How Malignant Narcissists Use BAITING to Provoke You
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Why did the narcissist cross the road?
They thought it was a boundary.
Clever one
They thought the grass was greener on the other side.
I don't why this popped in my head after watching this. "resist the devil and he will flee from you"
thank you!!
Yes!
It's true. I had a Baptist ex narc boyfriend, he knew I was recovering from cancer and had arguments with me. I started doing grey rock without knowing what it was and he discarded me.
That's true. Don't hang
around toxic people.
The devil doesn't have a red face or horns..... He often shows up as everything you've ever wanted
Sometimes narcs dont want you to know they are abusing you . They do it covertly. And they still get supply. Love from rob x
Robert Travistext, Yes. Absolutely true. They are sadistic.
From my personal experience, when it is covert they bait you into reactions over time and then go and play the victim and smear you to friends and family evil fuckers.
@@dr104 you just described my mother. I have been sexually, emotionally, physically and psychologically abused by both my mother and father yet everyone thinks I'm some kind of no good kid (34 now) who was just born bad.
"Sometimes narcs dont want you to know they are abusing you . They do it covertly."
More importantly this is only to hide the abuse from others.
They also use pitch, tone, and volume to startle you, accompanied by rude body language and facial expressions. If they can’t get supply in typical “covert narc” fashion through passive-aggression, toxic sarcasm, projection, gaslighting, and playing “victim,” they’ll resort to crazy antics like sneaking up on you to frighten you, stomping out of the room (for no apparent reason), banging pots and pans, slamming doors, throwing stuff on the counter, and leaving you wondering what just happened. All this just to get a reaction out of you.
Looks like thorough analysis.
I had the child's voice from my mother whenever i tried to bring attention to when she touched my penis for fun when i was a young boy. She would talk extremely slow in a whiny baby voice. Like talking directly to satan. "You had everything you wanted, I was only doing my best." She would drag each word on for so long that even now just thinking about it makes me want to punch a punchbag very hard.
True, weird.
Yes!! Well said!
Awesome comment! Very good description! Thankyou sir!
SILENCE IS THE BEST PUNISHMENT TO THEM!!!!!!!!
Yes practising silence silence and more silence.
so good!! thank you!!this will give me the strength to ignore them
This is the BIGGEST hurt you can cause a narc. Ignoring them and regarding them as if they don’t exist, and that nothing they say or do has a negative impact on you, will frustrate the hell out of them! And of course, you should always respond with APATHY to that. 😂
sure, get silent with me and watch me drop you in a mere moment lmao
Well my guy keeps being silent, and I'm not a Narcissist, but his ex may have been. So now he maybe scared in case I'm like her!!! So he's scared to talk properly to me ? It is he a Narcissist? Its confusing... I know he told me something in confidence, and was terrified I'd use it against him. That's why I think his ex was one ?
The day I didn’t react he discarded me over a text after 17 years. So I reacted to that. The next day he tried to say we could work on it....I grew some balls finally and said NO. I packed up and left. A week later the new supply was moved in. He’s blamed me etc etc to bait me but I didn’t respond and finally after my house sale I’ve blocked him on everything. He’s a child. It’s actually sad.
I'm glad you got out! What an accomplishment after 17 years!!!
Rain&Sun Nubians thank you, actually having a really bad day today and that message made me cry but reframe. One day I will happy. I think it’s super easy to be hard on yourself and regretful but actually miss that escaping abuse is super brave....even after so much time....Thanks again 😊
If your friend was going through this, what advice would you give to them? Take that advice yourself.
Arguments they started that whatever answer you give will be twisted and thrown back at you. it could just a word it doesn't matter, when they need that attention they try to force it out of you😒
Going through this right now. Please pray for me 🥺🙏
You're explain about narcissim in such a creative way .
Its more easier to underatand
I just cought myself understanding why people hide their happiness. Because I actually thought to hide my joy. For fear of her wrath... Evidently I need some work. I got this. Believing is seeing.
