When people say “it’s just a dog” or “just a cat”, I feel sorry for them. They’ve obviously never experienced the deep, essential love of a beloved animal companion. With great love and joy comes great grief too. As you say, these are legitimate emotions to feel, and the impact of the loss can be profound.
I don't feel sorry for them. I see them as kinda callous and not capable of loving animals and I pray they won't ever get one for the sake of the dog, cat, and any other pet.
@WHATEVER GOES FOR ME You know it's funny, but I've personally known two people who couldn't stand cats. In both instances, cats chose each of them and boy what an attitude adjustment. However, it's probably not typical, and, as you mentioned, I hope anyone incapable of loving an animal never gets one.
@@rouxchat6033 There are some people who think they don't like a cat or a dog until they were kinda forced to adopt one and eventually became good pet carers. However, there are many who couldn't care less like some people I know (neighbors) and they actually have dogs or cats but the humans neglect and abuse their dogs/cats. Some of them got a dog just to have a guard for their house while some got a cat to catch mice/rats but when these animals got sick, the owners did not give them the care the animals badly needed. My blood boils whenever I see this because these humans let their pets die (or even kill them) and also abandon them by dropping the kittens elsewhere or no longer letting their dogs inside their residences. Right now, I am feeding these neglected cats and dogs (who are roaming our streets) even though my family has already 7 dogs and 4 cats.
I think the most comforting part of losing a pet is knowing that I made sure they had a fantastic life. To know that I did my very best and that I have lots of good memories of them. Then, as sad as it is, I know my pet had a great life and that is , in itself reassuring.
I've lost my cat a week ago, and the pain is real. I miss her terribly. She was not "just a cat" for me; she was the first pet I called mine; she was the daughter I haven't had; she was my center. It was painful to let her go but the pain she was in was visible and had become more and more a real part of her day. We have decided to euthanize her, and seeing her lifeless body on her pillow was so hard. We, pet owners, have to go through this pain in our lives, and letting our beloved pet go is not something minor. We need to be strong. I miss my cat everyday. It's been sad; I know this feeling will get better as time goes, but still hurts.
My dog has been living at my uncles place on his farm, i went out to visit him the other day and he was such a sweetheart, tail wagging, tongue lolling, he was quite literally jumping with joy to see me and I just got a text message that he died in his sleep. Almost no warning signs other than a bit of an upset tummy for just over a day. I haven't stopped crying all day and I dont think im going to feel better for a while. He was buried with his favourite blanket in the field, after a life full of sleeping on leather couches and kisses. His fur didn't even have a chance to turn grey yet. See you across the rainbow bridge someday Hank
I am a retired tough skinned nurseryman from England. I have never found losing any of my dogs easy. I lost my mother about 10 years ago, which was sad but she was old and crackers to be frank. It was nothing compared to the utter devastation on having my last old Jack Russell (I always have three on the go) put to sleep…..the pain was utterly crippling…..I have two other old ones now (featured with on the Plantsmans corner channel) who’s time is coming and I dread it. However, confessing the pain of losing the dog was worse than losing my mother is somewhat embarrassing, and I know most folk will see it as disrespectful or cold. But it’s the truth and the pain is so different because of the trust they have in you that you can make everything right for them. You see it in their eyes, love, faith, and trust. It is so utterly heart-wrenching. Thank you for your channel and advice. Best wishes from the UK……Malcolm
My 14 year dog passed away recently due to old age but by the time he was alive, little did I know that the last time I would see him would be our last goodbye in that day. 💔 I appreciated the unconditional love he gave me during the years and I know he's in a better place now. 🕊️ His wings might have been ready, but my heart wasn't. I send love and peace to all, missing their pets who have passed on.
i quit my job when my dog of 13 yrs died after a long battle with bone cancer, i had to take so much time off, and i didnt give a crap what anyone thought. jobs are a dime a dozen, my dog wasnt. he was with me 24/7 we seen British Columbia north to south on our roadtrips. i will miss him, loosing Herman was the same pain as loosing my dad and im NOT ashamed to say that. RIP to both of the men in my life. I hope you are running together in heaven. :( xoxo
Amen ❤ my heart hurts so bad from losing my little Ginger. I know she’s in Heaven and we’ll see them with our family again. People that don’t have animals or never experienced the love in a dogs eyes don’t get it!
My cat died 5 days ago. Honestly, it has been a hard week. I've cried every time I think about him. No one seems to understand the pain and sadness I feel. All I can do is remain grateful to God for the moments spent. Thank you for this video. ❤
How are you feeling now after 5 months? I hope the joy you shared with your cat is now dominant over the pain of loss. I just lost my best friend, tabby male, 14yo. We have been travelling together for the past two years. I have his sister also. We both are so devastated with the void we feel now. I know it is ‘good’ to feel the pain/grief. Please tell me it gets better? Many blessings to your beloved ❤.
My Tuxie Tinkie died 9 months ago, and I miss him every single day. There are still days I can barely function. Time heals, they say. How much time I wonder. I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby. We all understand your pain😢
I lost my baby 2 days ago. It’s so weird waking up and she’s not scratching at my bedroom door for food, or pulling the bathroom door open while I’m on the toilet. Oh god I miss her so much.
so true, it feels so disabling and reduces my life experience to a deep hollow heaviness in the heart and solar plexus. Nothing relieves the ache and when I forget about it for a half hour or so suddenly I let out these screams of horror for the inability to feel the fur, touch the paws and enjoy the soft fur of my young cat Itty who I found ravaged in my garden after going missing for 4 days. I have lost quite a few animals over the years but this one is the worst of all, cuts way deep into my guts and I have to wail out the pain in ungodly wrenching sounds.
@Dune My heart pounds for your loss, Its been so difficult because 5 days later out of the blue my 12 year old cat had a stroke and died in my arms 2 hours later. He was screaming horrible sounds. I am like ptsd from these two horrible images I am left with and I am still bewildered why they were taken in two separate incidents and wretched ways. And yet we give ourselves wholeheartedly yet again and again. Blessings and Peace to our raw hearts and traumatized minds.
I don't think it gets any easier....and it's not supposed to. But with age and wisdom you grow to appreciate the lives they led and what they taught. Every creature in my life has taught me something and still lives in my heart.
I agree it doesn't get easier, but it is something we have to accept as part of the bargain we make for the love and companionship of our pets. I try to give my pets, usually rescues, a good life so that I feel they've gotten something from me in their shorter lives. This was especially true when I took in guinea pigs for 20 years. Now I'm back to all cats ( and one gecko) average age 13years, so I know it will be difficult for me in the coming years.
@@donabeth4561 It does. Losing a dog at 32 was harder than losing a dog at 16. I understood death, sure, but for some reason it’s hitting me 10x harder this time. And I loved both dogs dearly.
I was fortunate that my employer gave me 7 days off when my Lola passed. With pay(listed as sick leave),I thank the entire office and flowers send to me telling me me how much cared,they were all pet ownerd
My service dog Noble died last Saturday. I have never experienced euthanasia. When he left a huge part of me did also. The struggle is real. Family doesn’t understand the depth of my grief. 10 years was not enough so many wonderful experiences. Sorry for all who have lost their baby.❤🐾
My pet loves me more now that my ex did for 26 years. He greets me at the door every day when I come home from work. Now that's true 'unconditional love's'.
I only just lost my eldest dog Sage earlier today. She had to be taken to the vet to be put down. She was 15 years old and had gone blind, deaf, with dementia. Its been a really tough day for the whole family 😢. I can't stop crying. And now the atmosphere in the house has changed. Especially since theres suddenly only one dog instead of two. They were half brother & Sister, two years apart. Even though her end was expected to happen soon and we were prepared for it, everything feels very strange. Miss you Sage (Sweet LillyBean) ❤️🩹🐾😭🐕
Strange timing, I’ve been inconsolable as the vet is coming tomorrow evening to put my beloved German Shepherd down. Almost made it to 12, but lost the ability to walk and is in pain. My almost 19 year old cat will soon follow😢. Love to all missing their pets who have passed on.
Stay strong dear one, my heart goes out to you. It is a horrible price we have to pay for the love of our beloved pets. God bless you and your precious🐕🦺🐱. ❤️🇦🇺
Aw prayers to your kitty and sorry about your sweet doggie. The similar thing happened to my baby Kiba she was injured accidentally after a fence fell on her and she too lost her ability to walk and was in pain. 😞 Not to mention she was really old too with health issues . I haven't been the same since she left us 3 weeks ago 💔
So sorry that Murray passed. My 6 lb chihuahua Missy died in 2018 and I still cry every time I talk about her. My precious 10 1/2 year old Min pin Buddy passed on this month, January 11. I cried almost non stop for 3 days. I just barely started leaving the house. We did everything together. My heart is broken. To me they are family and the grieving is enormous. God Bless you all
It takes time. I lost my last dog 10 years ago in April. It is only in the last few months when I have even begun to entertain the possibility of getting another dog. It's not time in my life to do it yet, but at least I am open in my heart to that possibility now. Mind you, it took me about 9 1/2 years and the love of somebody's Cavalier King Charles Spaniel to get there.
Thank you for sharing. I lost my beloved dog Pumpkin a few months ago and I am broken. I feel so guilty that I took her to our local vet and she died in their care and they were so heartless with her. I keep remembering our last car ride and how excited she was, and now she’s gone. I still cry for her most nights, she used to sleep with me. I am childless and she was truly my baby. She gave me so much love and affection I felt so blessed and loved. It pains my heart that most people can’t understand the depth of loss and grief I carry for my baby. I absolutely love dogs, they are heaven sent but I can’t fathom getting another dog because of the heartbreak that will come and I feel like I’m betraying Pumpkin. They say it’s better to have loved and lost however to me the loss is far greater 😢 take care mate, hope you’re getting better 🫶
I got a new dog a month after my little bichon passed away 4 years ago for me it was right because I could not cope a second without her I thought I would lose my mind ,but I still cry everything she is mentioned.the pain never stops
People can't understand why I am not into taking pics or looking at them. I don't really like looking at pics where a loved one, human or pet, is no longer with us because I relive the pain of their passing every time I look at the pics. I'd rather not think of them because when I remember a pet that passed away, even though it has been decades already, I still feel down and especially if that pet was someone who was so special because even though we should not play favorites, there are always this dog or cat that has a special charm just like Murrray.
When I was a kid, I used to think it must have got easier to cope with losing a pet. But man, it gets so much tougher. And some pets hold a more special place in your heart than others, and they're with you all the time.
I recently lost my cat Beau. He was only ten, but cancer of the tongue is very quick. I did not have much time to get used to the idea that it was fatal before he was gone. He was my constant companion, followed me like a dog, came when I called him. He was one of those super intelligent cats who understood so many words and sentences. I loved him. I found the feeling thankful for the time that we had together and for the fact that we found each other at all was the best medicine for me. Remembering all of our good times together oh, how funny he looked sleeping on his back all the time. His beautiful blue eyes. He slept on me and next to me every single night. Fortunately I took a great many wonderful pictures of him. I will love him forever. He is not the first cat that I have loved and lost. But, this time it hurts more than it ever has. I think it's because we had an extra special connection.
Sorry, 🙏 Same here, my 18 yo kitty would followed me ,Sat & slept near me Tried to talk to me, pat my face and react to me saying I love you. I miss him so much he was so smart & special. It's very hard, but hope to see him again one day. I know God knows how special pets are .
