#11 How to Survive saying goodbye to a Dutch person

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  • Опубліковано 27 сер 2024
  • Corona made the problem go away for a while, but it's back: Dutch Kissing Confusion. Cause when greeting in The Netherlands, do we give 3 kisses, or just 1? Please tell us what you think in the comments!
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  • @dark_shadow6000
    @dark_shadow6000 Рік тому +90

    The return of the king!

    • @ohhi5237
      @ohhi5237 5 місяців тому +1

      i didnt vote for him

  • @ultimategamingfriends
    @ultimategamingfriends Рік тому +41

    this channel came back from the dead without any announcement, this masterpiece came blasting right trough my door

    • @PaulaBean
      @PaulaBean 8 місяців тому

      And then it disappeared again.

    • @ultimategamingfriends
      @ultimategamingfriends 8 місяців тому

      @@PaulaBean never to be heard from again…

  • @sentosaco
    @sentosaco Рік тому +44

    I'm born and raised in NL and sort of accustomed with 3 kisses, but only with later generations. When I come to think of it and see it, 3 kisses is such an awkward concept on itself. 😂😅

  • @WiWillemijn
    @WiWillemijn Рік тому +20

    In my experience people under 30 don't do 3 kisses anymore, they just hug

    • @Flippityflap
      @Flippityflap 2 місяці тому

      i was always used to 3 till i started working at a bar where everyone kissed eachother once each time they would come in at work lol. now im not sure what to do anymore in any other situations

  • @jac7198
    @jac7198 Рік тому +11

    i think the one kiss spread mainly due to internet, and as youngsters being super awafe that only in the netherlands this was a thing. than also teens began to hug eachother, like in other countries, instead of kissing, because 3 kisses was sooo awkward. and now we silently agreed upon 1, less awkward but more warm than just a hug

  • @peppyweppy6851
    @peppyweppy6851 Рік тому +13

    OH MY GOD, THEY'RE BACK! FINALLY! I've waited so long for the new videos!

    • @SurvivalGuidetotheDutch
      @SurvivalGuidetotheDutch  Рік тому +4

      YES WE ARE! Can't believe it ourselves either. Thanks for sticking around!

    • @PaulaBean
      @PaulaBean 8 місяців тому +1

      @@SurvivalGuidetotheDutch And then a silence of 9 months++.

    • @Theachup
      @Theachup 7 місяців тому

      @@SurvivalGuidetotheDutchr u gonna be back? 😢

  • @ohhi5237
    @ohhi5237 5 місяців тому +3

    the law is very very clean on this:
    "First shalt thou take out the Holy Kisser. Then shalt thou count to three, no more, no less. Three shall be the number thou shalt count, and the number of the counting shall be three. Four shalt thou not count, neither count thou two, excepting that thou then proceed to three. Five is right out. "

  • @dylanh3712
    @dylanh3712 Рік тому +9

    My guy left for 2 years, leaving me sad without his content. Comes back doesn't say anything ):

  • @joshuaphokaew9270
    @joshuaphokaew9270 Рік тому +5

    Ik ben zo Nederlands als wat maar hiervan ga ik echt lachen, het is enigszins wel echt een handboek om als toerist Nederland goed door te komen😂

  • @manolocorp
    @manolocorp Рік тому +4

    I'm moving to the Netherlands in a month, and this channel is saving my life 🌷

  • @tiemenstaal
    @tiemenstaal Рік тому +3

    It's three and I love to observe the panic-stricken Americans who encounter it.

  • @mrknows6304
    @mrknows6304 Рік тому +34

    I personally always found it akward, so I just said "don't like kisses" and went for a hug. Always works.

    • @MnstrKnight
      @MnstrKnight Рік тому +2

      Where in the country are these tolerant people who don't respond to that by grabbing your head and forcing it haha

    • @escwilde222
      @escwilde222 Рік тому

      Same always hugging

  • @GranZebru
    @GranZebru Рік тому +4

    I missed your videos guys, welcome back. Happy also to see that I'm not the only one confused about the situation. :)

  • @kibistec
    @kibistec 9 місяців тому +1

    Idea for another video: how to survive office lunch. From canteens with individual plastic packaged pieces of ham or cheese, to the conversations and expectaitons of what to do.

  • @Dutchology
    @Dutchology Рік тому +1

    You guys are back? I was waiting for this, those video's made my day, DANKUWEL!

  • @ofjeworstlust69
    @ofjeworstlust69 Рік тому +4

    I have absolutely never experienced someone who went for one kiss to be honest.

