What Makes a Good Life? Lessons From the Longest Study on Happiness

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    This one study will change how you think about your entire life.
    Today, you’re getting the definitive answer to this powerful question:
    What makes a good life?
    There is nothing more important than this conversation. Because by the time you are done listening, your life won’t be the same.
    In this episode, you’re getting the research, the secrets, and some very surprising takeaways from an 86-year-long study at Harvard. The Harvard Study of Adult Development began in 1938 and is the longest study that has ever been done on happiness, relationships, and the human experience.
    Joining Mel today is the director of that study, Dr. Robert Waldinger, MD. Dr. Waldinger is a medical doctor, professor at Harvard Medical School, and a zen priest. He is here to share all of the groundbreaking research and, more importantly, give you the answers to what you need to do starting today in order to live a good life.
    You’ll learn the best life advice and lessons from 100-year-olds, the surprising question of whether you can predict if you’ll be healthy at age 80, the simple daily habit that leads to lasting happiness, and more-all backed by decades of research.
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    In this episode:
    7:26: What IS the Harvard Study of Adult Development?
    12:03: The biggest and surprising takeaway from this study.
    14:38: What was the strongest predictor of health at age 80?
    17:07: Causes of loneliness and how to feel connected again.
    20:36: The #1 strategy for couples who don’t feel connected.
    24:27 Remember THIS when you’re trying to make new friends.
    26:41: Mel shares what was happening in her life at 27 years old.
    29:05: The advantage to getting older.
    31:28: What do we get wrong about happiness?
    40:31: What does money have to do with happiness?
    46:14: How do we stop comparing ourselves?
    48:29: How to find happiness when you’re in your 20’s.
    56:52: What kind of relationships do you NEED to have a good life?
    1:02:12: What will help you get the most out of life?
    1:10:17: What to hear if you don’t have a romantic partner.
    1:14:47: #1 pro tip for nurturing your friendships.
    1:18:45: How to have deeper conversations with your friends.
    1:26:06: The most important thing to know about raising healthy children.
    1:29:32: How to help your kids and loved ones meet the challenges of life.
    1:34:30: What were the biggest regrets for people at the end of their lives?
    1:37:45: These are the only people who will remember that you worked late.
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  • @docemariacoelhopinto9574
    @docemariacoelhopinto9574 3 місяці тому +48

    I woke up feeling terribly lonely - everybody is away on holidays with their families and I'm not. I felt completely broken. Somehow I picked up my phone and while scrolling I found this podcast. It saved me today...everythingmakes sense...I have already texted friends and we are going for a walk in a park in the afternoon...thx❤

  • @r.katiekane252
    @r.katiekane252 2 дні тому +1

    I use my social media to connect to gardening and homesteading groups...along with my gaming friends from multiple generations. You mentioned greeting complete strangers, learning their names and making connections...this trait (of mine as well) drives my teenagers absolutely crazy. They are always like "Why do you always have to talk to people you don't know?" I finally told them...sometimes it is simply because they looked like they had something they needed to get off their mind. We almost always part ways smiling, laughing even....but apparently that trait mortifies my teens.

  • @dodalton1
    @dodalton1 7 місяців тому +372

    I don't know where it came from, but I've been acutely aware of how temporary life is since I was 4. Earliest memory was standing outside, thinking about how loved and safe I felt, and how carefree, and I thought - "I want to remember this feeling for the rest of my life". I've been savoring life since the beginning. It still takes effort - which is why I'm here, listening to this podcast. 😌

    • @krismann7405
      @krismann7405 7 місяців тому +5

      That’s soooo beautiful ❤

    • @anjapost494
      @anjapost494 7 місяців тому +1

      Aww, I love that!❤

    • @pixiedoodledust
      @pixiedoodledust 7 місяців тому +8

      You are an old soul ❤

    • @wolftickets1969
      @wolftickets1969 7 місяців тому +10

      I too learned it early, being stricken with the death of my father when I was just 4 1/2.

    • @dyanyasa5551
      @dyanyasa5551 7 місяців тому +10

      When I was around 6 yo, I remember being sad about death, I remember this phase that maybe lasted 2 months where I would go and hide under the table and cry because I feel sad thinking that 1 day my mom and my dad will die. It was a weird time coz I was a normal playful kid but once in a while I would go under the table and hide and cry

  • @cecillecupino3261
    @cecillecupino3261 7 місяців тому +107

    Just texted a friend that I missed her and not even a second pass, she replied back. Felt great!

  • @JeanGenie92
    @JeanGenie92 7 місяців тому +115

    "Loneliness is being less connected to people than you want to be" so well put

  • @judylishman8446
    @judylishman8446 7 місяців тому +156

    The coffee shop!! Yes! After a couple years walking past the same retired couple at the coffee shop every morning - grabbing my coffee on my way to work - said hello. Over time we had a group of 7-8 who would sit for 20-30 min before work. Complete strangers before. People often saying one day they’d join us. Pull up a chair now!! It was so fantastic!! Working from home changed that for me. I think I’ll drop in one morning this week and say hello. ❤

  • @steffaniewest6872
    @steffaniewest6872 7 місяців тому +193

    Finding faith and belief in God has provided me with the connection I longed for. The connections with people or the positive interactions with people are now the special things in my life but they no longer ground me. Faith is my foundation ❤

  • @timmytwotone65
    @timmytwotone65 7 місяців тому +132

    This came up on my feed today. I needed this as a 58 year old guy that has been through a LOT….

