How to deal with difficult people - 4 Magic Phrases to respond to almost any insult
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- Опубліковано 22 сер 2024
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Questions that will be answered within this video:
• How do we tend to respond when face a difficult person or bully?
• What are some reasons people say or do hurtful things?
• What are some easy and effective ways to respond to negative people in almost ANY situations?
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when someone slips in a negative remark, I often pretend to not have heard them and ask them to repeat it. Either they shy away from the situation or attract judgement to their own negative remarks! Thank you for the impressive handling technique in this video!
I used to react. Now I ignore or tease them. 😂
🤔 What if they DO repeat it?
Ohhh I like the repeat thing too. So much is automatic response. Repeat creates a pause for reflection because they have to review the initial reaction.
@@blusquirreli wonder that too lol
I don't think it will work with my foster parents, who are extremely rude, make you work hard for house chores, and look down upon you for everything in life (as if you were mistakenly born), their ego is extremely high for them to be ever wrong on anything, and they are highly educated (Ph.D). I went through this pain for over 20 years and as a child, I don't know how I survived it. Only remembering and trusting in the creator helped me through this difficult time period in my life. These people can't go to jail in our society but the ONE who created all beings is ever watchful for our actions. May the creator of heaven and earth watch over all who are patient with difficult people around them. Amīn.
Without being rude we can easily get rid of such people filled with so much negativity....
Your directions will definitely work mam... Thanks
@@fredschell8051 pls. Summarize it in just one or two sentences...
Not everyone has the privilege to let go of those people. Sometimes we are stuck with them and there's no other option than dealing with them.
Me: So you are married.
Her: That's interesting, what made you ask that?
LOL.... nice catch... she's certainly off guard here
😂
Ah!
So whats your answer gonna be? "Cuz im a weirdo"?
I really loved it when you said that people generally expect us to give a negative response. I have noticed that a lot but instead we should smile or be calm and ask “oh really, that’s interesting tell me more”😀🙏🏻
Exactly. Some people triger you purposely expecting negative response.
Correct
I can't stop smiling because you made a complex problem so simple. Reminds me of Peter Drucker.
Thank you so much for this! I am dealing with an extremely negative boss, and as of late I have been retaliating to her bullying. I am afraid that my behaviour might be considered rude/insubordination. I will definitely be using your method.
I’m so sorry to hear that you have a challenging boss - it can be so difficult to navigate situations like this. Definitely try this approach - I hope it might help!
I really love this idea. I have been struggling for all my life with passive aggressive people who say something short but stingy, in a subtle way, but I don’t know should I call them out or just ignore as a “no biggie”. But that thought stays with me… why did she say that?… Why was I not able to defend myself…It is always hurtful in retrospect. I now know how to acknowledge and respond with assertiveness.
5:54 Heartbreaking. Guys she is married.
Now put hand on ur heart and say magical phrase Aal is well.
:v
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@@fredschell8051 😅😅😅
@@moharoxx3342 🙌
Will it work in a scenario where the manager goes, "You're fired!" Me: "That's interesting, what made you say that?" lol. Thanks for the amazing tips though.
thats interesting, what made you say that?
The boss will then reassess his reasons for firing you and explain them in more detail (if he hasn't done it already).
You now have an opportunity assess if you can make adjustments to yourself and possibly offer your boss to reconsider his decision. If you can't adjust, this is where you politely accept the decision and leave in a dignified way.
If all that doesn't work, just say "I'll see you outside when your shift ends".
That 2nd phrase is very effective.
@@MichaelrAngora i agree with you Mikey about second phrase 😀
@@MichaelrAngora what if the boss asks "that's interesting, what made you say that?" 🤔
@@MichaelrAngora wow 🤩
You're a life saver
I agree
It's also another way to say "Thankyou"!
I often face this issue,it triggers my emotions, while at that moment I get confused what to say them back.
Thanks a lot to share this, I'll surely apply this next time.
Ive always resorted to youtubers to find answers for such situations but its the first time I actually feel you taught me something and not vaguely said “take a breath in and out and you should be good” without any explanation - looking forward to more videos - wish you can do one about putting boundaries with people close to you
Wow, this is such a beautiful comment! Thank you 🙏 I’m so happy you found value in this video - it’s a super simple hack I love to share. It’s served me very well, and I hope it does you too Rach!
