5 Habits Keeping you STUCK & 5 Ways to Get UNSTUCK | Shadé Zahrai
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- Опубліковано 12 чер 2024
- If you're feeling stuck there are a number of habits that you might be unintentionally doing. In this video I share 5 common habits that hold you back and 5 practical ways to get unstuck.
Enjoy!
TIMESTAMPS:
5 Habits Keeping you STUCK:
00:00 - Are you Stuck?
00:23 - 1. Infomania due to FOMO. Can't focus on tasks. Busy all the time, yet no progress.
01:38 - 2. The Knowing-doing trap.
02:44 - 3. Achievement addict. Productivity guilt. Always short of time. Self criticism. Burnout.
03:43 - 4. Multitask. Keep switching tasks to avoid the pain of boredom. Linked to FOMO.
04:36 - 5. Attachment to phone.
5 Ways to Get UNSTUCK
06:23 - 1. Stop & resist the urge.
06:50 - 2. Identify just one thing to put into practice.
07:15 - 3. Carve out mindful leisure time.
07:45 - 4. Recondition yourself to be comfortable being alone with yourself & your thoughts.
09:00 - 5. Put your phone out of sight.
RESEARCH:
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1. Przybylski, Andrew K.; Murayama, Kou; Dehaan, Cody R.; Gladwell, Valerie (July 2013). "Motivational, emotional, and behavioral correlates of fear of missing out". Computers in Human Behavior. 29 (4): 1841-1848. doi:10.1016/j.chb.2013.02.014.
www.sciencedirect.com/science...
Read more: www.newscientist.com/article/...
2. Przybylski, Andrew K.; Murayama, Kou; Dehaan, Cody R.; Gladwell, Valerie (July 2013). "Motivational, emotional, and behavioral correlates of fear of missing out". Computers in Human Behavior. 29 (4): 1841-1848. doi:10.1016/j.chb.2013.02.014.
3. Ward, A. F., Duke, K., Gneezy, A., & Bos, M. W. (2017). Brain drain: The mere presence of one’s own smartphone reduces available cognitive capacity. Journal of the Association for Consumer Research, 2(2), 140-154
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Here's the research - enjoy! 😀
1. Przybylski, Andrew K.; Murayama, Kou; Dehaan, Cody R.; Gladwell, Valerie (July 2013). "Motivational, emotional, and behavioral correlates of fear of missing out". Computers in Human Behavior. 29 (4): 1841-1848. doi:10.1016/j.chb.2013.02.014.
www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0747563213000800
Read more: www.newscientist.com/article/dn7298-info-mania-dents-iq-more-than-marijuana/#ixzz75YifgL00
2. Przybylski, Andrew K.; Murayama, Kou; Dehaan, Cody R.; Gladwell, Valerie (July 2013). "Motivational, emotional, and behavioral correlates of fear of missing out". Computers in Human Behavior. 29 (4): 1841-1848. doi:10.1016/j.chb.2013.02.014.
3. Ward, A. F., Duke, K., Gneezy, A., & Bos, M. W. (2017). Brain drain: The mere presence of one’s own smartphone reduces available cognitive capacity. Journal of the Association for Consumer Research, 2(2), 140-154
Very helpful for research scientists, Thank you!
Can you make a content on sleep and nap it's necessity and it's drawbacks or limit of time we need to spend or nap can outdo sleep.Duration of nap or sleep for better productivity.
R u Single ?
Thanks for including the research!
Thank you Shade ❤❤😊😊
5 reasons you're feeling stuck
1- information overload
2- knowing doing gap
3- Achievement addict
4- endlessly multitask
5- attachment to your phone
Nice
I suffer from 1 and 5 am zero in point 4 and nominal in point 3.
Thank you for that. You are wonderful 👍👍
Saved me 11 mins of jibber Jabber
thank so much
"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit."
-Aristotle
Wise words
Perfect!