    • @annikalohrke8043
      @annikalohrke8043 7 місяців тому +10

      We are rooting for you Timmy!❤

    • @juliemaxwell6902
      @juliemaxwell6902 7 місяців тому +9

      At 59 and I feel the same way! We need to just live and learn love ourselves and others!!! Mel's amazing 😅

    • @marniehibotelho511
      @marniehibotelho511 3 місяці тому +4

      Same. I'll be 57 and I feel lost sometimes. I have no friends. I've been a mom and a nana for so long that that's all I feel like I know. Now I'm trying to figure out what I like and what I want to do. It's like being this older new person who you really don't know.

    • @elisabethdriscoll2711
      @elisabethdriscoll2711 Місяць тому

      Me too😊

  • @pinkdaisy6592
    @pinkdaisy6592 5 місяців тому +89

    A couple years ago I decided to bring back "old school" letter writing. I send a card to about 20-25 friends once a month. I get a pack of cards at the Dollar Store. I usually put a little something in the card, like an individual wrapped tea bag, and write a quick note inside the card. It does take a little bit of time and there is some cost to it, especially with stamps going from .68 to .73 in July 2024 but it's something I really enjoy doing and I do hear back from 1/2 my friends, telling me that it made their day.

    • @iopakayalo3459
      @iopakayalo3459 5 місяців тому +2

      ❤❤❤Loving your vibe!!

    • @obstantiadiscindo
      @obstantiadiscindo 5 місяців тому +4

      That's a unique idea, although why not actually see them too? Human face to face interaction is vitally important to our physical and mental well being.

    • @betsyfowler2342
      @betsyfowler2342 4 місяці тому +3

      I love this idea.! Ever since I was little I’ve always loved getting letters in the mail.😉

    • @jeanwerschem3076
      @jeanwerschem3076 4 місяці тому +2

      ​@@obstantiadiscindothere is just something so sweet & special about a hand written letter and small inexpensive gift! Plus the thought & time that person took to connect. ❤😊❤

    • @brynne77
      @brynne77 4 місяці тому

      @@jeanwerschem3076 You make a good point.

  • @sharon1934
    @sharon1934 День тому +1

    Everyone has a different threshold for loneliness. For me, holidays are worst but I go for long walks with dogs in the community park next door and that solves it for me.

  • @ethels_et_al.
    @ethels_et_al. 7 місяців тому +52

    i found mel robbins at one of the lowest point of my life, i'm learning a lot and trying to put pieces back together, Thank you Mel=)

    • @spicnspan981
      @spicnspan981 6 місяців тому

      Me too. I really found her when I needed it most and the first video I watched was one the 5 second rule. 5,4,3,2,1 CHANGE!!!

  • @allycroc1
    @allycroc1 7 місяців тому +77

    He has such joy and sweetness in his eyes. Such a pleasure to listen to him.

  • @dosdandelions8879
    @dosdandelions8879 28 днів тому +1

    Oh man, Mel! I am not much on close friendships and maintaining that kind of relationship. However, I absolutely love chatting with and getting to know merchants, fellow customers at the coffee shop, those that serve me, bus drivers and everyone. Those quick, lovely contacts are my joy! People love to hear their name and so I feel like, as well as it making me feel good, I am contributing to their day.

  • @HebaAlexander
    @HebaAlexander 7 місяців тому +29

    it means to be at Peace with no matter what your life looks like, accepting your reality but knowing it's not forever like so.

    • @UniqueBolanle
      @UniqueBolanle 7 місяців тому +4

      This statement is for me

    • @Lolcoca
      @Lolcoca 7 місяців тому +7

      Yes and I can also add that life is super beautiful in fact when we focus on the positive things which is actually the little things in life that brings us to love life more . . . 🥰🤍🤍
      It’s not going to mean moving away from negative things. But being at peace for things that don’t change and under our control and prioritizing everything that we love ! 😍🤍✌️🥰

    • @HebaAlexander
      @HebaAlexander 7 місяців тому

      @@UniqueBolanle you are beautiful just hang in there you got this!!!

  • @susanstardust4706
    @susanstardust4706 7 місяців тому +12

    Our emotions govern us.
    I've been trying to manage mine my whole life (48y).
    To learn that the Dr and a Zen master still struggles with confusion and sadness is very liberating. It's validating and refreshing.
    Thank you Mel for bringing this beautiful human to us ❤

  • @Tayzerfun
    @Tayzerfun 7 місяців тому +57

    Can Dr. Waldinger please come back and talk with us some more? He was fantastic!!

  • @KathyWerner-r8p
    @KathyWerner-r8p 7 місяців тому +22

    My son thinks small talk is a waste of time and it isn't authentic but as you said when you do it gives you a rush of feeling present and happiness in connecting in that moment. These little things add up in our life.

