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I am autistic (don’t have ADHD, or at least I think I don’t). I cannot relate to the cause of ADHD burnout. But I can relate to the emotional fatigue and struggling to start doing things I know tend to bring me joy.
I’m totally overwhelmed by the UK system constant fight for 12 yrs with NHS, DWP, social care still going on I’m utterly broken I think I have autistic burnout I have ASD & ADHD, diagnosed 2022 I was diagnosed at 48. My coping strategies have disappeared and I’m utterly overwhelmed. Ps. Frequent big changes to my life without my having any control has put me In burnout as well as sensory overwhelmed it’s both. I still want to do things I don’t feel sad but have zero energy and executive function.. I am a 24-7 masker. I cannot take time to rest because of numerous serious chronic illnesses and multiple disabilities, I’m around carers 7 hours a day 7 days a week 365 days a year now a decade and I have 3 tubes just to pee, eat, get fluids medications via my bowel and to drain my stomach 24-7 it’s exhausting and I’m utterly burnt out and don’t know what to do.
Can it be both at once? I'm diagnosed with ADHD and am now discovering that I'm very likely also autistic (with the ADHD being dominant). I'm trying to pick apart what my burnout actually is, what the causes and effects are and at some point, how I might prevent it and how to recover. I feel that I might have made the wrong assumptions previously, namely that it's purely ADHD, and that this is why I can't get out of it. Urgh, my head...
this was useful. I've experienced autistic burnout. The strange thing about it was I could work but outside work was a complete mess. Work happens to be a special interest. Found even at work I was not working as good I used to. Outside work I didn't want to do anything. Slept a lot like 3 days straight for over a long weekend. Lost 16 pounds in 3 days. The effects lasted for about 6 weeks. The psychologist I was seeing said I was quite resilient. It was her idea to not put me on stress leave from work which she would normally do. I think that really helped. I work in IT so not a lot social interaction if I don't want it and loads of repetitive tasks if I want to do that. That forgetting how do things is strange. It was the simple things I lost but complex task were not lost. Like suddenly not knowing how to schedule a recording on the TV. Simple task but at that same I could figure out why ISP was having problem and tell the tech where to look to fix the issue which is far more complex. Yet schedule a recording, frustration and not being able to do it.
Thanks for sharing this detailed example of your own burnout experience. Like you described, it takes a while to recover and can be so perplexing when your brain just can’t access “files” or some brain processes seem to be off line. You also experienced the shattering fatigue and even weight loss because your body just shut down for a while. It’s helpful for people to know this isn’t laziness or intentional. It’s a survival response to long-term overwhelm.
I have Autism/ADHD and am an empath. So, with that burnout can be bad. I needed help getting out of my last and first big burnout. I've been hyperfixated on learning and thinking what makes me tick for over 6 weeks now. I'm going with it since I am trying to learn and change my routine so I can take breaks. When I hear mention of executive dysfunction, my thoughts go immediately to monotropic thought and my thoughts prioritize the few things in my head, some things won't even be on that list for that day. It's a thought that I want to do or task I want to do but the main focus is where my thoughts are at that given moment. Like today is laundry day and I will do it today but right now my focus is here. No I can't put this off for a minute to do laundry because this is more important to me now. It's not inability It's i don't want to right now because that's not my focus. My hobby of cutting gemstones it's always there in my mind because that's a special interest but not a priority today. Last Saturday I polished gemstones because it became my focus on that day. If I was feeling alexithymic that day I probably would not have polished gemstones. There are a number of motivating factors that can determine the outcome of my day. My job is routine so I do that no issues for the most part. Just some passing thoughts. Also autistic inertia is the same it's a wrong descriptor word for executive dysfunction or monotropic thoughts. 👻🤪🌶🤘😎♾️
My relationship ended to this seven weeks ago. I did not knkwninwas in burn out. I've been there before. I didn't see it until I came out if it a few weeks after she leftndie to my behavior and depression and frustration in it. NT partner. She saw my diagnosis as an excuse and not taking accountability. Believe me. I've been taking accountability.
You might try try talking with Human Resources about that. I don’t know where you’re located but in the U.S. we do have some laws that help support employees with diagnoses that require accommodations.
I have autism and ADHD and trying to figure out how I feel is hard and if I'm in one situation i can't imagine being out of it so I can't tell if I'm losing skills and honestly I have no idea how to get through certain phases but I don't have any support and I can't seem to find any help 12 sessions of CBT is all my GP can refer me to and that's no use to me and it's not a mental illness so mental health team is no use to me either sometimes I feel like banging my head against a wall at least that would have an effect cos trying to find help is getting me nowhere
Hey everyone! Here's how you can get even more clarity about autism and neurodiversity in your life and relationship!
