i am so comfortable alone, that i don´t want a relationship anymore. It would be a bonus if the right person would be there but i am selecting very hard so i don´t find the right piece for me, but my life is also perfect without "that" gurl.
As a single man, I am not in the business of fixing women. I am in the business of looking for the one who is truly worthy of my love & attention. She is either the right person or not, pick wisely, save yourself a headache and move on.
You said, "Who is worthy of your love and attention." What if you or any of us fool ourselves and think that we are that special to deserve what we demand?
@@richardvincent8338 do you not think you're special enough to have someone who loves and respects you, and is worthy of your love? You are worthy of love, especially your own ☺
"She should want to be just as much a part of your life as you want to be in hers." Yes. Exactly. Lesson learned. Definitely not making that mistake again.
What's even more impressive is she won't TAKE MONEY for her advice. Not dissing other "dating coaches", I'm as pro-business as the next guy. But, IMHO it GREATLY increases her street-cred.
The person she's teaching you to become, she won't date at all. As she has already mentioned here that 65% men she has dated were the ones cheating on her. Myth busted here itself.
Some men who are experience with woman can turn down a great looking woman who wants to get laid;; the roller-coaster ride is the same;;no Matter how pretty & great looking the woman is
They ask me can you lend me money ? Can you help me move ? Can you walk my dog ? Can you drive me to the airport ? Can you change a lightbulb for me ? I answer no !
@Simon Edwards pickup pretty woman is like selling stuff professionally;;; selling stuff professionally is different;; it take alot more strategy to sell merchandise than getting laid because nicce looking woman .might want sexual intercouse for different reasons
I had a girlfriend say to me once "I have to keep you off balance in order for you to stay." Uh... this was one of the unhappiest periods of my life. Constant games.
She said “a billionaire”. No one needs that much. It’s overcompensating for a deficiency if the billionaire does not donate to charity anonymously. She said she’s only had 2-3 relationships. She may be a good and knowledgeable person, she needs a bit more life experience/maturity to advise others.
"Guys who respect themselves can walk away from a situation that is not serving them." Thanks...this is an important quote for single men, and deserving of a place on a plaque somewhere. I already practice it, but, I'll remember it now.
once I stopped chasing girls and focused on my own self improvement, the right girls started chasing me. Chasing gets you nowhere. Focus on things you are passionate in and women will be attracted by your energy. And really, just be a good person :) Great video Courtney - you got a new subscriber
Not to be contrary, but if that was the formula that did the trick. They, eligible ladies should be beating down my door by now. It seems that the kinder, more engaged and generous one is, the less it is appreciated ultimately. I am convinced that the majority of women are so accustomed to being treated poorly by men, (especially older women who have had several longer term nightmarish relationships a result of repeated poor decision making) that when they come across a man who treats them with respect and dignity they reject it because it’s so foreign to them. I’ll tell you ladies, it’s maddening!!!
Its true, not going for a girl just cos she's pretty i used to.know a guy who used to stay at this one girl at work I would get on with my work not really focus on her, whags fhe point when your not getting anything in the first place
@@kenriehl7852 These guys are both dead wrong and right at the same time as are you. Bottom line is if the girl is not physically attracted to you none of that matters. If you are physically attractive to that woman then she will respond to either; ignore them and focus on yourself (in which case she might think you are gay or uninterested.....more likely) or be a nice good person, then you aren't mysterious or dangerous enough. Bottom line is you never know what will work so not giving a damn is the best approach for your sanity. Of course once you win her its only a matter of time until she's bored and decides to monkey branch.
I don't hate women, I hate what they do, there's a difference. And Darius is the coolest dude on the internet. He is direct, street smart, and tells it like it is.
I’ve said this a million times I’ve been single for 7 years and it’ll take someone who’s genuinely interested in me for me to change my relationship status. And in my 7 years being alone I really learned who I really am and I’ve enjoyed my single life. I absolutely have nothing against women I just decided to stay single all this time. I enjoy being single and I do eventually want to find someone absolutely. But I’m in no rush to find anyone I’m glad I’ve never been a chaser, if I don’t get back the attention I put into her. I walk away and pull back entirely. There was a girl I really liked at the church I go to and every time I talked to her it was a one way conversation. So I let her go and I’m still like friendly to her and say hello to her when I see her. But I’ve moved on and let her go
@@joan5844 Man I love you guys, your Fufu and Adobo Rice but whenever a Nigerian comes to me with an offer I can't refuse, I can't help but doubt you 💀💀
This is such a great channel. As a guy who has been listening to a lot of red pill stuff, it's refreshing to hear a high-quality woman reiterate and confirm so much of this important stuff.
@@NormanLy101 True, I see your point but I also see this as a catch-22. If you try to make her happy, she won't be. But if you don't try to make her happy, she won't be.
Courtney I have so much respect for how rational you are and how you have so much grace in explaining things without an ounce of bashing someone that doesn’t have the same view.
"chasing the happiness you are creating for yourself" i guess it took a divorce for this to sink in with me, but it resonates and it is how I'm living life today as a single dad.
I love Courtney's patience and reserved judgement while reviewing other people's content. So classy. She's clearly showing you what a high value women looks like.
Red pill isn't about hating women, it's the mentally unhealthy men that think that's what it's about. It's really about waking up to the reality of female nature and learning how to focus on the work you need to do to be the high value man you should be.
@@LeeEverett1 That's the Black Pill. True Red Pillers don't hate women, we strive to understand true female nature for the betterment of our relationships with them.
Darius is the best! Listening to this guy for a long time now. His content improved over time. He doesn't sugarcoat things like other youtubers. That's his best quality. Those men who believe in hollywood/disney love should listen to him.
His channel is the best thing on UA-cam. Maybe some older videos sound a bit more hateful, but he did improve a ton over time indeed. Darius saved me from a pit of insecurity and I'm sure he's saved many other men as well.
He makes awesome videos. Some many people like it the way it is. But doesn't hurt to sugarcoat it to the guys who just can't take it straight up. Sometimes you gotta ease it in them instead of being that blunt.
Courtney love your channel, its so refreshing to hear an intelligent woman advocate for men, encouraging accountability for both men and women. Thank you!
Thank you,Courtney! Its really worked!Every person in this world should respect themselves first. It shows others how to treat you. And respect others' right to be different. Attitude is everything.
I love Darius he is down to earth a real mans man he doesn’t show off watches and cars and lifestyle stuff he’s just a man on the street with good content
If he’s just a man on the streets then why does he subscribe to “women should be submissive” if he himself isn’t rich. Traditionalism is a two way street. If you want a submissive woman, then you gotta provide for her. If he doesn’t then he doesn’t get a vote. That’s just how his metric is designed to work.
Thankyou so much for your thoughts and comments in this video. I am 49 and I walked out on a toxic relationship after 23 years. I did anything and everything to please my ex and nothing I ever did could. I am still hurting after 6 months and I am healing little by little day by day. This video made me feel like I am not alone. Thanks so much. I have subscribed and I am looking forward to more content from you. Thanks from Matt in Australia.
