I enjoy being an introvert so much, just being alone, listening to music while drawing, reading an engaging book or watching an interesting movie closed up in my room is my idea of an amazing time
+6d I'm nearing graduation with a degree in IT and I've been paying attention to where I want to work. Seems like the big companies want loud and socially connected tech workers. I'm not social but was able to excel in a sales job because I pieced a formula together for conversations but I certainly cannot pass for cool for more than 20 minutes. I'm a bit worried about my job prospects since I'll have trouble fitting in. In fact, I got hired at a different sales job and quit after the first day because I felt so much of an outsider to the other workers, I think it was a solid choice that I felt bad about at the time. My ideal job is by myself and quiet.
how to get money to maintain your hobbies,getting food, without having too big of a pain to work is the question computer science IT stuff is obvious but not all introverts enjoy that sadly(including me), probably gonna end up constructor,structural engineer or something like that in the end, no idea will i enjoy it or despise it.
I don't understand why most of the world tries to pathologize introversion when it's pretty clear most scientific, philosophical, etc. breakthroughs were made by people with the luxury of silent reflection.
Yeah, I often say to people: if you want to make a breakthrough of some kind you lock yourself up in a lab or go meditate on a mountain, it's not found in crowds or the supermarket. The world needs introverts, they should just understand not all introverts are scary loners that you have to watch out for. When I saw this video it was really the first time I realised that extraverts recharge from social situations. That's the opposite from how introverts feel (and opposite from how I feel), they must not understand anything of introverts at all! And since they're the majority ( so they decide what's "normal"), it's easy to dismiss introverts as crazy and deviant.
"Extroverts tend to cut people off in conversations" This, is the main reason I avoid participating in debates and/or small talks with "nothing of value". When I do speak up about a topic with substance and get cut off I immediately feel resentment towards that person, and while I'd get emotional internally I prefer to shut up and let it slide to avoid conflict - it's just not worth it.
Understand completely. I don't even bother trying to have a meaningful conversation with those people. They only have a 2 second attention span and i need more time than that to get my point across
I have a friend who's an extrovert and in many scenarios when I speak of a topic with substance, after a few seconds of him listening or if I go on too long he'll cut me off and start his small talk about hot girls or clothes, stuff like that. -repetitively bangs my head on table- I need to find an introvert girlfriend and maybe an introverted friend.
Cloud Chan i had a friend like that, he once made a big deal out of me not properly fastening a VGA cable. So yeah, me being lazy was apparently the joke of the year on IRC channels he hang around.
I see. So I am an introvert. However, i think most people around me are hypocrites. They go on and on about how I am weird, not social, too objective etc. Yet when they need genuine opinion about something, they come to me. Usually they get angry because as soon as the conversation starts to get boring, i walk away. I HAVE NO CLOSE FRIENDS.
I almost never feel the need to be social. All I want is a nice woman in my life to love me and a couple friends. Even then, I can go days, even weeks without socializing. And I'm proud of it. I hate people who judge me for this. Being social isn't enjoyable unless its a one on one activity or *maybe* a group of 3 people, so why should I go out of the way to just to cater to the worldview that insists you need to socialize frequently to be happy? This just isn't true. I am happy.
Why? What's to feel sorry for? Not all women like to be social too. That's exactly the kind of woman us introverts need. It is far more intimate imo when you don't spend both your lives with 100 different people. I'm obvious not alone with this opinion, considering how many likes my post got.
I'm an introvert too. My ex boyfriend (who I'm still friends with) is an introvert too but way more social than I am. But if I hang out with him we usually just enjoy a UA-cam video of someone playing a game and it never feels like a waste of time.
A girl, one of my classmates told me "You know, enough for me going out every day, waste of money, only once a week !" I say "You know... enough for me too, better start going out once a week"
Michael Kanis I'm 100% with you. I would rather find myself an introverted man as the extroverted men I've dated keep wanting me to go to this club or this party or this event and I don't want to do it.
This video should be made popular. Most extroverts assume that extroversion is the norm and that introversion is some sort of abnormality. I'm so sick of everyone telling me "it's just a phase" or "you'll get over it someday" when it's actually who I am. It's my personality, not a disease. I just simply don't like to talk most of the time.
When i'm social i'm pretty bold and i like to speak my mind. I'm even good at smalltalk. The problem is when i'm not social. All the new people i meet are confused when i don't answer the phone, don't reply to messages and make excuses not to go out with them... It's surprisingly hard for most people to understand that drawing, playing the piano or just watching a movie with my cat means i'm busy.
Loool. Me too. Even when I'm being rewarded or awarded something, my reaction muted,suprised and avoiding like I've been publicly embarrassed. My first instinct is to run away.I reaaaly hate being in the spotlight. I enjoy working in the background with no attention being drawn to me.
aside from phone calls I also hate text msgs that only starts w/ "hey (name)" .. like im obliged to reply to see what they need. like if you want to talk, send everything you want to say in one msg and i'll reply whenever im comfortable.
Ladyn - the problem with asynchronous communication. I might think I am being ignored if someone doesn't reply to my messages after a long period of time
im a hardcore introvert and school is hell for me..everything is made for extroverts. i cant talk without rehearsing it in edvance, and even then, my anxiety gets in the way..
If only I knew about introversion when I was a kid - I only started researching about the topic about three years ago. There were just so many situation where I felt wrong - that was such a waste of time. They should teach about, or teach according to the different personality traits in schools!
When I was young I was told that I would grow out of it. I'm 33 now and of course I didn't. At least I understand why I am this way instead of loathing myself because I wasn't a certain way. I feel like society overwhelmingly expects you to show traits of an extrovert. Also some people act like I am dumb for not having much to say. They assume that my mind is empty when it's actually quite full with my thoughts and my words are multiple choice from A to Z. I hope society can better understand introverts in the future. That just because we're introverts doesn't mean that we don't care about people/friends/family.. We need to be alone sometimes and there's nothing wrong with that.
Dark Seven thats the word overwhelming. im going to be 30 soon and know exactly how it feels. Im trying to fit in when working mode, but when it comes to social event i despise it and avoid at all cost as it drains me out. the thing is all bosses are usually extroverts and they wont understand us. Thats why i cant fit into the culture for more than a year, job hopping. Sad huh? sigh
the only thing that's ever bothered me about being an introvert is the negative stigma that comes along with it. I never felt bad that I hate crowds or don't enjoy small talk. I literally have two friends: my hubby and my son, I love it that way. it took my husband years to realize introversion was a real thing, as he is a total extrovert. I love my introverted life and habits, but dear extroverts, don't feel like we are negative, or haughty, or don't like you. I love people. I love to listen to people, but it has to be one person at a time and for very short bursts. don't hate!!! ;-)
When I (much) talk I feel tired and when I'm in public place I never talk yet but when I'm alone I always talk to myself. My parents and my friend thought I was crazy 😂
I love being with cheerful person and smart person, they make the time I spend around them so precious... But unfortunately I have no close-friends at all, my social skill is just too bad
I'm definitely an introvert. I like interacting with people for a certain amount of time. I hate being called shy cause there is so much negativity that comes with it. I don't feel like I'm shy. Just quiet at times. I'm not good at being put on the spot I have to think about things. And I get tired of feeling like I have to fit into someone else's mold of what they think I should be.
I feel like crying even after a small talk or when extroverts start to throw their wrong assumptions straight at my face as if something is wrong with me and I have to change.
I'm an introvert, but probably more extreme. I don't even want to have deep conversations with intelligent people lol. I also have an issue with my verbal communication, can't find words on the spot very well. So I can better express myself through writing, and I'm a visual artist. :-)
OMG, the same happens to me lol, i am good at writing communication, but when i am speaking with someone, sometimes i go back and forth of what i was talking, sometimes i can think of much more words than i am able to speak, and sometimes i stutter. And with the presentation i really get very nervous because it happened to me that when i have to give a presentation there is always a question that i can't answer (even by preparing myself with all the material i have at disposal).
+Joshua Mendieta Yes! Me too, I even stutter sometimes, though I don't think I officially classify as a stutterer lol. And one of my biggest problems is I'm redundant! Like I don't think I phrased something well, so I say it again, but usually phrase it the same crappy way lol.
I'm an introvert and I have made small talk incredibly boring for extraverts. I'm just trying to be polite but not sure how to cut the conversation and I keep talking crap until they find a way to stop talking to me. I feel better that they're gone but then later worse because that could've been a chance for a new friend and they think I'm boring. I have no real social skills.
