I'd like to meet you 1 day. I think you're awesome. I wish more women were like you. I am a leader, but I didn't know how to handle the control and attention. I lost all my employees and friends 🥺
Hi, you're sexy. I like girls that don't care about their image, Even if they don't look atractive, but they feel as they were. Attitud is better than be really atractive, i like your personality.
I always find Vanessa so real and sincere! She is gorgeous with a smile that is simply incredible...but beneath that, she is so likable, kind, and caring. She has the heart of a teacher and I really appreciate that. I can totally relate to her and love her teachings. Her husband is one lucky man! Keep up your hard work Vanessa!
Vanessa is not only smart she's one of the nicest people that I've seen on youtube .. look at the way she's so caring and considerate to other people's emotions, in this video even when this man interrupts her she tries to fix the sitiuation and brings up another topic whithout embarrasing him .. while keeping on a smiley attitude
Imagine dating her... Every movement and facial expressions she's analyzing. *Update* Everyone, I didn't mean my comment with bad intentions. I literally meant, imagine dating someone or her and they're analyzing you and you had no idea because they're pro level status and you're already at a disadvantage. I'm a fan of Vanessa's channel and what she teaches.
I’ve heard all of these a million times before because this stuff fascinates me and I’m always wanting to learn more BUT I’ve also learned take it all with a grain of salt. You really have to get someone’s baseline down before you start trying to read them through body language. For example: I always tilt my head (and raise my brows another supposed sign of “attraction”) when I talk to people, whether I’m attracted to them or not. Also I play with my lips a lot as a habit, so her last point would mean nothing with me. Also if I’m sitting in an uncomfortable chair or cold I will cross my arms. So while knowing these tips can be helpful, you have to pay attention to so many other factors about the person you’re trying to analyze and not jump to conclusions… IMO Reading micro expressions is a much clearer indicator when it comes to reading someone, but you have to be very observant and vigilant to be good at it.
i was really annoyed by the all the interruptions they made when vanessa was talking!! it was very interesting and they only were making jokes that weren't funny.
OH my gosh! I specifically scrolled into the comments to see if anyone was thinking the same thing I was about that! The interruptions are SO annoying! Vanessa has such great content but these hosts ALWAYS interrupt her!
Although body language can provide a lot of information as to what their mood and such is, fabricated body language can actually provide a negative effect. I had previously encountered an individual who had purposely tried to use the crinkle while we were talking for the first time. I realized that the individual had been doing so without proper tone changes; therefore, it indicated that he was not truly as passionate to the topic as his facial expression indicates. Therefore, this has not only changed my first impression of him; however, the thought of inauthenticity also lingered. Body language is nice to know to figure out people, and it should only be used to project how you truly feel rather than to fabricate someone else who is not you.
Wow, I thought I was going to hear things I have already heard but Vanessa surprises me EVERY time! I learn new things every time I see her and it’s always so fascinating
+Nasi Thach - I am no expert but simply if a woman is not interested in you I think you will pick up on that I think she would not look at you and would be less interested in talking to you
+Paul Hynes Its more than just crossing your arms, its the facial expression too. I'm not an expert either but someone with their arms crossed and a smile on their face seems approachable.
+Nasi Thach - exactly it would make things simple why can we just not go up to a person and ask straight out wether they like us or not they don't teach you that at school I guess things like fear of regection and pride gets in the way
Too much is made of crossing arms and the negative connotation of being negative and closed minded. It means to me concern and deep contemplation and focus.
A classic study by Dr. Albert Mehabrian is often misquoted as “the total impact of a message is based on: 7% words used; 38% tone of voice, volume, rate of speech, vocal pitch; 55% facial expressions, hand gestures, postures and other forms of body language.” But Mehabrian never claimed that you could view a movie in a foreign language and accurately guess 93 percent of the content by watching body language. His research was focused on the communication of emotions - specifically, liking and disliking.
Warenikk I agree wholeheartedly. 7% is drawing a long bow. It turns the guru content into bunk. The moment I hear 7% I just turn off. www.speakingaboutpresenting.com/albert-mehrabian-nonverbal-communication/
Warenikk Thanks a lot for your clarification, which explains direct everyday experience far better than this reigning misquote: indeed, along the line of this misquote, one could never interpet correctly any recorded message or even the reasoning of Stephen Hawking. Thanks again.
+Warenikk well aren't you smart. I'm impressed and attracted - and I never even saw your face once. (Actually I do appreciate that tip because a lot of people do interpret that the way you said.