  • @inspirationalkidneyhealthcoach
    @inspirationalkidneyhealthcoach 6 місяців тому +19

    Imagine starting a conversation with a stranger on a silent NYC subway. After a few minutes other people around started talking to one another. Did it ♥️ed. It WAS energizing.

  • @wendyfalk1692
    @wendyfalk1692 9 днів тому +1

    I shut my mind up, escape from my problems and issues by listening to these amazing podcasts by Mel. Incredible lady❤

  • @SPIRITWILDCHILD28
    @SPIRITWILDCHILD28 5 місяців тому +34

    My only continuous joy in life is my rescued dogs. I've been rescuing for decades. People disappoint me, dogs never do. Can't wait to hear what he has to say. 13:32 As I thought connections with people are the key. Won't happen for me, sadly. I am the second illegitimate child of a narcissistic mother who went on to marry and have 6 legitimate children. I was mommy's little helper and the scapegoat child. I brought my trauma into adulthood where I tried to be a good mother but I'm told I failed. Unable to be a grandmother to my grandchildren I moved to Panama with my narcissistic husband. I live and have always lived in fight or flight my entire life. Neither of us are able to make and keep friends. It's is no wonder I have had chronic fatigue monthly for 12 years. I'm 68 and continue to watch helpful UA-cam channels like yours. Thank you so much.

    • @Yana-br4ke
      @Yana-br4ke 3 місяці тому

      I love your nickname! My grandma rescued dogs too, she said that they helped her to hold on. God bless you!

  • @pjparkin
    @pjparkin 7 місяців тому +38

    This man seems like the kindest most loving man. I can feel his goodness. ❤

  • @cibelicious
    @cibelicious 7 місяців тому +13

    Mel, you have no idea of how much joy I find in your videos! I am from Brazil and how I wish we had someone talking like you here, so people that only speak Portuguese could learn as much as I do. YOU ARE AWESOME!

  • @wangjing3517
    @wangjing3517 7 місяців тому +28

    Holy shit! This is what I have been searching for. Recently I came to know that I have childhood trauma which leads to the fear to connect with people, and difficulty to trust people.

    • @calista1280
      @calista1280 7 місяців тому +1

      Are you sure you're not just shy? I've heard they can manipulate your thoughts into thinking you had trauma, when you didn't... 💔
      If you had no inkling of a recollection before now, it's probably made-up!

    • @Becky_Cal
      @Becky_Cal 4 місяці тому

      The first step is recognizing this! I also recently came to this conclusion after I caused an impulsive breakup with someone I really cared for. It was the second time this happened to me in the last two years…and I couldn’t understand what led to my extreme and immediate response. It seemed almost beyond my control. I realized I have CPTSD. I highly recommend checking out “The Crappy Childhood Fairy” on UA-cam. I wish you luck on your path to healing. 😊

  • @HIGHLANDER_ONLY_ONE
    @HIGHLANDER_ONLY_ONE 7 місяців тому +7

    In stable, and I adore my babies, even though they're young adults now. I'm still tuber biggest cheerleader, and I respect them, as soon as they became of a certain maturity, even one of them at 10, I stop parenting, and I guide and coach them, and it works! They all know they can count on me, and I sideways tell them, I don't care what time it is, to call me, and if they need me to, I would drive anywhere to get them, and I even extended this to their friends. They know that if a friend is in trouble, I will get up in the middle of the night to go get them, and take them home. My kids are in college, they call me, they text, even they call at talk for a long time. They aren't perfect, but they are good, good human beings. I am very proud of them! ❤❤❤

  • @ampachiani
    @ampachiani 4 місяці тому +6

    "Comparison is a thief of happiness!"
    Wonderful!

  • @sarajones8093
    @sarajones8093 7 місяців тому +43

    Another Rockstar guest for a Rockstar Host. One of the things I appreciate the most about you, Mel is your consideration for your listeners. You always want to make sure that they understand what is being taught, no matter where they are in life. I really appreciate that. Thank you for providing us with top rate information!

  • @VavineBenny
    @VavineBenny 7 місяців тому +5

    Watch the recording. Thank you Mel for being part of my life. ❤

  • @petalsandfeathers
    @petalsandfeathers 2 місяці тому +1

    1:33:10 ❤️ hearing the sound of my dog eating the food out of his ceramic bowl, my daughter fiddling with magna-tiles while I just sat in the moment with my eyes shut. Brought me to tears, and made me realize how blessed I am to hear these every day noises.

    • @silviamonz2062
      @silviamonz2062 7 годин тому +1

      Happens to me when I have a book in one hand and the cat cradled in my other arm sleeping, the thought what else do I really need?
      Wish you many happy moments of understanding how precious the little things are ❤

  • @jat6547
    @jat6547 7 місяців тому +46

    Just what I need to hear. I'm isolated. Single, and no family / relationship s.

    • @mariegoff6019
      @mariegoff6019 7 місяців тому +2

      Get out and meet people. 😊

    • @jat6547
      @jat6547 7 місяців тому +3

      @@mariegoff6019 LOL. I'm out everyday,,, know a lot of people ad well, as far as relationships seems men I'm not attractive to, seem to want me..... My family have all died. Just the way it is..