The narc hates to see you happy. Iloved gardening. I planted a row of knockout rosebushes. When I was finally forced to leave,the first thing he did was dig them up and thow them out.
@@thereal4113 Thanks.
It took me decades to realize how the mother conditioned me to be miserable or play the underdog around her. I was never allowed to be happy or content or she would just pull me down. Then she would berate me for not being happy! NC
Totally understand. I was so very unhappy for so long in my marriage not understanding exactly why ... I found a new inspiration by accident and changed my routines completely .., I didn’t spend the weekend or week repairing broken steps up into the house .. I told her to find someone else to do it and pay them with the money I made which was very good income .. she fought even that .. I pushed back on work hours that were horrendous and the lazy co workers had to start pulling their weight for the first time in a year .., I felt happy .. I didn’t care .. my ex filed for divorce after 22 years of marriage after seeing me happy for 3 months and gave no explanation or any discussion .. just BOOM .. I never could figure out why my savings was never building up as expected given that I was making big money all that time .. no credit card bills .. no atm withdrawals except mine which I did as I travelled a lot for work .. after the divorce and finding a new job as she withheld my passport during the divorce i needed for work and it caused me to be laid off (contractor and couldn’t support my travel without the passport) .. I found another job in the field and saved money like crazy .. then invested as I saw fit without interference as my ex always did ... now have more to my name than I ever did in the previous 22 years .., she was stealing money thru cashback transactions at grocery stores .., hundreds of thousands over the years ... I know now what a narcissist is but have known others as well ... tying back to your comment .. my joy and happiness was the end of my marriage which she couldn’t tolerate as my unhappiness was HER joy
The first “scene” was ripped from my marriage. After repeated attempts to prove her wrong, I realized it was a waste of effort.
Omg! Same same same!!!
that's what learned here, they're doing it to make you mad and that feeds them, don't give them what they want. ignore them, change the subject walk away, get a "phone call", learn to lie and say you got to run, to the bathroom, whatever
Total waste of time. Then they recruit your children and keep the patterns going. Last attempt was weeks ago. Living anger free separate from toxic house.
It hurts to live this. Thank you for all your advice.
I know.
I feel like living with a narcissist has made me a master manipulator...lol. I'm always thinking- what does he want from me and how can I not give it to him. I'm exhausted with these mind games!
This is helpful for those moments of surprise. Surprise is the tripper upper
You are brilliant and I am happy you are so knowledgeable about the subject and able to provide real solutions
Kim Slone YES!! Its the moments we haven’t prepared for.
You're shocked that anyone would behave that way. It catches you off guard every time.
She is always so helpful and gives us the best honest information
Kyros - absolutely! Now, It’s funny to see the narcissists’ surprise when you don’t feed them in the moment they thought they were going to surprise you!
Today a creepy thing happened yesterday was a big fight with my narc mom today she was soooo sweet very akward n I have seen this pattern for a long time but today's was creepy it just is giving me creepy vibes it was like she wants to know wat m thinking.
Yes that's the love bomb devalue discard cycle. Yes it's true she wants to know your heart so that she can break it better next time., don't buy it
One thing I learned was to record them, make a journal & save those texts/emails. You just might need them, especially if you have a kid. And yes, never fall for the bait, just keep being great! Their hell doesn't stop, but yours does!
It reminds me of the movie Gremlins... No matter how much they cry... No matter how much they beg... Never feed them after midnight.
@@duanesherwood2328 - Never lose your cool. I lost my cool because of my ex's retarded games once, and threw a lighter toward her. I didn't try to throw it directly at her, throw it hard or hurt her, but I got a weekend in jail for it and a Domestic Violence charge. She used the DV charge against me in a CPS court. She took no responsibility for her actions, games & lies. She lied, told half truths, lied by omission, changed the subjects, used projection to project her faults onto me & others. They can't accept any accountability, and want everyone to see you as the monster they are.
