1:55 Are mom's aloud to be selfish 6:50 Mom has hard time with husband with depression who doesnt understand son with ADHD 25:15 Trying to heal after husband infidelity 39:39 Can I motivate my girlfriend to get fit? 53:37 ending words
Ohh that second caller broke my heart. I'm in that same boat with 4 kids, 7 yr old, 3 yr old, and twin 1 yr olds. It's so hard, I felt that pain and just cried through that whole phone call. It is hard and painful! What Dr. D said about no longer having trust in yourself after years of infidelity is so true. Why didn't I just leave? Why did I stay? He can change, right? I can change, right? I'm hoping for the best for you Charly! You are a strong mama!
Husband comment is so true. Asking for specifics like bedtime, bathtime, meal preps, laundry, etc. is so much better than seeing things are fine and assume your wife will ask.
I always tell other moms “me” time is the best time because if you dont take care of yourself then you can’t fully take care of others. Especially for stay at home moms!!
Am I the only one who would leave if my husband said “I do want to be with her” even if I loved him I would say there’s the door and good luck! There’s no trusting him after that.
itisAlex_ ,,,, I would have to leave the marriage too. She wants him to be what he was before ! That guy was the man who allowed himself to betray her. No, I left that betrayer , long ago. I’m 68 and have been so happy since.
@@LL-lj1kq So happy you left! Cheaters never change and if you forgive them once they think you’ll always forgive them and so the cycle continues. Glad you put a stop to it!
It’s so hard to forgive cheating. I wonder if the husband would have forgiven her if the situation was reversed. If she was the one saying that she has never been as in love with him as she is now.
Us women aren’t socialized or trained to be caretakers. We have a natural inclination to do so. It’s in our DNA. Much like men are naturally protective and provide.
That's largely a myth. Very many women won't admit it (because nurturing is supposed to be in our DNA, as you believe) but they don't enjoy looking after children all day long. Many don't enjoy it for more than 2-4 hours a day. Upper class and wealthy-class women have always had nannies and house help, never spending much time with their children. And THAT is perfectly natural: adults need adult company, and it's only in the past couple of hundred years that.midfle class women have taken on the work of raising children entirely or for the most part on themselves. Prior to that, child rearing and household work were shared among members of the extended family, so mothers were never left to themselves to nurture their children AND care for their husbands. As for men, throughout recorded history, husbands have abandoned their wives and children and failed to provide for them. Sad but true. But don't take my word for it. Go to your local public library and get some books on social history, the history of the family, and related topics. Reality is very different from the stories we usually tell each other about it.
Why are there so many ads? There are more ads than Delony talking! I haven't had this problem with his other shows. I don't mind ads, they help pay the bills but they are alot on this video!
Dr Delony, what was that nonsense you saddled the second caller with, asking her why she's still carrying the "brick" of her husband's repeat cheating and his emotional abuse?! I doubt she can ever get over the way her husband behaved, repeatedly telling her he wanted to be with someone else, leaving, coming back, then telling her all over again that he wanted to be with that other person, etc. I feel sorry for that lady: she'd have been so much better off emotionally and in her mind if she'd divorced him instead of having yet another child with him.
I’ve always been around 168 pounds, I lost trust in my husband, know he doesn’t like hefty women and to stop the physical aspect bounced up to 210 pounds, still had to be honest and get out of the relationship, weight now back to normal, so go figure
The worst is when she complains about gaining weight..you try to help like most men do like this guy is and it just makes everything worse because that's got to be her choice to get fit / healthy.. so what do you do just sit there and listen to her complain about her body??
@@davidjonburke2729 You listen and love her buddy. If she asks for help and/or advice, that's when you bust out all da weight loss knowledge all of us men naturally have.
It is! I watch a couples therapist here on YT and he said that it could take some people a decade to trust their partner after just one incident of infidelity 😯
The first caller.... sounds like the problem is her husband and the child is behaving as he’s been taught because he thinks he can. He sees his dad get away with it. Honestly I’d think this caller and son the might be better off if she left her husband.
Here's an idea for husbands: if your wife is the one in charge of dinner all the time then she deserves two nights off a week from cooking - one night being a date night out and one night where YOU'RE in charge of dinner. That's what would show me love.
This dude is really a BEAST 🤣. He has very thorough, complete and thoughtful answers for the callers.
1:55 Are mom's aloud to be selfish
6:50 Mom has hard time with husband with depression who doesnt understand son with ADHD
25:15 Trying to heal after husband infidelity
39:39 Can I motivate my girlfriend to get fit?
53:37 ending words
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Ohh that second caller broke my heart. I'm in that same boat with 4 kids, 7 yr old, 3 yr old, and twin 1 yr olds. It's so hard, I felt that pain and just cried through that whole phone call. It is hard and painful!
What Dr. D said about no longer having trust in yourself after years of infidelity is so true. Why didn't I just leave? Why did I stay? He can change, right? I can change, right? I'm hoping for the best for you Charly! You are a strong mama!
Husband comment is so true. Asking for specifics like bedtime, bathtime, meal preps, laundry, etc. is so much better than seeing things are fine and assume your wife will ask.
I always tell other moms “me” time is the best time because if you dont take care of yourself then you can’t fully take care of others. Especially for stay at home moms!!
