There was a woman who got really pissed at me for not remembering meeting her once. - I apologized - then left. You are owed nothing in life except life itself - that's a precious gift from the heavens. Make use of it - and forget the acceptance thing -
The question is, did he still not know who she was after she revealed her dead name? If he knew who she was and still left without saying anything at all, that’s pretty shitty. I’m thinking either he didn’t know who she was or they weren’t very close so he didn’t have anything to say.
Empathy?? Bruh, she literally changed her identity and then got confused when someone didn't recognize her, and said it's one of the worst things to happen to a Trans woman. It's not that deep.
I dont like a lot of transpeople in the media as trans myself because just most people in the media are unlikeable in the first place imo no matter if trans or not.
there was a girl i was pretty close friends with for two years in high school- we stayed over at each others houses quite a lot. we had grown apaet and lost contact though by the time I transitioned. post top surgery and being on T I visited my home town again to see some friends. That girl was a hostess at a restaurant I went to. As my friends and I approached the host stand I started panicking thinking she would recognize and dead name me- she looked at me with no recognition in her eyes and quickly sat us down at a table. Was a pretty surreal experience, but felt great knowing that I apparently passed/ looked different enough from myself pre everything for her to bot recognize me at all.
So random beautiful woman treats him like an old friend and he just ups and leaves? How rude. And weird. I'd at least want to know why she greeted me. Maybe he's got a psycho-jealous partner or something.
Oh come on girl! Of course he doesn't remember you, you're a whole-ass different person! You're deliberately setting people up to fail, that's pretty damn nasty!
@@SixSkyDiverso you'd rather him start verbally abusing her than leaving? I think leaving was the most appropriate thing to do if he felt uncomfortable.
I’m fairly certain he was just surprised and didn’t know what to say- I’m sure he didn’t want it to come across as hate, he just didn’t know how to respond.
He probably didn't know her then; it's kind of a joke to think everyone you ever met in your entire life has a strong, lasting image of you in their head and you made such an impact simply by existing.
@@thatvalensteingirlshe literally doesn’t think that, she introduced herself as her name, and obviously he knew her since he had a .. reaction lmfao. she’s not self centred or whatever the new thinly veiled transphobic insult is, i think most ppl would say hello to someone they recognise, even if you have changed a lot since then
To be fair, thats most peoples response when they bump into people from thier past they went to school with. "Yeah, hi, nice to see you, life going well, great, gotta go busy life, bye" or something along those lines😂😂😂 the past is the past and as a result we all change over time. Im 41 and not the 15 year old i used to be. Its just how life works. WE MOVE ON AND CHANGE.
That is far from the worst trans people have to deal with… have you seen her comment sections? That’s not even covering all the stuff trans people go through in public + the laws being made that make their life harder 😅
@@river9603 I have not seen any comments sections, but I do know that J K Rowling, and women like her are harassed to hell for a perspective the trans cult says is hateful. I wasn't gender critical until the pile on started on JK, claiming she was hateful was just so ridiculous. Trans people have rights. What is being taken away is the extra - participation in women's sports, access to women's prisons etc. You can blame the men who claim to be trans, and then use it for their own advancement - women shouldn't have to have AGPs and other bad actors in women's space.
Other than this clearly not being a serious video You wouldn't find it funny or weird if you changed your look and a ton of people you knew and were friends with don't recognize who you are and just leave you when they find out?
Be gentle when revealing. I was destroyed when I could not id what was a true beauty. The tearful "don't you recognize me ?"...I will never live down..we were both hurt !
He left because it is odd for him. Maybe he was uncomfortable and needed to process the change. Not always about the Trans person. Non trans people need to have time to process and think also. Stop throwing it in out face and expecting everyone to be instantly ok with it.
Es ist nicht ok zu sagen man bräuchte eine Therapie. Ich bin absolut für trans Personen. Jeder soll das tun was einen selbst glücklich macht. Wenn man jemanden vorher komplett anders kannte, ist es aber durchaus wahrscheinlich das es einen erstmal total überfährt. Das ist nicht automatisch böse gemeint. Wenn man aber ausgelacht wird, ist das was anderes.
@@Kylie.Rose. if you need time to process it, it’s because it’s a massive change in somebody. Especially somebody who you had a personal relationship with. Imagine if one of your friends from school came back into your life and was suddenly a different gender. Would you get a shock initially? Would you be surprised? Or would you say “Oh well, that’s just how things are now”? Because I’m guessing it’s the first 2.
@@Kylie.Rose.people do need time to process, processing things is normal. I'm trans myself and I completely understand someone needing to process something like that.
You spent a lot of money and went to a lot of effort to become someone else, and you get upset when someone doesn't recognize you? You may want to rethink that.
@@LieuTenDark You need to go back a listen to his video again, he had 2 complaints, 1 was that the guy didn't recognize him and 2 the other guy ran off quickly.
@@bornkinggamer3347 Him would be correct though. No amount of cutting and/or adding parts, no amount of drugs will ever make a him a her or a her a him. If you wish to live in that false reality and believe in that false truth than that is up to you, I refuse to.
Remember you said you used your "dead name"...Wouldn't this mean the person he knew does not exist anymore...so he could not recognize you...probably he was embarrassed and just left.