This is a big topic, you're changing lives! Thank you for these magic phrases, they'll come in handy! Your videos are so exciting. When dealing with difficult people, I exercise empathic listening, before my Mental Health was in check, I was quick to get angry, quick to get bitter, but now i fight fire with water, if it is possible on my part, I make and peace with everyone; I say things such as, "I see. I see." Thanks for making this video! Have a great weekend! :)
Its a very unique analysis. This thing actually causes a lot of distress to the people.and they don't even realise it..
You have shown the animal instincts present within us..and it is a decent way to encounter it..
Very good.keep it up..
God bless you
Yes, not knowing how to deal with insults and negative communication really does cause a lot of suffering. And you're absolutely right we all have an animal and a spiritual nature. Such practical tips can really help us conquer our animal nature and to respond with wisdom and dignity. God bless too 🙏🏽😊
Wow. Shade. You’re a great coach. I’ve heard the “that’s interesting...” communication technique taught a number of times but you added another level of genius and to it that has helped me understand it more. God bless you
Thank you, Shade Zahrai. This truly makes dealing with negative people and hard situations a breeze. Just having those questions in my mind is giving me peace. Asking is better than assuming or judging :)
I swear this is one video I absolutely needed. Thank you so much Shade.
Glad it was helpful!
Very well structured and informative. ”Always respond with a question” - ☺️
I never used to respond well to criticism, I moved on to just complete silence, and ignoring it. More recently, and, mostly, I clapped back with sarcasm, even with the statement *Mmm*... "Sounds very interesting..."
I will most certainly use these statements moving forward - in a positive way of engagement.
Thank you 🙏♥️
Sometimes I’m staring at them, without saying anything, expect from them to thinking more. But today I learned another cool strategy. Many thanks Shade🙏
The way you said it is absolutely blissfull. Just enough to Know in 1 video what kind of Aura you have. Will follow your steps to optimize myself towards the finest things in life.
Thanks Shade for making my day.💓
The level of positivity that I can gain from your videos is insane.Perfect way to start my day.
These are most generous way to respond politely in a humble way to limit the negativity to spread and affect us and anyone.Really good. Thank u so much.
Totally love this woman and how she is changing the lives for Many.. She is picking up the Best Practices from her experiences/ observations and whatever is being taught to us; by our elders too.. But we always need a kick-in-the-back.. to learn and implement the lessons. Thank you @Shade..
Ya- TOTALLY LOVE THIS WOMAN 😍😍😍😍
Let me be honest, the way you say it softly and a gleam your eye just calms me over and learn a new tip in a positive way! Thank you!
Another best way to respond and shut them up politely just tell them;
“Thank you”.
"Thank you, I will do it as you proposed". “Thank you, I will try do so next time”
“Thank you, I should have thought of that”
“Thank you for your kind words”
“Thank you, You are so kind to tell me that”
Depending on how you use “Thank you” in your replies. It can make you more polite and make them self portray as arrogant fools.
Really love the last two phrases 🤣☝️👌
Thank you is a bit more passive.
In the story 'The Adventure of Three Gables', Steve Dixie comes in the room like a mad bull and threatens Sherlock Holmes. Holmes simply says: "Keep on talking, it's fine". Isn't it amazing that these practices existed ages ago but no one cared to learn or use them. Shadé Zahrai you are the Wonder Woman mankind has been waiting for ❤️. By the way more on communication/ relationship please 🙏🏻
I take a deep breath, put my head down & smile. Believe me it helps in releasing the pent up emotions.
Yes, it's an amazing way of responding to negative people or situations.
Thank you Shadé Zahrai ! Awesome magic phrases, I will use them wisely.
Thank You Shade. Needed this.
I am a shy, introvert kind of person and used to either react aggressively or let the other person have the Win.
This is very helpful.
Amygdala Hijack... It's true, it is Part of the brain that we use to master our personality. It is for the first time I meet this word. 😍
After the video I was like" that's interesting plz post more videos" 😂❤️
I like this...and my prefrontal cortex is advising me that this information is easily more digestible coming from such an attractive person!
5:54 Thats interesting.. why would you do that?
He must be luckiest guy in the world.
