Yes, it's a spiritual battle. They keep you there traumatised, trying to figure things out until one day you see their dark soul. They want to extinguish your bright light and take you out. What they didn't realise about us, is that we had the strength to push forward in spite of their bad intentions towards us. Now we are here on the channel together on the healing path, getting stronger all the time. No more, enough is enough. Our best days are now. Thank you Andrew for driving this wisdom home every day.
@@flowerpower4944 Yes it is! Unfortunately all of us had to go through this. We are on the side of righteousness and truth. We already have the victory with hard work and dedication to ourselves, we will heal our good souls and God will do the rest. We are already blessed to have the support of this group and Andrew getting on here every day, reinforcing the message home. Have a lovely day....onwards and upwards.
Behind the mask of a narcissist, lies a world they can not fathom - the depth of your resilience, the power of your empathy, and the authenticity of your soul. They may never know the beauty they've missed, for their own reflection blinds them to the brilliance that surrounds them.
Absolutely.....we have an authentic soul that lines up with its source, "God" of all creation and wisdom. They will never understand that about us! They thought we were weak but our caring ways, is actually our greatest strength. Once awakened from the cycle of abuse, we now use that same kindness on ourselves, healing our brokenness and getting stronger every day. They are blind and have missed out. Their own darkness consumes them.
Totally, and I don't think people really understand what this 'lesson', if you will, is all about and I feel that it is likely that you wont ever be released from this cycle/groundhog scenario/wilderness living, until you accept that there is a God and that there is good and evil in this world (mostly evil these days, unfortunately!), and it is a spiritual battle for your soul, for real.
Flying monkeys also! It truly amazing to realize that most questions are baiting and repetitive, and seem to pop up out of nowhere in everyday conversations Clearly there is a dark influence in play... Thanks to Andrew and all of you here, I keep learning and growing! Wisdom is guiding us even in how to apply its lessons as we learn them! From the light side! ❤❤❤❤🎉
Hi Andrew and my beautiful family. What the narcissist didn't know about us was that we are empath and when we're done and tried... we have awaken and gotten our power back!! Now we're aware and the fogs has cleared!! Because they think you will never leave. But the Narcissist was not ready for the awaken empath!! Hope everyone has the wonderful week and know your strength and the power you hold! 💜💜 namaste 🙏
I totally agree with you! My ex never thought for one minute that I would have the guts to leave him and my two adult boys, still living at home at the time. His aunt keeps reminding me whilst we chat every week, sometimes twice a week since September 2009 when I left! But I did, and now it's my time to be free and do all the things I only ever had dreamed of, like travelling. We are beautiful people inside and out despite all the negativity we endured. We have a wonderful community here, and that's thanks to Andrew's teachings. It is just so sad that the reason we need to get educated is because of what was done to us. Keep smiling and evolving, guys ❤xx
So true! I had this one so high on a pedestal, I did everything he asked of me, was so deep in the fog that I am sure never thought I would be the one to not only file for divorce but block him and go no contact. For real...when us empaths are done, we are DONE.
I prayed with a priest at an online prayer meeting, the priest is also an Exorcist, when i said the narcs out loud of people who had hurt me, the narcissist called and left a message on my phone saying he couldn’t sleep all night and had terrible and crazy dreams! That was my affirmation that prayers work! I changed my number and haven’t heard from the devil/sicko since! Free yourself and love yourself and have boundaries, stay away from toxic people! God bless!❤
What the narcissist doesn’t not understand is self love, they can’t phantom staying in a committed relationship. The word love to them mean cheat on them.
When they think you're weak, is when they'll try a hoover, even if blocked. They'll use mutual friends to try to find info out about you, so they can try to slither back in. This is what they thrive on - your weakness, so they can once again try to steal your light. I am making sure very few know where I am now working, because I'm fairly certain the one narcissist is seeking revenge and I put nothing past this person to try to disrupt my peace.
This is happening to my husband right now. His ex-employer, who tried to openly and shamelessly steal thousands in wages from us, is using a few mutually-known associates to find out how he’s doing. He and his crazy wife even waited in a parking lot at a local business when they thought my husband was inside the business and going to exit shortly. These people are straight up stalkers.
💯!! What the narcissist (as well as the vast majority of people) should know about you is NOTHING!!!! The more you can fly under the radar in this life, the happier you will be! Peace ✌️!!
Once you get close to or on the pinnacle of indifference on your healing path, you will be able to honestly say, I will never allow myself to be decieved into going back to , nor enter into another toxic and narcissistic abusive relationship. TY Andrew for sharing your wisdom about narcissistic abuse. 😊
I am starting to heal, it’s just me and my dog. I received a message from the local pd , he has been arrested again over physical abuse of mr the prosecution want to talk to me about some other issues doing with him. He has no idea of my strength at this point. I cut everybody with the exception of 3 trusted friends. It’s lonely but it so much better that the constant abuse of all kinds. He will never get to me again.I’m way to caring ,loving empathetic,giving to let a narc or vampire get it me. Thanks Andrew you’re awsome
This was me some years ago, where it ended up with only me and my miraculous fur baby, thank God. Don't take these animals for granted; keep them safe and well-cared for, because they do so much just by us being blessed with them. Specifically, if you ever feel weak or intimidated with going back to a narcissist, look into the innocent eyes of your baby (whether human or animal, in fact), and resolve not to put THEM into that situation ever again. They also deserve the best. God bless❣️🙏🐕👶
It IS a battle between good and evil, Andrew! Spot on. It’s the closest thing I’ve ever encountered to dealing with a true demon. I even saw facial expressions that frightened me to the core. For me, it was the Mercy of Jesus Christ that kept me from perishing. I have mined this experience for all the lessons possible. It’s important for me to clearly see where I ignored my own inner voice and came under the narcissist’s control. I chose what I WANTED so I ignored the red flags. I am humbly thankful for the lessons I have learned, the strength I have gained, and the courage I have built. Praise Be to My Savior, Jesus Christ! Now and FOREVER!
Once you heal and you put back the fractured pieces post narc, you begin to rediscover yourself all over again but with new found stronger sense of who you once were, boundaries in check. You begin to take back your power because you reinvented yourself, you're not the same person after and you begin to live life again. Only this time is the best time yet, it was transformative because you alchemized the pain into success, and the best diffusion is living your best life after.
Mine doesn't know that I know more about her actions than anyone alive. It's possible that lying, cheating and using me for 6 years wasn't wise. It would only take 2 emails for me to ruin every aspect of her life. Its good to know I could. But I'm trying not to let the narcissist fragment she left in my head win.
Andrew, 1,000% on all of it, especially "owing" a narcissistic mother. You owe her for everything she ever did for you, and she'll never take responsibility for everything she did to you - because it was all your fault. Making sure the narcissist knows nothing about you again, is not only the best defense, but allows peace of mind for the future.
When I'm around my husband, I feel like I don't have any energy to do anything and I'm like why do I feel this way. I feel guilty for feeling this way.