Genevieve Antoinette if you are struggling to make small chat with anyone might not be on you... sometimes there is no chemistry at all between thepeople having the small talk... btw. I apologize. my cellphone's keyboard is fucked up.
Like the video says, know yourself and use your strengths. It could very well be not that you have no social skills but that you are not "skilled" in the situations you find yourself in. In any case it's not your "fault" how you are naturally in these social situations. Change the situations, avoid them if you have to but above all love yourself and avoid guilt for not being different than you're nature ... there's nothing "wrong" with you because you can't act out a forced, societally induced role convincingly. peace.
I told someone that the reason I didn't hang out with the rest of the group is that, "I don't like you people." That's not true, one on one, I don't mind any of them, but I can't take being in a room with a bunch of people. It did achieve the desired effect of making him go away, but it was hurtful and mean.
Interesting. I am most likely an introvert yet I feel perfectly comfortable giving public speeches or presenting to an audience. I found that it is not the joy of being the center of attention that allows me to present my material comfortably, but rather a complete disconnect from the social component of my presentation. I present my material and don't give a f*!k how I or anyone else feels about it. Without the disconnect I am sure I would crumble like so many do in front of so many observers. edit... and at 9:15 the narrator makes exactly this point. Great video!
Uhm, I'm sorry about that, don't listen to it. Some shy people already have a tendency to feel guilt because others assume that they're rude when the actually have good intentions, your mother shouldn't feed peoples false assumptions.
My parents usually just tell others that I'm shy when I'm around new people. .-. Stranger: *Greets me* Oh so this is your son? Hi! I'm -insert name- It's nice to meet you. How are you? Me: Hi. I'm -insert name- I'm good. ... Mom: Oh he's a shy boy, He's always been like that. Stranger: Haha it's okay *carries on* MOMMA PLEASE! I'M A GROWN MAN! I AIN'T SHY! *ehem* unless I'm around a pretty lady >.>
Hey guys, introversion is actually a genetically inherited trait. It is still present in humans today because it makes sense from an evolutionary pov so if you are an introvert don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you - you rather have a very important quality. So embrace it and have fun spending time with yourself :) You are your best friend ever. Oh, and great video btw. Keep them coming!
Nice video dude. I'm introverted, but it gets better as you age. I can dip into social occasions as and when I need to, but my private thoughts and life are always so much more important and dominant.
I absolutely love solitude....I thrive on it Don't bother calling me....I won't answer If you text me it might be a couple of days before I respond....If I respond
One of the best breakdowns of the Introvert I've ever seen. Thank you! Constantly being expected to have extroverted qualities can be extremely alienating, and many people don't realize that there is a difference between shyness and introversion. Once we learn how to put our natural inclination for solitude to good use, we can achieve great things!
I’m an introvert myself and I’m glad you mentioned that not all introverts are “shy.” While I was shy as a kid (mostly from lack of social skills), I became a pretty confident person when I became involved in theatre. Were it not for theatre I probably wouldn’t be the person I am today. I used to think there was something wrong with me as a kid. I would come home from school and tell my mom that I’d played by myself and she said to try playing with others. While I did eventually make friends, I still preferred being on my own. Now that I’ve grown up and know what introversion is I feel way better. I know my limits and don’t push myself to do anything I’m not comfortable with in social situations because I know it’ll drain me. Nowadays I love art, writing stories, and music. I still have a very active imagination, which as an actor and writer is very convenient. I hoe anyone struggling like I did when I was younger will understand that it’s okay to feel this way. It’s not a mental disorder. It’s just something special about you. Many of the things in this video perfectly describe me. Thank you!
group conversations are exausting to me. you have to keep track of all the niceties and reciprocate them. plus remembering peoples names is difficult. id rather just have a thereputic deep conversation with my best friend than stressfull small talk.
Finally, a video that explains about this character trait. I used to work in a school district, surrounded by hundreds of people, and at the end of the day, I was so mentally exhausted, I could not go the rest of the day without a nap. I so prefer to be by myself with the occasional going out and or hanging out with two or three friends!!! Great Video!!!
I absolutely loved this video!!!! It was like I wrote it about myself. I love my alone time..I "have" to get my alone time. Small talk is so irritating and I just stay far away from it. When I'm in public, like going for a walk, I won't meet someone eye to eye because I've done this in the past and it led into a long, flowing, roll the eyes small talk terror. I love finding people who can actually carry on a real conversation. I detest shopping in malls as I find a lot of people just don't respect personal space and boundaries and I'm not good with that. In the past I've been called cold, snobby, rude, shy, stuck-up and anti-social. I just look at these people and say "no, I'm an introvert." Most times I see a puzzled look on their face. I've been told it's just a phase I'm going through. I'm 51-years old and I'm past phases. I have enjoyed my own company since I was a child. I have a very small circle of friends and they all turn to me when they want/need someone to listen. I certainly do embrace being an introvert and I'm definitely proud :) Thank you for this video :)
me and my introvert mate had dinner together other night. it went off. talked heaps. laughed heaps. went in and out of small talk and deep talk to keep things interesting. but in a crowd u wouldnt think id be so bubbly. the very next day went to a church event n had social anxiety, felt so self conscious. im such an introvert
I like your video! Just subbed to your channel! Most of my childhood and youth i believed that I was shy because I'm introverted, but now I know the truth: being introverted can be an advantage. I've never imagined that I could be an university professor, but that´s my current job and I feel so proud of that. As you said, embracing our introversion is the key to success in life and get whatever we want. Keep up the good work!
Whoever edited this video has finally understood us. We, as introverts, are being misunderstood by the society. Thanks very much for posting this video.
Wow, spot on! I'm definitely an introvert and feel like my battery is running out near the end of a night with many new people. I really value my own time and feel intruded if I get a phone call or knock on the door. I am learning to embrace it and correct the negative aspects to it.
I think being an introvert allows me to have better connections with others. I am able to relate better and think from various perspectives because introspection makes it easier to understand others. I hate my phone notifications so much. My family and friends understand and accept that I may not always answer calls or immediately reply to messages in exchange for my undivided attention when I am feeling social.
I'm an introvert and my skills are: -I can hide my presence in any group of people -i hate small talk but if you start a conversation with me get ready cause this will be a long conversation -i can judge the personality of a person -i am use on being alone -for me knowledge is power reading books and other things that can improve my skills -I'm a deep thinker -i use logic in solving my problems -I don't need a lot of friends 1 or 2 is OK as long as he or she accept me for who I am - I'm an independent person if I have problems I solve it by myself - and lastly I cannot fall in love easily that's all what's yours.
This is totally me, expect maybe for the last point. I don't know about love but I can get attached to people easily (unhealthily easy), I start off by not trusting them at all, then somewhere along the line decide it's ok to trust them and get completely attached. So far, this hasn't worked out well for me.
Excellent, compelling talk. Kudos for the effort and encoragement. And it uncannily, perfectly describes my own lifelong introversion. I had long ago embraced my innate introverted personality, and I'd like to believe I am making the most of it.
Good on you TFB! It certainly can be embraced as a positive aspect to your personality. Thanks for the comment, and we're hoping to have some more content out soon :)
You are very right Jon. Our videos haven't really gained traction until this week. Now that we know everyone is interested, we are working to grow the channel and put up heaps of new content. Please stay tuned and check in with again soon! Thanks for watching :)
Ratalyst Thanks. This video reminded me of how Introverted I am personally. And society likes to make people all outgoing people who gotta have a lot in life to be happy. Which for people like me, can be stressful as I don't need a lot in life to be happy. So it's a good reminder to people a bit more on the 'quiet side' of life to not worry about the small things Extroverts think everyone needs.
+Ratalyst Everything you said was stuff I had already thought, I am both shy and introverted and I feel some people might even think I am slightly slow-witted! I feel better now, some people hate people like me!
My personality falls in 99% of an introvert spectrum. I must say that the person who came up with this video, we think in a similar way. In the past, I used to think that there was something wrong with me and I felt that I needed to change myself to be a normal person like an extrovert. It's been a long time since I have embraced my introversion. Being an introvert is not a curse, it's a gift. I am really glad to find this video. Thank you Ratalyst, I enjoyed watching this video.
I'm really damn introverted which can be really fucking exhausting when you work as a nurse for 7+ hrs a day with elderly with dementia where you have small talk all day long. I love nothing more than to hangout on the couch all day, watching youtube, gaming and messaging friemds or just chill with some close friends
Aron Bekhuis Same here, except switch nursing for a customer care agent! The constant talking drains me. 2 hours in and I am almost completely drained. So I do a few things to avoid calls and conversation with others.
