Everyone noticed Prince...he was shorter than 90% of all women. Height never maketh the man. Some of greatest men to have ever graced earth were short ass men
@@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457 So one guy out of 7 billion who happens to be in ultra successful musician and famous celebrity.. Yeah I am pretty sure his life isn't like anyone else who looks like him.. And your talking to men not women here so we don't need a few exceptions to the rule, we know they exist, that doesn't break the rule. It is a generalization, and accurate.. most women want a man taller than them period. I'm not short, I'm average and yes I've dated taller women, I married a women taller than me lol.. but it doesn't happen often.
@@Sammie551 she said she was 5'5. I'll admit finding a shorter guy would be difficult but I've definitely known several and I'm about her age. It could be a location thing
This is why guys rip their hair out when it comes to dating, they ask a logical question in guy language (objective, dry, logical) then get a reply in womanese (covert, coy, subtexts). Men think women are just as rational and dry as men are, and women don’t understand why guys can’t read the hidden signals.
Whether a man or a woman, the problem starts as soon as the phrase “I want” is uttered… The ability to compromise, accept people for their quirks or look past imperfections is a modern cancer on dating. Our 21st Century expectations are ridiculous to the point of counterproductive.
I ran the numbers while back and it's concentric circles of qualities. People over 6ft are 15% of the us population. People earning over 100,000 in the us is 9%. Assuming an even distribution of attractiveness rated from 1-10, 30% of the population are above average attractiveness based on female standards. This means that women are looking for fractions of a percent of the population to settle down with before personal qualities or demands; Specifically it's 0.405% of the population. With the US's population of 340,000,000 and a very close to 50-50 split of genders. This equates to 685,037 men. And this number is more than fair given that women have more stringent attraction standards. That the population is distributed on a bell curve, not 10% across the board for attractiveness. And whatever arbitrary standards they apply remove EVEN more men. It's absurd. Many women are ruining their own chance at happy relationships.
@@rasmachris94 I believe taller guys make more money on average than shorter guys. I would put money on it, for one already majority of sports players are over 6 foot tall probably 95% so already that would put a lot of millionaires in that category for starters. So I get some hgh if u short and hit A growth spurt.
@@rasmachris94 A few years ago I calculated the numbers on myself. Based on height, appearance, wealth, and IQ, I determined that I'm 1 in 31,250. I then made a Venn diagram and posted it with the math on my dating profile to see what would happen. Needless to say my likes dried up. Women actually unmatched with me. Haha! I wasn't surprised, but it's very telling that women have that much aversion to a man who knows his own value. It is interesting how the statistics work. If you put me in a stadium with 30,000 random bachelors do I really think I'd be the ladies' top pick? Of course not. The math would suggest I should be top of the heap, but I can't even get a date on Bumble. In reality women are far more shallow than they admit. So, we can toss out the Venn Diagrams because we know all of the men who are a 9 or 10 in handsomeness would be chosen first. So, for example if you happen to look like Brad Pitt, then the ladies really wouldn't care if you're dumb as a rock or have no sense of humor. Or, if you live in a 8-bedroom mansion with a swimming pool, then you can be 5'5" and still get a good wife. Question: What percentage of the male population do you think is at least six feet tall, has *AVERAGE* looks, *AVERAGE* personality, *AVERAGE* wealth, and are unmarried? Answer: Less than 1%. {14.5% x 50% x 50% x 50% x 45% = 0.8%}
I love the subtle or unrealized honesty... "I've never dated a guy who was shorter than me, i've never even met a guy shorter than me." Its because those men are invisible to you sweetie.
Almost all the womens in my life was taller than me! They liked me because I am much more confident than the taller guys! For some womens the height matters but others cares more about your behaviour!
Nah tbh there’s not a lot of guys shorter than 5’6 5’5. There is, but it gets to be quite rare and even if she sees them it isn’t always an interaction
indeed. I want to share a short story about this....i have this friend that claims herself as feminist to the fullest....and one day she tells me that she does not date shorter man!1i was shocked by this....iand my question was ...if a guy likes big boobs and refuses someoen for not having it hes a douche a pig whatever but if a girl claims that shorter man no all good? its insane ! no matter how good guy how cool like you said invisible!!and above all theres nothing anyone can do in regards to that!! this is stupid and duality and hipocrisy to the fullest!!!!
The pre-selected part is so true. So many times I’ve gone to a bar where I’m going to meet my very beautiful wife and other women around me don’t notice me at all. As soon as she come in, sits down next to me and it’s obvious we’re married everything changes. I notice the same women at the bar or the female bartender totally checking me out. At one place, a women sitting next to me asked me out when my wife got up to go to the bathroom. I’m decent looking and in ok shape and dress pretty well like I have $$. But none of these attract females as much as when they see that I’m married to a hot woman.
I gotten into an argument with my mother a few year back over why I'm still single in spite of my age. I told her it is due to knowing how this game works and the players in it. I said I can attract women tomorrow, all I have to do is get a men's wedding ring today! She did NOT like that answer, and neither did I, but, I can and must accept the truth, while she does not.
Absolutely true. This is a core reason I disagree with red pill stuff bc they teach to not be friends with women. However going out with 2/3 attractive women friends regularly gets you looked at differently. You get the benefit of the doubt instead of being considered BSing. When those friends leave to go get a drink or go to the bathroom girls approach or send flirting signals. Maybe it's competitiveness or preselection but either way it's effective and game changing.
Same thing happened to me. Walked into bar. I myself didn't see it, especially with a chipped tooth at the time, she swore the bartender was totally flirting with me. And my wife is a looker herself. At fifty she is gorgeous now
I've had several male friends say they get a lot more female interest when they are in a relationship or after they were married. So I think this one holds water.
I'm 5'4" and I dated a girl who was 5'9" in college. She asked me if it bothered me, and I said it doesn't bother me at all. It would only bother me if it bothers you. Then she asked me why not. I thought for a bit and then I said, "Well, from my perspective, there's more of you to touch." She laughed. :)
1- 7:23 Hot 2- 8:48 Taller (than the girl) 3- 10:02 Good in Bed 4- 10:27 Wealthy 5- 12:41 Preselected 6- 14:15 Status 7- 16:08 Body Confidence 8- 17:25 Older (than the girl) 9- 18:22 Independent
It’s fine in fact better to have a higher standard (not with stupid stuff, but u know the important stuff like morals, beliefs, how they uphold themselves) if u don’t got a high standard then don’t be surprised if u never end up with someone good. Having physical attraction to your partner is important but beauty fades for everyone, it’s no good to have a super high standard for those things I’ll never understand girls who will only date a guy if there obnoxiously tall and hot LOL
Actually here's the 9 qualities women really want in a man but wont admit it - and this is proven by online dating data: 1) Be very attractive, I mean more attractive than the average attractive guy - like top 10% of the male species attractive. 2) Be handsome. 3) Have well defined abs. 4) have well defined arms, shoulders and chest. 5) Have full head of hair - unless you are really muscular then it doesnt matter. 6) Be at least 6 feet tall. 7) Act uninterested in everything, that way you can seem brooding and misterious so she can spend hours trying to "figure you out" with her girlfriends.. 8) Never talk about yourself. 9) Be rich.
@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 Only in setting like business where people have to restrain themselves do they act calm. Buy yes, I am mostly referring to online. Though I have talked to a few women about this type of subject. They were anything but calm. Very defensive. Even if it is not them specifically that I'm talking about.
Alexander is not appreciated enough, he is just spot on on so many things. That thing he said about women giving a "press conference" in order to look good instead of telling the truth about what they want is perfect.
The part about having a dating history feels a bit scary to me since for a lot of guys it means that getting a woman to date him is going to get harder the more time goes by, while the reason that he may not have a dating history is because women haven't even given him a chance yet.
Theres also girls who dont want to go for a guy with a history. Personally i want a guy who hasnt been with too many girls because that means i have a shit ton of girls to compete against. I dont want to be constantly compared to someone. Not to mention i have only dated one person, we were together for 3 years. Why would i want someone whos non committal if I myself am very committal
Agreed! He understands the nuance to a lot of these topics and does a good job explaining that there are exceptions or that things sometimes aren't so black and white. And he isn't a misogynist, he wants both men and women to be happier in their relationships.
You're one of my favorite UA-camrs because you speak with conviction and back it up with data. No hatred, no b.s., just truth. Keep up the good work brother 👌🏾.
What I like most about Alex is that he isn't misogynistic, this becomes very clear when you watch more of his videos, he just doesn't like people with bad qualities, which I think is much different than a lot of other "dating coaches", he doesn't come from a pov of hating on women, just telling the truth
Are some of those other "dating coaches" guilty of actually "hating on women" or are they just being brutally honest? Brutal honesty can sound very similar to hate depending on who is hearing the message.
@@tobyey9134 I don't disagree about Alex. I think he has the best of intentions. I was referring to how others hear the messages from other dating coaches. I have no doubt that there are "coaches" out there who don't have good intentions, but at the same time, I'll say again. Brutal honesty, saying unpopular things or things people don't want to hear (but might need to hear) can come across as hate. Much depends on how the message is received and by whom.
@@tidefanyankee2428 I know that you said that and I basically tried to say the same thing, there are some that have good intentions but phrase them in a way that seems misogynistic, there are some that actually hate on women and there are some that don't and whose words match that, the latter seem to be the minority and I'd categorize Alex into them.
Alexander Grace is right 100%. In fact, Courtney Ryan's videos are so successful because she is one of the few women who tells the truth about women. That theme fills the comments of all her UA-cam videos.
I’m going to say this. Money isn’t worth your mental health. I actually took a 30% pay cut when I left the rental car industry, and went to work for my local county government. But... I am in a much better place mentally now. My wife has pointed this out, and it’s improved our marriage.
No, money isn't worth your mental health. But you need to do something you like. If you do that AND can make money doing it, then it's all good. I'm self employed and I make a nice living. I would tell you and have told younger guys start there. Very few people like everything about their jobs. There are many jobs that lots of people don't consider like the trades. You don't necessarily need a BS or MS degree to make decent money. I have a buddy who went into accounting and he made a very nice living doing it, but he hated it. He switched to plumbing and makes pretty close to what he did before and he's far happier.
Alexander Grace and Courtney Ryan are easily my two favorite "relationship advice" UA-camrs ie. for understanding men and women. They both give very balanced, realistic and honest opinions... which is a refreshing breath of air in our messed up world.
Ms. Ryan is the shy, inhibited, afraid-to-offend-so-won't-state-uncomfortable-truths-so-directly "church lady" version of Mr. Grace. She says NOTHING that he hasn't already said more succinctly, and with greater force. She is the watered-down version of Mr. Grace. She offers NO "added-value."
I like the fact that Courtney comes across as Non-Judgemental while giving what should be considered useful and friendly information. Loved her facial expressions...
There you have it. If you don't meet a woman's minimum prereqs, you are invisible to her for all intents and purposes. It's just the way it is. Who cares, go for the women that do see you.
@@zak6093 Every woman is different. Some do care greatly about height (especially online dating), others don't care AS MUCH. I know this because I'm short and I've had girlfriends, a couple of them beautiful by most men's standards. Stop harping on something you can't change and focus on women that appreciate what you bring to the table.
It's alright. Women can have their standards. We men need to have our standards too. She has to be fit, attractive, submissive, non-combative, young, able to cook, and sex on demand.
2:55 with regards to the point you made about women being brutally honest on tiktok (eg height/facial attractiveness), women are more likely to be honest when they don't fear repercussions or judgement. However if a man asks a women in real life what she finds attractive, she will be more likely to virtue signal in order to look good and noble
That depends if she likes you and whether its a 1 on 1 conversation. I received excellent advice 1 on 1 from some women I was platonic friends with. Women will always lie about dating when being overheard by others.
I will be honest , i dont usually watch these type of video, but have watched a few or yours and really really appreciate your honesty and balance. Thank you young lady !!!
I have very little sympathy for overweight women who complain that few men want them. Their challenge can be solved by going to the gym and losing weight. Even older women can have all the male attention they want with a little discipline and hard work. And it really isn't that hard. On the other hand a man who is short and/or bald cannot change those things without either growing six inches or spending thousands on iffy hair transplants. So I have zero sympathy for fat chicks in actuality. But again I must say that playing a piano and singing a bit has never, ever hurt me.
"looks are good for getting someone initially interested, but they are not gonna keep her". People keep spewing and spewing this phrase and dont realize what they are saying. They are trying to make it sound like looks are not everything, but if i need looks to even get to the stage where she can get to know the real me, then ill never reach this stage because i dont have the looks. I could be a perfect match for her, but she will never know because she wont be interested because i dont have the looks. That phrase does the opposite of what its intended to do: It says that looks are everything
If your sat in a Ferrari, she'll notice you. Even she said wealth should have been higher in the list, use expensive status symbols as a 'looks' proxy.
@@stewartlewis3503 pointless. How many people have ferraris and how many people are willing to spend money on a ferrari. On top of that, i dont want a girl who notices me because of the fucking car i drive, big red flag. On top of that, she'll probably lose interest real fast when she sees some ugly dork getting out of the car. At the soonest she'll lose interest when you are not in your car anymore and she has to attend social gatherings with you.
THIS. I keep getting so exhausted with this phrase. People say it so they can appear not shallow, or not admit how shallow dating really is. Saying "looks are good initially" is basically saying "looks are what attracts someone off the jump, and without that initial attraction you're screwed".
