The emotional costs of euthanasia | Sarah Hoggan DVM | TEDxTemecula
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- Опубліковано 24 жов 2019
- Euthanasia is a decision that will echo in your mind long after the event. This talk explains that echo and why it occurs. Sarah has worked as an emergency doctor throughout her veterinary career. She feels her most important task as an emergency doctor is translating the medical diagnosis and clinical situation into a more understandable context for the family so they can make decisions feeling empowered instead of overwhelmed. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Losing an animal is one of the most soul wrenching things in life tbh
Im feeling so terrible. : (
Agreed and it never gets easier 😞
I just lost my soulmate of 12 years and 10 months. I just feel devastated and hollow and that all the sunshine and light have left the world. I do not know how it will get easier, it’s so difficult to go on. My baby was suffering: he got cancer that we tried to beat to the end and then he got a secondary cancer and it spread to his liver and kidneys and lungs. Im dying inside as I lost my baby yesterday. I had to euthanize him and it kills me. Another thing that kills me is that I did not do it earlier but kept on hoping and fighting.
@@pye5386 sorry for your loss. It's a very hard decision and the first time around I know I waited too long on my first dig. The reality of the situation is that we will out live them in the best case scenario. I euthanized my loving chihuahua just over 2 weeks ago. I will always miss her but in time I'm adjusting to life without her. Knowing she had her time in my life and I gave her the fullest life she could have had . I'm sure you gave your baby the fullest life and gave the maximum amount of love and caring to your decision to euthanize. Hang in there, grief comes in waves and right now it's pretty rocky. The waters will settle to a ripple and you will be able to carry on. Take care of yourself during this time, even if you don't feel like it 💗
Lost my boy today, this is the worst pain
I am deep in the trenches of guilt, I know euthanasia is the kindest way for them to go but I feel like the worst person ever. The Vet told me my dog had a really bad heart and I had to put her down. It's been 4 days..my routine is gone, my sunshine is gone. She is just gone and I am doing my best but I am really really struggling. For anyone watching this or reading comments, who is mourning a loss, I am deeply sorry for your pain.
so very sorry
So Very sorry for you and your broken heart! Will be facing it AGAIN myself next week.
My sweet buddy has an enlarged heart, he won’t get better, he’s on meds, but I know the end is coming to one of the sweetest lovable dogs ever, I love him so and I’m already grieving before it happens. I feel your pain.😭
I know exactly how you feel I’m going through the same guilt. I lost my beautiful German Shepherd December 22 and I am still grieving. She had an aggressive tumour and arthritis in all legs. She was suffering but I still feel so guilty.
I am sorry for your loss, truly. I know it gets said a lot but it ia true : it does get better. I lost both my mare and my dog (also a rescue) both to cancer in a year and it's been gutt wrenching. I'm lucky I still have one dog with me and it helps a lot, the house doesn't feel as empty but I still cry over them frequently but, somehow, the happy memories are slowly taking over the grief.
I just had to put my baby to rest yesterday. Watch her take her last breath, and watch her heart stop while tears are pouring down my face and I’m just petting her and singing you are my sunshine to her. I’ll never, ever be the same again. I’m utterly destroyed. I know I did the right thing, that’s what everyone says, but it sure does hurt.
You will get through and feel better.. just takes time
I understand and send cyber hugs
I have to put my cat down tomorrow. condolences, and hope you are feeling better.
@@hypoxia_lover I’m so sorry, I hope that you have some support. Honestly I’m waiting for it to get better. I guess it has gotten somewhat better but not a day goes by that I don’t cry, I miss Zoey so much.
Me too. I let Sherman go yesterday, my dog, my fur baby bestie handsome boy! I’m distraught! I felt his last breath, and was telling him what an awesome boy he is, and how lucky I am to have him. How much I love him, and how brave he is. I keep seeing him, and when I look, he’s not there. I found our other dog laying exactly where Sherman passed. We’re all grieving so much. Hurts. Really hurts.
Today, I dropped my dog, Gibbs, off at the vet so they can take care of an infection. I planned on going to pick him up after work and give him some extra TLC the next few days. That did not happen though; he's coming home in an urn instead. Turns out, that infection was cancer and it is so bad he would have suffered if I waited any longer.
Over the years, I have watched this video multiple times and I am so appreciative to have it. I just did not expect to be watching it today. RIP Gibbs 2010-2023.
I know most of you guys on this video are going through this too. Even though I do not know you, I am so sorry for your loss and I hope things work out for you.
Glad you had a good friend like Gibbs. I wish you all the best 💕
Thank you❤
Thank you for this 🙏🏾
@@AishaandLife 🫂
I am so sorry for your loss.
“Grief is the natural price we pay for loving.” Powerful!
And i don't even wanna live in the first place 💀
Love has pain
The more loving and caring, the more it hurts. That's what it feels like to me.
If the people chose to die that way, it's not euthanasia, but instead is suicide or assisted suicide.
That’s beautiful ❤️
The French Nobel Prize winner Anatole France said, "Unless one has loved an animal, a part of the soul remains unawakened." The depth of grief over an animal can be as deep as over a human.
Many times deeper.
Deeper❤❤❤
I could not have said it better.
❤this
In my life I have had 6 cats and 4 dogs. All of my cats have crossed the rainbow bridge and one dog. I loved them very much. In 1996 I lost my 12 year old son in an accident. I can honestly say the loss of my son has hurt me far deeper than the loss of my fur babies.
This lady is an angel for talking to us in this way. She is caring for the guardians of the animals too! God bless her
Can't agree more ❤
Our babies come into our lives to teach us about love❤️and they leave us, to show, how strong we truly are🙏🏼🌈
I think this was a good speach until he had to bring god into it.
LOSTOMACO ~ I just started writing my comment when I glanced down at yours. What I was writing was word for word almost the same as what you have written here. So, since I didn't want it to look like I had copied you, I backspaced and deleted what I had started typing. This is just to say, you are spot on and I agree with your comment wholeheartedly.
I said goodbye to my friend of 14 years today. He taught me so, so much. So glad i found this today.
i said goodbye to my boy 2 days ago to heart failure, he hung on for 9 months since his diagnosis like a champion but his heart finally shut down and he wasnt okay anymore. i feel your pain victoria
I found this video back in 2022 when we put one of our babies down. Now here again in 2024, putting another baby down, coming back to this video for comfort.
I have to put my pet down in couple of hours, and I've been crying the whole video. I've never grieved this much in my life. This will be hard to get over.
Today was the day for our cat Sophia. She went by “FeeFee” and was the sweetest cat I’ve ever known. I don’t know how I will sleep tonight without her on my chest, where she’s slept every night for the last 10 years. I miss her so much. My heart is broken. A piece of me is gone forever.
She did very well not to cry and completely break down during this speech. This is the speech I needed to hear.
Grief isn't the price we pay FOR loving..
it's just love that has nowhere to go.
February 14, 2024 my baby Petunia left me after I had to rush her to the emergency vet. Euthanasia helped her pain end. She was seizing throughout the night. I held her.
