Emotional Fluency: The Language Black Boys aren't Taught | Nate Evans Jr. | TEDxWhiting

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  • @mamabear2181
    @mamabear2181 2 місяці тому +6

    This almost had me in tears cause how do you create a safe place when you don't know how to. You want to be able to provide it for sure.

  • @kingderald
    @kingderald 6 місяців тому +32

    Honestly I started crying watching this. My emotions are at all time high. Trying to just really thrive in society. Needed to hear this.

    • @shoo0c621
      @shoo0c621 4 місяці тому +3

      I hope you're still here! I hope you thrive and live out your life

    • @TheLemonsims
      @TheLemonsims 3 місяці тому

      I cried too bro

  • @bryantdeshields1170
    @bryantdeshields1170 Рік тому +109

    It’s a shame that this young brother doesn’t get the recognition and respect he deserves in Atlantic County , NJ . Keep up the good work.

    • @PrettyFinessa
      @PrettyFinessa 8 місяців тому +1

      I’m sure this young man gets the respect he deserves, do you mean you want him to become popular or well shared ? I like my gems to be well kept secrets, like appreciated amongst his community because the ones that blow up change the format and ruin the magic, among other things. This young man deserves a particular type of crowd that genuinely respects and understands his craft & he’ll be just fine ❤

    • @rebeccanicolas2557
      @rebeccanicolas2557 7 місяців тому +1

      Do you have his information?

    • @MunirVibes
      @MunirVibes 2 місяці тому

      Im in Atlantic County and this is the first I ever came across him. I’m on a similar mission. Going to look him up.

  • @almightyyotto
    @almightyyotto Рік тому +16

    I had to watch this twice. man man man.

  • @holisticevolutioninc3550
    @holisticevolutioninc3550 Рік тому +38

    Thank you for speaking on this! Our young males of color need to hear it from men in their community!!

    • @lindareed8265
      @lindareed8265 5 місяців тому +1

      I always wish I could reach out to kids who are being destructive to themselves and others; I know it's because they're hurting inside. But I also have to accept that when they see that I'm not the same gender, age, color, or ethnicity as them, they'll be suspicious and doubtful. I get it, and I don't blame them. I guess the best way I can help them is to use my social privilege for good and support the people they WILL listen to and who make them feel safe. How can I support people like this speaker?

  • @laquittapearson2052
    @laquittapearson2052 2 роки тому +52

    This was absolutely beautiful. This is needed in our communities. So simple steps but because the trauma deeply rooted in our community many need to be taught just those 4 steps!!

  • @Mrsneekzlojik
    @Mrsneekzlojik 11 місяців тому +10

    I don't often go through and listen to Tedx Talks, but this one...my family was there but I definitely dealt with some of the things here... I'm here for it...I want to help.
    Shared this video on LinkedIn too.

    • @NateEvansJr
      @NateEvansJr 10 місяців тому

      Thank you for taking the time to watch and share

    • @lindareed8265
      @lindareed8265 5 місяців тому

      Just because a parent is there doesn't mean they're able to do the things you need. We're all a work in progress. My parents went through enormous struggles in themselves to end the generational cycles of abuse and mental health problems. In a way, it was a privilege to see that happen over the years and an honor to have parents who were strong enough to apologize to their children and make real changes. It CAN be done. It's not easy, but it's possible and necessary.

  • @liamatsutv
    @liamatsutv 10 місяців тому +9

    WOW! This needs to be seen by SOOOOOO many more people!

  • @apc5755
    @apc5755 Рік тому +18

    🦋🌎I hope Nate’s endeavors for emotional fluency and creating a safe space becomes nation wide and global. Thank you for addressing how intergenerational trauma, abuse and dysfunction needs to stop so the healing can begin.🦋🌎

  • @HARSHKUMAR-bv3zv
    @HARSHKUMAR-bv3zv Рік тому +4

    thanks Nate Evans Jr for motivating me i was feeling very low but after he changed my point off view to myself

  • @NakiaToliber
    @NakiaToliber 10 місяців тому +2

    Thank you for sharing your story and shedding light on this very important topic that needs more attention!

  • @ronanderson8490
    @ronanderson8490 Рік тому +101

    We also lack emotional fluency because we have a subsect in our community who allow celebrities, sports stars to be our heros, and this deep attachment to pop-culture and obsession of trying to be viewed as "cool."

