Same here! I usually go to my mom or my fiance to express my emotions. However most times than some, I get invalidated by my mom and she twists things around. My fiance keeps on saying "Don't be so negative, try to be positive" This is why I bottle my emotions. No one can truly understand me
@@QueenEspeon96 Just be yourself they dont need to understand you, the most important is if you understand your self thats enough. Do never try to convince someone!
I hate it when I have to repeat myself. Also started getting irritated by small noises, even small actions from other people annoy me. I hate feeling this way
Hear me out... this might be ADHD. If you are a woman ADHD symptoms present themselves in different ways. But for me things that would interrupt or distract me would make me really angry. My phone keeps dinging with text messages back to back to back and suddenly I want to launch it across a room. If you feel like you are a multitasking god this is another big indicator. I used to think I was really good at multitasking. But it was really I couldn't sustain my attention on one single thing for more than 10 minutes. ADHD medication also has mood stabilizing properties. My irritation and insane thoughts have quieted down a lot on medication and I am also trying therapy and mindfulness.
I feel like I get angry and jealous when people tell me I'm lazy and I don't help. And then I proceed to 'help' when I don't want to and that makes me even angrier.
hey let's not make fun of someone's spelling. english could be their second (or third!) language. they could be a kid. congress could've spilled water on their keyboard, making it really hard to type. i say words wrong all the time cause i learned them through reading -- and when people make fun of me it's annoying and hurtful. so let's be kind
@@AnnaAkana hahaha unfortunately none of the above, just my fried brain making a typo. I didn't take any offense to the comments its all jokes 🙂. Thank-you for having my back, super sweet of you ❤❤
ANNA: Rage Attack Reasons: 1) Depression 2) Anxiety 3) Feeling out of control your life 4) Feeling invisible to the people I love 5) Poor boundaries ME: Wait... I have all of them
mines is 2, but sometimes i just a sudden rage for no reason at all. for example, on Sunday i got a rage and i put a hole in my parents’ door. i don’t know what’s causing these sudden rages, but im getting mad over every tiny thing.
@@ali-qk3iq You NEED to get a Counselor! That kind of rage can make you do something REALLY bad and get you in deep trouble, (especially if you don't know what triggered it). GET Counseling and Anger Management, please!
Sometimes when I ask something of someone, I let them know it's okay if they can't or don't want to. I think letting people know that saying no is actually an option will help them feel more confident to say no in similar situations. It also builds trust and confidence in your relationship together if they feel that the relationship won't be damaged by saying no, and that you are being considerate of their time, health, and well-being instead of just thinking about yourself.
Agreed! I do the same thing for people because of how many awkward situations I feel coerced into without being given an out. Honestly, I'd much rather people help/hang out with me because THEY want to and not because I trapped them.
GENIUS!!!! What a loving way to show REAL unconditional love by asking + releasing from the beginning. Truly an empathetic way to enrich all relationships. Thanks for sharing! #ShineOn
I don’t know if this is just me but I almost feel even worse about saying no if someone gives me the option to. It’s sort of makes me feel like they already knew I might be letting them down but still decided to ask. Makes me want to agree and say yes even if it’s crazy ;-;
Not vocalizing our boundaries doesn't just disrespect ourselves, either! It also disrespects the other person, because they might not want to actually impose, and would not, and if they do not they are, they are being made put into a position of being a jerk they would never want to be.
right, people aren't mind readers! those who have a basic level of consideration would hate to know that they put us in an uncomfortable position that way
Nah I get angry because of my social anxiety. I wish I could fit in and talk to people but I can’t because of my anxiety. It sucks. I feel like it’s never going to get better. I’m not angry because of other people, I’m angry at myself.
This is a little late and I hope you're doing better but it's ok to not "fit in". There will always be people you don't jive with and there will always be people you do jive with. It may take some time to find them but you don't have to change yourself to make someone like you. 🌻
I am always angry for no reason now because of a combination of poor boundaries and being scared to open up about things that made me uncomfortable or a little bit angry and then this rage attacks are literally the built up emotion waiting to explode. Sometimes i no longer have rage attacks that are angry..it's more of a mental breakdown filled with tears. It's so hard to deal with because nobody around me understands..and it's they're most of the time the main reason for it, some of it is mainly my fault because i dont speak out.
jamila morales A therapist would really help you. I know it may be scary to reach out for the first time, as it was for me, but it’s so amazingly relieving to have another empathize with your pain. I really recommend it:)
watcha I sure hope not. I gotta learn to not lash out like that. One day I might end up losing someone important bc of that. Hope we can both get better.
people really respect when you have clear boundaries! if you’re always comfortable in what you’re doing, people sense and appreciate your control over situations! it’s not rude or evil to not agree to go along with everything you’re asked to do, it’s sensible. be stubborn! you got this!
This came at a great time. I've been struggling with my anger issues recently and my fiance and I had a talk about it. I wasn't sure how I felt about it, but this give me more clarity. Thank you 💕💕💕
I am a terrible people pleaser, I can't say no or set boundaries to anyone. But I never help people get rid of bodies, let them clean up their own mess.
It's never too late to establish boundaries. I've been realizing that they deserve them for the past year and change, and it has made plenty of difference. Still some work to do, but the experience gained has been great to look back on.