I don't really know why I'm even here but take this from someone who, in his youth, did from time to time punch above his weight. The point is that unless you're actually ugly the looks aren't that important. Looks can get you noticed but there's lots of ways to get noticed. Particularly if you spend actual time in proximity to each other. So hit the gym, read a book, be an interesting person. The people around you, including the women, WILL notice
In passing, women on dating websites have shopping lists of what they want in a man -- you ask them what they offer in return then you see that they've never ever thought about this !!
Im 6'3, financially independent and stable, im 260+lbs and im in pretty good condition year round. 20lbs from stage weight in bodybuilding. I get 300lb women who are 5' tall hitting me up on tinder or bumble. Its like really? What makes you think im gonna go for that?
@@TyCorr women have incredibly high standards. Social media basically tells every woman they deserve a 10/10 man simply because they are a woman. Which basically means on average, ugly guys get no women, average guys get ugly women, and 10/10 guys get every woman then want. Because women have impossibly high standards.
@@Jacksbox11 It's okay for women to think that vagina and hyped up looks is all they need to bring to the table? It's okay to blind oneself to the consequences of ones decisions? Men will go their own RATIONAL way !!
This is where you forgot to ask your self one importan question: Why did she give you that answer? That is right, it is because she has nothing to offer YOU. If she was attracted to you, she would spend the rest of her life telling you, showing you and make you feel what she has to offer. ;)
I grew up on Hollywood movies when I was a kid, and I sincerely believed in love and romance until I was well into the end of my teens. I had these silly ideas that there's someone out there for everyone. I had to swallow a bitter pill when all these things came to light. Love was not this thing that could happen to everyone or anywhere, rather I learned that for women it's a practical thing, something of convenience or status, sometimes it was infatuation but that was mostly short lived and never truly sincere. It took the wonder out of the concept of what I once believed was love, and I have since stopped believing in the concept.
Alexander, grace passed on a great quote about this. I went something like this: Women are hardcore pragmatists masquerading as romantics. Men are romantics masquerading as pragmatists. Women often go on about expressing their emotions but then dump a guy because they lose attraction if he fails any of a million tests. A less emotive man is often more loyal
@@varasano A woman who dumps a guy for failing any of a million tests is a woman who is short-sighted, self-centered, and has no sense of commitment. Let her go, and look for someone who is none of those things plus has character and warmth.
Also grew up with Hollywood movies, but believed the lie much longer! Started having doubts about the existence of love in my early to mid-twenties, now I don't believe it at all, and it might have been too late.
Me the same. When I was younger, I thought I would be guaranteed to be married and have kids by the time I turned 30. I thought love and marriage was a given thing as you got older. How disillusioned I was by the fantasies of love and happiness. I'm 48 now. Single. Was married to my ex wife for 10 miserable years. I was 36 when I got married. I really struggled in meeting women and never picked up a whole lot of experience in the dating scene. I felt like I was running out of time and just decided that I was gonna settle with the next woman I get in a relationship with. Things got off hot and heavy right away and for a while, I thought I was happy and thought she was finally it. Then came the red flags after we got married. If I had picked up on the red flags on her before we got married, I would've baled out of the relationship. My fault for letting things peddle so fast instead of taking more time to know her more. Those were 10 years I learned about myself and what I really want in a woman, but I wish I could get those 10 years back. Now I'm back to square one. I'm happier now that I'm no longer married to her. We're actually much better now just as friends. But as I look myself in the mirror and realize where I stand now, I feel like my chance at happiness is fading away and it may never come my way. The harsh reality I'm facing now is that there ISN'T someone for everyone and anyone who thinks otherwise is living in their own happy dream world. And I hate it when TV shows depict the nerdy, unpopular, underdog gets the hot girl. Sorry, but in the real world, the Leonard's never get the Penny's.
The same reason you’re attracted to a man with a hot ex gf is same reason women are hot for guys who have lots or women who desire him while you’re dating. He becomes a hot commodity makes you feel special to have what others want. It validates women.
@@2bituser569 Everyone has different experiences but its not really about man friends just that other people want to be with them, people seem to like what others want
@@informationyes ... Disagree. For this reason. When men see a woman who is had lots of hot ex-boyfriends... They see a lot of guys who've smashed that girl. And most guys don't want a girl who's been smashed a lot. Whereas with girls... When they see a guy who has a lot of hot ex-girlfriends. they aren't turned off by the idea that he's been smashing them. It usually makes them believe that he's authentically valuable to have obtained access to so many women's highest gift. So I'd say they're not the same.
@@breakingthemasks The research shows that Both men and woman have negative perceptions of lots of sexual partners, also someone having lots of casual flings dont advertise that persons committed. www.psypost.org/2016/12/study-finds-number-past-sexual-partners-large-effect-attractiveness-46594
"...but initially, yeah, you want to be attracted to the person that you're talking to...duh..." Court says everything so matter of factly and sincerely without drama. 👏👏
The most important question a single person can ask themselves: " Am I becoming the person I want to date, wants". If you want a person who possesses certain qualities, are you that person they want to date. Figure it out then work on it.
problem with that is, confident people will overestimate themselves and get the girl anyway because, confidence. and insecure people will underestimate themselves even if they are objectively competent. and it's insecure people that needs advice on this kind of thing.
@@Qubicle. confidence doesn't mean shit. Looks do. If you have looks you don't have to be confident, the girls will just say: "he is so cute and humble blah-blah-blah". Every trait is perceived is negative or positive depending on if you are attractive to not. If you are attractive, you are humble and shy. If not, you are insecure and awkward. If you are attractive, you are assertive. If not, you are stubborn and arrogant. If you are attractive, you are thrifty, good with money. If not, you are greedy, avaricious. Etc etc.
No. Wrong question for heterosexuals. Your question only applies to homosexuals. Heteros need to ask, _"Am I the person which the person I want to be with wants to be with?"_
I once asked a girl what kind of dude she would like. She said she’s attracted to the body of a Channing Tatum. Me, discouraged and realistic, decided not to pursue. We came to be friends and the moment I mention a new girl she jumped on me. Joke is: I’m more of a Jonah hill type rather a Channing Tatum lol. Women are a mystery.
Jonah Hill: Sir, I know we come off as a couple lady-killers but I promise you we will be super professional on the job. Ice Cube: Clearly I wouldn't be talking to you big titties.
Thinking back to the old Spice Girls song that starts out "I'll tell you what I want, what I really, really want...." And I laugh to myself because I know she actually WON'T!!!! My first wife used a lot of words to say NOTHING at all, while my second wife thought I was a mind reader, and thought I could "guess" what she wanted!!!!!!
Many know this but women will ALWAYS test you if she is attracted to u & is considering u for more. This is important to remember, cause many men will think she doesnt want u or is out of ur league but its exactly the opposite. BTW, the tests never end, even if you're married, they just change from do you believe in yourself to are u whipped on me.
@@hidetoedwarduno7681and this right here is why no woman will ever see the inside of my house... take your shit tests and shove them where the sun don't shine.
THat's one kind of a pass. Men care about sex technique also, although men are more than willing to train a woman who's willing. Unfortunately, we all know that the craziest and least reliable women are sometimes the best in bed.
Exactly. Wahmen are hard core virtue signalers and it's disgusting at this point. Btw UA-cam, go eff yourself with your insane censorship. You can delete my comments but you can't hide the truth.
Just finished the whole video. I haven't seen your content before today. Just wanted to drop a quick comment that it's refreshing to listen to a soft, feminine voice. So many female "personalities online" are loud, brash, etc. This was pleasant to watch / listen to. Great work.
Be a good person and you will naturally attract other good people. You don't need an army of "friends". You just need one who is loyal, honest and you can tell anything to.
Status is 100% a factor, I’ve walked into venues as the “new” Dj, the regular girls would act a certain way towards me but then once they see I’m the Dj it all changes and they’re way more interested lol
@@sapitron to some it does, i think that depends on the type of female. For those that wwant a "trophy husband" then yes it matters i would say, but im only speaking from personal experience.
my ex had all 18 qualities mentioned near the end with me, but she left me and took my baby while I was going through a really rough patch, lost my dad, was struggling to deal with it and covid related stresses in business led to a mild mental break down, proof you can have everything she wants but take too long to fix yourself to give all these qualities and it seems a lot have no time to support.
That's really rough, man. Highlights why one also need to do ones own vetting based on things they value. It's a two way street - if she was kind/compassionate, supportive or loyal (better still a combination of two or more of these) then you wouldn't have gone through what you did (as regards leaving).
@@richardcole1280 having to move on but it's hard when the person you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with moves on and says I never loved her or treated her right when it's blatantly clear I did. Life goes on.
My sister told me many years ago that you have to have both physical and intellectual attraction, as you don't only have to look at them for the rest of your life, you also have to "put up" with them as she put it.
@@ianbarkham5080 I've often personally added that to my thinking when single and looking. This modern society struggles to raise proper boys and girls into men and women
18:52 this is exactly why you DO NOT LISTEN TO WHAT WOMEN SAY THEY WANT. They will say they want the man to give her endless amount of attention, she should be the center of his universe. The very second you do that and not on your purpose, she starts to test you, then disrespect you, then start to give interest to other men... then she either cheats or leave you. She wants to be the NUMBER ONE GIRL, NOT... I repeat NOT the number one thing in your life! So of ALL YOUR OPTIONS, she should be your only or at least main choice. That is what the preselection is about, you have options and you chose her or she was able to be chosen. This is why women have NO PROBLEM TO DATE AND "TAKE AWAY" A MAN FROM ANOTHER WOMAN.
The top factors for male attractiveness will always be looks, wealth, and social status, so Alexander's list is pretty accurate. The other list, as Courtney said, is more for when he's already in a relationship.
Yes. The article's title suggests it's about men already in relationship. Alexander can't read with understanding what he read or he pretends to not understand and he's projecting his bias.
Sometimes if one of those 3 things is above average, it can really make up for the other two. A guy can be very good looking but broke and not really have much status but still get women. Same if one is high in wealth or status.
What Courtney missed is that he was talking about an article. So when women are asked the question, they give the answers on the list. What gets a woman's attention are the items on Alexander's list. Courtney nailed it before she started his video, "What we say and want we want are completely different" Now you can say she said she wanted all 18. However, the article didn't say that, so either the writer wasn't being honest or the women gave the 9 answers in the article, but failed to mention the 9 on his list. Meaning that even if everything in the article was on their list, they still did not say what they wanted because the other 9 were NOT on the list. His point was the article would have been more accurate had it included some or all from his list. My thought was an article with the top 5 on each list would be more accurate than just the 9 written up for the article.
@@sienkiewiczmonika1161 hmm, let me look. The title of the article was "If a man has these 9 qualities, never let him go Scientists Say" So it doesn't really say if the man is in a relationship or not. It could equally apply to the men that women meet. Seems to be a stretch to say it's geared towards people already in relationships. Certainly cannot narrow it down to people in romantic relationships. But let's assume you are right, that it's geared towards those already in relationships. How does a man who cannot even get a second glance from a woman demonstrate these characteristics? Frankly, I think some from BOTH lists would be more accurate. Pick the top 5 from each list, or at least acknowledge that if he's lacking in Alexander's list, he'll never get a chance to demonstrate the qualities on her list. That was his point, a guy looking the list in the article and focusing on being that person doesn't get a chance to demonstrate those qualities. I.E. what Courtney said before starting his video, "What we say and what we want are completely different." So is he really misunderstanding, or does he understand that while one thing is said, just like Courtney admitted, at the very least, it's not ALL of what she wants. The items on his list gives the guy a chance to demonstrate the ones women are willing to say out loud. By omitting the ones on his list, they are not being fully transparent about what they want. This isn't a dig at women as men do the same sort of thing. It's like the joke, "A businessman decides that it is time to hire a new secretary and has it narrowed down to a blonde, a redhead, and a brunette. Unable to choose between the three of them, he decides to conduct an experiment. At the end of the day he places a five dollar bill on the ground in his office to see how each girl would react. The blonde sees the money, picks it up, and places on his desk and then walks out. The redhead sees the money but ignores it and walks out. The brunette sees the money, looks around, and puts it in her pocket before leaving. Which girl did the businessman hire? The one with the biggest breasts"
If a guy is 5'2", obese, and looks like he is obsessed with playing card games, then it doesn't matter if he has all the characteristics that would help with a long term relationship. It happens tbh.
Thats only partially influential as were were a species with large amount of learned behaviour as well as individualistic as in nature loves diversity which is what we see in every human having different preferences as seen by how around 48.9% preferred to only date taller men so that below 50%! also this study's on dating sites have shown woman preferring shorter men. Nothing is certain with humans www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/do-women-date-short-men-fancy-match-study-dating-height-dad-bod-brunette-blonde-a7935766.html
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@@informationyes Mistaken extrapolation of most prefer only to date. Among those willing to date shorter we might still find them 95% more likely to pick taller, effectively making that a bs point. And self reported is a joke, we should actually do a couples study and find out what percentage of the time men that are dating are taller. Also if you read just a little farther, only 4% of women would accept a relationship where the woman is taller, effectively nullifying all the bs stated before. Ironically the second one doesn't even link to the claimed study, and knowing those idiots they misinterpreted data.
