I stopped dating. And i found my authentic self. I stopped censoring my clothes and hair because i thought my true way of dressing was not sexy or attractive to men. I made myself more mainstream. I didn't feel free. When i stopped dating i freed myself from all that. I started dressing in ways that made me happy. I am quirky and awkward and sexy clothes don't suit my deepest, most authentic self. Now that i am free, i wear my loose dresses, bloomers, short bangs, knee socks, whatever without a single thought of whether men will like this. I HAVE NEVER FELT SO FREE AND SO MUCH INTEGRITY OF WHO I AM!!. if i decide to start dating again, my aim is to not go back. If a person is the right person for me, they will be attracted to my authentic self. Period.
Stepping into your true self is one of the hardest but most rewarding things you can do for your overall health as an adult. I think it starts with not needing to explain yourself to everyone and learning how to advocate for the things you want in life. Best of luck to everyone who's on their own journey back to themselves!
When you depend on people to build you up they'll have the same power to break you down. You don't need their validation to know your worth.❤️❤️Selfhelpchampion
Yes 100% !! Well said! I have experienced this myself. Learning to walk away from people who are demeaning or disrespectful and creating space also sends message that you value your self worth and not willing to put up with it.
1) I am compassionate 2) I have an amazing work ethic 3) I am energetic and Joyful ~ thank you for making this content that has helped me and I'm sure many many others!
3 things i appreciate about myself: went no contact with abusive ex, 24 hrs off weed & at 47, i am in the best shape of my life-not perfect but i own my life now.
1. I'm a fast learner 2. I can lift heavy stuff 3. I'm an explorer 4. i have good singing skill 5. I have cute eyes The more I watch your video, the more I found many stuff from myself that is worth of a high appreciation from my ownself. Thank you so much ♥️
My three things: 1. I 'm a talented writer. 2. I try things that interest me (playing instruments, performing stand-up comedy, telling stories in front of audiences) 3. I appreciate the wonders of the natural world.
I was brought up with a brother who pumped my head with jealousy, humiliation and insecurity. It took years and years for me to get the loser comments out of my system. I never understood the self deprecation mindset others live by. Excellent video Friend.
I've noticed that whenever I feel natural, like I'm behaving like my true self, I keep getting looks from others where the look on their face is like: "What the hell are YOU doing? What gives YOU the right to be confident and filled with unapologetic self-belief?" It's actually hilarious the more conscious I become of who I am. Self concept is what EVERYTHING hinges on.
Yes! One morning, while waiting on a local train platform, I greeted a lady near me. She actually scolded me for smiling and being happy! "There's no reason to be so happy," she said. Poor, miserable woman.
Rania, got myself back light-years better than ever after 8 years also It was really scary. It seemed at times, to be impossible. I brainwashed myself constantly with hypnosis and affirmations.
I never realized how much other people's opinion of me mattered, until I saw myself compromising on my core beliefs hoping my boyfriend would fall for me. I finally realized no matter how much I tried to conform, I was not being true to myself, and would not like myself as long as I allowed myself to be manipulated by another person. It is better to be alone, and be authentic then try to make others like you and be miserable. The moment you let your guard down, and get pounced on by another person, you either become a door mat, or develop a backbone and say to yourself, "there is someone out there who would love me for me."
I appreciate my 1. Body 2. My personality 3. My sense of humour🧡 I recognize that i run and own a well known hair business. I recognize that im more calmer now. I recognize that im growing in my career with all the knowledge
(1).. appreciate the fact that I don't want to die the way I'm living sad...(2).. I appreciate the fact that I need help...(3).. I appreciate the fact that I'm finally seeking it....
I am creative. I am empathetic. I am driven. My creativity can rewrite the story of my life. My empathy is my willingness to help others even after everything. When I have the mind for it, I can do anything.
Three things I appreciate about myself: • I can be flexible • I can be honest with self about how I feel •no matter how bad I’m feeling I manage to cook and clean and generally comfort myself during dark times and I always come out feeling nurtured.
Honestly all your videos are amazing, I have been listening to u for weeks now. And You have really helped me, thank you ☺️ And I am really looking forward to new ones
You got to be kidding me! I am in weekly counseling. And this is exactly the subject I talked to her about. I’m not part of the society yet but always contemplate it. I can’t believe the subject matter. Actually I can’t believe because when we work with God he works with us especially when we want to open ourselves and change for the better. Watch out if you ask the Holy Spirit to help you. He will!!!
I just have to add a third statement! I hate when she does short videos I always love the long ones because the more it goes the more you learn. She is that awesome! Alway straight to the point.