In your picture you look full of energy. I used to look and feel like that at the beginning of the relationship with my ex. Mine wanted my attention all the time, would suggest/subtly control our time and what we did. I didn’t want to hurt his feelings as some of these were kind things. (And I had no boundaries….what were they?). There were subtle things like ‘oh don’t get up yet.’ when I wanted to bounce out of bed and get on with jobs (my old self). If I said I needed to get on with things and got up he might be in a bad mood the rest of the day but I didn’t know why. Eventually I did what he said….and didn’t get up when I wanted. I lost my ‘bounce’. At the time I didn’t know what was happening. I’d entered the Narc fog. This is ‘coercive control’ which I learned after getting away. More overt things happened, how we chose our meals, pay bills etc. There were instant rages, especially when I tried to talk about our relationship. This was intermingled with the feeling that i was the most important thing in his life at other times and everyone saw an adoring man. So confusing. I was put on a pedestal then knocked off it and felt like a piece of dirt under his shoe. It is exhausting, wears you down and down. The rages can increase in length and intensity. Over time your health can take a hit, years of intense stress causes the immune system to malfunction then illnesses can wear you down even more. I got out but stayed too long, was a shell of a person. Still rebuilding after years free. Sorry this seems long and negative but please look after yourself. If odd things are happening write them down so you have validation (rather than thinking ‘did that really just happen?’ It’s proof of the crazy making. If you feel the relationship is harming you please find a way to get out. ❤
Im grateful for the narcissist for pushing me closer to God. Thank you. If it wasnt for you i would be another brick in the wall, another cog in the matrix. Now im shining brighter than ever and fully aware of the evil in this world. Narcs are here for a purpose - to awaken us. God is great
"What should they know about you now....Absolutely nothing ! " KaBoom ! Right on brother ! A real blessing can be having had a full trait narcissist who you know does not care about you (or anyone), especially after realizing they are in the no return ever attitude. Its only the premium supply they miss. The thought of returning used to make me sick. Its still there but no new puke test is necessary. Your body/mind can convince you to self care if you listen.
Andrew, you are absolutely right! NEVER GIVE YOUR PHONE NUMBER OR ASSOCIATE WITH ANYONE YOU MEET IN THESE ROOMS. YOU WILL BE FREE OF GOSSIP AND TOXICITY..
I did realize for a long time that my marriage was indeed a battle of ‘Good vs. Evil’. However, once you see through them there is no unseeing! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
I finally blocked my narcissist friend. Now it’s a matter of time before she comes over to see me. I’m going to block her again and tell her no. She’s way too draining for me. Thank you for your wisdom. I’m getting better and moving on getting stronger.
I did the same thing. I saw her at the store. She waited for me to come out of the store. I said nothing and got in my truck and left. She is a definite narc cruel, abusive, a user selfish backstabbing triangulation, and even flirted with my ex narc. Situationship. Andrew, you described my situation exactly and others too. These videos keep me on my healing path. I have no one around me at the moment, but I have been so drained. I am back to working in my garden, but I'm very weak cause these narcs really do deplete you. I am going to take better care of myself now. I'm still dealing with a lot, but I will overcome these demonic attacks cause of other light workers like all of you. Thanks again, Andrew, for your healing message. Namaste
Early in the 10 year relationship with my Narc we were lying in bed together and he told me that he wanted a future with me. I was so elated I was giggling and snuggling up to him and telling him how happy and excited that his words made me feel. I thought oh my gosh I've finally found my soulmate! Then I went to bed (in my separate bedroom in his house (red flag?). In the morning, when I woke up I reminisced about the night before and the elated feeling continued until he woke up and was acting like he was angry with me, like he didn't remember the night we had together. I told him that we had a beautiful night last night, and asked him what is wrong? He said that I laughed at him. He said that he opened up to me and and I laughed at him. This shell shocked me. I explained and explained how I wasn't laughing, or laughing at him. I went on to explain and explain and explain and the issue was never resolved and it set the tone for the rest of the relationship.
I only WISH I realized this before my mother died. She abandoned me very young, like an imbecile, I went looking for her when I finally made it, to forgive her and apologize to her AND SAVE HER! After my grandmother warned me, she’s CharlesMando, be REALLY CAREFUL with her. I didn’t get it. Oh I can handle it. My mom didn’t care about anything but destroying my life, stealing my inheritance and making my family members her henchmen. Never had a problem with any of them. Now, thanks to my dad marrying 2 of them, I have no family.
It really is a spiritual battle. I felt the negative energy & trauma-bond, post-narcissistic relationship. Felt like a heavy, dark, painful feeling or connection towards this individual. But also how I craved & missed them still. I'm finally, truly feeling better, happier & lighter. The heaviness feels like it's gone now. I prayed so much since the discard. Recently started asking and crying to God to please to take the pain away and that I've been feeling it long enough. I believe my prayers have been answered. Months, & months of feeling confused, bad, traumatized, hurt & feeling heartache/heartbreak. Now, I'm really feeling stronger & better and with time💪 Rumination is less & less, which I am glad. The Narcississt has no idea what I am doing to heal and everything I am doing to better my own life & career. They won't get anything out of me if they try to hoover! Still on the healing path and feeling closer & closer to indifference🙏😌🕊️ Thank you, Andrew🙏💙💯
They are the ones that needed you, they are the addicts and you were the drug, you no longer have to pacify the abusers cravings anymore. You being the Drug are far too special and priceless ,for these people who cant see past their own noses. And man are they DUMB! they are not very smart at all, its just a façade. Its funny when they meet someone who is intelligent and can put them back into time out lol Reverse narcology works great! Little bit by little bit. The darkness you felt was their darkness, what you learned tho was how to strengthen your weaknesses and boundaries and most of all, you realized you do mean something and that you are worthy of much more, that in fact, you learned to love yourself once again, you deserve it! You deserve to smile and laugh without the doom and gloom machine lurking in the background. I wish you all the best., I too was in this dark place, so I took up some hobbies, started doing things I missed doing and learned New Skills ( Just taught myself to crochet) The Sky is limitless, be the best version of you! Remember, You are NOT a Victim and you are Not a Survivor, YOU ARE A WARRIOR! You Got This! Stay The Course Stay Focused! No more Relation-shits! lol
Thank you for sharing. I can definitely relate. You worded it perfectly. I felt shame to miss narcissist after the horrific things they've done. But going no contact with them, shutting all the doors and windows to them, processing, journaling, rebuilding my credit, focusing on my children and career has helped me tremendously. On my way to the pentacle of indifference 🧘🏽♀️
The Price We Pay is PAIN......So find Courage to Learn and Change Your Environment for the Better.....(You Know Now That The Narc Will Never Change So Leave Them.)
I learned to say no and took my first flight again to see family in 7 years. Had me a great time and had so much fun. Also recently received my bachelors degree. This is my life now.
Congrats! People say a degree is just a piece of paper, but I beg to differ. You've worked for it and earned it. You could lose your house in a fire, loose all your savings, etc., but no one can ever take that degree from you, not even the mafia!
So happy for you donnas411! You are an inspiration to us all. Keep being the best version of yourself and your taking your life back in great strides! Keep up the good work! ☀️😎🦋👍🏻❤️💯
"You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people." Genesis 50:20 God bless you and your family.
I’ve been gang stalked by a group of narcissists and this weekend one of them pretended to have attended my alma matar. He also claimed to be a knowledgeable in topics I have above average understanding. When he didn’t even know the layout of the campus or who the leadership of an organization I had been involved in were, he had been chucked out already. He clearly stole his account from someone else, looked at the website of the campus and thought he was good. I’ve met a lot of these posers in South Korea and it’s no wonder that even within the Asian community in the States that Koreans being posers is a massive part of their identity.
I'm so very grateful to be here and healing. I'm going to begin a search for a therapist. Edit: I love the sound of the bluejays... one came to the tree by my patio this morning. 🙂
It was horrible. He would buy me a vacuum cleaner or Keurig coffee pot and I would purposely take a picture and send it to his friend because he was my friend too, bragging about how wonderful he was and his friend couldn't stand it and would tell me that it's fake. What a horrible way to live.
