Whenever I feel like my life is punishing me, I just try to think of myself in comparison to other victims and I see how lucky I really am. I haven’t watched my children starve to death, I don’t have to walk a mile for clean water and I haven’t been forced into a refugee camp. Things could always be MUCH worse and somehow reminding myself that other people have much more challenging issues everyday helps me remain grateful.
I needed this today! Exactly what my husband and I were discussing. I complain, compare, negative, beat myself up, play victim, no purpose. I want to stop. I want to just be happy!
My take: The story we tell/narrate about ourselves of the past define our perspective on life itself. Choose to remember and narrate positive incidents of yourself and others connected with you . Thank you lady
It is been an absolute pleasure having people like you with all this value.Thank you for the immense effort you put into this work. You are absolutely killing it and in top of that you give what really we want as individuals to understand and reshape our thinking.
Wow so many new notions and technical words. I used to think I am a word warrior, but after listening to this, I have to start learning my vocabulary from scratch. I will take this lesson and spread it around me. Lady you are proving again that we never stop learning. Thank you.
Your videos are becoming so addictive. I listen to them everyday before going to bed and every morning once I wake up. This is more than something motivational. Your contents are awesome. You are a guiding stars for women like us out there. Thank you so much Shade 💓
This is exactly what i was needed this time ... I was feeling so low .. thinking I'm the most toxic person and i hurt everyone and want to relive everything to make things right ... but that's not how things work ... i can't relive but surely can rewrite my story in my head.... and use that for my growth ... I've learned alot and should feel take that as a win ... can't relate more to this ... Thank you for making my mind simpler an thoughtful
I am happy 100% with my life, though I don't have enough success to tell about, still I feel I didn’t do anything wrong to anybody in this world and could love everybody and could stublish myself at the same time as a singer and a teacher thus a youtuber.
Thank you! This is exactly what I needed to hear. What was holding me back from believing I was worth more...everything. Re-write, re-frame and the future is renewed!
Every person darkside ot trauma is the most strong n creative n untapped resource part of his emotions, if channeled in the right positive course...its very effective
Narrative Identity is a powerful resource for making life changes. We can all reflect on our self-talk and make changes if needed. Negative self talk can become a habit and we firstly need awareness to change it...
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. It was a godsend to a question. I’ve been asking for the past few days. Perfect. I will move forward and continually placed this into practice. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
This video is like a treasure for every person who is on the path of self improvement. Changing the narrative can really redefine our whole life and how we perceive it. Shadè you are amazing.
This video is exactly what I needed to see at this time. I was dwelling in a frustrated and contaminated mindset due to a challenge at work. While I have learned to pivot and see things differently, this really hit home and guided me to fully accept, rewrite and move forward. Thank you so much.
Beautifully conceptualized.... Ultimately it is "interpretation" That matters..... This video could be life changing for many... Big thanks to you for helping contaminated lives .... 👍
I was very toxic, till I began to listen to helpful individuals like you. It's funny, we like to place ourselves as a victim,some times we do it to self or led ourselves into that very predicament and begin the stories. We all have had, failure, trauma, set backs. Instead of stepping back look from another set of eyes and beautiful mind.
I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day the past is just a story we tell ourselves rarely do we think of the power we hold for ourselves as authors and narrator ❤
A VERY well thought-out and structured episode on changing the stories we tell ourselves to change our lives. I deeply believe in this for quite some time. This is incredibly valuable for people. Thank you for sharing and helping people change their lives for the better, Shadé Zahrai!
Thanks for the lovely advice! You explain like a life teacher. It's not how challenging our situations are, it's how we learn from it even if something one feels it's not upto the mark. I tend to perceive everything as negative because I try everything to do as perfect as possible, when that does not happen, I feel that others are better, I am not suitable for this. I should perceive it as a learning experience.
I must say that after watching much of your practical advice I just got some results. I am a retired Physics professor and always have too many ideas (scientific) to report to Journals and I feel that I have very little time left on this planet. I always used and still do multitask and write about 5 different papers at once. When I concentrate on one to complete sometimes something comes up in the journals that make my priorities change. But I get things done but when one paper is published I immediately start the next one. Sometimes I get 10 different articles in the press. I don't feel the joy of getting published. From now on I will reward myself and enjoy once a project is completed. Basically, I always felt that if I do not get the ideas before too long, nobody ever will. THANK YOU.
