kind of self-protection mechanism against fear or rejection, or a way of coping with unresolved past trauma in their lives. We create our own realities in the mind which is an incredibly powerful thing as we've seen from many of Darren's experiments.
Interestingly, although psychology is still a developing medical science and tools like mindfulness have only started to become more widely adopted in clinical practice fairly recently relatively speaking, if you study the ancient religion and philosophy of Buddhism, it has all these tools incorporated. It's likely the source of mindfullness and how it got incorporated into modern psychology.
Practising daily mindfulness, thought and action/cause and effect awareness and controlling the mind through meditation are core teachings of Buddhism which the Buddha gained through Enlightenment. Quite incredible really for a religion 5,000 years old. It's a very practical largely science-based belief system that puts central importance on understanding and improving your own mind and behaviour,. In doing so, you're making life for yourself and others better, from developing awareness and compassion for yourself and others.
I also like to do negative reframing . Where I keep the negative but I add some insight or perspective that makes it bitter sweet or funny or interesting or whatever else that helps
I’m 56 - I can say anxiety has ruined my life. It’s like having a bad itch in every cell of your body - you can’t just ignore it or concentrate on something else to make it go away by. Or it’s like a bad flu that you want to feel better but you can’t because your sick. Terrible affliction. A massive weight that makes you feel like your drowning in mental discomfort. Makes me want to scream in anger just writing this comment.
Almost 30 years ago I was climbing in the Alps and suffered a fall with severe hip, knee, shoulder, spine and brain injury. I could no longer climb and after 6 solid months in a neurology ward in a hospital 6000 miles from home, learning to walk, talk and cope with my new reality, I was told I could never return to my medical career. Upon returning home I did not remember my wife or children…I started all over again. I was so bound to my career and my climbing accomplishments that my first decision was to commit suicide. But I couldn’t drive to the mountain where I decided to die. I experienced severe anxiety for almost 10 years. I had to unlearn the centrality of my work ethic to my ‘personhood’ that I had created. I had to learn to be honest with myself. Jordan Peterson said something profound that altered my way of coping. “Strive to be good. And if you are happy along the adventure of your life you are very fortunate”. I had to stop being all the jobs and persona’s that I wanted people to think of me as and start simply being honest. Within weeks my anxiety, panic attacks and constant agonizing stress vanished. I am not who I was. I am who I am. I am what I say, do and think now. Today. I still suffer memory loss and aphasia, time loss and constant migraines… I become foggy after several minutes of concentration on any task. I am not the same person. But I am intellectually intact. I am still married, now 40 years, my children and grandchildren love us. But above all I am now honest. Julie is right…we have to change to survive. We have to develop coping strategies that are successful…not convenient. We have to seek out the best things that are an honest reflection of who we are. This was another great video! Thanks much for another thoughtful analysis.
damn.
RESPECT.
What a horrific journey! Kudos to you and your family for being able to continue together.
Wow! Whatever your Karma was, it made you who you were, and who you are now. As the old cliché goes; "What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger." You have conquered the life you chose, despite the challenges. Your strength is admirable. Here's to 2023...🌠💫💓
can you please explain how your anxiety, panic attacks and constant agonizing stress vanished
thank you
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, I would like to give them a try but haven't found any legit grower to get it.
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
@Micheal Harris Is he on instagram?
Shrooms was the best trip I had. It was an amazing experience.
Tripping is not really bad but find a good mycologist Who will teach you the right things you need to know
If things become difficult, " I know I will have my own back" love this!
I really appreciate your attention to offering info to the many who can never hope to afford access to therapy. It is a real barrier for so many. Something I have railed against in mental health crises that our family has faced. Thank you!
Huge thank you Steven. This is the only show on the Internet I watch that has great meaning.educational as well as entertaining.
There is nothing else quite like this.
I recommend this to everyone, especially my 16 and 18 year old son and daughter.
Fantastic show I love it 😍
I am only half way through the video... This lady is the real deal... The world needs more women like you..