Take a quiz: jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/
Take a course: jodicarlton.com/courses/
Listen to the podcast: jodicarlton.com/podcast/
Read the blog: jodicarlton.com/blog/
Attend a support group: jodicarlton.com/groups/
Request a private consultation for coaching: jodicarlton.com/booking/
I am autistic (don’t have ADHD, or at least I think I don’t). I cannot relate to the cause of ADHD burnout. But I can relate to the emotional fatigue and struggling to start doing things I know tend to bring me joy.
I’m totally overwhelmed by the UK system constant fight for 12 yrs with NHS, DWP, social care still going on I’m utterly broken I think I have autistic burnout I have ASD & ADHD, diagnosed 2022 I was diagnosed at 48. My coping strategies have disappeared and I’m utterly overwhelmed. Ps. Frequent big changes to my life without my having any control has put me In burnout as well as sensory overwhelmed it’s both. I still want to do things I don’t feel sad but have zero energy and executive function.. I am a 24-7 masker. I cannot take time to rest because of numerous serious chronic illnesses and multiple disabilities, I’m around carers 7 hours a day 7 days a week 365 days a year now a decade and I have 3 tubes just to pee, eat, get fluids medications via my bowel and to drain my stomach 24-7 it’s exhausting and I’m utterly burnt out and don’t know what to do.
You can absolutely experience both simultaneously if you’re AuDHD.
Can it be both at once? I'm diagnosed with ADHD and am now discovering that I'm very likely also autistic (with the ADHD being dominant). I'm trying to pick apart what my burnout actually is, what the causes and effects are and at some point, how I might prevent it and how to recover. I feel that I might have made the wrong assumptions previously, namely that it's purely ADHD, and that this is why I can't get out of it. Urgh, my head...
this was useful. I've experienced autistic burnout. The strange thing about it was I could work but outside work was a complete mess. Work happens to be a special interest. Found even at work I was not working as good I used to. Outside work I didn't want to do anything. Slept a lot like 3 days straight for over a long weekend. Lost 16 pounds in 3 days. The effects lasted for about 6 weeks. The psychologist I was seeing said I was quite resilient. It was her idea to not put me on stress leave from work which she would normally do. I think that really helped. I work in IT so not a lot social interaction if I don't want it and loads of repetitive tasks if I want to do that. That forgetting how do things is strange. It was the simple things I lost but complex task were not lost. Like suddenly not knowing how to schedule a recording on the TV. Simple task but at that same I could figure out why ISP was having problem and tell the tech where to look to fix the issue which is far more complex. Yet schedule a recording, frustration and not being able to do it.
Thanks for sharing this detailed example of your own burnout experience. Like you described, it takes a while to recover and can be so perplexing when your brain just can’t access “files” or some brain processes seem to be off line. You also experienced the shattering fatigue and even weight loss because your body just shut down for a while. It’s helpful for people to know this isn’t laziness or intentional. It’s a survival response to long-term overwhelm.
I have Autism/ADHD and am an empath. So, with that burnout can be bad. I needed help getting out of my last and first big burnout. I've been hyperfixated on learning and thinking what makes me tick for over 6 weeks now. I'm going with it since I am trying to learn and change my routine so I can take breaks. When I hear mention of executive dysfunction, my thoughts go immediately to monotropic thought and my thoughts prioritize the few things in my head, some things won't even be on that list for that day. It's a thought that I want to do or task I want to do but the main focus is where my thoughts are at that given moment. Like today is laundry day and I will do it today but right now my focus is here. No I can't put this off for a minute to do laundry because this is more important to me now. It's not inability It's i don't want to right now because that's not my focus. My hobby of cutting gemstones it's always there in my mind because that's a special interest but not a priority today. Last Saturday I polished gemstones because it became my focus on that day. If I was feeling alexithymic that day I probably would not have polished gemstones. There are a number of motivating factors that can determine the outcome of my day. My job is routine so I do that no issues for the most part. Just some passing thoughts. Also autistic inertia is the same it's a wrong descriptor word for executive dysfunction or monotropic thoughts. 👻🤪🌶🤘😎♾️
My relationship ended to this seven weeks ago. I did not knkwninwas in burn out. I've been there before. I didn't see it until I came out if it a few weeks after she leftndie to my behavior and depression and frustration in it. NT partner. She saw my diagnosis as an excuse and not taking accountability. Believe me. I've been taking accountability.
The difference is my husband is autistic burntout and I’m ADHD burntout.
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I wish with a diagnosis i could get an automatic exemption from mandatory overtime.
You might try try talking with Human Resources about that. I don’t know where you’re located but in the U.S. we do have some laws that help support employees with diagnoses that require accommodations.
I have autism and ADHD and trying to figure out how I feel is hard and if I'm in one situation i can't imagine being out of it so I can't tell if I'm losing skills and honestly I have no idea how to get through certain phases but I don't have any support and I can't seem to find any help 12 sessions of CBT is all my GP can refer me to and that's no use to me and it's not a mental illness so mental health team is no use to me either sometimes I feel like banging my head against a wall at least that would have an effect cos trying to find help is getting me nowhere
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