More than a year later, and I STILL question that decision. It was like losing a child. I still hurt.
It has been 26 days since I had to lay my soul kitty to rest. Making that impossible decision shattered my heart, but I knew it was the last act of earthly love I could give to my best friend. I miss him so fiercely and not a day has passed where I haven’t cried over him. But it was the relief he deserved. Sending love to anyone reading this who is here for the same reason. I grieve alongside you♥️
I had to put my last dog down on March 4th of this year. It tore my heart out and shattered my soul. I still cry every day for her.
Thank you for your post. We just had to lay our soul kitty to rest yesterday and the emotional pain is so bad. I just want him back. I just want to pet his fur again. But he was suffering so much and wasn’t eating or drinking or pooping. I miss him so much.
Thank you. This is so comforting. I just put my beloved almost 19 year old cat to sleep who was so very sick.
Last Thursday I had my last pet of 2 dogs and 2 cats ...my little Callie down. She knew somehow that I needed her she hung in there for me. And I finally saw she was suffering herself I had to stop being selfish. She was 19 years old and both of us with failed kidneys. I knew I would want to go someday being on dialysis. But what about Callie? Did she want to go? Was I not giving her a choice. Well I realized her sacrifice was real and long enough. I let her go. Her vet knew her and said nothing and put my sweet Callie to sleep. My last pet. I love you Callie and mom misses you a bunch.❤
Thank you for your words, they are hugely appreciated.
On Sunday 02 July my best friend ever passed away, Bobbie the cat.
I honestly do not know how I will cope without him and life is so painful now.
Yesterday we had to let our beautiful little boy go. It was his time. He was the best little dog we could have ever had. He was a month shy of being 18, little Jack Russell Terrier, Bailey. He died peacefully in my husband’s arms, thanks to the wonderful vet who came to our home so he could die with us there, loving him every last moment. This is very hard, now we have to get used to not having our beautiful boy around to love us back, because he really did! Our lives have permanently changed now with him not in it. He was the light of our lives. We love you Bailey, and will miss you everyday for the rest of our lives. Thank you for everything. ❤
I rescued my boy from a kill shelter 2 hours before they were to put him down. When I saw him he was sitting up on his back legs looking at me and he was literally talking ( dog talk) I took him home and gave him 11 more years ( he's was around 16 yrs) I never knew such unconditional loved existed . I had to say goodbye to my boy ( I named him Saved) 4 days ago and my heart is hurting so bad. I picked up his remains today and I can't quite crying. So thank you for this comforting video. I so needed this. RIP Saved, till we meet again I love you!
Thank you for giving a helpless soul another chance at experiencing life and love! Your puppy is in puppy heaven with all the other puppies 🐶 and God is taking really good care of them. God bless you and your loved ones!
I'm so sorry, Paige. That knot in the stomach is the worst. There's no medicine that makes it go away. I never thought I'd get over Farlie. She was the best dog I've ever had. She enjoyed life so much until one day at age 14 she didn't. But the knot, guilt, tears lessen until one day you will notice you didn't cry or feel guilty or have that horrible knot in your stomach. Then you'll know that it's time to go to a shelter and get another furry piece of love. Saved will always be with you, but the time will have come to share your love of him with another, and you know that you have Saved's absolute approval. He always hated to see you sad.
bless your heart. I just went through this.
Understand absolutely!
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I ended up here because I put my cat down today. This lady is a savior
I work as a vet assistant and have helped in many, many euthanasias. I consider it an honor and a privilege to bear witness to a beloved pet's passing. There are only a handful I've cried in or after, but Dr. Hoggan's talk gave me permission to cry for them all.
My vet ALWAYS cries at euthanasias. NO matter the pet, the circumstances or the emotional reaction of the owners/families. There is no shame in having feelings.
Thank you so much for this mind blowing talk, Dr. It gives me great comfort to know there are vet’s out there who understand a pet parent’s pain during this traumatising process. 🙏🏼🌈💗
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Agreed. Almost no natural passings are peaceful and generally involves great distress and suffering for the animal. After experiencing my 1st euthanasia, I share the same view as you do - it is a very dignified way to provide the last journey of a beloved pet, for whatever reasons that may have led to that.
@@morinoko0802 Dunno about that. Rushing your pet to a strange place like a vet's office, having them held down on a stainless steel table, them crying because the needle put into them hurt, them desperately fighting off the injections and possibly falling off the exam table because of their body size, seeing them dead on the spot with eyes wide open... That doesn't sound "peaceful" to me at all, much the opposite. That's part of why a lot of people feel guilty when they euthanize. "Euthanasia gone wrong" is quite a common topic.
I took my cat to the vet with constipation, and they told me she had 2-3 days to live.
She died on the 3rd day whilst we scrambled finding specialists all over the country, contacting UK med manufacturers & spent every waking moment trying to make her better. The shock of the vets words ‘shall we do the kind thing?’ Will forever bring tears to my eyes.
I keep expecting to see my beloved cat, I see her in my dreams and I dream about getting her better. I wake up and look for her, and a second later realise that she is gone.
I wanted her to be better so, so badly.
The feeling of betrayal was very strong and real putting my dog down. Even though I was blessed with 14-15+ years with my baby I still regret not doing enough to even give him a single extra day, and cherished him like the blessing he was every day I got to have him in my life. Rest in peace Dodi, you were my son, my brother, and my best friend.
so very sorry for your loss
Just lost my baby boy-I feel the same way-Did I do enough- NEVER.
So sorry for your loss, and christ I feel the same. Just lost my dog 2 days ago and Im going through the exact same feelings. And I feel the same about him as you did about yours, he was my boy and best friend. Its destroyed me.
You all did more than enough for your babies. How do I know this? Because I questioned myself for a very long time. But, looking back I know I did the right thing (as painful as it was).
Same, I lost 3 full siblings and their parents in the space of 5 mths, and I don't think I will ever feel the joy I did when they were alive.@@gladiatorscoops4907
I find myself coming back to this woman and watching her videos. I am completely destroyed after my cats died and i can’t cope. She’s the only one I’ve seen had such compassion and geniuine love in her heart for these animals
"The day" was today for my little dog 1/2/24 at around 4pm. Me, my mom, and dad gave the best goodbye we could to our little boy Maxi. For those going through the same pain, please stay strong. You got this. Our little ones got us as far as they could before we had no other choice but to say goodbye. We need to show them it wasn't for nothing. After suffering from depression and anxiety for most of my life I promised little Maxi that before seeing him again that I'd be happy by living life to the fullest. That I would live healthy and happy. I'm going to try my best to do that starting tomorrow.
@@lindsayboop Thank you so much for sharing and I'm so sorry for your loss. We got this. Stay strong! ✊
This actually helped me so much, we lost our 16 year old dog on Sunday… feb 25. He was old, I no longer asked for more years, told him to tell me when he was ready… and he did.. it broke my heart but I have never had my gut feel so good about a decision. I knew to my core that I did all I could and some stuff was out of my hands. But I have been so sad… and this comment helped so much. He was grumpy.. but I know he would never want us to be sad. And not take care of ourselves. When he devoted his whole life to make sure we took care of us.
after drowning in my grief for days this helped me realize my little angel wouldn’t have wanted this. thank you!