*In a world full of negativity, your videos are a breath of fresh air. Your messages resonate deeply, and I appreciate the positive vibes. Keep spreading the motivation!*
I find myself returning to this podcast anytime I am experiencing self doubt, overthinking, and anxiety. I always feel better afterwards
Randomly discovering Dr.Julie Smith now on UA-cam and it literally lands in my life at the perfect time. I ve been my own therapist/confident/best friend/worst enemy for as long as I remember and listening to her tackle so many mental/behavioral issues we all encounter as humans are some point, truly makes my day!.. I also realize how much my accute intuition, self awareness, resilience, empathy, ability to question everything and be curious rather than judgemental, truly saved me from going down the dark bottom spot that many cannot come back from. I ve always been drawn to psychology and the human behavior, and because of my natural people skills and empathy, it drew a lot of people of all psychological patterns to me. I m grateful to be listening to someone like Dr.Smith talk so genuinely and truthfully about everything I already knew and practiced. Sitting with your thoughts without the escapist quick fixes of the many things we rush to in order to avoid uncomfortable painful feelings is by far the toughest thing I ve done so far a d that she describes so accurately. Sending love and support to everyone struggling today 🙏🏽❤️ With time, awareness, patience, compassion, and love, there is always a light at the end of that dark tunnel ✨️
Here is how to stop overthinking.... Go spend time in nature. Go camping for three months, or as long as possible. When we live in the moment in nature, we experience the glory of clarity.
BEST MEDICINE E V E R !!!!……..also, babysitting my very small 16 month old grandson, keeps me in the here and now …..I’m very very focused. I am in Bliss when I’m taking care of him I don’t have time to worry about anything! Lol
Thank you for reminding me. I have lost what I learned 50 years ago: being nature is essential for my mental health.
The one week I spend in the forest--without electricity, phones, etc.--every year is easily the best I ever feel. Physically, emotionally, psychologically... it all feels... just right. Millions of years of evolution can't be wrong.
100%
@@rhondapelletier2141Even my mother is so happy playing with my kids 😂. Its a bliss to see that.
"Social media has made perfect look so normal"
Great quote, Steven!!
Having passed on this video because it seemed too long, I’ve found it fascinating, utterly engaging and massively helpful to spend time listening to these two wonderful people. So down to earth, honest and relatable. Thank you both for a super episode ❤
I ordered Dr Julie's book last night and now she's on my favourite podcast. Can't wait to take in and apply her knowledge
I absolutely love Dr Julie Smith. To hear her open up and let us know that she’s an introvert and has to juggle things too, is really enlightening. She’s an amazing role model and so informative. Great episode!
She’s brilliant isn’t she, glad you enjoyed it Cerys
You are better than Piers Morgan life story. I hope you paid her a good appearance fee
I enjoyed studying psychology in university and while in the military, now using it daily to teach martial arts. Helping people to overcome fears and learning how to reach their full potential. People have no idea how to become the powerful beings they were created to be. Helping others is the greatest reward and it's very good therapy for all.
I'm my own CEO of my overthinking brain. Thank you you much for getting Julie on. I really appreciate it
2 in 1 week 😯 , Steven is being really generous with us 🥤 🍿 🎥
🙌🏽 the least I could do for you guys
@@TheDiaryOfACEO Legend.
Work rate A1
This was one of my favourite episodes yet! I found it super beneficial and highlighted a lot in my personal life for me. Thank you for another great episode & an amazing guest🙏🏻
Just want to say (again) that I ABSOLUTELY LOVE this channel and you are a brilliant interviewer!! I watched an interview with her a few weeks ago made by Ali, and with all my fondness to him, it really was not interesting and a bit boring and chaotic, I couldn't finish it... ALL your interviews are so captivating and amazing in content and angle of questions, I honestly prioritise them over work atm lol
Dr Julie! Please don't give up! I have followed you since the beginning!! You are SO HELPFUL in very important and subtle ways! I fall asleep to your voice most evenings. Your "shorts" run in my memory at many points of my day/week. And! Your little ones will only be little for a short time and being present and available for them is soooo important and you don't want to lose sight of this... your children are also gaining resiliency, independence and life lessons, patterns and tools living with a fully actuated Mom doing, thinking and giving back in a holistic fully actuated life!! You go Girl! ❤
I really enjoyed this podcast. What a great guest.
