When a parent has died : young people share their experiences

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  • @kimrz8832
    @kimrz8832 10 місяців тому +14

    My Dad died when I was 10. My mom when I was 11. I'm 41 now and there is still not a day I don't think about them and mourn their loss. Some days I break. 🥺😞♥️

    • @childbereavementchar
      @childbereavementchar  10 місяців тому +2

      We are sorry to hear you were bereaved of your parents as a child. We have a page on our website for adults who were bereaved as children, which you may like to visit: www.childbereavementuk.org/adults-bereaved-as-children.
      Warm wishes
      Child Bereavement UK

    • @malloryjines5050
      @malloryjines5050 8 місяців тому

      Please try to see a grief counselor. They can help you to process the grief that you still carry after so many years.

    • @Emac000
      @Emac000 4 місяці тому

      Prayers for you and your parents ❤

  • @nickjordan122
    @nickjordan122 5 років тому +344

    Both my mom and dad died when I was 1 :'D
    I don't even know how they sound,
    Y'all with parents are so lucky, please don't be hard on them, you guys don't understand how lucky you are!

    • @ilsecarrasco6596
      @ilsecarrasco6596 5 років тому +14

      They are really lucky my dad passed in a mission at iraq and its the worse

    • @cpmffeilberg4970
      @cpmffeilberg4970 5 років тому +8

      Nick I want to hug you. My condolences to you and having just lost my mom I can only imagine what you felt losing your parents as a baby
      God bless you dear.

    • @ilsecarrasco6596
      @ilsecarrasco6596 5 років тому +5

      @@cpmffeilberg4970 my dad was deployed to iraq and was shot by a sniper. When i was 4 10 years ago im 14. My friend didnt have a dad and his mom passed from cancer last Friday.

    • @cpmffeilberg4970
      @cpmffeilberg4970 5 років тому +5

      @@ilsecarrasco6596 I'll pray for all of you. God bless you.

    • @ilsecarrasco6596
      @ilsecarrasco6596 5 років тому +1

      @@cpmffeilberg4970 thxs i appreciate it🙏

  • @Zlervo
    @Zlervo 2 роки тому +97

    My father died 30 years ago when I was only 11. I still remember it as though it was yesterday. It never leaves you.

    • @solidsupra8185
      @solidsupra8185 2 роки тому +1

      I’m so sorry for your loss, this is hard to share..thank you. What ever you believe in is yours to keep, but in Jehovahs name may he bless you and give you strength to move forward everyday.😊

    • @gregghunter935
      @gregghunter935 2 роки тому +8

      I lost my Dad when I was 8. That was 44 years ago. I still feel heartbroken. I have children and grand-chilldren off my own now. There is still times something triggers off and I go back to being that 8 year old boy. Only certain ones that have gone through this will relate to it.

    • @PrettyPettyMara
      @PrettyPettyMara Рік тому +4

      My son is 13.... he lost his daddy Sept 7 2022. A month later, he lost his grandpa. His 2 most favorite ppl in the world just dropped .... unexpectedly...
      Idk how to help him & he behaves like he's alright... which is the part that scares me even more.

    • @crystalslade8056
      @crystalslade8056 Рік тому +2

      @@PrettyPettyMaramy nephew is 15 he lost his dad 6 weeks ago motorcycle accident still inquest his sister my neice is 17
      They done the ashes yesterday
      The funeral 2 weeks ago was absolutely heartbreaking
      I have no idea what I can say I’m fortunate my dad their grandad is 81 still here
      It’s just awful
      I hope ur doing ok xx

    • @PrettyPettyMara
      @PrettyPettyMara Рік тому +1

      @crystalslade8056 it's been 9 months and I still can't believe everything happened. See a month after his daddy died, his grandpa died. Blood clots both of them, and no genetic relation bc grandpa was paternal grandma's husband after bio granddad. Regardless. They were my sons 2 most favorite ppl in this world & our lives changed in the blink of an eye... I think any sudden passing is horrific & heartbreaking.... u constantly want someone to blame but it doesn't make anything better. I drive my husband to work every morning and he works on the road of the cemetery so I drive back home every morning crying bc that was the last road his dad ever took. We weren't together since 2012 but he was my absolute best friend. Grief is such a horrible thing to experience. The only thing I'm truly realizing (as an adult), is that when everyone tells me time heals ? Nah. It doesn't heal anything. You just get used to the emptiness & hurt bc your loved one is no longer there. It's been the worst thing that's ever happened to me.... & that's mostly bc I can't make anything better for my son. I'll never be able to bring his daddy or grandpa back .... I can only pray I show my son enough love, share enough stories that my son feels comfort in that.
      I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss... maybe I'm not the right person to bring any words of comfort, but after 9 mts, I truly don't think anything has gotten better. Knowing the stages of grief did help & especially in children which is a little different than stages of grief for adults. Being there for them.... loving them... sharing stories...talking about ur departed one...and make sure u look at the world around u to see all the signs they're showing you they're still there. ❤️ my deepest, heartfelt condolences to all of you. Xo

  • @bays.divine3756
    @bays.divine3756 5 років тому +233

    It's hard when you lose a parent so young at age we all see the world a different way once it happens and yeah nothing will be the same but we get through it

    • @osaretinomobasuyi5986
      @osaretinomobasuyi5986 4 роки тому +3

      Love makes the world go round 🌎.

    • @Naruto-ld6mh
      @Naruto-ld6mh 4 роки тому +1

      Ti' so hard to be the youngest (I don't know what to do when my family died and me alone 😢😭😭💔💔)

    • @masfiqratul7559
      @masfiqratul7559 2 роки тому +3

      I Know I lost when I was only 5
      As The Youngest Son of My Mom I know I had the least amount of time with her
      My Step Mother do Love me and Take care of Me ...I do love making Fun on My Younger Sister
      But Something is Missing that's the Thing
      Yeah Something is Missing that's That only To Mom we can show our all Feelings Love . Saying meanthings anger Without even Getting a Single Hate in Return ...
      Mother is the Person who will love you in Every Stage of Your Life
      I miss her the Most

    • @joycefan76
      @joycefan76 2 роки тому

      so true

    • @fatma-wr9jj
      @fatma-wr9jj 2 роки тому

      @@Naruto-ld6mh I feel you it hurts. That is like my biggest fear.

  • @AM-dz1ky
    @AM-dz1ky 5 років тому +152

    Don't you just want to give all these kids a HUGE Hug?.

    • @Rach-sy8ry
      @Rach-sy8ry 5 років тому +1

      A M Yes definitely :'(

    • @cpmffeilberg4970
      @cpmffeilberg4970 5 років тому +5

      Yes because I just lost my mom in January and am devastated, so to all who have lost your mom I hug you a HUGE HUG. My deepest condolences to you. Love from Canada 🇨🇦👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼

    • @FireKiller70
      @FireKiller70 5 років тому

      Absolutely! ❤

    • @Naruto-ld6mh
      @Naruto-ld6mh 4 роки тому

      Yes

    • @ThePerfectionModels
      @ThePerfectionModels Рік тому

      Yea

  • @tsturgill753
    @tsturgill753 Рік тому +31

    I always get so mad when people complain about their parents because u never know how much u love someone till they die

    • @tiendang7531
      @tiendang7531 2 місяці тому

      I disagree. You have no idea what it’s like to grow up in a toxic abusive narcissistic family system where they designated you as the scapegoat. I don’t miss my parents now that they’re still alive & will not go to their funerals. I don’t miss them. Their deaths would probably unburden me from the hatred & the endless guilt tripping.