If anyone would like to learn more about habits, I would like to recommend ‘Atomic Habits’ by James Clear and The Power of Habit by ‘Charles Duhigg’. Great reads! 📖📚
Action changes, some habits cant, obsessive com. Thisordered happening nowadays with some peoples. 😢😮
You are a very nice and decent lady, your parents are lucky because they have a daughter like you 🙂
Too much
You even know who she is !!! Do you believe in all that you see on the internet ??? 🤦🤦🤦
It is constructive and purposeful
Very decent lady, know her limits 👏 👍 sometimes go high out of limits, starting was decent when get involved familiar it come on with worrying 🙄, f"hurting )format(. Nice to meet you again 😊. No time to stuck, celebrate, to depressed many years gone. Your video sticking me in to comment. 😮missing 😢 . Not that too much,ok 😕. Mind your own business on this platf.
God knows who is lucky life partner also 💗 have a ladylike her
Great list. 🙌🏼 Extremely relatable and things not a lot of people talk about. I totally identified with first 3 points, seeking more information, not taking action, and feeling guilty when I don’t take action. Solutions are exercise,meditation and spending time in nature.
Very true..
Good solutions
Well said
Really well said regarding the solutions
I came across your channel recently and I couldn't help but binge on your insights and perspectives. This truly helped me, not only on a daily basis but it made me more conscious about my self-concept, developing an astute judgment. I am downright awed by how you put things charmingly and intelligently. I am more than glad as you integrate research-based facets to share and extend your genuine knack for unconditional support to people, like me. Do what you do!
This is an excellent video as I’m going through a rough patch right now and literally feel stuck and can really relate to most of the five points mentioned by you Shadé. Great way to approach and tackle the situation from a positive point of view and gives me a sliver of hope again on getting my life back together. Thank you for the lovely content Shadé!
I totally agree with you, my friend. I love her all videos 👍👍❤❤
Shadé thank you for this video and the timing of the content. This is probably why many people nowadays are also diagnosed with ADD/ADHD. I have also been "stuck" as I pursue a DNP degree, and now I know why! I plan to implement your suggestions!
Thank u so much,... Am thriving in this zone , thank u
Shade, this was definitely an eye opener for me, thank you so very much for this video! I can relate to all 5 of these habits and this video really helped to put all of these issues into a new perspective. Thank you again Shade, keep up the great work!!!!!
I felt like you are exactly talking to me...I have been a self critical person for a long time, slowly trying to be more self- compassionate but realised many things after watching this video.
Thank you 😊
I do mindful leisure most often.
Shadé this was Absolutely amazing and The one I resonated the most was Info Mania because I love learning and evolving but I do take action and implement!
The point when you said when we feel guilty when not doing anything that hit my soul to the core. I been really trying to just be and not feel guilty for not creating not doing and just being!
This is definitely one of the most impactful videos I’ve watched in a truly long time so I am committed to taking one action and spending time on that one action until I move on to the next!
I Love You My Amazing Teacher you’re awesome! Lots of Divine Love and Light from The SuperHero Of Love! 💖💎
Shadé, this was very helpful! Thank you so much. I relate to the infomania and phone addiction.
For us Christians, the phone prevents us, distracts us, takes us away from the joy of praying throughout the day
Thank you Shadé for this video it really helps I really believe that we as a society are addicted to stress and technology as we know it today.
I am so lucky that have such a sympathetic teacher
Thanks Shadé! Really appreciate your content. They are concise and bite size, and love your delivery.
Except for achievement addiction (Which I believe got over quite a while ago) I felt almost all of these as relatable. And I've been trying to get rid of them, by reducing screen time on my phone. I believe it's helping me greatly. Also, I believe starting to work one by one will hopefully help me a ton!
Every point is so accurate could connect to each one of them. Thank You for making this video :)
Shadé is one of the most articulate people I have ever heard speak.
I love the way you say every words with so much energy and passion which gives it a special attention and feeling to hear and listen to you.
I have not seen any person like you yet so enthusiastic and real. Thanks
I'm definitely an infomaniac, and the knowing-and-doing trap resonates with me as well. Watching this video proves it. At least most times I take notes and attempt to do whatever the video or article says I should do, but inconsistent... and I tend to beat myself up way too much. I tried to learn self discipline, failed. Without that skill my life is literally stagnant, I could stay in my the entire day without doing anything, on youtube, daydreaming, later talking with friends. One thing at least I don't end up depressed. The latest technique I want to implement is to surround myself with people that are self disciplined(you are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with).