Therapy can be so damaging if you don’t know what to look for in a therapist. There’s loads of useful information here.
Love this lady she cares so very much, craving acceptance, she nails it in every conversation 💜
LOVED this interview! I loved her and her personality, her views, her insights…she’s brilliant, and I didn’t know her,
Thank you Steven, again, for introducing me to a wonderful human being, and thank you for being such an amazing interviewer, you make all of us feel “at home” and welcomed ♥️
I'm sorry, I think I got lost, in which part do they specifically talk about overthinking??
Although I felt uncomfortable at times because I felt like I was eavesdropping on a private therapy session, I really found this interview particularly insightful. Thank you, Julie Smith! Thank you, Steven! I wish you both the best!
I totally agree with the point about the idea of behaving in line with our values. I felt lost and depresses in the past when I lost the connection with my core values as I was trying to be something I am not.
What on earth are you talking about? What were you trying to be? A teapot? A giraffe?
@@Steven-ze2zkat least I was not trying to be a dickhead. You got there first.
@@Steven-ze2zk are you trying to be funny?
Just want to say you're killing it with this podcast. I love the platform and to hear you're starting to do 2 a week is a blessing bro ! This episode was a great insight and one that I believe many people will need and one that I will be coming back to often. Thank you for having this platform in which I've learned so much from. Looking forward to watching more great episodes, keep up the great work !!!
These podcasts have changed my life, particularly this one and the Mo Gawdat episode. Thank you Steven!
Newly becoming one of my favorite podcasts in my rotation every week! every episode has been gas, Thank you!
It's been a beneficial conversation to listen to. I've found it refreshing to hear a mother who is successful and talks so positively around motherhood and making decisions with her children in mind. In a society that stigmatises motherhood, this voice has been appreciated.
Loved, loved It! I have Julie's book which is great so to see her in person was wonderful. Loved your interaction and how you always entwine your personal views and experiences into the conversation. Well done x
Hello there! Firstly, I'd like to thank you , for inviting Dr Julie on your channel & discussing such important topics that almost everyone of us go through either once. It's been a while since I've joined Dr.Julie's official youtube channel & it helped me a LOT. As mentioned in the video, 🔸anxiety & 🔸stress is something that can be pretty 🔹overwhelming & even 🔹frustrating sometimes, and all of us go through a certain period where we face these things.Lately, I've been a lil' stressed out due to some issues & my goals as well because, you know I've always had some ▪dreams & 🔸aims & some 🔹plans for my ✴future & ✴career, ✴my studies and, it's like, just a start for me to implement my thoughts in practical life, as I've made a step forward for myself, by that, I mean I've started setting goals & I'm trying my best to achieve them. I'm just an 8th standard student, but there's a lot that I've planned for myself, s everyone do. I believe that there isn't a specific age for, you know, 🔷planing and 🔶aiming for things. Dr.Julie's channel helped me so much to cope up & tackle with my stress & struggles. I truly appreciate how she shares her therapies with us & the way she utilizes her study of psycology other than her profession, here on UA-cam. THANK YOU.❤
This Lady is so wonderful I’ve followed her on TikTok and Instagram for a few years and she has been a great help ! I was so pleased to see she was your guest !
There have been so many wonderful insights from many different people, I am really getting so much benefit from these. This one is a gem 💎. Thank you Steven for sharing this knowledge with us ❤
I resonate with the challenges this episode has discussed towards positive mental health, whilst contributing to educate others - Thank you Steven for always delivering valuable information ...... on point!