It is a SPIRITUAL BATTLE - And I could write pages and pages on this issue. Enough to say, that a physical body is nothing but a "vessel" of energy and regardless of who it is, whether, your mother, father, sister or brother or anyone else in our family or otherwise, once WE KNOW, we can detach both physically and emotionally without guilt or shame. Maintaining these relationships IS NOT LOVE.💔 IS NOT LOVE AND IS NOT A COMPASSIONATE ACTION TO ENGAGE💔. Blessings to all! ❤
@@jhavajoe3792 It broke my heart but I had to accept my older sister is one of the most scary narcs I have ever encountered in my life and stopped all contact with her many years ago. Forgave and wish her the best, just away from me. TY Joe! Hope you are having a great TUESDAY (I'm working from home today) ❤
@@jhavajoe3792 My older sister is one of the most scary narcs I've ever encounter. I had to stop all contact with her years ago. I wish her the best just at a safe distance from me. Hope you having a great Tuesday! (I am working from home today, multitasking, cleaning, cooking and office stuff) LOL
Thank you Andrew. You’re describing the avalanche of zombie narcissists that I’ve been running from for a lifetime. Everything you’re unpacking here is a road map out of the maze. We win with discernment. Nostalgia for the good old days when we believed they loved us must be tossed like garbage. And narcissistic bullies are a walking dumpster fire! Block. Delete. Holidays Schmolidays!!! Thank you for your healing voice.
This man speaks the truth. Thank you Andrew. This is more than a toxic individual, this is a spiritual attack on your soul. If you've experienced being controlled by your partner, manipulated, gaslight, abused emotionally, physically, mentally, financially and everything falling apart in your life, isolation, no longer recognizing yourself, you need to fight for your life. The Lord showed me signs when I was heading down a path of sin after sin after sin, it was pulling me a way from God. It felt too late but God begged a differ. I called on Jesus and I tell you, I was pulled out of a dark and dangerous state. My mind was almost gone, I was on drugs, for the first time in my life, I'm 41. I idolized this man, God had to show me. I am praying for you all, youre here so that is the first step, seek help and than plan a way out.
There's something new, different in a good way, about your smile!!! Whatever is giving you such a glow, I hope it continues on and on...... You give us so much, you deserve all the good also, in return! Namaste
I think indifference takes a while if we are honest with ourselves. There is a large gap between the narcissistic fog and indifference, at least for me. There is also the work that you talk about when it comes to radical acceptance, enlightenment, and simply getting out of denial, It is hard for the human brain to understand and digest that some people simply cannot love. That is where I have been stuck. I am trying to stay away from the cynicism that the narcissist intentionally creates as a tactic of isolation. I think most people are good at heart and I have hope for love and I will never let narcs take that away from me😊
Oh yes, it’s definitely a spiritual battle. The narcissist is a demonic creature that tries to destroy you. They are sick individuals who try to steal your goodness and try to be you. They try but they can’t be you if you don’t allow it. You have to be strong and get educated on narcissism. I’m so glad I found your channel Andrew. 😊 You are awesome. ❤️🙏😎
I agree,a spiritual battle.Their aim is to take your soul as well as your mind and heart.This is a beautifully presented video Andrew.So glad I had the strength to move forward and see that light through the tunnel.😊🤗🍁🌺🌿🌾
My journey began by searching for "silent treatment" and started my education there. After I was discarded after 33 years, my journey over the last year has been difficult but I am still here, recovering and learning. While I have not found happiness, I have not experienced the daily abuse and that is a blessing.
I’m so glad that I’ve found you. I am pretty deep in my recovery and I’m finding that I am ready for the straight talk from you and your channel. “The peak of indifference “ wow!😮
Great video Andrew yes to all of the above, I experienced it all firstly with my ex and then with my sister. I learned about narcissism every single day for months, I devoured information. I regularly come across narcissists but I now know to walk the other way. If you put in the work, you reap the rewards. Three years ‘clean’, at the pinnacle and living in the third version. Egg-shell walking long gone. Life is good. Life is calm.
The difference is closure in my opinion, when leaving the relationship using ghosting the person who is doing the ghosting is the narcissist. They have no empathy. My narcissist is my estranged adult daughter, so the cut off your Mother example has been done to me. She was absolutely toxic with rage fits, financial abuse, etc.. but I would have never ghosted her because I gave birth to her. As sad as this is, she did do me a favor by going no contact because that stopped abuse to me. She obviously never loved me or this wouldn't have been her choice. No closure is not nice. No honor is not nice. I have found that one door closes another better door opens, because the people I connect with now are kind, empathic, good people who don't want to crush me. I've been listening to your videos daily since you started this channel and appreciate hearing your wisdom, validates my experience, the patterns and red flags were there all along, but I tolerated her abuse because I am her mother. It's not great to mourn and grieve the loss of people who are still alive and chose to behave without honor. Namaste
These toxic people are not going to destroy us. They almost do but we get stronger each day, little by little. Thank you for the wisdom and education Andrew. 🌸
Today woke up with a panic Attack when I recalled how He one Day I went to the morning market and he rushed the kids to huryy as he took them to a new Church. He then left the poor and I had to only relative he wasbt with the child afternoon where I went searching for my poor kid who was now hungry and thirsty . Didn't even know how to describe to askariz /gate men as hadnt even seen what he was wearing. O boy these people are Monsters
🎉 Another beautiful spot you found😊🎉Yes everything you talked about is true 🎉 Energy vampires they are !! 🎉 blocking the narc is absolutely the right path
Survived a narcissistic parent, husband of 25 years, in-law, then most recently lured in by a slick covert narcissist. THIS TIME I figured it out in a short time and walked away, but he kept trying to stay in touch so I left on a 2 week vacation. I feel like a Phoenix rising from my own ashes. I'm stronger, wiser, and happier than I've ever been and narcissist free!!!🎉 NEVER AGAIN!!
Remember :You are NOT a Victim and you are Not a Survivor, YOU ARE A WARRIOR! You Got This! Stay The Course. Stay Focused! No more Relation-shits! lol Never use the word Victim for it can keep you stuck in the Victim Mentality state. You learned and grew from it, that's what counts, you are already ahead of the Abuser. They will NEVER change, they only change their masks!!!
Thank you thank you , such a bad few days . They are about and using their charm to get to an elderly relative with dementia who does not have the capacity to say no ! So cruel , knowing themselves they shouldn't be there .trying to force a confrontation . I am pleased to say isnt going to happen .
Yes it is, Brother! Very much a spiritual war! And one I am WINNING, in my little realm. I think just due to everything I told him before I left, hes aware that Im not trauma bonded to him, AT ALL, and NEVER AGAIN! Sure, 5 years ago, I couldnt quit crying. But, for me, the best question is WHY. Until I understood every why, I was in that bond. The more whys you ask, the quicker you learn how real this battle is. (my opinion). Yeah, hes working on my son now, who has quit speaking to me again, because I asked him NOT to tell his dad where I am and what Im doing. Now, none of them know any details about me. Im sure he thought since I am sick, and since I have no job, and since Im 200 miles away, SURELY Im living with someone, or bumming around. 😂😂 Couldnt be further from the truth! And something else ...if you stay with the narc, you block the blessings that are yours. Hes not entitled...and Ill be damned if he ever becomes entitled again with me. 〰️〰️〰️ Waves of healing to everyone here still in that bond. Keep pushing! And, love the rock wall, Andrew. ❤❤to all! 😊🕊️🕊️🌹🌲🌲
Thank you Andrew I listen to your videos several times a week and learn every time.I feel relaxed when you explain how the narcs manipulate and rage angry angry and They never realise it shows….it is so obvious that They are angry and They deny it.
