My final days with cancer: Completing one last project with mum & dad | This Is Us Families
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- Опубліковано 17 тра 2024
- #singapore #cancer
Faced with imminent death after a cancer diagnosis at age 36, Chia Rong Liang resolved to make up for lost time and reconnect with his ageing parents.
Chapters:
00:00 - “Is there anything you’d like your mum to know?”
01:14 - Getting lost in the rat race before cancer
02:56 - Fashion for Cancer 2023
04:03 - “We’ll just be here for him”
05:26 - A modelling crash course
06:29 - The pains of cancer
07:18 - One last event with mum & dad
09:36 - “I love you"
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Dear all, thank you for watching. My interviews with Rong and his parents were some of the rawest I’ve had. Rong’s openness and honesty allowed us to navigate complex and uncomfortable realities about his life, his suffering, and his relationship with his loved ones. And when I started to wonder if it was all too much, Rong thanked us for asking the difficult questions.
He kept it real throughout and made me realise that the hard truths and imperfections in life and love are to be embraced, not feared nor avoided. And so I sought to tell his story in the same way.
I hope that Rong’s story inspires something in you like it did with my crew and I. For us, it was a reminder to love and live fiercely and fully.
Take care!
⁃ Denise [Producer]
Thank you. It is a beautiful story by Rong, his family and MothershipSG
Heart Touching… You could have done a better job in highlighting also the Waste , Fraud & Abuse that are largely Profit Driven by Health Care Professionals, Big Pharma & Our Malfunctioning PAP Government…. If SG Government has nothing to hide , then Pass Legislation to Offer Whistleblower Protection & Whistleblower Rewards for Crimes that Often Covered Up like Financial Scandals , Corruption etc … then Watch Heads Roll …😊
Thank you Denise
I hope the mother knows that we would all love to have a mother like her.
I am so very sorry for the loss of this lovely human being. Thank you to his family and Rong for allowing us to share in his life. An honor. May he be soaring in the heavens. XOXOXO
As a cancer nurse, this video made me shed so much tears. No more pain, Rong. Rest easy. More power to the parents to continue raising awareness for this disease.
Cancer is cruel I’m a survivor myself! I pray for you ❤
how do cancer patient really die? are they in pain? do they suffocate?
At 53, my husband was diagnosed with End Stage Liver cancer on 1/2/23 with 1-2 months prognosis (he was healthy as a horse, hence the shock with the diagnosed). He passed on on 18/7/23. Thank you, God, for giving us 5 months instead of 2 months to cherish with him.
Stay strong, Rong's family 🙏
At 53 , too young,p. RIP,sir n may you, Yang, find comfort in the Lord.
Sending my hugs
@@missMaryChanChansend funds not hugs
I’m so sorry for your loss ma’am
What cause of his liver cancer ? Mam if you dont mind
I can't agreed with Rong more. The moment we are born, we are just like a dripping tap. Cherish each and single day, because we never know how much water is left.
I truley believe that ppl with terminal diseases and severe handycaps etc are enlightened souls come to teach the world compassion and unconditional love❤
This mother had good intentions, she so wanted her son to live. The sad reality is he pushed through this for her, when clearly he was losing his battle. I see myself in her, as I kept pushing my brother when he was clearly dying, when I should have been supporting him in his final days. But I loved him so much, I could not bear the thought of losing him.
Yes, I think this is common. I’m not judging mom, but I did this also with my parents-trying to hard to keep them alive but extending their suffering. With my mom, it was actually a doctor who spoke to me and encouraged me to let her be and let her go.
I caught that dynamic as well, and yes no judgment when you are not in someone's shoes. I did not see this was his final wish, but rather hers.
I also pushed my mom to live when she was dying of stage 4 colorectal cancer. She passed away in Oct 2020. I still feel guilty for that.
Cancer is a cruel disease. My dad had pancreatic cancer. One week we were literally crying with joy because he gained weight and was doing good. He was so proud of himself. Then the next week we were crying with sadness because he lost so much weight and was going downhill fast. My dad only lived 4 months after he was told he had cancer.
Love you dad, miss you very much. Rip Rong.
🙏🏽❤🕊️
My husband lasted 3 days. I still haven't recovered from the shock
@@sharondelissa Thank you
@@marioncannon9924 I'm so sorry. I will be praying for you and your family.
I work as a hospice nurse & our main objective at this time is quality over quantity of life, to alleviate suffering & to navigate the family through this final phase. I wish Rong all the best on his final journey & peace to his family over this loss
I was born on February 11, 1985.