Something that really helped was asking myself, "Who am I when I'm not worried about other people?" I feel like I always turn it into something so complex that tire myself out, when really, it's just who I am behind closed doors and when I'm having fun- Thank you so much
Good Stuff, thank you so much for sharing. Yes, I like you because I see and appreciate you are being authentic. Best wishes for success and happiness to you! 💫💖💫
Calmness is a human superpower. The ability to not overreact or take things personally keeps your mind clear and your heart at peace. It’s never too late to change your attitude about something you can’t change. Just decide to make the best of it. Take life day by day and be grateful for the little things. No excuses. Let go of all the purposeless drama, aimless time-wasters, and mental clutter that keeps getting in your way.. Take care of your mind and the way you speak to yourself. Don’t let negative self-talk weaken you. Talk like you are blessed. Walk like you are blessed. Think like you are blessed. Work like you are blessed. And you will be, one way or another. Everything gets a bit uncomfortable when it’s time to change (or when it’s time to recalibrate your expectations). That’s just a part of the growth process. Things will get better. Be patient, and remind yourself that you will never have to force anything that’s truly meant to be. Just do your best, then adopt a “whatever happens, happens” mindset. Don’t try to force things-let go and allow the right blessings to flow.
Approval is someone else's opinion of how you should be and "their" definition of greatness. Acceptance is appreciating you for who you are and what incredible difference (uniqueness) you bring to the table...and that's priceless!!!🥰😎🤪
"We can't DO our way into feeling good about ourselves". This really hit me. As a child I always felt helpless when it came to helping my mom/others. I was told I could help by DOING chores, or being obedient. As an adult, I've noticed that I only feel momentarily good about myself based on the actions I do and what people say about them. It doesn't last obviously, so this video was an eye opener for me.
I came across this and felt the need to really listen. I came out of an 18 year relationship that was abusive physically and mentally with gaslighting, making me believe I was not worthy or respected. I know I still have a lot of healing and understanding of myself, as I tend to try to understand others first but forget my own self worth. I am looking forward to listen to these discussions and reminders on how to live my life the way I want and need to.
I just found you Julia and I loved this video. What really resonated with me was when you talked about ‘outsourcing our sense of selves’ I do it all the time 🙁 but until now I had not been able to define it. I try to be perfect so that there is no possibility to be criticized...and of course it does not work. Thank you 💕
I just started listening to your UA-cam videos last night. I just broke up with ANOTHER narcissist. I’m an empath and attract them like crazy. Also, my mother was a narcissist so I consider their characteristics as being normal. But, once their crazy comes out and they expose themselves, I leave like a bat out of hell. Lol......yes, you do have to keep a sense of humor. I like myself a lot but I watch your videos because I need to work on boundaries and not being so nice. I know I am getting better at these things but any advice is useful. I want to say that the first videos I saw of yours that you looked stressed and I wasn’t sure. But, like you said in this video, the more authentic you started coming out. I really like you too. You do a great job and provide those of us that want to improve our lives with great information and you are very genuine. So, thank you.
Hey Julia, I love all of your videos! You've helped me with so many aspects of my life. Please keep these videos coming. You are very good at what you do 😀
Your description of standing in front of mirror naked and going through body parts and how they have helped us is so moving. Almost had me in tears. In her book Dying To Be Me, Anita Moorjani, who had a near death experience and came back to life, says this very same thing. Her biggest message to all humans is to love yourself as fully and completely as you can. She has a UA-cam channel as well with all this info. Thank you so much for your channel. Your videos are absolutely phenomenal. I love and appreciate you! ❤️
Thanks again for taking time out to getting us to appreciate ourselves more. I appreciate having more patience for fellow survivors of traumatic brain injury.
How to build a healthy self image: 1. Manage your thoughts and stop criticizing yourself * notice when you’re criticizing yourself and replace it with something positive 2. Look in the mirror and appreciate what you see * look for things to appreciate and say something positive to yourself 3. Your view of your authentic self is flawed * we don’t like ourselves when we’re inauthentic * your authentic self is beautiful and attractive. People want to see who you really are 4. Make appreciations list * when you write it down, it makes it real * write down things you appreciate about yourself: what are you good at ? 5. Make a recognition list: *what did you do well? * what have you accomplished? * Recognize your successes and growth 5. Let yourself do things you like despite what people might think * Own what you like and dislike *You can’t control what other people think about you 6. Just let yourself be yourself *Who are you outside of your defenses, masks you wear and who you think you should be * Who are you when you have nothing to prove , no one to impress, nothing to earn ? You’re just You You are good enough and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. Being good enough doesn’t mean we don’t have to have room to grow. Worth and growth are completely different things. I hope this helps someone ❤
The best thing I've come to realise is that I live my life without caring what others think of me. And no, I'm not saying this from an arogance-place. I'm saying this from a place "my life, my choices".💗
I appreciate myself for being strong for a long time and for not quitting. Also, for being honest with every single human being that I've met. I appreciate my kindness as well.
