Why I can't do one night stands (w/Matthew Hussey)
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Reminds me what Trevor said in The Daily Show: Sex is getting riskier. You can catch HIV. You can catch COVID 19, and worst of all, you can catch feelings.
I read that in his accent.😂😂😂
arju scarlet lmao
WTF IS WRONG WITH FEELINGS?
@@arjuscarlet55555 ME TOO!! Lol
If sex and feelings don't go together ... Something is wrong with you, i don't see one night stands like brave at all (and i have done it twice) it really feels empty and kinda sad
ive never wanted to be a white british guy for anyone.. and now i have
Liza Koshy Same girl same
omg hahahah
OH HI LIZA
You know, Anna tends to kiss girls when she's drunk.
Liza.. and Anna.. but Liza... on Anna's.. I think I'm gonna faint
I recently met someone who I felt an instant physical attraction to, but I’m at a point in my life where I need that emotional bond before I hop into bed with someone so I told him this, and he told me he wasn’t ready to be in a relationship because he was recently out of a five year relationship :/ it was rough and I probably could’ve still slept with him after that, but I knew I wanted (and deserved) more. Our relationship never took off and I’m still coming to grips with that, but I did what was best for me instead of succumbing to another person’s set of ideals and I’m proud of myself for that.
Good idea sis ,
Yeah you go girl! Know your self-worth 💕
That's a good perspective. A lot of women sleep with a guy on the first date, simply because they are afraid he will never call again if she doesn't. That doesn't sound like liberation, does it?
You did the right thing. He was not ready for a relationship. Had you slept with him, you would have been even more broken hearted.
Ugh... All these people praising OP.
Like your desire for the female comfort of an exclusive long term relationship is somehow more valid than the guy you described desiring the male comfort of a physical connection.
OP doesn't "deserve" anything from that guy, certainly not his commitment to an ltr.
Just like the guy doesn't "deserve" anything for OP, including physical intimacy.
They could have had a relationship with some intimacy and some commitment, but that wasn't good enough for OP.
Fine then, the guy will go elsewhere for what he desires. And good luck to OP in finding another guy that makes her tingle.
I’m one of those people too. I just don’t do casual hookups. Not that that’s bad or anything, it’s just not how I do things. I prefer physical intimacy as a way to manifest existing emotional intimacy and to further it, because emotional intimacy (trust, respect, teamwork/problem solving skills, etc) is the thing that helps long lasting relationships thrive, and I tend to look more forward to the future. Again, this doesn’t mean that casual hookups are bad for other people, everyone has different preferences, it’s fine so long as people are being safe and it’s consensual, etc.
I love how women say "i don't do that"... Because that's EXACTLY what they do. LoL
@The Confusing Riddle But for some people they see as a way to connect,why is it so hard to accept and respect that people see it a diffrent way.
Nah casual hookup is bad lol, that's the problem with the feminazi movement they tell women to casually hookup and then if a women regrets it, complains about sexual assault/rape and then false accusations are brought up
Age if you don't mind me asking? I'm curious. I'm 34 and I want to know if sub 30s feel that way because it seems like even college kids are burnt out and want something adult and real.
@@captaintorch1238 the real problem is that people like you worry about false accusations that are really rare, while more and more women (not only women of course) are being assaulted and raped just because they don't live in a condition of submission and chastity anymore and try to enjoy things that men are always been allowed to enjoy. There are men and people who think they have some right over women's body and don't even understand the difference between consensual and non-consensual sex; there are people who don't even believe women who find the courage to denounce their rapist after emotional and physical trauma, and you have the audacity to tell me that the problem is their sexual freedom and emancipation? You're really fucked up boy
Never have been and never will be a "one night stand" kind of girl either. Where my heart goes, my body goes and visa versa. Sex cannot and simply will not happen for me if it's not someone who has earned my love, trust and respect. Lots of people call me a "prude", but whatever. I know how myself well enough to know better. I need emotional intimacy way more than physical intimacy.
@Clinton Reisig and men never cheat 😂😂keep telling yourself it's women's fault..
Yeah, you get it: you're not an object to be used for selfish reasons. It's another way to say self-respect.
I am sorry that some selfish people called you Prude. I think you are good and know what you want in your life. I hold the same belief as you. You will find the right person who cherishes you and share the same value with you.