Wow! Loved this interview. I think Dr. Julia’s intrigue and connection for me comes not just from her knowledge, but her honesty, vulnerability and I would say genuine need to help others.
This was a great introduction for me to Dr Julie, her endeavours sound really purpose driven. A great conversation 👌🏾
I started following her on tiktok at the beginning of Covid, it's amazing how fast she has grown...clearly the world seems to need her.
she's brilliant!
@@TheDiaryOfACEO yeah Steve and I’m 38 haha I think she definitely can help a big range of ages. Thank you for what you do man
I love this woman, she's like a big warm hug through the screen ♥️
2 episodes in a week?! Keep them coming! On a side note: I bought her book a few days ago so I am really enjoying this episode ☺
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literally starting watching these about 1 week ago. It was the Gary Neville one that got me, i must admit, I find these podcasts more educational and the topics that get spoken about hit home in a way i'd never imagine. PLEASE KEEP THESE COMING THEY'RE HAVING A MASSIVE IMPACT ALREADY IN THE WAY I CAN DEAL WITH CHALLENGING THINGS! THANKS SO MUCH!!!!!
I’m so glad dr julie mentioned the idea of “don’t love anybody else until you love yourself.”
I’ve often think that I need to master self love before I even put myself out there & it just makes me feel so anxious as to what does that even look like?? How does one reach there? The standard has put so much pressure on me personally. Thanks so much for making me feel like it’s ok not have to live up to that standard ❤
achievements, outwork your self doubt !!
Yes, that sentence is perfectionist motto. That won't do any good. Just anxious life and being ungrateful to people and things you have in life
Another great episode. I've always said that when someone has a passion for what they do it gives them an edge, and that came across in spades with Dr Julie.
This is the type of nutritional substance that is born out of social media. Inquisitive and scientific approach to our daily activities. Thanks to Dr Julie and Steve
Really interesting discussion. I liked how both interviewer and interviewee made it personal to themselves too. Our feelings, thoughts and emotions are valid. Living life relative to our core values so important. Thank you!
This is great! I have never enjoyed a podcast like this ever as much as yours, this is my first watch since I just discover your channel yesterday. This is definitely full of meaningful information that tap the importance of my values and inspire me to understand more of how I go through with things in my life. Thank you for sharing this! I will absolutely listen to more of your episodes.
Supporting your channel. Godbless your heart!
Dr. Julie is great! I really enjoy her social media clips on you tube too. Also thank you Steven for making me aware of all of the great people that are so inspiring.
My first time listening to both parties. Tons of cheers for such an engaging conversation. Dr. Smith is so inspirational ~ a lot of what she mentions resonates well, I love people, have three kids, want to be the best mom and then add more into life. Really looking for the opportunity to work with her 🙏
Her book is so incredible a must read for any one! Such a great guest and episode!
thank you kyra
what book?
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This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my UA-cam channel 2 months ago about self development. Now I have 182 subs and almost 82 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.
WOOW this channel is amazing, thank you Steven for being you. Ive fell into this abyss of your videos and how amazing and the same each guest really is when you compare the similarities between them. then there's you Steven, you give guest a ride each time with how each person has uncertainty with how you may or may not reach to each thing but at the end you ease their worry by letting them know how much you appreciate their stories and them by coming on and sharing. WOOOW just AMAZING AND PROFOUND at least for me. thanks again Steven, amazingly I think ive ran through 20 videos in 2 straight days and now im hook.
What a fantastic woman! Wow. An inspiration to all. ❤
This is my favourite channel to date - such a wonderful way to gain lessons for the future. Thanks Steven!
Two episodes in one week?! Wow, what a treat!!! Can't wait to listen to this.
🙌🏽 hope you enjoy them!
Amazing work here! It's going to be great to expand on this across the table from you in 2023 Steven!
So glad I found this podcast! Helping me get back on the right mindset track! Thank you
Wow, I finally heard someone else share the pattern of chasing a woman and then running away if they respond! This was my pattern for years. Thanks for your honesty.