3x of your symptoms..I am doomed ..i gotta work onn my redemption
Hi Shadé Zahrai, Awesome tricks!!! Thank you so much for boosting and recharging our brain and emotions, making us stronger and happier...
This is the exact reason why I love consuming her content.. they're sooo relevant, epiphanic and illuminate obscured insidious problems and struggles that no one actually talks about ❤️
*I just happened to cross your path ( I mean your UA-cam Short video).... And I truly have to admit that you are incredibly a dazzling spark in the storm of numerous youtubers. I also found that you are indeed engaging & to the point. That's how one has to incorporate when they wanted to keep the viewers to grab the attention.*
Thanks a lot..... God Bless!!
I'm an infomaniac. I feel like I constantly have to consume information and I don't know enough to take action. I multitask between different projects. I then feel guilty because I don't feel like I have enough time to do things or to do what I had in mind. Thanks to your videos and program. I have been able to catch myself doing these things that I have been doing my whole entire life. Thanks for the tip. I will start timing myself on a task before I start a new one.
The book you should definitely read is “one thing “.
it helped me to get myself out of multitask zone.
@@asithagamage3835 thanks, I will definitely look into it.
OMG,, These past days I've been having this kinda feeling & suddenly your video came out. It helped a lot. Thank you so much !!
I'm so glad!
Thanks Shadé, another helpful video, only the purest souls who helps others.
U highlight the problems,which is done be everybody around but what makes you special is that you give the solutions and these solutions are practical…Thanks for being there…U donno how valuable you are to us.
Seems as if you are describing my everyday life. Thank you so much for making me aware of those and helping me to question myself. Just subscribed to your channel recently and did not regret it at all.
Welcome to the channel and hope that it's of value to you in some way. 🙏🏽
Wow! I felt creeped out, as if you observed my thoughts. These habits are too relatable, and they are holding me back.
Here is the summary for viewers:
5 Habits Keeping you STUCK:
1. 0:33 Infomania due to FOMO. Can't focus on tasks. Busy all the time, yet no progress.
2. 1:39 Knowing-doing trap.
3. 2:45 Achievement addict. Productivity guilt. Always short of time. Self criticism. Burnout.
4. 3:44 Multitask. Keep switching tasks to avoid the pain of boredom. Linked to FOMO.
5. 4:37 Attachment to phone.
5 Ways to Get UNSTUCK
1. 6:23 Stop & resist. Just for 5 min initially.
2. 6:50 To deal with Knowing-doing trap, go to the last video/podcast/article/book you consumed and identify just one thing you will put into practice.
3. 7:15 For achievement addiction, carve out some mindful leisure time. Stop comparing career achievements with others.
4. 7:45 For Multitaskers, recondition yourself to be comfortable being alone with yourself and your thoughts. When agitated or bored while doing something, resist the urge to switch. Note down what you are experiencing.
5. 9:00 Put away the phone out of sight.
Here I did point 2.
Thanks a ton Shade!
Most important learning is that we need to put ourselves away from consuming too much information .Everything you told in this video is true.
Wow! I just watched this video, and I felt so identified with no only one of this habits but with all of them. Lately I’ve been experiencing a lot of the feeling of being busy, tired and frustrated because I do a lot but I do nothing and I don’t see any progress in any of my projects, watching this video just opened my eyes.
Thank you! I hope I can correct these bad habits soon.
I relate to multi-tasking habit where i constantly switch between tasks, the feeling of bored and checking my mobile constantly.
Thank you for sharing ways to unstuck. 👍
Now I realized that I have all that 5 habits what you mentioned in this video. Maybe because of that I'm stuck. I'm going to try and implement your thoughts here after. I believe that could help me to grow in my professional life. Thanks Shade for the eye opening video. You made me to realize myself.
same here man , don't know I am feeling low all the time
This video is pure gold and a best detox that most human beings of our age need!