I don't know what's sadder -- the talk or the comments 💔 Giant hugs to all of us animal friends who have had to say goodbye and will probably do so again and again.
I just euthanized my 18 year old Cypee (mixed Chihuahua) yesterday, I have cried and sobbed since then. I am 77 years old and by far this was the hardest thing I have ever done. Thank you so much for your video, I feel all the things you said people feel when they go through this with their animal. Guilt, grief, and question myself did I make the right decision. Cypee had been very sick for over a month, he couldn’t hold food on his tummy, was vomiting and had runny stool. On top of this the Vet had recently diagnosed him with a kidney disease. My heart is broken and I am and will miss him. Thank you again for your video, it’s nice to know I am not alone.
You are NOT ALONE🙏🏼❤️
18 for a Chihuahua is not that old. I had one that lived 23!
@@Verbsdescribeus I don’t think that’s the response that helps the situation here
Hi Victoria, I euthanized by almost 15 year old Beagle named Luna two days ago on 7/12/2023. I knew she was ready to go that morning when I got home from work. Her body was like a rag doll, but her face and mind appeared very lucid. She didn't want me to touch her, and that told me she was in pain and ready to go. I had no idea this was going to be so painful. How could I do that to my little angel? I just couldn't see her suffering and in pain, so I did it for her. The pain and sadness are unbearable, I have not moved her bed yet, and wont wash it either. Her scent is there and I want to keep it that way. Everything at home remains the same, leash and water bowl on the same place, and her hair and smell all over the place. I know I have to make some changes, but not just yet, I need to cry it out as much as possible, but I have to remember her in a good and happy way so she can be fully at peace.
I just read the comment you wrote 6 months ago. I hope your pain has softened some. I found out late last week my 17 year old pomeranian mix has liver cancer. Tomorrow I take her for her last car ride. I was physically ill all weekend from thinking about it. We have been through so much together just as I know you went through many things with your little dog at your side. I'm going to miss her so much but I'm certain I'll see her again. I died when I was little and it was wonderful actually. I have come to the conclusion that in Heaven God will give us the things that make us happy and that will include our pets. We will both see our little friends again.
Thank you so much for this. I had to say goodbye to my soul dog two weeks ago after a short battle with an aggressive and rare cancer. I've been struggling so much with these "fees." This video has really helped me with the feelings of guilt, betrayal, and questioning the decision. I think I would like to live life more like my little dog did.
Day three and still the agony.
Utterly depressed at the times spent outside of the home, when one should have been enjoying his company.
Please forgive me, Bobbie. XX
I’m so crying. So hard to say goodbye to a being that loves you more then themselves.
they are angels on earth. love
I had to euthanize my baby last year. I became suicidal afterwards because I failed him so greatly that I couldn’t live with myself. This talk has given me such clarity. Thank you
I hope you're okay, you tell by your message that you loved him dearly, and for our babies that's enough, please don't think you failed him because being able to love him so hard it hurts is a success in itself 💕
I am struggling with that now. I helped my Isaiah go home and it was the hardest decision and I feel like I failed him. I know intellectually I didn't want him to suffer but my heart feels as if I let him down.😭
@@HopeLives2012 hope you're okay. It's day 4 for me and I'm shattered. 😔 I'm here if you need to talk.
I pray you are ok and that you know how much your fur baby loves you. You will see your baby again!
Me too - “Sky” kept me alive
I’ve never left a comment on UA-cam before. Today I let go of my best friend. My 2 lb, 11 year old feisty Chloe that had every medical problem imaginable and you would never know. She was a happy girl. She was a loyal girl. She was SUCH a good girl. And I was able to watch her pass peacefully in my arms. What I was not prepared for are the tsunami sized waves of emotion - guilt, anger, sadness, grief - that have been knocking me off my feet since she passed. My mind knows it’s kind. My heart is shattered. And I don’t think anyone around me really understands the degree of sadness I’m feeling. Thank you for this video. I find myself repeating some of the things you say 4-5 times because it helps while I hear it. I don’t know how long it’ll take for my heart to believe it, but I’m hoping I can find peace in my decision and forgive myself eventually. Rest in peace, my beautiful little Chloe. I miss you dearly ❤
Your comment was beautiful and made me cry. Thank you for sharing. ❤🌈🙏🏼
Wow just read your comment and unreal. I just went through this 12 hours ago. My little chihuahua was named Chloe as well and like you my heart is absolutely shattered. I have never had a dog put to sleep until today and I cried like a baby. Still am. That’s why im watching videos like this at 3 am. I haven’t known a life without her for 15 years and just 12 hours in I don’t know how im gonna learn to live without her. The unconditional love she gave me. All the good and bad times she was right there with me and I will forever miss her. I noticed this was four months ago. I hope you are doing better. I know I have a long road ahead of me I just pray that someday she will be there to greet me on the other side. I’m not sure if I want another dog because this pain I never want to feel again. Heartbroken in the Midwest 😔
@@barkburton1 I'm so so sorry for your loss. I can relate to how you're feeling and you're in the worst of it right now. The next couple days you'll be deep in the grief, but let yourself feel it and cry whenever you need to. Each day will get a little easier. It's been 4 months and to be honest, I'm still grieving. I still cry when I think about her. I'm crying right now. But that's not the norm. I'm going about my life and I have happy thoughts of her all the time, and some dreams. The hard part is trying not to think of the last few minutes you had with her because those are the last memories you have together, but try your best not to. Think of all the love and the times when Chloe was at her best, and when she brought you the most joy. She loved you dearly and knew how much you loved her. I truly believe we were sent these angels from heaven to help us cope and get through life, and it's our job to treat them like the precious gifts that they are. What brings me peace when I'm sad is knowing that I'll get to see her again one day. I just told my Chloe to look for yours - she'll be in good hands ❤
@@Mariamam1987 such an amazing message. omg you are so right! it’s the last few moments that are haunting me. Thank you again for the kind words.I’m glad to hear it gets easier. We will one day see our Chloe’s again. ❤️ this lady is so right when she says grief is the price we pay for loving. Right now I’m paying that price in full and boy does it hurt. Again thank you… I hope you find peace as well
I lost my beautiful 15yr old Pebbles 3 days ago , she was unable to be saved 😢
I'm broken and lost.
She saved me and my husbands life by growling and growling under the blanket until we woke up from sleep ,we had a fire in our loungeroom, she was our guardian angel .
I'm struggling to live without her.
I had to put my cat to sleep today. She was 14 years old. I’ve had her since she was a kitten, I’ve known her since she was in her mom’s belly. She was with me all the time, she helped me emotionally so many times. The last two days, she struggled to breathe and it was the hardest thing to watch her suffer. The best way I could repay her was to let her go peacefully. I don’t know what I’m gonna do without her 😭
Keeping you in my thoughts ❤️
I understand.