1:53 that was literally me in fifth grade (and even now sometimes). There was this girl who was always full of energy and I felt like her little henchman, I did whatever she wanted to do even if I was really enjoying myself before she came
The problem is that I can't discern what are my real boundaries and which are there because of me being in my comfort zone. I often do things I'm not 100% comfortable with because I want to get out my comfort zone. Yeah, sorry the syntaxe, i'm not a native english speaker.
i think you'd have to figure out for yourself if you want/ like to do the thing but are just scared of doing or if you don't want to do it. Keep going out of your comfort zone! I'm doing it too and i now have a job and made new friends which i couldn't have imagined a year ago :)
I had the same problem. I started saying "Okay! let's do it!" once to things i'm not sure about. I never knew I'd be into surfing it's something I thought only extroverted people do. Silly assumption, right? Once I've tried it out I know whether I like it or not. Then there is the obvious "oh god that looks dangerous/has been proven to be dangerous, no thanks".
I’ve been back at my mothers for almost three months. Since covid hit, I got layed off and have been on unemployment ever since. I noticed that I get easily annoyed by kitchen noises in the morning and want to go off on mother sometimes. Now I want to see no people. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I avoid human contact because I developed some hate for people out of nowhere.
Awww.. maybe you’re just hurt that things you worked hard for is now taken away. :( if you see this as a common thing affecting important relationships, GET THERAPY!
Mitri ah yes! Great idea lets not go to therapy but instead lets neglect our emotional wellbeing by not getting professionals to address the root cause of our depression which slowly drives you to suicide.
I always seem to disregard my own feelings in order to make sure everybody else around me is ok and I feel like that’s not a good thing for me because while everybody else is happy with their lives , I’m the one sitting on the bathroom floor, crying and clutching a blade in my hand
This came at just the right time. Recently I’ve been really stressed and angry about something I’m being forced into. It’s a program to help kids in school but I feel I don’t need it. Every time I think about it, I start to yell at myself (sometimes others) about how pointless it is. I legitimately want to beat up the person that put me in lmao
Honestly, this video is what I really needed to hear. I wasn't really taking care of myself this year and was letting people dictating me how I should run my life and it feels I'm on a passenger seat. So thank you for the beautiful reminder. Always have so much love for your videos!
I tend to avoid people when I have rage attacks because in the past I've said and done hurtful things to people I care about just because they were around. I know this isn't a solution, the people that care most want to interact *more* when I'm upset because they love me and don't want me to feel alone, but currently it's the only thing I can do to protect myself and others. Just until I can get control of my actions. Idk if this helps anyone or makes you feel less alone but there it is.
I get angry at the fact that ppl are trying to manipulate me or invalidate my feelings bc I’ve lived my whole life like that. I’m extremely proud of myself now bc I do not allow that to happen to me, no master whose feelings I hurt bc the other person (in my eyes) is trying to get me to go along w their ways when that is just not me!! And that’s okay! I just appreciate the ppl who accept me fully and don’t try to change the beautiful person I am.
I mean, coercion is a thing, you can’t always blame yourself when someone’s put you between a rock and a hard place and not just between them and social discomfort But I see your point, good luck 🍀👍🏻
Well there is some crossover. The problem is that lots of people confuse "coercion" with "forcing", and think that personal responsibility can only ever fall on one person, even though that is hardly ever the case (though there are degrees of responsibility for each). That's why it's important to teach our children (and people in general) that it's imperative you respect yourself, that being assertive is a good thing and to never apologize for our limits and boundaries. Then we must also teach people to be mindful of others' boundaries. The problem is that those who like to push and coerce people into uncomfortable situations tend to do it to those that don't have strong fences and will bend easily, to their own discomfort. It shouldn't be our responsibility to dig in our heels and push back against people who practice this toxic behaviour, but unfortunately it is a reality, so it's to our personal benefit to teach ourselves when to say "no" and not feel guilty about it. Does that make sense? 😅
@@benedictifye if you let them, then it's not force 🤔 if someone makes you do something by overpowering you physically /psychologically/socially /legally, then it's force
For me, it's schizoaffective disorder (diagnosed) and part of potential PTSD (undiagnosed). I'm also very self-destructive on social media, intentionally trying to offend everyone on my friends lists. Once I get out of the rage (between a day or a week), I try and apologize without being to vulnerable; don't want people knowing my mental issues that much. I'm scared of myself.
I remember one time I cried after an arguement with my mom, and I was crying while laughing, I couldn’t control it. I always have these bottled up feeling because I’m afraid if I tell anybody, I’ll seem like a baby. Thanks to me being mad all the time, my family thinks I’m a total jerk, Yayyyyy...
I can relate to this so much. I really hate fighting with people, and I'm terrible at rejecting others, because I'm always afraid of hurting someone's feelings. So many times I have agreed to things I didn't wanna do, just because I wanted to avoid an argument. This is a good reminder that I need to work on this.
I always forget about this channel and then come back and completely binge, been amazing to see you come far from those first couple of videos you uploaded, lots of love AP xoxox
I’ve never set boundaries but recently I started denying and stepping back (literally) when family visit and they want a hug, they’re not my thing for more reasons than one and now I don’t have panic attacks every time family come over due to the touching! They can try their little guilt trips but I’m not making myself unnecessarily uncomfortable anymore.