I just discovered your channel. I love what I've watched so far. The video on HSP was spot on for me! Thank you. Re: body image. I went through a lot of negative self-talk and sabotage after I became singie. I felt no man would find me beautiful, sexy, or even look at me. I left my marriage with a horribly damaged self image because I looked to my ex to provide me with how I should feel about myself. He reflected back what he saw and felt. It was so self defeating. I struggled with finding anything beautiful about myself. One way I made myself see my body as it is, was by attaching a full length mirror on the wall across from my shower door. Every time I step out, I see myself in all my wonderful, but imperfect glory. I say I'm imperfectly perfect because I believe nobody, no matter how beautiful, or flawless, or thin they are (perceived), is perfect. It's been 8.5 years that I'm single. It's been a tough but satisfying journey. I am constantly learning, and wanting to share with others: it is possible to find love and peace within yourself.
HI Julia, MY name is Raymond John. I am not new here. I do think you have every right to love you for you, because you Love others by helping us realize what some of us need to understand so that we become better at Loving ourselves even if just a little at first. You are awesome, and I appreciate you too for your videos. Thank You!!!
My "appreciation list": I appreciate the compassion I give to others, my resourcefulness, and my creativity. Reading this gives value to the decades of painful lessons that have helped me grow in those areas
You are very wise, articulate and knowledgeable, you hit the problems that women have and makes us suffer, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom 😊.
Thank you for this. I really needed these words. Lately I’ve been letting other people’s thoughts and criticism get under my skin and drag me down. I need this to remind me that I’m allowed to be me without judgement.
Thank you, Ms. Julia for all u do! I woke up and said to self, "Today we are going to take everything easy. Not racing forward to conquer, but greet each new encounter as an aspect of love. Thus not fighting life but flowing with life." And self was so pleased at the end of the day, I realized I was not so exhausted and emotional eating didn't occur to me. (for the first time ever!) Wow! I need to do that again! Lets write that down..
I appreciate my courage, my authenticity and my ability to be vulnerable around others. Thank you for this video, this is exactly what I need to work on 💜
My name is Carley. Just subscribed. I just want to say thank you so much. I've had a really big problem with therapists... And it's left me without one for some time. But I feel safe and I feel understood here. So thank you Julia. Here's to getting better.
I have spent 11 years trying to self-correct damage from a physically and verbally abusive household which in turn has only taught me that the only person I could trust with any information I contain is myself. This can seriously affect marriage in a way where I was feeling like I was a narcissist if I spoke good about myself. Or that gloating isn't okay. Your videos are helping, but a huge piece to this is also removing the allowance of negativity to physically alter your mood. If your around people who aren't supportive or positive, then it can have a serious impact on how you yourself view life.
Thank you for sharing. I watched a few of your videos and I really appreciate the clarity and enlightenment you brought to support people. I often tell myself it is OK to be a loser. Even if I'm a loser, so what? I can still be comfortable with it because it is a skill to be comfortable of not being my best self. It doesn't change the fact I love myself, no matter what. Then I just can't help appreciating how "shameless" but cute I am. Deep inside, I know I am a resilient person. I know I have a strong drive and persistence to learn and thrive. I just need to allow myself to take the necessary time to get there. I also found when I'm comfortable with myself I can only own my responsibilities and treat others with respect and empathy. Now I learned to listen to my heart and let the brain to back off in relationships. I let go people who try to tell me who I am and how I should feel. I certainly don't mind people calling me selfish, especially to the opinion of self-surving people. It feels great to be my own driver and pick my own passengers. I believe loving myself is the best thing I can do for people I care about because they can enjoy the company from an emotionally stable and mentally healthy me.
Evaluation of your self is really tough. I look at my weaknesses and think so little of them as failures. I reach out for help and am rejected time & time again. I became self reliant but frustrated with others. I can take an experience and put it into my experience- evaluate it as such and move on to the next. Thank you
My name is Ivette and I just started listening to you. My cousin introduced me to it. You are awesome!! I felt you speaking to me. I’ll listen to you over n over.
This i is the first time I'm commenting this video has hit so hard just watching it has made me cry cuz this is exactly how I have been feeling it's hard for me to say this in person and publicly. There are times that I have so much self-doubt cuz I don't feel the courage in myself because I go through so much with my life but I forget to pay attention to myself cuz I pay attention to everybody else this is one of the things that I myself have struggles with I've been watching 12 of your videos so far and I can relate to most of them and I really appreciate everything that you have done and accomplished in your life and I thank you for opening up my mind more than I have ever thought with any counselor I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart
Thank You Julia for this video. This has been a struggle for myself. I've always disliked my self image. This has hold me back from approching people and just having a conversation about anything. When I do get in conversation with anybody I feel like they are looking at all the things I don't like about myself, and can't wait to end the conversation. I do know that i'm a good person with a great heart, I know that I love to help people, I know that making someone day to me is priceless. Your advise got me thinking to look in the mirror and focus on that and maybe I can appreciate myself. I hope this can help me appreciate myself physically. Won't be easy. I see so many flaws. I will try. Thank You Julia.
Thinking that u are gods gift to the world isn't narcissist thinking that while holding others back and hurting others while you think that is a problem. Another good one Julia!