Hi Shadé. I recently came across another video from you (about the "5 deceivers" of the mind) and started to enjoy your posts. The first reason you presented really hit me. It is interesting that I always had this need for knowledge and I'm also feeling stagnated. It was just a little bit confusing to me. One good example in my daily work is when I attend some meetings in English (you may have already noticed I'm not a native speaker... lol). Someone uses a different word or an expression and I always take note and search for it later. It normally doesn't affect my understanding during the discussion, but I do want to learn it. It looks like it improves my English with time, and apparently it is benefitial for me, but now I'm uncertain if this is really affecting my focus and my progression, as you exposed in your speech. Can you articulate a lit bit more about this? I'm on a deep search for the reasons I'm feeling stagnated and this was really ground breaking for me. Thanks!
Multi-tasking is the one that I can pick up from the list. I have this bad habit that I literally plan to do multiple tasks in one day and when I can't handle them it makes me feel nervous and my whole day is not going well. So I want to commit to myself to not do it again cause I know that this is making my day worst why should I continue doing it regularly every day.
This video offered so much more than what I initially excepted. Thank you for this!
This is such a timely video! Thank you.. All 5 resonate with me and I'm constantly fighting brain fog and chasing new knowledge to try to find a spark to get me 'back'. The truth is I'm not giving myself chance to rest mentally, and my productivity has plummeted... Very poor and patchy sleep and just can't get inspired to change anything in my life.
Thanks to this clip. I understand the importance of structure and small steps. Discipline with honesty and kindness..
Love your work.. Thank you🙏🥰
Thanks for this insightful episode ❤️.
Actually, I've been dealing with "Achievement Addiction" for more than five years now. And yes, it exhausts me sometimes. But I'm okay with that cuz I consciously choose to be this way. It's such a wonderful thing to be able to push yourself to achieve more in your life after all, isn't it? 🤷🏻♂️
@Shadezahrai Thanks for sharing this informative video with an incredible explanation as usual 👏 I adore your way of presenting ideas 💡 May God Bless You with an Abundance of Happiness and Success in your life 🤲
Thank you so much! I'm happy that these videos are of some value to you. God bless you too!
This was amazing! Loved it, thank you so much xxxx
The bit about online Noods was spot on! 🙈
You didnt have to call me out like that Shadé..😩. ( we spoke about this privately)…
This video was made for me, literally
I am all 5.! If i could book a session with you, it will contribute to my transformation🙏🏾☺️.
Your channel is super helpful. Began my journey, deleting all my social media apps
Same situation happening with me since I leaved my job... It's very difficult to get out from this situation. Thank you for making this video this video is eye opener for me. Life changing... 💯👍
You are so welcome
@@ShadeZahrai It means a lot to me . Thank you so much. Thank you for replying, helping and guiding to right path.... 👍💯💯👍
Powerful video thank you. Nailed every point, so many of us suffer from every mention there. Appreciate the solutions to deal with these aswell. What I'm seeing in all of this is that we must practice becoming more aware, more aware of our behaviours and actions, evaluate and change what's damaging to what's servings us.
I totally disagree with you Ms.Zahrai.
Why did you disagree with her. It sounded right to me.
I felt compelled to watch this. thank you.
Thanks a lot, Shade! That's really useful video!
Thank you so much Zehrai for creating such resourceful videos.
The most accurate and relatable video I’ve watched so far. Everything was well-explained ❤
Thank you so much for the most precious video I literally going through these issues it is really helpful for me. thanks again
0:53 that smile though lifted my mood
It’s 0:51
Thank you very much Ms Zahrai for such enlightenment. You have put together complex issues and framed up the essence of them into key-points we can grasp and use. Thank you very much indeed!
Can’t tell you how much of a godsend this video is. Totally stuck due to Knowing Doing Gap. Therefore the to-do list keeps getting endlessly longer, causing more frustration if they can’t be achieved all in one go..Trying to be a super achiever is only causing to be super busy all the time but not productive. The important things are still staring at me from the to-do list.
Thank you Shade, this is invaluable information! So glad I watched it! You're amazing at how you convey it all. Keep it up ❤
Just the video I needed to kick start my weekend! You have compiled the FOMO list in a very useful learning package. Thanks, heaps!
This is the video I needed my Whole Life. Thanks & Lots of Love
these points are so relatable and accurate
Its crazy how relevant this seems for me atm. Thnx.