Aron Bekhuis introverts should find jobs to suit their personality.. but it is hard when most jobs out there are looking for outgoing loud people. you just gotta make the most of your skills.
excellent video! this really helped me enjoy my introversion. i saw introversion in a wrong way. i thought its just a term for quiet and isolated people. in the past year everyone always told me im very quiet and i should talk with them more and it got into my mind so i constantly had think about it while being with a group of people. ive tried to improve and got better at it but im still not comfortable at smalltalking etc. now i know through all these symptoms what exactly i have so i can feel a lot better. thanks for this video keep it up!
卐 Satan 卐 i fully understand you man! it takes guts to speak out what you think. its hard for me to speak about what im thinking about and usually i adapt to other people. keep doing what youre doing and dont care about other people!
omg this is 100% me. I always prepare what I'm going to say. It's strange cause I find myself talking to myself from time to time. Over thinking ever situation no matter how big or small it is. Even if I get a text I will spend minutes thinking about what to say and how I'm going to say it. It's quit annoying, but I found I really help people out with my thoughts ^^ so maybe its not so bad after all.
This is the most relating video i´ve ever seen! finally i have a name to put on my social situation. Absolutely everything you said about introverts i totally relate to. Great video, you earned a sub!
This is the most relatable video I have ever watched. I LOVE acting and public speaking, and I hate small talk! I never know what to say to people. The fact that most people I speak to simply don't understand what it's like to be an introvert made this video relieving in many ways. Thank you for making me feel better about who I am.
The hurtful part is when people confuse introverts to being proud and big headed. Specially people think that we are being rude. I mean yeah sometimes it's rude. I just ignore people all the time even not saying hi. Some of them are my classmates as well. I just can't handle my heart raise. But when I come I think about it for like 3 weeks. What would they be thinking about me.....
Brilliant video mate. I'm about 95% of what you described, and will share this video with others so they can get to understand me a bit better. Liked and subbed. Keep up the good work.
I have always thought of myself as an introvert just because I knew that I wasn't an extrovert, but I didn't ever look into it until I found this video. This realy has helped my consider a different way to look at life. Rather than anti social and unproductive, I just hate small talk and I'm relaxing not being unproductive. Thank you for the advice, I have recently been developing social anxiety and a mild form of what felt like depression, but this has really made me feel less shitty about the person that I am currently.
We're really glad to hear that you got something out of this video Ezakiah. We will be doing a video in the near future on social anxiety as well, so hopefully you find that just as useful. Thank you very much for watching and participating in the comments, we really appreciate you!
This is so me lol. I usually score 100% introverted on the meyers-brigg, but I have always wondered if this is because this is my personality or because I am deaf and social situations require more energy for me to keep up the more people there are. My close handful of friends and family I have a much easier time talking with, so I tend to just spend time with them over meeting new people.
Hey David, we have friends who are also deaf, and they are 100% introverted. They are usually very reluctant to engage with strangers, and I guess this is because the communication can be more difficult at first, and therefore more exhausting to make that connection. Whereas with friends, we can't keep them quiet and the extrovert traits come out to play! :)
Just thought we'd add that we have significantly improved the closed captions (CC) for all of our videos, which should provide far better value to our friends who are harder of hearing :) Thanks for watching and listening!
Thank you for posting this great video. I just realised that I may just be an introvert. I always thought, that being the one I am around extroverts is wrong. I always wondered why everyone speaks up earlier, although they may say something wrong. Extroverts simply don't care. In my opinion this behaviour was wrong because you should be able to authentically present or say something. Now, everything weaves itself into a bigger picture. Thank you very much. You helped me with criticising my personality less. Hopefully from now on, I will be able to embrace my character and be able to use it.
Yeah, I'm an introvert and I totally know these extroverts interrupting you and telling you later, you should talk more... Most of the time I don't feel like talking then anymore. And I don't really feel the need to explan, I just aggree nodding to get my break again...XD Yeah, I am a great listener and I have my "good friends", but some people are just...yeah exhausting. And some people will never realise, that I *can* talk much, if we were talking about the right things and if they let me. Edit: The very hard thing is, if they just don't stop talking after interupting you. Sometimes I just go on talking, but they then get louder and louder, that I think: Nah, if they don't want to know, I won't make them to. Very funny, if they're seaking for an answere or where to go or how to do stuff or something like that... and I know, but they won't listen, after I treid to tell it at least twice. (But at my school people learned the hard way, they should listen to me, as I stopped trying to tell them and just do the stuff or go there and let them see, that I know, what they don't. They learned to listen to me. I'm curios, if the people at my university now will learn this as well^^ (Well, at least some few already did, and one of them is even an extrovert! But only if I talk to her in a small round...XD))
This video got me when I heard the bit about shutting out the world when feeling depleted from external stimulations. I've long been thinking that something was seriously wrong with me in my relationships because after being active and social with my friends for a while, I'd feel this urge to shut it all out and be by myself. I used to think I was doomed for building relationships - I didn't have a good explanation for the way I was behaving. Though I'm not 100% sure this matches what the video was talking about, I feel much better about myself with a new perspective. I think I'd be at a better position to manage my relationships if I let my friends know about this aspect of my personality. That way they'll more likely feel okay with me being distant and seemingly all of a sudden wanting to reconnect. Thank you for the video! Please keep up the good work.
Lately I've been going to interviews where I mostly talk to three or four different people for 3-5 hours. After these interviews I literally cannot communicate with other people. When my dad asked me about some of the questions in the interview I didn't even want to answer him because I was already so exhausted. After going to a big social event I need at least three days alone in my room to just be by myself. So yeah, introverts for life!
I just enjoy having more meaningful friendships than just a ton of acquaintances. I don't like being alone and I don't feel "recharged", but instead I gain my energy when around the few people I love being around with.
introverts still need some socializing but much less, and it drains them so introverts have small groups of friends,online chatting to fill the enough socializing meter
I think one of the troubles of the close friendship is actually finding someone that you are willing to let in. I've had a few close friends growing up and in college, but we've all moved away from each other and I find myself really wishing I had a close friend nearby to talk to (not small talk, an actual conversation) and hang out with.
Flaming extrovert here: I spend 99% of my time alone and only 1% in social interactions. And still they drain me. I know crazy right? The world is not "tailored" for extroverts. The world welcomes and supports those who engage with it. Period. And whether you're an introvert or an extrovert, engaging with it has a cost for all of us in terms of energy. Guys all of these are just words, labels. You are not a label! You're greater than any label anyone can come up with. Here's the real truth: are you happy? Yes? Keep going. No? Change something. The end. Remember: YOU ARE PERFECT! Even in your quietness or perceived awkwardness, YOU ARE PERFECT! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise or tell you how you should or shouldn't act. Own what's unique about you, own your perfection! Don't worry you'll do great! So get out there...or stay in hard! ;) PS: sometimes I play a little social game called "How long can I go without human contact and be just fine." It's a lot of fun! It taught me I can actually be happy all by myself. What a concept eh?! But when I do get out to play, I play hard! Reluctantly flaming extrovert out!
both me and my boyfriend are both interoverts. I love when I get to spend time with him and not just because I love him. Whenever we are together, we talk and analyze things we things that are on our minds. I enjoy having someone, that I cannot only depend on, but someone that understands, and doesn't question, why I am always looking so deeply into things. Well done with the video, it was well put together. :) glad I found it
In my opinion the cause why we introverts lose our energy quickly is because we want to get something and the extros dont give a fuck. We want to get approval, be liked by everybody, we are perfectionists and try to say the best quote, we filter our thoughts too much and get muscles tenses by the fear of rejection.
Moreira Da Lima I was thinking something similar. Like it having to do with narcissism, sociopathy or anxiety. Anxiety induced by being goal oriented/striving for happiness, and being socially knowledgable and trying to be genuine all are too much to balance. And that's when you get your linguistically-intelligent "coverted" narcissist.
Moreira Da Lima I think I'm an introvert. But I am so, so, so far from a perfectionist and I don't want to be liked by everybody, I just want a few friends that are REALLY close
I really do think too hard before saying anything and I get scard I would say something I'll regret later on, besides I really spot fake people easily and I'm extra cautious around them
stupendous video man! watching this video made me realize that I am not a anti social person although I never thought I was. I began to think what's up with my personality and it turns out I am a introvert. So now it's clear to me that i need to recharge and spend my lone time wisely. Gaining some knowledge and finishing up school work is what I need to be doing. Is there an explanation for social media too? I have plenty of associates and a small group of friends but why am I not interested in social media? I rarely post anything but anyways thanks for this video I feel like i will go far in life.
