7 LIFE LESSONS FROM MY 30s: how life changes in your 30s

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  • @midsonshort
    @midsonshort  3 роки тому +123

    Thank you to everyone who has commented, shared, and liked this video! I'm amazed so many people resonated with these lessons. Any other topics you'd like me to talk about or expand on from this video? Cheers, DMS

    • @melperez
      @melperez 2 роки тому +1

      I feel sad about the divorce 😑

    • @infpbubble7549
      @infpbubble7549 2 роки тому +1

      I want to hear ALL the lessons you learnt in your thirties lol!!

  • @GreenEnvy.
    @GreenEnvy. 3 роки тому +897

    37 year old here...
    Go at your own life pace.
    Don't stick with bad friends just because you've known them a long time.
    It's okay to do nothing some days.
    See your depressing moments as a good thing. It's your body telling you that you need a change.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому +14

      Agree 100% - thanks for sharing your perspective.

    • @pallysupatra
      @pallysupatra 3 роки тому +6

      True 100%

    • @rivkacohen5901
      @rivkacohen5901 3 роки тому +4

      Love this!

    • @99Gara99
      @99Gara99 3 роки тому +5

      Lots of truth and wisdom here
      I can relate to everything too

    • @scaryhours2220
      @scaryhours2220 3 роки тому +5

      That was a great comment. It really makes sense and makes me feel better, take care.

  • @jlrob85
    @jlrob85 3 роки тому +408

    In your 30s
    1 Learn to say no
    2 Learn to ignore things you can’t change
    3 Spend less than what you earn and set some long term retirement goals.
    4 Stop drinking like you’re 20
    5 Be unapologetically your own person
    6 Never stop doing things weekly that make you happy
    7 If you’re spending more than 1 hour a day on your phone, you’re doing it wrong
    8 Read more
    9 Realise you don’t have to drink every time you want to socialise.
    10 Exercise

    • @midnull6009
      @midnull6009 3 роки тому +13

      I kind of have to disagree with. I think it should be more like; find a career path that you enjoy instead of working a dead end shitty job. Even if this career choice doesn't pay well.
      I don't like the fact that for most people LIFE begins after retirement...
      And they have that mentality.

    • @ThePathOfEudaimonia
      @ThePathOfEudaimonia 3 роки тому +17

      Number 10 should definitely be number 1. Exercise is sort of the only "magic bullet" that we have, and it works through different aspects of our lives (focus, energy, health, mood, dating life, sex, disease prevention, motivation, etc.)

    • @cripto2813
      @cripto2813 3 роки тому

      Okay facts but that might not be the solution for everyone.. 👌 it's like having a guide or instruction booklet on how to live ur life ? Nawww bro.. it's live and learn

    • @ReactiveTraction
      @ReactiveTraction 2 роки тому +9

      You lost me at #7.
      I love my phone. I do everything on it.

    • @james10165
      @james10165 2 роки тому

      Lost me at number 9, drinking is part of a lot of cultures. Just do number 4.

  • @yearsofwonder
    @yearsofwonder 3 роки тому +111

    As a teenager I hated school. In my twenties I blew off all responsibilities to party. When i turned 30 i realized what I idiot I was and finally began to mature. At 35 I'm planning to attend college for the first time. Life is weird and beautiful and I'm honestly just so thankful to be a part of it.

    • @omen3949
      @omen3949 2 роки тому +4

      So true transition to 30s is a bitch, but now that I'm also in my thirties I'm grateful to God

    • @thestraycat69
      @thestraycat69 Рік тому +5

      Thirty two here semi same story. Bad marriage involved. Make a plan, keep the faith. Some people like vision boards, I like plans and making it quests in my head. Set up what you want, set up at least 5 goals, add when you have more. I have 25 goals some physical like money and health, others mental. Fix what ever you can as soon as you can, also it's going to be lonely. We are going to have to work twice as hard if not 10x. It's not an easy route. We did this, we are the ones who can undue. You need to get serious. Though don't forget fun and dating if you're single. I don't know much people who date me, being broke and over weight, made when I get rid of the last 60 lbs, and get to a reasonable amount. If not a little hotter. Three things you can offer good looks, some money, charisma. I have charisma, I'm working on the other two. It will be slow, it will be long. I kind of a younger face, so hopefully I won't stick out to much, and hopefully someone will take pity.

    • @annak8627
      @annak8627 Рік тому +1

      You're amazing! Thanks for sharing! Same thing here. Tho I feel l've got a great experience with partying. So it's also my cultural capital

    • @paulsz6194
      @paulsz6194 10 місяців тому

      As a teenager, I felt similarly. I struggled to concentrate and focus on a career path. I just took a job at a company that a friend a few years older than me was already working at. It wasn’t a high paying job, but i learnt some valuable life skills, and how businesses operate and how my Boss got to where he was, because he was a shrewd businessman and business owner. It certainly gave me direction in where I wanted to go in life.

  • @MindfulMaverick29
    @MindfulMaverick29 5 років тому +935

    1. People want you to be like them.
    2. Fear doesn't go away, it just becomes more sophisticated.
    3. Relationships will push you forward or hold you back.
    4. Your actions tell the truth about you.
    5. Your environment is a choice.
    6. Things won't work out the way you want but they will work out.
    7. Never too late to be who you are.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  5 років тому +30

      Thanks PJ! Great recap!

    • @imawarrior313
      @imawarrior313 4 роки тому +6

      Daniel Midson-Short youre a king for sharing this man!

    • @MrSuchasoorma
      @MrSuchasoorma 4 роки тому +9

      Every video needs this with time stamps

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  4 роки тому +7

      @@imawarrior313 Ahhh thanks man!

    • @imawarrior313
      @imawarrior313 4 роки тому +1

      Daniel Midson-Short it’s from the heart trust me

  • @TheKerryzzz
    @TheKerryzzz 4 роки тому +667

    Don't stay at a bad job. Don't stay in a bad relationship.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  4 роки тому +27

      Yes indeed! You only have one life!