I love your delivery, Courtney. You explain and elucidate things in a non-dramatic and positive way that makes your suggestions and your insight very easy to follow. I find your content so refreshing, and by the way, it really helped me on my first date! ❤
I love Darius M’s channel. Very excellent, clear advice. Courtney’s perspective from female vantage point, does center his advice even a bit more. Thanks Courtney! You voice is just so feminine and calming and pleasant to listen to.
As an attractive woman you'll never quite understand what men go through to get dates in the first place. Everything is easy mode for you. If you want hard mode try being a man for a week. Then when men finally get into a relationship it's usually not what he signed up for. And then the process repeats.
I think the just work on yourself advice only works for women. They are not going to approach a guy unless he is a 10. For most guys they are the ones who need to take the initiative and I believe women expect them to as well. I have been working on myself, mostly financially, and after 20 years I can say I have achieved financial independence, I am still single though. The few times women have approached me was when I was young and broke.
@@tonii5690It's true. I am fully independent now and have gotten laid less since college days living with my parents. My first girl friend still hasn't really happened at age 36. Just a series of hookups and friend with benefits. I even went to a pickup bootcamp, spent a few grand for nothing. But I got to see the whole attitude of guys who go out regularly and approach women. Consistency and perseverance seems to be the only key to getting the women you actually want unless you're a solid 10 like you say. No way around it. And I'm 6'4'' with a lean body, makes little difference if you aren't the one doing the approaching and saying the right things.
Me as a woman I have to say apparently I do not really know about the struggles that man face and always appreciate it when you speak up about it, like you did here !!!
Love your dress, print is cool, linen? Mad style. Bravo! Well spoken great communication style. You really listen. You show real interest and provide insights. You don’t agree with everything at the same time you let it be know when you do. You are genuine, true to yourself. Kudos.
I didn't thought I would think like this after seeing a video on dating, but I feel like I need to find my way in life before being in a new relationship. Thanks Courtney for this video and also for being genuine and not trying to ''selling your services'' on your videos all the time, it's really appreciated.
I agree with Terry Lim. I wish women were more feminine and sweet today. I miss seeing women in dresses and skirts that are much more feminine than slacks or jeans.
@@jimfrederich8852 One of the (many) things that I find very attractive about Holly Willoughby is the way she is nearly always in dresses and skirts and that she obviously loves being girly, swishing her dresses around.
And even if she isn't dressing like that, she has a good head on her shoulders. And that is something which is way more important than looks to me, within limits.
Terry Lim: Well, Courtney hasn't said shit in reply to yours or any of these other comments following yours, I notice. Not that I don't agree with it, just saying. Makes me curious.
Courtney you would not believe me how drastically this man helped me get on the next level when it comes to women. With no selling programms, nothing but honest and brutal truth about women, Darius is doing amazing work for men out there. I felt like crap half year ago and thank God I found his channel, he was like a lifesaver to me. He is helping men to get on their feet, to move on, to get your masculinity back, to put yourself 1st etc. I was applying his advices in my daily life, at my work and results are true, I feel better than ever, it's so selfless from him, with zero ads, zero selling programms, God bless him.
So true. The moment I was happy by myself, someone walked into my life. Being single can be a bit addicting though. I like my alone time and don’t wanna be around someone or talk to them all the time.
That's only true if a person has low self esteem and believes that they don't deserve more, when either a man or a woman has high self-esteem they're not going be in a relationship with someone who 'cares less'. I've seen this happen irl
@Jean juju Exactly, thinking 'I don't want to be emotionally too close to her so I don't get hurt that much if she leaves me' is a wrong mindset. I speak from own experience. You shouldn't make her the focal point in your life but you should commit to her, work on the relationship all the time. I don't wann get into too much detail otherwise the comment would be bare long
A psychologist I saw at a lecture said that this is a common phenomenon. The pursuer tires of pursuing elusive partner, and reverses course. The pursuee sees he/she is no longer being pursued and reverses course and effectively becomes the pursuer. I wish I had known that decades earlier. It would have saved me a lot sadness.
Yeah we all have issues, even the ones that seem perfect, we just ignore them and that’s why they’re still issues and she doesn’t acknowledge that but that’s more of a guy thing to know like you said
No, you're just picking the wrong ones. After dating for the first time in my life at age 38, and going on around 50 first dates, I can tell you that men have a boat load of issues. I had a good dad and was in long relationships with good men before now so I was very surprised. Many of the men I have rejected will say that I have issues when I absolutely know this isn't true, I simply was not into them and I ended it nicely and early. In the past few months I've been verbally abused for not opening texts quickly, told I have attachment issues, been lied to and led on, been sexually molested and emotionally blackmailed. These were guys I went on a few dates with. I've also met a few great guys. What I refuse to do is pander to men in case they call me a bitch or say I have issues. I dust myself off from these events and look at what I can do differently, I don't get butt hurt and start blaming all men.
I loved how you said the issues represented in the video are due to deep unresolved trauma, how one should learn to love his/herself before becoming dateable. Most of the time, alot of people start developing an idea of hate towards the opposite sex when they get rejected, neglected or cheated on, etc...They think it's due to something bad they did when in fact it has nothing to do with them in the first place and everything to do about how the other person feels about themself. Stoicism really came to my mind when watching this video, "do not get emotional about things on which you have no control", you be the best person you can be to the point where you're truly sincerely happy with yourself and only then start inviting other people into your life. If you're not happy with your life, do not think that entering a relationship will make all your unhappiness go away because it won't. Great video overall.
@@CourtneyRyan When he said "women want to be apart of mens life" He meant women usually want to do the chasing instead of men doing the chasing, chasing is different from shooting a shot or asking someone out on a date. There's no way two people can meet each other halfway because they'll both be skeptical of one another, only one of them will have to try to convince the other that they're are worthy of becoming a couple Just thought to communicate cause you misunderstood him
My man Darius speaks truth! Don't agree with everything the man says, but value yourself first and you will always attract high quality people into your world.
Courtney, I just wanted to let you know how on point I believe your commentary is. I've watched a half dozen or so of your videos and I feel as though you bring a balanced perspective which honors both genders-very refreshing to see. Thank you!
Courtney was kind enough not to comment, but was clearly disturbed by the choice of words. Plus Darius M could have left the comment out. We got the point.
Courtney, I think it's great that you point out that " not all women are the same." I've seen this guys videos too and like alot of people on here they act like everyone is the same in every type of dating or attraction situation.
I think there's a continuum of behaviour, with some people being more or less 'evolved'... but the underlying principles consistently apply. Practically, you'll do better assuming 'all women are the same' from that perspective... rather than thinking you've found a special exception to female craziness! 😄
@@BWater-yq3jx your view of women is similar to sexist steriotypes that women are told about men by the feminist groups too claiming " men are all the same" when we aren't.
@@jayb3033 two types of women: attractive and unattractive. The unattractive is the most common. So the Attractive thinks she is a diamond. So you either settle for dog food or pay a high price for steak.