Wait until you attend your 30 year reunion. More than half the people are unrecognizable and it has nothing to do with crap like this. I was skinny in school, fat after so many kids, now I'm skinny again, but with a few wrinkles from age. And, just a bottom line for me, you can't make me act or react the way you want. Your choices are for you and your life, but you don't get to force my behavior. Leaving was way kinder than standing face to face and telling you what he really felt, wasn't it?
I think this here lies the very issue. Often times transgender people seem to get offended when they don’t receive the reaction they hoped or desired. He was caught off guard. He probably was excited because Matilda is beautiful, and he thought he was being hit hit on by a cis woman. Then you pulled the rug from underneath him and he started questioning his sexuality in real time. He also was probably confused and thought he might be getting Pranked or on some kind of social media video and just didn’t want to be a part of anything. Matilda‘s transition is a big thing not only for her before everyone else who knew her and reactions are going to vary. And I don’t think his reaction was entirely wrong. He felt uncomfortable and probably confused and who knows what else. But he didn’t introduce hate or violence towards her. He was Curt and left abruptly, which was mildly rude, but given the circumstances plausible.
I get the same reaction(s) when it comes to my drug addiction and tattoos...but I guess it's an act of violence when someone has a reaction to a "right away" situation like that... because everyone is supposed to be respectful and understand what's going on immediately
You had sooo much time to decide and see yourself changing, why do you expect that others will accept this change in an instance? Give people time as you gave yourself
What part did she say he should have accepted it immediately? I think she just meant it was kind of awkward for him to just walk away. She wasn’t saying he was being hateful or anything, it’s just her sharing a story.
99.7% of the people I went to high school with don't recognize me. And I'm not trans. High school and college are a tiny blip in our existence. You're literally not special cause someone didn't recognize you.
That doesn't suit her insecurities. Assuming you're living rent free in everyone's heads all the time, they're all talking about you behind your back constantly-- It's equal parts ego and insecurity.
Wow. I cant relate. I went to my hugh school reunion and I remembered everyone though it took a few moments to recall peoples names. We had about 80 people in our graduating class.
she never said she was special. she had an experience and shared it, isn’t that what social media is for? or are trans ppl supposed to just not post anything ever bc y’all always find a way to make it transphobic
I am currently doing a project in Uni with someone I went to middle school with. We've only had online meetings so far and I have no clue if they know who I am. And I have no clue if I should say something or just ignore it.
Tell them, it's wrong to hide the truth from others. When I found out someone I was really close too was trans it destroyed me. I felt like they had been lying to me, that I'd gotten to know this one person and there was no truth to it
One of the worst things about being American is that faint sense of doubt as to whether someone is referring to the Subway tunnel or the Subway restaurant when they say "I was at my local subway" (Subway, based in Milford, Connecticut, is a fast food restaurant specializing in overpriced sandwiches)
People in general just don't like running into old classmates, a lot of people after highschool turn to crime or drugs or they weren't a good person to begin with. That was a pretty normal reaction to seeing someone who he doesn't care to see again.
A win is a win. that’s literally my FAVORITE part of being transgender, I love it so much I had my mom make a Facebook post about her son passing away from a tragic house fire saving his long lost twin sister and we don’t like talking about it 🤣 this lie going on 7 years strong, obvi the family knows T cause like hello?! everyone is in on it. We troll as a family 😂🤣
ive had this happen to me too i had a best friend for 20 years he had no idea i was a woman inside wearing male clothes at the time and when i came out he did the same thing he left absolutely devastated i was i cried soo much but then i got over it
People are generally fearful of things they don't understand, apparently your former classmate isn't ready to accept trans people, yet. His leaving is better than him becoming emotional and/or violent. Have patience, Matilda, wholesale acceptance will take awhile.
also alot of young guys are uncomfortable when they meet a gay/ trans because they find it umcomfortable to have the feeling they get hit on (flirting).
@@N3mdraz do you think Matilda was hitting on him? Looked to me like a casual greeting, he should've acknowledged her, maybe said "nice to see you, have a nice day" but he purposely ignored her and escaped someplace. Honestly, he could've had an appointment or a bus to catch. It was kinda rude, but there could be a reason. Maybe he just got fired/lost his job, who knows. I think Matilda may be oversensitive, remains to be seen.
@@johnbell6114 "do you think Matilda was hitting on him?" No, what i said was straight guys want to avoid situations where transgenders/ gays might be hitting on them. Women are getting uncomfortable when random guys on the street stare at them with lust right? As a straight young guy its just as uncomfortable when a gay/ transgender stares at you with lust. (i dont say mathilda did this, but this is one of the reasons young guys get uncomfortable around gay/ transgender beforehand) I agree he should have greeted, but maybe he just got uncomfortable. We acknowledge mathilda as a full woman, the reality is others havent accepted transgenders yet as full fledged women)
@@N3mdraz sorry not trying to be rude but transgender isnt a noun it's an adjective. you can be transgender but you can't be a transgender (similar to how you can't be a tall you are just tall). using transgender as a noun others us.