    • @GOD999MODE
      @GOD999MODE 4 роки тому +34

      Yeah but sometimes it's not the "job's" fault. Sometimes it's your mindset and expectations going into the job that determines your level of satisfaction and happiness. Sometimes you work with toxic people or people who don't support your person, but that's when you have to develop some resilience instead of running away and retreating or adapting to the situation/environment. Learn to be like water, but without compromising your values. Don't be agreeable all the time, but also don't seek confrontation with everything or everyone who you don't agree with.

    • @michellerosebrown
      @michellerosebrown 4 роки тому +3

      Yes, I'm 27.

    • @The_Absurdistt
      @The_Absurdistt 3 роки тому +10

      Difficult to do that when kids are involved.

    • @victortoll9392
      @victortoll9392 3 роки тому

      I totally agree

  • @omidfilms
    @omidfilms 2 роки тому +50

    When I turned 30 I thought it was over, now close to 40 I feel like I’m just getting started. I’ve reinvented my life multiple times since then and every time you feel more empowered. I want to die a young man at an old age.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому +1

      Love it! What a great philosophy 👏🏻

    • @DawsonDugg
      @DawsonDugg Місяць тому

      That's some good advice

  • @martinmaynard141
    @martinmaynard141 3 роки тому +302

    At the age of 54 I gave up my secure government job and moved to Spain to teach English. Won't make a fortune but I get incredible satisfaction from seeing my students make progress and grow. I realised I must be doing something right when in my second year a kid I had had in my summer camp group for about a week came up to me in a school where I was covering for a sick colleague threw his arms round my neck and kissed me! I had obviously made an impact.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому +17

      That's awesome Martin. Nothing better than following your own path in life. Wishing you the very best for this new life phase!

    • @esviivse
      @esviivse 3 роки тому +3

      Martin! I'm doing something similar. I'll be moving next year to teach English.

    • @babytime1
      @babytime1 3 роки тому

      you're a fucking god, and i want you to know i know that, it will mean something someday :D

    • @rodrigogomes4677
      @rodrigogomes4677 2 роки тому +1

      That's amazing, congratulations! If more people had the same thinking as you, we would have less people making a living out of stolen money

    • @Shatha.T.Q.
      @Shatha.T.Q. 2 роки тому +2

      It's always about what makes us alive is success, not what society says is.

  • @godstransformation6129
    @godstransformation6129 7 місяців тому +1

    Today I Turn 28 years old 💪 I needed to hear this 🙏 thank you for being honest and motivating us 🌟💫💪❤️❤️ God bless you blessings and prosperity to you and your family

  • @privateequityguy
    @privateequityguy 2 роки тому +14

    *12 Life-Tips I wish I Knew In My 20s:*
    1. Don't Kiss and Tell
    2. Learn to be Brave
    3. Learn to Say No
    4. Develop a Code and Live By It
    5. Be Patient with Yourself
    6. Learn to Listen
    7. Avoid Debt
    8. Seek out a Mentor
    9. Develop a Space to Confined In and Ask Questions
    10. Be Kind, Be Compassionate
    11. World changes constantly, keep an open mind
    12. Stop Nail-biting & nail-picking habit and get back your healthy, good looking nails(we got you!)
    For those who are in the rush of changing their lives :-)

  • @cola286
    @cola286 5 років тому +368

    Sometimes the best videos, are the ones with less views. Thanks.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  5 років тому +14

      Thank you! I'm glad it resonated for you!

    • @reubanrajan2679
      @reubanrajan2679 4 роки тому +8

      I couldn't agree more. Among the truck load of garbage on UA-cam, I am glad that I found something so useful. Please try to put more videos 🙏.
      To be honest, I always had similar thoughts and I am actually in the process of moving to a new country. And I just turned 30.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  4 роки тому +4

      @@reubanrajan2679 thank you! Yes there will be more coming soon :) Just been hard at work on my business this past year. Congrats on making such a huge change in your life!

    • @reubanrajan2679
      @reubanrajan2679 4 роки тому

      @@midsonshort Thank you Daniel! Looking forward for more content!!

    • @israeltorres3592
      @israeltorres3592 3 роки тому

      The greatest comments are the short one with lots of likes and make you physically smile and agree. This one right here. @alt_b the most true shit ever even created in the human Brian. More true than the dude on video spitting knowledge....... (as I exhaled smoke, while trying not to cough). Crazy

  • @Whitewine-e2v
    @Whitewine-e2v 3 місяці тому +3

    Super valuable knowledge. I’m 29 and actually looking forward to 30s

  • @JacobAndJamal
    @JacobAndJamal 4 роки тому +288

    I’m 38 . Life goes fast man . It’s like graduate HS , bam boom , you’re in your 30s . I actually joined military, married, had kids, divorced, went to college, traveled , and did a lot of other things ... I still feel like I’m not where I want to be besides having done a lot . I suspect for some , no matter how much you achieve there will always be uncertainty and anxiousness . One thing I think about lately, is I’m finally realizing I can’t relate to “younger (18-29) generation as much as I use to . And it really seems wild when I meet say a 28yr old Doctor , or 30yr old pilot , 23yr old cop etc ; and I’m like damn , I am getting old .

    • @MichaelMichuki
      @MichaelMichuki 4 роки тому +29

      Damn, thats how i be feeling and i just hit 30. Ive got a kid on the way and so much uncertainity, im kinda used to being numb at this point.

    • @sushrutdeshmukh7564
      @sushrutdeshmukh7564 3 роки тому +21

      Im a 28 year old doctor, and I dont understand what my interns are talking about.

    • @MachoGololi
      @MachoGololi 3 роки тому +26

      Wow, this is exactly how I feel. I am turning 37 this year and noticed that I can't relate to people in their late 20s and early 30s anymore who I meet often in my travel groups. They seem to be figuring out stuff I already figured out,if that makes sense.Even more challenging is that most of my age mates have families now and I'm single and childfree in a conservative African country. I still feel like I have so much to explore.