Shadé, what a great sharing you gave to us. Yes, it's right, what we narrate ourselves is important, it shapes our minds, being more positive, happy or depressed. Thanks for ur sharing.
Shade you are truly changing Lives,No Words... Thank you from the Core of My Heart Your All Videos are Commendable & Thoughtful! Lots of Love & Keep up the Good Work!!!
I feel so previliged to find you. The precision in your presentation is awesome. Stay blessed for everything you do for unlifting us. Love you!❣️"The way we communicate with ourselves and others determine the quality of our life" Tony Robins, Unlimited Power
Your videos really work as booster dose to recycle my negative vibes into positive ones. You are blessed with immense knowledge and you keep sharing your thoughts so beautifully with us that one just keep longing for more to come .
You are simply fabulous. I think you prepare a lot before you appear on the camera. If it is just spontaneous, just can't believe! Your every word in this and other few, i watched, are treasures for self improvement. Hats off to you! May God bless you!
Your tone of narrating story is so powerful and so touching that anyone once watch your videos will for it. ..thank you for being so kind for making such a wonderful videos and helping people enriching the experience to live their life
Great insight, synthesized from multiple, authentic sources 👏🏽 . Grateful for the effort and the message, Shadè 🙏🏽. I am hopeful of following the steps and reaping the benefits 😃.
dear shade, thanks for your super useful contents. I don't know if you have a persian background or not since I see a persian name. but if you know about adversities we Iranians are dealing with in a dictatorship society, you definetely find it they leaded us to become a sad fighter in the road to growth.
Dr Joe Dispenza says- your personal reality eventually becomes your personality. It the what you experience, but the how you frame it and narrative you create. I have found this to be true
Shade Zahrai, I was totally stucked before I start listening you. I was thinking why these things are happening with me? Why I have been through this? But, when I started to listen you now I am feeling more confident, back to track and progressing alhmdulilah. More power to you
I really appreciate your content Shade, you really did a great job by not only motivating people like me but, you also counsel and telling the meaning of live a happy life. Living Krishna you are❤️🙏
spot on, and more importantly it's timely for me! this differs constructive thinking, that allows further growth, from positive thinking, that tends to ignore what happens. many thanks Shadé
Aaaah, ummm. Hmm 🤔. Well, without seeming too dramatic or grandiose, I feel that this video gave me what I needed the most and at just the right time; 🙏🏽…
I'm so grateful that I found your channel Shade. What you shared is so helpful as I'm practicing in my life now whatever is useful to me when I need it the most. Thank You 🙇
Hmmm this is a hard one because typically I come out of the fire stronger but this recent time I feel different something dramatically changed I used to see the world through rosed colored glasses but now those glasses have been taken off and in away I’m grieving even though I still have hope (in my own weird way)I’m now seeing a more complex world then before and I’m realizing there’s just something’s that are out of my control. Thank you this was a great video, it got me thinking on how I tell myself who I am
I grew so much from my pain, it is insane and I developed great stability over the deacdes. Since trauma keeps happening to me it now gets harder and harder to again and again seek appreciation or meaning in there. I think the great trap I fell into is that I assumed to find a better future if I only remain strong, learn, grow and find appreciation for all the hardship of the past. But the future may be even worse. Life obvously isn´t here to be better or to be improve. It is only for the experience.
Shade, Thank you for your commitment, dedication, and hard work. Today..... has been a very hard and painful day.🥺😢💔 Personally, I need this one today.👏💜❗️ God Bless you.💜❗️
Thank you for this amazing experience you brought it and how any situation can bring about a positive life approach in dealing with bigger challenges and struggles
Thanks for sharing life changing vidoes to make our lifes happier and better if we also take our responsibility. It is so blessing having a amazing sister like you, Zahrai.