You’re not prude, I’d call it highly selective
Then find girl friends. You talk to share your feelings and emotions. Never understand why women try to find that in guys knowing most guys aren't like that and when they are the women end up sabotaging the relationship because said guy became emotional like them. SMH.
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Yess 😬
doddleoddle DODIE I LOVE YOU!!❤️
done
Ooh, interesting!
DODIE AND ANNA, HELL YES
I hate 1 night stands. My feet and back gets sore and i have to sit down.
rofl?
Lmaooooo u witty creature
Lol😂
🤣
Must be a hard physical job you have there. I get it.
Honestly, I'm not a one night stand person either. I've tried it a lot in the past, but the sex is so much better with someone you're comfortable with and knows what you like.
Sure :)
Robbie Backpacking yep, I've only used it to keep another person from my mind but it doesn't really work.
Agree! :)
Robbie Backpacking Let us Know bro
I mean, that’s your opinion.
I want to thank all the people in the comment section for giving me hope that still there are people in the world who understand emotional connection and want, one day, to have a family.
THANK YOU
φυσικά, νομίζω είναι (είμαστε) μεγάλη μερίδα του πληθυσμού :)
I feel exactly the same. There's some hope😅
For what it’s worth, just because someone is capable of having a one night stand doesn’t mean they don’t value intimacy and connection. It is possible to enjoy both.
@Ari Jappendi feminism is just telling people to do what they want with their bodies, so basically have casual sex if that makes you happy, avoid it and look for emotional connection if that's what you're looking for. Just let other people enjoy different things
Unfortunately, all of these people are women.
I’ve had 1 “hookup” in my life and I’m actually glad I had it since it confirmed everything I suspected about casual sex. The sex itself isn’t very good. Even if the guy’s attractive and the sexual chemistry’s hot. A lot of men overrate their capabilities. There’s little motivation to genuinely want to pleasure each other or connect emotionally since you’re basically using each other as a living masturbatory aid. The “heat” is more from anticipation and perhaps the excitement related to risk.
You’re NEVER going to be sorry you DID NOT have sex with someone you barely know or don’t know at all or aren’t interested in as a relationship partner. It’s not a life changing event and if it is it’s usually for the worse (risk of disease, unplanned pregnancy, possible abuse or murder if the man’s a deviant).
Casual sex is the equivalent of wading knee deep in a warm, luxurious jacuzzi.
From a female perspective I agree hundred percent, there is little to no gain for women in casual sex.
That's why you establish a friend with benefits relationship with someone and actually communicate with them the things that you like and get you off. So you end up not having this problem.
Too many women want to blame men for just sucking in bed when the fact is all women are different and not enough of you communicate like men do.
ObiWanShinoby : What “problem”?
@@amasion2882 the problem of women not getting off in casual sex
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Plot twist: they actually banged before, after and during the filming of this.
she said she's a hypocrite so.....
i can see that
Bet my 2 dollar on it
Lol
Bloody hell man ... that was hilarious 🤣🤣
I feel like matthew is that kind of guy who is there to listen to my problems anytime
his last name is "Hussey" =p
Re-uploading because the previous version didn't have GFX
Anna Akana wats GFX?
Anna Akana I thought why am I getting another notification for the same video 😂💕
Sylvia Vivian i think the text messages being shown in the room and so on
animations!
I love your GFX , so accurate !
Never done a one night stand. Meaningless and pointless for me. I need love and connection. Which I still haven't found in life.
Barry Copithorne same
Baruch Sliwowitz oy vey!
exactly
@Alka Oraon Maybe because you intentionally avoid those men.
@Alka Oraon Most men care for emotions.
I had one one night stand in my life and it was a pretty bad experience. Sure, the sex was good, but we were both drunk and afterwards fell asleep and the next morning was just awkward. Thats when I realized i´m not a person for one night stands. I need emotional connection. Often I prefer to just lie together in bed, cuddle and watch some animes rather than having sex.. I love the feeling of my girlfriends body heat next to me. It gives a super strong feeling of relaxation and inner peace.
So, develop more emotional connection afterward. There's no way you hook up with someone in the first place without any emotional connection. Isn't attraction emotions?
@@Uzodesign lust is different to having chemistry and a connection. You can want to sleep with somebody purely based on looks, but you won’t necessarily get on with them.