Epic Snoop because we introverts don't see a point to joining the idiotic narcissistic people of social media unless it's Reddit it's the only intellectual of them all
Oh dear god how biased you guys are. I'm extrovert, atleast by this definition (I hate alone time, I need human contact) but.. I dont use social media, pretty much not at all. And It's quite strange to say that Introverts only use reddit because it's only intellectual social media.There can be non-intellectual introverts, and there can be intellectual extroverts. This video's definition of introverts is REALLY stereotypified, I personally could relate to many points in it, even though I'm 100% extrovert. Take it with a grain of salt. If you see good points in it that might help you with your quality of life, do them. But don't go around labeling people as extroverts and introverts, no one is actually totally one of the two, some traits fit someone else, and some fit someone else.
Jezteri I Haven't slept in a few days and most of my comments are just b8 Ik theres no such thing as labeling just descriptions also it's a comment on the internet no need for a lecture essay.
I love you Ratalyst! You just made my life easier. Took a ton of pressure off my heart. Man I thought I'm the only one who feel nervous when my phone rings.
I am an introvert, and luckily I am married to one too. I have my own man-cave in which I spend most of my time. I have never been scared of public speaking though, because of some really great advice I got as a teenager. "Everyone in the audience is here to listen to you talk, you don't have to win them over, they are already on your side, just say what you're going to say." I was also in theatre in high school and college, and if you aren't a method actor it doesn't matter for stage acting. Most audiences cannot tell the difference between a method actor, and someone using Peter O'Toole's technique which essentially boils down to "fake it until you make it". You know what anger or sadness or happiness look like, make your face do that thing, make your voice the right pitch when you say your lines. I would be interested in you doing a video about grudges, because I find I have a really hard time letting go of them once they have formed.
I watched this for 5 mins (still watching) and subbed already. You deserve a lot more subs dude. keep up the great work! also, this is totally me. I'm a 100% introvert. But get me a person who's like-minded & I can talk for hours :)
Hello Ratalyst, I found your video on introversion to be very enlightening. It has explained several of my traits and made things a great deal clearer. I now understand better why I am like I am and I feel far more confident about life in general. Thank you for your well presented explanation.
Thanks so much for watching Bryan :) We have just released another video (first in 8 months) on Ambiverts if you're interested -> ua-cam.com/video/_gQp9DF141o/v-deo.html We also have another 11x videos almost ready to go, to we hope to get them out over the next few weeks!
introverts unite!... separately.... i don't know you people
LOL! :D
Brilliant!
we could exist in the general vicinity I guess...
TukenNuken i guess..... only if we don't need confront each other
the withering production LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! !!!!!!!!!!!! This was too funny. yet true. HA!!
Introverts , unite separately in your own homes 💪
Haha, that's funny Aronno :D
Aronno
I already am hahahahahahahaaa
Aronno we need a school full of Introverts as myself
Aronno lmao 😂 👌
@@hhippe8632 I would like to get an admission in that school....
I enjoy being an introvert so much, just being alone, listening to music while drawing, reading an engaging book or watching an interesting movie closed up in my room is my idea of an amazing time
Purple Demon omg i enjoy the same
Purple Demon Oh god, me too
Me too :) the peace and quiet is so amazing
+6d I'm nearing graduation with a degree in IT and I've been paying attention to where I want to work. Seems like the big companies want loud and socially connected tech workers. I'm not social but was able to excel in a sales job because I pieced a formula together for conversations but I certainly cannot pass for cool for more than 20 minutes. I'm a bit worried about my job prospects since I'll have trouble fitting in. In fact, I got hired at a different sales job and quit after the first day because I felt so much of an outsider to the other workers, I think it was a solid choice that I felt bad about at the time.
My ideal job is by myself and quiet.
how to get money to maintain your hobbies,getting food, without having too big of a pain to work is the question
computer science IT stuff is obvious but not all introverts enjoy that sadly(including me), probably gonna end up constructor,structural engineer or something like that in the end, no idea will i enjoy it or despise it.
I don't understand why most of the world tries to pathologize introversion when it's pretty clear most scientific, philosophical, etc. breakthroughs were made by people with the luxury of silent reflection.
Yeah, I often say to people: if you want to make a breakthrough of some kind you lock yourself up in a lab or go meditate on a mountain, it's not found in crowds or the supermarket. The world needs introverts, they should just understand not all introverts are scary loners that you have to watch out for. When I saw this video it was really the first time I realised that extraverts recharge from social situations. That's the opposite from how introverts feel (and opposite from how I feel), they must not understand anything of introverts at all! And since they're the majority ( so they decide what's "normal"), it's easy to dismiss introverts as crazy and deviant.
Yeah!!!
Because humans are xenophobic and lack empathy for those different to them.
SinPunisher
Exactly!
So true man. I don't think the geniuses and great inventors of history hung out at the beach or bar with a ton of friends.
"Extroverts tend to cut people off in conversations"
This, is the main reason I avoid participating in debates and/or small talks with "nothing of value". When I do speak up about a topic with substance and get cut off I immediately feel resentment towards that person, and while I'd get emotional internally I prefer to shut up and let it slide to avoid conflict - it's just not worth it.
Understand completely. I don't even bother trying to have a meaningful conversation with those people. They only have a 2 second attention span and i need more time than that to get my point across
I have a friend who's an extrovert and in many scenarios when I speak of a topic with substance, after a few seconds of him listening or if I go on too long he'll cut me off and start his small talk about hot girls or clothes, stuff like that.
-repetitively bangs my head on table-
I need to find an introvert girlfriend and maybe an introverted friend.
Cloud Chan Lol. I'm an introvert who found an introveted extrovert soul mate. Fighting~!
Cloud Chan i had a friend like that, he once made a big deal out of me not properly fastening a VGA cable. So yeah, me being lazy was apparently the joke of the year on IRC channels he hang around.
Ohem1 yea, them extroverts are crazy lol
I see. So I am an introvert. However, i think most people around me are hypocrites. They go on and on about how I am weird, not social, too objective etc. Yet when they need genuine opinion about something, they come to me. Usually they get angry because as soon as the conversation starts to get boring, i walk away. I HAVE NO CLOSE FRIENDS.
stop talking about me please😂😂😂
Nurudeen Karim
Nurudeen Karim wow you are my twin bro. I personally just cant stand fake people.
Trust me we have True Friends , give me quality over quantity any-day
Honestly, I'd rather be alone than with people who don't understand me.
I'm an introvert, and for small talk, it really depends. If it's a good topic to talk about, I'm all in. If not, I'm just bored.
Chaøs Đracø same
what's the good topic
that is what he meant when introverts tend to dislike small talks unless the topic is substantial :)
Usually we prefer deeper conversations with some cognitive significance, rather than just talking about the weather :p
Ratalyst Exactly, thank you.
I almost never feel the need to be social. All I want is a nice woman in my life to love me and a couple friends. Even then, I can go days, even weeks without socializing. And I'm proud of it. I hate people who judge me for this. Being social isn't enjoyable unless its a one on one activity or *maybe* a group of 3 people, so why should I go out of the way to just to cater to the worldview that insists you need to socialize frequently to be happy? This just isn't true. I am happy.
Same I feed of my own greatness.
Why? What's to feel sorry for? Not all women like to be social too. That's exactly the kind of woman us introverts need. It is far more intimate imo when you don't spend both your lives with 100 different people. I'm obvious not alone with this opinion, considering how many likes my post got.
I'm an introvert too. My ex boyfriend (who I'm still friends with) is an introvert too but way more social than I am. But if I hang out with him we usually just enjoy a UA-cam video of someone playing a game and it never feels like a waste of time.
A girl, one of my classmates told me "You know, enough for me going out every day, waste of money, only once a week !"
I say "You know... enough for me too, better start going out once a week"
Michael Kanis I'm 100% with you. I would rather find myself an introverted man as the extroverted men I've dated keep wanting me to go to this club or this party or this event and I don't want to do it.
This video should be made popular. Most extroverts assume that extroversion is the norm and that introversion is some sort of abnormality. I'm so sick of everyone telling me "it's just a phase" or "you'll get over it someday" when it's actually who I am. It's my personality, not a disease. I just simply don't like to talk most of the time.
Yes it should DenebCygnus! Thanks for watching, and glad that you could get something out of it :)
yes agreed.
It’s who you are and there’s many of us out there don’t let no one tell you to change !!
I am an introvert and a master procrastinator. My life is hell.
