Pet loss grief; the pain explained | Sarah Hoggan DVM | TEDxTemecula

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  • Опубліковано 9 лис 2022
  • The grief of losing a pet is crushing; and yet it is too often minimized. This talk explains why the pain of pet loss is different and why it is valid. Dr. Hoggan has been an emergency veterinarian for over 20 years. Many people meet her on the worst day of their life; when their pet is injured, when no else is available, and when it is time to say goodbye. Her career of dealing with critically injured pets, and their frantic families, gives her a compassionate perspective that only comes with experience and helping many animals to have a soft goodbye. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @MistyMorningMangoes
    @MistyMorningMangoes Рік тому +6056

    In my 40 years of life, I’ve never felt such pain and sadness as I did (and do) when I lost my dog, Oscar. His tombstone says, “The Love of My Life” and he took a huge part of my heart with him when he left. I’ll never be the person I was before Oscar. Losing him changed me forever. It’s been 9 years and not one day has gone by that I haven’t thought of him. Not one day.

    • @Big0leBee
      @Big0leBee Рік тому +329

      I just lost my cat of 17 years yesterday. She was my best friend and with her I never felt lonely. I don’t know what to do and I hope that I don’t ever forget the memories of her and all we did.

    • @paddyferguson98
      @paddyferguson98 Рік тому +331

      I came to this video today after loosing my dog Oscar today and the first comment I see is from someone who lost their dog Oscar❤️

    • @christsomp
      @christsomp Рік тому +129

      @paddyferguson98 That is weird same here, the first comment I read was about a dog named oscar and then your comment. I lost my dog Oscar in October 😔. I am sorry for your loss.

    • @paddyferguson98
      @paddyferguson98 Рік тому +132

      @@christsomp I lost him yesterday and it is so surreal not having him around the house. My heart is so sore but I know it was the right thing putting him to sleep. Hope time was a great healer for you! Gone but really never forgotten!

    • @christsomp
      @christsomp Рік тому +109

      @paddyferguson98 I know that the pain is excruciating in the first days or weeks. As time goes by, you feel a different kind of pain a deeper feeling of emptiness but your logic starts working as well and you begin to accept it as you try to remember all the valuable moments you have spent with your pet and the joy they brought to your life, not just the pain at the end. It's not easy but we have to accept it. That is the only way to remember a loyal friend and companion. With joy not sorrow. Very correctly put, gone but not forgotten.

  • @mythandmighty
    @mythandmighty 9 місяців тому +1340

    I am a 65 years old single male. My only families are two cats. One of them passed away yesterday and I was devastated. She is only 7 years old and I feel like losing a daughter. It is so hard to move on my life now. I think people reading this understand what I am talking about.

    • @lizg8055
      @lizg8055 9 місяців тому +30

      I’m so sorry

    • @ShinzoTheFox
      @ShinzoTheFox 7 місяців тому +19

      I understand I'm grieving late and my pet hamster I didn't greive for him when he died like I grieved for my other hamsters I have 2 left I feel you.

    • @user-cd1ju6rf6b
      @user-cd1ju6rf6b 7 місяців тому +5

      i do x

    • @RobertaReal7980
      @RobertaReal7980 7 місяців тому +13

      I'm so very sorry. I hope you're doing better now ❤

    • @kfalla1
      @kfalla1 7 місяців тому +9

      I'm so sorry for your sadness. You all truly loved your pets so it's really hard when they die. I miss mine too, so much. It's why I looked for a video like this to help me.

  • @Luckybetta
    @Luckybetta 2 місяці тому +491

    Losing a pet is like losing a child, best friend and family member, all rolled into one. 😢💔😭

    • @jeffreydeanstanton3229
      @jeffreydeanstanton3229 2 місяці тому +5

      EXACTLY!

    • @TheJohnbjunior
      @TheJohnbjunior 2 місяці тому +10

      Agree, because they are like children, (as in innocent) they can't speak for themselves

    • @aks_krm118
      @aks_krm118 Місяць тому +11

      There love for us is so unconditional...so pure..and they never told us their discomfort and their feelings until its too late for them... You feel a sense of guiltiness for not being able to save them..

    • @nellygottabelly
      @nellygottabelly Місяць тому

      ​@@aks_krm118yes exactly 😭

    • @mbashari2575
      @mbashari2575 Місяць тому +6

      With a heavy heart, we had to say goodbye to our Marcus yesterday. 17 years of unconditional love, he was family to us. I feel extreme sadness in my heart. Grief is deep. A part of me died with him. 💔 I can't believe I will never hug him again and feel his love 🥺😢😪Thank you for this video

  • @poomskins
    @poomskins 2 місяці тому +400

    My wife and I lost our beloved hamster to cancer a few days ago. I feel so messed up inside, but I don’t feel like I can tell anyone (besides my wife, of course) because I’m a 30 year old man, and I’m not supposed to be this destroyed by the death of a hamster. The truth is, she brought me so much joy, and I loved her so deeply. I feel so broken and empty without her. It’s been exhausting to go to work every day and pretend I’m fine, but i immediately burst into tears when I get in the car and cry most of the evening every day. I haven’t told people because I don’t want anyone to criticize my pain or tell me it’s not a big deal because she was “just a hamster.”
    I’m just hurting so badly, and this seems like a safe place to say it. Thanks for your time.

    • @laddam1
      @laddam1 2 місяці тому +25

      I'm very sorry for your loss. Hug. ❤

    • @DAVEJJR
      @DAVEJJR 2 місяці тому +24

      You loved that little baby and I’m sure the love was given back to you unconditionally.
      Pay no mind to those that say it was just a hamster!
      They obviously have no idea what love is…..
      May God heal your broken heart ❤

    • @stacypepsi9708
      @stacypepsi9708 2 місяці тому +19

      Love ❤
      My cat has to be euthanized in a days time and I understand the fear of judgement,I get all sorts of cold comments like
      " She's old" it's not like she not had a life" to get another pet"
      People can be very unsympathetic with animals but just remember if you have loved an animal you would never dismiss the love for any animal big or small.
      It's love 💕
      Sorry for your loss

    • @Helen-xv1bj
      @Helen-xv1bj 2 місяці тому +16

      I'm very sorry for your loss. I just lost my bun last week and feel the same way. People already downplay the pain of pet loss, but it's even worse when it's any other animal than a cat or dog. Just know there are those who understand fully. The pain is gut-wrenching. May they rest in paradise 💞🥲

    • @loistallini3609
      @loistallini3609 2 місяці тому +8

      Any loss of any pet a creature great or small is life changing so true💔🐾🐹 and it takes a long time for grief to stop hurting my rescue hamster didn't make it two years ago I never forget her cuteness ❤❤🐹💔

  • @AquaEvaUmi
    @AquaEvaUmi 11 місяців тому +2738

    We lost our family dog yesterday and I can’t breathe. Big hugs to everyone who lost a best furry friend. ❤

    • @jacksanderson660
      @jacksanderson660 10 місяців тому +54

      How're you now 2 weeks later? Please tell me it gets easier, lost my baby on Saturday and found her lifeless in my garden, that image is burnet into my brain and I can't seem to shift it, never felt pain like it. Sorry for your loss too. ❤️

    • @4thMonthB
      @4thMonthB 10 місяців тому +31

      Big hugs to you as well! We lost our Michael Bear due to heart failure a week ago. I’m still having moments crying over my pup, he definitely took a piece of our hearts.

    • @4thMonthB
      @4thMonthB 10 місяців тому +25

      ⁠@@jacksanderson660 I’m so sorry for your loss. My pup passed a week ago and it feels just like the first time I experienced the loss of one of my other dog 6 years ago. I look back and remember it does get better…in time. It’s not that it gets easier, but a little bit of the pain subsides each day and look at that point of reference for hope. Sending so much love your way! ❤

    • @user-by3me4vr5j
      @user-by3me4vr5j 10 місяців тому +56

      My dog passed this morning in my husband's arms while getting ready for his vet appointment. We are devastated and heartbroken. My heart goes out to all of you who are missing your pets.

    • @mmonroe259
      @mmonroe259 10 місяців тому +33

      @user-by3me4vr5j
      I know your pain, mine died in my arms last night … my earth is shattered and daily routines are unbearable without him.. I hope your days become lighter and brighter and you remember all the amazing times you had with your baby😇

  • @christopherjohnpaul5591
    @christopherjohnpaul5591 Рік тому +1952

    Every time I lose a pet, I say “Never again, it hurts too much”! A few weeks go by and another pet finds me and I’m alive again! The cycle continues. I don’t think I can go through life without a pet. They complete me.

    • @ErikaLaGrande
      @ErikaLaGrande Рік тому +141

      If you have love to give, you have to give it…

    • @KH-nt7ej
      @KH-nt7ej Рік тому +101

      I believe my former animal companions, babies have sent me the ones I have now. They know the grief and loss we go through. They don't want us to be alone and sad. They know we need a furbaby. The furbabies also need us.

    • @triciahenning6759
      @triciahenning6759 Рік тому +109

      I said the same thing. I had two female cats. Snuggles was the mom and I had one of her kittens which we named Monte. Monte became I'll at 15yrs and passed away at home. Four days later I lost my mom. One month after my mom's passing, I had to make the hurtful decision to put Snuggles down due to kidney disease. After all that loss, I said I can never get another fur baby. My vet was telling me about a female cat she knew that needed a home due to the owner's girlfriend not liking the cat.
      I wanted nothing to do with it.
      I went home and cried about all my losses.
      The void of my mom and also not having little furry loves running around the house made me nuts.
      I had started looking at rescue centers and found a female cat around almost a year old that was found homeless and was rescued. I fell in love and put an application in for her.
      I also reached out to my vet about the cat that needed a home, she was a beautiful long haired princess who was also 1yrs old.
      Needless the say, those two beauties allowed me to become their mom and also to the fact that they saved me.
      I know my Snuggles and Monte would be proud and happy that I continued to add to the family.
      After one year with my two new loves, I adopted a male cat. My three loves are my world.
      Thank you for letting me share my story.

    • @irmadeleon2302
      @irmadeleon2302 Рік тому +23

      I absolutely agree. I say the same thing. Sometimes I want to get another before my lovey passes but then I think it will take away from 100 percent time for her and it might make her feel bad so I've said no. I will have to get another.

    • @lovesallanimals9948
      @lovesallanimals9948 Рік тому +9

      Me too

  • @xyzpeace7814
    @xyzpeace7814 15 днів тому +21

    Its a unconditinal love that we received from a pet❤

    • @xxllbb55
      @xxllbb55 День тому

      “ Of all the creatures that walk the face of the earth,
      Dogs have chosen us, And us alone, to share their lives with.
      May we prove worthy of such a gift.”
      ~~~ Anonymous ~~~

  • @aks_krm118
    @aks_krm118 Місяць тому +31

    I lost my pet dog yesterday... I am 38 years old but crying like a baby alone... I feel like being betrayed by my pet for leaving me alone...there is no one waiting for me right in the front door while wagging his tail to greet me that he is happy that u r home...oh god this is so hard and i have never ever experienced such pain and grief.. 😭😭

  • @love-lb4bt
    @love-lb4bt 9 місяців тому +957

    The love of an animal is like no other.

    • @gtavtheavengergunnerlegend3340
      @gtavtheavengergunnerlegend3340 8 місяців тому +7

      facts

    • @pathopewell1814
      @pathopewell1814 7 місяців тому +8

      You are so right.

    • @djmixnmagic
      @djmixnmagic 5 місяців тому +9

      They give us so much and ask for so little in return

    • @soupertastic
      @soupertastic 29 днів тому +1

      Agreed!

    • @xxllbb55
      @xxllbb55 День тому +1

      “ Of all the creatures that walk the face of the earth,
      Dogs have chosen us, And us alone, to share their lives with.
      May we prove worthy of such a gift.”
      ~~~ Anonymous ~~~

  • @2010Aveen
    @2010Aveen 10 місяців тому +831

    I have never cried so much as I did when my last cat died. It was definitely harder than any human I've lost. Absolute agony.

    • @thedubwhisperer2157
      @thedubwhisperer2157 10 місяців тому +38

      I am so sorry for your loss, which I am now suffering myself to the extent of finding it difficult to breath when sobbing so hard. Thank you so much for voicing that the loss of a pet can be worse than the loss of a human relative and friend. My brother and I have said independently that losing our respective pets has been worse than we we lost either of our parents. I suspect that non-pet owners would be bemused if not disgusted at such a statement, but it is undeniable fact.

    • @Stardusted1
      @Stardusted1 9 місяців тому +45

      Because they were innocent and never stopped loving us. I too cried more for each pet than any human.

    • @s.r.phillips6850
      @s.r.phillips6850 9 місяців тому +34

      I feel your pain. I lost my cat who was everything to me three months ago. All I wanted to do was go with him. I cry every day. I don’t know when it gets better. It’s good to know there are others who feel as bad.

    • @jsj297
      @jsj297 9 місяців тому +25

      I love you all, I lost my 12 yo Cat yesterday. She was ate up with cancer and looked perfectly fine, until she didn’t. Happened in the course of 24 hrs. I wish you all peace and solace in your love for your Furry Family. ❤

    • @achedantes
      @achedantes 9 місяців тому +12

      I feel you. My cat died at home less than a week ago. I had to leave inmediately for work. I dont want to go home. Ive been holding everything inside. My sweet Caspian. This really hurts, something broke inside me.

  • @randomthoughtstoday
    @randomthoughtstoday 3 місяці тому +317

    "Your pet is better than you at forgiveness". This is 100 percent true.