    • @thecurrentmoment
      @thecurrentmoment 3 роки тому +19

      The best job I had was the one I consciously chose to get. It was a retail job and I could have 'done better' but what I learnt is that I loved because I actually consciously decided and CHOSE to be there
      I think this might be the problem when people have a lot and have done a lot but they feel something is missing. I think the act of coming up with an idea, make it a goal, and accomplish it is the key to a good life. It doesn't matter what you want really, but knowing that you actually wanted what you have is gold. That you actually chose it. You can really own your decision, as opposed to wondering if this is what you want

    • @99Gara99
      @99Gara99 3 роки тому +3

      Same (I don't have kids though)

  • @lori6616
    @lori6616 3 роки тому +171

    I was the same got married at 30, separated at 36. Hard. I’m now 40 and in my second year in college. Was shitting myself but I’m doing it.❤️ Thanks I really related to this video. It has all working out❤️ Happy birthday 🥳

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому +7

      Thankyou Lori! Sounds like you and I have been through similar circumstances. Wishing you the very best in this new phase of your life!

    • @lori6616
      @lori6616 3 роки тому +1

      @@midsonshort Thanks!! Getting there.. Really liking the videos..

    • @AlexKaduk
      @AlexKaduk 3 роки тому +7

      How does it feel going in college in 40? I'm about to turn 30 and thinking about pursuing a new direction, but I'm not sure I'll manage to finish it, and it feels like my time to study in college has already passed

    • @p-dee2288
      @p-dee2288 3 роки тому

      @@AlexKaduk same here man. How’s it going?

    • @AlexKaduk
      @AlexKaduk 3 роки тому

      @@p-dee2288 Eventually for now I focused rather on gaining better skills

  • @Salem_Rabbit
    @Salem_Rabbit 3 роки тому +99

    This guy has gone through his life. He is more honest than other guys in 20s telling what a guy should do in 30s.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому +8

      Haha, thanks man! I'll take the compliment. Glad it was valuable for you :)

  • @mirandapillsbury7885
    @mirandapillsbury7885 2 роки тому +25

    I'm 28 and panicking about going into my 30s. This video was very much so needed. Seems like a lot of what you said is applicable to my 20s. Guess we just truly dont change all that much lol. The only thing that really changes is our exterior but the interior tends to remain the same...we just learn how to cope better with age.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому +1

      Yes that’s true! A lot of the same issues and challenges are still present. They just morph into different forms!

  • @immortality64
    @immortality64 3 роки тому +144

    Watching this As someone who’s going into his 30’s feels like entering an exam with a cheat sheet ;) thanks for amazing knowledge

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому +8

      Haha, that's awesome to hear! Wishing you all the best for the next decade!

    • @KrisSamuel
      @KrisSamuel 2 роки тому

      I concur!

  • @sebakerman4922
    @sebakerman4922 5 років тому +92

    Fantastic advice. You've truly inspired me to dive into my thirties with optimism. Part of my fear is that I (at 33) haven't settled down, ended too many relationships, quit too many jobs, changed too many careers, moved too many times etc. The search hasn't ended for me and I feel like my age has become a defining characteristic, not of who I am, but what society wants me to be. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom. I can relate to everything you've shared in this video and I feel a tremendous comfort in the fact that you've answered a lot of these tough questions yourself. I'm thankful that I could be a part of your journey, and thank you for being a part of mine. All the best/ Sebastian

    • @Anonymous-bm8sv
      @Anonymous-bm8sv 3 роки тому +8

      Thank you for sharing these lessons. My thirties couldn't have started in a shakier way. I had recently refurbished my apartment in a new city and we ended our relationship before the pandemic greatly restricted my opportunity to meet new people. I was super optimistic about starting a new life and finally enjoying living in the city I loved so much. In the past ten months I have been alone so much. I teach online and I am barely able to see people apart from some friends. I hope 2021 will be a year in which I can put your tips into practice.

  • @TmHudsonArt
    @TmHudsonArt 3 роки тому +56

    41, never been married, been single since brief relationships in early 20s, no kids and never wanted em, living as a lodger. I did quit my crappy retail job last year to become a full time artist though. Yeah people like to judge and assume I didn't do the marriage and kids thing due to being defunctional in some way when in reality i just never wanted to do them. I'm not your average joe, I know that much. I think too many people live their lives a certain way because they feel it is expected of them....rather than it being what they really want to do.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому +8

      It sounds like you’ve always walked your own path. That’s a rare thing to do these days. Wishing you all the best!

    • @TmHudsonArt
      @TmHudsonArt 3 роки тому +4

      @@midsonshort oh i've done silly things in the past for the same reason as everyone else. Young and stupid and all.....but always been a bit different.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому

      @@TmHudsonArt haha, haven't we all! You should make some videos sharing your experiences!

    • @TmHudsonArt
      @TmHudsonArt 3 роки тому +2

      @@midsonshort Haha not sure about that. I have a broad Yorkshire accent so wouldn't do youtube vids where I am speaking....half the population of the world wouldn't know what I was saying and it sounds stupid when I try to tone it down too much lol...

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому +1

      @@TmHudsonArt hey you never know! Besides you can just add subtitles 😁

  • @NightstalkerX5
    @NightstalkerX5 3 роки тому +20

    I am 29 years old about to enter my 30s. First of all, loved your video! I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, pursuing this profession I got told "youll never make good money," "you will have to find a partner who makes more money," I did not listen to them. Now I am a Clinical Director and Do Private Practice on the side. Pursuing Private Practice and starting my own side therapy business was scary but I am glad I did , because now I make six figures a year and support my fiance completely financially while she gets through her doctorate program. If I listened to all the Naysayers I would not be where I am today. Looking forward to my 30s. :)

  • @kingbill4674
    @kingbill4674 11 місяців тому +4

    me watching this a 20 and I have figured most of these things out around 19 by listening to wise ppl like you, keep up the good work and anyone who is reading this age does not matter it's about the effort and energy that you put out into the world that matter the most

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  11 місяців тому

      That’s awesome! Wishing you all the best on your journey! 😊🙏🏻

  • @ShihtzuSammy
    @ShihtzuSammy 4 роки тому +24

    Im turning 28 this year and i always think about what my life will be in my 30s im worried and scared because of pressure.thanks for the sharing this video..

