It's TOO LATE to get your life together in your 30s
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Seems like a huge chunk of us spent our 20s battling some kind of depression. Says a lot about the way things are.
I was thinking the same
The world is going down, and the us very fast.
Indeed crazy if we stop and think about it.
@@thomasmueller2319 yeah it is. It’s only gonna get worse cuz it has to in order for something new to take it’s place
@@GaminHasard it’s very sad. So many lonely and disconnected souls here…
I'm 60 years old and I didn't start getting my life together until I was 30. I have no regrets.
No regurts
@@sheepleslayer586 whats a regurt?
@@arenuzzle6282 it's like yogurt, but you have it again
Amen, I aspire to obtain the same
@@arenuzzle6282 do not regurgitate according to Google translate
I got my life together in my 40's. Teenage years lost to war and immigration, twenties lost to a debilitating illness and recovery from it, 30's lost to having had to catch up on education and making money that I could not do in my twenties due to the illness...Got finally everything together in my 40's, living my best life. It's possible. And sometimes you just don't have a choice, life does not run in a straight line for everyone, so you have to make it WHEN you can, whatever that age is for you.
Jesus christ i needed to SEE THIS. You're a true champ. I can only hope to be as badass as you are.
Thank you for your story reminds me to not give up, im at my mid 20s right now battling physical and mental illness still hoping for the better
Inspiring story. I began to sort my life recently, and i am almost 40. I have not been through war or serious ilness, but i had emotional problems in my 20,s, which i could not solve, so i escaped from them. fortunately, i did not become a drunk, addict or anything, just felt stuck in a loop. Life is a not a game when you have to check the boxes, make the quest before anyone else etc. I am still singel, but well,n ot everyone is meant to have a family and kids, does not mean your life does not hold value. You gotta seek your own path, not emulate what people around you do. Some of them are clueless just you were , but just try to hide it.
I'm 23 and I needed this. Thank you so much! I just started studying in a foreign country, alone and away from my home. I feel like I'm loosing my youth sometimes.
Inspiring. Did you end up marrying or starting a family too? Or did you prefer staying single?
I wasted my 20s mostly on a career that wasn't for me. Last year (when I was 32), started an online fitness coaching buisness and started to grow, enough to quit my 9-5 job. Currently I'm 33 and still working on it, still growing. It is never too late to turn your life around. I'm 33 and literally starting a new career.
I’m the same age as you. I currently work in healthcare but I am just burnt out. I make a decent living but I just want to do something else with my life. I feel like there’s more to life than throwing scrubs on at 7am and working 12 hour shifts in a hospital. Everybody thinks it’s an awesome field, but it’s honestly overrated and exhausting.
Thank you yes that's what I want to believe it's never too late I'm 29 and things seem bleak and I feel dragged down by a lot of things but I'm still trying
@@jtc9098 are you a nurse that's my dream job I want to work in a nursing home tho I use to as a psw and miss it but I totally understand take some time for yourself do little things you enjoy here and there xx you can even try to do a second career or hobby you love wish you the best
I'm 38 and attempting to start a new career. I'm trying anyway.
@@daks8888 Yeah man! Fk it
Im 40. 2 years self teaching. Got my first software engineering job 3 months ago.
Stay focused!
@Dan Lons my first comment was deleted. Here we go:
6 months head in HTML/CSS and Javascript to understand how web development work. Then turned focus into Python and stuck with it. I'd do 3 Python problems daily over and over again until every single concept stuck.
After I was comfortable enough with it, started doing every single youtube Python project follow along video I could find. Then I'd do them on my own over and over.
Applied for at least 20 entry level jobs until one landed. (I'd send my very modest portfolio even if I wasn't the fit they were looking for.)
@Dan Lons I find that focusing on the process and not the goal was key for me.
Doing 2 to 3 Python exercises a day became automatic, like brushing teeth. It stuck.
Did you come across some ageism before finally landing your job?
@@tonybp Not that I am aware of. Then again, it's remote working. But I only care for the employer's opinion on me being 40. They only cared about my skills.
@@PhreakPhantom so where did you find remote jobs?
A lot of comments say “I wasted my 20s”. Nah man, if you’re still here, you survived them, you’re on your path and all those years were valuable in shaping who you are today. Forgive yourself for not living up to some imaginary ideal and just focus on today and tomorrow. You got this ❤
Thanks man, I actually started thinking like that as well, like look at the world today, I dont feel bad for getting older and reaching 30, hell we earned this, we survived all the crazy shit and it seems that more is coming :D
@Michael Davis Thanks man, I really needed to hear that. I’m 25 almost 26 and I have been beating myself up for not living more when I was younger.
Thank you my brother god bless you
Exactly. There is a video with Steve Harvey and he says 99 percent of people "waste" their lives in their 20s. It's just the way things go. You're not alone and trust me, being in your 20s when the 2008 bubble hit, yeah that has long lasting effects.
If you are 30 now, I'm 31, you have MADE it this far. It's not all on you. Now the future and your next Decisions is all on you. Only you can change it. Don't worry about the past. It's done. Make the memories and experiences work for you.
Godspeed everybody. We all have a purpose here.
Yep you only wasted them if you dont learn anything from it both the good and the bad.
I was making $35k at 35. Now at 40, I am making $150k, own a home and have a kid on the way. Its hard when you are in the thick of being at rock bottom to believe life can turn around, but it absolutely can. You just have to have a concrete methodical plan and be patient. Cut out all destructive friends, addictions, etc and get your health, spending and daily routine straight. The most important thing is to keep learning the skills and knowledge you need to get to where you want to be.
I hope I can have a turn out like this.
@@daks8888I acknowledge I am very lucky and won't claim it was easy or that it is guaranteed but you definitely can increase the probability of good things happening to you if you set yourself up for success
Just curious brother..what do you do for living?..and what plan changed your life when you were earning 35k?
@@daks8888nothing is guaranteed and I am no doubt very lucky, but making a plan and following through will at least make your life better in some way.
@@sohelkumarsamantaray973 I am in marketing. I quit my job, took some certification courses (which in actually were practically useless but were good to help get my foot in the door) and then started at a low level role in the career field I wanted. I hopped jobs every 1.5 years, which is going to increase your salary faster initially than staying at a place working towards a promotion.
Im 32 and homeless in a place far away from home. I took everything for granted and thinking about my mistakes in the past really took a toll on me mentally. Now Im gonna start a job, starting to be hopeful again. We can still do it if we really want to.
edit : I'm doing great now guys! I got a new warm home and having complete meals a day. Im so thankful for the great chances I got recently and was so busy. Now I'm planning to pursue or should I say continue my degree. It just proves that nothing is impossible if you really want to. Stay strong brothers👊
Here's a secret no one will tell you... Anyone over 50 would give everything they have to be 32 and homeless, including Jeff Bezos, Warren Buffet, Elon Musk, etc. You have something they would give all their fortunates to have, another 20+ years added to their lives. You are richer beyond your imagination, and maybe that is the problem, it's beyond most people's imagination so they can never value while they have it.
Can you give an update>?
You got this 💪❤❤
Wish you best
I wish you All the best keep going don't stop and don't ever give up you got this
I'm the ultimate late bloomer. I wasted my 20s and most of my 30s. It wasn't until my early 40s that I decided to go back to school. It's true, it's never too late.
Well to college twice and going to work as a waiter on a cruise in my 40's, i mean late late late bloomer here.
🤝🙏💪 I want this to I wish us all the best of luck💪💪💪
Diftor heh smusma
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Yesterday at age 42 I made the first step in applying for College. I believe it's not too late for me or anyone
Ok but will they give you work, when you will be 40 years old engineer without experience yet? I dont think so
Don t worry man, im 32 since may and started my life at 31, i have same plan for next year to go to collage... its never to late for nothing. Yes it is harder, but nothing imposible, wish you the best.