My mistake was not recording her, which I do now. She won the kid. In CPS court they rarely let you speak, and cps are narcissists too, who play weird games and lies, and force you to sign your name on their lies by not letting you see or talk to your kid again unless you do what they say. The judge gets shown the cps report and I didn't get to speak in court. There was a big cps investigation because my ex is a hard-core meth-head.
14 years away from my ex & the games & lies haven't stopped. She loves to play keep away with the kid, tries to blackmail & extort money out of me, messes with visitation & scheduling. She'll always be retarded & need narcissistic supply. But in 3+ years, my kid will be grown, and I won't have to go through her ever again to have a relationship with my kid. She'll still be creating her own drama in her life, while blaming others. I'm going on with my life and being happy, making a great future. Everyday that creature doesn't live with me is a great day! She can't change that.
Well I hope you prosper. Stay positive. Don't let the unjust drag you down!
They love you explaining yourself
The role playing part of video is really effective. Great video
Omg this exactly what I was going through... Disgusting little cowards
True
I really needed this - I live with a narc spouse and go through this & but watching your videos helps me so much Michelle ...love your channel !
Yes my narc ex-wife was an expert at Baiting. Great coping tactics when the narc tries to Bait you,. Thanks for this video Michele.
Great video 👍😁🌺 Thanks, Michele! It's so uncomfortable watching my former life. 21 years with a narcissist.💔😥😠💔
The Narc in my life is always trying to start a fight on the daily. My teenage son even asked him today Why do you like to start fights ?? His response was . Why do you guys always want to attack me? Me and my son just walked away.
good for you both!! thank God you have the strength!
Maria Alaniz - I’m so relieved for you that your son didn’t inherit the narc genes. 😅
Good for you guys! I'm glad you have your son and you're not in this alone
Same
@Jiggahata1 When the narc is also a parent of your kids it becomes way more complicated. Even without having kids, it's science that co-dependents have trouble breaking free because they are literally addicted. Moving away doesn't always seem so simple and they have trouble feeling the problem is worthy enough (or that they are worthy) to go to extremes like that.
The fact that the skit sounds exactly like my parents kinda scares me though,,,
Whatever I do, I haven’t healed yet 🥺 I feel like it’s a lifetime damage
Hang in there. Each day will bring more clarity and you will be able to look in the mirror and know you are living a true life. I'm sorry to tell you that some days may be painful, but you WILL HEAL. Stay positive.
It's a lifelong journey of awareness, catching yourself and course correcting. It's a work in progress one day at a time ✌💗
Allison McNally thank you 💕💕💕💕
Casper Insight trying everyday 💕🌸🌸🌸
Up and down but on your way up and that's the good side of the story.
You're no longer going down after being up.
No more downers and condemning words ruining your days bc of a disturbing narcissist in your personal space.
This video reminds me of what it was like for me living at home. I remember saving up and buying a playstation and my brother would harange me so much about playing it as if he had some divine right to it. Sadly at the time I knew nothing about narcissistic abuse so I was unable to deal with his harassment effectively. He would incessantly knock on my door demanding that I give him my playstation and like a jack in the box I would eventually give it to him so he would piss off. I think having narcissistic family members is a nightmare because unlike romantic partners u can never really fully remove yourself from that person and if it's one thing I do know about narcissists it is how charming, carismatic and convincing they can be when speaking with others. I think as abuse survivors we have to realise that sometimes others are not going to understand us and they are going to be swept away by the narcissists horse shit yet convincing story....
Well put !
The beginning had me laughing because that's exactly the way I'm sitting in my own world when toxic relatives from my immediate family would try to pull me into some made up confrontation of theirs. Most of my immediate relatives only know how to behave if their boyfriend or girlfriend is around or if money is coming.
Thank you so much for breaking this down , your videos are instrumental Michelle! 🙌🙌
I'm How depressing. Having to think all the time.
This is what I’m going through constantly with a family member who uses triangles, play victim to others to get “flying monkeys” to start attacking and isolating, undermining in small indirect aggression, & doing what they can to compete vindictively.