Am I the only one who would leave if my husband said “I do want to be with her” even if I loved him I would say there’s the door and good luck! There’s no trusting him after that.
itisAlex_ ,,,, I would have to leave the marriage too. She wants him to be what he was before ! That guy was the man who allowed himself to betray her. No, I left that betrayer , long ago. I’m 68 and have been so happy since.
@@LL-lj1kq So happy you left! Cheaters never change and if you forgive them once they think you’ll always forgive them and so the cycle continues. Glad you put a stop to it!
@@itisAlex_ "only sith deal in absolutes."
@@itisAlex_ you get that most men cheat, right?
@@GUITARTIME2024 There is no need tho. That is what I do not understand. Just leave if you’re unhappy, be honest and communicate!
So solution to the gaining weight conflict: you either leave them OR accept them for who they are
Haha. Love it or leave it.
It’s so hard to forgive cheating. I wonder if the husband would have forgiven her if the situation was reversed. If she was the one saying that she has never been as in love with him as she is now.
The fact that he was going to leave her for the other woman .... tough pill to swallow
Us women aren’t socialized or trained to be caretakers. We have a natural inclination to do so. It’s in our DNA. Much like men are naturally protective and provide.
That's largely a myth. Very many women won't admit it (because nurturing is supposed to be in our DNA, as you believe) but they don't enjoy looking after children all day long. Many don't enjoy it for more than 2-4 hours a day. Upper class and wealthy-class women have always had nannies and house help, never spending much time with their children. And THAT is perfectly natural: adults need adult company, and it's only in the past couple of hundred years that.midfle class women have taken on the work of raising children entirely or for the most part on themselves. Prior to that, child rearing and household work were shared among members of the extended family, so mothers were never left to themselves to nurture their children AND care for their husbands.
As for men, throughout recorded history, husbands have abandoned their wives and children and failed to provide for them. Sad but true.
But don't take my word for it. Go to your local public library and get some books on social history, the history of the family, and related topics. Reality is very different from the stories we usually tell each other about it.
Why are there so many ads? There are more ads than Delony talking! I haven't had this problem with his other shows. I don't mind ads, they help pay the bills but they are alot on this video!
I was thinking the same thing 😔
That's youtube's algorithm. I don't think John Delony can control how often they happen.
@@LtGrandpoobah wrong. Creators set how many ads there are.
Because they need money to pay Delony's salary lol jk idk
Does the boy need a whoopin' ?
Phew, that weight call was intense.
I like this old set-up. It's much more intimate for such topics.
He will never respect you unless you leave him
"Beefcake 2000" I'm dying! Love Dr. John!
How is the mother of the violent boy supposed to do all the things Dr Delony recommended?
John dealt with the whole weight thing in an awesome way!
Dr Delony, what was that nonsense you saddled the second caller with, asking her why she's still carrying the "brick" of her husband's repeat cheating and his emotional abuse?! I doubt she can ever get over the way her husband behaved, repeatedly telling her he wanted to be with someone else, leaving, coming back, then telling her all over again that he wanted to be with that other person, etc. I feel sorry for that lady: she'd have been so much better off emotionally and in her mind if she'd divorced him instead of having yet another child with him.
Anyone else see the thousands of ads on this video? 😅
Good morning Dr. Delony.
I’ve always been around 168 pounds, I lost trust in my husband, know he doesn’t like hefty women and to stop the physical aspect bounced up to 210 pounds, still had to be honest and get out of the relationship, weight now back to normal, so go figure
Perfectly normal. Many women put on weight when they're unhappy and lose weight easily when the major cause of stress is removed from their lives.
If she hadn’t fully forgiven her husband and moved on, she really shouldn’t have added another child to the mix.
Now that I'm through with the video I feel the need to listen to some Pantera.
Too many bleepin’ ads!!!
55 minutes and there was a commercial like every 3 minutes.
I was literally thinking yesterday, "I wonder what Dr D would suggest for telling your girl she's gaining weight with the jokes to the side." 😆
The worst is when she complains about gaining weight..you try to help like most men do like this guy is and it just makes everything worse because that's got to be her choice to get fit / healthy.. so what do you do just sit there and listen to her complain about her body??
@@davidjonburke2729 You listen and love her buddy. If she asks for help and/or advice, that's when you bust out all da weight loss knowledge all of us men naturally have.
Gotta admit, at first I thought the guy was asking “How do I convince her the weight doesn’t matter?”
@@rustyshackleford7285 you can tell her that all day till you're blue in the face good luck
Of course the husband is not carrying a brick in the back pack because he was the one who cheated!!!!
Is a tough thing to forgive....it takes time and it might be long
It is! I watch a couples therapist here on YT and he said that it could take some people a decade to trust their partner after just one incident of infidelity 😯
I'm jealous. You must have a great mom to hold that point of view.
The first caller.... sounds like the problem is her husband and the child is behaving as he’s been taught because he thinks he can. He sees his dad get away with it. Honestly I’d think this caller and son the might be better off if she left her husband.
I agree.
Why was "leave" the automatic response? I'm truly confused.
Wayyyy too many ads
Being a parent is selfless in itself.
How so?
@@ghostcat2467 its not.
certainly not
Yes!
Hey
Here's an idea for husbands: if your wife is the one in charge of dinner all the time then she deserves two nights off a week from cooking - one night being a date night out and one night where YOU'RE in charge of dinner. That's what would show me love.
Too many’s ads unsubscribe
AdHD isnt even bad.