Depressed at 50 then changed my life at 52 with therapy, now I have a new outlook on life and completely new career and never been happier.
Congrats...and thank God 🙏❤️🙌
Thank you for sharing. I feel sometimes it’s too late but reading this comment section I realized many others are in similar situations. We’re not alone, and I hope you continue to be happy.
Thanks, because I thought I should shoot myself now. This title alone should be cancelled! Because some might really just have the gun next to them.
I'm glad I read this because 50 is staring me down and I'm at a loss.
What therapist
I'm 25 years old, and I've messed up a lot until now. I didn't finish college, stopped attending classes, and at times, I've even thought that my life is beyond repair.
relatable, 26 here but same, and dunno what job to get now if i can get any
Almost 24 and this is abt to be me. But im willing to work retail for now but no one is hiring. Idk what to do but im trying to think of something. Also not going back to school b/c I can’t afford to put myself through it anymore
I wen't back and finished high school at 29, took 3 years. Now, at 35, just graduating university, keep at it bro, make your brothers proud. We believe in you.
all the best to you, you still have time and will figure it out! You got this!
As OLP says life is waiting for you, it’s all messed up but we service.
Whenever I feel bad about not getting my shit together at 27 years old, I come back to this video and it gives me motivation to keep on goin. Thank you Dorian
Dont give up my brother
**Different Paths:** Each person's path in life is different, and what works for one person may not work for another. Your friends may have followed a more traditional route to success, but that doesn't mean that your path is any less valid or meaningful.
I feel like everybody that feels like they wasted their 20's due to depression or other issues needs to take a second to mentally forgive themselves for those years to be able to move forward without all the guilt and extra baggage
Some of us are now getting help after the fact, but I guess it's better late than never. Wish I could have gotten a diagnosis for my mental health before my 20s but I'm doing better now in my 30s. :)
Maybe it's easy like this for neurotypical people but for me it's a constant struggle. I can't just "take a second", forgive myself and done, everything magically changes for better. In every single moment I would have to be aware of my true priorities in life. It's impossible, it will always be.
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Beautiful and very true
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I'm 32. Never been so broke in my entire life. This video helped me to believe that I still can do something.
We've been there. You just gotta get up. Apply for a job. Suck it up. That's the only way.
@@copainlivreur8962 and live a meaningless capitalism world with minimum wage to survive!
@@kentajin7860 spent one year in northern Michigan. 15$ an hour makes you a good living there. Much better than the above minimal salary in the UK. You guys from the US live the best lives, stop talking tankie shit
You're not alone. I've had negative balances in my bank account more than I have fingers and toes. The worst was when someone nearly half my age had to pay for a dinner we went to. Can't tell you how embarrassing that was. It's rough to see the light when you are so swamped with hopelessness. There is light at the end of the tunnel, brother. Give yourself a break, get back on your feet, persist. It will get better, I promise you.
Me too bro. I’m 31 and I’m currently living at my dads and looking for work. I have developed alcohol use disorder and I just feel bleh. I had a job from 16-26. But since then I’ve gone downhill in ways. Feel lonely too
I turn 35 this month and am not happy with where I am in life. Though this video is 2 years old, it couldn’t have popped up at a better time! I was feeling defeated like it too late to pivot and start anew. But this gives me hope. It’s never too late to change the trajectory of one’s life. ❤
You're not alone at all, I'm 35 in March and wow do I feel so lost and defeted. But you're right this video has helped and given a lot of hope. You've got this! I hope you have a great birthday too 💚✨️
@@Thewrongshoes2 as long as we’re alive, we’ve got options, and we can change our trajectory. We just have to made the decision, and strive for the life we want. We’ve got 5 more years until we’re 40… let’s grind these next 5 years out so we can coast when we are older. ✨
My daughter’s bday is in March 🥰. I hope you have a great bday as well! 💙
@@nell_uhh Thank you! Wishing ypur daughter a fabulous birthday as well! And very very wise words! Thankyou for that as well. The time is now, let's GO! 💚✨️
@@nell_uhh I agree 💯
@@Thewrongshoes2dont give up
Brother, I appreciate you putting this video out into the universe. I’m 34 years old and I’m at the lowest point of my life. I’ve been a plumber and struggling musician for the last 10 years of my life and neither one of them have gotten me where I want to be. I’ve been spending the last month of my life trying to figure it out and get back on track after losing my girlfriend of 3 years, then my job and house. I’m now to a point where I’ve exhausted all of my savings and just looking for answers. But thank you for putting this out there🙏🏼
I’m so sorry to hear what happen to you. I hope you find what you’re looking for.
Im in the same place Brandon. Ngl im kinda scared. January i wont be able to make rent or major bills. Time is up now.
You can do it. Things will get better!!! ❤
@MrNecryptic this is the case for many. Many countries system is corrupt and getting worse. Just time to change our approaches. Look at what you do have (ability to learn or other advantages) and focus on working to your advantage. ❤
WOW bro its crazy you say this bc i want to be your profession! (become plumber, learn instrument) I have no skills I will be 24 in 2 months, but want to get to where you are, but you feel like going elsewhere. funny how life works
There's been people who got their life together even at 40 and 50, so it's really never late to change it!
I'd say you're wrong especially in today's society.
@@nocause5395 I definetly disagree. The average age of an author for their breakout book is 36.
@@TheSlickmicks How many authors out of millions make it? Let's be real, the numbers don't add up. You're more than likely to fail the later you change than you are to succeed and that's just a fact. Could it happen, sure. Is it likely, no, statistically
@FuckOuttaHere nope, it's possible for most people, the ONLY thing you have to have is will and determination to do it, from then you can gather everything else
@@nocause5395 In today's society men are at their top earning years from 40-60.
Got my life together at 34. I'm now 41. Never been happier
How? 😇 pls share your story 🙏🏼
@@mkbriljante sure! Started doing drugs and drinking at about 12 years old. Long story short lived a crazy life for over 20 years. Finally, i got sick and tired of being sick and tired. So on October 11th, 2015...I hit my knees and cried out to God. He heard my cry. A literal weight was lifted off of me that night. Been sober and the start of a different journey since I got off the floor. Not just sober...but a different person altogether. I'm not angry anymore. I'm not jealous. I love life. I went to college and got a degree in substance abuse counseling. It took God to straighten me out. I was a mess.
@@billymadison4903 hope you stay blessed, love that brief story 🙏
@@Leonidas037 thank you! Same to you!
That’s right success is so individual
I'm 33 and turning 34 in a month or so. My life is absolutely miserable, i did everything wrong and closed myself hard to everything for the last 10 years or so. Never finished anything i did and now i'm in the middle of a serious anxiety disorder, fear of death, of where i am, of my parents dying. Its rough, but i'm trying hard to learn coding, got into a psychiatrist, a psychologist. God thiis is rough and i never though a video in the internet would be something that help me, even if just a bit. But thank you.
keep pushing man. the human spirit is indomitable
it gets better but its hard hope you get this
Success is subjective
Im 27 and trying a different job and felt like i was job hopping a lot and i feel so insecure, but wasnt lazy i was just lost and unsure of what i wanted and i never listened to myself. Now that i went to therapy it helped me understand that i should just do what i enjoy rather listen to other people or compare myself. Now im going back to school to be an a LPN (practical nurse)
Do you enjoy being a nurse?
I'm mid 30's now and practically threw away my entire 20's due to depression. I never had help with it. Currently I'm definitely a lot more confident and decided to focus on coding myself to earn a better living. Wish me luck folks 🙏 😅
I turn 33 in the fall. I also spent all of my 20s in a deep depression. Good luck with your aspirations! 🍀 You can do this 💪
You got this brother!...