  • @skeemz84
    @skeemz84 4 роки тому +34

    I'm 36 with a decent career and just divorced . I felt like the relationship has held me back from so many things. Thank you for posting this video. It really gave me the mental boost I needed to chase what I really want out of life now.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  4 роки тому +1

      So glad to hear that it helped. There is a lot of freedom in moving on from the wrong relationship. It's painful, but powerful. Wishing you the best moving forward. - DMS

  • @Zach-ls1if
    @Zach-ls1if 2 роки тому +4

    Im a 36 year old, separated guy with a receding hairline, this video is very good, I watched twice and wrote three pages of notes.
    Thank you

  • @ICallBullTV
    @ICallBullTV Рік тому +2

    Best video about this topic, very authentic. Thank you

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  Рік тому

      Thank you! I appreciate your kind words and glad it resonated for you! 😊🙏🏻

  • @user-ww2iu1ji7f
    @user-ww2iu1ji7f 2 роки тому +6

    Lesson #3 is pretty deep. I’ll be 35 in a few months and I’m in a relationship where I’m not sure if it will go forward. The hardest part is I love the person and so does my family but inside me something is missing. I have never felt as much anxiety as I had this past year and I keep telling myself that is just a phase and things will get better. I know I have to make one of the hardest choices one way or another but it’s eating me up inside. I appreciate this video 👍

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому

      Thanks for sharing! It's never an easy choice when to end a relationship... wishing you all the best and hope things work out in the best way they can. 😊

  • @esviivse
    @esviivse 3 роки тому +47

    Though this video is 3 years old, it is timely for me as I've been so restless at 30 and wondering why I'm not like others who are settling or "established". Thank you!

    • @gavin3598
      @gavin3598 3 роки тому +2

      I agree also, that this video has aged quite well and was produced at the most perfect time.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому +2

      Glad that it resonated for you! Wishing you all the best! 🙏🏻

  • @mimimiox
    @mimimiox 4 роки тому +73

    I’m turning 24 in a month and actually panicked cause I though I’m already so old...watching this kinda took my anxiety away, thank you

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  4 роки тому +31

      No way! You are so young you don't even realize. I'm only just getting started myself... glad the video helped you!

    • @lyricsvaultla
      @lyricsvaultla 3 роки тому +9

      hahhahaha I'm 23 and I feel the same, this video made realize that I'm in the right way

    • @PotatoWiz
      @PotatoWiz 3 роки тому +9

      24 is young young

    • @GrimRepair
      @GrimRepair 2 роки тому +4

      People will tell you you're young ,you have time. I think that's unhelpful because you'll be 30 before you know it.

    • @mimimiox
      @mimimiox 2 роки тому +6

      @@GrimRepair the only comment that’s unhelpful was yours tbh

  • @Santi._.403
    @Santi._.403 3 роки тому +2

    I do admit, I don’t agree with all your choices or pieces of advice. But your candor and openness is so blindingly fresh that I’m glad I stumbled upon you. I hope you’re doing well!

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому

      Hey thanks Santiago! Glad you shared your views and hope we can stay connected!

  • @LinMitch51
    @LinMitch51 6 років тому +94

    The best lesson is the awareness that people want you to be like them.

    • @mastersaitama3070
      @mastersaitama3070 5 років тому +2

      Linda Swift r u sister of taylor swift ?

    • @G0LD.
      @G0LD. 2 роки тому

      Imagine having this awareness in your 20s

  • @graysonpeterjay
    @graysonpeterjay 8 місяців тому +1

    youre a very articulate and fluid speaker my friend. great stuff

  • @annettesjournal3637
    @annettesjournal3637 4 роки тому +44

    Thank you so much for your sharing! I’m in my mid-20s and there are a lot of struggles. I love to listen how you went through your 30s. This somehow gives me power to be prepared to what will happen ahead.
    Hello from Hong Kong btw~

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  4 роки тому +4

      So glad to hear that it helped! Your 30s will be a time of amazing experiences and growth! Enjoy the journey :)

    • @gnitrofitness6965
      @gnitrofitness6965 3 роки тому +1

      You will be just fine, do your best and live your life to the fullest. Pat your self on your back once in awhile, you work hard. Enjoy the ride!

  • @craig5322
    @craig5322 2 роки тому +4

    This is the first video I've seen by you, but I'm blown away by how wise and insightful you are! Thank you so much. I'm 36 and taking all this to heart.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks Craig, your words mean a lot to me! Glad the ideas were valuable for you! Wishing you all the best! 😊🙏🏻

  • @joaquimliengme4989
    @joaquimliengme4989 2 роки тому +23

    It's always the same, since 15, I always tought to myself: "Damn, people 10 years older than me got their shit squared" than I reach that age and realize. "nobody knows what their doing". I'm really lucky that now at 30, I have the opportunity to have my own business. Was really tired to walk in the fog but now I can see the stars.

  • @Lilliac2004
    @Lilliac2004 2 роки тому +3

    im only 17... I enjoy watching these type of videos and learning from those older than me

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому +1

      So glad they resonate for you! 😊🙏🏻 you have an amazing life ahead!