  • @TJDuffy-ip3ue
    @TJDuffy-ip3ue 5 місяців тому +260

    I cried more when my dog died in 2010 than I ever cried for any human loss. I loved her more than any human.
    When this presenter said, "did you rescue your pet, or did your pet rescue you?" I started sobbing. My dog Joplin rescued me. And she was the best thing that ever happened to me.

    • @user-kj9ew2dq2w
      @user-kj9ew2dq2w 3 місяці тому +1

      Me too I miss him more than family members

    • @sanja3301
      @sanja3301 3 місяці тому +3

      Praying for your comfort. That phrase for me also was heart wrenching. Many people never recognize that they are the most forgiving and is always by our side regardless🙏

    • @Ryu_Shotokan
      @Ryu_Shotokan 2 місяці тому +1

      My dog rescued me. He rescued me. I was alone for years,he kept my heart pure.

    • @Gingeragoldenpup
      @Gingeragoldenpup 2 місяці тому

    • @oblongfan1
      @oblongfan1 2 місяці тому +1

      same here, my cat rescued me from depression ten years ago when he was a kitten and got him at the shelter. he was the best cat ever. sweet and never hissed. had to put my baby down this sunday and i am a wreck. im physically ill. lost weight because of this depression. i agree i dont cry much for human loss much. but my pet does. i dont get it, but that confirms why our pets will go to paradise when they pass and wait for us when its our time.

  • @elsie2
    @elsie2 10 місяців тому +313

    It's been 10 days and my brain hasn't adjusted, it sees her out of the corner of my eye, hears her footsteps, wants to grab her lead. The absence of her joy is just so damn hard.

    • @pfuller7524
      @pfuller7524 7 місяців тому +9

      "The absence of her joy is just so damn hard." - YES!

    • @MossyMozart
      @MossyMozart 6 місяців тому +1

      @elsie2 - And yes, again!

    • @Jungaloowi333
      @Jungaloowi333 Місяць тому

      It's been a day since I lost my dog Chocnut. This is the worst pain I've ever felt, and I lost family members before. I miss my dog so so so much. I feel so guilty for letting him down. I didn't protect him and save him as well as I should've

    • @rickwolf9169
      @rickwolf9169 18 днів тому

      I can very much relate to this.

    • @xxllbb55
      @xxllbb55 День тому

      “ Of all the creatures that walk the face of the earth,
      Dogs have chosen us, And us alone, to share their lives with.
      May we prove worthy of such a gift.”
      ~~~ Anonymous ~~~

  • @danakendall282
    @danakendall282 9 місяців тому +314

    Our lab suffered a massive stroke out of nowhere and died in my husbands arms, he was wagging his tail and running around happily and then fell over abruptly and started seizing. He was gone in less than a minute. I cried so hard that I burst a blood vessel in my eye. The pain was so intense I didn’t think I would make it out alive.

    • @PriyaK-cu1fz
      @PriyaK-cu1fz 8 місяців тому

      :-(

    • @drdradri
      @drdradri 8 місяців тому +25

      our dog died 2 days ago the exact same way you describe. He was happy, wagging his tail and suddenly he collapsed and went completely flaccid. I can't understand this, I'm broken.

    • @goodforyouvideos8668
      @goodforyouvideos8668 7 місяців тому +11

      When I lost my baby, there was a moment when I thought I was going to die too. I was so brokenhearted that my heart literally ached that I couldn't breathe.

    • @kstoural1973
      @kstoural1973 6 місяців тому +7

      My husky passed away very similarly last Wednesday. I’m completely broken and have no idea how to move on.

    • @Chihuahuauno1
      @Chihuahuauno1 6 місяців тому +1

      @@kstoural1973Our babies come into our lives to teach us about love❤and they leave us, to show how strong we truly are🌈

  • @SPEWitch
    @SPEWitch 5 місяців тому +646

    Just wanted to add to the voices of all those who have lost pets recently. My sweet, stubborn, loving, opinionated dog passed away last week, and I've been so broken. I've never had a connection with another animal like I did with my dog. I could tell what he was thinking just from a look. He was so fiercely protective of me and wanted to spend every moment by my side. And the feeling was 100 percent mutual. He was the one I turned to for comfort after the deaths of both my parents. I just can't believe I'll have to spend the rest of my life never seeing him again. I love and miss him terribly. Sending hugs to all those missing their beloved pets.

    • @JoeBlolow
      @JoeBlolow 4 місяці тому +12

      He knew you loved him so much. I know by your comment. I loved mine the same.

    • @hannahunderhay8642
      @hannahunderhay8642 4 місяці тому +6

      Tears here too. Recent loss of my Sweetie Boy. Yes, to all you said.

    • @sathyabala1923
      @sathyabala1923 4 місяці тому +4

      Thanks the same here 🐶😭😭 I knew you loved him so much and he loved you too

    • @DefiantAngel87
      @DefiantAngel87 4 місяці тому +5

      I'm so deeply sorry

    • @paulwagner6439
      @paulwagner6439 3 місяці тому +7

      You and Oscar will be reunited in Heaven! God Bless, my 13 yo female Pit-bull named Princess is dying right now on my floor in front of me..❤

  • @LoviPon
    @LoviPon 4 місяці тому +259

    I had to say goodbye to my cat yesterday. He was 16.5 years old, I found him when he was just one month old. He has not left my side all these years, and I have loved him more than I have ever loved anyone.
    It's so hard today waking up alone to a house when he is not there anymore. My love has nowhere to go, and I feel so empty. I don't know how to live a life without him, I keep remembering all our moments together and thinking I'll just find him sleeping on my bed.
    He was the love of my life. A piece of me died yesterday.

    • @jen-a-purr
      @jen-a-purr 4 місяці тому +19

      You said it better than I could have. It feels like I’m dying.

    • @cooperfuller9524
      @cooperfuller9524 3 місяці тому +10

      I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s a feeling unlike anything else.

    • @sineadbales2801
      @sineadbales2801 3 місяці тому +15

      My cat passed last night and I feel the same. I am broken

    • @Ryu_Shotokan
      @Ryu_Shotokan 2 місяці тому +5

      I'm very sorry about your baby. Really I am. That breaks my heart

    • @Ryu_Shotokan
      @Ryu_Shotokan 2 місяці тому +4

      ​@@sineadbales2801I'm sorry for your baby. That's awful 😔. Just take comfort that you did all you can to make them happy.

  • @doyoulikecrystalgel
    @doyoulikecrystalgel 7 місяців тому +213

    I just lost my Buddy 4 hours ago. I’ve lost my mother, my brother, best friend, and ex gf, all within a 10 year period, and yet I have NEVER felt grief as visceral as losing him. I had to make the decision to euthanize him as I knew it was time. He wasn’t eating, couldn’t stand, couldn’t walk, didn’t want to play - he’d just lay there all day. Buddy battled Addison disease and deteriorating hips as per his German Shepherd/Husky mix breed for too long. When the vet came in, he looked at me and told me “I think you know, as well as he does, that it’s time”. I nodded. I picked up the pen and signed the consent form. My pups final 5 minutes was him cradled into my arms, and he passed with my head buried onto his chest. This is a grief like I’ve never felt. I got my Buddy a year after my mothers death as a way to cope, and he’s been by my side - attached at the hip - for EVERY loss I’ve had since. I have no one to turn to, and no one to share my grief with, so here I am. I’ve never considered grief counseling, but this is the first time I plan to reach out to a support group and/or hotline.

    • @Turrican60
      @Turrican60 5 місяців тому +6

      Unexpectedly, I lost my beloved cat just five days ago, and it's so very, very painful. I share your immense grief and wish you ultimate peace, my friend. Greetings and best wishes from England.

    • @sunnygirl2637
      @sunnygirl2637 5 місяців тому +4

      I understand you so much. I lost my 3 cat babies in 10 days a week ago. I am so devastated makes me wanna go after them 😭 they were so youn the smalesst one my baby was only 5 months old😢

    • @jdhartman100
      @jdhartman100 4 місяці тому +4

      I feel your pain and have been there

    • @freedomfinder5196
      @freedomfinder5196 4 місяці тому +4

      I’m so sorry for your loss. I understand. Three weeks ago today I had to put my beloved cat, Tuffy, to sleep. She was almost 15 years old and had lung cancer. I found her beside the road when she was only 4 weeks old. I am devastated. 🐾💔🐈‍⬛

    • @quendilanbrown5814
      @quendilanbrown5814 3 місяці тому +3

      Reading this makes me feel so seen after losing my sweet girl of only 2 years old. Thank you for sharing it really helps 🫶

  • @sherwinfiloteo4237
    @sherwinfiloteo4237 11 місяців тому +338

    I lost my dog hours ago. Half of my existence he was there. He witness my childhood. I am grieving, i am hurt and i blame myself to this time. I miss him so much. I cry whenever i see his spot. Rest in peace my boy. Thank you for the 14years you have shared with me. I will never forget you. :(((

    • @TVY2013
      @TVY2013 10 місяців тому +19

      Hi Sherwin... Here is what I wrote on another comment... Hope it helps...
      As so many of you have recently lost a dear pet, I want to share my experience from years back that may bring comfort to you in your time of grief...
      On September 28th, 1993, I lost my mini-dach, Mitzi, under traumatizing circumstances... I was devastated and heartbroken, re-living, re-guessing
      every decision and event that led up to her traumatic end. At that time, there was no UA-cam where people could share their grief, but I did find some comfort in reading and re-reading books from the library on pet loss... I also received some warm and comforting letters and cards -- the old fashioned, handwritten kind that mean so very much. Well, Mitzi died on a Tuesday, and I kept count of every Tuesday that passed for at least 19 weeks...The pain lessened with time, though the missing was especially hard with each birthday, May 22nd, and each death anniversary, September 28th.
      Well, in the days, weeks and months that followed her passing, my mother and I had several powerful experiences in which we felt Mitzi's presence... Then, there were no "visits" for years. Well, on the eve of my mother's 80th birthday in 2006,
      I "felt" Mitzi trying to push herself up into my bed. She felt more real than real. I could feel the furry scruff at the back of her neck, the warmth of the blood coursing through her body, her pushing against my hand trying to get up. Wow!...
      Then in May 2022 -- almost 29 years since her demise and about two weeks after my dear mother passed -- I again "felt" her warm little body, more real than real, cradled in my arms. I looked down and she disappeared... It was her way of letting me know that Mom and her were finally reunited.... This September will mark a full 30 years since she passed, and I take comfort in knowing that when my time comes, we'll be together again... Take care, all

    • @paigeycakey5061
      @paigeycakey5061 9 місяців тому +11

      I just lost my boy on Tuesday, my world has ended. Had him for 14 years until I was 21. My boy my baby my soul I can’t breath from this loss it’s unbearable.

    • @front2427
      @front2427 9 місяців тому +5

      @@paigeycakey5061 I lost my cat on Tuesday too, my sympathies to you...

    • @TVY2013
      @TVY2013 9 місяців тому +3

      @@paigeycakey5061 SO very sorry for your loss. You grew up with your wonderful fur companion and now must feel such a sad void at losing him... As hard as it is, know that you will get through this period of profound grief.
      ***Please read what I wrote a few entries above yours... Please also consider something like a Bach Flower Remedy or some other natural remedy to take the edge off your anguish. Try to breathe deeply through the tears (I know!) and take good care!

    • @paigeycakey5061
      @paigeycakey5061 9 місяців тому +2

      @@TVY2013 thankyou for your beautiful comment and rest in peace to your beautiful baby. Me and my mum have been in bits since Tuesday, the pain is soul crushing. You have moments of slight peace and then a wave of overwhelming sadness that hits so terribly. I read her your beautiful comment, we both sat in the living room close, and right after I read your comment my mum had a experience like a message even, a message from our boy. Someone, something told my mum out of nowhere with thoughts in her head of ‘ it’s okay mum ‘ ‘ I’m okay I’m safe and you did the right thing ‘. She’s in shock and overwhelmed, we just held each other, We’ve both sobbed since and he chose that perfect moment just now to tell us he’s always here. We still have his towel laid out and his toys, his towel on my mums bed. We still say it’s bed time to him and speak to him like he’s still there. 14 years. Our poor boy, one day we will all be reunited with our babies. I’m so excited to see him run to me again. I’m so excited for you too, she’s always with you also. They always are, I now know.

  • @PaulinaStarr78
    @PaulinaStarr78 2 дні тому +8

    I never expected that the loss of my dogs would be more painful than the loss of parents. My parents were people who were independent and lived their own lives the way they saw fit. They made their own decisions and had their own lives and walked their own paths. My dogs relied on me, it was my responsibility to make decisions about their lives on their behalf. Their love is unconditional. They spent their lives loving me. I did the very best I could every day to provide the best world for them.

  • @siat11
    @siat11 4 місяці тому +385

    Sending hugs to all those who've lost their pets. I had to put my dog down yesterday, and the pain is breaking me. This talk helped a bit. This woman is amazing.

    • @jen-a-purr
      @jen-a-purr 4 місяці тому +9

      I’m so sorry. Mine left 2 days ago & it hurts. I don’t know how to be ok without my Roscoe.

    • @ZoZoNRoRo
      @ZoZoNRoRo 3 місяці тому +10

      I had to put down my 7 year old, 120lb, German Shepherd, Roman, on Jan 11, 2024 and I have NEVER cried and hurt as much as I did that day. Everyone told me to be with him until the very end, and I did, but wow, I never felt so horrible watching him go. Even tho he was VERY SICK and there was no getting better. I think of him daily and I miss him pushing himself into me for lovings. I often smell him near me and it brings me some comfort but not much. 😢😢😢😢

    • @siat11
      @siat11 3 місяці тому +3

      @jen-a-purr Im sorry. It's so hard. Hang in there.

