mike roshaft said: "ok men don't necessarily miss courtship signals, they just have trouble determining if the signals are genuine or not" - Exactly what I was going to say. Many women - and especially married women - like to test their attractiveness on a regular basis. First, some of us cannot tell if they are genuinely interested or just playing. Second some men don't care and just go for it Some of us might want to see if it is genuine interest, but are not really interested in her, OR we think we might be interested, but then start wondering what kind of nut-case we are going to have to deal with.
wendeln92 Same with women, we want to know which head is being used. Are you looking for a bimbo or a woman with a heart and brains. Never could stomach the game.
Vanessa, when I want to attract the ladies, I just put on a really nice pair of speedos and go to the supermarket and shop for produce. I used to be to shy to wear my speedos shopping, but now, thanks to all your great videos, I can finally wear them with bold confidence. Thanks Vanessa for changing my life.
@@angelus_solus As Vanessa's videos have taught me, if shopping in speedos is wrong, well then, I certainly don't want to be right. Thanks so much for the support. Keep rocking!
I think all women notice the chest back and shoulders the most. Those are the traits when displayed correctly will display a Alpha male is in front of them. It is what the animal kingdom has always noticed in any male who knows how to display that trait and shows when a mans interested in a girl. Normally i believe that the female will mirror his actions if she is interested and if he notices it will drive him crazy inside and naturally the flirty courtship will happen.
I do that with girls, the neck, the arms, shoulders and the waist are the most attractive places for me. But yeah, on the face, the jawline is another that I always look at, plus the nose.
It’s usually pretty simple. We gawk a lot. 😆 I can tell you what I do when a woman signals interest. I’ll usually straighten up my back, speak less, make wittier comments when I do, half-smile, and check back regularly to watch for more eye contact.
+TheColaGoodfellow thats bullshit, ik someone who is working with the government and they tell me that 90% of the time humans indicate those same body language
I know. I cross my arms all the time and it's not because I am uncomfortable or want to seem unapproachable. Sometimes when I am just standing around talking it is just comfortable to cross my arms. I guess subconsciously I am probably a little uncomfortable because I AM a little bit introverted and when I try to change it I don't know what to do with my arms. Then I start to feel akward. Lol.
+imakefoodhappen HUH? I definitely look at a man's ass. The legs and butt are of first importance. Also, height. If a guy is short, I am NOT interetsted, I don't care what they look like. Never understood why guys work out their arms when it just makes them look out of proportion. Like a big upper body on teeny little legs. YUK.
+imakefoodhappen Just out of curiosity.. How tall are you? And about the butt thing, well... most women in the streets and clubs get in love with my face, then they check me out for my body as im a builded man... but it´s not that one is always walking around like some fuckin baywatch or whatever, so i would say you women love pretty faces and of course, STYLE!!!
+The Bolt Thrower Yeah, i think it's mostly the face. I'm not usually attracted to skinny guys, most i like seem to be bigger, chubby men, but skinny wouldn't be a deal breaker either. I just don't care much about body type.
Vanessa, can you please post one on the subject this claims to be about? Maybe as one of your individual videos, which are much better? I don't want to be mean, but the hosts detract more than they add, especially one of them. Your information is generally spot on, but this is completely about women, not men.
I am the type of guy that does NOT assume a woman likes me and probably miss a lot of the signals. Thank you for helping to see these. I never like to read women wrong and be "that guy".
You know what sucks? When you're encouraged to smile and be helpful/friendly to customers but they take it as meaning you're interested. So you think "am I being too friendly" so then you dial back on the friendliness but it doesn't seem to help regardless of what you do. Hell even when I don't smile I get "the look". Like...out of the blue intense gaze, hardly blinking or kind of unfocused. One time I was helping someone I barely even looked at. I was so busy frowning at the computer due to a glitch. I looked up to apologize for the issue only to be shocked by the look on this guy's face. I instinctively leaned back a bit. I wanted to ask if he was okay. Dude was trying to peer into my soul. There's _no_ reason to look at someone you don't really know *_that_* intimately. Another example. My colleague helping a male customer set up an account. I hear her voice, then his. Shrug, business as usual. Happened to glance over...this dude...had his body completely turned towards me, just looking at me as if I had been talking to him. Confused, thinking maybe my colleague had called me for help or something I look at her. She's just typing away on her computer, entering information...so what in the actual...fucc?! I've noticed that when some, not all, dudes come up to my work and have to take identification out of their wallet or pocket, they will maintain eye contact from under their brow as the dig for their info. ??? Why are you looking at me?! Look at your wallet. Male body language cues from personal experience: intense or hazy gaze, squaring shoulders, tilting up the chin, leaning a bit forward into personal space at times, staring at the mouth, turning their body towards you. Perhaps in a different setting these would be more welcome but I've learned the heard way how to not be overly friendly and too helpful at work. I lower the pitch of my voice, make brief eye contact before focusing on an eyebrow, glancing away towards my computer screen for a moment. Brief small smile at the beginning along with a basic "hello how may I help", then back to neutral face. Sitting up straight and not leaning over. Among other things. Amazingly it still doesn't work!🤔
I can decode this for you easily. It's because most guys have sex on the brain and every woman they see as a potential person to get into bed in one week, be married and to of had a kid within a year.