My Tinker had almost the exact same situation. I raised her from a newborn (found a box of kittens in a dumpster and she was the only living one) and I told her every day that I would love her forever after her diagnosis. She was extremely special to me. She was much more than a cat to me, she was my best friend and like the daughter that I never had. I do try to remember the good times but after 3 months the grief still comes in waves. Thank you for sharing about Beau, he sounds like a one of a kind kitty. I hope that you are in a better place now and I wish you much happiness and time to share love with other animals.
All of your kitties sound like special beings. I just lost my special Manny of 14yo. I have his sister thankfully who is healthy. We both have sinkholes in our hearts. I pray all the love, laughter, tenderness, adventures, etc begin to pour in and seal that crevice. Many blessings to those that have loved and lost- the word pet is so empty-lost a loved one. ❤
I’m retired military and retired federal wildlife officer….throughout almost 5 decades, I was responsible for leading, supervising, managing people. I always made it a point, to get to KNOW, those that I had responsibility -organizationally speaking-for. I tried to know them as men and women, versus “assets”. That required knowing something of their backgrounds, their interests…and of course their personal lives. I always knew, when those men and women had close bonds with animals…indeed those that did, were some of the best men and women I had the pleasure of knowing and working with. I always treated loss of a dog, cat…even horses….once I knew of the animal’s passing…I treated it “seriously”. In my line of works, both military and law enforcement…if their hearts and minds weren’t in the game, it put those of us that worked with them, and the public in some instances, at risk. I always allowed them whatever time they needed to rebound. Sometimes, that meant “time on the beach” (yep, I’m Navy), time in the office, or just time to themselves. Also, while in some cases, I think that I did, I tried hard NOT to say “I know how you feel”…rather saying “that makes me sad, too….take whatever time you need”. I never felt that anyone abused that….and I always felt that my people had my back, just as I watched out for their “six”. Good reminder, Doc….to feel for those around us.
When I lost my first horse, years ago, I was absolutely devastated. I called in 'sick' the following day, and when my 'stand-in' boss pressed a bit harder, I had to tell him I had had my horse euthanized, and needed a day or two to collect myself, at least. He wouldn't let me take it, so I went into work and was an emotional mess for several days. It was horrible. When my regular boss got back from his vacation, and I told him what had happened, he said HE'D had given me the day off, or however many I needed, and done my courier route for me. Now THAT'S a good boss, right there. I've never forgotten the kindness and compassion of the man. His 'stand-in' always was a bit of a jerk....!!!
I lost my dog 2 weeks ago and my Chief was caring and kind enough to let me take the rest of the week home to grieve, if I had to go to work that week I wouldn't have been much help anyway, my heart was physically hurting in my chest, but though I miss him I'm comforted that he isn't suffering anymore.
I've had many pets over the years. Each time, it gets harder and harder, as it chips away another piece of me. Paying this toll is how we get to be part of these beautiful souls' lives. Yes, they do have souls. Nobody can change my mind on this. Losing one is losing a family member.
"Paying this toll is how we get to be part of these beautiful souls lives" ... this is what i was looking for. I've never heard that before, thank you.
Thank you for putting this much needed conversation out there. I just lost my cat Miles, and the grief is real, and just as intense (if not more) as the loss of human family. I did not attend any Thanksgiving or Christmas celebrations because I just didn't feel like it, and quite frankly, didn't want to hear anyone imply my feelings are not valid. Miles was my family, and I will always miss him. Thank you again, and, I am very sorry for the loss of your beloved Murray.
I am very sorry, dear Erin, your Miles will forever be in your hear, with your love and the memories you shared. Your comment made me realize that we are similar. For me, losing a pet is way more intense than losing a loved one. The bond is incredibly strong and deep, and it can't be explained with words. With humans, you have words to communicate with, to let them know that you care, that you get what they are going through and when the final time comes, words have already been shared, or at least there is nothing incomprehensible going on. With pets, you can't talk about the future, you can't talk about diseases or procedures, with pets the most important thing is the present. And if you're not there when they need you, nothing else matters. I completely understand why you skipped the celebrations, especially if the people around do not take your grieving seriously, which is very immature and definitely not empathetic. Please, take your time to grieve and do not feel pressured to "make it happen fast" or feel invalidated, because you have every right to feel like you're feeling. Take care of yourself, I wish you all the best
It is so tough. Many people don’t understand how devastated pet parents are over the lose.The unconditional love our fur baby’s provide is such a GREAT GIFT ! And having the trust our fur babies have that we will be their to provide there every need creates a bond like no other!!!!!! I lost one of my fur babies over 12 years ago and not one day goes buy I don’t think of her!!! Sometimes it with sorrow others with a faint smile thinking of her unique ways of showing love! I’m so sorry for your loss! Sending prayers and Blessings!❤
So sorry for your loss. They are our life to some of us. My little 19 year chihuahua has been with me since she was a puppy and she has always slept in bed with me every night and has been through it it all with me. She has helped me get through the rough times of my life and I know I will be absolutely devastated when she is no longer with me. They aren’t just pets. Some people will never sadly understand and will always just see them as that.
Lost my girl of 14 1/2 years almost a week ago. I’ve cried so hard everyday. I feel as if my life was shattered. I’ve been completely devastated. The agony of losing a pet is real. Losing her was more detestation than any human loss I’ve ever had to experience
I`m so sorry for your loss. I lost my little boy Scrunchie, a 9 year old Tabby cat on 4-25-2023. I haven`t stopped crying since. I had such a severe emotional breakdown that I wound up in the Emergency Room for 6 hours on 7-28-2023. The excruciating pain we feel when we lose a faithful, and true companion, whether it be a dog or a cat, seems absolutely unbearable!!
@@meloearth I don't know about tsescoe or jamminjoe44 or judithgee7011, but I know how I feel about the loss of my dog 8 months ago. I still have breathing difficulty at times. Some days are better. The pain is bone-deep. I've been taking the dopamine-serotonin combo pill I ordered on Amazon. I also ordered some oxygen canisters to help with breathing. I don't notice much difference. I am not sure if it's helping me or not. At least, my symptoms are not getting worse. This is coming from a guy who had been in good health. For the first 3 months, it was really hard for me - the deep sense of hopelessness and despair was simply overwhelming and debilitating. One ray of hope for me is that I had the foresight to preserve her genetic information to bring her back in the future. I sent away her tissue samples immediately after my dog's death, to a gene bank to freeze them until needed. It cost me $1600. I know I will see my dog again, but it's still hard even after 8 months. Maybe my depression improved 5% compared to 8 months ago. It's a long hard road until I see my beloved dog again.
We had to lay our 17 yo cat to rest on 10/29/23, seven and a half months ago. My soul hurts and my grief is right under the surface. When I talk about him, my eyes fill with tears immediately. I feel the pain of everyone who has lost a pet. 😢
I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is incredibly hard, and it's okay to feel the pain. Your cat brought so much love into your life, and it's natural to grieve deeply. 🙏
I cannot even go down the dog food, treats, toys aisles in stores because my eyes fill with tears. It has been 2 years that my precious dog Sophie lost her battle with congestive heart failure. She was 14 years old. Her constant companion and BFF Emmy my cat followed her to Heaven just weeks after Sophie. She also was 14. The loss of those 2 girls left me with such sadness even though I have taken in a couple homeless cats. These new cats do help me.
OMG! I'm so sorry. I lost my 2 cats only 4 months apart. It's hard enough to lose 1 but to not even get over the grief of one, you lose the other. It's so painful. I know exactly how you feel.
I do know how you feel exactly. You're not alone. You're grieving because you loved your animals We just had to put down our 15 year old Corgi yesterday. I also won't go down those aisles. My pain is physical and mental. She was my dog/daughter. Will love her forever. People who love animals are the best people. Sending you a hug I hope you can feel it.
My profile is "Old Cat" 21yro calico. Buried under apple tree. One third of my life time, she was when she died. Longtime friends are long-time mourned, gratefully appreciated, as our memory serves us. Thank you Dr. Jones💞😪🙏
I’ve had the privilege of having dogs in my life since being a young girl. Each one was so very special to me and when they passed, they took a piece of my heart with them. My Lab, Kody, passed away three years ago and it took me that long to open up my broken heart again to another dog who desperately needed a home and love. The grief from our pets’ passing is very real and anyone who doesn’t understand this has never been loved unconditionally by a creature who thinks you are his whole world.
I feel the same. First time it took me more then 15 years to have another puppy! I’ve just lost my baby last December again. She was only 7 years old! Heart problem, liver problem and kidneys of the result of early sterilization at 7 months old and because of parasites preventive drugs control and other mistakes done by the vet recommendations! Now I hate myself and cannot forgive but it’s too late! I wished I would meet back of that days, honest and professional veterinarian like this one...
One of my neighbors always used to say he was sorry when one of my pet passed but until he lost his own dog, he never realized the loss But you have to understand they’re always with you. I’ve been in contact with them frequently they’re there. Until we meet again❤
We lost our Mr Katt a few years ago, suddenly fell seriously ill and pretty much gone when I got him to the vet. The Vet had to put him down. He was 20 and was an awesome cat! BUT, as I was dealing with that I got a text from my husband, he was on duty and one of the pilots came in with a very tiny ball of fighting fur that they pulled out from under one of the vehicles. Someone had to throw it over the fence because it was a secure FAA area. She was only about 6 oz...so tiny. I was heartbroken about Mr Katt but felt the need to go to the hangar and get this little kitten to safety. We brought her home and named her Chopper....I think Katt knew I needed her and it was meant to be. We will always miss him.
I lost my Chihuahua Rosie she was 16 years old she died on November 22 2022 it not only affected me affected my other dogs I think of her everyday I miss her so
Loving condolences to you. I had 4 kittens delivered to my door for fostering Thursday before Mother's Day 2008. They saved my life. After 6 mos, I was allowed to keep 2; Scowt & Clovis On Nov. 21, 2022, the stronger suddenly had heart attack. December 2, had to euthanize Clovis. She was already declining, but after Scowt's sudden & violent loss, Clovis went out searching, waiting, laying her timid self to wide open world , but no Scowt. Dec. 2, she could barely lift her head. Vet gave sedative & left room, but suddenly, Clovis reared up yowling, blue eyes rolling & turning brown; frantically clawing at- & chomping into canvas kennel. I was paralyzed. I had been about to embrace her & try to say Love you, thank you, God be with you & take my baby to heaven. Had I not just raised up to settle her after injection of prep sedative, she would have ripped my face & bitten me (inadvertantly, of course), so violent was the HELL that ensued. My thought was immediately of something being burned alive. So much for alleviating misery. I am tormented day & night. I am devastated. Still. And furious at whatever went wrong, which vet did not see & called "twitching." She was so tender, so weak, clinging to life just to love. Her end was hideous. Sometimes I am sure I will die of this grief.
I’m so sorry you went through that that must of been and still is heart breaking for you,I was going to take my Rosie to put her down because she had stop eating and she was so weak and in pain but when I checked on her she had passed away my heart just hurts for her.are pets are are family I will be praying for you 😔
I had my boxer dog put to sleep yesterday and despite knowing it was going to be sad, and distressing, i didn't expect to feel the level of grief I have. Seeing videos like this, and reading the comments, gives me a small sense of reassurance and warmth. Big love to all you animal lovers going through some sort of grief right now. ❤
its been 3 years and i still burst into tears every day people don't realise how attached you can get my moses was very disabled and i did everything for him i never left his side ever so i took it very hard when i lost him to cancer . i tried to get another dog this year but couldn't handle it so my daughter now has a beautiful puppy . i don't think i will get another dog i cant get over loosing my beloved moses.