    • @jk0194
      @jk0194 3 місяці тому +9

      Had to put my little baby down today. The pain is unreal. 18 years of love and happiness, no one will take that away from me.

    • @amandabartell1502
      @amandabartell1502 3 місяці тому +9

      Lost my 16 year old girl today, had the vet and nurse round and l held her while she passed. Heartbroken doesn't come close, hugs to everyone that's lost a fur baby 😢❤

  • @kennytaco4474
    @kennytaco4474 7 місяців тому +115

    Just lost my girl today. Can’t believe I’m writing this. Hardest day of my life

    • @eproductions8792
      @eproductions8792 7 місяців тому +5

      Going through that too 😔😖

    • @DebNKY
      @DebNKY 2 місяці тому +1

      I'm sorry. It will get better. I've been there many times.

    • @noelleoneill7909
      @noelleoneill7909 2 місяці тому

      God love you, I feel your pain I had to do the same 4 months ago, Im still devastated

    • @youngiraffe
      @youngiraffe 11 днів тому

      I hope you’re doing better

  • @samspade1841
    @samspade1841 Рік тому +542

    When I lost my lab of 14 years I had an ex friend tell me “it’s just a dog”. That is one of the main reasons he’s an ex friend. Dogs are one of the greatest companions you can have. Very difficult when they pass.

    • @haleytruslow7200
      @haleytruslow7200 Рік тому +49

      I am so sorry someone said that to you. I believe the love of a dog is more pure than the love we receive from most humans. “Just” a dog… that person has no idea.

    • @joeylozano4215
      @joeylozano4215 Рік тому +20

      Someone who says that, unfortunately may not understand what companionship, unconditional love or even friendship really is. I had to say goodbye to my little man Jimmy 6 months ago. He was my best bud for 12 years and went through and helped me through some dark hard times. It was sudden and I had to say farewell 2 weeks after my birthday, I still miss him every day but somehow I feel he's still with me and always will be...I always referred to him as the Abu to my Aladdin and always will...I miss you so much Jimmy 🐶 💚

    • @olivializra5575
      @olivializra5575 Рік тому +12

      I love how you said ‘ex’ friend- because no one should ever tell you it is ‘just a’ anything. It is so so devastating losing a pet and grief is the price of love. Our pets are family. I’m so sorry for your loss 🥹❤️

    • @xavierc1249
      @xavierc1249 Рік тому +11

      I almost don’t even wanna tell people cause if I heard that I might wanna punch them in face , lost my baby girl a day ago and am super defensive about her

    • @samspade1841
      @samspade1841 Рік тому +2

      @@xavierc1249 I wouldn’t want to hit someone and be known for that but at least I know my ex friend wasn’t really a friend. Took a long time to come to that realization. I hope your able to hold on to the good memories after losing your buddy. I have another lab now who is 10 now and I cherish her everyday. Our buddies bring us so much joy and happiness. Take care and remember the good times.

  • @FallouFitness_NattyEdition
    @FallouFitness_NattyEdition 3 місяці тому +128

    I put my cat down two days ago. I knew it was going to hurt, but nothing could have prepared me for this kind of heartache. I'm functioning through life, but I take time to cry when I need to. I miss her to the very depths of my soul.

    • @jessthegardener
      @jessthegardener 3 місяці тому +1

      What an amazing person you are to give so much love and a great home to your Kitty. She was so fortunate to have had you. Thank you for loving her. My condolences on your loss. *hugs* I'll give my 2 girls extra treats and hugs in you and your cats honor.

    • @indigomoonchild9
      @indigomoonchild9 3 місяці тому +2

      I'm so sorry for your loss😢
      January 13th, my 18-year-old orange tabby had to be euthanized because of liver disease. I held him, told him over and over that I loved him.
      I had such a deep connection with him that now I feel so lost without him. I am afraid I will never get over his passing away.
      He was my little love.😭💔

    • @cbebop5
      @cbebop5 2 місяці тому +2

      @Indigomoonchild I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers tonight. The pain while enormous right now will become more manageable with time. Give thanks and gratitude that you were able to experience such a love and friendship from your sweet kitty.

    • @indigomoonchild9
      @indigomoonchild9 2 місяці тому +1

      @cbebop5 Thank you so much for your comforting words. God Bless you too.🙏💕

    • @FallouFitness_NattyEdition
      @FallouFitness_NattyEdition 2 місяці тому +4

      Thank you all for your thoughtful and refreshing words. You're all beautiful souls, and I pray for nothing but blessing in your lives.

  • @user-ln8ti9yc9g
    @user-ln8ti9yc9g 3 дні тому +8

    I am so blessed to have found this Ted Talk. I couldn’t get out my car to walk inside my home because I could not bare walking in and not being greeted by my baby. In the car crying and hyperventilating. My mom had to pray for me so I could walk into my home. I have a display case with her ashes, photo and memory box with her favorite items and I had a necklace made at Jared to honor her but none of it takes away the emotional pain. Dealing with comorbidity #3. Please pray.

    • @marlyngolmeifranky3524
      @marlyngolmeifranky3524 День тому +1

      You're not alone...list my kitten yesterday and I feel like dying too. My mom has been praying for me too worried for my health but we can help it. I don't know how to heal. Typing you this with my eyes super swollen and a very heavy headache....

  • @hippieschick6473
    @hippieschick6473 Рік тому +988

    I just feel so so sick inside 14 yrs my best friend..now what? I want the grief to stop but the waves of grief are real...Lilly my sweet sweet girl...I miss you

    • @karissakline6765
      @karissakline6765 Рік тому +20

      Hope you are better, friend. So sorry for your loss 🙏🏻

    • @annekenniston7551
      @annekenniston7551 Рік тому +18

      Now what is right… where to go from here, I do not know.

    • @kellyhunt5888
      @kellyhunt5888 Рік тому +37

      I feel your despair over Lilly !!! God Bless Heal and protect you!! I lost my Pooh girl yesterday after 15 years!! Christmas day!! So I am here looking for comfort and hoping to give some!! ❤🙏

    • @polystyrenepterodactyl345
      @polystyrenepterodactyl345 Рік тому +22

      I feel this so much. I lost my dog lily aswell to a car accident a few years ago. She was only two years old and it still affects me today so much

    • @juliew12280
      @juliew12280 Рік тому +26

      @@kellyhunt5888 lost my sweet cat Peanut on Christmas. I’m devastated and filled with so much regret. Not knowing exactly what her diagnosis was and the sudden need to make a decision on putting her down, I’m feeling so much pain. You’re not alone ❤

  • @gina7800
    @gina7800 9 місяців тому +350

    I am completely broken this afternoon. I needed a source of validation for this heaviness and out of control grief after my best friend passed away. His joy, his love was my own. My home is no longer a home. I will never be the same. I'm so grateful for this talk. 🙏 All these comments, I know, I am not alone in this.

    • @troxycat
      @troxycat 9 місяців тому +13

      I completely understand, and no, you're not alone. I'm so sorry.

    • @ogenevieve
      @ogenevieve 8 місяців тому +21

      I feel the same way about my apt. I used to buy him something every time I went out, which I don't do anymore. Coming back is awful. I stand there with my keys in my hand and just lean my head against the outside of the door bc I know he's not on the other side. I'm so sorry for all of us.

    • @Nodey01
      @Nodey01 7 місяців тому +8

      We just put our beloved girl down 2 days ago. I told my husband this very thing. It just doesn't seem like a home anymore.

    • @Chihuahuauno1
      @Chihuahuauno1 7 місяців тому +5

      Our babies come into our lives to teach us about love❤️and they leave us, to show how strong we truly are🙏🏼🌈

    • @davejsy1
      @davejsy1 3 місяці тому

      The part about your home no longer being a home realty hit me hard. I lost my girl several months ago and our home where we were both so happy is almost unbearable sometimes now. It's a really difficult feeling and comes with the added complication of guilt that it shouldn't feel that way given it was our happy home with so many wonderful memories.

  • @shirokj7843
    @shirokj7843 26 днів тому +11

    I lost my boy today, he’s a little cute chihuahua. It has been 9 wonderful years of my life. I’ll miss you and always, forever love you.

  • @cby63
    @cby63 4 місяці тому +57

    she was my everything. I have no family no husband no kids. My cat was my everything

    • @jneufy1201
      @jneufy1201 2 місяці тому +2

      me too! she was my world!

    • @gennywaffle
      @gennywaffle Місяць тому +1

      She was your soul pet. Dont' worry, someday, you'll reunite when the time will come and continue your journey as she would have wished. Take care xoxo

    • @irishgirl1753
      @irishgirl1753 22 дні тому +1

      Going through this now again with my cat 💕

    • @gennywaffle
      @gennywaffle 17 днів тому

      @@irishgirl1753 Take care

  • @gianners
    @gianners 7 місяців тому +596

    I'm watching this 4 hours after holding my 15.5 year old pup for the last time. Bless these vets that are able to let our beloved family members pass on with dignity and compassion.

    • @SusanHL
      @SusanHL 7 місяців тому +13

      I had my 15 year old cat euthanized just over 28 hours ago - finding this is a godsend. Wishing you peace, and with time, a degree of healing.

    • @mariee.5912
      @mariee.5912 7 місяців тому +4

      Sorry for your loss

    • @drcocter4638
      @drcocter4638 7 місяців тому +8

      Just lost my 18 year old dog yesterday man. Hurts so much. But I know he’s in a better place ❤

    • @Chihuahuauno1
      @Chihuahuauno1 7 місяців тому +6

      Our babies come into our lives to teach us about love❤️and they leave us, to show, how strong we truly are🙏🏼🌈

    • @ven06
      @ven06 6 місяців тому

      lost my 10 year old dog today. put her down about 2.5 hours ago as i'm writing this (3:30 P.M EST 10/13/2023) i'm so distraught but it's great people in the comments with similar experiences can come together. much love bro. i wish my dog lived that long.@@drcocter4638

  • @sydcharlotte
    @sydcharlotte 11 місяців тому +834

    I lost my Yorkie son 2 days ago and it’s a pain I’ve never felt. I have no partner, no human children, he was my everything. I’m just laying here crying and unsure of how to go on. This Ted talk was so helpful. Blessings and healings to everyone who is going through this right now 😞

    • @weskus01
      @weskus01 11 місяців тому +2

      ❤❤

    • @lorrainewilliams7896
      @lorrainewilliams7896 11 місяців тому +12

      Thank you for posting this Sydney and I wish great blessings and healings to you, too.
      I lost my kitty girl 11 days ago. I am also socially isolated but am also in the 5th comorbidity - she was my platonic significant other - so I am having an extremely hard time processing this loss. I don't know who I am without her. Reading what you wrote helped me feel a little bit better.

    • @akanshagupta8436
      @akanshagupta8436 11 місяців тому +25

      I lost my dog yesterday my heart is filled with grief

    • @Nil_Embrace
      @Nil_Embrace 11 місяців тому +17

      I’m so sorry. I recently lost my my dog after 16 years. You are right, the pain is so profound. This happened 2 weeks ago and I don’t even know what to do myself. My thoughts go out to you and anyone reading this that suffers a pain so deep it goes right through one side of your soul and out the other end, leaving a huge hole in the process. I wish you and everyone else only the best.

    • @starrmorefield5716
      @starrmorefield5716 11 місяців тому +8

      I'm praying for you and am sending love ,I just had to put my cat down Tuesday....my heart hurts so much 😭

  • @beetothetee
    @beetothetee 5 місяців тому +59

    I lost my cat, Amélie, a week ago. For 13 years, she was my little shadow- she stretched out on the kitchen floor when I cooked, she curled up on the bathroom rug when I showered, she purred me to sleep every night, and woke me up every morning. She looked at me like I hung the moon.
    She rescued me. She wouldn’t eat without me, and when I wanted to give up, I kept myself going because I couldn’t leave her.
    I’ve never felt a grief this heavy. In a lot of ways, I feel like I let her down.
    I still have trouble eating, sleeping, showering- everything reminds me of her. She was my whole world.
    I sobbed through this video, but I appreciate it a lot. Thank you for this.

    • @shayne8095
      @shayne8095 5 місяців тому

      I'm sorry for your loss! I lost my beloved dog this week, I can understand what you are saying. The pain is immeasurable, my heart stings, breathing is difficult, I'm reminded of her by almost all objects in the house. And I am a visual person and break down when I imagine her last moments at the vet, or the image of her turning to ash. Do you by any chance have any advice, tips or helpful words? Life is not the same anymore.

    • @Adrianaxo.
      @Adrianaxo. 2 місяці тому

      I lost my cat two days and it’s so devasting😔🥺

  • @corntheeapple
    @corntheeapple 2 місяці тому +59

    My dog was put down today around 11:40am due to a brain tumor/seizure. I can’t even describe how much I wish I could have him with me forever ❤ if only they can live as long as we do! I’ll miss the sound of his nails tapping on our wooden floors while following me around the house🐾 He would’ve been 18 in October this year…

    • @MarksTournaments
      @MarksTournaments Місяць тому

      Lucky to have him till 18

    • @maggie0940
      @maggie0940 29 днів тому

      I lost my Dachshund 4 weeks ago. Had a seizure, his first, rushed him to ER. They said possible Brain tumor and doing research he had many of the symptoms. I think he was gone after the seizure since he didn’t react to any stimuli 😢 The worst part is he cried out during the Euthanasia process and after the seizures😭 This sound plays over and over in my mind💔 I just hope he wasn’t in pain🐾🐾 All of our others pets went peacefully and I’m still in shock that Teddy didn’t have that same experience 😭

    • @corntheeapple
      @corntheeapple 29 днів тому

      @@maggie0940 sending many blessings to you❤️! Losing a furry family member is never is easy that’s for sure :(

  • @k.fuentes7448
    @k.fuentes7448 8 місяців тому +478

    I don’t think anyone who has lost a beloved pet can get through this video without crying. This video was been extremely informative. Thank you.