+Warenikk An update to my previous reply. Mehrabian NEVER included gestures, posture and etc in his analysis. In fact, the Visual component is restricted to facial expression/s only. I am pleased to say that I have had an email conversation with the Professor and ultimately purchased his book, 'Silent Messages'. The professor also stated that his findings are often presented as a "Gross exaggeration".
+Murray Farrell MC I got that quote from Wikipedia, but thanks for clarification. I actually like the content of Vanessa and tried some of her suggestions with shaking hands and focusing on the eyecolour of a person. But it´s a shame that she doesn´t know her stuff as thoroughly as she makes people believe :D
These 2 hosts are just horrifyingly bad with their constant interrupting and lame jokes....they down play evverything she's says by making stupid remarks...
One thing I 've learned the more you focus on working hard and bettering yourself. And not tryin to analyze people and just accept them and love em for who they are. The right woman will come along and y'all will just click
River Billy you are dead nuts on. Instead of trying to make it happen, just let it happen. Most important is to be yourself. If there is something about you that the other person objects to, better now than later.
I think I can at times anyway have a flirty personality. It doesn't really mean much though but I notice I do the head tilt thing almost all the all time regardless if I'm into someone or not. I also smile a lot too regardless of who's there. Also yesterday, I touched my chest but it was because I had heartburn and nothing more lol. The worst was probably when I would lick my lips constantly when I was younger only because they were dry. So it's best not to take this stuff too seriously :) Other people may look really dead pan but might actually like you.
Don't women (and all people) generally want to be attractive to everyone they meet? It means that everyone will treat you better than if you weren't. This means that you can't use these "cues" as reference for when a girl likes someone, because they will constantly (unconsciously) do these things to appear amiable.
Arm crossing isnt necessarily closing, if the arms are not crossed totally (one kinda rest on other) and thumbs are visible (fists no clinched) that is called self hug and it actualy means comfort!
+Tamara McNelly It could've started off as a defensive gesture and you got so used to it and the comfort it gives you that it stayed. The point of it is that it happens 'suddenly' as soon as someone says or does something you dont agree with or when you get approached by someone unwanted. The key to understand someones body language is to study the individuals natural body movements and mannerisms first and then look for drastic/sudden changes in behaviour. Generally speaking crossed arms are a sign of discomfort(trying to get more comfortable) and resistance.
I admire for your comment and it really to see a beautiful and adorable woman like you with such an amazing smile iam Ibrahim from egypt and i am 37 years old i would love to learn more about you but that is if you don't mind sending me a friend request.thank you
For years I taught that 7% of communication was non-verbal because you hear it so often until I decided to do some research and after half an hour found where it came from and that it's missing the context: small children showing whether they want to an ice-cream. The 7% figure when applied to all communication is just plain wrong. So bad it was in the first minute. I switched off straight away. (And I'm talking about training I was giving in the early 2000s, pretty depressing that the myth is still being repeated.)
I think most of these are culture-specific, I don't doubt the evolution part but I think people in different parts of the world show attraction slightly different, depending on what they've been socialised to believe is acceptable. For example, most westerners would tell you that when a person doesn't make eye contact they're either hiding something or they're not interested, that might be true for people in the West but in my country, too much eye contact is believed to be a sign of disrespect. So when I'm talking to an adult I tend to break eye contact a lot, that's just one example. My point is, context matters when you're looking for these "signs".
The good sell out i usually take note of is the combination of facial expression n tone of voice. its like someone learning to ride a bike for the first time, u usually cant master everything at once, when u master balance you are struggling with direction, when u have mastered direction you are struggling with balance.
Hi Vanessa, I always find it awkward what to do with my hands. I know how to stand straight and sit properly, but really I don't know where to put my hands without looking awkward. Should I put them on my laps separately on top of each thigh? Should I hold my palms together? Forearm out or back arm out? When I was standing still should I just leave my hands hanging on the side? And also is it true it's better to not put one of my knee on top of the other? (I don't know what's the term in English but I guess you understand what I mean..). I read that it's better to sit with the knees aligned to one another, touching without any gaps. My thighs aren't exactly slender so having the knees touching together actually take some effort to keep it up. Is it supposed to be like this to maintain a body posture? Fake it till make it?
Arms folded is more indicative of pacifying ones self than being ‘guarded’ or ‘defensive’. Seems to be a common misconception in a lot of presentations I’ve been watching. Is this correct?
