When You Lose A Parent To Cancer

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  • @sashalaguelamusic
    @sashalaguelamusic 5 років тому +687

    Cancer always happens to the most beautiful, amazing people and it’s SO unfair.

    • @xcbot
      @xcbot 4 роки тому +3

      Talk to your dad and have a conversation about whatever you want trust me even talking about the most random things is enjoyable hang with your friends, siblings, cousins or other people you enjoy to hang out with and in my experience it makes grief or upcoming loses much easier to cope with. your parent has one goal as a parent they just want you to have the best life

    • @haisesasaki3944
      @haisesasaki3944 4 роки тому +2

      I’m so sorry for your Dad. I hope you do a genetic test to see if you have the genetic predisposition. I wish my family does it after I get better. I was struggling with stage 4 colon adenocarcinoma. I was diagnosed more than a year ago and I’m 20 years old now.

    • @gavincampbell8037
      @gavincampbell8037 4 роки тому +2

      @@haisesasaki3944 I wish you the best of luck. Hope you're doing well.

    • @peterdavies839
      @peterdavies839 3 роки тому +1

      I lost my bf (29) of a heart attack,my dad(60) in the same week then my aunt(64) then a friend later in the year I went mute after that year took a very long few months to get back to sort of normal...2 years later still coping just..its so so difficult and a best friend of 10 years has cancer now ..its so heartbreaking...I'm losing everyone...I dont know how itll work out

    • @peterdavies839
      @peterdavies839 3 роки тому +2

      Its really difficult being a parent ...I didnt know what to say to my dad as the 8 months were far to quick..missed seeing him to say goodbye by 2 hours ..saw him after though in the funeral directors. All ta wanna do is hold their hand and tell them you love them..which me and my brother did...that's all I wanted...he was peaceful

  • @Tigris797
    @Tigris797 6 років тому +841

    what people don’t understand about cancer is that it hits your whole family. since my dad got cancer, my whole family has never been the same. my dad had brain cancer and he wasn’t acting the same. our whole family just didn’t talk to each other the same, it was always stressed. when the doctors gave us hope that things will get better, you cling on to that hope, and then bad news comes again. it’s a whole rollercoaster of emotions. my dad was the main breadwinner so money was tight, but we still had to go to the hospital to receive the best treatment. there are so many things to worry about. we don’t come from a good financial background. we lost so much of our life when my dad passed. Cancer just eats at you. All our family traditions just don’t exist anymore. We don’t eat on the same table and everyone just grew apart. This hasn’t even touched on what my dad went through himself. I cannot imagine the pain mentally and physically he felt. I never ever wish cancer on anyone. Never.

    • @delaneysays
      @delaneysays 6 років тому +6

      Tigris 797 I understand this, I had an uncle who had lung cancer and it caused such a rift on his side of the family before he died and still to this day 5 years later

    • @adnanmuhammadWali
      @adnanmuhammadWali 6 років тому +7

      Bro same here
      It effected my whole family

    • @lakeishadraine1219
      @lakeishadraine1219 6 років тому +7

      This is true. My auntie died of cancer is she was the rock of the family . Nothing is the same now ..

    • @ollierowan9767
      @ollierowan9767 6 років тому +10

      I know exactly what you mean. my dad also passed from brain cancer. it’s been almost 3 years and not a day goes by that I think about him.

    • @mahomie4life115
      @mahomie4life115 6 років тому +15

      wow honestly couldn’t have said it better. my dad has cancer and as i’m typing this we think he’s going to pass soon because treatment wasn’t working so we had to call up all of ur family. just looking at him makes me want to cry. he has esophageal cancer that has spread so he can’t even eat anymore he went from 250 lbs to 139 at 6’1. cancer is such a disgusting illness.

  • @MookieLee123
    @MookieLee123 6 років тому +306

    I lost my mother and father 6 months apart. Mom had breast cancer and dad had skin cancer. I was only 14 and went straight to foster care because I’m an only child with the rest of my family lost to cancer before I was born. I was diagnosed with skin cancer at age 25. My family has lunch syndrome which is a chronic cancer syndrome because it occurs on both sides of my family. I’m giving life everything I have for my husband and I have 2 little girls. I’ve lost a lot. Yet gained so much. I’m thankful for every day.

  • @EllieBeth16
    @EllieBeth16 6 років тому +288

    To everyone who has or knows someone who was lost to cancer - YOU ARE LOVED. YOU ARE SEEN. YOU ARE HEARD. YOUR EMOTIONS ARE VALID. 🌻🌻🌻

  • @libbsjelley4145
    @libbsjelley4145 6 років тому +270

    I lost my mom this summer and she barely even had a fighting chance because it was pancreatic cancer and in the span of two months it took her. The whole time we were in the hospital it was like she wasnt even there because the tumors in her were hurting her so she was all drugged up on medicine and sleeping and we were only there with her in the hospital for 9 days. I’ve never heard of cancer killing someone that fast and everyday I wish there was something more we could have done, I wish I would have died instead of her and it hurts so much everyday being reminded of her and not having her I wanted her there to see me graduate high school and college and get married and have kiddos she absolutely loved babies and puppies and now its going to hurt so much if I make it to those milestones in life without her

    • @KaliKali-hv9bt
      @KaliKali-hv9bt 6 років тому +3

      Libbs Jelley
      Oh wow, thanks for sharing this. I feel so bad. This comment touched me. I hope you find your peace. xoxo.

    • @marinaschneider6552
      @marinaschneider6552 6 років тому +25

      I lost my mum 2 weeks ago to pancreatic cancer. It was only a month from the day we were told about the cancer until the night she died. I cannot believe that only 2 months ago my life was so normal and different. I feel sorry for you and I know the pain you are in. I wish we could have done anything for her...

    • @libbsjelley4145
      @libbsjelley4145 6 років тому +6

      Marina Schneider thank you for sharing I know exactly how you feel... how could I have had such a perfect life this summer and now not have one of the most important people to me

    • @user-ik5gf5xs1z
      @user-ik5gf5xs1z 6 років тому +2

      She wants the best for u

    • @cactipoke
      @cactipoke 6 років тому +1

      Yeah :( I had a sort of grandpa figure-person pass away last year in the span of 4 weeks from diagnosis. It was almost unbelievable.