@@bones6896 sorry I I'm really bad at linguistically parse (had to look up the word). I have no clue what nouns adjectives are so I don't understand your post if you explain it from a grammatic point as I'm not an native English speaker. (I'm also bad in dutch at it, my weakest subject :). To me it doesn't make sense what you said. Let's apply your rhetoric for "man" I can't be a man, but I am man? I don't follow your grammar reasoning. (Don't waste your time to teach me with words like nouns/ adjectives etc because I will forget it after 1 second and I'm planning to keep it that way 😂) (I'm also not trying to be rude. Is it my grammar was wrong (which sentence) or because I worded it wrong it came off as rude?)
My grandmother has Alzheimers. It breaks my heart to think about, but I know I'm going to be one of the first people she forgets. She knew me as who I was. She knows Im trans, but she's never even seen me in person since I started my transition. She's not going to recognize me next time I see her.
Honestly, if someone I knew transitioned, I wouldn’t really care tbh. Congrats, you want a cookie? I got so much shit happening in my life I can’t afford to care about that stuff.
ikr. Like when I say I'm agender, I don't expect to be praised and given a ton of atttention. I just want "Ok cool. What should I call you?" or even the bare minimum "What are your pronouns?" then move on with our lives as normal.@ahhthatsjustgrand6502
Not trans but can relate. I used to weigh 96 lbs because od a medical condition. Now i weigh 230, and recently i passed an old friend, and she thought i was a stranger 😂😂😂
Isn’t that better for you though? If you have a clean slate with those people that used to know you by your “dead name”, then they’re not going to use that name you hate so much, they’re not going to mistakenly out you to work colleagues that you didn’t want to be out to, They won’t tell stories of your past and remind you of things you don’t want to be reminded of. You can relate to them as a new acquaintance of your new self. If you are trying to get rid of the baggage of your past, how is it fair to insist that everyone who used to know you as your birth gender continue to be saddled with that baggage? You’re trying to have it both ways… If you want people to embrace who you are now you should be grateful they forgot who you were then because for the ones that remember it’s going to be that much more difficult to address you in the way you prefer. This feels like an unfair test frankly.
If I would remember someone as a boy, I would be shocked that my memory is so bad. Remembering whether someone is a boy or a girl is usually much easier than remembering a person's name. Have you ever thought about the possibility that the others are not an impertinence for you, but you are an impertinence for the others?
The other day somebody at my work that works in a different department said "do you have a brother?? There was a guy who used to work here who looked just like a male version of you" 😭😭🤣
Why is this bad? You wanted to alter your identity with utter significance. He didn't recognize you. Isn't that a victory? Add: why do you have a negative judgment on his reaction?
Three problems with transexuality: 1. Your health is being compromised 2. You should work on your insecurity instead 3. They think every person against transexuality is transphobic, some just see it as a dangerous thing to do and there's so many people who had complications after surgerys If you get the surgery, and everything goes well, amazing, you were lucky, congrats Now please stop hating on everyone just because we don't follow your ideology
Yeah I would leave too, don’t wanna deal with all that. Also why are you expecting them to recognize you? Isn’t that the whole point, to look different?
So you put on a very elaborate disguise that he didn't see through...and when you told him he was not amazed about your disguise and thought it was great?
@@Bunnerella Nope, she enjoyed his surprise and sought validation. Unless they were super close at school she had no reason to do that. I bet if she hasn't transitioned, she would have pretended to not see him.
@@anthia1156 You can't make assumptions like that just because you're a transphobic snowflake. I think you're being a little too sensitive. You're basically saying your not allowed to say hi to someone you know. She's just being friendly. If you don't like it then you don't have to pay attention to it. It's a simple as that.
@@Bunnerella I am not a transphobe. I am just annoyed with people who meed validation. I would have said the same thing for an old classmate who would speak to me only to show off weight loss, a nice car, plastic surgery etc People think they are the main character in everyone's lives but they are not. We do *NOT* care. As simple as that.
Yes he did…he left. Of course he left. What did you expect him to do?! ‘Praise’ you for your transition? Say that you’re stunning and brave?! C’mon man!! SMH!
It's just, idk, rude to do it THAT way. You could say "I don't remember you, sorry." or "Oh, hey, how you been?" just walking away without a word gives so many mixed messages.
I realised recently that one of my good friends is someone I knew pre transition because of the fact that she was talking about how nice her old friend, deadname, was. Bro she has no clue I’m her, it’s funny af
@@LiterallyAna Well your not a woman . Your a man who feels like a woman . Personally I admire your courage to do it but i can still not think it's right or should have been allowed to be pushed on our children. There is nothing phobic or hateful in what i said.whats truly hateful is someone pushing therye beliefs unwanted .Is it not fair to say that just as you want the right to be who are i am not afforded that same right? Hateful is af huh?
@@craigdamico555 Dude, you're literally saying that I'm not a woman, that me being a woman isn't right, going on with the shitty rethoric that trans people need to be hidden from kids, and you still have the audacity to say that there's nothing hateful about that ._. You're shitting me You don't have the right to discriminate, and no, me saying that I'm allowed to exist peacefully isn't "shoving my beliefs" and it's nowhere near the same as you saying that my existence isn't right
@@danking8379 Trans people are over 4 times more likely to be the victim of a violent crime, compared to Cis people. Trans people have been disowned, abused, r*ped and murdered for thousands of years.
