Grief and pet loss - symptoms you may experience
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- Опубліковано 28 тра 2024
- Belinda Johnston from www.ourspecialfriends.org ( ourspecialfriends) is a vet who specialises in bereavement. In this video (filmed in 2013), she talks about the bond people have with their pet which differs from person to person. When a pet dies, due to old age, illness or accident, or if we lose them due to a change of circumstances such as having to move into accommodation that doesn't allow pets (such as a care home), or having your pet go missing or be stolen, we need to grieve.
There are a wide range of symptoms of grief:
Physical - such as crying, loss of appetite, loss of concentration, sleeplessness, vomiting, d+ collapsing.
Emotional - anger (including displaced anger), guilt, sadness, depression
Cognitive - blaming people, suicidal thoughts, denial, hallucinations
Social implications - withdrawing, becoming dependant on others
Anticipatory grief - grieving before the actual loss
Not everyone will display all the symptoms, but it is helpful to know the possible responses people might have so that we are not alarmed if we react in a way we don't expect. Belinda goes through what these responses might be.
Our Special Friends helps people continue to benefit from animal companionship by providing practical and emotional support during illness, bereavement or other crises.
Chapters:
0:00 Introduction
0:20 The human-animal bond / human-animal relationship
1:39 The difficulty of losing a pet
3:07 Symptoms of grief
3:51 Emotional signs of grief
5:14 Cognitive symptoms of grief
7:05 Social implications
9:06 Anticipatory grief
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I'm experiencing: nausea, total lack of appetite, apathy, massive sadness, feeling like a ghost myself, just want to sleep all day not to feel the pain, guilty or feeling like I betrayed her for putting her to sleep although she was getting sick. My companion, my beautiful 16 yo Minie is gone. I'm a grown up woman and I can't even wash her blanket so that I can still hold it and smell it. I hear her paws and her drinking water. It's like I'm going mad... I miss you so much Minie 💔🙏🏼💔
You can get a cuddle clone of your pet! I'm getting a Cuddle Clone of my late dog, Nala. She's in my pfp. Cuddle Clones are on Instagram and Google (of course.) She passed away due to parvo, and I was pretty sad. Nala was an American Bully, (a type of Pitbull) but she looked more like a Pitbull Terrier to me. I miss her everyday
Feeling this too now. We've been nursing a 1-month old kitten. He has a special condition wherein he has no control over his front and rear legs (paralysis symptoms). Dragging his body, inability to move all legs. It has been our routine to provide him with the proper care, and lots of love and attention so that he can still live a long and happy life. I am so traumatized and devastated as we lost him yesterday due to a possible heart failure. I can still remember his eyes looking at me as he struggled to breathe. From time to time, tears will come out of my eyes. I feel so drained and depressed. I can't stop but the blame on myself thinking that I should have done more to extend his life. 😭😭😭💔💔💔
I just lost my Opie suddenly last night and I can’t even think. I’m sobbing as I write this uncontrollably and feel like my heart has been ripped it. I can’t eat or sleep or have the energy to get out of bed. He was all I had and I’ll never forgive myself for not being with him when he passed at the vets. I’ve never felt a pain like this. I slept with his blanket all night and I can’t go home because of the memories. I am broken.
@@zahrahmama12 hope you’re doing good. I’ve just lost my boy this afternoon and feeling the same.
Oh, I'm so sorry. She's with you all the time.
The awful feeling of walking in a soulless empty apartment. I recognized my furniture but I don't feel at home anymore. I feel so deeply sad and heavy. Often at the edge of having a panic attack when I think that he is gone and this is real. He was 15 years old, the sweetest and most gentle and happy dog. He was my greatest joy and love. He was my only family. He meant the world to me. I am devasted. I said goodbye last week, I feel so confused, I don't understand how I can even find the strength to get up and go to work. My heart bleeds
That's so true about the furniture. Everything is so blank and empty without them...😢
I can relate as well to your empty house feeling and your only family. Even though we all know we will outlive our familiars, you can never be ready for the big hole left behind. The panic attack I share, I got through it by letting myself scream, wail, cry, vomit and rage.
I so hope you're having gentler days.
💔
I just my cat Santa two days ago. I don't want to go home because as soon as I enter the driveway I can see his not sitting on his chair in the bay window. He doesn't greet me at the door. When I turn on the TV theirs no one running to meet me on the lounge. When I turn off the TV and go to bed .... I'm alone when I go to sleep. My gentle loving big boy is gone and I am so lost. I know it was his time to go because he had cancer but I want him back. People say they can feel sense their pet's spirit. This makes me feel worse because I can't feel him around me.
Thank you for this.
Ive lost my first dog, Im almost three weeks into this and I can say with certainty, the emotions and physcial symptoms were unbearable, I thought my heartbreak would kill me.
My heart goes out to everyone going through this, the pain is quite undescribable.
I am wishing you all, and myself, brighter days to come.
how are you now
Thank you!!
It feels like a bad dream I can't wake up from. I keep forgetting and thinking he is right in the next room.
I just lost my furbaby boy yesterday. I don’t know what to do
It's been over 2 1/2 years for me now and at times the pain feels as fresh as if I just lost him. I think it's because this type of love is so unconditional that it hurts so bad for so long.
For me, the most painful part was having to make the decision for euthanasia at the veterinarian emergency clinic. After that, it was removing her collar for the last time before walking away from the now stilled body of my furry, loving companion of 12 years. Then, coming home to a silent, excessively empty house. I could not sleep all night, and finally exhaustion overcame and I fell asleep around 4:30 in the morning, only to wake up about 1-1/2 hours later to the shocking, cruel reality she's not there, my Little Buddy. I could not stay in bed, feeling an overwhelming sense of panic, loss and lack of direction and the will to pick up a routine that involved my friend at every moment of the day. If I would go out to do errands, I would automatically look at my watch and think I needed to return home to do her doggie squats. Again, the shocking, painful reminder that she's not here, waiting for me to care for her. If I would walk past her food and water dishes, it was an automatic reflex to try to add food and water to those shiny stainless steel bowls. At night, I miss the gentle sounds of her soft breathing as she sleeps, sometimes even her snoring at the foot of my bed, where her beds are. My world felt so safe and well anchored when she slept near me. I owe a depth of gratitude to the dogs who've been my loving companions over many years. They have kept me motivated during very trying times in marriages that dissolved over the years, and they kept me company during bouts of serious illnesses, unemployment, and even when I broke my back and could hardly stand up. Thank you, sweetest friends.
I am going thru same thing. Never gonnabethe same.
Same
I am broken, I will never be the same again 😢
Just lost my dog Vida of 9 years tonight. She passed from cancer. She was amazing and better than any human I have ever met. The heartache is unbearable. To me, she was my child and my best friend. I feel lost and broken without her.
I know, I know. Bless you and us all.
❤
So sorry for your loss. I can relate. I lost my baby girl (cat) 6 months ago.. she had an incurable mouth tumour. I had her from 2 weeks old. She was almost 12.5 years old. I agree with you - that the heartache is unbearable. It doesn't go away. It doesn't get better. I'm just taking it one day at a time. Lost in grief. But hanging in their for my other fur-babies. ♥️
So sorry for your loss, I hope you are doing better :(.
I can relate, I just lost my 9 year old beagle named Bella due to cancer, she was the sweetest girl. I love and miss her so much ❤
Just lost my Friend, Hunting partner, Hiking Buddy, Emotional support friend, and most importantly a loyal Friend I have never seen in people.
The pain is so intense with crying, lack of sleep, and anger.
Trying to go with the emotions and know this will be a long process.
Amber, Daddy will miss you forever.
See you in Heaven someday.
So bonded, so sad that the loss is so profound and cannot even come close for me to my connection to any person in my life.
The grief is heavy and the pain is unbearable. A lot of people just don’t understand. We lost our sweet Owen Bear this past Monday and my heart is so broken. The doubts, questioning what we could’ve done differently, wondering if we missed something even though I saw the signs he was nearing the end for months. He fought as long and hard as he could until he just couldn’t do it another day. We will always love you sweet bear. You were the very best boy and are sorely missed.