1 empathy 2 kindness 3 courage Your videos are very helpful Julia coming over as genuine which i have always had problems with this .all I can say is thank you
I love smooth jazz! I am trying to think of what I like about myself. The body image thing is really hard for me. So should I avoid talking about that parts of me that I don't really like? I must say it's really hard for me to say nice things about myself. I use to think that was being vain. I guess I can honestly say I like my lower voice. I have much inner work to do but another thing I love because I love it is having a UA-cam channel. I really enjoy it and it is my favorite hobby right now. It gives me something to look forward to. Julia, thank you for your content. I find it really helpful.
Hi Julia! I appreciate myself for these qualities: my curiosity, my love for nature and animals, my gift of feeling deep life through my highly sensitive traits. Thank you for this video. I like your energy and I decided to start applying your recommendations.
Lol, i am 39 yrs old and I love Taylor swift too!!! Yes she is mainstream almost teeny bopper style but how can you not give credit where credit is due?!? She is first and foremost HERSELF which is so magnetizing and she writes her own music which is not easy at all.. so much talent there!! Anyways I also want to say thank you to YOU! I've only watched a few of your videos and I am already feeling far better about myself! Thank you so much!!!
It absolutely BLOWS MY MIND how everytime Julia posts a new video somehow someway it always Turns out the be on a topic that is exactly what I need to hear at the time. Its CRAZY!!! There's an age old say I was reminded of while watching this video, "In Every Joke, There Is Some Truth!"
Julia , you aren't aware of the far reaching influence that your work brings to us, far far away, across different continents. there is so much to ourselves if we are only able to be self- explorers. Lots of love and gratitude ❤️
Julia, thank you for everything that you do. you always give the best advice and help me understand what’s going on deep down. the way you speak is clear and concise and makes me feel safe and grounded. I really needed this video! ❤️
I enjoy being myself. And value my self image. I don't need to pretend to be someone else so people can like me. I want to be myself and do what I enjoy doing. Your video was great. Thanks.
I have only recently discovered your presence on you tube. I am grateful for your teaching. It's helped me understand myself better and to move forward. Thank you.
I look good. I have a regular routine of doing sports. I can speak English super fluent. ... Suddenly I realized that there are a lot more things in me that I should be proud of. Although it will take a period of time to get rid of self uncertainty, now I know what should I do. Thank you for this vid.💜
I stopped dating. And i found my authentic self. I stopped censoring my clothes and hair because i thought my true way of dressing was not sexy or attractive to men. I made myself more mainstream. I didn't feel free. When i stopped dating i freed myself from all that. I started dressing in ways that made me happy. I am quirky and awkward and sexy clothes don't suit my deepest, most authentic self. Now that i am free, i wear my loose dresses, bloomers, short bangs, knee socks, whatever without a single thought of whether men will like this. I HAVE NEVER FELT SO FREE AND SO MUCH INTEGRITY OF WHO I AM!!. if i decide to start dating again, my aim is to not go back. If a person is the right person for me, they will be attracted to my authentic self. Period.
Very well said
Yes. It helps to attract those who value your authentic self so that you can live authentic lives
Period!❤️
and that’s that girlfriend!
Well, as long as that makes you happy, it's great. Unfortunately there are social norms that we have to follow as well. But mostly, I agree with you.
Stepping into your true self is one of the hardest but most rewarding things you can do for your overall health as an adult. I think it starts with not needing to explain yourself to everyone and learning how to advocate for the things you want in life. Best of luck to everyone who's on their own journey back to themselves!
True! We need to believe we are completely worthy of what we are in going after what we desire.
Nicely said. I am trying hard to achieve this. However, my issue is that I dont know what I want in life :(
@@21willyx21 That's okay. As a start, what do you enjoy doing?
Love this!
When you depend on people to build you up they'll have the same power to break you down. You don't need their validation to know your worth.❤️❤️Selfhelpchampion
Yes 100% !! Well said! I have experienced this myself. Learning to walk away from people who are demeaning or disrespectful and creating space also sends message that you value your self worth and not willing to put up with it.
Absolutely. The Truth does not depend on anything else to stand and it never changes. Wise Mind, Holy Spirit are my companions.
Dang! Never thought about the flipside of that. No one should have that much power over us. Good point!
"Who are you when you have nothing to prove, no one to impress, and nothing to earn" This will be my additional mantra.
This is deep
True we need to be more attentive about ourselves
I Love telling funny jokes.
Presently I'm facing a challenging moment with self-esteem It's why I find your video interesting tanks much!
1) I'm always willing to learn
2) I'm observant
3) I have incredible grit
: )
How did it feel to own that for yourself?
Funny
Bold
Loyal and devoted friend😊
1) I am compassionate
2) I have an amazing work ethic
3) I am energetic and Joyful
~ thank you for making this content that has helped me and I'm sure many many others!