    • @mariarohmer2374
      @mariarohmer2374 Місяць тому

      Unless you have rotten parents. Not everyone is blessed with good parents. You're comment is pure tunnel vision and dismissive of the very real reality many children face.

    • @Raffi220
      @Raffi220 Місяць тому

      @@tiendang7531wrong video buddy

  • @lunashadow1521
    @lunashadow1521 5 років тому +120

    My mum died when I was just twelve, just watching this after a huge crying spree

    • @foxsden
      @foxsden 4 роки тому +5

      Luna Shadow, my dad died when I was 12 too. Well get through this

    • @nicolemonteith7879
      @nicolemonteith7879 4 роки тому +9

      I’m 12 and my mum died but I was in her room and I was in the house it was terrible and she only died like 5 weeks ago

    • @foxsden
      @foxsden 4 роки тому +2

      Nicole Monteith oh I’m so sorry to hear that. Just remember tomorrow’s a new day

    • @leahpearson5429
      @leahpearson5429 4 роки тому +2

      I know how you feel guys my mum died when i was 4 months old

    • @purplediamond5867
      @purplediamond5867 4 роки тому +4

      My dad died when I was twelve too. The emotions slapped me across the face the most when I saw my dad in a casket

  • @meerasrinivasan9601
    @meerasrinivasan9601 3 роки тому +88

    To all you angels who have lost a parent or parents so young...my hugs dears.
    I am in my late 50s, but I lost my beautiful mum when young. She was just 43 when she died.
    I understand the loss, the pain and sometimes the sad memories of the absent parent that come on birthdays, special days, graduation, weddings, etc.
    My mom used to make lovely desserts, cakes and cookies. I am sure your gone-parent did that too dears. My mom was a terrific cook, and a beautiful artist. She used to sing wonderfully, write poems, design jewelry, draw, paint, stitch, embroider and was warm and kind to my friends.
    What do you remember about your gone-parent my angels? Record them, remember them and feel proud of them. Try to learn a few of their recipies, their art work, their writings, etc.
    Keep the photos when they were strong, smiling, holding you, hugging you and kissing you.
    I had wonderful aunts and uncles to step in and nurture and help when mom died. I hope you young angels have grandpas, grandmas, uncles, aunts, older cousins, and loving neighbors to do that for you.
    We motherless or fatherless daughters and sons, whose parent died when we were young, must remember that the gone-parent did not abandon us, neglect us or abuse us...their life left their body and they went to another realm. From there that parent, mother or father or both, is watching over us, protecting us and loving us.
    I want you to look at a clear bright night sky and see your favorite planet or star, or even a galaxy, and give it your mom's or pop's name...and then talk to it like you are talking to your gone-mom or dad. And then send your wishes and dreams there, because your mom or dad might be just there watching and listening with utmost love. Blow a kiss and wave.
    Remember this angels: you are special, not alone and even an older stranger like me can understand, relate and empathize.
    Look how boldly and honestly you all write your feelings my angels. I am so proud of each one of you, though I don't know all of you personally.
    It is okay to cry, I still do. It is okay to feel sad when you remember mommy or daddy, and their passing away.
    You will get strong. You will find love, friendship and happiness. I could not wish for anything less for you all my angels.
    When you meet another like you, a motherless or a fatherless son or daughter whose parent has passed away, you take their hand gently and whisper with a genuine smile or tears, "I understand. I too list a parent. I am here for you. And know we are special. And angels are watching over us!"
    You are all so dear! Remember that always!
    From Dr. Meera
    A motherless daughter like many of you angels.

    • @swetabhattacharjee922
      @swetabhattacharjee922 3 роки тому +2

      You're so sweet. Just lost my mom 1 month ago. Cant cope right now, but I know things will get better and I'll be there too one day.

    • @amazepk
      @amazepk Рік тому

      ThankYou So much I needed to hear that

    • @amazepk
      @amazepk Рік тому

      @@swetabhattacharjee922 same lost my mum a month back, life seems meaningless

    • @swetabhattacharjee922
      @swetabhattacharjee922 Рік тому +1

      @@amazepk It gets better with time, trust me.. I've recovered a lot, Just keep going. After this is life and we all be gone one day.

    • @jds1421
      @jds1421 Рік тому +1

      Thank you very much for sharing. I, too, lost my mother to Cancer when she was 43 and I was 15. I miss her so much but I am very grateful for all the memories and experiences she had given me. I have been working on myself and understanding how these circumstances have affected me to this day. I will embrace her love and it will be passed on, reborn into new love that I have to give. All the best.

  • @karrbaddleywalter7764
    @karrbaddleywalter7764 5 років тому +160

    I lost my mom three years ago..and just recently this year I lost my maternal grandma....and I can't stop crying almost everynight in my bed. I pray that someday God'll make things better for me.

    • @ilsecarrasco6596
      @ilsecarrasco6596 5 років тому +6

      I also cry myself to sleep because i never had that love that comes from a dad and sometimes i wish i wasnt here

    • @Naruto-ld6mh
      @Naruto-ld6mh 4 роки тому +1

      I don't know what to do when my family died 😭😭😢😢💔💔

    • @lifeofjan2921
      @lifeofjan2921 4 роки тому +5

      I hope you are doing ok I loss mom at 3 and dad at 20 made some videos on it

    • @moeditz561
      @moeditz561 3 роки тому +1

      Stay strong

    • @gabrielantunezjr5994
      @gabrielantunezjr5994 3 роки тому +2

      God is on your side 🙏🙏

  • @junakataruna6876
    @junakataruna6876 4 роки тому +102

    I lost my father yesterday and hearing all this really helped

    • @brittanymatthews6962
      @brittanymatthews6962 3 роки тому +4

      🙏🙏❤Im soo sorry i hope you feel ok god loves u🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤

    • @royalpain9939
      @royalpain9939 3 роки тому +8

      Take care of yourself, he loves you Juna. People like to say "time heals all wounds" but TRUST me, it is totally okay if you still miss him 4, 5, 6, or even 20 years from now because at the end of the day you still lost someone so close to you, and a parent at that. Don't put a timer on grief. It's okay to cry for as long as you need to, don't blame yourself and try not to let the pain hold you back, he wouldn't want that and neither should you.
      That does not mean you shouldn't allow yourself to feel what you need to feel to move forward with your life. The pain will lessen and dull, but probably won't just go away 100%, so don't expect it to, but you will learn to continue your life and adapt to this change.
      It will get easier, but it's okay to feel. I lost my dad 6 years ago today and I just sobbed my eyes out lol. Time will pass and you will still miss him, but the pain won't be as sharp, more like those safety scissors that they give you kindergarten that hardly even cuts the paper.
      I hope I'm not making you feel worse, I'm just being honest and everyone is different, for me I still miss him, but I feel like I can finally breathe. When someone that close to you dies it's like you can't breathe without them there, but trust me you learn to be able to do it on your own. You'll be okay. Let yourself feel what you need to feel, cry, do what you gotta do, but then you gotta lift your head, and look forward. That doesn't mean you have to forget him and can't mourn from time to time, of course you can. Let it out!
      I just think its really important to not let yourself stay in that dark place for too long ya know? You still have a life, you still have to live it.
      So sorry for the long rant, i hope what I'm trying to say makes sense. I can't offer much in terms of advice (I'm only 15 lol) but I hope the words I can offer may help you get through this, or at least remind you that you're not alone. Thank you for reading, I really appreciate it!💕I hope you sleep well and wake up feeling rested and that both sides of your pillow are cold tonight.