I guess I'm your typical male bc I tuned out half of what you said in this post but you know what? You're right. Now I'm going to see what's in the fridge.
it has nothing to do with insecurity, men are told daily that women are interested and theyre just being nice and yet the two are severely similar to women. A woman will be extra nice when interested in a guy and will be nice to avoid being a bitch to ones she finds ugly. This causes many problems because it leads guys to think shes just being hard to get and causes him to chase harder and it causes guys shes interested in to ignore them because theyre not direct enough.
If I don't find a woman physically attractive and don't see a connection, I could give a damn what kind of body language she's sending or not sending of if she's available or not. If I like what I see, THEN I'll inquire about her availability and if we have common connections and touchstones and then move from there. I think body language is an inexact science and can often be misleading.
It takes men 3 to 4 times to notice a women is interested by body language? May be because women always complain about how being nice isn't flirting, but when you're expecting someone to practically read your mind and body to make out how you feel it's going to take a couple of interactions just so you don't make a mistake, which is why telling a man how you really feel is a lot easier. If men are practically expected to pursue and engage the women, then women should be expected to at least be straight forward and honest about how they feel. I don't think that's too much to ask. Oh, and I love that blonde ladies response and facial expression at 1:15 "Or, just hand him your phone number.."
Jonathan Jones lolz, have you ever had a girlfriend ?? All we talk about is our feelings, I thought it was a guys fantasy to get us to shut up about them😉😆 When was 18, my father (retired USMC) told me, "You know what a guy is thinking when a woman looks at him? She wants me." Straight up seriousness, I didn't believe him, THEN, definitely do now. Cute video
somewhere over the rainbow we do believe that but there are somethings that i like in a women to show me before i say it is a done deal where i actually take it further. One i want them to constantly show me they are interested. If they show they are interested in another man at the same time showing me that interest i lose attraction right away for the girl and she becomes a lower rank female with little self respect who is looking for attention. Those girls IMO are more likely to cheat when problems happen in a relationship. I also look for them to do cute things that i don't see other women do very often and it can be even in the way they flirt and the attraction for them goes up big time.
I like - No makeup - Not fucking fat - Isn't on her phone 24/7 - Won't wear baby clothes in public when dating. - Short - Clean face - Clean teeth - Isn't a jerk or rude.
this is why I miss the cues. Subtle hints I don't get.....obvious hints I don't get.........just talk to me and express some words that show an interest. Something like after talking for a bit......"hey, would you like to meet up tomorrow for lunch?" No hints....just direct to the point. Then I can say no, you are a hussy for trying to captivate me with your pheromones
This guy is interesting in his body language. When you arrive in the beginning, his legs are open, his palms are open, he leans in, his feet are pointed at you and seeks out eye contact. Its not until you begin discussing how to read body language that he changes. At 38 second he crosses his ankles. Thats a sign that hes got something he wants to hold back or info to hide. As you go into talking about the signs men miss, he has folded clutched hands with fidgeting thumbs. Hes still listening with interest, however hes nervous. His ankles are still crossed. He will still gesture with open hands at situations he connects with, but at one point he crosses his wrists, which shows he really wants to conceal something. Maybe hes starting to understand something he missed? at 2:56 a visual cue thats interesting is that he really leans back when he asks if there is a visual cue for when a man is lying. He finds that a tad bit uncomfortable. Also when trying to figure out what women find most attractive, he didnt like that part either. This makes me giggle. 5:31 his hand are now clenched closer to the face leaning out. He is reallly uncomfortable but he makes great eye contact. His head here is a bit higher than its been for the past few minutes. Final question hes back to being much more open, though his ankles are still crossed. He knows its almost over and has survived without his secrets coming out! LOL
I have advice for all men. Just build your body evenly and possibly work on your back and legs 2 times more then any other body part and doesn't matter what body part you have the females will have a favorite body part of the male on you.
Well I am fascinated by how many men say they don’t find “high maintenance” attractive and they end up with them every. single. time. This also applies to the “crazy/stalker” types who men also claim to want nothing to do with. Have you done research on that ? I would be so interested because most of the ladies I know who are normal, well adjusted, charming, approachable are standing around wondering why all the guys are with the women who criticize, stalk, etc, etc.....
I think guys do know, but we're apprehensive to approach too soon as it could be unintended. If I wasn't so afraid of getting the wrong signals, I would have approached first time🙌
Don't believe this, I'm a female and there is this very handsome guy at the grocery store that always greets me with the biggest smile (I think that's just his personality) and I immediately brake eye contact and look away and say good morning in my uninterested voice he probably thinks I'm rude, but that's just my anxiety taking over, and I know a lot of women who suffer from anxiety so I know I'm not the only one.
I am a salsa and kizomba dancer. We often have many discussions on who gets chosen to get asked to dance and why we choose people to ask to dance - it’s not always about attractiveness or dancing ability. I would love your input on this - have you done any studies on this?
fascinating that in the first minute the man already starts mirroring Vannessa's body language...which is often what we do when we are attracted to someone. At 0:36 his hands are folded like hers and his legs move into the exact same position hers are in.
