He’s not our flesh & blood but he’s our son | This Is Us: Families
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- Опубліковано 3 кві 2023
- What does it mean to love and raise a child who is not your own flesh and blood?
For the owners of Fluff Bakery, Syaira and Ashraf, their plan to start a family was disrupted when doctors found a pituitary tumour in Ashraf’s brain that affected the production of hormones.
After years of unsuccessful medical intervention, the couple made the life-changing decision to adopt.
This is a story of how two became three, despite the odds.
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Mad props to Ashraf for being so open with his fertility journey. Takes a lot of guts but these stories help to address that it doesn't always fall on the woman to conceive succesfully and also destigmatise infertility as a whole.
Yea i've heard of a couple where the husband got mumps when he was a kid and his family is one of those religious type who reject vaccines. The husband is now infertile and kept this from his family because he is scared of the family hurting but this in turn place alot of pressure on the wife because the family thought it's the wife's problem.
In the end they went adoption + IVF route.
It’s a bit weird that fertility is like a pride bs for people.
@@GeorgiaAndrea it’s excruciatingly weirder to be policing and judging what other people take pride in their personal lives.
@@Puuuurrrr If it causes hurt to the party that has fertility issue, then why are you supporting this toxic culture? I have friends whose marriage were destroyed because of this pride bs that has been going on for centuries. I just find it hilarious that people consider the ability to have children will make them woman enough or proves their manliness.🤭 And you think I am weird for policing this? 🤣
The sacrifices they did, especially on the milk child part…. Is really divine dedication. I wish them well.
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This couple made things happened. From broke to successful business owners, from childless to having a beloved son. There is a lot of inspiration in this story, thank you.
i would like to take a moment to commend them on being able to be so open and vulnerable to the public, especially about his health issue. it's definitely not easy opening up on health issues for everyone to know. very happy for this family, may they continue to be blessed in this life and the afterlife.
So heartwarming…they struggled and persisted together and now they have a beautiful son. He is adopted, sure, but he’s just as much, if not more, their son than any biological child. It’s the love, memories and sacrifice that go into raising a kid that matter, nothing else.
The story he knows best is not a fairy tale or a bedtime story
The story he knows best is his own story,and it's a different story for everyone,it's the one story everyone should know
omg Fluff Bakery is my all time favorite cupcake shop and I always make it a point to drop by when I am in Arab street area. This is such a heart warming story,
Regardless if you adopt and give a loving home to a child you are heaven sent. Every child deserve to have a home. Every child deserve a family
Omg thanks for sharing. What a great interview and it shows the beauty of Islam and how Allah gives everyone the ability to have your own children through milk child🥲
But only till the Age of 2, after that it doesnt count anymore as your Milk Child.
It is not just upto the age of two .
Once a milk child always a milk child.
Just to make sure that the child is breastfed by the mom before the age of 2 for about 5 time..
Then he becomes your mahram for the rest of your life.
SubhanAllah.
I love this story and I’m happy the lovely couple was able to adopt a child in need as their own. However, doesn’t your religion/ Muhammad forbid adoption (Zain/Zainab situation)? 🤷🏽♀️
@@chrissy9171 NO. Adoption is NOT forbidden in Islam. That's NOT true. In Islam, we are allowed to adopt children, show them love and affection, care for them as if they're our own flesh and blood, and provide them the best life they can have.
However, 2 things are forbidden IF you adopt a child which is:-
1- Changing the child's name/last name that their biological parents gave them and giving them your last name (basically erasing their past and their ancestry as if their biological parents never gave birth).
2- Lying to them and telling them and other people that they're your biological child and never revealing the truth to them.
Why do people have to bring religion into everything that is good, when humanity has nothing whatsoever to do with religion? Even gays, atheists, agnostics, etc adopt and give a child a life.
God has opened a door for the couple to adopt Noah.
Praise God. They do a great job raising Noah frm baby to a child.
Congrats, Ashraf n Syaira🎉
If they never shared this story and I just saw them, I would say this is their kid... Noah really does on looks of both his parents. God is always good. What they said is right, it doesn't matter if its blood or not. You want every child to do good and be good in our world.
What an eloquent, brave, and loving story. Thank you both for your honesty in telling this story.
Very sweet family and thumbs up for the parents who’d chose an open adoption so the child won face a bigger identity crisis when older.
Awesome couple. Just an awesome pair of husband and wife, and one awesome kid. I could only hope to face life challenges like they did. Hoping for good things for this family.
SubhanAllah he looks so much like both parents..