❤️ lost my Zeke 2 days ago he fought to the end was 12 and a half blind and diabetes but he still fought to the end I MISS HIM SO MUCH I don't know what to do 💔😢😭😪 He was a Mini Schnauzer 😢
@@mashdeegaaaaz6655 so sorry for our mutual losses, its hell.
I totally get it. My heart is shattered and broken. We had to put our chihuahua, our Boo Bear to sleep 2 weeks ago and I cannot stop crying for him. My life is so empty now. We had him for 15 years, he was a rescue, so he was older than that. I went through my mother's illness and death with him, comforting me. The pain is unbearable and then when we got home from the vet's and he was no longer there, the emptiness was and is just horrible. He no longer is there at the foot of my bed. My soul screams. I am sorry for your loss.
@@michelbrown4839 me too, with you all the way ... we are all fortunate for sure having each other to sanction our screams, our devastation, our agony and our deep love for our familiars which penetrated deeper than we could ever have imagined. Blessings.
@@michelbrown4839 I am so very sorry for your loss 💔💔💔praying for you
The worst things about losing fur baby are feeling you could've done something to prevent it, especially when it was an accident, and repeating in your head how everything could be fine if you just didn't or did... The other thing is terrible emptiness where little ball of happiness and sunshine used to be, all the noises and cute looks and knowing you will never see her or him again. And the worst thing is everyone telling you your grief is not valid, "it's just an animal" and making you feel guilty by telling you how they lost people they loved and you lost "just a pet"... It's the worst, I hate it! Just say you are sorry if you can't feel anything for me!
Not gonna lie: people who say that need a good slapping. I lost my beautiful (nearly 18 year old) dog just over 2 weeks ago and it hurts like hell. My remaining doggo who's nearly 15 seems restless and confused at times. He knew our departed boy his whole life. So sad 😭
I got that same message from my brother. It made me feel so horrible as if she didn’t have a soul or spirit! She’s passed onto the rainbow bridge. I’ve felt her.
I feel exactly the same way. My cat died six months ago. He just turned three. Some bastard likely poisoned him because he ran out and got lost. My family actually adopted him for a year. Before that, he was outside, living on his own. No, he was not a stray, he lost his previous owners. He had a collar with no information, so we couldn't identify who or where he belonged to. That being said, he was used to surviving in the outdoors. He got lost because my family moved houses a few months before his death. It hurts a lot because it was so sudden. I wish I could have prevented him from running out, or found him before he got poisoned, or even giving him more love, attention, and affection instead of playing my stupid video games. Guilt hurts, man.
@@jbar_85 Mate, I feel your pain. They leave their paw prints on your heart: as cheesy as that sounds. Sending condolences 😭
@@xdlolfam2713 That is so devastating. I wish I knew how to make you feel better. You can't do anything about it now and it must be very painful. You can't blame yourself for the actions of others though. Some people are just C U Next Tuesdays if you catch my drift 😔
The same for me. Lost my fur baby 5 days ago.
I couldn't ever imaging that level of pain would come.
The first 24 hours was pure hell.
Seems like we grieve our pets as much as people.
It was like loosing my best friend.
You did lose your best friend and it's okay. My sweet girl went home 5 days ago. It is horribly horrible. Each day is different. I smell her blankets if needed. I hold her leash. I look at her pictures. I feel it's disrespectful at this point to talk about it.. so I don't. If asked I just say.. She's Home. And she is. I felt to reach out to you.. hope your coming along.. Whatever that is for you💞
@@cynthiahillian my 11yr old dog passed 6 days ago, it’s my first pet loss so I’m definitely feeling a heavy weight in my chest at all times. It helps to hold his jacket that smells so strong. I hope this gets easier as i don’t want to get my other dog sick by grieving to much
I just lost my 16 yr old Yorkie and my heart is broken. I can't get the image of putting her down and being with her to the end. I can't even hold the blouse I had on when she passed. She was my best girl, I have no children or other pets. This is extremely painful
@@liz-yh9ip So sorry for your loss. I know the pain. I have lost 4 dogs over the past 40 + yrs & later today I will euthanize another of my babies. It hurts so much to let them go but it is worse to see them in pain. I know watching Miley yesterday struggle to get up & walk the time had come to let her go & it was the right decision.
I thought the same thing. I could not imagine the level of pain that hit me. Trust me....it WILL lessen. You need time. The wound is fresh. It will heal.
I just lost my cat Lucky yesterday. He was my boy. My greatest teacher of unconditional love. Im devastated & cannot stop crying.
My sweet sweet boy Hemi , I don’t know how to be here without you, I keep getting shocks of pain over my body and gasp trying to get air over the constant thoughts of you being gone. It’s just as hard as it was Monday. You are the love of my life and I’m not ok. You weren’t just a dog to me and I don’t know how to be here without you. I’ve been through a lot and have never experienced pain like this.
Has the pain lessened? Do you have any tips?
I see all these posts and yes, I KNOW how it feels. We had a cat that just walked into our lives and we had her almost 20 years BUT cats don't live as long as people. She was so old, I could see it in her last year with us. Her eyes said..."Advanced age". She began to be senile. She stopped eating. She could barely walk. We put her down. I cried so hard I felt like my insides would turn inside out. That was EIGHT months ago. I was DESTROYED. Take heart EVERYONE. Now, I'm okay. The intense pain has lessened considerably. I can go on. I caught my husband looking at her image and smiling. I cried my head off. That was yesterday. Yes, you will still cry here and there but like I said, the severe pain WILL get better. I promise. You need time. My DEEPEST sympathy to all on here. I know you all are in severe pain. XXOO
Thank you for saying this Jean. I just had to say goodbye to my best friend Benjy 2 days ago and I’m totally destroyed over it. I don’t have kids or a spouse so he was literally the most important thing to me. Right now I can’t imagine that I will ever get over this grief but reading your comment gives me hope.
Thank you, suffering now having lost my sweet boy two days ago, devastated.
Thank you and God bless you.
@@wcl4317 Me too, I actually experienced motherhood very deeply with my latest cat. He came to me an infant in the cold of a Northern Florida day. I cared for him somehow way deeper than any other animal because I am retired and could take more time, less busy and less running off here and there. I really God to know him as a parent would a child, a first for me with that intense experience. I cursed the Gods for ripping him from me, where was my guardian angel and where was his? Its been 6 weeks of mourning 2 cats who left me within 5 days of each other and I still am so angry at Life itself for not looking out for me and mine.
Thank you. My 18 year old cat Reggie was euthanized five days ago. It was just me and her all that time. The quiet emptiness is huge when I go home. I didn't expect that.
I can't put into words how much i miss my dog.
❤🐕💔
@@oritya1058 We all relate and understand way beyond anything words can say! So sorry for us all.
Same 😢
I Lost my spaniel of 15 years yesterday; Blue. I was there at the end and am so happy I was with him. But gosh, I miss him so much, the yearning is so intense. It helps to look at videos and photos of him. But I can’t believe I’ll never physically see him again.
This video is precious for anyone feeling so devastated by the loss of their friend. Makes me feel understood. Thank you. God bless 🙏🏼
I feel guilty for not being there when I had my fur babies put to sleep. The last a lady talked me to go and bewith my dog I ride and said I couldn-nt do it but I gave in and the vet was so nice yes I cried but felt better I was with him.
I feel like I am living in a nightmare. Waiting to wake up, find myself trying to wake up and face reality. Can't hardly sleep. Eating out of depression. Cry alot and knowing this is not good for my failing health. Feeling of guilt. Feeling of anger, isolation, suicidal 😢 thoughts.
Lost my little girl Baby Deets this week. She was my shadow. She was 11. She suddenly got sick and passed while in the ER hospital. Didn't get to say goodbye. I feel broken. No matter what I do to stay busy she's on my mind. I know this will be with me the rest of my life. I will search for peace and understanding. Rest well my sweet baby
I feel you, my 5 years old chihuahua died 20 days ago and feel so broken and alone. I feel empty and confused, she was infected with a hemoparasite by a tick bite and pyometra, I miss her so much, and It hurts me knowing she was in pain, and she died alone on a clinic. I wish you happiness and comfort
I'm sorry for your loss. It's heartbreaking. Sending you light.
So sorry for your loss, a lot of us do understand the pain you are going through.