This podcast sets the bar of my engagement, enjoyment, and the usefulness to me, extremely high, and it keeps hitting that bar and sometimes even raising it further... so no pressure to Steven or to Dr Julie Smith but you must not stop doing what you do. What you do here is greatly appreciated and greatly helps.
@@prisonforjohnnydepp5298 And this is related to my previous comment "because"...?
What a wonderful treat, genuine, relatable. First time hearing her, love her.
I think we all needed this at this moment in life! Thank you.
Also good teachings to help my children deal with this crazy world
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Apparently, the suicide rate is going up
I know 3 people who committed suicide, 2 of them were workers
None of them took drugs
Explain that 🤷🏼🤔uk
This episode was just what I needed TODAY 🙌🏽🙏🏼😊… it helped take that leap of faith to leave my current job and expand my horizon!! Blessings to you Steven and your team!! ❣️
What you do is professional, informative, positive, and very helpful. It is interesting and uplifting to learn from it. THANK YOU 😊
I have listened to almost all of your episodes and this is one of my favorites! It's my third time listening this one and I feel like I always learn something new or remember an advice that I needed to hear. Congrats to both of you! very soothing to listen to you both.
As someone who does therapy and values it’s immensely, there still seems to be a little taboo for men to do it and talk about it. It’s conversations like this that make it available to everyone. Can’t wait for the two episodes next week x
There’s still the stigma that men showing emotions is a sign of weakness. That a true man never cries, or even has feelings. Luckily that type of thinking is going away, but it’s still very much prevalent in our society
Do you offer free therapy, over the phone maybe?
Well as a guy, a knowledge addict and a born over thinker, I however have grown beyond societal expectations, norms, stigma and and because I have self respect, and just chose to rise above such trivial nonsense, but I still don't reveal my emotions because I haven't found anyone worthy or otherwise savy enough to understand them. Spent most of my life alone, 1 or 2 honest friends, and valued my isolation to garner wisdom I think few would ever achieve. That now the most difficult part, is finding someone to speak to on the same lvl let alone share your deepest emotions with. But thats just me of course. Hehehe it however doesn't take much for others to throw all their emotional baggage onto me you see. Men or woman, and I know why, as being able to connect with them from just a simple few words spoken reveals all they are. Most people are not complicated, and if your a professional at observing the consistencies of life, then nothing remains new for very long.
I’m a Content Creator and I relate to this so hard. Social media is so bad for our mental health and is only causing us to miss out on so much of real life. I really hope to make UA-cam my main platform in the future so that I can delete everything else! Love the video and will be following your journey 🥰🦋
Hi Dr Julie!!
Love, love your channel.
You are amazing; your 60 second videos are some of my favorite! I also wear a Galaxy Watch and listen to your 10 minute relaxation video each night. Great on you Steve for doing this interview!! Two of my fav's all at once ❤
This was one of my favourite episodes yet! I found it super beneficial and highlighted a lot in my personal life for me. Thank you for another great episode & an amazing guest
This came at a perfect time for my anxiety. Can’t wait to hear!
great to hear conor 🙌🏽 let me know what you think
We met at Muscleworks last week, honestly took me so much courage to say hi 😂 Genuinely the most amazing podcast out there, so glad you’re releasing 2 a week now! You’re a huge inspiration to many Steven 🙌🏼
Dr Julie Smith / Steven - Thank you both so much for such an insightful conversation. I bought the book & the audio. Very helpful. I appreciate you both.
I love Dr Julia! Thanks for bringing her on your podcast!
Downloaded her audiobook earlier this week! Looking forward to giving this a watch. Thank you 😊
Amazing! I hope you find it valuable
Omg yes yes yes!- love dr Julie. Every guest on here is so unexpected but always excited to listen
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Dr Julie's videos are super EFFECTIVE... gets the point across in minutes... She deserves all that comes her way... THANK YOU Dr Julie.