How do u trust ur judgement of what you dont want to do if you have depression and anxiety??? H O W?????????? what if its something you should but you dont want to cause of said depression and anxiety?? what if you get too into your comfort zone?
Alot of what you are refering to deals with self-awareness. But the first step you have to understand the root cause of your depression and anxiety. Ask yourself when did you first start feeling like this? Why did you start feeling this way? What causes these feelings to trigger? The cause of anxiety and depression is linked to some childhood trauma. Understanding the root cause will help you start the healing process and start loving yourself. A good therapist will help you out with this step. Now what you can do is change the way you think by changing your body language. The moment you start having a negative emotion, you can shift your body stance into a power pose and give yourself a positive affirmation and say it aloud with ENERGY such as "I am Awesome", "I am Great", "I am beautiful" "I am courageous" etc lol have fun with it. If you change your body language, you can change your emotion, which will change your action. Only take action only in a positive state. Another strategy is to notice when you are depressed or having anxiety. Happiness and depression cannot exist at the same time. If you want to be happier, you think of things that can make you happy. Gratitude is a powerful way for our brain to get a reward feeling so think of things that you have that you are proud of such as your family, your friends, your siblings, and why are you proud that you have these things. Anxiety is different from depression. In fact, anxiety is similiar to excitement physiological speaking. I used to get really nervous when I have to do an oral presentation and I still do from time to time. So whenever I notice my anxiety acting up, I just tell myself that I am excited to present lol... and I do this prior to making videos as well. In the end, your brain does not know the difference between excitement and anxiety and all you have to do is change the way you think at that moment. In general, the comfort zone is a trap. If you get too comfortable, you will never grow as an individual. You will never break any habits. If you want to get out of your comfort zone, it is all about taking baby steps. Do not expect quick change. Big changes can take several months or years. Understand that an improvement is a win, so celebrate those win. My friend used to have social anxiety. He was a super introvert. One day, he said he wanted to be more social and he made it a goal to say "hi" to x amount of people per day. As he progress, he increased the number of people he talks to and slowly, he was able to develop meaningful conversations. The more he did it, the better he got. In his mind, this was a game for him, so it was fun and rewarding with every achievement. Eventually, he was able to get his first girlfriend and they have been together for 5 years :). Slow, steady, courage, and consistency is what going to help you succeed.
@@datoneaznboy thank you so much for explaining this and the tips! Your name (especially the 2nd part in this context) is true! Hope you're doing well and staying safe!
Thank you, Anna, for making this. This is what happened to me this year and I’m still trying to deal with the anger to myself and others for disrespecting my own boundaries. Apparently being too polite and docile has an effect to your self worth too because sometimes when you assert yourself - even when it’s the right thing - you can feel an unbearable guilt afterwards and this is something I have to deal with too. But really. Thank you for this. It helps me, perhaps others as what I see in the comments, to look back to ourselves and do better in the future.
I thought I was alone, so I felt crazy. But then I saw these comments and they made me feel normal again. It's not OK to be this way, but knowing that at least someone understands gives me that comfort.
how are your videos always so specific to my life situations and current problems. LIKE ITS ALWAYS SPOT ON I was literally having one of these "rage attacks" yesterday and I didn't understand why
I do this thing where I’ll get one bad negative thought out of the blue, but once I get that thought I’ll purposely think of worse things about myself and how useless I am just to hurt myself. And then it continues and it’s a downward spiral. I’ll then take out that resentment I feel towards myself on others. Y’all get me?
This was really brilliant at showing exactly how boundary setting looks like. You clearly set the expectation for someone who hasn't experienced this that the conversation would be difficult but that that's okay and that's part of it and you're still doing the right thing. Nuance!
Love the overdramatic phone call because sometimes it feels like someone really needs you that bad and it makes you feel obligated, but the fact that you could stick to your guns and not go when it's that dramatic shows me how much I really need to be putting myself first in times when it's really not that serious..
Seriously I love to see people like her..full of confidence and positive always..sometimes I wonder will I ever be someone who was as positive as people I look up to
You're such an incredible actress. All characters in your clips are spot on. I don't always agree with the ideas you express, but I still just watch because I can't wrap my head around how well written and acted all of your productions are!
This is exactly what my therapist told me! Creating boundaries and checking in with yourself is SO IMPORTANT! Thank you so much for taking all that and wrapping it up in a fun little video, Anna x
I absolutely LOVE watching Anna's video's! they are so well done and that really helps to get the message across and even keep those who wouldn't normally watch something like this, enthralled.
knowing boundaries also help you become assertive and emotionally congruent. I need to implement this boundaries especially after office hours because it stresses me out. Also, i often easily feel anxious, insecure and stressed. These needs change
Same i get mad when my father talk to me when morning bcuz if im awake and talk to me he well yell to me that im lazy, go clean the house and blah blah blah that rlly piss me off that's why when my father is in work i get wake up just to get not to talk lol (sorry my English is bad)
durt cobain how does that fix her problem or benefit her in any way? Who hurt you and why are u taking ur anger out on random people bro. You don’t know this person and assumed her personality based on one common thing - being mad in the morning.