  • @Hlecktro
    @Hlecktro 3 роки тому +5

    Growing up, I did things my own way. School. Jobs. Always got punished and told I was wrong and treated like I had a problem. It wasn't until I was 25, after a life of misery I realized that it was actually a blessing. I've always just done my own thing and listened to my heart, after I cleaned up all of those early years of mental roadblocks. I was finally able to reach out and touch my soul on a daily basis. I've been able to achieve almost all of my dreams growing up. I was never worried about kids, careers, jobs, or families. That allowed me to avoid all the hang-ups a lot of people have about the world around them. Things that hold them back. Right now I'm 35, and I feel it's one of the best times of my life!

  • @Diaryofaqueen777
    @Diaryofaqueen777 3 роки тому +9

    This video was everything I needed. When you said why are you not doing the things that deep down inside are important to you? Just do it!” I needed to hear that. Thank you.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому

      Glad to hear that it resonated for you! 🙏🏻

  • @MeryKeit
    @MeryKeit 3 роки тому +12

    better late than never - 3 years later and this jam was recommended to me. It felt so warm watching it, as if talking to an old friend. Thanks for the video!)

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому

      Hey thankyou! I appreciate your kind words. Glad it was helpful for you 🙏🏻

  • @marksoberay2318
    @marksoberay2318 3 роки тому +1

    Great point about the "not getting around to it" ...action is truth period

  • @Rendani
    @Rendani 3 роки тому +7

    I'm turning 30 this year and I watch this every time I'm down and it never fails to cheer me up. Thank you. I keep repeating to myself: your environment is your choice, your environment is a choice....

    • @omen3949
      @omen3949 2 роки тому

      you've got this

  • @Jonezymon
    @Jonezymon 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you Daniel! Good boost. Facing my fears and am reassured by this video dude. 33 and cutting the bullshit from my life. No more excuses. Thanks man.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому +1

      You got it! Wishing you the best for the years ahead 🙏🏻

  • @alchimiaspiritului
    @alchimiaspiritului 3 роки тому +4

    39 here and i couldn’t agree more with everything you said. I appreciate very much your time and effort you put in these videos plus the added value of heartfelt, trully lived life lessons. Thank you. This is very inspiring. 🙏⭐️☀️🌈

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому

      Thank you for kind words!! I am so glad that they resonate for you, and wishing you all the very best! 🙏🏻😊

  • @watertribelife1280
    @watertribelife1280 3 роки тому +44

    I've seen this video a couple times over the years, I was 25, when you first made it now I'm 28 and life is kicking my ass. Lost a year to Covid like everyone else. And I'm the most lost I've ever been in my entire life. 2 years until I'm 30, which will be here and gone in no time. My friends have already settled in their careers, I can't even get my career started. Left college late and I'm bumming out the pandemic unemployed and searching for jobs in my field day in and day out and it just super sucks. This is just. Not how I saw my late 20's as an artist. I can't imagine the next decade, or 2 decades, jesus this is terrifying.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому +21

      I feel you, my friend. This last year or so kicked all our butts. Me included. I promise you that you will find a way through this time. Even though things seem off track now, believe me they are leading you to a new unique path that will be better for you long term. Hang in there, keep pushing forward, and know I’m always here to support you if you need sometime to talk to. 🙏🏻

    • @ridammisra1299
      @ridammisra1299 3 роки тому +1

      U can do it👍

    • @angewinou780
      @angewinou780 3 роки тому +1

      I'm also 28

    • @Yartism
      @Yartism 2 роки тому

      somehow all artists are ruined probably cuz they don't get their emotions intact, nothing personal. Check NFTs and blockchain arts it might be your future ticket. Don't do like the rest in NFTs now be innovative and u'll make it.

    • @FrostyIgnition
      @FrostyIgnition 2 роки тому

      First mistake was being an artist, more of a hobby than a career.

  • @pengzhang1957
    @pengzhang1957 3 роки тому +14

    Thank you Daniel! I just turned 30 this year and am feeling the pressure of settling down from the society. I totally agree with you they are just wanting me to be like them, to gave up. But I am not that kind of person neither, at least not yet. I want to pursue my goal. I appreciate you share your lessons and experience which is really helpful and make me more prepared for my next decade.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому

      Thank you Peng! Sounds like you have a clear idea of what you want, and I know you will achieve it! 🙏🏻

  • @parttimelarry
    @parttimelarry 3 роки тому +2

    Very well thought out and real. Cheers.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому

      Thanks Larry, I appreciate your kind words. 🙏🏻

  • @yuci2437
    @yuci2437 4 роки тому +28

    Thank you so much for sharing. As a person who recently turned 30, and probably would get a divorce very soon, I’m very happy to see this video before I sleep. I’m more assured and more confident as if I saw a mentor who has been there and done that. I’m less afraid for the coming years. Thank you again for the genuinity that is put into the video.

  • @gavin3598
    @gavin3598 3 роки тому +1

    At 39 years old now, quit career job of 15 years in February. Sold some items from my place, gave some things away, packed my car, and moved to another state to start over, not even a job. Felt locked into the job and career for years and feared leaving. My God, it's the best thing I could have done for myself. New life and living in peace. I only wish I had done it sooner. You are so true; people will question your move because they have given up on seeking adventure in their own lives and expected the same for me. You have to follow your own path and take the leap unless you'll never know what's on the other side. The other side of fear is happiness. I'm a living testament of it. Yes, you go through your initial concerns at first, but keep pushing through as it is necessary.

  • @slickzMdzn
    @slickzMdzn 2 роки тому +13

    Some of these rules don't have anything to do with your age. I'm 21 and got great inspiration from you. As Alan Watts put it:" You're under no obligation to be the same person you were 5 minutes ago." Thank you for this piece.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому +1

      Yes! I love that quote. Wishing you all the best and thanks for watching!

  • @erickim3710
    @erickim3710 3 роки тому +2

    This guy is a legend and this video is pure gold. This was recommended to me by the algorithm, and I have a feeling that this will go viral. Everyone in their 30s should watch this video.

  • @enjoyyourlife1342
    @enjoyyourlife1342 5 років тому +29

    Love this guy he just sounds like me I am 35 single n happy

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  5 років тому +2

      Aww shucks, thank you Akon! Glad you're loving life!