With love from SA 🇿🇦
I have attempted to meditate many times in my life and prior to this CD the only success I've experienced is with live guided meditation. ua-cam.com/users/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq This is the first CD I've used that cuts through my unmedicated ADHD and enables me to truly relax and experience a quiet and energizing interval. The instructors voice is very soothing and pleasant to listen to. I am easily able to sit successfully through the entire CD, and for quite some time after. I cannot adequately express how tremendously helpful this CD has been on my spiritual journey!! Two thumbs up and 10 stars!
I loved this episode. I hadn't even heard of you Dr Julie but what your doing us absolutely Fantastic and same with you Steven thank you for all you guys do for the world bringing us such good content for our own growth and journeys ❤ I think I will listen to this episode again
@The Diary Of A CEO. Thanks for organising this Steve. I've had the chance to watch a lot of your podcast episodes in succession over the last few months. Quick observation - you've questioned numerous guests on the topic of imposter syndrome & coping with criticism especially in the setting of heightened success. Have you ever thought about why that is? A vulnerable episode of you sharing you own thoughts on this would be insightful.
Big fan. Keep up the good work. Would love to attend one of your episodes!
- J
Two episodes a week from now on. Perfection!
🙌🏽 thank you Chris
Great interview, Steven. You are brilliant and I truly enjoyed what Dr. Smith shared. Will buy her book for sure. Thanks so much.
Making meaningful change is like turning around an ocean liner. It takes time. I have also learnt that it is not a good idea to change too many things at once. Make a single chance, bed it down so it sticks. Then change another aspect of your life and so on
Hello. I am fairly new to your channel and have listened to about 5 of your interviews. Your highly thoughtful questions of your guests take the interviews into interesting intellectual areas that keep us coming back!!! Please continue your great work as helps we, your listeners, to improve ourselves and our lives. Thank you.
My goal was to talk walk again I can now I have hypoxia brain injury I died 26minutes spent weeks months in coma rehab hospital learning talk walk again been a recovery massive discovery never ever give up on yourself many will never yourselves keep going doing amazing things considering doctors saying I will never talk walk again been a long journey one I'm still on sometimes gets hard stay strong stay positive stay safe everyone takecare becareful out there dont let guards down sending luck hugs prayers most of all love from UK takecare x
Wow that episode really hit home.
I suddenly found the reason why I trash every relationship I get in when I get to a certain point. Its like I can find a red flag with anything it doesnt matter how small it is and that's it then I'm off on my way convincing myself that that small reason is more than enough to leave that relationship in the past. I guess knowing this and reprogramming myself when I feel it happening next time is the challenge but at least it makes sense now why I do it.
Couple that up with a tweet I recently read "Every one of my exes has gone on to meet the love of their lives right after me-always genuinely fantastic people, often extremely intelligent and kind. Meanwhile I'm having to face the fact that I may well be the problem."
I guess it's time to face up to my weaknesses and try to develop 😬
Thank you
🙌Incredible podcast. Thank you Mr Bartlett and your team & thank you Dr Julie Smith, a wonderful podcast 🤗
I actually had a discussion with myself, over a decade ago, where I was sitting waiting for someone, and I was debating with myself whether or not the person I was waiting for even liked me (yes, it was a girl I liked). I realized that my thoughts on the matter wouldn't matter until she got there and I could see and experience what she felt and thought about me, so I made a deal with myself to stop overthinking as soon as I was aware of it. So, little by little, I stopped the harmful overthinking and though it still pops up from time to time, especially in times of emotional stress, I can deal with it better than I did when I was younger.
It is like debating whether there will be rain tomorrow or not. You can't affect it, so you only have to take a bit of precaution not to get wet if it does start to rain. I also made a deal to avoid getting upset if I forgot it a few times, as overthinking is quite normal.
What I still do, and what I hate, is when embarrassing moments from the past pop into my head in the most unlikely situations. Not sure if that is just me, but as I have gathered, it is not.
this is a super wonderful way to put it, thank u for this!