I must say that you are really good on it. I am practicing what I have learned while I was watching your videos, I did help me in a lots of ways. thanks
Great content. Society sucks for a man these days. A lot of pressure on the man. If women would get it out of their heads ( not all woman are like this) that the man has to make the first move and she actually strikes up convo it would make everyones life essier
I am never lying about wealth, power or anything. People hate me for my honesty, they think I am just rude. I don’t even do it when it would benefit me, that’s why I failed a lot of job interviews. I tell the truth, about 90 percent of the time. I feel horrible when I do not. Also my face is not expressive among strangers, it’s just a slightly bored or annoyed look
"Women don't lie"-audience of the speaker (psychologist) laughs. "No, really. They will at first convince their own selves what they are saying is the truth. Then, they will try to convince others"
Altho some of this is true. I can assure you, at least 70% of it isn't. People are just different. There are no rules. What Sophia shows as a clear sign of interest, is the "Get the F away from me" signal when it comes to Susie. Anyone who pretends to know what certain behavioral characteristics mean, and attach that to "most" people are at the minimum, lying to themselves.
I understand this is about decoding men but I think being able to read some body language at least helps win some people over you just do more of the things they like. Like if your in a new job and you want to make some friends if you can pick up the subtal signs especially in the eyebrows and around the lips you know when they're impressed disgusted and you learn to adapt your behaviour to get more approving likes and nods and various other things they'd like to see, hear, because if you didn't how do you know if they will class you as someone they like to hang around with, e.g, like introverts if your showy and theatrical around them they know instantly your not going to be in their inner circle they can trust, they may talk to you, find you sweet and cute but introverts prefer people who have more like minded qualities so sometimes only like minded people group together, if they can't find simularities in your behaviour then they can't relate to you. I know I'll get accused of it's not healthy and considered inauthentic but when you match your energy with theirs there's more chance they have of liking you and you show different people different sides, you're not going to joke around with someone who doesn't have the same sense of humour as you do, it's what makes people think, hm, I thought she was alright. You are yourself but you show different aspects of your personality to different people. If you know someone isn't going to judge you can be more of your authentic self. You might like to let loose on the weekends with your fella but in the week in your job you act a little more reserved because you want to seem professional
kishon8 if a guy likes you he'll keep the conversation going its literally that simple the exception is(female bestie+close female friend)we aren't like girl who like to string alomg guys
Roshes aii TRUTH. I'll stop caring about the conversation like 3 minutes in if I decide I don't like the girl. But then be entertaining for like 15 minutes with a girl who I like (personality and face)
Women's favorite subject is themselves. I dated one woman for 6 months and she told me I was the best boyfriend she ever had when I dumped her. All we talked about was her. She knew nothing about me. lol
The main reason they didn't decode any male body language is because it's pretty easy to tell what we want and how we feel, we don't really give off hints.
i can't speak for everybody obviously but i know for many men it's not that they MISS the signals it's that they IGNORE them because so many women are forever fucking with guy's heads and half the time they're "flirting" with you they have no interest at all except in establishing that somebody finds them attractive to say nothing of the fact very very often they only want you as long as they can't have you the minute you reciprocate any interest (assuming it ever existed in the first place) it's game over.
yeah everybody knows about body language nowadays. i think its more about psychological ques. women notice when ive more confident, wearing right fit clothes because most of us wear size or two to big.money usually doesnt play a big role but you need to have a money to pay for few drinks. who ever understand a women psychology i think would say its way to complicated to explain. growing up with a sister and having few female friends with constant curiosity for human behavior hepls
Vanessa, I'm confused...you say that if a woman leans in, that shows the guy she's interested...I've heard relationship coaches say that leaning in is being in male energy and men, typically, do not respond to that as well as when a female leans back, aka being in female energy...I'd love to hear your thoughts on this...
I was playing cards with a woman and she stared at me. Is she telling me make a move? Also when you arm is diagonal down my back are we just friends or is it some more serious
First I think your amazing. I've seen many of your videos to help me become better at sales women. I wanted to learn the male's body language so I can tell if he is interested in what i'm saying or just trying to polity get rid of me. This video was almost identical to the female body language video though. What are signs that a male is genuinely interested?
ok but its also that they give strong signs and then when you ask them about it they act like nothing happens. So after many rejections i become numb to it
Vanessa. question. why the butt been the feature that the woman loves most???? you did not give enough info.. by the way will you be offering certification programs??
+J Aurelio Tall. I know my friends have never turned down a guy for muscle (or the lack there of), but they have all stated they wouldn't like to date a guy who wasn't taller than they were.
RealityCheck1993 That makes me a little sad 'cause I'm short (and I don't wanna boast (really) but I'm not ugly) and when I realized ladies don't feel attracted to me because of the shape of my body I began to develop my personality. This is the chance I have to like a person, you know? With inner beauty and maturity...
Well, I wouldn't worry too hard. A lot of people don't think they'd like a lot of things in a partner, until those things are part of the partner they're currently infatuated with. Just be yourself, and even if they don't like you at first, they will later if they're right for you. While I think that height is a bigger factor in temporary attraction, that say very little about the long-run.