3 things i appreciate about myself: went no contact with abusive ex, 24 hrs off weed & at 47, i am in the best shape of my life-not perfect but i own my life now.
1. I'm a fast learner
2. I can lift heavy stuff
3. I'm an explorer
4. i have good singing skill
5. I have cute eyes
The more I watch your video, the more I found many stuff from myself that is worth of a high appreciation from my ownself.
Thank you so much ♥️
This is a video I really needed, being myself unapologetically is the goal I’ve been aspiring to fulfill!! ❤️
So.. helpfull Thank you so much.. be blessed!!❤❤
I agree
My three things:
1. I 'm a talented writer.
2. I try things that interest me (playing instruments, performing stand-up comedy, telling stories in front of audiences)
3. I appreciate the wonders of the natural world.
oh hello infp gang :D
I'm dependable, genuine, loved.
Beautiful.
I appreciate my sense of humor, my resilience, and my adaptability❣
I was brought up with a brother who pumped my head with jealousy, humiliation and insecurity.
It took years and years for me to get the loser comments out of my system.
I never understood the self deprecation mindset others live by.
Excellent video Friend.
I've noticed that whenever I feel natural, like I'm behaving like my true self, I keep getting looks from others where the look on their face is like: "What the hell are YOU doing? What gives YOU the right to be confident and filled with unapologetic self-belief?" It's actually hilarious the more conscious I become of who I am. Self concept is what EVERYTHING hinges on.
Yes! One morning, while waiting on a local train platform, I greeted a lady near me. She actually scolded me for smiling and being happy! "There's no reason to be so happy," she said. Poor, miserable woman.
Trying to be myself again after 8 years of gaslighting...
I see you. You can do it.
Julia Kristina Counselling thanks Julia
I’m trying to look for my self after 33 years of marriage
Hugs, keep going you'll be stronger because you are worth fighting for
Rania, got myself back light-years better than ever after 8 years also It was really scary. It seemed at times, to be impossible. I brainwashed myself constantly with hypnosis and affirmations.
I never realized how much other people's opinion of me mattered, until I saw myself compromising on my core beliefs hoping my boyfriend would fall for me. I finally realized no matter how much I tried to conform, I was not being true to myself, and would not like myself as long as I allowed myself to be manipulated by another person. It is better to be alone, and be authentic then try to make others like you and be miserable. The moment you let your guard down, and get pounced on by another person, you either become a door mat, or develop a backbone and say to yourself, "there is someone out there who would love me for me."
I love how you talk, how you smile, how your nose is soooo symmetrical, and also the content of what you say.
I appreciate my
1. Body
2. My personality
3. My sense of humour🧡
I recognize that i run and own a well known hair business.
I recognize that im more calmer now.
I recognize that im growing in my career with all the knowledge
1) I am taking strides to be my best self
2) I am passionate
3) I am caring
Of course you are and more
Things i appreciate about myself: i'm a hardworker, resilient and have a good ability to take and grow from constructive criticism.
(1).. appreciate the fact that I don't want to die the way I'm living sad...(2).. I appreciate the fact that I need help...(3).. I appreciate the fact that I'm finally seeking it....
3 things I appreciate about myself
1. I am a loving person
2. I am grateful
3. I am eager to learn more things to make myself better
I’m loyal, real and accepting
I'm passionate, kind and reliable.
I am creative.
I am empathetic.
I am driven.
My creativity can rewrite the story of my life.
My empathy is my willingness to help others even after everything.
When I have the mind for it, I can do anything.
Three things I appreciate about myself:
• I can be flexible
• I can be honest with self about how I feel
•no matter how bad I’m feeling I manage to cook and clean and generally comfort myself during dark times and I always come out feeling nurtured.
Honestly all your videos are amazing,
I have been listening to u for weeks now. And
You have really helped me, thank you ☺️
And I am really looking forward to new ones
Thanks friend. That means a lot. Glad you're here.
Love this too
"I am", is a powerful set of words.
"I am kind" , also powerful.
You got to be kidding me! I am in weekly counseling. And this is exactly the subject I talked to her about. I’m not part of the society yet but always contemplate it. I can’t believe the subject matter. Actually I can’t believe because when we work with God he works with us especially when we want to open ourselves and change for the better. Watch out if you ask the Holy Spirit to help you. He will!!!
Indeed, He will!
This is so true.. the more vulnerable and connected a person, the more beautifully authentic and likeable.
I just have to add a third statement! I hate when she does short videos I always love the long ones because the more it goes the more you learn. She is that awesome! Alway straight to the point.
Thank you Julia, I m so blessed to being able to listen to u, big love from Kazakhstan🎄
Big love right back from Canada!
I appreciate my abilities and skills and the choices I have made.
Yes sis.