The opposite is true as well! Like when you feel very fem and all, you made all these changes to your appearance and then your old friends just have no issue recognizing you 🥲🥲🥲
I was walking my dog and had a random guy ask me “boy or girl?” At a crosswalk. I’m a butch girl. I thought the guy was asking about my dog. Nope turns out he was curious about me! Weird experience. I am not trans
Oh my favourite thing is when people from school don't recognise me, feels so good. And if they do, I'm just like, sorry my names Simon, think you have me confused with someone else
?? I gave him my " dead " name, is that a thing with these individuals ? If they are leaving their existence as " another " person, why invoke a greeting?? 🧐
I’m not trans but I do drag and it’s really funny watch the straight and homophobic guys from high school texting me on my instagram trying to flirt with me
👁️👄👁️ now you’re just somebody that i used to know
Now and then i think of all the times you screwed me over
🎵Have your friends pick up your records and your change of number😂
Somebody
😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
BUT YOU DIDNT HAVE TO CUTTT ME OFFFF
Lol i just pretend im a different person at this point
Also, when you get carded and they don't believe you 💀
I'm pre-transition but that sounds like an appealing approach lol
@@Kandy96 Hello
That’s because you technically are after you transition
They dont hate you cause youre trans, they hate you cause youre so damn beautifull. You are a very attractive Woman.
LMFAOOO
There was a woman who got really pissed at me for not remembering meeting her once. - I apologized - then left. You are owed nothing in life except life itself - that's a precious gift from the heavens. Make use of it - and forget the acceptance thing -
you wrong there pal, life itself is also NOT owed to you, nothing is.
I don't think it's hate. It's that he didn't know what to say.
I dont think she was calling it hate, she said what the worst thing besides the hate at the beginning.
It's not hate we don't hate mental ill people they need help.
she isn't calling it hate???
The question is, did he still not know who she was after she revealed her dead name? If he knew who she was and still left without saying anything at all, that’s pretty shitty.
I’m thinking either he didn’t know who she was or they weren’t very close so he didn’t have anything to say.
Of course
These comments are awful. People have such a lack of empathy for trans people nowadays. We're just people.
'People' ... 😂😂
I just don’t think it’s kind to let “people” live in delusion 🙂
Deceptive people.
Empathy?? Bruh, she literally changed her identity and then got confused when someone didn't recognize her, and said it's one of the worst things to happen to a Trans woman. It's not that deep.
I dont like a lot of transpeople in the media as trans myself because just most people in the media are unlikeable in the first place imo no matter if trans or not.
there was a girl i was pretty close friends with for two years in high school- we stayed over at each others houses quite a lot.
we had grown apaet and lost contact though by the time I transitioned.
post top surgery and being on T I visited my home town again to see some friends.
That girl was a hostess at a restaurant I went to. As my friends and I approached the host stand I started panicking thinking she would recognize and dead name me- she looked at me with no recognition in her eyes and quickly sat us down at a table.
Was a pretty surreal experience, but felt great knowing that I apparently passed/ looked different enough from myself pre everything for her to bot recognize me at all.
The expectancy for the whole world to be psychic...the entitlement.... 😅😅😅
But why would they recognize you? Especially if you are an entirely different person, now? Isn't that what you were aiming for?
And why would you then give your "dead name" unless you wanted that attention. Kudos for him not playing in to your fantasy.
@@Fudgesticklesshe?
@@Fudgestickles😅😅😅😅😅
That’s what I’m thinking , like would she have preferred them to say “hey , yeah I recognize u , u still look like a man”
She still looks like herself.
So random beautiful woman treats him like an old friend and he just ups and leaves? How rude. And weird. I'd at least want to know why she greeted me. Maybe he's got a psycho-jealous partner or something.
yall weird asf get help.
It’s giving delusional ☠️☠️☠️
Literally
You told him your dead name and he looked you dead in the eye 😂
Oh come on girl! Of course he doesn't remember you, you're a whole-ass different person! You're deliberately setting people up to fail, that's pretty damn nasty!
It's not that deep. Call down...
@@santaclaus200typical uneducated supporter. "Call down"
@@Kawasaki10rrand transphobia is just as bad as racism.
@@augustleoberonis5369 Idgaf
@@augustleoberonis5369😂no
"I always knew he was gay, but this is too much" - HS guy
Change your identity and then walk around saying hey it’s me, don’t you recognize me? 😂😂😂
She still looks like herself.
It’s not like she became a completely different person.
She’s saying she doesn’t enjoy it, she isn’t blaming him for not recognizing her. She’s blaming him for being rude about it.
That’s was my thought
@@Celephinnyes they did ..
@@SixSkyDiverso you'd rather him start verbally abusing her than leaving? I think leaving was the most appropriate thing to do if he felt uncomfortable.
Why is that bad tho? Doesn’t that means you’ve done well transitioning?
Not necessarily. There are a lot of explanations for that interaction.
I’m fairly certain he was just surprised and didn’t know what to say- I’m sure he didn’t want it to come across as hate, he just didn’t know how to respond.
He probably didn't know her then; it's kind of a joke to think everyone you ever met in your entire life has a strong, lasting image of you in their head and you made such an impact simply by existing.