You know the best things in life can be right in front of us we just have to see it an feel it an be your best so you have a chance of having it an what a blessing it would be to have such a amazing life ❤
I had experienced trauma, therapy, with my family, like 4 years, it's hard for me now, how i can trust to new people 😩. For me is like: i can't run away it you can't accept it. Can we talk privately with an email 🥺✉️ i would appreciate it, and be thankful.😍 your speech is very helpful for me
I think experiencing a PTSD and recovering from is an exception rather than a norm for the majority of people... I mean, episodes of rejection in the job interviews are traumatic for me, but in essence, it's not that big deal to ruin your life.
I don't think everyone from trauma recovers or has positive experiences. I also feel this forced people to internalize things more. Sometimes people just have nobody to talk too. It doesn't mean we're trying to be bad.
I agree. When there are traumatic experiences, one might not have positive experiences. The key is to “accept” them as what they were without trying to add more thoughts or feelings to what happened, letting go the urge to seek for revenge, or even too much curiosity to understand everything, or deny they didn’t happen because it could cause more extra inner struggles. However, this kind of process of acceptance may take some time if the emotion is still not yet cleared up. Depending on the degree of the trauma, the person’s temperament and living environment, one can begin the process of healing. It always starts by acceptance, that can lead to self surrender to forgive, let go the past and allow the inner transformation begins. Healing is a journey and those who had some traumatic experiences in the past are one of the bravest to embrace their healing and recovery process, regardless the ups and downs. Thumb’s up to you👍 Stay on course🤗 You got this👍
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Whenever I feel like my life is punishing me, I just try to think of myself in comparison to other victims and I see how lucky I really am. I haven’t watched my children starve to death, I don’t have to walk a mile for clean water and I haven’t been forced into a refugee camp. Things could always be MUCH worse and somehow reminding myself that other people have much more challenging issues everyday helps me remain grateful.
I needed this today! Exactly what my husband and I were discussing. I complain, compare, negative, beat myself up, play victim, no purpose. I want to stop. I want to just be happy!
My take: The story we tell/narrate about ourselves of the past define our perspective on life itself. Choose to remember and narrate positive incidents of yourself and others connected with you . Thank you lady
It is been an absolute pleasure having people like you with all this value.Thank you for the immense effort you put into this work.
You are absolutely killing it and in top of that you give what really we want as individuals to understand and reshape our thinking.
Thank you Khalid, we're so glad that the content is of value!
Good one ma'am 👍🏻
I came across this concept for the first time.
Wow so many new notions and technical words.
I used to think I am a word warrior, but after listening to this, I have to start learning my vocabulary from scratch.
I will take this lesson and spread it around me.
Lady you are proving again that we never stop learning.
Thank you.
Yeah,I am the same way.I have a lot of pain in my left hip.
Your videos are becoming so addictive. I listen to them everyday before going to bed and every morning once I wake up. This is more than something motivational. Your contents are awesome. You are a guiding stars for women like us out there. Thank you so much Shade 💓
This is exactly what i was needed this time ... I was feeling so low .. thinking I'm the most toxic person and i hurt everyone and want to relive everything to make things right ... but that's not how things work ... i can't relive but surely can rewrite my story in my head.... and use that for my growth ... I've learned alot and should feel take that as a win ... can't relate more to this ... Thank you for making my mind simpler an thoughtful
I am happy 100% with my life, though I don't have enough success to tell about, still I feel I didn’t do anything wrong to anybody in this world and could love everybody and could stublish myself at the same time as a singer and a teacher thus a youtuber.
Thank you Shade! Your assistance to the mental health of this world is truly the work of a light being!
Thank you! This is exactly what I needed to hear. What was holding me back from believing I was worth more...everything. Re-write, re-frame and the future is renewed!
Thank you Shade. This is of high value to me on a professional identity crisis.
I'm going on holiday and I'll enjoy doing these exercises ❤
Going through a transition right now. This comes at a right time…♥️❤️♥️
Every person darkside ot trauma is the most strong n creative n untapped resource part of his emotions, if channeled in the right positive course...its very effective
Narrative Identity is a powerful resource for making life changes. We can all reflect on our self-talk and make changes if needed. Negative self talk can become a habit and we firstly need awareness to change it...
