5 Body Language Signs She WANTS You To Approach Her | Courtney Ryan
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- Опубліковано 29 лип 2021
- In this video, I'm going over 5 body language signs that she wants you to approach her. Let's face it, women have to deal with being approached a lot more than guys do. If she wants you to approach her, there are things she'll do to let you know. Thank you all for watching and let me know what the signs you look for are!
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Having a lawyer will boost your confidence for approaching
Underrated comment in 2021
Truth bomb😬👍🏽
Body cam too
Would it help to have your lawyer with you when you approach women? 🤔
Damn that’s cold lol
#1) When a girl glances at you - but not always when she glances at you
#2) When she makes eye contact with you - but sometimes it is by accident and she isn't interested
#3) When she smiles at you - but sometimes they are just being polite and smiling at everyone
#4) When she fixes her hair - but sometimes they are just fixing their hair for no reason at all
#5) When she moves closer to you - but sometime it is just happens to be near you
Clear as mud
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Exactly, she doesn't play with words, maybe, maybe not, she's VERY clear. But I can give you a sign (not body language) that a girl like you. If you are very good looking, 99.9% of women will like you! You're welcome.
Yeah bud women are complicated but thats not something new
Its called context clues thats what this videos about you misses the whole point
TF!
This comment was pumped a lot of brain juice
I'm a nurse. I worked with a girl who did many of these things, so I approached her and she was very receptive. We even planned to get together in our off time for what I would call a date even though we did not use that terminology. She was super flirty and even occasionally caught me off guard by talking sexually. Later, I decided I liked her enough to date her, and only then did she tell me she had a boyfriend. She acted like it was a total surprise that I was into her despite my having been very clear about that the whole time. Some women just want the attention and they think as long as they don't do anything physical it is not cheating. Despite knowing my feelings for her, she said we should still be friends and nothing had to change as long as I didn't make a big deal out of it and I said no. I wanted to respect her boyfriend because if I was him I would want that respect. This blew my mind. Why would I have more respect for her boyfriend than even she did?
@@aquatorria1348 I think he just has standards and dignity.
ITS CALLED MONKEY BRANCHING!!! You WERE going to be her next rider!!!!!!!
So what was wrong? Do you expect a girl to become a monk if she has a boyfriend? Isn't she allowed to have guys as friends? It's your problem if your only interest was sexual. The girl was just open and friendly, she didn't lie about her boyfriend and told she had one right after you made your point clear. She didn't cheat. The girl was acting normal, and you were just pursuing sexual interest as guys always do.
@@roxybadass5262 So YOUR BF is ALLOWED to HAVE GIRLS that are NOT YOUR FRIENDS AS HIS FRIENDS TOO??
@@Capohanf1 "Allowed" is not a word to be used in normal relationships. You cal allow or not allow your dog or your child to do something. I don't mind my boyfriend having FRIENDS, he doesn't mind me having FRIENDS. Their gender doesn't matter. If you think otherwise, you either have trust problems or you consider your partner your property.
I had a woman approach me and I could tell right away she was into me. She came up to me smiling and we got on the subject of what kind of food I like and what my drink of choice was. What made me know for sure she was into me is when she actually brought me the food and drink we were just talking about. I fell in love right away.
LOL brilliant
and then you ended in a chinese dungeon.
Thats so damn rare . sounds like a keeper . wish both of you the best . but still do a prenup .. we dont really have that it UK. Also dont have kids immediatey
@@bobbwc7011it was his mom….
Then she walked back after with the bill for the food, and said "Thanks for coming!"
"Being a woman isn't easy."
"And how is that?"
"Imagine waiting for a reply without sending the message."
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Beautiful
Nailed it 🤣🤣
HAHAHAHAHA!!! 😂😂😂
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Final bonus from me: If a girl comes up to you and ask you to buy her a drink or her friends drinks, it's a sign that she just want free drinks. Don't do it boys...
true .. so many guys fall for tht
LMAO
I’d laugh off and say "you really think I’m that stupid?" 🤨😂🤣
Yup
she for the streets
The duration of eye contact is the give away. The longer the higher the interest. Eyes are truly the windows to the soul.