    • @TechTakeOver2023
      @TechTakeOver2023 Рік тому +6

      Or validation

    • @CdmanChris
      @CdmanChris Рік тому +3

      This!!! So true. And we look up to people whom haven’t done the healing they need to

    • @JohnDoe-pd4jo
      @JohnDoe-pd4jo 11 місяців тому +1

      It’s deeper than this simple minded shii….

    • @mshill2406
      @mshill2406 9 місяців тому +2

      Agreed and they take on a self centered attitude like those celebrities

    • @MissNamaSlay
      @MissNamaSlay Місяць тому

      Lacking positive influences will do that .

  • @rodinmotion4331
    @rodinmotion4331 2 роки тому +22

    THIS DESERVES A STANDING OVATION, LET'S GO NATE🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @hellonomasonto
    @hellonomasonto 2 роки тому +9

    I had to watch this twice and ponder what he's saying. Very emotional and thought-provoking. Thank you for the talk.

  • @EricMHowardII-yh1rn
    @EricMHowardII-yh1rn 10 місяців тому +2

    Thank you for being honest about what happened to you that was not easy to do. Listen with understanding, Opening up your heart to display tender affection. Encouragement is inspired by faith, hope and love. Truthful and respectful dialogue is needed now more than ever before in human history.

  • @Melanatedminimalist
    @Melanatedminimalist 2 місяці тому

    Wow just wow!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤ I am a social worker in Child Welfare and I thank him for all of this!!!!❤

  • @JosieAshton-c3r
    @JosieAshton-c3r Рік тому +9

    Extremely profound! So very proud of you!

  • @jeromepeterson7150
    @jeromepeterson7150 Рік тому +8

    Wow! Very Powerful! Great Job Sir!!!!

  • @kirapricey
    @kirapricey 11 місяців тому +1

    I'm so thankful for this video. Perfect example. Many young men can benefit. Shout out Memphis I'm from there!

  • @CareerDropout.
    @CareerDropout. Рік тому +1

    This message is essential.

  • @Thenewzenicc
    @Thenewzenicc 2 роки тому +12

    Wow! What a powerful and thought provoking presentation. I’am so proud of you Son. Keep up the good work. God has gifted you for such a time as this. 🙏🏽❤️

    • @NateEvansJr
      @NateEvansJr 2 роки тому +2

      Thanks for watching Mom ❤

  • @waltlikka
    @waltlikka 2 роки тому +8

    This is powerful & resonated with me on so many levels.

  • @Tyreeleslie
    @Tyreeleslie 2 роки тому +3

    Right on my brother.

  • @cordrellcolbert4550
    @cordrellcolbert4550 Рік тому +6

    This really resonates deeply with me and feels like exactly what i needed to hear, thank you for this!

  • @wvuk
    @wvuk Рік тому +4

    Just what I needed to help with my son. Thank you. Off to look for your book

  • @Deshawn144
    @Deshawn144 Рік тому +2

    I know Nate we used to live on the same block good to see him doing well 🙏🏾🔥

  • @SouthwesternCBDBusiness-bb4zi
    @SouthwesternCBDBusiness-bb4zi 7 місяців тому +2

    thank you Nate!!! this is a powerful answer and solution I think to the trauma that I see in our community thank you thank you thank you!

  • @arlettaalleninspires
    @arlettaalleninspires 2 роки тому +16

    Wow this is powerful Nate!!! Especially the part about not wanting to die but wanting to kill the pain!!! I can relate!!!

    • @NateEvansJr
      @NateEvansJr 2 роки тому +1

      Thanks for watching and sharing Arletta!

  • @lindareed8265
    @lindareed8265 5 місяців тому +1

    Applause for bringing up Dr. DeGruy! As you were talking, I thought of that book. It was transformational in my ability to understand my culture as a White American.
    And tears of gratitude and love for those last words. I felt the love emanate from you.

  • @CommunityDynamic
    @CommunityDynamic Рік тому +1

    Nate Evans, Jr. thank you for this presentation.

  • @charleslang1297
    @charleslang1297 4 місяці тому

    He hit the nail on the head. Safe spaces are needed. And boys need mentors. Keep doing your thing...

  • @shenetricharris2887
    @shenetricharris2887 Рік тому +6

    This is a very profound message that is needed in the community! Excellent job Nate!