+J Aurelio I think it's more about availability, if you feel bad about yourself and tell yourself 'women don't like me' then this might make you look the opposite of available, when you start to believe that some women will be interested in you, you'll feel more confident and be able to give a smile to a lady you like, for me, it's the smiling and eye contact, and it always works when the guy gets me to look at him, make eye contact, and he's smiling, then he looks away, still smiling and looks back again, and holds the contact for a second longer, it's not a stare, it just lasts a couple of seconds longer than a glimpse, and always with a smile, this for me gets me thinking about them for ages afterwards, and the smile could make me like them and become deeply attracted to them, when I might not have even noticed them before. Attraction is always about body language. and a smile and brief eye contact, screams availability.
+serendipity589 there could be the most attractive guy in the room, a real stunner, but if he's not smiling, then he isn't approachable. same goes for women.
This is a masterpiece. I recently read a similar book, and it was a masterpiece in its own right. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
So, the above was shown in place of the Lisa Nichols vid in the line up, while I've had Auto-play on... I commented below about this, having noticed a lack of Auto-plays when vids hv bn of people classed as "Black." After This vid... though I still hv Auto-play ON, the vid simply stopped at the end without moving on to the next vid, in a now long list of only V Van Edwards vids. My Q b4 was, basically, "Is this intentional complexionism," UA-cam? I here re-submit the same Q with regard to similar/related forms of "Auto-selection" and "Auto-responsiveness." NON-UA-cam AFFLIATES ARE ASKED NOT TO RESPOND. RESPONSES FROM UA-cam REPRESENTATIVES ONLY ARE REQUESTED. THANK YOU.
This gentleman is so funny every time he says something it's funnier than the last! I could so easily get along with this guy I've never seen in my life, but he is freaking hilarious! I got to figure out who the hell this guy is oh my God but seriously it's amazing how one channel has about 500 videos on this and it's the robot giving you bad advice as always. So much contradictory information on UA-cam it's absolutely insane.
Find out more in our full article on this topic: www.scienceofpeople.com/male-body-language/
ok men don't necessarily miss courtship signals, they just have trouble determining if the signals are genuine or not
very true. We get in our heads too much and think maybe it wasn't what we thought it was.
Exactly Mike!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Many women give off timid signals...very timid...and we are supposed to read their minds!???
mike roshaft said: "ok men don't necessarily miss courtship signals, they just have trouble determining if the signals are genuine or not" - Exactly what I was going to say. Many women - and especially married women - like to test their attractiveness on a regular basis. First, some of us cannot tell if they are genuinely interested or just playing. Second some men don't care and just go for it Some of us might want to see if it is genuine interest, but are not really interested in her, OR we think we might be interested, but then start wondering what kind of nut-case we are going to have to deal with.
wendeln92 Same with women, we want to know which head is being used. Are you looking for a bimbo or a woman with a heart and brains. Never could stomach the game.
Yea, touching your hair, smiling, laughing sometimes, and looking at you aren't exactly committal anything.
This wasn't actually about male body language; it was about males' interpretations of female body language.
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@@RohinaBrinsdon true..
No its all about absolutely nothing !!
she did not talk about the male body language at all only about femal body language.
man are simple. as a women a men talking to you can only be horny , scare, or socializing to for the fun o bit. in 1 to 1 scenarios
Exactly! I wanted to know how to detect a lying man!
@@barbaraschroeder1592 😂😂😂
You can see her intelligence through her humor and the way she's speaking... amazing girl
Vanessa, when I want to attract the ladies, I just put on a really nice pair of speedos and go to the supermarket and shop for produce. I used to be to shy to wear my speedos shopping, but now, thanks to all your great videos, I can finally wear them with bold confidence. Thanks Vanessa for changing my life.
I laughed way more to this than I should have.
@@angelus_solus As Vanessa's videos have taught me, if shopping in speedos is wrong, well then, I certainly don't want to be right. Thanks so much for the support. Keep rocking!
Make sure you let us know which store and what time u will be there in your speedos. I will do my damndest to make sure I am no where near. Lol
@@athar786100 I don't like to brag but people in store's consider me to be a pretty big deal.
🤣😂😂
For me it's not the butt. I notice more the jaw bone and chest/arm/shoulder muscles.
I think all women notice the chest back and shoulders the most. Those are the traits when displayed correctly will display a Alpha male is in front of them. It is what the animal kingdom has always noticed in any male who knows how to display that trait and shows when a mans interested in a girl. Normally i believe that the female will mirror his actions if she is interested and if he notices it will drive him crazy inside and naturally the flirty courtship will happen.
You haven’t seen my butt 😏😬
Wide Shoulders 😍
I do that with girls, the neck, the arms, shoulders and the waist are the most attractive places for me. But yeah, on the face, the jawline is another that I always look at, plus the nose.
For me is how tall they are and their smell.
Can you do a video on decoding male body language?
It’s usually pretty simple. We gawk a lot. 😆
I can tell you what I do when a woman signals interest. I’ll usually straighten up my back, speak less, make wittier comments when I do, half-smile, and check back regularly to watch for more eye contact.
No she can’t because men aren’t that complicated like that. if we are interested we will make it known by asking you out. Simple
@@PrinceH7144 not all men ask women out despite being interested
@@Dharmicaction true
You have to beware judging people by body language, not everyone is the same.
+TheColaGoodfellow thats bullshit, ik someone who is working with the government and they tell me that 90% of the time humans indicate those same body language
Micky House But that 10% who don't are real people, if you don't seriously consider those people you will end up persecuting innocent people.