@@thatvalensteingirlshe literally doesn’t think that, she introduced herself as her name, and obviously he knew her since he had a .. reaction lmfao. she’s not self centred or whatever the new thinly veiled transphobic insult is, i think most ppl would say hello to someone they recognise, even if you have changed a lot since then
To be fair, thats most peoples response when they bump into people from thier past they went to school with. "Yeah, hi, nice to see you, life going well, great, gotta go busy life, bye" or something along those lines😂😂😂 the past is the past and as a result we all change over time. Im 41 and not the 15 year old i used to be. Its just how life works. WE MOVE ON AND CHANGE.
If I were that guy I’d say: and don’t you remember me either? It’s me, Jessica!
@wth9719 🤣🤣🤣👏👏👏
I could eat 10 grams of mushrooms and still not understand this shit.
Humanity could advance for millions of years and the Man who cut off his dick in this video still wouldn’t make sense
That doesn't sound so bad - if that's the worst you have to deal with you're fine😁
That is far from the worst trans people have to deal with… have you seen her comment sections? That’s not even covering all the stuff trans people go through in public + the laws being made that make their life harder 😅
@@river9603 I have not seen any comments sections, but I do know that J K Rowling, and women like her are harassed to hell for a perspective the trans cult says is hateful. I wasn't gender critical until the pile on started on JK, claiming she was hateful was just so ridiculous.
Trans people have rights. What is being taken away is the extra - participation in women's sports, access to women's prisons etc. You can blame the men who claim to be trans, and then use it for their own advancement - women shouldn't have to have AGPs and other bad actors in women's space.
You want to be a different person and then complain that people don’t recognize you.
Other than this clearly not being a serious video
You wouldn't find it funny or weird if you changed your look and a ton of people you knew and were friends with don't recognize who you are and just leave you when they find out?
You changed all the systems and want him to know u? U get what u want so don't play victim please
Be gentle when revealing. I was destroyed when I could not id what was a true beauty. The tearful "don't you recognize me ?"...I will never live down..we were both hurt !
You won’t be recognised if you completely changed your body and appearance.
@@AutomaticDuck300fr 💀
He left because it is odd for him. Maybe he was uncomfortable and needed to process the change. Not always about the Trans person. Non trans people need to have time to process and think also. Stop throwing it in out face and expecting everyone to be instantly ok with it.
no lol, not something you need to process🤣 if you need time and space to process that, you need therapy or something
Es ist nicht ok zu sagen man bräuchte eine Therapie. Ich bin absolut für trans Personen. Jeder soll das tun was einen selbst glücklich macht. Wenn man jemanden vorher komplett anders kannte, ist es aber durchaus wahrscheinlich das es einen erstmal total überfährt. Das ist nicht automatisch böse gemeint. Wenn man aber ausgelacht wird, ist das was anderes.
@@Kylie.Rose. if you need time to process it, it’s because it’s a massive change in somebody. Especially somebody who you had a personal relationship with.
Imagine if one of your friends from school came back into your life and was suddenly a different gender. Would you get a shock initially? Would you be surprised? Or would you say “Oh well, that’s just how things are now”?
Because I’m guessing it’s the first 2.
@@AutomaticDuck300id be like “oh, *2 second pause* well how are you doing now? its great to see that your expressing yourself the way you feel best!”
@@Kylie.Rose.people do need time to process, processing things is normal. I'm trans myself and I completely understand someone needing to process something like that.
Its craY when transgender folk claim they are hated but like alot of people support them 💀 i see more love then hate bruh
You spent a lot of money and went to a lot of effort to become someone else, and you get upset when someone doesn't recognize you? You may want to rethink that.
It's not about being recognized. It's about the lack of acceptance. You may want to rethink that
@@LieuTenDark You need to go back a listen to his video again, he had 2 complaints, 1 was that the guy didn't recognize him and 2 the other guy ran off quickly.
@@kennethwaggoner2254 You lost me when you started calling a trans woman "him".
@@bornkinggamer3347 Him would be correct though. No amount of cutting and/or adding parts, no amount of drugs will ever make a him a her or a her a him. If you wish to live in that false reality and believe in that false truth than that is up to you, I refuse to.
@@kennethwaggoner2254 it's not believing in a false truth to not be a dick head.
Remember you said you used your "dead name"...Wouldn't this mean the person he knew does not exist anymore...so he could not recognize you...probably he was embarrassed and just left.
Wait until you attend your 30 year reunion. More than half the people are unrecognizable and it has nothing to do with crap like this. I was skinny in school, fat after so many kids, now I'm skinny again, but with a few wrinkles from age.
And, just a bottom line for me, you can't make me act or react the way you want. Your choices are for you and your life, but you don't get to force my behavior. Leaving was way kinder than standing face to face and telling you what he really felt, wasn't it?
What an angry comment. Are you okay?
@@roberty.938 I'm good. How are you?
someone went on the defensive right quick
I think this here lies the very issue. Often times transgender people seem to get offended when they don’t receive the reaction they hoped or desired. He was caught off guard. He probably was excited because Matilda is beautiful, and he thought he was being hit hit on by a cis woman. Then you pulled the rug from underneath him and he started questioning his sexuality in real time. He also was probably confused and thought he might be getting Pranked or on some kind of social media video and just didn’t want to be a part of anything. Matilda‘s transition is a big thing not only for her before everyone else who knew her and reactions are going to vary. And I don’t think his reaction was entirely wrong. He felt uncomfortable and probably confused and who knows what else. But he didn’t introduce hate or violence towards her. He was Curt and left abruptly, which was mildly rude, but given the circumstances plausible.