So sorry for your loss😭its devastating
@@mariatere8909 You can get a cuddle clone of your pet! I'm getting a Cuddle Clone of my late dog, Nala. She's in my pfp. Cuddle Clones are on Instagram and Google (of course, and CC'S are not creepy.) Nala had to be put down because she had parvo, and I was devastated. Even my dad was upset, and he normally doesn't cry. Nala was an American Bully, (a type of Pitbull) but she looked more like a Pitbull Terrier to me. I miss her everyday
Lost my cat after 17yrs and the hole I feel now is something I know is more than if it was a human family member. It takes a piece of your soul.
Sorry man , has just happened to me also 17 , has the pain lessened over those months cos I’m crushed to pieces
@@firehorse5206 I had a cat for 19 years, he deteriorated over a few weeks and died in my arms. A total nightmare. Its been 10 years, it doesn't go away but life fills in and I think about him less but when I do the pain and shock is still there.
@ooohlaa13 19 is fantastic not that it lessens the grief, thanks :) Like you I think of him a bit less and when I do I still get teary , cats ay
I lost my cat of 19yrs. I came home one morning and found my girl outside her enclosure passed and i didn't know I had it in me but howled so loudly like a baby it was so painful and felt my heart just drop I cremated her and till this day I have been angry tired and just plain right down all the time.i lost my longest closest companion. My heart is torn into peices. Rip my beautiful bunny cat 🐈
My 18yo dog passed away. I felt bad for not spending more quality time and go on adventures with her. I made sure she was comfortable months before her time (vet already told many times just a matter of time) and held her, stroke her fur, played handshake with her and she died looking at me. I believe she's still with me sometimes and still speak aloud her n another dog who had passed away last yr. 😭♥️
Just lost our dog Beautiful. She lived up to her name. God love was shown through her, and we love her dearly for it. God Bless everyone going through grief and pain.
Grief is like love with nowhere to go. This is why it hurts so bad. Anticipatory grief is such a painful experience. I know it will sound terrible but we need this time. This is the way our mind prepares to losing the loved one. I was grieving for over four years after my cat-Fred died. I thought I would never be able to look after a pet ever again. Later I was adopted by two stray cats DeeDee and Piorun and I love them so very much. For every ounce of love we give, we receive at least 10 times more in return. The least we can do for our pets is to be with them in their last moments on Earth.
I lost my soulmate cat, Chai, two and a half years ago, and it feels like it was a month ago. Losing him right as the lockdown started was excruciating! He always followed me everywhere, so my home is full of his memory. He visited me many times and still does, though less as time goes on. He took half my heart and soul with him, and I can't wait till we are eventually reunited. He was one in a million!
I can totally relate, OMG so sorry.
Reading these comments and replies I feel less alone in this grief which in my case has yet to hit because I have to make that decision soon. I had to do this twice before, let them go before they were in pain despite whatever pain I would feel in that act. When I held my other little one on the table whispering to her to trust me and be at peace that it was for her own comfort and asking her to go to the beach and run around in the sun until I join her. This morning I had a long talk with my little one telling her about the beach and how her sister is waiting there for her and what fun she will have. I told her I would join her there, I would like to leave with her but still have an aged mother to take care off. I already didn't find any joy in life outside my love for my little one, now that is being taken away. I realised that with her going that I have no more purpose in life.
God Bless.I am going through it now.Haven't made decision yet.I pray you are o.k.
Lost my dog 6 months ago. It really feels like i was losing my baby boy. He was 5 years old. He had heartfailure.
I just put my old girl, Zanna, to rest yesterday. I began to grieve her a year ago knowing the end was near. I know her old age, her advanced arthritis was coming for her. It hurt most knowing that she was so lively, she was spunky, feisty, lovable, and would still get very excited to eat and when she saw us return from work/running errands. We got to the point where we would surprise her bc she could no longer hear us but she could still smell and see us. She would still light up. Unfortunately, her body was giving up and we had to make the most difficult decision. I didnt want her to suffer. She gave me 14 wonderful years, although not long enough. I ve been physically sick since her passing. I cant eat, i cant sleep, my stomach hurts and Im experiencing indigestion. I break down and move towards stillness and sadness. My Zanna taught me how to be a better pet owner. She taught me how to be a bit more worthy of having her love.
Thank you for sharing this.
17 years .every day my baby in my arms. i feel i want to die . im floored im gutted. traumatized and shocked. guilt. ...my baby was my whole world. (17 year old orange tabby cat) Fireball I love you so so much.
Hi. I'm so sorry about your baby. From my heart, I really am and I feel your pain. My Minnie passed last night and I'm soooooo heart broken. I'm glad I saw this video because at least now I know that what we are feeling is normal. We will obviously always love our babies, but I now know that at some point, we will come to terms with this and accept their passing.
Please know that eventually you will be ok. I can tell you loved Fireball and Fireball loved you too. I know you gave your little family member a good life. I feel guilty too, but I loved my baby and in my eyes, she was my daughter. I talked to her, I played with her, I laughed with her, and now I miss her. Here I go. I'm crying now, but it's ok because the deep pain we feel right now is a reflection of the deep love we have for our babies. I pray that when it's my time, my baby will be in heaven waiting for me. To greet me. And to continue where we left off.
Listen, if things ever get too heavy and you need someone to write to. Write to me and I'll listen, and I'll respond. May our babies rest in peace.
Minnie I miss you baby... Papa is here for you... I love you.. Behave my love...
@@workout8614 Thank you! the 26th ,tomorrow is 2 months since he passed March 26th. I cried today already too. I still do everyday. I love him so deeply. I do still talk to him everyday out loud. and I look for signs and have received a few precious ones. my heart is so entwined to him. he took up the largest residence there of anyone in life. it does help to talk to others so thank you!! I post in the facebook groups too for pet bereavement as i did today earlier. im looking for miracles. I cant really let him go. 2 months for me ,only a week for you.. so raw. it takes on so many forms this grief as you will see : ( its all right. just all so new and surprising . I never lost a soulmate/beloved before. its a void. im learning to have life inside of me...where i can include him... in spirit.
@@embracedchimera5886 Hi.. I'm glad you were able to read my message to you. I still can't believe my Minnie is gone. I have her mom here with me. Her name is Princess. I feel even worse when I notice Princess looking for Minnie. I can honestly say that these dogs changed my life, but now life just isn't the same without her. I pass by her little burial place everyday. I talk to her too. I want to do what you said and have a life inside of me also. So I can include my Minnie. Thank you for saying that because I never thought about doing that. I hope Minnie comes to me at least in a dream, or like you said, gives me a sign, or a miracle. I cry everyday too. I wish I could accept it, but like the song says, It's so hard, to say goodbye, to yesterday. I hope Fireball and Minnie can somehow become friends in heaven... I'm going to get Princess another playmate. I don't want her to be alone. I hope you will be ok. I can tell you're a good person. On this 2nd month of losing your beautiful dog, I pray that God blesses you, and that you find peace from this pain. You have a lot of love to give. Maybe there's another beautiful creature out there that needs you.
@@workout8614 Thank you : ) and Mr Fireball is a cat hehe! but a dog like cat indeed!!! I always said he is like a dog. in his ways. and he loves dogs too. i am adopting a kitten. when my mom suggested it , I got angry and defensive and said NO WAY,like the audacity of it. I also couldnt even look at any pictures of orange cats online without instant nausea! the pain was too raw. in an instant,like a miracle.. with a FEW signs, (I couldnt do it unless there were SIGNS) I found a kitten. the ONLY way I could is if i felt it was destiny like I was lead to him and only him..not just any ole kitten just to get one. no way, I wouldnt. I had no intention of that and still wouldnt. its only the signs. so im looking forward to bringing him home in a month. (havent met yet) have seen only online. you can imagine how difficult it is. the mixed emotions. but im in love already with the kitten due to his mannerisms i see in the videos. and i will be able to love him : ) but Fireball is my soulmate. you know ive had like 15 cats in my life and never felt grief til now. none died with me...all were at my family's house. he was with me through milestones. age 30-47! divorce and moving a lot and many hard times. he was the constant. the JOY. of it all. I havent had a kitten for 17 years! it was Fireball last... so im excited.......but im also looking intently into the signs of it all. and am still heartbroken. and .. yes I feel his life inside of me.... its part of our human evolution. those of us with soul contracts with animals. its a path i choose with joy.