Thank you Michele. For me the key part of this video is at 8.30: even if you think 'I showed him'/'I showed her'; you didn't show them what you wanted to show them - all you showed them is, they have the power over you, which is what they want and crave. This is the real dynamic.
Exactly! Every. Single. Word. Thank you!
You are spot on! I wish I had understood this behavior 5 1/2 years ago.
Yeah, I've tried to use that first one and all it got me was "You're playing the victim again! Always acting like the world is against you! Why are you like that!"
Typical projection of their issues on to you. Sigh.
Your impression of my wife is spot on.
Yep. She studied my wife for this part too. Spot on.
This may be something small, but I find it helpful that you admitted that you made a mistake instead of editing out to make your video - and, indirectly, you - look perfect
My boyfriend tried to provoke me for hours yesterday. I cannot believe the stamina these people have. I constantly tried to stay calm but he finally got the better of me and I reacted with anger. This was after 4 hours.
He needs to go from your life and he does NOT mean you good at all, free yourself; but four hours of being provoked deserves a👏👏👏👏 and shows that you are indeed srong because most people would have caved into the the pressure and provocations much much sooner.
Get out of there.
@The Mask I cannot afford to live on my own. Thats the only reason I stay.
@@cassiebennet4262 I hope you are free now.
Yes, and then they say "aaah... YOU are the one who is aggressive and arrogant here!" it's absolutely foul play what narcs do!
When I do that they double down and I’m literally incapable at not defending myself. I love truth!
Yes they ramp it up and go down and dirty when you dont react
I remember sitting there saying everything I do is wrong....
This happened to me yesterday, she brought up something that happened a year ago, it was serious for me, I did get upset because of what it was, it was no joking matter for me so to bring that up like she did I did F bomb her for it! I could not help myself, I am just sick of it all! Thanks Michelle!
navydogs adventures my ex did that to his mom in front of me and the kids once. She had done something 15 YEARS EARLIER that had unintended consequences that nearly tore our family apart and could have destroyed our lives. She was over for a holiday dinner and he got mad at her and threw it in her face in front of all of us.
navydogs adventures Don’t feel bad. You’re having a normal human reaction to something painful. But you need to buckle up - as you up your game, so will the narc. They will change tactics from yelling at you to more serious things, if they have to. They will do things like draining the bank account when rent is due, getting you fired, crashing your car, letting the electricity get shut off on a weekend. Whatever it takes to see you angry, they will do it. You really need to be on your toes.
@@samanthawhang7498 well she has no access to my account, I will make sure all bills are paid, I do get what you arr saying!
navydogs adventures Good! You need to shield yourself because there is no depth too low for them to sink to. Stay strong and best wishes to you! ❤️
@@samanthawhang7498Disgusting inhumans because of no empathy they stoop to any lower and lower levels..
Hey that example is very overt... I need help with more covert types of abuse those are harder to point out🙏🏻
Thank you for this great video! My fears from my experience of not giving narcissistic supply is that at some point, the bait they use escalates into illegal acts against you, which can get and be literally dangerous. I think that if anyone is going to suffocate a narcissist by withholding supply, you might want to empower yourself first and have a real plan for escape for your own safety. Some narcs aren't as crazy as mine were, but I would caution anyone to be careful. Even a covert narc will escalate to hurt or punish you in a dramatic way for not obeying and giving them what they want. These are my opinions, and everyone is different. but remember you deserve safety in your life, so consider your ability to keep yourself safe before you tempt them to rebait with something much worse. I love your video examples of what this all looks like at the beginning and how to respond to keep your peace. Your videos are so incredibly helpful with identifying the problems and showing actual ways to disconnect. Xoxx thank you!
I love how you have given the "narc" a deeper voice as if it's the devil in the Exorcist. Works well!!
Thanks for all! I decided not to let that bother me anymore,I just keep living my life staying focused on my self,I think you be a great actress!like how you demonstrate narcissist,that is exactly how they operated!