I get the same reaction(s) when it comes to my drug addiction and tattoos...but I guess it's an act of violence when someone has a reaction to a "right away" situation like that... because everyone is supposed to be respectful and understand what's going on immediately
You had sooo much time to decide and see yourself changing, why do you expect that others will accept this change in an instance? Give people time as you gave yourself
What part did she say he should have accepted it immediately? I think she just meant it was kind of awkward for him to just walk away. She wasn’t saying he was being hateful or anything, it’s just her sharing a story.
I searched mtf looking for mobile task force from scp foundation and got this
Tf? Did ur recommendation feed changed by now or what
@@user-vc2pn4hm1z thank god no
Isn't that good though? Didn't you want to look like a woman? That just proves your hard work of presenting has payed off.
I think the problem here isn't that he didn't recognize her. It's his reaction after she told him.
99.7% of the people I went to high school with don't recognize me. And I'm not trans. High school and college are a tiny blip in our existence. You're literally not special cause someone didn't recognize you.
That doesn't suit her insecurities.
Assuming you're living rent free in everyone's heads all the time, they're all talking about you behind your back constantly--
It's equal parts ego and insecurity.
Then you must not have socialized much...
EXACTLEY
Wow. I cant relate. I went to my hugh school reunion and I remembered everyone though it took a few moments to recall peoples names. We had about 80 people in our graduating class.
she never said she was special. she had an experience and shared it, isn’t that what social media is for? or are trans ppl supposed to just not post anything ever bc y’all always find a way to make it transphobic
I can still hear your inner gentleman when you talk 💀
I am currently doing a project in Uni with someone I went to middle school with.
We've only had online meetings so far and I have no clue if they know who I am. And I have no clue if I should say something or just ignore it.
So you're playing with someone's emotion, for a science experiment? Or just lying to see where is goes?
Tell them, it's wrong to hide the truth from others.
When I found out someone I was really close too was trans it destroyed me.
I felt like they had been lying to me, that I'd gotten to know this one person and there was no truth to it
One of the worst things about being American is that faint sense of doubt as to whether someone is referring to the Subway tunnel or the Subway restaurant when they say "I was at my local subway" (Subway, based in Milford, Connecticut, is a fast food restaurant specializing in overpriced sandwiches)
People in general just don't like running into old classmates, a lot of people after highschool turn to crime or drugs or they weren't a good person to begin with. That was a pretty normal reaction to seeing someone who he doesn't care to see again.
A win is a win. that’s literally my FAVORITE part of being transgender, I love it so much I had my mom make a Facebook post about her son passing away from a tragic house fire saving his long lost twin sister and we don’t like talking about it 🤣 this lie going on 7 years strong, obvi the family knows T cause like hello?! everyone is in on it. We troll as a family 😂🤣
ive had this happen to me too i had a best friend for 20 years he had no idea i was a woman inside wearing male clothes at the time and when i came out he did the same thing he left absolutely devastated i was i cried soo much but then i got over it
Hello
A woman inside wearing mens clothes haha
@@Kawasaki10rr yeah its called "not come out yet" your a woman inside but you still wear mens clothes that means you havent come out the closet
@@ChloeASMR91 it's called mental illness
@@Kawasaki10rr only mental illness here is yourself with the way your brain works clearly mental
It's not hate to point out irrational thinking.
He had no idea who you were, so he left you. Simple.
Being ignored is probably a bigger issue.
People are generally fearful of things they don't understand, apparently your former classmate isn't ready to accept trans people, yet. His leaving is better than him becoming emotional and/or violent. Have patience, Matilda, wholesale acceptance will take awhile.
also alot of young guys are uncomfortable when they meet a gay/ trans because they find it umcomfortable to have the feeling they get hit on (flirting).
@@N3mdraz do you think Matilda was hitting on him? Looked to me like a casual greeting, he should've acknowledged her, maybe said "nice to see you, have a nice day" but he purposely ignored her and escaped someplace. Honestly, he could've had an appointment or a bus to catch. It was kinda rude, but there could be a reason. Maybe he just got fired/lost his job, who knows. I think Matilda may be oversensitive, remains to be seen.
@@johnbell6114 "do you think Matilda was hitting on him?"
No, what i said was straight guys want to avoid situations where transgenders/ gays might be hitting on them.
Women are getting uncomfortable when random guys on the street stare at them with lust right?
As a straight young guy its just as uncomfortable when a gay/ transgender stares at you with lust.
(i dont say mathilda did this, but this is one of the reasons young guys get uncomfortable around gay/ transgender beforehand)
I agree he should have greeted, but maybe he just got uncomfortable. We acknowledge mathilda as a full woman, the reality is others havent accepted transgenders yet as full fledged women)
@@N3mdraz sorry not trying to be rude but transgender isnt a noun it's an adjective. you can be transgender but you can't be a transgender (similar to how you can't be a tall you are just tall). using transgender as a noun others us.