You’ve got this 💪🏼♥️
Don't let nobody tell you that you can't do iT! MICHAEL you can DO IT!!
Dont rush during your journey
You could find yourself getting stuck and doubting your abilities and you never want that
Itll stall your journey even more
I'm almost 33 and unemployed, living with a family member. I feel like a failure. In my mid 20s I was married, had a child, and a house. We got divorced a few years ago and my life fell apart. I'm hoping I can get it back together.
You can and you will. Take it one step at a time and stay focused. As long as you’re breathing, there’s still hope
I agree, keep grinding... only way your going to loss is if you stop moving. Keep fighting
You got this. Don't give up. Do your research, create a plan, execute it. Believe in yourself.
Life happening to you, does not make you a failure. Keep watching videos like this one and reading the comments to remind yourself that you are not alone.
Exactly you got divorced. Who thought that was good! Let me guess, your former friends.
I just turned 33, I'm doing now what I should've done 10 years ago but I was too retarded at the time, didn't know what the fuck I was doing. I think I'm not going to be successful until I'm 40. Stuck in jobs I despise. But this is literally the only card I have left, unless I miraculously win lotto or something. Life is tough but I'm still thankful for it.
Learning to code after 30 is no small feat,
and you've not only mastered it but also inspired many
well done
I got out of prison at 31, started a wonderful career at 33 (hired in at $14/hr, now salaried with full benefits), got married at 36, and had 2 kids at 40 and 42. Life seems pretty good to me and I was in prison a little over a decade ago.
I'm really proud of you story I am really happy for you even though we don't know each other.
Good to hear that..Wishing you more happiness and joy❤️
Impressive man. Good for you ✊
Congratulations and thank you, this made me have hope
You don't know how much of an inspiration your story is to me. I felt like my life collapsed over the past 6 months. I have been battling my own demons and issues and constantly in doubt about trying to break free from my past. If you can make a success and find happiness then why not.
I’m a late bloomer. I didn’t treat my 20s right. Now I’m in my 30s doing way more that I would’ve screwed up in my 20s. A great childhood is so important because I believe a large part of us didn’t use our 20s wisely due to what we endured as children, and unresolved, it carried over into adulthood. We gotta get to the root of things, heal, and keep moving forward.
It's so true that we spend our 20s thinking that our childhood was a disaster and end up doing nothing and making another decade of ours a disaster.
Yea, in my teenage years couldn't have fun, because my parents were overly protective. I had to be home before 10 PM every night, even when I was 17 years old. When I got 18 and escaped that "prison", went all in and fucked up 5 years of my life without doing anything productive, only living pay check to pay check and partying. Some things have to be done, at the right time. My parents are great and they only wanted what was best for me, but they failed to give me freedom. They saw that when it was too late, and gave my brother the freedom I never had. 😁
Very very true!! I’m still trying to heal from my childhood
So true. Science is finally validating our experience. We can get to the root through therapy and intentionality. And then we can heal with time and patience.
Hit the nail on the head!
My heart almost jumped out of my chest when I read the tittle but this video helped me not to see myself as a complete failure. I'm 26 and I haven't done anything with my life because I lost passion for life and the things I used to love. I thought it was depression but yesterday I had my first therapy session and they made me realise that maybe it's all in my head and I just need to change the way I think.
I can relate to your post. I'm in my 30s and started on a career change but got hit with major depression and been working through that. I know when I'm better I'm energetic and ambitious but that side of me isn't back yet. Well done for going for therapy and getting help. You're going to be ok. Like you said, a new perspective can change everything. Taking steps forward no matter how small and trying not to beat yourself up about the past
I was 26 when I started my change. It took many years until I hit 31 before I got my degree and then had to take entry level jobs to build my resume. Life is not an on switch. When you start to get passions you will find it is a dimmer and over 10 years it slowly increases. My passion was to prove people wrong that I was a loser who with ADHD was restarted when I was 26. It fueled me and I went to a community college to take just 2 courses I would enjoy. I get straight A's! Those credits are transferable to a state university btw. I worked crappy side hustles and kept at it with school and kept going and going. You can do it. I proved my naysayers wrong.
Maybe if that doesn't motivate you find something else. Win at something! Do you love cars? Take a mechanic cert program with several courses and work at a corvette dealership. Love fashion? Go take art courses and apply after 2 years to a fasion institute. You get the picture
**Success at Any Stage:** Success is subjective and can be achieved at any stage of life. Whether it's personal fulfillment, professional accomplishments, meaningful relationships, or other forms of achievement, success is not restricted by age but rather by dedication, effort, and resilience.
I left home at 19 started working and believe me I struggled just to get by. I'm now 47 and I have only 4 years left to pay off my house. I have a large 401k and plenty of money in my 3 savings accounts. While my friends spent their 20s partying I worked and saved money. Of all my friends I'm the only one with almost no worries and I've been able to travel the world have a new car every 3 years and no stress. I don't regret spending my 20s preparing for my future.
Just wanted to echo the sentiments in this video. When I was 29 I was unemployed, living at home with my parents, and just played video games all day. I went back to school (community college) and got my RN license at 32. Made 100k my first year. I'm 36 now. I'm single, own my home, car, making 110k a year with no debt other than my mortgage. Life is good. It can be done.
thanks you inspire me
What’s an RN license
@@ccplusplus5333 Registered Nurse
@@victoriastroud4820 thanks
Hard Work baby!
I was poor most of my life - had a great opportunity in my late 30s and eventually got my career going. Never too late!
🙂🙂🙂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💪🏾💪🏾♥️🙏🏾!!!
NEVA!!…… FUCK what “THEY” gotta SAY!
Never to late for anything,people,the only time is when you're in the grave.
What would have happened if you never got the opportunity in your career? Do you even think you would be where you are today?!!
Gives me hope, thanks!
@@donaldlyons17 But they did. And they are. Gahhdamn. The point is to try. Majority of people just give up and accept their fate. Didn't get the job? Try again. And again.
One thing that sets us back in our mind is living ahead of our time, such as calling your self 40 when you're 37. It's also a good thing to be able to live in the moment but I think the proper balance is key. What do I know though, I'm watching this video still feeling stuck.
I'm now in my early 40. Every decade has gotten better. Now in my 40's I have a great job and life is good. Don't listen to people that say you can't improve your life.
Yep. Beware of people who claim you can't do something.
Exactly. All I ever hear is tons of defeatist talk. Anyone who says there's ever a point in life where it's too late to improve has zero idea what they're talking about and needs to grow up.
exactly. They are just the ones who never did anything with theirs!
Any kids at all? Going to have any?
Thanks this is so encouraging
Absolutely true! At 35 I quit drinking, smoking, and completely wasting my potential at a factory job where I'd worked for 10 years and where the last day of work was almost identical to the first. I threw that whole life away and made a big break - not necessarily a clean break but a big, dramatic break. My friends who wanted me to hang out with them and stay drunk were angry and the friends I had who wanted the best for me understood my leaving. I left town. I left everyone. I hit reset.
I started out with only the money I could make in busking (which is no more and no less than hustling with a guitar) and odd jobs. But I lived cheap with no need for alcohol, tobacco, and other ludicrous expenses. I bought ten big notebooks, a Parker fountain pen, and started writing. I read James Clear's 'Atomic Habits'. I began waking up at 4 A.M. and running every other morning. I started a study routine. I began making a new, tiny circle of friends who were trying to make their own lives better. I read, diligently, the works of great people of the past. I still do all this on a daily basis and it costs nothing.
Now I have new problems but they are the problems of a person progressing, of a person getting better. I am 36 - a year has passed - and I don't recognize myself. I have my own business now and it is growing every day. I was homeless then and my prospects were shrinking every night. I just assumed I was too old to change.
What is your business in? How did you change so drastically in one year?