    • @jac7198
      @jac7198 Рік тому

      uunder 50 i have never experienced peoplw for going for 3 tbh

    • @chriswetering79
      @chriswetering79 8 місяців тому +1

      Me neither, I didn't know one kiss was a thing

  • @thebackyard7661
    @thebackyard7661 Рік тому +3

    personally i opt for no kisses, not even for family. i feel like the younger generation is also moving away from the kissing greet, since it might be too intimate especially with strangers.

  • @kopisusu2000
    @kopisusu2000 Рік тому +6

    I knew about the 3 kisses, but the history and how the pandemic was helping the awkwardness are new to me.
    Thanks for the insight, and welcome back, @SurvivalGuidetotheDutch.
    Oh, almost forgot to say: The ending is amazing!!!

  • @kazuna_Endi
    @kazuna_Endi Рік тому +3

    Yooooo you back!

  • @burgienl
    @burgienl Рік тому +6

    Funny, recently ran into this "problem" when kissing a Dutch lady who now lives in Switzerland. I automatically went for 3 because I have doing that most for my life. But she went for one. That felt weird 🤣

  • @dalyxia
    @dalyxia Рік тому +6

    Since covid, i stopped doing kisses alltogether and im not planning on changing back in the near future.

  • @charici
    @charici Рік тому +1

    It's always been three kisses for me! For my Dutch and Surinamese family.
    Also: Welkom terug!!

  • @ozzemie
    @ozzemie 8 місяців тому +1

    I'm so glad this whole kissing thing hasn't yet returned in 2023! I always hated it, especially since I wear glasses.

  • @QuickM8tey
    @QuickM8tey Рік тому

    Omg this channel is alive let's goooooooooooooooo

  • @janklaassen6404
    @janklaassen6404 Рік тому +4

    If you don't want things to go awkward, go for the three kisses. That's the tradition, therefore it's never wrong.

  • @colindagroenendijk6427
    @colindagroenendijk6427 Рік тому +1

    Thanks for making another video!! I hope to see more from you guys 😁😁😁

  • @Lucida_Fox
    @Lucida_Fox Рік тому +3

    Live without people even trying to come close to me for a handshake. thats bliss.

  • @psychoaiko666
    @psychoaiko666 Рік тому +1

    3 always
    ...
    Oh, en uh...
    HET IS FRIET!!!

  • @sit-insforsithis1568
    @sit-insforsithis1568 Рік тому +1

    He casually called up Dries van Agt

  • @jojboy
    @jojboy Рік тому +2

    Just 3 kisses.

  • @semrayavuz5193
    @semrayavuz5193 Рік тому

    Omgg you're backk

  • @lindarctica
    @lindarctica Рік тому

    Er was een liedje van Kinderen Voor Kinderen deel 9 precies over dit probleem. 🤣 Toen al herkenbaar!

  • @ricardobrandao12
    @ricardobrandao12 Рік тому

    This was so funny! Top job guys, well done 😂

  • @Hwelhos
    @Hwelhos 7 місяців тому

    I come from a rural town in Groningen where we still do two, which causes confusion when we go to family in Arnhem who do it thrice

  • @AnthonyLeighDunstan
    @AnthonyLeighDunstan 10 місяців тому

    Nice vid. Reminiscing I miss those awkward "3-kiss/1-kiss/no-kiss/wtf" moments.

  • @hendriks_kevin
    @hendriks_kevin Рік тому +1

    As someone from below the rivers, if there are kisses it will be three kisses.

  • @SamanthaDrok
    @SamanthaDrok 8 місяців тому +1

    Hahahahha I'm 100% dutch, from Dordrecht, so technically the north, but ive always known (and hated) it to be 3 kisses. I personally prefer a hug, or 1 kiss with a hug. I kiss my mother in law 3x a year 3 kisses and thats her birthday/my birthday and new years eve. Thats my max. and even after 10+ years she keeps saying, we dont kiss right cuz you don't like that. INDEEED. I was looking for a video like this to explain to my friend from the UK and it was excatly what I was looking for!!!!

  • @jannetteberends8730
    @jannetteberends8730 Рік тому

    Thinking about, and my conclusion is that it is either 3 air kisses, or one hug.

  • @sarjenka
    @sarjenka 10 місяців тому

    Dat zoenen heb ik altijd klote gevonden.

  • @marcusvalerius2678
    @marcusvalerius2678 Рік тому

    after years they finally came back!

  • @jajo579
    @jajo579 Рік тому

    I was born and raised in The Netherlands with 3 kisses. Living in the US now, I've grown accustomed to hugs and now feel it's much better than kisses! No chance of lipstick stains on the cheeks 👍🏽😁

  • @D4NKN3SS
    @D4NKN3SS Рік тому

    THE GANG IS BACK!!! I guess 3 it is then......