So much wisdom in the directness and clarity of information. With every video, I feel a little wiser and stronger. When the Narcissist leaves your thoughts, there seems to be so much more room for a huge variety of possibilities for trying new things, new ideas, enjoyment of your Life in general. Narcs are "road spikes, anchors, speed bumps etc." basically a "Big Drag." Want to take on a a new challenge or adventure? How about that! - No Narcissist to tell you or taunt you that "you can't do it ( in their fear they'll lose control over you )." Thanks, Andrew!🌤
I grew up learning that I was the 4th generation of narcissism. then I married a narcissist likely because I gravitated to what I knew. Now after 30 years have passed....I relocated to another state 2,000 miles away, I divorced the narcissist husband in 1988. The youtube videos have helped me leaving emotionally where I had struggled to emotionally put it behind me.....thank you
My narcissist began changing then suddenly decided to be an atheist. Things went downhill within the space of 2 years. I snapped demanded a divorce when he got up in my face with his fist. Now 12 years later I have many friends while he is friendless and lonely due to his behavior. It was the best decision and I did have to work through many issues. He is basically a good decent man and I hate this has happened to him. Yup you guessed it-I’m an empath.
It's actually hilarious... That is EXACTLY how I wound up figuring this shit out. I got into Google and typed in my husband calls me... And my jaw dropped. I had left and been sucked back in over the course of THREE CHILDREN! And I was just... What the phuck???!! And then I find it's a whole thing. Millions of them. Millions of targets. My brother is my O.G. narc and I married his spirit animal. And I take comfort in knowing that I hurt SO bad from my brother and I slammed the door, nailed it shut, piled furniture up, and left out the back. I can do it again. Yes, it hurts but it hurt then too. I still did it. I REALLY thought my brother was an anomaly. I never found myself around anyone like him until I met my husband. I'm oblivious. Was. Now I'm just... Yuck. Stay away from me. Everyone. Lol
Oh so refreshing exactly the narcissist doesn’t know am enough am also a empath who is becoming enlightened I am getting stronger that what the narcissist will never know exactly I didn’t know what narcissistic behavior was about oh yes indeed we are coming together stronger and helping each other grow and help each other and showing each other the light and it’s continuing spiritual battle that is for sure and still healing ❤️🩹 but my wisdom is growing.❤️🙏🏻🕊bless you Andrew.🙏🏻🕊
Thanks Andrew ,,you have given all of us the education ,the wisdom and The Tools, Now we have to Continue to Use them ,and Help each other,,and Pay it Forward to Help anyone that's Suffering,,,We Owe The Narcissist and flying monkeys Nothing at all!!like that song from BROS🎶🎶80.s,💖💖
I was a sheep wandering in the biblical wilderness filled with wolves for 40 years (Jesus spent 40 days in the desert, the Bible often uses a day for a year, so my theory is that most people will spend a good portion of their lives, say 40 years, in some kind of wilderness (addiction or sin), and not be aware of this fact). I'd say that almost everyone I have ever encountered in my wilderness has had some level of narcissistic traits. This last experience and final one, this Greater Narcissist, brought me to my knees and broke me; it was the only way to wake me up (spiritually speaking) and release me from the wilderness or at least show me the gateway out.
I feel stronger tonight. After many talks, arguments, and pleas by me for my husband to leave and months of misery, nothing changed. He stayed. Tonight he asked me if I had plans for Thursday night. I said no and why ask when it’s a night like any other. He then thought maybe I would. Andrew, Thursday night is our wedding anniversary. I knew that, but I firmly said no and that it’s just another night and that he hasn’t listened to me or changed anything. There’s nothing to celebrate. Can you imagine with all the hell I’ve been through, that he would look for anniversary plans? That’s how much he can’t accept or won’t accept reality. I know I won’t pretend any longer.
My ex did the same thing....would go thru days of hell (in my mind) with silent treatment and then all of a sudden it is like nothing had ever happened and he was over it so I should be over it too....and I so many times was so grateful it was over that I allowed this pattern of behavior. For them, these periods of misery were not miserable for them.....they enjoyed every minute of it.
@@chloerodgers692 exactly! Because they move on, we must too. I’ve spent years just being thankful he’s talking to me again and oh, everything is ok, not realizing the damage it was doing within me. Keeping the peace destroyed my happiness and trust.
I think the self love really gets the narcissist going with the abuse. Cause they are constantly trying to get complaints on everything. Yha they do get worse.😮😢
I like how you empower survivors of narcissistic abuse. I needed to hear that I will heal, and that I am more than what I went through. I am stronger today than I was yesterday !
😇GVB ❤ You know what? As I was praying for healing from this undeserved pain from the envious ("stranger I've never met ",) psychopath...I thought about how "useless " the time ,energy and grief, are tied up...in this bottomless pit is, when we have so many DIRE, PRESSING ISSUES THAT NEED OUR PRAYERS FOR RESOLUTION. 😮😢 I AM PRAYING THAT THESE CRUEL WASTES OF ENERGY WILL BE CAST DOWN 👇 away from G-ds children now and FOREVER. 🎉❤ I live to bear witness to the Lord G-d of the TRUTH about this 😢❤ My heart breaks still. ❤Everytime it does, I commit myself and their hateful ass to to the Presence of Yahweh, Elohim (my Heavenly FATHER) ,my brother Jesus, and the Holy Spirit who will testify as to the TRUTH regarding myself and my innocence. ❤ Bless you Andrew. Keep us straight, especially when we get out of "combat mode. " Thanks, Vickey 🙏💕🦋
Yes, it's a spiritual battle. They keep you there traumatised, trying to figure things out until one day you see their dark soul. They want to extinguish your bright light and take you out. What they didn't realise about us, is that we had the strength to push forward in spite of their bad intentions towards us. Now we are here on the channel together on the healing path, getting stronger all the time. No more, enough is enough. Our best days are now. Thank you Andrew for driving this wisdom home every day.
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Yes it was a Spiritual Battle of our good Soul Against their evil Soul
@@flowerpower4944 Yes it is! Unfortunately all of us had to go through this. We are on the side of righteousness and truth. We already have the victory with hard work and dedication to ourselves, we will heal our good souls and God will do the rest. We are already blessed to have the support of this group and Andrew getting on here every day, reinforcing the message home. Have a lovely day....onwards and upwards.
They lost the battle for my soul and those here 💖✨🙏
Sad thing is the narc uses parental alienation and I miss my boy .
Behind the mask of a narcissist, lies a world they can not fathom - the depth of your resilience, the power of your empathy, and the authenticity of your soul. They may never know the beauty they've missed, for their own reflection blinds them to the brilliance that surrounds them.
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That is so profoundly and brilliantly said!
Wow fabulously said.
Yes absolutely true 💯 we are all very Blessed , genuine and Kind ,, 🙏🙏💖
Absolutely.....we have an authentic soul that lines up with its source, "God" of all creation and wisdom. They will never understand that about us! They thought we were weak but our caring ways, is actually our greatest strength. Once awakened from the cycle of abuse, we now use that same kindness on ourselves, healing our brokenness and getting stronger every day. They are blind and have missed out. Their own darkness consumes them.
They don't know our inner strength and when all those red flags clog the system, BAM and goodbye, quietly without notice or fanfare!
Yes, this is a battle between good and evil. There is only one way out of a narcissistic relationship - OUT.
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Exactly! Onwards and upwards 👍🏻😉💕
Totally, and I don't think people really understand what this 'lesson', if you will, is all about and I feel that it is likely that you wont ever be released from this cycle/groundhog scenario/wilderness living, until you accept that there is a God and that there is good and evil in this world (mostly evil these days, unfortunately!), and it is a spiritual battle for your soul, for real.
I can now spot a narcissist in in about 15 minutes thanks to you 👍🏼
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Flying monkeys also! It truly amazing to realize that most questions are baiting and repetitive, and seem to pop up out of nowhere in everyday conversations Clearly there is a dark influence in play...
Thanks to Andrew and all of you here, I keep learning and growing!
Wisdom is guiding us even in how to apply its lessons as we learn them! From the light side!
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I think I got it down to 10 minutes now thanks to this channel! 👍🏾
I'm aware! I'm not just going through life blindly with good intention. I'm actually aware now and it feels good.