@@TheFxEditor I do repair work, painting, and installations on residential properties. Most of my "work" time is spent networking and advertising. A lesson I had to learn quickly was that not everyone is my customer. I only do the highest paying clients now in the richest part of town (unless it is an elderly person, for example, who really does need an urgent job done - then I'll help them out).
I managed to change so drastically because of what I've cut out of my life. I had just as much time then as I do now but I wasted every minutes of it proactively. I saw free time as something needing to be filled up. What I've realized is that the progress I'm making now isn't all that amazing - It's the progress I would have been making all along if I didn't have all the obstacles I'd placed in my own way. For example: a year ago if I'd done a small repair job and made, say, $1,000 I would let the news out to my friends. They'd be knocking on my bedroom door within 20 minutes asking where the party's at. It might seem like a stupid problem but that kind of mindset was holding me back.
In short: I've cut out all the time-wasting (and it was almost all time-wasting) and I started treating my hours as sacred.
From men we tend to come into our own around our mid 30s. The sooner the better most definitely but once the 30s come creeping in it's like there's an inexplicable paradigm shift that unlocks the drive to do more and become better. For those who aren't frittering their lives away on useless habits that is.
ho w much money
@@ElliotBrownJingles 20 k a month is a lot be content🙏🏼 resd the Bible now g time to secure ur eternal life
I finished medical school and became a doctor at 34. Through my early 20's I barely survived due to depression. It can be done.
My best friend was an immigrant from Russia who had a very dysfunctional family. Gifted in math and physics from a young age but her family dysfunction prevented her from finishing college and she had to drop out as a teen. Fast forward she got a full ride scholarship to UC Berkeley and is now , as a 42 year old, in her 2nd year as a math PhD and living her best life. It's never too late!!
I was in a severe car accident when I was 20. Almost died. Lost my fiance in the wreck. I'm 35 and I'm just now getting physically and mentally stable enough to start to get my life together. Thank you for reminding me that I can still get my life together. Further proof to never give up.
I’m so sorry for your loss
You've got this!
What a terrible thing to go through right at the age when we’re “supposed” to be getting our lives together and enjoying the best years of our lives. I can relate although my story is different. I’m happy you’re finally starting to feel better.
True inspiration bro🥹🫡
Sorry for your loss god bless you 🙏🏿
Some of us lost our childhoods and a good portion of our 20s to trauma, abuse, mental illness, or some combination of the above. This is our time to truly shine, it's never too late.
real shit
This 😭
Nah, as someone in my 40s I can tell you, it IS TOO LATE to get your life together in your 30s... It just simply is too late lol. You are 31, like ok good, 32, yeh no problem, 33 still fine! 35 pfff easy, 38 nah I am young! 39 and... hmmm shouldn't I have like 3 kids going to school by now....? lol... Too late for love, for family, for children, for carieer change, for everything. Why? Cause at 40s you will be in fkin pain most of of the time, tired, exhausted, bored and you will just give up. And datng a 30 year old is a nightmare.... everyoe is divorced, weird or with kids and debt lmao...
@@memfis3858 No, it's not too late. You just gave up.
@@SimilyYT Of course. There is no reason to start a family or a new life after 40s lol. You can't even enjoy that. I know some ppl can be happy just cause sun shines, well, some ppl can't. That's how it is. There is "oooh you can be who you want" or "oooh you can fulfill your dream just don't give up" or "uuu life is so beautifull" lol. It doesn't work for everyone. Actualy, I have never a person who managed to have a happy life lol. We all just go to work every day, eat, sleep and then die lmao. So why bother anyway? And after 40, 50, you are just not so sharp anymore, you have pain, sickness, you will fall asleep on your dreamy trip around the world lol... So ya, if you didn't travel around the world in your 30s, you probably never will lol... all other dreams- just the same situation.
Thank you for this video. I'm freshly 33 and still living at home with severe mental health issues, rotting away by playing video games. I'm finally addressing my ptsd and trying to get my life into gear. It's slow going but I've decided I'm going to volunteer to work on my social skills and then want to study. I found this while trying to give myself a pep talk and that I can't give up now even though things feel hopeless. I needed to hear someone else's story and the comments here have been so inspiring. I need to be kinder to myself and know everyone has to start somewhere. Wishing everyone else here lots of luck with getting themselves together for a happy and healthy future. 💚
Wishing you the Success bro 🎈❤
@English_Currentaffairs Thank you 😊 And to you.
Every individual has unique talents
Thank you for this video! I am in my late 30s. I started to change my life 3 years ago when I decided to go to a film academy after I wasted my whole life playing games moving nowhere and wasting time on worthless things. I had a passion for film my whole life but was too lazy to do anything. My biggest enemy was laziness and I am finally coping with my enemy. Thank you for this video because it is true what you say. it is hard and I need it to watch this to remind me to go forward.
age should not be a defining factor in determining a person's worth
30 was my wake up call.
Me at 29- no driver's license, no money, lived in my moms house.
Me at 31- got my license, got a really good paying job and now own my own home.
It can be done. You just need the motivation.
That is excellent, Drake! I'm mega proud of you.
You went from no money to owning your own house in 2 years? LMAO 😂😭👍👍
@@BEATmyguest31 Covid worked in my favor heavily.
Just turned 29 and am in the exact same place you were. Hope I can start to turn things around soon...
@@BEATmyguest31 maybe got a cosigner 😂😂
I am a 38 year old Doordasher, living back with my parents right now. Most days I don't believe that life can get better, or that I will ever amount to anything more, but still I wake up at 5 am EVERY DAY, and I get on my computer, and I try to figure out what I'm doing in this life. I haven't seen the fruits of my labor, and don't even think I am close to that light at the end of the tunnel. But I will keep trying until the day I die, and I thank you for your video, and some MUCH needed positive reinforcement today. Again, thank you so much!
You're the man goodluck to you lad
Everything will definitely get better for you, because you want to keep trying, and that's the key - your choice of direction in life. Good luck with all the things you plan to do or the things you're doing right now! Just a bit of support from a stranger ❤️✨
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Life is not a race, as you mentioned you are almost there. Focus on the end of that tunnel and you'll for sure get there! Wishing you the best!
Great attitude my friend. I'm 33 and living at home currently too. Figuring out where I'm supposed to be, as well. We are all gonna make it. Keep grinding my man
Great message! This is something that isn't said enough. I felt exactly the same. Then i had to realize that lost time isn't wasted time and as long as I'm alive, I still have a chance to improve my life.
pursue your dreams with greater confidence
my parent did incest and emotional incest and it took over my child hood and 7 years of my early adulthood.. he didnt want me to be become adult.. or live separated from him he used me as adult replacement whenever he didnt has woman avail..
it took over my life and the abuse were draining life out of me.. until one day my sibling told me what he did.. something.. fire in me woke me up, stand up againts him
moved away, took every single thing what he used to control my life, changed my information.. another 5 years were hiding from him tried find out where I live
I was mentally fucked up for 4 years. Days went just to stay sane and somehow try to make sense what happened to us... I was living my first 25 years in fog I had no life of my own
but in the end understood I cant be like this anymore. I am adult no one cant fix things for me I have to do it myself...
graduated from school where I always wanted to go trying to forget everything and start over. People judge me a lot and wonder why you are not in relationship you are strange
but they never knew what kind of terror we went through everyone has different path in life... as long as you try to stay focused you should be fine. You are alright
I just turned 30 and am making the changes that needed to be made. Started the changes around 28. I now have a great circle of friends, im about to get my own place, and my career is on an upwards trajectory. Anyone reading this, you can do it.
What did you start working and focusing on when initiating the change?
Thank you
God bless man, happy for you :)
@@benjaminpayne6355 2 big things. reliability, prioritization.
Reliability is time management. showing up to work early, doing things when you said you would, communication, consistency. I focused on improving each of those as the opportunities to came. Hold yourself accountable to those things, and hold those around you to them as well.