I know. I cross my arms all the time and it's not because I am uncomfortable or want to seem unapproachable. Sometimes when I am just standing around talking it is just comfortable to cross my arms. I guess subconsciously I am probably a little uncomfortable because I AM a little bit introverted and when I try to change it I don't know what to do with my arms. Then I start to feel akward. Lol.
I don't get the butt thing. I've been a woman for quite some time. Never looked at a guy's butt.
+imakefoodhappen HUH? I definitely look at a man's ass. The legs and butt are of first importance. Also, height. If a guy is short, I am NOT interetsted, I don't care what they look like. Never understood why guys work out their arms when it just makes them look out of proportion. Like a big upper body on teeny little legs. YUK.
Maybe it's just me then. I also like short guys...
+imakefoodhappen Just out of curiosity.. How tall are you?
And about the butt thing, well... most women in the streets and clubs get in love with my face, then they check me out for my body as im a builded man... but it´s not that one is always walking around like some fuckin baywatch or whatever, so i would say you women love pretty faces and of course, STYLE!!!
The Bolt Thrower Around 170cm.
+The Bolt Thrower Yeah, i think it's mostly the face. I'm not usually attracted to skinny guys, most i like seem to be bigger, chubby men, but skinny wouldn't be a deal breaker either. I just don't care much about body type.
Vanessa, can you please post one on the subject this claims to be about? Maybe as one of your individual videos, which are much better? I don't want to be mean, but the hosts detract more than they add, especially one of them. Your information is generally spot on, but this is completely about women, not men.
Vanessa, I love your smile I love your body language and I love the way your eyes shine when you say "I love talking about men , it's exciting".
I am the type of guy that does NOT assume a woman likes me and probably miss a lot of the signals. Thank you for helping to see these. I never like to read women wrong and be "that guy".
You know what sucks? When you're encouraged to smile and be helpful/friendly to customers but they take it as meaning you're interested. So you think "am I being too friendly" so then you dial back on the friendliness but it doesn't seem to help regardless of what you do.
Hell even when I don't smile I get "the look". Like...out of the blue intense gaze, hardly blinking or kind of unfocused.
One time I was helping someone I barely even looked at. I was so busy frowning at the computer due to a glitch. I looked up to apologize for the issue only to be shocked by the look on this guy's face. I instinctively leaned back a bit. I wanted to ask if he was okay. Dude was trying to peer into my soul. There's _no_ reason to look at someone you don't really know *_that_* intimately.
Another example. My colleague helping a male customer set up an account. I hear her voice, then his. Shrug, business as usual. Happened to glance over...this dude...had his body completely turned towards me, just looking at me as if I had been talking to him. Confused, thinking maybe my colleague had called me for help or something I look at her. She's just typing away on her computer, entering information...so what in the actual...fucc?!
I've noticed that when some, not all, dudes come up to my work and have to take identification out of their wallet or pocket, they will maintain eye contact from under their brow as the dig for their info. ??? Why are you looking at me?! Look at your wallet.
Male body language cues from personal experience: intense or hazy gaze, squaring shoulders, tilting up the chin, leaning a bit forward into personal space at times, staring at the mouth, turning their body towards you.
Perhaps in a different setting these would be more welcome but I've learned the heard way how to not be overly friendly and too helpful at work. I lower the pitch of my voice, make brief eye contact before focusing on an eyebrow, glancing away towards my computer screen for a moment. Brief small smile at the beginning along with a basic "hello how may I help", then back to neutral face. Sitting up straight and not leaning over. Among other things. Amazingly it still doesn't work!🤔
I can decode this for you easily. It's because most guys have sex on the brain and every woman they see as a potential person to get into bed in one week, be married and to of had a kid within a year.
I guess I'm your typical male bc I tuned out half of what you said in this post but you know what? You're right. Now I'm going to see what's in the fridge.
She’s incredibly smart
Guys aren't dumb, they're insecure. There's a difference.
Or not interested or focused on making money.
it has nothing to do with insecurity, men are told daily that women are interested and theyre just being nice and yet the two are severely similar to women. A woman will be extra nice when interested in a guy and will be nice to avoid being a bitch to ones she finds ugly. This causes many problems because it leads guys to think shes just being hard to get and causes him to chase harder and it causes guys shes interested in to ignore them because theyre not direct enough.
I have to agree.
Guys are both dumb and insecure.
That guy was hilarious. Very good video.
BHOP The Clean Rapper with
If I don't find a woman physically attractive and don't see a connection, I could give a damn what kind of body language she's sending or not sending of if she's available or not. If I like what I see, THEN I'll inquire about her availability and if we have common connections and touchstones and then move from there. I think body language is an inexact science and can often be misleading.
Agreed
1) Talking to woman.
2) Woman gives me clear signals.
3) I make a move.
4) Woman slaps me, and call Police.
5) The end.
#Metoo
It takes men 3 to 4 times to notice a women is interested by body language? May be because women always complain about how being nice isn't flirting, but when you're expecting someone to practically read your mind and body to make out how you feel it's going to take a couple of interactions just so you don't make a mistake, which is why telling a man how you really feel is a lot easier. If men are practically expected to pursue and engage the women, then women should be expected to at least be straight forward and honest about how they feel. I don't think that's too much to ask. Oh, and I love that blonde ladies response and facial expression at 1:15 "Or, just hand him your phone number.."