I had to put my cat to sleep yesterday. I've never felt so heartbroken. He was my best friend, my treasure. For the last week he couldn't walk by himself, he couldn't eat without my help, he was very weak. I've tried to spend as much time with him as I could and say "I love you" as many time as I could. I only hope he understood everything, he wasn't afraid, and his last purr, that lasted until the doctor administered the medicine, meant that he understands, and it was a goodbye for me, so I wasn't afraid to.
@@MrAbubu I am saying goodbye to my sweet cat tomorrow. It comforts me to know that the pain I am feeling now is the price I MUST pay for loving her so much. I will gladly feel the pain if it keeps my baby from suffering. 💓🐾
Always remember how greatly you were blessed to know and love her. Think of the special ways she showed her love to you. Those memories are with you always.
You are not alone. I’m facing it now with my ole Siamese.. Your ‘s is comfortable now. You took good care of her. 🌷 Let yourself rest.💚
Wow, she made me really cry.
I love her honesty and ability to transmit her feelings. I am amazed she is able to that on the stage
1877Pegasus same, and I’m not the type of person that cries easily, but man, that story about her dog and it’s Sunday really got to me.
Me too!!
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Omg you're awesome
@@charleBerglund Yes but did you really need to say that on this video ?
she helped me so much
I’m bawling my eyes out. You are so well spoken and have given me peace words can’t describe. God bless you always.
Bless all the vets who have to do such a hard job. 😢
"euthanasia is a kindness we are afforded in veterinary medicine" I agree, it is a kindness. I just wish people could use it in human medical care as well because it is kinder to let people die than it is to keep them living in certain cases.
Me too. My family watched my great grandma suffer for years with dementia. To the point where she was comatose. For 10 years she didn't recognize her own family, got to the point where she was scared all the time because she was alone and didn't know anyone and then one day she just stopped waking up. That condition is never going to get better. Why should people be forced to stay alive until their brain forgets how to beat a heart or tell lungs how to breathe? It is cruel. And I will never understand it.
Exactly I don’t understand why euthanized animals are good thing to help them not suffering but human can’t be euthanized because it’s cruel🤷🏼♂️ my aunt was suffered from coma for 3 months until her back peeling off from rash 😓 she finally passed away in her sleep never got to see her wake up from the coma .
@@charleBerglund just trying to clarify....22,800 people in Belgium have died from Covid as at 22 March. World wide deaths alleged to be 22 million plus to date including comorbidity, those in hospice dying of other illnesses etc.
I agree! I have CRPS (Type 2) and thus, I am in constant pain. It's progressive. One day I'll be in so much pain I'll beg for the end. I don't want to wait until that point. I want to go with dignity surrounded by my loved ones.
@@charleBerglund That's not the same thing. That's assisted suicide, and is done with informed consent. Animals can't give that, and can't tell us what they want.
Touching stories. I am older and feel that euthanasia for humans should be legalized nationwide with appropriate safeguards.
I AGREE with your 100%. I worked in healthcare, saw old people being kept alive, I'd poke their veins...but most of them were half dead...loved ones standing around begging their dear old loved ones to just hang on...FOR WHAT? So they can live in a smelly old folks home, being fed, wearing diapers, getting bed sores, having their chin wiped? And then my mother inlaw who didn't have a stomach or intestines....fed TPN via a vein, hooked up to a machine 12 hours day...she didn't want to live so she refused having more nutrition added to her body and she took 3 months to die. She suffered, but her dear husband wanted to give her an overdose of morphine to end her suffering. She's been gone 20 yrs, he remarried, died a year ago.
I suffer chronic pain, am pretty much crippled and I want the same ending!
I'm younger and I agree with you. We should let people control how they want to live. It's their choice, not others'. Yes, with appropriate safeguards.
frank ballard absolutely agree with you.
I agree 100%. It is not fair we keep people alive sometimes far to long. Its a emotional drain on everyone involved but especially on the person we kept alive.
@Matthew Morycinski if the doctors will let you. I think some doctors dont accept that death is a kindness and is part of their job.
Who ever gets this wonderful amazing emergency vet when needed, is absolutely blessed!!!
I had to say goodbye to my baby boy, my cat, Noctis, last Thursday. All the feelings that she described, are feelings that I’m currently feeling. I’ve never been so devastated.
I read that Veterinarians have the highest suicide rate over any profession because of their having to deal with death on daily bases...So always be kind to your vet!
Let them know you care in some way...gift card or?...something small to show that you understand they must deal with so much painful things.
I heard it was dentists
Veterinarians have twice the suicide rate of the average American. The highest in the medical fields.
Veterinarians have twice the suicide rate of the average American. The highest in the medical fields.
That statistic was in this video too
Cassie Oz yes because pulling teeth out make me want to die
Thank you. I am an incredibly resilient person who has lost 28 humans in my life, but what really broke me was euthanizing my cat. I can't seem to come to terms with the fact that I made the decision and then held her still while the vet took her life. Guilt is big for me for sure, but when you said the word betrayal I was overcome by gut wrenching sobs. That is it. I feel like I betrayed her. Thank you for helping me understand.
I feel completely the same as you, thank you for sharing
Same :/
Same :(
I hope the pain gets a little easier to handle..
it's all part of the spiritual evolution of creation. no regrets, only illumination.
Had to put down one of my little angels yesterday. She had cancer and unfortunately surgery wasn't an option. Money was not available and the vet recommended we not spend any money as her chances of recovering was less than 10%.
This was definitely the most painful thing that has happened. No heart break compares to the pain when losing a companion that will stick with you through thick and thin. That did not judge you, but love you endlessly.
Will miss you greatly, Panther.
I appreciate so much your words of assurance, yesterday I made the hardest decision of my life. Never have I ever experienced pain like this and i am living with so much guilt and regret. Replaying everything I could have, should have did or said. I almost feel as if it wasn’t me that made this decision, how could I ever give up on my precious baby. My heart is so heavy and broken… fly high my precious “Princess” 🐾👼
Having euthanasia reframed as kindness was exactly what I needed to head.
I love her ability to combine humor with such compassion and depth. Dang.
Also, yes, I'm openly crying with snot running down my face. I want to give her a hug. Right after I hug my dog.
Well said.exactly same
The snot is running here currently. My god. 😭
Thank you for this video, I put my beloved Athena down almost 2 months ago. She was 12 years old and been with us for 10 od those years. Everybody loved her, she was the friendliest, most playful and loving pup we ever welcomed into our lives. She saved my life not once but twice. She was my whole world. I loved her more than anything. I took her up when she could no longer walk, wouldn't eat, and kept getting dizzy and falling over. I wish I would have done more in her last moments. It's been hard without her. I don't wish for a short life but I can't wait to see you again. Be at peace now baby. I'll see you again, I love you
To anyone else here for the same reasons, I feel your pain, im not only sorry for your loss but I'm right there in the mud with you. I pray we all find our way, blessings be with you and beloved Furry friends.
now i understand these feelings i told my wife i dont even cry this mutch for a person not even any one close to me as for my littel dog he was a person in our lives thank you too this lady that explains every thing so well and helping us to understand
My heart is hurting so much right now. I had to send my dog home this past Friday and its killing me. I stayed with her until she was gone. My place is not a home without her. I don't even want to come home because I know she's not here.