"If things don't change for him, he's gonna marry the first girl he lays, and she's gonna treat him like shit, because she will have given him what he has built up in his mind as the end-all, be-all of human existence. She won't respect him, 'cause you can't respect somebody who kisses your ass. It just doesn't work." --Ferris Bueller (1986)
Save Ferris. No, really dude, Save Ferris his quote to your phone and remind yourself when you want to obsess over someone. No one is the end-all be-all of life, not even you. Relax, do your thing!
As an artist, this is not the topic I’d talk about publicly but I want to say this. Thank you for teaching young guys, for being honest, sincere and classy! As for the angry guy in that video he is clueless and very confused. Now allow me to add my this: Women want this! 1. Confidence 2. Mystery 3. Challenge This is it.... given that you’re a gentleman, you take care of yourself and you pass the initial physical attraction even by 50% you’ll have a good shot if you’re sincere, mostly open mouth to make her laugh, and if needed draw the line in the sand to show her that you have a backbone! Because she will test you to see if you’re worthy! Women are amazing, I love spending time with women, they’re emotionally intelligent. Also one more thing, (Love her with everything just not with words) Peace and love, and thanks again Courtney
OMG Courtney Ryan !! You just hit the jackpot by saying something I wanted to hear or read by someone who knows about this bad experience I had years ago ... and is this, " I will send you more of my pictures if you help me out with money, I need your help " Back then, I was not able to understand that situation, pictures for money with a excuse of " I need your help " Thank you very much Courtney Ryan !! I love you as you have no idea for this information you just posted !! 🥰
Toxic relationships will destroy one's physical, mental, and emotional health. It's sad to see how many people continue to go through that. Great upload today Courtney; have a blessed weekend. 🤠👍
Use the negativity as fuel to better yourself. The love of my life moved away and eventually cheated. It drove me insane and hurt for a loooong time. But I got really fit and not for other females. But I completely recalibrated my life and I’ve never been happier with myself. ALWAYS use negativite energy in a positive manner. If you’re angry hit the gym or clean your apartment! 😂🙌🏼
Yes indeed Soldier Poet, one if not the worst thing you can do is to get into a relationship with the wrong/crazy/evil woman or man. It fucks so many people up for a long time. *Sometimes its better to just turn around and walk away, just walk away*
There’s three types of love: 1.) Dependent 2.) Co-dependent 3.) Inter-dependent Dependent is the chase - one person chasing the other. Co-dependent is both chasing each-other Both of these are bad. Inter-dependent is the love everyone should strive for. It’s two people, living THEIR OWN LIVES, together.
I broke up with my gf of almost three years, but seeing this video, I'm happy that I made the right decision to break up, and was the first time that I stood up and walked away, did that few time before but was scared and eventually came back, but now I have decided for good. Guys, the feeling of walking away is painfull, but fulfilling at the same time, that is the step you need to take in order to be true men, best regards. For everyone going trough break up, it will be better, heads up kings!!
It’s so frustrating how everything in life that is good is so hard to get and everything that is bad is so easy. What a world it would be if the opposite was true. Thanks a lot Adam and Eve
What I believe is that having yourself is the most beautiful thing, and you should appreciate it because you came into this life alone and everyone should enjoy their own company . When you think you need a lot of people to make you complete then everything becomes a chaos , you don't like to be alone with yourself and everytime you think you need to prove yourself infront of everyone. I'm always happy spending time with myself because I'm learning so many things like fine arts , reading books, learning Japanese language etc. and I'm fully satisfied with myself and don't need everyone's validation.
@@whitelion1111 yeah I agree with you but the point I'm trying to make is that you should enjoy being with yourself and express gratitude daily for your healthy and positive mindset , of course we all need someone to socialize with
we need millions and millions of courtney ryan’s in this world please!!! T_T her voice is sooo soothing like my fave frappe. her hair is so spicy like that shampoo commercial. her skin is so flawless. huhu inside and out she’s so beautiful. this what happens when people like her strive to be the best version of themselves little bu little each day 🧋🧋 thanks for inspiring me!!!
If men don't chase, nothing happens. Women don't approach men. You have to initiate, but don't commit too soon. Remember it's a two way street. If she doesn't put in any effort, she isn't worth your time.
Dang! This video agrees with a lot of my personal beliefs. I'm definitely of the thought that people need to spend a good amount of time being single, learning about themselves. Learning what makes them react the way they do. Figuring out how to be independent. That way, when the time comes, you can want to be in a relationship instead if needing to be in a relationship. I spent most of my 20's doing this myself and life is so much easier now as a result 15ish yrs later.
In a nutshell: being more self-aware. I realized the root cause of my depression was my lack of focus stemming from having a short attention span, or ADD. Anytime I enter a conversation, my mind will literally wander after roughly one minute or so. I've been only medicated for the depression, not the ADD, so that's always been a challenge.
@@SvensktTroll Thank you for your honest yet respectful response. In the time we are living in I can most definitely understand your position!! It can be a bit, unusual and challenging to navigate at times when looking for a well rounded partner that walks in integrity. However, keep your head up they do exist! I’m not sure what your lifestyle consists of but I do, absolutely, believe that finding a more suitable partner would be more advantageous if you try seeking in areas where your life’s purpose lays. Also, there are so many amazing single women out every weekend having a great time exploring hobbies. It might be nice to get out of your comfort zone and explore new interests 🏀🏒🥍🏹🤿🥊🛼🥋⛷🏋🏾♀️🧘♀️🏇🏄🏿🧗🏿♀️🚵🏽♂️🤹🏾♀️🎹🎨🎤🎻🪂🎱🥢… Go have fun 🤩 Hope this encourages and helps 💕
Being a man I completely agree with you. Darius is a funny polarizing guy. Reminds me of when I was 17 or 23. It's a dream then to get all girls and women chasing you. It also is meaningless. A decent relationship does not include any chasing. Indeed it's about "pouring into one another". Perfectly worded, couldn't have said it any better. Big difference to my friend Darius: there has to be something substantial to be poured. 😀😀😀
EVERYTHING that my MOTHER teached me about women's was wrong and nothing worked for me!!!! On the other hand, my father had a lot of women's in his life! The moral of the story: If you want to catch the fish, don't ask a fish how to do-it but ask the fishermen!
I really like the chill and relaxed look when you listen to the guy’s insights. The way you pause and comment is absolutely unique. You’re a pro. And the contents is really good. You grasped the gist of what constitutes toxic people and toxic relationships that are so prevalent now! People are not comfortable with themselves and are just not ready for a relationship.
Enjoying Courtney's videos. She's a stand-up girl. Very classy lady. Nicely spoken. Intelligent, common sense, and very beautiful to top it all off. Seems a well brought up young lady. There seems to be alot of in-your-face fraudsters charging ridiculous money for ham advice on matters of the heart, but Courtney is fantastic and easy to listen to. Continued success with the channel.
Darius, StephisCold, the Hafeez from the room mates, Fresh and Fit and FitxFearless and 33 secrets are also pretty good as well. and Coach Greg Adams is pretty decent as well.
You’ve come a long way Courtney. You’re almost at 100K. So happy for your success and growth on this platform. Easily one of my fav people on UA-cam. Thank you for all the great content. Have a great weekend. Stay safe! 🤗💜💜
Watching this makes me realise how much insecurities, how negative I am towards myself & the problem is I don't know where to start to be able to be better and start working on myself, I want to be better but I think I do have unresolved issues with myself and I don't know how to deal with it.