  • @rodinmotion4331
    @rodinmotion4331 2 роки тому +6

    Man!!! Nate this was awesome, very proud of you Young King💚💚💚🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💚💚💚

    • @NateEvansJr
      @NateEvansJr 2 роки тому +1

      Thank you brother! 🙏🏾

  • @blueorion13
    @blueorion13 4 місяці тому +1

    Amazing...thank you!

  • @ErnestBenson-t7m
    @ErnestBenson-t7m Рік тому +4

    Excellent Ted talk Nate. We need to hear this message more often. Thank you for being open to share !!!!

  • @ChocLei
    @ChocLei 11 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for this message!

  • @gregschaub7199
    @gregschaub7199 11 місяців тому +1

    Really inspiring. Thank you

  • @andreanjoku-tade8162
    @andreanjoku-tade8162 2 роки тому +4

    Thank you!

    • @NateEvansJr
      @NateEvansJr 2 роки тому

      Thank you for watching 🙏🏾

  • @SoulCareRevolution
    @SoulCareRevolution Рік тому +2

    THAT WAS AMAZING AND AWESOME 🤩 ✨ AMAZING PRESENTER AND PRESENTATION

  • @PF4EVER
    @PF4EVER 7 місяців тому +2

    Real Wisdom 💎 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @michaeljones3604
    @michaeljones3604 8 місяців тому +2

    I needed to hear this today.. Somebody still cares. 🙏🏼💯

  • @Montthewarrior
    @Montthewarrior 3 місяці тому

    That just did alot for me brother! Great message

  • @darryls2141
    @darryls2141 4 місяці тому +1

    Powerful

  • @saraburns1675
    @saraburns1675 Рік тому +2

    thank you for sharing such a heartfelt message

  • @askforwisdomfirst
    @askforwisdomfirst 2 роки тому +3

    Just Wow! I really felt that!

    • @NateEvansJr
      @NateEvansJr 2 роки тому

      Thank you for watching 🙏🏾

  • @naeromnallih
    @naeromnallih Рік тому +1

    thanks for this

  • @tonyajowilliams575
    @tonyajowilliams575 2 роки тому +2

    Great content Nate!👍🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽The part that really stood out is when you said not wanting to die but wanting to kill the pain🔥

    • @NateEvansJr
      @NateEvansJr 2 роки тому +1

      Thank you for investing the time to watch Tonya!

  • @jamespossible2601
    @jamespossible2601 Рік тому +1

    Such an important share, thank you Nate.

  • @duranrussell9978
    @duranrussell9978 Рік тому +1

    Great talk Nate! Keep up the good work!

  • @LDHodges
    @LDHodges Рік тому +1

    Thank you for i needed to see this. A

  • @Jvaldes609
    @Jvaldes609 2 роки тому +3

    Great talk. Keep going forward.

    • @NateEvansJr
      @NateEvansJr 2 роки тому +1

      Thanks for watching brother

  • @nikkiacomm
    @nikkiacomm Рік тому +1

    This is great information.

  • @FaeDruid
    @FaeDruid Рік тому +1

    This was well worth listening to.

  • @originaleverythingelseisca5977

    I love this, it is well overdue

  • @PastorProphetessDeeModeste
    @PastorProphetessDeeModeste 8 місяців тому +1

    Keep up the great work!

  • @jansonovia
    @jansonovia Рік тому +1

    Incredible.

  • @ronalddowdell9231
    @ronalddowdell9231 6 місяців тому

    Very important topic.....well presented.

  • @wellbodisalone
    @wellbodisalone Рік тому +1

    This video is worth watching twice!

  • @ashacherian3353
    @ashacherian3353 2 роки тому +2

    Great work. Wishing you the very best in your endeavors. God bless you

  • @krose5965
    @krose5965 Рік тому +1

    Thank u do much

  • @Mari-Ama7
    @Mari-Ama7 7 місяців тому +1

    Wow best Ted talk ever 👏🏽 👏🏽👏🏽

  • @thatssoairee
    @thatssoairee Рік тому +1

    This was really good!

  • @gbyrd910
    @gbyrd910 5 місяців тому

    Powerful 💪🏾🙏🏾

  • @ottogreenjr.7857
    @ottogreenjr.7857 Рік тому +1

    Brilliant!!!!

  • @dejonking794
    @dejonking794 2 роки тому +2

    We got this ✊🏽

    • @NateEvansJr
      @NateEvansJr 2 роки тому +1

      Appreciate you watching Dejon!