I really like your videos😊 . My family members are a bigger triggers than my co-workers. Regardless, dealing with their negativity causes me a lot of stress, aggravation and general unhappiness . Thank goodness there are people like you who share their skills with the world for free😊
It's nice to have some tools when it comes to communicating with negative people but I really can't recall a single situation where asking any of those questions could've helped. I believe that such situations require a lot of social skills and experience. I think the real useful take away here is the concept or main objective, which is simply trying to "find a way to shift the spotlight on them". Thanks for the video.
That's interesting, I would definitely use these 4 magic phrases in my life
absolutely amazing. In hindi we can say "Achha, tumhe aisa kyu lga, thoda aur batao na"
I desperately needed someone to suggest me to handle this situation.
Thank you so much
Thank you, I will clearly understand how and why I'm responding positively. I really appreciate you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Finally there is someone to help us dealing with toxic people in a practical way
That's interesting Shade.I'm grateful to you for this awareness video in terms of bringing a bold approach to face any challenging situations in day to day life.I definitely have a takeaway message which can be practiced daily
wow, so nice to address the bullying guys
Next time when my sister behaves rudely , I will say "thats interesting"👍
😂😂😂
Never been a fan of Rollercoasters period. This is some of the best advice i ever received
I wish you do more videos on the prefrontal cortex!
Shade - you're my favorite youtuber now! great vdos and your short vdos are just awesome!
Dealing with negative people:
1. That's interesting. Tell me more.
2. That's interesting. Why do you think that?
2. That's interesting. Why do you say that?
3. That's interesting. Why did you do that?
Another good way to clarify;
What do you mean by that?
Thank you for sharing wonderful knowledge on social media. Young lady.
Show them love, every one can be a bit, like a high five with a chair.
Great topics, even if i am on the late train lol thank you Sadee, have a wonderful and blessed year and next year, may it be magnificent to you and your loved ones.
I have ideas to tackle negative people by making the situation funny and teasing them indirectly but not implementing them instead I quarrel, later I regret and think why didn't I used my ideas. but yours is better with reasons. great job
Thank you very much for posting this video. You have no idea how helpful these phrases you just shared. Stay incredible in everything that you do! 😍
I just say, "Why can't you see that you're being inappropriate right now, or are you just having a bad day? Either way, keep your thoughts to yourself!!"
Thank you so much, Shadé Zahrai. I will do well to apply this. I am learning to manage my emotions well.
Best of luck!
Excellent indeed. I needed these tips. Thanks.
به کردار افسانه از هر کسی ~~ شنیده ام همی داستانت بسی
🌹 بسیار عالی. مرسی
At times when overcome tough situations we are not prepared emotionaly to respond in a dignified way, but definetely, I feel a lot gratitude for this tips :)
Love this! Meditation has helped me be centered for stressful situations and it's step one here with breathing but having phrases in my arsenal as a next step sure helps. Thank you.
Imo phrases and action points for various situations is more important that meditation. Meditation is either a long term solution to be resiliant to stress or a short term mechanism to reduce symptoms of stress . Addressing the issue head on is far more effective.
It Was the best reaction I have learned in the entire week
Great tip, I like to call this technic "Reply with a question" which gives you time to prepare.
What a marvelous tips to defuse antagonism, perfect and more practical approaches. I bubble at workplace quite often , now will apply these techniques to cope with my problem while responding to an antagonizer , thanks for sharing your thoughts and knowledge. I will take it as an “ Advice”
Love The 4 magic phrases, How do you respond when the person stonewalls.... they dont' answer? basically ignore you like you haven't spoken to them
I was focusing on the way she speak. she speaks like my favorite candy 🥰
1st time heard... Seems good to protect ourself without disturbing psychology.
Sister Shade Zahrai please create 2 new videos about :
🔥 How to stop Proscrastination, Self Doubt & Overthinking
🔥 How to increase Self Confidence, Charisma, Competence, Likeability & Influence
U r a goddess. U help me to ease with myself, when it's most uncomfortable and annoying.
Thank you so much Shade. This is going to really help. Keep up the good work.
Great input....can never thank you enough for this ❤️
Glad it was helpful! 😊
That's interesting :)
I usually use flattery and then try to extract details so that the confronting person feels valued and assesses himself/herself properly.