    • @user-de4ty9kg6o
      @user-de4ty9kg6o 5 місяців тому +2

      No argument there

    • @RSB1949
      @RSB1949 5 місяців тому +1

      I minute in 😢

    • @kittychaos1010
      @kittychaos1010 5 місяців тому

      Yep. Already crying. I miss my girls so much.

    • @user-ug2hk3go6i
      @user-ug2hk3go6i 5 місяців тому

      Very true.

    • @Reeeeeee12345
      @Reeeeeee12345 5 місяців тому +1

      I put my 14 yo pitbull to sleep two weeks ago. My 12 yo lab died this morning.

  • @annemcclair1097
    @annemcclair1097 Рік тому +654

    I just turned 60 and the worst pain I have ever experienced is when I lost my 10 year old Great Dane. It has been over a year and I have cried every day since. I have lost family members and friends, I have grieved the death of a marriage but I am struggling with the loss of my dog like I have never struggled before. Thank you for the validation.

    • @George-po3fx
      @George-po3fx Рік тому +25

      It’s like they are the last beautiful reminder of all loves in one, and then they’re gone… as though they hold off our grief of everything else, but it all comes down when they must leave. My heart is broken, 8 months later

    • @suzannetaylor5374
      @suzannetaylor5374 Рік тому +9

      Pass it one day at a time.I promise it will feel better but you will always miss your buddy.

    • @kimm31
      @kimm31 Рік тому +7

      @@George-po3fx I’m so sorry 💔😭

    • @cbcluckyii4042
      @cbcluckyii4042 Рік тому +16

      Sorry for your loss. If your best friend was there for alot of your major transition in life, it hurts even more because they really truly focus on you and only you, unless you have their favourite treat or eating your best dish in front of them. I was raised Buddhist but I'm not religious and consider myself agnostic. But I do take comfort in the cultural traditions and customs my family practices with a mix of ancestor worship, they are still with you and still wants food presents offered to them on special dates. They may reincarnate and come back into your life or wait for you on the other side. I don't believe it but I take comfort in practicing the rituals that takes place when a family member dies. I lit an incense for him the night he died and put out some food and fresh water. When I go to pick up his urn, I will be guiding him back home with me to rest. I take comfort in this. Not sure if this sounds silly to you, but whatever can help you take some comfort in, I hope you find it. I know the pain and mine is raw as it's only been 3 days.

    • @AlphaFemmeXtine
      @AlphaFemmeXtine Рік тому +7

      My heart hurts for you 💔😔

  • @texascacti
    @texascacti 2 місяці тому +34

    Hugs to everyone who has lost a beloved pet. I lost the cat on my picture on Thanksgiving day. She was 17 1/2. I spent 2 afternoons in bed after letting her go. I held her in her last moments. I could feel her purring in gratitude. Less than 3 weeks later, my mom passed.

  • @charleslechair11
    @charleslechair11 26 днів тому +4

    Lost my family’s first dog, Coco, a few days ago. She lived until 12 and a half years old as a boxer. She had a great personality that made everyone happy. Everyone was a friend to her. Now with her gone it feels lonely. As of now I’m still in shock. Now we come home to an empty dog bed, no longer having someone to excitedly greet us and make our day. We truly lost a big part of the family. I love you Coco, you are now free and at peace.

  • @clarelwc2849
    @clarelwc2849 9 місяців тому +528

    I really needed to hear this...I'm 50, no kids, single and lost my cat last month... I am so brokenhearted 💔 and cried through all of this. Thanks for sharing

    • @rosspep581
      @rosspep581 9 місяців тому +13

      There is a path. Don’t give up hoping that you will have that same love again someday. Please embrace hope.

    • @sweetznana
      @sweetznana 9 місяців тому +4

      I hope you find peace and happiness. I'm sure your angel also wishes for the same 💐🧡

    • @AJL04B
      @AJL04B 9 місяців тому +4

      Big hug

    • @kittensanddaisies5615
      @kittensanddaisies5615 9 місяців тому +5

      So sorry for your loss. The pain of losing a beloved pet is like no other. Sending you a big hug x

    • @Carol-sz3nr
      @Carol-sz3nr 8 місяців тому +2

      So sorry for your loss . It’s totally
      heartbreaking.x

  • @Chn1309
    @Chn1309 Рік тому +808

    My dog passed away yesterday. It hurts so much but I will always keep him in my heart❤️

    • @janetstephens9563
      @janetstephens9563 Рік тому +12

      ❤️🙏🏼❤️

    • @gd4378
      @gd4378 Рік тому +12

      Sorry for your loss 😢🙏

    • @valsainking
      @valsainking Рік тому +14

      Omg, I am so very sorry, Christina. Just know that you will come out of this grief a much better person, but you just have to allow yourself to 'feel' the pain and let it wash over you, in order to rise above it. I went through this a little over a year ago, and it was crippling, but in time, your heart will heal and the pain will lessen. Trust me! Just hang in there and know you are supposed to feel the pain and grief. It's perfectly normal. 💔💔💕💕

    • @theMermaidRhonda
      @theMermaidRhonda Рік тому +7

      My husband and I lost our two outdoor cats one day apart over the week of the 14th. Sending you lots of hugs.

    • @jeanettegreenwell9823
      @jeanettegreenwell9823 Рік тому +4

      ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @timjohnson8820
    @timjohnson8820 4 місяці тому +14

    Euthanized my beloved cat 2 days ago. I cried like a baby in the vets office even though I am a 54 year old man. She meant that much to me and the emotion of losing her was that painful

    • @kimsmitherman6998
      @kimsmitherman6998 4 місяці тому +1

      So very sorry to hear this. I know the pain feels unbearable. It helps to know you gave her a wonderful life.

  • @LazyPlumbob
    @LazyPlumbob 2 місяці тому +6

    My heart broke on February 14th, 2024. I lost my best friend on Valentine's Day. His name was Nippy, and he was my whole world.
    He miraculously came into my life two days before my 16th birthday, shortly after losing two of my sweetest furry companions. I didn't want a new pet, but when I saw little Nippy, I saw my previous two dogs. As if they had been reincarnated. My two best friends wrapped up into one!
    He was by my side every step of the way, and although I loved him with all my heart and gave him as much as I could, I still feel so much guilt because of everything I didn't have the chance to share with him. There is so much I still wanted to show him in life. 15 years wasn't enough.
    At the beginning of 2023, we found out that he had a heart condition, and my life completely changed. I never thought about ever losing my best friend, but when I learned about his weak little heart, I was constantly worried about him. What if something happens to him when I'm not home? What if I woke up tomorrow and he passed away in his sleep? What if? His condition worsened, regardless of his regular vet checkups and expensive medications. We took him on adventures but also took so much away from him intending to keep him safe. Did we do the right thing? Should I have taken those things away from him? Would he still be alive if I had done things differently? These questions have been popping up in my mind ever since he passed away, and the waves of guilt I feel are unbearable. A few days before he passed away, his health significantly declined. We took him to the vet, but they didn't mention anything unusual. They gave us new medication and asked us to report back within two weeks. He didn't make it past the first week after his last visit to the vet. He took his last breath and his heartbeat slowly faded into nothing. He passed away in my arms in the early hours of the morning. My soulmate, gone forever.
    How ironic that his heart finally healed on Valentine's Day. Also the day my heart broke into a million pieces. I miss my best friend every day, and I can't wait to see him again.

  • @mefrog10
    @mefrog10 11 місяців тому +327

    I lived with my cat Sybil for almost 20 years, she passed away 3 years ago and I still randomly burst into tears when I think about her.

    • @JK-pt3pt
      @JK-pt3pt 11 місяців тому +5

      May God help. u r v brave to ve faced it. but reality of world is that every living being has to go one day. And thats not the end. There is an afterlife. ur cat is waiting for u in the heavens. u will meet her/him. btw it was male or female?

    • @kelleywyskiel3478
      @kelleywyskiel3478 9 місяців тому +5

      I feel this in my soul.
      Same about my dog.
      So may hugs to you ❤

    • @JK-pt3pt
      @JK-pt3pt 9 місяців тому +3

      One of my 4 months old cute russian female kitten died due to infection 5 months ago. We buried her body in our lawn and every day i go to work at have a look towards her grave and i tell her "dont worry. i will see u in heaven sweetheart". Now my 5 yrs male cat is suffering from kidneys infection. Pl all pray for his health as i cannot afford one more life. Whats ironic about having pets is that when they die, for most its not something to get traumatized for. The problem is when u parent them, they no longer are animals. They are as much part of your family as human counter parts. We named our russian cat "Coco Putin" and male persian is K2 (Karakoram 2). He is big fully white like K2.

    • @PredatorPeyami
      @PredatorPeyami 9 місяців тому +3

      im sure you loved her too much and im sure your Sybil feel it completly. and i agree with @JK-pt3pt you will reunite with Sybil like i will reunite with my Çingen the cat

    • @PredatorPeyami
      @PredatorPeyami 9 місяців тому +3

      @@JK-pt3pt i pray for your cat's well being

  • @shanerhoden
    @shanerhoden Рік тому +755

    I put my 13 year old dog Luke down today. I’ve never felt pain like this in my life. Thank you for making this video. It was helpful. I’m a grown man sleeping Luke’s vest in my bed tonight. I miss my buddy.

    • @Jennifermcintyre
      @Jennifermcintyre Рік тому +17

      I’m so so sorry 😢 I had to put my best friend to sleep August 6 2022 and I my heart has been broken ever since. He was my happiness and sunshine and losing him has changed my life in every way. I know the devastating pain you are feeling. Not everyone in our lives understand but I do and so do many in these comments… I’m sorry you lost your best friend 😔

    • @elainekent3551
      @elainekent3551 Рік тому

      💔💔💔

    • @hmmmidunno
      @hmmmidunno Рік тому +8

      I am sorry for your loss. It's so painful.

    • @denisefox4437
      @denisefox4437 Рік тому +9

      I’m very sad for you. I lost my beautiful boy Rob the dog seven years ago and I still feel very sad.

    • @jillmcglone3342
      @jillmcglone3342 Рік тому +15

      I too had 13 years with my SOUL mate, my beloved dog....5 days ago....Seems I’ve lost everything because I lost her. I’ve never loved or been loved like with her...she taught me everything and kept me alive. Asking her to help me to move forward. Best to all of you sharing this grief 💔❤️💔I miss those eyes 🌈

  • @progeniesofthetoiletpaperh6433
    @progeniesofthetoiletpaperh6433 3 місяці тому +21

    only pet companions can provide true unconditional love. They just love you, that's it. This is why me and my wife are so lucky to be surrounded with people who loves pets as much as we do. Our very first cat died Wednesday, and gut punch is an understatement. This is the most pain i've ever felt in my life.

  • @Malarkey59
    @Malarkey59 2 місяці тому +9

    I just lost my golden retriever, Maddie. It’s so hard and I’m so sad and don’t know what to do so I just came here.

    • @hamsahms598
      @hamsahms598 2 місяці тому

      I feel u strongly i am losing my cat and her 2 kittens (4 months old) ragdolls for parfo and it’s the hardest feeling i am experiencing its unexplained pain .. my heart goes to you truly i hope we can accept it someday and don’t forget the love and beautiful memories u gave him is forever with u and him it’s appreciated kindness is never forgotten 🤍

  • @lillithdv8
    @lillithdv8 Рік тому +416

    My cat is dying in my lap, she's been my companion for the last 18 years. I'am devastated to put her to sleep, thank you for your words

    • @aworrell4ot4life
      @aworrell4ot4life Рік тому +19

      Bless your heart...it's so painful.

    • @mikemahoney6840
      @mikemahoney6840 Рік тому +24

      I put my dog down 12 days ago.I had him 12 years.He was almost 14.His health was deteriorating and I couldn't let him suffer.I love him more than anyone or anything

    • @christaylor2529
      @christaylor2529 Рік тому +16

      It's horrific and it's painful but I felt peaceful after having done that with our 17-year-old cat ZANE GRAY after giving shots twice a day for five of the last years of his life. We cried but afterward you feel some peace knowing they aren't suffering anymore. Hugs I know that pain.

    • @channyl252
      @channyl252 Рік тому +10

      So sorry. Many blessings to you at this difficult time ♥️

    • @Wodenson
      @Wodenson Рік тому +2

      im so sorry 🙏🏻💗💗

  • @emcarveth
    @emcarveth Рік тому +897

    I'm a Veterinary Social Worker, and this was a beautiful video to share. I wish more folks understood and validated the pain and grief that folks go through when their beloved companions pass away. I tear up every day at my job, because I empathize with the families who are experiencing one of (if not the) worst day of their lives. If you are a pet owner on here and you've lost your baby, WE SEE YOU. WE HEAR YOU. YOUR GRIEF IS VALID. ❤

    • @BionicGinger
      @BionicGinger Рік тому +26

      VETERINARY SOCIAL WORKERS ARE A THING?!?!?! How does one get into that field? What kinds of services do you provide? And how does someone get a veterinary social worker?