The embarrassing moments popping up is definitely a thing
People don’t understand the way the mind works.
That’s why so many of us suffer with anxiety.
The amazing thing is that most non clinical mental health issues and many quite severe clinical disorders, are very well managed by simply grounding ourselves and effectively teaching our mind to focus on the here, and the now!
Taking control of your mental health will be one of, if not the most liberating experience you will ever have.
The problem is however, it usually takes people to be in a very bad place in order to receive help with their mental health.
If anyone here is experiencing problems.
I sincerely hope that you can get the help that you need.
As the late great Sigmund Freud said and I quote:
“The aim of Psychological Therapy is to transform neurotic misery into common unhappiness.”
Oh my god, I so needed to hear this. Comfort is now sitting at home and being outside fills me with anxiety. I need to retrain my mind to enjoy being outdoors again.
I started a bit skeptic and didn't really find anything that I didn't already knew, but found the interview to be so honest that it was just natural to watch it until the end. Thanks for the good content!
Anyone watching this who thinks "But I don't have any mental health issues" I highly recommend you either read or listen to Dr Julie's book, I have listened to the audiobook twice and both times I have recognised traits that I have that are not issues but it is great to understand them more, Another brilliant guest on the Diary of a CEO
I just kept listening and listening. All talk about talk(topic). Pretty much, she talked about herself.
I just started watching your videos and my brain has been super fed and relaxed, especially after your interview with Mel Robins! Thank you.
Struggling with my depression right now. Good listening to Dr Julie and keen to watch more. A good up lift.
This is going to be a good one, I really suffer with anxiety, looking forward to hear this 👍
🙏🏽 hope you get a lot from it
I've suffered for over 10 years, and quiet badly as of late. I was doing some research as to how to naturally help my anxiety, and I found that magnesium can help. I have been taking it for 2 weeks and I have seen such a difference. Definitely give it a try.
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All who read this message, may love and abundance flow into your life. 💖 Embrace the positive energy, and know that you are deserving of joy and prosperity. May your path be filled with blessings. 💖✨
Mr Bartlett has proved to be such an inspiring individual, one of my favourite people to follow. Incredibly articulate and produces such fascinating content
This was so useful and informative, thank you for this 🙌🏻🙌🏻
pleasure! thank you for watching
Really good content. Looking at emotions with curiosity, the importance of relationships.
I recently started IFS therapy and do similar sort of things: looking at emotions without judgement, with curiosity, compassion and love. Finding what I can learn, finding the patterns/core beliefs that often come from childhood. It's so important as by doing so we don't fall into this trap of "toxic positivity", we don't judge our emotions/behaviours, we don't suppress them either That way we can understand ourselves better.
When it comes to relationships I really liked what your guest said that often people want to have a "perfect" relationship with themselves before jumping into a relationship with someone else, whereas it's okay to start a relationship despite the feeling that we're not 100% with ourselves. We can continue working on ourselves while in a relationship I guess. From my experience I know how much I discovered about myself while being in a relationship, what things I should work on etc
On the other hand, I think it's vital to have a "good enough" relationship with ourselves before deciding to be with someone. That way we won't be codependent or avoidant with the other person. (Attachment theory is useful here). About to read a book by R Schwartz titled: You're the one you've been waiting for. It's a beautiful title which I am hoping to understand better.
When it comes to values and goals I really liked the fact that Julie explained that living within our values is constant, it's a journey rather than a destination and that values can change as we go along in life. For me personally the biggest value I go by is authenticity. Often when we're growing up and experience trauma we have to give up authenticity simply just to survive and not get hurt along the way. An example would be child having an emotionally immature or abusive parent and would end up choosing attachment over being authentic for the sake of survival. The problem often arises in the adulthood where the mind carries on those core beliefs and patterns and get stuck which ultimately bring suffering.
Your podcast is great, covers lots of important topics. People can learn a lot from it.
🙏🏽 thank you sharing! Glad you’re enjoying the content