Example : I love to hear when your ideas, can we listen to how you arrived at this?
Thanks for sharing the video. It gives a plan to approach such situations!
Thanks for sharing the video,, your videos helped me out so much
Simply WOW...a beautiful addition to my newly found understanding of 'respond, not react'....thank you!
That's interesting, it was wonderful
this is really interesting and you are truly blessed , having great command on language and damn good at content ..love to watch all your videos...
Amazing as always! Thanks for sharing Shadé!
Sometimes u feel gald u have UA-cam . This lady is too good..
I probably do the same as y have mentioned,
By looking at you, I feel so blissful that can't be manifested.
thank you so much shade, you are my life saver. Keep up the good work.
Not only you're beautiful but you are very intelligent and a good explainer with full of life hacks in short you're amazing I've learned alot from you thank you so much keep uploading so i can learn more from you teacher.😊
She is so well spoken jazakAllah
Excellent video. I’m wondering if this is tapping into cognitive flexibility or if it’s in the realm of that concept. I really enjoyed this one.
This is my FIRST comment EVER on UA-cam. I'm more than willing to share your channel on ALL of my social media sites, with ALL of my family members and friends, but then, on the other hand, I don't want to share at all just because you are such a treasure that I want to keep it to myself! Why didn't I come across you earlier?? Thank you for sharing so much insightful info with us; please keep going!
Amazingly precise in handling and solve most challenging situations or conversations that can cause lingering emotional issues
Interesting the way you explained, thank you.
I hate the algorithm that brought me here...
but
I'm grateful to you ...ty
Thank you mam❤️very helpful this video
THANK YOU SHADE ZAHRAI...YOU ARE WONDERFUL MOTIVATOR...WISH YOU LOTS OF SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS...THANK YOU...GOD BLESS YOU SHADE
Not sure about the Magical Phrases, but high fiving with a chair in the face does sound like Magical Satisfaction. Thanks for the tips, will surely use them in a practical scenario
Ma'am...like ur way of expression/ presenting any subject.. really awesome...I wonder how a person could have so much diversity in her personality...very good voice quality (is it magical?)...Lukg Magnificent... applying Law of attraction between speaker& listener...etc.etc..
Great tip, I like to call this technic "Reply with a question"
This is so useful. I usually stand red faced and not knowing what to reply and then I would take a long walk until my Adrenalin reduced. I choose to use these sentences when dealing with difficult people.
Kid, You are a GENIUS!!!! I'm learning from You at the age of sixtynine!!!!! It always Helps if someone is Willing to Learn!!!! This is a whole new perspective for ME!!!! Thanks!!!!
Boy! she's going to hit a million now!
u are amazing. :) i send your your links to my kids i hope they listen and learn thanks for what u are doing.
Thank you, its simple phrases but very powerful ❤❤
You're welcome 😊
That’s interesting indeed, thanks a lot For all the golden tips and videos ❤️❤️
You are Awesome!
If a doggy bites me, why should I bite it back??
Love your analogy! 😂
Or you can kick him and wrestle him, you can also pet him and adopt him ;)
No! You ask the doggy, "Thats interesting! What made you do that?" #ReadyForRound2
@@ShadeZahrai nope that's not right ... didn't u mention workplace is not filled with Tigers ? ... are they filled with Dogs, then ??... one lick ass fan of yours ... for many reasons this vid is not giving us good correct advise , though the topic is quite relevant
@@nickj2554 no bro. I meant *"If someone hurts you, you need not hurt them back. Then what's the difference between yourself and the hurter?"* this is all I meant. Sorry if I wrote in such a manner you misinterpreted it
Im going to try these thanks. Qhat I normally do us freeze ( coz its so hurtful), and then when Im alone have that bad angry argument with "them", if "they" day this or that, I'll say this or that. Ill also get all the evidence to back up my defense. When I see them again, Im prepared. Its vwry stressful dealing with "bullies/narcasists" but theres solutions to manage the situation for positive outcomes thank goodness. Also knowledge is empowerment, coz I brain needs to kbow what we are dealing with to begin to process of resolving the problem. Thanks always for your very refreshing videos, they are special, like the magnificent flowers in a well maintained garden.
I am going to share this vidéo with some colleagues, really it s interresting👍