Same here xD
don't do today what you can put off until tomorrow and if you're lucky someone else will do it for you if you wait long enough
Introverts + master procrastinators unite... separately in our own homes... maybe tomorrow.
Rockart9 I can't agree more with your statement.
Rockart9 😂😂😂😂😂
Be whatever you want. Just don't be Fake.
What if the real me is a serial killer?
Define "fake"
Mystery Yoghurt Do whatever makes you happy... xD
Accept at work, you have to be fake because you have to pretend you love working with them.
+FLICKOFF1000 You mean being civil?
When i'm social i'm pretty bold and i like to speak my mind. I'm even good at smalltalk. The problem is when i'm not social. All the new people i meet are confused when i don't answer the phone, don't reply to messages and make excuses not to go out with them... It's surprisingly hard for most people to understand that drawing, playing the piano or just watching a movie with my cat means i'm busy.
So me
Same for me! People don’t understand we like time alone in peace! I’m always happy to stay home and play guitar and hang out with my cats!
proud introvert......hate bein in d spotlight....love my space,im social wen i want too
Tracy Umoffıa we choose when to be social. thats what i told my friend after being called anti social.
yup
Jk jess..... I hate it.. But always find myself there.... But i usually do my thing n move on before it gets too annoying
I'm a proud introvert
Loool. Me too. Even when I'm being rewarded or awarded something, my reaction muted,suprised and avoiding like I've been publicly embarrassed. My first instinct is to run away.I reaaaly hate being in the spotlight. I enjoy working in the background with no attention being drawn to me.
aside from phone calls I also hate text msgs that only starts w/ "hey (name)" .. like im obliged to reply to see what they need. like if you want to talk, send everything you want to say in one msg and i'll reply whenever im comfortable.
same here
it applies to Facebook messages and skype calls with me because i am obligated to answer them
I mostly ignore people's text messages xD I find it sometimes annoying..
Adam Nguyen yeah same but the problem is that i overthink and feel obligated to answer or else they think i am ignoring them
Ladyn - the problem with asynchronous communication. I might think I am being ignored if someone doesn't reply to my messages after a long period of time
yeah same :/ which is why i answer unless i log off (that never works) or say that i am doing something else
im a hardcore introvert and school is hell for me..everything is made for extroverts. i cant talk without rehearsing it in edvance, and even then, my anxiety gets in the way..
I really feel the same
Then it's funny that you get judge, amazing
Hans , Same...and I blush very easily so it makes things worse...
+Masky Hoody it doesnt help at all talking to a crush lol
Revo Horizon In what kind of situation?
Sounds like social anxiety
If only I knew about introversion when I was a kid - I only started researching about the topic about three years ago. There were just so many situation where I felt wrong - that was such a waste of time. They should teach about, or teach according to the different personality traits in schools!
Anna u r right
yup that was found out about this when i was 15 i'm 19 now
That's a good idea. :)
Anna and actually care about education ? They just want mindless people.
Anna life doesnt work that way
When I was young I was told that I would grow out of it. I'm 33 now and of course I didn't. At least I understand why I am this way instead of loathing myself because I wasn't a certain way. I feel like society overwhelmingly expects you to show traits of an extrovert. Also some people act like I am dumb for not having much to say. They assume that my mind is empty when it's actually quite full with my thoughts and my words are multiple choice from A to Z.
I hope society can better understand introverts in the future. That just because we're introverts doesn't mean that we don't care about people/friends/family.. We need to be alone sometimes and there's nothing wrong with that.
Dark Seven thats the word overwhelming. im going to be 30 soon and know exactly how it feels. Im trying to fit in when working mode, but when it comes to social event i despise it and avoid at all cost as it drains me out. the thing is all bosses are usually extroverts and they wont understand us. Thats why i cant fit into the culture for more than a year, job hopping. Sad huh? sigh
It took me 11 years to accept, that if you have no understanding from coworkers, nothing will change in the future.
Drifter So True pal
the only thing that's ever bothered me about being an introvert is the negative stigma that comes along with it. I never felt bad that I hate crowds or don't enjoy small talk. I literally have two friends: my hubby and my son, I love it that way. it took my husband years to realize introversion was a real thing, as he is a total extrovert. I love my introverted life and habits, but dear extroverts, don't feel like we are negative, or haughty, or don't like you. I love people. I love to listen to people, but it has to be one person at a time and for very short bursts. don't hate!!! ;-)
Very well said Rachel, and we certainly understand that ourselves!! Thank you for watching our videos :)
When I (much) talk I feel tired and when I'm in public place I never talk yet but when I'm alone I always talk to myself. My parents and my friend thought I was crazy 😂
Yes! I thought I was the only one. Always talked to myself since a child. I'm talking to myself right now!
Joseph Armando I do the same! I tend to imagine that I'm talking to a person or crowd about an interesting topic. My family probably thinks I'm crazy.
Joseph Armando It would be amazing to just sit there and listen to you. You probably wouldn't talk with me there though xD
Maii Half-Blood omg i thought i was crazy but now that i know that im not the only one who does that i feel relieved lmao
Yes same
introvert 👋 I love being alone....
***** I do need friends sometimes, but I need some me time sometimes
I love being with cheerful person and smart person, they make the time I spend around them so precious...
But unfortunately I have no close-friends at all, my social skill is just too bad
I'm definitely an introvert. I like interacting with people for a certain amount of time. I hate being called shy cause there is so much negativity that comes with it. I don't feel like I'm shy. Just quiet at times. I'm not good at being put on the spot I have to think about things. And I get tired of feeling like I have to fit into someone else's mold of what they think I should be.
Bilbo Baggins was an introvert who wanted his relatives to stop bothering him. Yet, he's the most beloved hobbit in all middle earth.
Ahh. This is why I sometimes want to cry after I forced myself to attend a party ....
That's right Summer :p
I feel like crying even after a small talk or when extroverts start to throw their wrong assumptions straight at my face as if something is wrong with me and I have to change.
@@abirkhlifi4067 They always expect you to change, instead of accepting you the way you are. We've all been there
I'm an introvert, but probably more extreme. I don't even want to have deep conversations with intelligent people lol. I also have an issue with my verbal communication, can't find words on the spot very well. So I can better express myself through writing, and I'm a visual artist. :-)
you can improve your verbal communication
+R I would love to lol. Maybe there are books on it. :-)
OMG, the same happens to me lol, i am good at writing communication, but when i am speaking with someone, sometimes i go back and forth of what i was talking, sometimes i can think of much more words than i am able to speak, and sometimes i stutter. And with the presentation i really get very nervous because it happened to me that when i have to give a presentation there is always a question that i can't answer (even by preparing myself with all the material i have at disposal).
+Joshua Mendieta Yes! Me too, I even stutter sometimes, though I don't think I officially classify as a stutterer lol. And one of my biggest problems is I'm redundant! Like I don't think I phrased something well, so I say it again, but usually phrase it the same crappy way lol.
+L.A.W. Gaming Aw, that's mean. At least if I was autistic I would be much better at art! XD
I'm an introvert and I have made small talk incredibly boring for extraverts. I'm just trying to be polite but not sure how to cut the conversation and I keep talking crap until they find a way to stop talking to me. I feel better that they're gone but then later worse because that could've been a chance for a new friend and they think I'm boring. I have no real social skills.
Genevieve Antoinette if you are struggling to make small chat with anyone
might not be on you... sometimes there is no chemistry at all between thepeople having the small talk...
btw. I apologize. my cellphone's keyboard is fucked up.
Genevieve Antoinette that's exactly me lol
Like the video says, know yourself and use your strengths. It could very well be not that you have no social skills but that you are not "skilled" in the situations you find yourself in. In any case it's not your "fault" how you are naturally in these social situations. Change the situations, avoid them if you have to but above all love yourself and avoid guilt for not being different than you're nature ... there's nothing "wrong" with you because you can't act out a forced, societally induced role convincingly. peace.
awww you guys are so sweet! I can't stop smiling, yeah I'll learn to be more confident with my personality. I feel at home talking to you peeps
I told someone that the reason I didn't hang out with the rest of the group is that, "I don't like you people." That's not true, one on one, I don't mind any of them, but I can't take being in a room with a bunch of people. It did achieve the desired effect of making him go away, but it was hurtful and mean.
Interesting. I am most likely an introvert yet I feel perfectly comfortable giving public speeches or presenting to an audience. I found that it is not the joy of being the center of attention that allows me to present my material comfortably, but rather a complete disconnect from the social component of my presentation. I present my material and don't give a f*!k how I or anyone else feels about it. Without the disconnect I am sure I would crumble like so many do in front of so many observers.
edit... and at 9:15 the narrator makes exactly this point. Great video!