@@AutomaticDuck300 Yea, that's true.
@@136_elgaarsiaikramramdani5 Ikea
It's so sad that ppl think developing feelings for someone is something to resist.
She had to resist it because it wasn’t mutual.
Girl bye, you don’t have to make something out of every attraction you have. It’s for tha bad
I don't resist feelings. They just never come.
People do that all the time
Who wants a broken heart. Especially if have to open up.
Oxytocin is the bonding hormone associated with various physical affections including sex. So it's only natural to have confusing feelings about such things, especially when considering personal history. For serial monogamists who try one night stands... "It's a trap!!!"
aaronamaphone I wish.. :^P
Yup
So so glad that you did a collab with Matthew Hussey😣
When did meaningless sex and is acceptance become an index of "maturity"?
Ikr. Maturity? More like, “I have the ability to see, but just gonna cover my eyes and pretend like I’m blind to only be satisfied with instant gratification”. Since when did humans become unemotional robots?
There is a way to have meaningless sex without risking emotional entanglement with another person. Sex workers. Been with us since the dawn of time. Also, some people need intimacy, others detest it. Why should one be right and the other wrong? Why can't we live our lives by our standards without being judged by everyone with different standards.
@@Goteiii I agree. People often dont know themselves and they do things that are based on character. Know they self.🌟 Everything is not meant for everyone.
@@Goteiii I think the issue with it is when people do not make things clear, example of a dude I was talking to, we decided to hook up and from what he was saying, it sounded like an emotional intimate connection, next thing you know, days without talking, so I tell him I can not do sex without knowing exactly what our relationship was, and he said it was casual dating slash friendship.
LA is the land of meaningless sex. It is not a symbol of maturity, people just expect and accept it there. Coming from someone who lived there short term and realized it was total BS... It is not maturity, it is accepting media's portrayal of normal.
*one night stand *
Demisexual , asexual: leave the chat
@Blessing Osamudiamen yeah ?
Demisexual here..haha
Here to give my attendance
the swirls were so cool and I liked how they kinda represented her energy and aura at that time
OMG! LIKE YEAH! I can like totally feel the spiritual connection omg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
They'd be the most emotionally intelligent couple that ever existed
ptronic 👏👏👏
ptronic A big part of emotional intelligence is being able to control your feelings, control how, when and if you show them, and being able to understand exactly what you feel and process it. In that prospect, definitely not the most emotionally intelligent couple around
Really don't think intelligence has anything to do with anything on this channel
cohletrain Obviously, if you're here.
+Noelle Irina Not the most mature of responses. Do you not think I have a case? This is an incredibly shallow channel promoting horrible values
"stay awesome Gotham"????
RedIroncool I knnooow
RedIroncool .I miss her saying it too!!!!
i.miss her saying that also
Gotham's on break now, so she's taking a break from saying it. ;)
RedIroncool can someone explain what does it mean?
‘Trying to be sexually intimate with the caveat of it being casual is beyond the scope of my maturity level’.
That’s a pretty worrying statement, are you saying that the ability to dissociate sexual intimacy with emotional intimacy is an indicator of maturity? Because I’d say the exact opposite is true. Instant physical gratification without sacrifice or effort seems like the approach immature people would take. But hell, it is 2020.
AntNFS I never thought about it that way! 🧐 thanks!
I don’t think she’s saying that casual sex requires more maturity than a committed relationship; you’re definitely right that a relationship requires sacrifice, commitment, and lots of hard work.
But even if relationships require MORE maturity than one night stands, they both require some amount of maturity. It sounds like Anna has a lot more experience and knowledge in the world of romantic relationships, and therefore has the right kind of maturity to live in a healthy relationship. As for one night stands, on the other hand, her lack of experience with casual sex and strong emotional needs leave her unprepared-even if she’s already built the greater degree of maturity through committed relationships, that knowledge and experience don’t help her here.
Does that make sense?
@antNFS I am with you on that!
"Maturity" is one of those meaningless words everyone defines to be whatever they approve of. Just like "addiction" is used for anything they disapprove of.
You are soo right. Someone please broadcast this right now everywhere
Had a ONS once and I was depressed for months afterwards, because I fell in love with her even though I had only ever seen her for one night and she absolutely did not want to meet again.