Second was prioritization and this will always be an ongoing thing. I wasted my time on a lot of things that dont help me at all. I would say i didnt have time to cook or work out, but would come home and doom scroll reddit and youtube for 4.5 hours before going to bed bored. If its not benefiting me, it goes. You wouldnt believe how much time you have to accomplish things until you start removing things.
@@MsabResearch thanks!
I worked my ass off during my 20s, graduated in the top of my class in college, then my entire family died and I've been struggling ever since. I try to find things that make me feel like it's not too late.
Stay strong. As the author of the clip said, and other people in some comments, it's truly never too late. You can be in the worst position in the world but you can always move forward. As long as you move forward you'll feel better and you'll realise there are actually more opportunities than you thought.
Sometimes you just have to fight and you can't let yourself go.
Damn. Sometimes life straight up gives you a friendly smile, puts its hand on your shoulder & then sucker punches you right up the guts into the bottom of your lungs knocking the air right out of you, dropping you to your knees & walks away giggling. The question is what do you do from there?
Get lost in your own head, daily bad habits & stop taking care of yourself?
Or do you decide right now, RIGHT NOW, I'm taking control & going to be proactive, not reactive, & start to create good habits & set goals beginning today.
And if the weight of the loss is too much, ask yourself, what would my loved ones say to me? What would they want me to do?
Live your best for them.
Entire family died? Like all at once? I’m so sorry that sounds like a lot for a 20 something to deal with. I hope you feel better soon
I'm so sorry
i wish you the best!!! you are a great girl and u will find happines!!!
strong message full of encouragement, love from Uganda from a 39yrs Java developer student
I’m 29 and starting my coding journey. Thanks for this. Same boat I’ll come back here every month and update everyone on my journey
I'm 29 , 30 in month and been struggling with the fact that I don't have my life together. Today is day 1 of trying to improve my life and this is the best video and best advice I have received . Thank you so much ❤️
Reminder to keep going. 🙏🏻 You can do it.
All the best, I'm 23 and I'm just starting my journey.
Cheering you on! Going thru the same feeling, i turn 30 in January & procrastinated ALOT. and two days ago was like a switch flipped. We ultimately do decide what our next move is even if it’s difficult, but choosing to take action is the first step. :)
@@beeperez444 wow thank you for this 🙆
Sis... you can do it I support ya
Just got accepted into medical school. I'm 33 years of age. Many of the expectations that we enforce upon ourselves are due to a social clock. The truth is that we're all on our own, unique journey.
Good job bro that made me feel so much better.
I Start Medicina at 30 and also feel old
You got this!
Congratulations!
Best of luck
I definitely did stumble across this video and I highly appreciate the advice you've given, Dorian 🙏🏾 Thank you for the little reassurances you've given me that everything will be okay even though I feel like I'm behind in life. New subscriber here 🤙🏾
I'm 29 making around $200 a month from Nicaragua, learning english and code, living with my parents, feeling like a looser. Rejected in many jobs for not having what's required for the position. I know how it feels, in my case I wasted my twenties trying to be master of all trades, being the ethernal student. But this video really helped me to continue and never give up. Thanks.
I’m 31. I lost my 20’s to depression, isolation, and anxiety. Recently discovered I have avoidant personality disorder, and now the course of my life makes so much sense and I feel I have a starting point for change
Same 💯 but now i am doing much better
Actually have the same story 31, played games and isolated myself, and just met with a therapist about Avoidant personality disorder
Oh shit me too but mix in some failed relationships that kept me complicit for large chunks at a time.
I too now know I have depression and avoidant personality. It's been a powerful tool just knowing what your fighting. I'm now educating myself in pharmacology
This sounds just like me! I haven't diagnosed yet, planning on seeking help soon but I may have the same disorder. I completely isolated myself and now in late 30's it feels absolutely hopeless.
What kind of job do you have?? I’m struggling between finding a job and finding the right job. I dread everyone.
I’m 29 and I’m terrified of turning 30 and having accomplished nothing but this gave me hope and encouraged me greatly. Thank you, brother. I’m glad you’re doing well now!
well sweetie im 59 be 60 next yr thats scary for me lol
You're not alone man.
Hey Rob. I am feeling the same. And I feel like I'm going to have a meltdown from the pressure after not achieving much in my 20s.
Feel the exact same way bro. I’m 28 about to turn 29 next yr in February and I literally have accomplished nothing adulthood wise ever since I graduated college 3 yrs ago. Despite that I’m still finding ways to enjoy life to the fullest so hang in there
Honestly same
I just have to say... this video is a complete and timely blessing.... i relate to this so much and Ive been wanting to give up so badly at 34..... so thank you so much for your encouragment and inspiration.
video is a crock of shit no one who is in a position to buy a house by age 28 is "wasting their life" biggest nonsense i heard.
I'm currently getting back to app dev and programming, have been worrying about whether I'm too late for this career. Then I ran into this video. Thank you for the encouraging words, they gave me a push in the back!
I didn't party, do drugs or got lazy in my 20s. I actually worked and did everything I was told but nothing came out of it...
Yeah that's very common too. You do everything right, work hard, stay disciplined and yet, you're not getting ahead. In fact maybe you overwork yourself, pushing too hard, breaking yourself down, thinking that this will be the way to get rich and make it! Bit really you just try too hard, overwork, lose relationships, miss out on life itself, caught up in the rat race. "Working more hours, to buy things you don't need, to impress people you don't like."
XD
Doing what's right is the bare minimum standard. You participated, and got a participation trophy out of it. Don't really know what else you expected. Success is not for everyone, there has to be losers like you out there to give meaning to the word "success." If everyone was successful, then nobody would be.
@@conservativelogic7028 XD
You believed the lie humans have been sold for the past few centuries.
The thing with life is that you may or may not get your life "together" before 30. If you did manage to get it together by 30, there's no guarantee that it'll last. You could lose it at any moment. The most difficult part is to accept this fact and work on yourself regardless. Like for me, I had a decent job and was doing fine till a year ago. Everyone including me thought that I had it together. Then the pandemic and other bunch of stuff all came together and wrecked everything. Now, I'm starting from the ground up again. It sucks but meh such is life.
such is life
Such, is.
@@marcelopena3537 life.
I feel like there's a bit of a blessing in disguise in struggling in your 20s and getting it together after 30. I envied a lot of my friends as I went through my 20s because they were so way ahead of me, but nowadays I see them either being stagnant or panicking over losing something that I'd consider "convenience" rather than necessities. After all, if you've been struggling, the worst you can lose is your life and limb. If you had a successful career and lost it, you probably don't even know/want/can't downgrade towards waiting tables or working retail. It's made even worse by how much our lives are usually lived through debt.
The Buddhists get it right. It’s not about what happens to you. It’s how you deal with what happens to you.
I would like to take advantage of this space for comments to vent a little. I wasted my twenties in confusion, sadness, misunderstanding and indecision. All the choices I have made have been driven by a wrong impulse, or at least, extraneous to me, some sort of external pressure. A few months ago I turned thirty, and I have been in therapy with a psychologist for a year because I am tired of it all.
However, what made my twenties so difficult to live through is still present today. All the choices I make, the work I do, the city I live in, the partner I am in a relationship with: all these decisions are still influenced by the same drive that ruined my twenties. I hate my job, I hate the city I live in, I can't stand my partner, I have no dream, no passion, no interest, no little corner where I can catch my breath. I am so tired of it all. I want to start living. I can't take it any more. I am tired. I want to live.
Man this resonated with me. Need to pull my finger out and take the first step. Thank you for taking the time to share your story ❤
I haven't lived life the best part of my 20's after losing my brother to suicide. It's my 30th today. Here's hoping for a brighter future. Thansk for your video!