I’m so sorry about your Murray. Pet loss does feel worse to many of us. I believe it’s because of the unconditional love and companionship. They don’t betray us like humans can and no matter how bad (or good) our day is our pets are always there, looking up at us with their soulful eyes and a smile, giving us their all. ❤️
Just lost my dog Brady after adopting him 13yrs ago from a shelter. He was maybe 1 years old or younger but the grief is allot more than expected. I'm 62 & cry & weep off & on since, i miss him terribly and I'm thankful I've had him around along time & know it will take some time. The pain is real, more than losing my mom, dad, close uncle & can't explain it. I wasn't ready yet, i know it's selfish & I'll never forget my sweet gentle friend 😢
We lost our family dog, Rimshot, a few months ago. We got him just before I found out we were pregnant with our first child. I did home births with all 3 of my children and he was in the house for each one, so my kids met him within the first few hours of being born. He was their stool, mess cleaner, watch dog, cuddle bug, and so much more. I have a video of my oldest "fixing" Rimshot...he was using his toy drill and saw on him and he was just laying there letting him. He played dress up with my daughter and snuck into food with my youngest. The other day, while on a drive, my youngest, who is 4, said, "I'm hugging Rimshot because I'm hugging myself and he lives in my heart."
I'm so glad I ran across this .... we just lost our dog three weeks ago and I swear we are worse off now than when he first died. We are crushed! At first, I thought we would get another dog, but after seeing how hard we are taking his death, I'm not so sure I could survive another loss. I've read that dogs are great for the elderly. I don't know. Hate to say it, but I've taken our dog's loss harder than any other close relative. The feelings are very overwhelming.
Thank you for this video. My Woodson passed away 12/06/22. He was 10. It's been extremely hard as this is my 1st time loosing a pet. I'm to the point where I don't cry everyday. I will never forget him & I keep his things around me. I also have his ashes. Grieving has no time limit.
Just had to put my Allie down yesterday, had her almost 12 years. Cancer took her, ripped me and my wife’s heart out. I’ve cried a lot, I’m thankful she’s not hurting but I would give anything to hold her and kiss her head
I had a special relationship with my cat Elijah. The loss of him at age 10 from kidney failure in Nov last year was devastating. I still think of him everyday. The rest of the world moves on but my heart is still hurting. Thanks for bringing awareness to this. I was sad to hear you had lost Murray. I can so relate to how you are feeling. 😢
Yeah, I lost my cat last year in May at the age of 10. He was always very healthy then all of a sudden he started having diarrhea. After a few months of me and the vet trying to figure out what is going on, he started going downhill fast and lost a lot of weight. Already a thin cat and got even thinner. They finally realized that he probably had cancer cause he was going down hill so fast. I thought I would have my Spencer for many many years cause he was my healthy cat that never needed to go to the vet. All of his check ups were always good. But goes to show that you never know how quickly bad health can creep up on you. He was my baby that I will always miss.
My granddaughter and I still cry when we reminisce about her first horse, who had such a great impact on her life…and that was 10 years ago! At least we share the grief and have each other to cry with. I’m so sorry about Murray and understand your grief 💕
I've shared my life with,and lost many dogs over the years. I've also lost a 13 year old child,and although there's no grief or pain to ever equal the loss of a child(10 years later and it's still as raw as the day it happened)the closest thing to that has been the loss of my dog beautiful pit/lab mix Riley,,14 months ago. I can't seem to get past it. She was without a doubt the best dog I ever had,sweet,kind,sensitive. She was there for me when I lost my son. Her fur soaked up many tears lol I feel stupid bc "it's just a dog" and "how can you compare the death of a dog to the death of your son" .........I know. What helps is learning to live WITH the grief,but still have a happy,healthy life. It's not easy,and I'm not there yet when it comes to Riley. But,it's the ONLY way I was able to live with losing my son. I compartmentalize the pain,bring it out sometimes when i need to,cry,then put it back......I'll get there with my beautiful Riley too❤️
I’ve had my cat for 13 almost 14 years, he’s dying of cancer , I knew this day would come , that he would one day pass , but now that it is actually here, I’m devastated 😢 I will love u forever pacquio 🐈⬛ 😢😪
This comes with such good timing, I’m a mess, I lost my baby girl in my profile picture at the beginning of January and I’m trying so hard to deal with the grief which seems insurmountable. Thank you for all that you do and are and for making such a difficult video, I understand and I’m so sorry for your loss ❤
Of course we’re are devastated when one of our family members dies😔 any family member which includes our beloved pets! Diane just know that your baby girl suffers no more 🙏 and I think we, as pet parents suffer as well 😢we may get over a pet departing earth, but we will never forget them. Just like any family member, it’s devastating, but we go on wishing things wouldn’t be so sad, or the what ifs… that really took a toll on me, but I bounced back, and take my days with the pets I still have as if it was the last one. I really do. Take care hon, we’re not alone! 🙏
Diane I am so sorry for your girl, I know that words are useless, but I hope you can feel the warm big hug I am sending you anyway. Take your time, and let your feelings go. Be patient with yourself, just take it easy, step by step.
So sorry. I lost my best pal (hound dog), and it was absolutely devasting. I cried and cried and cried and I feel for those who have lost their best 4-legged pals. Our 4-leggeds get us through the worst of times and are there through the best of times. What I found out was there wasn't anyone or anything to assist with the loss of my sweet furry friend. It was lonely and trying. Hang in there.
I’m so sorry for your loss hun. I suffer from pet loss a lot cause I take in the abused that have health issues and older animals in their golden years. I have a lot to love and it helps me get thru! They all miss the “family member” not just us! We help each other get by!
Thank you for addressing this. It took me 3 years after her death before I could even look at a picture of my beautiful, loving cat because the loss hurt so much.
I lost my soul cat on 4-25-2023. I can`t look at his pictures either because it hurts so very much! The pain is so severe, that I`m losing my will to want to go on in this life anymore. The passing of my cat, brought me a devastating blow that I can`t recover from. It`s crossed the threshold of all I can bare, I haven't stopped crying since.
WOW 100 % I agree with you. It's not just a cat or a dog. It's a family member that has died . The sooner people try to understand what you have said, the better. When I lost my last cat and someone said it's just a cat. My anger was so bad and the hurt in my heart was so painful. I found my last loss, was my worst as I had my girl princess for over 10 years it made me cry every day. For months even when a friend gave me a little fur baby boy who now is my heart and soul again. Thankyou heaps for what you have put up here on U Tube it's excellent ❤❤
I just lost my most special orange boy (cat) on Friday. We had 13 years together almost 24/7. He brightened my world and I’m so devastated. Thanks for this video
Thank you I came to watch this video right after I got screamed at by someone for breaking down when I got the news that my cat died. It validated my feelings and helped me not feel alone.
Our pets are more precious than anything. I'm not ready for that time but yet I cry when I think of my dog passing and it devastates me to think of it. Sending love and light to all those that are grieving. You are not alone
I'm the same. We have four cats. Oldest is nearing the end of her life. Two of them, I have known since they were kittens… I literally saw the oldest one… The mother… Be born. And I met her daughter when she was a few hours old. And I just don't want to think about when they eventually do passed. Luckily though, they are raw fed, and even though the younger one of the two will be 11 on Friday, and the mother will be 13 in two weeks time, nobody believes me when I tell them because they don't look or act that old. Here's to raw feeding. I do believe they live longer lives in healthier lives when they are fed species appropriate diet.
My brother is talking to me about his dog who is getting old. He is really going to miss him. I think it’s his way of asking me to be there for him when the time comes.
When my cat stopped eating his food and I felt I had to try a new food, I chose raw food. Was it correct? I dont know. At the time I didnt know he had CKD and wasnt conscious of things like phosphorus... But he ate the food, ate really well, put on weight after being practically malnourished and became more mobile. If he ever had arthritis it got better. He lived to 20. Raw seems to help most things, unfortunately not kidneys.
Thank you Dr. Jones. Needed this. Just lost my beloved dog on December 27th. It has been so very hard. Glad to know that I am not alone in my grief. So very sorry for your loss of your beautiful Murray 💙
@@blessedone9129 thank you, same to you. It does get easier although it's so devastating at first. Be easy on yourself, do things that are pampering and nourish your soul right now 💙
Thank you Dr. Jones. My cat, Joy, went to Heaven early yesterday morning. She had been with me for 15 years, just her and I, since I picked her up off of a highway as a very small kitten. You are so right. You are in my prayers. Murray was beautiful.
I'm so sorry for your loss. It is the hardest thing about having pets. They just don't live as long as we do. And it sucks, but you cherish the time you have together because you know it's limited.
Thank you for this video. So sorry for your loss. I enjoyed watching your videos with Murray. I had to make the tough choice to have my 18 year old cat euthanized 4 months ago due to renal failure. I had him since he was born and he was the best cat I ever had, I loved him dearly. I still cry almost every day, feeling depressed and kinda lost at times. He had an amazing life and I will always think of him. To those out there going through the same thing ,thoughts and prayers.🙏🙏
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss of Murray. I lost my dog recently and I hardly go a day without crying. I miss her so much. She was always so healthy and we took a lot of pointers from you. We noticed she wasn’t eating her kibble, but she was still eating the home cooked food we prepared for her. My husband took her to the vet and the vet said she had a loose tooth. We were very surprised because her teeth had always been in good condition. She had it removed and they discovered a mass in the roof of her mouth. They said it was so fast growing that it wasn’t detectable when they found the loose tooth…just a few days earlier. After the surgery, she wouldn’t eat at all. She continued to drink water but nothing else. We even took her to a large university veterinary hospital and they said there was nothing they could do. She had oral melanoma and only lasted 17 days. I really don’t know how she lasted as long as she did without eating, but I guess it was because she was so healthy before the cancer. I am so sad and I am having a difficult time with her death. We had taken such good care of her and it’s so hard to accept. Thank you for addressing the grief we feel in losing our pets.
Thanks for sharing this. My husband and I grieved our first dog together longer than family members. It was 6 years before I could even talk about him without tearing up. Had lost other pets and did not grieve them the same way or near as long. Found out some of my coworkers experienced the same thing. Though they are all precious some pets are so unique they definitely take a bigger chunk of us when they go. My condolences.
Great video I am going through it having lost my 10.5 year old dog a month ago. And as a therapist, I am realizing how little this topic is given attention. It's super hard to go through.
My mom passed away a few weeks ago which was absolutely devastating to me. My Shih Tzu rescue dog knows that I'm grieving and is trying her best to comfort me. I'm convinced that dogs have empathy and also grieve. She misses my mom too. Often times our pets become even more important to us after the loss of a loved one and I'm so glad you made this video because grief is a serious issue. It's not something that everyone can just shake off and move past with ease. 💙
So sorry for the painful loss of your mom. She is watching over you until you meet again. I agree our pets are in tune with our emotions and they also suffer. That's love.
Toby, my cat has been gone just over two months. I see him everywhere, its so hard. Im 86 years old. He was 18 yrs old. I lived with him longer than ANYONE in my life. I miss him so much.
I'm so sorry about Murray. I loved him. He was so sweet. Every time one of my cats died, my legs got really heavy and it was hard to walk. It went on for a long time. And I cried so much I had headaches all the time. I so much dread the day when my boy I have now dies. I don't know how I will be able to stand it. My parents, grandparents and some of my friends have died. It's the same for me whether a human or a cat. So really I'm scared of that day when he dies.
It's been a couple years, but I'm still not over the death of Evie Vendetta. I got her as a newborn puppy at 16. Had her until I was almost 30. She helped me through Grandpa's death, my moms suicide. That dog was my everything. I will never forget her, and I will always love her. It hurts being away from my little bear.