  • @emiliabrll
    @emiliabrll Рік тому +14

    i don’t think words will ever be able to describe what cancer makes you feel and go through..

  • @IshanAli
    @IshanAli 6 років тому +802

    *just want my mum to live forever :(*

  • @justinnguyenusa524
    @justinnguyenusa524 6 років тому +173

    One more day, one more time
    One more sunset, maybe I'd be satisfied...
    Miss you Mom! 😪

  • @gabby7817
    @gabby7817 6 років тому +144

    lost my mama to stomach cancer in 2010 and there's not a day that goes by that i don't wish i could call her and tell her how everything is

    • @soniamendez3488
      @soniamendez3488 6 років тому +7

      Gabby Stasi I also lost my mom to stomach cancer, it’ll be 2 years next month. I know exactly what you feel! I do too!

    • @gabby7817
      @gabby7817 6 років тому +4

      Sonia Mendez I'm so sorry for your loss! I wish it wasn't relatable for so many people so bad :(

    • @SammiDrawsAThing
      @SammiDrawsAThing 6 років тому +6

      I lost my mom to stomach cancer too just last year. I'm so sorry that both of you have been through the same pains, it almost feels surreal

    • @marinaschneider6552
      @marinaschneider6552 6 років тому +3

      Same here. It happened only 2 weeks ago. I wish any comment would say it gets better but I can see that it is a loss that lasts a lifetime. I feel sorry for you!

    • @LiaRaye
      @LiaRaye 6 років тому +4

      I lost my mom in May to stomach cancer. One of the worst cancers and no one talks about it

  • @paigeandparisproduction1146
    @paigeandparisproduction1146 6 років тому +323

    I just want my mum and dad to live forever

    • @Shargon25
      @Shargon25 6 років тому +4

      Good answer both your parents

    • @beatrizboluarte
      @beatrizboluarte 6 років тому

      Paige and Paris Production me too

    • @alanawheeler153
      @alanawheeler153 5 років тому +2

      Paige and Paris Production always be thankful for them ok everything they do is for the best for u

  • @gabrielaromeroescalante3044
    @gabrielaromeroescalante3044 6 років тому +98

    i lost my mam almost a year ago, after 6 years having cancer...i olnly can say: you never know, you will ignore the signs, because you dont want to believe your loved ones are having a bad time...just give them all the love you have

    • @CPDealer
      @CPDealer 6 років тому

      gabriela romero escalante I’m so sorry for your loss she is in a better place and you’re probably making her proud

    • @jakubpuchalski2583
      @jakubpuchalski2583 6 років тому

      XD

  • @BobMcCoy
    @BobMcCoy 6 років тому +150

    *Man, if I could have 1 wish granted...*

  • @txuravity3190
    @txuravity3190 6 років тому +394

    i want my dad to live good forever

    • @Shargon25
      @Shargon25 6 років тому +2

      What about your mom

    • @AxxLAfriku
      @AxxLAfriku 6 років тому +3

      Help I need 15,000 subs by the end of this week or my two very attractive girlfriends will leave me for my handsome brother Elias

    • @mr.nickname7318
      @mr.nickname7318 6 років тому +4

      My dad died in May. I’m now 13. Yah it hurts. So much.

    • @txuravity3190
      @txuravity3190 6 років тому

      i should not have clicked

    • @txuravity3190
      @txuravity3190 6 років тому +1

      idk she aint that nice

  • @memilia1026
    @memilia1026 4 роки тому +39

    I lost my mother to cancer a month ago. When we found out she got cancer again and it was advance I was so mad. I was applying to transfer to a university, just got a new job, taking four STEM course and three required a lab. It was so hard, it was an emotional rollercoaster, not only being my mom's care taker, but having to focus on school and reject schools you've gotten full rides to since I wanted to be near my mom . Seeing her get sicker doctors giving us some possible hope, to her taking her last breath was something that I'm dealing with and learning how to cope. It helps to cry some days. Some day I feel good, and then theres day when I feel extremely sad I was fortunate to spend her last hours she had, she wasn't conscience -but I spoke to her in the hospital. I had a conversation with her even though she couldn't respond. Told her how I remember all the things we would do growing up and how vividly they are in my mind. I gave her a hug and a blessing then told her if she wanted to let go she could. That I would be okay and I'll take care of my dad and continue to study the career I selected to help people. Two to one hour later she passed away with me I cried for 30 minutes straight. She took her last breath and she was gone. Both male nurses felt so sad they really tried so hard to keep it professional... I'm still dealing with her loss. I was really close to her. I write down all the things she would tell me when. I was sad or mad. I found her old letters she would write me back when I was in middle school and sincr people would bully me. She did her best to make me feel better. I miss her. I really hate cancer more than ever. I hope everyone who is dealing with a mother's loss heals. Or any loss. It's not easy. My boyfriend tells me there's days when you feel good and then you remember them(his brother passed away) but they live on through you. It will hurt less. So I hope we can all heal slowly but surely and always remember our loved ones.

    • @kevinlashley277
      @kevinlashley277 4 роки тому

      I just went through almost this exact situation last week...

  • @chuckmosley2506
    @chuckmosley2506 6 років тому +17

    Losing a parent is a pain you never get over, only time allows a person to deal with it somewhat, but the feeling of loss is constant. It's now been 10 years, & I miss them just as much today as I did when they passed...Watching a parent agonizingly suffer is horrific. Cancer is evil

  • @pooja9399
    @pooja9399 3 роки тому +24

    I lost my mom in cancer too. It’s really hard to live a life without her. It’s been one month since I saw her, spoke with her. miss you amma

    • @julirai679
      @julirai679 3 роки тому +1

      Same here it's hard man 😭🤧

    • @mihirmalik2000
      @mihirmalik2000 Рік тому +3

      Lost mine 20 days ago, feeling absolutely no emotions whatsoever... Idk what happened, maybe I broke

    • @rithukrishna5474
      @rithukrishna5474 Рік тому +1

      @@mihirmalik2000 I lost my mom to cancer 2 months ago after she struggled two painful years with cancer. I was mentally prepared and I am feeling no emotions. I keep wondering what is wrong with me. It does get lonely sometimes though.