Noah is very blessed boy to have been adopted by such wonderful people. God bless ❤
Noah is so blessed to have you both as his parents. May he bring great joy to your lives. God bless your family❤
this is what you call a healthy relationship, great bonding and support within eachother 😢
I agree. It's unfortunate that this lovely couple cannot have biological children. However it must be said that immature couples have no business having children.
bullshit
It’s not easy to adopt a child and to bring them up into responsible adults. It takes a lot of love not only to provide for their food, lodging & healthcare & school education. It takes plenty of family love, understanding and gentleness yet firm to correct when the kid misbehave so that the child felt loved and able to trust the foster parents. May God bless both of you the wisdom, strength and love to bring up the adopted child.
Syaira.. You're amazing. And that you mentioned that actually your son gives you more than you do to him.. I feel the same with mine.. they have so pure love. ❤
The kid have their faces, my sister has an adopted son and my cousins were adopted,my cousins are like my sisters and weirdly everyone looks like eachother, in Islam adopted kid or foster kids prayers are really god granted. Seeing all this make me want to adopt someday.
It’s like people forget adoption is an option. If you can love then love, love a child who needs parenting, who needs someone to protect them. Blood doesn’t mean the bond will be perfect, nor does water mean the bond won’t live forever and be strong. ❤❤❤
All kids deserve love…. Wishing your family a life time of joy
This is so heartwarming, I teared up.
Such a heartwarming story. Wishing your family all the best ❤
Such a beautiful family.May Allah bless them with happiness and prosperity.❤
any adopted child is a child to the couple.....to be loved unconditionally
😭😭😭 very moved by their story. May Allah blessed you guys.
I take care of my adopted 17 month old granddaughter. She is soo precious and keeps us on our toes. If my son and daughter in law didn’t adopted her, how would she be treated by foster care families or other people. We love her and she’s in our family forever. I’m soo glad yous chose to adopt. These babies need a forever family to love them, forever.
Awesome to both of you…been there done that… we adopted two lovely kids. One of them with Cerebral Palsy, now 18. Our life turned 360 degree & its a blessing in disguise. Alhamdulillah.
Beautiful story - meant to be ❤
Mashallah I also adopted and he feels like my own ❤
Father and mother are those whom fed, clothed, housed, protect and showers you with love and life lesson. Others just a sperm and womb donors.
So 4 years ago i met a mum at my local children centre an ordinary mum until she said she adopted her babie girl and i fell in love with her heart ! We became besties! Shes my sister ! She’s beautifull inside out ! Her daughter is a perfect copy of her ! Once i said shes so lucky to have you and she goes nope we are blessed to have her just like this couple said ! Theres so many beautiful people in this world and those who adopt and love and care are very special to my heart! Why am i even crying 😅
Good decision to let him know as soon as he can understand :)
Their journey is so incredible. Just a beautiful story and really heart touching. May Allah preserve their marriage and bless their family.
I recalled a quote from the movie Lion (2016) which is so impactful that it stayed through me up till now regarding adoption "The world has enough people in it. Have a child, couldn't guarantee it will make anything better. But to take a child that's suffering like you boys were. Give you a chance in the world. That's something."
This story is definitely heartwarming to watch and I have no doubt they are great parents to young kid who are blessed with kindness from brilliant couples. Good luck with future 😊❤
What a beautiful journey. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 I wish nothing but great things for them. Noah is so loved. The way they had the courage throughout their journey, just amazing. Thank you for sharing. 🫶🏽💝
Best wishes to the couple and little Noah. May Allah swt bless them with lots of love and happiness ❤
Noah and Ashraf looks alike ❤ Allah is great,He rewards both of them for the patience and gave Ashraf a replacement for whatever sufferings he went through. anyway we all love Fluff Bakery too! ❤
Very beautiful family
Proud of this couple very open n honest .....all the best n take care of the great love that you are blessed with now .,.good luck to you both .. biological or adopted kids need love just be generous with the emotion ..
Even tho I don’t know who these people are. This story made me shed a few tears. May Allah almighty bless this family abundantly 💙
both of you are so strong! so very brave and loving, march thru together in ur future challenges. hope u are granted health and sabr in all your life challenges.
May Allah protect your beautiful family 💞💞 he's your son in every way alhamdulillah
What an inspiration. Thank you for sharing ❤
Congratulations on your beautiful boy. I hope your Ramadan was a beautiful one with your son and family. I am not Muslim, however work in an Indonesian school and love the children, parents and teachers.
Love and hug him parent...every single minutes
Both parents and child are god-sent 😢
Beautiful family. I wish them nothing but the best.
What a beautiful couple (& now family) - they are frank & generous with their experience. They know how to love ❤️ 🙏🏽❤️
This is so beautiful ❤ Noah is such a cute child and the parents are so kind and patient :)
Thank you for sharing your heartfelt tale. I wish your family many many happy years ahead!!