Jonathan Jones lolz, have you ever had a girlfriend ?? All we talk about is our feelings, I thought it was a guys fantasy to get us to shut up about them😉😆
When was 18, my father (retired USMC) told me, "You know what a guy is thinking when a woman looks at him? She wants me." Straight up seriousness, I didn't believe him, THEN, definitely do now. Cute video
somewhere over the rainbow
we do believe that but there are somethings that i like in a women to show me before i say it is a done deal where i actually take it further. One i want them to constantly show me they are interested. If they show they are interested in another man at the same time showing me that interest i lose attraction right away for the girl and she becomes a lower rank female with little self respect who is looking for attention. Those girls IMO are more likely to cheat when problems happen in a relationship. I also look for them to do cute things that i don't see other women do very often and it can be even in the way they flirt and the attraction for them goes up big time.
Jonathan Jones lol
My favorite male body part is the arms.
I like:
Clean teeth
Clean face
Nice smile
Tall
Straight posture
Clean clothing
No baggy clothes
Not rude or a jerk
I like
- No makeup
- Not fucking fat
- Isn't on her phone 24/7
- Won't wear baby clothes in public when dating.
- Short
- Clean face
- Clean teeth
- Isn't a jerk or rude.
My male body language says, "Get away from me. Do not talk to me. "
this is why I miss the cues. Subtle hints I don't get.....obvious hints I don't get.........just talk to me and express some words that show an interest. Something like after talking for a bit......"hey, would you like to meet up tomorrow for lunch?" No hints....just direct to the point. Then I can say no, you are a hussy for trying to captivate me with your pheromones
Girls never want to seem too eager
Awesome Andrew llol
HAHA ! Aha ha ... I read that, and actually laughed out loud after reading that last bit of your comment. LOL I didn't expect that Andrew
At 0:30 "Are men and women different?" He then visibly cups his hands in front of his chest.
That's what's called subliminal body language.
This guy is interesting in his body language. When you arrive in the beginning, his legs are open, his palms are open, he leans in, his feet are pointed at you and seeks out eye contact. Its not until you begin discussing how to read body language that he changes. At 38 second he crosses his ankles. Thats a sign that hes got something he wants to hold back or info to hide. As you go into talking about the signs men miss, he has folded clutched hands with fidgeting thumbs. Hes still listening with interest, however hes nervous. His ankles are still crossed. He will still gesture with open hands at situations he connects with, but at one point he crosses his wrists, which shows he really wants to conceal something. Maybe hes starting to understand something he missed?
at 2:56 a visual cue thats interesting is that he really leans back when he asks if there is a visual cue for when a man is lying. He finds that a tad bit uncomfortable. Also when trying to figure out what women find most attractive, he didnt like that part either. This makes me giggle. 5:31 his hand are now clenched closer to the face leaning out. He is reallly uncomfortable but he makes great eye contact. His head here is a bit higher than its been for the past few minutes. Final question hes back to being much more open, though his ankles are still crossed. He knows its almost over and has survived without his secrets coming out! LOL
A man's facial expressions
How about cultural influence on behavioral psychology?
I love her skin tone.
she ddnt talk about their language
I have advice for all men. Just build your body evenly and possibly work on your back and legs 2 times more then any other body part and doesn't matter what body part you have the females will have a favorite body part of the male on you.
Not for me. I love a man's hands if they are manly. I once met this man with practically NO arm hair. I felt I was stroking a woman. Hated it.
@@The___Batman LMFAO
Well you wouldn't have to worry about that with me. I have plenty of it and back hair to go with it.
Well I am fascinated by how many men say they don’t find “high maintenance” attractive and they end up with them every. single. time. This also applies to the “crazy/stalker” types who men also claim to want nothing to do with. Have you done research on that ? I would be so interested because most of the ladies I know who are normal, well adjusted, charming, approachable are standing around wondering why all the guys are with the women who criticize, stalk, etc, etc.....
I do hope you're not having a hard time finding a man - you're quite the pretty lady.
Interesting to watch the body language of the male interviewer - especially when they were talking about women's favorite male body parts!
I think guys do know, but we're apprehensive to approach too soon as it could be unintended. If I wasn't so afraid of getting the wrong signals, I would have approached first time🙌
Don't believe this, I'm a female and there is this very handsome guy at the grocery store that always greets me with the biggest smile (I think that's just his personality) and I immediately brake eye contact and look away and say good morning in my uninterested voice he probably thinks I'm rude, but that's just my anxiety taking over, and I know a lot of women who suffer from anxiety so I know I'm not the only one.
I am a salsa and kizomba dancer. We often have many discussions on who gets chosen to get asked to dance and why we choose people to ask to dance - it’s not always about attractiveness or dancing ability. I would love your input on this - have you done any studies on this?
You are amazing! Love your videos. I watched many and all are great. Charming.
fascinating that in the first minute the man already starts mirroring Vannessa's body language...which is often what we do when we are attracted to someone. At 0:36 his hands are folded like hers and his legs move into the exact same position hers are in.
the availability point is very true
I must say that you are really good on it. I am practicing what I have learned while I was watching your videos, I did help me in a lots of ways. thanks
You are so fun to watch!! Thank you for your videos!! : )
this is so good! i know tv cuts things for time but id really love a more extensive version!