A potentially painful concept, beautifully and gently delivered. Thank you 🙏
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. It was a godsend to a question. I’ve been asking for the past few days. Perfect. I will move forward and continually placed this into practice. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
I love these serendipitous moments. Thank you for sharing and delighted this little video was of some small service.
This video is like a treasure for every person who is on the path of self improvement. Changing the narrative can really redefine our whole life and how we perceive it. Shadè you are amazing.
I am grateful for these nine minutes that I spend on this video. Ty Shade
This video is exactly what I needed to see at this time. I was dwelling in a frustrated and contaminated mindset due to a challenge at work. While I have learned to pivot and see things differently, this really hit home and guided me to fully accept, rewrite and move forward. Thank you so much.
Glad it was helpful and timley!
Shade you are a super star.
I am so messed up and screwed up my life. I can’t let go and move on. It just leads to more pain and suffering.
@@alexfinn7989 she is giving you a tremendous gift on how to move forward. Is your responsibility to accept this gift and do something with it?
Beautifully conceptualized.... Ultimately it is "interpretation" That matters..... This video could be life changing for many... Big thanks to you for helping contaminated lives .... 👍
Couldn't agree more!
Exactly
I was very toxic, till I began to listen to helpful individuals like you.
It's funny, we like to place ourselves as a victim,some times we do it to self or led ourselves into that very predicament and begin the stories.
We all have had, failure, trauma, set backs. Instead of stepping back look from another set of eyes and beautiful mind.
Super Useful Guidelines for the office.. real behavioral science ... Thank you from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤
I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day the past is just a story we tell ourselves rarely do we think of the power we hold for ourselves as authors and narrator ❤
Thank you so much for this video. I feel like this is God’s touch for me to rewrite my story for the better. Thank you so much!!! ❤❤❤
A VERY well thought-out and structured episode on changing the stories we tell ourselves to change our lives. I deeply believe in this for quite some time.
This is incredibly valuable for people. Thank you for sharing and helping people change their lives for the better, Shadé Zahrai!
I coped with my severe trauma the same way as you explained. And it transformed my thinking.
Thanks for the lovely advice! You explain like a life teacher. It's not how challenging our situations are, it's how we learn from it even if something one feels it's not upto the mark. I tend to perceive everything as negative because I try everything to do as perfect as possible, when that does not happen, I feel that others are better, I am not suitable for this. I should perceive it as a learning experience.
Thank you, Shadé! Very, very helpful. May the light you share always bless you!
You are so welcome Ana! Thank you for the kind words. 🙏🏽
I must say that after watching much of your practical advice I just got some results. I am a retired Physics professor and always have too many ideas (scientific) to report to Journals and I feel that I have very little time left on this planet. I always used and still do multitask and write about 5 different papers at once. When I concentrate on one to complete sometimes something comes up in the journals that make my priorities change. But I get things done but when one paper is published I immediately start the next one. Sometimes I get 10 different articles in the press. I don't feel the joy of getting published. From now on I will reward myself and enjoy once a project is completed. Basically, I always felt that if I do not get the ideas before too long, nobody ever will. THANK YOU.
It really is about looking outside yourself, seeing it from a different angle and learning from it. It really can be an awakening imho
Thank you dear Shade for this amazing session! Lots to learn from this short yet highly impactful session! Thanks again.
Shadé, what a great sharing you gave to us. Yes, it's right, what we narrate ourselves is important, it shapes our minds, being more positive, happy or depressed. Thanks for ur sharing.
Shade you are truly changing Lives,No Words...
Thank you from the Core of My Heart
Your All Videos are Commendable & Thoughtful!
Lots of Love & Keep up the Good Work!!!
Concept is crafted in another level... It's opportunity to re write our story and to have spark to our perspective... Simply superb
I voted the most important person in UA-cam right now is this iron young lady kudos my mentor and all the very best
I feel so previliged to find you. The precision in your presentation is awesome. Stay blessed for everything you do for unlifting us. Love you!❣️"The way we communicate with ourselves and others determine the quality of our life" Tony Robins, Unlimited Power
Never thought a nine minute video can deliver that Enormous amount of value👏👏🙌🙌..
keep this spirit straight up to sky and thanks a lot🙏 namaste
Thanks for this. I am writing these question on my notebook and trying to evaluate and re-author my narrative.