@ Yes but the reason is woman would date a guy the same Hight as them as the the statistics would conflict so so the guy doesn't have to be taller just not shorter so to doesn't nullify it as you dont understand what I'm trying to say, a large proportion of woman will at least date someone of the same Hight thus not only taller men
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@@informationyes Except that's not actually what plays out. And yet again, if you read just a little farther in your own cited source, you'd have seem them counter that too.
I got to this channel from clicking on a recommended reaction video to the "Hot/Crazy" matrix. I have to say this is one of the most level-headed, mature, and honest human beings on UA-cam. It's a pleasure to listen to Courtney speak on topics I never would go looking for.
Courtney, my experience after many relationships and a 22 year marriage, that Alexander’s list is significantly more accurate than the first. Great analysis and I loved your explanations- well done👍
First time viewer of one of your videos. The “eye look” you gave regarding men throwing money at Onlyfans etc. was hilarious and spot on. The perfect definition of a picture creating a thousand words. I personally can’t fathom throwing my hard earned money away in that fashion.
Courtney thank you for your honesty, it’s so refreshing and it helps a ton. My ex was beautiful and she is famous, it didn’t last. I don’t think I had enough status. Women do love older men, tall, successful and leaders. Men should be working to be all of these on this list, not for women but for themselves. Get some masculinity, train hard, get smarter and more educated. Find yourself, build and let that special someone eventually find you
by your definition, the average guy who has a decent job, is generally nice, has zero chance of dating. Older, tall, successful, leaders, you're going to have women looking for renaissance men. There aren't a lot of those.
Impressive, two "younger" people actually speaking truthfully and honestly about relationships, and both are very accurate in their assessments. Maybe there is hope for humanity. keep up the good work !!!
Now that I'm over 50. This is my top 10. 10. More than two teeth. 9. Socks that match or at least the same color. 8. More than half a head of hair. 7. Can afford a Big Mac and fries 🍟 6. Likes dogs. 5. Can read the directions on a box of mac and cheese. 4. Has enough stamina to walk to the mailbox. 3. Doesn't stink 2. Knows how to put the toilet seat back down. 1. If he still lives with his mom, it's because he is supporting her.
Assuming you're at least half serious....many men meet this criteria. If this list were sincere, you should be happily dating or in a relationship now. If not, then it's evidence that even after 50 there are other criteria at work. Which gets back to the original point of the video.
Toilet seats have LIDS. I don't know a single women who puts the lid down. They just want the bowl prepared for themselves, and don't care about anything else.
wow LOL thats so true especially nowadays with all this independent stuff and women wanting to make as much as men but date men who make more smh. like what kind of math did you learn in school?
@Diabolic Dynamite thats why i said with this independent stuff; it was very specific women i was talking about, namely the wannabe woke new feminists (i think women 1000% deserve to be appreciated and treated fairly in society, but i dont hink they should be put on a pedestal or treat others, especially when it comes to relationship's, like theyre simply a means to an end. women are not "queens" simply because they are women, the same way men aren't kings simply because they are men. my opinion.
Unforgettable is his Tinder experiment where he had a female friend pretend to be him on Tinder and pick up women. Before the experiment she thought men had a much easier life than women and that she would be able to pick up a lot of hot women on Tinder using his identity.
the whole video is like ' u are wrong. but you are right'. i feel like she says she is honest with what she wants. yet she still talks in a way that makes her look good
Both POV's in this video were incredibly valuable, thanks for making this and appreciate your content. Have to say though that my absolute favorite part of the video is how you entirely brushed over "Good in Bed" while answering everything else lol. That alone drives the point home even more 🤣
I'm 5#8 without shoes on ... I saw a woman who was requesting someone 6ft at least and that was a deal breaker for them. She was 5#7 (Supposedly) Crazy how not very tall woman are requesting someone 6ft+. The % of people 6 FT + isn't that high they are limiting themselves to so few people..
It’s because they want to wear heels, so 5’7” would look for someone at least 3 inches taller. They say 6 foot, but they don’t actually know what looks like. Just so you’re taller when she has some heels you’re Gucci.
The thing is, for many women and men equally, people say what they want and what they're going to do, and how much they care about something, largely for the optics, their image, and how they want you and the world to view them, but it's rarely honest. Also, you cannot call out those people for it, because A) they either don't know they're being dishonest, or B) they identify so much with the need for their image that they will never admit it. Men love to say this is a trait specific for women, but it's not, it's ego. Men who think it's just women are men who have been burt, and haven't healed yet.
A woman where I work has been DROPPING HINTS for me to ask her out, but for five weeks now all I've been doing is showing courtesy. Finally she cornered and asked me why I HAVEN'T made a move. So I asked her, " I HEAR what you say and I SEE what you do. Those two are NOT congruent. So which one of YOU should I ask out?" She simply stood there, mouth agape, with a dumbfounded look in her eye.
Yes, one less competitor! Haha jk man, work on building up that confidence. Try striking up random conversations and see where they go. And don't get discouraged if they go no where at first. It's a numbers game more than anything.
When I was in my early 20’s, at my peak time in life when beautiful women expressed open attraction to me (it was amazing!), I was constantly on the prowl for a classy, intellectual woman like Courtney, but although I could initially attract them easily they typically booked it when my personality came out. Lol. So, I think she has something great to say about women focusing on physical attraction in the beginning when that is all they know. I really liked that point that she makes because I can relate with previous experience.
@@bryankc9644 As someone closer to 60 than 50, I tend to agree with regard to when men peak in what is attractive to women. The falloff can be less steep for men, especially as wealth, power and prestige are increasing as the man is well into his career. In my late 50s, I can still do what I could do in my 20s. Maybe a bit slower, and recovery takes a bit longer. But I've remained in shape, have a fair bit of wisdom (enough to know I don't know it all) and can look back and say that yes, the slice between 30-45 was probably a high point. The decline is not as steep as women "hitting the wall" as some call it. Consider that in the 70% of divorces are filed by women, most of those are from early in marriages where women perceive they have an advantage. The numbers flip for empty nest marriage when men 50+ are the ones choosing the divorce in more than half of that subset. Men have advantages later in life. The kids are gone, so no custody or support issues. They are still attractive or have become more attractive because of increased power, prestige and wealth. The times men and women have the relative advantage are different. But to suggest men never have the advantage is to miss the full picture. I do admit, it's easier to see later in life than how I saw things when I was 20 something.
@@alexmuenster2102 Physically, it's probably true. There are other aspects in life where one can peak should they choose to do so. But being in peak physical condition is most likely in ones twenties.
Somehow I’ve stumbled upon a whole new niche of UA-cam videos … there’s a lot of “women are this” and “men are that” going on. Having watched a few of yours I must say I do very much admire your honestly and approach. There are quite a few men side channels who seem to harbor … umm… bitterness? So many “women are this- or that” and you need these qualities or no woman will want you. Trust me when I say… just be you. Try to be the best you that you can be so that if someone comes along who can appreciate you and add to your life, it’s all a bonus. Stop worrying about what others want and be a great you. Be what YOU want and live your best life.
I have to confess - This video was painful to watch. I hated how it made me feel…but I think I needed it. It shows me areas that I need to improve on. Especially the advice to “Be independent” being defined as “having a life outside of the girl that she can then join in on.” Thank you, Courtney-working on it.
I lost myself when he said "I need to address this... because they say that all I talk about is women but that's not true... I also talk about my sponsor... I'm so dead 💀
Good video, but I thought it was funny Courtney said she never seen a guy shorter than her... that was Alexander's point, the guy is literally invisible to you 😆.
@@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457 which fairy tale fantasy world do you live in where shallow women do not exist and where men never get judged on superficial factors? You are delusional and ignorant beyond belief.
@@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457 Nope, you couldn't be more wrong. We're talking about female self-preservation, and for that **SHE NEEDS A BODYGUARD**...
@@CLASSICALFAN100 That's NOT how it works. Height doesn't make a man good at being a body guard. Height has nothing to do with safety. Some the strongest most dangerous men on the planet are short in stature, but as strong and as athletic as Fuck.
This’s why I’m so lucky to have my wife. She’s the kind that actions match words, and she knows what she wants and says exactly what she thinks and ask for exactly what she wants. No twists and turns.
Is she American? I’m an Iraqi woman, I feel like America women are COMPLETELY different than myself or Arabic friends I have who are from different countries.
@@sukaenacornelius9285 I need an Arab woman, some are even extraordinarily attractive. But more importantly they’re about the last women on the planet that still act how women should
Another one I would add to the list: comfort zone. Many women will select a mate from a familiar social milieu as regards to culture, class, nationality etc. Going with what is familiar, is perhaps the safest option.
Sex should be the first thing that is discussed when dating or courting a chick. Useless sex in any relationship, is just that, useless. Just be responsable and keep it 100
@@wyleecoyotee4252 because you want to break family and 33% male is single educated wife divorce most 3-5 times. Why can't you make intect family like alpha male do with one income + little addition by male? Ask your self
#5. My wife’s assertion is that women are attracted to men who demonstrate the ability to be with a woman. I’ve seen women attracted to me who knew I was married.
Women like to have their preferences validated by other women. If you have been pre-selected by another woman that makes you automatically more attractive.
Thank you Courtney for sitting through this because I can tell these truths weren't comfortable for you. Thank you immensely for confirming, on behalf of all idealistic communicators everywhere - men and women. You are helping people date.
He’s got such good points! I’m glad he’s focusing on things beyond what we’re supposed to politely look for in men. I used to naively think attractiveness shouldn’t matter, (obviously it should) and that money shouldn’t matter- but then I learned that it really does tell you something about that person. if someone is doing well - they are good at their job, they take it seriously, they think ahead and they manage their money responsibly, that’s the person you want to be tied to long-term. Whoever you commit yourself to, you both are putting your bets on each other that you have a strong teammate and they’re going in a direction you also want to go in (Career or otherwise).
You want a hot business partner, not love! If someone is "doing well", etc etc. then they are just a conformist, pacifist, lemming, who won't stand up for anything that is right for fear of losing that paycheck.
Does that mean the girl who seeks a well-to-do man, must also be well-to-do? After all, they're a "team" right? They're both working hard to achieve the same things, RIGHT? And if they're both on the same page, and both value the same things, and are both doing it right - you know, using their time wisely and all those other good things that any respectable person would be doing, so that they can be a match - they'd both have pretty much equal success, RIGHT? So tell me again how many women seeking well-to-do men are also as well-to-do as the men they're seeking? Or even close? Oh, ok, let's put it another way then: how many women want men who make about the same as they do? I'll wait while you find out, and get back to me.
I absolutely enjoy how you are honest. Not doing the normal female reaction of arguing against even when you know he is right. We need more woman like you for men to choose from. Definite dating material
Interesting to witness her cognitive dissonance in real time. She's also trained on the propaganda, but she's smart enough to recognize the truth in what this guy says. People are simple and shallow, on both sides. All the postmodern gymnastics trying to rewrite human instinct doesn't change the fact that the traditional roles emerged naturally and are the reality.
This is not entirely true, but people are spoon fed these simple and shallow reasons, as it serves the dynamics of society, but on the other hand they also conflict with many of the traditional roles and as such those are outdated, as they themselves were means to harmonise in said society. But these are merely practical appliances.
@A B, doesn't look like cognitive dissonance on her part. She's looking more like she's trying to be professional about being 'busted' on behalf of all women by agrace, but in the end she had no problem in admitting what their game is.
Women say they want a nice, sweet man who loves his mom and who has a great sense of humor and will dote on them and has great integrity and gives to charity. What they really want is a rich, tall and gorgeous man with abs and muscles who is dominant and assertive and will put them in their place and not tolerate any shit from them.
She said that you need the 9 qualities scientists listed to keep a relationship but it's hard to keep one when you can't even start one because you may not have the qualities listed by Alex. Thankfully, a lot of women will stick with you long enough to see who you are. Still, I feel bad for the great guys who can't find a woman.
@@davidhunt9143 If his words are vapid, it's because men have heard worse and/or that it's gotten old, and men stopped caring. And let's be real, he's not the only one that at least thinks that. The only thing is that women won't admit they think the same or worse, to save face.
You've missed the point dude. She is saying everyone's body is different so there is no universal way to 'unlock the sex god achievement' you have to be good at communicating and patient. Because even if you're experienced you have to learn each person from the ground up if you want to be good with them. In fact fewer partners is kind of nice for everyone because it means smaller risk of STIs and other diseases.
@@danitiwa I think that is very poor argument. Human behaviors and desires exist within a set of averages. Some people play those averages much more effectively than others. Your argument is like saying that abilities from one sport to another aren't transferable, and that someone who has never played sports at has an equal chance of doing well. It's nonsense.
Maybe this is because i have seen her content and understand her more. But courtney is conservative and I feel as if her response was a genuine "that is true but I just don't want to say it out loud." Not purely out of omission but just because she doesn't want to tarnish her image.