Same im avoiding being in the kitchen cause he was always there looking at me. Its so hard to deal with this. Im devastated beyond words
Same here. I see her (my Kona) evwrywhere😢
Going through this right now. House is no longer home. Feels like an empty shell now that my Labrador best friend is no longer here
I'm sitting beside my 11 year old Havanese Joey who will run across the rainbow bridge tomorrow. His two beautiful veterinarians were able to gift us 15 happy and healthy months with our boy. I will be forever grateful to them. All who dedicate their lives to animals are angels here on earth. God bless you!
I’m overwhelmed with grief. Had to put down my cat of 17 years. He was the best companion I’ve ever had. RIP sweet Dowlen. I’ll see you soon. 2022 ❤️❤️❤️❤️
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This is the best speech I have ever heard in my life, and you have saved my sanity. There's just nothing like that unconditional love, and it's so hard to let go.
Just euthanized my GSD with degenerative myelopathy this morning. Wondering how I will go on without my baby
@@santoinetteberger I am wondering the same and am utterly distraught. It's day 4 for me 😞
I had to recently euthanize my dog of 17 years. He had kidney failure and developed dementia. The last day started with him peeing blood. I really miss him.
I've been a veterinary assistant for a little over a year now. I cry during every euthanasia. It's sad for the family saying goodbye but freeing understanding that the animal is not going to suffer anymore.
The one that hit me the worst was a small ancient old Pomeranian who was having a hard time breathing and it was her time. I prepared the tray like normal and when I walked in the room with the vet, she was on the table, bouncing and wagging her tail. She had no idea, but we could hear her suffering. I sobbed during the entire procedure, walked out, wiped my tears, and greeted the next patient. She wasn't going to suffer anymore and she went so peacefully with people who loved her.
That sounds like my dog she had cancer and lost her sight completely from the cancer and it completely paralyzed her face. She was in pain but just couldnt stop wagging her tail and it just made it 10x harder because she didnt seem like she wanted to let go. I still can’t get over this.
I said goodbye to my almost 15 year old dachshund today, she has struggled with COPD and breathing issues for years. She had been on a successful inhaler treatment for the last 3, but lately she had little to no tolerance to any kind of exercise or heat, she even had a stroller so we could still take her out but even the excitement got her pretty worked up. The last 2 days she started breathing so fast and labored, last night was rough. She was restless. We took her in first thing this am, she arrived in shock and limp but was put in oxygen and was a bit more responsive; after much deliberation and tears my husband and I decided with the help of our vet that even the most aggressive of treatments wouldn’t bring back her good years. If anything, she’d be back to that recent years couch potato life with no much quality. It broke me when we were taken to the oxygen chamber and she got excited to see me. She wanted to come out of the little hole I was petting her through but she was still panting and wheezing. That’s where they did it. It was all so fast, I felt horrible. Afterwards we stayed with her holding her for an hour. I kept saying “she didn’t know, she didn’t know”. I must remind myself she lived a long, happy life and we did the best we could to give her extra years and extra love. Something inside of me died today too though.
Hola ¿Cuánto tardan realmente en morir? a mi perra de 40 kilos le pusieron 4 inyecciones de Dolethal, a los dos minutos la veterinaria me dijo ya está muerta, pero yo sentía que no era así, me dejó usar ese aparato que usan para escuchar el corazón y yo sí escuché su corazón, me enfadé mucho con la veterinaria, y bueno tras varias discusiones con ella y con el hombre que me acompañaba, que los dos me decían que ella estaba muerta pero yo sentía que no era así, me fui... Y tengo remordimientos de conciencia ahora, Tengo miedo que estén enterrando vivos o congelando vivos a perros que están en coma profundo o catalepsia pero no muertos, pienso que deberían utilizar electrocardiogramas y máquinas más avanzadas que certifiquen la muerte de los animales.
Thank you for your kindness to your patients and families. Please take care of yourself as feeling all that emotion can be highly stressful to your body- mind. Bless you.
"It was her time" Nobody can say that.
This is such powerful talk. I'm a blubbering mess after watching it, because my cat died last night. A lot of what Sarah Hoggan says is relevant also when a pet dies without euthanasia. You always question yourself afterwards if you did the right thing, if you did enough, if you should have made a different decision. But at the end - it's important that your pet is no longer suffering, even if it leaves a gaping hole in your heart.
The choice is very hard.i had euthanasia for some pets, and others died naturally. Never easy.⚘🐱💜
I needed to hear this beautiful woman speak. We gave our beagle girl the soft passing that she speaks of….a week ago yesterday. The grief is astounding….so heavy and all encompassing. My beagle girl was my companion for 13.5 years 24/7. I don’t know how I will get past this but I guess with time….the emotional pain will soften.
I hope you are doing better. I just had to put down my 13 year old puggle yesterday and im so devastated. i have feelings of guilt and sadness. my best friend in the whole world took his last breaths. his eyes and my eyes were locked and I told him I loved him and he was a good boy. I hope time will help heal this pain bit right now it hurts so bad.
@@F12255 we are at some sort of a ‘coping’ stage now. Our girl will always be embedded in our hearts. I still get hit with grief that brings me to tears. Both my husband and I have her photo and her paw prints beside our beds and her ashes rest in the Center of the living room coffee table. She will always be with us. I read a book called, ‘Losing My Best Friend’ from Amazon. It helped me because it validates my feelings of profound grief, love and loss. I pray you will arrive at a stage of acceptance and that the pain will soften. Take care of yourself.
As an old man, I have had to euthanize several much loved pets. I have to say that each one has been harder for me to accept and get through than the loss of my brother or even my parents. There is such a feeling of guilt and responsibility with the loss of a pet that I did not have with family members who did not depend on me for their well-being. However the pain and the guilt never really goes away.
I helped my 16 year old baby cross the rainbow bridge last June 2020. He had kidney failure. She is right when she says the mind knows you did the correct, but the heart betrays you and keeps on questioning everything.
Fly high, my little angel. I couldn't save you from time, but if love could have given you years of life, you would have been immortal.
I cried more when I had to put my first baby girl down than I have for anything else in my entire life. I felt every single emotion she was describing and more. I still do. I miss her horribly. Watching her slip away, I felt like I had failed her.
“Watching her slip away, I felt like I had failed her” that was me today, stroking and holding my very aware 14 yr old baby’s head through an oxygen chamber window while she was being euthanized. A part of my heart died with her.
my dog has severe arthritis, dementia, refuses to eat, and his light is fading. im crying every night thinking about when he passes. I refuse to get him euthanized but I am going to the vet on Saturday. I will see what the vet says...