    • @sussannekeith5676
      @sussannekeith5676 7 місяців тому +2

      Please get yourself out there. I have no close friends here in TX and I have been here 25 plus years… it’s been hard, but I get out there. ❤

    • @jat6547
      @jat6547 7 місяців тому +5

      I'm out there, and we'll liked, however at the end of the day they have their own lives. So Christmas , holidays , birthday s , any " special day " I'm not included..... Just how people are..

    • @carieyounginsurance
      @carieyounginsurance 7 місяців тому +2

      Get busy living - get out of your comfort zone -take a trip with complete strangers:-)

  • @ms.carmeng7995
    @ms.carmeng7995 6 місяців тому +11

    When I was young and raising a family I wanted everything. I didn’t get everything and our needs were met. As I have gotten older my family means more to me than things. Our trips and being together makes me so happy. There are people that have everything. Money, cars, big homes, don’t have to worry about where their next meal is coming from and still are not happy.

    • @Becky_Cal
      @Becky_Cal 4 місяці тому +2

      I worked in a global consulting firm and for Fortune 500 companies…that’s exactly what I observed. The people making hundreds of thousands and even millions of dollars a year were by far the most miserable. They were so focused on power, greed, and achievement (for the sake of achievement) that they has zero humility, peace, lacked empathy and humanity in many cases, and were simply unhappy-and it showed. I left that environment for good in 2021, realizing these were not my people and that environment was causing horrible stress for me. I’m soooo much happier even if I earn 30% less than I did when I worked for these people/places. 😊

  • @LeahZerbib
    @LeahZerbib 7 місяців тому +3

    I am trying to improve my sister for years 😢. I do except her, but we need to create a safe place to share 😊

    • @LeahZerbib
      @LeahZerbib 7 місяців тому

      Thank you for responding.

  • @mydailyburger3924
    @mydailyburger3924 7 місяців тому +12

    Dr. Waldinger's voice is so therapeutic! It's so soothing to my ears! There's so much "youth energy" in his voice. I listened until the very end of this episode. It added tremendous value to my life! Thank you so much for sharing. Great episode, Ms. Mel! 💙

  • @ChloeMazurelle
    @ChloeMazurelle 5 місяців тому +17

    I grew up in with a narcissist mother. I always had the feeling that being alone is safer. If I’m stressed I meditate, photograph or play with my dog. I also have a more introverted personality. What you mean is introverted people don’t live long and are not healthy? What should we do when we feel safer and happier by themselves?

    • @bigjcfan406
      @bigjcfan406 4 місяці тому

      Thank you, Chloe!
      You answered my question of why I’m never lonely.

    • @YogaladyToronto
      @YogaladyToronto Місяць тому

      You (we, all of us) can change, even in small ways. You need to resolve to change, to enhance your life, to do different things. You must push yourself. Of course, you can choose to do nothing. At 15 min. , this discussed.

  • @Izzybellita
    @Izzybellita 7 місяців тому +14

    Mel, you and I share so much of what you talk about with us in this podcast. The moment you teared up in the beginning, so full of emotion and heart, I immediately teared up as well. I felt that so deeply. Thank you for sharing your heart and your experiences. I want to share this episode with my daughter. The level of loneliness in the country, in my humble opinion, has reached epidemic proportions. As I've gotten older, I feel that longing to feel part of a group and to feel cared for. I'm like you in many ways, I break the silence and talk to people - yet - there is no 'best friend' or close friend in my life. I am blessed to have my husband and daughter but as human beings, we need to feel that sense of community and caring. I'll continue to support you because you're amazing. And as you say many times (and I cherish it), I LOVE YOU TOO!!! Have an amazing day! 😍❣❣❣

  • @sharonosgood1
    @sharonosgood1 7 місяців тому +9

    Not only is the lesson amazing, this gentleman’s voice is so soothing, I felt like I was being hugged the whole time I listened! Thank you for bringing him into my life, Mel! Love you! ❤

  • @rheannonbenton
    @rheannonbenton 7 місяців тому +8

    As a mom of 4 small kids, I get stuck in the overwhelm most days and react to every little thing. This is so inspiring. Can’t wait to learn how to “surf the waves of life” ❤

  • @rustyatencio6560
    @rustyatencio6560 6 місяців тому +5

    Mel, if this comment ever finds its way to you, I want to inform you and your team that this is the very first podcast in all of podcasts that I've listened to that I would intentionally tackle like my readings of important books or journals. First I'd do a rough read, or in this case a rough listen, no note taking nor highlighting. Then go to a second read or listen, for a more immersive experience because I already have an idea which portion I'm gonna take notes and highlights. Lastly, a third read or listen just for the heck of the enjoyment. Thank you to your team who's worked on this episode, and to your invaluable guest, Dr. Waldinger!