Notice the awkward chuckle of the speaker a bit after the 3min mark when the hosts were trying to crack jokes while she waited to answer their question
Curious, if a woman had her arms crossed, sometimes I would still approach her and say something off the wall ,,, silly,,, and they tend to then put the arms down and give the gestures you spoke of about being inviting
These two show why they still are in medium television market on a minor morning show; they constantly interrupt their guest. Now how I got to this clip, I don’t know how it was recommended.
I have noticed with myself if someone points out something I do that I am not aware of I will stop doing it. Usually they like the quirk I was doing but now that I was aware of it I just stopped. You being aware of the attraction signals, did something go off in your mind when you did them? Was it still a sub conscious gesture or would you do it on purpose because you knew what it meant to use that body language?
Vanessa, I love your book captivate , I am reading it . I am excited to learn more and more such a wonderful thing to understand others around us around so I start
Less than 10 per cent verbal means time to seek out new places and persons for a spouse; physical cues count more when the relationship is serious as these physical cues can be for other reasons and especially for a woman probability of sexual assaults would increase. If these cues are autonomic you will likely bring disaster upon a good relationship....
SInce when do american women even bother to look at or try to attract men? That's so 2000's or 90's. Most american women do this now to attract other WOMEN.
I was sitting in my desk talking to this girl at work, she was standing facing me, and while she was listening she squatted down to my eye level. This has happened a few times. I know shes attracted to me but, what exactely does this mean???
@@janette499 Vanessa claims she is a body language expert yet failed to decode this scenario presented to her. Thank you for clarifying the hidden meaning behind the deli worker's body language and providing closure to this baffling behavior. It is you in fact who is the real body language expert. Keep rocking!
Well, my feet always are a bit to the sides, so they point no direction in particular when I’m standing. My gaze is mostly either fixed at something that makes noise or I’m staring at nothing at all. My chin is always upright, and my hands are crossed behind my back. I guess no one can read my body language, lol. I just always stand around like a security guard, without an expression on my face
Everything here is changeable with a few choice words and some nice gestures even if that person man or woman is not interested. If you have good conversation and it doesn't start with hi how are you what do you do. Then your grand. Worst thing in the world is to be asked what you do for a living it's boring and shallow. Dating should not reflect money. It's about contact and being interested and attentive and listening. And being comfortable very quickly. If your trying to make sentences then forget it. Words should come easy without thinking.
Can I ask you about something...? It happened many years ago. I was sitting with my ex boyfriend outside a restaurant. We were drinking. Suddenly a women who I really liked appeared outside the restaurant. She was speaking with her friends. She was quite close to my table. I was staring at her every now and again, quite a long time. She noticed that. At some point she looked at me and winked. I was so ashamed that I put my head down. What her wink 😉 meant? She wanted to show me that she liked me, liked me “more”, or just maybe other different meaning? I would be grateful for an answer.
Sorry this is 9 months later but if I caught someone looking at me constantly and winked that’s a sign that I like that you’re staring at me. If im not interested and a guy/girl keeps staring at me I wouldn’t wink at them because I wouldn’t want them to get the wrong idea, her winking at you means she liked the eye attention you were giving hope that helps!
Find out more in our full article on this topic: www.scienceofpeople.com/attraction/
I'd like to meet you 1 day. I think you're awesome. I wish more women were like you. I am a leader, but I didn't know how to handle the control and attention. I lost all my employees and friends 🥺
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Hi, you're sexy. I like girls that don't care about their image, Even if they don't look atractive, but they feel as they were. Attitud is better than be really atractive, i like your personality.
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I always find Vanessa so real and sincere! She is gorgeous with a smile that is simply incredible...but beneath that, she is so likable, kind, and caring. She has the heart of a teacher and I really appreciate that. I can totally relate to her and love her teachings. Her husband is one lucky man! Keep up your hard work Vanessa!
Vanessa is not only smart
she's one of the nicest people that I've seen on youtube ..
look at the way she's so caring and considerate to other people's emotions, in this video
even when this man interrupts her she tries to fix the sitiuation and brings up another topic whithout embarrasing him .. while keeping on a smiley attitude
Yea I agree
Cheers for mentioning
You are simping for her
A true professional, and a master of her art.
Imagine dating her... Every movement and facial expressions she's analyzing.