    • @lynnmusiccowgirlely122
      @lynnmusiccowgirlely122 Рік тому +14

      Thank you and GOD bless you! My baby girl Rottie will take her final ride in her truck with mom next week. I AM A MESS!! I will not let her hurt. Also Dr. you are exceptional, thank you!

    • @sarahwoodward8250
      @sarahwoodward8250 Рік тому +5

      Emily god bless you xx

    • @xperiencesaecm
      @xperiencesaecm Рік тому +6

      God Bless you. Thanks for your amazing words.

    • @tlcorrenti
      @tlcorrenti Рік тому +16

      Emily Carveth......Thank you for validating all of us in our immense grief. I lost both of my 16 year old girls (dogs) in 2020 and I'm still in so much pain and I keep their ashes right next to me on their pillow on my bed. They will be buried with me when my time comes. I've never in my life felt this kind of pain and wouldn't wish it on no one and we had a very strong bond and I needed them more than they needed me. That's why I won't get another one as I just can't go thru this kind of pain again. I was blessed to be loved by these girls and I'm so grateful I had them to love and learn from in my life. I still have crying spells yearning for them and missing them so much! They were one of the best things that ever happened to me and I have never been the same without them. Thank you so much for understanding us . 😭

  • @DeaDPooL-vj4ph
    @DeaDPooL-vj4ph 3 місяці тому +44

    I lost my cat yesterday. I can't describe how the pain of losing my companion breaking me apart. I will miss him badly. He was my family, my son. I love you boy, I pray your peace.💔

    • @user-gp8xb2dv8s
      @user-gp8xb2dv8s 3 місяці тому +1

      I lost mine 2 days ago, I miss him so much and see him in everything I do. Which is a blessing and a curse. I watched this trying to figure out the pain and how to cope. I just wish I didn't have to cope. I pray our baby boys are playing with each other somewhere safe from this sinful world. I pray we get to see them again.

  • @katybeard
    @katybeard 6 місяців тому +29

    I just lost my dog about an hour ago. He had apparently been struggling with cancer for a while. A tumor burst and he lost blood flow go his brain. He just collapsed right there on the floor. I felt so helpless. He was my best friend. During his life he was a K9 hound for local police department. I just have to keep telling myself that he helped so many people, not only by finding missing children and reuniting them with their families, but he also put smiles on so many peoples faces. He has always been there for me, when I was diagnosed with anxiety, he showed me that I was brave and that I could get through this. I miss him so much, and I hope that he's having the time of his life wherever he is. I love you so so much Chief.

  • @bkhollyr
    @bkhollyr Рік тому +385

    It’s been over 20 years. I still tear up thinking about the pain of losing my dog. I haven’t had another pet since.

    • @SandyHart-jt6sz
      @SandyHart-jt6sz 11 місяців тому +42

      thats a long time .....there is soooo much joy to be had with another dog...it wouldnt replace your long lost companion just like no two children in a family are the same, you can do it again by rescuing a dog in desparate need of a home. i think you may find that it just might save you both.

    • @K9_NINA
      @K9_NINA 11 місяців тому +29

      I will never have another animal
      After having to put down my girl. I grew up with animals and have always had them- but Nina was my child. I have nothing left of my shattered heart to give to another animal that I would have to part with at some future date.

    • @cgogetit
      @cgogetit 10 місяців тому +22

      ​@@K9_NINAI understand your pain. I just put my baby down not even 48 hours ago. 16 years 7 months and 14 days I got to love him. This pain is unbearable. I have other pets. I have had other pets. But nothing compares the love and relationship that we had. Our bond was special. I think I was with him more than my own daughter once she became a teenager. We did everything together. He was my second child. I will never love another the way I love him. I don't know how I'm going to get through this.
      Updated: Its been a month since I lost him. I still mourn him daily. I go to his favorite spots and walking routes. I think about him all the time. Whenever I'm riding in my car I randomly cry. I'm so used to him being beside me in the passenger seat. It's 2 in the morning and I'm up crying about my baby. I miss him so much. 😭

    • @alexisjackson4241
      @alexisjackson4241 10 місяців тому +12

      @@cgogetitI put my dog of 10 years down on Monday. I am broken 💔 and grieve with you 🥺

    • @MrWonderPants
      @MrWonderPants 10 місяців тому +4

      ​​@@SandyHart-jt6sz will never have another dog, I just can't. But I see your point

  • @user-lz6dm5lk9y
    @user-lz6dm5lk9y Рік тому +600

    I began to weep almost immediately into this discussion. My little girl passed seven years ago. I am still grieving. I have another dog now, and I do love him, but no other dog or person can take her place. I just hope one day once I pass, we will be reunited. It is all I want in the world. Sarah knows what she is talking about. I wish everyone understood what Sarah understands about losing a beloved animal. Thank you, Sarah. Thank you very much indeed.

    • @wavecutter69
      @wavecutter69 Рік тому +20

      Truly when we pass we will be reunited with them. I have a new acceptance of death with girl gone.. when the grime reaper shows up for me I’m going to embrace him and say let’s go!

    • @user-lz6dm5lk9y
      @user-lz6dm5lk9y Рік тому +14

      @@wavecutter69 With the way the world is going, and being alone now without my girl especially, the end cannot come soon enough for me. I am already a senior anyway. I hope I do not live so long that I can no longer care for myself. To me, death is preferable than going to some state run facility for the aged and infirm.

    • @yepitsme3336
      @yepitsme3336 Рік тому +10

      I think the same. I want to be surrounded by all the pets I had. I am also a pet nanny, and I've lost my furry clients too, and I want to just be frolicking in a flower-filled field with a beautiful pond with my sweet animals... it has to be that way in heaven. Otherwise, I'm gonna have to have a talk with God!

    • @wavecutter69
      @wavecutter69 Рік тому +8

      @@user-lz6dm5lk9y you aren’t alone.. you have all us kindred spirits who have felt the same loss. It truly was a blessing to have them in our lives. And very humbling to realize how many wonderful people there are out there. I pray that I may have the strength to pick myself up and give it the best until the grim reaper shows up. To try and make this planet a little bit better than the way I came into it. And die knowing that I truly tried.

    • @Urmomlolllllll
      @Urmomlolllllll Рік тому +3

      @@wavecutter69 beautifully put ❤

  • @SyncKronysyti
    @SyncKronysyti 2 дні тому +2

    3 days ago I lost my little dwarf hamster and the light of my life, Potato. It’s been so hard because I want to talk about him and remember what a good boy he was, but most people don’t really understand because he’s ‘just a hamster’. They’re seen as disposable by so many people, but my little boy was my greatest comfort and the love of my life.
    I took care of him his whole life. He was always sweet, and gentle, and patient with me even when I teased him. He was a clumsy little guy and was always rolling off his platforms, or being tripped up by the bits and bobs around his cage. He loved mealworms and sunflower seeds, and he had the most adorable little grumpy face when being woken up. He’d carry around bits of bedding to use as a pillow, and he would come greet me and lick my fingers when I petted him. And he really loved his pets- he would immediately melt into a puddle and close his eyes when my hands touched him. Even all his vets commented on how docile and well behaved he was.
    He was there for me the last time I had my heart broken, and now I have to go through the heartbreak of losing him, without him. I love him so much, and I always will. I just feel so bad that his last moments were so painful and sudden- he got very sick one night, and was gone by the next day. He died at the vet, in my arms. I’ve been crying so much ever since and there isn’t a single second that I don’t miss him. I would give anything to see his sweet little face again, or stroke his head like I always did. It hurts so much.

    • @majajasinska3028
      @majajasinska3028 День тому

      I’m so sorry, I understand your pain. I hope you won’t blame yourself. Be kind to yourself, I’m sure potato loved you with his whole heart ❤️

  • @margotshaw3783
    @margotshaw3783 4 місяці тому +28

    I'm waiting for the vet to open tomorrow so that I can give my precious kitty Marigold (15 years since we rescued her)a soft goodbye. It has been excruciating and so much harder than I remember, watching her fade away and be helpless. Please pray for me. The unconditional love and constant presence of this orange kitty are already a devastating loss but I know it's time.
    Dr. Hoggan has helped. Bless you, Doc

    • @jen-a-purr
      @jen-a-purr 4 місяці тому

      I’m so sorry. It’s so hard to let them go. I lost mine this morning and I wasn’t there and it’s killing me 😢

    • @oblongfan1
      @oblongfan1 2 місяці тому

      its hard just did it this sunday for my baby cat of 10 years. he had kidney failure and it was advanced already. he was lethargic miserable and had bpdy odor. and i knew looking into his eyes that he was ready to go home. it hurts im in pain mentally and physically. im seeking therapy cause i dont know what else to do. i cry at work. i lie in bed calling out his name. i cry in the car. the grief is real. greif as much as you want and need to. make shrines of your baby, make photo albums. there are companies that make plush pillows of your pets. all these things help to keep them alive.

  • @fionacahalane9185
    @fionacahalane9185 Рік тому +415

    My dog of 19 years passed in my arms naturally yesterday of old age. He was never sick. He’s helped me through cancer, divorce and a breakdown. He stood by me as I rebuilt our life’s. He held me together. Less than 3 months ago I suddenly lost my sister.
    I’m overwhelmed and watching this I’m a mess but I understand. I’m trying not to be “ too emotional” in front of everyone but I just feel so sad. On my own I can’t keep it down.

    • @eileen8433
      @eileen8433 Рік тому +11

      I am so very sorry🌷

    • @jillmcglone3342
      @jillmcglone3342 Рік тому +10

      My heart goes out to you ❤️ ❤❤ your boy sounds like he had a long amazing life with you...I had 13 years and now I’m alone too ❤️❤️❤️

    • @eovecka
      @eovecka Рік тому +22

      I just had to put my 19 year old dog down two days ago and I’m on UA-cam watching this video trying to find any port in this storm. Like yours, mine had no health problems -his body simply was done and he stopped eating and drinking. It was very peaceful and he never suffered, so i have to be thankful for that. but he’s all I’ve ever known. He was my first dog, the love of my life, and my child since i don’t have kids. This loss is also the first time I’ve ever lost someone i am so close to, and it was the one I’m closest to. I am beside myself with grief. You are not alone in your pain. 💔

    • @JB-zo7ln
      @JB-zo7ln Рік тому +4

      I'm so sorry for your loss. I just lost my beloved cat and had to hold her as she took her last breaths. It broke my heart to pieces. She made me so happy and helped my through my tough times. It was one of the hardest things I had ever done was having to say goodbye and let her go. I think she felt my love and warmth for her as she passed away. I'm very upset and it is going to be hard, but I'm going to cherish her memories forever. We will reunite again someday.

    • @lynnmusiccowgirlely122
      @lynnmusiccowgirlely122 Рік тому +3

      Fiona words fall so short
      I know my Grace took her last breath April 25 so mine is so very fresh. Actually I can think of my Jacob and he has been gone 18yrs and I cannot believe it and yes STILL cry
      Prayers and hugs to you hun!

  • @Luv_lethabo
    @Luv_lethabo Рік тому +451

    My little dog passed away just last night. It was such a sudden and traumatic death. From the moment we put her in the car to rush to the hospital I started breaking down. I haven’t stopped crying since last night, everything reminds me of my sweet girl. The house feels beyond empty. I know there’s nothing we could have done to save her and the cause wasn’t our fault but I keep on thinking to our last moments, seeing if I could’ve done anything differently. I just hope she wasn’t in pain and that she is in doggy heaven now. I miss our Honey so much.

    • @guy7135
      @guy7135 Рік тому +19

      I just lost my 8 year old girl last night, and i sympathize with you also. i can't even comprehend the turmoil of my emotions till this day. around 5AM, my mother woke me up suddenly to let me know that my girl is no longer with me, as she passed away so suddenly and unexpectedly, she was still fine and very energetic as she eats the food. After she slept, she no longer moves, in a position in which she slept peacefully, I've cried so much that all i can feel from her body is stiffness and can no longer breathe, I know im talking and writing alot and i apologize for expressing so much emotion buts it's really hard to move on with something that you've felt attach with for 8 years. The sudden changes of the atmosphere of the house especially the silence is what hurts the most, I've tried to accept it but i can still heard the scratches of my door and the whimper/bark whenever i arrive at the house, it just hurt so much that the memory still lingers. After we bury her every now and then i always visit her grave and still grieve on the fact that she's no longer with me. It may take years for me to recuperate on stabilizing my emotions again. We will forever miss our dogs, and i hope to get to see her again up in heaven. (Sorry for expressing so much on this comment section of yours, i just want to vent it all out as i am shock and disbelief also that my dog is no longer with me. I also apologize if ever i said something wrong.)

    • @robfriar6570
      @robfriar6570 Рік тому +10

      I'm sorry for the death of your little dog. They come into your heart so easily and leave a gap that isn't easily filled. Please be gentle with yourself. Cry when you have to.

    • @arubamama123
      @arubamama123 Рік тому +6

      I did too 12/29 perhaps because they are so special.. so perfect.. so wonderful and most of all so unconditional the loss hurts beyond all else❤

    • @Sucker4Mitski
      @Sucker4Mitski Рік тому +5

      i just lost my best friend recently too

    • @channyl252
      @channyl252 Рік тому +8

      Keep crying it out friend. It’s okay to grieve and grieve hard. Please consider holding ceremony with your dogs ashes. It heals the family. It really does!

