When We Cry: Mental Health, Masculinity, and Male Identity | James Wilkerson | TEDxLSSU

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  • Опубліковано 16 січ 2025

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  • @independentmusicguy
    @independentmusicguy Рік тому +9

    Fantastic work, Joey! You nailed it in so many ways! Vulnerability is a key. Tremendous presentation! It takes a helluva man to talk about these issues.

  • @quentinramecourt6628
    @quentinramecourt6628 5 місяців тому +8

    I remember once trying to get out of my bed. At that time i felt like i had a huge weight on my shoulders. Couldn't get up. Honestly i will never miss it. Just beczuse i broke my ankle a few prior to this event.
    Turns out i was depressed, and with an undiagnosed ADHD. Still am in therapy.
    Made me understand 2 quintessential things:
    - a man can cry and still be strong. Accepting your feelings is proof of strength. "Man up" is okay ..... But not by bottling up your emotions.
    - you matter. As much as your Friends, and your loves ones.

  • @mychannel-b6e
    @mychannel-b6e 8 місяців тому +13

    True that... All of that... Just one other thing.... Mental health need constant evaluation and maintenance

  • @johncalhoun9335
    @johncalhoun9335 7 місяців тому +4

    We need more people willing to help others other than just thinking of yourselfs being selfish

  • @peterreed9566
    @peterreed9566 2 місяці тому +3

    I'm in my 60's now and I last cried when I was in my mid teens. I think crying is totally pointless so I just don't do it. I hate being around people crying and always leave the room if someone is crying...I always look at the person crying and think just grow up.

    • @SilverLiningPainting-q8d
      @SilverLiningPainting-q8d 2 місяці тому

      Thanks thanks grandpa and great grandpa for all the suppressed trauma that you guys refused to talk about. Validation is not assumed I’m sorry to say, but our generation willing to deal with it starting today.

    • @peterreed9566
      @peterreed9566 2 місяці тому

      @SilverLiningPainting-q8d I've seen my son cry once and that was at his mum's funeral when he was 19. He doesn't believe in crying either except in exceptional circumstances which I'd class his mum's funeral as. The men in my family just don't do emotions and feelings...or rather we'd never discuss these with anyone else which my wife finds strange. We also aren't the best when I comes to empathy either...just as well our wives love us anyway.

  • @johnnydiaz1284
    @johnnydiaz1284 Рік тому +6

    Thank you i needed this. cuz i am the one who checks on the bro's/sisters and family

  • @nabiha969
    @nabiha969 Рік тому +11

    i'm going to do my english project on this video!

    • @j56783
      @j56783 8 місяців тому +1

      same!

  • @Joshy2-SF
    @Joshy2-SF 29 днів тому +1

    What is remarkable to me is how little views this important video has!

  • @D-Will2k
    @D-Will2k 4 місяці тому +1

    Growth requires work and patience

  • @UserName1234
    @UserName1234 Рік тому +5

    This was nice.

  • @Hewhois82
    @Hewhois82 9 місяців тому +20

    I don't have bros to talk to or to check on me. What do I do then?

    • @iim4xii129
      @iim4xii129 9 місяців тому +2

      You sit in silence and suffer. Don't worry, you get used to it, and you become somewhat desensitised to various kinds of pain.

    • @rogashon1787
      @rogashon1787 8 місяців тому +8

      @@iim4xii129 bro did not watch the video at all

    • @rogashon1787
      @rogashon1787 8 місяців тому +3

      find someone you trust to talk to, assuming you got a lil group of friends find a way to just let them know stuff has been bothering you. itll be surprising if you speak up and see how much people care about you. if your friends are real friends theyll for sure pay attention and support you through it, chin up you got this Godbless o7

    • @olive-yello
      @olive-yello 8 місяців тому +1

      Be there for yourself

    • @couttsie
      @couttsie 7 місяців тому +7

      i’m a woman, but i don’t have any friends either. just can’t keep up with anyone because i don’t have the energy, i have too much in my own mind all the time, i find everything overwhelming. so i make sure to be there for myself. do nice things for myself, make myself laugh, be kind to myself when i’m upset. you have to learn to be your own best friend, and to actually care about yourself. i still feel lonely sometimes, but it’s 100x easier when you do love yourself. i wish you the best x

  • @withthisipost3383
    @withthisipost3383 7 місяців тому +1

    No. I support mental health awareness, especially for men. I do everything I can to destigmatize mental health issue, but I cannot in any way excuse what Will Smith did. I was probably one of his greatest admirers, amazed by his talent, his intelligence, and his success, but I was heartbroken by his conduct on this occasion and cannot ignore this was not the first time he slapped another man (the last one was just not famous). I'm DONE with Will Smith.

  • @johncalhoun9335
    @johncalhoun9335 7 місяців тому +2

    I can take 10 pills and nobody gon bat an eye ,just gonna ask are u alright like clearly im not they ask that because they dont know what else to ask cuz of no recollection of mental health ,some of us are just better at embracing our problems

  • @johncalhoun9335
    @johncalhoun9335 7 місяців тому +2

    Yeah me either, we men are more alone than ever ,family dysfunctional they enslaved by the system dont wanna talk to eachother, only God has are back now ,i lost faith in humanity

    • @franciscorios7255
      @franciscorios7255 7 місяців тому +1

      God made hummanity my brother. His kindness lies within us all. The trick is you must show it to all first for it to be reflected upon you.

  • @nuraii123
    @nuraii123 Рік тому +1

    first🎉

  • @missimorones9859
    @missimorones9859 Рік тому +1

    Not true DONT play in people persons & things.