    • @alwabadlambulo1617
      @alwabadlambulo1617 3 роки тому

      I'm sorry for your lost and the only reason I'm watching this video is because I've also lost my father when I was 9 years old to cancer

    • @Post-Alone
      @Post-Alone 3 роки тому +1

      This morning

    • @spidyplayz6555
      @spidyplayz6555 3 роки тому +1

      Take care🥺❤️

  • @freyasalinger8489
    @freyasalinger8489 5 років тому +107

    My mum died when I was 10. 18 days after my birthday. I’m now 22 years old and I’m not going to lie and say it gets easier because it doesn’t but you find better ways of coping with it.

    • @plushgoat2357
      @plushgoat2357 5 років тому +2

      my mom died also when i was 10, 9 days after my birthday haha. I'm now 16 and the grief comes in waves

    • @dimitrakiag9174
      @dimitrakiag9174 4 роки тому +3

      My dad died 15 days before I turned 11. I'm now 14. Still not over it.

    • @destinybarron8946
      @destinybarron8946 4 роки тому +3

      I still haven't found ways to cope. I'm 23 and they passed when I was 5 and 11 ... My heart fucking hurts

    • @DylanAce6
      @DylanAce6 3 роки тому +3

      I’m 22 now, mom died when I was 9. 10 days before her birthday. I agree, doesn’t get much easier but you get stronger. Especially if you use it as fuel to chase your dreams.

    • @mirismear2658
      @mirismear2658 3 роки тому +2

      Sending hugs and love to all of you 💕

  • @dumbdumb3243
    @dumbdumb3243 4 роки тому +89

    My dad passed away when i was 8 and now l’m 13 and it’s still really hard...i was the only one in class without a dad it was really hard to loose my best friend..I miss you daddy

    • @purplediamond5867
      @purplediamond5867 4 роки тому +5

      I feel ya I lost my dad when I was 12. I’m 15 now and I’m a little better but it can still really hurt

    • @rougeneon1997
      @rougeneon1997 3 роки тому

      I hope in the year that has passed since you left that comment things have gotten a little better.

    • @jana_maheshsmiley7165
      @jana_maheshsmiley7165 3 роки тому +5

      My dad passed away when i was 10 but still most of my friends dont know this....

    • @grandmastermario3695
      @grandmastermario3695 2 роки тому +2

      It's going to take a long time my mom's mom died 12 years ago and my mom still feels sad about it sometimes it's going to take a long time to get over losing a parent EXSPECIALLY losing 1 when that young that's horrible I think should talk to someone or get some help if you haven't already practically no 1 goes through this alone

    • @Emac000
      @Emac000 4 місяці тому

      Prayers for you and your dad your the same age as my son I lost my mom and step dad when I was 17😢

  • @seizuregirlllll
    @seizuregirlllll Рік тому +6

    My daughters dads died this morning. We are completely devastated! My mind is all over the place. I just want to support my daughter the best I can

    • @childbereavementchar
      @childbereavementchar  Рік тому +2

      We are very sorry to hear that your daughter has so recently been bereaved of her dad. We have lots of information and guidance on the section of our website about supporting bereaved children which has information which may be helpful for you during this difficult time: www.childbereavementuk.org/supporting-bereaved-children-and-young-people.
      Best wishes
      Child Bereavement UK

  • @21clementina
    @21clementina 3 роки тому +63

    My mom died when I was 9 it was really hard seeing her decay rapidly because of cancer, my father died when I was 22. Still coping with my unresolved grief with my mother, I'm so happy there's more awareness of mental health and resources today. Thank you for sharing your experiences it made me feel less alone.

  • @eshugirl7181
    @eshugirl7181 5 років тому +30

    my father died when I was only ten . everything changed my dad used to do everything for me. He is my world. So I am please requesting every one who have there both parents make them happy .because you don't when everything is going to change

  • @afrinzulfiya9026
    @afrinzulfiya9026 4 роки тому +19

    My mom died when I was 14 years old but still I miss her... Sometimes I feel like why I'm living...? I hate when someone ask where is your mom, I really want my mom back I know it's not possible but still I want her

    • @pinkflower1228
      @pinkflower1228 3 роки тому

      Similar feeling,my mom passed away recently. I know she can't be brought back but I still feel if I could bring her back or have a time machine to meet her. My father passed away in 2014

  • @LePubPattaya
    @LePubPattaya 4 роки тому +23

    My father died when I was 9 years old in 1976. I share so many of the concerns of these young people. The class being told not to mention it, not knowing why he died, being bullied, thinking why me?
    I’m 52 years old now. If any of these young people can read this I want to say, you will live wonderful lives. Never forget your lost parent or parents, they are always with you. But you will live the most amazing lives.
    I have so much hope for young people.

    • @heatherprichard6564
      @heatherprichard6564 3 роки тому +3

      My father also died unexpectedly when I was 7 in 1976. I’m so glad these kids are part of a bereavement support group with their peers. I felt so alone back then. I hope their experiences are healthy and they know they aren’t alone.

    • @3k445
      @3k445 3 роки тому +2

      Thank you for your hope. Lost my mum recently and the world is unfair.

    • @anujerry123
      @anujerry123 Рік тому

      ​@@3k445I don't have both 😔😔

  • @Nicolas-of6li
    @Nicolas-of6li 4 роки тому +28

    I'm 21, I lost my father when I was 14. I wish he was behind my back to help me into adulthood, now i feel like i'm still the same brat I've always been and haven't grown up at all

    • @scpjinchuriki3295
      @scpjinchuriki3295 4 роки тому +4

      Fuck bruh. That actually describes what I think happened with me too.
      I’m 18 rn, but I’m pretty much the same as I was when I was 12, when mine died.

    • @orelhanasab8327
      @orelhanasab8327 2 роки тому

      I’m so sorry that you’re going through that. Just know that we’re always evolving so even if you’re not happy with who you are or have been, you can change. Even the most kind amazing etc. people on earth can improve in some ways

  • @trinityrose135
    @trinityrose135 4 роки тому +41

    I lost my dad when I was 14. I always feel like I need to fill this hole in my heart. I’ll always feel more empty inside.

    • @fatma-wr9jj
      @fatma-wr9jj 2 роки тому +1

      I lost my dad at 14 as well. I have been depressed ever since.

  • @samsung.smart.fridge
    @samsung.smart.fridge 2 роки тому +5

    my dad died at 10, im currently 13
    it changed my whole life
    im not me anymore
    people always say they hate their parents but i loved my dad more than anything in the world
    i wish i could just hug him 1 more time....

  • @anuska671
    @anuska671 4 роки тому +20

    I lost my dad when i was 11 and i lost my mum when i was 17 .
    Life goes on . You just gotta be strong . Every day i wake up tears would be their, its gonna be hard but you just have to stay strong .