19:52 as a woman I have to contest this that he said though, “being a good father”. I can’t tell you how many times myself or my female friends have opened our eyes to or fallen more deeply for a man after seeing him interact well with children. This is something that’s incredibly important to myself and most women I know, even intuitively when we were younger or not as ready, but also as something taking up more and more space as we’ve grown up. Some men I haven’t been attracted to at all until I’ve seen them seem natural with kids and suddenly I can’t wait to get to know him better. If you’re part of any female group chat it’s so common with the gushing about husband material and baby fever, these two interact and can really make each other even stronger. It’s because seeing a man interact with kids shows if he inhibits qualities mentioned in this video, such as kindness and patience and maturity, emotional intelligence. Fatherhood is also often connected to independence and financial stability so really if you get that label then I think that you can consider yourself lucky. Even right now I personally am not really interested in a relationship but I have a male friend who I keep considering just because I keep seeing him interact well with kids haha. Otherwise a very good video and these two complemented one another well. I do have to say that this felt a bit weird for me to watch because I am religious and watching this as a very devout person it feels so weird that ethical compatibility was placed last in the list from the article but otherwise not mentioned at all, because for me this is the first and most important thing of all because it’s a given that we’re not going to work out long or short term if we have different value systems, no matter how attractive he is otherwise. Even the couples I know who have different religions or denominations make sure to agree on the major points before committing. Super important unless you’re both secular. Really though dating is a completely different game in religious environments so this felt like a throwback to watch but I guess I got curious and I’ve watched a couple of Courtney’s videos throughout the years so it’s kind of fun to check back every once in a while. :)
Ruth He's not saying the 9 things in the article are not attractive or unimportant to women. What he's talking about is that women should be honest and admit that the 9 things on his list is what gets them interested in a man in the first place and not necessarily the things at the other list. Courtney has actually made a very good point: The 9 things on his list are what allows you to get the girl - the 9 things on the article's list are what lets you keep the girl. Therefore a combination of both lists is what women are really looking for, with the "get her" list being more important to meet a girl because 99% of girls will never give you a chance if you're not hot in their opinion. That's the same for guys - if a guy doesn't find you attractive he'll not be interested in you. The difference is that most men are honest enough to admit that it is the physical attractiveness that is the cause for his lack of interest while most women do not admit that fact if they're not interested in a guy. We're talking about meeting new people here - the importances of individual points can obviously shift if you get to know people better. However - even in that case chances that a guy who is ugly in your eyes but makes you laugh all the time will end up in a relation with you are extremely low; almost all women will friendzone him. Again - it's not about neglecting importance of the things on the "keep her" list, it's about women agressively denying that the things on the "get her" list matter to them (and yes, a lot of women deny extremely agressively that they're into hot guys that are wealthy - even though that is of course a lie).
Well, hence the 9 things that wmn want in guys, but don't admit. And you too could be saying something completely different from your own gutt reactions to certain guys but you don't even realize. Because wmn don't seem to know what they really want. They just go with the flow. Or straight up lie about what they really want.
Ruth! Spot on! The problem is that many girls don’t view it being a good father as an important trait. I consider myself to be a great father but an average husband (ex-husband to be exact :-)) by modern standards.
The problem with a lot of surveys and studies is people will often answer the questions in the way that they believe makes him look like a good person. That's why if you ask women what they want so often not give you a real answer but the socially acceptable answer.
"i would put money above hot, good in bed and tall" - as the song goes "i aint saying she's a gold digger".. especially if she's claiming she's financially independent
As someone who is 6'8" let me just say, being this tall is actually a hinderance. Being this tall means most girls are incredibly intimidated by me regardless of how nice I am...
Lol the nonverbal reaction and agreement through silence on the the “good in bed” point was great. Especially that cute little eye flutter at the end. Lol
I'm just gonna tell you I liked this video. I've never seen any of your other stuff and was just recommended this, but seeing a woman have a logical & not emotionally charged or biased reaction to this sort of thing is respectable
The "status" perk was an interesting take because I feel as though it's broader than the first initial thought that enters the mind. This also encompasses how a man interacts with his surroundings, how he speaks to people, how he talks to his family, how he treats animals, sometimes despite perhaps not having a title or social media following that demands respect or admiration can also be redeemed through his charisma and his certainty in how he flows through life and I think that women still intuitively pick up these vibes and find them attractive.
"Inner game" is extremely important. At times when I had major successes in my life and therefore was very happy and optimistic and confident, very beautiful women began being attracted to me without me saying a word. It was like I had a flipped a switch. Therefore: Women are *extremely* good at perceiving the state of content and confidence of a man and react very strongly to facial expressions, body posture and timbre of voice.
I'm 59 and I've never had any girlfriends never been on any dates they all said no when I ask for their number and for dates as far as I know no females ever were even interested in me at all I've never been afraid to approach I do it everyday it's just that females usually ignore me and won't talk to me and the few that do don't give me eye contact I've never had sex of course or kissed a girl no opportunities ever came up again I'm 59 years old. I do work out I'm not very tall and I have I would say a small to medium
I think good in bed boils down to effective communication. What might feel sensational for one person might be annoying for another. Communication is key.
As a low value man I have to agree totally with everything mentioned by Courtney & Alex. I was an attractive athlete and well know in high school; a champion high school wrestler. I was extremely physically fit though an emotional wreck. Yet I never dated any women during my high school years and since then I've been dumped by every woman I ever dated, so I just gave up knowing I was a BAD person. However, the real problem was with me, I was mentally ill suffering from toxic shame. It took going to a therapist late in life to understand my problem; so guys if things aren't good inside and you know how that feels; get theraputic and or medical help if you can. Being lonely and forever suffering with no self confidence or very little self esteem affects your entire life in almost all aspects - Suck it up and get help.
I second that declaration. I consider you a high value man, if only because you obtained the perspective/maturity to recognize and do something about your deficits.
1. Great sense of humor. 2. Financial security Happiness : Doing what you love, living where you love, doing what you love. Happiness is attractive. In fact, “ life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness,” was up front in the Declaration of Independence.
My wife is four years older. She was 24, and I was 20 when we met 40 years ago. Attraction for her was all looks, her words, not mine. ( I like nice things too look at) She was 1/2 Japanese, 1/2 Irish beautiful, but the 152 IQ, and being nice, is what did it for me. Yes, confidence that comes from that, too. Another pattern I noticed about me, the baby of the family. ( not an age thing, rather a confidence thing. An abundance of love as a young girl equals confidence later in life) I love that line in The Curious Case of Benjamin Button, Daisy’s accident, “ life being what it is, by accident or design, a series of intersecting lives, and incidences”. I can’t think of a better description.
Courtney, I like the way you deliver your assessment of Alexander's video; especially when you don't agree with him. Sensible, and without venom. Educational, rather than persecutional. The fact that you acknowledge and expand on points of agreement further adds to the value of your video.
Give her the Moon and the stars and she'll ask for some space.
Because you cant appreciate a star without space.
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Or checkout the all the other ones in orbit.
@@FFE-js2zp Well, if you litteraly give her a object moon and a random stars, she will ask you to have the full object of the space, seem legit.
So funny
Men ask for space and women think we're seeing someone else....
"I've never even met a guy shorter than me." You never noticed the guys shorter than you.
Everyone noticed Prince...he was shorter than 90% of all women. Height never maketh the man. Some of greatest men to have ever graced earth were short ass men
@@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457 So one guy out of 7 billion who happens to be in ultra successful musician and famous celebrity.. Yeah I am pretty sure his life isn't like anyone else who looks like him.. And your talking to men not women here so we don't need a few exceptions to the rule, we know they exist, that doesn't break the rule.
It is a generalization, and accurate.. most women want a man taller than them period.
I'm not short, I'm average and yes I've dated taller women, I married a women taller than me lol.. but it doesn't happen often.
I wonder what her height is
@@Sammie551 she said she was 5'5. I'll admit finding a shorter guy would be difficult but I've definitely known several and I'm about her age. It could be a location thing
@@waifuconnoisseur4789 True
"What we say and want we want are completely different"
-- glad there's a woman out there who understands that.
⚠️INCEL ALERT INCLE ALERT⚠️
We all understand that... it's only white. I mean right.
Thank you for the translation . Lol
“Say & Want”, I’m taking notes.
This is why guys rip their hair out when it comes to dating, they ask a logical question in guy language (objective, dry, logical) then get a reply in womanese (covert, coy, subtexts). Men think women are just as rational and dry as men are, and women don’t understand why guys can’t read the hidden signals.
But if you’re a guy, you’re supposed to “say what you mean, and mean what you say.” 🤔
Whether a man or a woman, the problem starts as soon as the phrase “I want” is uttered…
The ability to compromise, accept people for their quirks or look past imperfections is a modern cancer on dating.
Our 21st Century expectations are ridiculous to the point of counterproductive.
I ran the numbers while back and it's concentric circles of qualities.
People over 6ft are 15% of the us population.
People earning over 100,000 in the us is 9%.
Assuming an even distribution of attractiveness rated from 1-10, 30% of the population are above average attractiveness based on female standards.
This means that women are looking for fractions of a percent of the population to settle down with before personal qualities or demands;
Specifically it's 0.405% of the population.
With the US's population of 340,000,000 and a very close to 50-50 split of genders.
This equates to 685,037 men.
And this number is more than fair given that women have more stringent attraction standards.
That the population is distributed on a bell curve, not 10% across the board for attractiveness.
And whatever arbitrary standards they apply remove EVEN more men. It's absurd.
Many women are ruining their own chance at happy relationships.
@@rasmachris94 I believe taller guys make more money on average than shorter guys. I would put money on it, for one already majority of sports players are over 6 foot tall probably 95% so already that would put a lot of millionaires in that category for starters. So I get some hgh if u short and hit A growth spurt.
avoid video games, cursing, cursing people, sin. focus on Jesus. Time is short. love people.
@@rasmachris94 A few years ago I calculated the numbers on myself. Based on height, appearance, wealth, and IQ, I determined that I'm 1 in 31,250. I then made a Venn diagram and posted it with the math on my dating profile to see what would happen. Needless to say my likes dried up. Women actually unmatched with me. Haha! I wasn't surprised, but it's very telling that women have that much aversion to a man who knows his own value. It is interesting how the statistics work. If you put me in a stadium with 30,000 random bachelors do I really think I'd be the ladies' top pick? Of course not. The math would suggest I should be top of the heap, but I can't even get a date on Bumble. In reality women are far more shallow than they admit. So, we can toss out the Venn Diagrams because we know all of the men who are a 9 or 10 in handsomeness would be chosen first. So, for example if you happen to look like Brad Pitt, then the ladies really wouldn't care if you're dumb as a rock or have no sense of humor. Or, if you live in a 8-bedroom mansion with a swimming pool, then you can be 5'5" and still get a good wife.
Question: What percentage of the male population do you think is at least six feet tall, has
*AVERAGE* looks, *AVERAGE* personality, *AVERAGE* wealth, and are unmarried?
Answer: Less than 1%.
{14.5% x 50% x 50% x 50% x 45% = 0.8%}
@@rasmachris94 we are fucked. We are going to share the fate of romans.
I love the subtle or unrealized honesty...
"I've never dated a guy who was shorter than me, i've never even met a guy shorter than me."
Its because those men are invisible to you sweetie.
Almost all the womens in my life was taller than me! They liked me because I am much more confident than the taller guys! For some womens the height matters but others cares more about your behaviour!
@@danitiwa “I” ≠ “all of us.”
Nah tbh there’s not a lot of guys shorter than 5’6 5’5. There is, but it gets to be quite rare and even if she sees them it isn’t always an interaction
She cap on that one
indeed. I want to share a short story about this....i have this friend that claims herself as feminist to the fullest....and one day she tells me that she does not date shorter man!1i was shocked by this....iand my question was ...if a guy likes big boobs and refuses someoen for not having it hes a douche a pig whatever but if a girl claims that shorter man no all good? its insane ! no matter how good guy how cool like you said invisible!!and above all theres nothing anyone can do in regards to that!! this is stupid and duality and hipocrisy to the fullest!!!!
The pre-selected part is so true. So many times I’ve gone to a bar where I’m going to meet my very beautiful wife and other women around me don’t notice me at all. As soon as she come in, sits down next to me and it’s obvious we’re married everything changes. I notice the same women at the bar or the female bartender totally checking me out. At one place, a women sitting next to me asked me out when my wife got up to go to the bathroom. I’m decent looking and in ok shape and dress pretty well like I have $$. But none of these attract females as much as when they see that I’m married to a hot woman.
I gotten into an argument with my mother a few year back over why I'm still single in spite of my age.
I told her it is due to knowing how this game works and the players in it. I said I can attract women tomorrow, all I have to do is get a men's wedding ring today!
She did NOT like that answer, and neither did I, but, I can and must accept the truth, while she does not.
Weird flex but ok
Absolutely true. This is a core reason I disagree with red pill stuff bc they teach to not be friends with women. However going out with 2/3 attractive women friends regularly gets you looked at differently. You get the benefit of the doubt instead of being considered BSing. When those friends leave to go get a drink or go to the bathroom girls approach or send flirting signals. Maybe it's competitiveness or preselection but either way it's effective and game changing.
Same thing happened to me. Walked into bar. I myself didn't see it, especially with a chipped tooth at the time, she swore the bartender was totally flirting with me. And my wife is a looker herself. At fifty she is gorgeous now
I've had several male friends say they get a lot more female interest when they are in a relationship or after they were married. So I think this one holds water.
I'm 5'4" and I dated a girl who was 5'9" in college. She asked me if it bothered me, and I said it doesn't bother me at all. It would only bother me if it bothers you. Then she asked me why not. I thought for a bit and then I said, "Well, from my perspective, there's more of you to touch." She laughed. :)
that was another test
LOL, that was a very good response. I will use that one brother. Thank you!
that shit was cold ngl🤣
Short King
I guess you passed that shit test :)
1- 7:23 Hot
2- 8:48 Taller (than the girl)
3- 10:02 Good in Bed
4- 10:27 Wealthy
5- 12:41 Preselected
6- 14:15 Status
7- 16:08 Body Confidence
8- 17:25 Older (than the girl)
9- 18:22 Independent
They will never get🤣🤣
You can just put number 4 number 1. Its not even close.