Thank you, great concept... adding an example would have been nice...👍
Your videos really work as booster dose to recycle my negative vibes into positive ones. You are blessed with immense knowledge and you keep sharing your thoughts so beautifully with us that one just keep longing for more to come .
Kya baata hai, 👍 👌 👍 👌 👍 👌 👍 great video explain well every time thanku 🙏
You are simply fabulous. I think you prepare a lot before you appear on the camera. If it is just spontaneous, just can't believe! Your every word in this and other few, i watched, are treasures for self improvement. Hats off to you! May God bless you!
Your tone of narrating story is so powerful and so touching that anyone once watch your videos will for it. ..thank you for being so kind for making such a wonderful videos and helping people enriching the experience to live their life
It's been a pleasure listening to all that you have to teach us ... You make us learn from our own experience, a whole new perspective... Thanks a ton
Great insight, synthesized from multiple, authentic sources 👏🏽 . Grateful for the effort and the message, Shadè 🙏🏽. I am hopeful of following the steps and reaping the benefits 😃.
Thanks Shade' - much appreciation from South Africa and Zimbabwe
You're welcome Jika. Beautiful part of the world!
I really needed to listen to this again and again to remember to be postive and attract positivity..thank you 🙏
dear shade, thanks for your super useful contents. I don't know if you have a persian background or not since I see a persian name. but if you know about adversities we Iranians are dealing with in a dictatorship society, you definetely find it they leaded us to become a sad fighter in the road to growth.
Miss you are outstanding. Thanks for this work. Please! Pray for Us.
Dr Joe Dispenza says- your personal reality eventually becomes your personality. It the what you experience, but the how you frame it and narrative you create. I have found this to be true
loved it! How thinghs change in the moment we see ourselves as protagonist instead victims, thanks for sharing!
Shade Zahrai, I was totally stucked before I start listening you. I was thinking why these things are happening with me? Why I have been through this? But, when I started to listen you now I am feeling more confident, back to track and progressing alhmdulilah. More power to you
I really appreciate your content Shade, you really did a great job by not only motivating people like me but, you also counsel and telling the meaning of live a happy life.
Living Krishna you are❤️🙏
WHEN YOUR BODY, MIND, SOUL SINK WITH ONE ANOTHER AND SPEAK ONE LANGUAGE. MAGIC STARTS.
spot on, and more importantly it's timely for me! this differs constructive thinking, that allows further growth, from positive thinking, that tends to ignore what happens. many thanks Shadé
Really This woman is inspiring to me and never forget seeing her video
This world needs a women like you to encourage others. 👌✌️
I had to watch this video again to rewrite my purpose again and keep working on my growth mindset
Thank you for this! I will rewrite my story. The story of Captain Steve Rogers
Hello I,am learning English and I love your channel So, one day I wanna go to TED Talk and talk my story to everyone
Thanks mam, to make all of us author of our life.
I feel this is how Politicians and film actors tweak their story. I now get it that this is like working on my own PR for myself.
Shade, you are a wonderful person and doing a wonderful job! Thank you so much for the video! Watching you is a therapy.
Thank you! So glad that these videos are helpful. 😊
Very well crafted....just felt like watching the thing I needed recently
I am really greatful to watch every single your episods. I am awotness that how you define yourself have great impact on your personal idetity.
Aaaah, ummm. Hmm 🤔. Well, without seeming too dramatic or grandiose, I feel that this video gave me what I needed the most and at just the right time; 🙏🏽…
I love and admire your thoughts, ma'am.
I'm so grateful that I found your channel Shade. What you shared is so helpful as I'm practicing in my life now whatever is useful to me when I need it the most.
Thank You 🙇
Your contribution to our lives is really great.Hope you will meet Sadguru and grow even higher🙏
Hmmm this is a hard one because typically I come out of the fire stronger but this recent time I feel different something dramatically changed I used to see the world through rosed colored glasses but now those glasses have been taken off and in away I’m grieving even though I still have hope
(in my own weird way)I’m now seeing a more complex world then before and I’m realizing there’s just something’s that are out of my control.