Wish I could be like you. There's very few things I hate more than giving speeches or presentations. They are just nerve-wrecking for me :/
I'm just like this. ironic how you would think extroverts would have no problem talking in front of groups.
Good point.
Absolutely. I loved doing acting in my youth.
I'm shy but my mom always told people "she's not shy she's just rude" just because I would talk around her and I didn't talk to other people
Uhm, I'm sorry about that, don't listen to it. Some shy people already have a tendency to feel guilt because others assume that they're rude when the actually have good intentions, your mother shouldn't feed peoples false assumptions.
lol same :)))))))
My parents usually just tell others that I'm shy when I'm around new people.
.-.
Stranger: *Greets me* Oh so this is your son? Hi! I'm -insert name- It's nice to meet you. How are you?
Me: Hi. I'm -insert name- I'm good.
...
Mom: Oh he's a shy boy, He's always been like that.
Stranger: Haha it's okay *carries on*
MOMMA PLEASE! I'M A GROWN MAN! I AIN'T SHY!
*ehem* unless I'm around a pretty lady >.>
Hey guys, introversion is actually a genetically inherited trait. It is still present in humans today because it makes sense from an evolutionary pov so if you are an introvert don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you - you rather have a very important quality. So embrace it and have fun spending time with yourself :) You are your best friend ever. Oh, and great video btw. Keep them coming!
Well said Andrei, and thanks very much :)
Nice video dude. I'm introverted, but it gets better as you age. I can dip into social occasions as and when I need to, but my private thoughts and life are always so much more important and dominant.
I think I score 2000% on the scale of introvertism :P
Jamil Hneini saaaaaaame, I feel like people are often a bit of both but I'm like completely introverted
I hated myself for so long cause I was this, I wanted to be extrovert so badly cause it's just so much easier in life :(
It's only easy because they don't try to be something else(e.g. an Introvert), but when you embrace your introvert side, life gets a lot easier.
Until you see the extrovert who comes off as a pushy jerkface. When you see that person you think about being an extrovert and then say, "Nah."
Don't listen to those bastards. They make you hate yourself.
ReaperPlayzLeague yes this is true. It's about accepting yourself
SAME ;~;
I absolutely love solitude....I thrive on it
Don't bother calling me....I won't answer
If you text me it might be a couple of days before I respond....If I respond
Norm T
LOL....UA-cam is not the same thing as people I actually know.
*****
LOL...I wish....I find myself chanting the words "Don't talk to me Don't talk to me" over and over again when someone is walking my way
We get the point DS, we won't call! :p
i dont mind texting. i delay response only to avoid them calling me immidiatelyif they know i have my phone around.
I literally _have_ to call. I'm TERRIBLE when on the phone, but you gotta call me because I won't answer texts until 30 minutes to a week later.
this made me feel so proud to be a introvert
One of the best breakdowns of the Introvert I've ever seen. Thank you! Constantly being expected to have extroverted qualities can be extremely alienating, and many people don't realize that there is a difference between shyness and introversion. Once we learn how to put our natural inclination for solitude to good use, we can achieve great things!
Thanks SSC! Really appreciate your support, thank YOU for watching! :)
I quietly agree to this on my bed .
We're with you Nathaniel :)
lol if you were with him it would be a different video ;-)
I’m an introvert myself and I’m glad you mentioned that not all introverts are “shy.” While I was shy as a kid (mostly from lack of social skills), I became a pretty confident person when I became involved in theatre. Were it not for theatre I probably wouldn’t be the person I am today. I used to think there was something wrong with me as a kid. I would come home from school and tell my mom that I’d played by myself and she said to try playing with others. While I did eventually make friends, I still preferred being on my own. Now that I’ve grown up and know what introversion is I feel way better. I know my limits and don’t push myself to do anything I’m not comfortable with in social situations because I know it’ll drain me. Nowadays I love art, writing stories, and music. I still have a very active imagination, which as an actor and writer is very convenient. I hoe anyone struggling like I did when I was younger will understand that it’s okay to feel this way. It’s not a mental disorder. It’s just something special about you. Many of the things in this video perfectly describe me. Thank you!
Best thing I've ever gotten in my recommendations. Ever.
Best comment we've ever got. Ever.
group conversations are exausting to me. you have to keep track of all the niceties and reciprocate them. plus remembering peoples names is difficult. id rather just have a thereputic deep conversation with my best friend than stressfull small talk.
shoutout to all the introverts out there. we're often overlooked but often have so much to give to the world. always remember that :)
That's right VB!
Finally, a video that explains about this character trait. I used to work in a school district, surrounded by hundreds of people, and at the end of the day, I was so mentally exhausted, I could not go the rest of the day without a nap. I so prefer to be by myself with the occasional going out and or hanging out with two or three friends!!! Great Video!!!
Sounds like a classic introvert RVC :) Thanks for the comment and for watching! :)
When youre an an introvert suffering from depression. Oh the suffering
Thanks alot for cheering me up.
Anxiety, depression, and ptsd the unholy Trinity 😪😭
I absolutely loved this video!!!! It was like I wrote it about myself. I love my alone time..I "have" to get my alone time. Small talk is so irritating and I just stay far away from it. When I'm in public, like going for a walk, I won't meet someone eye to eye because I've done this in the past and it led into a long, flowing, roll the eyes small talk terror. I love finding people who can actually carry on a real conversation. I detest shopping in malls as I find a lot of people just don't respect personal space and boundaries and I'm not good with that. In the past I've been called cold, snobby, rude, shy, stuck-up and anti-social. I just look at these people and say "no, I'm an introvert." Most times I see a puzzled look on their face. I've been told it's just a phase I'm going through. I'm 51-years old and I'm past phases. I have enjoyed my own company since I was a child. I have a very small circle of friends and they all turn to me when they want/need someone to listen. I certainly do embrace being an introvert and I'm definitely proud :) Thank you for this video :)
I'm the biggest introvert in history and my best friend is the biggest extrovert in history. It's pretty cool.
so I'm guessing you live vicariously through your friend's extroversion.
+Uncle Tony did you watch the video?
*****
I thought I did, why, what'd I miss?
me and my introvert mate had dinner together other night. it went off. talked heaps. laughed heaps. went in and out of small talk and deep talk to keep things interesting. but in a crowd u wouldnt think id be so bubbly. the very next day went to a church event n had social anxiety, felt so self conscious. im such an introvert
I like your video! Just subbed to your channel!
Most of my childhood and youth i believed that I was shy because I'm introverted, but now I know the truth: being introverted can be an advantage. I've never imagined that I could be an university professor, but that´s my current job and I feel so proud of that. As you said, embracing our introversion is the key to success in life and get whatever we want.
Keep up the good work!
Whoever edited this video has finally understood us. We, as introverts, are being misunderstood by the society. Thanks very much for posting this video.
Thanks so much for watching, Joseph! :)
This is me! Unfortunately i'm both, introvert and shy! :(
same
Welcome friends :)) same 2 me
me too
*arianna* but your beautiful
you'll be alright
Wow, spot on! I'm definitely an introvert and feel like my battery is running out near the end of a night with many new people.
I really value my own time and feel intruded if I get a phone call or knock on the door.
I am learning to embrace it and correct the negative aspects to it.
I think being an introvert allows me to have better connections with others. I am able to relate better and think from various perspectives because introspection makes it easier to understand others. I hate my phone notifications so much. My family and friends understand and accept that I may not always answer calls or immediately reply to messages in exchange for my undivided attention when I am feeling social.
Alexis Mitchell I wish my family and friends understood me and not mocked me for it.
Feeling drained in large crowds of people and disliking small talk and getting bored by both wow that sounds like me.
JESUS CHRIST, this is every... bit of ME!!!! You have no idea how glad I am to have found this!
We're glad you've found it too Liv!
I'm an introvert and my skills are:
-I can hide my presence in any group of people
-i hate small talk but if you start a conversation with me get ready cause this will be a long conversation
-i can judge the personality of a person
-i am use on being alone
-for me knowledge is power reading books and other things that can improve my skills
-I'm a deep thinker
-i use logic in solving my problems
-I don't need a lot of friends 1 or 2 is OK as long as he or she accept me for who I am
- I'm an independent person if I have problems I solve it by myself
- and lastly I cannot fall in love easily
that's all what's yours.
Dude! You have just described my personality in 100%. This is scary! :)
cj Batuto This is totally me!!