  • @susanmark2000
    @susanmark2000 6 місяців тому +15

    Our family had to say goodbye to my mom's cat today. Mom is in the hospital and at 93 won't be too far behind. The nurse turned a blind eye to let my sister "smuggle" the cat in, yesterday, for a final visit. We will always be grateful.

    • @neongreenninja5433
      @neongreenninja5433 6 місяців тому +2

      This type of thing can be hard to deal with, stay strong and understand you are not alone. Im glad there was a visit and appreciate your care and love. Our family dog 14 year old Pomeranian passed away some days ago . I'm so broken he was old of age , I feel was happy and wanted to live . I cant leave my room yet its been 4 , 5 days . This is one of the worst pains . He deserved to go on more walks, he had a bad left leg but was so happy to go on walks, it just kills me to see him the last few days how he would still put his neck up and acknowledge me even though he was weak and low energy. When id go sit by him he'd look at me. He passed away in front of me laying on my shirt, I kind of saw his eyes go he was lookin at me at passing. Its been tough , I don't feel ill ever forgive my self for this few months. I hurt my knee bad it was Acl and Pcl partial tear, i was resting my leg this few months, not as many walks and he passed few days ago, I feel responsible for his death . I don't know how to deal with this , I did not celebrate halloween and other holidays are around the corner, like Christmas and Thanksgiving, so broken I'm not sure I'm going be able to celebrate tbh. I sill cant accept that he is gone and he passed in front of me, I was kind of his care taker and protector , he had got lost 8 years or so ago and we found him at the shelter after checking constantly and calling, it was 3 weeks after he initially had got lost, we somehow found him again, and he joined us , he seemed to have been abused by some people or other dogs maybe I'm not sure, but he was different and little more aggressive when he returned, he trusted me the most, he was furry and it was fun to pet him, i miss him so much . he himself was a champion he over came so much like a bad leg and being lost for 1 month, and he helped me over come so many hard times when i was going through heavy depression he brought me joy and showed me love i was able to heal , after 14 years how can i move on with out him thank you for the video, if anyone read through this far, please pray for my dog his name is Furrari , god bless you

    • @susanmark2000
      @susanmark2000 6 місяців тому

      @@neongreenninja5433Thank you for your kind words. Please know that your dog had beautiful last moments staring into the heart and soul of you. He gave you a precious gift to die with you staring into each other's eyes' in the home he shared with you. I know it is very, very hard. I just ordered a memorial stone for my mom's cat. My ritual, when a pet dies, is to give the gift of a memorial stone with the pet's name on it. These are lovely indoors or out. You might want to consider one. I ordered mine off of Etsy.

  • @williammanser3863
    @williammanser3863 2 місяці тому +8

    This morning my wife and I lost our first baby, our cat Ronnie, our 3 year old British Shorthair. He died suddenly and unexpectedly overnight. He looked like he was still sleeping, curled up on his perch. I've never felt pain like it, the sense of loss is unbelievable, not just for the last 3 years, but for the 10+ years more we were meant to have with him. He was meant to meet our children, grow up with them. Now we will just have to tell them about him. I am broken.

    • @TheRavenesque
      @TheRavenesque Місяць тому

      I just want to say I know exactly how you are feeling. We lost our nearly 3 year old British shorthair yesterday to kidney failure from suspected lymphoma. There were no signs he was ill until he was clearly extremely poorly. The grief is horrendous and like you I am grieving for all the time we thought we would have together as they are so young. I’m so sorry, sending you love and peace and know that we are with you x

  • @vorikbaches
    @vorikbaches 11 місяців тому +112

    Having my boy euthenized in my arms after 15.5 years was the most traumatic thing I have ever experienced. Its only been a month and i still think i can hear him in my room. I really hope our dogs are in heaven. The day i had to take my boy in to be euthenized, i asked God for a sign and path. Shortly after , my boy Buster, dimentia and arthritic ridden, layed in my lap as if to say.."its ok mom, its ok" i will never ever forget that. R.I.P Buster, goodest of the good boys ❤

    • @TVY2013
      @TVY2013 10 місяців тому +8

      Yes, you CAN hear him in your room...They do visit us, often when we least expect it, like when Mitzi re-visited me -- more real than real -- two weeks after my mother died in May 2022... This was 29 years after Mitzi's passing... Take care!

    • @danielpapielpupstv4980
      @danielpapielpupstv4980 8 місяців тому +4

      Same with my 15 year old Pomeranian. Had to let her Rest In Peace even though she still seems full of energy, but did seem sad towards the end. The Doctor said she had kidney disease. Would only love a couple months. Couldn’t let her suffer two more months. Made the unthinkable decision😢 that afternoon. I’m crying now and it’s only been two weeks. I’m feeling down and I definitely lost a part of me when I had to let Sofia go.

    • @sickowhale6861
      @sickowhale6861 8 місяців тому +4

      If I can remember what happened on earth, I will ask Lord to revive my dog. I pray everyday. I'm sorry for your loss.

    • @patbeacher5451
      @patbeacher5451 7 місяців тому

      Omg l sitting here crying my eyes out l had to make that decision 18 months ago ,my life hasn't been the same .I fell unwell 2 days later bad stomach problems and lm still having them l feel so guilty xx

    • @TVY2013
      @TVY2013 7 місяців тому

      @@patbeacher5451 Pat, I don't know the specifics of your pet loss, but I do know that I felt guilt when I had to suddenly put down my mini-dachshund Mitzi under traumatizing circumstances. I played and replayed the details over and over in my mind... Gradually, I came to terms with Mitzi's loss -- in part because I had moving "visits" from her -- including one in May 2022 almost 29 years after she died. My mother died early in the month and the day after her service, I literally felt myself cradling Mitzi's warm body before she "evaporated." It was her way of saying Mom and her were reunited at last...
      ***I'm sure your beloved pet is in a beautiful place. Rest assured you will see her/him when your time comes... Take care!

  • @joescholes1153
    @joescholes1153 8 місяців тому +189

    My dog died just under 2 months ago. She deteriorated so quickly and it was hard to comprehend what the vets were saying about her grave condition. She had been running around the field and play fighting just a few days earlier. She went too soon and unexpectedly. She was my sister and meant the world to me. My family got her when I was young and she helped me through so many difficult times. The grief comes in waves. It was unbearable for the first few weeks. I’ve been relatively ok for the last couple of weeks and it just hit me again this evening. I don’t even know what triggered it today but it feels like a tsunami of emotions. I’m not sure time can truly heal such pain but I hope that one day I will be able to look at a photo of her that brings a smile before a tear.

    • @cerysbettis
      @cerysbettis 6 місяців тому +3

      went through a similar situation at a similar time, you aren't alone. identical situation to my 3 year old collie. I'm broken, and somehow hoping that it feels easier.

    • @nitadavi9547
      @nitadavi9547 5 місяців тому

      Literally going through the same thing 😞

    • @vaneetrandhawa2919
      @vaneetrandhawa2919 5 місяців тому

      True

    • @shayne8095
      @shayne8095 5 місяців тому +3

      Hello, I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my beloved dog this week. The pain is immeasurable, my heart stings, breathing is difficult, I'm reminded of her by almost all objects in the house. And I am a visual person and break down when I imagine her last moments at the vet, or the image of her turning to ash. Do you by any chance have any advice, tips or helpful words?

    • @systemofadown945
      @systemofadown945 5 місяців тому

      Stay strong joe

  • @kalineee90
    @kalineee90 3 місяці тому +8

    I got my loving cat Albus, right before I had a surgery that left me with cronich pains. 7,5 years of constant love and affection, not feeling lonely for a second with him by my side.. My mom got diagnosed with lung cancer 3 months ago, and he was the one that laid by me while I was sobbing..scared and lost of the thought of loosing my mom, specially as an only child. The warmth, the love I felt from that little furry ball of safety..no words, the look in his eyes was so comforting. He got sick right at the start of this year, I had to make the hardest and most heartbreaking decision to let him go a week ago..I held him in my arms to the very last heartbeat. The tears does not stop, it's like the ocean...it comes in waves, mostly at night..when he used to comfort me by just beeing here beside me. I love him so deeply and I'm so gratefull to have felt the price of absolutely uncondissional love❤️

  • @DrGreenWolf
    @DrGreenWolf 2 місяці тому +6

    How odd that this video would appear in my feed the day after I had to put one of my sweet angelic cats to sleep. I broke down and wept openly in the room after she was gone. I was fortunate enough to have a wonderful vet, Dr. Erin Sako, to offer a compassionate hug, and I lost it further. No pet is just an animal to me; they are my children.

  • @sirahbogani1089
    @sirahbogani1089 9 місяців тому +175

    Although these comments are all very sad,somehow I can't stop reading them. I guess that's because we all have something in common here. Love to all of you( and myself!). We need it more than ever now❤

    • @MaryLou913
      @MaryLou913 8 місяців тому +4

      Lots of Love. 🫂

    • @Chihuahuauno1
      @Chihuahuauno1 7 місяців тому +4

      Our babies come into our lives to teach us about love❤️and they leave us, to show, how strong we truly are🙏🏼🌈

    • @lesliedefilippis2150
      @lesliedefilippis2150 6 місяців тому +4

      Yes. It's good to find people who understand us.

    • @street_stranger5546
      @street_stranger5546 6 місяців тому +2

      ❤ everyone hurts and it's not easy when you don't see that little face looking back. Love is beautiful and sadly it's very painful. But it's better to have loved...I'm thankful knowing I had such an amazing best friend.
      However:
      With the love and strength he showed me today, and always...I will honor him and keep his spirit alive. My heart has his spirit and wisdom. I can't let that fade. Peace and Love!

    • @lesliedefilippis2150
      @lesliedefilippis2150 6 місяців тому +1

      ❤ I know that sadness too. Many do. I know it feels like you are alone. And in a way you are. You feel alone even with people. If they have not experienced this type of grief.

  • @carolineelkington407
    @carolineelkington407 8 місяців тому +171

    When I was 30, I lost my mum to a cancer we had no idea she had. Just 2 months from diagnosis to her passing. Now I'm 62 and we lost our darling cocker girl 9 weeks ago, to failed kidneys, unexpectedly, within a week. She was 12. The grief I am going through is right up there with losing mum, it's indescribable. But I lived through losing mum and ill get through this, even though at times I just want to give up on life. Godbless everyone xxxx

    • @lindsay22xx
      @lindsay22xx 8 місяців тому +5

      I’m sorry to read this.. and i don’t mean this in a bad way but i am also kinda glad i read this.. i feel the exact same my baby bud was 8 and i needed to put him down 2months ago sometimes i feel like giving up life i have no idea how to live without him… but i thought i was over reacting so to know i’m not the only one suites my thoughts…

    • @carolineelkington407
      @carolineelkington407 8 місяців тому +1

      @@lindsay22xx I'm glad I could be of comfort. I'm still grieving so much xxxx

    • @lindsay22xx
      @lindsay22xx 8 місяців тому

      @@carolineelkington407 same mine is 2months and 1 day and i am soooo hurt its indescribable
      I am sorry for your loss..

    • @carolineelkington407
      @carolineelkington407 8 місяців тому +1

      @lindsay22xx you too. Be kind to yourself, ignore anyone who doesn't understand, just do whatever you need to get through these weeks. We are in so much pain because we loved so much. But that love is worth every second. Godbless ❤️ xxx

    • @Little-bird-told-me
      @Little-bird-told-me 7 місяців тому

      I lost my pet a few days ago and I am going through the same emotion. I understand your pain

  • @user-wx2gz9nx6h
    @user-wx2gz9nx6h 5 місяців тому +19

    I just lost my cat today and this video appeared on my feed. I feel enormous grief, but it’s helpful to know that I’m not alone. 💔

    • @jasminfranzi6396
      @jasminfranzi6396 5 місяців тому

      i also had to put down my cat yesterday. are you feeling a little better? i feel like i will never recover and i do not know how to continue with my life without him.

    • @user-wx2gz9nx6h
      @user-wx2gz9nx6h 5 місяців тому

      @@jasminfranzi6396 I’m so sorry to hear about your cat. Sending you my love, thoughts and prayers. 🙏🐾 I still feel so much sadness. My heart hurts. My home feels emptier. But I try to remember that my cat is in a better place, free from pain, and prancing around a beautiful field at the rainbow bridge. I thought I heard little footsteps the other night, so I try to believe that my little one checks in on me once in a while. Stay strong. It’ll be hard but know that we will get through this. Take comfort in knowing that you gave your cat so much love.

    • @mariawallin2008
      @mariawallin2008 4 місяці тому

      No you are not alone, I lost mine Dec 5, 2023, 😢😢😢

    • @landerson465
      @landerson465 Місяць тому

      💔 long distance hug

  • @JimSwanson-eo2un
    @JimSwanson-eo2un Місяць тому +16

    My best friend was named “Wrigley”. I found him wandering down a street in the hills above LA. I put up notices on telephone poles all around, but nobody claimed him. I took him to the vet for a flea dip and check up. He turned out to eventually weigh 125 pounds. We went everywhere together. I even took him with me to acting auditions where he would patiently wait for me in the lobby. He was always petted by other actors and a few casting people. He made it to just over 11 years old when I had to say goodbye to him. Cancer was spreading quickly and he was fading. That was in 2009. I think of him every day. And finally smile instead of shedding tears. I will love him forever.

  • @gidgemo1869
    @gidgemo1869 8 місяців тому +208

    Less than a month ago, I lost both my 14 year old cats within 24 hours. They literally saved my life in 2016 - not figuratively, they literally saved my life. I’m still inconsolable. I’m a crazy cat lady with health issues and part of me wants to give up and not go on. No partner, no kids, happy with my life as it is, but in one 24 hour period, I completely broke. This video was something I really needed to watch, right now. Thank you.

