5 key lifestyle changes empaths need to make
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- Опубліковано 20 жов 2024
- In this video I discuss 5 key lifestyle changes/strategies that will help the empath begin to reclaim their energy and honour their body. Empaths are well known for neglecting their physical needs, often to a point of martyrdom. An essential part of the recovery journey for all empaths is to learn that their body has legitimate needs which must be made a top priority. Without doing so, the empath will continue to perpetuate their self-sacrificing ways, breeding resentment and non-reciprocal relationships.
*The ending to the video was cut short by a few seconds. I was finishing up by saying that my next video will be on 5 ways the empath self-sabotages in the workplace.
Abdul Saad
Clinical Psychologist
www.vitalmind.com.au
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Fruit Loops. We call them Fruit Loops. 8) Cookies, pronounced more like lookies than kookies. Look, not kook. We get it, not too many simple starches, carbs, sugars in the AM. Absolutely agree. Another good vid by you! thanks!
Vital Mind Psychology empaths are loving love is giving and not pride love does makes s difference and is accepting not changing somebody i disagree look up what love is .
Pamela Christian Oh honey, you're in for a lifetime of suffering and illness if you maintain this type of rose-colored thinking. Of course love is innately good but then there's the martyr... When you make yourself sick (I'm assuming you're the empath and not the narcissist), you'll hopefully remember this and begin your recovery before it's too late. Perhaps you're too young to understand yet what you're doing to yourself...
Vital Mind Psychology that's a brilliant attitude, Especially since many have actual names on comments. It's very professional of you to keep our personal information sacred, innocence protecting many of us from our own selves and others.
Vital Mind Psychology I love your channel.
1. Be in bed by 10:30 pm
2. Eat protein rich breakfast
3. Moderate coffee
4. Keep hydrated throughout the day
5. Get enough magnesium
Ur awesome thank u 🙂
When I'm working, always in bed by 10, need my zzzz.
Thank you
I instinctively do all those things but I still can’t sleep however I can just imagine how much worse I’d be if I didn’t do 1-5.
Our brains run on glucose. We need carbohydrates. Fresh fruits and whole grains.
1. Already listening to you at 2am
2. Never eats breakfast
3. Loves coffee
4. Dehydrated
5. Low in magnesium
#typicalempath
Its 2:06 right now ...lol
IAMQUEENM Eleveneighty - I just realized if I give u thumbs up I could be supporting your neg. hope you feel better
krystalwaters47 2:52 I'm here!
2.07 am wahoo
Started watching about 3am, lol
I am an empath, whose mother was a covert narcissist. Life was truly lived one day at a time, never knowing what was coming next.. Your videos are incredibly helpful, and enlightening. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and insight.
It's like they wake up never happy
Akashi Kumamoto Absolutely! My ex-narc never woke with a smile!
Hi @TiaWeaver please inbox me
So knowing things won’t ALWAYS workout as planned is “narcissistic”? I ALWAYS loved my mother instilled that in me at a young age 🤷🏽♀️ it has helped me in life NOT too ALWAYS depend on people and that things happens at times that are unavoidable!! 🤷🏽♀️ I’m an empath and I LIVE BY NOTHING IS ETCHED IN STONE BUT YOUR TOMBSTONE sadly enough , WE JUST CANNOT CONTROL THE UNFORTUNATE THINGS 😕 my opinion 🤷🏽♀️ Or maybe I’m “Bobby Bouchers” momma lol 🤣 love and light too u 💫😊 If you’re offended I didn’t intend too. I was just stating my view but I absolutely see where you’re coming from
GravityLee lol wow the fact u got that out of my comment SAYS a lot about u but I won’t label 🏷 u sweetie . Love n light 💫 sorry u feel that way
This guy really knows his stuff. I live in the US and I feel like he's looking right into my life. Everything he's talking about is me
Me too!
He is on point on every level!
Me too wow
Ditto
Yeah because him and his kind are the ones behind the downfall of the west. Look into Aajonus Vonderplanitz and how he cured his own autism and cancer with diet alone. There's no need to listen to this quack tell you the answer to the problems his religion causes. Jews and Muslims are in bed together taking over the west. Cure yourself and expel the desert tribes from our lands!
Thank you. I am an INFJ suffering from the effects of narcissistic abuse. I am responsible for my life to make better decisions and these are tangible actions you have described to benefit my body to better health physically and mentally.
I am also an INFJ...I was married and then divorced by a (what I now believe) is a narcissist. I am now engaged to a woman who I recently became fearful is also a narcissist. I think she has the tendency but is not as severe a narcissist....not sure if I should be concerned as everyone has issues and I'm sure I will always be with someone who has narcissistic tendencies as I have always had, and continue to have, codependent/empathic tendencies....any thoughts welcome. :-)
Brandon Dudley Premarital counseling would be helpful, especially if they could give you some insight in what they glean from both of you. Of course, family and friends are a good resource. My family and friends picked up certain cues that I didn’t see till much later.
