Thank you for the reminders of self awareness and not being so quick to trust so quickly and expecting a normal relationship when your still under the same roof. Keep those boudries and plan that escape!!!
At about 7:20 , I can just hear ex narc, when you talk about a child needing validation. "You are SO selfish." It just gives me a sick feeling in my stomach. Every time I needed him, he would tell me I was selfish.
I think i stopped asking for love early on in the relationship because he woudl make me feel as though i was needy. Just needing a little support from him.
Then, the next day, he would brag, or talk about someone else, sometimes another woman who was so sweet and nice, etc. He truly made me feel as though he didn't like me. or that he thought i wasn't up to parr. That's the way he treated me.
Wow again you give voice to those that can't find the words to explain, My brother and I always tried to explain to my husband about our parents before we even heard the word narcissism and it was so incredibly hard. I use to say my father was a master manipulator and that was only the peak, I watched him all my life destroy everyone around him that didn't dance to his tune until a friend mentioned malignant narcissism to me, I started educating myself and couldn't get enough and stumbled across your UA-cam and it is simply the best. You put what I feel but can't explain into words for me. I find your videos incredibly helpful and healing. Please know you are helping people in a big way and thank you xxooxx
Wow so true.... Frustration become my emotional state with him in general which led to resentment and anger on my part. I felt not validated and not good enough - it was soooo frustrating!!! Thank you !!!
THANK YOU FOR THIS NEEDED VIDEO AND YOUR SINCERITY ABOUT THIS SUBJECT...WE HAVE NARCISSISTS MAKING VIDEOS TO MAKE THEMSELVES LOOK INNOCENT...THEY ARE MASTER CONTORTIONISTS..SUPER CONVOLUTED...THAT'S WHY YOU NEED TIME TO HEAL.WE DO GET OUR POWER BACK AND LIFT UP AND PROTECT THOSE WHO DO-NOT GET THIS...
This is so helpful! I watch your videos everyday often 2-3( i have not watch them all yet😆😊) and im in the beggining of to separate from the narcissist and im so scared! Omg i am affraid!! Because im al alone ( no friends,no one) i dont have a job, im sick with pain and i havent have a job in 14years. Dont know how i will survive this but i will,nothing can stop me now, i need to do this for me and my kids! Thank you for this, its my lifeline right now!❤❤❤
That has cleared up a lot of fuzzy boundary thoughts. it's been a game from week one, all the way in to this mess, to his last triangulation on my way out. over and over.... Thank You.
However you made up for what you were not given, you have done an extraordinary job... It is fascinating how this topic is deeply embedded in society, presenting itself even in aspects such as racism... Extraordinary perspective... I am really happy I found this channel that would serve to educate me so much more... keep up the good work...
So many relevant topics covered here. Thank You Eva! I've been narc free for nearly 15 months, minus a 3 month relapse. The doubt, bond, pull is still so strong. I think it's the trauma bond. Am doing lot's of work but still so painful. If u have more suggestions to heal that bond, I'd gladly take. Safe travels. Love your videos ❤️🦋😇
Blanca Griffin That's awesome! One of the best things that worked for me was to get excited about something that pulls my attention away from ruminating. For me it's been writing sci-fi stories and of course travel. What is it that you always wanted to do that you haven't yet allowed yourself to pursue? Blessings to you!
A highly covert narcissist + me, a healthy strong person with an "empty bucket" in my life at the time, resulted in my succumbing to the lovebombing. It's not just weepy codependents that can be manipulated. We, healthy people, get out a lot faster I think tho.
Again thank-you for pointing out that many of our quote leaders (we vote for) and heads of corporations etc. are narcissists for sure. Alice Miller research regarding the how childhood abuse takes place from narcissistic parents, and the world. She is in laymen terms and in the early 90's asked because of her extensive research of childhood trauma and abuse to the new MRI studies in Norway. A narcissist has been told very early in childhood at or before 15 mos old or in infancy they are not as good as Etc. Because of this consistent treatment of the child without real support of any type. The narcissist becomes their own self approval at least in their own minds. They are extremely angry individuals and can be ( potentially )very violent. Although usually they were not raised by violence they usually react that way except through rage. Sometimes there is violence in their upbringings and then they are also considered psychotic .