@@workout8614 basically I "cant" "let him go" i cannot. and im making that statement to the universe. I cant. its impossible. something has begun in us. pet bereavers know..the ones of us who grieve this deeply.. that something has begun.. a soul contract..even a physical change in our bodies with our pets..science is just beginning to take note of it as well.. for example when studying even the brain patterns in dog owners and the new neural pathways formed in the brain...you were growing together as one.... new pathways like branches on a tree.. cant just suddenly be stopped/cut off without intense pain because it was a real intertwining biologically as well.. not just thoughts and feelings. a real biological change. Fireball and I were growing as ONE soul. its a fact. you just KNOW it. we could just look at each other and know things. without saying a word. we moved, acted ,"spoke" and everything as one. its not something to "get over" its something to continue! if a branch is cut off im still going to grow the tree...what has started must continue.
seeing the lifeless body of my angel that has given me so much peace and joy for 17 years has devastated me
This is one of the most indepth analysis on the topic . I lost my beautiful fur baby my beautiful cat TJ , he was my world , my Rock , he was taken from me suddendly and yes when the Vet told me about his Heart condition I was ib completely deny as I though he has been ill and will get better , however the Vet gave me hope and said we have put him on medication. If I knew I would have spent every min of Friday with him. I cannot sleep, I wake up crying , I am trying to do out of body yoga so I can visit him . I keep calling for him .
Did you see him with the out of body?
I lost my old girl last week. It was a sudden death and it has shattered the hearts of all of us at home. I was hysterical and emotional, my partner was in denial and my son didn't shed a tear. We are all different people. I dream about her every night. I mistake things in the corner of my eye as her. I thought I heard the little pitter patter of her feet. I feel so very guilty I didn't know she was going to go. I would have spoilt her rotten and not worried about her diet. I would have played with her endlessly. I wish we knew what was going to happen. I miss her so very much. She was the sweetest, friendliest and most laid back dog in the world.
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs and healing during this difficult time.
I feel just like you. Tomorrow will be a week since I lost my fur baby suddenly. I have so much guilt in not knowing what was happening and not hugging and cuddling more before the sudden death. It happened all so fast and I was such an emotional mess. We didn’t get to the ER on time he passed in the car 5 mins away. I still look at the place i found him having a seizure. I still wake up and walk at night hoping to see him in his bed , wake up early to take him for a walk. Missing the little footsteps he would make , his little happy face and cute paws. My heart is broken I cry daily. My oldest asks and wants a new pet but my heart can’t. I miss my little guy I don’t want some other dog , I feel like I can’t give the love to a new pet at this time and it would be so wrong. So I told my son that when he is older he can get a pet. I just can’t emotionally seem to be ok with the loss. My heart hurts it was too short of a time 12 years is not enough time.
Just put my beauty down today. Finnegan! Rescued him at 2 yrs old from a terrible puppy mill. He was my truest soulmate I have ever had. Never ever experienced pain like this before. I’m feeling sick over it. I might of put him down a lil early but I couldn’t stand to see him suffer or be sad anymore. He was my everything. 😢😢
My Bella would have turned 15 in two weeks. I was so close to getting her into the office to get put to sleep but I didn't make it. She died in my spouses arms instead of mine. Hair raised up along her spine as she does when's she's scared,as she couldn't get another breath due to liquid buildup in her lungs. She suffocated and I will never forgive myself. I'm angry and numb and cry occasionally. I keep thinking she will come around the corner looking for me. Some pets ARE children and many people will never understand 😞
I just lost my first pet today. Rest In Peace Rosie 💖
I just let my baby go, she was 12 yrs. Had CHF. I only had her as a rescue for 2 yrs. Way to short of time. I miss her beyond words. I can’t move her bed or wash her sweater where she laid on the couch. I also lost my Pom about a month ago. The house is soo empty, it’s not a home anymore, just a house. My so called” friends “, have not even reached out, which just adds to the hurt and depression . No hugs or visits. I love you Dolly and Bella so much 🌹❤️
@winsmith5296, I lost my Wylie girl on February 21st 2023, of Congestive Heart Failure. She was a West Highland White Terrier. I'm so sorry that you lost your kids. I have friends, who have dogs, and most of them sent cards and gifts. The ones who treated me like I was stupid, or should just get over it, are no longer my friends. I know exactly what you mean by it not being a home anymore. Why would it? Your kids are gone. 😢 I'm sending you hugs and and I will pray for you. 🙏🏼 Know that I'll be thinking about you everyday and grieving for you, and with you. It is so very hard. I have also been unable to move my girl's things. I keep hoping I'll wake up from a bad dream. I am so sorry. 😔😔💐💐💔💔💔💔💔💔
I lost my Ruben one week after finding out he was sick. It has been devastating. I'm still in a state of disbelief. I miss him so much. 🥺💔
This was a really nice and helpful video.
My dog was put to sleep just five days ago. 2/3/23.
And it has been incredibly heartbreaking.
My heart is broken, it literally hurts in my chest area. I've had tummy issues too, the day before the scheduled event i had nervous bowel, I went to the bathroom several times. I hope that's not TMI.
I Was feeling so distraught.
I have cried at some point every day since and I have had headaches. My eyes are so sore. I am tired. I don't feel right in myself, kind of in a daze. I'm still Functioning and doing things around the home but I am just not fully here. I feel ill, just horrible.
I also live with chronic pain due to autoimmune disease and my pain level has increased too.
I am grieving so hard, I miss my dog so much. It really hurts.
I have been hearing things too, I thought I heard her cry this morning, I keep hearing sounds like she's there or something is there in the house but there isn't.
I have been able to put some of her things away as it's harder seeing them around. My husband is finding it difficult too. We are both grieving.
I know in time it will get easier I am sure but I don't know if I could go through this again.
I had a couple of people say to get another dog or pet and I just can't, I don't want another one. I want her! but of course she's gone. It's definitely not the time to get another dog or Animal. I'm not ready for that and I am not sure if I ever will be. My dog was like my child and I had a close bond with her.
I just had to put my dog down a couple days ago and it’s my first pet of 13 years and the saddest experience. The bond we have is strong with our pets and these are websites that help us through it. We feel your pain of loss of appetite and sleepiness. All I do is hear my dogs step through out the house and snoring in middle of night. It’s awful how much we miss our companions. But it helps to know you’re not alone and these boards can help us through this traumatic experience
Same is happening with me I lost my dog one month back 😢
@cloo7525 Thank you for your lovely response. I'm sorry i never responded sooner.
It's been a year since your comment.
I am so sorry for your loss.
How are you now?
I still miss my dog and we haven't got another one. We have contemplated getting another one, but we are just not ready to do that yet.
What about you? Have you another dog or not yet?
I hope you are doing well.
3/8/2024.
@armanbajwa6742
Hi, I am so sorry for your recent loss. It really is the most saddest and hardest thing for so many of us. We just get so attached and so bonded to our dogs, to our animal family members.
I hope you can take comfort in the good memories and all the times you had together and be happy that you provided love and a lovely home for your dog.
It has been a year since losing my dog. I still miss her, but it has gotten easier, and I can smile and laugh at the memories I have of her. I have photos of her around my home and pics of her on my phone. She'll always be with me. Just like your dog will always be in your heart.
I have not got another dog or pet of any kind since. My husband and i have thought about it, but we are not ready for another one just yet. I am also recovering from surgery, so it isn't a good time anyway.
I hope you'll be OK. It takes time to grieve and heal.
I lost my sweet Chloe one week ago.
I promised her to be ok, however, I have failed. I miss her every single day, I cry her absence every single day. I just want a console. A deep sadness invades my soul. How I can erase 12 years together of love, commitment, dedication, fun, adventure and care. My hands are empty and my heart is grieving in silence. Society doesn't understand and underestimate our sorrow. This feelings are valid and genuine however, I have to act such us I am okay and I can't have this overwhelming love for a dog. It just an animal people say. I have to keep this pain hidden because people, family, friends don't validate this feeling. I refuse to get another dog not until I heal my lost.
