My mum is an empath. I never understood how she could be so patient, kind and supportive. Even after I’d behave like a brat.. I assumed she just had very low self esteem. I’m glad she got away from my narcissistic dad
God is many different things to people, depends on the person. El Cerebro I encourage you to explore different ways of practicing spirituality, it seems you have good reason to reject the one that was forced on you :)
YES!! I was in a continual loop of 1/2 for 50+ years. This resulted in a total system failure. Bed ridden for almost a year. Had 3 Autoimmune diseases, on a cocktail of eleven Meds... wheelchair... People, I beg you, listen to this angel!! He’s soooo right. I’m grateful for my reset...I found meditation. Limited my diet due to lack of energy and detoxed without realizing it. I did a LOT of inner work... not much else to do. Im now eating sparingly, adding fruits and veggies, lots of water. Guess what?! NO more inflammation! Zero Meds. No more wheelchair. I’m building my strength & endurance. This feels like a slow mo NDE. My new life is amazing. (AND, key...> I went no contact w the Abusive Narcissist. I nearly DIED because I was taught I had no needs, no self, didn’t deserve love. False) PLEASE, I BEG YOU: Stop & listen!!
Just discovered this, I have fibromyalgia, thyrodititis , IBS ect. I have changed my diet totally but financial and family problems are persistent and I am at total burn out level and at a point of wanting to give up. Dealing with a very bad flare currently find it difficult to know which way to go anymore.
Hello Marlene Totally relate to your situation... Suggest focussing on State of mind, Specific food and Subject experts. #1 State of mind Shanti i.e. Peace How: i) Music (soft soothing instrumental music... search on youtube) 10 to 30 mins 1 to 3 times a day ii) Visuals (green forest, sunny pristine beaches, sunrise, sunset videos... on youtube) 10 to 30 mins 1 to 3 times a day iii) People (Find peace loving (peacefully living) community (compassionate people)... shift for 10 days to 10 months and more) a) Best immediate option for compassionate community: 100% Free 10 day Vipassana meditation stay (food and stay is free for 10 days. Spend the full day in peace.) Seek further options from people at the vipassana center post 10 days. For long term stay, search for following... b) Search for Buddhist Centres nearby (highly caring and compassionate community on earth!) c) Search for 'peaceful yoga ashrams in US, India, '... are sustained on charity / donations from affluent / free for those suffering / in recovery) Following yoga will also make your mind & body free from stress and diseases d) Search for a Church online: Stay with nuns (free) e) Move to warm weather country side and pick up gardening there (best thing for fastest recovery from burn out & become lively) Food #2 i) Search for anti-inflammatory food (See Fruits and veggies that the body tolerates. Also search for organic coconut oil and organic grass fed ghee.) Take room temperature water rarely and Hot water frequently. Filtered hot water. ii) Search for microbiome, probiotics and prebiotics for IBS, online iii) Learn about 'healing ayurvedic spices' and 'healing ayurvedic food.' Support #3 i) Mind: Share your situation with Dr. Saad... See www.vitalmind.com.au (His staff / he) May not have seen your comment here. ii) HTMA: Dr. Rick Malter in US... www.malterinstitute.org (From the video above by Dr. Saad...) iii) For IBS, Fibromyalgia, Thyroid... Search for 'Functional Medicine Doctors' and 'Ayurvedic Doctors' See heavy metal and POP (Persistent Organic Pollutants) toxicity if you are / have been living in a city for a long long time. If test is positive, detox. And above all, stay cool. God bless and all the best
More on Food / IBS issues... (for one suffering from intestinal discomfort) If milk is a problem... remove milk and milk products from food plate for a short time If fiber is a problem... remove fiber (fruits and veggies) from the food plate for a short time If grains are a problem... remove wheat and wheat products (along with other grains) from food plate If beans are a problem... remove beans from the food plate (soak and blanch before having) If nuts are a problem... remove nuts and nut containing products from food plate for a short time (soak and blanch before having) If non-plant based foods (eggs, etc.) are a problem... remove eggs, etc. from food plate If chemicals are a problem... have 100 % certified organic food (or remove chemicals on skin to start with) and begin growing your own organic food If fungal growth is a problem... remove sugar and sugar products (and white flours, room temperature foods) from food plate take certified organic anti-fungal herbs If bacterial growth is a problem... remove stale food (left overs) and room temperature foods from the food plate take certified organic anti-bacterial herbs along with (self made) probiotics and prebiotics ...and so on. Have 1 type of food only, from above for breakfast, lunch, etc. (i.e. at one time) and see body's response to the food to find which food is the problem Should there be any food deficiencies (medical tests show) ... minerals, essential fatty acids, vitamins (sunlight, bacterial, fat soluble, water soluble ones...) ...take supplements (for short term, IF needed) and fresh farm foods containing those vital elements of life for life : ) ...And stay in 'rest digest' mode before, during and after having food (see Dr. Saad's video above for more).
I started life as an extrovert. Now 56 years later, and after several horrific relationships with narcissists, I too isolate. I find it difficult to interact with even non-narcissists including my own grown children. But good to see I'm not alone here. Thanks fam!
I never knew that being and empath could truly lead to me neglecting my own responses to stress and anxiety. Videos like this truly help me understand more about myself and how I can deal with my surroundings better.
I notice that when I'm upset due to heartache/stress my stomach hurts so bad it's damn near debilitating! I was in an abusive narcissistic relationship that became so bad, my stomach pain would tell me b4 hand that he was getting ready to argue with me over something petty. The stress of it all got so bad that I ended up being diagnosed with diverticulitis and thus has to have 2 feet of my large intenstine removed. This is all too real folks...when you feel mentally abused, it effects you physically as well. I now listen to my body when I encounter a toxic individuals.😢💔
I followed this video after a series of covert NPD and now I’m in tears. I have a fibromyalgia, I’m exhausted and I am highly sensitive and also am an empath. This is all making sense. I can’t seem to get away from narcissists, they follow me like white on rice. They’re all around me, family, friend, co-worker all in 1 person and I live with them. I know I attracted them, I just now how to learn how to set boundaries and be assertive.
iluvubb247 Believe in yourself & that you do not need any of those people. As soon as you believe you come first in your life, everything will change inside of you. No one can hurt you anymore.
I am HSP and after 22 years I realise i am with a covert narcissist at level 1 maybe going to level 2 and have had fibromyalgia twice in the last 5 years. Both times extreme pain couldn't use arms and recovered through exercise and second time through self healing meditation tapes so calmed nervous system. I did all the giving and he did all the taking. Didn't know anything about boundaries. Trying to leave and will when house sells. Please Spirit send buyer!
I finally realized that my 99% of my health problems are caused by my narc mother sucking my energy all of my life. I wish had these videos many years ago, I would have put some distance between my mother and I, as I am doing now. I feel my depression lightening up, the pain in my joints is slowly easing off and even my round the year allergies are not as severe. At 65 now, I can look back at the various illness, from migraines , allergies and joint aches to bronchitis that lasted for month every year. And too many other illness that have come and gone over the years to write here . I also acknowledge that this constant stress will eventually be my downfall if I don't acknowledge the cause and effects to myself and act accordingly. That is to start taking care of myself. It's not easy to get free of the spider web my mother has enmeshed me in all my adult life. I grew up surrounded by narcs. My grandmother, aunt, and mother all doing their thing to each other and to us kids. Now only my mother survives and for the last few years I have been wondering if I'm going to survive. At 91 I don't know where she gets the energy to continue on with all her negativity and drama. I sure am worn out! Being able to write my feelings down in these comment sections of the videos has been an enormous help in putting things in perspective while digesting and incorporating this information. It is like a therapy to listen and learning why the people in my life behaved as they did and still do in the case of my mother. I know I am not one of a kind in having grown up in this enormously unhealthy kind of family dynamics. I have come to realize it is trans-generational. I wish that people had to have some kind of test for mental health before they decide to procreate and pass on the traits that we are beginning to know as narcissism along with other kinds of personality disorders. There are so very very many people suffering from the after affects of living with these people. I know they are mentally ill, and probably will never get help. That is their problem, not ours, our time and efforts should be spent on recovery, both in body and mind. I am happy to say, that is exactly what I am working on now.
Same here, I have had chronic hives since I was 17years old. And it's because my body temperature rises, so heat,stress can cause my immune system to attack itself. Like my body is in fight mode all of the time.
this guy is a quack, a liar and a heartless manipulator. he's earning money by taking advantage of your empathy. if you want to cure yourself look no further than Aajonus Vonderplanitz (weird name I know) and the GAPS diet. I can guarantee you the guy in this video eats plenty of meat!