I always bottle my emotions up and I explode. And I am a people pleaser, so there’s that. And sometimes I vent so long and never do anything about it or communicate.
And this boys, girls and everyone in between is how we get angry issues, I totally recommend doing boxing, it's great as a workout and it helps to express and release unwanted or uncomfortable emotions!!
Thank you, Anna, for the videos that you post. I recently went through a divorce and a loss of friendship. I felt completely alone. Your videos helped me immensely as I searched for a new support network and rebuilt an old one. Without your videos to make me laugh when I couldn't see much to laugh at, or teach me things or get me to rethink things, I imagine I would have struggled much longer and wouldn't have had the same mind to do the things I did to get me where I am. Again, thank you.
I think i build anger because i dont really vent about how im feeling - always bottling it up.
Also the feeling of being misunderstood is fustrating! I cant voice my perspective on things or my opinions! They get invalidated and disregarded
@@genericchannel126 OMG FRRRRRRRRRRR
Same here! I usually go to my mom or my fiance to express my emotions. However most times than some, I get invalidated by my mom and she twists things around.
My fiance keeps on saying "Don't be so negative, try to be positive"
This is why I bottle my emotions. No one can truly understand me
@@QueenEspeon96 Just be yourself they dont need to understand you, the most important is if you understand your self thats enough.
Do never try to convince someone!
Generic Channel that’s the same thing with me
Depression, anxiety, feeling out of control of your life, or invisible to the people you love, and boundaries, rage attacks, yes yes yes yes yes yes
Preach please preach
Are you ok ?
Makes since to me
Who do u love I’m sure he loves u so much don’t worry
💯
I hate it when I have to repeat myself.
Also started getting irritated by small noises, even small actions from other people annoy me. I hate feeling this way
I feel you, 100%. And the worst thing is that the root cause is unknown ;-;
nope nope yep, gonna visit a doctor in a week, various doctors in fact, maybe It’ll be fixed
Hear me out... this might be ADHD. If you are a woman ADHD symptoms present themselves in different ways. But for me things that would interrupt or distract me would make me really angry. My phone keeps dinging with text messages back to back to back and suddenly I want to launch it across a room. If you feel like you are a multitasking god this is another big indicator. I used to think I was really good at multitasking. But it was really I couldn't sustain my attention on one single thing for more than 10 minutes. ADHD medication also has mood stabilizing properties. My irritation and insane thoughts have quieted down a lot on medication and I am also trying therapy and mindfulness.
@@botanicalmania506 holy crap... I might actually have ADHD...
I have not so good hearing and I feel so bad when I ask someone to repeat themselves :/
I feel like I get angry and jealous when people tell me I'm lazy and I don't help. And then I proceed to 'help' when I don't want to and that makes me even angrier.
yesss yes exactly it’s such
an annoying process lol
Same
Man, you don’t know how much I relate to this
wow...looking back at this today, I realize I am still the same...
deborah lee relatable post tho
I love the cut-scenes between her blurbs they're really entrtaining
Yes, very *entrtaining*
I’m very entrtained.
hey let's not make fun of someone's spelling. english could be their second (or third!) language. they could be a kid. congress could've spilled water on their keyboard, making it really hard to type. i say words wrong all the time cause i learned them through reading -- and when people make fun of me it's annoying and hurtful. so let's be kind
Anna Akana Sure thing.
@@AnnaAkana hahaha unfortunately none of the above, just my fried brain making a typo. I didn't take any offense to the comments its all jokes 🙂. Thank-you for having my back, super sweet of you ❤❤
It hasn’t even been 15 seconds and I’ve already been called out on everything
Mood
"Rage attacks" THANK YOU, theres a word for it!
HAHAHAHAHA i got so happy
💞💞💞
ANNA: Rage Attack Reasons:
1) Depression
2) Anxiety
3) Feeling out of control your life
4) Feeling invisible to the people I love
5) Poor boundaries
ME: Wait... I have all of them
mines is 2, but sometimes i just a sudden rage for no reason at all. for example, on Sunday i got a rage and i put a hole in my parents’ door. i don’t know what’s causing these sudden rages, but im getting mad over every tiny thing.
😂
@@ali-qk3iq You NEED to get a Counselor! That kind of rage can make you do something REALLY bad and get you in deep trouble, (especially if you don't know what triggered it). GET Counseling and Anger Management, please!
Sometimes when I ask something of someone, I let them know it's okay if they can't or don't want to. I think letting people know that saying no is actually an option will help them feel more confident to say no in similar situations. It also builds trust and confidence in your relationship together if they feel that the relationship won't be damaged by saying no, and that you are being considerate of their time, health, and well-being instead of just thinking about yourself.
Agreed! I do the same thing for people because of how many awkward situations I feel coerced into without being given an out. Honestly, I'd much rather people help/hang out with me because THEY want to and not because I trapped them.
Sameee i also just say: do you want and do you have time to go/do/whatever..
GENIUS!!!! What a loving way to show REAL unconditional love by asking + releasing from the beginning.