Toxic relationships are not your fault. God bless everyone of you!❤
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I was so Mad at myself for not seeing it. When I did it was to late. Everything gone. Money. My Mind. My Car. But for GOD I'm Thankful ❤
I think everything my ex narc believes about me is his own delusional thoughts. He is "out there"!
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Hi Andrew and my beautiful family. What the narcissist didn't know about us was that we are empath and when we're done and tried... we have awaken and gotten our power back!! Now we're aware and the fogs has cleared!! Because they think you will never leave. But the Narcissist was not ready for the awaken empath!! Hope everyone has the wonderful week and know your strength and the power you hold! 💜💜
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I totally agree with you! My ex never thought for one minute that I would have the guts to leave him and my two adult boys, still living at home at the time. His aunt keeps reminding me whilst we chat every week, sometimes twice a week since September 2009 when I left! But I did, and now it's my time to be free and do all the things I only ever had dreamed of, like travelling.
We are beautiful people inside and out despite all the negativity we endured.
We have a wonderful community here, and that's thanks to Andrew's teachings.
It is just so sad that the reason we need to get educated is because of what was done to us.
Keep smiling and evolving, guys ❤xx
So true! I had this one so high on a pedestal, I did everything he asked of me, was so deep in the fog that I am sure never thought I would be the one to not only file for divorce but block him and go no contact. For real...when us empaths are done, we are DONE.
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@@catlady715 so proud of you!! I think we all was in so deep and blind in the fog and did everything and more for them and it still wasn't enough!
I prayed with a priest at an online prayer meeting, the priest is also an Exorcist, when i said the narcs out loud of people who had hurt me, the narcissist called and left a message on my phone saying he couldn’t sleep all night and had terrible and crazy dreams! That was my affirmation that prayers work! I changed my number and haven’t heard from the devil/sicko since! Free yourself and love yourself and have boundaries, stay away from toxic people! God bless!❤
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Our prayers are always heard. God is good and protects us. God bless
Since you went to a priest, you must be Catholic. Pray the Rosary with your family every night.
What the narcissist doesn’t not understand is self love, they can’t phantom staying in a committed relationship. The word love to them mean cheat on them.
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When they think you're weak, is when they'll try a hoover, even if blocked. They'll use mutual friends to try to find info out about you, so they can try to slither back in. This is what they thrive on - your weakness, so they can once again try to steal your light. I am making sure very few know where I am now working, because I'm fairly certain the one narcissist is seeking revenge and I put nothing past this person to try to disrupt my peace.
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That’s right. They will follow around the globe and they’ll stop at nothing. Fort Knox 🛡️ 💂♀️ 🫂
This is happening to my husband right now. His ex-employer, who tried to openly and shamelessly steal thousands in wages from us, is using a few mutually-known associates to find out how he’s doing. He and his crazy wife even waited in a parking lot at a local business when they thought my husband was inside the business and going to exit shortly. These people are straight up stalkers.
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Defintely don't let them know where you work. They will try to destroy that too.
The main goal is to break the trauma bond ❤we are in this together
They want you to idolise them, yes it’s a spiritual battle. When I realised that, I could heal.
One can detach from toxic close relatives by minimizing contact, going no contact. You don't owe them any explanation.
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Narcissists not only know nothing about us - they are not able to see us at all
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How G'Dang True! They never want to take an in-depth look and find
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The Narcissist does not know that I have turned my Wounds into Wisdom...
Rock Bottom has taught me a lot more than Mountain Tops ever have..
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💯!! What the narcissist (as well as the vast majority of people) should know about you is NOTHING!!!! The more you can fly under the radar in this life, the happier you will be! Peace ✌️!!
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Once you get close to or on the pinnacle of indifference on your healing path, you will be able to honestly say, I will never allow myself to be decieved into going back to , nor enter into another toxic and narcissistic abusive relationship. TY Andrew for sharing your wisdom about narcissistic abuse. 😊
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It really is a battle for your but I WON I’m out Hallelujah
I am starting to heal, it’s just me and my dog. I received a message from the local pd , he has been arrested again over physical abuse of mr the prosecution want to talk to me about some other issues doing with him. He has no idea of my strength at this point. I cut everybody with the exception of 3 trusted friends. It’s lonely but it so much better that the constant abuse of all kinds. He will never get to me again.I’m way to caring ,loving empathetic,giving to let a narc or vampire get it me. Thanks Andrew you’re awsome
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Same thing just me and my dogs I got two
This was me some years ago, where it ended up with only me and my miraculous fur baby, thank God. Don't take these animals for granted; keep them safe and well-cared for, because they do so much just by us being blessed with them. Specifically, if you ever feel weak or intimidated with going back to a narcissist, look into the innocent eyes of your baby (whether human or animal, in fact), and resolve not to put THEM into that situation ever again. They also deserve the best. God bless❣️🙏🐕👶
It IS a battle between good and evil, Andrew! Spot on.
It’s the closest thing I’ve ever encountered to dealing with a true demon. I even saw facial expressions that frightened me to the core. For me, it was the Mercy of Jesus Christ that kept me from perishing.
I have mined this experience for all the lessons possible. It’s important for me to clearly see where I ignored my own inner voice and came under the narcissist’s control. I chose what I WANTED so I ignored the red flags.
I am humbly thankful for the lessons I have learned, the strength I have gained, and the courage I have built.
Praise Be to My Savior, Jesus Christ! Now and FOREVER!
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Once you heal and you put back the fractured pieces post narc, you begin to rediscover yourself all over again but with new found stronger sense of who you once were, boundaries in check. You begin to take back your power because you reinvented yourself, you're not the same person after and you begin to live life again. Only this time is the best time yet, it was transformative because you alchemized the pain into success, and the best diffusion is living your best life after.
Mine doesn't know that I know more about her actions than anyone alive. It's possible that lying, cheating and using me for 6 years wasn't wise. It would only take 2 emails for me to ruin every aspect of her life. Its good to know I could. But I'm trying not to let the narcissist fragment she left in my head win.
Andrew, 1,000% on all of it, especially "owing" a narcissistic mother. You owe her for everything she ever did for you, and she'll never take responsibility for everything she did to you - because it was all your fault.
Making sure the narcissist knows nothing about you again, is not only the best defense, but allows peace of mind for the future.
When I'm around my husband, I feel like I don't have any energy to do anything and I'm like why do I feel this way. I feel guilty for feeling this way.
In your picture you look full of energy. I used to look and feel like that at the beginning of the relationship with my ex. Mine wanted my attention all the time, would suggest/subtly control our time and what we did. I didn’t want to hurt his feelings as some of these were kind things. (And I had no boundaries….what were they?). There were subtle things like ‘oh don’t get up yet.’ when I wanted to bounce out of bed and get on with jobs (my old self). If I said I needed to get on with things and got up he might be in a bad mood the rest of the day but I didn’t know why. Eventually I did what he said….and didn’t get up when I wanted. I lost my ‘bounce’. At the time I didn’t know what was happening. I’d entered the Narc fog. This is ‘coercive control’ which I learned after getting away.
More overt things happened, how we chose our meals, pay bills etc. There were instant rages, especially when I tried to talk about our relationship. This was intermingled with the feeling that i was the most important thing in his life at other times and everyone saw an adoring man. So confusing. I was put on a pedestal then knocked off it and felt like a piece of dirt under his shoe. It is exhausting, wears you down and down. The rages can increase in length and intensity. Over time your health can take a hit, years of intense stress causes the immune system to malfunction then illnesses can wear you down even more. I got out but stayed too long, was a shell of a person. Still rebuilding after years free. Sorry this seems long and negative but please look after yourself. If odd things are happening write them down so you have validation (rather than thinking ‘did that really just happen?’ It’s proof of the crazy making. If you feel the relationship is harming you please find a way to get out. ❤
Im grateful for the narcissist for pushing me closer to God. Thank you. If it wasnt for you i would be another brick in the wall, another cog in the matrix. Now im shining brighter than ever and fully aware of the evil in this world. Narcs are here for a purpose - to awaken us. God is great
"What should they know about you now....Absolutely nothing ! " KaBoom ! Right on brother ! A real blessing can be having had a full trait narcissist who you know does not care about you (or anyone), especially after realizing they are in the no return ever attitude. Its only the premium supply they miss. The thought of returning used to make me sick. Its still there but no new puke test is necessary. Your body/mind can convince you to self care if you listen.