Wow! That's exactly what happened to me these past 3 years. Till I figured it out that I was married to a very abusive Narcissist man. I prayed and meditated so hard. And one day I woke up and got the heck outta there. I'm on my own now. Feeling positive. Sleeping so much better and the inflammation is subsiding. I am so grateful to have found these UA-cam videos and use them for research, healing and recap of all that I've endured. I'm now so empowered! Thank you❤
Psychic Intuitive Guidance by Alexa Moonfall It's amazing. No medical professionals ever acknowledge empathy. At least in my experience. They usually just diagnose a non-existent "chemical imbalance" or "mood disorder" and prescribe harmful rx medications.(that do not work and never will) I gave up on the "industry" for that reason. How can a doctor or psychologist treat you for a physical disease they cannot prove with medical testing? No thank you. It is so wonderful to have found this man who understands!!!
I would love you to do a series on self-abandonment. This is the core reason we end up in narcissistic relationships. It is the biggest reason we attract these people. 🙏
He's 100% right about everything here. I don't know what I would have done without my Epsom salt and essential oil bath and candles during that time. It's like you're sitting still but inside your body is just vibrating like crazy. These help a lot
Wish this was available 30 years ago! Reaching exhaustion woke me up to what was keeping me stressed...family of narcs. Cut that way back and started focusing on me
Kathryn Nicholas - Hello there. I can relate, having recently being forced (imploding) into the realization of my own narc family of origins true nature, having affected my initial 32 years of mediocre existence.
Ruinous Fiend Yes...and finding all that was not normal, which I knew, but couldn't seem to settle into my own life, or just feel balanced. Am starting that now. Hope you can too
Kathryn Nicholas -thank you, I appreciate your reply. Perhaps you might find articles written by Phil Walker, of some assistance, I certainly have. I feel you are a courageous individual, and wish you the best.✌🙂👌
My grannies used to call me, as a child, "high strung", "nervy", "different" even way back then, and I would sleepwalk, when nobody could understand me since I just didn't fit into my very abusive family system.. They said I was doing this deliberately to be obnoxious but the truth of the matter was that I really just didn't understand or couldn't understand how to fit in, feeling their disappointment & anger I used to wonder what was wrong with me. It was when I left home as a teenager to live with my grandparents that I began to bloom & blossom into my own person with my own value system. So glad you are doing this on-line work.
So not being hateful is now labeled as being weird?! Yet they walk around saying peace and love but show actions of pure hatred. Now psychopaths are being given powers by the Police and "healthcare" State. Accusations are proof of guilt and facts are conspiracy theories.
My grandparents called me very soft, sensitive, and different (they meant in a good way). I'm forever thankful that they positively acknowledged these traits because everyone else in my family either bullied, abused, or took advantage of me. My grandparents left me that little seed of self-acceptance that probably saved my life
You can forgive, but the minute you forget and let your guard down, you will be reminded with a shot of pain from the Narc. They don't change, even if you do.
This was my life four years ago, summed up in one video. I had to do all the research on my own to find out what was happening. Thank you sooo much for providing this for others, so they don’t have to go through the horror that I did. Much love from Arkansas, USA! 💖
congrats on doing the work. I, too, am doing a retro fill-in of the reasoning behind all the tools I've been using and behind all my behavioral changes over the last 4 years!! I find it even more subduing and calming to have it all explained. My brain loves it! Good luck in your journey.
Me also last 3 years I couldn’t study fast enough Wow painfully truthful. Now I can truly navigate my life not the decades of white knuckling it with painful results.. No more 💪🏻🙏🏻❤️
@Wade Haden Take a loofah into the bath with you and exfoliate, that will remove the outer layer of dead skin cells and increase your absorption. You also have to use enough salts (I use 1kg per bath), and you need to soak for long enough, I spend at least 2 hours in the bath. I also make a simple paste from the salts, that will exfoliate your skin and get you a good dose of magnesium without even needing a bath.
Oh bless you for this info and advice. As a 68 yr old only now am I able to understand my troubled life as an empath. I've learned that soothing music is super helpful for me. Years ago, stuck in alarm mode, listening to Enya saved my life. Literally.
Mantra's, & a Tibetan singing bowl, help you circular breath... & the stop the ripple that most empaths feel, inside house's. The energey of the past gets stuck in the corners of the ceilings. So we can be home alone and still have reaccuring emotional build up and have no clue where the source is coming from. The resonation is so healing and relaxing.
Narcs will push you to the point of exhaustion, then turn around and berate you for "letting yourself go". If someone is creating confusion or unrest in your life--please get away from them! Don't continue dating them, don't marry them, and please, for God sake, don't have kids with them!
I started to take the Ashwagandha herb a few months ago and wow did this improve my mode of being relaxed. This is some kind of miracle herb. I can highly recommend it, it is not a stimulant, so it will not make you addicted. I only take it when I work, during my days off, when I have enough solitude it is not needed. Not sure if you familiar with it. But it really helps - great for empaths. Absolutely great.
There's the Indian Neurologist author says combine ashwaganda with bacopa monieri (brahmi) from ayurvedic tradition. The combo said to detox the brain and even help addiction recovery. Other adaptogens: rhodiola, ginseng, cordyceps mushroom. I have found 5 HTP just incredible for depression and anxiety from chronic physical pain. Way more effective and no side effects compared to ssris.
I can't believe my whole life I have gone without knowing why my life is so chaotic. Recently I realized after your videos, my Mother is a narcissistic Mom, I am am only child daughter, my Dad passed in 08. I always knew I was an empath but I couldn't figure out why my anxiety is so bad, horrible bad. My husband thinks I could shut it off. It's through my whole body, my ribs are out of place now because my muscle tension. I need to find out how to tell my doctor about this and how to help me with this. Thank you soooo much. I am in shock I just found the key to all my issues. 💖
Hey, your anxiety is bad because it senses soulless beings (our planet is full of reptilians, parasites, and demons). I know it sounds crazy, but it's true if you end up opening your third eye and see what's really real.
I'm new here and found you by accident. I'm an empath and I was with a narcissist, and I went through these stages on a daily basis. Now I'm Free of stress with that person. I have my own boundaries now just learning of my gifts. I thank you for this video. I will follow thank you.
Honestly your one in a million Appreciate you and your honesty and having the ability to help the spiritually wounded too! Your a blessing THANK YOU for your time and efforts to the channel
As an empath, I'm so glad to have found this video. I'm in recovery after having spent 14 years married to Satan, a narcissist. On the flip side, I'm absorbing and reading others. I get really anxious and I feel like being alone. There's pluses and minuses to being an empath. Understanding and surrounding myself with like minded people is the best remedy. Sadly, this world is over populated with zombies.
This Video is Brilliant Abdul. Just what Empaths and Survivors of Narcissistic abuse need. So important and so practical. Thank you Thank you Thank you!!!
This guy knows his shit. Love his very holistic approach combining physiology, psychology and spirituality but putting it into practical steps of action. Great dude 👍
Post-graduate level explanatory style is: logical, sequential, relatable and informative. Fills in ALL the missing blanks. Excellent source of relevant, usable information.
This is interesting because my experience has been somewhat opposite to what you mention around 2:30 - 3:00. Spiritual intervention directly dealt with my nervous system. I had to read the scriptures aloud and my mind and body would instantly respond to these truths.
I think you hit the “Divine Bullseye”, if you will, with your statement. You specifically mentioned SCRIPTURE. There are all sorts of “spiritual practices” including Christian ones, but you received the Living Word of God in your inner being and your body aligned with it. That’s the truth for our spirit, mind and body. At one point, for me, hearing Bible verses was the only thing keeping me alive. All the other spirituality, psychology and medicine were simply support or altogether hogwash. That’s my testimony. God bless you all ✝️💟
Great video Never heard all my symptoms tied together in a way that makes so much sense. Been stuck in a loop of being overwhelmed, lashing out, isolating, than a short period of wellbeing. Followed by the next trigger then round and round we go. Very difficult to deal with if you don't know why, so much self hatred, highs & lows. Anyway hope this helps someone realize your not crazy, and not alone the way it has for me. Thanks
Seven years of narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, bullying and harassment in the workplace. The first was a 4-year stint at a hospital with a covert malignant narcissist who tormented me and finally pushed me out for some made-up lie. Next I found myself in a corporate job with another toxic narcissistic boss. In 2020 and throughout 2021 I was suffering from chronic stress and burnout because of the job and would find ways to nurse myself through it. I left at the end of 2022.The toll it has taken has been immense. I’m slowly crawling my way back and trying to rebuild my life. Thank you for this information. So helpful.
I moved near a river 3 years ago. The city built a walking path. Hardly anybody visits. I highly recommend all empaths live near a river it is healing. Everyday I walk near the river and I see the trees/plants/flowers/water. I hear the birds and other animals. I feel more connected to the Source and healed:)
One thing you didn't mention that was very helpful to me, similar to yoga is massage. Also box breathing/deep breathing and there's a ton of apps you can download and set reminders throughout the day to stop and deep breath for a minute or two. I found my breathing was naturally very shallow and the app helped with this, being more conscious of my breathing
Nancy B I never realized how shallow my breathing was until I started watching ASMR videos that remind me to breathe. I’m glad you’ve figured out what works for you too!