Amazes me how many INFJ and INTJ’s end up being targets of abuse and the associated lifestyle issues. 💞
INFJ
I'm also an infj/infp with a history of dating narcissists. I see infj all over the Internet saying the same things experiencing the same problems it's surreal.
Salt baths! Great for detoxing from other people's energy. Love your channel. It is great.
AND..... if it's "EPSOM SALTS"...It has MAGNESIUM to be Absorbed !! :) via the skin !
Do epsom salt baths make anyone else itchy?, baths seem to dry me out. Thx
@@mikeconnor3602 - Yes. It's because of the dehydration. The salt tends to draw any oils out of the skin so leaving it dry and itchy. I'm trying use the salt only when necessary and lots of moisturiser after the bath.
@@EuphemiaGrubb thank you!! I love baths very therapeutic but they don't agree with me
Really? Like Epsom salts?
Staying up late “watching videos like these...” SO true! How many nights have I desperately searched for answers when what I wanted / needed was sleep or at least a peaceful nervous system. Thank you 🙏
I listened to this several months ago and I have worked on all these 5 and other video's you recommend!! I can't tell you how helpful all these have been!! You are such a blessing!! Keep up all the good work!!:)
Hes amazing
I am a fellow clinician in Canada and hold a graduate degree in clinical social work and continue to work in the field as a clinician. Excellent job especially about understanding the role of the CNS and minerals like magnesium, your compilation and use of current relevant understandings of how the body is impacted by trauma and how people can start to have hope for a re set is refreshing.
Thank you for the quality of this video and using evidence-based practice throughout the series of videos that I'm glad I stumbled across.
Damn! The sleep, the protein, H2O, all the advice is excellent. I had to figure these out for myself! And it weren't easy. I would add cut out all sugar; it's poison for empaths.
Amen.
Thank you
Soooooooo hard it is my life line!
Refined carbs are poison for all personality types🍭🍩🍰💀
Donnie Luc Yes! I figured a lot out myself! I am Physical Empath type. I had to learn how to protect myself from negative energy. Besides magnesium, I find that vit d, b12 and iron are helpful for me. Great video and advice!
I so much appreciate your videos. After 9 years of college and an internship with 3 borderlines...PTSD clients...me having PTSD and being an empath...I HIT A WALL SO HARD....ALL I CAN DO IS LIE IN BED...I am watching thought....minerals...calming my system....thank you so much!!!!
Same with me. CPTSD + empath. Got drained by a narc in no time and now I'm crawling for advice. Starting with those good minerals and protein right now. Just wish someone had told me 20 years ago.
Hang in there it gets better 👍
@Mary Carroll Bless you, Mary. keep up the good work!
I had to smile sheepishly, recognizing that I need to make all 5 of these changes. Just recently having resolved that I need to take better care of myself, I would like to respectfully add 2 more items to the list, strategies that I find lacking in myself: learning how to breathe more deeply throughout the day, and taking the time to exercise or move my body in some pleasurable way such as taking a nice walk or dancing. Thank you for these videos and please keep up this important work!
amjPeace definitely dancing and breathing also
I really agree with you there!!! Thanks!! GBU 🙂🙂🙂😣😣
Getting my groove on helps me. More stretchy, full body motion stuff that isnt really repetitive but doing LOTS of alternating left side, right side back and forth, tapping, patting etc... Including eyes. I will get too right side otherwise.
I only drink herbal tea, organic and the water I use is high alkaline. I burned out my adrenals, had incredibly low cortisol, but have remedied that and several other symptoms with high quality supplements. Stress literally is a killer. I have fibromyalgia. Run from stress, don't allow high anxiety and stress to go on and on, because you can possibly become ill as I did. Do not take on others' problems and burdens. People with problems are drawn to us as we are so compassionate and empathetic. Limit your time with those people or even choose to walk away. Don't lose your health as I did..........you don't realize how important it is until it's gone. Blessings.
Yes, really, I totally agree with you there!!! Thanks so much for sharing here. 😁😁👍👍👍
Love4Life1 hi I have a similar situation. Would you mind sharing which supplements. I am working with a doctor. Just curious. Thanks.
I wish for the best health for you
We call fruit loops fruit loops we also call narcs fruit loops.
Fruit loops is also what narcs call us 🙂
HAH !! LOVE IT !
Priceless comment! Laughed till I cried! ♥️
Captain crunch.