With a rare disease.
After having a PhD in Economics, working in my branch, having a good job, I got ill and it got even worse.
I was on a sick-leave since October 2017 and officially entered my disability pension in February 2023.
A lot of things happened. From a ''one-step-close-to-death'' experience to period of smiling.
My mum and my dad have always been there for me.
I was crushed seeing the outcome.
I wish you a peaceful rest my friend
I am a stage 4 terminal pancreatic cancer patient and can relate. I was given 6 months to a year. It was an immediate diagnosis... There was no progression.
It has been over 3 years and I am still fighting on. It's extremely difficult and intense... I managed to see my vegetative Dad off after he fought for 10 years.
I am holding on for my little girl who nearly died just before my diagnosis, my beloved who entered my life after my diagnosis and divorce, and my family...
R.I.P Rong.
i wish you the best. please push on! i’m a cancer survivor and i hope this disease does not affect more people.
no doubt going through chemo and operations is really tough. i hope you can push through this!!
Don’t give up, continue fighting!
Sorry in advance as I'm not the best at words but just wanted to say stay strong and fight on guys, you're able to do this - give it your all.
Yes I know my aunt was fighting the same thing but she was only given a year to live. Lots of hugs to you my friend you're fighting a tough battle. 💪
So sorry to hear of your divorce. Hoes always leave nowadays...
As someonw who study hospice càre....a patient who choose not to take chemo is NOT giving up. They make peace with their decision. But of course everyone else has a way to motivate their love ones. They want you to be around longer so that they can spend their time with you. No easy way around this. My dad has cancer and rhe thought of seeing his go is tough.
My friend too gave up chemo and passed on a few months later ...
Better to pass on than to live miserably with all the side effects
My daughters died two years ago from pancreatic cancer. She chose to live her last months without chemo. It is a hideous way to die, she weighed 29 kilos when she was finally free. Bless all of us who have to watch our loved ones suffering. Support any research into freeing the world from cancer, . Best wishes to you all, thank you.
@@Mew77778 quality of life is so important. i have seen numerous Cancer patients have a prolonged life, with immense suffering. To me, that is not living. I would rather have a good quality of live, however short that maybe.
@@churchofpos2279without chemo you'll lose an intense amount of weight. My aunt passed on looking all skin and bones. Really broke my heart
His mom is very sophisticated and elegant they way she carries herself in this trying times
She's a beautiful lady
Chia Rong Liang You are a strong man.
A strong character.
A persisting mind.
A good man fighting his regrets.
beautiful
I am going to say something very different here, which is also a sincere Blessing from me .....
Life is a package of birth and death
Like a coin with 2 sides, it is the most natural process which the sooner we accepts it, the faster we are free from pain, worries, stress ... etc.
When we learn to truly let go of things not meant to be and that we cannot control, and instead take comfort in appreciating how brave we have been, how peaceful we are with ourselves and everybody else, for forgiving all those whom had offended us in our life and proceed to share our care and wealth with those even less fortunate, we truly become Free..... Free from insisting, free from sadness, clingings, free from burdens, just Freedom.
Have walks with ourselves regularly, feel that breeze, feel trees, feel your peace.
The sooner we achieve these and realise that we have always been complete without asking for more, it is already a full life.
🥺🥺♥️♥️♥️
This resonated with me. Thank you for your words.
Gut wrenching to read that Rong passed on. Rest in peace. Mum n dad you raised an awesome person plus you both are too. Respect.
RIP Rong, a fighter till the end.
Bless his parents. Unless you’re in that situation, no one can really understand what they have & are still going through in losing a child.
Amen.
My dad had pancreatic cancer, it’s one that not many people talk about but it’s brutal and painful. My dad fought hard for 5 years and passed at 56. I’m so sorry for Rong and his family.
*hugs*
My best friend lasted 5 months and she was gone, 5 years wow.
@@kimhickman9210 he was so lucky it was caught early and was able to have the whipple procedure, he was able to have treatment and went into remission but it came back with a vengeance. we had a family friend who got diagnosed and died 3 months later.
@@kimhickman9210 Sorry for your friend.l lost my friend when she was 14 to ovarian cancer in 1977 .l think about her every day
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What great parents. They gave him a happy life filled with love and they should be proud
I hope they know that there are millions sighing to have parents like them.
What a loving mother. Power to her.