I guess we can mention sophrology also? What about hypnotherapy? Chi kong... I tryed once some kind of circular beathing, lying on the floor. I'm still not allowing massages, silly of me because I would love it. It can deeply relax for a while.
Robert BOIS Shallow breathing saved my life. Asthmatic since a child, did BUTEYKO with Sasha, a Russian who had studied with Professor Konstantin. After that one week course I never took Ventolin nor any prednisolone again (1993, Jan) In 2018, now, it has been 25 years of feeling well physically) Please don’t breathe deeply, it is a path to physical destruction- SHALLOW and RAPID improves your oxygen uptake, chemical homeostasis will follow. Many, many benefits to shallow breathing. That was not one of your problems. That was your natural knowing, knowledge, STRENGTH. Lifelong learning is strewn with stepping stones, and lots of quicksand in between, 😃
Stage 3 for me is like being sedated, I'm not fully asleep but I'm not able to move. I have been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. I don't even feel stressed sometimes but the resistance part totally explains that. This is so amazing to have explained, no one understands or cares to be honest, but its a lack of understanding
One thing trauma gave me is an off switch. That has saved me from the worst damage from chronic stress, but flipping the switch back on is the trick. Sarcasm and laughter has become my medicine when dealing with people who are nuts. Sometimes you have to just look at the elephant in the room and laugh. I have my flaws, but the narcissists in my life are PROUD of theirs. I refuse to allow anything to manipulate my emotions anymore. I use my empathy for information, but I need to stay grounded in the reality that other people's emotions are not mine. I need to know myself to know the difference. Their projections fall off, ineffective, when I know myself. I used to be an example of the symptoms on this video, but I.have learned the hard way how not to be easily manipulated.
I feel people's sad & desperate emotions. It's like I'm absorbing them. I feel panicky and nervous if I'm not able to help. And it really drains all my energy.
I called them porous boundaries, I hope you don't mind. Some think it is a character trait. But if it damages your life it should be looked at. Together with therapists, friends, pastors, whoever can help you change the perspective and maybe calm down, realize how you can react differently without betraying your true self. Wish you all the best.
This is alot of great information. Thank you so much! Living with a narcissist caused me to not be able to sleep for nights and days, not be able to hold a job because I was always tired and on edge. In addition I was having panic attacks constantly. The drama he was bringing to the relationship was constant, I never new what would be coming next. I was beign given pills from the doctor to be able to sleep and high blood pressure meds because my blood pressure was extremely high. I am now away from that person and rebuilding my life one day at a time.
Thank you for your excellent videos. I'm 67 , and just finally learning these things about empaths, and how being an empath has affected my entire life. This information is literally life changing. They explain so much that has confused me and complicated my relationships. I esp appreciate your explanation of the stages of empath stress and the suggestions of how to self heal. I think I am currently in the third stage and your videos have helped me accept my instinctive need to seek rest and soothing. They give me the support and " "permission" I need to take care of myself. This in itself relieves my nervous system. Please continue this wonderful source of education and support. Bless you!
There are some great people online producing videos on this topic, but the key difference that you have a full physiological understanding, grounded in formal education, not just experience and some reading.
These videos are excellent! They describe my present state of existence...! I am in a total state of depletion and stuck on the freeze mode of CPTSD! I already have adrenal insufficiency... I’ve done grounding and the Wim Hoff Method! I was doing well very well. Then I’m sabotaged again and again. I can’t believe the situation I’m in! I feel as though I’ve lost the battle. I’m 68 yrs old. A struggle with a narcissist at this age is much harder then before.
I do psychotherapy in California and I enjoy your approach tremendously. As an empath, I found myself dating a narcissist. I had exhausted myself doing more academics and I was experiencing the first two stages-but went right to exhaustion after only a few months dating him. He literally drained that much energy. We must also protect ouselves when in the first two stages...calming...and self protection.
Heeeey ABDUL !! …..I cannot express to you - how many things put me thro alllllllllllll these stages - for YEARS !??! Anxiety attacks...Night terrors...upset stomach...stomach problems...memory loss from traumas, physical sicknesses and evil attacks from Narcs. The doc put me on very low dose anti-depressants...I got WORSE ! So I kept going out and singing and fighting for the TRUTH about my situation. Some things are still going on - tho I trust GOD to FINISH THE JOB ! and He has healed me physically 9 times over the last few years, and lifted trauma off my spirit. I have been able to reach out and connect and help others - as I am MUCH stronger in all areas of my life now. The TRUTH - IS SOOO HEALING !! \o/ ;)
Of all the videos on UA-cam about Empaths, I find yours the very best. Not just empaths, but your overall knowledge of people and what they go through. So glad I found your channel.
This is me now...you are spot on...I’ve been at exhaustion and had chronic fatigue....slowly coming out of that by shutting down and grounding and not being around a lot of people....but the moment I have stress from other people I have an attack and can’t function complete exhaustion....to the point I can’t even walk.....and just want to sleep I know who the people are that trigger this now, so I find it all so interesting....thank you
firestarter I am exactly where you described! My exhaustion and fatigue I had been attributing to thyroid malfunction, but taking zinc and magnesium has helped, and I didnt even realize that I was shutting down and staying away from ppl just to feel better, then if I socialized at all I became so upset internally that it started making me physically sick at my stomach!( dry heaves mostly because of loss of appetite!) and my inside just jitter! Never seem to get rest even though I am worn out completely! thanks! Because of your comment I feel that I better understand what I need to keep a check on to keep my nerves calm
Thank you so much you are the first person talking about the importance of calming the nervous system among all ppl I have watched talking about Empath
Currently suffering with burn-out and massive anxiety/stress. I stumbled upon this video at exactly the right time, and simply cannot thank you enough! Bless you my friend, and I look forward to watching all of your videos.
I'm Blessed & guided to of found this channel. It's about time I figure out who and what I am and how to protect myself. I was becoming so sick, withdrawing had one so-called friend I allowed in my life...and my thought was "Energy Vampire," she would drain me and leave. But this time I had had enough after so many years of abuse. I don't know WHY I ever thought she was a friend. Just felt sorry for her and the life she lived. For the 1st time in my life I said enough! And slowly I'm feeling better after the blackest depression in my life...that almost cost my life. And then I found your channel ❤ fibromyalgia, bed ridden, drained and self isolation. Cancer, transplant and small surgeries after surgery. Proud to say that I'm educating & shedding toxicity. Just having a bit of difficulties w/the empath thing or ME having anything special/different about me.
I can't be more grateful that I found this video and that you do this work and research. I feel so much better knowing finally there are explanations and reasons for the many difficulties we face for being wired the way we are. All of this helps so much to know, and it helps just to know that there is help! Thanks very much for the great work!
I am an empath going through an experience with a narcissist and I find your information very helpful. Your efforts are greatly appreciated. Thank you kindly for your help.
I stay in the fight or flight mode because I work in a job where a person is attacked over the least little thing that is said and even when a person is doing the right thing. I’m tired of being in this mode.
It's so good you see this as triggering you. Workplace hostility and aggression is very real and prevalent, especially here in the U.S. You don't deserve it and you can make changes. Follow your heart.
Narcs are taking over the workplace. Pray my dear..don't run and don't allow them the stress u out. I had 6 major surgeries in only 10 years due to stress.
Thank you, you’re an oasis in the desert of suffering; delving deeper than most on the subject of NPD & empaths! Thank you for sharing the wisdom you’ve learned with so many. Diana, from Oregon USA
You are a breath of fresh air and a number one explainer on the internet I have discovered so far of narcissism empath relationships thank you thank you thank you
Burnt out stage...Have already started on the 5 levels of healing following my intuition....Taken afew weeks but things are starting to turn around very slowlyt...Each day is different, I have some highs in between now...On other days struggling to even want to live.. .I know I can't afford to give up, need to keep moving forwards..Thank you, I know I'm on the right road to recovery at least...Has given me more hope things will start to get better n better for me....
I wanted to take a moment and thank you for focusing on the Empath here as most folks on UA-cam at least are so focused on the Narcissist that true support for the empath is not available. So much of what you have shared has helped way beyond understanding the narcissist. Once I got the narcissist, I wondered- "well what got me here" and I searched and searched. Then I found your channel! I just wanted to say thanks and encourage these videos. This is a general statement but it seems many empaths that have been hurt by a narcissist make it their mission to expose the "narcissist" but forget that they played a part too. It is nice to see a third party explain this because many are just venting about their experiences. Your channel is very helpful to me in my journey. Thank you!!!
These videos are life giving. What if you grew up with a narcissist and your nervous system is chronically stressed even when nothing stressful is going on? I feel like I am constantly on rev.