😂😂😂😂😂👏👏👏👏💖 loll
Empaths are night owls. First time hearing this one. Another check in the yes box.
No wonder I have a hard time sleeping most of the time. Smh!
REALLY? Me TOO!!!
Me too.
@Mary Carroll I'm starting to adapt to a so-called normal schedule. It's easier for some as you get older.
Definitely a night owl! I hate going to bed before 2am and especially during the summer because the night comes so late (sundown at 9pm) so I'm up chasing the night. 11pm-2am are the times most people are in bed so that gives me my quiet time to get in tune with my creative side. Also, too many hours/days of sunlight causes me to become anxious and depressed. Love rainy or overcast days!!
I wish these videos had been available a decade or so ago, when I was ill.
It is wonderful that anybody reeling from a narcissistic relationship now has your excellent insights and advice to help them through the pain. Much respect to you, for yourself and your work 😊
I know you are far away, Dr.Saad- but the compassion and insight you share with us on these videos has literally been a life-saver. Thank you for your sacrifices and effort, it shows you care about men and women with wounded hearts.
Don't stay up watching videos like these LOL right...
OMG! These videos came to me at the right time. I'm an empath and dealing with a huge narcissist! I was so emotionally drained yesterday and watching your videos actually made me cry
Yes! I'm a ridiculous night owl. Why are we night owls and tend to skip breakfast? Remarkably true.
CJ O'Connor I thought I was the only one that just did not want breakfast unless I wake up super early in the morning I can't eat 4 hours but the first thing I'll do is drink a Coca-Cola I feel like I come alive more in the evening and then I want to stay up I just wish I could sleep 2 hours a night and be able to function... this MAN KNOWS EVERYTHING ABOUT US EMPATHS..BLESS YOU... HE IS HELPING ME UNDERSTAND MYSELF SO MUCH BETTER.. THANK YOU 💙💙
CJ O'Connor argh. I skip breakfast too. I know advice I got regarding adrenal fatigue said 'eat breakfast first thing'
CJ O'Connor. I fast most of the day..it's actually healthier for you. But some people can't do it.
Yeah I normally fast till 12:30/1pm
BECAUSE I ts Quite ! We are ALONE To THINK , Reflect , Relax!! I don't THINK We can NOT Stop Thinking about Everything No One is draining Us Recharging But sometimes We Don't get Enough Rest. I study at Night I can Focus Because I'm ALONE it's quite I can hear myself THINK weather it's Good or Bad (How the day went And whom you were conversing with or around.)
First drink in the morning is lemon water or apple cider vinegar to promote pH balance and lower sugar levels.
What about exercise? That's an important act of self care and anchors the empath into the body
BhavZ yes!! I feel So much better overall if I exercise😊
Yes, and get into nature everyday.
@pred ater
Something to say about being grounded.
Exercise, NOOO!! THAT WORD UNMOTIVATES ME
LOVE TO DANCE😎😎💜💜👣👣👣
Walking or lower impact exercise is good but running or high intensity cardio will cause empaths to be stuck in that heightened fight or flight mode. He explained it in another video. I was surprised too.
Where did this guy come from? Amazing brainiac, sympathetic to my concerns. Wow! Next question: How to lead a Narcissist to reality? Okay. okay. Just kidding!
😂😂😂😂 funnie!!
Yes, I am, also, enjoying & gleening from his clear cut insight, & he communicates it well, too.
As so many others said, you described me to a T! I haven't eaten breakfast in 40 years and go straight for the coffee. I don't drink coffee after that, but I still have trouble falling asleep and staying asleep, especially since my narc discarded me. I will try adding a high protein breakfast to my day as well as adding a magnesium supplement. Thank you SOOOO very much for putting these helpful and informative videos out for those of us trying to recover from narc abuse.
So appreciate your support and insight into renewing our spirit mentally and spiritually and now physically many thanks
you just explain my life!!! wow! thank you so much! I've been looking for you for years!
Wow. Where have you been my whole life? So grateful you're making these videos for us clueless empaths. So grateful to have found you. 💜
My whole life I tried to have a normal sleep schedule amd now I understand why I haven't been able to. I didn't realize it was an empath thing but it makes so much sense. Time to prioritize my needs, thank you 🙏
As an Empath, I love to find videos giving a better view about our 'gift'. Thank you for your contribution. I am a new subscriber.
Thank you sir. Finily someone who can talk realistically and straightforward, without ego. Please keep up your good work. You just made more sense in 10 minutes then my GP has in five years.
oh those are called Fruit Loops in the US as well. Your videos are informative, sincere appreciation for the connections you explain between physical and behavioral health. I will add a magnesium supplement; already realized the need for more water and sleep. Thank you.
