Breaking the Silence: Why Men Need to Talk About Their Mental Health | Henry Nelson Case | TEDxAUBG
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- Опубліковано 1 чер 2023
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In his talk, Henry shares his personal journey with mental health struggles as a young lawyer and how toxic masculine stereotypes played a role in his experience. He discusses the societal expectations and gender norms that make it difficult for men to seek support when struggling with mental health issues and the harmful coping mechanisms that men often turn to. Henry also highlights the significant consequences of this stigma and lack of support, including male suicide, and offers practical solutions to promote men's mental health. Henry is a qualified lawyer from the UK, and a newfound influencer as well. He strives to promote the importance of mental health in the workplace and challenges toxic corporate behaviors.
On social media, he creates relatable and impactful content that positively touches the lives of all those who have been affected by negative corporate workplace behaviors. Henry is also a co-founder of a company that helps law firms and organizations utilize the benefits of short-form videos.
With his personal experience in the corporate world and a passion for mental health awareness, Henry aims to foster a community of people that can openly talk about their experiences and support each other. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Breaking the stigma, supporting men's mental health
Every day I want to unalive myself because of stress and depression, one day I will, but at least people are talking about it
Keep fighting mate. Never give in x
It doesn't have to go down like that for you. You're valued, you haven't developed all your potential, there’s a lot more for you in store. Take the plunge and talk to someone and then keep talking. God bless you
Hope you are doing better.
Do not give in mate, do not give up please man. Please dont
@@robertalonso3797 Most average men aren't valued whatsoever.
It’s hard to work a busy job, keep up with the house, parent multiple children, keep up with your health/fitness, all on top of your own personal traumas, guilts, regrets, etc.
I'm with you, Brother.
The key is balance.
But we can't do it alone.
Said every woman, mother. Neadless to add some of them bearly have the time to go to a saloon to have a pedicure or a proper haircut.
Thank you for this video, it serves as a great validation for what I am currently dealing with and how I chose to take action and talk to Men out there to encourage open conversation about feelings and difficult emotions especially when going through prostate cancer treatment, which in itself is a difficult and often taboo topic among men.
im a 53 year old man and i agree with what this man has said
I needed to hear this. Thank you 🙌🏻💯
I don't have any friends, I'm extremely introverted and have social anxiety. This coupled with the fact that I don't like sports and I don't drink or smoke makes it very hard to connect with other men. When I get comfortable, I overshare and I feel people distancing themselves. So I put my walls up again. It's not easy making friends as a man. Most men have friends from childhood and keep those friends as they get older. I was home-schooled for my seconday years and no one kept in contact after college and there were no men in my classes in university, (Journalism isn't very popular I guess). I have 5 brothers but 2 are younger and 3 are married. I have two sisters but it's not the same as having a male connection. The only person I can talk to is God.
Great talk
Thank you for the reminder sir❤
Brilliant talk Henry!! Such an important topic you’re shedding light on!
As a male, the only way i'v survived without ending my own life is by taking a complete embrace to a nihilistic and synical point of view on the world. This way i can avoid feeling my true emotion, only holding on to the materialistic things like money to keep myself alive.
Me too,i so difficult but money help a lot
Fantastic talk Henry!! It's so inspiring to see men taking action to assist with male mental health in our communities! It's just crazy that we are taught to suppress our feelings, so putting this message out there for other men to hear that they are not alone, and that it's healthy...even imperative that we are there for one another when we need support. There is nothing weak about discussing how we feel...in fact it takes a great deal of strength!! Way to get the conversation started Henry!! Someone absolutely needed to hear this message today!
one of the best talks I have ever heard, thank you so much for this!!
Thanks man. This subject has become more and more relevant. It seems like men are looked upon by society at large, as unfavourable and made to feel worthless. 😊
Been going though a crisis myself. It is so hard to find support, even when you do it is the same man up laced talk.