You are a powerful force for good, innovation, creativity and progress. Instead of wasting your time trying to figure out if a girl is signalling you or just fixing her hair, go be the best version of you that you can be. Give it your undivided attention until you wake up every day, ecstatic about who you are as a person and what you can and do accomplish every day. If you do this, you will realise that raising a family and impressing a woman is not as high a priority as you have been conditioned to think it is.
Impress yourself. That will make you truly happy.
Good point
Sounds like a Tavistock globalist influence operation talking point in the effort to further destroy dating, marriage, having children, and the family, to make America weaker and further and protect the effort to bring in global Satanic totalitarian government.
@@mikeb6232 are you saying there is no alternative to marriage?
Its definitely a good point 👉
Beautiful
Going to bars is a terrible place for introverted people who aren't big drinkers, and hate having to yell to speak. It's like; be someone you're not, in a place you don't want to be, doing something you don't want to do.
Sure, instead go to latino dance parties.
@@kku6857 salsa night back in the day was indeed a target rich environment.
@@kku6857 Unfortunately I'm Irish, and we are not allowed to move our arms while dancing.
Dance is a solid idea to look for women, but for introverted man it will be one hell of a shock therapy.
@@masterexploder9668 I disagree, in a structured environment like an "open" dance class that I used to go to back in the day it was actually good because you HAD TO mix with the girls and you had a justified reason for doing so. You literally lined up, danced for a bit then rotated. Zero approach anxiety in the first instance and you could screen girls for good connection and then re-approach in the free practice phase with less anxiety as you weren't totally cold.
My motto is rejection from a woman can be a way God saving you from a headache you don't need. The woman that's meant for you won't reject you. Give her a compliment and keep on moving.
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I like this one.
AMS hinted on this belief system too. To look at rejections not personally and to see them as 1) bad timing 2) she just got out of a relationship or dealing with a personal problem 3) is on her own journey/purpose 4) her mindset isn't correct 5) protection. My opinion, I don't believe in a woman having a "type" or not finding you "attractive," especially if you're a high quality man. If a woman doesn't "like" you. It's their own mindsets and the type of mindsets they find attractive in a "type" of men. This is how a "good girl" could end up liking a "bad boy," because their mindsets are incorrect and attracted to a horrible person, i.e they're a horrible person themselves. This is why I don't believe in "types," it's all mindsets and being attracted to a person that is alike, people attract what they are. If a woman is complaining about where are all "the nice guys" or how "all men are dogs" is due to them being negative and their mindsets being toxic. Just my 2 cents.
There’s a meme that goes; Girl prays to God,
“Please send me my future husband.”
To which God answers,
“I did, but you told him you wanted to be just friends.”
What a COPE 😂
When approaching a woman tell her that you don't have any money and still live with your parents.
Bro my boi tried it and got to fight her exes
@@Ilovescottpilgrim405 This is a Seinfeld reference, kid
“Hi, my name is George. I’m unemployed and still live with my parents.”
“I’m Victoria, hi ☺️”
That’ll only shoo her off if she isn’t head over heels for the guy. I’m sure you’re aware of the things a girl will let slide for the guy she’s into vs. the dude she’s not.
I appreciate your statement that you are just being realistic, people lose sight of how important it is to confront "what actually is the reality". That stuck out for me. You can either attempt to find a relationship with an imaginary girl who conforms to your preconceived notions of how they should act, or you can attempt to find a relationship with an actual girl who... is going to act the way she acts.
And remember, just because she has a restraining order on you, DOESN'T mean she's interested in you.
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Actually, then you'll be a "bad boy" and she'll want you. But have a lawyer.
She may not be...but her attorney is!
Lol
If she lists you as a sex offender, she won't be interested in you, but the FBI will be...
Guys, protip: If she breaks into your house to steal a lock of your hair for her altar, she's DEFINITELY at least minimally interested in you, but it depends on the context.
Don’t discount the demon summoning for your murder, or voodoo doll. So this tip goes both ways IMO and you really should read the situation.
@@lb4581 i'm calling the cops and a priest either way
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Sounds kinda hot and kinky, doesn't it?
Pubic hair?
Being direct is NOT rude! It's actully a gift!
Explaining somethings like this is already fun to hear but when a beautiful girl like you do that it makes it so much more fun to watch 🤩
Tips to ladies to approach guys: Make it CLEAR that you are interested with your actions and words. It's hard these days to know if a woman is really interested in us or not.