I used art therapy with colored pencils and oil pastels. Images associated with the abuse are enlarged and scanned then the outline traced onto card stock. It really helps. Something simple like a portrait or place is all that's needed.
Was married to a huge man for 12 years who was physically abusive. Now married to a covert narcissist for 18 years. I have had Fibromyalgia for 15 years. Watching this as I feel I cannot continue living this life and need to get out of my marriage. Need advice. What I have found has really been eye opening. If only, we knew what to look out for in our teens. I am 49 years old. Thank you for uploading theses videos, they are invaluable. I need to listen to them over and over before I make my move.
I’ve studied the impacts of trauma for years. Being an empath and certified holistic nutritionist, I couldn’t agree more with everything you’ve said! This video is perfect for empaths, adrenal fatigue patients, and any trauma survivor. Thank you SO much for sharing all this wonderful knowledge!
Great video! I really appreciate your empath series and how you include nutrient and natural input. Calming music was also key in calming my body down during my worst stages of adrenal fatigue. Audrey Assad's music works well for me.
Perfect timing (the google algorithms found this video and placed it on my read list - scary, though I am grateful!). I have renewed hope and am listening intently. Thank you. What a difference you are making!
Thank you Dr. Abdul Saad! I am in the “exhaustion” stage. You have helped me to know why I am lethargic but peaceful. From your teaching I understand that I need light to moderate exercise and magnesium. Narcissistic trauma caused this depressive state that I am in. I couldn’t figure out why I am sleeping a lot and not active, but in my bed all day, however, your teaching made it plain and clear. Thank you very much! May God bless you in every area of your life. Peace, Love & Blessings, ☮️❤️🙏🏽 Jane🦄
Thank you for saying all the talking therapy in the world won't help you if you are stuck in chronic stress. That is my exact experience. I've been working on better nutrition to overcome chronic stress for nearly three years. Thanks for your videos. :)
My entire life has been under a lot of stress...with the result of illnesses that come & go...lots of pain...and it's still going on. I am learning all about narcs...and the stress they inflict on their victims. I am so tried...and only wish for some peace in my life. I will be 68 in Nov. So that is a very long time to live with high to low stress...from early childhood to now. But at least I have been learning the "WHY" of it all. So thank you to all these U-tube talks. They are really helpful . Knowledge is the key to trying to get to that place of "peace".
My nervous system has been an issue from a very young child ... and knew that I had to get away from my parents from a young age. Invented stories in my mind that I was adopted.. Now I know that my family system was narcissistic... and the state that it left my mother who is also a narcissist and from a narcissistic family. I am now relieved to understand my natural state called an empath. Blessings
Thank you, these are brilliant videos and information. I'm actually feeling more relaxed just witnessing you. Having recently being awoken(imploded),to my narc family of origin scapegoating?(recovering codependent?/empath?, ex-victim!), and the slowly increasing realization of the cruel and despicable extent their damage has affected myself and many others. While I am currently experiencing a shocking, almost overwhelming increase in all forms of horrible narc/psycho gang type abuse. Your videos are indescribably helpful, once again thank you.
Thank you so much for everything here, fantastic! Vipassana meditation has been great for me since 1977. Deep breathing on a regular basis is fantastic. I love the sensation of smoothness in the breath coming and going, and I love letting go. I am just a simple everyday layperson. This meditation assists me to feel my real feelings and other sensations in my body on a regular basis and this in turn teaches me what to do for myself that takes care of me lovingly, the best I can at any time. Vipassana includes doing whole or part body scans, inside and outside. Whatever is not working well on the inside, eventually shows up on the outside, meaning my body, my skin and physical posture and spiritual posture. I'm glad to find myself here. Btw I usually don't like people very much, this makes sense to me now. No one likes getting hurt, no one likes that feeling including the trauma and the setbacks that go with it. But I do like it when we work things out together and when it works out well. Enthusiasm is great, you can't beat it.
Excellent! 😊🙌 Exactly what we needed. I've got 3 generations of empaths who've been under prolonged extreme stress within the larger dysfunctional family system. (& I was the one who ran away from it all as soon as I was old enough to do it) I can only imagine how affected the over-enmeshed parts of the family have been affected.
I was as well and started napping a lot just to get some rest in. I also was taking vitamins, multi, C,B, magnesium, Epsom salt baths daily, using Himalayan salt on my food, eating superfoods making suree I get omega 3 like salmon......going in nature...hope this helps.
Does anyone else feel when you do the inner work, you can sense when people don’t like you even when you have done absolutely nothing to them?
You show them a mirror of the work which they are not doing. So people react to you as a trigger. They see their own short comings.
@@SatumainenOlento Thiiiis.
Once in a while, I feel that nobody likes or respects me, so it would be great if I could know when that feeling is true.
Yes all the time 😅
Yup
I cannot stress enough how much writing and art therapy helps with this. Much love to all my fellow empaths. ❤️❤️❤️
I thank the Lord every day for directing me to the information I need. I'm going to get better.
Same here! And you said this a year ago. How ironic!
My mum is an empath. I never understood how she could be so patient, kind and supportive. Even after I’d behave like a brat.. I assumed she just had very low self esteem. I’m glad she got away from my narcissistic dad
Yes I’m an empath and had a massive stroke at 39. Now I’m cured. I’ll never put anyone but God ahead of myself.
"god" is a fairy tale. you're not cured
How can YOU tell anyone they're not cured? You are not very helpful and this whole video and thread is about being helpful.
"god" is fiction. just trying to help a deluded person.
prove the bible is actually "gods" word and Ill believe every last word verbatim. prove it.
God is many different things to people, depends on the person. El Cerebro I encourage you to explore different ways of practicing spirituality, it seems you have good reason to reject the one that was forced on you :)
YES!!
I was in a continual loop of 1/2 for 50+ years. This resulted in a total system failure. Bed ridden for almost a year. Had 3 Autoimmune diseases, on a cocktail of eleven Meds... wheelchair...
People, I beg you, listen to this angel!! He’s soooo right.
I’m grateful for my reset...I found meditation. Limited my diet due to lack of energy and detoxed without realizing it. I did a LOT of inner work... not much else to do. Im now eating sparingly, adding fruits and veggies, lots of water. Guess what?! NO more inflammation! Zero Meds. No more wheelchair. I’m building my strength & endurance. This feels like a slow mo NDE. My new life is amazing.
(AND, key...> I went no contact w the Abusive Narcissist. I nearly DIED because I was taught I had no needs, no self, didn’t deserve love. False)
PLEASE, I BEG YOU: Stop & listen!!
Kimand Linda I’m so glad you’re healing and getting better all the time. Many blessings!
Just discovered this, I have fibromyalgia, thyrodititis , IBS ect. I have changed my diet totally but financial and family problems are persistent and I am at total burn out level and at a point of wanting to give up. Dealing with a very bad flare currently find it difficult to know which way to go anymore.
Hey Linda. Thank you : )
Hello Marlene
Totally relate to your situation...
Suggest focussing on State of mind, Specific food and Subject experts.
#1 State of mind
Shanti i.e. Peace
How:
i) Music (soft soothing instrumental music... search on youtube) 10 to 30 mins 1 to 3 times a day
ii) Visuals (green forest, sunny pristine beaches, sunrise, sunset videos... on youtube) 10 to 30 mins 1 to 3 times a day
iii) People (Find peace loving (peacefully living) community (compassionate people)... shift for 10 days to 10 months and more)
a) Best immediate option for compassionate community: 100% Free 10 day Vipassana meditation stay (food and stay is free for 10 days. Spend the full day in peace.)
Seek further options from people at the vipassana center post 10 days.
For long term stay, search for following...
b) Search for Buddhist Centres nearby (highly caring and compassionate community on earth!)
c) Search for 'peaceful yoga ashrams in US, India, '... are sustained on charity / donations from affluent / free for those suffering / in recovery)
Following yoga will also make your mind & body free from stress and diseases
d) Search for a Church online: Stay with nuns (free)
e) Move to warm weather country side and pick up gardening there (best thing for fastest recovery from burn out & become lively)
Food #2
i) Search for anti-inflammatory food (See Fruits and veggies that the body tolerates. Also search for organic coconut oil and organic grass fed ghee.)
Take room temperature water rarely and Hot water frequently.
Filtered hot water.
ii) Search for microbiome, probiotics and prebiotics for IBS, online
iii) Learn about 'healing ayurvedic spices' and 'healing ayurvedic food.'
Support #3
i) Mind: Share your situation with Dr. Saad... See www.vitalmind.com.au
(His staff / he) May not have seen your comment here.
ii) HTMA: Dr. Rick Malter in US... www.malterinstitute.org
(From the video above by Dr. Saad...)
iii) For IBS, Fibromyalgia, Thyroid...