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Andrew, you are absolutely right! NEVER GIVE YOUR PHONE NUMBER OR ASSOCIATE WITH ANYONE YOU MEET IN THESE ROOMS. YOU WILL BE FREE OF GOSSIP AND TOXICITY..
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I did realize for a long time that my marriage was indeed a battle of ‘Good vs. Evil’. However, once you see through them there is no unseeing! Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
I finally blocked my narcissist friend. Now it’s a matter of time before she comes over to see me. I’m going to block her again and tell her no. She’s way too draining for me. Thank you for your wisdom. I’m getting better and moving on getting stronger.
Good for you....I did the same thing.
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I did the same thing. I saw her at the store. She waited for me to come out of the store. I said nothing and got in my truck and left. She is a definite narc cruel, abusive, a user selfish backstabbing triangulation, and even flirted with my ex narc. Situationship. Andrew, you described my situation exactly and others too. These videos keep me on my healing path. I have no one around me at the moment, but I have been so drained. I am back to working in my garden, but I'm very weak cause these narcs really do deplete you. I am going to take better care of myself now. I'm still dealing with a lot, but I will overcome these demonic attacks cause of other light workers like all of you. Thanks again, Andrew, for your healing message. Namaste
Early in the 10 year relationship with my Narc we were lying in bed together and he told me that he wanted a future with me. I was so elated I was giggling and snuggling up to him and telling him how happy and excited that his words made me feel. I thought oh my gosh I've finally found my soulmate!
Then I went to bed (in my separate bedroom in his house (red flag?). In the morning, when I woke up I reminisced about the night before and the elated feeling continued until he woke up and was acting like he was angry with me, like he didn't remember the night we had together. I told him that we had a beautiful night last night, and asked him what is wrong? He said that I laughed at him. He said that he opened up to me and and I laughed at him.
This shell shocked me. I explained and explained how I wasn't laughing, or laughing at him. I went on to explain and explain and explain and the issue was never resolved and it set the tone for the rest of the relationship.
I only WISH I realized this before my mother died. She abandoned me very young, like an imbecile, I went looking for her when I finally made it, to forgive her and apologize to her AND SAVE HER!
After my grandmother warned me, she’s CharlesMando, be REALLY CAREFUL with her.
I didn’t get it.
Oh I can handle it.
My mom didn’t care about anything but destroying my life, stealing my inheritance and making my family members her henchmen. Never had a problem with any of them.
Now, thanks to my dad marrying 2 of them, I have no family.
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You are so right Andrew. He hoovered a relative after five or six years at beginning of a Covid. Even tho he has new supply. What a creepy weirdo.
It really is a spiritual battle. I felt the negative energy & trauma-bond, post-narcissistic relationship. Felt like a heavy, dark, painful feeling or connection towards this individual. But also how I craved & missed them still. I'm finally, truly feeling better, happier & lighter. The heaviness feels like it's gone now. I prayed so much since the discard. Recently started asking and crying to God to please to take the pain away and that I've been feeling it long enough. I believe my prayers have been answered. Months, & months of feeling confused, bad, traumatized, hurt & feeling heartache/heartbreak. Now, I'm really feeling stronger & better and with time💪 Rumination is less & less, which I am glad. The Narcississt has no idea what I am doing to heal and everything I am doing to better my own life & career. They won't get anything out of me if they try to hoover! Still on the healing path and feeling closer & closer to indifference🙏😌🕊️
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They are the ones that needed you, they are the addicts and you were the drug, you no longer have to pacify the abusers cravings anymore. You being the Drug are far too special and priceless ,for these people who cant see past their own noses. And man are they DUMB! they are not very smart at all, its just a façade. Its funny when they meet someone who is intelligent and can put them back into time out lol Reverse narcology works great! Little bit by little bit.
The darkness you felt was their darkness, what you learned tho was how to strengthen your weaknesses and boundaries and most of all, you realized you do mean something and that you are worthy of much more, that in fact, you learned to love yourself once again, you deserve it! You deserve to smile and laugh without the doom and gloom machine lurking in the background. I wish you all the best., I too was in this dark place, so I took up some hobbies, started doing things I missed doing and learned New Skills ( Just taught myself to crochet) The Sky is limitless, be the best version of you!
Remember, You are NOT a Victim and you are Not a Survivor, YOU ARE A WARRIOR! You Got This! Stay The Course Stay Focused!
No more Relation-shits! lol
Thank you for sharing. I can definitely relate. You worded it perfectly. I felt shame to miss narcissist after the horrific things they've done. But going no contact with them, shutting all the doors and windows to them, processing, journaling, rebuilding my credit, focusing on my children and career has helped me tremendously. On my way to the pentacle of indifference 🧘🏽♀️
The Price We Pay is PAIN......So find Courage to Learn and Change Your Environment for the Better.....(You Know Now That The Narc Will Never Change So Leave Them.)
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I learned to say no and took my first flight again to see family in 7 years. Had me a great time and had so much fun. Also recently received my bachelors degree. This is my life now.
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Congrats! People say a degree is just a piece of paper, but I beg to differ. You've
worked for it and earned it. You could lose your house in a fire, loose all your savings, etc., but no one can ever take that degree from you, not even the mafia!
So happy for you donnas411!
You are an inspiration to us all. Keep being the best version of yourself and your taking your life back in great strides!
Keep up the good work!
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God put you right in my path. Most Divine timing. You are a beautiful soul. Thank you.
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He sure is helping so many of us!
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If we don't get in, we don't have to get out. Emotionally, he was my mother's emotionless twin, and he didn't like her at all!❣️
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"You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people."
Genesis 50:20
God bless you and your family.
Love Genesis 50:20 j1o223 ❤️
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Absolutely beautiful and honorable that one.
Praise God!
May His face shine upon you and be gracious to you.
I’ve been gang stalked by a group of narcissists and this weekend one of them pretended to have attended my alma matar. He also claimed to be a knowledgeable in topics I have above average understanding. When he didn’t even know the layout of the campus or who the leadership of an organization I had been involved in were, he had been chucked out already. He clearly stole his account from someone else, looked at the website of the campus and thought he was good. I’ve met a lot of these posers in South Korea and it’s no wonder that even within the Asian community in the States that Koreans being posers is a massive part of their identity.
I'm so very grateful to be here and healing. I'm going to begin a search for a therapist.
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I love the sound of the bluejays... one came to the tree by my patio this morning. 🙂
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It was horrible. He would buy me a vacuum cleaner or Keurig coffee pot and I would purposely take a picture and send it to his friend because he was my friend too, bragging about how wonderful he was and his friend couldn't stand it and would tell me that it's fake. What a horrible way to live.
Yes it is a spiritual battle Andrew😢. I experienced the dark night of the sword last year. I almost wanted to take my own life....
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I'm glad you made it through ❤
I still am looking for a therapist to help me with my past abuse with narcissists and flying monkeys too!
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It is a SPIRITUAL BATTLE - And I could write pages and pages on this issue. Enough to say, that a physical body is nothing but a "vessel" of energy and regardless of who it is, whether, your mother, father, sister or brother or anyone else in our family or otherwise, once WE KNOW, we can detach both physically and emotionally without guilt or shame. Maintaining these relationships IS NOT LOVE.💔 IS NOT LOVE AND IS NOT A COMPASSIONATE ACTION TO ENGAGE💔. Blessings to all! ❤
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EXACTLY what it is!!!