I agree but fat chance that will ever happen, it seems to be part of their genetic makeup
If one gets to you trying to start a chat, that's a sign already. At least that's what I learned from today's lesson. But that depends on the culture of the place where you live a lot too. Here in Brazil, depending on the context, it wouldn't mean much (let's say, at work).
That’ll never happen unfortunately
AND THEN GUYS, CALL YOUR LAWYER!!!!!!!!!!! YOU WILL NEED A PAPER TRAIL!!!!!!!!
@@Capohanf1 lol yes 🤣
1. Do approach a girl if she is sitting/standing and looks relaxed. ...
2. Do approach if you've noticed her sending several glances and/or smiles your way. ...
3. Don't approach a girl if she looks upset. ...
4. Don't approach a girl if she is deeply preoccupied with something.
5. Try in public place airport, coffee shop, library or book store, parks
And dont approach if your unattractive because this means nothing approach a girl if she is sitting/standing and looks relaxed
@@johnnythekid4601 what?
@Johnny that’s the spirit I can see you’re a real go getter
I'm gonna met my lifelong girlfriend in a library, cause most women like that are very smart and in-tune with their brain like me c:
So from number 2 alone, never approach. Got it.
It's so true. Was talking to a girl for a hour at a party, a neighbor said hello, female, I turned my body to be polite and say hello and 2 moments later the first girl walked away. At the time it blew me away because I was just being kind to the neighbor. Live and learn.
Did you atleast start talking with the neighbour?
Was the first girl looking for a way out of the convo and you didn't pick up her hints?
38 yr old single man here .. Just wanted to say I've watched quite a few of your videos and enjoy your nice calm feminine demeanor : ) You make some excellent points about the times we are in as far as dating goes. It's just another world out there : / I've always been a relationship type of guy and since I was 19 have usually had a girlfriend. 5 great women to be exact. Each relationship was truly amazing in its own way and I'll always adore each one of those girls .. They were a big part of my life as I was coming of age and each one taught me something different.
As far as the times a woman ever hit on me or approached me I can count on one hand lol. I'm speaking of times a girl actually either bumped into me and talked to me or gave me a comment and not just the eye contact/glances/looks from across the room. I still think us men should be the ones to initiate conversation and or introduce ourselves. However, we really are separating ourselves from you ladies and not approaching you as if it has become not even worth it. The disinterest of men wanting to meet and talk to women especially these past few years is alarming. Almost seems as if something so innocent as a man approaching a woman to give a compliment/say something and try and see if there is a connection is a lost art or an ancient form of communication lol.
The pandemic did not help AT ALL with any of this. I believe at this point we all crave a return to normalcy so bad that we don't really know exactly what to do in a sense. Kinda sad that we've gotten to this point but its on both sexes to get back to how things used to be. If you think about it we can eliminate and disregard social media from our lives and try to get back to basics. Ya know simple easy dating stuff : ) Think back to when you were young and wanted to ask a girl you liked to roller 'slow' skate with you to a sweet rock ballad lol You were head over heels and in puppy love. Nothing can replace human emotion and human contact and the bond between a man and a woman. You can't eliminate human compassion.
They smile to acknowledge your existence 😭😭😭😂😂.. that line got me
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.... if u are chad u exist
Atleast be 7/10 in looks!
bro the way she said it was demeaning af but i found it hilarious.
or could be just a courteous smile 🤣! or is that gel in your hair something about Mary 🤪😂😂
Women: I like honest communication: also women... I expect you to read my mind thru ambivalent body language 😅🤣😅🤣
Lol right. Here we go again with American girls expecting guys to approach. Know why that happens? Think about it...it's more realistic to think some girls expect that because they lack experience approaching guys and therefore have no confidence to start a conversation themselves. If girls want a guy to approach her, she may as well do it. It must suck if a girl notices a guy and wants HIM to approach but nothing happens in the end since SHE never took initiative when she had the chance. In some cultures, who does the approaching is equalized. The world needs more of this. I don't know how guys approaching girls became so widespread and maintained this long but it's time to change, because change can be a good thing
@@michaelrespicio5683 It was marketed in the 1920’s as arranged marriage became less and less practiced in America and maintained itself through the 50’s. By the 60’s, it was a Cultural Norm here in America. So only the past 100 years or so
@@michaelrespicio5683 exactly ,I totally agree with you...fun y how everything else is changing in today's world with gender fluids, women being more empowered and all this other stuff yet , they still want to keep this whole"let's make men still do the approaching " idea
@@michaelrespicio5683 yeah western women are catered to. And yet somehow still play victim
@@skylersilva6135 women scream equality but what they really mean is female privilege superiority and no responsibility
Excellent content; this relationship dynamic is complicated for many men. You highlight some good advice for men only searching for a soul mate to enjoy life with. Thank you for your work! We really appreciate you and treasure your input.