Ente Fetz totally get where you're coming from 💔
Guess I'm not bullet proof after all ...
How can you fall in love with someone you only knew for one night
Google the term ONE-itis. The one-night stand wasn't the issue. Your lack of options was.
@@KizamoIt’s possible because it happened to me too. I had a ons and I fell in love with the guy. I was also depressed for months after it happened
*I do a lot of one night stands.*
With a book.
It sucks.
I usually end up animating anyway. Or just watching memes. Or animating memes lol.
SvenInMotion I don't even have a night stand
SvenInMotion I have 1 one night stand. it's called a lamp
+Girly Nerd wouldn't it make more sense to say that your one night stand is your bedside table??
I have one night stand AND a lamp on the other side...
SvenInMotion yeah i also do a lot.. studying 😂😂😂
LOL! This skit is HILARIOUS! Great one Anna!
where is my "stay awesome Gotham" ????????
right here ---> Stay awesome Gotham
J2xS thank you xD
Dorra Abdelmalek Happy to help!
I miss her saying that also.
Matthew's haft-brit-american-accent is funny 😂😂😂
He sounds aussie to me..
Thanks for associating casual relationships with maturity instead of shaming people. Refreshing.
You lost the chance to name it "I can't stand one night stands"
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1. Anna Akana
2. Anna Kendrick
Sandesh Jadhav who would win in a fight?
You forgot 'Anna Montana
meh, sometimes i feel like meaningless sex just doesnt exist, unless you're heartless
Charlotte G I think it shouldn't be called "meaningless sex" it sounds very negative it's not that it's meaningless it's that you don't care about the person the same way as if you love them.
It's also fun and an ego boost.
Then ig I’m heartless lmao
Nah it can be done and still have a heart.
The key is to find someone you're attracted to, but isn't partner material. It's hard for feelings to develop when you don't see it going anywhere. Let them scratch your physical itch and keep it moving.
This is a really close minded thought.
As someone who has had many one night stands, it's overrated.
I guess pleasure is overrated. But I see it as a perfect opportunity to improve and test my game, persistence, communication skills, and reduce my awkwardness and shyness.
Luck you must be new to the game kid. After 5-10 years it starts to feel hollow.
@@saintsfearful yes, I'm very new to the game. It doesn't mean that you're entitled to call me kid.
Oh god
why do I feel like you are bragging ?
I refuse to have one night stands because they're appalling to me. I can't be intimate with someone I don't know or only knew for a few months. Unlike others I'm not into sleeping with strangers.
I'm asexual so I don't get sexually frustrated. On the downside I really get romantically frustrated. But it's worse I think bc you can't make it go away, like you can sexual frustration (masturbation). Like I can't hold my own hand or cuddle myself.
Well I mean anyone who's not aro can feel like that sometimes
Maybe you consider yourself "asexual" because everybody around you is way more concerned about sex than you. The emotional aspect (romantically frustrated) can "go away" with meditation. I was in a similar situation :)
Jesus dude....there is no difference between both. No man or woman after sometime would fell relaxed eternally for masturbating. It is not how this works. If someone really wants to have sex, they will look for someone, masturbating isn´t enough after sometime.
There isn´t only 1 type of person in this world ¬¬ the sexual and assexual.......god,Jeova,Zeus, etc....what happens with humanity ?
@@FuckEntropy ?????
Girl what lol?? Did u even read my comment lmao??
WHY DIDNT SHE SAY STAY AWESOME GOTHAM!
Uhhh....when has she *ever* said that?
TiaVapes do you vape?
cos she realised its supes lame
stay awesome gotham
TiaVapes mind was on the D
i admire you so much!! it takes a lot of bravery to be so open about your life and flaws and when i watch your videos it feels like an older sister imparting wisdom on me :')
I can't do one night stands either.
My face repels all potential companions.
How about you aim at your own level.
Or below even. I mean, you can't be that bad.
thats pretty relatable
@@jaysun8942 he already is; just that the opposite sex is aiming higher...much much higher
@@ghostwrench2292 That's technically and, monetarilly speaking, a one night stand, something he can't stand.
I'm one of those people who think you two could produce a beautiful offspring lol And I am certainly like you Anna who craves more emotional connection. Sex feels so much better and comfortable when you are emotionally connected to the person.