Search for 'Functional Medicine Doctors' and 'Ayurvedic Doctors'
See heavy metal and POP (Persistent Organic Pollutants) toxicity if you are / have been living in a city for a long long time.
If test is positive, detox.
And above all, stay cool.
God bless and all the best
More on Food / IBS issues... (for one suffering from intestinal discomfort)
If milk is a problem... remove milk and milk products from food plate for a short time
If fiber is a problem... remove fiber (fruits and veggies) from the food plate for a short time
If grains are a problem... remove wheat and wheat products (along with other grains) from food plate
If beans are a problem... remove beans from the food plate (soak and blanch before having)
If nuts are a problem... remove nuts and nut containing products from food plate for a short time (soak and blanch before having)
If non-plant based foods (eggs, etc.) are a problem... remove eggs, etc. from food plate
If chemicals are a problem... have 100 % certified organic food (or remove chemicals on skin to start with) and begin growing your own organic food
If fungal growth is a problem... remove sugar and sugar products (and white flours, room temperature foods) from food plate
take certified organic anti-fungal herbs
If bacterial growth is a problem... remove stale food (left overs) and room temperature foods from the food plate
take certified organic anti-bacterial herbs
along with (self made) probiotics and prebiotics
...and so on.
Have 1 type of food only, from above for breakfast, lunch, etc. (i.e. at one time)
and see body's response to the food
to find which food is the problem
Should there be any food deficiencies (medical tests show) ... minerals, essential fatty acids, vitamins (sunlight, bacterial, fat soluble, water soluble ones...)
...take supplements (for short term, IF needed) and fresh farm foods containing those vital elements of life for life : )
...And stay in 'rest digest' mode before, during and after having food (see Dr. Saad's video above for more).
I started life as an extrovert. Now 56 years later, and after several horrific relationships with narcissists, I too isolate. I find it difficult to interact with even non-narcissists including my own grown children. But good to see I'm not alone here. Thanks fam!
I never knew that being and empath could truly lead to me neglecting my own responses to stress and anxiety. Videos like this truly help me understand more about myself and how I can deal with my surroundings better.
I notice that when I'm upset due to heartache/stress my stomach hurts so bad it's damn near debilitating! I was in an abusive narcissistic relationship that became so bad, my stomach pain would tell me b4 hand that he was getting ready to argue with me over something petty. The stress of it all got so bad that I ended up being diagnosed with diverticulitis and thus has to have 2 feet of my large intenstine removed. This is all too real folks...when you feel mentally abused, it effects you physically as well. I now listen to my body when I encounter a toxic individuals.😢💔
Robyn same here
people do not realize how much this can affect physical health until it is acute! thanks for sharing your story.
Robyn I love your smile!
Yeah I feel you. I've developed IBS after staying in a dysfuncional/toxic house share. ❤🌻 Keep going x
Same here but my dreams tell me before hand how bad the arguement will be. I just don’t know when excatly it will happen.
I followed this video after a series of covert NPD and now I’m in tears. I have a fibromyalgia, I’m exhausted and I am highly sensitive and also am an empath. This is all making sense. I can’t seem to get away from narcissists, they follow me like white on rice. They’re all around me, family, friend, co-worker all in 1 person and I live with them. I know I attracted them, I just now how to learn how to set boundaries and be assertive.
iluvubb247 Believe in yourself & that you do not need any of those people. As soon as you believe you come first in your life, everything will change inside of you. No one can hurt you anymore.
I am HSP and after 22 years I realise i am with a covert narcissist at level 1 maybe going to level 2 and have had fibromyalgia twice in the last 5 years. Both times extreme pain couldn't use arms and recovered through exercise and second time through self healing meditation tapes so calmed nervous system. I did all the giving and he did all the taking. Didn't know anything about boundaries. Trying to leave and will when house sells. Please Spirit send buyer!
Sounds like you are describing me . Did you find resources that help?
Walking is an excellent way of releasing tension and stress in a quiet and peaceful environment
8 miles a day, not helping yet.
Hippocrates said walking is the answer to everything.
Don’t hike too much Michaelsmith5583, you end up producing stress hormones if you overexercise
I finally realized that my 99% of my health problems are caused by my narc mother sucking my energy all of my
life. I wish had these videos many years ago, I would have put some distance between my mother and I, as I
am doing now. I feel my depression lightening up, the pain in my joints is slowly easing off and even my round
the year allergies are not as severe. At 65 now, I can look back at the various illness, from migraines , allergies
and joint aches to bronchitis that lasted for month every year. And too many other illness that have come and
gone over the years to write here
.
I also acknowledge that this constant stress will eventually be my downfall if I don't acknowledge the cause and
effects to myself and act accordingly. That is to start taking care of myself. It's not easy to get free of the spider
web my mother has enmeshed me in all my adult life. I grew up surrounded by narcs. My grandmother, aunt, and
mother all doing their thing to each other and to us kids.
Now only my mother survives and for the last few years I have been wondering if I'm going to survive. At 91 I
don't know where she gets the energy to continue on with all her negativity and drama. I sure am worn out!
Being able to write my feelings down in these comment sections of the videos has been an enormous help in
putting things in perspective while digesting and incorporating this information. It is like a therapy to listen and
learning why the people in my life behaved as they did and still do in the case of my mother. I know I am not one
of a kind in having grown up in this enormously unhealthy kind of family dynamics. I have come to realize it is
trans-generational.
I wish that people had to have some kind of test for mental health before they decide to procreate and pass on
the traits that we are beginning to know as narcissism along with other kinds of personality disorders. There are
so very very many people suffering from the after affects of living with these people. I know they are mentally ill,
and probably will never get help. That is their problem, not ours, our time and efforts should be spent on recovery,
both in body and mind. I am happy to say, that is exactly what I am working on now.
I have reached burnout. You are truly waking me up to the truth of me. My deepest gratitude to you for explaining this to me.
My nervous system has been totally freaked out my entire life.
Same here unfortunately! (Humans have surely traumatized me)
I was born high strung. And now I have a grandson the same way. My three children, however, are calm and placid. Leads me to wonder what is genetic.
Same here, I have had chronic hives since I was 17years old. And it's because my body temperature rises, so heat,stress can cause my immune system to attack itself. Like my body is in fight mode all of the time.
Yup. I hear that! Lol.
this guy is a quack, a liar and a heartless manipulator. he's earning money by taking advantage of your empathy. if you want to cure yourself look no further than Aajonus Vonderplanitz (weird name I know) and the GAPS diet. I can guarantee you the guy in this video eats plenty of meat!
Wow! That's exactly what happened to me these past 3 years. Till I figured it out that I was married to a very abusive Narcissist man. I prayed and meditated so hard. And one day I woke up and got the heck outta there. I'm on my own now. Feeling positive. Sleeping so much better and the inflammation is subsiding. I am so grateful to have found these UA-cam videos and use them for research, healing and recap of all that I've endured. I'm now so empowered! Thank you❤
me too
I’m in your past situation trying to figure out an escape Good for you being so strong to leave!
Most likely, good meditation helped you.
Hello fellow empaths
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Hello nina and alexia!
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@@50shadesofskittles9 Hey Mickey 👋
@@destinyplummer3176 Hey Destiny 🤗
I just discovered your videos and I'm so happy to see a medical professional that takes care also of the spiritual side of this subject. Thank you!
Psychic Intuitive Guidance by Alexa Moonfall It's amazing. No medical professionals ever acknowledge empathy. At least in my experience. They usually just diagnose a non-existent "chemical imbalance" or "mood disorder" and prescribe harmful rx medications.(that do not work and never will) I gave up on the "industry" for that reason. How can a doctor or psychologist treat you for a physical disease they cannot prove with medical testing? No thank you. It is so wonderful to have found this man who understands!!!
Psychic Intuitive Guidance by Alexa
Moonfall
Melinda King I couldn’t agree more. Docs have put me through the ringer.
empathy is emotional and cognitive not spiritual.
okay but it's almost always used in the spiritual sense so to know that it has a science behind it helps a great deal
I would love you to do a series on self-abandonment. This is the core reason we end up in narcissistic relationships. It is the biggest reason we attract these people. 🙏
kidsmoked boy I swear I thought I was alone inside
And this is also your chance to shine baby Go for it
We don't attract them. It is not us, they are predatory aggressors. We are the prey.
I suffered from nervous system disorder as a child and adult. I am an empath, and as a child I had a narcissist mother. Thank you for the video.
He's 100% right about everything here. I don't know what I would have done without my Epsom salt and essential oil bath and candles during that time. It's like you're sitting still but inside your body is just vibrating like crazy. These help a lot
yes. me too
Wish this was available 30 years ago! Reaching exhaustion woke me up to what was keeping me stressed...family of narcs. Cut that way back and started focusing on me
Kathryn Nicholas - Hello there.