I luv that she is not a narcissist, and a college attendant. Down to earth
For me a direct rejection is so much less hurtful and more respectful than hoping a guy will read your subtle hints. If I'm nervous in approaching a woman, and I usually am, I tend to overlook things I normally wouldn't miss when I'm not nervous. Anyway, thank you for the videos on common advice that's not so common anymore. Things I wish I knew earlier. I'm grateful for you taking the time to make these videos for people like me, thanks again.
Yes direct rejection I'd be less offended by. Even if they tell you they have a boyfriend strategy away it leaves no room for ambiguity
I always ask: what's in it for me? Works every time.
A direct “not interested” I have more respect for not wasting my time and money
@@paulcolin-fj9ns yup
1- 1:10 The Glance
- Checking, Or See you at many times.
2- 2:54 Eye Contact
3- 3:54 A Smile
- Smile, Eye Contact and look away.
4- 5:27 Touching her Hair
5- 6:34 She's getting Closer to you
Doing God's work
thanks bro
Ty my man
A million thank you for time stamp bro. 👍
A true hero
I have always let women approach me . That way I know she is interested for certain . Otherwise I don't bother . It worked for me .
Women approach? Lol good luck
GREAT VIDEO COURTNEY!!!!! THIS IS ONE OF YOUR BEST!!!!! SIMPLE AND TO THE POINT!!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH AND I LEARNED SO MUCH!!!!
Tip to women: when you go to social events as a group, don't create "gates" by seating or standing close together. This creates the idea that you are guarding yourselves and it sends the wrong message to men, it ends with many men not approaching. Instead, give yourselves some space between each other or go to different parts of the venue. Walk around the venue too, don't just stay in one spot the whole night. It gives off the feeling that you are afraid and don't want to be approach. Just what I've noticed, after going to social meet ups and hearing several women complaining about how men don't approach you. It's due to how you set yourselves up and how you set your environments and vibes too.
Or those women might be so bitchy about everything and that's why nobody wants to approach them. But for some women, yes, this totally applies.
@@LiGHTProductions I second this. Maybe it’s a girls night and they don’t actually want men to approach them. Maybe they are the super judgy/bitchy type and, if they are, they’re not even worth your time.
@@jacobm2625 great idea... girls night out at a bar to not be approached in a business designed for that... they love it cuz it feeds their egos
@@cbrown6848 until you ignore them, because you see them for what they are.
Since when do females take tips from guys on dating? 😅🤣😅🤣
i've started making more eye contact with females. and wow it is a huge difference. i've always been shy but have always noticed women looking at me, and now i can pretty much read if they seem to like what they see. it's crazy. i really would suggest making eye contact if they are looking your way.
Women of these days, are eye contact in the Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, Post
True, i have encountered alot od those glances at bar and they were always interested..Its just about knowing shes looking at you for a reason!
That also applies when you're hideous looking by the way. Some women stare at you because they can't believe how ugly you are or are laughing at you.
Good to make sure nobody is behind you. It's awkward when it's revealed she didn't look at you, but at the CHAD behind.
I think eye contact in general doesn't mean much unless it's continued. Many times I'm walking on the street and will look at a woman and they make eye contact back, but I think that's just natural. Like you may have something to say or maybe they look back just because if eyes are on you then you usually look back. If they're looking at you first, and you look over, and they stay looking, that's when it means something.