I miss Murray so much. But you miss him more. Hope and pray you will cope well with the loss at your own pace. It is so hard to discuss pet loss with some friends who just don't get it. They would say, "It's just a dog" or "It's just a cat." They would trivialize things if you make mention about your grief. I lost my senior cat to CKD last September and it broke my heart into a million pieces. I closed my online shops for a month to cope with the loss. It helped. It also helped there was one cat lover-friend who understood my pain and listened to my stories of grief. Have at least one person of the kind in your life.
My 15 yr old cat was diagnosed with oral squamous cell carcinoma. I cry daily but haven't given up. I'm treating him with many supplements and a good diet. Unfortunately he can't chew so I'm syringe feeding him. If orvwhwn he does die I can at least say I did everything. So very sorry about Murray and Lewis. It does get harder and a chunk of your heart goes with them. I comfort myself with the knowledge that I will see all of them again. Deepest condolences and hugs to everyone going through this at the moment.🙏💟
Agree, I am 70 and lost my beloved Princess a few years ago and am now living for the 1st time in my life without a pet. At my age I just can’t deal with the heartbreak anymore. To do something with myself (Nurse) I have gone back to working 3rd shift a couple of times a month at a local Retirement Home. Also, to help fall asleep I have an Audible Subscription and will put it on an hour timer and even slow down the speed sometimes to fall asleep. May all Pet Parents be comforted in knowing that others understand and care about the pain of your profound loss. ❤️🙏🏽
I still think about my sweet beautiful chihuahua girl Lala everyday even though it’s been about 3 years. I’m sorry about Murray the goodbyes are always so so hard
I'm sorry for your loss doc. Prayers please for my Chihuahua son Peanut that he feels better soon. He's feeling somewhat better from the past two days Thank God. I Love you
I can say that I been thru the same thing and it isn't easy, in fact, it's very hard to deal with losing a pet. My dog Petey, whom I had adopted only was with us for 4 years. He had a brain tumor and I had to have him euthanized. I still live with my decisions on that fateful day but I knew ot had to be done. I still think about him every day but he lives on in my mind and my heart. RIP Murray and so sorry to hear of your loss Doc!!
Rest in peace Murray. My 17 year old Boston terrier Joon was put to sleep today and I’m in pieces. Absolutely inconsolable at the vet office. I’ve been sobbing nonstop since then and even typing this right now. I feel like nobody in my life understands that losing a animal companion, when you come from a broken home where both parents emotionally neglected you and were abusive, is just so devastating. I lost my one and only safety I ever had growing up. No matter how mean my mother was to me, no matter the horrible things my dad would scream at me, no matter how much they both told me I was a disappointment and never approved of me… I would come to my room and cuddle with her in my bed and for once in my life feel safe. Feel not judged. Feel truly loved and accepted. I would look into her eyes and feel so at peace. I hope she is at peace too, she deserves it after everything she did for me to keep me alive and grounded during my traumatic childhood. I can’t wait to be reunited with my baby Joon someday.
They are our family members. They love us and our faithful to us. Their life matters. They are our friends. I’m so sorry for your loss with Murray. He was wonderful. ❤
I do have to say my vet was awesome when our dogs passed. We got paw print moulds from them and homemade cards mailed to us. I made them into a shadow box with their pictures, paw molds and leashes.
I am so truly sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel. My cat of 18 years just passed on Saturday, January 21, 2023. This video was perfect timing. Thank you so much for all your videos. They are very informative. I learn so much from them. Please keep them coming. Thank you
I lost my dog less than a week ago and I feel so empty without him... He was my best friend, my baby and my love. I hope that this endless pain I'm feeling right now will get better. I miss you so much Hachi, mama loves you❤
So very sorry the your loss of Murray. He had such a loving home with you as his daddy. We will never forget our beloved pets who brought us so much joy, but we try to cope the best way we can. I try to cope by taking care of unwanted cats and dogs and shower them with the same Love that I had given to my two dogs who have passed away. It has been a year now and I still cry, I miss them so very much. They will forever be in my heart as Murray remains in yours . God Bless!
I believe that the pain we feel grieving our beloved pets after they pass is equivalent to how much we loved them when we had them. So when I have moments of deep sadness and despair, I realize that's how my beautiful Lily meant to me. Thank you for your beautiful message Dr. , I found your video in my time of need and it brought me some comfort. I'm so sorry for you loss 😞❤🩹
You are SO right!! We lost our blind, deaf rescued pug Petey 3 months ago, but this is the first time in my entire life ( I'm old!) that I've not had a pet at home to greet me and help me over the loss. Many people have been very supportive and that helps but I still feel devastated. He'd been an abused dog, so it took a few years to get his total trust, but our happiness was that he bonded with us. Don't know how long the incredible sadness will last, but giving him happiness was worth it.
When my husband and I lost our cat we were deeply hurt , my chest hurt so bad from such pain I was feeling, we loved our cat so much he was the light to our lives 😢 I’m so thankful our good friends came to our house that same night and grieved with us they understood how much our cat meant to us and they were just as hurt seeing how much in pain we were and we were all crying together they definitely helped us get through that first night
Dr. Jones no one but the others that love animals like we do understand how devastating looseing a pet is. I'm so sorry you lost Murray recently and I do understand what you are going through Only time passing helps the pain for me but it passes so slow when you need it to speed up during the grieving process.😭
Dr. Jones I'm so sorry for your loss. You have my deepest condolences. I too, just loss a 7-month-old Yorkipoo to cancer. I can't begin to explain the pain I felt. No matter the age of the pet the pain is the same. I've had several pets in my lifetime and the grief was devastating with each one. They are family and the grief process takes time and is definitely necessary to heal. As with every situation in my life, my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ brought me through and healed my hurt. Your videos are such a blessing for me and my pets. They are heartfelt and sincere. I'll be praying for your heart to heal. Speaking for myself and I'm sure most of your UA-cam family, we love and appreciate you. Take care and remember there's no earthly sorrow that heaven can't heal.
I had to have my buddy put down back on the 31st of January due to prostate problems. He was a ten year old Corgi and bonded with me from the day we picked him up. It was horrible to lose him but I think he had a good life. I always tell people I grieve for my pets more than I did for my parents, whom I loved dearly, but who weren't dependent on me every day of their lives. For me pets are a different kind of bond and I'm getting teary eyed just typing this.
Sometime I feel guilty because I think I have had more intense love for my pets, than for family or friends. Was extremely bonded to my old cat Billy Bob. He was 18 when I finally had him euthanized due to lymphoma. It was heart wrenching. After three years, still can't speak about him without crying. I wish I could cope better. Pets bring such joy to your life, but as my pets die off, I am trying not to adopt anymore. Seems as I get older myself, it has become just too traumatizing when I lose them. My sympathies over your loss of Murray.
Yes, I Sat for 10 year some very regular and got attached to some. Some animal are just special and connect in a strong way. I love them all but there is something extra special about one that loves you a lot too.
Thank you for sharing your loss with us Dr Jones despite it being clear that it was still very raw for you. It is clear from the comments that it has helped so many people and also I think so many of the comments have helped other viewers too. We lost our beautiful soul Chandy, an Australian Shepherd with the most gorgeous soul imaginable only last week and we have been pretty much inconsolable - it has been the darkest space imaginable - like a bad dream from which we expect to awaken from any moment. We did feel better today after asking for help in prayer last night, declaring that it was more than we could bear and to have some of the weight lifted from us Having lost several other fur kids in the past it always helped me persoanlly to positively believe that their energy would keep reverberating out into the universe indefinitely and that the antenna of their conscious energy would receive our never ending love and appreciation for their lives and the love they gave to us unconditionally. In that manner they would forever know that their lives were not taken for granted and that they had purpose and meaning Each time too, I have reflected deeply on what exactly it was that each one contributed to our lives to make me a better person - and how I can be even better going forward by better applying what they taught us Grief is a hard hard gig and at the time we think we will never come out of it - just as we are feeling right now. Yet we know we will and I maintain that it is better to have loved and lost someone we love, than to never have loved at all Thank you again for sharing - I am so glad I saw your video tonight. I also hope you are now at a much greater peace after your loss Thank you also to all the beautiful, kind and caring people who have made such valuable, encouraging and loving comments
My Maltese "Candy" was with me for 14 years and she got closer to me than any human. Never turned her back on me. Always so happy to see me. There has never been a worse pain that I have ever felt. I miss her so badly that I didn't eat for the first 3 days. Had to drink to numb the pain. Employer doesn't care. She was the closest being to me and even closer than my own children. Her loss is so profound that I have to make it through each day one day at a time. For those experiencing this grief, please take care of yourself and try to distract yourself as much as possible.
Very sorry for your lost, Murray, I am 67, and having a pet for the first time in my life, she is just a beautiful angel and soul, but unfortunatelly we were told , she is having her final days after being removed two big masses from her brain, I am crying whole time, and I do not know how to cope after precious ten years😢
When people say “it’s just a dog” or “just a cat”, I feel sorry for them. They’ve obviously never experienced the deep, essential love of a beloved animal companion. With great love and joy comes great grief too. As you say, these are legitimate emotions to feel, and the impact of the loss can be profound.
True. It is sad they will never know how wonderful a fur baby is and how deeply we love them.
Fortunately ,for them,no one has ever said that to me.
I don't feel sorry for them. I see them as kinda callous and not capable of loving animals and I pray they won't ever get one for the sake of the dog, cat, and any other pet.
@WHATEVER GOES FOR ME You know it's funny, but I've personally known two people who couldn't stand cats. In both instances, cats chose each of them and boy what an attitude adjustment. However, it's probably not typical, and, as you mentioned, I hope anyone incapable of loving an animal never gets one.
@@rouxchat6033 There are some people who think they don't like a cat or a dog until they were kinda forced to adopt one and eventually became good pet carers. However, there are many who couldn't care less like some people I know (neighbors) and they actually have dogs or cats but the humans neglect and abuse their dogs/cats. Some of them got a dog just to have a guard for their house while some got a cat to catch mice/rats but when these animals got sick, the owners did not give them the care the animals badly needed. My blood boils whenever I see this because these humans let their pets die (or even kill them) and also abandon them by dropping the kittens elsewhere or no longer letting their dogs inside their residences. Right now, I am feeding these neglected cats and dogs (who are roaming our streets) even though my family has already 7 dogs and 4 cats.
I think the most comforting part of losing a pet is knowing that I made sure they had a fantastic life. To know that I did my very best and that I have lots of good memories of them. Then, as sad as it is, I know my pet had a great life and that is , in itself reassuring.
I've lost my cat a week ago, and the pain is real. I miss her terribly. She was not "just a cat" for me; she was the first pet I called mine; she was the daughter I haven't had; she was my center. It was painful to let her go but the pain she was in was visible and had become more and more a real part of her day. We have decided to euthanize her, and seeing her lifeless body on her pillow was so hard. We, pet owners, have to go through this pain in our lives, and letting our beloved pet go is not something minor. We need to be strong. I miss my cat everyday. It's been sad; I know this feeling will get better as time goes, but still hurts.