Two months ago, my sweet Chloe passed away.
Thank you! My girlfriend took our 8 months old cat to the vet to get spayed while I was at work and she never woke up after they gave her the anesthesia shot. I couldn't imagine after feeding her in the morning and leaving to work that I'll never see her again. We miss her a lot, and our older cat keep searching for her throughout the house. This is such a shock for us and at this moment I feel like I wont ever recover!
Holy crap that’s beyond awful , hope you guys recover from this
I lost my little baby way too soon, I love her so much, it hurts so bad x
You don't recover, you live through the pain.. get in a grief support group online..
@@rosep9866 Its so true, for all my animal losses. Life moves back in eventually but you never sidestep the shocking pain when you reflect on the unique relationship with this animal that left such a hole.
My beloved golden retriever Finn lived to be over 15 years, and witnessing the last two years of his life as a caregiver was heartbreaking. I never felt a sense of burden taking care of him. I did everything in my knowledge to give him comfort and live his best life-the pandemic threw a wrench in our transition to California. We left a community of loving people and their dogs, which Finn grew up with. Moving to California was quite challenging, not being able to be surrounded by the previous community we loved and cherished. I felt a tremendous sense of guilt and regret for leaving our last neighborhood, which Finn was accustomed to. Then when he fell ill in California, I felt so alone. I have had to readjust to the new reality that Finn was viewed only as a dog, not my child. He was my rock and anchor, giving me a sense of security and confidence to take on challenges. Without him, I notice tidal waves of sorrow and anguish. My meditation allowed me to face the channels of grief as they arose. I also find that I don’t want to be near other dogs. I am finding them quite repelling and comparing them to my beautiful happy golden. It’s been over four months, and the grief is getting, and the reality of him being gone is quite painful. The unhelpful advice I have been hearing is to get another dog and “it’s just a dog.” He wasn’t a pet. I did not objectify him as a pet that would serve me. I served him. He was my baby boy. I learned so much about love, grace, and joy with Finn by my side. This video has been enlightening to watch. I have so much to say about the grief of a dog. Grief is grief like love is love. There is no moral distinction in which grief is legitimate. Thank you for creating this space. To whoever reads g this, your grief is unique and valid. You are not alone. Peace be with you. 🙏🌞✨
My beautiful girl has just passed away I'm missing her so much I feel like my hearts been ripped out
I came home to my pet goose horribly mangled in the middle of our pond. I'll spare details. But I'm traumatized by the shock of his sudden murder. (A hawk most likely, as it's been attacking my chickens, I keep them in their coop now 24/7 so took away hawk's food source so he went for the geese.) I'm still crying 5 hours later. He had such a personality, you'd think it's just a goose but I love him the exact same as I love my dogs. I'm heartbroken and absolutely devastated.
I'm so very sorry. I've always loved geese! They can be so loving and silly and adorable. They have personalities just like dogs or cats or any other creature. My heart goes out to you. I hope you are doing better now.
This video is one of the few videos that really helped me. I appreciate it greatly. I had to put down my cat but I feel like I started grieving when I knew that things were taking a turn for the worse.
I swear I heard the ring of his bell collar moments ago.
I'm truly sorry for your loss and heartache.
Thank you! I’ve heard my boy scratching at bedroom door, felt him move on my bed. I thought I was nuts!! I had no idea this would happen!!
It hurts so much....
@@rosehunt-roman5931 I know it well.
Lost my furbaby last night,im completely devastated.Out of the blue.The day before she was still playing,being her feisty self😭... Im weeping so much,i can barely eat and barely slept.Some people dont understand that losing a pet is devastating.She wasn't just a pet to me,she was my lifeline,my little girl.Even my husband knew that my furbaby came first and he came to love her just as much
You can get a cuddle clone of your pet! I'm getting a Cuddle Clone of my late dog, Nala. She's in my pfp. Cuddle Clones are on Instagram and Google (of course.) She passed away due to parvo, and I was pretty sad. Nala was an American Bully, (a type of Pitbull) but she looked more like a Pitbull Terrier to me. I miss her everyday
Cindy, I lost my girl on Monday. She passed in her sleep but on her last day she seemed fine. I feel worse than devastated and can’t eat or sleep Or hardly speak. I understand your pain. This is so very hard. My partner also knew that my girl came first before literally everything. My girl was my reason for so much.
@@morganmckibbon4241 *read my comment...*
Lost my kitten about 2 days ago. We've been nursing him for 1 month. He has a special condition wherein he has no control over his front and rear legs (paralysis symptoms). Dragging his body, inability to move all legs. It has been our routine to provide him with the proper care, and lots of love and attention so that he can still live a long and happy life. I am so traumatized and devastated as we lost him yesterday due to a possible heart failure. I can still remember his eyes looking at me as he struggled to breathe. From time to time, tears will come out of my eyes. I feel so drained and depressed. I can't stop but the blame on myself thinking that I should have done more to extend his life. 😭😭😭💔💔💔
I lost my pet parakeet when he escaped from his cage outside, he was always so affectionate and would give anything in the world to cuddle with me. I always held him everyday and I remember when he played with everything, he always loved to destroy things with his beak. He was so playful. He helped me get through tough times. And seeing him gone without any closure left me with a void in my soul. I always grieved with him but he was the one I was grieving about. What hurt most of all was that when I checked the security cameras, I saw him stay on top of his cage looking for me and then he left. I cried for weeks thinking why would he leave me. The beautiful parakeet that was my everything was gone. Nothing could ever replace him. I felt so guilty. This video really helped me. Thank you
My dog Sasha (7 turing 8 this month) died unexpectedly during the night. She had been dealing with severe kidney failure and yesterday afternoon we got a call from the vet saying her bloodwork came back bad after we thought she had been getting better. She spent a week in the hospital 2 weeks ago, and she came back seeming like everything was going to get better.
Her breathing was very heavy and we knew she couldn't hold on any longer. My mom and dad made the decision that we would put her down today during the afternoon because the vet had told us her kidney failure possibly progressed into bladder cancer which she would still pass away with eventually, and we didn't want her to keep suffering because she held on for as long as she could. She could barely move, eat, or even drink and we were doing as much as we could to keep her comfortable just for another day.
We snuggled with her for hours yesterday, thinking today would be her last day. when it was time to go to sleep we put her in my parents bed with her favorite toy that we got for her when she was just a puppy, her bed that we got her for christmas a few years back, and her favorite blanket that was always right by her side. Last night before i went to bed i checked on her and gave her a kiss on her head. She didn't sound too great but i had hoped maybe it would get better. her eyes were open every time i went back in there. (i had gone in 3 times before i was too tired to keep my eyes open) i was crying all day. early this morning i heard my parents running around the house saying something about the dog but i didn't pay attention because i was half awake.
i closed my eyes again and my dad came into my room telling me that sasha didn't make it through the night. i started bawling my eyes out because i had a weird feeling that she wasn't going to make it through the night. but i didnt want to accept that feeling. She passed away in a different position than i saw her in ( facing the other way) but she got to die peacefully by the sides of my sleeping parents, who made her feel so loved. it's almost like she waited for us all to go to bed before she went to bed too. i miss her so much and i wish she never got sick in the first place. our house is very quiet and my heart is absolutely aching. she was the best dog anyone could ask for even though she drove us crazy sometimes.
today was rough for me as i had no appetite, no desire to get up, and huge bags under my eyes. i spent the day talking with people who i love, and especially my close friends mom who felt like a therapist to me. she told me that dogs don't understand how we feel about them as they are dying, all they remember is how loved they are by us. i feel guilty for being so sad and angry because her body just couldn't handle being sick any longer. but, on a positive note she no longer has to suffer.
My pug Boris past away 3 days ago and I sometimes think that I see him in his bed.
Now I think that we were lucky ones as we spend a lots time together due to lockdown for the last 12 months, we had a lovely day out at the beach on his final day and my husband and I were comforting him when the situation changed suddenly, then he passed away on my husband lap on the way to the vets. My the other pug has been quieter and seems to understand what happened. I would not be surprised if the do as they are so clever.
How are you coping now? I'm so lost... 💔
So sorry for your loss.