Truly an empathetic way to enrich all relationships. Thanks for sharing! #ShineOn
Rose A. My sentiments exactly! Sounds like a golden trait of an empath! #StayAwesome
I don’t know if this is just me but I almost feel even worse about saying no if someone gives me the option to. It’s sort of makes me feel like they already knew I might be letting them down but still decided to ask. Makes me want to agree and say yes even if it’s crazy ;-;
It's incredibly attractive to be responsible for your own emotions, feelings, actions, and words.
It's really sexy!! 😉
Disrespecting my own boundaries and being passive... This applies to my life sooo much lately. ANNA HOW DID YOU KNOW
She dont it is just relatable
STFU
Thank you UA-cam recommendations I needed this
Its seems like shes knows everything lol
Recently, since college started i get more and more irritated with my parents over the smallest things
Its like i became 14 again...
Ik I don't know what's causing it thi
Same here
Yep. I hate that I’m acting like this and don’t know why
I feel like im a Kid again Listening to their Crap and Telling me What to do I'm so Done?!.
Not vocalizing our boundaries doesn't just disrespect ourselves, either! It also disrespects the other person, because they might not want to actually impose, and would not, and if they do not they are, they are being made put into a position of being a jerk they would never want to be.
truee!
right, people aren't mind readers! those who have a basic level of consideration would hate to know that they put us in an uncomfortable position that way
Yaaaaaas
Really solid point
Yes 👏🏻
Most of my anger arises from stress and unhealthy perfectionism 😔
Bro yes even if I wake up 15 minutes later than usual I get so pissed for the rest of the day and I just am extremely unmotivated
Same
Same
Ugh same like I beat myself up over the tiniest stuff but I want to be a self-disciplined person at the same time :/
the fact that I edited and overanalyzed that comment... that just speaks for itself lol
I’m told to write an essay about my hero who inspires me the most. I’m writing about you Anna❤️
That's really sweet!
Sounds kinda..... fake? I’m sorry if I sound offensive but it’s just such a generic thing to say when you want attention from someone....
Good luck on your essay! I think Anna is a great role model to pick
Itz M who hurt you?
@@melindaj6870 It can be real. We made something similar for class once.
Nah I get angry because of my social anxiety. I wish I could fit in and talk to people but I can’t because of my anxiety. It sucks. I feel like it’s never going to get better. I’m not angry because of other people, I’m angry at myself.
Sameeee
This is a little late and I hope you're doing better but it's ok to not "fit in". There will always be people you don't jive with and there will always be people you do jive with. It may take some time to find them but you don't have to change yourself to make someone like you. 🌻
Same!
Happens to me every frigging day.
Grate job 😐
@@nikolettaprodromou1583 great grammar
Great job * @sunshrit P
Happy ?
Sushrit P yup
Nikoletta Prodromou just edit the first comment
I was so rude to my parents today I feel so guilty. I was mad for no reason... and honestly I think it's the amount of school work recently
*none*
Me too. I shouted at my mom for no reason. I feel so bad
I am always angry for no reason now because of a combination of poor boundaries and being scared to open up about things that made me uncomfortable or a little bit angry and then this rage attacks are literally the built up emotion waiting to explode. Sometimes i no longer have rage attacks that are angry..it's more of a mental breakdown filled with tears. It's so hard to deal with because nobody around me understands..and it's they're most of the time the main reason for it, some of it is mainly my fault because i dont speak out.
jamila morales
A therapist would really help you. I know it may be scary to reach out for the first time, as it was for me, but it’s so amazingly relieving to have another empathize with your pain. I really recommend it:)
I get so mad at little things bc all my anger builds up and I just take it all out on someone and I regret it afterwards. I wish I wasn’t like this
@@quiquiquinn It happens with me too, do you think this will be counted as a sin??
watcha I sure hope not. I gotta learn to not lash out like that. One day I might end up losing someone important bc of that. Hope we can both get better.
omg i feel the same
people really respect when you have clear boundaries! if you’re always comfortable in what you’re doing, people sense and appreciate your control over situations! it’s not rude or evil to not agree to go along with everything you’re asked to do, it’s sensible. be stubborn! you got this!
This came at a great time. I've been struggling with my anger issues recently and my fiance and I had a talk about it. I wasn't sure how I felt about it, but this give me more clarity. Thank you 💕💕💕
@@weetbeetle you're welcome lol
Side note job-related to your comment. Best profile picture ever 😏
I ge† mad or nervous,stressed about every little thing :(
I get angry at myself for letting negative emotions control me. I'm trying to let shit go and be like tomorrow is another day
It’s cause I’m deeply stressed all the time so randomly I get really sad or angry
I am a terrible people pleaser, I can't say no or set boundaries to anyone. But I never help people get rid of bodies, let them clean up their own mess.
Yeah that should be it "let them deal with their own problems like you do with their own"
It's never too late to establish boundaries. I've been realizing that they deserve them for the past year and change, and it has made plenty of difference. Still some work to do, but the experience gained has been great to look back on.
I always feel hungry for no reason.
Maybe you're stressed I often find myself hungry for no reason when i'm stress out
@@cocokaka8183 I'm stressed all the time. That might be why...
you might be deficient if you’re eating a diet rich in empty calories/less nutritious foods/not taking multivitamin
@@taraledrick9807 Nah, I eat a very healthy diet. I think I'm just stressed...