I can add if men is smarter she don't want him 👍
@@lukaskucerik3751 These were just chapter markers, but yeah fr haha
Alex is speaking generally.
She is just giving her personal opinions
Hahah and all most guys want is a girl who generally takes care of herself, isn't insane, and hasn't made the rounds around the block.
It’s fine in fact better to have a higher standard (not with stupid stuff, but u know the important stuff like morals, beliefs, how they uphold themselves) if u don’t got a high standard then don’t be surprised if u never end up with someone good.
Having physical attraction to your partner is important but beauty fades for everyone, it’s no good to have a super high standard for those things I’ll never understand girls who will only date a guy if there obnoxiously tall and hot LOL
you just eliminated like 90 percent of girls, at least from western countries.
Are you Patricia Heaton’s husband?
Hard to find though
Actually here's the 9 qualities women really want in a man but wont admit it - and this is proven by online dating data:
1) Be very attractive, I mean more attractive than the average attractive guy - like top 10% of the male species attractive.
2) Be handsome.
3) Have well defined abs.
4) have well defined arms, shoulders and chest.
5) Have full head of hair - unless you are really muscular then it doesnt matter.
6) Be at least 6 feet tall.
7) Act uninterested in everything, that way you can seem brooding and misterious so she can spend hours trying to "figure you out" with her girlfriends..
8) Never talk about yourself.
9) Be rich.
I cant believe I actually saw a man, and a woman, stay emotionally neutral while talking about this subject. Subbed to you both! Good vibe
I never thought the day would come either
Men have too much to lose to play the dating game with women...
Y’all must have been watching too much red pills vids but please my guy go out and meet people you’ll see
@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 Only in setting like business where people have to restrain themselves do they act calm. Buy yes, I am mostly referring to online.
Though I have talked to a few women about this type of subject. They were anything but calm. Very defensive. Even if it is not them specifically that I'm talking about.
@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 only a fool refuses to learn lessons from men who have gone before them.
Alexander is not appreciated enough, he is just spot on on so many things. That thing he said about women giving a "press conference" in order to look good instead of telling the truth about what they want is perfect.
And the blanket fort is cool.
in general, women are just the same as men. most men also like money, beautiful partners and want to make an impression on other people.
@@mikhaillastname8719….. women and men are more different than alike
Yep, asking a woman for dating advice is like trying to get a straight answer out of Jen Psaki.
To me, he's probably the best in the genre.
The part about having a dating history feels a bit scary to me since for a lot of guys it means that getting a woman to date him is going to get harder the more time goes by, while the reason that he may not have a dating history is because women haven't even given him a chance yet.
Theres also girls who dont want to go for a guy with a history. Personally i want a guy who hasnt been with too many girls because that means i have a shit ton of girls to compete against. I dont want to be constantly compared to someone. Not to mention i have only dated one person, we were together for 3 years. Why would i want someone whos non committal if I myself am very committal
@@taylormoore7031You do want the guy to be with longer dating history than you.
Alexander Grace is a scientist in this game... good channel, he needs more subs.
Agreed! He understands the nuance to a lot of these topics and does a good job explaining that there are exceptions or that things sometimes aren't so black and white. And he isn't a misogynist, he wants both men and women to be happier in their relationships.
Also, money is not the leading cause of divorces. Lol
Money wont keep a woman.
Best channel on UA-cam
@OmWIR uT7qu true, scientist minus the science.
Great video, I'm going to share on my Patreon :)
Your videos bring me frustration but clarification!
You're one of my favorite UA-camrs because you speak with conviction and back it up with data. No hatred, no b.s., just truth. Keep up the good work brother 👌🏾.
i think courtney is a gold digger Alex i do like what she is trying to do though..... help
Alexander Grace make a reaction video on this reaction video lul
Nice Video, You got new subscriber 👍
What I like most about Alex is that he isn't misogynistic, this becomes very clear when you watch more of his videos, he just doesn't like people with bad qualities, which I think is much different than a lot of other "dating coaches", he doesn't come from a pov of hating on women, just telling the truth
Are some of those other "dating coaches" guilty of actually "hating on women" or are they just being brutally honest? Brutal honesty can sound very similar to hate depending on who is hearing the message.
@@tidefanyankee2428 both probably exist, but he makes it clear what his intentions are which is the difference
@@tobyey9134 I don't disagree about Alex. I think he has the best of intentions. I was referring to how others hear the messages from other dating coaches. I have no doubt that there are "coaches" out there who don't have good intentions, but at the same time, I'll say again. Brutal honesty, saying unpopular things or things people don't want to hear (but might need to hear) can come across as hate. Much depends on how the message is received and by whom.
@@tidefanyankee2428 I know that you said that and I basically tried to say the same thing, there are some that have good intentions but phrase them in a way that seems misogynistic, there are some that actually hate on women and there are some that don't and whose words match that, the latter seem to be the minority and I'd categorize Alex into them.
The narrative is Feminism is never wrong. In that culture, truth is misogynist.
Alexander Grace is right 100%. In fact, Courtney Ryan's videos are so successful because she is one of the few women who tells the truth about women. That theme fills the comments of all her UA-cam videos.
Those tic tok girls don’t really want a man, they want a sponsor.
Right.
Which means they want a man to sponsor her
AMEN!!
Speaking truths💯
Facts
I’m going to say this. Money isn’t worth your mental health. I actually took a 30% pay cut when I left the rental car industry, and went to work for my local county government. But... I am in a much better place mentally now. My wife has pointed this out, and it’s improved our marriage.
I just head the Rental car industry is going crazy right now..
Totally agree, its not worth the stress and important to be happy and not come home from work miserable
No, money isn't worth your mental health. But you need to do something you like. If you do that AND can make money doing it, then it's all good. I'm self employed and I make a nice living. I would tell you and have told younger guys start there. Very few people like everything about their jobs. There are many jobs that lots of people don't consider like the trades. You don't necessarily need a BS or MS degree to make decent money. I have a buddy who went into accounting and he made a very nice living doing it, but he hated it. He switched to plumbing and makes pretty close to what he did before and he's far happier.
But, you already had the wife...haha
@@jlmcgrot this
Alexander Grace and Courtney Ryan are easily my two favorite "relationship advice" UA-camrs ie. for understanding men and women. They both give very balanced, realistic and honest opinions... which is a refreshing breath of air in our messed up world.
Check out huMAN. Great youtuber
@@kikhazz Seen a few of his, pretty good too. I also like Better Bachelor.
@@RoguePC4U Coach Corey Wayne is great too.
May I recommend the first red pill master: Patrice O'Neal.. YOU WON'T REGRET IT!
Ms. Ryan is the shy, inhibited, afraid-to-offend-so-won't-state-uncomfortable-truths-so-directly "church lady" version of Mr. Grace. She says NOTHING that he hasn't already said more succinctly, and with greater force. She is the watered-down version of Mr. Grace. She offers NO "added-value."
I like the fact that Courtney comes across as Non-Judgemental while giving what should be considered useful and friendly information. Loved her facial expressions...
Exactly my post! Totally agree!
Height is so important for her, that she cant even see the short guys she's been around. 🤦
There you have it. If you don't meet a woman's minimum prereqs, you are invisible to her for all intents and purposes. It's just the way it is. Who cares, go for the women that do see you.
Right. lmao I live In California, and there alot of short or average height guys. The tall ones are less common. 😂😂😂
Height is the first thing they care about.
@@zak6093 Every woman is different. Some do care greatly about height (especially online dating), others don't care AS MUCH. I know this because I'm short and I've had girlfriends, a couple of them beautiful by most men's standards. Stop harping on something you can't change and focus on women that appreciate what you bring to the table.
It's alright. Women can have their standards. We men need to have our standards too. She has to be fit, attractive, submissive, non-combative, young, able to cook, and sex on demand.
2:55 with regards to the point you made about women being brutally honest on tiktok (eg height/facial attractiveness), women are more likely to be honest when they don't fear repercussions or judgement. However if a man asks a women in real life what she finds attractive, she will be more likely to virtue signal in order to look good and noble
The TicTokers also do it for entertainment and likes, they don't have to face any repercussions that a regular woman might.
i mean, wouldn't a guy want to do the same? in different social contexts we act differently, duh
@@HelloKittysFriend418 no
That depends if she likes you and whether its a 1 on 1 conversation. I received excellent advice 1 on 1 from some women I was platonic friends with. Women will always lie about dating when being overheard by others.
A man without status? Bro, I'm the DM in my D&D group. I've got status.
Status given to you from a bunch of idiots doesn't hold much value.
@@carbunkle9902 As least I recognize sarcasm when I see it.
I'm our groups D&D back up DM during the summer and only when Bob calls in sick,... So hey I got status too!
@@carbunkle9902 whooosh over the head
I think you mean "stats"...
I will be honest , i dont usually watch these type of video, but have watched a few or yours and really really appreciate your honesty and balance. Thank you young lady !!!
“I’ve never met a guy shorter than me”. Doesn’t pay attention to shorter guys.
Hahahaha
I can't believe she actually said that. Lost a lot of credibility with me.
@@learnpianofastonline She's like 5"5
I'm a dude and I haven't seen a guy below that other than some teenagers
I have very little sympathy for overweight women who complain that few men want them. Their challenge can be solved by going to the gym and losing weight. Even older women can have all the male attention they want with a little discipline and hard work. And it really isn't that hard. On the other hand a man who is short and/or bald cannot change those things without either growing six inches or spending thousands on iffy hair transplants. So I have zero sympathy for fat chicks in actuality. But again I must say that playing a piano and singing a bit has never, ever hurt me.
She must have thought they were boys or children.
It’s hard to find guys under that height
"looks are good for getting someone initially interested, but they are not gonna keep her". People keep spewing and spewing this phrase and dont realize what they are saying. They are trying to make it sound like looks are not everything, but if i need looks to even get to the stage where she can get to know the real me, then ill never reach this stage because i dont have the looks. I could be a perfect match for her, but she will never know because she wont be interested because i dont have the looks.
That phrase does the opposite of what its intended to do: It says that looks are everything
If your sat in a Ferrari, she'll notice you. Even she said wealth should have been higher in the list, use expensive status symbols as a 'looks' proxy.
@@stewartlewis3503 pointless. How many people have ferraris and how many people are willing to spend money on a ferrari. On top of that, i dont want a girl who notices me because of the fucking car i drive, big red flag. On top of that, she'll probably lose interest real fast when she sees some ugly dork getting out of the car. At the soonest she'll lose interest when you are not in your car anymore and she has to attend social gatherings with you.
I am sure there are girls out there who like the ugly package!! CHIVE ON!!!.
THIS. I keep getting so exhausted with this phrase. People say it so they can appear not shallow, or not admit how shallow dating really is. Saying "looks are good initially" is basically saying "looks are what attracts someone off the jump, and without that initial attraction you're screwed".
I don't really know why I'm even here but take this from someone who, in his youth, did from time to time punch above his weight. The point is that unless you're actually ugly the looks aren't that important. Looks can get you noticed but there's lots of ways to get noticed. Particularly if you spend actual time in proximity to each other. So hit the gym, read a book, be an interesting person. The people around you, including the women, WILL notice
In passing, women on dating websites have shopping lists of what they want in a man -- you ask them what they offer in return then you see that they've never ever thought about this !!
Im 6'3, financially independent and stable, im 260+lbs and im in pretty good condition year round. 20lbs from stage weight in bodybuilding. I get 300lb women who are 5' tall hitting me up on tinder or bumble. Its like really? What makes you think im gonna go for that?
@@TyCorr women have incredibly high standards. Social media basically tells every woman they deserve a 10/10 man simply because they are a woman. Which basically means on average, ugly guys get no women, average guys get ugly women, and 10/10 guys get every woman then want. Because women have impossibly high standards.
Martin: Men have always had types of women they prefer. Women are allowed the same. Period!
@@Jacksbox11 It's okay for women to think that vagina and hyped up looks is all they need to bring to the table?
It's okay to blind oneself to the consequences of ones decisions?
Men will go their own RATIONAL way !!
This is where you forgot to ask your self one importan question: Why did she give you that answer? That is right, it is because she has nothing to offer YOU. If she was attracted to you, she would spend the rest of her life telling you, showing you and make you feel what she has to offer. ;)
I grew up on Hollywood movies when I was a kid, and I sincerely believed in love and romance until I was well into the end of my teens. I had these silly ideas that there's someone out there for everyone.
I had to swallow a bitter pill when all these things came to light. Love was not this thing that could happen to everyone or anywhere, rather I learned that for women it's a practical thing, something of convenience or status, sometimes it was infatuation but that was mostly short lived and never truly sincere.
It took the wonder out of the concept of what I once believed was love, and I have since stopped believing in the concept.
Alexander, grace passed on a great quote about this. I went something like this:
Women are hardcore pragmatists masquerading as romantics.
Men are romantics masquerading as pragmatists.