Her subtle desperation when he mentions he's considering stopping chemo. She so wanted him to continue fighting but respects that it's his decision.
His mother is a beautiful lady in every way. 🙏💚💛🧡☘
RIP Rong, you fought hard, thank you for being so honest through such a hard time. Now you are pain-free!
Reality check for all of us. Remarkable courage, RIP Rong.
2 years ago, I lost my brother to pancreatic cancer too. He was 46. Rong's story resonated so much with me. Such a beautiful soul and thanks Mothership for featuring the story.
Such a great idea his mom had to have this fashion show. Moms are so amazing. They really try to relieve our suffering in any way they can. God bless moms. Praying for Rongs family and loved ones as they grieve his passing.
I fell for Rong, he is a beautiful soul, and though I never knew him personally, him sharing his fight, and his inner monologue with us, through his hardest time, I felt honoured. I hope you have found peace on the other side Rong x
His parents must be so proud of him. What a lovely, intelligent and strong man Rong was. A wonderful son, they raised him well. Life is so cruel 💔
RIP Rong you are loved! Comfort and peace to his lovely parents.
I lost my dad to lung cancer years ago. Non smoker, loved to exercise, and non drinker as well. Ate healthy...mom's cooking...sure he had his coffee and his eggs sometimes at the diner but overall he had a healthy lifestyle. Yet he didn't make it. It was a tough loss for the family. For me.
I wonder about modern medicine and the supposed advances we made. But I still see so many people suffering from disease and dying...especially from cancer. It's the 21st century yet I really feel we are still so primitive in treating illnesses. And the cost...don't get me started on that.
I hope mankind can make real major advances in diagnostics and treatments. I truly hope so. We as humans deserve better.
the government will always incorporate population control. all the processed food and drugs that we ingest are what kills us
Its almost impossible to reduce the cost of medicine etc
Unless we allow human experiment to speed up the process+add more accuracy
Technology can advances fast=because u can test it with so many resources
Just like food,u have enough ingredient to experiment with and speed up the evolution
But it's different with medicine,most of our method directly linked with animal experiment,and in most case it wont work the same in human because of different genetics etc
And the cost of each experiment is bigger than before,that's the problem
So the cost of medicine/etc wont be cheap unless we allow 'human experiment' without moral
Rong, his dad and mum are such beautiful people. Rong is strong and loving, he had shown us what strength is in the midst of one's worst crises in life. May he rest in peace.
my dad just passed away 4 days ago and it was dreadful to watch him deteriorate from liver cancer. watching these documentaries help us remind ourselves that we are not alone in these situations. we live, we suffer, we die and it will happen to each and every one of us.. condolences to Rongs family, the grievance will live through but trust that we will all reunite when the time comes.
Bless you.
@@em945 I second that
I'm sorry about your dad.
Sorry about your father my friend. My father passed away 10 days ago to Gallbladder, and liver cancer. I know what you are going through, and its tough... Sending my love and condolences to your family. No more suffering for our parents. They're in a better place looking after us and living within our hearts now :)
@@alcal2605 thank you.. it was really taking a toll on him. it was a painful journey for us to watch, let alone them carrying that terminal illness. My heart goes to u and ur family.. it's nice that we have communities here sharing our experiences. All along i felt very lonely in this situation, your comments make me stronger.
RIP Rong. I saw his story last year. I didn't expect the gut punch at the end. He died three days after my 41-year-old husband died. My husband was diagnosed in June 2022. Sending my love to all his loved ones ❤
Sorry to hear that.
Oh this is heartbreaking, you can see the love they have for their son😫😫
It's so sad to hear of Rong's passing. Prayers for Rong and his amazing family.
I remembered watching Rong on a Green Renaisance video..I was so moved and inspired by his candid and brave account of himself, his willingness to share his journey with such dignity and strength was a testament to his personhood, such a fine man and human..His parents are so proud of him and such wonderful people, I send my deepest condolences and admiration for their beloved son..RIP Rong🙏💛💐
i can’t say anymore just that how the dear DAD is feeling SO MUCH yet he is holding himself back not to breakdown infront of hid ailing child. such a typical yet loving man ❤
It's not a matter of "stopping the fight" or "giving up." It's a matter of reaching a place of acceptance. In my opinion, that takes a great deal of courage. For others who are not the ones with cancer to demand that you continue to fight and not give up is stressful and not their choice. Wanting a terminally ill person to "keep fighting" is to console them, not the patient.