Sarcasm Activated, great. Join me for lunch.
1:53 that was literally me in fifth grade (and even now sometimes). There was this girl who was always full of energy and I felt like her little henchman, I did whatever she wanted to do even if I was really enjoying myself before she came
The problem is that I can't discern what are my real boundaries and which are there because of me being in my comfort zone. I often do things I'm not 100% comfortable with because I want to get out my comfort zone. Yeah, sorry the syntaxe, i'm not a native english speaker.
Same. But not the English part
i think you'd have to figure out for yourself if you want/ like to do the thing but are just scared of doing or if you don't want to do it. Keep going out of your comfort zone! I'm doing it too and i now have a job and made new friends which i couldn't have imagined a year ago :)
@@veravanvliet7133 good advice
I had the same problem. I started saying "Okay! let's do it!" once to things i'm not sure about. I never knew I'd be into surfing it's something I thought only extroverted people do. Silly assumption, right? Once I've tried it out I know whether I like it or not. Then there is the obvious "oh god that looks dangerous/has been proven to be dangerous, no thanks".
Same 😂
This is legit the most relatable channel I have ever watched
"Crime never sleeps and neither do we!!!" - best line! :D
I’ve been back at my mothers for almost three months. Since covid hit, I got layed off and have been on unemployment ever since. I noticed that I get easily annoyed by kitchen noises in the morning and want to go off on mother sometimes. Now I want to see no people. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I avoid human contact because I developed some hate for people out of nowhere.
Or maybe you're depressed?
Awww.. maybe you’re just hurt that things you worked hard for is now taken away. :( if you see this as a common thing affecting important relationships, GET THERAPY!
@@genericchannel126 get therapy. talk to college educated idiots at 400 dollars an hour. great idea...
Mitri ah yes! Great idea lets not go to therapy but instead lets neglect our emotional wellbeing by not getting professionals to address the root cause of our depression which slowly drives you to suicide.
@@genericchannel126 doesn't help clown. only you can help youself...
I’m 14 and Anna has taught me so many great lessons about life, mental health, and navigating feelings
"taking responsibility for your actions and emotions, so sexy I know" 😂
relating so hard right now
I always seem to disregard my own feelings in order to make sure everybody else around me is ok and I feel like that’s not a good thing for me because while everybody else is happy with their lives , I’m the one sitting on the bathroom floor, crying and clutching a blade in my hand
This came at just the right time. Recently I’ve been really stressed and angry about something I’m being forced into. It’s a program to help kids in school but I feel I don’t need it. Every time I think about it, I start to yell at myself (sometimes others) about how pointless it is. I legitimately want to beat up the person that put me in lmao
Honestly, this video is what I really needed to hear. I wasn't really taking care of myself this year and was letting people dictating me how I should run my life and it feels I'm on a passenger seat. So thank you for the beautiful reminder. Always have so much love for your videos!
I tend to avoid people when I have rage attacks because in the past I've said and done hurtful things to people I care about just because they were around. I know this isn't a solution, the people that care most want to interact *more* when I'm upset because they love me and don't want me to feel alone, but currently it's the only thing I can do to protect myself and others. Just until I can get control of my actions. Idk if this helps anyone or makes you feel less alone but there it is.
Sometimes when I see people with better stuff then me I just start getting so mad and I start to cry because my life is turning horrible
I get angry at the fact that ppl are trying to manipulate me or invalidate my feelings bc I’ve lived my whole life like that. I’m extremely proud of myself now bc I do not allow that to happen to me, no master whose feelings I hurt bc the other person (in my eyes) is trying to get me to go along w their ways when that is just not me!! And that’s okay! I just appreciate the ppl who accept me fully and don’t try to change the beautiful person I am.
This explains it all, literally. Everything listed in the beginning was what I needed to check on.
I mean, coercion is a thing, you can’t always blame yourself when someone’s put you between a rock and a hard place and not just between them and social discomfort
But I see your point, good luck 🍀👍🏻
Well there is some crossover. The problem is that lots of people confuse "coercion" with "forcing", and think that personal responsibility can only ever fall on one person, even though that is hardly ever the case (though there are degrees of responsibility for each). That's why it's important to teach our children (and people in general) that it's imperative you respect yourself, that being assertive is a good thing and to never apologize for our limits and boundaries. Then we must also teach people to be mindful of others' boundaries. The problem is that those who like to push and coerce people into uncomfortable situations tend to do it to those that don't have strong fences and will bend easily, to their own discomfort. It shouldn't be our responsibility to dig in our heels and push back against people who practice this toxic behaviour, but unfortunately it is a reality, so it's to our personal benefit to teach ourselves when to say "no" and not feel guilty about it.
Does that make sense? 😅
BUT.... no one can force you to do anything, unless you let them
it’s high key victim blaming and tone deaf but mixed in comedy to make it seem ok when it’s not.
@@benedictifye if you let them, then it's not force 🤔 if someone makes you do something by overpowering you physically /psychologically/socially /legally, then it's force
@@pixieinx are you saying anna is victim blaming?