Much better, comfortable and wild I'd say , because you can trully show yourself to the other person I would say....
Certainly :)
ATrueLove,com offspring? STFU
Tim Lincecum why ? White boys are cute . you're racist i assume
yes... yes...!!!!! more hapa babies and ppl!!!!!!!!!!
NOT BEING ABLE TO EMOTIONALLY HANDLE A ONE NIGHT STAND ISN'T A SIGN OF YOUR IMMATURITY. THATS A SIGN THAT ONE NIGHT STANDS ARE EMOTIONALLY DAMAGING FOR HUMANS IN GENERAL BECAUSE WE ARE ALL BIOLOGICALLY WIRED TO CRAVE BOTH PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL CONNECTION TOGETHER. THE TWO ARE NOT MEANT TO BE SEPERATED.
Asiimwe N. Not being able to do one night stand means your ready for serious relationship or you have someone in your mind you want more than just date!
Asiimwe N. one night stands are very damaging to marriage
Actually it doesn't mean you are ready for serious relationships, I'm not and I still get attached after a hookup or a make-out, so it's quite confusing :/
sophia b That's just the type of person you are, how we are wired biologically it to be like animals. the difference is we are self aware and intelligent, not one person is exactly the same and I agree one night stands aren't for me either but for some they are, and being committed to their friends and family are enough for their emotional needs.
I am of the belief that casual sex can involve a physical and emotional connection between people, without any unhealthy possessiveness or jealousy involved! :) My boyfriend/partner and I have the most loving and affectionate relationship. He is my best friend! And we also have an open relationship, meaning we meet up and have casual sex with people outside our relationship. I enjoy hearing about his crazy adventures when he comes home. And anytime an evening out goes lousy for me, I know he'll be here to hold me and accept me for all that I am. I don't have to hold myself back from anything in this relationship, and as far as I can see it is the most holy, Godlike version of True Love there is.
The truth is human beings are wired to have emotional connections when they sleep together. Biologically that's normal.
exactly, manipulating that isn't really a criterium of maturity
Hollywood lies. Women seek relationships. Men seek sex
I'm your father Baxter maybe
Normal for women.
Marcus INfinity that's weird.
how do you sleep with someone you hate?
Don't feel bad, Anna! As a guy I've had girls who wanted to hook up and my caveat was only if she was open to the possibility of us being boyfriend/girlfriend as well. (Because I too crave and emotional connection and the idea of a family one day :)
loyalsausages username checks out
lol.... Beta
@@litecoinmoses974there’s something wrong with you. Most of the world doesn’t engage in ONS
I think I’m more fit for not one night stands but rather casual relationships where we have a connection such as friendship. I just can’t imagine myself hooking up with someone I don’t know or don’t have a decent connection with. The thing I need is trust, but I can deal without the commitment of a romantic relationship
Ive felt weird cuz ive been in situastions where its almost expected to have sex, but im too selfconsious or something, i just dont feel comfortable being naked and so vulnerble with someone i dont know. And its so common in todays sociaty so i feel like im weird for feeling this way.
That’s not weird. That’s a completely human way to be
I can do one night stands and casual sex and friends with benefits just fine. But only last time things got messed up between me and this guy I'd been friends for years with... After we started hooking up as well we also started spending a lot of time together and get more and more involved in each other's lives. Needless to say at some point I developed strong feelings for him while he said he doesn't feel the same and doesn't want a relationship with me specifically. Lesson I've learned? Know your boundaries and don't play with fire.
One stand, yeah maybe, but the STD is forever
Dan Shelton I agree with you!!
Sex should be very important and DANGEROUS risk to do, I hate how people are like this society is weird and disgusting
Condoms. Condoms and getting tested regularly are your friend.
Lucky Girl condoms can break, even with a condom there is still a chance of getting HIV and other nasty diseases. Also, yes that's true, daily testing is your best friend, however, you should check your partner(s) if they have any diseases before doing the pleasurable deed. The best way to prevent this all together is to be monogamous (also depends if your partner has diseases but I'm assuming one partner you're loyal to doesn't have it).
Lightning Sama Look at the comment above, TheNinseNanse explains that
Cool, glasses Anna. 😘
They are really outstanding, aren't they!
