12 Life Lessons I Wish I Paid Attention To In My 30's
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I was 29, blinked, and now I’m 52 😂😂😂
Yep. It happens that fast!
😂 exactly
Now, this chuckled me for 30 sec.
Ok now I'm scared to blink!! 😅
I'm 33 now, and I don't doubt your words for a second! I literally couldn't picture myself in my 30s, and yet, here I am. Any words of wisdom you can share that were not covered in this video? No lie, having a few years behind me, i've learned that even if I disagree with what is said, there is always something to learn from those who have already traveled the path that i'm on.
1. Make changes required as brain is rewiring
2. Stop smoking
3. Take care of yourself (body, skin care routine)
4. Working on your relationship/marriage/on yourself
5. Expand your friend circle
6. Learning to cook
7. Manage your finance
8. Surround yourself with like minded people
9. Stop pleasing people
10. Be organised
11. Be appreciative
12. Where do you want to be in next 20yrs
Learn emotional intelligence in your 30s.
Getting fit is harder in your 40s, and forward. Do it in your 30s. It'll be easier to maintain than play catch up.
Start saving now. You do not need a new car. Avoid credit card debt.
I was debating on getting a new car I had been saving for months and I'll just keep driving what I have. I just feel judged by my car but it's paid off.
All great advice! Another thing, appreciate your parents, because man you're going to miss them when they're gone.
True!
Unless they were abusive narcissistic jerks of course. It's ok to exit them from your life and not look back if they failed being a parent by not giving you love and protection.
35yo here. Thanks for posting this. I care more about things like this than fashion really. I constantly look for things I wish I knew in my 30s, 40s, 50s videos & articles to prepare & make sure I get on track.
I use to have the same type of mindset when much younger. I'm invincible. By the time I reached my early 30's. I quit smoking and partying more then I should have and began a whole new lifestyle. At 32 I began running and getting into hiking. It's become a huge part of who I am and at 58 now I've never never felt better despite a few bad bumps on the path along the way. As you get older you do pay more mind to what's good for you and what isn't. Good video John. Always enjoy your content on here.
Thank you very much Kenneth! I appreciate your comment!
I got divorced from my 1st wife in my early 30’s. We had a 6 year old daughter at the time and my wife got custody of her. Unfortunately, even though I had visiting rights, I chose to “divorce” my daughter as well. We hardly had any contact until she started college. Although we now have a great relationship, I lost those years and can never replace them. I will always regret that decision.
That’s horrible. Sorry to hear, but at least you have now. Thanks for commenting!
Similar story,but I did stick around my daughter. When she turned 18, she divorced me. Don’t feel bad, if you have her now, enjoy her. There is never a right way, just the way it worked out for YOU. Enjoy her and don’t look back👊🏼🤗
You're lucky she's forgiving because you sure as hell don't deserve it.
Nice entry! My 20s and 30s were a bust. I got married at 20 and divorced at 22. Obviously, that was a big mistake but a learning lesson. Throughout my 20s, 30s, and early 40s, I worked in a field that I hated but was smart enough to take advantage of the opportunities which led me to make contacts, finish my undergraduate and graduate degrees and obtain a tenure-track teaching position at a community college. At around 45, I felt like a young kid who was just discovering the world and what I wanted to do and I became more assertive learning to speak up for myself and go after the things I wanted. Just before being tenured, I decided to begin a doctoral program in my field and it took seven years to finish my Ph.D, but at 60 years old, I am glad about my journey and my only real regret is that I wish that I had been more savvy about my finances as a young man. But, that also improved as I matured. John, your UA-cam channel is fantastic and as I have mentioned in previous responses, you really should have an advice/lifestyle television show.
"Never too late, never too old." Can we get some merch with that on it?
Great idea!
I'm in my early thirties and I purposely searched up this video , and I honestly believe when you know better you do better. Honestly in the first few years I've learnt to set boundaries and prioritize my needs . Awesome video.
Never divorce a good woman. I've been divorced for 32 yrs. and regret every second of it. Especially loosing my daughter. Always use the head above your shoulders.
Any moron knows that.
I’m glad I never smoked or got tattoos in my younger days when my friends were doing this. I wish I had worked harder at school and gone to university. Education is the key to a successful career, I only realised that in my 40’s. I also wish I had invested my money in property “bricks and mortar” is a sound investment in the right location.
Thank you Andrew!
Never too old to learn and never too young to teach.
I like that the dialed down, relaxed intensity of this channel gives off a mature vibe and commands respect.