  • @kariefountain8488
    @kariefountain8488 7 місяців тому +9

    My best friend who was my mom recently passed away, I now have a hyperawareness of just how short life is now. Before she passed I began having heart palpitations so far it seems it's due to severe anxiety and of course had progressed after this sudden tragedy. I absolutely needed this at this very moment in my life to be more in the moment, I believe after watching your adhd episode it sounded too close to home for myself and I'm 41 so it's nice to understand myself better but I'm guilty of getting stuck in the future and the past vs. the present. I need to be more in the now moments, I have glimpses of noticing the squirrels outside my window while trying to do work, but immediately going in panic mode about the future as I'm trying really hard to be outside my comfort level to be an author in a small town with no networking. I am however grateful that I am with a man who is supporting my dreams and is the only surviving person I have left now that believes in me. I'm babbling, but I just want to thank you for what you both provided in this discussion and I promise to get my focus back in the moment so I'm not stuck in the trauma of things in my childhood similar to you Mel, but also not think my happiness is once I hit that 10,000 dollar and hopefully million mark, but that this journey is also where my happiness lies! I'm thankful to watch your podcasts it helps to feel the presence of my mom in a sense of someone who seems to really care and gives me encouragement through my day. God bless (:

    • @StandOutStaples
      @StandOutStaples 7 місяців тому +2

      Your message resonated with me on so many levels! Loosing my mom as my best friend to cancer several years ago made a huge impact on my life and well-being. I’m glad you have a supportive partner next to you, as I had to figure out how to go on with my life on my own, without too much of support from my partner or kids. But I feel blessed with an amazing friend, who went through the same experience and she understands and supports me like no one else. Hang in there! We’ll make it through these hard times as better and stronger human beings! ❤🙏🤗

    • @karenclaybrook1414
      @karenclaybrook1414 5 місяців тому

      My mom passed away five years ago and it’s harder now than it was then. I hear how healthy it is to have a friend that had your back I was there for you. I was luckily someone’s number😢 one part of their life. Especially after I had kids I can’t imagine what it would be like if I had a daughter. all three of us are 18 years apart. Me, Momma and Jamey

    • @karenclaybrook1414
      @karenclaybrook1414 5 місяців тому

      My mom passed away five years ago and it’s harder now than it was then. I hear how healthy it is to have a friend that had your back I was there for you. I was luckily someone’s number one part of their life. Especially after I had kids of my own.

  • @nadinehanchar1752
    @nadinehanchar1752 7 місяців тому +5

    WOW! Good morning Mel, this is a super excite of real facts of our "LIFETIME TOPICS" with Dr. Waldinger, his soothing voice is super calmness, pure and enlightening..And its absolutely brings clarity to many people's soul as it did to mine. BIG SHOUT-OUT THANK YOU! For this amazing podcast. In which i definitely enjoy fully. We love you Mel.. I hope you can at some point come to do one of your uploads from my magnificent sencery in mother nature peacefulness. Sending nuff love, health, light, laughter continues success and divine happiness Everytime Everyone ✨ ❤❤❤❤ 🇨🇦

  • @paulosesinna5596
    @paulosesinna5596 7 місяців тому +7

    MEL, EACH VIDEO THAT YOU POST IS A REALLY LESSON FOR ANYONE. GOD BLESS YOU HOW MUCH YOU HELP AND INSPIRE US 🌟🌟PAULO FROM BRAZIL

  • @josephdilorenzo5314
    @josephdilorenzo5314 7 місяців тому +5

    I thank God everyday that this life is so short. I pray that I would never have to come back. ❤

  • @KayHarris1031
    @KayHarris1031 7 місяців тому +19

    Great conversation! At 76 I am writing my first book. Getting lots of inspiration from your podcasts. I have few connections, no family close by anymore, but I love where I am. I practice reaching out to casual acquaintences so they feel like they are noticed. Makes a difference to them and to me. Thanks, Mel.

    • @Yana-br4ke
      @Yana-br4ke 3 місяці тому

      Wow! Good luck! It gives hope to me, maybe one day I will write my book too😊

  • @_giona
    @_giona 7 місяців тому +8

    I asked myself this exact same question three years ago and it set me on a transformative journey.
    First I walked away from a toxic job after 8 years with the same organisation, then I moved from the city to a small village, then I narrowed my “friends” circle.
    I am still on this transformative journey but I feel lighter than I did when I seemed to have it all going.

    • @tatjanamarkovic
      @tatjanamarkovic 7 місяців тому +1

      Wow thats awesome lol, u so brave ❤️

    • @_giona
      @_giona 7 місяців тому

      @@tatjanamarkovic Not really. I embark on new journeys with my knees shaking. I also don’t like not knowing but I am trying to stop controlling everything🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @deliaocampo4340
    @deliaocampo4340 5 місяців тому +4

    I think a person that is happy confidence on themself strong independent good mindset thrives in any circumstances in life resourceful tough 🇵🇭🇺🇸

  • @bridgetodonnell8518
    @bridgetodonnell8518 7 місяців тому +2

    I literally did the meditation of the present moment on the toilet. I loved this episode, especially as I look to reach out to my three sisters and momma to request a deeper, more meaningful and authentic relationship with each of them and with one another. Also Mel, I am almost done with my volunteer hospice training and will be assigned to a patient next month. The episode where your mom shared she has been doing hospice volunteering for forty years and that keeps her fulfilled and with perspective led me to take the leap into the sacred space of transition from physical life to spirit. I adore ALL of you Mel Robbins!