Happy to see them growing old together as a family
THE BABY IS SOOOOOO CUTE❤❤❤❤❤ this family has good parents god bless them❤❤❤❤
Amazing Testimony and thanks for adopting Noah
This was so precious. Thank you and all the best in everything. Ameen
MashaAllah this family is so adorable.
Awesome sharing about the difficulties of your journey in getting your own child but nevertheless your selflessness gave Noah a nice life and someone to care for. I applaud both of you. I will support your bakery even more now that I knew about the struggles that you both had been through
Your are kindness couple, Blessing from Almighty will bless your family.
Wonderful story! May the family be divinely blessed ❤🙏
Surely the good Lord will bless this family now and forever more.
so precious ❤
God's grace and mercy is here people.
This is the most beautiful thing that I’ve seen today ❤❤❤
This is wholesome to see!
Noah looks like them , is fated . Gods gift . ❤️God bless
so amazing congrats on your family .
Masya Allah. ❤❤❤❤❤ May Allah bless the family always. Aamiin.
Thank you for sharing your journey of choosing adoption: this will inform and encourage others.
And there are so many orphans on Earth who need loving homes. We're all connected, but until a child has a family, there is an emptiness in their hearts one can only imagine.
Blessings to everyone on the path. ✨
Noah was decree by Allah to be your son.. A blessing indeed from the almighty..
Messenger of Allah (SAW) stated "Whoever caresses the head of an orphan (in affection), solely for the sake of Allah, a good deed will be written to his account for every hair over which he passed his hand, and whoever treated an orphan (boy or girl)
with goodness and kindness, he and I will be close to each other in Heaven
as these two fingers" The Prophet (SAW) made a gesture with his fingers as explained it.
Allahoumabarik fihouma, May Allah bless this family. Beautiful (specially beast feeding)!🌸
Masyaallah.. inspirational.. beautiful family.
Blessing from Allah to the family ❤
Such a beautiful story.the mum is so selfless.❤❤❤
I’m adopted and was told from before I can remember. Their decision to do the same is absolutely right.
Wonderful story, wonderful couple!
What a lovely couple 💖..more people like these lovelies, in Malaysia please 🙏💕
Love this story!
Allahuma barik. May Allah bless this family.
thank you for the story.
I'm surprised you haven't adopted again already. Two years are the best times to adopt and there are a lot of children who need loving homes.
Thumbs up to the girl as the defect is in the guy yet she supported him and guy too it's great to acknowledge the problem lies with him otherwise most of the men even if problem is with them they blame the women for everything.I admire him for his sincerity and the girl is true as she stood by him in his sickness too and didn't leave him though the fault is him for infertility.May god bless them three with all the happiness in the world . Marriage means in sickeness too to be with each other and support and care for each other not abandon in times of need🙏
Beautiful story and beautiful family. 🥰
Such a sweet couple and family
❤❤❤ BarakAllahu fikum
Wow, beautiful story.
❤Oh he is so cute lucky him and lucky parents🎉
This is one example the various definitions of family. Ultimately it is about loving, caring and supporting each other.
PAP needs to stop using their strict and outdated concept of what defines "a family."
All kids deserve parents, but not all parents deserve kids....
Fluff bakery..omg they make real good stuff..Their smores, the trés léche cake..i once had too much in 1 sitting to the point where i had a headache..it was that good. Dying to try the snickers cake soon..
Ashraf thank you so much for being so open about your infertility. For so long it has just been assumed that women are at fault when a couple can't conceive. May Allah bless you and your beautiful family ❤
Such a heartwarming story. Thank you for sharing. I'm also trying to apply the open adopting to my son, but my environment suggests the other way around. Would love to connect with you to have a mutual/support system,, ❤❤❤
May ALLAH bless u n ur family always bro..
mother is not the one who gives birth to the child only, but those who raise it
Subahanallah may Allah bless you & family the best of this dunya & akhirah 🥰
Ameen 🤲🏾
Its an excellent experience to adopt a vhild n nuture n love the beautiful child ...
I could nt conceive for 10 yrs but my husband had issues with adoption cos he was adopted n told about it
In his later age, he was told by other family members
Now im going thro the consequence of his adopted parents decision...
Its a hard life ...plz inform ur adopted kids who their real parents r ...
God has given u a blessing ...if they want to leave after knowing the facts ...let them
🙏 This is such an inspiring Real Life Story that is so Heart Warming indeed! Noah seems to be a Correct Chosen Name , since he unites many people of different Ethnicities , Faiths , Gender , Nationalities , Social Status , the Clothes they wear or the Foods they eat through his parents' Cupcake Shop! Noah looks a bit like Daddy Ashraf , with the spectacles & all! 😅 🙏 🌷🌿🌍💜🕊