That's really tough man. Make your brother proud.
@@BrokenG-String Thanks man I really appreciate it:)
all the bestfor your future
@@topg2820 Appreciate the comments guys truly thank you :)
Good luck man, I'm cheering for you
I was depressed as hell in my twenties, just turned 30 a couple months ago. Joining a group fitness gym changed everything for me. You will do nothing but sharpen your memory & communication skills as well as gain confidence & obtain a healthy habit. Trust me. I've never felt so alive or young. Life is good.
I WASN'T depressed, and the gym STILL helped me a lot. It got me away from playing video games too much.
Agreed. The values that a gym provides is very significant.
I spent my early adult life with an undiagnosed bipolar disorder drug addiction and in a long term seriously toxic relationship dropped out of college twice. I hit rock bottom around 25 and decided I needed to get my sh*t together. I’ve been sober two years finally got my degree attend therapy regularly and take my medication religiously. I did leave that toxic relationship, but he passed from passing out drunk in a snow bank and froze to death almost two years ago. I’m doing so much better now but some days I still struggle with feeling like a loser because my poor decisions set me back in life. It really does feel like if you don’t have your life together by 30 you are a loser. So hearing some encouragement is very helpful. Thanks!
Spent all of my 20's addicted to hard drugs, homeless off and on sometimes doing well sometimes really bad but always bad cuz I was on drugs at the end of the day around fake people and women who used me.. Went to jail for the 7th time and truly got my shit together, even with no hope in sight and feeling like the biggest loser I knew I was meant for more and I just fucking went for it.. I am almost 2 years clean now, completely transformed my body thru weightlifting and training and along with that has also come my mental health.. I work at a rehab only making 16 an hour but I know i'm about to have a breakthrough soon I have never been more passionate focused and driven... I am 31 years old now so this video really resonated with me.. I have to let go of the past and just move forward. It's not too late, I was never a fucking loser I am the only one who has held myself back and yes the world was cruel to me but I didn't give people any reason to respect me as a man so how can I take it personal.. I've found a sweet girl who isn't like the junkie chicks I used to be attracted to.. She actually sees the vision and wants more in life like myself.. but even if it didn't work out I know I fucking got this on my own.. it's insane how the fitness journey has really transferred into other areas of my life.. It's what I was lacking as an "addict" it's what I was always searching for. There is alternative ways to feel as good as drugs make you feel without using drugs. I will never do hard street drugs again. Every move going forward is calculated, I am a music producer, failed multiple businesses but that is how you learn, still trying to figure out how to get rich.. But it will happen. The 20's was a huge life lesson now I know what not to do.. sky is the limit from here.. WEll actually, my mentality is
I almost died so many times.. been shot at, betrayed, set up, overdosed, wrecked multiple vehicles ... I am here for a reason. I can't give up now
Im 36, two and a half years into recovery for hardcore, decades long history of substance abuse(coke,rock,fent,ice)and selling the same as i used to support my habits and lifestyle. After 20 years id had enough but i didnt know it yet. It took a near fatal overdose, getting arrested for something serious and sitting in jail being forced to cool out and think. Only 5 months, but a long enough time being completely sober other than methadone for me to see how crazy lucky i was to even be alive, not facing any serious time. It definitely sucks to be starting over essentially at this age but at least i have that opportunity to work on myself including my mental health so for that im grateful. And I've gained a lot of valuable knowledge to be able to help other people who are in a bad situation like i was once in.
Man, this comment section is awesome. It makes you realize that the real world looks much different than what you see on social media. I also only started learning to code 1 month before turning 27 (exactly 5 years ago)
Very true. Just found your channel and it seems to be having some interesting content for me, thanks for sharing :)
and how did it go? are you a programmer now ?
@@bistronauta thanks bro
@@wipidipipaku yes I am
this guy has so many skills, be a doctor, astranout, nurse, teacher, student, and now motivator ...respect to this guy
I think you got the wrong guy there, but who knows what he is doing on the late hours lol
@@DenerWitt i think you missed the joke, the guy looks a lot like a porn star that plays a lot of different roles and thats what OP is saying by all the different skills haha
@@DenerWitt R/ woooosh
you forgot plumber
I think he was also a cop, firefighter, pro goalkeeper
Hope you are right, im 38 and have achieved nothing due to severe mental health issues, and im desperate to turn things around.
Same boat, I'm 39 and wasn't able to leave the house for a couple of years due to persecutory delusions. Moved back in with my parents at 30 and still there, probably will be until I inherit the house.
Thank you so much. I really really needed to hear this.
In my experience, it really just takes about 5 years at any point in your life to completey change your tragectory. Just work towards ANYTHING for a solid few years and you'd be surprised where you come out on the otherside.
5 years for the results, very true.
But you could realistically completely change yourself in 6 months. You could lose 50 pounds, or get jacked or train for a marathon if committed. You could start on a new career/ moneymaking path. Get a girlfriend. Develop a lot mentally with conscious practice.
Within 6 months you could actually be unrecognisable both physically and in your mentality compared to 6 months before, if you follow a disciplined path of progression each week. Keep that going and in 5 years you are literally a different human being
This is my plan. I just started working out, and a lot of the things I’m in have about a 5-year time horizon. I want to upgrade my housing by the end of that and be stronger.
Same here. 4.5 years for me
True. 5 years is the average to change the direction of your life. Even marriage need 5 years to stabilize especially on financial and get to know each other better. Me took 6 years to improve/optimize relationship between my wife, kids and financial. However its need knowledge, plan, aware and put effort on it. Otherwise those 5 years will succumb you to abyss, no improvement is not good.
Believe me, 5 years is complete overkill. The amount of stuff that can change in a persons life within just 1 or 2 years is insane. 5 years is only needed when you are completely trying to change your career or when you live in the US/another country where working conditions are so terrible that you need 5 years just to have enough free time.
It took me until my 40s to “get my life together”, and this was after decades of “doing all the right things” beforehand. It literally took decades before I could finally find the right opportunities. Decades of getting educated with multiple “useful” degrees, staying out of debt, drinking, drugs, and finding the right relationship eventually. It still took decades. So even when you “do everything right” for decades, it doesn’t guarantee anything. Luck and being in the “right demographic” unfortunately both play a big part. Both of those things were not necessarily on my side.
Not saying you aren't an attractive person, but looks pay a HUGE part in what opportunities you have in life. Other peoples perceptions will change of you if you're ugly, and your own lack of self confidence will hold you back as well.
@@JasonEllingsworth That´s playing in hard mode
You're right, i also studied and didn't worked for me, it's more important to know how to make good relationships in the job to make people not hate you
@@dantenajera9687 honestly, it's more about having the right family contacts, skin colour, the right dangly bits between your legs, privilege and nepotism far more than it is about individual charisma, intelligence or even competence. It's a total myth that we live in a meritocratic society. Decades of "doing everything right" has taught me that.
@@Gubers they still all have to work anywhere from 4-10x as hard to get half as far as cishet yt men who probably often just got legacy admissions to top universities without ever really having to work too hard. It seems you've missed that fact, probably because you haven't lived it.
And btw many of those kids of immigrants you speak of ARE Americans (or Canadians or whatever) and are part of the domestic born population. They still have to work way harder than the demographics who have it way easier by virtue of things they never had to work for.
Let's put it this way: if a person of colour (regardless of where they were born - btw something that's never questioned of yt people), especially a woman or non-binary person of colour with a disability spent years on drugs, dropped out of school or made the kind of life mistakes the person making this video is talking about, there's absolutely no way that society would even give them a chance to "pull themselves up by their bootstraps" - a nonsensical notion in the first place. They'd have no way "coming back". We're not even allowed to make mistakes. Not a single one.