I can relate, having recently being forced (imploding) into the realization of my own narc family of origins true nature, having affected my initial 32 years of mediocre existence.
Ruinous Fiend Yes...and finding all that was not normal, which I knew, but couldn't seem to settle into my own life, or just feel balanced. Am starting that now. Hope you can too
Kathryn Nicholas -thank you, I appreciate your reply.
Perhaps you might find articles written by Phil Walker, of some assistance, I certainly have.
I feel you are a courageous individual, and wish you the best.✌🙂👌
Ruinous Fiend thanks. I'll look at his articles
Kathryn Nicholas -hey, my apologies. It's 'Pete Walker', not Phil. I'm sorry if I've caused any confusion.
My grannies used to call me, as a child, "high strung", "nervy", "different" even way back then, and I would sleepwalk, when nobody could understand me since I just didn't fit into my very abusive family system.. They said I was doing this deliberately to be obnoxious but the truth of the matter was that I really just didn't understand or couldn't understand how to fit in, feeling their disappointment & anger I used to wonder what was wrong with me. It was when I left home as a teenager to live with my grandparents that I began to bloom & blossom into my own person with my own value system. So glad you are doing this on-line work.
Thank you Mark.
So not being hateful is now labeled as being weird?! Yet they walk around saying peace and love but show actions of pure hatred. Now psychopaths are being given powers by the Police and "healthcare" State. Accusations are proof of guilt and facts are conspiracy theories.
Theh wanna bring .e down they dont like empaths thei are demons god help them and bless them
My grandparents called me very soft, sensitive, and different (they meant in a good way). I'm forever thankful that they positively acknowledged these traits because everyone else in my family either bullied, abused, or took advantage of me. My grandparents left me that little seed of self-acceptance that probably saved my life
@@ashleycnossen3157 excellent
Sooo many people get ruined by the narcissist simply because he alone was never satisfied in life.. Evil cycle. It's best to forgive and forget
You can forgive, but the minute you forget and let your guard down, you will be reminded with a shot of pain from the Narc. They don't change, even if you do.
@@cincyspin178 Exactly!
@@GIwillo Yeah, I guess you have to read between the lines.
Or she.
Sorry have to disagree something needs to be done about them I will never forgive or forget these people need to be bought to justice
The monsters of the world put doubts in our hearts. Be strong in knowing who you are what your weaknesses are and knowing your own needs.
This was my life four years ago, summed up in one video. I had to do all the research on my own to find out what was happening. Thank you sooo much for providing this for others, so they don’t have to go through the horror that I did. Much love from Arkansas, USA! 💖
congrats on doing the work. I, too, am doing a retro fill-in of the reasoning behind all the tools I've been using and behind all my behavioral changes over the last 4 years!! I find it even more subduing and calming to have it all explained. My brain loves it! Good luck in your journey.
Meredith Linden Thank you! You too!! 😁
Thanks!!
Me also last 3 years I couldn’t study fast enough Wow painfully truthful. Now I can truly navigate my life not the decades of white knuckling it with painful results.. No more 💪🏻🙏🏻❤️
Love Whyte I hear you. So glad you’ve been able to find the info you need too! 😁💖
Magnesium salts...Epsom Salt baths.
truly heavenly.
@@sunnydaze80 Yes
Wade Haden did you lie long enough in the Epsom salts bath?
Helps me renew energy so does clay baths.
@Wade Haden Take a loofah into the bath with you and exfoliate, that will remove the outer layer of dead skin cells and increase your absorption. You also have to use enough salts (I use 1kg per bath), and you need to soak for long enough, I spend at least 2 hours in the bath. I also make a simple paste from the salts, that will exfoliate your skin and get you a good dose of magnesium without even needing a bath.
Oh bless you for this info and advice. As a 68 yr old only now am I able to understand my troubled life as an empath. I've learned that soothing music is super helpful for me. Years ago, stuck in alarm mode, listening to Enya saved my life. Literally.
Joan Durham Joan please try GABA. Also 5-htp or Ashwaghanda. And as he said magnesium.
We have played Enya for years in our meditation centre. Was a nice change from all the Indian music. Both are soothing though.
Mantra's, & a Tibetan singing bowl, help you circular breath... & the stop the ripple that most empaths feel, inside house's. The energey of the past gets stuck in the corners of the ceilings. So we can be home alone and still have reaccuring emotional build up and have no clue where the source is coming from. The resonation is so healing and relaxing.
Narcs will push you to the point of exhaustion, then turn around and berate you for "letting yourself go". If someone is creating confusion or unrest in your life--please get away from them! Don't continue dating them, don't marry them, and please, for God sake, don't have kids with them!
When that was your parent i think not that easy
But why everone in narsistik side? Even religius one live narsistik, and harm me.
Too late for me. Now I know all this. Putting myself back together. Wish someone taught this type of stuff in school.
@@cindyski4413 Not too late but I understand how you feel and why you feel this way. Baby steps. Sending you love.
@@wuhaiyanpags9549 I know
I started magnesium supplements last week after watching this video. I am getting calmer and less on edge. You are a blessing, Dr. Saad.
I started to take the Ashwagandha herb a few months ago and wow did this improve my mode of being relaxed. This is some kind of miracle herb. I can highly recommend it, it is not a stimulant, so it will not make you addicted. I only take it when I work, during my days off, when I have enough solitude it is not needed. Not sure if you familiar with it. But it really helps - great for empaths. Absolutely great.
Psychology Pearls look into gaba as well! :)
Yes GABA. And 5-htp. But Ashwaghanda is an adaptagen that help cortisol levels. There are other adaptagens that help if you look it up.
There's the Indian Neurologist author says combine ashwaganda with bacopa monieri (brahmi) from ayurvedic tradition. The combo said to detox the brain and even help addiction recovery. Other adaptogens: rhodiola, ginseng, cordyceps mushroom. I have found 5 HTP just incredible for depression and anxiety from chronic physical pain. Way more effective and no side effects compared to ssris.
Ashwaganda heals the adrenals, which become damaged from chronic stress.
Thanks I kept seeing this and now I know why
I can't believe my whole life I have gone without knowing why my life is so chaotic. Recently I realized after your videos, my Mother is a narcissistic Mom, I am am only child daughter, my Dad passed in 08. I always knew I was an empath but I couldn't figure out why my anxiety is so bad, horrible bad. My husband thinks I could shut it off. It's through my whole body, my ribs are out of place now because my muscle tension. I need to find out how to tell my doctor about this and how to help me with this. Thank you soooo much. I am in shock I just found the key to all my issues. 💖
Lots of praise releases the body of bonds...
Hey, your anxiety is bad because it senses soulless beings (our planet is full of reptilians, parasites, and demons). I know it sounds crazy, but it's true if you end up opening your third eye and see what's really real.
Go to a cranial sacrel chiropractor not an md. If you want health
Get an Alpha-Stim and run it from foot to foot. Magic
I'm new here and found you by accident. I'm an empath and I was with a narcissist, and I went through these stages on a daily basis. Now I'm Free of stress with that person. I have my own boundaries now just learning of my gifts. I thank you for this video. I will follow thank you.
This gentleman is really outstanding. I have learned so much from his videos.. Amazing
Al Libowitz I agree. And he comes across more than just intellectual. He seems that he really cares about those he’s talking to.
@@mommabear5059 He is a giver, the very best that mankind has to offer, plus he is smart.
@@marylouleeman - I agree! a very wise helpful soul.
Honestly your one in a million
Appreciate you and your honesty and having the ability to help the spiritually wounded too!
Your a blessing
THANK YOU
for your time and efforts to the channel
I went to get a massage she said my nerves are all shortened. And asked if I've been to war. ... its from childhood
Wow!
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Same. 😥
Civil war in an uncival way.
I was told the same thing. I didn't think about it until you mentioned it.
As an empath, I'm so glad to have found this video. I'm in recovery after having spent 14 years married to Satan, a narcissist. On the flip side, I'm absorbing and reading others. I get really anxious and I feel like being alone. There's pluses and minuses to being an empath. Understanding and surrounding myself with like minded people is the best remedy. Sadly, this world is over populated with zombies.
me too, same
This Video is Brilliant Abdul. Just what Empaths and Survivors of Narcissistic abuse need. So important and so practical. Thank you Thank you Thank you!!!
Excellent, practical info. Thank you. I left the vampire but my nerves still need to heal.
This guy knows his shit. Love his very holistic approach combining physiology, psychology and spirituality but putting it into practical steps of action. Great dude 👍
Post-graduate level explanatory style is: logical, sequential, relatable and informative. Fills in ALL the missing blanks. Excellent source of relevant, usable information.