Women often go on about expressing their emotions but then dump a guy because they lose attraction if he fails any of a million tests. A less emotive man is often more loyal
@@varasano A woman who dumps a guy for failing any of a million tests is a woman who is short-sighted, self-centered, and has no sense of commitment. Let her go, and look for someone who is none of those things plus has character and warmth.
Also grew up with Hollywood movies, but believed the lie much longer! Started having doubts about the existence of love in my early to mid-twenties, now I don't believe it at all, and it might have been too late.
Me the same. When I was younger, I thought I would be guaranteed to be married and have kids by the time I turned 30. I thought love and marriage was a given thing as you got older. How disillusioned I was by the fantasies of love and happiness. I'm 48 now. Single. Was married to my ex wife for 10 miserable years. I was 36 when I got married. I really struggled in meeting women and never picked up a whole lot of experience in the dating scene. I felt like I was running out of time and just decided that I was gonna settle with the next woman I get in a relationship with. Things got off hot and heavy right away and for a while, I thought I was happy and thought she was finally it. Then came the red flags after we got married. If I had picked up on the red flags on her before we got married, I would've baled out of the relationship. My fault for letting things peddle so fast instead of taking more time to know her more. Those were 10 years I learned about myself and what I really want in a woman, but I wish I could get those 10 years back. Now I'm back to square one. I'm happier now that I'm no longer married to her. We're actually much better now just as friends. But as I look myself in the mirror and realize where I stand now, I feel like my chance at happiness is fading away and it may never come my way. The harsh reality I'm facing now is that there ISN'T someone for everyone and anyone who thinks otherwise is living in their own happy dream world.
And I hate it when TV shows depict the nerdy, unpopular, underdog gets the hot girl. Sorry, but in the real world, the Leonard's never get the Penny's.
it does exist. But it aint like movies. And it aint everywhere. But surely exists.
The same reason you’re attracted to a man with a hot ex gf is same reason women are hot for guys who have lots or women who desire him while you’re dating. He becomes a hot commodity makes you feel special to have what others want. It validates women.
Guys can think exactly the same
@@informationyes
Not in my reality. Never been attracted to women who had lots of man friends after her or top grade ex bf’s.
@@2bituser569 Everyone has different experiences but its not really about man friends just that other people want to be with them, people seem to like what others want
@@informationyes ... Disagree. For this reason.
When men see a woman who is had lots of hot ex-boyfriends... They see a lot of guys who've smashed that girl. And most guys don't want a girl who's been smashed a lot.
Whereas with girls... When they see a guy who has a lot of hot ex-girlfriends. they aren't turned off by the idea that he's been smashing them. It usually makes them believe that he's authentically valuable to have obtained access to so many women's highest gift.
So I'd say they're not the same.
@@breakingthemasks The research shows that Both men and woman have negative perceptions of lots of sexual partners, also someone having lots of casual flings dont advertise that persons committed.
www.psypost.org/2016/12/study-finds-number-past-sexual-partners-large-effect-attractiveness-46594
"...but initially, yeah, you want to be attracted to the person that you're talking to...duh..."
Court says everything so matter of factly and sincerely without drama. 👏👏
The most important question a single person can ask themselves: " Am I becoming the person I want to date, wants". If you want a person who possesses certain qualities, are you that person they want to date. Figure it out then work on it.
problem with that is, confident people will overestimate themselves and get the girl anyway because, confidence. and insecure people will underestimate themselves even if they are objectively competent. and it's insecure people that needs advice on this kind of thing.
@@Qubicle. confidence doesn't mean shit. Looks do. If you have looks you don't have to be confident, the girls will just say: "he is so cute and humble blah-blah-blah". Every trait is perceived is negative or positive depending on if you are attractive to not.
If you are attractive, you are humble and shy. If not, you are insecure and awkward.
If you are attractive, you are assertive. If not, you are stubborn and arrogant.
If you are attractive, you are thrifty, good with money. If not, you are greedy, avaricious.
Etc etc.
No. Wrong question for heterosexuals. Your question only applies to homosexuals. Heteros need to ask, _"Am I the person which the person I want to be with wants to be with?"_
I once asked a girl what kind of dude she would like.
She said she’s attracted to the body of a Channing Tatum.
Me, discouraged and realistic, decided not to pursue.
We came to be friends and the moment I mention a new girl she jumped on me.
Joke is: I’m more of a Jonah hill type rather a Channing Tatum lol.
Women are a mystery.
Jonah bros, we found a way
Jonah Hill: Sir, I know we come off as a couple lady-killers but I promise you we will be super professional on the job.
Ice Cube: Clearly I wouldn't be talking to you big titties.
Thinking back to the old Spice Girls song that starts out "I'll tell you what I want, what I really, really want...." And I laugh to myself because I know she actually WON'T!!!! My first wife used a lot of words to say NOTHING at all, while my second wife thought I was a mind reader, and thought I could "guess" what she wanted!!!!!!
Many know this but women will ALWAYS test you if she is attracted to u & is considering u for more. This is important to remember, cause many men will think she doesnt want u or is out of ur league but its exactly the opposite. BTW, the tests never end, even if you're married, they just change from do you believe in yourself to are u whipped on me.
@@hidetoedwarduno7681and this right here is why no woman will ever see the inside of my house... take your shit tests and shove them where the sun don't shine.
I think you totally made his point by skipping over option 3.
The smile on her face said it all. She said a big YES !
Oh she reacted, just not out loud.
She agreed with a sort of "You're right, let's not go there though" look
She reacted like most of the women do. Confident to show the cleavage intimidated to talk about sex.
THat's one kind of a pass. Men care about sex technique also, although men are more than willing to train a woman who's willing. Unfortunately, we all know that the craziest and least reliable women are sometimes the best in bed.
"it's kind of messed up to say, but it's true"
Literally his whole point of the video
Exactly. Women are such hard core virtue signalers that it's disgusting at this point.
Exactly. Wahmen are hard core virtue signalers and it's disgusting at this point.
Btw UA-cam, go eff yourself with your insane censorship. You can delete my comments but you can't hide the truth.
Just finished the whole video. I haven't seen your content before today. Just wanted to drop a quick comment that it's refreshing to listen to a soft, feminine voice. So many female "personalities online" are loud, brash, etc. This was pleasant to watch / listen to. Great work.
That's a good point. If I wanted to experience "The View" I would shove an air raid siren up my arse and step out into traffic.
Agree
Exactly! There are a growing amount of Feminine Women coming onto UA-cam fortunately. I'm Subbed to several.
Her delicate voice and demeanor are very pleasing to listen to.
Be a good person and you will naturally attract other good people. You don't need an army of "friends". You just need one who is loyal, honest and you can tell anything to.
Or...you will attract bad people masquerading as a good person.
Never let your guard down.
Status is 100% a factor, I’ve walked into venues as the “new” Dj, the regular girls would act a certain way towards me but then once they see I’m the Dj it all changes and they’re way more interested lol
yeah , but , does that have any kind of meaning in their mind for choosing you as a long term partner ?? that should be also discussed
@@sapitron to some it does, i think that depends on the type of female. For those that wwant a "trophy husband" then yes it matters i would say, but im only speaking from personal experience.
yep, it's status. Is where you stand out.
RIP to the people who don't have status, then lol
Exactly
my ex had all 18 qualities mentioned near the end with me, but she left me and took my baby while I was going through a really rough patch, lost my dad, was struggling to deal with it and covid related stresses in business led to a mild mental break down, proof you can have everything she wants but take too long to fix yourself to give all these qualities and it seems a lot have no time to support.
I'm sorry to hear that man. Best wishes going forward. Time heals...
That's really rough, man. Highlights why one also need to do ones own vetting based on things they value. It's a two way street - if she was kind/compassionate, supportive or loyal (better still a combination of two or more of these) then you wouldn't have gone through what you did (as regards leaving).
So, you had a mental breakdown and it’s her fault that she left 🤨
Sorry brother. How are you hanging in there?
@@richardcole1280 having to move on but it's hard when the person you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with moves on and says I never loved her or treated her right when it's blatantly clear I did. Life goes on.
My sister told me many years ago that you have to have both physical and intellectual attraction, as you don't only have to look at them for the rest of your life, you also have to "put up" with them as she put it.
Lol good point
I've always thought there are 3 types of attractiveness, Physical, intellectual and emotional.
100% true. Looks will only get you so far. Same goes for women!
@@ianbarkham5080 I've often personally added that to my thinking when single and looking. This modern society struggles to raise proper boys and girls into men and women
@Justin Gary off-topic.
18:52 this is exactly why you DO NOT LISTEN TO WHAT WOMEN SAY THEY WANT. They will say they want the man to give her endless amount of attention, she should be the center of his universe. The very second you do that and not on your purpose, she starts to test you, then disrespect you, then start to give interest to other men... then she either cheats or leave you. She wants to be the NUMBER ONE GIRL, NOT... I repeat NOT the number one thing in your life! So of ALL YOUR OPTIONS, she should be your only or at least main choice. That is what the preselection is about, you have options and you chose her or she was able to be chosen. This is why women have NO PROBLEM TO DATE AND "TAKE AWAY" A MAN FROM ANOTHER WOMAN.
The top factors for male attractiveness will always be looks, wealth, and social status, so Alexander's list is pretty accurate. The other list, as Courtney said, is more for when he's already in a relationship.
yes
Yes. The article's title suggests it's about men already in relationship. Alexander can't read with understanding what he read or he pretends to not understand and he's projecting his bias.
Sometimes if one of those 3 things is above average, it can really make up for the other two. A guy can be very good looking but broke and not really have much status but still get women. Same if one is high in wealth or status.
What Courtney missed is that he was talking about an article. So when women are asked the question, they give the answers on the list. What gets a woman's attention are the items on Alexander's list.
Courtney nailed it before she started his video, "What we say and want we want are completely different"
Now you can say she said she wanted all 18. However, the article didn't say that, so either the writer wasn't being honest or the women gave the 9 answers in the article, but failed to mention the 9 on his list. Meaning that even if everything in the article was on their list, they still did not say what they wanted because the other 9 were NOT on the list.
His point was the article would have been more accurate had it included some or all from his list.
My thought was an article with the top 5 on each list would be more accurate than just the 9 written up for the article.
@@sienkiewiczmonika1161 hmm, let me look. The title of the article was "If a man has these 9 qualities, never let him go Scientists Say"
So it doesn't really say if the man is in a relationship or not. It could equally apply to the men that women meet.
Seems to be a stretch to say it's geared towards people already in relationships. Certainly cannot narrow it down to people in romantic relationships.
But let's assume you are right, that it's geared towards those already in relationships. How does a man who cannot even get a second glance from a woman demonstrate these characteristics?
Frankly, I think some from BOTH lists would be more accurate. Pick the top 5 from each list, or at least acknowledge that if he's lacking in Alexander's list, he'll never get a chance to demonstrate the qualities on her list.
That was his point, a guy looking the list in the article and focusing on being that person doesn't get a chance to demonstrate those qualities.
I.E. what Courtney said before starting his video, "What we say and what we want are completely different."
So is he really misunderstanding, or does he understand that while one thing is said, just like Courtney admitted, at the very least, it's not ALL of what she wants. The items on his list gives the guy a chance to demonstrate the ones women are willing to say out loud.
By omitting the ones on his list, they are not being fully transparent about what they want.
This isn't a dig at women as men do the same sort of thing. It's like the joke, "A businessman decides that it is time to hire a new secretary and has it narrowed down to a blonde, a redhead, and a brunette. Unable to choose between the three of them, he decides to conduct an experiment. At the end of the day he places a five dollar bill on the ground in his office to see how each girl would react. The blonde sees the money, picks it up, and places on his desk and then walks out. The redhead sees the money but ignores it and walks out. The brunette sees the money, looks around, and puts it in her pocket before leaving. Which girl did the businessman hire?
The one with the biggest breasts"
If a guy is 5'2", obese, and looks like he is obsessed with playing card games, then it doesn't matter if he has all the characteristics that would help with a long term relationship. It happens tbh.
@@informationyes I can understand that, but there are still two other points there and I think my point stands with those.
Bruh, how you gonna be short AND fat? Pick a struggle.
@@maliksmith9003 luckily I am only fat lmao
@@maliksmith9003 😂😂😂😂😂
let's play some warhammer!
most woman dont realise how their most primitive instincts are dictating their choices (pre-selection, taller, older, richer, status).
Most women fully realize it, otherwise there wouldn't be so much hiding of it.
Thats only partially influential as were were a species with large amount of learned behaviour as well as individualistic as in nature loves diversity which is what we see in every human having different preferences as seen by how around 48.9% preferred to only date taller men so that below 50%! also this study's on dating sites have shown woman preferring shorter men. Nothing is certain with humans
www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height
www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/do-women-date-short-men-fancy-match-study-dating-height-dad-bod-brunette-blonde-a7935766.html
@@informationyes Mistaken extrapolation of most prefer only to date. Among those willing to date shorter we might still find them 95% more likely to pick taller, effectively making that a bs point. And self reported is a joke, we should actually do a couples study and find out what percentage of the time men that are dating are taller.
Also if you read just a little farther, only 4% of women would accept a relationship where the woman is taller, effectively nullifying all the bs stated before.
Ironically the second one doesn't even link to the claimed study, and knowing those idiots they misinterpreted data.
@ Yes but the reason is woman would date a guy the same Hight as them as the the statistics would conflict so so the guy doesn't have to be taller just not shorter so to doesn't nullify it as you dont understand what I'm trying to say, a large proportion of woman will at least date someone of the same Hight thus not only taller men
@@informationyes Except that's not actually what plays out. And yet again, if you read just a little farther in your own cited source, you'd have seem them counter that too.