Support groups are non existent. And for what ever reason getting mental health support has to be blocked with unnecessary hurdles to even receive help.
So proud!! ❤❤
Society: "Men need to talk about their mental health".
Also society when men try to open up about their mental health: "Man up beta!"
Notice how feminine men are the most happiest type of men and masculine men aren’t. I think men need to embrace their feminine side.
You've gotta look out for your brothers out there to break the stigma. If you treat everyone like a brother and sister then it's so much easier to bond and relate and break the stigma
@@Keaton42this is indeed what needs to be done. I'm trying to work on a podcast to do and tackle breaking the stigma and the importance of Brotherhood
Very great and valuable insight! Unfortunately this video was released a couple of weeks too late.....
I tried to talk to a friend once. She told me to seek professional help and ghosted me after that. I believe we are able to reach out and talk but at this stage we have to be really cautious about who we choose to talk to
I need someone to talk to I don’t think I can take it anymore I tried to commit suicide twice and failed. I don’t want to feel lonely and worthless anymore I lost everyone I loved in my life and I’m lost.
Hey you alright buddy??? You're not alone ok. I can listen. I'm here
And then what? What happens when I talk about how unbearable my life is and how I have no choice but to end it myself soon? What changes? Literally nothing. Maybe people laugh at me and mock me for it, use it against me. That's it. This whole "talking" thing is just one huge distraction from the reality that most of us are living horrible lives. Talking won't solve money problems, it won't solve health problems, it won't make me more attractive or give me a chance to ever experience love, it won't give me a second chance. So why would anyone even bother.
You have to find the right person to talk to, not everyone will laugh and mock.
I'm sorry you feel that way. But also I'm sure there are people out there or even around you caring about you and loving you. If you feel not, there are plenty of emergency numbers for mental health support. Just type that in in Google and you'll find it.
Also, I don't feel like talking is useless or doesn't change a thing. It can make you feel relieved to let off steam or less alone talking to a confidant. Friends and family may can give you financial support. But more importantly, in my opinion, emotional one.
Maybe you'll consider the things I said. Anyway, I hope you know you're worth it and deserve to be happy and that you will make better soon. 💞
Lets go!!
I'm an engineer who wants to become a lawyer, you are an inspiration
Survival above all else, guys. At the end of day you just gotta survive..
All Mental Case People Needs Help From The States
I recently saw a Twitter/X post with 70k likes saying Male Mental Heath shouldn’t be cared about. All the replies were “Only women’s mental heath matters”, “they should join the rates”, and “why should we care”?
Yes, I know I shouldn’t care about anyone’s opinions on that godforsaken app, but the sheer amount of likes got to me. I’ve dealt with suicidal thoughts, self harm, and other mental health related issues and got little to no help. I’m not blaming women for the mental health issues of men, but I would like to point out that BOTH genders contribute almost nothing to help.
I’m going to therapy and getting better, but I would like to point out that I come from a wealthier family who can actually afford help. As of now, there are very little resources available to some men to afford help. Please donate to any Male mental health organizations or help your male friends and family afford therapy.
Let’s be real - in professions like the military, law, medicine etc., ruthless competitors will use any admission of vulnerability like this to get ahead of you - he can talk about it now that he’s out but good luck otherwise
What About Abnormal Behaviors
Any attorneys in here deal with men's mental health in the workplace. The ECOC is doing an investigation and i wish I could talk to some legal representation. Before anyone says any suggestions remember I'm a single father who's gf contracted ovarian tumors. So she isn't working. So I'm broke. I'm barely hanging on. I go days without eating because I feel my child and gf should eat first. I know everyone has their problems. I'm just praying an attorney reads this and remembers how hard life can be and will help me pro Bono. There still has to be decent people left in this world. This is me, asking for help.
People With Mental Behavior Issue Needs Help From The States
4k views?
If was the title ”womens mental health”
What you think would the views be?
Viral.