Everytime I ignored his stupid bait, I congratulate myself like what Michele said Im proud of myself for not giving in to their baiting and for holding my ground and acting in a way Im dignified. Lovelots
I really really needed to see this thank you for sharing this
I became happy and joyful for 3 months in my 22 year marriage, I was inspired and changed my routines to my liking while still taking care of everything as I had previously .. just differently than before .. to my liking .. my ex filed for divorce after 3 months of this “unbearable” joy and happiness I was experiencing .. no discussion, not a word said , just boom .. divorce .. I was cleaned out .. of house and home literally (and job) .. 3 years later I not only recovered financially completely by 4 times what I ever had previously .. I still feel free and control of my life and my emotions .. my unhappiness and financial insecurity was HER joy .. never again
This is my life. 😔
I actually agree with the term “fuel” which I think more explains what its about. They need fuel to live, and are thus dependent on other people who provide fuel.
That is exactly how I managed calmly and rationlly to get rid of my last narc friend if I hadnt of know what I was in for I wouldn't of been ready for it.. But I was and I'm the winner I'm so happy now they are gone.. 22 yrs of friendship finished see ya narc.. 😀
"I've spoken to loads of people and they all think you're mad. Nobody thinks like you think" is about the last words my wife said to me before I left and got my own place to live three weeks ago. Over 20 years of that crap I finally broke.
I am glad you escaped. Your wife was projecting. Everything she said to you was about herself. She fears that people see she is mad and hate her.
@@emmajane646 thank you. Yes that certainly seemed to be the case.
It take such strength to withstand their behaviors. just when you think you've out maneuvered them they pull a counter play. I got away from it and I spend a lot of time alone. Its quiet, maybe too quiet some days, but my mental volley ball games are over with this type of person.
I did this and he was so good he could switch it up so fast and just got belligerent and sometimes became violent when it didn’t work for him.
The visual enactments really help thank you
she hurt me, hit me, insulted me, broke doors in my house, broke dishes, cheated repeatedly, lied about everything... but I still don't want to hate her and I never will and somewehere deep within I will never stop loving her... but she cannot know that. I think it's the saddest part of the abuse.
All this love we destroy ourselves providing, it will never truly reach them.
Exactly it's like sending our love towards a stone wall.
Are you sure it’s love? Maybe more like “love”? What was your relationship with your mom like? Sounds like you’ve got some deep wounds that could really use some examination. You might not be doomed to this destiny, if you don’t want to be.
Ask yourself why you don’t think you deserve anything better than someone who treats you this way. Who first treated you like crap, to then imprint you with this pattern? Why do you “prefer” to be with someone who could never love or respect you? Because you can’t do any better? Again, is this in any way similar to your dynamic with your mom?
@@MoPoppins This is only the way I choose to feel inside, but don't worry I'm approaching day 14 of no contact.
This is my third attempt at leaving since january 2019 and being resentful of the love I felt was critical in her successfully hoovering me.
Urkinorobitch - Good...baby steps. 👍 Keep counting down and celebrating every victory, no matter how minor, because one day you may see yourself looking at the finish line, then crossing it. 👏 👏 👏
Wishing you emotional freedom. 🙏✨💕
She is pure trash and rubbish and is not worthy of your love. Don't waste your good heart on an evil and uncaring person. I hope that you got away from that narc. If you have congratulations and NEVER NEVER go back or look back. YOUR FUTURE IS BRIGHT.
4:35 " Wheres my Narcissist supply. Wheres my negative energy " Do they really want Negative energy ? If so that is so messed up!
I have the same question. I don’t understand it.
They want to see YOU upset, angry, out of control etc. It puts THEM at ease to see OTHERS out of control... Also that they were ABLE to take a peaceful and happy person and MAKE them into some ANGRY and NEGATIVE gives them a big sense of POWER over others and they feel powerful & important
Was provoked & baited yesterday !
It’s great that you do this. I’m grateful. Thank you 🙏
Thank you so much for all the videos!
Thanks for the performance you put on! It reminded so much of myself in the past before I left the narcissist for good.
Great video! You've given me a blueprint, and I'm gonna try it. Thank you!