  • @shannonking8298
    @shannonking8298 2 роки тому +14

    i losyt my mum at eight years old, this was 18 years ago. No one understands the pain of losing your mum, especially when you are at an age where you you depend on them for literally everything. Your mum is the one who feeds you, makes sure you're safe, cleans, healthy, makes you feel comforted. I did have my dad but my parents were seperated and I was always closer to my mum,

    • @AndrewNoble-g8g
      @AndrewNoble-g8g 11 місяців тому

      I feel for you,I lost my mum when I was 6,she was 28, and I have struggled ever since,I have now outlived my mum and I feel for you so much, please try to find some form of peace within yourself because I have destroyed my life,messed up everything and I realise now that that would have been the last thing she would have wanted for me,I should have made her proud looking down and saying"that's my son", instead I feel she will be disgusted with me and I can't change all my mistakes, please make your mum proud.god bless you

  • @keziaannvidal5041
    @keziaannvidal5041 3 роки тому +11

    I lost my mom and it's been 38 days. Hearing this makes me think that I'm blessed because God doesn't get both my parents. I'm blessed because I experience having a mom and how my mom take care for me.

    • @swetabhattacharjee922
      @swetabhattacharjee922 3 роки тому

      I also lost my mom on 12th of sept this year, to a freaking road accident. I share your grief, my sister. I hope its getting better with every passing day, and please dont count days, it will hurt you.. keep on enjoying the limited lifetime you've at hand. I hope you find happiness soon.. Love to you 🌻🌟🌟

  • @tym09
    @tym09 2 роки тому +7

    My dad passed away 4 months ago, I am so jealous of people who can spend their time with their parents. Even when my dad was alive, he used to have no time to be involved in my life, yet I realized how much I love and loved him

  • @emmanuellukagabasa9107
    @emmanuellukagabasa9107 Рік тому +5

    I lost both parents at the age 5 and now am 27 but it still feels like yesterday.... its hurts every day

    • @childbereavementchar
      @childbereavementchar  Рік тому

      We are sorry to hear you were bereaved of your parents as a child. We have a page on our website for adults who were bereaved as children, which you may like to visit: www.childbereavementuk.org/adults-bereaved-as-children. We provide support to bereaved children and young people up to the age of 25, but if you would like to discuss bereavement support, there are organisations detailed on the linked page above which may be able to support you including Cruise Bereavement Care and Mind.
      Warm wishes
      Child Bereavement UK

  • @2111jade
    @2111jade 5 років тому +54

    My mom died a month ago. I don't even know what the hell I am going to do right now. She was always the one that kept things running, Just last year was my first time flying, and it was by myself. Now I get confused in really hectic situations, especially when I am tired. So what happened was, my best friend's grandmother bought me a plane ticket to fly me from California to South Carolina with a layover in Texas. I was in Texas, my flight had already left because my flight from California landed late. I started asking around for help, nobody would point me in the right direction. I started breaking down crying. I called my mom. What she did was she called Dallas Airport for me and talked to someone. She told me that she said something along the lines of "My daughter is stranded in the airport. She was supposed to have someone escort her to her next flight." she told me the guy said, "How old is she." My mom responded with "twenty-five" she said he said there was nothing they could do. My mom said that she told the guy that I was a special needs person (Which I am). I couldn't believe that she was able to help me while we were a thousand miles apart.
    Moral of the story, she was an amazing person and I feel bad because I just no realized that. I'm crying as I write this too. She's always helped me get out of situations before, but that was when we were never thousands of miles apart.

    • @NickMoore93
      @NickMoore93 5 років тому +1

      Wow, I lost my mom about 3 months ago, I feel bad because I never accepted her phone calls because the last time we talked it was a good memory, and if she did pass away I wanted us to have a last memory.

    • @dolphlundgren81
      @dolphlundgren81 5 років тому

      💔

  • @purplediamond5867
    @purplediamond5867 4 роки тому +24

    I lost my dad to cancer when I was 12
    Dude the sad part is I had to watch him die and yet I still had hope he would get better because “there’s no way he can die right? He’s dad! It’s gonna work out.” Even though he was getting more yellow ( idk how to explain it. He had liver cancer and it made him more yellow and he had to drain bile out)
    Then one day I woke up to random people in my house carrying a stretcher or something with a sheet over it and I quickly figured out what happened. And let me tell you, the emotions don’t really hit you as hard until you see your loved one in a casket

  • @Bella-ke7pr
    @Bella-ke7pr 4 роки тому +16

    Never tell.someone to move in or get over it, because you don't. You just learn to cope with the loss of a parent. Gosh I miss my father. We had a bond like Kobe and Gigi 💝

  • @randywoodworth5990
    @randywoodworth5990 3 роки тому +16

    I lost my mom when I was 18, she died in a car wreck, everyday has been a struggle, none of the grandkids in the family never got to know her like I did.

  • @heeljericholechampion8111
    @heeljericholechampion8111 4 роки тому +27

    Feel really greatful as someone who's mum past away at 16 couldn't imagine going through that as a child, very brave kids !!!!

    • @Ch103.
      @Ch103. 3 роки тому

      thx my mum passed away when i was 10

  • @Stuart2562
    @Stuart2562 4 роки тому +6

    Im soooo jealous. My Dad died in 69 when i was 7. I got no help what so ever. Im glad kids do now.

  • @loratomapeshoane9780
    @loratomapeshoane9780 5 років тому +12

    My mom died when I was 10 months.and I'm 39 and still crying fr her.i started my healing process only now

    • @childbereavementchar
      @childbereavementchar  5 років тому +3

      We are sorry that you lost your mother at such a young age. If you would like support, please do feel free to call our helpline on 0800 02 888 40.

  • @issau9739
    @issau9739 4 місяці тому +1

    I was raised by my grandfather and my uncle. They were the best dads ever. My grandfather passed away when I was 13, and my uncle passed when I was 18. It always felt so unfair to lose both of them, to have nobody like that in my world. But I’ve grown, and it’s still terribly hard some days but I can cope with it. I love you guys. Watching this has made me feel so valid

  • @andreacayanan554
    @andreacayanan554 3 роки тому +10

    i lost my mother when i was 10 life was so hard without her :'( cheering up for those like me had lost their moms be tough sweetie life will be good💖

    • @shanmugarajs4309
      @shanmugarajs4309 3 роки тому

      I lost my mom 2 months before. ,I m only 19 ,I can't accept &imagine life without mom 😭😭😭

    • @shanmugarajs4309
      @shanmugarajs4309 3 роки тому

      Last year I lost my grandma ,this year my mom ,My life fully haunted ,grief

  • @alrahbimom
    @alrahbimom 2 роки тому +2

    I’m a mom with small kids and I have incurable cancer. This video has me in tears

  • @neozeroluminatti7619
    @neozeroluminatti7619 3 роки тому +8

    I lost my mother when I turned 16 years old I really have anxiety attacks I don't know what to do today or not I can't find the happiness I needed

    • @marinette299
      @marinette299 3 роки тому +1

      Stranger , I dont know you but I with you the very best , may allah help and guide you throught dark days and I hope you find your light in this never ending dark tunnel

  • @shayfitz3244
    @shayfitz3244 3 роки тому +5

    My mother died at 6 and now as a 34yrs old woman, I am just grieving and healing my inner child. I'm proud of these young people

    • @Lesegohhh
      @Lesegohhh 2 роки тому

      My mom died when I was 4 and I’m 31 still crying almost every night

  • @sanjosunshine7091
    @sanjosunshine7091 5 років тому +6

    i like this video. i experienced the same after my dads death and now i am 33 and still i suffer from ptsd. i wished that there would be more support for kids.