I lost my baby girl of 13 yrs today. My eyes and head hurt so much from crying. I miss her every minute.
Lord I was already suffering depression n lost my mam n brother this year... had to get my sweet 16 year old sweetheart put ti sleep today... my heart is broken... I have pains in my stomach am consumed with grief n guilt... I loved you so much hunni.... my best friend xxx
My dog was hit by a car. He was only 2½ & was my ESA for anxiety. My sons are grown up. Joey was my baby. I wailed & screamed and I keep crying as though I lost a child. I feel incredibly guilty.
I am so sorry. It really does feel like we lose a child and I think it's because we are. I lost my 2 year old cat to a car last night and I screamed and cried I saw it happen. Just try to remember the good times. I'll be doing the same.
sending you love. my dog passed away unexpectingly, i miss him so much, had a similar time period with him. I wailed and screamed for two days, punched walls. Sending lots of love to you
My beautiful sweet baby boy--a Lhasa Apso named Buddy--was struck and killed by a car on March 29, 2024. My heart is destroyed. It feels impossible to move on without him. This is a pain that is like no other--it is the WORST kind of pain I have ever felt. I have been bawling for days, my legs are weak, I feel dizzy, suffering headaches, living in a fog, difficult to breathe during the crying. The grief keeps coming in terrible waves, and the realization that he is GONE just keeps hitting me. Will not hear the click, click, click of his steps around the house, no more walks together, no more hugs and kisses. 💔 😭
It all seems so impossible. I still can't believe that this happened!
My only solace is that I gave him a great life. I gave him 100%, even on days when I was exhausted.
You were such a good boy, Buddy. You were perfect--a precious little angel.
I hope there is a God. I hope there is an afterlife. I want so bad to see you again and to hold you again. You will always be in my heart, sweet baby boy. ❤
Did you get the date right?
I am reading your comment on March 8th. 2024. You put the 29th.
But oh my word, I am SO sorry for your loss. That is tragic in what happened to your little guy.
I am sure it is hard when the loss is unexpected and it is such a shock.
My heart goes out to you.
I am glad you can take comfort in that you did give him a great life and did your best even on the days you were tired. It's good you're able to see that. You loved your little Buddy, and he knew it.
I was the same with mine, I have chronic pain and various issues but I got up everyday for her, took care of her, walked her, fed her, love and attention every day even when I was suffering and tired.
I know you did the same, and you were a good parent to your Buddy.
The raw pain that you are feeling is deep and it's just so hard. It's gut-wrenching. It will definitely take time. Life will be different without your Buddy, and you'll miss him terribly, but you will get through this and go on. It's going to take time.
Please talk with someone if you feel that you are overwhelmed. There are pet bereavement counselors out there if you feel that you may need help.
He died 3 days ago. I'm empty, depressed, and angry. He wasn't physically sick but he did have something wrong in the head. He was my dog and I wasn't made part of the decision. I was at work when it happened. As I write this, I realize how upset I really am with my parents. I'm a senior in highschool, I am old enough to be part of the conversation. I wish I was warned.
My home is so lonely. I appreciate my rat terriers love and all the time he made us howl with laughter..happy times. I’m hurting so much.
Lost my 26 year old Greyparrot today. She was always with our family, was smart and made us all laugh a lot of times...she died in her sleep and I couldnt hold her..I cant bare my thoughts and my grief anymore. RIP my love😔❤️
Thank you for this. We had to put down our dog Woody of 14 years down last week. The emotional toll it has taken on us is unbearable! My heart goes out to everyone who is experiencing or has gone through this.
I'm going to lose my only and best friend soon, just last week she was active, happy and full of life, she had a seizure and now shes lost eyesight in one eye, can barely walk and is confused. I carry her everywhere now. She literally is my whole world, I have body dysmorphic disorder and she is the reason I venture out of the house, she has been with me through everything and is one of the last things I have. I don't know how to live without her. I've never had a pet so close nor smart, obedient and loving. I'll never have another like her, just can't stand it. I keep going through waves of panic I'm losing her to denial to profound sadness. Ive lost a lot of pets over the years but she's really the best most loyal beautiful girl I've ever been blessed to have.
I've just my dog who looks like yours and watching this was a trigger to my grief 😔 x
I’ve experienced all the symptoms that she listed. I’m at a loss. Some people have said some hurtful things after she passed and it makes it worse to process her love, her life, her spirit. 💔😔
Thanks for this calm and detailed explanation. My poor cat was put to sleep just 2 day ago and I'm in pieces, but I've been here before and I know that everything I'm experiencing is normal.
I sadly had to say goodbye to my baby girl Mimi 2 days ago , she had cancer of the lung and no matter how much I nursed and took care of her I had no choice but to say goodbye .
Iam totally heartbroken , Empty . Feel as if I cannot breathe . I’m not eating or sleeping . My world is crushed . She got me through a very difficult 10 years and now I’m lost .. watching this video has comforted me because no one apart from my partner is understanding how I’m feeling .
I’ve lost my best friend in life 💔
My 13 year old female dachshund was put to sleep today I am broken, she was my everything 😢😢😢😢
What i’m feeling today is total loss the hurt is so deep I miss my little dog so much all I can do is cry I can’t eat I’m just thinking about her nonstop I pray that the pain ease up I feel bad and guilty that I had to put her down but she was so ill she let out the most eerie cry I have ever heard in a dog that’s When I knew I had to not be selfish and do the hardest thing I have ever done in my life that was to put her down and let go. Coming home and not having her here is a sad reality.
The pain that I feel since my sweet Emma’s kidney disease forced me to euthanize her a month ago. It has been terribly painful. She and I loved each other so deeply as only best friends can. I cry from the grief that I feel daily. We shared every day and night for the last eleven years. That love began when she picked me as her partner when she was eight weeks old. I am heart broken for My Sweet Emma, my love. I’m feeling so lonely and empty without her.
I lost my cat Annie a week ago, I have not felt okay since then, I feel devastated. She was my baby, I loved her more than anything but I could not save her. She was only 13 months but really sick. I wish I could have done some things differently that could have saved her. I miss her so much.
I’m so very sorry that you lost your cat Annie, I also lost my kitty…just the other day…I’m so confused and overwhelmed he was very sick..I knew it was coming but not but it still is very shocking and unfortunate. I hope that you are having some better days now.
@@i5263sweets I’m so sorry for your loss. I just lost my cat Kaba this week too. He was poisoned, where I live here in Mexico it’s quite common. I found him intoxicated and having seizures in my neighbors garden and unfortunately he couldn’t be saved after a night at the vet. I’m feeling so many emotions, depression but especially anger and guilt that I couldn’t keep him safe. He was my family here. And my dog is grieving hard, they were super close and best friends. I feel like I’m experiencing all her pain as well as mine. I don’t really know where to go from here
its been a week and still am crying the whole day for the passing of my cat who was with me for many years. he was next to me in everything i did. i allow strays to come into my home and take shelter. yet no one can take the place of my cat cos he was my son. the house feels so different. the vibe is not the same. something is missing. the guilt will never leave me. I wasnt told that he was slowly dying. i was told after he died cos my family doesnt know anything about taking care of a pet. i am still sad and angry cos i wasnt there to comfort him in his last moments. my fur baby needs me all the time. i am very sure he wanted me to hold him when he was in that condition. baby i miss you dear. mummy is so sorry. mummy loves you. thinking of you every second.
I'm experiencing every single symptom mentioned... Literally. Every. Single. One. I lost my beloved 12 yr old Golden a few days ago and I am a hollow shell of guttural sobs and howls, can't eat, can't sleep, can hardly breathe. I am overcome with grief and guilt and self-blame - even though rationally I know I couldn't stop her disease. I was her 24/7 hospice caregiver for months - I gave it everything I had and it wasn't enough. I can't go into my living room where the vet helped her pass. I have locked myself in my bedroom now for days. My heart is squeezed so tight, I often question whether I'm about to have a heart attack at any moment. I just want to be with her. I have lost dogs before - I know rationally, it takes time - to learn to live with the pain, to learn to live a new normal. But this is utter agony. Honestly, I just wish I could have died instead.