It highlights the same areas of improvement as the other channels without the fast-paced sales talk that focus on emphasizing needs now vs recognizing and learning style over time.
It makes you take a good hard look at yourself, appreciate the good stuff and move forward from there. Please keep pushing great content.
Thank you very much! I appreciate the kind words!
Very sound advice. In my profession, I spend a lot of time with the elderly. Over the last 25 years I can say unequivocally, the older folks who are in good shape and are enjoying aging had good health habits all their lives.
Great point!
I'm 31 and I agree on the rewiring stage. I definitely want to try creating things outside of what I pursued in college. I gave birth in my early 20's and was so focused on work and taking care my baby. Now I finally have some financial and mental freedom to focus on my own goals
Thats amazing im 31 as well and just getting finances ok have a daughter and in the career i want i think things finally might be lookin up. Only thing missing is for me and my daughters mom to fix things and maybe reunite
I'm 31 also and I had a baby when I was 17, got a job to get the three of us by and we split up at 19 and I played in a few metal/punk and partied alot and took me til 27 to get control of my life
I wait tables and have been doing well for myself but I keep procrastinating on getting a barbers license to have a creative outlet as a career
Thanks John. I turned 55 yesterday. Many of your tips to younger you still apply. Take care of yourself, learn new things, make friends, get money under control, be thankful, and plan for the future. I learned this a little later in life, but my life has improved since I put it into practice. Thanks for your work as it is much appreciated.
Happy Birthday Matt! Thanks for commenting!
Good advice for any age. My defining professional decisions and education came in my late 20s and early 30s far later than most of my peers. And to even get to that launching pad took a lot of hard work alongside scores of colossal mistakes both personal and professional.
Never forget that luck plays a huge role in life and there is randomness we can’t control. Have compassion for yourself, don’t give up, and concentrate on what you can control.
Great ones! Thanks William!
@Sadia Sharmeen All my best to you. I have a feeling you’re going to find success whatever that means for you. And don’t forget it is something you get to define for yourself. It’s different for everybody.
Good advice
Yep, as someone in my late 50s I can vouch for all that you said....good advice there.
Thanks for sharing that with our younger guys who still have time to make those changes!
Thank you Bruce!
This is excellent. I'm in my 60's and there are too many things I'd change to mention here. Yet I continue to change and grow. You're never too old for that.
Thank you James!
thanks so much, john, for sharing your thoughts with us.
as a 65 y.o. male, myself, the various benchmarks you discussed, during the different decades were very similar for me as well. i have had three incredible relationships with the last two being the great romances of my life. after my first loss, at the age of 35, i went through a very self destructive period and, thankfully, i was able to get wise to myself and restore control over my life.
it seemed that the moment, i turned 40, WHAT AN INCREDIBLE DECADE. i really established myself professionally and most of all, personally, which lead me to my longest relationship of 15 years. thankfully, i chose not repeat my mistakes after that loss and have enjoyed a life that has been so empowering and actualizing.
my 50's were very introspective in preparation for my, now, 60's. i face these next years with very different priorities than before -- much centered around really dear friends and family.
thanks so much again.
ps: your other viewers are right -- it all has happened so quickly!! LOL!!
Well said! Thanks for commenting!
Thanks for the great advice. Really relevant to me
Thank you for this 🎉
Great points John, thank you.
Thanks appreciated for the video and keep up the good work.
Whether through your own kids or dedicated philanthropic interests, make your life bigger than yourself.
Thank you so much, you look so great with the salt & pepper hair :D
Thanks‼️
The "Timer" worked perfectly, so I had the time to get a coffee, so I could sit down and enjoy the show.
I hope your viewers heed your advice.Two of my wives died because they were always going to stop smoking "Tomorrow". But as you said "Sometimes tomorrow doesn't come". One wife died a month after she turned 50, the other died three months after she turned 51. They were both very active and tops in sports and as you said, they both thought that they were invincible, because both of them had a number of family members ranging in age from 80 to 90 who were still daily smokers and the one who died aged 51, still had a 100 year old grandmother still alive. I had to live through their painful last months trying to ease their inevitable death. Which they both believed wouldn't happen.
I have never smoked, but I cannot have an urgent operation, because the Doctor's at our largest Hospital say the effect of PASSIVE SMOKING from living with two heavy smokers has ruined my lungs. So they can't give me "Gas" because that would kill me, because of the badly damaged condition of my lungs, from inhaling the smoke from other people's cigarettes. And I didn't believe that Passive Smoking was a real health problem. But I was just plain wrong.