*Update* Everyone, I didn't mean my comment with bad intentions. I literally meant, imagine dating someone or her and they're analyzing you and you had no idea because they're pro level status and you're already at a disadvantage. I'm a fan of Vanessa's channel and what she teaches.
Shes annoying........
She'd be like a Damn terminator!
Ha ha
All women do this guys
Forget about what she seems to be on UA-cam. People really aren't what they seem until you get to really know them.
I’ve heard all of these a million times before because this stuff fascinates me and I’m always wanting to learn more BUT I’ve also learned take it all with a grain of salt. You really have to get someone’s baseline down before you start trying to read them through body language. For example: I always tilt my head (and raise my brows another supposed sign of “attraction”) when I talk to people, whether I’m attracted to them or not. Also I play with my lips a lot as a habit, so her last point would mean nothing with me. Also if I’m sitting in an uncomfortable chair or cold I will cross my arms. So while knowing these tips can be helpful, you have to pay attention to so many other factors about the person you’re trying to analyze and not jump to conclusions… IMO Reading micro expressions is a much clearer indicator when it comes to reading someone, but you have to be very observant and vigilant to be good at it.
i was really annoyed by the all the interruptions they made when vanessa was talking!! it was very interesting and they only were making jokes that weren't funny.
Mc Anna I agree. like shut up and let her talk. I am
Dudette. Chill. And the other 77 people. That was all fun and games.
It's because they don't want their body language reactions to pour out.
hhehehe
I agree. This particular show sucks.
OH my gosh! I specifically scrolled into the comments to see if anyone was thinking the same thing I was about that! The interruptions are SO annoying! Vanessa has such great content but these hosts ALWAYS interrupt her!
Although body language can provide a lot of information as to what their mood and such is, fabricated body language can actually provide a negative effect. I had previously encountered an individual who had purposely tried to use the crinkle while we were talking for the first time. I realized that the individual had been doing so without proper tone changes; therefore, it indicated that he was not truly as passionate to the topic as his facial expression indicates. Therefore, this has not only changed my first impression of him; however, the thought of inauthenticity also lingered. Body language is nice to know to figure out people, and it should only be used to project how you truly feel rather than to fabricate someone else who is not you.
That's what i thought a narcissistic person is and Avoid totally sociopath..no dought
Wow, I thought I was going to hear things I have already heard but Vanessa surprises me EVERY time! I learn new things every time I see her and it’s always so fascinating
Thank you for watching! I'm glad to know this video brought value to you!
She has this aura that makes you want her to be your friend, everyone’s friend... because she sounds calm and genuine when she talks.
Your very 😍
@@richardpauly1635 thank you
I thought when a person crosses their arms in front of them, it meant they're hugging themselves for comfort.
Hahahah true
I thought so too😄
This is true 👍
They are protecting themselves and are defensive
they are comfortable being uncomfortable
Vanessa has a smile that lights up a room. Clearly, she has it goin on. A complete package.
keep that to yourself lindsey
I sometimes cross my hands for comfort does not mean I do not want to be approached
+Paul Hynes right?! exactly, I do the same thing for comfort or when I'm cold.
+Nasi Thach - I am no expert but simply if a woman is not interested in you I think you will pick up on that I think she would not look at you and would be less interested in talking to you
+Paul Hynes Its more than just crossing your arms, its the facial expression too. I'm not an expert either but someone with their arms crossed and a smile on their face seems approachable.
Paul Hynes Richard Nixon ..great points. this whole body language thing is hard..I mean why can't we just have telepathic powers.
+Nasi Thach - exactly it would make things simple why can we just not go up to a person and ask straight out wether they like us or not they don't teach you that at school I guess things like fear of regection and pride gets in the way
Too much is made of crossing arms and the negative connotation of being negative and closed minded. It means to me concern and deep contemplation and focus.
A classic study by Dr. Albert Mehabrian is often misquoted as “the total impact of a message is based on: 7% words used; 38% tone of voice, volume, rate of speech, vocal pitch; 55% facial expressions, hand gestures, postures and other forms of body language.” But Mehabrian never claimed that you could view a movie in a foreign language and accurately guess 93 percent of the content by watching body language. His research was focused on the communication of emotions - specifically, liking and disliking.
Warenikk I agree wholeheartedly. 7% is drawing a long bow. It turns the guru content into bunk. The moment I hear 7% I just turn off.
www.speakingaboutpresenting.com/albert-mehrabian-nonverbal-communication/
Warenikk Thanks a lot for your clarification, which explains direct everyday experience far better than this reigning misquote: indeed, along the line of this misquote, one could never interpet correctly any recorded message or even the reasoning of Stephen Hawking.