This gentleman is so very smart and he knows of what he speaks .....Thankyou for sharing your knowledge ....
As a nutritional health practitioner , this is an excellent video. I love how you give such important to the mind body connection. I had to share this to my facebook page.
Oh my God! This video is such a blessing! You have no idea how much this video will help me! I have been in this mode for over 4 years and have been so lost overall after I had a severe psychological break 4 years ago. This is amazing!
This is pretty amazing to watch. All of these things you are talking about are things i have been trying to do for a long time. I try to limit my coffee,eat lots of almonds(always thought it was the magnesium i craved but didnt know why),have my alarm set for the same time every morning(though wake up before it).Recently have started a paleo type diet but havent been taking too much protein in the morning ,which i may try after watching this. Never fit in but am able to assimilate into almost any group but never really ^click^ with people. Used to feel i was lacking something but have realised actually im just different.Thanks for the insights. Oh and yea watch out for the narcissists ,they get me every bloody time, thankfully my life is now one of the altruist now,a bit lonely at times but access to the net really helps to engage with other empathic, thinking people aka ,like this. Many thanks
I can SO relate to you!!! Lol. 👍👍👍
Everything you said is right on! Completely on point! I am a complete empath! I have been listening to you off and on the last 2 years but I was universally brought back and i have been watching video after video and finally hearing someone acknowledge everything I know to be true about me...and and in being sagittarius and whew you get my struggle! I put my life on hold 11/23/16 to figure out what was going on why has everything been spiralling out of control for 17+ years and I figured things out for myself but you have put it all in order and given it validity through your research! I can not thank you enough! Thank you soooo much!
Doc. You are amazing. Very informative. I regret not knowing about you. I wish this pain and suffering goes away soon.You are a genius.
Hi Dr. Saad, I ve just come out of a narssistic abused relationship and I’ve watched ours and hours of videos to overcome my anxiety you offer the best advice. Thank you
You are freaking awesome! Thanks for this video.
May Allah reward you for this service. You have got no idea that these videos are helping so many people 🙌🕋
coffee and sugar deplete magnesium, as does stress and alcohol.
Thanks for the add.
True
Omg you’re the 1st person ever who revealed this to me about empaths. I seems that everybody else describes empaths as very unusual fairy beings. These points you’re mentioning have proven to be 100% true for me. Listen to this guy fellow genuine empaths 😊
As you said, coffee masks the fatigue. Coffee does not activate body energy but actually blocks the enzyme which shuts down activated cells. If you happy and drink coffee you be longer happy, if you sad you be longer sad etc, and in both cases, feeling tired after . Great video, Thank you
As an empath, I would love to keep people I hardly know from telling all of their life problems on me. Because that’s impossible, do you have a video to help us to erase what they tell us so that we don’t have their problems running through our minds while we try to sleep? I experience restless sleep when people dump their problems on me as if my subconscious is busy trying to find a solution for their problems. A video on this topic would be wonderful,
By the way; we also call it Fruit Loops in America😀 Cheers!
cmathias86 This used to happen to me and now never!! I don’t have an explanation other than I became not receptive to it any longer. Maybe pray?
You can learn how to block negative energies. I can't do it lol but apparently it is possible! Create like an invisible force field around u so it reflects off the negative emotions & protects our sensitive minds.
Great advise thanks Sandra! Seeing the different energies as different colours is a really good intuitive sort of advise. That sounds like it would work well & you can visualise the colour coming at you & almost rebounding away as you reject taking on what doesn't serve us :)
@@vtigzy I love that. I enjoy rules of thumb and ways to remember things and ways to forget things. I generally tell people I'm cordial I'm not friendly and prefer not to give out much personal information or receive much. After that they walk a wide berth around me, 🤔 but at some point it equalizes
Cmathias86 I learned to school myself to keep my face passive (expressionless) when approached by drama/problem dumpers. I will listen, but then ask the question "so, what are you going to do about it". This politely but firmly hands the problem back to them. They eventually stop using you as first port of call for future dramas/problems when they recognise, subliminally or otherwise, that you are not reacting to what they want. If you find you can't sleep ruminating on others problems, then take your mind to a happy place (plan a holiday, recall celebration, etc) to lift your mood and self distract until you naturally fall asleep.
Thank you very much. I appreciate this. This was timely. 👍🏽
These recommendations are good for everyone, not just for empaths. Just for humans.
Excellent, excellent video! You hit the NAIL ON THE HEAD! Point after point you described me and the lifestyle changes I urgently need to make.
Only thing I didn't like in this video is you recommending eggs or whey protein, twice. The dairy industry and egg industry are absolutely horrible. What does eating products from animals that were full of anxiety, confusion and fear do to us? Not good. Vegan and plant-based is the way, especially for an empath.
what do you eat for breakfast usually?