This is interesting because my experience has been somewhat opposite to what you mention around 2:30 - 3:00. Spiritual intervention directly dealt with my nervous system. I had to read the scriptures aloud and my mind and body would instantly respond to these truths.
me too
Me too reading out loud helped me greatly
I think you hit the “Divine Bullseye”, if you will, with your statement. You specifically mentioned SCRIPTURE. There are all sorts of “spiritual practices” including Christian ones, but you received the Living Word of God in your inner being and your body aligned with it. That’s the truth for our spirit, mind and body. At one point, for me, hearing Bible verses was the only thing keeping me alive. All the other spirituality, psychology and medicine were simply support or altogether hogwash. That’s my testimony. God bless you all ✝️💟
Great video
Never heard all my symptoms tied together
in a way that makes so much sense.
Been stuck in a loop of being overwhelmed,
lashing out, isolating, than a short period
of wellbeing. Followed by the next trigger
then round and round we go.
Very difficult to deal with if you don't know
why, so much self hatred, highs & lows.
Anyway hope this helps someone realize
your not crazy, and not alone the way it
has for me. Thanks
Seven years of narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, bullying and harassment in the workplace. The first was a 4-year stint at a hospital with a covert malignant narcissist who tormented me and finally pushed me out for some made-up lie. Next I found myself in a corporate job with another toxic narcissistic boss. In 2020 and throughout 2021 I was suffering from chronic stress and burnout because of the job and would find ways to nurse myself through it. I left at the end of 2022.The toll it has taken has been immense. I’m slowly crawling my way back and trying to rebuild my life. Thank you for this information. So helpful.
I moved near a river 3 years ago. The city built a walking path. Hardly anybody visits. I highly recommend all empaths live near a river it is healing. Everyday I walk near the river and I see the trees/plants/flowers/water. I hear the birds and other animals. I feel more connected to the Source and healed:)
i had no idea that being an empath, could cause health issues this explains a lot
One thing you didn't mention that was very helpful to me, similar to yoga is massage. Also box breathing/deep breathing and there's a ton of apps you can download and set reminders throughout the day to stop and deep breath for a minute or two. I found my breathing was naturally very shallow and the app helped with this, being more conscious of my breathing
Nancy B massage is the only thing that helps me...
Nancy B I never realized how shallow my breathing was until I started watching ASMR videos that remind me to breathe. I’m glad you’ve figured out what works for you too!
Nancy B i
I guess we can mention sophrology also? What about hypnotherapy? Chi kong... I tryed once some kind of circular beathing, lying on the floor. I'm still not allowing massages, silly of me because I would love it. It can deeply relax for a while.
Robert BOIS Shallow breathing saved my life. Asthmatic since a child, did BUTEYKO with Sasha, a Russian who had studied with Professor Konstantin. After that one week course I never took Ventolin nor any prednisolone again (1993, Jan) In 2018, now, it has been 25 years of feeling well physically) Please don’t breathe deeply, it is a path to physical destruction- SHALLOW and RAPID improves your oxygen uptake, chemical homeostasis will follow. Many, many benefits to shallow breathing. That was not one of your problems. That was your natural knowing, knowledge, STRENGTH. Lifelong learning is strewn with stepping stones, and lots of quicksand in between, 😃
Stage 3 for me is like being sedated, I'm not fully asleep but I'm not able to move. I have been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. I don't even feel stressed sometimes but the resistance part totally explains that. This is so amazing to have explained, no one understands or cares to be honest, but its a lack of understanding
One thing trauma gave me is an off switch. That has saved me from the worst damage from chronic stress, but flipping the switch back on is the trick.
Sarcasm and laughter has become my medicine when dealing with people who are nuts. Sometimes you have to just look at the elephant in the room and laugh. I have my flaws, but the narcissists in my life are PROUD of theirs.
I refuse to allow anything to manipulate my emotions anymore. I use my empathy for information, but I need to stay grounded in the reality that other people's emotions are not mine. I need to know myself to know the difference. Their projections fall off, ineffective, when I know myself.
I used to be an example of the symptoms on this video, but I.have learned the hard way how not to be easily manipulated.
I'm right there with you my friend. Unfortunately, I haven't been able to flip my switch back on for years. My fear is that I am eternally broken now.
I feel people's sad & desperate emotions. It's like I'm absorbing them. I feel panicky and nervous if I'm not able to help. And it really drains all my energy.
Dr Saad has other videos concerning these porous boundaries. You might want to try to look trough them.
Best wishes
I called them porous boundaries, I hope you don't mind.
Some think it is a character trait. But if it damages your life it should be looked at. Together with therapists, friends, pastors, whoever can help you change the perspective and maybe calm down, realize how you can react differently without betraying your true self.
Wish you all the best.
Omg I so needed this Today.Excited that Everyone is Learning from your Studies .Bless you 🙏🏻you are a Godsend🤓🙌🏻❤️
Who is this message from and whom are you referring to?
It hosts pops up on your feed when you need it. Your therapy appears to be the most therapeutic I have heard of in my life. Revolutionary.
This is alot of great information. Thank you so much! Living with a narcissist caused me to not be able to sleep for nights and days, not be able to hold a job because I was always tired and on edge. In addition I was having panic attacks constantly. The drama he was bringing to the relationship was constant, I never new what would be coming next. I was beign given pills from the doctor to be able to sleep and high blood pressure meds because my blood pressure was extremely high. I am now away from that person and rebuilding my life one day at a time.
Thank you for your excellent videos. I'm 67 , and just finally learning these things about empaths, and how being an empath has affected my entire life. This information is literally life changing. They explain so much that has confused me and complicated my relationships.
I esp appreciate your explanation of the stages of empath stress and the suggestions of how to self heal. I think I am currently in the third stage and your videos have helped me accept my instinctive need to seek rest and soothing. They give me the support and " "permission" I need to take care of myself. This in itself relieves my nervous system.
Please continue this wonderful source of education and support. Bless you!
I hope you all are doing well in these challenging days ✨
There are some great people online producing videos on this topic, but the key difference that you have a full physiological understanding, grounded in formal education, not just experience and some reading.
These videos are excellent! They describe my present state of existence...! I am in a total state of depletion and stuck on the freeze mode of CPTSD! I already have adrenal insufficiency... I’ve done grounding and the Wim Hoff Method! I was doing well very well.
Then I’m sabotaged again and again. I can’t believe the situation I’m in! I feel as though I’ve lost the battle. I’m 68 yrs old. A struggle with a narcissist at this age is much harder then before.
I do psychotherapy in California and I enjoy your approach tremendously. As an empath, I found myself dating a narcissist. I had exhausted myself doing more academics and I was experiencing the first two stages-but went right to exhaustion after only a few months dating him. He literally drained that much energy. We must also protect ouselves when in the first two stages...calming...and self protection.
Heeeey ABDUL !! …..I cannot express to you - how many things put me thro alllllllllllll these stages - for YEARS !??!
Anxiety attacks...Night terrors...upset stomach...stomach problems...memory loss from traumas, physical sicknesses and evil attacks from Narcs.
The doc put me on very low dose anti-depressants...I got WORSE ! So I kept going out and singing and fighting for the TRUTH about my situation. Some things are still going on - tho I trust GOD to FINISH THE JOB ! and He has healed me physically 9 times over the last few years, and lifted trauma off my spirit. I have been able to reach out and connect and help others - as I am MUCH stronger in all areas of my life now. The TRUTH - IS SOOO HEALING !! \o/ ;)
I am shocked at how accurate and informative your analysis is. No Dr knew what to do with me after I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia.
Of all the videos on UA-cam about Empaths, I find yours the very best. Not just empaths, but your overall knowledge of people and what they go through. So glad I found your channel.
This is me now...you are spot on...I’ve been at exhaustion and had chronic fatigue....slowly coming out of that by shutting down and grounding and not being around a lot of people....but the moment I have stress from other people I have an attack and can’t function complete exhaustion....to the point I can’t even walk.....and just want to sleep I know who the people are that trigger this now, so I find it all so interesting....thank you
firestarter I am exactly where you described! My exhaustion and fatigue I had been attributing to thyroid malfunction, but taking zinc and magnesium has helped, and I didnt even realize that I was shutting down and staying away from ppl just to feel better, then if I socialized at all I became so upset internally that it started making me physically sick at my stomach!( dry heaves mostly because of loss of appetite!) and my inside just jitter! Never seem to get rest even though I am worn out completely! thanks! Because of your comment I feel that I better understand what I need to keep a check on to keep my nerves calm
God Bless you for these videos - finally I can understand myself at 60 and recovering from Narcissistic abuse and childhood programming.
Thank you so much you are the first person talking about the importance of calming the nervous system among all ppl I have watched talking about Empath
My heart swells with gratitude for the life changing knowledge you provide us!
Currently suffering with burn-out and massive anxiety/stress. I stumbled upon this video at exactly the right time, and simply cannot thank you enough! Bless you my friend, and I look forward to watching all of your videos.