    • @mihirmalik2000
      @mihirmalik2000 Рік тому

      @@rithukrishna5474 I'm so sorry for your loss. It's been 2.5 months and I don't feel anything either. Absolutely does get lonely. I joined a Support Group though so that help me sometimes.

  • @ichliebebaeumeweilbaum
    @ichliebebaeumeweilbaum 4 роки тому +25

    My mom is the strongest woman I know and she will forever be.
    She's fighting with cancer now for several years. My parents told me recently that the doctors were surprised that she actually got so far.
    A tumor in her whole leg, then in her lungs... She always got through it. And she never lost her humor, her happiness or her bright mind. Life was never easy with her, life isn't fair. It really isn't.
    And Now the cancer is in her spinal cord. We made our house wheelchair-accessible. Never thought we could do this so fast. But there we are.
    Last week my dad called his friends and built a whole carport in a day.
    Because my mom wanted to see this before...
    You know, I always tried to trap this thought in the very back of my mind. The thought that the person I love the very most maybe won't see my graduation. She maybe won't see me growing up, finding a partner, all those things that... You know... A mom should see. I just don't know what I will do without her.
    Right now she is here. For as long as she can. Life is so precious.
    Mama, egal was passiert,
    Ich liebe dich

  • @Kaiyamusic
    @Kaiyamusic 3 роки тому +9

    This was really brave of them all to share their stories with us

  • @hi.deanna
    @hi.deanna 6 років тому +42

    Hey, my name is deanna and when i was 8 years old my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. Now i am 11 and i still miss her everyday. But when you cry for them, it makes you and whoever is gone sad. My dad always says that when you feel like dying, just remember that even if there is a thousand people in heaven that loves you and you love them, there is someone on earth who would spend the rest of their life with you. So just remember that even if a terrible thing happens in your life, there is a lot of happiness in the future of your life!

    • @positivevibes9964
      @positivevibes9964 4 місяці тому

      Hi Deanna, hope ur doing well.

    • @cas-d6j
      @cas-d6j 4 місяці тому

      this made me cry, I hope you are doing well, we would be the same age. I lost my dad to sinus cancer when I was 10. I see you and relate to what you are going through.

  • @mlplaura
    @mlplaura 6 років тому +28

    This is super hard to watch, I lost my dad to liver cancer when I was 8 and even now at 27 it's still so raw.
    Loads of love to everyone who has been affected by this hideous disease ❤️

  • @bums009
    @bums009 6 років тому +36

    My best friend's mother got cancer when we were in middle school and died within about two years when my best friend was 15. I loved her mother and honestly I thought of her as an aunty, she gave me my first alcoholic drink when I was 14 lol.
    I came from a poorer background and so when she would take me shopping with my best friend and her sister she would always buy me something so I wouldn't feel left out and take us all for dinner and pay. I always adored their family, still do.
    I got the call when I was in media studies class, I had been wondering why my best friend wasn't in school that day, then she told me her mother had passed away that morning.
    I just burst into tears immediately, I cried so hard for all of them, we cried together on the phone for some time. I told my teacher through sobs what had happened and asked if I could go outside to talk to my friend, he didn't know quite what to say and just nodded.
    That evening I went home and cried several times on the bus back, I got home, I shut the door and ran to tell my mother. I could barely speak because I was crying so hard by the time I got to the kitchen but I managed to tell her that she had passed.
    She immediately burst into tears just like I did and we held each other really tight and cried for them for some time. My best friend's mother was a wonderful person and literally hundreds of people turned up for her funeral because she was loved by everyone.
    She had such a profound effect on me even though I only knew her for about 3/4 years before she passed
    Me and my best friend are 27 now and her and her sister will be getting married soon. It sucks for them that she won't be there and I just find it so sad.
    I could never begin to imagine their loss and their pain, this is just their story from my perspective, and her memory will live on in all of our minds forever.
    The last time I saw their mother in the hospital she was skin and bone and when I hugged her goodbye I could feel all the bones in her back. She hugged me really tight.
    Before I left, she whispered to me while we were hugging, to please look after my best friend and made me promise to take care of her. I promised. I will never break that promise.

  • @parislondonkim1896
    @parislondonkim1896 6 років тому +234

    Cancer is not fair, cancer is a fight in which there's not much you can do to fight back except for the countless medication and years of suffering. I really hope they develop a vaccine or anything..

    • @parislondonkim1896
      @parislondonkim1896 6 років тому

      I

    • @HyperSensitive88
      @HyperSensitive88 6 років тому +7

      Cancer is not a fight.because a fight implies there is a winner and loser. No one wins in this game. And deciding to give up "fighting" requires more courage, strength, and faith than anything else in life. Sadly most family members don't support such a noble decision because the family themselves don't want to be in pain.

    • @caelyn3377
      @caelyn3377 6 років тому +4

      All we can do is pray

    • @parislondonkim1896
      @parislondonkim1896 6 років тому +3

      hypsens88 Fight doesn't necessarily implie a "winner" or "loser" what I meant by fight was struggling to stay alive, fighting for your life. But I mostly used euphemisms to reassure people.

    • @caelyn3377
      @caelyn3377 6 років тому +1

      Parislondon Kim Idk if u noticed but i took down my comment about 1 like = a prayer

  • @ЛизаГаврилова312_1
    @ЛизаГаврилова312_1 6 років тому +38

    My mom has cancer and she's my whole life 😭😭😭 I love her more than anything in this world and can't imagine my life without her😭❤️Please tell your mom that you love her right now❤️

    • @روزا-س8غ
      @روزا-س8غ 3 місяці тому

      😢😢 Even Mi My Mom Ded has cancer thet is panfull naw at list 3 manthe ago i loste every thing & so mauch sad 😢

  • @ameliewangg
    @ameliewangg 9 місяців тому +2

    I lost my dad to cancer a month ago. He had metastatic lung cancer that spread and ultimately developed into a tumor under his arm. It then spread throughout his chest and body. He had cancer for 7 years but it ultimately caught up to him. I visited him everyday he was in the hospital for 3 weeks straight before he passed. It still feels unreal, I didn't expect that he would never come back home. I miss him a lot and wish that I would've been able to grow old with him by my side. I just turned 20 a few days ago and hope that he will be there to watch over me as I continue my journey in life without him.