I gave you thumb up and suscribed, because this is the best video I've seen on this topics. Uncommon person: honest and sincere plus educated and speaking well and elegantly.
I don’t think thanos really hated anyone he just wanted to create his own version of helping the universe and creating balance. Zamasu on the other hand is a totally different story and definitely does hate mortals.
I've been 100% celibate for 108 days. After 30 years of relationships, I've never been happier being immune to relationships now. If you're in a healthy one, I'm happy for you. But I'm so happy that I'm done. No more. I focus on my kids. My goals. My health. My spirit. My friends. My family. My money. Never felt better.
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Gentlemen listen up...
The best way to make a girl chase you is to steal her purse
Can confirm.
You can even get police women to chase you!
Aww bro I laughed so hard
LoL !!
What was the site kortney said that exposed false gurus?
@@jccgold Coffeezilla
You aren’t ready to date until you’ve accepted you’re comfortable alone. A relationship is a complement in your life, not the focal point
The what if you are comfortable with it for such a long time that it makes you uncomfortable with it?
i am so comfortable alone, that i don´t want a relationship anymore. It would be a bonus if the right person would be there but i am selecting very hard so i don´t find the right piece for me, but my life is also perfect without "that" gurl.
Wrong... That's non sense
You are very right. Thanks.
Right
As a single man, I am not in the business of fixing women. I am in the business of looking for the one who is truly worthy of my love & attention. She is either the right person or not, pick wisely, save yourself a headache and move on.
Yes sir!
Well done, and well said! 👏☺
You said, "Who is worthy of your love and attention." What if you or any of us fool ourselves and think that we are that special to deserve what we demand?
@@richardvincent8338 do you not think you're special enough to have someone who loves and respects you, and is worthy of your love? You are worthy of love, especially your own ☺
fuck off dickhead
"She should want to be just as much a part of your life as you want to be in hers."
Yes. Exactly.
Lesson learned. Definitely not making that mistake again.
Too bad no such woman exists for me
@@D3xterJettsterPassport 📘
If I took this advice for real I would be forever alone...
I appreciate how your videos are more like "how to be a better more solid person" and less like "how to manipulate the opposite sex into liking you"
👏🏼 that’s my goal. I don’t like the negativity that is associated with most dating advice these days. Thanks for being here!
What's even more impressive is she won't TAKE MONEY for her advice. Not dissing other "dating coaches", I'm as pro-business as the next guy. But, IMHO it GREATLY increases her street-cred.
The person she's teaching you to become, she won't date at all. As she has already mentioned here that 65% men she has dated were the ones cheating on her.
Myth busted here itself.
No interest in dating. No interest in "running through" women like I used to. A better, more solid person is the goal.
I absolutely agree
The power of "No" is what makes a boy into a man.
Some men who are experience with woman can turn down a great looking woman who wants to get laid;; the roller-coaster ride is the same;;no Matter how pretty & great looking the woman is
They ask me can you lend me money ? Can you help me move ? Can you walk my dog ? Can you drive me to the airport ? Can you change a lightbulb for me ? I answer no !
@Simon Edwards pickup pretty woman is like selling stuff professionally;;; selling stuff professionally is different;; it take alot more strategy to sell merchandise than getting laid because nicce looking woman .might want sexual intercouse for different reasons
I had a girlfriend say to me once "I have to keep you off balance in order for you to stay." Uh... this was one of the unhappiest periods of my life. Constant games.
There can be only one.... Cue highlander theme lol
Getting you to fix things is one way to make you invest more.
She said “a billionaire”. No one needs that much. It’s overcompensating for a deficiency if the billionaire does not donate to charity anonymously. She said she’s only had 2-3 relationships. She may be a good and knowledgeable person, she needs a bit more life experience/maturity to advise others.
I would've told her: "I'm not playing your games. Goodbye."
That's fucked up.
Thanks! Keep up the amazing work!
"Guys who respect themselves can walk away from a situation that is not serving them." Thanks...this is an important quote for single men, and deserving of a place on a plaque somewhere. I already practice it, but, I'll remember it now.
This is probably one of the most important life guidelines to follow--knowing when to recognize and move away from toxic people and situations!!
Totally agree
once I stopped chasing girls and focused on my own self improvement, the right girls started chasing me. Chasing gets you nowhere. Focus on things you are passionate in and women will be attracted by your energy. And really, just be a good person :) Great video Courtney - you got a new subscriber
Not to be contrary, but if that was the formula that did the trick. They, eligible ladies should be beating down my door by now.
It seems that the kinder, more engaged and generous one is, the less it is appreciated ultimately.
I am convinced that the majority of women are so accustomed to being treated poorly by men,
(especially older women who have had several longer term nightmarish relationships a result of repeated poor decision making)
that when they come across a man who treats them with respect and dignity they reject it because it’s so foreign to them.
I’ll tell you ladies, it’s maddening!!!
Its true, not going for a girl just cos she's pretty i used to.know a guy who used to stay at this one girl at work I would get on with my work not really focus on her, whags fhe point when your not getting anything in the first place
@@kenriehl7852 These guys are both dead wrong and right at the same time as are you. Bottom line is if the girl is not physically attracted to you none of that matters. If you are physically attractive to that woman then she will respond to either; ignore them and focus on yourself (in which case she might think you are gay or uninterested.....more likely) or be a nice good person, then you aren't mysterious or dangerous enough. Bottom line is you never know what will work so not giving a damn is the best approach for your sanity. Of course once you win her its only a matter of time until she's bored and decides to monkey branch.
@@AW-zy1kw
Wow….
@@kenriehl7852 You are wowed by my common sense? Thanks
I don't hate women, I hate what they do, there's a difference. And Darius is the coolest dude on the internet. He is direct, street smart, and tells it like it is.
I’ve said this a million times
I’ve been single for 7 years and it’ll take someone who’s genuinely interested in me for me to change my relationship status. And in my 7 years being alone I really learned who I really am and I’ve enjoyed my single life. I absolutely have nothing against women I just decided to stay single all this time. I enjoy being single and I do eventually want to find someone absolutely. But I’m in no rush to find anyone
I’m glad I’ve never been a chaser, if I don’t get back the attention I put into her. I walk away and pull back entirely. There was a girl I really liked at the church I go to and every time I talked to her it was a one way conversation. So I let her go and I’m still like friendly to her and say hello to her when I see her. But I’ve moved on and let her go
Maybe the girl at church was madly in love with you but loved Jesus more 🤔
@@joan5844
Man I love you guys, your Fufu and Adobo Rice but whenever a Nigerian comes to me with an offer I can't refuse, I can't help but doubt you 💀💀
@@RexGalilae no problem if you wanna doubt me
@@RexGalilae I'm not a man but a woman
@@joan5844
Never said you were a man, just Nigerian
This is such a great channel. As a guy who has been listening to a lot of red pill stuff, it's refreshing to hear a high-quality woman reiterate and confirm so much of this important stuff.