A cishet yt man who made the same decisions and worked as hard as I have done in my life would be far more statistically likely to be in a completely different (i.e. more successful) place in life, instead of merely middle class.
Man your really coming from a sincere truthful place. My story is similar to yours, spent 20s being a degenerate and flunking out of a 4 year university, and now I'm 29, and it just hit me one day of like oh shit, I wasted so much time not building myself, and now I've got my 30s then my 40s ect, I'm now studying for an associates degree, building skills in my sparetime, learning to finish things i start, and just trying to improve myself. Alot of painful lessons to get here and that how I know your putting down facts that the younger people should really listen too. Glad to see though that others have had similar paths and are seeing the light at the end of the tunnel so to speak after turning themselves around. Perhaps I'm not where i want to be, but the path im on now has a future in it as long as i keep putting in the work.
What a great pat on the back, sir! Thank you very much for this encouraging message to us all. Age is (just) a number. Really, it's late when one's dead. My father used to tell me "if you don't do anything before 25, you're done, too late"; he's an idiot tbh, and I feel sorry for him, because he was told the same 🐂 💩. It's nonsense. Never too late until you're dead, that's what I'm saying 😊
I think having some patience really goes a long way. A lot of people want things now and overestimate what they can do in 6-12 months but they underestimate what they can do in 5-10 years.
Ive learned its better to underestimate, rather than overestimate. The times I underestimated, I ended up accomplishing more than I intended. When I overestimated, I always ended up short.
Because there are many "inspirational positive" post of "super successful" people achieving something big in few years or even few months.
Yes, people don’t understand the time and effort put into accomplishing these things. Some people it’s takes less time but that is only because of their environment most of the time. They are around the right resources or have the right support.
Getting your life on track and having ADHD is very hard.... especially if you don't take the medicine like I don't.
And the time it take thinking about it....u cudnve already finished it.
I'm 37. I think when you are in your teens or your twenties time seems to go very slowly. Chaging your habits to develop new skills for a couple of years seems like an overwhelming task. In your 30s you realize that 3-5 years is a blink of an eye. You can take that time to develop new skills and completely change the direction of your life.
So true.
Also, that time is gonna pass by anyway! Idk why something so small never dawned on me until recently, but I struggled with this when thinking about how daunting going to college for 4 years would be. If those years will pass by no matter what, why not have something to show for it at the end of them?
Dude, I'm 22 and the last 5 years went by so fast. Life was slow as a kid and a teenager but now life is going by in the blink of an eye. It makes me really appreciate the phrase "Life is short". It really is.
@@KD.... Strap in! It's getting faster. 😆
Thats so true mate. I'm 31 now but in my 20s, time went so slow, and you always thought you have enough time to do all the shit you wanna do but in reality, we have no idea wtf we are supposed to do and waste it all on fun and games, now when I reached 30, I actually started to think straight and more serious than before, sometimes get to think like, if I only had this way of thinking back when I was younger.
Video was very raw, thank you for your perspective. This means a lot to people like me and many others as seen in the comment section.
It's never too late to pursue your passions
good stuff Dorian, my teen years were the same as yours. I had to change my mind and perspective on a whole slew of things. i have seen people turn it around at over 50.
I'm 34 and a late bloomer. All good things started happening to me after 30. I moved out, my salary increased, started working on myself both mentally, spiritually and physically and I just generally felt MUCH better - more confident, at peace with myself, stopped giving f*cks about lot of things and people, became more outspoken, set boundaries, realized tons of things about life and it just keeps getting better. Now I'm planning to learn how to ride a motorcycle 😂 I'm just living and trying to keep life interesting without any pressure, grand expectations or great goals. Of course we all have ups and downs in life, no matter the age, but the older you get, the less you are stressed about it because you know, this too shall pass.
💫 that helped me get through everything that one saying” this too shall pass “
Exactly. I am 26 and was trying to get into my university of first choice since I was 19. After 7 years I finally made it and in 4 years I will graduate and find a good paying job, get my own place and things can only get better. I am a late bloomer too so I get your situation exactly. God bless!
You moved out? Of what? Your parent's? I wish I could imagine having parents that didn't use me as slave labor and kicked me out at 18.
You'll probably be better of learning to ride now than in your 20s. I'm fortunate that I lived through those adrenaline filled rides at 3 digit speeds. It's an amazing hobby. Get lessons and gear. Don't worry about your first bike, if your really enjoy the sport it will definitely not be your last
Reading this was incredibly inspiring. I'm 26 and feel like I've wasted so much time. Reading comments like yours just makes me feel so hopeful. This is why it's so important to get out of our heads and actually speak to people. I get no one wants to feel ashamed but look at the same space here in the comments?! Love it!
I absolutely blew my 20s. Made a lot of money, spent it all on drugs and booze. Lost everything. Had to start over. I'm 2 years sober and turned 34 yesterday. Thanks for the video.
Still you had some life and good vibes in your 20s. I have nothing, it's full of loneliness and severe depression with an empty pocket. I never know how a normal life in 20s feels like. Because i never had
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I’m in the same boat as you were OP. I’ve been clean for a few months now staying at my moms. Trying to figure out what I want to do with the rest of my life.. don’t have any college completed but would consider going back to school . any advice in general?
Awesome!!
Sounds so familiar. Got money from crypto, put all into drugs and booze, got into bad bad relationships with evil people (this one fuckin girl dude, shes the worst). Im 28, started putting the puzzles together again, like 6 days sober, but by God bro, i swear we are all gonna make it.
I’m 31 turning 32 in December, doing better then my 20s . Time is my priority and health . Enjoying the moment while I have it 🙏🏾💯
@2:40 this part man. I think Im on that situation right now. I just turned 27 last month, and I recently resigned from my previous job last April as a Recruiter for 4 years. I decided to change my career, follow my passion as a Concept Artist / Illustrator; so I enrolled to a program and currently studying. I know my friends don't tell it to my face, but i can see it on their reaction and they think Im wasting my time. I'm glad I saw this vid man. I'll keep pushing.
Keep going, may better things coming towards you❤
Damn! Felt like I was the only person in the world that wasted 20s on severe depression. Yeah, when you loose all social contacts and get isolated it tends to feel very lonely. Depression does that to one. I have like one friend now. For what it’s worth - it’s good to know I’m not the only one in the world. Living in your 30s can get challenging given all that social pressure you get but once you’re done grieving, it also gets super cool! I wish no one had to go through any depressive episode that would have withdrawn them from life but here we are… Thanks for the comments guys! Hope you’re all doing well! Times are hard so sending you so much 💕
I was too busy fixing all of my horrible choices in my 20s to get depressed...I was trying to survive. I am 64, now...You've got this.
You are no exception. Wasted my 20s and most of my 30s cause of depression. Turned my life, started as an IT-Trainee, next year i have finished the traineeship, and everything is gonna be fine. Like its said in the movie Vanilla Sky:
" Every passing minute is another chance to turn it all around"
In life you always have to move forward, backwards, sideways...it doesnt matter, as long as you move. Its your life and your main job is to find your own happiness.
It's not "wasted". It's trying to survive a sickness that can end you.
@@Horsehead147 exactly. If you're 30, you've survived 9/11, category 5 hurricanes, covid, 2008 bubble and prob your own demons.
These kids these days haven't even gotten to the tip of the iceberg what it really feels to live.
i know . . . i was about a yer from graduate from medicine school, had a house and a harley and because of maduro's dictatorship i lost EVERYTHING, struggled 4 years with depresion here in brazil after had to run away fron the contry, now i'm 26 and trying to star to move on.
yeah, depresion slaps you in the face when shitty things happens, but when you hit bottom all you can do is go up
If you're aware that you're wasting your 20s/30s whilst in your 20s/30s- You're probably going to do great things.