@@jackpoopoo jack, what did the vet say? I hope you’re holding up okay
@@tianna1116 his dementia creates voids in his brain and fluid fills it up. poor baby. he is on steroids and omerprazole. he gets worst at night but he walks around sometimes
I lost my hart and my best friend today. I'm a mess, I miss her sooooo much. My house feels so empty but I know I did the right thing today, as much as it broke my hart, it was the best thing at this time I could do for her. Thank you for taking the time to make this video. Love you Nala, miss you , Daddy
I just put my one-year-old cat down after laying my soul cat to rest last year. One with cancer and one with heart disease. I am grieving so heavily and am so thankful for this vet’s speech, and the vets who helped me give my two babies the kindness they deserve. 😭 Heartbroken, truly.
What a gifted speaker. I had a very similar reaction after I put my dog down a couple years ago - he was 14, had become unable to walk up and down stairs, was incontinent, and just wasn't himself. The care for him became a burden. Could he have lived a little while longer? Probably. Did I doubt my decision? Yes, absolutely. It was the hardest thing to watch him die. But over time it got better, the grief subsided, and I knew it had been for his best. Life is hard. Heaven awaits.
Yes , I so know what a hard decision it it to make.
A soft "Goodbye", is so much better than seeing them suffer.
I am there with my almost 14 year old lab. I need to find the strength to say goodbye 💔
@@Elleleighbrooks just had to say goodbye to my 14 year old love today. So much crying. We had it done in home and had a friend be with us. It was so sad but also very beautiful to set him free. You will get through it if you have others to feel the pain with and talk to about it.
@@andersc6593 I'm so sorry for your loss ❤
my dog just died. I've been kicking myself because I kept thinking I had made the wrong decision and that MAYBE he might have gotten better. But now that I see that I've done him a favor. I see that I helped him move on and I see that I gave him the gift of being free and that he is somewhere where he is no longer in pain. Thank you.
You gave him the gift of removing his sick body and moving on... Bless you ..
I’ve held all of my senior dogs. I rescue old dachshunds no one wants anymore. I never wanted my babies to live in suffering so I don’t feel the emotional cost. My favorite died two days before Christmas. It was extremely painful and still is painful. Heather, Snickers, and Mya were meant to be in my life. 🐾 ❤️
Thank you for this, I had to put my cat to sleep 6yrs ago due to cancer and it broke me. The vet nurse that was there did paw prints and a fur clipping at my request. 4mths later I got a portrait tattoo with her paw prints and I put the ziplock bag with her fur in a build-a-bear and sleep with that every night so it’s like I’m still hugging her.
I’m so sorry 😞 I’m putting my beautiful cat to sleep tomorrow. She has an oral tumour and has stopped eating 😔 the fur in a build-a-bear is a wonderful idea. I’m glad I saw your comment 🙏🏻
Best TEDx Talk in a while. Glad she refuses convenience killings.
Can't believe people ask for that.
Thank you for this. We euthanized my 15 years old baby couple nights ago, and I am drowning in pain and grief. I feel like I betrayed her. Your helped me a lot through this horrible pain and grief. You are a wonderful human being and a compassionate soul.
I had to put my dog down today, was the hardest thing ive ever done. The last story really touched me as my elderly dog also had advanced CHF ( heart failure ) and we tried everything and it wasnt improving. Its heartwrenching. She couldnt breathe without her oxygen machine. Her eyes didnt close as they euthanized her and i saw the life fade from her very eyes. I feel lost without her, she was the one i went to for everything and always missed and thought about. Now i hear something and i think its her or I think to myself its been 5 minutes since ive pet her, and i realize oh.. shes not here anymore. My best friend also had to put down his dog about a month or two ago and i was there for it as well. His dog was also a dog i considered my own seeing as i lived with her for 3 years. My heart goes out to anyone whos lost their little puppy (young and old because they will forever be puppies to us)
This woman is a Saint
I just found this video. I recently lost my 16 year old baby, my cat, my Achilles. I could not stop crying. I literally sat here and completed some of the sentences before she could finish them. These are some of the very same words I said when I made the hardest decision of my life.
My wife and son and I put our sweet Maggie to rest Tuesday! It was the hardest day of our lives. Almost 15 she was the best dog in the world! The pain is overwhelming at times. We miss her so much!
I cried for the whole thing. The 3 fees, I still pay them after 3 months of letting go of my best friend. I didn't have him examined by a vet before, and I think it is why I am stuck in these regrets. He just had so many visible health issues and almost 16, that I decided I would let him leave peacefully before it gets worst. My heart hasn't accepted that yet, but with the level of love I have for him, I don't expect my grieving to fade soon.
so very sorry
Same situation here, my precious cat, my animal soul, she was an engagement present from my fiancé. 20 years later, her health was totally failing,she absolutely hated vets, so I decided not to let her suffer anymore..the guilty it's still there, every day I think of her. I don't find any console thinking "it was for the best". I'm pretty sure I"ll always feel guilty, for not doing more for her. I really hope you are feeling better. Many greetings.
@@Fr.K. Sorry to hear that. It has been a year and half now, and still have regrets for not getting him checked when he started deteriorating :/ I get told it is lesson for next time, but there won't be a next. This was a unique relationship. I do think it was for the best at the end to do it tho, his life had no quality anymore. I hope you see it a bit too some day and feel a bit less guilt. I doubt it fully ever goes away, it just get..more bearable. Take care
Thank you for doing this video. I put my chihuahua down after 14 years together 90 minutes ago. Gut-wrenching. It has been a year of incredible loss and grief for me with family deaths and relationship issues. So, this helps.
I just put down a dog that I had grown up with for 18 years. It is kind of comforting to see others who are also hurting looking for guidance here too.
I hope your doing ok hun it’s sooo hard :(
@@StandardDiamondMatch I’m so sorry - 18 years is such a very long time to lose something that you love so much :(
I'm hoping you process and heal this very real loss. I've put down dogs I've had for only 2.5 years to 16 years. The grief is horrific. Yet, we heal from grief, and carry on by adopting / rescuing/ getting another pet to start the cycle . We gain so much from our furry buddies, enough so that it's worth facing/ knowing the inevitable must come to pass.
I'm so sorry for your loss, I lost my 16 year old a week ago
I needed this video, although I'll have to watch it in bits for my own emotions. Had to put my best friend down 2 weeks ago, cancer had taken over her little body. Had her for 10 years. I didn't know if it was the right time, until she almost fell over when I stroked her back gently, she was no longer happy about food, and wouldn't play with a ball. Surgery wasn't an option for her, chemo would hurt her more. So we did what kindness we could. Still a mess but needed this video.
We had the same thing
I put my baby girl to sleep 3 weeks back, same situation. Cancer was the cause, used to love food and in her last days totally stopped eating whole day kept sleeping, it was very difficult to watch her like that. I asked the Vet if she is in pain at the moment and he said she is in excruciating pain. I knew then I couldnt put my baby through this. The most painful, so many thoughts, this is so hard..I feel amputated without her, like a piece from my soul is missing.. I hope we can get past this soon. Take care..