  • @theunknown4570
    @theunknown4570 4 роки тому +12

    One morning in 1981 at age 9. I woke up to find my father on the bathroom floor. Unconscious. My mom was screaming frantically for me to dial the neighbors phone number to get help. Back in those days 911 did not exist like it does now. The ambulance came and sat outside our house with my dad inside. About 45 minutes later the ambulance headed to the hospital and me and my mother followed. We found out that my dad had passed from a heart attack. Fast forward 2 years later after my mom and I bounced from relative to relative unsettled. My mother dropped me off to school that morning and told me several times she loved me. As I got out the car I did not tell her that I loved her. That afternoon I was surprised by relatives picking me up from school. We drove around all night. Then I was told that my mom had a heart attack and died. That night my cousin's pick me up. And I would spend the remainder of my childhood living with them as guardian. In sixth grade one of my cousins told me that my mom had committed suicide. I would like to say that suicide affects way more than just a person who commits it. And it still, haunts me daily and I'm almost 50. It has negatively impacted me to my core. And i will never recover. Buy you know what. The sun will come up tomorrow. And you have a responsibility to live your life too. You have to cope the best you can. And you need to seek help from others to talk about it. I never did nor did my family i grew up with. I had no counseling.

  • @MichelleKoete-i7o
    @MichelleKoete-i7o Рік тому +1

    My dad died 8 years ago I was the first born and I had six siblings after me life was hard mum never worked all her life can't fix in to work.We all tried our best to go through everything together.I make sure my little ones complete their studies.I know how it feels.May God heal and bless you all.

  • @SadChills
    @SadChills 3 роки тому +3

    This is sad i cant take the pain away😭😔😭😔😭😭😢

  • @Babyblue689
    @Babyblue689 4 роки тому +5

    My parents both died when I was-a mature adult 6 months apart. But this is no way I can imagine losing them as a child, but society is a lot more geared up to deal with this now than in the past

  • @taylercornelius9011
    @taylercornelius9011 3 роки тому +13

    my mom died when i was ten. i can totally relate to all of this. i ran out of an assembly talent show because the song played at her funeral came on

  • @kaima8002
    @kaima8002 2 роки тому +1

    My dad died 10 days ago. I'm 16 and my mom and I are doing our best. I feel like I won't be able to enjoy life again.

  • @matthewmullins531
    @matthewmullins531 4 роки тому +14

    I'm currently 19 at the age of 6 years old I lost my father, and at the age of 16 I lost my mum. I remember feeling my mum's lifeless I can't dicribe how it feels. But it hunts me to this day. I've seen my uncle die from cancer as well when I was 14 and seeing him die. Loss it apart of life.
    Sure I got it at a early stage.
    But my mum day uncle etc hmare still alive in my heart and are with me for the rest of my life.
    Anyway that's how I try to see it.

    • @destinybarron8946
      @destinybarron8946 4 роки тому +2

      I lost my mom and dad when I was 5 & 11. I wish I could hug you

    • @karismapanda6968
      @karismapanda6968 3 роки тому +2

      That's a really strong way of seeing this. I hope we can all heal from these experiences.

  • @ashluv23
    @ashluv23 4 роки тому +7

    I was 6 when my dad unexpectedly passed away. At that time I was so confused because I didn’t understand what death was. Even though I was so young, I have very good memories of him. It’s been 13 years, and I don’t even remember what he sounded like. I wish he was still here.

    • @marinette299
      @marinette299 3 роки тому

      Ishalllah may allah reunite you two I the here after

  • @fmds2115
    @fmds2115 2 роки тому +2

    For those who reach out a kid whose parent died, please tell them, that they are forgiven, they have no mistake to their parent and no need to be guilty.

  • @tompro53
    @tompro53 2 роки тому +1

    Lost my dad at 7 now I'm 33, wish America had something like this for when I was growing up.

  • @sincerelysierraa5213
    @sincerelysierraa5213 3 роки тому +8

    My dad died before I was born so I never got the gift of hearing his voice or making memories with him.. it’s a different kind of loss.. not comparing I just want to see anyone’s else stories or feelings like mine. I just have his stories and the same few pictures… I’m sure in a way it’s easier to not lose him after knowing him but I wish I had that..

    • @Tudleyn
      @Tudleyn 3 роки тому +1

      I am sorry for your loss, it still is a loss, bacause you lost everything that could happened if he was still alive ❤️ i really hope one day we will be able to meet again those we lost and i hope you will meet your dear father as well

  • @destinybarron8946
    @destinybarron8946 4 роки тому +4

    I buried my mom and dad when I was 5 and 11... I'm now 23 and I still cry myself to sleep and overthink of them regularly...

    • @babyblue6743
      @babyblue6743 4 роки тому

      Honey, I’m so sorry, what kind of a childhood did u have. Who took care of u, did u like them

    • @destinybarron8946
      @destinybarron8946 4 роки тому

      @@babyblue6743 my grandparents, they love me just show a lot of tough love. I am more gentle and soft spoken

    • @babyblue6743
      @babyblue6743 4 роки тому

      I’m glad you had and still have a good life despite that. I got tough love and sometimes it’s necessary. I never experienced parental loss as a child, my mum had an accident when I was 14 but was pulled out of the way in time, it was one of these life seconds things, but after operations pulled through, I was really close to her back then, I overthink about that a lot and have to keep reminding myself that she’s ok, but it took her a long time to walk properly. I just could never have imagined it without them, because there was only my dad and no brothers and sisters and not really anyone else, my family was far flung, so things do or don’t happen for a reason, but it’s just different events in different people’s lives.

  • @ojochegbe_
    @ojochegbe_ 2 місяці тому +1

    Lost my mom at 6
    I remember i used to see shadows when i'm alone and i feel human presence

  • @bevanbuckwheatshea5520
    @bevanbuckwheatshea5520 Рік тому

    Incredibly brave amazing young people.

  • @Naruto-ld6mh
    @Naruto-ld6mh 4 роки тому +2

    Who people lose their mom or dad we'all remember the good memories that your first step your first bath your first day at school your parents always help you no matter what 😢😢💔💔😥😥. (it's break my heart when I saw somebody like that)

  • @sarahmurphy1951
    @sarahmurphy1951 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you to all those involved in the video. I'm 56 years old and lost my Dad suddenly when I was 8 years old. It was 1973 and organizations like this did not exist. While I am happy and successful in several ways the pain of my Dad's death will be something I have to care for until I die. I deeply appreciate your courage and willingness to share your experience! :) I think that becoming a very empathic person and a clinical social worker may be a positive outcome of the loss. My Dad was an uncommonly loving and kind person and I know I was lucky to experience his love. Much love, to each of you!
    xxoo

  • @ZDNR2
    @ZDNR2 2 роки тому +1

    Can we all agree having a friend that has had the same experience makes it better. When you lose a parent you become careless at least in my experience. You get yelled at my some random person I don’t give an f. It makes you more vulnerable to emotion

  • @RUBBERDUCKSSSSS
    @RUBBERDUCKSSSSS Рік тому +4

    My dad died when I was 9, I’m almost 11 now and thinking about how young my brother was when it happened…all young boys should grow up with a father…

    • @childbereavementchar
      @childbereavementchar  Рік тому +1

      We are very sorry to hear your dad died when you were 9. If you would find it helpful to speak to someone about your bereavement, you can call our Helpline on 0800 02 888 40, or use Live Chat on our website, www.childbereavementuk.org. Our Helpline team are available Monday to Friday from 9am-5pm. We'd also encourage you to talk to a trusted adult about making contact with us so they can support you too.
      Warm wishes, Child Bereavement UK

    • @RUBBERDUCKSSSSS
      @RUBBERDUCKSSSSS Рік тому +1

      @@childbereavementchar thank you, but I’m fine about it. :)

  • @Levetator
    @Levetator 4 роки тому +4

    I lost my dad when I was 4 I was so young I did not remember any time with my dad I remember calling him everyday I was so close to meeting him I was about a week away I was packing my bags and then he did not answer no answer no answer until my mom got the bad news and then she told me I was devastated he was found dead on a river a few days ago I got to hold one of my dads tools. Enjoy having parents and a perfect family.