This is totally me, expect maybe for the last point. I don't know about love but I can get attached to people easily (unhealthily easy), I start off by not trusting them at all, then somewhere along the line decide it's ok to trust them and get completely attached. So far, this hasn't worked out well for me.
Same
Excellent, compelling talk. Kudos for the effort and encoragement. And it uncannily, perfectly describes my own lifelong introversion. I had long ago embraced my innate introverted personality, and I'd like to believe I am making the most of it.
Good on you TFB! It certainly can be embraced as a positive aspect to your personality. Thanks for the comment, and we're hoping to have some more content out soon :)
This video just summed me up!
Erryl Zakari yep, can he change the title to "story of my life"
me too
I could...maybe people wouldn't find it then though? :p Thanks for watching!
Inspired me to create a new playlist for myself on UA-cam. It'll be the first video in my "Mental Health" playlist.
That's a great idea Junokaii! We can all use good mental health awareness. Thanks for your support :)
You've not put up anything for 7 months.
You are very right Jon. Our videos haven't really gained traction until this week. Now that we know everyone is interested, we are working to grow the channel and put up heaps of new content. Please stay tuned and check in with again soon! Thanks for watching :)
Ratalyst
Thanks. This video reminded me of how Introverted I am personally. And society likes to make people all outgoing people who gotta have a lot in life to be happy. Which for people like me, can be stressful as I don't need a lot in life to be happy. So it's a good reminder to people a bit more on the 'quiet side' of life to not worry about the small things Extroverts think everyone needs.
+Ratalyst Everything you said was stuff I had already thought, I am both shy and introverted and I feel some people might even think I am slightly slow-witted! I feel better now, some people hate people like me!
My personality falls in 99% of an introvert spectrum.
I must say that the person who came up with this video, we think in a similar way.
In the past, I used to think that there was something wrong with me and I felt that I needed to change myself to be a normal person like an extrovert. It's been a long time since I have embraced my introversion. Being an introvert is not a curse, it's a gift.
I am really glad to find this video. Thank you Ratalyst, I enjoyed watching this video.
Thanks so much for your feedback Rytesh! We really appreciate you watching, thank you :)
Introverts talk less bullshit... wow, guess its great being part of the minority :D
I went through a period trying to live like an extrovert. Finally at 55, I am settling happily into and enjoying my true introverted self.
I'm really damn introverted which can be really fucking exhausting when you work as a nurse for 7+ hrs a day with elderly with dementia where you have small talk all day long. I love nothing more than to hangout on the couch all day, watching youtube, gaming and messaging friemds or just chill with some close friends
I feel you bro. Architecture student here ;-;
Aron Bekhuis Same here, except switch nursing for a customer care agent! The constant talking drains me. 2 hours in and I am almost completely drained. So I do a few things to avoid calls and conversation with others.
Aron Bekhuis introverts should find jobs to suit their personality.. but it is hard when most jobs out there are looking for outgoing loud people. you just gotta make the most of your skills.
excellent video! this really helped me enjoy my introversion. i saw introversion in a wrong way. i thought its just a term for quiet and isolated people. in the past year everyone always told me im very quiet and i should talk with them more and it got into my mind so i constantly had think about it while being with a group of people. ive tried to improve and got better at it but im still not comfortable at smalltalking etc. now i know through all these symptoms what exactly i have so i can feel a lot better. thanks for this video keep it up!
卐 Satan 卐 i fully understand you man! it takes guts to speak out what you think. its hard for me to speak about what im thinking about and usually i adapt to other people. keep doing what youre doing and dont care about other people!
omg this is 100% me. I always prepare what I'm going to say. It's strange cause I find myself talking to myself from time to time. Over thinking ever situation no matter how big or small it is. Even if I get a text I will spend minutes thinking about what to say and how I'm going to say it. It's quit annoying, but I found I really help people out with my thoughts ^^ so maybe its not so bad after all.
This is the most relating video i´ve ever seen! finally i have a name to put on my social situation. Absolutely everything you said about introverts i totally relate to. Great video, you earned a sub!
Thanks KnowOne! Glad to have you on board, and we'll have some more videos up for you soon! :)
How come this guy doesn't have more subs?
Agreed! Thanks RT :)
***** lol have you even watched the video?
***** lol
because introverts are just 25-33% of the population
+Tristan Granados hahaha that's a good one
This is the most relatable video I have ever watched. I LOVE acting and public speaking, and I hate small talk! I never know what to say to people. The fact that most people I speak to simply don't understand what it's like to be an introvert made this video relieving in many ways. Thank you for making me feel better about who I am.
Thanks for watching :)
The hurtful part is when people confuse introverts to being proud and big headed. Specially people think that we are being rude. I mean yeah sometimes it's rude. I just ignore people all the time even not saying hi. Some of them are my classmates as well. I just can't handle my heart raise. But when I come I think about it for like 3 weeks. What would they be thinking about me.....
Can relate.
I am an introvert and there is nothing better than that
Brilliant video mate. I'm about 95% of what you described, and will share this video with others so they can get to understand me a bit better.
Liked and subbed. Keep up the good work.
Thanks for watching xx!
Thinking the same thing the entire video
Personal time in solitude is something I hold close to my heart, every moment I get to have time alone I cherish and enjoy every minute!
And so you should AM! Protect that time because it's vital :)
Wow. This is literally my life. Like to the tee! Thanks for sharing!!
Thanks for watching!
I have always thought of myself as an introvert just because I knew that I wasn't an extrovert, but I didn't ever look into it until I found this video. This realy has helped my consider a different way to look at life. Rather than anti social and unproductive, I just hate small talk and I'm relaxing not being unproductive. Thank you for the advice, I have recently been developing social anxiety and a mild form of what felt like depression, but this has really made me feel less shitty about the person that I am currently.
We're really glad to hear that you got something out of this video Ezakiah. We will be doing a video in the near future on social anxiety as well, so hopefully you find that just as useful. Thank you very much for watching and participating in the comments, we really appreciate you!
I do find small talks tiring and awkward. They make me think too much and get upset. Thank you for this great video. I learnt a lot from this.
Love this video!
This Channel need more subs, underated channel
Explains everything about an Introvert
Thanks Victor! We're trying to start providing more now :)
This is so me lol. I usually score 100% introverted on the meyers-brigg, but I have always wondered if this is because this is my personality or because I am deaf and social situations require more energy for me to keep up the more people there are. My close handful of friends and family I have a much easier time talking with, so I tend to just spend time with them over meeting new people.
Same.
Hey David, we have friends who are also deaf, and they are 100% introverted. They are usually very reluctant to engage with strangers, and I guess this is because the communication can be more difficult at first, and therefore more exhausting to make that connection. Whereas with friends, we can't keep them quiet and the extrovert traits come out to play! :)
Ratalyst I dont have problem that im shy, when i meet other strangers its exhausting
Just thought we'd add that we have significantly improved the closed captions (CC) for all of our videos, which should provide far better value to our friends who are harder of hearing :) Thanks for watching and listening!
Ratalyst wow thanks very awesome, I subscribed.
Thank you for posting this great video. I just realised that I may just be an introvert. I always thought, that being the one I am around extroverts is wrong. I always wondered why everyone speaks up earlier, although they may say something wrong. Extroverts simply don't care. In my opinion this behaviour was wrong because you should be able to authentically present or say something.
Now, everything weaves itself into a bigger picture. Thank you very much. You helped me with criticising my personality less. Hopefully from now on, I will be able to embrace my character and be able to use it.
Yeah, I'm an introvert and I totally know these extroverts interrupting you and telling you later, you should talk more...
Most of the time I don't feel like talking then anymore. And I don't really feel the need to explan, I just aggree nodding to get my break again...XD
Yeah, I am a great listener and I have my "good friends", but some people are just...yeah exhausting.
And some people will never realise, that I *can* talk much, if we were talking about the right things and if they let me.
Edit: The very hard thing is, if they just don't stop talking after interupting you. Sometimes I just go on talking, but they then get louder and louder, that I think: Nah, if they don't want to know, I won't make them to.
Very funny, if they're seaking for an answere or where to go or how to do stuff or something like that... and I know, but they won't listen, after I treid to tell it at least twice.
(But at my school people learned the hard way, they should listen to me, as I stopped trying to tell them and just do the stuff or go there and let them see, that I know, what they don't. They learned to listen to me.