Eggs and whey are wonderful sources of protein and are very grounding to the spirit into this earthly plane. There are organic and local farm to table options when purchasing these foods. Also, a single "way of eating" does not work for everyone's health or body type. We need to find out what works best for us as individuals and this changes frequently over time. So, I think these are great basic starting off points on this journey of self-care for the empath. Blessed be ~
A Hershey, for breakfast I sometimes have a vegan smoothie with greens and protein powder, or almond cashew yogurt with healthy granola, or maple walnut or pecan oatmeal. 100% vegan, 100% cruelty-free, and healthy! :)
The Celestial Enchantress, organic and local farm to table options are still cruel and unethical. Egg-laying hens have been selectively bred to produce 300+ eggs a year, when it is only natural and healthy for them to produce less than 20 per year. They often die of preventable diseases due to the over-production of eggs, and suffer (and die) from egg binding, egg yolk peritonitis, ovarian cancer, and more. All egg laying hens are usually slaughtered at a fraction of their natural lifespan when their egg production declines if they don't already die of complications. Please educate yourself. And you do not need to eat any 'single' way, but you certainly also do not need to eat the eggs of exploited birds, or any animal protein for that matter to be healthy and fulfilled. Blessed be ~
Don't bless--send flowers.
Another mind blowing, spot on description of my life....I hope it's a good sign that I'm so comfortable hearing myself be described to a T in every single video I watch....that I laugh out loud...like a happy laughter...not like I'm laughing at a joke. These vids really make me happy.
Thank you!! This is awesome
I received your message and watched your video. I was just venting yesterday. I already do the 5 strategies you mentioned. I’m at a place right now that I see his true self. I have blocked for good and I am working on me. Narcissists wake us up so we do reclaim ourselves. Thank you for reaching out. I’m in a much better place. I dealt with his crazy manipulative personality for 8 years and I’m done! I will meet that right person. For now finally it’s all about me!
I’ve basically made all of these changes after my adrenals burnt out. So I’m glad to hear that I’ve been making good choices . Still absolutely love coffee though but drink decaf.
For the first time I think in my entire life I finally understood why I have had trouble sleeping during nights.
I have started to follow your guidance and it resonates with me so perfectly. Thank you 🙋🏻♀️.
Great information. I am an empath and have had trouble in all these areas, so interesting! I have learned to compensate for most of these problems from trial/error, so it is a great confirmation to hear it from you! Keep up the great work, love your videos!
Omg. I am so learning this about me! You are so on point. I have learned that if I eat protein for breakfast I feel so much better throughout my day. I actually stumbled on these regime by learning what works for introverts & learning myself. Like the sensitivity to light & noise & I can't tolerate large crowds is very draining for me! You are so RIGHT. I FUNCTION so much better when I don't stay up too late.
Excellent video. I came across Dr. Jason Fung and the topic of Intermittent Fasting and how incredibly beneficial, healing and ‘normal’ it is for our bodies to adopt this lifestyle as did our ancestors. Feasting and Fasting. Our bodies begin to reach homeostasis.
So true about sleep problems especially when you're living with an emotional abuser. You never rest except when the abuser is not in the home. I love the Twilight app. Great information.
This is so helpful - - thank you! Just discovered your channel and this invaluable video. Many thanks!
You are the bomb, man! Just got into this journey of healing from a lifetime of covert narcissistic abuse from my mother and sister and I just come across your videos. You're so insightful and educational without overloading us with information! Thank you thank you. 🙏🏿🙌🏿💋
your correct that me. not eating in the morning but drink my coffee.
The 5 lifestyle changes an Empath must undergo are so simple. They make perfect sense to me and I shall commit to making those changes immediately. I am in total agreement with your theory of the covert agreement that I do not need to voice what my needs are. That if I am nice to you, in return you will be nice to me and magically, my needs will eventually be met. Part of me has always known this to be true; however, unconsciously.Thank you for bringing to light the reality of my pathology.
Thank you for your work!!Thank you for the information!!🙏
oh gosh, how do i say this... i have listened to hundreds of videos on narcissism, and u r the 1st one who spoke solely on what we physically need to do. Not just talking about going no contact, etc. Thank you so much.
Sounds good, making note of all of these, thank you!
When I started watching the video... at 2 am...😅 I was like O.O seriously! are you a psychic?? and as the video went on I just burst into tears.. How thoughtful of you to make such a video! Thanks a million for all the guidance you provide! It's just so undescribingly heartwarming to see someone care and offer such genuine advice... I just discovered your videos and have been watching them one after the other, they are so remarkably informative. Please keep them coming, may God infinitely bless and reward you for what you do!