  • @ethanross1426
    @ethanross1426 Рік тому

    I lost my father 16 years ago when i was 11 from cancer. I still remember it like it was yesterday. I still miss him everyday and can still hear his infectious laugh.

  • @Panthersigma
    @Panthersigma Рік тому +1

    My father died when I was 18 months old and now at 48 it still hurts me despite decades of therapy

  • @steffigavin9152
    @steffigavin9152 4 роки тому +16

    I guess I'm an old lady now...67 years old. I lost my dad when I was 7. I think my life would have been very different had he lived. At the time when my dad passed away, kids didn't have access to therapy. I think it's very important that children having this experience get therapy...even if they don't feel they need it.

    • @babyblue6743
      @babyblue6743 4 роки тому

      That’s sad losing him so young, it’s too young to lose a parent and there is evidence that children who lose a parent or parents under 16 years are more prone to depression and other things. I didn’t lose parents as a child, thankfully, but have lost them both in the last 4 years, I’m 54, but I can imagine the sense of loss as a child, because you have so much to learn, go through and rely so much on others. There really is a big difference in losing them as children compared to adults. In some ways an experience like that does make you more sympathetic to people who’ve lost parents as children. I take it your mum died when you were an adult. How do the two compare, I’m just interested and i don’t have to discuss it if U don’t want, one thing I could imagine is the feeling of loss as they are not there for u in those milestone life moments, to share things with u, or just to be there for u and comfort you when you are sad, moreover they’re not there to protect u either. a parents love is unique

    • @steffigavin9152
      @steffigavin9152 4 роки тому

      @@babyblue6743 Unfortunately, I have very few memories of my dad because I was so young when he passed. I think my relationships with men might have been more successful had I had a male role model but I didn't. Mom passed when I was 39. I was in a complete panic when she became ill. She was the only parent I really knew. Sorry to hear about your Mom and Dad. The bottom line is it's always just terrible to lose them whenever it happens. Take care Penny!

    • @babyblue6743
      @babyblue6743 4 роки тому

      Ye, it’s like everyone else has got that parent. I’ve been lucky, lost both in last 4 years, so there was acceptance and proper closure. But with premature parental loss there isn’t that closure, because the child was left partially grown. Also another problem arises if children haven’t got adequate roll models, ie; uncles, grandads, or older brothers, that’s so lonely, moreover a child can suffer a lack of affection and security and feel very vulnerable. Looking at this video has made me aware than nobody should take anything for granted, which those with intact childhoods do all the time. I did. But I was discussing this with my home help a few weeks ago and she said in the past it was just seen as life, grin and bear it years ago, people didn’t talk about their feelings and emotions like today. (I get input from my home helps) they weren’t aware of how early parental loss affected children, just the sheer trauma that they didn’t make it to see you to a certain age is a tragedy and it’s every parents worst nightmare to leave their young children like that, the child feels cheated out of that time together. I’m autistic, so marrying would have been difficult, although it never interested me because I had my dad, also autistics don’t see the world and relationships in the same way as other people do, when he passed I told someone that there was only one man in my life, that was him, because nothing more was expected of me than to be a daughter. I don’t know why early parental death affects me so deeply, it happened to a couple of my classmates when I was 10 and 12, to me that was awful and I became fearful of losing them, but quickly reasoned that it only happens to others, which isn’t true. I think it’s good that society is getting on top of this problem today, but there is still a way to go

  • @kongkong330
    @kongkong330 2 роки тому +2

    I lost my dad 2015 and my world was shattered but my mom was always there for me . But then 3 years later i lost my best friend who happened to my mom and even today I just cannot get over it ..it is so heartbreaking knowing that I will never see my parents again 💔

  • @zak5062
    @zak5062 4 роки тому +1

    This made me cry..really.

  • @norlicedej7981
    @norlicedej7981 11 місяців тому +1

    My mum died a month ago now, but the had been suffering from Alzeimers for years. I think I was about 14 or 15 when it started. And for such a long time I was so anxious because of it. When she died, I thought I could finally find peace, but I'm still anxious, scared and sad a lot of the time.

    • @childbereavementchar
      @childbereavementchar  11 місяців тому

      We are so sorry to hear about your loss. Such a sad and difficult time for you and all the family. Please check out our website for links to our helpline and support.

  • @josuarom7516
    @josuarom7516 4 роки тому +6

    My father died when I'm was 12 and my mother died when I become 20 and I don't have a brother and sister... And now I am 20

    • @babyblue6743
      @babyblue6743 4 роки тому +2

      Ye, am only child with no parents, it’s hard

  • @dezolatestation
    @dezolatestation Рік тому

    just realize this things is affected so much after a years by years.
    keep strong guys we can do it!!

  • @donnypp9092
    @donnypp9092 4 роки тому +26

    My mum died in 1991 when I was aged 9, 37 now and still haven't processed it properly,i can't remember her face or her voice,its like my minds deleted everything about her.
    I try to remember but I only remember things about her cancer and her death.
    💔

  • @mabelworld1661
    @mabelworld1661 4 роки тому +2

    My mother died one month ago,it has never being the same.i miss her

  •  9 місяців тому

    Those of us who lost parents before we were 10, we never got to talk to them about our hopes and dreams and what we wanted to do and what were their hopes and dreams.

  • @matroff95
    @matroff95 Рік тому

    Me and my sister lost our Mom when we were 12 and 10 to cancer. We're 34 and 31 now, and it still affects us today. Getting married, having kids, Christmas, losing other family members. It's sad that we still struggle to support kids during this experience.
    We never got offered this support, so I'm so pleased that these guys did. You need to speak to others who get it because you'll never find that comfort around people who sadly don't. Great video!

  • @leonreznor7357
    @leonreznor7357 4 роки тому +4

    I have lost my dad 3 years ago, but i am so depressed about it, just the fact i Will never see him again

  • @Bendivad_number1_fan
    @Bendivad_number1_fan 5 років тому +18

    My names lily and my mom died when I was 7
    I'm 11

  • @mikaism
    @mikaism 3 місяці тому

    My mum died when I was 5 of lymphoma a type of cancer. I miss her so much. I love you mummy

  • @heart_0903
    @heart_0903 8 місяців тому

    hugs... my father died when I was 7 years old and I am 31 now but still I miss my daddy... thank you for I know you understand what I have been through and am going through...