The red pill is so toxic bro
Your goal is not making a woman happy. Your goal is yourself. She's just your companion. I have so many friends that haven't understood this yet.
It's impossible to make anyone happy...let alone a woman.
Happiness comes from within. Be happy....then your surroundings will be better.
@Ocean Size
You sound like a woman that think men live to serve you.
The problem is if you're not making her happy, she files for divorce and you lose everything.
@@BloodyHeck
If your goal is to make a woman happy you are set for failure. No one can make any ody else happy.
@@NormanLy101 True, I see your point but I also see this as a catch-22. If you try to make her happy, she won't be. But if you don't try to make her happy, she won't be.
"You should be chasing the happiness you create for yourself" well said Courtney!
Courtney I have so much respect for how rational you are and how you have so much grace in explaining things without an ounce of bashing someone that doesn’t have the same view.
"chasing the happiness you are creating for yourself" i guess it took a divorce for this to sink in with me, but it resonates and it is how I'm living life today as a single dad.
👏🏼 sometimes we have to learn the hard way lol wishing you all the best!
happiness shouldn't be chased. It should be created by loving yourself above all else...In my opinion.
@@CourtneyRyan because a lot of guys are ignorant and they don't want to listen to other people's advice if that makes sense
... how are you defining the word "nature" ... something that "selects"?? ... are you sure "love" is an "emotion"?"
Yeah...a divorce is the onliestreal teacher
I love how well balanced you are in your responses, even when you disagree. You can tell you're not ruled by your emotions. Love that.
She's amazing
Love the content and espically her facial expressions and her eyes. They are "Priceless".
Watching Courtney's facial reactions when Darius drops some super polarising red pill one liners is brilliant.
I love Courtney's patience and reserved judgement while reviewing other people's content. So classy. She's clearly showing you what a high value women looks like.
yes she seems very nice.
I agree. She is very classy and (dare I say) ladylike. I guess I love her feminitity and refine.
agreed
Agree 100% real class, beauty and intelligence
simp
Red pill isn't about hating women, it's the mentally unhealthy men that think that's what it's about. It's really about waking up to the reality of female nature and learning how to focus on the work you need to do to be the high value man you should be.
Well said.
Exactly. Too many guys are overdosing on the red pill to the point that instead of understanding female nature, they start hating them for it.
@@LeeEverett1 That's the Black Pill. True Red Pillers don't hate women, we strive to understand true female nature for the betterment of our relationships with them.
@@jleano609 facts 💯
Exactly.
Darius is the best! Listening to this guy for a long time now. His content improved over time. He doesn't sugarcoat things like other youtubers. That's his best quality. Those men who believe in hollywood/disney love should listen to him.
His channel is the best thing on UA-cam. Maybe some older videos sound a bit more hateful, but he did improve a ton over time indeed. Darius saved me from a pit of insecurity and I'm sure he's saved many other men as well.
I agree. A straightforward source of wisdom.
Yesssss, Darius M is the best, cheers brothers!
I’ve been watching his videos kind of a long time now
He makes awesome videos. Some many people like it the way it is. But doesn't hurt to sugarcoat it to the guys who just can't take it straight up. Sometimes you gotta ease it in them instead of being that blunt.
her tone and voice are super kind and so calming and attractive all at the same time, you can tell she is genuinely nice person inside out
I really appreciate how open-minded and understanding you are. That's a very fine quality in anyone.
Darius always speaks the truth.
He tells it like it is.
You either accept fact or fiction.
Courtney love your channel, its so refreshing to hear an intelligent woman advocate for men, encouraging accountability for both men and women. Thank you!
Yes Courtney, he is on point. Knowing this can save a lot of failed relationships. I always say if its yours it will come willingfully.
Thank you,Courtney! Its really worked!Every person in this world should respect themselves first. It shows others how to treat you. And respect others' right to be different. Attitude is everything.
I love Darius he is down to earth a real mans man he doesn’t show off watches and cars and lifestyle stuff he’s just a man on the street with good content
Kevin Samuels reference, right. Yeah he sometimes comes across as a real jackass.
Agreed, some are not even worth being friends with, he seems very down to earth.
If he’s just a man on the streets then why does he subscribe to “women should be submissive” if he himself isn’t rich. Traditionalism is a two way street. If you want a submissive woman, then you gotta provide for her. If he doesn’t then he doesn’t get a vote. That’s just how his metric is designed to work.
@@kathleenhernandez2030 are you his ex he is talking about??!!
Traditionalism is extremely transactional both ways. “Are you the ex he’s talking about”. Sure yes it’s me, happy?
Thank you for reacting to his video. I love his channel. He's helping a lot of men. God bless him
Thankyou so much for your thoughts and comments in this video. I am 49 and I walked out on a toxic relationship after 23 years. I did anything and everything to please my ex and nothing I ever did could. I am still hurting after 6 months and I am healing little by little day by day. This video made me feel like I am not alone. Thanks so much. I have subscribed and I am looking forward to more content from you. Thanks from Matt in Australia.
"No More Mr. Nice Guy"
Read that book, my dude. You're welcome.
@@s.j.5810 thank you..
I love your delivery, Courtney. You explain and elucidate things in a non-dramatic and positive way that makes your suggestions and your insight very easy to follow. I find your content so refreshing, and by the way, it really helped me on my first date! ❤
I love Darius M’s channel. Very excellent, clear advice. Courtney’s perspective from female vantage point, does center his advice even a bit more. Thanks Courtney! You voice is just so feminine and calming and pleasant to listen to.
As an attractive woman you'll never quite understand what men go through to get dates in the first place. Everything is easy mode for you. If you want hard mode try being a man for a week.
Then when men finally get into a relationship it's usually not what he signed up for. And then the process repeats.
I think the just work on yourself advice only works for women. They are not going to approach a guy unless he is a 10. For most guys they are the ones who need to take the initiative and I believe women expect them to as well. I have been working on myself, mostly financially, and after 20 years I can say I have achieved financial independence, I am still single though. The few times women have approached me was when I was young and broke.
@@tonii5690It's true. I am fully independent now and have gotten laid less since college days living with my parents. My first girl friend still hasn't really happened at age 36. Just a series of hookups and friend with benefits.
I even went to a pickup bootcamp, spent a few grand for nothing. But I got to see the whole attitude of guys who go out regularly and approach women. Consistency and perseverance seems to be the only key to getting the women you actually want unless you're a solid 10 like you say. No way around it. And I'm 6'4'' with a lean body, makes little difference if you aren't the one doing the approaching and saying the right things.
@@ShiniGorky187 yeah it's not hard to say hi and you want to grab a drink on Tuesday.
Try being a non-Chad/Tyrone man for a week*.
There, fixed it for you, good Sir.
Me as a woman I have to say apparently I do not really know about the struggles that man face and always appreciate it when you speak up about it, like you did here !!!
You should be chasing the happiness you create for yourself. Great quote, great message. I need to start doing this myself more.
Love your dress, print is cool, linen? Mad style. Bravo! Well spoken great communication style. You really listen. You show real interest and provide insights. You don’t agree with everything at the same time you let it be know when you do. You are genuine, true to yourself. Kudos.