You have a really lovely voice and manner Courtney and your analysis is pretty accurate I think. It’s a little amusing to me that us guys need this stuff to be explained to us after all the years of evolution but we DO, tend to need this advice. Even if it’s just to confirm what we already suspect or, “know” about the opposite sex. Only recently discovered your channel and I’m really enjoying the content so you have another happy subscriber! May I also say you are a very lovely looking lady! Wishing you a nice day/week/month from Australia 🙏😉👍
Your words just proved what I’d observed personally but had some doubts. Thank you🙏
1. The glance (and then a second glance).
2. Eye contact.
3. A smile (in combination with 1 and 2).
4. Touching her hair, brush her hair with her hand, twirling her hair with finger.
5. Getting closer to you (moving from across the room to very near your proximity).
If you talk to her and she turns to face you full body, her feet are pointed to you, it's on!
If she comes up and talks to you, even saying the DUMBEST thing on planet Earth, most likely, she's into you.
Bruh, still can't tell. Abort mission
Thank you for the tips
Don't even think that these mean anything in the vast majority of the cases. Not even the touching...
They are just TESTING if they are still desirable for procreation. You are not a potential partner to be, but a lab rat.
If you respond, it's over, the test is accomplished with success - now get lost you dumb sucker lab rat...
You've been USED - and she laughs about it to her friends.
@@Coreisus mission failed, well get em next time
Nice , thanks
When you know she wants you to approach her and you ignore all the signs so she doesn’t get validated 🙏
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No time to play games with people like that, if I'm not interested I'll ignore the signs but I'm not gonna do it to deliberately humble her
Hi Courtney. Your whole presentation is easy to listen to and benefit from, even though I am not fishing for someone new at this time. That is all to say, that I am not trying to flatter you with the following words, only to genuinely complement you. You are sensible, sensitive, insightful, helpful, a pleasant person and otherwise very appealing (that's the easy-to-listen-to part). I do like to smile at most people because it is generally a feel-good thing. Bars have never been appealing to me; alcohol isn't needed to make life enjoyable, and if anything it creates dependence or looseness. The fellow who may have captured your heart is apparently an upstanding character and certainly fortunate to have your attention. So there, I hope my words are encouraging to you (even though your eyes may never see them).
this one is really helpful courtney!! in general terms, us men are really dense with respect to picking up on ladies cues. once again, thanks courtney ✨
If she wants me to approach her, then she should approach me. Otherwise I can already tell I'll be going through hoops every step of the way hence she's not worth it.
Yall wanted equality, yall got it.
She has nothing to risk, I'm not putting my head on the block over her inability to communicate.
Get used to the incel lifestyle then, champ. There are strong evolutionary reasons why men do, and always will do, the approaching.
I’m an older guy and semi-retired. I have a part-time job at a grocery store to keep from being bored. I see these signs all the time, between customers mostly, and sometimes directed toward me. I see men miss these signs all the time. Getting closer is definitely a positive sign. I get to see women talking to their friends, so I know their intentions. I’ve seen ladies point out a man, then look his way a couple times, then play with their hair, then get closer. It may sound strange, but a grocery store is a good place to meet people. You can tell a lot about people by what food they buy and you can tell if they have similar tastes. I’ve seen a lot of dates happen in the grocery store I work.
.. Or it's a good place for a man (customer) to get a sexual harassment claim lodged against him, by a customer.
Thank you for your insight!!
Underrated comment right here. And agree, there is quality ppl watching at the food store. 😀
@@analystzorncasteel3047, I’ve seen that happen, too.
@Ray, that’s too bad.
Thank you for these great videos. I might suggest that people from different areas communicate differently. Where I'm from we all typically just talk about ourselves but we all also understand that doing so is an invitation for you to talk about yourselves, and we all know that we will be heard and listened to. When I moved to different areas I noticed that this was not always well received and it took me a while to learn that communication styles vary depending on where you are. I think the takeaway here is whether or not you feel like you were paid attention to when you were speaking. Imho!
A girl came up to me to ask what time it was. I assumed her phone was probably dead, so I told her the time and I left.
A girl approaching you means she needs something from you. I learned that over the years. Best to get it over with as fast as possible. No misunderstandings, no games, no problems that way.
At the last st. Patrick's day parade this girl walked up to me and said "I need a tampon". This was obviously confusing, but after repeating it about 5 times it sunk in and I pointed towards the person in our group most likely to have a tampon. True story.
haha legend and u just left lmfaao srry thats funny man tbh i have done this multiple times lmfaaao. and fact that u assumed her phone was dead its even funnier
I will always remember my mother telling me " the kind of people you meet in a bar are the kind of people you meet in a bar ".