Read that comment grammatically correct and your reply makes no sense!
I was actually looking for where to purchase in the info box, lol
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Thank you!
i wish someone asked me about my thoughts on aliens
Haha cute
You know what I’ve noticed, so many people actually do not ask questions.
@@joshboston2323 yes good point. They just wanna tell about themselves... And when u don't give value someone sincerely, u are not curious about them. This is d problem of people nowadays. Not being able to giving value...
Me too
What are your thoughts on aliens, Johannes?
"What are your thoughts about aliens?"
hahaha oh man too real
and love the edits and graphics! :D
For what it's worth Anna, I think that your emotions, head and heart got involved when you were physically intimate is a normal response from a fully integrated person. My take is that separating out parts of ourselves will leave us leading a fractured lives. You are a whole person: body, mind, soul and spirit. You are amazing! ❤️
omg I love your collaborations . I wanna see more Matthew and Anna videos!!!
Anna, thank you for your videos. You’re like the fun therapist we all need. I look forward to our sessions 🙏
I feel glad that I'm not the only one who cannot do one night stands. I always felt alone in this. Maybe it's because the media is always telling us that it's not that big of a deal.
I also want to be with someone who cares about me.Thanks everyone. And Matthew Hussey, YOU ARE HOT. People have told me that I wasn't mature enough to be intimate or be physical with someone because of how I feel about one night stands. 😑 I feel like there's too many problems that come with it. For example, one person can start developing feelings for the other. There's also the issue of contracting STI's. Having an unwanted pregnancy. The probable cause for rape to happen. Your emotional, physical, and mental health being at stake. Ugh, it's alot
Hey, I want to quote the following: "People have told me that I wasn't mature enough to be intimate or be physical with someone because of how I feel about one night stands". People have said to me the same thing too. But you know what, it's not right. You have a right to have a certain boundaries, certain values and principles. No one has to say what is mature and what's not. It's aggressive to try to change one people's opinion .. Plus everyone has different standarts about what's mature and what's not. In MY opinion one night stands are not mature thing to do, and they are harmful for the psyche. I totally agree with your point of view. I'm kinda irritated how people try to change our mind and shame us because we have more traditional values. And by the way sorry if my English is broken :D It's not my native language
@@millag93 It's peer pressure. People, if they're living in a way they're confident in, will NOT have to shame you for how you're living your life. It shows what's wrong about THEM, not you. I didn't buy the lie of hook up culture, as I do NOT believe we were made to use or be used. Period.
“What are your thoughts about aliens?” LMAO..... true
This channels quality gets me hooked, its like that one pretty girl you know that you hangout with even though you don't really enjoy anything that comes out of her mouth, yep I regret everything I just watched right now.
2:33 I don't necessary think being able to emotionally detach is about being emotionally mature ( if anything I think it's the opposite) but I think it's just more of different types of people want different things :3
One night stands should be for cuddling only, no sex! No babies no financial mama 🎭drama, No problem! 😘Thanks for the 👍Like and blessings my 👩❤️👩👭sisters! Amen!.
I am ok with people who prefer one night stands but I just don't simply understand the concept,like no matter what you do the physical intimacy won't fill the void in your heart. You will crave for emotional intimacy.
I have really never seen anyone sad after watching two strangers making out but I have definitely seen people sad after noticing couples walking on the street.
PREACH!!!
Who says we have a void in our heart? What? You think relationships FILL something inside of you? Uuhhh... NO. Relationships don't give you anything you don't already have. You're just offering someone to enjoy the view from the passenger side.
@@DepressionShaman We crave genuine connection. Yes, we are complete within ourselves, but to be honest, many people who "hook up" use it as an escape from something they don't like in their hearts. Very few people are consciously engaged enough with their heart, mind and emotions to know whether they really genuinely just want sex and no connection (I don't get these people and I would never consider a partner that thought like that). People who DO have one-night stands DO need to be honest and upfront about what they can't be to someone and make the encounter about the other person, not just them. Otherwise the person is just being used like a warmed-up sex toy, and that's no fun.
Matthew is great! Been following his channel for over 4 years now! This is actually how I found out about Anna's channel! You two are great, guys! :)
Dani D wow congratulations
I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels that way. I was so confused.