  • @cathyandresiak
    @cathyandresiak 5 місяців тому +3

    Pray for God to bring good people into your life! This podcast is Buddha based in Zen which has good principles to live by but represents that it is all up to us , it is a start but not the whole picture! God will give us the desires of our heart if we are patient and pray!

  • @LS-ku2xv
    @LS-ku2xv 7 місяців тому +2

    Please don't take this wrong but thank you so much for showing up for this podcast with a little bit of roots. I don't always get to things like that the minute I need to and something about seeing that with you also and how real that is made me feel like it's okay. I'm not a total slob and you certainly are not either but it's nice to see that we don't have to be perfect every single minute! That right there helps with happiness!

  • @chromecast2572
    @chromecast2572 7 місяців тому +3

    This is what we really need in life people like you Mel, you look for great people to teach us and with us great life skills, lessons. Wonderful life snippets!! We all need them❤❤!! Thanks Mel!!!

  • @vitakhan307
    @vitakhan307 7 місяців тому +3

    Thank you Mel for the precious guest ❤❤❤ Thank you for bringing more light into darkness, thank you for positivity and hope. Good luck to You both!!! Have you started your morning practice of mindfulness, Mel?? I think I should start it, too.

  • @cherylb6349
    @cherylb6349 7 місяців тому +5

    I literally just started a meet up group yesterday to build a community of vegans and plant based eaters in my community!! 18 people have already joined!!

  • @LynnCounsell
    @LynnCounsell 3 місяці тому

    Having those connections with people alike the barista, or that type of environment, I liken to having a “Cheers” moment when someone or everyone knows your name. It truly makes a difference

  • @KMostipan
    @KMostipan 6 місяців тому +1

    You brought tears into my eyes. You were right, my life will never be the same. It turned out a bit overwhelming to feel myself alive and realising myself right here, right now...

  • @Lucyrandomvlogs
    @Lucyrandomvlogs 7 місяців тому +4

    ❤Hi Mel♥ I watched half of this video last night because I was busy. Now I am ready to continue and finish while having my mango after coming back from DAWN PRAYER and my morning routine which is doing HIGH 5 and work out for at least 10 minutes.
    I really appreciate you Mel for being so great person to million of people. May God continue use you for His glory by sharing all the knowledges that you have.
    Stay blessed and healthy. Watching from Korea♥

    • @marianimmerman5344
      @marianimmerman5344 22 дні тому

      Sense-sational Mel Robbins ..calling on all our senses to come into and in to play!!❤❤

  • @Groovy507
    @Groovy507 7 місяців тому +3

    Just. One of the best podcasts I have heard thank you both

  • @melyndafrazer1962
    @melyndafrazer1962 7 місяців тому +3

    It doesn’t matter what I do, I’ve apologized, validated, took responsibility for my mistakes. They won’t listen to anything I say and I’m on their side. This makes me so sad

    • @danaf9079
      @danaf9079 6 місяців тому +1

      Maybe time to move on to better friends.

  • @dsword331
    @dsword331 7 місяців тому +1

    Yesterday, today and I know tomorrow I am in a much better place inside and outside of "me" because of "you" Mel Robbins and all of your amazing entourage of guests and enlighten resources I have found and will continue to find in these shared discussions...🦋💞🦋

  • @celinapfutzenreuter1021
    @celinapfutzenreuter1021 3 місяці тому +1

    I'm so grateful for you two! I'm already Mel's fan and I do love her Podcasts. The points you cover here are of immense importance. Relationships are the most important part of our lives...we are here in this planet to learn and teach from one another. We are one! ❤

  • @ashokachar4377
    @ashokachar4377 7 місяців тому +3

    I am so thankfull to you for your all information in your podcast.
    You are not only a human being but you are a dictionary of human life

  • @iamisley
    @iamisley 2 місяці тому +1

    Tears already bc two great people are about to mastermind!!!

  • @Beckywiththegoodhair9
    @Beckywiththegoodhair9 4 місяці тому

    Sometimes our loved ones make us choose between them, and living your life in a way that makes you happy. I probably won't be surrounded by my family when I die. But I do believe that the one that I love will be by my side.

  • @nicoleadiaz1
    @nicoleadiaz1 7 місяців тому +24

    The key word is “GOOD” relationships. Not toxic old relationships that you need to move on from.

  • @KathleenMerrick
    @KathleenMerrick 7 місяців тому +3

    thank you, thank you, thank you, beautiful messages, reminders and wisdom to share.

  • @inspirationalkidneyhealthcoach
    @inspirationalkidneyhealthcoach 6 місяців тому +5

    Thank you and your guest Mel ♥️🚀 “You can’t stop the waves but you can learn how to surf” Profound💜

  • @sandycollins3613
    @sandycollins3613 3 місяці тому

    I'm 60 years old and I find myself all alone (not lonely), I personally have always been the person you can call day or night and I am there, I am one of the most kindest, best listener ever. However, I haven't met (yet) anyone like that. Every time I think I have they turn around and stab me in the back! No one seems to care about listen or even allow me to put a word in!