  • @Maniboai
    @Maniboai 6 років тому +8

    Lost my dad a year ago from lung cancer at 17 years old. I miss him every single day and life keeps getting harder without him.

  • @MiriTogepi
    @MiriTogepi 5 років тому +14

    I lost my dad when I was 15 years old. I was standing beside him when he closed his eyes forever. I remember going to the kitchen and watching through the window if the world had stopped, because for me time had stopped. I couldn't feel anything. I just stood in the kitchen as my mother and older siblings where in his room with the paramedics and looked through the window and the world was moving on, the birds flew in the sky, the cars were driving by and the children were playing outside and I just stood there and couldn't believe it. 13 years have passed since then. I am a teacher now, I love my job, I care for my mom and just tomorrow we will go to his grave to make it beautiful for fall. Life goes on but the pain will always be there. Some days are better and I enjoy my life but other days are so hard and I just feel lost and I would love to smell him, to talk to him, to laugh with him... I hope he sees me and I also hope that one day we will meet again. I wish you all the best and good health for you and your loved ones! ♥️

  • @nightwingnoir
    @nightwingnoir 6 років тому +13

    I lost my mom to breast cancer when I was 13. I’m 17 now and it can still be hard at times. I remember her telling me she was going to be around to see me graduate high school. I don’t really remember a time when she wasn’t sick. I had to grow up really quickly; me and my twin brother. I remember when I realized things were getting really bad and I was in denial for a lot of it, assuming that things would get better. I remember being painfully sad when I’d start to forget little things about it

    • @annajames8821
      @annajames8821 6 років тому +4

      Nightwing Noir I lost my mum when I was 13 too but never talked to anyone about how I was feeling. I’m 18 now and finally talking to counsellors about that time. I realised how big of an impact it had on me and have never dealt with those issues. Please talk to someone and get the support you need it’s so important!

  • @sammymorini9748
    @sammymorini9748 6 років тому +110

    Mom is currently with cancer, which sadly cant be cured... :(

    • @beatrizboluarte
      @beatrizboluarte 6 років тому +17

      Sammy Morini give her all the love you have and never take the time you have with her for granted. ❤️

    • @maryedits2514
      @maryedits2514 6 років тому +4

      Show her all your love.
      I send all my prayers 🙏

    • @Sami6894
      @Sami6894 6 років тому +4

      Tell her thank you and let her know you will be ok. Spend as much time with her. Advice from someone who just lost their dad from cancer

    • @jerykdugay242
      @jerykdugay242 6 років тому +6

      Sammy Morini hey dude, I’m really sorry to here that. My mom is currently battling breast cancer. She has been receiving chemotherapy for months now and it’s hard to see people you love in that condition. Stay strong and give her as much love and support you can offer.
      I know I’m a random person, but I’m here for you. DM me if you want. You don’t deserve to go through this alone.

    • @HyperSensitive88
      @HyperSensitive88 6 років тому +2

      I'm sorry. It's ok to be grieving already. Try to be patient with her since she's in constant pain. It's a really tough time for everyone.

  • @TheEmoLoverGirls
    @TheEmoLoverGirls 2 роки тому +3

    My dad has pancreatic cancer at 61 (I’m 23) and we found out June this year. He got two strokes in his brain this past week. He’s currently paralyzed in his right side of his body and understands a lot, but can only answer with a yes and no. Seeing your big and strong hero becoming so weak, while also being aware of it and having a big guilt about it is the most heart crushing thing ever. I wish I could take his place.

    • @corvim688
      @corvim688 Рік тому +1

      i passed trought this too and our mind make things that are terrible but not real, that guilt is terrible but its not deserved it i felt like this but i know my dad is at my side and will allways be, just like your dad is at yours❤❤❤ and im ABSOLUTELY SURE that he is SO SO PROUD

  • @rachekmcghee165
    @rachekmcghee165 3 роки тому +9

    I lost my beautiful mom to breast cancer December 31 2015.She was my everything, my best friend in this world.She watched me take my first breath and I watched her take her last.Her breast cancer had metastasized to her bones, liver spleen and eventually to her brain.I know she is with Jesus now.I miss you so much mommy.

  • @AD-bt6jw
    @AD-bt6jw Рік тому +3

    My mom passed away 9 years back..i still remember the day we lost her..and i regret everyday that i couldn't be there for her more. Be there for her.i was 17 when i lost her..i really thought she would be better..but no..i was wrong all along..it still feels like yesterday when i touched her lifeless body.the warmth was gone..
    All i can tell otehrs is that be there for them.spent time with them.laugh with them, cry with them.all they have is you.seeing you might be the best thing for them throughing this agonising pain...
    I hope each of your loved ones be cured...
    And those who lost , they will always live in our heart..
    I miss u mum

    • @corvim688
      @corvim688 Рік тому

      i lost my mom too and it hurts a lot, we alkways think that we should have spended more time with her but actually we spended the time that were right❤❤❤ its normal to feel this but we spended time with our moms and they are at your side now!! and will allways be helping and laughing with us, and im ABSOLUTELY SURE that your mom is SO SO PROUD OF YOU❤❤❤

  • @isakaner-roth4525
    @isakaner-roth4525 6 років тому +36

    I had just turned 13 when I lost my mother. You’re not alone.

    • @sharayacatera1053
      @sharayacatera1053 5 років тому +4

      Isa Kaner-Roth I’m gonna lose my dad and I’m 13 god bless you and your family ❤️

  • @Reluctant.Idealist
    @Reluctant.Idealist 4 роки тому +4

    I lost my mom to breast cancer only two months ago... the things they talked about; the denial, being gentle with your family members, but especially the part about the little things, like talking to her about life, put a knife in my chest.
    Grief is intense, but at least we all know they are out of pain.

  • @jurlsam
    @jurlsam 6 років тому +72

    My dad has cancer. It’s metastasized. This was really hard to watch. But also, good to see that these people are going on after. My mind can’t wrap around going on after my dad dies.

    • @christinedelozier
      @christinedelozier 6 років тому +5

      I'm in exactly the same situation. This was super rough, but very eye opening. Kind of helpful, in a weird way?? Sending you love

    • @HyperSensitive88
      @HyperSensitive88 6 років тому +8

      You'll make it through. That's part of life's struggles. The pain never goes away and never gets better but over time you learn not to burst out crying randomly.