@@vrindaverma4550 5 weeks ago , yesterday was his birthday... can't bear the pain 💔 but we hope to see him on other side
@@agasalmans we will definitely see our babies on the other side 🥺❤
This happened to me yesterday with my cocker spaniel... She wasn't even able to sleep or breathe, the cancer was too big and next to the heart for surgery, the doctor said she wouldn't have survived the surgery, the cancer was eating her alive... I can't send this pain away, the guilt, asking God why didn't you take her in her sleep, why next to the heart, why not surgery just WHY? I'm in a depressive state, the pain is too much...
This message is so wonderful. I had to put down my Bud Bud, after 17 years. She is right, better a soft goodbye, then to make them suffer. My poor Oscar, the cat, was 17 when he had his soft goodbye. A couple of months before he went, he use to sleep with his kitty paw always touching me.
Thank you for your message.
There is nothing more precious than sleeping with a kitty paw 💜💜 those are the best moments.
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my cat was named oscar as well, just put him down today, he was the sweetest animal I've ever known, he had no idea what was going on he was so confused but his kidneys had failed and he couldn't eat anymore, I had to say goodbye. I wish there was more I could have done.
We had to put our dog down a few days ago, and it was absolutely gut-wrenching...and it still is. I had sought out the advice of a friend that had to do it several years back. He said "Giving them a peaceful death is the biggest thing you can do to repay them for their years of unconditional love." He was right, and Dr. Hoggan reiterated that point. It gives me some comfort in an otherwise very dark time.
Our 13 year old German Shepard had to be put down yesteday. He couldn’t stand up anymore and wasn’t interested in any food even chicken and ground chop meat. We sent him to heaven yesteday me my father and my sisters. I’m glad we were all there with him during his passing but it just hurts so bad we couldn’t help him more here on earth. He was such a good boy we will miss him forever
What? I am not crying. I am cutting onions.
Wish we could have this compassion for sick and suffering people too...
I wish it was less of a slippery slop.
There are systems in the Netherlands and Switzerland and they happen to work well.
I live in a country where euthenasia is legalized if very specific circumstances are met. Of course it is never an easy choice, and doctors are only allowed to perform a very small amount of treatments in their lives, but I am so glad to know I could take control of my own destiny if I ever become unbearably ill. To go peacefully with the people you love around you, and to say all the things you want to say to them before you do, that is a privilege.
@@lindahoekstra3172 Can't agree, sorry. No matter how much pain, I'll try to stay alive.
@@XenoghostTV To me it is very interesting that you have replied in this time in my life. One of my grandmothers decided she wanted to take the pain of her last remaining moments alive away. One of them decided she wanted to fight for as long as she could. In my heart I love and respect them both equally. My children will know both of their lives as they will my own. Both made their choices and both got to choose. I think that is beautiful. I hope you get to make choices in your life you feel are best for you and live your best life. Have a nice day!
@@XenoghostTV that's fine, you can do so, but someone else should still have the right to die if he/she sees fit.
Dr. Hoggan thank you so much for this. I am dealing with hindsight fee of a soft goodbye. My baby saved me several times over her 15 years. I am changed by her and will never be the same without her. I am so grateful to God for creating her just for me and she is the first face I will see when I make it to heaven. I love you Reesey, 2/10/2009 - 2/26/2024
"it wasn't my mind asking the question. It was my heart." Wow. So profound.
I've been really struggling with the crystal ball idea. I wonder if I had spent more money and fought harder that he may have recovered and had a few more good days/weeks, but I made the choice. And there is such an emotional price for that cost.
I just let my Tank go this past Saturday and have felt the same way. This helped so much.
I am a vet assistant. Over the past month, we had a little Westie I'll call B that had been hospitalized for a number of problems. B's owner spent 500+ a week trying to save him, including 9,000 in Care Credit. After a month of fighting, B lost his battle and died at home. His owners spent every dime they had trying to save him, did every test and every treatment under the sun, and he still didn't make it.
So please know, that you could've given up your house, your car, and drained your savings, and your buddy still may have eventually succumbed to their illness. You did what you could with the resources you had, and that's all we can do. I put my lab down 3 weeks ago after months of failed treatment for Cushings Disease. No matter what, he was going to pass and I had to make the decision to do it before he got worse. You did nothing wrong, and there was nothing more that you could've done. You did the kindest thing you could've done.
@@user-hv8bo4ie2v This is very helpful. I have huge regret over not trying harder. i keep thinking maybe we should have tried this, or that. One more day. But i was getting way deep in debt and 3 vets told me it was a lost cause. But she wasn't ready and I forced her to cross to spare her any more pain. She looked at me with so much hurt and betrayal in her eyes. I have so much guilt, on top of the grief of losing my BFF. I really wish there was a legal way for a peaceful at-home euthanasia.
@@user-hv8bo4ie2v Thank you for the comment. I'm gonna have to put mine down and I've spent money that, frankly, I don't have. I spent so much. The vet told me that I could do more tests, but I don't want to be that owner that doesn't let go. I need to put his comfort above mine.
at 43 seconds and I started crying... My girl was sent in for GVD, I did not get to take her home. her brain was shutting down and we had to put her down. she went in not able to move, she barley reacted to me touching her, the most pain I have gone through.
I’m so grateful I came across this vet’s wisdom. My12 year old lab had terrible arthritis and was on a few medications but still could only walk a little bit outside and was in pain. I put his to sleep a few days ago and question if I did it too soon. He wasn’t ready to go and he was so tough but I couldn’t make him suffer. I pray that I did the right thing. The pain of his loss is immense and my life is so terribly empty without him.
We just put our lab down for the same reasons. She stopped eating and drinking and couldn't get up without us helping her. Her arthritis was so bad. This was 4 days ago. My heart aches so much and I can't stop sobbing. This video helped me a little bit. She was my shadow, my love, my best friend.
You did the right thing. Your dog, your best friend… he knows how much you love him. He knew you did whatever you could to do the right thing for him. Arthritis takes away the joy from their loving hearts.
My dog, Frankie, had arthritis but it wasn’t horrible yet. His main concern was cancer. It made him not eat or drink for 2 weeks. poor baby sufferers so long and we had to make the gut wrenching decision.
It’s better to have loved your baby than to let him suffer for so long. It’s so hard to accept, because of all the fees. But you are not alone.❤️
You did the right thing at the right time trust me Look up Danielle McKinnon she saved me from the suffering that was consuming my every waking moment Best wishes ♥
I totally know how you feel, I found out just two days ago.
We lost our family dog a few days ago quite suddenly. He was so loved. The only people who could make us smile that night were the heroes working at the veterinary hospital. I will forever remember and appreciate the care and kindness they showed us and our dog.
so very sorry
I LOVE this woman!! I was crying like a baby for most of the video because I can relate to everything she said about pet parents euthanizing an animal. In the past 6 weeks I’ve had to have to of my oldest cats euthanized. Cally, the first one was a no-brainer because she had been sick for months. Delbert, the most recent one was the hardest because his symptoms came on so suddenly. I’ve been racked with guilt because I couldn’t afford to have all kinds of tests run on him. However, in my heart I knew it was bad. He started having a massive discharge that literally smelled like death. I’ve had animals my entire life, and I’ve been rescuing since 2004; and I have *never* smelled death on a living animal. Del was also the cat Daddy to *all* of the other cats. Now I see them missing him, looking for him, meowing for him, and even crying for him; and it rips my heart out.