I'm SO jealous of the production quality of these videos. The writing, acting, lighting, editing... #perfect 👍🏾
We want to be loved. Just in a healthy way. We want to feel connection because we were born to do so.
Most people who say wanting that aren't truly honest with themselves in my experiences.
Great!
Anna should have a show like Master of None or Love. I'd watch that.
Not into doing one night stands too. Not cuz the emotional part. I don’t find lots of pleasure in doing it with some random stranger. Plus 99/100 times it’s just bad sex
so true! longer friendships with benefits are much better. When you find somebody whom you think is hot and you genually like and respect but not love each other. spend nice time, have nice sex and someday really be happy for that person falling in love with someone else.
I relate to this on a personal level
Same
This is so true to me ...
I met a guy online through fb ...and he was studying in my city ..he approached me for casual dates . And after some days we thought to have one night stand in his room ..then we got intimate in our 2nd date ...I agreed becoz I was craving for some cuddles ..Coz I was single since 4years ...after having one night stand i immediately got attached with him ...but the sad thing is that he cares for me ,likes me but only as a side chick...like his casual dates ...he just want to have fun with me ...I'm not his ideal type ...he kindaa caring . Whenever he is with me he cares me a lot ...but i don't know whether he likes me or not ...whether he wants me or not ...but i fell for him from the moment we got intimate....😭😭😭😭 Every night I get depression n anxiety becoz of this confused feelings...I tried many times to abandon him but i failed ... My life is all messed up now... I can't even express my feelings to him coz I'm scared to lose him ...
THIS IS SO
ME! I just dont built for this! 😭😅🤣🤦🏻♀️
Half white/half Asian ppl are really beautiful though 😂
Usually out there, but yeah
She just asian, not half. After plastic surgeries and makeup
haha that's me I'm a half white half asian hapa baby, who somehow gets mistaken for Indian.
eufreaka gurl...yeah but sounds so fetishy to point that out...lmao!
her genetic makeup is hawaiian, phillipino, japanese, english, french, german, and irish. (its in one of her videos)
I don't think it's a mater of maturity levels - sex isn't just physical - otherwise sexual assault would just be assault
That makes 0 sense
Because sex is emotional and physical, sexual assault is also emotional assault.
Yeah, because our bodies are connected to our minds, so sexually assault can break a person. This needs to addressed more.
@@thomascao6153 so emotional assault is sexual assault? you people want to make it so easy for everybody to be "sexual assaulted" LUL
@@Raaa8080 read it again..
THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME LAUGH AT MYSELF
The number of times a guy would write me off for a prude or tell me that society is dictating my choices, without having a clue about my colourful experiences.
I never found the need to share experiences and justify it to them. But now I think maybe I should.
Hm, love this. Whoever says one night stands aren't bad - they actually are for people who are looking for emotional connections. However, if it was that easy, we'd all be happy. Let me explain in one word Pressure. We feel pressure to take things easy, to not get involved, to be "free" and then we end up going for one night stands just because... am I wrong? Maybe but I hope this will help people who feel pressured to do this and redirect their true desires!
true.
Well i tried texting my coo worker like that one time.......
Now I'm searching for a new job
Emotional connection over physical....so true...love u Anna❤❤
He looked so disgusted when the cat started licking him
Lol he was probably thinking it would bite him or something. I understand, I don't like cats at all, they don't show any emotions, except if they're angry.
AuroraS 92 sorry to say that, but that is just wrong. They show pretty openly what is going on in their minds and what emotions they have. You just don't know how to read them. A very important indicator are their ears, for example they show interest, being relaxed, stressed or angry. All that is shown just by the movement of their ears. The eyes tell you also much. Cats only watch in each other's eyes in a case of conflict. So if a cat is doing that to you, you most likely did something wrong and you should brace yourself for an upcoming attack. But they also smile with their eyes, if they blink slowly and for a long time they actually smile. It looks like they might be sleepy, but it means they are ok with you and accept you. There is many more to know. Cat communication is purely body language, the meow they use is a little compromise they adopted for humans, because we use so many sounds in our communication.
nope, he wasn't. he just didn't understand at once what's going on with his elbow. i have the same look too when my cat starts smelling my leg when i don't see him and his nose is wet as you know.
Incredible!!! You clearly don't know cats, cats can be far more loyal and affectionate than dogs, it just depends on the cat and on the person stading in front of him.