I'm a stage three cancer survivor, fifteen years this month since my diagnosis. I was fortunate, I survived... but I live my life knowing that every day is a gift and the odds of it happening again increases with every year.
Sometimes part of the journey is recognizing that it's the end of the journey. I wish all those who face this... peace.
I agree wholeheartedly with you.
What a deeply touching video. What a beautiful soul Rong was and- wow- his parents! Such loving and devoted parents & mum is a real beauty. R.I.P Rong ❤
RIP bro… thank you for staying strong and thank you for being part of our lives.
Ive worked with Yan last year, what a beautiful and soft-spoken lady, i never knew
So much emotions invoked after watching this. I pray and hope that Auntie and Uncle will be able to cope with their grief and be there for each other, and that time would heal a little bit of their pain. Know that we are supporting you and rooting for you.
Rest in peace, Rong. You fought and you've won.
May Rong rest in peace😢. It has been touching. Rong put up a goos fight. To Rong's parents, please stay strong and be in good health always.
Lost my eldest aunt ten years ago due to pancreatic cancer then lost another one last year due to lung cancer. Both are worst types of cancer only managed to survive a year. They didn't do chemo either coz they're too old. Treasure your loved ones ❤
😭😭😭 May Rong rest in peace and reborn in his next life. Hope his family stay strong! Thank you for sharing Rong's story Mothership
Brave young man.. what spirit he has, what compassion
You have been brave in your fight. RIP Rong.
the final picture with Rong and his Mom makes me cry. I lost my sister on 5/29/2023. She was 37 when the cancer took her away from us. Too young. I missed her every day.
Bringing me back to tears watching this video cause it reminds me of my daughter that passed away in 2019 with pancreatic cancer so young she’s only 27yrs of age and still now im still coping with the fact of losing her so sad and emotional with the parents and all the people out there that’s been affected by these kind of illness may the Lord comfort and heal us all in every situation 🙏🏾
I am so sorry for your loss. Although I have not lost a child to cancer, I lost my Mom 11 years ago to brain cancer. There is a hole left in my soul from her absence. I have memories and stories so I talk about my Mom so that they won’t forget her and the imprint she left in their life. 🌺
Watching this made me emotional... My mom has cancer and i'm petrified. She is the strongest and bravest woman i know, she's my dragon lady. I don't why i'm afraid... Am i afraid that she might be in pain and wont tell me or im afraid that i will be in pain if she wont be ok... I always feel bad for families going through this but the pain is not even close if one of ur family is going through it.
Rest in peace Rong..... Your smile and fighting spirit will always stay with us.
I have lost my brother (lung cancer), auntie (thyroid cancer) and father (tongue cancer). Till this day, I always tell people "take care of your health, do things that give you bliss and decide for things that you will never regret for doing or not."
i like to think the ones that have gone from our lives, lived theirs fully and responsibly. its just Life , till the very end of it 😪
This is too painful but necessary for us to understand what this disease caused physically and emotionally. May the Lord grant you all peace. Rest in eternal peace Rong. Thank you for inviting us in to observe
Its very heartbreaking to see the perents…
Im so sorry for the loss of rong.
He seems to be a really cool guy.
RIP Rong... we share the same birthdate..
To Rong's parents.. be strong and live life as how Rong will live..
Amen.
GOD bless this family and one day they will all be together again. 🙏❤❤❤
Lost my brother & mother to pancreatic cancer, lost my brother first & then my mother RIP Rong
Eternal rest grant unto Rong, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May he rest in peace. Amen.
Rong’s fighting spirit remains with us for a long long time….may your soul be blessed abundantly. God loves you.
Condolences to the family. Rong has been strong and I hope the fashion show will continue to rise awareness for all cancer patients.
Thank you Rong and family for sharing your story...my deepest condolences to the family. Rest in peace🙏❤
I can’t stop crying. This was a powerful n sad video. Rong your words and memory will live on forever. Prayers and love to Rong’s parents. Thank you for bringing awareness n thank you for this video ❤️🙏
Wong you are a inspiration to many cancer patients out there you never gave up the fight you did so well. Take it easy over there 🙏
Looks like he was a really cool guy. My condolensces to the parents. May he rest in peace.
Know of his story 2 weeks ago through OGS Our Grandfather Story channel. May his parents feel at peace after his passing.
So heartbreaking so see a person suffer like this. My condolences to his family. Peace be with you.