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@@jhavajoe3792 It broke my heart but I had to accept my older sister is one of the most scary narcs I have ever encountered in my life and stopped all contact with her many years ago. Forgave and wish her the best, just away from me. TY Joe! Hope you are having a great TUESDAY (I'm working from home today) ❤
@@jhavajoe3792 My older sister is one of the most scary narcs I've ever encounter. I had to stop all contact with her years ago. I wish her the best just at a safe distance from me. Hope you having a great Tuesday! (I am working from home today, multitasking, cleaning, cooking and office stuff) LOL
Thank you Andrew. You’re describing the avalanche of zombie narcissists that I’ve been running from for a lifetime.
Everything you’re unpacking here is a road map out of the maze.
We win with discernment.
Nostalgia for the good old days when we believed they loved us must be tossed like garbage.
And narcissistic bullies are a walking dumpster fire!
Block.
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Holidays Schmolidays!!! Thank you for your healing voice.
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Pretty much says it alright!!!
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I’m out! Poor health, lost opportunities and real friendships.
10 years of healing, and I can say from my heart and soul that I am free. Never again-
This man speaks the truth. Thank you Andrew. This is more than a toxic individual, this is a spiritual attack on your soul.
If you've experienced being controlled by your partner, manipulated, gaslight, abused emotionally, physically, mentally, financially and everything falling apart in your life, isolation, no longer recognizing yourself, you need to fight for your life. The Lord showed me signs when I was heading down a path of sin after sin after sin, it was pulling me a way from God. It felt too late but God begged a differ.
I called on Jesus and I tell you, I was pulled out of a dark and dangerous state. My mind was almost gone, I was on drugs, for the first time in my life, I'm 41. I idolized this man, God had to show me.
I am praying for you all, youre here so that is the first step, seek help and than plan a way out.
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"Pinnacle of indifference" that's awesome Andrew!!
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There's something new, different in a good way, about your smile!!! Whatever is giving you such a glow, I hope it continues on and on...... You give us so much, you deserve all the good also, in return! Namaste
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I think indifference takes a while if we are honest with ourselves. There is a large gap between the narcissistic fog and indifference, at least for me. There is also the work that you talk about when it comes to radical acceptance, enlightenment, and simply getting out of denial, It is hard for the human brain to understand and digest that some people simply cannot love. That is where I have been stuck. I am trying to stay away from the cynicism that the narcissist intentionally creates as a tactic of isolation. I think most people are good at heart and I have hope for love and I will never let narcs take that away from me😊
Your insight is rebuilding 31 years of my life.
Oh yes, it’s definitely a spiritual battle. The narcissist is a demonic creature that tries to destroy you. They are sick individuals who try to steal your goodness and try to be you. They try but they can’t be you if you don’t allow it. You have to be strong and get educated on narcissism. I’m so glad I found your channel Andrew. 😊 You are awesome. ❤️🙏😎
I agree,a spiritual battle.Their aim is to take your soul as well as your mind and heart.This is a beautifully presented video Andrew.So glad I had the strength to move forward and see that light through the tunnel.😊🤗🍁🌺🌿🌾
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My journey began by searching for "silent treatment" and started my education there. After I was discarded after 33 years, my journey over the last year has been difficult but I am still here, recovering and learning. While I have not found happiness, I have not experienced the daily abuse and that is a blessing.
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I’m so glad that I’ve found you. I am pretty deep in my recovery and I’m finding that I am ready for the straight talk from you and your channel. “The peak of indifference “ wow!😮
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You’ll get truth here and then deeper healing ❤️🩹 🙌💪🙏
Thank you for reminding me why I went no contact! I was having a bad day until I listened to your message
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Fortunately the memories of the malice become clearer and clearer in zero contact.
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Great video Andrew yes to all of the above, I experienced it all firstly with my ex and then with my sister. I learned about narcissism every single day for months, I devoured information. I regularly come across narcissists but I now know to walk the other way. If you put in the work, you reap the rewards.
Three years ‘clean’, at the pinnacle and living in the third version. Egg-shell walking long gone. Life is good. Life is calm.
The difference is closure in my opinion, when leaving the relationship using ghosting the person who is doing the ghosting is the narcissist. They have no empathy. My narcissist is my estranged adult daughter, so the cut off your Mother example has been done to me. She was absolutely toxic with rage fits, financial abuse, etc.. but I would have never ghosted her because I gave birth to her. As sad as this is, she did do me a favor by going no contact because that stopped abuse to me. She obviously never loved me or this wouldn't have been her choice. No closure is not nice. No honor is not nice. I have found that one door closes another better door opens, because the people I connect with now are kind, empathic, good people who don't want to crush me. I've been listening to your videos daily since you started this channel and appreciate hearing your wisdom, validates my experience, the patterns and red flags were there all along, but I tolerated her abuse because I am her mother. It's not great to mourn and grieve the loss of people who are still alive and chose to behave without honor. Namaste
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And I have changed FOREVER!!!
Narc's will leave your heart ❤️ like a pair of stonewashed and stressed jeans 👖... You're quizzes crack me up 🤣
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These toxic people are not going to destroy us. They almost do but we get stronger each day, little by little. Thank you for the wisdom and education Andrew. 🌸
Today woke up with a panic Attack when I recalled how He one Day I went to the morning market and he rushed the kids to huryy as he took them to a new Church. He then left the poor and I had to only relative he wasbt with the child afternoon where I went searching for my poor kid who was now hungry and thirsty . Didn't even know how to describe to askariz /gate men as hadnt even seen what he was wearing. O boy these people are Monsters
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🎉 Another beautiful spot you found😊🎉Yes everything you talked about is true 🎉 Energy vampires they are !! 🎉 blocking the narc is absolutely the right path
Andrew is one of the VERY BEST!!! Thank you Andrew for all your support!!! ♥️🐾
Survived a narcissistic parent, husband of 25 years, in-law, then most recently lured in by a slick covert narcissist. THIS TIME I figured it out in a short time and walked away, but he kept trying to stay in touch so I left on a 2 week vacation. I feel like a Phoenix rising from my own ashes. I'm stronger, wiser, and happier than I've ever been and narcissist free!!!🎉 NEVER AGAIN!!
The spirit of contention works through them
What makes Us Awesome is that We can Listen to Someone's Problems WITHOUT JUDGEMENT. (After all do we really need criticism in our time of pain)
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He never knew me, and, obviously I never knew him. My soul has been constantly bruised by others. I know I am strong.😘❣️
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Stay strong & blessings to you!
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Remember :You are NOT a Victim and you are Not a Survivor, YOU ARE A WARRIOR! You Got This! Stay The Course. Stay Focused!
No more Relation-shits! lol
Never use the word Victim for it can keep you stuck in the Victim Mentality state. You learned and grew from it, that's what counts, you are already ahead of the Abuser. They will NEVER change, they only change their masks!!!
Thank you thank you , such a bad few days . They are about and using their charm to get to an elderly relative with dementia who does not have the capacity to say no ! So cruel , knowing themselves they shouldn't be there .trying to force a confrontation . I am pleased to say isnt going to happen .
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Yes it is, Brother! Very much a spiritual war! And one I am WINNING, in my little realm. I think just due to everything I told him before I left, hes aware that Im not trauma bonded to him, AT ALL, and NEVER AGAIN! Sure, 5 years ago, I couldnt quit crying. But, for me, the best question is WHY. Until I understood every why, I was in that bond. The more whys you ask, the quicker you learn how real this battle is. (my opinion). Yeah, hes working on my son now, who has quit speaking to me again, because I asked him NOT to tell his dad where I am and what Im doing. Now, none of them know any details about me. Im sure he thought since I am sick, and since I have no job, and since Im 200 miles away, SURELY Im living with someone, or bumming around. 😂😂 Couldnt be further from the truth!
