Empathy is the foundation of any conversation. There has to be an honest desire to take turns at practicing empathy, and seek to listen and understand the needs/concerns/hurts of the other person as opposed to the desire of attacking the other person or becoming defensive. As the saying goes; it takes two to tango.
Yes 'taking turns' is the issue. It requires 2 to exist in relationship. When people mute their personality and appease their partner it costs them a voice in the relationship because their partner over time adjusts to being both the speaker and audience, a relationship of 1. P1:Where do u wanna go to dinner? P2: "Whatever u like is fine with me" P1: thinks OK self where do u want to go to dinner?
Apparently, that is a subject that we will not address. We only have advice that keeps you married, miserable and assumes that your partner communicates.
Good question! Conversation, like all other skills, can be learned and practiced if both partners are willing to try. Start here: www.gottman.com/blog/dr-gottmans-3-skills-and-1-rule-for-intimate-conversation/#:~:text=John%20and%20Julie%20Gottman%20tell,both%20people%20feel%20totally%20understood.
@@TheRedWabbit Communication is the responsibility of both partners in a relationship -- and our research specifically discusses the risks of staying in an unhappy partnership.
Empathy is the foundation of any conversation. There has to be an honest desire to take turns at practicing empathy, and seek to listen and understand the needs/concerns/hurts of the other person as opposed to the desire of attacking the other person or becoming defensive. As the saying goes; it takes two to tango.
Yes 'taking turns' is the issue.
It requires 2 to exist in relationship.
When people mute their personality and appease their partner it costs them a voice in the relationship because their partner over time adjusts to being both the speaker and audience, a relationship of 1.
P1:Where do u wanna go to dinner?
P2: "Whatever u like is fine with me"
P1: thinks OK self where do u want to go to dinner?
What if the problem is your partner who has anxiety and depression
And what happen when your perpetual problem is that you both don’t know how to have a conversation
Apparently, that is a subject that we will not address. We only have advice that keeps you married, miserable and assumes that your partner communicates.
Good question! Conversation, like all other skills, can be learned and practiced if both partners are willing to try. Start here: www.gottman.com/blog/dr-gottmans-3-skills-and-1-rule-for-intimate-conversation/#:~:text=John%20and%20Julie%20Gottman%20tell,both%20people%20feel%20totally%20understood.
@@TheRedWabbit Communication is the responsibility of both partners in a relationship -- and our research specifically discusses the risks of staying in an unhappy partnership.