Staying grounded around toxic (narcissist) people is no easy task. Videos like this should stay on replay until we have our minds reprogrammed . Thanks for this video, well needed coming out of quarantine and there after. The road is not easy, we can make it. ♥
Oh my gosh that’s so true I love the skit
I married a narc and his brother and sister were also narcs as their mother was one before them she used her cult religion as punishment to them. making them guilty they would not join her cult.. our three marriages were all living with these three siblings one guy committed suicide and so did his sister. this same sister in law to me also is religious now and humiliates me in public, my husband never supported me in public he also walked behind me if we went out. and his brother turns off the tv when his wife is enjoying a program or reading a book.. my hubby died, the other brother in law shot himself and his sister had a row with her and she killed herself right on christmas night.. there is one sister in law left her husband my hubbys brother treats her like crap he controls her with money too and hates her going away and leaving him. he also baited me on visits when I gave his wife things to sell so she could have a holiday away from him.. he also ran down my son on all visits he doesn;t know my son and he works this brother in law has not worked for years but has dodgy dealings and tax evades.. he is evil and so is his sister. both say what they like and she arrives uninvited knowin her twin brother would be here. I dropped the lot of them after my hubby died. I have peace at last.
Amazing disjointed family.
Had I reacted that way I would have gotten the shit beat out of me.. this video is DANGEROUS
Thank you so much 💕. This hits home for me in so many ways.
Michele!!! Awesome video... I love your work... Always brilliant and beautiful!!!
Yeah, some people accuse themselves of the feelings they naturally have. You had an excellent reminder to acknowledge and validate feelings to ourselves and for ourselves. Go ahead, have feelings, allow your feelings. Then process them. It's so strange they try to take away what it means to be human. So weird the battle to stay a human being. What a weird world we live in. Are you of the opinion that this conundrum was created in the person's first year of life from mother abandonment and failure to properly connect/attach?
Yes
Respond don’t react!
👍🏻This was one of the best demonstrations/role plays of when people get it wrong and when people do it right when grey rocking and dealing with narcissists/toxic people.
I have the middle finger raised at all times for narcs.
Your videos have come a long way since last year. Great visual effects, role-playing, smiles and/or confident throughout. Well-done.
Ex (while having an affair-that I hadn’t known about…yet; and wanting his family to see “what a flawed person I was”-making it seem “okay “ that he was HAVING an affair) took all of the most sensitive and vulnerable things I had told him about myself during our (at that time) decade-and-a-half-long marriage and divulged them publicly to his family while we were all at lunch together. I was shocked; and paralyzed. I could NOT believe he did that!!
"I hear you.Thank you for opening up and telling me how you really feel" Disconnected. Thank you for this!!!
Right now my Narcissist spouse is getting put in her place by her family, so she is Love Bombing me hard right now. Thank you for this video.
I absolutely love this video!!
Great video , thanks for sharing!! So true.
Powerful video!! Thanks!
Michele you look fabulous!! You have always been beautiful but looking back at your very first videos, you have a happy glow around you now. You have come a long way and thank you for helping us come a long way. I think survivors of this kind of abuse I know a lot more than many therapists do. Thank you for all you do and I always get excited when you upload a new video. Learning everything about this topic is something that I personally find very interesting!!
Love this - thank you Michelle also you look beautiful
Thank you for the video! I love the way you showed how to respond to a negative and toxic criticism with the calm voice and calm music effects. It's very effective on me to see it with an example itself. It adds it up to what l read or hear about it. Very useful. Thank you!
Thank you Michele! I'm binge watching your videos. SO well done. Thank you for the role playing and the practical strategies. So helpful.