Every time I’m with one of my animals (or my rescues) while they’re being euthanized, I force myself to stay relaxed, don’t cry, and just lovingly tell them goodbye and remind them that they’re going to see every animal who passed before him, and more recently, that they’ll see their human Daddy who died last year. But then as soon as they’re gone I break down. It’s only after they’re gone when I allow myself to feel the pain. And boy am I feeling the pain after losing two cats so close together. 😿😿
You went through a lot... sorry that all happened. :(
I put my best friend down today.
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@@graphicallydeb9897 I’m sorry 💔 I lost my best friend two weeks ago
I'm praying for our grief.
As a 49-year-old man that has had to make that decision 3 times now, Doubt and guilt will always be a part of the grief you feel when you say goodbye. But they were all put to sleep here in their home with me cuddling them. Would I change anything No. But I will always feel guilty about it and I think that's part of the cost of loving my dogs so much.
I'm three days into grieving the euthanasia of our "Baby". I and my wife had 13 years of love and laughter. Such a terrible decision to have to make. Thanks so much for this video.
so very sorry. even a life time isn't long enough is it?
4-years later, and I STILL CRY uncontrollably, for having to put my first baby down, my Fendi-dog. The pain NEVER GOES AWAY you know, it just becomes manageable, somewhat.
When I think of him, my Fendi-dog, my entire being hurts of sadness, for what I had to do, and when I don't, guilt floods my very being and soul for not remembering him that day.
I have 3 boys now, two of them are his sons, and I hope I die before them...I NEVER, EVERY, want to go through this, ever-ever, again... . .
12/19/20. Goodnight Lulu. You had 3 seizures that day. We had taken you to the vet and he gave you anti-seizure medicine and sent us home with a prescription. I sat in the back seat with you while my sister went in the drugstore to fill the prescription. That's when you had the third seizure. It was horrific! It seemed to last forever. My sister came back after I called her on her cellphone. We went to the emergency hospital. We knew she had cancer about a year ago. She had surgery. But it had spread. She was always her happy little self unti this day. I knew we should let her go. I think my sister was thinking of taking her back to our home. The er doctor warned us that her death could come quickly and traumatically. I told my sister we can't let her suffer, it's time. We held her and sang the little songs we always sang to her. I told her I will always love and remember her. She wagged her little tail and licked my face. My sweet little jack Russell terrier.
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wow the same thing happend to me last night and it made me feel so good to read this. trust me i know how you feel. my boxer was 7 and her name was sissy. she had 3 seizures and the last one was horrific. we sent her to the hospital and we also knew she had cancer and arthritis. we agreed we didn’t want her to suffer anymore. I cradled her and she licked me face with kisses and in a second she was gone. i laid with her for 10 minutes crying and moving my hair out of her face because i didn’t want to suffocate her even tho i knew she was gone. it is 10:42 pm and i am sleeping with her favorite stuffed animal and her collar. thank you for sharing this, makes me feel less alone even though it has been a couple years for you. i hope you are doing well .
All my kitties get ridiculous nicknames and their own silly song. When the time comes, I sing them to sleep. Then I imagine I have scooped their spirit up and held it in my arms all the way back home.
oh i am so very sorry. that had to be horrific
@@alyssacoelho687 thank you for your well wishes, I hope you are well too. I still think of Lulu everyday.
I lost my dog, my life partner, a few days ago. She was just a few months shy of turning 15. We've been together since she was 8 weeks old. This talk was healing for me. Thank you.
I’m devastated. This morning I lost my 14 year old boarder terrier in the Animal hospital NYC. I’m totally in shock and my emptiness is endless and unbearable. My beautiful Mr. Hero.
Amazing. I am currently losing my 18 yr. Old pup . She was just so springy and happy the other day . Now she has seizures as of 3 days ago . She's on meds but I don't want her to suffer. I miss my puppy . And I don't want to be selfish. Im going to read the rainbow 🌈 bridge to her tonight . And thank her for getting me thru my teenage years and my adulthood.
One of the best talks in a long time. More like this, please.
It’s the last kindness you can offer your dog, who has given you unconditional love all his life. We are there for them for all of their lives but only a part of our own... a heartbreak kindness. If only we could help our human loved ones in the same way?
I just had to put my cat Maddie of 17 years down on Monday of this week. 2.21.22. I've been a literal basket case since last Friday when she took a turn for the worst. I didn't leave her side all weekend. She was cremated today. I got to have a final viewing of her this morning prior to her cremation. Losing an animal is the WORST!!! I never knew how hard it would be. I've cried and cried and cried. My heart is broken!!! My heart goes out to you and all who have lost an animal. I'm so glad I came about this video. You seem like an amazing veterinarian. I am fortunate I have an amazing vet as well. 🐾❤️🐾❤️🐾❤️
Thank you! A week ago today I let my dog sleep forever. Advanced kidney failure. I held her, sang our bedtime some to her, kissed her head and told her how special she is, how much I love her and thank you. The vet was wonderful. She administered the meds while I held my dog in her blanket from home. Yes, I am sick with grief but you are correct, it is because I loved her so very much.
I like the introduction, I like the way she is explaining the reason for euthanasia. The word euthanasia means "good death." It is kindness for those who are suffering. Thank you for this talk 🙏
She's extremely articulate and searingly honest. She lays out all the sadness, doubt involved and the mechanism of grief. Simply beautiful and a huge blessing to all loving pet parents experiencing loss and struggling to manage 🙏❤🙏
You are an angel Dr Hoggan. I wrote a long comment/story on your other TEDx about Cheyana's euthanasia. It was she that came back and I channeled wisdom from her that I'd write in a journal I made especially for her "visits" to chronicle her words to me. During her transmissions to me, she told me to look up the etymology of the word "euthanasia" - and learned then that it said, "good death" - she had me put that in the book that she urged me to put into a book, which I did. She said MANY amazing things - chapters of wisdom and love and mind expanding perspectives that I just COULDN'T have 'made up'. Blessings to you dear doctor. The DVM that did house call euthanasia is truly an angel. The morning of her 'release' I tossed her that ball many times - a thing she loved that we couldn't do anymore because her elbow injury hurt too much - she didn't care. I gave her the entire bag of her favorite treats as I was counting down the hours/minutes before the angel doctor of release came. She thanked me for not waiting too long, as most people do, she said. You've made the right decision. That was 2 years ago this past Thanksgiving week. Thank you for being the first one to validate the grief I still feel when I hear you on TED talk.
I put the boss of the house to sleep (my big 15 year old kitten) a few hours ago, I am still telling myself the things she says in this video. I know a lot of people are watching this video in exactly the situation I am in. I know it was hard on the vet to see a 6ft6 giant man broken down in absolute grief, I knew she hated telling me the cancer was stopping my pud from breathing in a full breath of air and I knew how hard I made it for her to be honest and tell me that this was the best option. I thanked her, I hope she knows how much I meant it. Rest in peace puddy, I love you.