Great video. Do you ever wonder if our modern society with its emphasis on competition and materialism, plays a part in creating narcissists ?
Sure it does!
I have . Thanks
steve ducell Also...according to my psychologist, you can find higher percentages of narcissists geographically. I live in an area where we have a “research park” for huge companies like IBM, SAS, Big pharma etc. She told me that there is a tendency for more narcissists around these types of companies and computer geeks etc. It makes sense. Needless to say, dating in this area is impossible. 😬
love your work. For years I did all the negative things then over the past 3 years I just did things that made me feel better. They are all of your suggestions, I love that I worked out stuff by myself then I find out that they are clinically proven too. Thank you very much
Make sure that your Magnesium supplement is chelated. It works best when combined with Calcium citrate.
Dr. Saad, you got no idea how much you are helping people ❤️
I drink ALOT of coffee...........skip breakfast........thank you very much for these tips! I will try it.
This is exactly me going to bed after midnight,coffee through out the day and waking up after 10am everyday. I needed this thank you!
I think drinking a lot of Coke/Diet Coke is as bad as coffee, and possibly worse.
Definitely worse, since one contains tons of sugar and the other, artificial sweetener.
Kidney stones
Question: would you eat 30 cubes of sugar in one go? Thats what each represents.
I really agree with you there!!!! 😽😽😽☕
@Al Bradley Every? How many? More than two is crazy unless you have a vast number of friends. Were some also drinkers of diet coke? Interesting, weird and sad at the same time. I cannot drink either, nor coffee, nor alcohol. I survived adrenal gland cancer with a 10 percent chance.
It is wonderful that we now have an open and wonderful community to discuss our needs and challenges with.
i highly recommend to buy omega-3 supplements. Not only it can help with brain fog after narcissistic abuse but also normally - it is very very efficient in keeping your immunity in balance.
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I will then!!! GBU. 👍👍👍😥😥😥
Eat your flax seeds,linseeds and walnuts for omega 3s
Fish oil is also in my experience excellent for mood stabilization. It has been proven in studies very effective for bipolar disorder even.
I also take Nascent Iodine (3 drops under tongue) every day and Selenium. No more brain fog, it improves metabolism and energy. And rids your body of floride, bromine and aluminum. It helps the thyroid and shrinks cancer cells.
I must say that it is rare that I see someone who hits these points for empaths so dead on, I'm impressed, and feel that your understanding comes from personal experience, I have only watched one video so far, but look forward to seeing more of your stuff
Very sound advice here. Clients can be trained to keep personal records so that they can see progress on these five objectives.
I just wish I could find somebody to train me, though! 😣😣😣
I love your videos. You are so accurate about the psychology of empaths. I was a genuine victim of narcissist abuse and when I got out is when I started self actualizing and found out I was an empath and when through a spiritual awakening due to the trauma of many things. I’m learning everyday how to become more empowered. I enjoy your videos so much and found a lot of help and validation from them . I wish you had more.
So true about missing breakfast! Thank you so much for the great suggestions. I would exclude any animal or dairy products for protein or anything else!
Then please, Imelda, feel free to exclude whateve ryou like. And let other adults include whatever they like. Eh?
Im now 67 my insomnia began in my teens, i worked as a nurse for nearly 50 years. Very poor self care, smoker( now off 13 years) coffee drinker, poor diet ect addicted to Zolpidem for sleep. Surprised im still alive.
Great video🤗
I am an accused narcissist from a fan of your page, I think your videos are very helpful and informative and I have learned quite a bit watching them. You might think this is narcissistic, but I think some of your followers might be using this concept as a crutch. The key in my mind for people who believe they have been "taken advantage of" is to increase their self esteem, and not rely on someone to provide them happiness, but be happy internally. Thanks for your work, it is very informative. If you could respond to my comment and give me your opinion I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you
Hello, Robert. While being "taken advantage of" is a common and quite annoying phenomenon that can and does happen to most people at some point, what happens as a consequence of malignant narcissism is both unexpected due to its covert nature and adversely life-changing for most people due to its nefarious nature. One, is a repeated life pattern resulting from, among other things, insufficient self-value coupled with the mistaken belief that happiness can be derived from pleasing others, while the other is a soul-ripping, debilitating assault that quite often leads to early and/or untimely death.
True narcissists are detectable only by individuals with previous personal experience or who have seen numerous videos like this one in an attempt to understand what is happening to somebody else. The dawning of awareness for most comes with the realization that he or she is just another in a long line of broken bodies, minds, and souls of undeserving individuals that the disordered (so-called because narcissists are not the only purveyors of this range of destruction) entity leaves in its wake. While it is often true that victims of malignant narcissism have underlying issues and some of the needs you outlined (reliance on others for a sense of completion and happiness, for example), those issues are not always pronounced, and regardless, are certainly not a crime.