I love how you did this video I've never seen these Done like this.. The little skits
I'm really unsure exactly how i came across these videos, but so glad i did. I was just coming out of what i believed was a emotional/physically abusive relationship, indeed it was but i had never heard about narcissistic abuse let alone know that i was a victim of it. This intense weight was lifted, i felt validated, like i wasn't crazy which was so important to me. These vids are very helpful and eye opening. Your truley providing a great service to all the people who have been abused emotionally/psychologically ect. It's all very real and your bringing light to an issue that's hidden in the dark and not even recognized by others. Bless you and your family keep up the great work and Thank you🙂
Excellent clip, thank you Michelle! I have a bunch of narc condo neighbors who I used to try and talk to...tried to get along..to no avail, ever. They refuse to see any good in me, (projection, their own crap and negativity.) So I just avoid it by keeping my attention off of them..Including not even looking at them while I'm out walking my dogs. They can't believe it.
This is something I need to work on. Thank you for this teaching. The battle needs to stop and I need to step up to the plate and stop my participation. 👍💪
HOLY SHIT!!!!!!!!!!!! HOLY HOLY SHIT!!!!!!!! Are you in my house?????? Lololololol
You just reenacted us to A TEE! WTF, Michele. I just laughed so hard I snorted. It's so absurd! It's hilarious to watch!
Edit - I had to watch it again. I swear, even the music is playing in my head when it happens and stops playing exactly that way. But if he saw this he would tell me "yeah but YOU DON'T GO TO WORK ALL DAY. I DO!" Mind you, this will happen on a weekend where I have been up since 4 or 5am and have cleaned the bathroom, done 5 loads of laundry and put it all away, made breakfast AND lunch for 3 kids, cleaned up the kitchen, vacuumed... and he gets out of bed at 2pm revving to get some project done and is pissed off that I haven't been doing whatever his project is since 5am.
Damn that was funny.
I have to comment on this video again Michelle because it is bringing up alot of old memories for me. I remember the first Christmas after my Mother died I made the disastrous decision to spend Christmas Day with my sister and her husband. This was Christmas 2011 so it was long before I even knew about narcissistic abuse. Now that u mention baiting I think that entire day my sister's husband did everything in his power to bait me into a fight-physical or otherwise. What particularly upset me and angered me and still does is that my Grandmother had only recently died and he had been to both funerals. My own Mothers in January and her Mothers in November. He knew only too well how much I was hurting that day yet he did everything to annoy me and provoke me that day. How I kept my cool to this day I still don't know?! They are demons in disguise!
I feel for you. My sister is a narc and is marrying a narc and I have cried when I have stayed in their house. They even counted the biscuits I ate and tried to guilt me over it.
Wow you are soo on point with this.
Simply awesome advice.
Wow! I have watched hundreds narcissistic abuse of videos, read a plethora of books and blogs, gone to years of therapy... which all helped, but for me, none were as powerful as this video! Thank you so much for sharing your pain, journey, and wisdom! ❤️
Thank God for your knowledge and support ❤
As much as I know from so many years, a different type of narc is a whole new ballgame. Thank you! You just helped me so much! Textbook!!!
They get angry when I don't engage with their provocation and start shouting which they know triggers me
this video show's exactly what i used to go with my narcissistic mother thanks God not anymore.thank you so much Michele for this creative video is really validating ,thank you youtube
Thank you Michelle. Your posts have helped me as I continue to heal. I was living a jail sentence as a stay at home mom. After my last child got on the school bus, he turned off all the switches. I had no idea that I was manipulated for 27 years and the narc used my children as pawns in his game.
That hurts a ton when that happens. I've encountered that kind of attack.
Wishing you lots of healing!
So... a master-level narcissist, is a masterbaiter?
Sorry I couldn't resist! These videos are SAVING MY LIFE. Literally saved me from S*icide. THANK YOU SO MUCH
OMG!!!! It was so hard to believe my own thoughts and observations when I started noticing these things and that this is not right.. but you provide confirmation that I have needed.. you have explained down to a T!! There is no denying.. thank you. Sometimes the validation is everything!
I heard that complete dialogue from the narcissist many times. No more! I’m out!
wow.. thank you 😳 now I understand....
his words are 6 weeks ago, but I still hear them in my head and it hurts so much 😢
he used really all intimate details I shared with him against me..
and you are right, I could have done the same but it not even came to my mind 💪🏻