    • @rachelr22
      @rachelr22 5 років тому

      Please tell me hes still with you

    • @tappancsist
      @tappancsist 4 роки тому +3

      amanda jurls My father is struggling with cancer currently, this is round 3. It has been part of his, and our life for the past 5 years. Both me and my younger sisters always felt alone with the pain. Seeing someone fade away and be in so much pain cant be put in words. He isn’t able bodied anymore, due to the last surgery we hoped would save him maybe five more years. It seems like now, we have much less left with him. This video was painful, but made us feel a tiny bit less alone. I have a hard time wrapping my head around what will happens after he is gone. And I’m scared to think of it. But you aren’t alone! Unfortunately, there are more than a few of us going through these experiences... I wish you the best, In this incredibly hard situation. I wish we could have a place where you can reach out to talk to people who are going through the loss of a parent.

    • @amateurmeteorologist7365
      @amateurmeteorologist7365 4 роки тому +1

      Hello love. When my dad was diagnosed with metastatic cancer he was given 2 years maximum. He ended up living 8 more years and for the most of it he was happy and active. When he did decline (6 months before he died) I went into complete denial and literally could not cope with accepting a reality without my dad. And I'm not going to lie; it's been 2 years and there are still so many days when I cry because I miss him so much. No matter what happens in the future, you will be okay, because you are strong. Find a little tiny patch of joy in every single day, because it is so important. And cherish every single hug, kiss, chat, joke, memory, because we are loved.

  • @unleashingpotential-psycho9433
    @unleashingpotential-psycho9433 6 років тому +16

    I feel sorry for everyone who has had to lose someone to cancer. That is a very tough thing to deal with.

  • @aimeerobinson9289
    @aimeerobinson9289 6 років тому +5

    Thank you for sharing this. I'm 24 and I lost my father to aggressive oesophageal cancer last year, only four months after his initial diagnosis. He deteriorated so fast, with many complications. It's still very painful but I feel comfort from talking through it and listening to other peoples stories. I don't feel so alone knowing other people have felt the very distinctive grief of losing a parent to cancer, as unfortunate as it is. Sending love to those of you who have lost parents, and also those of you whose parents are still fighting

  • @brooke9904
    @brooke9904 6 років тому +11

    Just lost my dad in September and this hits pretty close to home. I'm sorry to everyone going through similar situations.

  • @emilypietrzak8109
    @emilypietrzak8109 6 років тому +7

    I can connect to this so much. I lost my father when I was 8, I'm 15 now. It was a hard journey, and I know he's watching over me. My dad impacted me in so many ways and I just wish I had the chance to tell him "I love you" one more time.

  • @nvhzz90
    @nvhzz90 6 років тому +18

    I lost my dad this summer to a melanoma (skin cancer). He initially got the melanoma removed in 2008 and went back to the dermatologist every year to get it checked out. He was then cleared in 2011.. Up until the start of this year when the doctors discovered unusual spots on his lungs on a MRI scan of his kidney.. During those 10 years, the cancer has spread to his lungs, then his stomach and also to his brain, which made him have seizures which were eventually fatal. He died 4 months after discovering the cancer had spread.

  • @santana204
    @santana204 5 років тому +13

    My mom battled cancer for 7 years. She passed when I was 21 pregnant with my first child. It's been 12 years she's been gone. I miss my mom so much

  • @meganreilly1691
    @meganreilly1691 6 років тому +1

    My mom was diagnosed with ovarian cancer about 2 years ago and it has only gotten progressively worse. Whats the most difficult is seeing her body changing and losing weight. By now she weighs 98 pounds. Then you remember that only a year or so again you were going out on shopping trips, to the mall, eating junk food. Theres practically nothing she can eat that won't make her ill. she's constantly in pain and can barely function. All I want is to do normal things with her again. Now we are talking about getting a hospice nurse. My mom was my best friend and still is, but things just aren't the same anymore. If I could wish for one thing is to have one more normal casual day with her before I lose her. don't take those types of things for granted. Looking back those simple days were some of my favorite days I've ever had.

  • @scorpiorising_
    @scorpiorising_ 6 років тому +8

    Virtual hugs to everyone who has lost a parent /parents when young. We will be okay!

  • @lottegritter3741
    @lottegritter3741 4 роки тому +17

    My dad passed about 4 months ago, he had a tumor in his leg and two months later we got the news that it spread to his lungs and that we had to think in days because of how fast it was growing. My dad made it for another three weeks before cancer took him it still doesn’t feel real and i don’t think it ever will i hope noone has to go trough the pain of losing a parent and goning trough the pain that cancer brings with itself

    • @noahstevenson5748
      @noahstevenson5748 4 роки тому +1

      Ik your pain I lost my dad in 2006 and I'm only 14 now I was 1 he had a tumour in his bowel and I've never had the chance to say i love you i just wish i had some memorys with him cause he feels like a stranger to me but I love him so much

    • @lottegritter3741
      @lottegritter3741 4 роки тому

      Noah Stevenson 😔❤️

  • @mattcoutts-smith1408
    @mattcoutts-smith1408 6 років тому +2

    Thank you for this video! I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer this past March, and a lot of what these 4 spoke about I've had similar experiences, so thank for sharing

  • @tameracoates398
    @tameracoates398 6 років тому +3

    Lost my dad a year ago to Cancer. He called me everyday- everyday! And I took it for granted... Now he’ll never call me again. Cherish your parents, you FAMILY!!!! It’s not forever!

  • @ariab9881
    @ariab9881 6 років тому +135

    I lost my mom when I was 12 to breast cancer that had spread to her whole body.