"She wants to be approached by you..." Until her friends say you're a troll and suddenly you're harassing her and then the guy who's simping for her wants to go outside and settle it and then you wind up in the back of a squad car and swear off approaching women...
The problem with body language is in this day and age it's alllllll fun and games until someone gets doxxed and cancelled.
Lmfao
Sad truth!
People are constantly living on their social media. 😥
Women are in kahoots with Satan
I just moved to Florida from NYC and don't know anyone in my area. I haven't been single in over a decade, so all of this is new to me. Thanks for the advice, and hopefully, I will find someone soon. Women always give the best advice about other women. 💯
What are you talking about? Women give terrible advice ( mostly) especially to other women.
Great tips. I've been so bad at reading body language. Reflecting on past experiences, I've seen those signs and not acted on them. It's probably the reason I'm still single. I'll hopefully be smarter in the future after seeing this video.
Hi Courtney, I recently discovered your channel and I love it. It's great hearing a down to earth female's perspective on these things. Keep up the great work!
So glad to hear it! Thank you so much 🥰
Courtney rejections are probably like “thanks BUD but I’m not interested at this time”.
Probably but at least that’s up front and leaves no room for misinterpretation, which helps.
But I find learning to read a room is more productive then expecting a change from the other side
"Hey BUD, what's your problem?"
bud keep it moving
I’m so sorry you went through that terrible guy who didn’t know how to take a hint. You’re so beautiful and polite and thoughtful…. And loved the video …
holy shit, you can stop smelling her asshole now wtf
I love how you put the background perfectly and classy..interior decoration is on point.
By the way..english girls do this weird thing where she signals you to wait and not leave the time till less people are around..
It's really important to remember that just one thing isn't an indicator, it's the cluster that is the giveaway. The more indicators the better. A smile, or a hair twirl, or proximity, or eye contact, any of these things by themselves isn't likely to mean anything. If there's three or four things going on, I'd say be open to possibilities and say hello.
@REFORMATTED 2086 Well, I don't have any money, so that's not an issue. 😆
I won’t even bother with approaching women any more (at least in the USA).
So many have absolutely nothing to offer in a relationship. I visited Poland 2 years ago and holy shit, the women there actually seem to have their shit together and enjoy life.
The difference in the “women culture” (if that’s a thing) was staggering. Made me want to move there JUST to meet a partner.
Anywhere outside the US ,you'll find normalcy
Fully agree, same experiences. No American Female Laundry List of Requirements.
I agree with u guys 100%
The only women worthy of marriage on this planet are Eastern European, Asian, or Caucasian women from Latin America. They haven't been ruined by feminism like American and Western European women have. Modern feminism is really just gay women making normal healthy heterosexual women feel guilty for being normal healthy heterosexual women.
Yea man American girls are not for the long time but a fun time.
I was born and raised in Austria for the first 13 years before moving to the states. I visit my family in Europe at least once a year and the difference in women between the cultures is staggering.
I feel like I'm in a relationship just watching this young lady speak. Lots of wisdom there to be so young!
You’re always rock solid my dear !!❤ best wishes to you!!
"Having the confidence to approach a girl"
I don't wanna go to jail tho 😂😂😂
what is happening to our society?!?!
When did approaching a women stop being normal? WTF?
@@alwnthomas_
Scary, isn't it? Western society is unraveling.
You only go to jail if you keep insisting after she's already said no or is going out of her way to make no effort to engage with you.
@@dorkga1092 Nah, I once said " Hi" to a woman in the street when I was like 13 and I wasn't even trying to hit on her, then she goes giving me the dirtiest look. Imagine if I was actually trying to approach her.
@@davidmajor1508 Why did I have to be born in this era? WHY?!
All of these can relate back to her just being normal and nice
Thank you Courtney great advice as always!
This reminds me of my high school love. Very unusual case - she actually approached me.
1) She was older than me (I was 17 at the time) .I don't know how is it in your culture but in Bulgaria older students think of their younger peers as less than human. Friendship between men was possible (with the said effect still valid to an extent) but a girl approaching a younger boy for romantic purposes - no, that was extremely rare in my days at high school. I literally can't think of another similar example.