For me, it's schizoaffective disorder (diagnosed) and part of potential PTSD (undiagnosed). I'm also very self-destructive on social media, intentionally trying to offend everyone on my friends lists. Once I get out of the rage (between a day or a week), I try and apologize without being to vulnerable; don't want people knowing my mental issues that much. I'm scared of myself.
This is so painfully relevant for me right now. It’s a constant battle between extroversion and introversion
I feel like you're my personal therapist and I am so grateful for your existence in this world
You seem to always come on my recommendations when I’m going through the exact thing in my life
I remember one time I cried after an arguement with my mom, and I was crying while laughing, I couldn’t control it. I always have these bottled up feeling because I’m afraid if I tell anybody, I’ll seem like a baby. Thanks to me being mad all the time, my family thinks I’m a total jerk, Yayyyyy...
I feel you 💗
This is beyond amazing. Holy cow. My literal feelings explained out loud.
So me! I love you, Anna! Thanks for voicing it out!
It’s like you live in my mind!
I REALLY needed to hear this today 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
Same!
I can relate to this so much. I really hate fighting with people, and I'm terrible at rejecting others, because I'm always afraid of hurting someone's feelings. So many times I have agreed to things I didn't wanna do, just because I wanted to avoid an argument. This is a good reminder that I need to work on this.
I always forget about this channel and then come back and completely binge, been amazing to see you come far from those first couple of videos you uploaded,
lots of love AP xoxox
I’ve never set boundaries but recently I started denying and stepping back (literally) when family visit and they want a hug, they’re not my thing for more reasons than one and now I don’t have panic attacks every time family come over due to the touching! They can try their little guilt trips but I’m not making myself unnecessarily uncomfortable anymore.
How do u trust ur judgement of what you dont want to do if you have depression and anxiety???
H O W??????????
what if its something you should but you dont want to
cause of said depression and anxiety??
what if you get too into your comfort zone?
Alot of what you are refering to deals with self-awareness. But the first step you have to understand the root cause of your depression and anxiety. Ask yourself when did you first start feeling like this? Why did you start feeling this way? What causes these feelings to trigger? The cause of anxiety and depression is linked to some childhood trauma. Understanding the root cause will help you start the healing process and start loving yourself. A good therapist will help you out with this step.
Now what you can do is change the way you think by changing your body language. The moment you start having a negative emotion, you can shift your body stance into a power pose and give yourself a positive affirmation and say it aloud with ENERGY such as "I am Awesome", "I am Great", "I am beautiful" "I am courageous" etc lol have fun with it. If you change your body language, you can change your emotion, which will change your action. Only take action only in a positive state.
Another strategy is to notice when you are depressed or having anxiety. Happiness and depression cannot exist at the same time. If you want to be happier, you think of things that can make you happy. Gratitude is a powerful way for our brain to get a reward feeling so think of things that you have that you are proud of such as your family, your friends, your siblings, and why are you proud that you have these things.
Anxiety is different from depression. In fact, anxiety is similiar to excitement physiological speaking. I used to get really nervous when I have to do an oral presentation and I still do from time to time. So whenever I notice my anxiety acting up, I just tell myself that I am excited to present lol... and I do this prior to making videos as well. In the end, your brain does not know the difference between excitement and anxiety and all you have to do is change the way you think at that moment.
In general, the comfort zone is a trap. If you get too comfortable, you will never grow as an individual. You will never break any habits. If you want to get out of your comfort zone, it is all about taking baby steps. Do not expect quick change. Big changes can take several months or years. Understand that an improvement is a win, so celebrate those win.
My friend used to have social anxiety. He was a super introvert. One day, he said he wanted to be more social and he made it a goal to say "hi" to x amount of people per day. As he progress, he increased the number of people he talks to and slowly, he was able to develop meaningful conversations. The more he did it, the better he got. In his mind, this was a game for him, so it was fun and rewarding with every achievement. Eventually, he was able to get his first girlfriend and they have been together for 5 years :). Slow, steady, courage, and consistency is what going to help you succeed.
I FEEL THIS
try something that u can feel safe and comfortable no matter what it is, without those two its hard to do anything actually xpppp
@@datoneaznboy thank you so much for explaining this and the tips! Your name (especially the 2nd part in this context) is true! Hope you're doing well and staying safe!
thank you i a had nobody who i felt i could speak to about this
the worst is when you don't know why you are angry
Thank you, Anna, for making this. This is what happened to me this year and I’m still trying to deal with the anger to myself and others for disrespecting my own boundaries.
Apparently being too polite and docile has an effect to your self worth too because sometimes when you assert yourself - even when it’s the right thing - you can feel an unbearable guilt afterwards and this is something I have to deal with too.
But really. Thank you for this. It helps me, perhaps others as what I see in the comments, to look back to ourselves and do better in the future.
To all people that read this just remember that you guys are all amazing people and lots of people love you💗❤️
Thanks for the good vibe
same to you!!!
If lots of people loved us , we wouldn't have turned out to be like this..
I’m a total people pleaser and this is so relatable for me, really needed this
I love how her whole UA-cam Channel is based on Comedy and self-help it’s awesome!
I thought I was alone, so I felt crazy. But then I saw these comments and they made me feel normal again. It's not OK to be this way, but knowing that at least someone understands gives me that comfort.