Czesc! So first off I love church bells lol, second, I have seen my female 30yo Narc girl compartmentalize her friendships a lot! She has some friends from college that live in the same area but she never sees them together as a group. She also has a girlfriend that she refers to as her "best friend" but they dont talk, they dont meet, they dont text. I have looked at both these girls facebook pages and there is no connection whatsoever, not even a comment on each other's posts! They are just friends on facebook but never interact. As a good Narc, I think my girl is projecting on this "best friend" lots of qualities that she does not possess, and calls her "best friend". Also, I have been compartmentalized to a lonely place because I never met any of her "friends", any of her family except her parents and very few acquaintances. We are both catholic and last time for Easter I told her I will spend it alone because I have no family. She told me all about this big family party that was going on at her house with cousins, uncles, aunts, she sent me pictures of the dress she was going to wear and told me that it is a shame I have no family to go visit for Easter and that I will be lonely. Yet, she never invited me to her house lol! After Easter was over I told her it felt lonely on that day to just be home, even though I was productive, and she did agree that it "must have felt lonely", but never realizing that she could have invited me! Ahaha Good old Narcs! She probably wanted me not to meet the rest of the family (compartment) sprinkled with some fake empathy! lol
I never look at problems without solutions at hand to remedy. I can see some narcissist are in need of help not just discord, it's a pollution that needs treatment, not just to be sweep under the carpet. I try to hurt and let them down on the regular just when they need me the most. And I know they may want to recourse however I show no signs of caring if they do.I reck their plans. I let them feel so good then I pop their balloon. I'm no narc. but I enjoy serving them their own shit.
Thanks, this really came at the right time for me. This explains so much. Would you be able to talk more about making a plan to leave in a future video? X
Please address a sibling unintentionally adding to post narcissistic abuse partly because it causes childhood issues to come up for them. Also, they just don’t “get” the effect of a covert, passive/aggressive abuse and how I did not “attract” it in terms of Abraham teachings which we both follow. I’m still confused about this and did listen to your talk on it. Thanks
Last one sorry Alice Miller over 30 years of research on this subject. Speaks about in one or more of her books regarding how we vote for narcissists in our lives to rule us. And that religion whether you go to one or not has embedded itself in how we function and see reality. That religion is no matter what narcissistically connected because of guilt which is actually fear of life.
You just made me feel not so alone in the world! Divine timing. Thank you! 💫
Great video anybody that has been through this and has become aware of the abuse needs to watch this video.
So much gratitude for this information! WOW!!!!
Thank you for the reminders of self awareness and not being so quick to trust so quickly and expecting a normal relationship when your still under the same roof. Keep those boudries and plan that escape!!!
They disagree to maintain power.
At about 7:20 , I can just hear ex narc, when you talk about a child needing validation.
"You are SO selfish." It just gives me a sick feeling in my stomach. Every time I needed him, he would tell me I was selfish.
I think i stopped asking for love early on in the relationship because he woudl make me feel as though i was needy. Just needing a little support from him.
Then, the next day, he would brag, or talk about someone else, sometimes another woman who was so sweet and nice, etc.
He truly made me feel as though he didn't like me. or that he thought i wasn't up to parr. That's the way he treated me.
Wow again you give voice to those that can't find the words to explain, My brother and I always tried to explain to my husband about our parents before we even heard the word narcissism and it was so incredibly hard. I use to say my father was a master manipulator and that was only the peak, I watched him all my life destroy everyone around him that didn't dance to his tune until a friend mentioned malignant narcissism to me, I started educating myself and couldn't get enough and stumbled across your UA-cam and it is simply the best. You put what I feel but can't explain into words for me. I find your videos incredibly helpful and healing. Please know you are helping people in a big way and thank you xxooxx
Wow so true.... Frustration become my emotional state with him in general which led to resentment and anger on my part. I felt not validated and not good enough - it was soooo frustrating!!! Thank you !!!
Spot on... "Maybe I should learn to be more accepting"...so true. Self-doubt and the erosion of your own identity, values and standards. Wow...
This video was extremely extremely helpful to me, thank you so much
THANK YOU FOR THIS NEEDED VIDEO AND YOUR SINCERITY ABOUT THIS SUBJECT...WE HAVE NARCISSISTS MAKING VIDEOS TO MAKE THEMSELVES LOOK INNOCENT...THEY ARE MASTER CONTORTIONISTS..SUPER CONVOLUTED...THAT'S WHY YOU NEED TIME TO HEAL.WE DO GET OUR POWER BACK AND LIFT UP AND PROTECT THOSE WHO DO-NOT GET THIS...
This is so helpful! I watch your videos everyday often 2-3( i have not watch them all yet😆😊) and im in the beggining of to separate from the narcissist and im so scared! Omg i am affraid!! Because im al alone ( no friends,no one) i dont have a job, im sick with pain and i havent have a job in 14years. Dont know how i will survive this but i will,nothing can stop me now, i need to do this for me and my kids! Thank you for this, its my lifeline right now!❤❤❤
Piritta Collanius I hope you were able to save yourself and your kids
Capitalists use it - so do Narcissists...
Valedictorian. Excellent. Thank for speaking from such a deep,tender place in your soul. Very generous and true. Thank you.
That has cleared up a lot of fuzzy boundary thoughts. it's been a game from week one, all the way in to this mess, to his last triangulation on my way out. over and over.... Thank You.