Great content. Society sucks for a man these days. A lot of pressure on the man. If women would get it out of their heads ( not all woman are like this) that the man has to make the first move and she actually strikes up convo it would make everyones life essier
I remember this anchor in another segment with you and it seems that she learned something from the first time.
I am never lying about wealth, power or anything. People hate me for my honesty, they think I am just rude. I don’t even do it when it would benefit me, that’s why I failed a lot of job interviews. I tell the truth, about 90 percent of the time. I feel horrible when I do not. Also my face is not expressive among strangers, it’s just a slightly bored or annoyed look
The presenters are very good and you all work well off of each other
I love the encouragement to make them agree by nodding your head yes while saying, right? LoL. I use that often, along with no nod.
"Women don't lie"-audience of the speaker (psychologist) laughs. "No, really. They will at first convince their own selves what they are saying is the truth. Then, they will try to convince others"
Altho some of this is true. I can assure you, at least 70% of it isn't. People are just different. There are no rules. What Sophia shows as a clear sign of interest, is the "Get the F away from me" signal when it comes to Susie. Anyone who pretends to know what certain behavioral characteristics mean, and attach that to "most" people are at the minimum, lying to themselves.
I think that a lot of the assumptions given here as cues for body language are extremely superficial...
Sometimes it is. We have our ways I guess words or not, but not everything is that deep.
Great video Vanessa!! I had a good laugh too
My favorite male body part is not the butt! I would've gone with arms.
Hands
I understand this is about decoding men but I think being able to read some body language at least helps win some people over you just do more of the things they like. Like if your in a new job and you want to make some friends if you can pick up the subtal signs especially in the eyebrows and around the lips you know when they're impressed disgusted and you learn to adapt your behaviour to get more approving likes and nods and various other things they'd like to see, hear, because if you didn't how do you know if they will class you as someone they like to hang around with, e.g, like introverts if your showy and theatrical around them they know instantly your not going to be in their inner circle they can trust, they may talk to you, find you sweet and cute but introverts prefer people who have more like minded qualities so sometimes only like minded people group together, if they can't find simularities in your behaviour then they can't relate to you. I know I'll get accused of it's not healthy and considered inauthentic but when you match your energy with theirs there's more chance they have of liking you and you show different people different sides, you're not going to joke around with someone who doesn't have the same sense of humour as you do, it's what makes people think, hm, I thought she was alright. You are yourself but you show different aspects of your personality to different people. If you know someone isn't going to judge you can be more of your authentic self. You might like to let loose on the weekends with your fella but in the week in your job you act a little more reserved because you want to seem professional
It's not specific but depends on many more.....
I'm a big fan of you. Thanks for the tips.
Wait we didn't decode any language though. It really became all about the women. lol interesting.
+kishon8 Yeah, lol. "*The Body Language of Men, With an Absolute Focus on Women, and Avoiding Male Body Language Discussion.*"
kishon8 if a guy likes you he'll keep the conversation going its literally that simple the exception is(female bestie+close female friend)we aren't like girl who like to string alomg guys
Roshes aii TRUTH. I'll stop caring about the conversation like 3 minutes in if I decide I don't like the girl. But then be entertaining for like 15 minutes with a girl who I like (personality and face)
It is all he time about women...There is no more room left for the men to be about them
Women's favorite subject is themselves. I dated one woman for 6 months and she told me I was the best boyfriend she ever had when I dumped her. All we talked about was her. She knew nothing about me. lol
unfortunately they only spoke about female body language and how the men take long time to notice... UGH
Yeah it sucks, kinda wanted to see what men usually do and see how it translates to what I end up doing.
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The man in the host chair sitting in-front almost was reading everything from her mind. He is the best psychiatrist I have ever seen on a TV 😎
Maybe men miss the cues because theyre not use to seeing "charming" women anymore (instead its hard, aggressive,).
Good fun video none the less.
my favorite part of a man is the shoulderrrr , broad shoulder ;)
I'm with Cobalt below - this was supposed to be about male body language.
These are so fascinating! I can see how women's brains would like up 3x more than men's, lol.
this girl definitely knows what is up 👀
The main reason they didn't decode any male body language is because it's pretty easy to tell what we want and how we feel, we don't really give off hints.
i can't speak for everybody obviously but i know for many men it's not that they MISS the signals it's that they IGNORE them because so many women are forever fucking with guy's heads and half the time they're "flirting" with you they have no interest at all except in establishing that somebody finds them attractive to say nothing of the fact very very often they only want you as long as they can't have you the minute you reciprocate any interest (assuming it ever existed in the first place) it's game over.
but is because it "shows" that the man can run fast jump high etc. Was good back in the days.
Love your videos. Thanks.
as a man Ive missed 100% of signals given to me by women.
yeah everybody knows about body language nowadays. i think its more about psychological ques. women notice when ive more confident, wearing right fit clothes because most of us wear size or two to big.money usually doesnt play a big role but you need to have a money to pay for few drinks. who ever understand a women psychology i think would say its way to complicated to explain. growing up with a sister and having few female friends with constant curiosity for human behavior hepls
Vanessa, I'm confused...you say that if a woman leans in, that shows the guy she's interested...I've heard relationship coaches say that leaning in is being in male energy and men, typically, do not respond to that as well as when a female leans back, aka being in female energy...I'd love to hear your thoughts on this...