Awesome content as always Anna! You're such a great inspiration for my channel. Keep it up 😀
Squarespaaaaace!!
how are your videos always so specific to my life situations and current problems. LIKE ITS ALWAYS SPOT ON I was literally having one of these "rage attacks" yesterday and I didn't understand why
This is really insightful! I've definitely done this in professional situations before and it's a recipe for resentment.
your self understanding is honestly so inspiring. one day i will be better at adulting too i hope
I do this thing where I’ll get one bad negative thought out of the blue, but once I get that thought I’ll purposely think of worse things about myself and how useless I am just to hurt myself. And then it continues and it’s a downward spiral. I’ll then take out that resentment I feel towards myself on others. Y’all get me?
Yeah, I feel like I'm in one of those spirals at the moment! It's hard to help yourself when you're feeling down.
Why do I feel terrible from laughing at that ENDING!? THAT WAS HILARIOUS!!
I love the cat faces in the math bit😂 1:06
It makes sense that she doodled cats in math class
This was really brilliant at showing exactly how boundary setting looks like. You clearly set the expectation for someone who hasn't experienced this that the conversation would be difficult but that that's okay and that's part of it and you're still doing the right thing.
Nuance!
She sacrificed her friend lol
Darth Vader ofc darth vader commented this
why couldn't this vid come out like the beginning of this semester.
huh.
i've disrespected myself more than 100 times.
Same.
Love the overdramatic phone call because sometimes it feels like someone really needs you that bad and it makes you feel obligated, but the fact that you could stick to your guns and not go when it's that dramatic shows me how much I really need to be putting myself first in times when it's really not that serious..
“Crime never sleeps and neither will we “ 😂😂😂
Seriously I love to see people like her..full of confidence and positive always..sometimes I wonder will I ever be someone who was as positive as people I look up to
Great thumbnail 😉
haha
You're such an incredible actress. All characters in your clips are spot on. I don't always agree with the ideas you express, but I still just watch because I can't wrap my head around how well written and acted all of your productions are!
I love your videos, i don't miss even one since i found your "how to put your makeup on"
Your chanel is so unique
This is exactly what my therapist told me! Creating boundaries and checking in with yourself is SO IMPORTANT! Thank you so much for taking all that and wrapping it up in a fun little video, Anna x
Happened to me earlier today lol 😅
Thank you
Why is it that she explains every feeling in my brain so perfectly?
I absolutely LOVE watching Anna's video's! they are so well done and that really helps to get the message across and even keep those who wouldn't normally watch something like this, enthralled.
That's when my friend takes my tea and finishes it in front of me
knowing boundaries also help you become assertive and emotionally congruent. I need to implement this boundaries especially after office hours because it stresses me out. Also, i often easily feel anxious, insecure and stressed. These needs change
What does it mean when you’re mad at your parents for talking to you in the morning?
cloudanimal it means you’re a unthankful lil brat lol
This happens to me too, dw. I try to get them not to talk to me, and often say something that they take offense to.
Same i get mad when my father talk to me when morning bcuz if im awake and talk to me he well yell to me that im lazy, go clean the house and blah blah blah that rlly piss me off that's why when my father is in work i get wake up just to get not to talk lol
(sorry my English is bad)
I felt that its so weird like even if they rant talking to me it docent always have to be my parents just anyone really lol
durt cobain how does that fix her problem or benefit her in any way? Who hurt you and why are u taking ur anger out on random people bro. You don’t know this person and assumed her personality based on one common thing - being mad in the morning.
I always bottle my emotions up and I explode. And I am a people pleaser, so there’s that. And sometimes I vent so long and never do anything about it or communicate.
And this boys, girls and everyone in between is how we get angry issues, I totally recommend doing boxing, it's great as a workout and it helps to express and release unwanted or uncomfortable emotions!!
wow. boundaries are incredibly important to recognize. i didn't realize this about myself.
How tf do I find your videos at the perfect time? Like I'm really mad rn
When she agreed to do something after getting all nice and comfortable and needing to get up. I felt that.
"Boredom is rage spread thin"--Paul Tillich. Might that be relevant to issues with asserting one's self?.
Thank you!
Everyone says I’m rude when I literally joke with them and they’re like :
UR SO RUDE!!!
Like wtf?Cant you see I’m joking?
nO I hAtE jOkEs1!1!
yess, i don’t even understand. I say one word, ‘wtf’, and they’re all
OMG RUDE
@white sand i didn’t know i replied on here. wow. but i’m a different person now. (i think)
Why am I watching your vid more more bruh, I started with one and then before I know it I was going through your entire catalog I was bamboozled
This explains my whole high school experience
That "no it doesn't" skit just described my relationship with my parents. Subscribed for your great content!
1:20 - why do you have to call me out like this, Ana! 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Thank you, Anna, for the videos that you post. I recently went through a divorce and a loss of friendship. I felt completely alone. Your videos helped me immensely as I searched for a new support network and rebuilt an old one. Without your videos to make me laugh when I couldn't see much to laugh at, or teach me things or get me to rethink things, I imagine I would have struggled much longer and wouldn't have had the same mind to do the things I did to get me where I am. Again, thank you.