    • @bubbles_mc_rainbow
      @bubbles_mc_rainbow 8 місяців тому +4

      💔💔💔💔💔😭

    • @EastmanEditing
      @EastmanEditing 8 місяців тому +15

      You aren’t alone. ❤ I hope you stick around for a long time and share your heart with another animal when you’re ready 💕🌈🐾

    • @thriftypinklady
      @thriftypinklady 8 місяців тому +13

      I'm so sorry for your loss, I'm going through the same thing. I lost my best friend suddenly and tragically yesterday, and I feel like I'll never be happy again. Please know that you aren't alone. As much as it hurts, we must find a will to live.

    • @bubbles_mc_rainbow
      @bubbles_mc_rainbow 8 місяців тому +9

      @@thriftypinklady 💔💔🥺 The first day and weeks are the worst. I hope you find all the support you need to get through this horrible time. It isn't easy at all 🥺

    • @stephenbartley8133
      @stephenbartley8133 8 місяців тому +5

      Hold on sweetheart.. It's got to get better eventually... maybe get yourself to the pound and pick up a couple of rescue cats.. those cats will shower you with love for years and years

  • @irisseer2773
    @irisseer2773 8 місяців тому +15

    "When those eyes go away" Full on bawling now 😢

  • @joejonaslover290
    @joejonaslover290 28 днів тому +3

    I lost my 20 year old baby boy a week ago as we had to put him down from having constant seizures. Im still hurting. Life hasn’t been the same! He went through 2 decades by my side. We grew up together. I’m having a hard time getting my heart and mind on the page in understanding that was the right choice. I’m in the process of telling myself I’m not selfish because I loved him so much to not let him suffer anymore and to let him rest in peace with no pain. I wish I could have him here with me forever in this life time. People tell me how lucky I am to be able to have my dog with me for 20 years, however, the longer he was here the stronger our bond was and the more memories we made. So it’s so much more harder. I will forever love you my baby Prince! You left your little footprints on my heart! And I will love you forever and always. My life hasn’t been the same since 💔 it was time, I know you are happy knowing you accomplished your goal of teaching us so much about patience, love, loyalty, etc. i hope your looking down on us and smiling/shining my angel ✨ I hope to see you soon my love and I hope you are waiting for me to jump into my arms at the gates of heaven 🐾

  • @mariog3326
    @mariog3326 2 місяці тому +17

    Our fur babies are angels of heaven, blessings from God. So yes, we will be with them again. Amen!

  • @zoejofeh9811
    @zoejofeh9811 Рік тому +279

    My family had to suddenly put my 11yo cat to sleep 4 days ago. The grief is like nothing I've ever experienced, worse than for any person I've lost in my life. I love my boy more than anybody else in the world. He's the love of my life. It's a physical and emotional grief more powerful than I can explain. I'm sharing sympathy with anybody going through the same devastation. I'm glad this speaker could put it into words

    • @plutoplatters
      @plutoplatters Рік тому +10

      Boy... do I feel your words. And your emotions.

    • @cruz.c
      @cruz.c Рік тому +6

      @@plutoplatters Im with you guys. my dog had his first seizure yesterday, and I cant stop thinking about him. he's recovered now but I'm so worried about what the vet is going to say. i cannot get my mind off of it. i don't know how to get back to my normal self.

    • @louismccomack9524
      @louismccomack9524 11 місяців тому +12

      Just lost my precious boy yesterday afternoon. The pain im feeling is almost unbearable, I just feel like im not existing in this world anymore.

    • @cruz.c
      @cruz.c 11 місяців тому +5

      @@louismccomack9524 hey. idk your life situation but focusing on other things and having gratitude has really helped me get my mind off of my dog. i recommend listening to the mind pump podcast on youtube, and pursuing fitness... i dont know what id do without fitness.

    • @leanneyates7869
      @leanneyates7869 11 місяців тому +6

      @@louismccomack9524 I lost my furbaby on Tuesday he was my bestie and it was so unexpected. I’m sorry you feel like I do x

  • @ethanjewell2593
    @ethanjewell2593 8 місяців тому +74

    I lost my cat Maggie this morning. She was 15 and she gave me so much love and joy. What I wouldn’t give to have her follow me downstairs to her food bowl again, staring up at me, purring so hard she squeaks. It’s like a part of me is missing. Rest in peace, Maggie mouse ❤

    • @Baby-su5rm
      @Baby-su5rm 5 місяців тому

      I’m sorry … I hope you find peace

  • @JoeBlolow
    @JoeBlolow 5 місяців тому +24

    I lost my best friend Quincy an hour ago. For 12 years he gave everything to me. I tried my best to return that love. I don’t regret the decision I had to make. The last thing I told him was I’d find him. I will!

  • @laurenhalkiotis853
    @laurenhalkiotis853 2 місяці тому +8

    I just had to say goodbye to my little girl a few nights ago… she was 15. My beautiful brindle pitty… we had conversations, we danced and felt so much joy together, she mourned with me, she adventured with me…I came home to her gone. She passed in her bed, snug as a bug…. Her last journey, and I couldn’t go with her….Nothing has ever hurt quite like this… I love her to the depths of my soul… missing her is like an ocean with no end in sight. Life just doesn’t feel the same and to know I have to go forward without her is excruciating.
    This video did give me some comfort ❤ thank you.

  • @paulinepickering8151
    @paulinepickering8151 Рік тому +197

    My life hasn't been the same.
    It's been 4 years
    I will never get over it.

    • @NA-vt6mz
      @NA-vt6mz Рік тому +3

      P😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 same here

    • @gwenbatoon5262
      @gwenbatoon5262 Рік тому +5

      5 yrs n i still cry

    • @ehuff8000
      @ehuff8000 Рік тому +6

      5 years for me after losing my soul dog. I begrudgingly opened what was left of my heart to a puppy about a year into grieving. Then Covid hit. That puppy saved me. He has truly been my emotional supporter. As an extreme introvert, my relationship with my dog is the purest relationship in my life. I catch myself sobbing sometimes when I look at him and think, how will I ever say goodbye to this boy.

    • @paulinepickering8151
      @paulinepickering8151 Рік тому +3

      @E Huff I went 16 months without my Rosie.
      My husband could see I was getting worse with the grief.
      He then found me our little Bonnie.
      I too think of loosing her as she is coming up to 3 in July
      I can relate to you totally x

    • @VTrucker777
      @VTrucker777 8 місяців тому

      Trigger unhealthy living for me
      I even consume my alergen just because taste good

  • @loydap1775
    @loydap1775 7 місяців тому +181

    I recently lost my best buddy of 17yrs. The loss is so big and I knew it was going to hurt but not as bad as it has. The house is quiet and life too still. I still hear his tippy taps. He will forever be in my heart 💔

    • @jackieallen8444
      @jackieallen8444 5 місяців тому +7

      I just lost my baby as well. We had her 15 years. The sadness is unbearable.

    • @loydap1775
      @loydap1775 5 місяців тому +3

      @@jackieallen8444 sorry for your loss. It is 🥺 I miss him every day as I’m sure you miss your baby too. Sending hugs.

    • @dreyy107
      @dreyy107 5 місяців тому

      ​@@loydap1775I lost my dog 2 days ago. She's just 5 yrs old. It hurt so bad like I don't know what to do. I can't even finish work

    • @selahjourney4460
      @selahjourney4460 5 місяців тому +5

      Losing my 9 yr old fur baby unexpectedly was the worst loss more than losing family members. We had a soul contract. He was my emotional support animal. He was there for so many life events.

    • @loydap1775
      @loydap1775 5 місяців тому +2

      @@selahjourney4460 my deepest condolences 🥺 I try and find comfort that I gave him the best life possible and loved on him so much. Sending you a big hug

  • @basiag.7946
    @basiag.7946 5 місяців тому +15

    The 3rd comorbidity hit me the hardest. I was rescued. And I'm forever grateful for that ❤

  • @kieyonero4165
    @kieyonero4165 Місяць тому +3

    I lost my beloved Aspin last night. He died in my arms, and it haunts me every time. I know he is now pain -free, but the pain of missing him will never be gone. I love you Tobie 💔

  • @tawogtrailers
    @tawogtrailers 8 місяців тому +27

    For those contemplating that hard decision. Our vet and good friend told me, its always better and more compassionate to let them go 1 day too early rather than 1 day too late leaving them suffering

    • @annebalderston2520
      @annebalderston2520 7 місяців тому +3

      Let them go sooner rather than later. They gave you their love
      and devotion for their whole lives-
      it is our responsibility to not let them suffer. Help them get out of
      that sick little body right away.
      Do not wait, do not put it off. AsK
      God to give you courage and strength to let them fly away
      into His arms. You will be with them again.🙏🏻

  • @blake8831
    @blake8831 Рік тому +251

    My dog passed last year and I still feel it everyday. I feel it in my heart, in my body, everywhere. I wake up and I think about him. I expect to see him everyday still. I hope anyone who has been through this continues on.

    • @lukiepookie5140
      @lukiepookie5140 Рік тому +6

      its the worst pain ive ever felt, he helped me through my mom’s addiction and my own, god it never gets easier

    • @MsRmaclaren
      @MsRmaclaren Рік тому

      FN A!

  • @Dreamlink91
    @Dreamlink91 2 місяці тому +6

    I rescued a cat In October last year, she was few months old and starwing In forest near the road. Yesterday she was euthanised, she came home as always but with broken leg and In night there was no help and the fracture was giant after a check up and anesthesia. I did not have heart to take her broken home while she was sleeping so piecefully and painless...and I couldnt afford anything else so we decided to put her down so that even If she survived does not have to suffer. As a bullied guy who never had his way in life, this cat showed me in those few months we were together how true love and happiness and now losing a loved one feels. She made me feel alive and i am thankfull to you Lara for the best moments of my life... The grief and pain and loss and guild i feel can not compare to anything, not even if my whole family went missing now..but i lit today a candle, looked at her photos but with positive side of thought, thanked her for everything she gave me and learned me in this short time and i poured my heart and soul into it. I will look at things that remind me of her with happiness and not sadness. I know that she went piecefully in her dream and not in immense pain and suffering. I love you Lara, I am no more affraid of life, death, catastrophy and loss..thank you for teaching me this is all part of live and that we have to cherrish every moment we have no matter how short it is. I love you and i know you love me too.

  • @isamaracc
    @isamaracc 4 місяці тому +4

    I lost Renesmee, my "forever kitten", on December 7th. She was the most adorable thing in my whole world, and now I can't even look at her pictures. I suspect a car ran over her.
    She was born in my room and lived with me for 10 years. She would go into the bathroom with me and ask for pets when I was on the toilet. She would also knead on my 'lonjas' when she wanted to nap with me. I loved her so much! Although we lived in the same house since her birth, I did not want to bury her there. I had her cremated so that I could take her with me everywhere I went.
    She took a big piece of me with her, and I will never forget her fluffy face and adorable green eyes.
    It makes me happy to think that she is waiting for me when it’s my time.

  • @kristinahuddleston4051
    @kristinahuddleston4051 8 місяців тому +234

    First, to all the folks commenting on here about their recent pet losses, I'm so sorry and wish I could hug each one of you. This talk is excellent, possibly one of the best I listened too. I'm a mental health therapist and frequently search for talks relevant to what a particular client is going through. This one I save for all my folks that are grieving the loss of their fur friend. Don't let anyone tell you it's "just" an animal, EVER. Love, friendship, safety, acceptance, companionship.... those NECESSARY ingredients ingredients for life are not dictated only to certain species. In fact, dare I say, sometimes animals know how to provide those things so much better than humans. So be free to love your pets fiercely folks - and remember, your grief for them is just that fierce love persevering. Don't let anyone tell you to limit it.

    • @mddallas2457
      @mddallas2457 6 місяців тому +2

      Thank you crying 11 03 23 was so hard

    • @briellet9984
      @briellet9984 5 місяців тому +4

      I know I’m commenting 2 months later but I just wanted to say thank you for your comment, I needed to hear that. I just lost my fur baby suddenly at the age of 3 I’m heartbroken. I’m also receiving a lot of “it is just an animal” comments, so your words helped!

    • @BikesRGuid
      @BikesRGuid 3 місяці тому +1

      Thank you for those words

    • @cat_lover007
      @cat_lover007 2 місяці тому

      😭😭💖💖💖

  • @ds99
    @ds99 11 місяців тому +161

    I lost my cat of 13 years 5 days ago. It hurts and there’s no help. The video put some things into perspective and I’m thankful for that. It still hurts to lose such a dear friend that I adored and he adored me. My house will never be the same. My happiness went when my kitty went.

    • @paulflint6254
      @paulflint6254 10 місяців тому +11

      Lost my cat too, very recently. The pain is so bad.

    • @ds99
      @ds99 10 місяців тому +5

      @@paulflint6254 I’m sorry for your loss. Mine has been gone for a month now and I have waves of sadness. I had two 8 x 10 portraits printed of him and I bought 2 picture frames. I have them on the wall and I find it helps me seeing him during his happier days. He will always be with me and the photos will ensure that I never forget his sweet little face. I’m glad he’s no longer suffering but disappointed that he got sick and died at 13. I was expecting him to live much longer than that where he was always very healthy.