  • @katrinz4544
    @katrinz4544 5 місяців тому

    I sing for the last sentence!

  • @ionasan
    @ionasan Рік тому

    Maybe I've just gotten lucky, but I moved from the US last June and have never had anyone try to kiss me. I didn't even know it was a thing.

  • @H1SCOTTY
    @H1SCOTTY Рік тому +1

    Do as the Brabander, just keep kissing three times. We in the south are associated with Burgundian “gezelligheid”

  • @dl5329
    @dl5329 Рік тому

    I got dizzy just from watching so many kisses 😂I prefer 0, thank you very much :))

  • @kleineputje
    @kleineputje Рік тому +1

    I've been in NL just 1 year (1997-1998) I do the 3 kisses too (but only with people that close)

  • @gandeldalf
    @gandeldalf Рік тому

    He is back!

  • @blokmown1219
    @blokmown1219 Рік тому +1

    in my family you always give hugs untill you're about 12 and then you start giving 3 kisses, I don't like it but it's just tradition

  • @skylazer4065
    @skylazer4065 День тому

    I absolutely dislike the whole kissing cheeks aspect of the Dutch culture. I'm a Dutchie too, and I haven't had any strangers doing the kisses thing fortunately. With family and friends I'm always firm on "No kisses" and 9/10 people seem to understand it. Handshakes and even hugs are fine, though I prefer handshakes over hugs, I'd never ever do the kisses.

  • @LeoBliksem
    @LeoBliksem 6 місяців тому

    2024 we kijken dit nog

  • @amanda34639
    @amanda34639 Рік тому

    Nah. From the US but have lived in Paris and Nederland with a German/Palestinian boyfriend. 2 kisses in France, 3 kisses in Amsterdam, 5-7 in more eastern countries. Dropping the boy .
    I nannied for 5 yrs off at school I'd see lots of women kiss more than 5 times at drop off and lunch break. Much more stiff in Germany. I visited w my bf's mother many times but I never knew she liked me until after he died at middle age. We write back and forth and I'm wearing her son's hoodie that she sent me right now. Sorry, over long.
    But! When Dutchies come visit me in US the first thing is 3 kisses at the airport.

  • @paranoya733
    @paranoya733 11 місяців тому

    As dutch ex colony country now i know how we get two kisses after the dutch left in 1949.. we call it "Sun" 😂

  • @FelipeRio
    @FelipeRio Рік тому

    haha always the best, being from Brazil I've never got tangled on this, I'm going to kiss and hug either way hahaha

  • @praetoriancorps
    @praetoriancorps Рік тому

    I always did the three kisses, but only with some very very close family. With most people no kisses at all.

  • @Dawn._
    @Dawn._ Рік тому

    재밌다 ㅋㅋㅋ 문화가 완잔히 달라서...

  • @xDragonchiefx
    @xDragonchiefx Рік тому

    When I came to the Netherlands it was 3. I slowly took over the custom. When meeting new women, its 3 kisses. With guys, a handshake. As a gay guy though... Should I be giving 3 kisses instead?

  • @RandomBeagle
    @RandomBeagle Місяць тому

    Buiten Amsterdam geven we gewoon een hand hoor, 3 kussen bij familie, knuffel bij vrienden

  • @MrNicoJac
    @MrNicoJac Рік тому

    Me and my ex both grew up in the west of the country. I spent the last decade in the east of the country.
    When we met again to talk, I went for the hug I give all my friends - she went for a cheek kiss.
    We both found the other to be too intimate, hahaha 😂

  • @roelandaudenaerde8312
    @roelandaudenaerde8312 Рік тому +1

    The habit of three kisses started in the 1950s in Brabant, the southern part of the Netherlands. It was a reaction against the soberness that prevailed in World War 2. Local people sought to imitate the abundant behaviour of Americans, and they took three kisses to be part of that.

    • @ohhi5237
      @ohhi5237 5 місяців тому +1

      americans dont kiss unless to spread cooties, this is pure dutch tradition from back when everyone also spoke fluent french

  • @abcx467
    @abcx467 Рік тому

    Geniaal

  • @KingofgraceSARA
    @KingofgraceSARA Рік тому +2

    Would four kisses be too much maybe 5?

    • @SurvivalGuidetotheDutch
      @SurvivalGuidetotheDutch  Рік тому +1

      Absolutely!

    • @S1dew1nderNL
      @S1dew1nderNL Рік тому

      Depends on the context.. if we're entangled for more than a couple of minutes than just 5 kisses might not be enough.