    • @heysaucyy
      @heysaucyy 6 років тому +2

      And im only 11😭😭😭💔💔

    • @heysaucyy
      @heysaucyy 6 років тому

      But we are clear. Bot even mentioned knce no signs

    • @vickyou2238
      @vickyou2238 6 років тому +1

      I'm sorry that happened to you, it must be really hard but I'm so proud of you for staying strong and know that your mom is watching over you through thick and thin ❤️ much love

    • @ml2863
      @ml2863 6 років тому +1

      Oh my god, the same thing happened to my mom and I’m twelve

    • @jaykrish9823
      @jaykrish9823 6 років тому +4

      Same I lost my mum from breast cancer when I was 11 in 2016 and my father was divorce before that so now I have no biological parents with me but I left to my aunt and uncle and lived them since. It is really sad becoz when my mother died she came back home for the last 3 days of her life. The sad thing is when before I went school I said goodbye and I saw her taking her last breadth

  • @miakennedy3284
    @miakennedy3284 2 роки тому +1

    “8 years is a long time of not knowing if they’re going to be alive when you get home from school” hit

  • @christierust3927
    @christierust3927 6 років тому +22

    My father had cancer, I watched him suffer until he died. I was 5 I didn’t think he was gone I never said good bye.

  • @naturelover2999
    @naturelover2999 3 роки тому +6

    My father is dealing with cancer and God I just want him to live for me..Please pray for him

  • @molllyhepburn
    @molllyhepburn 5 років тому +5

    I'm 17, and my mum passed away due to secondary bowel cancer 3 weeks ago💔 Watching these videos helps to make me feel less lonely. Thank you Buzzfeed♥️

  • @megansandy614
    @megansandy614 6 років тому +11

    And I probably shouldn’t be watching this. I am now crying. Lost my dad to pancreatic cancer last year.

    • @007janerussell
      @007janerussell 6 років тому +2

      Megan Sandy it’s so good to cry.. I lost my dad 10 years ago and I still have a good cry .. Grief is personal and don’t let anyone take it away from you.

  • @2Cberry2
    @2Cberry2 5 років тому +2

    I lost my mother when I was 15. A little over 3 years ago. I didn’t expect the depression to hit me the way it did. But I hit rock bottom things that she wouldn’t have wanted me to do I did. After a long battle, I appreciate what has happened. I wouldn’t want her anywhere else but where she is now ... and that is with God.

  • @hotbello0071
    @hotbello0071 2 роки тому +4

    Cancer is horrible, it took my moms life 10/19'. It actually took her life before it ended it. She battled for 14 months, treatment started out bearable and then became brutal. The medications caused many side effects, like fighting a monster with smaller monsters that wreak havoc on everything. I can't even begin to describe the amount of pain from regret I experienced when i realized I would never be able to repair a strained relationship. That reality set in hard when I stood over her casket crying like a baby. The support I had from friends and family helped me tremendously. Work became like therapy for me as i really enjoy what I do and come across a variety of people on a weekly basis. When i see a woman appearing bald with a bandanna on, I just want to Bear hug the hell out of them! Let them know you love them, no matter how hard it might sometimes be....

    • @truechamp3404
      @truechamp3404 3 місяці тому

      May i know what cancer your mom had?

  • @kadeeohara5339
    @kadeeohara5339 5 років тому +14

    i just lost my dad today, i miss him so much but i know he’s not in pain anymore

  • @paulhunter123
    @paulhunter123 3 роки тому +1

    when you loose a parent you say hello to them every day

  • @rennex7172
    @rennex7172 Рік тому +2

    Lost my mom to a Brain Cancer.. its so heartbreaking to watch someone that you like dying little by little over time..
    Hopefully we will discover a solution to this thing one day.

  • @nicolasgonzales6092
    @nicolasgonzales6092 4 роки тому +1

    Unfortunately my dad passed two days ago cherish your time and say what you need to say time is precious

  • @Stellie826
    @Stellie826 6 років тому +3

    I lost my mom to cancer a year ago ... she was only 58 and I was 20.... it breaks my heart ... I miss you mom

  • @cwhitmore7
    @cwhitmore7 6 років тому +1

    I lost my dad to cancer at a young age and my mom was just diagnosed with cancer on October 25th of last year. She's not seeking treatment and I feel so hurt, which in turn makes me feel selfish. I also lost 2 of my cousins to cancer, 1 last year and 1 this year. I know the pain.

  • @shinugami333
    @shinugami333 6 років тому +1

    I lost my father a month ago to cancer... I never left his side, he was always a strong human being I will always cherish him forever.

  • @wild_west_hippie
    @wild_west_hippie 6 років тому +57

    My mom went through a bout of breast cancer this year thankfully she is ok

    • @trentrosson2834
      @trentrosson2834 6 років тому +4

      Callsighn Owl I hope she’s fine. my moms birthdays tommorrow and she past to breast cancer in June best of luck to you and her

    • @wild_west_hippie
      @wild_west_hippie 6 років тому +1

      @@trentrosson2834 oh I'm so sorry for you prayers coming your way

    • @xxIluvyouguysxx
      @xxIluvyouguysxx 6 років тому +1

      Callsighn Owl thank goodness!

  • @ameliefuchs6607
    @ameliefuchs6607 6 років тому +2

    I cried my eyes out. You're all so strong.

  • @amandaprichard3242
    @amandaprichard3242 Рік тому +1

    I felt it in my soul when my dad left that voicemail. It's like I knew before he told me by the way his voicemail sounded. My heart cracks a little more each day leading up to his death 😢💔

    • @corvim688
      @corvim688 Рік тому

      i passed trought this too and its so hard, but im ABSOLUTELY SURE your dad will ALLWAYS stay with you at your side!!!! ❤❤❤ and you are both SO SO AMAZING AND RESILIENT❤❤

  • @esthercabeza1181
    @esthercabeza1181 6 років тому +15

    I want my mom and dad and friends and family to live forever

  • @zeta1729
    @zeta1729 6 років тому +15

    man who is cutting onions

  • @MerciBrandon
    @MerciBrandon 6 років тому +98

    *I wish people lasted forever but we all know our dreams gotta end...*

    • @paigeandparisproduction1146
      @paigeandparisproduction1146 6 років тому +2

      VoidLight Below Zero omg that's so true

    • @mila.01302
      @mila.01302 6 років тому +1

      I know! I love my family so so much. Even when I imagine them passing I cry. :(

  • @kichellemyers30
    @kichellemyers30 5 років тому +5

    This hit me right in the feels. I miss my dad everyday. I can relate to the girl who lost her mom at 15, because I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer at 15. I remember crying so hard because I got my class ring in the mail the day after he died, and all I wanted to do was show it to him. I think about how I don’t know if I wanna get married because I won’t be able to have him walk me down the aisle or dance with me... There’s a lot of firsts he won’t get to see for me, and that breaks my heart, even after 4 years.