    • @childbereavementchar
      @childbereavementchar  6 місяців тому +1

      We are sorry to hear you were bereaved of your father when you were 7.
      We have a page on our website for adults who were bereaved as children, which you may like to visit: www.childbereavementuk.org/adults-bereaved-as-children, and which includes some details of support organisations for adults bereaved as children if you would find this helpful.
      Warm wishes
      Child Bereavement UK

  • @Rorywebb9776
    @Rorywebb9776 8 місяців тому

    Lost my father when I was 6 and it’s still hard always is hard but it makes you stronger all we can do is live our lives to best we can and make them proud

    • @childbereavementchar
      @childbereavementchar  8 місяців тому

      We are very sorry to hear you were bereaved of your father when you were six. We support bereaved young people up to the age of 25. If you'd like to see our resources, you can visit our website: www.childbereavementuk.org/Listing/Category/support-for-young-people
      or call our Helpline on 0800 02 88 40, Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm, or via Live Chat on our website: childbereavementuk.org
      Warm wishes
      Child Bereavement UK

  • @xxiamiconicxx
    @xxiamiconicxx 5 років тому +36

    My mom passed away 29,02,16 I was 15 at the time and my dad passed 25,05,19 I'm now 19

    • @faisalqureshi8637
      @faisalqureshi8637 5 років тому +4

      Sorry for your precious lose i know how it feel

    • @Sunrise-ow3jq
      @Sunrise-ow3jq 5 років тому

      😭

    • @ilsecarrasco6596
      @ilsecarrasco6596 5 років тому +2

      Hey your not alone and yes my dad passed when i was 4 im currently 14 and its the worse but you need a talk ill be here

    • @Sunrise-ow3jq
      @Sunrise-ow3jq 5 років тому +1

      @@ilsecarrasco6596 May his soul rest in peace 🙏

    • @ilsecarrasco6596
      @ilsecarrasco6596 5 років тому

      @@Sunrise-ow3jq thxs it means a lot its only 10 years sense i last saw him amd im going through that time were i really need him.

  • @yoonshub
    @yoonshub Рік тому +1

    I lost my dad when i was 5. I dont have any memories of him other than the funeral and it kinda hurts because when i think of him i can only remember that day. At that time I didn't knew what it meant by my father's death, i knew he was gone but i didn't understand that it was forever. I only started realising when i saw other kids with their dads and i slowly started to understand and man even after all this time i will break down in tears.
    I was bright kid until then, after that i sort of became helpless and became the opposite of what i used to be. I felt alone and my grades dropped. I only gained myself back just 3 years back when i gathered myself up and started to take care of myself and focus on myself without needing anyone's help. It hurts tho, im 18 now and still the void is there

    • @childbereavementchar
      @childbereavementchar  Рік тому

      We are very sorry to hear your were bereaved of your dad when you were five.
      We have a section on our website which is for bereaved young people which you may find helpful to look at: www.childbereavementuk.org/Listing/Category/support-for-young-people.
      We support bereaved young people up to the age of 25, so if you would like to talk to us about your grief or about bereavement support, you are welcome to contact our Helpline on 0800 02 888 40 or by using Live Chat on our website: www.childbereavementuk.org. Our team are available Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm.
      Best wishes
      Child Bereavement UK

  • @fnafmystery1235
    @fnafmystery1235 3 роки тому +3

    My dad died when i was 11. I was 6 monts going on therapy. I was scared to be left alone. That mom would die. Died from cancer and kidney stones. 13.6.2017 it was long fight. Everybody but me and dad hoped he would live. But others knew the truth. It was like from nothing. But mom made it perfect. She cared so much helped me So much. I know now a lot more and im okay. Im So thankful for her. im 15. My dads family (parents And his 2 siblings died from cancer and other 2 siblings had it 55 years into their life. Wish me and my brothers luck. Thank you.

  • @jittojoyes7533
    @jittojoyes7533 Рік тому +1

    I lost both of my parents at the age of 8. I never know what is it be like a son to a mother. I never miss my father or mother, bcz I never knew them. Not their love, security and care. Especially in your early age , you will feel social anxiety, fear.. etc through out. Also in your 20s you will feel something is missing. The missing part is love and the support. It's true. It's a life time loss. Although I have relatives, thier efforts doesn't even come close. I can understand that they don't understand. Your 50 percentage life is already done when you had lost your parents. But don't give up.

  • @blissdrive1763
    @blissdrive1763 3 роки тому +3

    My dad was killed last month and I feel like I lost everything I miss him so much and I wish I could go back in time

    • @swetabhattacharjee922
      @swetabhattacharjee922 3 роки тому

      Lost my mom, 2 months back.. I feel you. She was killed too, by a reckless driver. But please try to make your life beautiful, you owe yourself happiness too.. let positivity flow in 🌟🌟🌻🌻 the world is a family remember that, and every single soul is going thru some pain, and if not now, then one day they will too.. Try to be happy, its your responsibility.

  • @mariarohmer2374
    @mariarohmer2374 Місяць тому

    We as a society fail each other by our own weaknesses. Most times we don't bring things up because WE feel uncomfortable. It's incredibly selfish and ignorant. We need to step out of these emotional blocks. I would love to hug any child who has lost a parent.

  • @johnchallenger4374
    @johnchallenger4374 2 роки тому

    I really appreciated watching this video. My dad passed a week before my eighth birthday, and the support I received from teachers, and family really helped. My faith in God grew immensely during this period. Being so young, I didn't have anyone of my peers I could talk with about this. I hesitated bringing my dad up in conversions, bc I hated sympathy (I still kind of do). It wasn't until college that I was able to open up about the experience. To those who have lost a parent at a young age, yes it changes your perspective on life, but you will get through it and move forward.

  • @TestKitTaylor
    @TestKitTaylor 3 роки тому +5

    My father died of an overdose when I was four and my mother died of one too when I was eight, and all of my memories of my mother are of her having an episode screaming around the house, and threatening to kill her self with knives. I was always reclusive and quiet, and never really smiled. I couldn't comprehend what was going on with me, and began to gain a lot of weight just eating away the pain that I had no idea how to process. So that resulted in a lot of bullying in school and me shutting down even more over the years. Ended up going down a bad road of abusing drugs myself, I'm 22 now and just wow idk anymore never thought my life would have gotten to this point. At least I'm making attempts to clean up, but my life is a complete mess. I never have really felt understood by anyone around me, and can't even really understand myself. Never did get adequate therapy for all of this and was mostly just thrown SSRI's here and there. I want to be the best me, and live my best life, but it's all so tiresome...

    • @childbereavementchar
      @childbereavementchar  3 роки тому

      Although we do not offer support in the US, we are aware of an organisation called The Compassionate Friends, whose details you can find here: www.compassionatefriends.org/
      It may also be helpful for you to have a look at some of the information and resources we have on our website. I have included a few links below which may be of interest:
      The Path of Grief - www.childbereavementuk.org/Listing/Category/the-path-of-grief
      The Invisible Suitcase - www.childbereavementuk.org/the-invisible-suitcase
      Please note that this information about services and resources does not constitute a recommendation by Child Bereavement UK, as we are aware that whether a particular resource is helpful or not is a decision that can only be made by each individual
      I hope these are helpful to you and thank you again for contacting Child Bereavement UK.
      Support & Information Team
      Child Bereavement UK

  • @laurasiple738
    @laurasiple738 3 роки тому +4

    My dad committed suicide when I was 5 1/2 yrs old. He was 26. I didn’t understand what death was, that he was really gone. After drawing pictures of angels and a coffin in the sky with stars my teacher called home and told my mom that I really needed counseling. She told me later that she didn’t want me to see the dr because they always blamed the mom. My grandmother interceded and insisted she make the appt. It helped me, but she stopped taking me. My dad was a wonderful father who is still loved by my mom’s family. He was always kind and gentle towards me. I realize now, as an adult, that my mom has narcissistic traits. Looking back, I can see how that affected my dad. He divorced her, but still came to see me so often that I didn’t realize then that he had moved out. She put so many financial demands on him that he began to despair and became hopeless. He left a suicide note that I allowed my therapist to read. I can’t bring myself to read it, but wanted the therapist to tell me what he thought. He told me that my dad felt hopeless, that he had no future because of her demands. He said it was such a sad letter, not angry, just sad. For years I could never say that he suicided. If people asked me how he died, I always said he just got sick. The anger I felt towards him came later. How could he leave me with her! Then it turned into anger that she should have died, not him! Now I feel sad for my dad. He had no where to turn in 1956. Therapy just wasn’t that accepted. I am 69 and still feel the loss of my dad. My mom’s family still love him. My mother lives with me now and has dementia. I have felt indifferent towards her for some years. She was never a good mom. She is lucky that she has children who have a strong sense of responsibility and are willing to care for her. I believe that is a trait I learned from my father. I feel blessed that he was my father and can now understand his sadness.