Thanks again.
+Warenikk well aren't you smart. I'm impressed and attracted - and I never even saw your face once. (Actually I do appreciate that tip because a lot of people do interpret that the way you said.
+Warenikk An update to my previous reply. Mehrabian NEVER included gestures, posture and etc in his analysis.
In fact, the Visual component is restricted to facial expression/s only. I am pleased to say that I have had an email conversation with the Professor and ultimately purchased his book, 'Silent Messages'. The professor also stated that his findings are often presented as a "Gross exaggeration".
+Murray Farrell MC I got that quote from Wikipedia, but thanks for clarification. I actually like the content of Vanessa and tried some of her suggestions with shaking hands and focusing on the eyecolour of a person. But it´s a shame that she doesn´t know her stuff as thoroughly as she makes people believe :D
"Don't point your feet at me." 😂
This girl is an expert of attraction... and she LOOKS that way too... :-)
These 2 hosts are just horrifyingly bad with their constant interrupting and lame jokes....they down play evverything she's says by making stupid remarks...
Agreed
Yes
One thing I 've learned the more you focus on working hard and bettering yourself. And not tryin to analyze people and just accept them and love em for who they are. The right woman will come along and y'all will just click
I hope so
River Billy you are dead nuts on. Instead of trying to make it happen, just let it happen. Most important is to be yourself. If there is something about you that the other person objects to, better now than later.
This woman has a very awesome spirit. Much love and respect to her
"....I know they're drunk, but..."
HAHA. BEST LINE EVER.
I think I can at times anyway have a flirty personality. It doesn't really mean much though but I notice I do the head tilt thing almost all the all time regardless if I'm into someone or not. I also smile a lot too regardless of who's there. Also yesterday, I touched my chest but it was because I had heartburn and nothing more lol. The worst was probably when I would lick my lips constantly when I was younger only because they were dry. So it's best not to take this stuff too seriously :) Other people may look really dead pan but might actually like you.
Those old people seemed very enthuasiastic about this
Lol boomers
*brushes back hair*
"PLEASE SMELL MY PHEROMONES" lol
Lmao
Svinja I love your smile from Africa 😁😂
isn't that when an ancient Egyptian steps on lego???
...wait, no that's a _pharaoh moan_ ...nm mb ;o)
whats funny in that??
You smell like fish
arms crossed has soooooo many meanings... for me it's often because it's so darn cold & women's clothing are inadequate!
Or I’m just thinking xD
This was a pleasure to watch. That poor man was as awkward as one can be.😂
Not really. Weird observation 🤔
these hosts are hilarious. i love it!
Don't women (and all people) generally want to be attractive to everyone they meet? It means that everyone will treat you better than if you weren't. This means that you can't use these "cues" as reference for when a girl likes someone, because they will constantly (unconsciously) do these things to appear amiable.
Nope.
Gail Willis No you are incorrect sir. What I said is true.
No way! There's nothing more awkward than somebody liking you that you don't like back.
Little Lynkx Nope.
Gail Willis Wow thanks for the insight!
Arm crossing isnt necessarily closing, if the arms are not crossed totally (one kinda rest on other) and thumbs are visible (fists no clinched) that is called self hug and it actualy means comfort!
The female indicators she mentioned is outdated. This is based on studies of old fashioned etiquette society. Times and postures are different now!!!
She’s so gorgeous, what a fun interview
I always cross my arms, it doesn't mean I don't want to be approached though, it's just comfortable for me, hmmm
oh, really?
Tamara McNelly You know, it can be comfortable, but it transmits the impression that you´re have your "heart closed".
+Tamara McNelly It could've started off as a defensive gesture and you got so used to it and the comfort it gives you that it stayed. The point of it is that it happens 'suddenly' as soon as someone says or does something you dont agree with or when you get approached by someone unwanted. The key to understand someones body language is to study the individuals natural body movements and mannerisms first and then look for drastic/sudden changes in behaviour. Generally speaking crossed arms are a sign of discomfort(trying to get more comfortable) and resistance.
+Tamara McNelly where a sweater, smile and tilt your head. Your're pretty - you will be approached but keeps those arms down.