My life has drastically changed for the better since I started loving myself and being myself
I love being myself it's everyone else who has the problem
Something that really helped was asking myself, "Who am I when I'm not worried about other people?" I feel like I always turn it into something so complex that tire myself out, when really, it's just who I am behind closed doors and when I'm having fun- Thank you so much
Good Stuff, thank you so much for sharing. Yes, I like you because I see and appreciate you are being authentic. Best wishes for success and happiness to you! 💫💖💫
Thank sis. Glad you're here
Calmness is a human superpower. The ability to not overreact or take things personally keeps your mind clear and your heart at peace. It’s never too late to change your attitude about something you can’t change. Just decide to make the best of it. Take life day by day and be grateful for the little things. No excuses. Let go of all the purposeless drama, aimless time-wasters, and mental clutter that keeps getting in your way.. Take care of your mind and the way you speak to yourself. Don’t let negative self-talk weaken you. Talk like you are blessed. Walk like you are blessed. Think like you are blessed. Work like you are blessed. And you will be, one way or another.
Everything gets a bit uncomfortable when it’s time to change (or when it’s time to recalibrate your expectations). That’s just a part of the growth process. Things will get better. Be patient, and remind yourself that you will never have to force anything that’s truly meant to be. Just do your best, then adopt a “whatever happens, happens” mindset. Don’t try to force things-let go and allow the right blessings to flow.
OMG, I can’t believe you used to think so negative about yourself! You are beautiful. What you say already made me love myself more. Thanks!
Approval is someone else's opinion of how you should be and "their" definition of greatness. Acceptance is appreciating you for who you are and what incredible difference (uniqueness) you bring to the table...and that's priceless!!!🥰😎🤪
I love that I am...
Passionate about making music
Both creative and logical
Imperfect, but loyal and caring.
My favourite word to everyone, is yeah, I'm fine. It's never true, never want to look vulnerable. I hate that about myself 🙄
"We can't DO our way into feeling good about ourselves". This really hit me. As a child I always felt helpless when it came to helping my mom/others. I was told I could help by DOING chores, or being obedient. As an adult, I've noticed that I only feel momentarily good about myself based on the actions I do and what people say about them. It doesn't last obviously, so this video was an eye opener for me.
I came across this and felt the need to really listen. I came out of an 18 year relationship that was abusive physically and mentally with gaslighting, making me believe I was not worthy or respected. I know I still have a lot of healing and understanding of myself, as I tend to try to understand others first but forget my own self worth. I am looking forward to listen to these discussions and reminders on how to live my life the way I want and need to.
I just found you Julia and I loved this video. What really resonated with me was when you talked about ‘outsourcing our sense of selves’ I do it all the time 🙁 but until now I had not been able to define it. I try to be perfect so that there is no possibility to be criticized...and of course it does not work. Thank you 💕
I just started listening to your UA-cam videos last night. I just broke up with ANOTHER narcissist. I’m an empath and attract them like crazy. Also, my mother was a narcissist so I consider their characteristics as being normal. But, once their crazy comes out and they expose themselves, I leave like a bat out of hell. Lol......yes, you do have to keep a sense of humor. I like myself a lot but I watch your videos because I need to work on boundaries and not being so nice. I know I am getting better at these things but any advice is useful. I want to say that the first videos I saw of yours that you looked stressed and I wasn’t sure. But, like you said in this video, the more authentic you started coming out. I really like you too. You do a great job and provide those of us that want to improve our lives with great information and you are very genuine. So, thank you.
Hey Julia, I love all of your videos! You've helped me with so many aspects of my life. Please keep these videos coming. You are very good at what you do 😀
Your description of standing in front of mirror naked and going through body parts and how they have helped us is so moving. Almost had me in tears. In her book Dying To Be Me, Anita Moorjani, who had a near death experience and came back to life, says this very same thing. Her biggest message to all humans is to love yourself as fully and completely as you can. She has a UA-cam channel as well with all this info. Thank you so much for your channel. Your videos are absolutely phenomenal. I love and appreciate you! ❤️
Thank you, great video. I cried when you talked about how the means things we say to ourselves would be considered an abusive relationship.
Thanks again for taking time out to getting us to appreciate ourselves more. I appreciate having more patience for fellow survivors of traumatic brain injury.
This is important.
It is an inside job. If you do not criticise yourself for every little thing you do you slowly stop caring if other people do. Thank you Julia.
Thank you Julia Kristina! Great tips and ones I need to drive home to myself! I will work on it but the naked body thing will be the most stressful!
I appreciate my courage, willingness to learn and sensitivity ❤
Thank you. You inspired me ⚘
How to build a healthy self image:
1. Manage your thoughts and stop criticizing yourself
* notice when you’re criticizing yourself and replace it with something positive
2. Look in the mirror and appreciate what you see
* look for things to appreciate and say something positive to yourself
3. Your view of your authentic self is flawed
* we don’t like ourselves when we’re inauthentic
* your authentic self is beautiful and attractive. People want to see who you really are
4. Make appreciations list
* when you write it down, it makes it real
* write down things you appreciate about yourself: what are you good at ?
5. Make a recognition list:
*what did you do well?