I was playing cards with a woman and she stared at me. Is she telling me make a move? Also when you arm is diagonal down my back are we just friends or is it some more serious
First I think your amazing. I've seen many of your videos to help me become better at sales women. I wanted to learn the male's body language so I can tell if he is interested in what i'm saying or just trying to polity get rid of me. This video was almost identical to the female body language video though. What are signs that a male is genuinely interested?
Vanss, have you ever visited India?
A question for Vanessa
Male body language that signals testosterone?
ok but its also that they give strong signs and then when you ask them about it they act like nothing happens. So after many rejections i become numb to it
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The host...Her laughter at the numbers.😂😊
Vanessa. question. why the butt been the feature that the woman loves most???? you did not give enough info.. by the way will you be offering certification programs??
For me it’s eyes , jawline and muscles
Vanessa how about the body language in celebrities for example cate Blanchett and rooney Mara?
Arms, chest, butt and legs...
Vanessa, is it important to women that men have a muscled body or to be tall? Ladies, what do you think? Help...
+J Aurelio Tall. I know my friends have never turned down a guy for muscle (or the lack there of), but they have all stated they wouldn't like to date a guy who wasn't taller than they were.
RealityCheck1993
That makes me a little sad 'cause I'm short (and I don't wanna boast (really) but I'm not ugly) and when I realized ladies don't feel attracted to me because of the shape of my body I began to develop my personality. This is the chance I have to like a person, you know? With inner beauty and maturity...
Well, I wouldn't worry too hard. A lot of people don't think they'd like a lot of things in a partner, until those things are part of the partner they're currently infatuated with. Just be yourself, and even if they don't like you at first, they will later if they're right for you. While I think that height is a bigger factor in temporary attraction, that say very little about the long-run.
+J Aurelio I think it's more about availability, if you feel bad about yourself and tell yourself 'women don't like me' then this might make you look the opposite of available, when you start to believe that some women will be interested in you, you'll feel more confident and be able to give a smile to a lady you like, for me, it's the smiling and eye contact, and it always works when the guy gets me to look at him, make eye contact, and he's smiling, then he looks away, still smiling and looks back again, and holds the contact for a second longer, it's not a stare, it just lasts a couple of seconds longer than a glimpse, and always with a smile, this for me gets me thinking about them for ages afterwards, and the smile could make me like them and become deeply attracted to them, when I might not have even noticed them before. Attraction is always about body language. and a smile and brief eye contact, screams availability.
+serendipity589 there could be the most attractive guy in the room, a real stunner, but if he's not smiling, then he isn't approachable. same goes for women.
I put my hands on hips a lot not to show authority it's just a habit because I was a soccer player and that how we stand when coach is explaining.
I fallen in love with Vanessa! Did you decode that?? 😁
What does it mean when a man is cracking his neck? Hint he is just cracking his neck.
For me the most attractive body part on a man is a smile.
LMFAO. I say a mans face eyes n mind is the most important !
of course women are only concerned with whether or not the guy is hot enough.
This is a masterpiece. I recently read a similar book, and it was a masterpiece in its own right. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
Ou thanks for sharing!
Love your videos, what does it mean if a man ruffles (grooms) his hair everytime you catch eyes with him, even if you've never spoken?
I have noticed from the laws of attraction that there at times where a female sometimes send signals even out out attempt.
What's that bump on your clavicle Vanessa? Is it a BL signal of some sort?
In fact, even men's lying is likewise connected to their insecurities.
And I thought it was all about a cool car 🤣🤣🤣 this guy is wild !
Can sexuality change these signs
5:06 Hmm!
haha was funny his reaction.
So, the above was shown in place of the Lisa Nichols vid in the line up, while I've had Auto-play on... I commented below about this, having noticed a lack of Auto-plays when vids hv bn of people classed as "Black." After This vid... though I still hv Auto-play ON, the vid simply stopped at the end without moving on to the next vid, in a now long list of only V Van Edwards vids. My Q b4 was, basically, "Is this intentional complexionism," UA-cam?
I here re-submit the same Q with regard to similar/related forms of "Auto-selection" and
"Auto-responsiveness."
NON-UA-cam AFFLIATES ARE ASKED NOT TO RESPOND.
RESPONSES FROM UA-cam REPRESENTATIVES ONLY ARE REQUESTED.
THANK YOU.
I do wonder...in which cultures do these points of guidance fall flat???
I always toss my arms.. Thats probably why guys treat me like I'm their sister.
I wonder if male body language is the same for gay guys, or if it's different?
Vanessa I hope you can find a different show to be on,
Wait so it wasn't the eyes.
This gentleman is so funny every time he says something it's funnier than the last! I could so easily get along with this guy I've never seen in my life, but he is freaking hilarious! I got to figure out who the hell this guy is oh my God but seriously it's amazing how one channel has about 500 videos on this and it's the robot giving you bad advice as always. So much contradictory information on UA-cam it's absolutely insane.