I didn't thought I would think like this after seeing a video on dating, but I feel like I need to find my way in life before being in a new relationship. Thanks Courtney for this video and also for being genuine and not trying to ''selling your services'' on your videos all the time, it's really appreciated.
How i wish more women in this world to be more feminine, kind & thoughtful like you Courtney! 👍
I agree with Terry Lim. I wish women were more feminine and sweet today. I miss seeing women in dresses and skirts that are much more feminine than slacks or jeans.
@@jimfrederich8852
One of the (many) things that I find very attractive about Holly Willoughby is the way she is nearly always in dresses and skirts and that she obviously loves being girly, swishing her dresses around.
And even if she isn't dressing like that, she has a good head on her shoulders. And that is something which is way more important than looks to me, within limits.
Terry Lim: Well, Courtney hasn't said shit in reply to yours or any of these other comments following yours, I notice. Not that I don't agree with it, just saying. Makes me curious.
Yea feminism has killed the modern female
Courtney you would not believe me how drastically this man helped me get on the next level when it comes to women. With no selling programms, nothing but honest and brutal truth about women, Darius is doing amazing work for men out there. I felt like crap half year ago and thank God I found his channel, he was like a lifesaver to me. He is helping men to get on their feet, to move on, to get your masculinity back, to put yourself 1st etc. I was applying his advices in my daily life, at my work and results are true, I feel better than ever, it's so selfless from him, with zero ads, zero selling programms, God bless him.
So true. The moment I was happy by myself, someone walked into my life. Being single can be a bit addicting though. I like my alone time and don’t wanna be around someone or talk to them all the time.
A good woman will respect your alone time.
“I invited her in and smashed her cheeks”! Omg that reaction was classic! Hahahaha 😂😂😂
The cheeks : 🐣🐣🐣
😁
"There power in a relationship belongs to the one who cares less."
That's only true if a person has low self esteem and believes that they don't deserve more, when either a man or a woman has high self-esteem they're not going be in a relationship with someone who 'cares less'. I've seen this happen irl
@Jean juju Exactly, thinking 'I don't want to be emotionally too close to her so I don't get hurt that much if she leaves me' is a wrong mindset. I speak from own experience. You shouldn't make her the focal point in your life but you should commit to her, work on the relationship all the time. I don't wann get into too much detail otherwise the comment would be bare long
@@Gr88992 The person who care less IS the one with high self esteem. 😎
Brilliant content! Not a single dig at him for any of his options. How refreshing this is. A real lady, thank you for your video.
love your straight out humble way, with a gentle sweet way of saying the truth
A psychologist I saw at a lecture said that this is a common phenomenon. The pursuer tires of pursuing elusive partner, and reverses course. The pursuee sees he/she is no longer being pursued and reverses course and effectively becomes the pursuer. I wish I had known that decades earlier. It would have saved me a lot sadness.
I can't thank Darius enough for his videos. He's just the best. You should react to his new videos.
I don’t think she realizes most women have a lot of issues. Darius is a guy so he understands and knows what we men have to go through.
Yeah we all have issues, even the ones that seem perfect, we just ignore them and that’s why they’re still issues and she doesn’t acknowledge that but that’s more of a guy thing to know like you said
100,% true.
Yeah you're right man 100%
At 44…. I KNOW most of this is geared for 20 somethings…. Stay persistent guys….. women get “better,” in their 30’s and beyond!!!
No, you're just picking the wrong ones. After dating for the first time in my life at age 38, and going on around 50 first dates, I can tell you that men have a boat load of issues. I had a good dad and was in long relationships with good men before now so I was very surprised. Many of the men I have rejected will say that I have issues when I absolutely know this isn't true, I simply was not into them and I ended it nicely and early. In the past few months I've been verbally abused for not opening texts quickly, told I have attachment issues, been lied to and led on, been sexually molested and emotionally blackmailed. These were guys I went on a few dates with. I've also met a few great guys. What I refuse to do is pander to men in case they call me a bitch or say I have issues. I dust myself off from these events and look at what I can do differently, I don't get butt hurt and start blaming all men.
Courtney, thank u for ur humility, honesty,& balance!
I loved how you said the issues represented in the video are due to deep unresolved trauma, how one should learn to love his/herself before becoming dateable. Most of the time, alot of people start developing an idea of hate towards the opposite sex when they get rejected, neglected or cheated on, etc...They think it's due to something bad they did when in fact it has nothing to do with them in the first place and everything to do about how the other person feels about themself. Stoicism really came to my mind when watching this video, "do not get emotional about things on which you have no control", you be the best person you can be to the point where you're truly sincerely happy with yourself and only then start inviting other people into your life. If you're not happy with your life, do not think that entering a relationship will make all your unhappiness go away because it won't. Great video overall.
Man Darius is the most upfront and honest amongst youtubers.
He seems to be!
@@CourtneyRyan When he said "women want to be apart of mens life"
He meant women usually want to do the chasing instead of men doing the chasing, chasing is different from shooting a shot or asking someone out on a date.
There's no way two people can meet each other halfway because they'll both be skeptical of one another, only one of them will have to try to convince the other that they're are worthy of becoming a couple
Just thought to communicate cause you misunderstood him
Love is like a shadow, when you chase it, it runs away, when you turn around and walk away, it follows you.
You're Right!! I very much respect and enjoy the wisdom you have that you share with us!!! I am a wise old man that appreciates your understanding!
You have a clear logical rational thought process..very refreshing to hear things that resonate with me.
I had suggested you react to him!! Amazing to see one of my favorite youtubers reacting to another. Thank you Courtney.
Happy to do it! 😊
Darius definitely has a “lay em and leave em” attitude.
@@joeblow1942 He gives good advice that, if taken, won't get men played.
@@StarlightSGs I've seen a lot of his videos. Darius's advice for SIMPS can be summed up in one way... "Don't give a fuck."
My man Darius speaks truth! Don't agree with everything the man says, but value yourself first and you will always attract high quality people into your world.
I really needed to hear this …
Still healing from a sad past relationship .
God Bless - and thank you 🙏
Courtney, I just wanted to let you know how on point I believe your commentary is. I've watched a half dozen or so of your videos and I feel as though you bring a balanced perspective which honors both genders-very refreshing to see. Thank you!
Her face when he said “I clapped them cheeks” killed me 😂😂
🥱
*Smashed
I think she bout puked didn't she? Yeah I spit lemonade out my friggin nose right there, hahaha.
Her reaction was priceless. 😆😆😆😆😆
Courtney was kind enough not to comment, but was clearly disturbed by the choice of words. Plus Darius M could have left the comment out. We got the point.
Courtney, I think it's great that you point out that " not all women are the same." I've seen this guys videos too and like alot of people on here they act like everyone is the same in every type of dating or attraction situation.
I think there's a continuum of behaviour, with some people being more or less 'evolved'... but the underlying principles consistently apply.
Practically, you'll do better assuming 'all women are the same' from that perspective...
rather than thinking you've found a special exception to female craziness! 😄
@@BWater-yq3jx your view of women is similar to sexist steriotypes that women are told about men by the feminist groups too claiming " men are all the same" when we aren't.