My dog has been living at my uncles place on his farm, i went out to visit him the other day and he was such a sweetheart, tail wagging, tongue lolling, he was quite literally jumping with joy to see me and I just got a text message that he died in his sleep. Almost no warning signs other than a bit of an upset tummy for just over a day. I haven't stopped crying all day and I dont think im going to feel better for a while. He was buried with his favourite blanket in the field, after a life full of sleeping on leather couches and kisses. His fur didn't even have a chance to turn grey yet. See you across the rainbow bridge someday Hank
I am a retired tough skinned nurseryman from England. I have never found losing any of my dogs easy. I lost my mother about 10 years ago, which was sad but she was old and crackers to be frank. It was nothing compared to the utter devastation on having my last old Jack Russell (I always have three on the go) put to sleep…..the pain was utterly crippling…..I have two other old ones now (featured with on the Plantsmans corner channel) who’s time is coming and I dread it. However, confessing the pain of losing the dog was worse than losing my mother is somewhat embarrassing, and I know most folk will see it as disrespectful or cold. But it’s the truth and the pain is so different because of the trust they have in you that you can make everything right for them. You see it in their eyes, love, faith, and trust. It is so utterly heart-wrenching. Thank you for your channel and advice. Best wishes from the UK……Malcolm
i feel the same way malcolm,i lost my baby girl cat eddie yesteday after 13 years she was the love of my life and always will be
I think that anyone who has lost a pet probably feels much the same way. It is often much harder than losing a person.
My 14 year dog passed away recently due to old age but by the time he was alive, little did I know that the last time I would see him would be our last goodbye in that day. 💔 I appreciated the unconditional love he gave me during the years and I know he's in a better place now. 🕊️ His wings might have been ready, but my heart wasn't.
I send love and peace to all, missing their pets who have passed on.
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I’m sorry for your loss…it’s devastating to lose them…💔😭
i quit my job when my dog of 13 yrs died after a long battle with bone cancer, i had to take so much time off, and i didnt give a crap what anyone thought. jobs are a dime a dozen, my dog wasnt. he was with me 24/7 we seen British Columbia north to south on our roadtrips. i will miss him, loosing Herman was the same pain as loosing my dad and im NOT ashamed to say that.
RIP to both of the men in my life. I hope you are running together in heaven. :( xoxo
thanks for sharing. i totally understand. because my dad went downhill over 10 yrs his death was not hard. my dog's death is really hard.
I absolutely understand. Thank you for posting.
Amen ❤ my heart hurts so bad from losing my little Ginger. I know she’s in Heaven and we’ll see them with our family again. People that don’t have animals or never experienced the love in a dogs eyes don’t get it!
@@michiperkins144so true! My wife and I are grieving over the loss of our female cocker spaniel, she was our baby 😢
There's no shame in unconditional love.
My cat died 5 days ago. Honestly, it has been a hard week. I've cried every time I think about him. No one seems to understand the pain and sadness I feel. All I can do is remain grateful to God for the moments spent. Thank you for this video. ❤
we understand sending you love and blessings for your healing 💝
I and many others like me know your pain because we are going through the same pain. We know.
How are you feeling now after 5 months? I hope the joy you shared with your cat is now dominant over the pain of loss. I just lost my best friend, tabby male, 14yo. We have been travelling together for the past two years. I have his sister also. We both are so devastated with the void we feel now. I know it is ‘good’ to feel the pain/grief. Please tell me it gets better? Many blessings to your beloved ❤.
My Tuxie Tinkie died 9 months ago, and I miss him every single day. There are still days I can barely function. Time heals, they say. How much time I wonder. I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby. We all understand your pain😢
Many of us understand. I hope you went out and adopted a rescue.
I lost my baby 2 days ago. It’s so weird waking up and she’s not scratching at my bedroom door for food, or pulling the bathroom door open while I’m on the toilet. Oh god I miss her so much.
The older you get, the harder the loss. Prayers for all those that experience this sadness.
so true, it feels so disabling and reduces my life experience to a deep hollow heaviness in the heart and solar plexus. Nothing relieves the ache and when I forget about it for a half hour or so suddenly I let out these screams of horror for the inability to feel the fur, touch the paws and enjoy the soft fur of my young cat Itty who I found ravaged in my garden after going missing for 4 days. I have lost quite a few animals over the years but this one is the worst of all, cuts way deep into my guts and I have to wail out the pain in ungodly wrenching sounds.
@Dune My heart pounds for your loss, Its been so difficult because 5 days later out of the blue my 12 year old cat had a stroke and died in my arms 2 hours later. He was screaming horrible sounds. I am like ptsd from these two horrible images I am left with and I am still bewildered why they were taken in two separate incidents and wretched ways. And yet we give ourselves wholeheartedly yet again and again. Blessings and Peace to our raw hearts and traumatized minds.
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so so true!
@@dune8943 And this is it, they go so quickly. Cat's are very good at hiding pain.
I find the loss of a dog far more difficult than any human. Thanks for talking about this.
And it should be
I feel same way
That's because rhey don't talk, they don't judge. They just love us unconditionally and endlessly
Same with cats. I've had both and see no way out of my beloved Thai Konja cat passing so suddenly two weeks ago today.
Me too. My cat just died, and I have never felt this way about a human, not even close. I am destroyed with grief.
I don't think it gets any easier....and it's not supposed to. But with age and wisdom you grow to appreciate the lives they led and what they taught. Every creature in my life has taught me something and still lives in my heart.
I agree totally with all you have said and remember each and everyone of mine.
Perfectly said I agree I have had dogs of all sizes. It's interesting their personality s are different also. they have been my best companions
I think it actually gets harder. I know it has for me especially the older you get.
I agree it doesn't get easier, but it is something we have to accept as part of the bargain we make for the love and companionship of our pets. I try to give my pets, usually rescues, a good life so that I feel they've gotten something from me in their shorter lives. This was especially true when I took in guinea pigs for 20 years. Now I'm back to all cats ( and one gecko) average age 13years, so I know it will be difficult for me in the coming years.
@@donabeth4561 It does. Losing a dog at 32 was harder than losing a dog at 16. I understood death, sure, but for some reason it’s hitting me 10x harder this time. And I loved both dogs dearly.
I was fortunate that my employer gave me 7 days off when my Lola passed. With pay(listed as sick leave),I thank the entire office and flowers send to me telling me me how much cared,they were all pet ownerd
My service dog Noble died last Saturday. I have never experienced euthanasia. When he left a huge part of me did also. The struggle is real. Family doesn’t understand the depth of my grief. 10 years was not enough so many wonderful experiences. Sorry for all who have lost their baby.❤🐾
My pet loves me more now that my ex did for 26 years.
He greets me at the door every day when I come home from work.
Now that's true 'unconditional love's'.
I only just lost my eldest dog Sage earlier today. She had to be taken to the vet to be put down. She was 15 years old and had gone blind, deaf, with dementia. Its been a really tough day for the whole family 😢. I can't stop crying. And now the atmosphere in the house has changed. Especially since theres suddenly only one dog instead of two. They were half brother & Sister, two years apart. Even though her end was expected to happen soon and we were prepared for it, everything feels very strange. Miss you Sage (Sweet LillyBean) ❤️🩹🐾😭🐕
I am so sorry to read of your dog Sage. I lost my cat Jacob 3 weeks ago. I know what you mean about the house is all different.
@@julegate Thankyou for kind words. It is hard to say goodbye to our animals. I am sorry for your loss of Jacob for cat.
@@mh.blue_swish25 Thank you so much.
Strange timing, I’ve been inconsolable as the vet is coming tomorrow evening to put my beloved German Shepherd down. Almost made it to 12, but lost the ability to walk and is in pain. My almost 19 year old cat will soon follow😢.
Love to all missing their pets who have passed on.
Stay strong dear one, my heart goes out to you. It is a horrible price we have to pay for the love of our beloved pets. God bless you and your precious🐕🦺🐱. ❤️🇦🇺
Aw prayers to your kitty and sorry about your sweet doggie. The similar thing happened to my baby Kiba she was injured accidentally after a fence fell on her and she too lost her ability to walk and was in pain. 😞 Not to mention she was really old too with health issues . I haven't been the same since she left us 3 weeks ago 💔
love back to you and I'm so sorry for you loss ❤🩹🫂
We know how you feel. Hang in there.
So sorry that Murray passed. My 6 lb chihuahua Missy died in 2018 and I still cry every time I talk about her. My precious 10 1/2 year old Min pin Buddy passed on this month, January 11. I cried almost non stop for 3 days. I just barely started leaving the house. We did everything together. My heart is broken. To me they are family and the grieving is enormous. God Bless you all
It takes time. I lost my last dog 10 years ago in April. It is only in the last few months when I have even begun to entertain the possibility of getting another dog. It's not time in my life to do it yet, but at least I am open in my heart to that possibility now. Mind you, it took me about 9 1/2 years and the love of somebody's Cavalier King Charles Spaniel to get there.
Thank you for sharing. I lost my beloved dog Pumpkin a few months ago and I am broken. I feel so guilty that I took her to our local vet and she died in their care and they were so heartless with her. I keep remembering our last car ride and how excited she was, and now she’s gone. I still cry for her most nights, she used to sleep with me. I am childless and she was truly my baby. She gave me so much love and affection I felt so blessed and loved. It pains my heart that most people can’t understand the depth of loss and grief I carry for my baby. I absolutely love dogs, they are heaven sent but I can’t fathom getting another dog because of the heartbreak that will come and I feel like I’m betraying Pumpkin. They say it’s better to have loved and lost however to me the loss is far greater 😢 take care mate, hope you’re getting better 🫶
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I got a new dog a month after my little bichon passed away 4 years ago for me it was right because I could not cope a second without her I thought I would lose my mind ,but I still cry everything she is mentioned.the pain never stops
People can't understand why I am not into taking pics or looking at them. I don't really like looking at pics where a loved one, human or pet, is no longer with us because I relive the pain of their passing every time I look at the pics. I'd rather not think of them because when I remember a pet that passed away, even though it has been decades already, I still feel down and especially if that pet was someone who was so special because even though we should not play favorites, there are always this dog or cat that has a special charm just like Murrray.
When I was a kid, I used to think it must have got easier to cope with losing a pet. But man, it gets so much tougher. And some pets hold a more special place in your heart than others, and they're with you all the time.
I recently lost my cat Beau. He was only ten, but cancer of the tongue is very quick. I did not have much time to get used to the idea that it was fatal before he was gone. He was my constant companion, followed me like a dog, came when I called him. He was one of those super intelligent cats who understood so many words and sentences. I loved him. I found the feeling thankful for the time that we had together and for the fact that we found each other at all was the best medicine for me. Remembering all of our good times together oh, how funny he looked sleeping on his back all the time. His beautiful blue eyes. He slept on me and next to me every single night. Fortunately I took a great many wonderful pictures of him. I will love him forever. He is not the first cat that I have loved and lost. But, this time it hurts more than it ever has. I think it's because we had an extra special connection.
Sorry, 🙏 Same here, my 18 yo kitty would followed me ,Sat & slept near me Tried to talk to me, pat my face and react to me saying I love you. I miss him so much he was so smart & special. It's very hard, but hope to see him again one day. I know God knows how special pets are .
My Tinker had almost the exact same situation. I raised her from a newborn (found a box of kittens in a dumpster and she was the only living one) and I told her every day that I would love her forever after her diagnosis. She was extremely special to me. She was much more than a cat to me, she was my best friend and like the daughter that I never had. I do try to remember the good times but after 3 months the grief still comes in waves. Thank you for sharing about Beau, he sounds like a one of a kind kitty. I hope that you are in a better place now and I wish you much happiness and time to share love with other animals.