Thank you this was a great video, it got me thinking on how I tell myself who I am
Great teaching !!! ❤
Thanks dear.....actually needed guidance on this topic...God bless you!!!!
I live UA-cam and your channel!
Thank you for the tips.
Very beautifully explained. I have heard this so many times from others. Haven't understood so deeply earlier. Grateful to you.
I have post traumatic growth, It's craze how I am attracted to pain. this video helped me understand , Thank You
Fam, I am writing my story to a winning narrative to uplift many. Thanks Shade
Oh I love this!!!🥰🙏🏽
I grew so much from my pain, it is insane and I developed great stability over the deacdes. Since trauma keeps happening to me it now gets harder and harder to again and again seek appreciation or meaning in there. I think the great trap I fell into is that I assumed to find a better future if I only remain strong, learn, grow and find appreciation for all the hardship of the past. But the future may be even worse. Life obvously isn´t here to be better or to be improve. It is only for the experience.
Thoughtful video
I was having trouble rewriting my story and your video helped me a lot. You helped to focus on how to do it correctly. Thank you❤
Deep insight I've enjoyed watching thank you for sharing 🌺🌼🌸
Shade,
Thank you for your commitment, dedication, and hard work.
Today..... has been a very hard and painful day.🥺😢💔
Personally, I need this one today.👏💜❗️
God Bless you.💜❗️
Great motivational and challeng provoking session.thanks for giving new dimensions....Ali from Pakistan.
Taking ownership is one thing I am practicing and striving to work on it tenaciously...
Is this the best channel on youtube? Or it just came and hit me the right time?
Love this! Thank you Shade! You are amazing! Subscribed for sure!
This makes sense only when injustice is occurring. Injustice is a good reason to share an injustice story
this video made me breath thank you💙
Thank you for this important information.
Taking lessons from past experiences and applying them in order to grow and develop and prosper .
I strongly agree with your analysis thanks!
Thankyou !! This video is a voice of hope.
Thank you for this amazing experience you brought it and how any situation can bring about a positive life approach in dealing with bigger challenges and struggles
Thanks for sharing life changing vidoes to make our lifes happier and better if we also take our responsibility. It is so blessing having a amazing sister like you, Zahrai.
Very nice and useful.
You know the best things in life can be right in front of us we just have to see it an feel it an be your best so you have a chance of having it an what a blessing it would be to have such a amazing life ❤
I had experienced trauma, therapy, with my family, like 4 years, it's hard for me now, how i can trust to new people 😩. For me is like: i can't run away it you can't accept it.
Can we talk privately with an email 🥺✉️ i would appreciate it, and be thankful.😍 your speech is very helpful for me
I think experiencing a PTSD and recovering from is an exception rather than a norm for the majority of people...
I mean, episodes of rejection in the job interviews are traumatic for me, but in essence, it's not that big deal to ruin your life.
I don't think everyone from trauma recovers or has positive experiences. I also feel this forced people to internalize things more. Sometimes people just have nobody to talk too. It doesn't mean we're trying to be bad.
@metabolitess:Very well said!
@@metabolightsTake responsibility for “participation” in a trauma bond? I was a child! I did not choose to be abused.
I agree. When there are traumatic experiences, one might not have positive experiences. The key is to “accept” them as what they were without trying to add more thoughts or feelings to what happened, letting go the urge to seek for revenge, or even too much curiosity to understand everything, or deny they didn’t happen because it could cause more extra inner struggles. However, this kind of process of acceptance may take some time if the emotion is still not yet cleared up. Depending on the degree of the trauma, the person’s temperament and living environment, one can begin the process of healing. It always starts by acceptance, that can lead to self surrender to forgive, let go the past and allow the inner transformation begins.
Healing is a journey and those who had some traumatic experiences in the past are one of the bravest to embrace their healing and recovery process, regardless the ups and downs. Thumb’s up to you👍 Stay on course🤗 You got this👍
@@lacybookworm5039Responsibility is not the same as fault. Ultimately you ARE responsible for everything in your life.
Brilliant Insight Shade Zahari...God Bles You... Thank You Shade...