I hope your viewers who are still smoking remember what you said about the tomorrow that doesn't come. Phil.
Thanks for sharing Phil. I’m sorry to hear and that’s a lot to go through. I’m glad you’re here!
Thanks for a reminder of what is most important. Always enjoy your commentaries.
So true... thanks for sharing....keep up the good work!
Thanks for watching!
Thank you
Very nice hopeful video appreciate your optimism
Excellent ideas were presented in this video. Thanks.
You're very welcome!
Looking forward to it.
Thanks John! , I appreciate your heartily advice. Although am now 27 it is never too early to try and never too late to learn. Well said.
Thank you very much Mohamed!
really good!
Delighted to say at 37 I have a lot of these good things so far. Good advice.
Cooking is so impressive for the ladies that they will let YOU doing it all the time, for the rest of your life :)))
So solid, so true and so useful. Thanks.
Thank you for commenting!
John, I was thinking about this same thing all this week! Can it apply to my 50's? LOL! I did make a career change in my very late 30's. I'm glad I made it. Also, I made a change at 40 to start working out again. That has given me so much freedom! It allowed me to take up skiing at 54! I just took up ice-skating again last fall. Thank you!
That's awesome Don! Thank you!
50 year olds look really young nowadays. I keep being shocked when people say they're 50+, they don't look it. It must be all the antioxidant marketing of the last 20 years.
Thanks for sharing all these life lessons with us John! I’m about to hit 30 and it is kind of scary. Love your videos! Subscribed :)
Thank you very much!
i just turn 30 and the change happens in a snap especially the body time flys still remember just turning 21
All excellent advise!!
Thank you Herb!
Excellent advice and wisdom.
Thank you!
Great video and great advice. I know if I could go back in time, I would tell my mid 20 self to not be so arrogant and insensitive. I look back and realize there were some moments where I was a real jerk. I have just turned 40 this month but over the past few years I have been working on being more humble and genuine. It has had a great effect on how people perceive me, especially at work. I am well liked and trusted by coworkers and part of my job is working with executive level staff daily. But one thing I would change most about my mid to late 20's is taking more of a chance on doing something different. I enjoy working as an IT Specialist but I have always had a strong passion for law enforcement. Particularly working within the DEA or possibly SWAT. It's not a switch I would make now with having a family and a child with disabilities but if I were younger and single again, then yes I would make that change back then. Have a great day John and stay safe.
Thank you Brandon!
Thanks for this video. . .. I appreciate your efforts of making such kind of good content videos. . . .I'm 30 years old now and I know this is the time for me to redesign my life once again as I always wanted. . . Party time is over 😅 . . .
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ Good video. I wish I would have purchased the 2br. 2baths ocean front home in Puerto Vallarta, when I was 29yrs old.
Thanks brothas
People say you regret what you did not do, not what you did. You did what you did at the time for a reason. Looking backwards is Monday morning quarterbacking...but the score does not change. Took me a lot of years to figure that one out. Learn from those choices, they were not mistakes (less say jail lol).
Time flies by for sure.
Love it.
*12 Life-Tips I wish I Knew In My 20s:*
1. Don't Kiss and Tell
2. Learn to be Brave
3. Learn to Say No
4. Develop a Code and Live By It
5. Be Patient with Yourself
6. Learn to Listen
7. Avoid Debt
8. Seek out a Mentor
9. Develop a Space to Confined In and Ask Questions
10. Be Kind, Be Compassionate
11. World changes constantly, keep an open mind
12. Stop Nail-biting & nail-picking habit and get back your healthy, good looking nails(we got you!)
For those who are in the rush of changing their lives :-)
I look at it this way . Form good habits when you're young. They are just as hard to break as bad ones. Also bad habits are at first cobwebs then cables . BTW nice picture of you on the thumbnail. Peace. :)
Thank you!
you have great vibes!
Thank you!
Positive and very solid advice! 👍😎
Thank you!
Still in my thirtys! Good to know I'm on the right track.
That IS good to know! Thanks for commenting my man!
I'm happy for you 😏😏
Great advise John! I decided to start weight training at age 50, after being a life long runner. My wife thought that I was crazy, and that I was going to hurt myself. Now she just thinks that I am ripped, as a 55 year old man! LOL Never underestimate what you are capable of, and never feel like you cannot reinvent yourself!
Well said Mike!