All of your kitties sound like special beings. I just lost my special Manny of 14yo. I have his sister thankfully who is healthy. We both have sinkholes in our hearts. I pray all the love, laughter, tenderness, adventures, etc begin to pour in and seal that crevice. Many blessings to those that have loved and lost- the word pet is so empty-lost a loved one. ❤
I’m retired military and retired federal wildlife officer….throughout almost 5 decades, I was responsible for leading, supervising, managing people. I always made it a point, to get to KNOW, those that I had responsibility -organizationally speaking-for. I tried to know them as men and women, versus “assets”. That required knowing something of their backgrounds, their interests…and of course their personal lives. I always knew, when those men and women had close bonds with animals…indeed those that did, were some of the best men and women I had the pleasure of knowing and working with. I always treated loss of a dog, cat…even horses….once I knew of the animal’s passing…I treated it “seriously”. In my line of works, both military and law enforcement…if their hearts and minds weren’t in the game, it put those of us that worked with them, and the public in some instances, at risk. I always allowed them whatever time they needed to rebound. Sometimes, that meant “time on the beach” (yep, I’m Navy), time in the office, or just time to themselves. Also, while in some cases, I think that I did, I tried hard NOT to say “I know how you feel”…rather saying “that makes me sad, too….take whatever time you need”. I never felt that anyone abused that….and I always felt that my people had my back, just as I watched out for their “six”. Good reminder, Doc….to feel for those around us.
When I lost my first horse, years ago, I was absolutely devastated. I called in 'sick' the following day, and when my 'stand-in' boss pressed a bit harder, I had to tell him I had had my horse euthanized, and needed a day or two to collect myself, at least. He wouldn't let me take it, so I went into work and was an emotional mess for several days. It was horrible. When my regular boss got back from his vacation, and I told him what had happened, he said HE'D had given me the day off, or however many I needed, and done my courier route for me. Now THAT'S a good boss, right there. I've never forgotten the kindness and compassion of the man. His 'stand-in' always was a bit of a jerk....!!!
I lost my dog 2 weeks ago and my Chief was caring and kind enough to let me take the rest of the week home to grieve, if I had to go to work that week I wouldn't have been much help anyway, my heart was physically hurting in my chest, but though I miss him I'm comforted that he isn't suffering anymore.
I've had many pets over the years. Each time, it gets harder and harder, as it chips away another piece of me. Paying this toll is how we get to be part of these beautiful souls' lives. Yes, they do have souls. Nobody can change my mind on this. Losing one is losing a family member.
So true 😢
Absolutely, they have souls!❤
I think as you age, you just appreciate things more.
Especially the things that actually Put Up With US 😇🐕🦺🥰
... i sure miss My Pal Hal 🥺
"Paying this toll is how we get to be part of these beautiful souls lives" ... this is what i was looking for. I've never heard that before, thank you.
Thank you for putting this much needed conversation out there. I just lost my cat Miles, and the grief is real, and just as intense (if not more) as the loss of human family. I did not attend any Thanksgiving or Christmas celebrations because I just didn't feel like it, and quite frankly, didn't want to hear anyone imply my feelings are not valid. Miles was my family, and I will always miss him.
Thank you again, and, I am very sorry for the loss of your beloved Murray.
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I am very sorry, dear Erin, your Miles will forever be in your hear, with your love and the memories you shared.
Your comment made me realize that we are similar.
For me, losing a pet is way more intense than losing a loved one. The bond is incredibly strong and deep, and it can't be explained with words. With humans, you have words to communicate with, to let them know that you care, that you get what they are going through and when the final time comes, words have already been shared, or at least there is nothing incomprehensible going on.
With pets, you can't talk about the future, you can't talk about diseases or procedures, with pets the most important thing is the present. And if you're not there when they need you, nothing else matters.
I completely understand why you skipped the celebrations, especially if the people around do not take your grieving seriously, which is very immature and definitely not empathetic.
Please, take your time to grieve and do not feel pressured to "make it happen fast" or feel invalidated, because you have every right to feel like you're feeling.
Take care of yourself, I wish you all the best
So sorry 😞
It is so tough. Many people don’t understand how devastated pet parents are over the lose.The unconditional love our fur baby’s provide is such a GREAT GIFT ! And having the trust our fur babies have that we will be their to provide there every need creates a bond like no other!!!!!! I lost one of my fur babies over 12 years ago and not one day goes buy I don’t think of her!!! Sometimes it with sorrow others with a faint smile thinking of her unique ways of showing love! I’m so sorry for your loss! Sending prayers and Blessings!❤
So sorry for your loss. They are our life to some of us. My little 19 year chihuahua has been with me since she was a puppy and she has always slept in bed with me every night and has been through it it all with me. She has helped me get through the rough times of my life and I know I will be absolutely devastated when she is no longer with me. They aren’t just pets. Some people will never sadly understand and will always just see them as that.
Lost my girl of 14 1/2 years almost a week ago. I’ve cried so hard everyday. I feel as if my life was shattered. I’ve been completely devastated. The agony of losing a pet is real. Losing her was more detestation than any human loss I’ve ever had to experience
I`m so sorry for your loss. I lost my little boy Scrunchie, a 9 year old Tabby cat on 4-25-2023. I haven`t stopped crying since. I had such a severe emotional breakdown that I wound up in the Emergency Room for 6 hours on 7-28-2023. The excruciating pain we feel when we lose a faithful, and true companion, whether it be a dog or a cat, seems absolutely unbearable!!
I could have written this. One week since Lady died and I'm just crushed.
I just lost my soul dog. Less than a week ago. I'm seeking information because this is unbearable. How are you feeling now, 6 months later?
I know. I feel the same way about my beloved dog.
@@meloearth I don't know about tsescoe or jamminjoe44 or judithgee7011, but I know how I feel about the loss of my dog 8 months ago. I still have breathing difficulty at times. Some days are better. The pain is bone-deep. I've been taking the dopamine-serotonin combo pill I ordered on Amazon. I also ordered some oxygen canisters to help with breathing. I don't notice much difference. I am not sure if it's helping me or not. At least, my symptoms are not getting worse. This is coming from a guy who had been in good health.
For the first 3 months, it was really hard for me - the deep sense of hopelessness and despair was simply overwhelming and debilitating. One ray of hope for me is that I had the foresight to preserve her genetic information to bring her back in the future. I sent away her tissue samples immediately after my dog's death, to a gene bank to freeze them until needed. It cost me $1600. I know I will see my dog again, but it's still hard even after 8 months. Maybe my depression improved 5% compared to 8 months ago. It's a long hard road until I see my beloved dog again.
We had to lay our 17 yo cat to rest on 10/29/23, seven and a half months ago. My soul hurts and my grief is right under the surface. When I talk about him, my eyes fill with tears immediately. I feel the pain of everyone who has lost a pet. 😢
I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a pet is incredibly hard, and it's okay to feel the pain. Your cat brought so much love into your life, and it's natural to grieve deeply. 🙏
I cannot even go down the dog food, treats, toys aisles in stores because my eyes fill with tears. It has been 2 years that my precious dog Sophie lost her battle with congestive heart failure. She was 14 years old. Her constant companion and BFF Emmy my cat followed her to Heaven just weeks after Sophie. She also was 14. The loss of those 2 girls left me with such sadness even though I have taken in a couple homeless cats. These new cats do help me.
I share your grief dear!
OMG! I'm so sorry. I lost my 2 cats only 4 months apart. It's hard enough to lose 1 but to not even get over the grief of one, you lose the other. It's so painful. I know exactly how you feel.
Sorry for your loss 😢
I do know how you feel exactly. You're not alone. You're grieving because you loved your animals We just had to put down our 15 year old Corgi yesterday. I also won't go down those aisles. My pain is physical and mental. She was my dog/daughter. Will love her forever. People who love animals are the best people. Sending you a hug I hope you can feel it.
@@omersarikaya6370 So sorry for your painful loss. 😥
My profile is "Old Cat" 21yro calico. Buried under apple tree. One third of my life time, she was when she died. Longtime friends are long-time mourned, gratefully appreciated, as our memory serves us. Thank you Dr. Jones💞😪🙏
The pain of loss is huge.
It hurts so bad. All of us who love our pets know that pain. I still cry when I think about my pets that have died.
I’ve had the privilege of having dogs in my life since being a young girl. Each one was so very special to me and when they passed, they took a piece of my heart with them. My Lab, Kody, passed away three years ago and it took me that long to open up my broken heart again to another dog who desperately needed a home and love. The grief from our pets’ passing is very real and anyone who doesn’t understand this has never been loved unconditionally by a creature who thinks you are his whole world.
I feel the same. First time it took me more then 15 years to have another puppy! I’ve just lost my baby last December again. She was only 7 years old! Heart problem, liver problem and kidneys of the result of early sterilization at 7 months old and because of parasites preventive drugs control and other mistakes done by the vet recommendations! Now I hate myself and cannot forgive but it’s too late! I wished I would meet back of that days, honest and professional veterinarian like this one...
One of my neighbors always used to say he was sorry when one of my pet passed
but until he lost his own dog, he never realized the loss
But you have to understand they’re always with you. I’ve been in contact with them frequently they’re there. Until we meet again❤
I grieved more for my dog than for many people. Still miss her.
As I miss my little son Kimball who died a year ago. My soul is lonely. 💔
We lost our Mr Katt a few years ago, suddenly fell seriously ill and pretty much gone when I got him to the vet. The Vet had to put him down. He was 20 and was an awesome cat! BUT, as I was dealing with that I got a text from my husband, he was on duty and one of the pilots came in with a very tiny ball of fighting fur that they pulled out from under one of the vehicles. Someone had to throw it over the fence because it was a secure FAA area. She was only about 6 oz...so tiny. I was heartbroken about Mr Katt but felt the need to go to the hangar and get this little kitten to safety. We brought her home and named her Chopper....I think Katt knew I needed her and it was meant to be. We will always miss him.
The grief of losing a loved pet is real. They give us love and joy, unconditionally. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I lost my Chihuahua Rosie she was 16 years old she died on November 22 2022 it not only affected me affected my other dogs I think of her everyday I miss her so
Loving condolences to you. I had 4 kittens delivered to my door for fostering Thursday before Mother's Day 2008. They saved my life. After 6 mos, I was allowed to keep 2; Scowt & Clovis On Nov. 21, 2022, the stronger suddenly had heart attack. December 2, had to euthanize Clovis. She was already declining, but after Scowt's sudden & violent loss, Clovis went out searching, waiting, laying her timid self to wide open world , but no Scowt. Dec. 2, she could barely lift her head. Vet gave sedative & left room, but suddenly, Clovis reared up yowling, blue eyes rolling & turning brown; frantically clawing at- & chomping into canvas kennel. I was paralyzed. I had been about to embrace her & try to say Love you, thank you, God be with you & take my baby to heaven. Had I not just raised up to settle her after injection of prep sedative, she would have ripped my face & bitten me (inadvertantly, of course), so violent was the HELL that ensued. My thought was immediately of something being burned alive. So much for alleviating misery. I am tormented day & night. I am devastated. Still. And furious at whatever went wrong, which vet did not see & called "twitching." She was so tender, so weak, clinging to life just to love. Her end was hideous. Sometimes I am sure I will die of this grief.
I’m so sorry you went through that that must of been and still is heart breaking for you,I was going to take my Rosie to put her down because she had stop eating and she was so weak and in pain but when I checked on her she had passed away my heart just hurts for her.are pets are are family I will be praying for you 😔
I had my boxer dog put to sleep yesterday and despite knowing it was going to be sad, and distressing, i didn't expect to feel the level of grief I have. Seeing videos like this, and reading the comments, gives me a small sense of reassurance and warmth. Big love to all you animal lovers going through some sort of grief right now. ❤
we can't get used to the loss of our little earth angels.
Hugs to all who still feel this loss.
its been 3 years and i still burst into tears every day people don't realise how attached you can get my moses was very disabled and i did everything for him i never left his side ever so i took it very hard when i lost him to cancer . i tried to get another dog this year but couldn't handle it so my daughter now has a beautiful puppy . i don't think i will get another dog i cant get over loosing my beloved moses.