  • @meganstonebraker7177
    @meganstonebraker7177 7 місяців тому +1

    I'm an expat in Germany. The culture here is different, people don't make small talk in public settings. I can definitely understand the disconnection. Thanks

    • @andreahuinink
      @andreahuinink 7 місяців тому +1

      That’s not right for every of us. I am from Germany and we are often make small talk. Perhaps that’s a language problem. Please try it again 🍀

  • @01lsw
    @01lsw 4 місяці тому

    Thank you for this meaningful video. This is my 1st time I visited Mel's channel and it was so touching to listen to it. Lots of reflections. At my age of 52, no kids, no partners, no marriage, I'm at a junction of a crossroads - to retire now or to continue to seek for a full-time job. I love the idea of savouring life. This is how I created meaning in the past jobless life. I have friends who treat me life family and is my bedrock who knows me well and will take care of me if I am in a hospital. I also have a habit to have those little conversations with people which brighten each other's life. I also have a stable church community I serve and I belong to. I have already built a new season of life over a last couple of years. What I have been struggling is money, as I feel more is better. Dr Waldinger's comment about the relationship between money and happiness has helped me unlock the secret of happiness. I also appreciate he said life is a journey, i.e. it is an ongoing process of change. This is absolutely profound and helps me have a better hope in the future. Thank you.

  • @om7854
    @om7854 7 місяців тому +1

    That was a brilliant podcast. Mel asked such perceptive questions. It's gold dust in the world of podcasting being based on such an important study on how we humans live & survive. Thank you Dr. Wallinder & all the Team since the 1930s for such an amazing & valuable research project.

  • @jzara3
    @jzara3 7 місяців тому +8

    I would like to know if faith was brought into this Harvard study? I have also seen studies where people who have faith in a higher power (for me, it's God), also experience more happiness. I was that person always looking for happiness through stuff and relationships. I had the new car, big house, married to a wonderful man, a mom of 3 daughters nand was still unhappy. This all changed when a good friend of mine invited me to attend a fabulous church where I learned about the love, grace and forgiveness of Jesus Christ. Do I still have days of sadness and frustration...absolutely!! However, I know that I have a God who loves me unconditionally! I know this live is temporary but I will live in eternity with a loving God!! That is what brings me joy, peace and a love that I can share with others.

    • @lImok555
      @lImok555 6 місяців тому +2

      Wow. I agree with you! God is the only thing that has truly made me feel warm and happy.

    • @AgzVancouver
      @AgzVancouver 6 місяців тому +1

      It sounds like your church and your faith met your connection need ❤

  • @rhondafarni1176
    @rhondafarni1176 7 місяців тому +3

    This was the best podcast I’ve ever listened to. Thanks Mel Robbin’s Really makes you evaluate what’s important

  • @Rosemary-cf4dt
    @Rosemary-cf4dt 7 місяців тому +1

    Hi Mel and thank you for the video. I don't believe this doc or maybe I am exception, but I don't have any close relationships and I am just fine. I don't have to call someone if I had a bad day. I can close my eyes and calm myself done, by saying "I love you and you are safe"....I heard it and it did not have to come from someone else.

  • @donnayoung6011
    @donnayoung6011 7 місяців тому +2

    I am learning so much from you . Thank you so much for this video Mel and Dr. Waldinger . 💚🙏

  • @Xyz99924
    @Xyz99924 4 місяці тому

    I'm 55, and don't let external elements/materials impact my life. I don't have people in my life as such, I have beautiful children that I connect with. We have good relationships and respect for each other. They live with me and self-sufficient.

  • @Nami66148
    @Nami66148 16 днів тому

    Great podcast Mel❤
    I’m 58 and I live with my 20 yr old son who hardly leaves his room as he’s gaming and I feel alone but now I will try all the tips and advice I heard on this podcast
    Thank you Mel !!!❤❤❤

  • @aprilsochic
    @aprilsochic 3 місяці тому

    I am so emotional and the conversation video hasn’t started. You’re not alone Mel.

  • @LoriBothwell
    @LoriBothwell 7 місяців тому +1

    This is my favourite episode and I’ve shared it with many. I heard it before seeing it and I honestly thought this dude sounded like he’s 32😮

  • @annegannon3379
    @annegannon3379 7 місяців тому +6

    Hope its not too late in my life to apply this profound message❤

  • @trutee9634
    @trutee9634 7 місяців тому +1

    Who is he again I just finished the video and I need to go see what else this guy has♡ he reminds me of Dr Gabor Mate. Thank you mel for everything you do for us, thank you for working really hard to learn all this so you can put it in a video to make it easier for us that don't have a lot of time to learn the hard way♡ I'm sure I'm not the only one truly greatful for all you have done, I have learned so much from you and thank you again ❤

    • @trutee9634
      @trutee9634 7 місяців тому

      Got his name it's" Dr. Robert Waldinger", in case you'd like to do the same Melinators ❤ I wasn't sure how to spell his last name now you got it❤❤

  • @clickthatclass-teacherlain4433
    @clickthatclass-teacherlain4433 7 місяців тому +2

    thank you for this podcast, my favorite so far. full of wisdom

  • @Dare2chance
    @Dare2chance 7 місяців тому +1

    Wow !!! Will be listening to this 1 over and over there are sooo many great Mike Drops!!!