  • @jazzeclectikk
    @jazzeclectikk 2 роки тому +3

    This was so impactful Daniel! You have no idea how much this turned my perspective around at 33. I just realized I’ve been having a “mid life” crisis and your video said the ONE thing that’s been on my heart about your environment having a major impact on where you’re trying to go. Thank you so much for making this video (although it’s years old) it’s STILL relevant!

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому +1

      So glad it resonated for you Jazz! I’m glad that you are finding your way, and don’t worry we all many crises along the way! 😊🙏🏻

  • @CastOut555
    @CastOut555 3 роки тому +4

    Just came across this and it's so timely. Thank you so much. This helped bring me comfort!!!. All those points were golden. Especially people wanting you to settle down because they settled. The jealousy is real. WE still have freedom while although they did settle, aren't really happy. Loved "They dont want you to change but be like them". I see that more then ever. I enjoy the freedom of not knowing. Means there is room for opportunities, growth, new beginnings. 🤗👍✊
    My Fav. LESSON #6 and #7❣ Really needed to hear those

  • @ellieinspace
    @ellieinspace 3 роки тому

    this is great advice as I approach 30, thank you, daniel

  • @TipeONegatyve
    @TipeONegatyve 3 роки тому +14

    Turning 30 in a few months. Definitely have learned some of these lessons already but there's a lot of great wisdom here! Thank you!

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you, glad it was valuable for you. Wishing you all the best for the next decade 🙏🏻

  • @AENG1991
    @AENG1991 3 роки тому +1

    Found this jewel today. Great advice. 🔑🏁

  • @MrTerrorMG
    @MrTerrorMG 3 роки тому +6

    I guess I have a totally different perspective on the term "Settle down". I've never thought it as "settling for something", but rather in the way that an adult would tell a child to settle down. As in stop being irrational, speratic, hyperactive, etc. etc. For me I always interpreted it as "When are you going to stop being so chaotic, and settle/nest into a more stable/comfortable position".

  • @juanrdesantiago
    @juanrdesantiago 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much for sharing! I have just turned 30 a few months back. I’m struggling knowing that my life isn’t exactly where I would like it to be. I think that your videos [this is the first of yours that I’ve seen] really do help people. I’m one of them. Thank you!

  • @PunkBucket
    @PunkBucket 3 роки тому +7

    You absolutely smashed it out of the park. I've liked and commented to get the UA-cam algorithm working in your favour.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому

      Ahhh thanks! Glad it was valuable for you!

  • @martinprjr3334
    @martinprjr3334 2 роки тому

    You have no idea how valuable this video is to me. Something here stood out that no one has said to me yet. I think it changed my life today. So grateful, thank you for sharing.

  • @michemiche1764
    @michemiche1764 4 роки тому +10

    I'm 34 in two weeks, I got sooo much from this, thank you very much!

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  4 роки тому +1

      Glad to hear Miche! Wishing you all the best for year ahead :)

  • @ashleyromero5302
    @ashleyromero5302 3 роки тому +6

    This is actually rich advice and not vapid bs. So glad I went traveling around the world at 31 even though I was nervous I “should have been” buying property and settle down. Having those experiences has made me so much more open and exposed rather than hunkering down and closer to being the person I want to be! Now at 37 though, I want that home with a yard, fire pit, and cozy living rooms and cat room haha

    • @ItsJustAPlug
      @ItsJustAPlug 11 місяців тому

      how did you plan for going travelling

  • @fcv4616
    @fcv4616 3 роки тому +5

    I'm 32, turning 33 this month. But how I needed to hear this, especially point number one. I've been going through a long crisis for the last couple of years, and sometimes the anxiety of my future overwhelms me. Thank you so much for sharing this, mate!

    • @Obie1sand2s
      @Obie1sand2s 3 роки тому +1

      I’m 32 turning 33 next month, cheers and happy birthday crush the next decade fam 🙏🏽

    • @fcv4616
      @fcv4616 3 роки тому

      @@Obie1sand2s Thanks, mate! Happy birthday too, let’s make this decade amazing!

  • @infpbubble7549
    @infpbubble7549 2 роки тому +10

    So I turn 27 this week...i thought I'd get ahead by watching this video 😂 wow I'm so glad I did!!! So much great advice. I have learnt so much in my twenties already, can't wait to see what I will learn and be like at 40 😊

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому +2

      I’m so glad it was helpful for you! Wishing you all the best for your 27th year, and all the exiting adventure ahead! 😊🙏🏻

  • @samfisher5302
    @samfisher5302 3 роки тому +3

    This video was delivered with divine timing. I’m 31, and really needed to hear this. Thank you sir 👏

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому

      So glad to hear that! Wishing you all the best for the future. Keep me posted on your progress! 🙏🏻

  • @stephenbusscher
    @stephenbusscher 2 місяці тому +1

    look at you! you're delivering a motivational speech to an audience of over 200k people... and they love it!

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 місяці тому +1

      Thanks my friend! A great reminder for me 😊🙏🏻

    • @stephenbusscher
      @stephenbusscher 2 місяці тому

      @@midsonshort yeah, for sure! it’s cool that the childhood dream came true in the end. ✅

  • @Candiexoce
    @Candiexoce 2 роки тому +4

    Hello, I'm turning 30 in a couple of weeks and this video has made me prepared now! I am currently back in school studying to become a translator, which is something I've always wanted to do since I was in high school but didn't pursue because nobody else around me did. I've been scared lately as my birthday is coming up soon and I'm kind of unsure if I'm going on the right path. So I searched videos on becoming 30 and came across your video! I'm not sure where I'm going with this but... I just wanted to say, thank you so much for sharing your experiences!