However you made up for what you were not given, you have done an extraordinary job... It is fascinating how this topic is deeply embedded in society, presenting itself even in aspects such as racism... Extraordinary perspective... I am really happy I found this channel that would serve to educate me so much more... keep up the good work...
nice glasses! ReALLY! and thanks for this video...very inspiring as usual. Have a great day!
So many relevant topics covered here. Thank You Eva! I've been narc free for nearly 15 months, minus a 3 month relapse. The doubt, bond, pull is still so strong. I think it's the trauma bond. Am doing lot's of work but still so painful. If u have more suggestions to heal that bond, I'd gladly take. Safe travels. Love your videos ❤️🦋😇
Blanca Griffin That's awesome! One of the best things that worked for me was to get excited about something that pulls my attention away from ruminating. For me it's been writing sci-fi stories and of course travel. What is it that you always wanted to do that you haven't yet allowed yourself to pursue? Blessings to you!
A highly covert narcissist + me, a healthy strong person with an "empty bucket" in my life at the time, resulted in my succumbing to the lovebombing. It's not just weepy codependents that can be manipulated. We, healthy people, get out a lot faster I think tho.
Excellent information and help. Thank you so much X
i'm agree with everything
I like your Wind Shields.
Again thank-you for pointing out that many of our quote leaders (we vote for) and heads of corporations etc. are narcissists for sure. Alice Miller research regarding the how childhood abuse takes place from narcissistic parents, and the world. She is in laymen terms and in the early 90's asked because of her extensive research of childhood trauma and abuse to the new MRI studies in Norway. A narcissist has been told very early in childhood at or before 15 mos old or in infancy they are not as good as Etc. Because of this consistent treatment of the child without real support of any type. The narcissist becomes their own self approval at least in their own minds. They are extremely angry individuals and can be ( potentially )very violent. Although usually they were not raised by violence they usually react that way except through rage. Sometimes there is violence in their upbringings and then they are also considered psychotic .
nice place you have there.
Czesc! So first off I love church bells lol, second, I have seen my female 30yo Narc girl compartmentalize her friendships a lot! She has some friends from college that live in the same area but she never sees them together as a group. She also has a girlfriend that she refers to as her "best friend" but they dont talk, they dont meet, they dont text. I have looked at both these girls facebook pages and there is no connection whatsoever, not even a comment on each other's posts! They are just friends on facebook but never interact.
As a good Narc, I think my girl is projecting on this "best friend" lots of qualities that she does not possess, and calls her "best friend".
Also, I have been compartmentalized to a lonely place because I never met any of her "friends", any of her family except her parents and very few acquaintances.
We are both catholic and last time for Easter I told her I will spend it alone because I have no family. She told me all about this big family party that was going on at her house with cousins, uncles, aunts, she sent me pictures of the dress she was going to wear and told me that it is a shame I have no family to go visit for Easter and that I will be lonely. Yet, she never invited me to her house lol! After Easter was over I told her it felt lonely on that day to just be home, even though I was productive, and she did agree that it "must have felt lonely", but never realizing that she could have invited me! Ahaha Good old Narcs! She probably wanted me not to meet the rest of the family (compartment) sprinkled with some fake empathy! lol
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I heard a woman say that she can't tell her husband anything. Or, that when he is rude, she just ignores him. ICK!! Who could live like that?
Thank you
I never look at problems without solutions at hand to remedy. I can see some narcissist are in need of help not just discord, it's a pollution that needs treatment, not just to be sweep under the carpet. I try to hurt and let them down on the regular just when they need me the most. And I know they may want to recourse however I show no signs of caring if they do.I reck their plans. I let them feel so good then I pop their balloon. I'm no narc. but I enjoy serving them their own shit.
Thanks, this really came at the right time for me. This explains so much. Would you be able to talk more about making a plan to leave in a future video? X
In fact, can you please talk about all of what you said in this video in more detail. This really hit home for me.
Wow.. I just realized my ex-wife did this to me for years.. so horrible what they do.
Can you talk about this narcissist injury when the victim goes no contact and does the discard -
Please address a sibling unintentionally adding to post narcissistic abuse partly because it causes childhood issues to come up for them. Also, they just don’t “get” the effect of a covert, passive/aggressive abuse and how I did not “attract” it in terms of Abraham teachings which we both follow. I’m still confused about this and did listen to your talk on it. Thanks
Last one sorry Alice Miller over 30 years of research on this subject. Speaks about in one or more of her books regarding how we vote for narcissists in our lives to rule us. And that religion whether you go to one or not has embedded itself in how we function and see reality. That religion is no matter what narcissistically connected because of guilt which is actually fear of life.
what you're suggesting to most people especially in this video and some of them should release their defence card interesting
Isn't this a form of Gaslighting ?