I'm curios, if the people at my university now will learn this as well^^
(Well, at least some few already did, and one of them is even an extrovert! But only if I talk to her in a small round...XD))
This video got me when I heard the bit about shutting out the world when feeling depleted from external stimulations. I've long been thinking that something was seriously wrong with me in my relationships because after being active and social with my friends for a while, I'd feel this urge to shut it all out and be by myself. I used to think I was doomed for building relationships - I didn't have a good explanation for the way I was behaving. Though I'm not 100% sure this matches what the video was talking about, I feel much better about myself with a new perspective. I think I'd be at a better position to manage my relationships if I let my friends know about this aspect of my personality. That way they'll more likely feel okay with me being distant and seemingly all of a sudden wanting to reconnect. Thank you for the video! Please keep up the good work.
Lately I've been going to interviews where I mostly talk to three or four different people for 3-5 hours. After these interviews I literally cannot communicate with other people. When my dad asked me about some of the questions in the interview I didn't even want to answer him because I was already so exhausted. After going to a big social event I need at least three days alone in my room to just be by myself. So yeah, introverts for life!
I just enjoy having more meaningful friendships than just a ton of acquaintances. I don't like being alone and I don't feel "recharged", but instead I gain my energy when around the few people I love being around with.
This is one of the best videos I have seen on UA-cam, I related to this a lot & it was very inspiring!
Thanks Dominic! :)
I did not know we are so many...now I embrace my introversion. thanks, subscribed.
Thanks for your support Kikavi!
introverts is extroverts in social media
thank you! now i know why i wanted to respond to you ;)
I have to disagree somewhat. I find facebook almost as exhausting as going to a party.
introverts still need some socializing but much less, and it drains them so introverts have small groups of friends,online chatting to fill the enough socializing meter
Daniel Napitupulu those people are not true introverts. they are just like the majority
CarlanBruns introvert extrover ambivert does not say that much about person
I think one of the troubles of the close friendship is actually finding someone that you are willing to let in. I've had a few close friends growing up and in college, but we've all moved away from each other and I find myself really wishing I had a close friend nearby to talk to (not small talk, an actual conversation) and hang out with.
Flaming extrovert here: I spend 99% of my time alone and only 1% in social interactions. And still they drain me. I know crazy right? The world is not "tailored" for extroverts. The world welcomes and supports those who engage with it. Period. And whether you're an introvert or an extrovert, engaging with it has a cost for all of us in terms of energy.
Guys all of these are just words, labels. You are not a label! You're greater than any label anyone can come up with. Here's the real truth: are you happy? Yes? Keep going. No? Change something. The end.
Remember: YOU ARE PERFECT! Even in your quietness or perceived awkwardness, YOU ARE PERFECT! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise or tell you how you should or shouldn't act. Own what's unique about you, own your perfection! Don't worry you'll do great! So get out there...or stay in hard! ;)
PS: sometimes I play a little social game called "How long can I go without human contact and be just fine." It's a lot of fun! It taught me I can actually be happy all by myself. What a concept eh?! But when I do get out to play, I play hard!
Reluctantly flaming extrovert out!
Nehemie Mb You should make a channel.
it feels nice to know I'm not alone and not weird for being introverted. its hard, growing up, when people try to change you.
Thank you for this video! Almost everything you've said matches with my personality :D
Thanks for watching!
+Reso me2 :)
Reso
i feel you :)
Thank you for all the support everyone :)
both me and my boyfriend are both interoverts. I love when I get to spend time with him and not just because I love him.
Whenever we are together, we talk and analyze things we things that are on our minds. I enjoy having someone, that I cannot only depend on, but someone that understands, and doesn't question, why I am always looking so deeply into things.
Well done with the video, it was well put together. :) glad I found it
Great great video bro. I'm an introvert. Now I know so detailed and on the money.
This video helped me a lot more than you can probably imagine. Thanks a lot mate, whoever you are, you're great!
Thank YOU Nahuel! Really glad that you got something out it :) Thanks for your support!
In my opinion the cause why we introverts lose our energy quickly is because we want to get something and the extros dont give a fuck.
We want to get approval, be liked by everybody, we are perfectionists and try to say the best quote, we filter our thoughts too much and get muscles tenses by the fear of rejection.
When did I write this?!
Moreira Da Lima I was thinking something similar. Like it having to do with narcissism, sociopathy or anxiety. Anxiety induced by being goal oriented/striving for happiness, and being socially knowledgable and trying to be genuine all are too much to balance. And that's when you get your linguistically-intelligent "coverted" narcissist.
Moreira Da Lima are you saying introverts are something special? and extroverts not?
Moreira Da Lima I think I'm an introvert. But I am so, so, so far from a perfectionist and I don't want to be liked by everybody, I just want a few friends that are REALLY close
I really do think too hard before saying anything and I get scard I would say something I'll regret later on, besides I really spot fake people easily and I'm extra cautious around them
If you dig around youtube long enough you can find gems like this. watch, learn, apply. peace
Thanks Roy! Glad you consider it a gem :) We hope to have some more gems up real soon!
Awesome vid. I'm an introvert. I'm an awesome public speaking though I'm not that good on conversations one on one.
Thanks for making this video! I'm an introvert and people don't understand that its not the same as being shy... Now i can show them this video!
Thanks for watching Ammaar :)
stupendous video man! watching this video made me realize that I am not a anti social person although I never thought I was. I began to think what's up with my personality and it turns out I am a introvert. So now it's clear to me that i need to recharge and spend my lone time wisely. Gaining some knowledge and finishing up school work is what I need to be doing. Is there an explanation for social media too? I have plenty of associates and a small group of friends but why am I not interested in social media? I rarely post anything but anyways thanks for this video I feel like i will go far in life.
Epic Snoop because we introverts don't see a point to joining the idiotic narcissistic people of social media unless it's Reddit it's the only intellectual of them all
Oh dear god how biased you guys are. I'm extrovert, atleast by this definition (I hate alone time, I need human contact) but.. I dont use social media, pretty much not at all. And It's quite strange to say that Introverts only use reddit because it's only intellectual social media.There can be non-intellectual introverts, and there can be intellectual extroverts. This video's definition of introverts is REALLY stereotypified, I personally could relate to many points in it, even though I'm 100% extrovert.
Take it with a grain of salt. If you see good points in it that might help you with your quality of life, do them. But don't go around labeling people as extroverts and introverts, no one is actually totally one of the two, some traits fit someone else, and some fit someone else.
Jezteri I Haven't slept in a few days and most of my comments are just b8 Ik theres no such thing as labeling just descriptions also it's a comment on the internet no need for a lecture essay.
Great to hear ES! We are glad to hear that you got something out of the video, and wish you all the best in your life! Thanks for watching :)
I love you Ratalyst! You just made my life easier. Took a ton of pressure off my heart. Man I thought I'm the only one who feel nervous when my phone rings.
We love you Inferno! Thanks for watching our videos, and there's more on the way :)
The content you make is amazing!
Makes me wonder why you only have ~400 subscribers.
Thanks KN! We've been quiet for a while, but working on some new stuff now. It looks to be picking up! :)
I am an introvert, and luckily I am married to one too. I have my own man-cave in which I spend most of my time.
I have never been scared of public speaking though, because of some really great advice I got as a teenager. "Everyone in the audience is here to listen to you talk, you don't have to win them over, they are already on your side, just say what you're going to say."
I was also in theatre in high school and college, and if you aren't a method actor it doesn't matter for stage acting. Most audiences cannot tell the difference between a method actor, and someone using Peter O'Toole's technique which essentially boils down to "fake it until you make it". You know what anger or sadness or happiness look like, make your face do that thing, make your voice the right pitch when you say your lines.
I would be interested in you doing a video about grudges, because I find I have a really hard time letting go of them once they have formed.
Best video I have ever watched.
Wow, thanks BB!
Seconded
I watched this for 5 mins (still watching) and subbed already. You deserve a lot more subs dude. keep up the great work!
also, this is totally me. I'm a 100% introvert. But get me a person who's like-minded & I can talk for hours :)
Thanks Pranav! We'll get some more videos up for you soon, we promise! :)
I'm totally an introvert! Thx for making this video.
Thanks for watching :)
Hello Ratalyst, I found your video on introversion to be very enlightening. It has explained several of my traits and made things a great deal clearer. I now understand better why I am like I am and I feel far more confident about life in general. Thank you for your well presented explanation.
Thanks so much for watching Bryan :) We have just released another video (first in 8 months) on Ambiverts if you're interested -> ua-cam.com/video/_gQp9DF141o/v-deo.html
We also have another 11x videos almost ready to go, to we hope to get them out over the next few weeks!