Sparra Lina hi
shes beauty with brains
Great video! I cross my arms a lot only because it’s comfortable lol I guess I need to be aware of my body language especially around a crush.
I admire for your comment and it really to see a beautiful and adorable woman like you with such an amazing smile iam Ibrahim from egypt and i am 37 years old i would love to learn more about you but that is if you don't mind sending me a friend request.thank you
She won me over at 2:21!
Agree, that was so sexy
absolutely right
When she said, "you're revving my engine" I lost it lol.
so vennesa was doing all those things while i was watching her right now! she is hitting on me! Congratulations vennesa its a yes from me!
For years I taught that 7% of communication was non-verbal because you hear it so often until I decided to do some research and after half an hour found where it came from and that it's missing the context: small children showing whether they want to an ice-cream. The 7% figure when applied to all communication is just plain wrong. So bad it was in the first minute. I switched off straight away. (And I'm talking about training I was giving in the early 2000s, pretty depressing that the myth is still being repeated.)
I think most of these are culture-specific, I don't doubt the evolution part but I think people in different parts of the world show attraction slightly different, depending on what they've been socialised to believe is acceptable. For example, most westerners would tell you that when a person doesn't make eye contact they're either hiding something or they're not interested, that might be true for people in the West but in my country, too much eye contact is believed to be a sign of disrespect. So when I'm talking to an adult I tend to break eye contact a lot, that's just one example. My point is, context matters when you're looking for these "signs".
Relationships are now a thing of the past
Good luck guys you're gunna need it
The good sell out i usually take note of is the combination of facial expression n tone of voice. its like someone learning to ride a bike for the first time, u usually cant master everything at once, when u master balance you are struggling with direction, when u have mastered direction you are struggling with balance.
I really enjoyed the information you shared, it was interesting to learn, but I have to say, the guy in the video was a crack up, thank you...
omgosh she's back to school you bro, luugat that outift [wowzers power grl]
Hi Vanessa, I always find it awkward what to do with my hands. I know how to stand straight and sit properly, but really I don't know where to put my hands without looking awkward. Should I put them on my laps separately on top of each thigh? Should I hold my palms together? Forearm out or back arm out? When I was standing still should I just leave my hands hanging on the side?
And also is it true it's better to not put one of my knee on top of the other? (I don't know what's the term in English but I guess you understand what I mean..). I read that it's better to sit with the knees aligned to one another, touching without any gaps. My thighs aren't exactly slender so having the knees touching together actually take some effort to keep it up. Is it supposed to be like this to maintain a body posture? Fake it till make it?
Same problem
Hard dilemma: She's charismatic because she's attractive or is she attractive because she's charismatic?
If you can see her face, she’s not running away. 🎉⚡️❤️
Been single 18yrs...
I just can't be bothered chasing women
And secondly I can't afford 1
Poor guu
No he's got it made. They're far more trouble than they're worth!
I from Somalia right now I speaking Somalia, this vedio is a great video, thank you so much.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Be yourself, Be Happy , end of story 😏
So so true... thanks for uploading....keep uploading
Nice pic and smile
wow...man...made my life....
Nice one, Subscribed. Please keep them coming.....
Arms folded is more indicative of pacifying ones self than being ‘guarded’ or ‘defensive’. Seems to be a common misconception in a lot of presentations I’ve been watching. Is this correct?
I tap my collar bone when im "breaking my barrier"
7% vocal, 8% body language, 85% finding them attractive.
Notice the awkward chuckle of the speaker a bit after the 3min mark when the hosts were trying to crack jokes while she waited to answer their question
Why am I unconciously saying "Don't talk to me"
"open up the truck, get in"... lol! 🤪
Hi Vanessa u r geogorous and way of explaining things blows me😊
My crush had his legs crossed :(
And???
Curious, if a woman had her arms crossed, sometimes I would still approach her and say something off the wall ,,, silly,,, and they tend to then put the arms down and give the gestures you spoke of about being inviting
Always being aware with the fake or true happinesses
That man is hilarious 💀💀💀💀💀
I really like your videos. Simple and precise
The caveman reason is so funny.. right with the big bang
I like the male host. He's funny haha
yea I enjoyed him as a host lol
Careful of the eye crinkle smile. It literally is just as easy to fake as the non-crinkle smile. I mean, it's not even that hard. lol
These two show why they still are in medium television market on a minor morning show; they constantly interrupt their guest. Now how I got to this clip, I don’t know how it was recommended.
Great! I'm gonna crack my date tomorrow.