I'm so very sorry. I'm crying after reading your comment. Literally sobbing. My 14 year old cat Roxy had to be put to sleep only four days ago. I feel physically gutted and empty. I have headaches and can't eat and my heart feels like it has weights attached. I also thought I was having a heart attack yesterday or a stroke. I'm only sleeping a few hours a night. I feel like I have PTSD. I'll wake up in a panic realizing she's not there even though I thought I felt her jump on the bed twice last night. She seemed fine until last week and then suddenly stopped eating. The vet said she most likely had lymphoma for some time and the tumors in her tummy enlarged so she couldn't eat. But literally she acted fine up until Saturday and I had to have her put to sleep on Tuesday. It truly is agony. She was always, always around me and near me. She was so loving and silly and adored me. I feel heavy and weak and lost. I'm glad I found this video because people in my life don't seem to understand and it's like I'm supposed to "get over" this in 4 days?! This little dolly was my life! On top of that I lost my cat Oscar who was 16 to kidney failure in January. Roxy adored him and he did her. So both my babies are gone. I just wanted to tell you that I understand how truly awful and devastating it is. Animals give us so much (understatement) and ask for nothing in return. Just know that I am so deeply sorry and I'm thinking about you.
@@amg726 Oh, I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I lost my first Golden to Lymphoma as well and it's absolutely crushing! This must have come as a terrible shock to you to lose her so quickly. I tried chemo with my boy (didn't respond/work) and had him for around a month before he collapsed and went into septic organ failure. Each loss of a loved pet feels like it strips you raw, especially when we have ones that are with us 24/7, deeply bonded and require great care. Like you, my house is completely empty now, and I am too. The headaches and chest pains... yes. The nights are the absolute worst. I sit up most of the night and just wait for daybreak. It literally feels impossible to function. I just feel so lost... I'm so sorry you're going through it too - as so many of us obviously are on any given day. I don't even have the right words to say - sending you a virtual hug. You're not alone.
I lost my baby girl (cat) 6 months ago.. she had an incurable mouth tumour. I had her from 2 weeks old. She was almost 12.5 years old. The heartache is unbearable. It doesn't go away. It doesn't get better. I'm just taking it one day at a time. Lost in grief. But hanging in their for my other fur-babies. ♥️
I just lost my beloved furbaby yesterday at around 2am. My beloved Khaleesi was only 5 years old, she is a Shih Tzu and Chow mix and her color is black. She has been diagnosed with Distemper and Ehrlichiosis, her CBC results dropped and had internal bleeding. The vet said that she had pneumonia and he told us that it’s a complication of the disease. She had lost her appetite and became weak. I saw her in taking her last breath on earth and it was traumatizing. We were told by the vet that she may not be able to make it until the afternoon the day before she died, so he told us to prepare for ourselves. My family did but me and my other sister was so devastated because we treated her like a baby. After what happened I was the one who removed the Intravenous Fluid connected to her by her vet. We were told that she cannot be confined due to the clinic doesn’t have Isolation area and other dogs can be infected as well due to her disease is an airborne. So they put IV on her and we brought her home with it. I still can’t believe that she already passed away and still imagines that she is sleeping besides me on my bed. I have kept some of her hairs from her comb and from the IV bandage that I removed from her. I’m planning to make a frame with her photo, her collar and her remaining hairs. My whole day yesterday was a total mess because I couldn’t stop crying but I still need to attend my online German class. I also have loss my appetite and had diarrhea after she died. Watching this video help me in coping up with my grief. Thank you. 💕
I feel guilty for needing the emotional support from others. I don't want to be a burden. I am already burdening myself with the guilt and the pain of losing my 12.5 yr old dog, 9/27/22. I know the wounds are still so fresh for me and I should let myself grief however I need to, but its just hard. IT feels like the grieving is not enough.
I have gone through many of those when grieving some my dog passed over 3 years ago. My heart still aches. We were together pretty much 24/7 for 13 years.
Just been to the doctor this morning. I got an appointment straight away due to chest pain symptoms. I’m prone to anxiety so I am used to it. I felt out of breath a bit too. The doctor said I was fine. I told him I lost my dog in January. I was crying/tearful. I am bereft and feel I failed her 😔 yes I feel like what have got to live for now despite the fact that this is simply not true. As a Christian I need to trust in Christ and pray. It’s definitely not a hallucination. People really see spirits. However I don’t feel it’s from God, it’s coming from the other.
My darling 15 year old ĝrl Lucy was put to sleep 27th March, I can still hear my self wailing in the vets ,I'll never get over it she was my everything.she made every day great fun
Thank you for this. You're right, trying to fill the void after death is extremely difficult.
I've lost 2 dogs in my life. The first and third dog I had. My second is the only one left with me. The first one lived with me for 18 years. I was an only child and we had him since I was 5. He's like my big brother. His last day with us is still clear in my memory and I still cry everytime I'm reminded of him. Like it all just happened yesterday. And I'm 29 now.
Just this Saturday, my third died. She's like my first child. I only had her for almost 7 years. She's supposed to turn 4 this coming Feb4. And I am so heartbroken. She died in my arms as I wanted to provide her comfort and my companion till her last breath. And that scene goes on a replay in my head and I feel so useless and helpless. I'm currently pregnant with twins so I'm trying to keep myself from crying but I can't help it. She's my baby, my bestfriend, my everything. I can't stop thinking about her and I don't want to. I find myself desperate to feel her. I keep calling her. I long for her scent. I try to sniff her from where she usually lay down on my bed. I wanted to hug and kiss her one more time if I could and say sorry for everything I could or should have done. I miss you baby.
Wow. This is the only video/vlog/article I've found that has helped me; so calm and factual.
The bit at 6:30 stopped me completely. We lost our girl (dog) very recently and I have been hearing her - clear as a bell - getting out of her bed and padding along the corridor. I thought I was losing my mind. It hasn't stopped - I hear her almost daily, and her sisters we lost before her.
The guilt weighs heavily (could I have done more, could I have given her an even better life?) and the pain is excruciating and not something I can really discuss with family and friends who haven't suffered the same; I feel they just don't want to hear it. She needed a lot of care at the end - hourly almost - and I feel so redundant now. Surrounded by her things, the silence is deafening.
Thankyou so much for posting this.
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Just lost my precious boy two days ago. I thought it would be easier than losing our first dog three years ago. Because our boy had a degenerative disease. We had years of notice. From diagnosis to death, he had 5 years. Normally, with congestive heart disease, they only have 1-2 years from diagnosis. But he was stable for so long. Symptoms yes, but still able to enjoy life. The descent happened so fast (just a few days). My husband and I are just as devastated with the loss as we were with our first dog. I don’t feel like I have anything to live for. The dogs were the highlight of our lives, our happiness, our motivation to continue in life despite many struggles. Now it feels like we are only left with the struggles and the negative things, and no longer have the positive things. So why continue on? It is a horrible realization and I can only hope that as the days and weeks go on, our feelings will change.
Thank you for this. I just lost my good girl Bella a few days ago. I got her when I was 19 and I have always considered my self independent and have traveled with her all over the country living out of our various vehicles. She was almost made it to 17. I was a teenager when I got her and now my face is gray my hair is thinning and my back always hurts. I always thought I was so independent that I had ability to find strength in solitude and considered myself to be alone and ok with it and now I realize because Bella was pretty much always by my side I have hardly even experienced what it truly feels to be alone. I miss her so much and I truly am floored by knowing that my entire identity was wrapped up in her- if someone wanted to describe me they would do that in relation to her. We were inseparable and now I truly don't know how to function in the world without her in a way that allows me joy. I don't want to just get another dog and try to fill the void and I feel that would not be serving me or a new pet. I don't know what step to take other than trying to quietly improve myself and try to integrate the lessons she taught me more fully into my life. I am haunted by the memories of her suffering and I cant help but feel guilt in it.
Hello friend. Im very sorry about your loss. This will be a very difficult time for you. I want you to read this about those guilty feelings you're experiencing. It helped me a little bit. If the love is true, it won't ease the pain, but it helped me with the guilt. May Bella rest in peace, and may you find peace. www.pet-loss.net/guilt.shtml
Don't worry. Its not selling anything. I just want to pass along something that helped me with those strong guilty feelings. It wouldn't be right to keep something that helped me to myself, knowing that it may help someone who's going through what I went through. Like the old saying says. "Each one teach one". Take good care of yourself.