I am posting this prior to watching (just as a side note for anyone reading). I was more of a teenager in my early to mid 20’s than I EVER was in my actual teenage years. If I had any advice to give myself now at 29 to my 18-19 year old self, it’d be something along the lines of “DON’T STRESS WHAT YOU CAN’T FIX OR DIRECTLY IMPACT, DIPSHIT!” My political views (for a while) drove me to rely on alcohol and I now know that even if I do drink, I still think about it only it makes me wanna lash out if completely inebriated.
Good stuff 👍🏻
Thank you!
Great tips for all ages, and you look 10 years younger than you really are. This means that you are taking care of your health and skin. Thank you🌷.
Thank you!
"Remember also your creator in the day of your youth. Before the evil days come and you'll say I take no delight in them. "
Hi where you get that shirt and what color
It’s a black Polo from Express.
🤣bruh, I was a chimney and last year quit cold turkey, haven't smoked till today
In my late 30s and seriously wish i could change few things from my early 30s including things related to relationship
I hear you. Thanks for commenting!
still working on my inventions. urrrgg Im 38yrs. Never married and dont have kids, or a gf for that matter. I am handsome, very slim and look younger for my age. I work in a bank. still attends university have 2 more years to complete economics. no savings and have debts and a mortgage for land in a gated community which is worth more than other areas. I have 13 business ideas, 2 that i am actively working on but 1 which i can realistically create to be production ready in a couple of months. I have wasted my 20 partying and spending money with the wrong crowds. it has hurt me. spent over 1milliontt just partying buying crap. And it stalled my education and inventions from materialising. it feels like im starting over at 38.
I know this is off subject, but I like that shirt. Is that from Express?
Yes it is.
Please prioritize your pension, or investments that benefit from compound interest ( don't just take my word on it). It also focuses on cutting the crap you spend on. Top up your company pension if you can.
It you unexpectedly need to retire early it's no joke. Cheers.
Thanks for the video and advice John. Especially on taking care of yourself! If I may, definitely stop smoking, limit your alcohol and work out regularly. Some of the biggest life changers that will save you literally and also save you huge money in the short and long run. I feel food comes in hand in hand with health, and cooking's not too difficult once you realize it's basically utilizing the same basic skills over and over. And yes, whilst we as males get a bit more slack for skincare and grooming, so very much worth your time for many aspects of life. I think 30s are also a great time to start investing some money into "signature" items if your budget allows for it! - Han
Thank you very much Han!
im 29 im starting IT field gonna be bussiness management but i have issue cuz im feeling old and i have no idea about IT :(
And guess what …YOU ARE going to be the BEST FREAKIN IT TECH OUT THERE ….YOU JUST FREAKIN WATCH!!!!
I'm 22
50 year old here, and this STILL applies! ✌️
Even at 51...try 59! He he he. Thank you John for another great one...By the way I have a lot of sun and age spots on my face. I wonder if you are planning on having a video on how to treat those.
I'm 60 if I was too give advice to a young person it would be look after your teeth ,invest some money but not in a private pension,don't fall out with your family,I still have guilt trips about people who are no longer with us.
Well said Peter!
I'm 52and still feel invincible. 😂
Nice vid!
Thank you Ian!
What?! You are 50?! You look way younger my friend!!
Turned 31 today
I would change things from the age of 11 onwards, after that has just been a long line of really bad decisions ;)
That was very short...
I am 28 great video for me :)
I will be 30 next year
Oh man im gonna be 31 in 4 months i feel old as shit lol workin 16hrs a day man man man
Great, great, great advice! The seeds you plant in your 30’s will be the harvest you enjoy in your 60’s and later. And the time passes by quickly, like ripples in a stream.
Thank you Robin!
Half the video was a sponsored ad...
👍✌️👌
Man some of you guys really got into some issues
Wish I bought Apple stocks in my 30s 😁
would you rather...go back to age 15 knowing what you know now OR stay the age you are now and know everything that you will learn from now til the end...
That's a great question!
I rather go back to age 21 knowing what I know now.
Too soon old, too late smart
You look a lot younger then 51
“Older people can’t use technology “ did you just call us old I’ve been in my 30s for 3 months now but I want to go back I don’t like it here 💀
Why do people show people enjoying a cigarette when talking about how bad they are, just makes you want one more man
Listen to your elders! Unless they are trying to flog you moisturiser.
I came here for advice and you hit me with an ads. Dislike.
This video is almost 10 mins long. Sorry you only focused on the short ad read. Thanks for your feedback though.
Dont get married
Why not? Nothing wrong with marriage in my opinion.
WTF is this an infomercial 😂
Why would you cook, dont you have a wife? :/