OMG! I find myself resonated with all 5 habits you just mentioned. Constantly pursuing progresses but always feeling inadequate and stagnant, now I know what my problems are. Love your sharing and I will definitely try out your recommendations
Thank you Shadé, I so so much love your content.
Thank you for this insightful video! I will watch it again in the future if I ever get stuck or run into a problem. Much respect 🧡
This clip is worth a lot of money, great depiction of the issues with an actionable way to get "Unstuck".
Thanks Zahrai !
Just to thank you. ...Shade` . Finally I found the reason that made me stuck and helping to get rid of the problem.
Thanks a million. Truly make sense and extremely helpful and valuable.
An eye opener for sure. Thanks!
I instincively clicked on this video without knowing why? And now I know. Lots of Love!!!😍👍🙏🎉
This is an excellent video on this subject. I can totally relate to all these points and I am stuck on these. Thank you Shadé!
This is so relatable, thank you!
Yes, you are so right. Very smart lady. Best to you, Dave
I am guilty of these. And aware of it, which is the worst part. This video IS my wake-up call.
Thank you for this one.
I totally loved this video. It just hit right on the nail for me. Thanks for your awesome content! :)
Thanks a lot. 🙏. Clear to the point - Getting clarity of what was / is going on in life of many stuck ppl.
So true. She is the best, the very best!
I wanted to express my sincere gratitude for sharing the video. Your insights were truly enlightening, and I deeply appreciate the perspective you provided. It's remarkable how each of the five problems you addressed resonated with my own experiences. This video served as a profound eye-opener, offering valuable guidance that I can actively incorporate into my life. Thank you once again for offering assistance in a way that truly speaks to me, especially when others may have struggled to understand how to support me effectively.
It's Amazing Shade, the way you explain & make an unknown audience known to you & the learnings. I can relate with the things I stuck up. Thanks for highlighting the same. You are amazing.
The best video ever watched❤Thank you !
I can relate to all of these. Thankful for this video help bring awareness. I would say knowing doing trap (endless consumption) is my current pitfall. I love the tip about picking one thing to start ACTUALLY implementing into action. It’s too simple not to do. Thank you for this video!
Thank you so much for this video. Each and every point you mentioned exactly matches mine. I will now try to follow your suggestions to come out of this mental state and the bad habits of checking my phone every 2 minutes. Thanks once again.
I have experienced almost all the cases mentioned above.
Thanks for the excellent recommendations!
Thank you for sharing! Love you content, it is really helpful!! You inspire me
What an eye opener !!!!!
Bang on..all 5 issues..Always being ON..available to others and to ur brain is draining. Have boundaries drawn..in work and personal life
Absolutely Amazing.... lifesaver!!!
So true, most of the points applied to me, seems someone powerful out there, guided me to watch this video.
Thank you so much ....it really helps !!!!
Points are very well covered. People never realise how much ur cell phone can be destructive of your possible achievements. Also one never realises it is better to stay relaxed rather than multiitasking all the time.
I am going to put my mobile in another room only for few days and going to check how it feels.
Thank you Shade for this informative video! I am definitely going to share me experience! Thanks once again!
Thank you so much Shadé, grazie (I follow you from Italy). Your video is sooo helpful since I noticed that I suffer almost from 3 of your points listed. I do hope to overcome my fear of missing out and focus on my goals.
Thank you very much for this, you the best! ❤🎉
Great info! Thanks!
Rightly said. Need to implement it...
Top notch video. This is the only video which highlighted all the points briefly.
Thank you sooo much❤❤❤
ENLIGHTENED by the video.
I love all your videos. Your ability to transmit your message, knowledge and experience is amazing, so clear and understandable. Thank you 🙏❤️
Geeeee girl! I relate to all of them... great video, thanks for sharing with the world!
Thank you very much
This rate of information is insane.
You give so much of info relating to human progress that I don't dare to miss even a single video. Thanks a lot. ⚘⚘🌻🌻🌹🌹
I love getting off work and listening to these great motivational speeches and advice
So on point loved it Zahrai!
super accurate! very helpful videoooo, thank youuu