And something else ...if you stay with the narc, you block the blessings that are yours. Hes not entitled...and Ill be damned if he ever becomes entitled again with me. 〰️〰️〰️ Waves of healing to everyone here still in that bond. Keep pushing! And, love the rock wall, Andrew. ❤❤to all! 😊🕊️🕊️🌹🌲🌲
Yes ❤It absolutely is a spiritual battle. Cut yourself from these demonic entities. Count your blessings va & move on. ❤😂🎉
You look nice in baby blue, Andrew
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Thank you Andrew I listen to your videos several times a week and learn every time.I feel relaxed when you explain how the narcs manipulate and rage angry angry and They never realise it shows….it is so obvious that They are angry and They deny it.
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My ex narc of a husband doesn't know that i am way better without him and that i am living my best life. 😉 have a beautiful evening Andrew. ❤❤🙌🙏
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Nothing in this world we can keep and nothing in this world belongs to us. Thanks Andrew, beautiful message with
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Narcissism is TOTALLY a spiritual battle of good and evil... And good will always win! ❤
I typed in lack of empathy to start learning.
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I have stayed in block zone with all past narcissists for one year! And man I’m truly reviving well! ❤️🌈🗡😎💪
So much wisdom in the directness and clarity of information. With every video, I feel a little wiser and stronger. When the Narcissist leaves your thoughts, there seems to be so much more room for a huge variety of possibilities for trying new things, new ideas, enjoyment of your Life in general. Narcs are "road spikes, anchors, speed bumps etc." basically a "Big Drag." Want to take on a a new challenge or adventure? How about that! - No Narcissist to
tell you or taunt you that "you can't do it ( in their fear they'll lose control over you )." Thanks, Andrew!🌤
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I grew up learning that I was the 4th generation of narcissism. then I married a narcissist likely because I gravitated to what I knew. Now after 30 years have passed....I relocated to another state 2,000 miles away, I divorced the narcissist husband in 1988. The youtube videos have helped me leaving emotionally where I had struggled to emotionally put it behind me.....thank you
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My narcissist began changing then suddenly decided to be an atheist. Things went downhill within the space of 2 years. I snapped demanded a divorce when he got up in my face with his fist. Now 12 years later I have many friends while he is friendless and lonely due to his behavior. It was the best decision and I did have to work through many issues. He is basically a good decent man and I hate this has happened to him. Yup you guessed it-I’m an empath.
It's actually hilarious... That is EXACTLY how I wound up figuring this shit out. I got into Google and typed in my husband calls me... And my jaw dropped. I had left and been sucked back in over the course of THREE CHILDREN! And I was just... What the phuck???!! And then I find it's a whole thing. Millions of them. Millions of targets. My brother is my O.G. narc and I married his spirit animal.
And I take comfort in knowing that I hurt SO bad from my brother and I slammed the door, nailed it shut, piled furniture up, and left out the back. I can do it again. Yes, it hurts but it hurt then too. I still did it.
I REALLY thought my brother was an anomaly. I never found myself around anyone like him until I met my husband. I'm oblivious. Was. Now I'm just... Yuck. Stay away from me. Everyone. Lol
Oh so refreshing exactly the narcissist doesn’t know am enough am also a empath who is becoming enlightened I am getting stronger that what the narcissist will never know exactly I didn’t know what narcissistic behavior was about oh yes indeed we are coming together stronger and helping each other grow and help each other and showing each other the light and it’s continuing spiritual battle that is for sure and still healing ❤️🩹 but my wisdom is growing.❤️🙏🏻🕊bless you Andrew.🙏🏻🕊
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Thank you Andrew , every word of this is all TRUTH , it brings healing tears to my soul , the healing continues .
There still a piece of self destructive work and keep you stuck but you know your the one who gets a dinner and a show.
“ That pinnacle of indifference “ 💕 it !
Thanks Andrew ,,you have given all of us the education ,the wisdom and The Tools, Now we have to Continue to Use them ,and Help each other,,and Pay it Forward to Help anyone that's Suffering,,,We Owe The Narcissist and flying monkeys Nothing at all!!like that song from BROS🎶🎶80.s,💖💖
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Yes, that's what it's all about 👍
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I was a sheep wandering in the biblical wilderness filled with wolves for 40 years (Jesus spent 40 days in the desert, the Bible often uses a day for a year, so my theory is that most people will spend a good portion of their lives, say 40 years, in some kind of wilderness (addiction or sin), and not be aware of this fact). I'd say that almost everyone I have ever encountered in my wilderness has had some level of narcissistic traits. This last experience and final one, this Greater Narcissist, brought me to my knees and broke me; it was the only way to wake me up (spiritually speaking) and release me from the wilderness or at least show me the gateway out.
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Like a fine wine your video content gets better and better. Thank you Andrew 🙏
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A spiritual battle….. when you out you see it!!!! And there is a bond!!! I felt it!!! And sometimes I feel it!!!
I am out and stay out!!! 🎉
I still don't want this, there was never supposed to be an after. I'd rather go back to being ignorant to all this. I don't want to know anymore.
He doesn't know that I literally puked in my own mouth after speaking to him earlier today, and then I had to lie down for a half hour.
Once again, Andrew, you have hit the nail on the head! Thank you❤
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I feel stronger tonight. After many talks, arguments, and pleas by me for my husband to leave and months of misery, nothing changed. He stayed. Tonight he asked me if I had plans for Thursday night. I said no and why ask when it’s a night like any other. He then thought maybe I would. Andrew, Thursday night is our wedding anniversary. I knew that, but I firmly said no and that it’s just another night and that he hasn’t listened to me or changed anything. There’s nothing to celebrate. Can you imagine with all the hell I’ve been through, that he would look for anniversary plans? That’s how much he can’t accept or won’t accept reality. I know I won’t pretend any longer.
My ex did the same thing....would go thru days of hell (in my mind) with silent treatment and then all of a sudden it is like nothing had ever happened and he was over it so I should be over it too....and I so many times was so grateful it was over that I allowed this pattern of behavior. For them, these periods of misery were not miserable for them.....they enjoyed every minute of it.
@@chloerodgers692 exactly! Because they move on, we must too. I’ve spent years just being thankful he’s talking to me again and oh, everything is ok, not realizing the damage it was doing within me. Keeping the peace destroyed my happiness and trust.
I think the self love really gets the narcissist going with the abuse. Cause they are constantly trying to get complaints on everything. Yha they do get worse.😮😢
We have to be patient with each other bcuz there is so much damage after a Narcissist...they want us to fight and go running back to them
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I like how you empower survivors of narcissistic abuse. I needed to hear that I will heal, and that I am more than what I went through. I am stronger today than I was yesterday !
😇GVB ❤ You know what? As I was praying for healing from this undeserved pain from the envious ("stranger I've never met ",) psychopath...I thought about how "useless " the time ,energy and grief, are tied up...in this bottomless pit is, when we have so many DIRE, PRESSING ISSUES THAT NEED OUR PRAYERS FOR RESOLUTION. 😮😢 I AM PRAYING THAT THESE CRUEL WASTES OF ENERGY WILL BE CAST DOWN 👇 away from G-ds children now and FOREVER. 🎉❤ I live to bear witness to the Lord G-d of the TRUTH about this 😢❤ My heart breaks still. ❤Everytime it does, I commit myself and their hateful ass to to the Presence of Yahweh, Elohim (my Heavenly FATHER) ,my brother Jesus, and the Holy Spirit who will testify as to the TRUTH regarding myself and my innocence. ❤ Bless you Andrew. Keep us straight, especially when we get out of "combat mode. " Thanks, Vickey 🙏💕🦋