Whatever style of dating and hooking up works for you is okay, just make sure you're being true to yourself regardless of what that means for you!
„meaningless sex“
So why DOES it have to be normal thing?
Who else is confused af.
i dont know my name me
^this one doesn't even remember their name
Why so confused?
ithought she had a boyfriend whos been in her videos so this was weird idont follow her that closely though
TheModerate2Fires if you mean the ginger-head they broke up.
I find it strange that you said having a sexual connection with the caveat of it being casual is beyond your maturity. You say that is if having and emotional and personal connection is the immature thing to do. Don't you think that downplays the level of maturity necessary and disregards the desires of everyone who doesn't want just meaningless sex? I think it's quite ridiculous to consider recognizing your own needs and the level of emotional commitment you (and others like you) as being immature.
Julee July I think she means hypothetically that why would she keep having one night stands knowing that she can't emotionally handle it. The mature thing to do is to not keep having causal sex when u know beforehand that u will get emotionally attached. That's what I got from that quote u said here from her
Nella J okay okay. I see what your saying there. That would actually be pretty respectable if that's what she is saying, but her wording was vague and to me left a negative impression.
"meaningless sex" is an oxymoron. There is no such thing.
Actually, if you're mature enough, you can detach sex from love or affection, so if you can't, the right thing to so is accept it and act accordingly.
Annie Daza sex is attached with love.
sometimes people say we are making love instead of having sex.
perhaps its because sex has a lot of meaning and that you're not supposed to use it so frivolously.
Truth.
But some people aren't built for that kind of monogamous life, and that's okay!
Sex is a physiological need designed to help species breed and multiply. Human's added emotional ties. Almost all animals engage in sex, human's are unique in that they do it for pleasure or connectedness.
Humans are not even unique in that regard. Dolphins and some bonobos can have sex for pleasure as well.
n4d3m4n preach
If I had a one night stand with THAT guy, I would also catch feelings...just look at him! 😍
@@tanikshagokhale2602 this didn't age well
I am right there with ya, girl. I have also, learned the hard way.
I wouldn't mind someone sending me clingy yet interesting texts.. but then again, maybe I'm desperate.
the comment section is a sea of confused people.
stop paying attention to this twat, shes a hypocritical liar with serious issues, like hearing voices in her head to kill herself. Shes a narcissistic schizophrenic!
Love your videos they’re always very funny ! Weird thing is is I’m a 53-year-old man and I still have some of the same hang ups that you do ! Thanks the videos help me to realize I’m not as crazy as I think ! Lol
I wish I had watched this like 2 years ago
Did the whole one night thing for a couple years and it got old REAL quick. I hated repeating my stories just to hop into bed with someone I'll barely talk to.
I never had a one night stand, but I was still able to figure out that I wasn't interested. I'm not built for one night stands. I'm more of a serial monogamist. I'd rather have a connection with someone. The most I could do would be "friends with benefits". 😕
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I learned the hard way I can't do casual sex either haha. Got my heart broken in the process too.
Fr I wish I could have sex and dip. But if I have sex with you, I already like you more than just a friend. 😅 idk how people can do that without any emotions involved at all. It seems unreal to me.
omg how are you able to articulate my feelings SOO WELLLL ; V ;
"Beyond my maturity levels"??? Upholding a longstanding committed relationship with a partner on an emotional and sexual level is one of the healthiest things you can do for your mental health. Its completely natural for you to crave a healthy emotional relationship with a sexual partner.
The mature thing is to realize that your sexual temptation is temporary and most often "one-night-stands" are not worth the risk of someone's emotions getting messed up. But hey, I guess everyone is a little different.
I've come to realise one night stands make me depressed, I'm too sensitive to not have strong feelings from sex.
who else saw the original before she deleted and replaced?
You and me Brock!
Brock Lee Gardner I saw both of them?!
Yep and the graphics are a good addition. Worth re-uploading.
That’s how I feel I’m very emotional person and I can’t just be physical if we don’t connect
On a serious note: I think you two would have the cutest Hapa babies!
I don't understand how people can have one night stand, over and over, I can't imagine myself having intimacy and being naked and touched by a stranger or someone I just don't love
I totally understand you, that happen to me too, i easily get linked