  • @ellieblair3087
    @ellieblair3087 3 місяці тому +4

    For my Cat Arnold 26th January 2024.
    My beautiful darling little boy, there is a huge empty space in my heart where you lived for 4 years. You brought me so much joy and peace. You gave me the opportunity to love unconditionally. Watching you outside chasing the leaves in the wind, your spirit free and innocent, was all I needed to have my own spirits lifted.
    Sharing my life with you is a gift that will never be replaced or forgotten my Arnold. I miss you sleeping on my pillow with me, I miss you looking into my eyes, your heart full of trust that I will always take care of you. You were loved even by people who had never met you. How blessed I am that you chose me. The empty space in my heart is already filled with the beautiful memories I’ll have of our time together. Fly free my sweet boy.

  • @lolgamelol
    @lolgamelol 4 місяці тому +7

    My sweet cat recently passed on the 26th at 11 years old. It was an unexpected loss, we kne whe was losing weight but couldn't find an obvious issue. With some different food and appetite stimulants from the vet he seemed to be gaining again. I was so fortunate to have a week off work and he spend the entire week with me. The evening before he was on my desk wanting to be combed and snuggled. I feel like in a way we got to say goodbye even if i wasnt aware. He was my rock, my constant companion. He would always be by my side and not a day went by without him visiting me in my room. The constant reminder of his loss is unbearable and ive never felt so lonely. He was there was for me during my hardest moments and i will never forget our bond.

  • @lovelyasduck4476
    @lovelyasduck4476 Рік тому +167

    I lost my 16 year old cat on 12/30/22. He was my soulmate. During periods of depressive episodes I told people that if he died I was following. He got me through what were (hopefully) the worst periods of my life. I will never fill the hole he left. I just hope I can learn to live with it.

    • @amd-137
      @amd-137 Рік тому +19

      My 16 year old cat died 2 days ago, and was also with me during the darkest time of my life, he was my best friend...I think I called him that more than his name. I understand what this loss feels like, even though I have 2 other wonderful cats...my house feels empty and silent. My heart is heavy... I wish you all the comfort and peace during this hardest time. I am so very sorry for your loss.

    • @Chihuahuauno1
      @Chihuahuauno1 Рік тому +9

      Our babies come into our lives to teach us about love❤and they leave us, to show how strong we truly are✨🌈

    • @PatriciaBrown1711
      @PatriciaBrown1711 Рік тому +5

      @@amd-137 So sorry for your loss. Your best friend is always with you. Take Care.

    • @PatriciaBrown1711
      @PatriciaBrown1711 Рік тому +6

      So sorry for your loss. Yes your cat would want you to live. Stay Strong

    • @PatriciaBrown1711
      @PatriciaBrown1711 Рік тому +2

      @@Chihuahuauno1 Spot on.

  • @d-love74
    @d-love74 Рік тому +245

    I lost my yellow lab 3 months ago. I’m 48 and have endured many losses. This is by far the most painful loss of my life. It has devastated the whole family.

    • @d-love74
      @d-love74 Рік тому +14

      Mom misses you so much Daisy. You’ll always be my sweet girl.

    • @pmgdeleon4659
      @pmgdeleon4659 Рік тому +9

      She misses you too

    • @karissakline6765
      @karissakline6765 Рік тому +8

      I’m so so sorry for your loss, I hope you are in a better place soon with your family. This beautifully described grief, it is deeply real with our pets.

    • @leighwiseman8389
      @leighwiseman8389 Рік тому +7

      I lost my yellow lab 4 weeks ago and the pain is horrendous, I just want to die and be with her.

    • @channyl252
      @channyl252 Рік тому +3

      Please seek out a pet doula who can perform a ceremony to celebrate your pet. Gather your family and grieve in ceremony in order to heal ❤ It helps so much to do this. Sending hugs and understanding your way!

  • @ChefMimsy
    @ChefMimsy 2 місяці тому +3

    I lost my 20 year old kitty yesterday. I had to euthanize him because he was losing his kidney failure battle and the rest of his body was being affected. He stopped eating. He stopped playing. He spent all of his time in one closet, where he felt safe and warm.
    Yesterday morning, before our vet appointment, I had gotten up to pee and crawled back into bed. He came out of the closet and jumped onto the bed. He then laid on top of me and put his head on my chest. It was something he had never done before. He wasn't a cuddle cat. Somehow, even he knew it was the end and he wanted to say, "Yes, I do love you."
    I've never felt this level of pain in my life. I'm turning 70 this month. I lost both parents, 3 of my dearest friends and went through a divorce. This hurts worse than any other thing I've been through. My cat was my best friend. He never once told anyone any of my secrets.
    Thank you for this video. Thank you for helping me to grieve.

  • @snb97
    @snb97 2 місяці тому +3

    I've had this video in my youtube feed since the time my dog was diagnosed with congestive heart disease around a year ago. I avoided watching it until I needed it, and today was that day. Rest in Peace Pablo, you were my best buddy ❤💔😭

    • @Lalabaster
      @Lalabaster 2 місяці тому +2

      ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤I'm so sorry ❤

  • @noraann6372
    @noraann6372 11 місяців тому +125

    My cat died in 2010 at old age and now (2023) it still feels like yesterday. She's my baby girl to me, always and forever. She died on her own. She was about to turn 16 yrs old. She's a sweetheart. 😊❤❤❤

    • @Verbsdescribeus
      @Verbsdescribeus 9 місяців тому +1

      16 is not that old for a cat, they cat pass over 20, but glad that you took care of her that long :)

    • @TonyDracon
      @TonyDracon 8 місяців тому

      did you get a new cat since then?

  • @amaydejaamar
    @amaydejaamar Рік тому +196

    Yesterday was the worst day of my life. My rescue cat of barely a year and a half passed tragically. I am crushed, and this video gave comfort, insight and validation for the way I am feeling. We need to mourn our pets, because they deserve to be honoured. The kind of love and appreciation they give us is so pure and unconditional.

    • @WildernessForever
      @WildernessForever Рік тому +12

      I lost two babies within a few months of each other. Very hard to understand why something that has given you so much joy for such a short time is suddenly taken from you. I am absolutely devastated and hope I can pull out of this tailspin. God Bless you and I hope your heart heals.

    • @golin3760
      @golin3760 11 місяців тому +6

      I just lost my rescue cat yesterday. I am beyond devastated. I've never felt pain like this.

    • @laurenoakley1678
      @laurenoakley1678 10 місяців тому +3

      The highest honour. Grief is our body’s way of telling us that what we lost was worth it.

  • @DelSunflower33
    @DelSunflower33 3 дні тому +1

    I’m here today after putting my boy Ace down. We were so lucky to have him a year and 4 months of unconditional love. He taught me to be present and make choices only in the now. I love you forever Ace. 🐾

  • @VictoriaRomero-nq4sq
    @VictoriaRomero-nq4sq 3 дні тому +1

    I lost my Nipsey yesterday. Exactly 5 years after getting her. She was my shadow. She brought so much love, loyalty, joy and peace to my home but especially me. I’ve never lost a pet. She got sick on Wednesday, vet visit Thursday and told she had a cold. Passed over Thursday night after I tucked her in. There was pain in her eyes. Over a span of 24 hours, I had my best friend taken from me. I love her so much. Thank you for this video.

    • @SyncKronysyti
      @SyncKronysyti 2 дні тому +1

      I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful Nipsey. Your comment struck me because of how similar it felt to me- my little boy, Potato, also got sick on Wednesday and passed away on Thursday. I really understand what you must be going through right now, and I don’t know if you are religious but I will be keeping you and Nipsey in my prayers ❤️ looking forward to the day we can reunite with our beloved babies over the rainbow bridge 🌈

  • @missmeg5376
    @missmeg5376 9 місяців тому +83

    I hugged my fur babies immediately after seeing this.
    I'm sorry to those who have lost their pets.

  • @amandinegrandjean1460
    @amandinegrandjean1460 8 місяців тому +97

    I lost my baby cat 2 days ago to cancer, and I feel like I’ll never be the same anymore. I’m working from home a lot, and I used to spend every minutes of every days with her, cuddling, playing, or just with her laying on my knees. There’s no word to describe how much I miss her. Naboo was the most savage girl with people, yet the most gentle and affectionate with me, she always made me feel privileged with her love. I can’t sleep nor eat, every single moments of my day in this appartement reminds me of her absence.
    Thank you for validating the unbearable emptiness that I feel.
    (And sorry for my English, I’m french and needed to express my feelings after watching this)

    • @karimyers8762
      @karimyers8762 7 місяців тому +4

      I lost my cat yesterday. This is really hard. I hope it will get better for all of us.

    • @amandinegrandjean1460
      @amandinegrandjean1460 6 місяців тому

      @@karimyers8762 🤍

    • @mddallas2457
      @mddallas2457 6 місяців тому

      I work from home lost my cat 11/03/23 I put him down. He had cancer I'm so gutted

  • @andrewh3264
    @andrewh3264 3 місяці тому +8

    My dog passed 2 weeks ago and I'm not shy to say that I cried like a baby. And Im still not over it yet. I know in my heart all dogs go to Heaven and I'll see him again.

  • @jimbrew4529
    @jimbrew4529 Рік тому +159

    That was a wonderful explanation of our reason for heartache after losing our pet. I'll add one more reason. For 15.5 years, I was labrador Mocha's caretaker. Part of every day was spent caring for and analyzing her needs. It was a large part of my day. When she had to go, I came to realize I was also grieving losing part of my identity, namely being Mocha's dad and caretaker. In her eyes, I was a rock star. Now, I don't know what I am.

    • @yepitsme3336
      @yepitsme3336 Рік тому +17

      I think you're still a rock star. Look at what you did for your sweet Mocha. That will always be!

    • @Kaws_One
      @Kaws_One Рік тому +14

      @@yepitsme3336 Being a caregiver is rewarding and bonding. It's one of the hardest parts to let go of.

    • @yepitsme3336
      @yepitsme3336 Рік тому +6

      @@Kaws_One - agreed

    • @Deelitee
      @Deelitee Рік тому +10

      You are exactly as she saw you. ❤ I know my heart will soon feel your exact sadness. God will give us the capacity to love again and to be loved!

    • @k.berry-hicks5518
      @k.berry-hicks5518 Рік тому +9

      My heart is so with you. Losing Penny yesterday has me so completely lost 😢

  • @rachelhaslett3070
    @rachelhaslett3070 10 місяців тому +44

    My 17-year-old little dog passed away a week ago on his own. He waited for me to leave town on a trip so I wouldn’t find him. He thought of me to the end. My heart is broken in a million pieces. The pain is real.

    • @gtavtheavengergunnerlegend3340
      @gtavtheavengergunnerlegend3340 8 місяців тому +5

      a neighbor shot my 9 year old sweet terrier 2 days ago. just for walking through his yard.
      this hurts so bad

    • @ooohlaa13
      @ooohlaa13 7 місяців тому

      omg my heart goes out to you ... not only for the horrid loss of your dog but to have to have a living reminder right in your neighborhood ... I do not believe one ever really recovers from the compounded loss of a horrible scenario. I found my soulmate cat ravaged in my garden, some wild animal got him, and 3 days later my very high spirited 13 year old cat out of the blue started acting funnee, I heard him screaming in the house and he was struggling to get up, paralyzed ... he died in my arms on the floor about an hour later. Two horrid scenes to be left with, similar to your horror of having a neighbor as a reminder of a cruel event. My heart goes out to you, this is one of life' difficult passages we come here to share. I am hoping at some point life' s cruelty makes some sense. How are you getting along now?@@gtavtheavengergunnerlegend3340

  • @deedee5459
    @deedee5459 13 днів тому +3

    My baby Luna got put to sleep today. She was my world. She rescued and saved me, now she’s gone…. My soul is crushed. I haven’t stopped crying and I’ve never felt this pain in my entire existence. Thank you for the video ❤

    • @WilliamAndScout
      @WilliamAndScout 13 днів тому +1

      Wow is painful.

    • @tink040370
      @tink040370 12 днів тому

      I had to put my kitty to sleep yesterday too. My soul is crushed. I’m not going to be ok for a long long time.

  • @aviierah
    @aviierah Рік тому +26

    My dog passed away today. I will never got to see him grow old. He was such a bright and happy boy.

  • @bkennyyy
    @bkennyyy Рік тому +96

    I had to put my handsome boy, Zumi, down yesterday. He lived a good and spoiled 10 years of his life, unfortunately he had a nasal tumor that was severely affecting his quality of life. Driving to the pet hospital was the most difficult and long drive I’ve ever felt and coming back home empty handed without my furr baby broke me into a million pieces. I thought I knew what an actual heartbreak felt like but boyyyy I was completely wrong, I never imagined losing my dog would hurt so so much. I feel like someone grabbed my heart and stabbed it a million times. I love you Zumi, be a good boy in doggy Heaven ❤️

    • @Deltatrip39
      @Deltatrip39 Рік тому +6

      You’ll see him again he was too good for the world

    • @Chihuahuauno1
      @Chihuahuauno1 Рік тому +3

      Our babies come into our lives to teach us about love, and they leave us, to show how strong we truly are... . .

    • @bkennyyy
      @bkennyyy Рік тому +2

      @@Chihuahuauno1 this is so well said, thank you for your kind words. This means a lot to me 🫶

    • @Chihuahuauno1
      @Chihuahuauno1 Рік тому +2

      @@bkennyyy it helped, and still helps me, navigate the death of my first Chihuahua-baby, Fendi-Dog, all the way back now since 2018. I'm so glad it helps you too🫶🏼

    • @eileen8433
      @eileen8433 Рік тому +1

      I am so sorry for your loss of dear Zumi. That is the cutest pet name I have ever heard💙