after my relationship with my ex, I went through a phase where I stop caring about others. I was very distant with friends, hitting the gym more and I tended to snap at my family more. I thought I was doing good but, I felt so lost. It’s not worth it.
I felt my own self regression around 2023. I am what some refer to as a “Covid Senior” where I had 12th grade in quarantine. I couldn’t participate in my favorite extracurricular activities, including my school’s marching band. I felt outcasted and that no one before or after my time would understand and care about my loss and that caused me to fixate on these feelings and I generally became edgier than usual. I like to compare my feelings to Black suit Spider-Man where I felt empowered by my inner turmoil. I remember at one point putting a non-dishwasher safe pan into a dishwasher and justifying it as “improving the quality of the pan.” I recently had an alumni night and COVID wasn’t even brought up, so it begs the question; is my negative experience a warrant to my character regression?
I think the dangerous part about this whole "villain-arc" concept is, that as you mentioned, it gets selled to you as a way to improve yourself. But that feeling only stays for so long and in the end you did not improve, you did just change, and maybe with the way you were acting, you even made damage to others. So fellas, skip the villain-arc. Be kind to others, get in Contact with people, even the ones that are very different from you and it will payoff a thousand times more.
Yup. I had a villain arc after a breakup that just about broke me. And after I was done, I just felt empty. I realized that I could and should have just focused and concentrated on loving myself cuz all the changes instead of being driven by me wanting to better myself, were driven by me wanting them to regret letting me go. And then 2 years after, I realized that they didn’t even notice, nor did they care about the changes. They’d moved on. I was the one who was still holding on
Best thing I did during my "villian arc", which I think is more of a phase of healing, is focus on my fashion, my hygiene, and who I truely am. I felt betrayed sure, but I wanted to prove to myself that I can handle being alone, that I'm someone worth loving. A year later, I'm not much happier, but I'm stronger mentally. I started taking more risks, I started to dance again, I started to live life without anyone to hold me down. Freedom. It's what makes adulthood so scary, but for that time I felt truely alive. It's better to love and feel pain than to not at all. The pain you feel proves you have a heart, that you are human, that your actions really mattered.
I agree oncd i got out of a hotrible relationship i was think ooh im gona get back at her but i lost that drive after 2 months and i was just there empty i reflected and realized i just want to be happy with myself and to do that i have to improve still feeling empty tho and i hope i can fix that in the future
thanks for sharing man. lots of people glorify villain arcs, but you're on the actual right path. soon you'll look back and see how far you've gone. keep goin 💪
@doozyspeaks thanks for sharing bc this is like a journal entry, these are personal reflections you've shared! I'm so glad to hear that you have an internal locus of control, and decided to change your thoughts, change your actions, and create a positive social lifestyle for yourself! I'm doubly glad that you took action and created a positive lifestyle for yourself, bc it seems this generation have an external locus of control, seeing themselves as helpless victims, so to hear that you by contrast took ownership for your circumstances and changed them for the better is great news! It is uplfiting to know people such as yourself still have heads on their shoulders! 😆😁! X! LORD God be with you in Jesus' name 🙏!
I have a mixed reaction to this. I've always wanted to get back at the high school peer group who sort of ostracized me, but I've always also had my distinct goals of putting myself out there on social media (what's known as "creating content" in the recent years, gosh I hate that term). So there's always this internal conflict that I go through - I do want to make videos and talk about whatever is it that I'm thinking of (and my target audience is people that are like minded to me) - but I also question myself if I'm only doing it so that those folks can see me doing better in life. What's your take on this?
hope you enjoy the throwbacks @ 2:33 and 4:27 lmao
after my relationship with my ex, I went through a phase where I stop caring about others. I was very distant with friends, hitting the gym more and I tended to snap at my family more. I thought I was doing good but, I felt so lost. It’s not worth it.
been in the exact same position. it feels good to wall yourself off and stay guarded, but we can only go so far alone.
I felt my own self regression around 2023. I am what some refer to as a “Covid Senior” where I had 12th grade in quarantine. I couldn’t participate in my favorite extracurricular activities, including my school’s marching band. I felt outcasted and that no one before or after my time would understand and care about my loss and that caused me to fixate on these feelings and I generally became edgier than usual. I like to compare my feelings to Black suit Spider-Man where I felt empowered by my inner turmoil. I remember at one point putting a non-dishwasher safe pan into a dishwasher and justifying it as “improving the quality of the pan.” I recently had an alumni night and COVID wasn’t even brought up, so it begs the question; is my negative experience a warrant to my character regression?
I think the dangerous part about this whole "villain-arc" concept is, that as you mentioned, it gets selled to you as a way to improve yourself. But that feeling only stays for so long and in the end you did not improve, you did just change, and maybe with the way you were acting, you even made damage to others.
So fellas, skip the villain-arc. Be kind to others, get in Contact with people, even the ones that are very different from you and it will payoff a thousand times more.
Thanks bro, I really resonate with your videos.
Yup. I had a villain arc after a breakup that just about broke me. And after I was done, I just felt empty. I realized that I could and should have just focused and concentrated on loving myself cuz all the changes instead of being driven by me wanting to better myself, were driven by me wanting them to regret letting me go. And then 2 years after, I realized that they didn’t even notice, nor did they care about the changes. They’d moved on. I was the one who was still holding on
Best thing I did during my "villian arc", which I think is more of a phase of healing, is focus on my fashion, my hygiene, and who I truely am.
I felt betrayed sure, but I wanted to prove to myself that I can handle being alone, that I'm someone worth loving. A year later, I'm not much happier, but I'm stronger mentally. I started taking more risks, I started to dance again, I started to live life without anyone to hold me down. Freedom.
It's what makes adulthood so scary, but for that time I felt truely alive. It's better to love and feel pain than to not at all. The pain you feel proves you have a heart, that you are human, that your actions really mattered.
Thx man. Just found your videos and u rly help me going thru these times with the break up and other daily struggles. I appreciate that u exist
I just discovered your channel and watched all of your videos. I love them. Please keep going!
ty bro, I appreciate it. I’m tryin my best 🙏
So soothing!! And totally agree!! Love the positivity. Gotta think more like you, man.
awh, thank you for the kind words 😌
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I agree oncd i got out of a hotrible relationship i was think ooh im gona get back at her but i lost that drive after 2 months and i was just there empty i reflected and realized i just want to be happy with myself and to do that i have to improve still feeling empty tho and i hope i can fix that in the future
thanks for sharing man. lots of people glorify villain arcs, but you're on the actual right path. soon you'll look back and see how far you've gone. keep goin 💪
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@doozyspeaks
thanks for sharing bc this is like a journal entry, these are personal reflections you've shared!
I'm so glad to hear that you have an internal locus of control, and decided to change your thoughts, change your actions, and create a positive social lifestyle for yourself!
I'm doubly glad that you took action and created a positive lifestyle for yourself, bc it seems this generation have an external locus of control, seeing themselves as helpless victims, so to hear that you by contrast took ownership for your circumstances and changed them for the better is great news!
It is uplfiting to know people such as yourself still have heads on their shoulders! 😆😁! X!
LORD God be with you in Jesus' name 🙏!
I have a mixed reaction to this. I've always wanted to get back at the high school peer group who sort of ostracized me, but I've always also had my distinct goals of putting myself out there on social media (what's known as "creating content" in the recent years, gosh I hate that term).
So there's always this internal conflict that I go through - I do want to make videos and talk about whatever is it that I'm thinking of (and my target audience is people that are like minded to me) - but I also question myself if I'm only doing it so that those folks can see me doing better in life.
What's your take on this?
You sound like a swell guy, man