I’m so sorry about your Murray. Pet loss does feel worse to many of us. I believe it’s because of the unconditional love and companionship. They don’t betray us like humans can and no matter how bad (or good) our day is our pets are always there, looking up at us with their soulful eyes and a smile, giving us their all. ❤️
Perfectly said.
Just lost my dog Brady after adopting him 13yrs ago from a shelter. He was maybe 1 years old or younger but the grief is allot more than expected. I'm 62 & cry & weep off & on since, i miss him terribly and I'm thankful I've had him around along time & know it will take some time. The pain is real, more than losing my mom, dad, close uncle & can't explain it. I wasn't ready yet, i know it's selfish & I'll never forget my sweet gentle friend 😢
We lost our family dog, Rimshot, a few months ago. We got him just before I found out we were pregnant with our first child. I did home births with all 3 of my children and he was in the house for each one, so my kids met him within the first few hours of being born. He was their stool, mess cleaner, watch dog, cuddle bug, and so much more. I have a video of my oldest "fixing" Rimshot...he was using his toy drill and saw on him and he was just laying there letting him. He played dress up with my daughter and snuck into food with my youngest. The other day, while on a drive, my youngest, who is 4, said, "I'm hugging Rimshot because I'm hugging myself and he lives in my heart."
😢😢😢 that is the sweetest, ever!!!
That’s the best thing I’ve ever heard. Brilliant! That little girl had the quote “I’m hugging myself because” he lives in my heart😢” perfect!!
I'm so glad I ran across this .... we just lost our dog three weeks ago and I swear we are worse off now than when he first died. We are crushed! At first, I thought we would get another dog, but after seeing how hard we are taking his death, I'm not so sure I could survive another loss. I've read that dogs are great for the elderly. I don't know. Hate to say it, but I've taken our dog's loss harder than any other close relative. The feelings are very overwhelming.
Thank you for this video. My Woodson passed away 12/06/22. He was 10. It's been extremely hard as this is my 1st time loosing a pet. I'm to the point where I don't cry everyday. I will never forget him & I keep his things around me. I also have his ashes. Grieving has no time limit.
Just had to put my Allie down yesterday, had her almost 12 years. Cancer took her, ripped me and my wife’s heart out. I’ve cried a lot, I’m thankful she’s not hurting but I would give anything to hold her and kiss her head
I'm sorry.
I had a special relationship with my cat Elijah. The loss of him at age 10 from kidney failure in Nov last year was devastating. I still think of him everyday. The rest of the world moves on but my heart is still hurting. Thanks for bringing awareness to this. I was sad to hear you had lost Murray. I can so relate to how you are feeling. 😢
Yeah, I lost my cat last year in May at the age of 10. He was always very healthy then all of a sudden he started having diarrhea. After a few months of me and the vet trying to figure out what is going on, he started going downhill fast and lost a lot of weight. Already a thin cat and got even thinner. They finally realized that he probably had cancer cause he was going down hill so fast. I thought I would have my Spencer for many many years cause he was my healthy cat that never needed to go to the vet. All of his check ups were always good. But goes to show that you never know how quickly bad health can creep up on you. He was my baby that I will always miss.
My granddaughter and I still cry when we reminisce about her first horse, who had such a great impact on her life…and that was 10 years ago! At least we share the grief and have each other to cry with. I’m so sorry about Murray and understand your grief 💕
I've shared my life with,and lost many dogs over the years. I've also lost a 13 year old child,and although there's no grief or pain to ever equal the loss of a child(10 years later and it's still as raw as the day it happened)the closest thing to that has been the loss of my dog beautiful pit/lab mix Riley,,14 months ago. I can't seem to get past it. She was without a doubt the best dog I ever had,sweet,kind,sensitive. She was there for me when I lost my son. Her fur soaked up many tears lol
I feel stupid bc "it's just a dog" and "how can you compare the death of a dog to the death of your son" .........I know.
What helps is learning to live WITH the grief,but still have a happy,healthy life. It's not easy,and I'm not there yet when it comes to Riley. But,it's the ONLY way I was able to live with losing my son. I compartmentalize the pain,bring it out sometimes when i need to,cry,then put it back......I'll get there with my beautiful Riley too❤️
May peace eventually be with you, my friend. Love from England x
@@Turrican60 ❤️thank you,and to you as well......
I’ve had my cat for 13 almost 14 years, he’s dying of cancer , I knew this day would come , that he would one day pass , but now that it is actually here, I’m devastated 😢 I will love u forever pacquio 🐈⬛ 😢😪
Sorry about the loss of Murray. I've lost several dogs & 3 cats in my life. It's always a shock. God Bless you & Murray.
This comes with such good timing, I’m a mess, I lost my baby girl in my profile picture at the beginning of January and I’m trying so hard to deal with the grief which seems insurmountable. Thank you for all that you do and are and for making such a difficult video, I understand and I’m so sorry for your loss ❤
I'm sorry Diane for your loss
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Of course we’re are devastated when one of our family members dies😔 any family member which includes our beloved pets! Diane just know that your baby girl suffers no more 🙏 and I think we, as pet parents suffer as well 😢we may get over a pet departing earth, but we will never forget them. Just like any family member, it’s devastating, but we go on wishing things wouldn’t be so sad, or the what ifs… that really took a toll on me, but I bounced back, and take my days with the pets I still have as if it was the last one. I really do. Take care hon, we’re not alone! 🙏
Diane I am so sorry for your girl, I know that words are useless, but I hope you can feel the warm big hug I am sending you anyway. Take your time, and let your feelings go. Be patient with yourself, just take it easy, step by step.
So sorry. I lost my best pal (hound dog), and it was absolutely devasting. I cried and cried and cried and I feel for those who have lost their best 4-legged pals. Our 4-leggeds get us through the worst of times and are there through the best of times. What I found out was there wasn't anyone or anything to assist with the loss of my sweet furry friend. It was lonely and trying. Hang in there.
I’m so sorry for your loss hun. I suffer from pet loss a lot cause I take in the abused that have health issues and older animals in their golden years. I have a lot to love and it helps me get thru! They all miss the “family member” not just us! We help each other get by!
Thank you for taking care of the abused, and those with health issues. You my dear have a big heart, and someday will be compensated 🙏❤️
You are a wonderful person.
@@alvaroq2024 the love in their eyes is enough compensation 🌹❤️when my heart hurts, tells me they did their job when I have to say good bye!
Thank you for addressing this. It took me 3 years after her death before I could even look at a picture of my beautiful, loving cat because the loss hurt so much.
I lost my soul cat on 4-25-2023. I can`t look at his pictures either because it hurts so very much! The pain is so severe, that I`m losing my will to want to go on in this life anymore. The passing of my cat, brought me a devastating blow that I can`t recover from. It`s crossed the threshold of all I can bare, I haven't stopped crying since.
We here, know how important this is. Many times our beloved pets are closer to us than even some of our human family members. God bless them all🙏❤️🇦🇺
WOW 100 % I agree with you. It's not just a cat or a dog. It's a family member that has died . The sooner people try to understand what you have said, the better. When I lost my last cat and someone said it's just a cat. My anger was so bad and the hurt in my heart was so painful. I found my last loss, was my worst as I had my girl princess for over 10 years it made me cry every day. For months even when a friend gave me a little fur baby boy who now is my heart and soul again. Thankyou heaps for what you have put up here on U Tube it's excellent ❤❤
I just lost my most special orange boy (cat) on Friday. We had 13 years together almost 24/7. He brightened my world and I’m so devastated. Thanks for this video
So sorry for your loss. Big hugs 🤗
Thank you I came to watch this video right after I got screamed at by someone for breaking down when I got the news that my cat died. It validated my feelings and helped me not feel alone.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m really glad the video could offer some comfort during such a tough time.
Our pets are more precious than anything. I'm not ready for that time but yet I cry when I think of my dog passing and it devastates me to think of it. Sending love and light to all those that are grieving. You are not alone
I'm the same. We have four cats. Oldest is nearing the end of her life. Two of them, I have known since they were kittens… I literally saw the oldest one… The mother… Be born. And I met her daughter when she was a few hours old. And I just don't want to think about when they eventually do passed. Luckily though, they are raw fed, and even though the younger one of the two will be 11 on Friday, and the mother will be 13 in two weeks time, nobody believes me when I tell them because they don't look or act that old. Here's to raw feeding. I do believe they live longer lives in healthier lives when they are fed species appropriate diet.
My brother is talking to me about his dog who is getting old. He is really going to miss him. I think it’s his way of asking me to be there for him when the time comes.
Cherish every single moment.
When my cat stopped eating his food and I felt I had to try a new food, I chose raw food. Was it correct? I dont know. At the time I didnt know he had CKD and wasnt conscious of things like phosphorus... But he ate the food, ate really well, put on weight after being practically malnourished and became more mobile. If he ever had arthritis it got better. He lived to 20.
Raw seems to help most things, unfortunately not kidneys.
Thank you Dr. Jones. Needed this. Just lost my beloved dog on December 27th. It has been so very hard. Glad to know that I am not alone in my grief. So very sorry for your loss of your beautiful Murray 💙
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That's the same day I lost my boy. I hope you are taking care of yourself right now. It is very hard at first. My condolences 💙
You are in my prayers.
@@Anon_E_Muss you are in my prayers.
@@blessedone9129 thank you, same to you. It does get easier although it's so devastating at first. Be easy on yourself, do things that are pampering and nourish your soul right now 💙
Thank you Dr. Jones. My cat, Joy, went to Heaven early yesterday morning. She had been with me for 15 years, just her and I, since I picked her up off of a highway as a very small kitten. You are so right. You are in my prayers. Murray was beautiful.
God bless you🙏
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I'm so sorry for your loss. It is the hardest thing about having pets. They just don't live as long as we do. And it sucks, but you cherish the time you have together because you know it's limited.
@@milanka882 thank you
I had the death of a bearded dragon today, he been there all my childhood. I'm trying to stay strong and so should you. Stay safe, god bless
Thank you for this video. So sorry for your loss. I enjoyed watching your videos with Murray. I had to make the tough choice to have my 18 year old cat euthanized 4 months ago due to renal failure. I had him since he was born and he was the best cat I ever had, I loved him dearly. I still cry almost every day, feeling depressed and kinda lost at times. He had an amazing life and I will always think of him. To those out there going through the same thing ,thoughts and prayers.🙏🙏
My beautiful cat Heidi passed away 2 days ago. I had her for around 17 years. She was such a happy and beautiful soul.. she will live on in my heart ❤
I'm so sorry , cats are such beautiful souls ❤
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss of Murray. I lost my dog recently and I hardly go a day without crying. I miss her so much. She was always so healthy and we took a lot of pointers from you. We noticed she wasn’t eating her kibble, but she was still eating the home cooked food we prepared for her. My husband took her to the vet and the vet said she had a loose tooth. We were very surprised because her teeth had always been in good condition. She had it removed and they discovered a mass in the roof of her mouth. They said it was so fast growing that it wasn’t detectable when they found the loose tooth…just a few days earlier. After the surgery, she wouldn’t eat at all. She continued to drink water but nothing else. We even took her to a large university veterinary hospital and they said there was nothing they could do. She had oral melanoma and only lasted 17 days. I really don’t know how she lasted as long as she did without eating, but I guess it was because she was so healthy before the cancer. I am so sad and I am having a difficult time with her death. We had taken such good care of her and it’s so hard to accept. Thank you for addressing the grief we feel in losing our pets.
When my dogs died, I shed endless tears. I never shed a tear for my family members. Yes I love my dogs more than my own family.