Way over a million
Million
I'm a Irish queer silver daddy, I love him so ❤
I wish I had a network. I couldn’t burden my wife with how I feel. Ironic I guess
It’s Tough out here, Check in on your loved ones they may have something totally Different going on, and it may give you a different perspective.VENT!
No one is there to listen.
I am sorry but we are the ones who have created the stigma because I have seen men neglecting to talk about anxiety issues or depression just because they will be seen as a weak person and then they call themselves as the so called real alpha men lmao, real mean are those who look out for other men amd hear them out.
Nope women heavily drive that expectation of men as well. It was our job to project stability and reliability.
But they will be seen as a "weak person" and will subsequently be told to "man up". That's the problem.
Mens health is hardly talked about
It's always women who complain and whine about nothing🤢
the first comment by me...🤣🤣🤣
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Henry is so cute
Impossible to take a person seriously who uses the term "toxic masculinity". You can not in good conscious be talking about wanting to help men's mental health while unironically using that term.
Toxic masculinity and ended it with safe space. I agree there.
Ok??? Explain what's wrong with it. Genuinely curious.
@@trumpchicken4937 The term Toxic masculinity is anti-man. It is a term made up to describe negative traits that some men have and its used to describe all men in that way.
Even the way this guy used the term was in a negative context. He used it to describe the fact that men do not talk about their feelings.
instead of coming at it from a lens of positivity he came at it from the lens of negativity..
@@andrewh9284 Huh, I have not heard the term used in that context. Toxic masculinity (at least the definition I learned) refers to disparaging men seen as lacking the qualities of being "real men," labeling them as lesser than. IMO, you can't address men's mental health without tackling this issue, but I have no qualms discussing otherwise.
@@trumpchicken4937 That might have been true for when the term was first used. However it is definitely used much more broadly now.
I do not think how its used, is even the issue though. The issue is entirely with the phrase itself.
I lack the vocabulary to properly articulate this point but ill try my best.
If we are trying to change the perspective on what a "real man" is it should be taken from a positive lens not a negative one.
The most common example I would think of is "Men don't cry".
If we are tying to educate someone on why that saying is problematic what is the best way to go about it? Is it to say that comment is toxic? or that's a perfect example of toxic masculinity? Or is it to ask why they feel that way? ask why they view crying as bad.
There has been a lot of research into the topic. When men are asked why they view crying negatively, overwhelmingly its similar responses.
Most men feel like they need to be the strong one to support others. When they cry it shows signs of weakness and they do not want the people around them to see that.
They also respond saying when they cry they view themselves as burdens and they don't want to burden people.
There are other responses as well but the large majority are like that.
Men being the complex creatures that we are vocalize this in a simpler way "Men don't cry" it lacks the nuance but it gets the point across.
I personally think that is actually a positive trait the fact that men don't want to burden other people with there troubles. Its not toxic masculinity, if anything its positive masculinity.
Now trying getting that man to feel like he can open up about his feeling and its not a burden after you call his trait of hiding them toxic.
Calling the behavior toxic does the exact opposite of what its supposed to achieve.
Hopefully that makes enough sense, I am a trades person not a literary.
My experience is that men tend more to take this stuff seriously if u tell them. Almost non of them ever tried to make fun. But if u try to talk to girls about it, they feel entitled to that they live the more complicated life. Thing is, i dont want to challenge that. i just want to talk about things and often they say that u dont need to act like a cry baby. Not all of them, but significantly more than male friends and i am still ab bit shocked by this.
Being stressed and finding life hard is not the same as mental health issues. Yes, be open and talk but let’s not make it ok to just be big babies. Men have always struggled with life but they haven’t always gone to bathrooms to be sick when they are stressed. Just want for less and live in gratitude. Look for the good and you will find it. Life is hard, no diagnosis required. We are just too soft these days. Too soft and too whiny
Henry is such a hottie 🥵