    • @anahifuentes6403
      @anahifuentes6403 Рік тому

      Im 26 lost my dad 3 weeks ago. Im still not married and Ive thought about not ever having a wedding because he wont be there 😢

  • @reneejaenecke5375
    @reneejaenecke5375 6 років тому +2

    Lost my mom to cancer when I was 15. Hardest thing that’s ever happened to me but it sure did teach me so many things

  • @defyboom1153
    @defyboom1153 2 роки тому

    One thing i learnt when my dad was dying from cancer is that sometimes you just have to let it go no matter how hard you try, and now i live everyday of my life with that positivity!, there are somethings you cannot fix or mend it but the best days are yet to come!, your story will always continue as long as you are alive!, enjoy the moment while it lasts!, never leave room for regrets!

  • @laurencharlton1117
    @laurencharlton1117 6 років тому +1

    it was really nice to see a video explaining the feelings, especially the denial and not knowing, surrounding losing a parent to cancer, its nice to know you are not alone, thank you

  • @josephbarker2615
    @josephbarker2615 6 років тому +1

    My dad died last Christmas when I was 18, the hardest part was the fact he thought he was going to be missing out on being apart of my life. Life happens and it’s hard. You have to accept it and treasure the amazing memories.

  • @johannakarlsson4987
    @johannakarlsson4987 4 роки тому +3

    I was 15 and she had ovarian cancer. She meant the whole world to me and not to sound like a cliché but she was my best friend and I talked to her about almost everything. I remember coming home from school after two weeks of me denying that it was getting worse and my dad telling me that the doctors couldn't do anymore. All my aunts and uncels came to say goodbye over the course of a week.Then it was over. I always had issues talking to my dad because we are so different and I have never felt so alone in my whole life before. I miss her so much and I wish I could just talk to her again, her her voice, ask her questions.
    I miss her.

  • @Tylertrxn
    @Tylertrxn 6 років тому +3

    Hearing them explain their story made me realize I had everything in common with them. My dad was my best friend and when my family found out he had stage 4 cancer. I was the only one that didn't cry. I think it's because cancer doesn't mean guaranteed death so the optimistic side of me was like we good. As my dad good worse and was bedridden, I didn't talk to him that much. I look back at think wtf was I thinking cuz I would pay for that time back. I wasn't even there for when he went and it haunts me every day. I loved him so much and I never really told people that my dad died except for my closest friends.

  • @ShingaraSingh-d5q
    @ShingaraSingh-d5q Рік тому +1

    I lost my mother last year due to parotid cancer and I miss her everyday .She was my hope and she was the most beautiful person I have ever met .I wish if the diagnosis would have been made earlier accurately she would have been alive.

  • @TheAnimeViber
    @TheAnimeViber 6 років тому +9

    I wish my dad would live forever...

  • @hellothere-js9wz
    @hellothere-js9wz 4 роки тому +1

    My mother passed now 6 years ago from stomach cancer. I always uses to visit her in the hospital with my father but i didnt spend Time with her I was sitting there just watching TV. Now i wish i would have used that Time to talk to her. I wish i could have told her how much i loved her. Now i nearly have no memory of her bc i was 8 years old. It makes me so upset that i cant share my life with her. I just want to say enjoy every moment you have before its to late.

  • @MJ-lx2pb
    @MJ-lx2pb 6 років тому +2

    my dad is going through stage 4 cancer. I hate that he is so angry and depressed and scared. I just want him to be pain-free and happy.

  • @lindacarrillo2290
    @lindacarrillo2290 5 років тому +1

    Love this. Im just starting to share my own experience & journey of life after losing my mom to lung cancer. Its so hard. This video shows that so many share my story, my pain & my will to go on living. Miss u mom!

  • @CharManyrd
    @CharManyrd 6 років тому +2

    As someone who lost his father when he was seven, I always wish I could speak to him about my issues troubles or just normal things and get his guidance

  • @kyomii923
    @kyomii923 6 років тому

    I lost my mom 5 days ago from stomach cancer. Cancer is horrible and it affects the person and entire family. Being able to relate to these stories are somewhat comforting. It opens your eyes about life and just appreciating the people we love.

  • @roblescheyenne
    @roblescheyenne 6 років тому +4

    This hit me hard💕 lost my dad to cancer 5yr and my mom to complications after her stroke this June..so those out there, it does get better but u have to push through.

  • @alyssaannlombard1111
    @alyssaannlombard1111 6 місяців тому +1

    Just buried my mom of 58 today from aggressive colon cancer that was not caught at her colonoscopy. 11 months was all we got after we found out it was stage 4. Hate cancer, my mom was an angel here with us, and now she's up above as our guardian angel.

    • @xxalphawolfxx9271
      @xxalphawolfxx9271 6 місяців тому

      I'm sorry for your loss. Same, I lost my mom from stage 4 colon cancer. We tried chemotherapy but unfortunately it took a slight effect at the beginning, then it spread to other organs and it led to liver cirrhosis later which got her condition worse. She was 59.. I miss her so much, it's been 3 months, I'm depressed and lost now, it's like I don't wanna live anymore... I have no words to express how I feel.
      I hope you feel better than me at least, stay strong.

  • @DualiBlancas
    @DualiBlancas 6 років тому +1

    I lost my dad in 2014, he got diagnosed with colon cancer in August and he passed away in December, I never thought it was going to be so fast, i wasn't prepared. My family has never been the same since that happened. It's hard to see someone you love dying slowly. My advice is to love people who surrounds you, you never know when they're going to leave without saying goodbye.

  • @patirwin9268
    @patirwin9268 6 років тому +6

    I lost 3 of my family members to cancer in my 11 year life I lost my uncle when I was 1 then I lost my aunt to bone cancer when I was 9 and I lost my great grandmother to lucymya when I was 8 I miss them a lot and they will always be there for me.