@@jayb3033
I don't think you absorbed the point of my comment.
@@jayb3033 two types of women: attractive and unattractive. The unattractive is the most common. So the Attractive thinks she is a diamond. So you either settle for dog food or pay a high price for steak.
All women are the same when it comes to attraction (craving confident men)
Men are the same when it comes to getting attracted to womens looks
"If things don't change for him, he's gonna marry the first girl he lays, and she's gonna treat him like shit, because she will have given him what he has built up in his mind as the end-all, be-all of human existence. She won't respect him, 'cause you can't respect somebody who kisses your ass. It just doesn't work." --Ferris Bueller (1986)
Oh yes....., The 80's was a great time to be alive and dating......!!!!!!!!
@@johnnyedge9594 Sooooooooooo much simpler than now it's just scareyville !!
John hughes shaped my adolescence.
Save Ferris. No, really dude, Save Ferris his quote to your phone and remind yourself when you want to obsess over someone. No one is the end-all be-all of life, not even you. Relax, do your thing!
Spectacular video Courtney! You bring a lot of light to landmines we, men, get into oursleves!
As an artist, this is not the topic I’d talk about publicly but I want to say this. Thank you for teaching young guys, for being honest, sincere and classy! As for the angry guy in that video he is clueless and very confused.
Now allow me to add my this:
Women want this!
1. Confidence
2. Mystery
3. Challenge
This is it....
given that you’re a gentleman, you take care of yourself and you pass the initial physical attraction even by 50% you’ll have a good shot if you’re sincere, mostly open mouth to make her laugh, and if needed draw the line in the sand to show her that you have a backbone! Because she will test you to see if you’re worthy! Women are amazing, I love spending time with women, they’re emotionally intelligent. Also one more thing, (Love her with everything just not with words)
Peace and love, and thanks again Courtney
"Do you think you're going to become a billionaire from an ebook? No!"
Hahahhahahahaha!! Soo Good!
OMG Courtney Ryan !!
You just hit the jackpot by saying something I wanted to hear or read by someone who knows about this bad experience I had years ago ... and is this, " I will send you more of my pictures if you help me out with money, I need your help "
Back then, I was not able to understand that situation, pictures for money with a excuse of " I need your help "
Thank you very much Courtney Ryan !!
I love you as you have no idea for this information you just posted !! 🥰
By FAR the best, most unbias channel regarding the female and male perspective on dating, GOD BLESS YOU
Darius is the bomb, so straight forward. I can't stop listening to his advice and contents. He's an original.
My guy
Fact
Darius M - 💯🔔🔚
And he is accurate
He is very sharp
Toxic relationships will destroy one's physical, mental, and emotional health. It's sad to see how many people continue to go through that. Great upload today Courtney; have a blessed weekend. 🤠👍
Exactly. Not worth it! Kiss the toxic people goodbye! 👏🏼 thank you so much for being here!
Use the negativity as fuel to better yourself.
The love of my life moved away and eventually cheated. It drove me insane and hurt for a loooong time. But I got really fit and not for other females. But I completely recalibrated my life and I’ve never been happier with myself.
ALWAYS use negativite energy in a positive manner. If you’re angry hit the gym or clean your apartment! 😂🙌🏼
@@CourtneyRyan there is no equal man should be the leader of the household.
Yes indeed Soldier Poet, one if not the worst thing you can do is to get into a relationship with the wrong/crazy/evil woman or man. It fucks so many people up for a long time. *Sometimes its better to just turn around and walk away, just walk away*
There’s three types of love:
1.) Dependent
2.) Co-dependent
3.) Inter-dependent
Dependent is the chase - one person chasing the other.
Co-dependent is both chasing each-other
Both of these are bad.
Inter-dependent is the love everyone should strive for. It’s two people, living THEIR OWN LIVES, together.
Thanks again Courtney for your advices. Please keep on going with your channel.
Darius: “SMASHED HER CHEEKS!”
Courtney: -__-
🤣🤣🤣 dude is wild
Who's this 'Darius' guy??
LOL WTF
Her face when he said that 🤣
What does it mean?
😂😂😂
I broke up with my gf of almost three years, but seeing this video, I'm happy that I made the right decision to break up, and was the first time that I stood up and walked away, did that few time before but was scared and eventually came back, but now I have decided for good. Guys, the feeling of walking away is painfull, but fulfilling at the same time, that is the step you need to take in order to be true men, best regards. For everyone going trough break up, it will be better, heads up kings!!
It’s so frustrating how everything in life that is good is so hard to get and everything that is bad is so easy. What a world it would be if the opposite was true. Thanks a lot Adam and Eve
A man will eat any fruit given to him by an attractive naked woman.
Adam & Eve made their decisions, now we make ours. The 1st Adam threw us under the bus; the 2nd Adam, Christ Jesus saved us, if we can accept it.
If you love something, set it free.
If it comes back to you it's yours.
If it doesn't, it never was.
HaHa
Or it is just your turn & never be yours🤣
or the Red Neck version of that:
If you love something set it free.
If it comes back to you it's yours.
If it doesn't, hunt it down and KILL IT!
😬Those Red Necks don't ,mess about
@@VigilanceTech
That's just a lame excuse for her to go screw around
What I believe is that having yourself is the most beautiful thing, and you should appreciate it because you came into this life alone and everyone should enjoy their own company . When you think you need a lot of people to make you complete then everything becomes a chaos , you don't like to be alone with yourself and everytime you think you need to prove yourself infront of everyone. I'm always happy spending time with myself because I'm learning so many things like fine arts , reading books, learning Japanese language etc. and I'm fully satisfied with myself and don't need everyone's validation.
Love this ❤️
@@CourtneyRyan thanks Courtney for dropping knowledge bombs every week , it really helps a lot of guys 🙃
@@whitelion1111 yeah I agree with you but the point I'm trying to make is that you should enjoy being with yourself and express gratitude daily for your healthy and positive mindset , of course we all need someone to socialize with
@@CourtneyRyan I'm agree with your conclusion I would like to know u if u are single but that's no possible u are far away
... which do you want ??? ... to be validated or invalidated in a relationship? ...
I got to say Courtney, You're one of the best channels about male and female interactions...
Best emoji freeze frames of Courtney timeline 1:39; 1:59; 2:33; 3:10; 6:02; 6:29; 7:01; 7:14; 11:04; 11:13; 12:51; 13:31; 13:41Courtney you have to make your own emoji app because the reaction faces are priceless! Love them!
😂 I’m laughing at this hahaha
Ha, they are good!😀
7:14 is the best one. she was appalled at "yea i smashed those cheeks"😂😂😂
Facts Courtney’s reaction faces are gonna become a meme.
@@universe-ie2mk I laughed out loud when I heard Darius say that! Never heard that one before.
Your advice is always spot on, Courtney.
I admire your intelligence, articulation and eloquence.
Brava, Courtney.