  • @lanabennington3737
    @lanabennington3737 3 роки тому +3

    My biological mom died in July 2013 and my biological daddy in July 2017. I'm 16 now and I never met them but I miss them lots :(

  • @smknine6597
    @smknine6597 4 роки тому +3

    My dad died when I was four and it sucks because I don’t even remember what he sounded like and it was 11 years ago and it just hurts because I can’t cry or talk to people about it because I don’t want people to stress over it

  • @2111jade
    @2111jade 5 років тому +45

    Does the feeling of exhaustion each night ever go away??

    • @dunder3076
      @dunder3076 5 років тому +2

      Sometimes

    • @dunder3076
      @dunder3076 5 років тому +5

      Peach y yes, when your parents die you feel sadness and guilt but know it’s not your fault. All we can do is hope we can make the most of our lives.

    • @cpmffeilberg4970
      @cpmffeilberg4970 5 років тому +1

      We never should ignore our feelings, we'll get sick. Be yourself, feel your feelings and deal with them as they come. I've had many losses, but having just lost my mom find this a very hard one.

    • @karismapanda6968
      @karismapanda6968 3 роки тому +1

      It probably doesn't. I lost my dad 1 year ago and the feeling of exhaustion and emptiness has never gone for some reason.

  • @coreymichael1880
    @coreymichael1880 3 роки тому +1

    You lose them and there isn’t any positive after. Just a great big void. You constantly move. We grow. We continue. But we don’t forget. Ever. I miss you mum. I hope these amazing young people are well looked after. The strength they’ve shown blows my mind and honestly, makes me so emotional. It’s not my place to say but, what incredible people ❤️❤️❤️

  • @abdulsijad2419
    @abdulsijad2419 5 місяців тому

    to all the people whos moms and dads have passed on...remember one day u will see them again in heaven.....this is not the end.....i im 52 now my mother died when i was 9...i remember going to school a week later and my english teacher was waiting outside the main gates of school for me in the morning as the other kids had told her what had happened and she gave me a big hug.....i still remember that day.....the pain of losing a parent never really goes away but it does get easier the older u get....

  • @RandomRosemary
    @RandomRosemary 2 роки тому +3

    I lost my dad when I was 8, I had a lot of kids in school laugh at me for it, I can still hear certain comments "haha you've got a dead daddy", I had a lot of teachers forget the memo as it were and I'd be forced to make father's Day cards etc next to my classmates in tears. I didn't cope well with my loss and I felt totally numb for years

  • @Donoprez
    @Donoprez 4 роки тому +6

    Please I need all of your prayers. One of my good friends just died in a tragic way and he's leaving behind his wife and two amazing kids. One is 18 years old and the other one 21. I need you to help me praying for this beautiful family in their time of pain .

    • @babyblue6743
      @babyblue6743 4 роки тому

      Will pray for them

    • @SuspiriaX
      @SuspiriaX 2 роки тому

      It's two years later but I will pray for them too
      because people tend to forget these things are still so very hard after two years

  • @aabhushanrajthala
    @aabhushanrajthala Рік тому

    I was 15 when my father died. I am 20 years old now. We didn‘t even get to spend a lot of time as he used to live in another country. At that time, I didn‘t exactly realise what was happening. It was tough to process obviously but when I think about it now, I get 100% more sad than I used to be. I really need him at this phase of my life. What many other people have, I feel they‘re lucky that they can spend their good time with their fathers and learn a lot of things and listen to the experiences they‘ve had in their lives. I have missed a whole beauty of talking to a dad like a man, listening to experiences from himself, learning from him.

  • @KingOfCharlotteNC
    @KingOfCharlotteNC 3 роки тому

    My empathy goes towards them. 🙏

  • @Will.Flavell
    @Will.Flavell Рік тому

    I lost both of my parents when I was 9 in a car accident so my brother (who is 15 years older than me) and his girlfriend (now his wife) took me in raised me like a son 4 years later their twin daughters (my nieces) were born I was like more of an older brother than an uncle to them now me at 28 years old living my own life i thank my brother and my sister in law a lot for taking me under their wing I would do anything for both of them and be there for them as they were for me. ❤️😊🙏

  • @TonecrafteLuthiery
    @TonecrafteLuthiery 2 місяці тому

    There’s one thing I noticed in all of these kids. They’re all unusually mature for their age.

  • @shinchangamer2383
    @shinchangamer2383 3 роки тому +2

    When you lost your first mother
    Remember Mother Mary has a great plan for you in your life and she will never leave you alone

  • @shadytrite9400
    @shadytrite9400 2 роки тому +1

    My mum is gonna pass away in 9 months guys I don‘t want this but eventhough I‘m not christian she always will be with me and my guardian angel

  • @olpia1084
    @olpia1084 2 роки тому

    You can see the change in their eyes

  • @Chloe-ml9rp
    @Chloe-ml9rp 11 місяців тому +1

    I lost my dad 8 and a half years ago. His oldest was 18, then the next was 15. I was 12 and his youngest was 9….

    • @childbereavementchar
      @childbereavementchar  11 місяців тому

      We are very sorry to hear you and your siblings were bereaved of your dad.
      We support children and young people up to the age of 25 when they have been bereaved of someone important to them. If you or your siblings would like to discuss bereavement support with us, please contact our Helpline on 0800 02 888 40, Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm, or via Live Chat on our website.
      We also have a section on our website for bereaved young people which has other resources and guidance which you may like to visit: www.childbereavementuk.org/Listing/Category/support-for-young-people
      Best wishes
      Child Bereavement UK

  • @bradenyoungblood748
    @bradenyoungblood748 Рік тому +1

    Im 23 lost my dad to suicide when i was 7 i never dealt with it properly and now that i have a daughter its with me every day

    • @childbereavementchar
      @childbereavementchar  Рік тому +1

      We are very sorry to hear that you were bereaved of your Dad when you were 7 years old. We support bereaved young people in the UK up to the age of 25, so if you would find it helpful to speak to us, please call our Helpline on 0800 02 888 40, or use Live Chat on our website. The Helpline team are available Monday - Friday, 9am - 5pm.

  • @starlightzz1480
    @starlightzz1480 2 роки тому

    My ex husband just passed and he left out 10 year old son. It's truly hard. Thank you for sharing your views on this. It helps us parents better understand. I hope to be a helping and a healing process for my son. God bless all of you ❤🙏