A lot of people don't tell you what they want because they are requiring things from others that they can't provide.
This☝️🤣,a lot of people,and women in particular usually want a 1% while being 3 class herself😂
It's nice to have a woman that truly says the truth this will help young guys in there journey. Thanks Bella you are a beautiful soul.
I got to this channel from clicking on a recommended reaction video to the "Hot/Crazy" matrix. I have to say this is one of the most level-headed, mature, and honest human beings on UA-cam. It's a pleasure to listen to Courtney speak on topics I never would go looking for.
He’s spot on. This vid is her going “no, but yeah”.
@Diabolic Dynamite she can’t be impartial, she is the subject of his video. That being said, two sides of the same coin dilemma.
Lol yes
Well I mean, she pretty much says that some women do like it, and that women are individuals soo, her reactions are very reasonable.
yup.... usually pro athletes meet these requirements and they have no problem finding women
_"Women share their true feelings on tik tok?"_ Are there actually men out there that use tik tok? Maybe Gen Z...
I'm a few minutes in and I still cant stop laughing at him name dropping his sponsor like that 😂 that was super slick I did not expect that
Courtney, my experience after many relationships and a 22 year marriage, that Alexander’s list is significantly more accurate than the first. Great analysis and I loved your explanations- well done👍
First time viewer of one of your videos. The “eye look” you gave regarding men throwing money at Onlyfans etc. was hilarious and spot on. The perfect definition of a picture creating a thousand words. I personally can’t fathom throwing my hard earned money away in that fashion.
Yeah, so lame of him, men are much more shallow about looks, etc.
>>regarding men throwing money at Onlyfans
"Two things I've never seen, a UFO and a ho that wouldn't go..."
Lmao 😂
Project Pat?
Area 69
Well, I've seen a UFO, so there is that lol
@@mac1bc IDK bout Project Pat, but it was TI who said "2 things I aint seen is this, a UFO and a bitch I can't get."
Courtney thank you for your honesty, it’s so refreshing and it helps a ton. My ex was beautiful and she is famous, it didn’t last. I don’t think I had enough status. Women do love older men, tall, successful and leaders. Men should be working to be all of these on this list, not for women but for themselves. Get some masculinity, train hard, get smarter and more educated. Find yourself, build and let that special someone eventually find you
well said, and a healthy mindset
"just get tall bro"
by your definition, the average guy who has a decent job, is generally nice, has zero chance of dating. Older, tall, successful, leaders, you're going to have women looking for renaissance men. There aren't a lot of those.
@@d.e.b.b5788 as sad as it is, western society has perpetuated exactly that. Be the best you can be, that’s it
Impressive, two "younger" people actually speaking truthfully and honestly about relationships, and both are very accurate in their assessments. Maybe there is hope for humanity. keep up the good work !!!
Don't hold your breath
>>two "younger" people actually speaking truthfully and honestly [...] Maybe there is hope for humanity.
Now that I'm over 50. This is my top 10.
10. More than two teeth.
9. Socks that match or at least the same color.
8. More than half a head of hair.
7. Can afford a Big Mac and fries 🍟
6. Likes dogs.
5. Can read the directions on a box of mac and cheese.
4. Has enough stamina to walk to the mailbox.
3. Doesn't stink
2. Knows how to put the toilet seat back down.
1. If he still lives with his mom, it's because he is supporting her.
If she thought this when she was 21, then she would have been a keeper. Did you, Barb?
Hilarious list!
@@justman1884 I don't remember what I wanted when I was 31, let alone 21. I'm old.
Assuming you're at least half serious....many men meet this criteria. If this list were sincere, you should be happily dating or in a relationship now. If not, then it's evidence that even after 50 there are other criteria at work. Which gets back to the original point of the video.
Toilet seats have LIDS. I don't know a single women who puts the lid down. They just want the bowl prepared for themselves, and don't care about anything else.
As the saying goes;
A rich man can change your life!
A rich woman won’t even look at your ass
😆😆
wow LOL thats so true especially nowadays with all this independent stuff and women wanting to make as much as men but date men who make more smh. like what kind of math did you learn in school?
@Diabolic Dynamite thats why i said with this independent stuff; it was very specific women i was talking about, namely the wannabe woke new feminists (i think women 1000% deserve to be appreciated and treated fairly in society, but i dont hink they should be put on a pedestal or treat others, especially when it comes to relationship's, like theyre simply a means to an end. women are not "queens" simply because they are women, the same way men aren't kings simply because they are men. my opinion.
Sugar mommie : Well, i guess i don't exist.
A rich wumann won't even look at you unless you're Jeremy Meeks
"behind every man is a woman rolling her eyes"
-Jim Carrey
I wish I had seen a video like this 12 years ago. Thanks to both you and Alexander.
I think I can safely say that Alexander Grace is *the* reality check when it comes to gender equality
Just a cult for deillusional MGTOW
👍
Unforgettable is his Tinder experiment where he had a female friend pretend to be him on Tinder and pick up women. Before the experiment she thought men had a much easier life than women and that she would be able to pick up a lot of hot women on Tinder using his identity.
true that
avoid video games, cursing, cursing people, sin. focus on Jesus. Time is short. love people.
the whole video is like ' u are wrong. but you are right'. i feel like she says she is honest with what she wants. yet she still talks in a way that makes her look good
She keeps talking about tik-tok and instagram, and he's clearly talking about what women on dating sites are saying.
Exactly my thinking right now.
On tiktok, etc. there is no vis-a-vis criticism or anything of the sort...
Both POV's in this video were incredibly valuable, thanks for making this and appreciate your content.
Have to say though that my absolute favorite part of the video is how you entirely brushed over "Good in Bed" while answering everything else lol. That alone drives the point home even more 🤣
"People are felt rather than seen after the first few moments." - John Steinbeck
This guy absolutely nailed it! "Women will only tell you what makes them look good to you!!"
I'm 5#8 without shoes on ... I saw a woman who was requesting someone 6ft at least and that was a deal breaker for them. She was 5#7 (Supposedly) Crazy how not very tall woman are requesting someone 6ft+. The % of people 6 FT + isn't that high they are limiting themselves to so few people..
It’s because they want to wear heels, so 5’7” would look for someone at least 3 inches taller. They say 6 foot, but they don’t actually know what looks like. Just so you’re taller when she has some heels you’re Gucci.
5' 7" is tall for a woman
Luckily that isn't much of a problem for me since I'm about 6'3" or 6'4". :)
@@billsmith8825 I did say supposedly 5#7 who knows if they are being truthful
I'm 6'1" and I've been called too short by females
The thing is, for many women and men equally, people say what they want and what they're going to do, and how much they care about something, largely for the optics, their image, and how they want you and the world to view them, but it's rarely honest. Also, you cannot call out those people for it, because A) they either don't know they're being dishonest, or B) they identify so much with the need for their image that they will never admit it.
Men love to say this is a trait specific for women, but it's not, it's ego. Men who think it's just women are men who have been burt, and haven't healed yet.
Wow, this woman is level headed, honest and mature. Good video.
don't thin k so - she hardly admits anything... except for the sexual performance, that's why she did not say anything....
Touch some grass dude………
@@spaceowl5957 meaning,,, come down to earth, or smoke some pot?
Is the mvp S 1 m P
@@supergobgoblin424 i know it makes you sad
Her voice is so comforting she would make a good therapist.
This is my asmr video for the night
Yes, ¡same here! Also, as +Brok Homz implies, she would make a TERRIFICLY GOOD ASMR-tist.
agree, content is great but what for when i am falling asleep ? :D Alexander is energetic, he can keep your attention.
I find her voice to be rather annoying. Too much like a little girl.
@@learnpianofastonline Thanks for your thoughts. I disagree
In most cases, the damage has already been done and the game is over. Men have stopped playing.
I know I have. Hire a professional.
Well said mate.
True king
A woman where I work has been DROPPING HINTS for me to ask her out, but for five weeks now all I've been doing is showing courtesy. Finally she cornered and asked me why I HAVEN'T made a move. So I asked her, " I HEAR what you say and I SEE what you do. Those two are NOT congruent. So which one of YOU should I ask out?" She simply stood there, mouth agape, with a dumbfounded look in her eye.
Good thing I'm an introverted recluse with anxiety disorder who is less than 6 foot, broke, a virgin, and a walking existential crisis. :)
JUZ B CONFIDENT BRAH!!
Ha!
Bro you look very athletic on your pp though, that's an important quality (for yourself, and of course for women)
Same bro same :/
Yes, one less competitor!
Haha jk man, work on building up that confidence. Try striking up random conversations and see where they go. And don't get discouraged if they go no where at first. It's a numbers game more than anything.
When I was in my early 20’s, at my peak time in life when beautiful women expressed open attraction to me (it was amazing!), I was constantly on the prowl for a classy, intellectual woman like Courtney, but although I could initially attract them easily they typically booked it when my personality came out. Lol. So, I think she has something great to say about women focusing on physical attraction in the beginning when that is all they know. I really liked that point that she makes because I can relate with previous experience.
To me, the peak years in life are 30-45.
Im guessing you are around 40
@@bryankc9644 As someone closer to 60 than 50, I tend to agree with regard to when men peak in what is attractive to women.
The falloff can be less steep for men, especially as wealth, power and prestige are increasing as the man is well into his career.
In my late 50s, I can still do what I could do in my 20s. Maybe a bit slower, and recovery takes a bit longer. But I've remained in shape, have a fair bit of wisdom (enough to know I don't know it all) and can look back and say that yes, the slice between 30-45 was probably a high point. The decline is not as steep as women "hitting the wall" as some call it.
Consider that in the 70% of divorces are filed by women, most of those are from early in marriages where women perceive they have an advantage. The numbers flip for empty nest marriage when men 50+ are the ones choosing the divorce in more than half of that subset.
Men have advantages later in life. The kids are gone, so no custody or support issues. They are still attractive or have become more attractive because of increased power, prestige and wealth.
The times men and women have the relative advantage are different. But to suggest men never have the advantage is to miss the full picture.
I do admit, it's easier to see later in life than how I saw things when I was 20 something.
>>my early 20’s, at my peak time in life
@@alexmuenster2102 Physically, it's probably true. There are other aspects in life where one can peak should they choose to do so.
But being in peak physical condition is most likely in ones twenties.
Somehow I’ve stumbled upon a whole new niche of UA-cam videos … there’s a lot of “women are this” and “men are that” going on. Having watched a few of yours I must say I do very much admire your honestly and approach.
There are quite a few men side channels who seem to harbor … umm… bitterness? So many “women are this- or that” and you need these qualities or no woman will want you.
Trust me when I say… just be you. Try to be the best you that you can be so that if someone comes along who can appreciate you and add to your life, it’s all a bonus. Stop worrying about what others want and be a great you. Be what YOU want and live your best life.
I have to confess - This video was painful to watch. I hated how it made me feel…but I think I needed it. It shows me areas that I need to improve on. Especially the advice to “Be independent” being defined as “having a life outside of the girl that she can then join in on.” Thank you, Courtney-working on it.
Hope you get the help you need. You sound like you need some therapy, as hard as that sounds. You've got this, King.
@@ChurlzVA You’re probably right, but at the moment, I can’t afford it.
yeah this was painful, even tho I do 8/10 of all of those it pisses me off that i have to do more.
I lost myself when he said "I need to address this... because they say that all I talk about is women but that's not true... I also talk about my sponsor... I'm so dead 💀
That is the slickest transition to a sponsor I've ever seen.
Good video, but I thought it was funny Courtney said she never seen a guy shorter than her... that was Alexander's point, the guy is literally invisible to you 😆.
No not true. A handsome guy is a handsome guy.. no matter how tall. A women will notice
@@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457 which fairy tale fantasy world do you live in where shallow women do not exist and where men never get judged on superficial factors? You are delusional and ignorant beyond belief.
Imagine thinking that women become blinder than a trex during that jurassic park scene when short men appear
@@paulharrisonadventuregearm5457 Nope, you couldn't be more wrong. We're talking about female self-preservation, and for that **SHE NEEDS A BODYGUARD**...
@@CLASSICALFAN100 That's NOT how it works. Height doesn't make a man good at being a body guard. Height has nothing to do with safety. Some the strongest most dangerous men on the planet are short in stature, but as strong and as athletic as Fuck.
This’s why I’m so lucky to have my wife. She’s the kind that actions match words, and she knows what she wants and says exactly what she thinks and ask for exactly what she wants. No twists and turns.
Or so, she has you thinking I that.😉
Is she American? I’m an Iraqi woman, I feel like America women are COMPLETELY different than myself or Arabic friends I have who are from different countries.
Poor dude married a guy and doesn’t know it
Does she have a sister?
@@sukaenacornelius9285 I need an Arab woman, some are even extraordinarily attractive. But more importantly they’re about the last women on the planet that still act how women should
Another one I would add to the list: comfort zone. Many women will select a mate from a familiar social milieu as regards to culture, class, nationality etc. Going with what is familiar, is perhaps the safest option.
Alex: "Every woman wants a man who can deliver a satisfying sexual experience"
Courtney's face after that comment...