When I cross my arms I do it because I my posture feels good. People think I do it because I’m insecure my body.
I have noticed with myself if someone points out something I do that I am not aware of I will stop doing it. Usually they like the quirk I was doing but now that I was aware of it I just stopped. You being aware of the attraction signals, did something go off in your mind when you did them? Was it still a sub conscious gesture or would you do it on purpose because you knew what it meant to use that body language?
Folding hands is self soothing
Vanessa, I love your book captivate , I am reading it . I am excited to learn more and more such a wonderful thing to understand others around us around so I start
Less than 10 per cent verbal means time to seek out new places and persons for a spouse; physical cues count more when the relationship is serious as these physical cues can be for other reasons and especially for a woman probability of sexual assaults would increase. If these cues are autonomic you will likely bring disaster upon a good relationship....
SInce when do american women even bother to look at or try to attract men? That's so 2000's or 90's. Most american women do this now to attract other WOMEN.
armchairjudge dont hate me b/c you're ugly
Nice one.
Thank you guys I have learned a lot from this program.
Deer in the headlights… very rare…. Eyes wide open… mouth ajar… if you see this feel blessed!
0:15 so gorgeous, she lit me up
Very helpful information, beautiful lady stunning, beautiful advice.
Your amazing! Love the advice!!!
Wow these are some really great tips!
what is the best word to say to woman first meet to ask her out especially when she is too defensive with her body language ?
I was sitting in my desk talking to this girl at work, she was standing facing me, and while she was listening she squatted down to my eye level. This has happened a few times. I know shes attracted to me but, what exactely does this mean???
Great question! You may find this article helpful: www.scienceofpeople.com/someone-likes-you/
Does this also work with gay men?
She is nuts!!! Caveman? Evolution? What other fairy tale can you teach us?
Poor guy. He’s totally outmatched.
Very informative to upping my game...
Problem I have is if I fancy a man. I won’t look them in the eyes. I’m scared they will see what I’m thinking 🤣
Vanessa, one time I was ordering a roast beef sandwich at a deli and the worker preparing it keep scratching his balls. What was he trying to convey?
An std 😂😂
@@janette499 Vanessa claims she is a body language expert yet failed to decode this scenario presented to her. Thank you for clarifying the hidden meaning behind the deli worker's body language and providing closure to this baffling behavior. It is you in fact who is the real body language expert. Keep rocking!
You really are something special @Vanessa Van Edwards
Vanessa Van Edwards I only say it because it’s true 😊. You have so much to offer, and such amazing energy.
Great stuff
Pretty much right on the money.
So breaking wind is the wrong thing to do?
No that works too
What happened to looking at someone you like and just smile.
Great tips👍
Very good advice
Now what does it mean when a woman is teasing her legs like Vanessa at 5:28?
gumsz91 right! I want to know that too!
sweaty palms
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Nicely talk few points but very clear
Thank you for sharing info Vanessa.
great video !!!!!
Well, my feet always are a bit to the sides, so they point no direction in particular when I’m standing. My gaze is mostly either fixed at something that makes noise or I’m staring at nothing at all. My chin is always upright, and my hands are crossed behind my back. I guess no one can read my body language, lol. I just always stand around like a security guard, without an expression on my face
Everything here is changeable with a few choice words and some nice gestures even if that person man or woman is not interested. If you have good conversation and it doesn't start with hi how are you what do you do. Then your grand. Worst thing in the world is to be asked what you do for a living it's boring and shallow. Dating should not reflect money. It's about contact and being interested and attentive and listening. And being comfortable very quickly. If your trying to make sentences then forget it. Words should come easy without thinking.
Can I ask you about something...? It happened many years ago. I was sitting with my ex boyfriend outside a restaurant. We were drinking. Suddenly a women who I really liked appeared outside the restaurant. She was speaking with her friends. She was quite close to my table. I was staring at her every now and again, quite a long time. She noticed that. At some point she looked at me and winked. I was so ashamed that I put my head down. What her wink 😉 meant? She wanted to show me that she liked me, liked me “more”, or just maybe other different meaning? I would be grateful for an answer.
Sorry this is 9 months later but if I caught someone looking at me constantly and winked that’s a sign that I like that you’re staring at me. If im not interested and a guy/girl keeps staring at me I wouldn’t wink at them because I wouldn’t want them to get the wrong idea, her winking at you means she liked the eye attention you were giving hope that helps!