  • @tes_speaks
    @tes_speaks 2 роки тому +4

    Outstanding concept, MUST WATCH! Great job Nate 🔥

  • @brad8497
    @brad8497 2 роки тому +1

    Love all y’all fellas ❤❤

  • @datruthruth9948
    @datruthruth9948 11 місяців тому +1

    Damn! Good stuff.

  • @TSquared2001
    @TSquared2001 11 місяців тому +1

    This is real

  • @YBNormal423
    @YBNormal423 2 роки тому +2

    LETS GO NATE 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @AskTheAdjutant
    @AskTheAdjutant 4 місяці тому

    Great information!💪🏾🇺🇸

  • @RobertHMarshallJr
    @RobertHMarshallJr Рік тому +1

    Amazing

  • @KeithTheTherapist
    @KeithTheTherapist 2 роки тому +2

    Incredible!11111

  • @TheRealThrivalist
    @TheRealThrivalist Рік тому +1

    I do like it🎉

  • @sedecim
    @sedecim Рік тому +1

    Bless

  • @lilmsmoni12
    @lilmsmoni12 8 місяців тому +2

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @catedoge3206
    @catedoge3206 9 місяців тому +1

    real.

  • @Calmly-replied111
    @Calmly-replied111 Рік тому +18

    😮 That only 18,000 people have watched 👀 this as 2023 is the tragic 😥 😔 Shame on the process that doesn't push this information forward!!!

    • @PrettyFinessa
      @PrettyFinessa 8 місяців тому

      51k in a year doesn’t seem bad. However people have to grow or want to grow to become emotionally fluent so they need to have in interest in this topic.

  • @Infinite.motivation.01
    @Infinite.motivation.01 3 місяці тому +1

    Whoever reads this I pray you become successful and happy in life!

  • @cuzinlucky7836
    @cuzinlucky7836 Рік тому +1

    🔥

  • @rebeccanicolas2557
    @rebeccanicolas2557 Рік тому +4

    Hello! Is there anyway to get in contact with you to visit my school to speak to my boys?

    • @lindareed8265
      @lindareed8265 5 місяців тому

      He should just be automatically included in every school system's curriculum, at least one presentation a year, in every school district, with versions for different age groups.

  • @jessespearman9234
    @jessespearman9234 10 місяців тому +1

    Does anyone have the link to the video of Corey and Noah he had screenshots of?

  • @brienfarmer6846
    @brienfarmer6846 Рік тому +1

    LIL TIF

  • @oliviasmith234
    @oliviasmith234 Рік тому +1

  • @kennethjones7123
    @kennethjones7123 Рік тому +1

    💯

  • @saraburns1675
    @saraburns1675 Рік тому +8

    in young men, regardless of race or color, depression and anxiety present as ANGER

    • @mshill2406
      @mshill2406 9 місяців тому

      Totally agree

    • @lindareed8265
      @lindareed8265 5 місяців тому

      Much of the time, yes. That's often the only "safe" way to express pain, especially in a patriarchal society. Men are humans, and vulnerability and emotion are part of being human. They deserve to live their full humanity.

  • @tyronewingo8653
    @tyronewingo8653 Рік тому +1

    🎁 🙏🏿

  • @DomCTBG
    @DomCTBG 9 місяців тому +1

    😥💕💕💕💕

  • @JohnBoyJoy
    @JohnBoyJoy 9 місяців тому

    He got me until he brought up racism in freaking 2022. 🤡🤡🤡

    • @suziesmith9076
      @suziesmith9076 6 місяців тому +6

      If you think racism disappeared you are the 🤡

    • @lindareed8265
      @lindareed8265 5 місяців тому +1

      Read Dr. DeGruy's book. You'll understand.

  • @sasazamami
    @sasazamami Рік тому +2

    This is BS

    • @jamiewashington4319
      @jamiewashington4319 Рік тому +6

      What does that mean? I"m not sure I understand?

    • @kikataye6293
      @kikataye6293 9 місяців тому +1

      @@jamiewashington4319 he’s pretty much not agreeing with this video for some reason

    • @kentwaters5903
      @kentwaters5903 5 місяців тому +1

      Nate did a wonderful job pointing out a social problems that need to be addressed by parents , schools and mental health professionals. Nate needs to address these three groups in order to create the safe spaces that he is recommending

  • @brandieharnack1552
    @brandieharnack1552 8 місяців тому +1

    ❤❤