* what have you accomplished?
* Recognize your successes and growth
5. Let yourself do things you like despite what people might think
* Own what you like and dislike
*You can’t control what other people think about you
6. Just let yourself be yourself
*Who are you outside of your defenses, masks you wear and who you think you should be
* Who are you when you have nothing to prove
, no one to impress, nothing to earn ? You’re just You
You are good enough and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying.
Being good enough doesn’t mean we don’t have to have room to grow. Worth and growth are completely different things.
I hope this helps someone ❤
❤I appreciate that I am beautiful
I appreciate that i am intuitive
I appreciate that i am human an imperfect person trying to practise gratitude
The best thing I've come to realise is that I live my life without caring what others think of me. And no, I'm not saying this from an arogance-place. I'm saying this from a place "my life, my choices".💗
I appreciate how I keep pushing even when things don't look so bright ❤️
I'm so glad for UA-cam....
Because I would never have found your channel
Thank you for sharing
I appreciate myself for being strong for a long time and for not quitting. Also, for being honest with every single human being that I've met. I appreciate my kindness as well.
I just discovered your channel. I love what I've watched so far. The video on HSP was spot on for me! Thank you.
Re: body image. I went through a lot of negative self-talk and sabotage after I became singie. I felt no man would find me beautiful, sexy, or even look at me. I left my marriage with a horribly damaged self image because I looked to my ex to provide me with how I should feel about myself. He reflected back what he saw and felt. It was so self defeating. I struggled with finding anything beautiful about myself. One way I made myself see my body as it is, was by attaching a full length mirror on the wall across from my shower door. Every time I step out, I see myself in all my wonderful, but imperfect glory. I say I'm imperfectly perfect because I believe nobody, no matter how beautiful, or flawless, or thin they are (perceived), is perfect. It's been 8.5 years that I'm single. It's been a tough but satisfying journey. I am constantly learning, and wanting to share with others: it is possible to find love and peace within yourself.
HI Julia,
MY name is Raymond John. I am not new here. I do think you have every right to love you for you, because you Love others by helping us realize what some of us need to understand so that we become better at Loving ourselves even if just a little at first.
You are awesome, and I appreciate you too for your videos. Thank You!!!
My "appreciation list": I appreciate the compassion I give to others, my resourcefulness, and my creativity. Reading this gives value to the decades of painful lessons that have helped me grow in those areas
I am compassionate, ambitious and supportive.
You are very wise, articulate and knowledgeable, you hit the problems that women have and makes us suffer, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom 😊.
I appreciate my athletic body, ability to learn quickly, and fortitude :)
Thank you for this. I really needed these words. Lately I’ve been letting other people’s thoughts and criticism get under my skin and drag me down. I need this to remind me that I’m allowed to be me without judgement.
Beautiful words
So many "a-ha" moments. Thank you 🌺
Miss Julia my sister shared you with me and I’ve grown because I hear you. Thank you!
Julia, becoming my true self is so much fun, and a big relief, thank you so much , you are wonderful
Honestly these videos have changed my life, and they keep on changing it. for good
Thank you, Ms. Julia for all u do! I woke up and said to self, "Today we are going to take everything easy. Not racing forward to conquer, but greet each new encounter as an aspect of love. Thus not fighting life but flowing with life." And self was so pleased at the end of the day, I realized I was not so exhausted and emotional eating didn't occur to me. (for the first time ever!) Wow! I need to do that again! Lets write that down..
I appreciate my courage, my authenticity and my ability to be vulnerable around others.
Thank you for this video, this is exactly what I need to work on 💜
My name is Carley. Just subscribed. I just want to say thank you so much. I've had a really big problem with therapists... And it's left me without one for some time. But I feel safe and I feel understood here. So thank you Julia. Here's to getting better.
I have spent 11 years trying to self-correct damage from a physically and verbally abusive household which in turn has only taught me that the only person I could trust with any information I contain is myself. This can seriously affect marriage in a way where I was feeling like I was a narcissist if I spoke good about myself. Or that gloating isn't okay. Your videos are helping, but a huge piece to this is also removing the allowance of negativity to physically alter your mood. If your around people who aren't supportive or positive, then it can have a serious impact on how you yourself view life.
Thank you for sharing. I watched a few of your videos and I really appreciate the clarity and enlightenment you brought to support people.
I often tell myself it is OK to be a loser. Even if I'm a loser, so what? I can still be comfortable with it because it is a skill to be comfortable of not being my best self. It doesn't change the fact I love myself, no matter what. Then I just can't help appreciating how "shameless" but cute I am. Deep inside, I know I am a resilient person. I know I have a strong drive and persistence to learn and thrive. I just need to allow myself to take the necessary time to get there. I also found when I'm comfortable with myself I can only own my responsibilities and treat others with respect and empathy. Now I learned to listen to my heart and let the brain to back off in relationships. I let go people who try to tell me who I am and how I should feel. I certainly don't mind people calling me selfish, especially to the opinion of self-surving people. It feels great to be my own driver and pick my own passengers. I believe loving myself is the best thing I can do for people I care about because they can enjoy the company from an emotionally stable and mentally healthy me.