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  Рік тому +1

      You’re welcome Candice! I’m so glad that it was helpful for you. Wishing you all the best for your 30s and this new exciting phase of your life! 😊🙏🏻

  • @Soulsoftemptation
    @Soulsoftemptation Рік тому

    Im an American living in Japan who will be turning 35 this year. I stopped drinking, got out of a relationship, and am now getting into a new job. Thank you for this video as I resonate and got a lot out of it! I'll be sure to revisit it from time to time.

  • @choklitsky
    @choklitsky 4 роки тому +9

    Thanks Daniel! Just turned 30 and finding that there's a lot of advice for your 20s but not 30s. I've started working on my dream of becoming a fulltime artist when I grow up.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  4 роки тому +1

      Glad to hear! Wishing you all the best in this next phase! I am now 42 and still not 'grown up'. So just keep on pursuing what you love to do! - DMS

  • @REDlipstickFASHION
    @REDlipstickFASHION 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you! This was really nice! I refer to this often as a pick me up! ♡

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому

      That makes me happy to hear that! 😊🙏🏻

  • @stephaniechang4371
    @stephaniechang4371 3 роки тому +3

    I just turned 30 and am feeling a little lost. Your video really puts things in perspective and is very encouraging. Thank you so much for sharing !! 😊

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому

      So glad to hear that it helped Stephanie! You have an awesome decade ahead, don’t worry about feeling lost. We’re all a little lost in some way. Enjoy the journey! 🙏🏻

  • @kjhunt218
    @kjhunt218 2 роки тому +2

    That relationship piece hit me.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому

      Glad that it resonated for you! 😊🙏🏻

  • @anthonyjaneta7251
    @anthonyjaneta7251 4 роки тому +8

    Came across this video, and you’re honestly a legend for posting this! Passing down knowledge and wisdom is one of the most honorable thing anybody can do and most people don’t haha. Thank you!

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  4 роки тому

      Aww shucks, thanks Anthony. Glad it was valuable for you. Wishing you all the best on your journey!

  • @guilletiger
    @guilletiger 3 роки тому +2

    Life has active and passive years, sometimes we wont be seeing much progress and sometimes progress would be staggering, we just need to accept life is a constant evolution and everyday will bring is closer to our goals in the way we expect or not

  • @nmejohnny3322
    @nmejohnny3322 4 роки тому +3

    Wow I am so happy this video popped up on my feed. Thank you.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  4 роки тому

      You're welcome man, glad that you enjoyed it!

  • @ReturnOfJackDawson
    @ReturnOfJackDawson 2 роки тому +1

    Daniel, I saved this video to my playlist to watch today… was driving and listening to you - couldn’t wait to come home and comment. Everything you said felt so close to home it’s incredible how you nailed every observation. As a guy that’s 33, I realize how people around you want to put you in the same mold to feel secure about themselves. The way you qualified relations as being either a hurdle or a propulsion also blew my mind. Thank you for your courage to share, for your optimism and positive outlook on life and willing to teach others. I don’t give a f about Anthony Robbins - you are far more inspiring that him. I can definitely relate to you. Thank you my friend

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому

      So glad that it resonated for you! I appreciate your kind words and encouragement 😊🙏🏻

  • @joshuataylor7504
    @joshuataylor7504 4 роки тому +11

    Hey man! Just about to enter into my 30s, feeling really content and excited about it, thanks for the help solidifying that idea. Keep up the great work.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  4 роки тому

      That's awesome Joshua. Wishing you all the best for the next decade!

  • @joshflugel
    @joshflugel 11 місяців тому

    Thanks for sharing. I also have a list of "things i learned in my 30s" but this sort of topics are rare in real life because everybody's attention is in mainstream topics and small talk.
    In my 30s I was doing so great I thought I'd never had to struggle again like in my 20.
    I am in my late 30s scrambling to turn the tables on two bad life events that happened, with the means and health I have left.
    I learned 2 things: Leveling up to meet new challenges never ends and Building a safety net is crucial.
    When things went south the safety net that my former self had put in place was key to absorb damage control and rebuild.
    Rebuilding in my late 30s must be done, even if my body and brain refuse.

  • @shadowg3
    @shadowg3 4 роки тому +7

    This video is gold, thank you, I'm 34 so I needed this...

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  4 роки тому +1

      Glad to hear that! Wishing you the best for your 30's!

  • @saintperthnorthcloud3850
    @saintperthnorthcloud3850 2 роки тому +2

    My life starts falling apart when i turned 30 and still is up to this time for more than 5 yrs now. What i learned actually is i don't give a f*** just let it fall as is.

  • @joshberg7944
    @joshberg7944 3 роки тому +3

    I'm 33 and everything you've said in this video feels really true and I find it very encouraging.

  • @tpespos
    @tpespos 2 роки тому +2

    I’m 28 so I’m excited to listen to this!

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому

      Glad it was valuable for you! 😄

    • @tpespos
      @tpespos 2 роки тому

      @@midsonshort lesson #5, your environment is your choice:
      Just 3 weeks ago I accepted a new (and better) job in Las Vegas, so I’ll be moving from boring Iowa to Las Vegas. So yeah your video helped 😁

  • @itsrandolphbischhh6592
    @itsrandolphbischhh6592 3 роки тому +4

    #1 is what I'm going through. I'm 32 no kids never been married no debt, but everyone in my life has tapped out. The feeling being by yourself must turn into daily self improvement.

    • @thedoghouse8900
      @thedoghouse8900 2 роки тому

      In the same boat. Self improvement & checking off goals is a must. Focusing on health next six months and then moving to Miami

  • @leonardmag2266
    @leonardmag2266 9 місяців тому

    I'm turning 30 this year and I found this video really helpful. Thank you!

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  9 місяців тому

      That's awesome! Wishing you an incredible decade ahead!

  • @colbybeam
    @colbybeam 3 роки тому +8

    I turn 39 in 12 days. This has really spoken to me. Hopefully, I can take the advice and apply it. The fear of being more sophisticated is so true.