@@workout8614 Thank You. Some of the paragraphs within this were exactly what I need to hear. It helps to remember all the sacrifices I made and to remember that I basically always put her needs on par with mine and treated her as an equal. We had many adventures and have seen many places and climbed high mountain summits and spent days and nights deep in the wilderness and all the while I had the sense that I was doing that for her just as much as I was for myself. Her last year was rough and she suffered from dementia and arthritis and we had to quit traveling and move back to my hometown where I was thankful to have a home that I could afford but we were on the side of a loud busy road and it was a far cry from the wild isolation that had defined our experience together. I feel guilty about not being able to provide her a quieter space while her dementia became worse and my own frustrations with my situation began to creep into my moods and behaviors. It does not help to replay the suffering of her final year. Acknowledging all that I did and how she was consistently on the forefront of my mind and considerations helps to nullify some of the guilt because yes it was both the good and the bad. Its easy to focus only on the suffering and the what ifs but focusing on the good times can be just as powerful. Thank you for sharing- the article really provided some good guidance.
@@foresterforester763 you're welcome Forester. She knows you loved and still love her.
Its a gut wrenching feeling loosing your soul dog I couldn't eat for 9 days or more.. My soul pet was 14 yr. part of me died w/ her. She was my whole life. + They seen u as there whole life, Best dog in the world we had a deep Bond been 4 mths i still feel my fur baby w/ me in Spirit
Just lost my 16 week old lab puppy , due to a condition i couldn't do anything about, im 14 years old and homeschool , it feels so quiet and empty and i keep remembering his cute self running around the living room
I lost my girl yesterday. We had to let her go because she was in so much pain that it would be criminal to keep her. She didn't want to go, but she was ready and went on peacefully. I'm just glad she's not suffering anymore.
Lost my lovely boy after a very short illness and the feelings of emptiness and sadness are overwelming but your words were reassuring and helpful . Thank you and God bless .
I lost my dog just 4 days before we were going to get back from a trip in Europe.
So much could have gone differently... I love you Floofy, I miss you so much... you deserved so much more than what was given in 2 years of living.
I like this video because its not just about grief caused by a pet dying.
I just lost my guy yesterday late afternoon in my home, he had family around him but the loss is unbearable now, I woke up this morning and can't stop the grief and tears. I hope I can make it, he is my furr guy in my profile pic, I had him 14 yrs of his 18yrs of life, I knew I had to made this call two years back as I saw his decline since then. He was my world, as I suffer from MDD and PTSD, Veteran Retired and miss him so much.
I'm so deeply sorry. I know how devastating it is. It hurts like nothing else.
My little chihuahua dog died two weeks ago during a trip, by my side. She was 15. While I am still very sad truth is I am grateful, she died of old age and she was with almost her entire life. For different reasons I am not planning to own another pet again but I will always remember her and thankful she lived a life of happiness and care
Thank you for posting this video. My little toy fox terrier Rosie was put down two days ago. She had a heart, kidney and liver conditions plus an advanced arthritis. It was very sad seeing her in pain and deteriorating quite fast so we made a very hard decision. I was broken hearted and will be for a long time. I miss her so much and I wish I could hold her again. Fly high my little Foxy.
This was very helpful. Thank you!
I call “appreciative grief”, grieving in advance - I didn’t know there was a term. I’m in the “before” or advance stage now.
Our girl has been slowing down, has significant mobility issues, and several “lumps” we can’t remove because we would likely lose her on the table. So we are doing all we can to keep her going, comfortable, engaged, watching her throughout the day (exhausting at times), and keeping a “Joy List” as well as a calendar, marking her days in third intervals (morn, afternoon, eve, as to whether or not the period of the day was good, meh, or bad). It’s helpful because it acts like a journal. When we look back at it, if we feel guilty, we’ll know we did all we could & guilt will not have as tight a grip in the “after” grieving process.
It’s an awful thing to live through but I’m trying to focus on the time this amazing creature has blessed our socks off (literally - she was a mad sock thief and we have lots of sweet memories we’ll hold of her antics). I’m trying to remember life is about seasons and my job is to love each animal as best I can, as the good Lord brings them into my life.
I’m also avoiding anyone who can not support our decision to not let her “die naturally” in ways that we need to be supported. I can’t let her suffer. We have the tools in this society to prevent that. Thanks to loving veterinarians who’ve walked this road with us.
Libby is my first puppy. She’s going on 13 yrs old. It will hurt like heck. But I have all of these amazing memories, pictures, videos, experiences and unconditional love from the best furry girl ever.
Sending love, prayers, and warm hugs to everyone hurting right now. They say grief is the price for love, but it’s two sides of the same coin to me. I feel everything deeply. It’s just my DNA and that’s OK. You are NOT alone 💜.
I too have been grieving terribly… it is three weeks today that Buddy went to the Rainbow Bridge…..thank you for this enlightening and sensitive talk so appreciated 🙏🐶💔
I'm so sad my dog got ran over I can't live anymore in this world without her she was so adorable 😢 I can not be happy anymore
Rosie, I am so very sorry that you have experienced something so traumatic. Please know that one day you will feel better, but it's going to take some time. In the meantime, you're going to be going through some very, very painful emotions. I know though it does get better with time. God bless.
My fur baby, Gendhis was already showing symptoms of the calicivirus. I didnt notice it, I feel guilty with the thoughts of 'I should have ...' It's eating me up. I know grieving is a process. Let's go through this process together❤
It's so helpful to be here reading these comments and to not feel so alone!
We lost our 17 yo cat, Midnight. She had a seizure and we had to take her to the vet. We miss her so much. I hear and see her everywhere. The VOID she left is the worst. Leaving the vet with the empty carrier. Come home to empty food bowls, toys, beds, it is very hard.
This is so very helpful. Our beautiful rescue dog, Littleman, became suddenly ill and nothing could have helped him. I can’t take his crate apart….just have it covered with his toys inside. It’s soul crushing 😔
Just lost my 15 year old maltipoo and this is one of the hardest and painful thing we could go thru she die yesterday morning we love and miss you xena 11-29-2022
Tiger was my baby. For 18 yrs, I had him and he was by my side. I lost him about 3 days ago...my heart is shattered I'm going crazy...slowly. I'm at a loss for words im at a loss of.....all
My baby just died l couldn't believe it i am traumatized. I glad she passed quickly and after hearing how it would be to know that she was going to pass I think it was the best thing dont know if I could have watched her pass would have been so hard I think the creator bought her home without so much suffering Thank you creator for looking out for me
I lost my dog just last night due to an attack by another dog. I'm constantly blaming myself because if I would have got there faster he mightve still been alive. after getting attacked and shook around, he had a seizure on the floor and I can't get it out of my mind. by the time I arrived at the emergency vet he was already gone. I'm so devastated and I've been crying for a day straight. I can never forget how he looked. I can never forgive the dog that did this. I feel so bad because I couldn't even say I love you, I'm sorry, or goodbye. he was supposed to live so so so much longer. his life was cut too short. I've been in bed all day and I can't get myself to walk around the house without those memories coming back and feeling the emptiness. he would always bark at the smallest sounds and now he can't at all. I don't know what to do...I can't take it. anytime I laugh at something, those images just replay over and over. I don't think I'll ever be able to overcome this or forget about it. I love you so so much tobi❤️❤️
I am so deeply sorry. That has always been one of my greatest fears. You have been through a significant trauma. You are suffering from ptsd. I hope you consider seeing a therapist to help you recover. EMDR treatment may help. My heart goes out to you. I am so sorry that you have gone through that. 😢❤
I lost my darling boy 2 weeks ago. He was only 3 and died from cancer. This is like you are describing me. I can't accept how he was been robbed of his life. He was the centre of our lives and we had so much planned to do with him
Our sweet boy was 14 when he crossed the rainbow bridge. Just happened 3 days ago. I think I am still in shock. I experienced a ton of anticipatory grief for him as well for my other dog that passed in 2018. I knew it was coming and I grieved a lot. Anticipatory grief doesn't not replace or prevent the real grief, unfortunately.