What the narcissist does is malicious and should be considered criminal; the victim needs to be defended and/or treated. In most cases, it is unrealistic to expect someone so-debilitated to find their way out of their quandary alone or to be able to make the necessary changes that you imply would end the cycle (and for the most part, rightly so). What I hope you would take away from this is that very few would be willing to use their own destruction as a crutch, even unwittingly.
Perhaps you should ask yourself, how would you feel if someone close to you, say a daughter or a close friend fell victim to a malignant narcissist... If the answer is something like sorry, troubled, or angry, you are likely not a narcissist, but simply an emotionally distant, pragmatic and self-actualized individual with some narcissistic tendencies (all of which fall within the range of acceptable human behavior). Given the opportunity, I would tell whoever is accusing you that yours are characteristics society needs and that malignant narcissism is quite another matter and shouldn't be bandied about lightly. I, for one, don't get that from what you wrote.
Have a great day. Unless I am wrong in my assessment, in which case, die a painful, lingering death. ;-)
Maekong Mike BOOM!
Nope. That is a crutch. When u understand fully you will find that can be part of it but it is also much deeper than that sometimes. Dig deeper then assert. Find some intelligible reading and do your research then asked an informed question. Don't ask the Dr to do the research for you. I could make a sweeping generalization and suggest narcissist are lazy or prefer others to the work but it's actually deeper than that also.
Maekong Mike good for u. But he should be given the tools to do the work instead of u handing it to him. That s partly how some of them get created and the empath enables the behavior by doing it for them and as such then surely nothing is wrong with the narc because you chose this and they can not think beyond that point as unfortunate as the implications of that thought is.
Empath here 🙋🏻♀️I love staying up late. But with kids I had to learn to go to bed earlier. Which has helped me a great deal. And waking up at 6:30am sucks but like you mentioned-it helps sleep cycles.
I hate breakfast. But again, make myself eat by 9am. I cannot eat eggs bc I am allergic. I eat Oatmeal with MCT oil, chia seeds and it has helped my blood sugar crashes too.
I cut down to one cup of coffee a day. But still love tea. So when I need a afternoon pick me up-it is all green tea. But somedays-it isnt enough.
I drink tons of water by habit now. Again it helped me to recognize that problem when I had kids. Cannot nurse when you are dehydrated.
I am def missing magnesium. I have the laundry list you mentioned. 😫 Wow. Thanks so much for sharing these tips. So grateful!!
Thank you, very true, sure helped me, as did some exercise & meditation... (not to overwhelm), all in due course.. love your videos!
I am all of this, night owl, do not eat breakfast, magnesium deficiencies, I touch on every base here. I would have never thought it was due to my personality and being a empath. Thank you so much for the wonderful information that you provide.
Thank you. QUESTION: is also the traditional oat meal (oats cooked in water, and grated apple, carot, berries), an egg and a big glas of warm fresh lemon water reccomendable?
Coffee makes the body also acidic, which increases the risk of heart attack and stroke at older age. It's better to drink lemon water, teas (herbs not fruits) and green smoothies for holding it alkaline.
How insightful! I’m a personal trainer and I can tell you, this is true for sooooo many of my clients! And of course most of my clients are highly empathetic because I am too 🤷🏻♀️
Wow. Thank you thank you. Thank you. Wow. I just learned I am an empath personality type. Your info is so valuable. Wow
Yea, ditto. Or I now accepted that I am
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You described exactly everything that I have to change in my lifestyle. I don't drink coffee, but I drink lots of green tea, which contains caffeine. I've already started consuming more magnesiun food sources (green leafy vegetables etc.) and I'll make the changes as well. Listen to him, y'all, he knows what he's talking about. All these bad habits - combined with narcissistic abuse have caused me adrenal fatigue and a very serious illness stemming from this condition.
Wow! This guy's good!
This is great for all people. We should all be doing these things. Empaths aren’t any different.
Empaths need to set boundaries , join a co dependency group or find talk therapy.
Exercise daily for serotonin, Learn meditation techniques or some kind of mindful habits to calm yourself and stay away from high traffic people places. Theses are all things to further help. Trust me. All the stuff you said is really really good , but Empaths need to step it up and protect themselves better. 🙏🏼✌🏼❤️
Thanks for the video. I get up every day at 5 (weekdays) or 6 (weekend) am, get to bed at around 9 pm. I do drink 4 or 5 cups of coffe a day. Another good source of protein is hemp seeds, for people that can't have too much eggs or milk. They have 30% of protein in them (and all the essential amino acids), I just take a couple of spoons twice a day. They are relatively inexpensive if you buy it in bulk, I get mine for €15,- a kilo (organic, otherwise its €10,-)
Quinoa (keen-wah) can be highly allergenic and is mostly carbohydrate. Chopped fruit--more carbs. Syrup--carbs. You sound like you have orthorexia (Orthorectia). Maple syrup--same chemicals almost as regular sugar with a few microns of different flavorings. (I mean natural maple sugar--syrup--it's sugar.) Anyone who is diabetic on insulin will have to learn the hard way if they don't know already.