Thanks for sharing this. My husband and I grieved our first dog together longer than family members. It was 6 years before I could even talk about him without tearing up. Had lost other pets and did not grieve them the same way or near as long. Found out some of my coworkers experienced the same thing. Though they are all precious some pets are so unique they definitely take a bigger chunk of us when they go. My condolences.
Great video I am going through it having lost my 10.5 year old dog a month ago. And as a therapist, I am realizing how little this topic is given attention. It's super hard to go through.
My mom passed away a few weeks ago which was absolutely devastating to me. My Shih Tzu rescue dog knows that I'm grieving and is trying her best to comfort me. I'm convinced that dogs have empathy and also grieve. She misses my mom too. Often times our pets become even more important to us after the loss of a loved one and I'm so glad you made this video because grief is a serious issue. It's not something that everyone can just shake off and move past with ease. 💙
So sorry for the painful loss of your mom. She is watching over you until you meet again. I agree our pets are in tune with our emotions and they also suffer. That's love.
RIP Murray 😿. Thank you for sharing. I lost my first pet rabbit several months ago. It was rough, I had no idea it would be so hard.
Thank you Doc for this vlog. It's so important to recognize our relationships to our companion fur babies.
Rest in peace Murray 🙏
Prayers for you and the family. So many many memories though : )
Toby, my cat has been gone just over two months. I see him everywhere, its so hard. Im 86 years old. He was 18 yrs old. I lived with him longer than ANYONE in my life. I miss him so much.
I'm so sorry about Murray. I loved him. He was so sweet.
Every time one of my cats died, my legs got really heavy and it was hard to walk. It went on for a long time. And I cried so much I had headaches all the time.
I so much dread the day when my boy I have now dies. I don't know how I will be able to stand it.
My parents, grandparents and some of my friends have died. It's the same for me whether a human or a cat. So really I'm scared of that day when he dies.
It's been a couple years, but I'm still not over the death of Evie Vendetta.
I got her as a newborn puppy at 16.
Had her until I was almost 30.
She helped me through Grandpa's death, my moms suicide.
That dog was my everything. I will never forget her, and I will always love her.
It hurts being away from my little bear.
I miss Murray so much. But you miss him more. Hope and pray you will cope well with the loss at your own pace.
It is so hard to discuss pet loss with some friends who just don't get it. They would say, "It's just a dog" or "It's just a cat." They would trivialize things if you make mention about your grief.
I lost my senior cat to CKD last September and it broke my heart into a million pieces. I closed my online shops for a month to cope with the loss. It helped.
It also helped there was one cat lover-friend who understood my pain and listened to my stories of grief. Have at least one person of the kind in your life.
My 15 yr old cat was diagnosed with oral squamous cell carcinoma. I cry daily but haven't given up. I'm treating him with many supplements and a good diet. Unfortunately he can't chew so I'm syringe feeding him. If orvwhwn he does die I can at least say I did everything. So very sorry about Murray and Lewis. It does get harder and a chunk of your heart goes with them.
I comfort myself with the knowledge that I will see all of them again. Deepest condolences and hugs to everyone going through this at the moment.🙏💟
My boxer dog just died today I feel terrible. Rest In Peace muffin love you
Agree, I am 70 and lost my beloved Princess a few years ago and am now living for the 1st time in my life without a pet. At my age I just can’t deal with the heartbreak anymore. To do something with myself (Nurse) I have gone back to working 3rd shift a couple of times a month at a local Retirement Home. Also, to help fall asleep I have an Audible Subscription and will put it on an hour timer and even slow down the speed sometimes to fall asleep. May all Pet Parents be comforted in knowing that others understand and care about the pain of your profound loss. ❤️🙏🏽
I still think about my sweet beautiful chihuahua girl Lala everyday even though it’s been about 3 years. I’m sorry about Murray the goodbyes are always so so hard
I'm sorry for your loss doc. Prayers please for my Chihuahua son Peanut that he feels better soon. He's feeling somewhat better from the past two days Thank God. I Love you
I can say that I been thru the same thing and it isn't easy, in fact, it's very hard to deal with losing a pet. My dog Petey, whom I had adopted only was with us for 4 years. He had a brain tumor and I had to have him euthanized. I still live with my decisions on that fateful day but I knew ot had to be done. I still think about him every day but he lives on in my mind and my heart. RIP Murray and so sorry to hear of your loss Doc!!
Rest in peace Murray. My 17 year old Boston terrier Joon was put to sleep today and I’m in pieces. Absolutely inconsolable at the vet office. I’ve been sobbing nonstop since then and even typing this right now. I feel like nobody in my life understands that losing a animal companion, when you come from a broken home where both parents emotionally neglected you and were abusive, is just so devastating. I lost my one and only safety I ever had growing up. No matter how mean my mother was to me, no matter the horrible things my dad would scream at me, no matter how much they both told me I was a disappointment and never approved of me… I would come to my room and cuddle with her in my bed and for once in my life feel safe. Feel not judged. Feel truly loved and accepted. I would look into her eyes and feel so at peace. I hope she is at peace too, she deserves it after everything she did for me to keep me alive and grounded during my traumatic childhood. I can’t wait to be reunited with my baby Joon someday.
I hope your still doing well today (hugs)
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They are our family members. They love us and our faithful to us. Their life matters. They are our friends.
I’m so sorry for your loss with Murray. He was wonderful. ❤
I do have to say my vet was awesome when our dogs passed. We got paw print moulds from them and homemade cards mailed to us. I made them into a shadow box with their pictures, paw molds and leashes.
I am so truly sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel. My cat of 18 years just passed on Saturday, January 21, 2023. This video was perfect timing. Thank you so much for all your videos. They are very informative. I learn so much from them. Please keep them coming. Thank you
I'm sorry for your loss. Your cat lived a long life. I'm happy that he had a wonderful home.
@@vickieclark5931 Thank you so much. He had a wonderful life. He brought us so much joy.
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I lost my dog less than a week ago and I feel so empty without him... He was my best friend, my baby and my love. I hope that this endless pain I'm feeling right now will get better.
I miss you so much Hachi, mama loves you❤
So very sorry the your loss of Murray. He had such a loving home with you as his daddy. We will never forget our beloved pets who brought us so much joy, but we try to cope the best way we can. I try to cope by taking care of unwanted cats and dogs and shower them with the same Love that I had given to my two dogs who have passed away. It has been a year now and I still cry, I miss them so very much. They will forever be in my heart as Murray remains in yours . God Bless!
I believe that the pain we feel grieving our beloved pets after they pass is equivalent to how much we loved them when we had them. So when I have moments of deep sadness and despair, I realize that's how my beautiful Lily meant to me. Thank you for your beautiful message Dr. , I found your video in my time of need and it brought me some comfort. I'm so sorry for you loss 😞❤🩹
You are SO right!! We lost our blind, deaf rescued pug Petey 3 months ago, but this is the first time in my entire life ( I'm old!) that I've not had a pet at home to greet me and help me over the loss.
Many people have been very supportive and that helps but I still feel devastated.
He'd been an abused dog, so it took a few years to get his total trust, but our happiness was that he bonded with us.
Don't know how long the incredible sadness will last, but giving him happiness was worth it.
When my husband and I lost our cat we were deeply hurt , my chest hurt so bad from such pain I was feeling, we loved our cat so much he was the light to our lives 😢 I’m so thankful our good friends came to our house that same night and grieved with us they understood how much our cat meant to us and they were just as hurt seeing how much in pain we were and we were all crying together they definitely helped us get through that first night
Dr. Jones no one but the others that love animals like we do understand how devastating looseing a pet is. I'm so sorry you lost Murray recently and I do understand what you are going through
Only time passing helps the pain for me but it passes so slow when you need it to speed up during the grieving process.😭
just lost the love of my life, the joy of my day, the pleasure of my eyes, "just a cat" , right , what we had with fatty was something holy.
I'm truly sorry for your loss. The bond you shared was so special and meaningful.❤️
Dr. Jones I'm so sorry for your loss. You have my deepest condolences. I too, just loss a 7-month-old Yorkipoo to cancer. I can't begin to explain the pain I felt. No matter the age of the pet the pain is the same. I've had several pets in my lifetime and the grief was devastating with each one. They are family and the grief process takes time and is definitely necessary to heal. As with every situation in my life, my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ brought me through and healed my hurt. Your videos are such a blessing for me and my pets. They are heartfelt and sincere. I'll be praying for your heart to heal. Speaking for myself and I'm sure most of your UA-cam family, we love and appreciate you. Take care and remember there's no earthly sorrow that heaven can't heal.
I had to have my buddy put down back on the 31st of January due to prostate problems. He was a ten year old Corgi and bonded with me from the day we picked him up. It was horrible to lose him but I think he had a good life. I always tell people I grieve for my pets more than I did for my parents, whom I loved dearly, but who weren't dependent on me every day of their lives. For me pets are a different kind of bond and I'm getting teary eyed just typing this.
RIP Murray 🙏 prayers for you and your family.
Sometime I feel guilty because I think I have had more intense love for my pets, than for family or friends. Was extremely bonded to my old cat Billy Bob. He was 18 when I finally had him euthanized due to lymphoma. It was heart wrenching. After three years, still can't speak about him without crying. I wish I could cope better. Pets bring such joy to your life, but as my pets die off, I am trying not to adopt anymore. Seems as I get older myself, it has become just too traumatizing when I lose them. My sympathies over your loss of Murray.
Long time pet sitters go through this too. Every time.
Yes, I Sat for 10 year some very regular and got attached to some. Some animal are just special and connect in a strong way. I love them all but there is something extra special about one that loves you a lot too.
Thank you for sharing your loss with us Dr Jones despite it being clear that it was still very raw for you. It is clear from the comments that it has helped so many people and also I think so many of the comments have helped other viewers too. We lost our beautiful soul Chandy, an Australian Shepherd with the most gorgeous soul imaginable only last week and we have been pretty much inconsolable - it has been the darkest space imaginable - like a bad dream from which we expect to awaken from any moment. We did feel better today after asking for help in prayer last night, declaring that it was more than we could bear and to have some of the weight lifted from us
Having lost several other fur kids in the past it always helped me persoanlly to positively believe that their energy would keep reverberating out into the universe indefinitely and that the antenna of their conscious energy would receive our never ending love and appreciation for their lives and the love they gave to us unconditionally. In that manner they would forever know that their lives were not taken for granted and that they had purpose and meaning
Each time too, I have reflected deeply on what exactly it was that each one contributed to our lives to make me a better person - and how I can be even better going forward by better applying what they taught us
Grief is a hard hard gig and at the time we think we will never come out of it - just as we are feeling right now. Yet we know we will and I maintain that it is better to have loved and lost someone we love, than to never have loved at all
Thank you again for sharing - I am so glad I saw your video tonight. I also hope you are now at a much greater peace after your loss
Thank you also to all the beautiful, kind and caring people who have made such valuable, encouraging and loving comments
So sorry to hear about Murray. He was adorable. Sending prayers to you and your family. RIP Murray🙏❤
My Maltese "Candy" was with me for 14 years and she got closer to me than any human. Never turned her back on me. Always so happy to see me. There has never been a worse pain that I have ever felt. I miss her so badly that I didn't eat for the first 3 days. Had to drink to numb the pain. Employer doesn't care. She was the closest being to me and even closer than my own children. Her loss is so profound that I have to make it through each day one day at a time. For those experiencing this grief, please take care of yourself and try to distract yourself as much as possible.
Very sorry for your lost, Murray, I am 67, and having a pet for the first time in my life, she is just a beautiful angel and soul, but unfortunatelly we were told , she is having her final days after being removed two big masses from her brain, I am crying whole time, and I do not know how to cope after precious ten years😢