OMG THAT FACE AT 7:14 IM DYING. Great content and advice as always, Courtney
we need millions and millions of courtney ryan’s in this world please!!! T_T her voice is sooo soothing like my fave frappe. her hair is so spicy like that shampoo commercial. her skin is so flawless. huhu inside and out she’s so beautiful.
this what happens when people like her strive to be the best version of themselves little bu little each day 🧋🧋 thanks for inspiring me!!!
Oh my goodness you are so sweet! This made me smile haha thank you 😊 have a nice weekend
The Simp is Strong in you!
@@irresistablegraceinchrist6690 😂🤣
@@irresistablegraceinchrist6690 Simpin' ain't easy. 💯
That guy is definitly a simp!!
This is the battle of strength and confidence, and kindness and intelligence. Find the happy medium folks.
If men don't chase, nothing happens. Women don't approach men.
You have to initiate, but don't commit too soon. Remember it's a two way street. If she doesn't put in any effort, she isn't worth your time.
Dang! This video agrees with a lot of my personal beliefs. I'm definitely of the thought that people need to spend a good amount of time being single, learning about themselves. Learning what makes them react the way they do. Figuring out how to be independent. That way, when the time comes, you can want to be in a relationship instead if needing to be in a relationship. I spent most of my 20's doing this myself and life is so much easier now as a result 15ish yrs later.
In a nutshell: being more self-aware. I realized the root cause of my depression was my lack of focus stemming from having a short attention span, or ADD. Anytime I enter a conversation, my mind will literally wander after roughly one minute or so. I've been only medicated for the depression, not the ADD, so that's always been a challenge.
Thank you Courtney for promoting balance. Healthy relationships should be mutually respectful with both individuals pouring into one another 💕
Right!!!
Only works if the female isn't insane and what i have seen lately, they seem to be hard to find.. Hope i am wrong about that ;-)
@@SvensktTroll Thank you for your honest yet respectful response. In the time we are living in I can most definitely understand your position!! It can be a bit, unusual and challenging to navigate at times when looking for a well rounded partner that walks in integrity. However, keep your head up they do exist! I’m not sure what your lifestyle consists of but I do, absolutely, believe that finding a more suitable partner would be more advantageous if you try seeking in areas where your life’s purpose lays. Also, there are so many amazing single women out every weekend having a great time exploring hobbies. It might be nice to get out of your comfort zone and explore new interests 🏀🏒🥍🏹🤿🥊🛼🥋⛷🏋🏾♀️🧘♀️🏇🏄🏿🧗🏿♀️🚵🏽♂️🤹🏾♀️🎹🎨🎤🎻🪂🎱🥢… Go have fun 🤩 Hope this encourages and helps 💕
Being a man I completely agree with you. Darius is a funny polarizing guy. Reminds me of when I was 17 or 23. It's a dream then to get all girls and women chasing you. It also is meaningless. A decent relationship does not include any chasing. Indeed it's about "pouring into one another". Perfectly worded, couldn't have said it any better. Big difference to my friend Darius: there has to be something substantial to be poured. 😀😀😀
Are you single ?
EVERYTHING that my MOTHER teached me about women's was wrong and nothing worked for me!!!! On the other hand, my father had a lot of women's in his life! The moral of the story: If you want to catch the fish, don't ask a fish how to do-it but ask the fishermen!
That’s why I’m doubtful in listening to women. Ever for advice.
@Jay Bee Maybe you're right. Maybe I should just take a break from reading stuff on the internet so much.
I really like the chill and relaxed look when you listen to the guy’s insights. The way you pause and comment is absolutely unique. You’re a pro. And the contents is really good. You grasped the gist of what constitutes toxic people and toxic relationships that are so prevalent now! People are not comfortable with themselves and are just not ready for a relationship.
Darius is a legend. An absolute real one
@@_method_5877 what was he like back then?
He do be keeping it a BUCK!!!
@@dominicbrogsdale3348 Yeah he's cool
@@maxpayne4129 ✊👊✊👊🖤🖤
@@dominicbrogsdale3348 100%
Courtney’s facial reaction when she heard..... “smashed her cheeks’. 🤣😂
Her expression was from experience.
Lol right
@@Sir-Benz09 no, not bcuz of that lol
@@truthimagination2997 she's heard this several times 😏
I had to replay it few times too funny
Enjoying Courtney's videos. She's a stand-up girl. Very classy lady. Nicely spoken. Intelligent, common sense, and very beautiful to top it all off. Seems a well brought up young lady. There seems to be alot of in-your-face fraudsters charging ridiculous money for ham advice on matters of the heart, but Courtney is fantastic and easy to listen to. Continued success with the channel.
Simp.
Courtney’s face at 7:14 in the video lol. But seriously, great content as always Courtney! Keep it up, you’re helping so many men!!!
Darius has the best advice for men, IMO.
No cap!
Coach Corey Wayne 🙌Darius is good 👏
No cap
The original
Darius, StephisCold, the Hafeez from the room mates, Fresh and Fit and FitxFearless and 33 secrets are also pretty good as well. and Coach Greg Adams is pretty decent as well.
Kinda like what the Bible says,” if someone wants to go you let them go.”
Who cares people do what they want. Darius is so right
Source?
You’ve come a long way Courtney. You’re almost at 100K. So happy for your success and growth on this platform. Easily one of my fav people on UA-cam. Thank you for all the great content. Have a great weekend. Stay safe! 🤗💜💜
Thank you so much, this made me smile! ❤️
Thank you for your honesty & sincerity ! It’s very appreciated courtney!
Almost at 100K Courtney 👏🏻❤
I’m so excited! 🥳
@@CourtneyRyan I'm excited for you too! You deserve it 😊😊
Watching this makes me realise how much insecurities, how negative I am towards myself & the problem is I don't know where to start to be able to be better and start working on myself, I want to be better but I think I do have unresolved issues with myself and I don't know how to deal with it.
Confidence, respectfulness, honesty, hand written notes, being on time...
I only got One out of Five.
I got 3/5
I gave you thumb up and suscribed, because this is the best video I've seen on this topics. Uncommon person: honest and sincere plus educated and speaking well and elegantly.
“Dont get into anything with an “I hate all of you” mentality. It wont help anyone.”
You hear that, Thanos and Zamasu?!
VEGITO BLUUUEEEEE
But... I hate both men and women equally. 😟
I don’t think thanos really hated anyone he just wanted to create his own version of helping the universe and creating balance. Zamasu on the other hand is a totally different story and definitely does hate mortals.
I've been 100% celibate for 108 days. After 30 years of relationships, I've never been happier being immune to relationships now. If you're in a healthy one, I'm happy for you. But I'm so happy that I'm done. No more. I focus on my kids. My goals. My health. My spirit. My friends. My family. My money. Never felt better.
Hi, greetings to you from Nigeria 🇳🇬,am lucy and this is my first time to meet you here on UA-cam,l saw your profile pic and I really love what I saw,I hope you wouldn't mind can we be friends, if so DM me
Hiii greetings to you from Nigeria 🇳🇬
she's risen so fast! congrats Courtney!
Thank you 🥺❤️
You are a terrific teacher and I love the way you softened his message and I appriciate you communicating clearly