How devastating, my best friend was diagnosed few months ago and I only found out today and you have no idea how much I have cried. 😢
😢what a loving beautiful family 💝 this hit home. RIP to there brave handsome young man 😭
My thought are with him. As a breast cancer survivor- I feel his pain, and my prayers will be for his family 🙏😩
RIP Rong - hope you found the peace you sought in the end.
Rest in peace Rong, you stayed strong and was a fighter until the very end, you can rest well now.
Beautiful. Precious. Thank you..❤
We lost my mum in July last year. What I regret the most was she fought through the way despite of having to take care of my bedridden grandmother. It was when covid started to hit us and my so called pious relatives did not care to come and help us that much with reasons like they are afraid of covid and whatnot. Imagine my mum having to take care of my grandmother alongside my dad, I really despised them after we lost our mum. My mum was a survivor and her cancer relapsed probably because of the stress she had to endure while taking care of my bedridden grandmother.
R.I.P. Beautiful soul xxxxx
My condolences to Rong’s family. Thank you for sharing this video.
Thank you Rong for your life
🥹 Our deepest condolences to Yan, Rong & Family 🙏🏼❤️
Beautiful documentary. Many thanks to Rong and his parents for sharing his journey with us. ❤
What an amazing braveheart! God bless you in heaven Rong....much love and prayers xxx
you and your family gave me encouragement to start my day in a new way and live differently , like how Rong pointed out - half full ❤
it’s full but not empty ok? ❤❤
Eternal rest grant unto him O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May his soul all the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.
Amen.
I look at Rong and he could be me, the tattoos...I watched my father, my brother,my grandparents,my mother,my friends all be taken by this disease....I am 57, a single dad of 2 small children in a developing country, now my childrens last grandfather who we love of course is in stage 4 lung cancer....I feel like it's a reaper just behind me and all I want is my children to grow up before it takes me.
I will pray for this family.
What a blessing to have beautiful parents and a beautiful son, thanks for sharing your story.🙏🙏🙏RIP Rong
RIP Rong. Rong family be strong and take care ...........
Sleep in peace king!!! Prayers to ur family
May God bless.
I couldn’t finish watching as it reminded me too much of my late sister. Sending my love to Rong’s parents. RIP Rong…
I am sad yet, honored to have found your video in my feed. I will go back and jump down the rabbit hole and catch up. I'm so sad that you was dealt this horrible hand of Pancreatic Cancer. Your family is so Great. You are a Brave and Strong Man. I will now keep you in my Thoughts and Prayers and wish I'd have found your channel sooner. Your mother is Beautiful & Handsome father...know where you get your great looks from. Thos is a very painful disease and Rong, it takes many too young. Please know and feel the Love from all your subs here on your channel. Love the Cup half Full way to live...I also live this way. I'm in last stages of COPD & live on oxygen 24/7. But, im still Blessed. Prayers and Hopes for no pain...Bless All.❤️🙏🏼
Shit cancer sucks a huge one! Grrrrrrrrrr.. i hate it so much. Poor frikn guy and others and me and my family and uhhhhhggggggg. Prayers and new advancments in medical treatments are needed. Im on the prayer part. ✌
Reminds me of my late dad, choosing to fight against the big C when the odds are so against them.
My condolences to the parents 🙏🏻
Thank you for raising awareness with this video. Rong you are the Man. May you rest in peace
You have such serenity and peace. I am stage 4 endometrial cancer clear cell in my third year. I am blessed with the doctors I have as I am working full time and am functional.
Really appreciate Rong n his family love for him n support n their sharing awarding the world Abt cancer n how to live life to the fullest even while battling thru till the final. Fighting!!!❤❤❤love u guys
So beautiful. RIP Rong, your life has touched many others
Rest in peace and love of God, Rong
Cancer taken away many people we love, Rong keep fighting and all best wishes to you.
This video was very hard to watch, I saw the other one first and felt really sad to see this. My mother had breastcancer but luckily she recovered and is doing well. I cannot imagine through how much pain rong went, his words touched me very deeply emotionally and I feel very sorry for him. At least, he is in no pain anymore. My condolences go to the parents, I think it’s actually great what rongs mother has done with the catwalk and I wish them much strength.
May The Lord bless you and keep you; May the Lord make his face shine on you, and be gracious to you; May the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.🙏
I’m so sorry and truly sad for Rong and his parents, absolutely heartbreaking.
I hope he finds the peace, and pain free moments, and look into himself what a wonderful man he is. 💕💕
Beautiful, loving family.❤
Next Spring I will plant something in my garden for Rong and his family.