Evaluation of your self is really tough. I look at my weaknesses and think so little of them as failures. I reach out for help and am rejected time & time again. I became self reliant but frustrated with others. I can take an experience and put it into my experience- evaluate it as such and move on to the next.
Thank you
My name is Ivette and I just started listening to you. My cousin introduced me to it. You are awesome!! I felt you speaking to me. I’ll listen to you over n over.
I think she is so right about seeing yourself on video.
This i is the first time I'm commenting this video has hit so hard just watching it has made me cry cuz this is exactly how I have been feeling it's hard for me to say this in person and publicly. There are times that I have so much self-doubt cuz I don't feel the courage in myself because I go through so much with my life but I forget to pay attention to myself cuz I pay attention to everybody else this is one of the things that I myself have struggles with I've been watching 12 of your videos so far and I can relate to most of them and I really appreciate everything that you have done and accomplished in your life and I thank you for opening up my mind more than I have ever thought with any counselor I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart
Gaslighting is hard to break free from....thank you
Thank You Julia for this video. This has been a struggle for myself. I've always disliked my self image. This has hold me back from approching people and just having a conversation about anything. When I do get in conversation with anybody I feel like they are looking at all the things I don't like about myself, and can't wait to end the conversation. I do know that i'm a good person with a great heart, I know that I love to help people, I know that making someone day to me is priceless. Your advise got me thinking to look in the mirror and focus on that and maybe I can appreciate myself. I hope this can help me appreciate myself physically. Won't be easy. I see so many flaws. I will try. Thank You Julia.
Thinking that u are gods gift to the world isn't narcissist thinking that while holding others back and hurting others while you think that is a problem. Another good one Julia!
1) I'm smart
2) I'm a resilient
3) I'm good person
1 empathy
2 kindness
3 courage
Your videos are very helpful Julia coming over as genuine which i have always had problems with this .all I can say is thank you
I love smooth jazz! I am trying to think of what I like about myself. The body image thing is really hard for me. So should I avoid talking about that parts of me that I don't really like? I must say it's really hard for me to say nice things about myself. I use to think that was being vain. I guess I can honestly say I like my lower voice. I have much inner work to do but another thing I love because I love it is having a UA-cam channel. I really enjoy it and it is my favorite hobby right now. It gives me something to look forward to. Julia, thank you for your content. I find it really helpful.
Hi Julia! I appreciate myself for these qualities: my curiosity, my love for nature and animals, my gift of feeling deep life through my highly sensitive traits. Thank you for this video. I like your energy and I decided to start applying your recommendations.
Lol, i am 39 yrs old and I love Taylor swift too!!! Yes she is mainstream almost teeny bopper style but how can you not give credit where credit is due?!? She is first and foremost HERSELF which is so magnetizing and she writes her own music which is not easy at all.. so much talent there!! Anyways I also want to say thank you to YOU! I've only watched a few of your videos and I am already feeling far better about myself! Thank you so much!!!
It absolutely BLOWS MY MIND how everytime Julia posts a new video somehow someway it always Turns out the be on a topic that is exactly what I need to hear at the time. Its CRAZY!!!
There's an age old say I was reminded of while watching this video, "In Every Joke, There Is Some Truth!"
Julia , you aren't aware of the far reaching influence that your work brings to us, far far away, across different continents. there is so much to ourselves if we are only able to be self- explorers. Lots of love and gratitude ❤️
This is beautiful, life changing, amazing. Thanks Juliet Kristina.
As soon as i tried one of your techniques, i instantly felt less angry, they have less of a hold over me.
Thankyou Julia.
Julia, thank you for everything that you do. you always give the best advice and help me understand what’s going on deep down. the way you speak is clear and concise and makes me feel safe and grounded. I really needed this video! ❤️
Thank you. I binged watched/listened to your video while doing yard work. I learned so much.
Really good talk! Probably need this coaching talk every day! Thank you!
I enjoy being myself. And value my self image. I don't need to pretend to be someone else so people can like me. I want to be myself and do what I enjoy doing. Your video was great. Thanks.
I have only recently discovered your presence on you tube. I am grateful for your teaching. It's helped me understand myself better and to move forward. Thank you.
Julia hello. I'm from Toronto Canada. I'm so glad I came across your Video. Thank you!❤🌈
I look good.
I have a regular routine of doing sports.
I can speak English super fluent.
...
Suddenly I realized that there are a lot more things in me that I should be proud of.
Although it will take a period of time to get rid of self uncertainty,
now I know what should I do.
Thank you for this vid.💜
Hello again 😊. You're wonderful.
Glad you're here Lylah
My tenacity. My strength to keep going in any situation. My ability to find a way out of anything.