Jillian Smith very apparent you have a mission to troll on any person giving plant based alternatives lol 😂
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I really enjoy your videos. They are so realistically informative and educational. Thank you for this resource!
thank you so much now in this most difficult of hours ...
bebop54 The Info given here is indeed valuable to me as an empath. It has validated me and I know it has fortified me in a major way.
me too ...
& i love the 'straight no chaser' delivery ...
warrior empaths ...lol
bebop54. I love that! Warrior Empath!
bebop54 keep yr chin up mate
I hope you got thru those dark moments
Omg!!! 😱 this is insane!!!! Thank you!!! You are the first person I’ve found to cover this. I had no idea about this!
I gave up trying to live a 'normal' life and I stay home most of the time. I love staying up at night, sometimes I work in the yard at 3am and my only company is a stray cat I feed.
My routine is pretty much the same too!
Sounds like heaven to me.Say hello to kitty for me
Yes! All of the above. Changes and strategys need to be put into place for me to grow.
Great video! I survived my narcissistic home by making everyone discuss health and diet a lot, for some reason narcs enjoy this. They get quite motivated with you to become "perfect". So I reduced a lot of cortisol release with tea, meditation and protein. However beware the narcissist will use your stress illness against you, to excuse their abuse. For instance the constant distress gave me a hormonal imbalance and developed polycystic ovaries (an expression of anger over the constant attack on femininity and creativity.) my mother said this disease made me say crazy things when I was standing up to her abuse.
As a child I sketched beautifully until my mother said crazy people did drawings. I stopped sketching. She criticized everything I did until she passed away. Today my creativity comes through sketching and needle arts. She was very pathetic.
Oh wooow. All you write here is almost like I have written myself. Is very surprising, I have polycystic ovaries too and always have felt the way you described. My mom have been very aggressive with my and my feminity, like she was in an absurd permanent competition with me (sorry for my bad English).
@@lizryan6289 I can relate to you!!! GBU
I do these things now after I got into trouble. Basically I nearly died. I made these changes before seeing this video. The difference these changes make is huge, you become a different person.
Magnesium supplements and eliminating wheat transformed my life, no more anxiety!!
Man, I needed you in the 90s.. The battle is The Lord's. Godspeed
Thanks for your videos. They're incredibly helpful. I relate to all of this, but I don't understand the link between empaths and these particular lifestyle habits. In the U.S., it seems nearly everyone struggles with all five of these. Perhaps you could do a short follow up explaining why you see more of this with empaths.
Hi Brett - it's because empath's are conditioned to deny their own needs, including physical so as a group they tend to have worse health outcomes compared to others. Although I agree, large chunks of the population struggle with these things too but the empath, I believe, is particularly vulnerable to them.
Just even being labeled as an empath gives me a sense of dignity...which I automatically want to transfer as a gift to narcissists everywhere. Is there really no hope anywhere, anyhow for the Shy Covert Narc even? As I sit safely at a distance having escaped what could've been deadly, I can't help but want to share good news, even if it's of no benefit to me.
Thanks. Makes good sense to me....as I just made it home from Starbucks a couple of hours ago and am typing this note at 11:44 pm. Time to incorporate your advice and get to bed.
+Vital Mind Psychology ~~~> thankyou, absolutely, very good reminder to revisit cause. Narcs etc. can read the energy signature of depletion, heightened awareness, willingness to sacrifice. By giving to self, brings one into normal energy, grounded, less vulnerable to destabilise, which is how "they" are able to commence draining you. Plug the leaks. It's how "they" create doubts, start the IV of your energetic system.
+kaylashalaylaaaaa ~~~> I think it's coming from both directions, the sensitive, creative child is bullied, made a scapegoat by narc parents, or others, and retreats further into inner resources to find safety. Narcs and that spectrum, have little resource to stream originality and create, they depend upon bothering the sensitives for their energy, vampire it, look for a hook in point. The sharks ate hunting for blood in the water, and children of narc parents have no defence from the moment they take breath, all their conditioning is in the hands of the predator. They are molded to be of useful service! And so it is! If not for that conditioning I think they would still be gifted and sensitive, only have better boundaries, and not be vulnerable to predators.