  • @jun0649
    @jun0649 6 років тому +20

    I lost my dad to cancer when I was six. It's been a struggle every day since and even before that because he was always so sick. I turned 16 a few days ago and I'm about to get my first tattoo, which will be his favorite song lyric "here comes the sun" ❤️

    • @charliecable5179
      @charliecable5179 5 років тому

      Jun0 lost my dad to cancer when I was 6 as well

    • @caligirlesme
      @caligirlesme 3 роки тому +1

      What a beautiful way to always remember him… I’m sorry cancer just sucks…

  • @anahifuentes6403
    @anahifuentes6403 Рік тому +2

    Im 26. Lost my dad 3 weeks ago he was 62. He had cancer for 10 years. It first started in his colon then the last couple of years it spread to his lungs and thats when he started getting really sick. I miss my dad. It feels good to read these comments because I feel like im not alone😢

    • @corvim688
      @corvim688 Рік тому +1

      me too❤❤❤i lost my dad and it hurts but allways remember that the person that you lost is there at your side laughing and making company to you, its hard and sometimes families broke up and we feel like this pain will never end but it ends!!! and even if that person isnt with us anymore she somehow manage to reunite the family and help us❤❤❤ you are SO SO AMAZING and this will get better!!! looks it will never get but it gets!!!! WE ARE TOGETHER FRIEND❤❤❤

    • @corvim688
      @corvim688 Рік тому +1

      our dads are with us making company ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @sugmanuts69
    @sugmanuts69 2 роки тому +1

    recently i found out my dad has been having lung cancer symptoms and i’ve felt so anxious about what his diagnosis will be on friday. coming to his house on a wednesday evening and over the weekends is what makes me happy.

    • @corvim688
      @corvim688 Рік тому

      if he have it HE WILL KICK THIS CANCER OUT❤❤❤❤❤i passed trought this too and my friend jjst beated the cancer. im absolutely sure your dad is good❤

  • @myja100
    @myja100 6 років тому +2

    My deepest condolences... Sending all the luck, love, and best positive wishes to everyone xxxx

  • @ferielber485
    @ferielber485 3 роки тому

    I lost my mother to cancer 17/06/2021 ...it was a long battle she fought hard for us from 2016 all the chemo the radiation the blood work ....and kept a smile on her face despite it all for us for me and my siblings to her last breath she held our hands making sure we felt safe instead of worrying about herself....rest in peace my precious mom

  • @surzonx3714
    @surzonx3714 6 років тому +43

    I feel so sorry, I hope a cure comes :(

    • @Vixxenera
      @Vixxenera 6 років тому +1

      surzon there actually is a Cure, its just that its Too simple so they dont wanna use it

    • @clarita.clarita.47
      @clarita.clarita.47 6 років тому

      There are ways to prevent it like one simple way is eating the seeds in apples they give u a kind of vitamin that prevents cancer

    • @victoryang144
      @victoryang144 6 років тому +1

      Clarita Maksoud do you even know how cancer works?

    • @victoryang144
      @victoryang144 6 років тому +1

      ThatsMrsNoob what tf r u talking about

    • @clarita.clarita.47
      @clarita.clarita.47 6 років тому

      Victor Yang like I am talking about that the vitamin k like I know when cancer will happen it will and there is nothing to prevent it but there is a type of cancer that can be prevented with vitamin k

  • @deionwoods9165
    @deionwoods9165 4 роки тому +1

    I lost my mother to cancer and it was so sudden yet so sad. Losing a parent at a young age is different for anyone because you need your parent to be there for life’s important moments, my mom never even saw me graduate middle school and I graduated high school last year, but she was my best friend!! When my family was not speaking to us I felt really sad and alone. She literally told me this months before she died that even if family hates you and they don’t want to be bothered with you anymore just know that mommy still loves you and most importantly God will always love you!! I will take that to the grave and those words soothe my heart. I miss so much mommy RIP!

  • @lavhaadg5763
    @lavhaadg5763 3 роки тому +3

    I also lost my mother to cancer. Even after knowing that she only had a short time to live, her death still hit like a truck. You will never be prepared for a death of a loved one.

  • @mattisheiberg
    @mattisheiberg Рік тому +2

    The last week my mom (who was diagnosed with breast cancer a year ago) wasn’t acting the same like she used to, and when I tried to talk to her I barely got any response or contact. Then she died 3 days ago in her own bed

    • @aedt3
      @aedt3 Рік тому

      Srry for your loss friend😞🙏

  • @Dennizjoon
    @Dennizjoon 2 роки тому +1

    Lost my mom to cancer in 2011 after a 7 year long shitshow, I was 12. My biggest wish now is that we would've been able to have a casual conversation together about what's happened in life and hear her thoughts about the latest Zelda game and what not.

  • @brookiepeden3230
    @brookiepeden3230 Рік тому +1

    I lost my mum to Cancer when i was 8 the pain and trauma is still there it seems like a psrt of me is missing forever

  • @AB-uv7ne
    @AB-uv7ne 5 років тому +1

    even if i scream at the top of my lungs or cry to the heavens, she's still not here with us. its the hopelessness and the feeling that no one is listening. life will never be the same

    • @AB-uv7ne
      @AB-uv7ne 5 років тому

      im still crying. i miss you mom. esp now that i have my own daughter. i wish youre here to see her

  • @desiree5008
    @desiree5008 6 років тому

    My mom passed away last summer to cancer. I was with her every step of the way . I miss her so much! Love you mom!

  • @hannaharmstrong2673
    @hannaharmstrong2673 6 років тому +7

    I know how it is to lose a parent to cancer I was 9 when this battle started. there were the first month were we drove an hour back and fourth everyday for 2 months then he started to lose weight look different not feel well. I’m now 12 but celebrated my birthday without him I always had the older father (66) but that never stopped him from loving me but I miss him and always will. Please love your parents before it’s to late 😭

  • @coreymichael1880
    @coreymichael1880 Рік тому +1

    My little brothers aged 20 & 22 have now lost both of their parents. Our mother 6 years ago, which was sudden, one day she was here, the next she wasn’t. Now they have lost their father from lung cancer. It is absolutely crushing them. I’d give anything to take away their pain and anguish. They still lived at home and I can sense how scared they are to not have either parent to help them, guide them and be there for them in their times of inevitable need. I’m so worried how this is going to affect them

  • @lady9288
    @lady9288 6 років тому +1

    I really needed to watch this. Tomorrow is my mother’s birthday and we are going to celebrate her life forever. ❤️