@@bones6896 sorry I I'm really bad at linguistically parse (had to look up the word). I have no clue what nouns adjectives are so I don't understand your post if you explain it from a grammatic point as I'm not an native English speaker. (I'm also bad in dutch at it, my weakest subject :).
To me it doesn't make sense what you said. Let's apply your rhetoric for "man" I can't be a man, but I am man? I don't follow your grammar reasoning. (Don't waste your time to teach me with words like nouns/ adjectives etc because I will forget it after 1 second and I'm planning to keep it that way 😂)
(I'm also not trying to be rude. Is it my grammar was wrong (which sentence) or because I worded it wrong it came off as rude?)
My grandmother has Alzheimers. It breaks my heart to think about, but I know I'm going to be one of the first people she forgets. She knew me as who I was. She knows Im trans, but she's never even seen me in person since I started my transition. She's not going to recognize me next time I see her.
Well what did you expect?he was shocked and freaked out...and then he left....
Sis changed her avatar and her friend didn’t see the update 😭
Honestly, if someone I knew transitioned, I wouldn’t really care tbh. Congrats, you want a cookie? I got so much shit happening in my life I can’t afford to care about that stuff.
I don't think her being trans is the issue here. Most people are like "Oh, hey! How you been?" not blank stare and walk away
ikr. Like when I say I'm agender, I don't expect to be praised and given a ton of atttention. I just want "Ok cool. What should I call you?" or even the bare minimum "What are your pronouns?" then move on with our lives as normal.@ahhthatsjustgrand6502
If people don't recognize me, I just pretend to be a different person lol
oh my God... I'm glad you're able to laugh about it
He didn’t do nothing wrong he just walked off because he probably didn’t know what to say. It’s not even hate.
@@PhoenixPlays669 I never said he's at fault, but imagine how she's felt
@@rebm7505 he shouldn't feel anything just because the guy didn't know who he was especially because he literally has a whole different body
@@rebm7505how she felt when he appropriately left without making a ruckus? bfr 😂
@@platonic-zq5ys thank God he didnt do that, but a person leaving mid sentence is also saddening
Not trans but can relate. I used to weigh 96 lbs because od a medical condition. Now i weigh 230, and recently i passed an old friend, and she thought i was a stranger 😂😂😂
What did you expect?
To be fair when I'm approached by anyone I don't recognize the first thing I think is that I'm being scammed.
Happy pride month 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🌈⚧️🥳
Isn’t that better for you though? If you have a clean slate with those people that used to know you by your “dead name”, then they’re not going to use that name you hate so much, they’re not going to mistakenly out you to work colleagues that you didn’t want to be out to, They won’t tell stories of your past and remind you of things you don’t want to be reminded of. You can relate to them as a new acquaintance of your new self. If you are trying to get rid of the baggage of your past, how is it fair to insist that everyone who used to know you as your birth gender continue to be saddled with that baggage? You’re trying to have it both ways… If you want people to embrace who you are now you should be grateful they forgot who you were then because for the ones that remember it’s going to be that much more difficult to address you in the way you prefer. This feels like an unfair test frankly.
Brudda it was just awkward nobody did anything wrong 💀
Why are you shaming him for no longer wanting to be associated with you.. is he not entitled to who he wants to be acquainted with?
If I would remember someone as a boy, I would be shocked that my memory is so bad. Remembering whether someone is a boy or a girl is usually much easier than remembering a person's name. Have you ever thought about the possibility that the others are not an impertinence for you, but you are an impertinence for the others?
Very smart man. The one that left not the one playing dress up
She’s obviously not a man.
He's a amn and i would leave like he did
"this girl is crazy" "why is she saying she's X..." "This is weird... Maybe this is a stalker ..."
I don’t blame the guy, I would leave too
Same
Same
Same
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I don't know this person but I'm leaving too.
The other day somebody at my work that works in a different department said "do you have a brother?? There was a guy who used to work here who looked just like a male version of you" 😭😭🤣
At least you were honest by telling him who you really were.
I weent to a Catholic HS. I transitioned in my 30s... the looks are special!
People don’t hate u, they feel Sorry for u
Then why are people like you always calling for trans people to be killed, and calling them groomers and child mutilators?
Why is this bad? You wanted to alter your identity with utter significance. He didn't recognize you. Isn't that a victory? Add: why do you have a negative judgment on his reaction?
I still carry an old I.D., just for these instances. It's happened numerous times.
I had the same thing. But he said "why" lol
Three problems with transexuality:
1. Your health is being compromised
2. You should work on your insecurity instead
3. They think every person against transexuality is transphobic, some just see it as a dangerous thing to do and there's so many people who had complications after surgerys
If you get the surgery, and everything goes well, amazing, you were lucky, congrats
Now please stop hating on everyone just because we don't follow your ideology
Yeah I would leave too, don’t wanna deal with all that. Also why are you expecting them to recognize you? Isn’t that the whole point, to look different?
So you put on a very elaborate disguise that he didn't see through...and when you told him he was not amazed about your disguise and thought it was great?
I felt that actually happened to me when trying to catch up with an old friend but it’s ok it sucks but I don’t loose sleep over it
Bro I’d also leave 😂😂😂 it’s a natural response after getting that kind of information
Good for him. I would have the same reaction to someone who essentially demands validation from practically strangers.