    • @IvoB1987
      @IvoB1987 5 місяців тому

      I believe in some areas of France 4 is normal

  • @Non-disjunction
    @Non-disjunction Рік тому

    This suddenly made me nervous for a date coming up LOL

  • @infj4w511
    @infj4w511 2 місяці тому

    I just shake hands. I've literally only cheek-kisse on like 5 occasions in my entie life.

  • @010Jordi
    @010Jordi Рік тому

    I'm from rotterdam and in my family it has always been 3

  • @raynerp
    @raynerp Рік тому

    thanks Survival Guide, now I have kissophobia

  • @daanwillemsen223
    @daanwillemsen223 Рік тому

    Cheffs kiss 😘

  • @johnhendriks4085
    @johnhendriks4085 Рік тому

    I come from from Amsterdam. But fighting over the number of kisses? I don't think it is a real issue. I never heard anybody talks about that

  • @ylvafreijters2535
    @ylvafreijters2535 7 місяців тому +1

    Ik heb het afgeschaft.
    Doe er niet meer aan mee.
    Ik haat 3 kussen en houd mijn poot stijf een hand kun je krijgen en verder niet.

  • @TheSimArchitect
    @TheSimArchitect 8 місяців тому

    Oh, so it's a Catholic thing! That's why we kiss 3 times in Brazil too. But usually only between women or man vs woman. Men don't do that between themselves. I think it's more of an Italian thing, from what we see on those mafia movies. Not sure it's a real life thing.

  • @shad0wrune
    @shad0wrune Рік тому

    You make more sense than the dutch goverment

  • @samvarghese7731
    @samvarghese7731 Рік тому

    haha that was funny

  • @robertfurner1729
    @robertfurner1729 2 місяці тому

    3 kisses only forgodd friends or family

  • @MarnixvanOort
    @MarnixvanOort Рік тому

    🎉🎉🎉

  • @mrsunshine888
    @mrsunshine888 Рік тому

    So confused now! Also do more videos or my goldfish die. 😛

  • @DX88
    @DX88 Рік тому +4

    I stopped kissing when covid started and will now forever refuse them. My family has re-started kissing but even though I'm the odd one out by refusing them, I feel so much happier because I've always hated it.

  • @decombobulated27
    @decombobulated27 Рік тому

    In Portugal we do two kisses and ngl I think that's the perfect amount 3 just seems a bit too much

  • @SirTenshi
    @SirTenshi Рік тому

    they're alive :O?

  • @XimsStryker
    @XimsStryker 9 місяців тому

    I met my wife in the south and at the end of our first date we said goodbye with kisses.. i'm from the north so on the third kiss i went all in for the lips :D

  • @benflokstra5609
    @benflokstra5609 Рік тому

    Of mensen die dan een knuffel geven, maar dat eigenlijk zelf heel spannend vinden dus dan noemen ze het maar een "hug"

  • @Nelthalin
    @Nelthalin Рік тому

    I was born and love in the Netherlands. I Never liked the 3 kisses takes way to long. Just 1 or a hug that's what I do these days.

  • @sdtok527
    @sdtok527 Рік тому

    Go for a hug, as a Dutchmen I dont know it either anymore.

  • @davidzwitser
    @davidzwitser Рік тому +1

    As a Dutch person, I reeaaly hope kissing dies soon. A handshake if you don't know someone ad a hug if you do (if people are comfortable with that, otherwise just wave) is the way to go. As far as I see gen-z is doing that already.

  • @cymen1
    @cymen1 Рік тому

    I think people hug more often now because of the end of the pandemic.

  • @Andrath
    @Andrath 8 місяців тому

    3 kussen, links beginnen. It's not that hard.

  • @aubreyseptember
    @aubreyseptember Рік тому

    Xx

  • @0oichemhaith
    @0oichemhaith Рік тому

    😘😘😘

  • @Arcterion
    @Arcterion Рік тому

    It's a terrible tradition, tbh.

  • @TheSmollest
    @TheSmollest Рік тому

    The guy just said "holland", dutch people will hate you man :D

    • @misophoniq
      @misophoniq Рік тому

      No they won't. Literally nobody in Holland cares.

    • @SurvivalGuidetotheDutch
      @SurvivalGuidetotheDutch  Рік тому

      F*ck you Netherlands just doesn’t sound as nice 😇

    • @nispen
      @nispen 9 місяців тому

      Lots of Dutch people say Holland

  • @iamaprochingfast1000
    @iamaprochingfast1000 Рік тому +1

    Ey ik ben eerst