Thank you for your dedication to helping others. Love your work
Omggggg!!!! A clinical explanation to an empath and different stress levels!!?? Thank youuuu!!! 😢😢
I'm Blessed & guided to of found this channel. It's about time I figure out who and what I am and how to protect myself. I was becoming so sick, withdrawing had one so-called friend I allowed in my life...and my thought was "Energy Vampire," she would drain me and leave. But this time I had had enough after so many years of abuse. I don't know WHY I ever thought she was a friend. Just felt sorry for her and the life she lived. For the 1st time in my life I said enough! And slowly I'm feeling better after the blackest depression in my life...that almost cost my life. And then I found your channel ❤ fibromyalgia, bed ridden, drained and self isolation. Cancer, transplant and small surgeries after surgery. Proud to say that I'm educating & shedding toxicity. Just having a bit of difficulties w/the empath thing or ME having anything special/different about me.
I can't be more grateful that I found this video and that you do this work and research. I feel so much better knowing finally there are explanations and reasons for the many difficulties we face for being wired the way we are. All of this helps so much to know, and it helps just to know that there is help! Thanks very much for the great work!
I had fibromyalgia for more than 10 years. Cured it by ingesting Apple Cider vinegar for 8 months. Cured for 12 years now
I am an empath going through an experience with a narcissist and I find your information very helpful. Your efforts are greatly appreciated. Thank you kindly for your help.
U e offering such a serious service. So many professionals don’t even acknowledge us as real
I stay in the fight or flight mode because I work in a job where a person is attacked over the least little thing that is said and even when a person is doing the right thing. I’m tired of being in this mode.
It's so good you see this as triggering you. Workplace hostility and aggression is very real and prevalent, especially here in the U.S. You don't deserve it and you can make changes. Follow your heart.
Narcs are taking over the workplace. Pray my dear..don't run and don't allow them the stress u out. I had 6 major surgeries in only 10 years due to stress.
Run! It's dangereous I tell you!! (toxic)
I also had to leave numerous jobs due to narcissist bosses and silently getting sicker Please look for a new job Your Healing is Everything 💪🏻🙏🏻❤️
Find another job
Thank you, you’re an oasis in the desert of suffering; delving deeper than most on the subject of NPD & empaths!
Thank you for sharing the wisdom you’ve learned with so many.
Diana, from Oregon USA
You are a breath of fresh air and a number one explainer on the internet I have discovered so far of narcissism empath relationships thank you thank you thank you
Following your recommendations has not only helped me to recover, BUT now am a live and living life. Many thanks and much love to you.
Burnt out stage...Have already started on the 5 levels of healing following my intuition....Taken afew weeks but things are starting to turn around very slowlyt...Each day is different, I have some highs in between now...On other days struggling to even want to live.. .I know I can't afford to give up, need to keep moving forwards..Thank you, I know I'm on the right road to recovery at least...Has given me more hope things will start to get better n better for me....
Magnesium & zinc together is wonderful
I wanted to take a moment and thank you for focusing on the Empath here as most folks on UA-cam at least are so focused on the Narcissist that true support for the empath is not available. So much of what you have shared has helped way beyond understanding the narcissist. Once I got the narcissist, I wondered- "well what got me here" and I searched and searched. Then I found your channel! I just wanted to say thanks and encourage these videos. This is a general statement but it seems many empaths that have been hurt by a narcissist make it their mission to expose the "narcissist" but forget that they played a part too. It is nice to see a third party explain this because many are just venting about their experiences. Your channel is very helpful to me in my journey. Thank you!!!
Finally, someone who understands what it's REALLY like!
These videos are life giving. What if you grew up with a narcissist and your nervous system is chronically stressed even when nothing stressful is going on? I feel like I am constantly on rev.
I used art therapy with colored pencils and oil pastels. Images associated with the abuse are enlarged and scanned then the outline traced onto card stock. It really helps. Something simple like a portrait or place is all that's needed.
This guy really knows his stuff. Great videos. I have personally found almost all of his information to be true based on experience. 👍🏻
Was married to a huge man for 12 years who was physically abusive. Now married to a covert narcissist for 18 years. I have had Fibromyalgia for 15 years. Watching this as I feel I cannot continue living this life and need to get out of my marriage. Need advice. What I have found has really been eye opening. If only, we knew what to look out for in our teens. I am 49 years old. Thank you for uploading theses videos, they are invaluable. I need to listen to them over and over before I make my move.
I’ve studied the impacts of trauma for years. Being an empath and certified holistic nutritionist, I couldn’t agree more with everything you’ve said! This video is perfect for empaths, adrenal fatigue patients, and any trauma survivor. Thank you SO much for sharing all this wonderful knowledge!
Thank you so much, great information! Really appreciate your time and effort to help us with your free videos, they are so very helpful! 🙏🏻💗
Great video! I really appreciate your empath series and how you include nutrient and natural input. Calming music was also key in calming my body down during my worst stages of adrenal fatigue. Audrey Assad's music works well for me.
I know.. Love her music too..
Perfect timing (the google algorithms found this video and placed it on my read list - scary, though I am grateful!). I have renewed hope and am listening intently. Thank you. What a difference you are making!
Yes!!! This was recommended like a miracle!
Thank you Dr. Abdul Saad! I am in the “exhaustion” stage. You have helped me to know why I am lethargic but peaceful. From your teaching I understand that I need light to moderate exercise and magnesium. Narcissistic trauma caused this depressive state that I am in. I couldn’t figure out why I am sleeping a lot and not active, but in my bed all day, however, your teaching made it plain and clear. Thank you very much! May God bless you in every area of your life.
Peace, Love & Blessings, ☮️❤️🙏🏽
Jane🦄
Thank you for saying all the talking therapy in the world won't help you if you are stuck in chronic stress. That is my exact experience. I've been working on better nutrition to overcome chronic stress for nearly three years. Thanks for your videos. :)
We need more of your video doc.
Thank you and god bless you
My entire life has been under a lot of stress...with the result of illnesses that come & go...lots of pain...and it's still going on. I am learning all about narcs...and the stress they inflict on their victims. I am so tried...and only wish for some peace in my life. I will be 68 in Nov. So that is a very long time to live with high to low stress...from early childhood to now. But at least I have been learning the "WHY" of it all. So thank you to all these U-tube talks. They are really helpful . Knowledge is the key to trying to get to that place of "peace".
My nervous system has been an issue from a very young child ... and knew that I had to get away from my parents from a young age.
Invented stories in my mind that I was adopted..
Now I know that my family system was narcissistic... and the state that it left my mother who is also a narcissist and from a narcissistic family.
I am now relieved to understand my natural state called an empath.
Blessings
So validating and healing, thank you!!
Thank you, these are brilliant videos and information.
I'm actually feeling more relaxed just witnessing you.
Having recently being awoken(imploded),to my narc family of origin scapegoating?(recovering codependent?/empath?, ex-victim!), and the slowly increasing realization of the cruel and despicable extent their damage has affected myself and many others.
While I am currently experiencing a shocking, almost overwhelming increase in all forms of horrible narc/psycho gang type abuse. Your videos are indescribably helpful, once again thank you.
Thank you so much for everything here, fantastic! Vipassana meditation has been great for me since 1977. Deep breathing on a regular basis is fantastic. I love the sensation of smoothness in the breath coming and going, and I love letting go. I am just a simple everyday layperson. This meditation assists me to feel my real feelings and other sensations in my body on a regular basis and this in turn teaches me what to do for myself that takes care of me lovingly, the best I can at any time. Vipassana includes doing whole or part body scans, inside and outside. Whatever is not working well on the inside, eventually shows up on the outside, meaning my body, my skin and physical posture and spiritual posture.
I'm glad to find myself here. Btw I usually don't like people very much, this makes sense to me now. No one likes getting hurt, no one likes that feeling including the trauma and the setbacks that go with it. But I do like it when we work things out together and when it works out well. Enthusiasm is great, you can't beat it.
Excellent! 😊🙌 Exactly what we needed. I've got 3 generations of empaths who've been under prolonged extreme stress within the larger dysfunctional family system. (& I was the one who ran away from it all as soon as I was old enough to do it) I can only imagine how affected the over-enmeshed parts of the family have been affected.
I have become a big fan of siesta. Like a reset button
It is superhandy
Restorative. I am a big believer. Short ones, longer, any time.
I need help from this gentleman so MUCH!!!! I KNOW I AM IN THE EXHAUSTED STAGE. WOW!
I was as well and started napping a lot just to get some rest in. I also was taking vitamins, multi, C,B, magnesium, Epsom salt baths daily, using Himalayan salt on my food, eating superfoods making suree I get omega 3 like salmon......going in nature...hope this helps.
Thank you, dear Dr Saeed, for what you share with people. I am greatly blessed by your lectures. The real life knowledge, the wisdoms.
I love to hear a mental health practitioner taking a natural approach... thank you!