She didn't demand anything. She literally was just trying to say hi. You just want a reason to get mad. Just chill.
@@Bunnerellawould u say hi to a stranger who looks like they want to have a conversation w u?
@@Bunnerella Nope, she enjoyed his surprise and sought validation. Unless they were super close at school she had no reason to do that. I bet if she hasn't transitioned, she would have pretended to not see him.
@@anthia1156 You can't make assumptions like that just because you're a transphobic snowflake. I think you're being a little too sensitive. You're basically saying your not allowed to say hi to someone you know. She's just being friendly. If you don't like it then you don't have to pay attention to it. It's a simple as that.
@@Bunnerella I am not a transphobe. I am just annoyed with people who meed validation. I would have said the same thing for an old classmate who would speak to me only to show off weight loss, a nice car, plastic surgery etc People think they are the main character in everyone's lives but they are not. We do *NOT* care. As simple as that.
Yes he did…he left. Of course he left. What did you expect him to do?! ‘Praise’ you for your transition? Say that you’re stunning and brave?! C’mon man!! SMH!
How can you be upset when you’re intentionally trying to look different. Isn’t it a compliment?
Trans or not if they dont remember u...they will leave u just like that girl
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It's just, idk, rude to do it THAT way. You could say "I don't remember you, sorry." or "Oh, hey, how you been?" just walking away without a word gives so many mixed messages.
I would leave too ngl
He just looked you up/down and was like dayummmm girl but as soon as you said you were trans he freaked out.
I mean you changed everything. So can you really blame him... FFS.
If someone from school walked up to me I’d do the same thing lol.
I have an answer to the problem!!
maybe just stay a man since you are one 🥰🥰
I realised recently that one of my good friends is someone I knew pre transition because of the fact that she was talking about how nice her old friend, deadname, was. Bro she has no clue I’m her, it’s funny af
You are so beautiful! I wish you the best :)
tf
I transitioned during high school so now I know for a fact the reunion is gonna be spicy 😃
good for him, stop judging him
shut up
Guys she's just saying it's an awkward experience. Nothing deep. And it's valid to feel a bit bad after an awkward experince.
because someone doesn't agree with you is not transphobic. Your victimhood is your own prison
Agree on what? Our identities? We being women? We existing? You can't "disagree" on our human rights. That's hateful af
@@LiterallyAna Well your not a woman . Your a man who feels like a woman . Personally I admire your courage to do it but i can still not think it's right or should have been allowed to be pushed on our children. There is nothing phobic or hateful in what i said.whats truly hateful is someone pushing therye beliefs unwanted .Is it not fair to say that just as you want the right to be who are i am not afforded that same right? Hateful is af huh?
@@craigdamico555 Dude, you're literally saying that I'm not a woman, that me being a woman isn't right, going on with the shitty rethoric that trans people need to be hidden from kids, and you still have the audacity to say that there's nothing hateful about that
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You're shitting me
You don't have the right to discriminate, and no, me saying that I'm allowed to exist peacefully isn't "shoving my beliefs" and it's nowhere near the same as you saying that my existence isn't right
i would say this is a funny interaction, however its def not the worst thing you can experience as you guys go through so much!!
You thrive on the hate . It’s the attention you crave
You really think she craves hate?
Or are you just victim blaming?
@@CelephinnWho’s a Victim?Look up the dictionary meaning of victim. Your see no victim here .
@@danking8379
Trans people are over 4 times more likely to be the victim of a violent crime, compared to Cis people.
Trans people have been disowned, abused, r*ped and murdered for thousands of years.
@@Celephinn I’d love to know where that statistic came from . Please supply it so I can read it
@@danking8379
Williams Institute: ‘Transgender people over four times more likely than cisgender people to be victims of violent crime’
The opposite is true as well! Like when you feel very fem and all, you made all these changes to your appearance and then your old friends just have no issue recognizing you 🥲🥲🥲
@@Wolf03824 That's a nice way to put it ^^
Thank you for the warm words!
Wouldn’t it be that you have to constantly work to keep the gash between your legs from healing over hahaha
Waving at people you know who didn't realise you just got your bike licence
I was walking my dog and had a random guy ask me “boy or girl?” At a crosswalk. I’m a butch girl. I thought the guy was asking about my dog. Nope turns out he was curious about me! Weird experience. I am not trans
😅😅😅 that made me chuckle.
Just because people don't agree with your opinion, that not hate. There opinion differs from your, that life not hate.
It's been 10 years... sometimes people from that long ago i kinda rememberwith no major change, let alone with the major change you've gone thru.
I did the same thing once with my old teacher and she was so confused 😂😂😂
Oh my favourite thing is when people from school don't recognise me, feels so good. And if they do, I'm just like, sorry my names Simon, think you have me confused with someone else
?? I gave him my " dead " name, is that a thing with these individuals ? If they are leaving their existence as " another "
person, why invoke a greeting?? 🧐
I’m not trans but I do drag and it’s really funny watch the straight and homophobic guys from high school texting me on my instagram trying to flirt with me
If you ever told me with a happy hello you would never get rid of me princess❤❤❤❤