I screenshotted your comment! I’m going to need this lol
@@kcp4444 Same here. Me too.
omg thank you
@@kcp4444 me too
I do. But don't know where to start.
The happiest man I ever knew met the love of his life in his mid 50s. He had no children of his own but no regrets. It's never too late while you're still breathing.
Thank you brother. Turned 30 this year and just had a daughter. You gave me the motivation I needed today 🙏
Dropped out of high school due to social anxiety, spent my 20s drinking, smoking and working minimum wage. Now in my 30s, studying engineering and science at university and crushing it.
Love it! Don't stop winning!
@@hanfei6871 don't stop winning?
Awesome 💫
Yessss
This is me.. I struggle with social anxiety every day. I turned 30 back in April, and I’m gonna be going back to school. I have so many things I want to get done & accomplished. So glad I am deciding now is the time. ❤
I've spent my late teens, 20s and part of my 30s taking care of my father ( Parkinson's disease) He just passed a couple of years ago. I feel like life has just started for me at 38
You have definitly NOT wasted your life!!
You got more strength than half the world.
That is a very admirable thing you did, some people would have just put their ill parent in a nursing home so please don’t put yourself down about it 😢 May God bless you with peace 🙏
May he rest in peace, same happened to my dad this past Purim. Keep on keeping on.
God bless you. God has got you!
Thanks Dorian for this video. This gives me hope for good things in life.
Thanks for this man. 30 and working on learning Data Analytics so I can have a good life for my future family!
I just turned 29. After years of depression I decided to change everything. I took an effective therapy, which helped me a lot. Several months ago I started to wake up early, exercise, read books, learn another language, build a relationship, and finally get a job. You can change, but first you must have a deep desire for it. Where there is a will, there is a way
@@ashpenny27 Hey Ashley! First find a therapist who will subscribe an antidepressant for you.
Deep desire is something I don't have in the slightest. I don't believe that a wife, kids, a house... is worth all the hassle.
@@bmsk0076 Everybody has his priorities. Me to don't want a wife and a kids. Instead I focus on my life and my hobbies, smth that is really interesting to me
@@vahangrigoryan768 Glad that things are turning around for you.
I've got a friend who spent his 20s and much of his 30s playing in bands that went nowhere. In his late 30s he started a masters in computer programming, now he's earning a fortune.
has he a degree or a previous knowledge of the field?
@@talentnetwork7275 he started a masters - masters comes after a BA, BA is first degree, so yeah that person has the second degree in Computer sceince(Masters in cs)
Can you get a master’s in computer science with a Bachelor of Arts in another discipline (like liberal arts)?
@@filmbuffoon If you showed enough aptitude and knowledge, it's possible. Ed Witten went from a history degree straight into postgraduate physics. Although Ed Witten is a genius.
Is he happy?
I'll be 30 next year.
This isn't a life.
How can one person be so tragic?
I am 25 years old and if I didn't start to get my life together then I know I would have went through the same path that to who this person is referring to would have went. It's crazy isn't it? How time can just move in stealth mode without you even thinking twice but there it goes, late teens are gone, 20s are gone and so on. So when it comes to aging, time is the most important factor and it is very crucial to use it in the correct format and you do that by getting your shit together as fast as possible. So with all of the time it is that you have left, it is up to you at this point. As for me, since I know that I create my destiny, I have used the fountain of youth and reverse my age back to 18 so I can be back in that age state and re-do what I should have done the first time.
I think for our generation the 20s are the like the new “teen years” with more freedom of choice, which makes us confused and lost. For the previous generation, you had a house and a family at 25. You had maybe 4 options of career. Now it’s like 30s are the new 20s. Money also changed its value. We have to explore more in search of a direction. I’m soon to get into my 30s and feel a lot more grounded. 20s was a mess struggling with undiagnosed depression and adhd. Went to study electrical engineering at 20 without having any clue of the work it takes. Still studying for that Bsc, for almost a decade, which takes regularly 4 years. But now at 29 it’s the first time I cope with my problems. Learnt a lot during those lost years. Stabilized after a few setbacks with a long term relationship and friends I met because of those lost years. Learnt to set boundaries for myself and others. Maybe not academic achievements and financial security, but I gained a lot in my 20s. We need to reframe our definitions for success and value in life.
Yessssss this
Yes! So many people think financial security means you have your life together. Ive learned being the same age that no one really has their life together even if it appears so
@@mitzismith_scentslikehome9893 If I had ten million dollars, all of my problems would disappear. I could afford decent lodgings in any city in Europe, find an attractive partner, have all of my health problems treated, and devote my life entirely to work that I enjoy.
The only thing more valuable than money is the grace of God (assuming there is a God).
@@alexhauser5043 Thats a big if. Nobody in this world is without problems. Life happens even if you have alot of money. Maybe you have marital issues, issues with your children, estranged parents, anxiety, depression etc. Money doesnt save you from life happening.
@@mitzismith_scentslikehome9893 Money saves you from the drudgery of the 9-5 grind, from hunger, from exposure to the elements, from chronic pain and illness, from sexlessness - in brief, from (real) pain.
I won't die of a broken heart or because mommy didn't hug me often enough.
the problem isn't not having you yourself together in your 20's, its having things fairly ok and being content with that. and when you get to your thirty's, it falls apart at some point and you see it for what it really was.
Right, like feeling you're winning the race when you're actually the last one.
Hell I started from nothing in my twenties and ended in a much better place in life now in my mid thirties. In your twenties everything is messed up because well that's life. We dont know where we are going, what should we have accomplished by that point...but life is moving too fast! You're working jobs you don't like until you find something that's pretty decent and pays more. I had my existential crisis in my twenties so everything is the opposite on my end but I can empathize. Hope y'all feel better.
Wow, amazing video. Your sincerity is so clear.
Hey, just another guy here finally getting his shit together at 35. Never felt it was too late, it's totally okay to go through life at your own pace.
20s is the stage to be lost/depressed/etc as soon as I got to my 30 years I am finally figuring what I want and I am extremely excited for the future. Dont give up💐
I'm in my mid 20s, i never know how a normal life in 20s feels like, because i never had. It's full of loneliness and severe depression with an empty pocket 💀💀
Im 29 and im finally having a bit optimism something i havent had for 10 years
Lucky. I'm 34 and still lost. Even got a bachelor's degree at 25.
How'd you find your vocation? I can't find mine. The things I like (soccer, gym, games) can't really see a career in them...How to discover? 😢
@KnittingPasta me too. I got a bachelor's degree finished age 22. Now age 28 I work as a janitor and I feel like I'm drowning. I'm smart but I can't get over social anxiety. Feels like a waste of a life but I need healthcare to heal and to get healthcare I need money and to get money I need healthcare... I dont want to be negative but I just rly want to blow my brains out a lot of the time
I'm 52, I decided to go back to Uni, the struggle is real, but the challenge of learning & the sense of purpose, has given me a new zest for "EVERYTHING"
Never too late
I appreciate your honesty and this video was the only video today that I dont feel regret of hearing it, thanks a lot!
Thank goodness you brought this up! Truly, investing has changed my perspective on how one can succeed in life; working multiple jobs isn't the optimal way to attain financial freedom and unfortunately, we discover this later in life. Currently earn as much as 10 grand weekly and this has improved my financial life. Great piece!
Do you mind sharing info on the adviser who
assisted you? I'm 39 now and would love to
grow my portfolio and plan my retirement
She's OLIVIA SULLIVAN FINANCIALS
she's a known advisor. I actually did look her up curiously and went through her credentials on her webbsite... Top-notch! I wrote her an email, hopefully she's accepting new intakes.
Getting Olivia Sullivan to help me really helped me clear all my debts. I started with what I have left and it's been the best decision I ever made
You're right! I have lost a lot trading all by myself without a guide. It's been an uneasy ride for me, not until I meet Olivia Sullivan