Sex should be the first thing that is discussed when dating or courting a chick. Useless sex in any relationship, is just that, useless. Just be responsable and keep it 100
it's not depend on height
True
@Dr. John Fallout4Nut
I'd rather work so I don't have to have a man.
Say most women who are educated with a career
@@wyleecoyotee4252 because you want to break family and 33% male is single educated wife divorce most 3-5 times. Why can't you make intect family like alpha male do with one income + little addition by male? Ask your self
#5. My wife’s assertion is that women are attracted to men who demonstrate the ability to be with a woman. I’ve seen women attracted to me who knew I was married.
Thank you for sharing your wife's opinion sir, I totally agree with it and I'll try and figure it out :)
I never get more interest from women until they see me with other women.
Women get jealous and try to get what they can't have
Women like to have their preferences validated by other women. If you have been pre-selected by another woman that makes you automatically more attractive.
Let's see...you're how much over 6 feet tall?...(ROFL)
Hahahha. Courtney's expression during the 3rd point is very cute ^^. Also I like how she just casually skip the said point. It definitely shows class.
Its the same with point 4, good in bed matters the way she looked said it all.
heres the thing, Courtney already knows that number 3 is extremely important....but shes very smart, she also knows youtube is watching as well!
Thank you Courtney for sitting through this because I can tell these truths weren't comfortable for you. Thank you immensely for confirming, on behalf of all idealistic communicators everywhere - men and women. You are helping people date.
He’s got such good points! I’m glad he’s focusing on things beyond what we’re supposed to politely look for in men. I used to naively think attractiveness shouldn’t matter, (obviously it should) and that money shouldn’t matter- but then I learned that it really does tell you something about that person. if someone is doing well - they are good at their job, they take it seriously, they think ahead and they manage their money responsibly, that’s the person you want to be tied to long-term. Whoever you commit yourself to, you both are putting your bets on each other that you have a strong teammate and they’re going in a direction you also want to go in (Career or otherwise).
You want a hot business partner, not love! If someone is "doing well", etc etc. then they are just a conformist, pacifist, lemming, who won't stand up for anything that is right for fear of losing that paycheck.
Does that mean the girl who seeks a well-to-do man, must also be well-to-do? After all, they're a "team" right? They're both working hard to achieve the same things, RIGHT? And if they're both on the same page, and both value the same things, and are both doing it right - you know, using their time wisely and all those other good things that any respectable person would be doing, so that they can be a match - they'd both have pretty much equal success, RIGHT?
So tell me again how many women seeking well-to-do men are also as well-to-do as the men they're seeking? Or even close?
Oh, ok, let's put it another way then: how many women want men who make about the same as they do?
I'll wait while you find out, and get back to me.
I absolutely enjoy how you are honest. Not doing the normal female reaction of arguing against even when you know he is right. We need more woman like you for men to choose from. Definite dating material
Interesting to witness her cognitive dissonance in real time. She's also trained on the propaganda, but she's smart enough to recognize the truth in what this guy says. People are simple and shallow, on both sides. All the postmodern gymnastics trying to rewrite human instinct doesn't change the fact that the traditional roles emerged naturally and are the reality.
exactly
This is not entirely true, but people are spoon fed these simple and shallow reasons, as it serves the dynamics of society, but on the other hand they also conflict with many of the traditional roles and as such those are outdated, as they themselves were means to harmonise in said society. But these are merely practical appliances.
@A B, doesn't look like cognitive dissonance on her part. She's looking more like she's trying to be professional about being 'busted' on behalf of all women by agrace, but in the end she had no problem in admitting what their game is.
Women say they want a nice, sweet man who loves his mom and who has a great sense of humor and will dote on them and has great integrity and gives to charity.
What they really want is a rich, tall and gorgeous man with abs and muscles who is dominant and assertive and will put them in their place and not tolerate any shit from them.
She said that you need the 9 qualities scientists listed to keep a relationship but it's hard to keep one when you can't even start one because you may not have the qualities listed by Alex. Thankfully, a lot of women will stick with you long enough to see who you are. Still, I feel bad for the great guys who can't find a woman.
If they don't have many of Alex's 9, they aren't great
@@redmen2822 more vapid words have rarely been writ.
@@davidhunt9143 If his words are vapid, it's because men have heard worse and/or that it's gotten old, and men stopped caring. And let's be real, he's not the only one that at least thinks that. The only thing is that women won't admit they think the same or worse, to save face.
@@davidhunt9143 perhaps vapid to you, but seemingly not to the original commenter
@@redmen2822 haha yes, I do consider it vapid, and my opinion is the only one that matters to me.
You totally side-stepped "good in bed". I'll take that as a yes.
Right? How convenient
You've missed the point dude. She is saying everyone's body is different so there is no universal way to 'unlock the sex god achievement' you have to be good at communicating and patient. Because even if you're experienced you have to learn each person from the ground up if you want to be good with them. In fact fewer partners is kind of nice for everyone because it means smaller risk of STIs and other diseases.
@@danitiwa I think that is very poor argument. Human behaviors and desires exist within a set of averages. Some people play those averages much more effectively than others. Your argument is like saying that abilities from one sport to another aren't transferable, and that someone who has never played sports at has an equal chance of doing well. It's nonsense.
Maybe this is because i have seen her content and understand her more. But courtney is conservative and I feel as if her response was a genuine "that is true but I just don't want to say it out loud." Not purely out of omission but just because she doesn't want to tarnish her image.
@@danitiwa >>She is saying everyone's body is different so there is no universal way to 'unlock the sex god achievement'
19:52 as a woman I have to contest this that he said though, “being a good father”. I can’t tell you how many times myself or my female friends have opened our eyes to or fallen more deeply for a man after seeing him interact well with children. This is something that’s incredibly important to myself and most women I know, even intuitively when we were younger or not as ready, but also as something taking up more and more space as we’ve grown up. Some men I haven’t been attracted to at all until I’ve seen them seem natural with kids and suddenly I can’t wait to get to know him better. If you’re part of any female group chat it’s so common with the gushing about husband material and baby fever, these two interact and can really make each other even stronger. It’s because seeing a man interact with kids shows if he inhibits qualities mentioned in this video, such as kindness and patience and maturity, emotional intelligence. Fatherhood is also often connected to independence and financial stability so really if you get that label then I think that you can consider yourself lucky. Even right now I personally am not really interested in a relationship but I have a male friend who I keep considering just because I keep seeing him interact well with kids haha. Otherwise a very good video and these two complemented one another well. I do have to say that this felt a bit weird for me to watch because I am religious and watching this as a very devout person it feels so weird that ethical compatibility was placed last in the list from the article but otherwise not mentioned at all, because for me this is the first and most important thing of all because it’s a given that we’re not going to work out long or short term if we have different value systems, no matter how attractive he is otherwise. Even the couples I know who have different religions or denominations make sure to agree on the major points before committing. Super important unless you’re both secular. Really though dating is a completely different game in religious environments so this felt like a throwback to watch but I guess I got curious and I’ve watched a couple of Courtney’s videos throughout the years so it’s kind of fun to check back every once in a while. :)
This sucks to hear as a guy who has zero interest in children
Hellow i want to publish this novel .. Dm me
Ruth He's not saying the 9 things in the article are not attractive or unimportant to women.
What he's talking about is that women should be honest and admit that the 9 things on his list is what gets them interested in a man in the first place and not necessarily the things at the other list.
Courtney has actually made a very good point: The 9 things on his list are what allows you to get the girl - the 9 things on the article's list are what lets you keep the girl. Therefore a combination of both lists is what women are really looking for, with the "get her" list being more important to meet a girl because 99% of girls will never give you a chance if you're not hot in their opinion. That's the same for guys - if a guy doesn't find you attractive he'll not be interested in you. The difference is that most men are honest enough to admit that it is the physical attractiveness that is the cause for his lack of interest while most women do not admit that fact if they're not interested in a guy. We're talking about meeting new people here - the importances of individual points can obviously shift if you get to know people better. However - even in that case chances that a guy who is ugly in your eyes but makes you laugh all the time will end up in a relation with you are extremely low; almost all women will friendzone him.
Again - it's not about neglecting importance of the things on the "keep her" list, it's about women agressively denying that the things on the "get her" list matter to them (and yes, a lot of women deny extremely agressively that they're into hot guys that are wealthy - even though that is of course a lie).
Well, hence the 9 things that wmn want in guys, but don't admit.
And you too could be saying something completely different from your own gutt reactions to certain guys but you don't even realize.
Because wmn don't seem to know what they really want. They just go with the flow.
Or straight up lie about what they really want.
Ruth! Spot on! The problem is that many girls don’t view it being a good father as an important trait. I consider myself to be a great father but an average husband (ex-husband to be exact :-)) by modern standards.
The problem with a lot of surveys and studies is people will often answer the questions in the way that they believe makes him look like a good person. That's why if you ask women what they want so often not give you a real answer but the socially acceptable answer.
Courtney’s expression at 10:28 is all you need to know about #3. LOL. She holds herself to a high level of decorum therefore she didn’t expound on it.
Pleas explain, english is not 100% 😇
You’re only 25 and have such maturity and wisdom thanks for your content sis 🙏🏼
She also looks 10 years older
White people age fast
@@kingdrift1136 Age is not on the face always! Do not always believe your eyea
@@onirico7913 yeah.... what the?? Looks early 30s
@@kingdrift1136
Nah. Depends on other factors
"i would put money above hot, good in bed and tall" - as the song goes "i aint saying she's a gold digger".. especially if she's claiming she's financially independent
@L Grace I suppose Diogenes wasn't intelligent to you!
"...but she aint messin with no broke ni-"
All woman want to be taken care of
@@dallasbrat81 Translation... to be able to not have to do anything for themselves.
@ ah no. Its more complex
As someone who is 6'8" let me just say, being this tall is actually a hinderance. Being this tall means most girls are incredibly intimidated by me regardless of how nice I am...
>>someone who is 6'8"
I'm ~6'5" (1,96m) and I also only get terrified looks... 😒
@@movement2contact Put down the club and the bearskin...
Agreed
Being 5'10" myself...dont even get noticed on dating apps
Lol the nonverbal reaction and agreement through silence on the the “good in bed” point was great. Especially that cute little eye flutter at the end. Lol
Ofc, she agrees with him on that one hahah
its the reality it makes sense lol
heyy i was the one who suggest alexander grace!! thankss. awesome video as always
I'm just gonna tell you I liked this video. I've never seen any of your other stuff and was just recommended this, but seeing a woman have a logical & not emotionally charged or biased reaction to this sort of thing is respectable
The "status" perk was an interesting take because I feel as though it's broader than the first initial thought that enters the mind.
This also encompasses how a man interacts with his surroundings, how he speaks to people, how he talks to his family, how he treats animals, sometimes despite perhaps not having a title or social media following that demands respect or admiration can also be redeemed through his charisma and his certainty in how he flows through life and I think that women still intuitively pick up these vibes and find them attractive.
"Inner game" is extremely important. At times when I had major successes in my life and therefore was very happy and optimistic and confident, very beautiful women began being attracted to me without me saying a word. It was like I had a flipped a switch. Therefore: Women are *extremely* good at perceiving the state of content and confidence of a man and react very strongly to facial expressions, body posture and timbre of voice.
I'm 59 and I've never had any girlfriends never been on any dates they all said no when I ask for their number and for dates as far as I know no females ever were even interested in me at all I've never been afraid to approach I do it everyday it's just that females usually ignore me and won't talk to me and the few that do don't give me eye contact I've never had sex of course or kissed a girl no opportunities ever came up again I'm 59 years old. I do work out I'm not very tall and I have I would say a small to medium
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I think good in bed boils down to effective communication. What might feel sensational for one person might be annoying for another. Communication is key.
As a low value man I have to agree totally with everything mentioned by Courtney & Alex. I was an attractive athlete and well know in high school; a champion high school wrestler. I was extremely physically fit though an emotional wreck. Yet I never dated any women during my high school years and since then I've been dumped by every woman I ever dated, so I just gave up knowing I was a BAD person. However, the real problem was with me, I was mentally ill suffering from toxic shame. It took going to a therapist late in life to understand my problem; so guys if things aren't good inside and you know how that feels; get theraputic and or medical help if you can. Being lonely and forever suffering with no self confidence or very little self esteem affects your entire life in almost all aspects - Suck it up and get help.
I second that declaration.
I consider you a high value man, if only because you obtained the perspective/maturity to recognize and do something about your deficits.
1. Great sense of humor.
2. Financial security
Happiness :
Doing what you love, living where you love, doing what you love.
Happiness is attractive. In fact, “ life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness,” was up front in the Declaration of Independence.
My wife is four years older. She was 24, and I was 20 when we met 40 years ago. Attraction for her was all looks, her words, not mine. ( I like nice things too look at) She was 1/2 Japanese, 1/2 Irish beautiful, but the 152 IQ, and being nice, is what did it for me. Yes, confidence that comes from that, too. Another pattern I noticed about me, the baby of the family. ( not an age thing, rather a confidence thing. An abundance of love as a young girl equals confidence later in life) I love that line in The Curious Case of Benjamin Button, Daisy’s accident, “ life being what it is, by accident or design, a series of intersecting lives, and incidences”. I can’t think of a better description.
Courtney,
I like the way you deliver your assessment of Alexander's video; especially when you don't agree with him. Sensible, and without venom. Educational, rather than persecutional.
The fact that you acknowledge and expand on points of agreement further adds to the value of your video.