  • @Prashansaa
    @Prashansaa 2 роки тому +2

    Coming across such an inspirational video in my 20s is really great.. I'm gonna re listen to it until each of these 7 lessons sinks down in my mind.. Thank You..

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you Prashansa! Wishing you all the best for the years ahead 😄

  • @enriquesuarez7113
    @enriquesuarez7113 3 роки тому +4

    I am 19 years old and I loved this video. I know I'm young, but I still get the fear sometimes that I am wasting my life and get aging anxiety. This video helps me realize that no matter how old I get I don't have to ever settle or conform with a life I do not wish to live in anymore. It puts me at ease while still motivating me

  • @VMTechnologies
    @VMTechnologies 2 роки тому +1

    Awesome content Daniel. Thanks a lot!!

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks Valentin, glad it was valuable for you 😊🙏🏻

  • @laurens7431
    @laurens7431 3 роки тому +9

    Amazing advice. I'm 36 and really feel this. I've been in school til 34, so that also had an effect.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you! Wishing you all the best for the next phase in your life 🙏🏻

  • @johnmccallister1818
    @johnmccallister1818 2 роки тому +1

    I'm glad you did this video despite the fears that opposed you -- thx :)

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому

      Thanks John! Glad it resonated for you!

  • @MrPapakura298
    @MrPapakura298 3 роки тому +4

    Thanks for making this mate! Just turned 29 and so much much what you talk about has been plaguing my mind, about to transition from my trade and get into hospitality work to free up more time for creative pursuits 👌

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому

      That’s awesome! Sounds like you have a good plan in the works. Wishing you all the best 🙏🏻

  • @nuriddinburkhonov5214
    @nuriddinburkhonov5214 3 роки тому +1

    Thanks for the solid advice. "Deep down you know" I love it. All the best to you!

  • @somranmusic
    @somranmusic 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you for sharing such raw and insightful details about your experience. As someone who is turning 30 soon, I have many thoughts and fears flying at me at light speed. Watching this video truly gives me comfort and help ease some of those fears.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  4 роки тому +1

      So glad to hear that Rane! Wishing you the best for the next decade ahead. Enjoy the journey :)

  • @MDobri-sy1ce
    @MDobri-sy1ce 3 роки тому +1

    When it comes to relationships, its surprising who ends up leaving, staying, and coming back later.

  • @AllanJeremy
    @AllanJeremy 3 роки тому +2

    Thanks for sharing Daniel!
    27 here. I hope 40s are taking you well so far.
    I have taken these to heart. Thanks again ✊
    PS, subbed too!

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  3 роки тому

      Thanks Allan, so glad to hear that they were helpful for you. And thanks for subbing as well 🙏🏻

    • @AllanJeremy
      @AllanJeremy 3 роки тому

      @@midsonshort Thanks too! For replying and for sharing.
      Cheers!

  • @christopherwells6650
    @christopherwells6650 4 роки тому +7

    Just discovered this. I feel a stone lighter just hearing someone else say everything that I have been thinking for last 2 years (I'm 31). :)

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  4 роки тому

      Glad to hear! Wishing you the best for the years ahead!

  • @AlessioBarelli
    @AlessioBarelli Рік тому +2

    This is my 100th time watching this. It's such a great video and is really helping me get through this strange stage in my life. So thank you Daniel and I wish you the very best and success on your journey 😊🙏

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  Рік тому

      Thank you Alessio! I really appreciate your kind words. Would you be open to chatting briefly and giving me some ideas on what resonated for you? Maybe we can chat via Instagram if that is easier? 😊🙏🏻

    • @AlessioBarelli
      @AlessioBarelli Рік тому

      @Daniel Midson-Short Hey Daniel, yes, of course I'll drop you a message on Instagram!

  • @hasnainumar_1
    @hasnainumar_1 Рік тому +2

    Wonderful inspirational speech. I'm 27 and not ready for life, but hopeful after watching this video, Thank you Daniel. :)

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  Рік тому

      You are welcome Hasnain. You are finding your way at your own pace, so hang in there and enjoy the journey! We’re here as a community to support you! 😊🙏🏻

  • @iloveyellow7214
    @iloveyellow7214 3 роки тому +1

    I just came from a video that said 30 and beyond women are "damaged goods"
    Dude I just turned 31 last January and broke up with my exes because we are not compatible because theyre always looking for validation from me. I was raised by my dad who worked LONG HOURS and is abroad 90% of the time while I was growing up and he taught me to be independent and have a healthy sense of respect for myself and others . And these men are telling me Im "damaged goods" just because I respect myself and I am independent
    Thank you. I love you(not romantically but as a person) Thank you for shaking me out of the "self pity shit" Ive created
    Sending you digital hugs from Manila
    You are a blessing to us "lost" 30 year olds. Thank you 😘

  • @FortressofSound
    @FortressofSound 4 роки тому +4

    Deep down I'm a musician and want to work in music for the rest of my life. I too made the mistake after college of falling into a more predictable and safe job situation, doing graphic design full time. I'm now 34, am terribly unfulfilled in my day job, and have been striving and failing numerous times in working in music. I don't plan on giving up, but the fear of being poor and in considerable debt is absolutely real. As much as I'd love to ditch everything, move out of Pittsburgh, and to LA (where the biggest opportunities are), the idea is incredibly daunting emotionally and financially. Anyways, your video at least alleviated some of that fear.

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  4 роки тому +3

      You can always find ways to express yourself musically even without leaving your job. Maybe try live streaming playing on twitch or youtube, or uploading your music to soundcloud could be a good start. Even if you do it once a week at least you are using your talents and getting better. Keep at it my friend, you will find a way to live the life you truly desire. - DMS

  • @JacksonSee333
    @JacksonSee333 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks for sharing advice that holds up and resonates years later. Very impactful stuff

    • @midsonshort
      @midsonshort  2 роки тому +1

      Hey, I’m glad it helped! Wishing you all the best! 😊🙏🏻