  • @annmanary7154
    @annmanary7154 Місяць тому +1

    Thankyou for this Mel,its never too late,the timing was perfect!

  • @ltlone55
    @ltlone55 3 місяці тому

    This was a breathe of fresh air, a deep inhale and exhale, laughter and tears. So impactful. Thank you!

  • @sarahuber8567
    @sarahuber8567 7 місяців тому

    This conversation was much more honest than other ones.

  • @MauiJOY
    @MauiJOY 7 місяців тому +4

    Read his book about the Harvard Study and learned so much. This was a great review of it, your questions Mel, added to much to the dialogue and understanding of the study and how our lives can be better. Mahalo for your kokua

  • @renukag-ut3xy
    @renukag-ut3xy 7 місяців тому +2

    I love your podcast .need of an hour today is redefining our existence you are doing it .thankyou very much Mel

  • @estherhirsch4460
    @estherhirsch4460 7 місяців тому +4

    Each of your guests r gems. U handpick the best. Tysm😊

  • @saramoslemi6761
    @saramoslemi6761 5 місяців тому +2

    Gushhhh I love you that you’ve invited such a great guest…

  • @AutumnSeaveyHicks
    @AutumnSeaveyHicks 6 місяців тому +2

    Immediately bought Dr. Waldinger's book on Audible. Loved this episode, Mel! So powerful. Thank you 💕

  • @maryhaas785
    @maryhaas785 3 місяці тому +1

    I enjoy talking to New people in my Senior Park, I want them to feel welcome beings their new.
    I had a bad experience when I first moved in 16 years ago
    I thought I don't want anyone else to have to experience what I did.

  • @NYtoNC
    @NYtoNC Місяць тому

    ❤ listened to this while I clean and organize my kitchen. So beautiful and practical, I would love one of these episodes about taking care of aging parents 😮 while going through menopause.

  • @saskhiker3935
    @saskhiker3935 7 місяців тому +5

    Mel always keeping it real. The true ness of life. Thank you❤

  • @faridaaminy9734
    @faridaaminy9734 7 місяців тому

    I'm going through financial difficulties right now, i have back issues, migraine i can't work, i owe money to family and friends, and this stress's me so much. Money does certainly makes me happier and if i can pay my bills ill be very happy.

  • @ekadurglishvili5031
    @ekadurglishvili5031 7 місяців тому +9

    Listen to your podcast on any platform, you are a part of my regular life already. Come to Georgia, Caucasus, we need you!

  • @rasmusolsen1816
    @rasmusolsen1816 24 дні тому

    I love the fact that freedom lies within the space between stimulus and reaction.

  • @gmamapetey44
    @gmamapetey44 7 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for doing this Mel❣️❣️❣️ I’m not a hugger generally but I would love to give you such a big hug❣️❣️❣️

  • @jhendry6969
    @jhendry6969 7 місяців тому +1

    This is amazing Mel! You are changing my life for the better. The growth I have experienced over the past 3 months following and listening and working through your workbooks has been an amazing experience for me. ❤🙏

  • @colleenhaithcock216
    @colleenhaithcock216 3 місяці тому

    Minute about 25 the self study. I am working on a piece of literature or an assemblage of literature that spans from my grandfathers time to through my life and so as I look back on both my life and my family‘s life, see things differently and I think that, reflecting on the lenses that we saw things through when we were younger and reflecting on how we see things as we age is incredibly important

  • @kipj9900
    @kipj9900 7 місяців тому +6

    I love you , Mel❤ I was so intimidated by you when l first saw you on UA-cam. It took me a long time to watch your videos, but I’m so glad l decided to watch, then click “like”, then subscribe, then share your videos as much as l can!!😊

  • @kathrynoswald5695
    @kathrynoswald5695 4 місяці тому +2

    Thank you - such an important, soul warming and beautiful message. 💙

  • @Ms.NobleGrowth
    @Ms.NobleGrowth 7 місяців тому +1

    This is absolutely where we come to refuel!!!! Beautiful incredible video! Thank you so so much. You've changed my life Mel. Thank you!!!

  • @TanjaMatijevic
    @TanjaMatijevic 29 днів тому +5

    You need to come to Greece and realize what makes people happy and long-living. They are fighting against Americanization as much they van and live purposeful life with focus on families and friends more than money. God give them good weather and sea and they are happy to have fish from sea and olives from tree on their table. And if you come as a stranger, they will offer you their last olives and fish just to have you for dinner and to know you better.

    • @gina-bg7kr
      @gina-bg7kr 7 днів тому +1

      Good luck I recently heard America's famous pedo Tom Hanks moved to Greece because Greece has laws that protect criminals.