2) In my eyes she was drop dead gorgeous. Her face , her figure , her hair , her speech , her mind ...
3) She was not just an A student but also a biology champion from competitions. The greatest female mind I have been with and without bragging too much I have been with a lot with that regard. .She was the star of her class with me being just another regular A student in only some of the subjects (maths, history, english and philosophy)
4) She was by no means a Nerd. Absolutely wild , confident and protective of her freedom while being invasive of others'. She liked super hero movies and damn she seemed somewhat of an evil genius.
What happened was that she came to me in the school yard grabbed me by the hand, separated me from my peers and said : "I like you a lot". There was a brief awkward moment of silence (as I was in total awe ) and then she started playing vulnerable "Oh, I am so nervous blah blah blah". Total 180 from being a confident predator to being potential prey. I had no choice but to oblige: "No ,no, no you shouldn't be ,I also like you , I like you , I like you, don't go!"
One time when she was giving me a handjob in the park she ripped open a part of my penis tissue and there was a ton of blood - a complete mess.
I still carry the scar to this day.
I'm on the autism spectrum and reading body language can be a really difficult thing for me. I'm staying strong but honestly the dating world for men like me is hell. Most girls notice my problems right away and are never nice about it. Infact they are straight up bullies about it. Everyday I feel closer and closer to just saying screw it and just giving up. Sorry I dont mean to be negative but I just needed to vent and I have no one to vent to at this point in time. I'm tired and I'm sick of not allowing myself to be tired because I'm worried about what some woman will think of me for being tired. I dont know what I should do. I'm too hard headed to give up but I know I'm not gonna get anywhere. I do feel better after this little bit of venting though. 😎😁
If they start talking to you just walk away they're wasting your time my dude
People who are on the autism spectrum can still fall in love in a relationship and you'll just need to get a girl who has similar interests to yours. If you approach her just be honest and she might understand.
Ever heard of the “Juggernaut affect” ? It’s a seeming glitch to how people usually think of attractiveness, because not only do the attractive people get dates, the most polarizing people do too! So let’s say the person who’s the skinniest out there, he gets a gf, the best saxophone player, yup him too even through he looks stereotypically nerdy. It’s because he has an edge. Is there any way you can think of that sets you apart ?
Speak to a therapist about this man, get it off your chest, and then embrace who you are, own it, and use it to your advantage. People are drawn to confidence, perhaps they're picking up on your nervousness about being autistic, that's not a reason to bully someone but if you owned it they might be more intrigued by you
Aspie. Work on yourself to be the best version of yourself ever. Where can you improve, upskill? Gym/working out, education - books, podcasts. Go get it brother. Be the best man u can be. That's something we can control.
5 Body Language Signs She Wants you to Approach her. Courtney Ryan
1- 1:10 The Glance
- Checking, Or See you at many times.
2- 2:54 Eye Contact
3- 3:54 A Smile
- Smile, Eye Contact and look away.
4- 5:27 Touching her Hair
5- 6:34 She's getting Closer to you
I'm sure the bad boy she's lusting for knows these signs by heart. Deep sigh...
Legend
ty sir!!!
@@blizzard5287 playing with hair is a sign shes getting more and more interested when she ALREADY talks with you for a bit longer
Touching her hair becuse its flaky
Probably the best video I have seen on this topic.
Courtney you are spot on . I'm 57 and been around the world a few times. Thousands of bars, clubs and cafe's.
Oh man, I wish I learned about body language when I was a teenager, or even in college.
All very helpful tips. - Thank you!
A tip to ladies. When a guy approaches, he doesn’t know how many guys have approached you previously. He doesn’t know what your day was like. So, please be respectful and kind in your response, because approaching a lady can be a very difficult event for a guy.
This is one of the best channels I have come across this year
I am terrible at reading body language. A girl practically has to sit in my lap or give me an inappropriately looong hug. Good video, Courtney!
Thank e so very much for the insight. It's sometimes difficult to understand a woman & her body language. Don't want to misunderstand what she might be sharing with you.
If you can accept a rejection “standing tall”, the woman will usually seek you out later, because it is a sign of strength to be able to handle rejection with dignity and kindness.
Another way of handling it is to avoid appearing like you're hitting on her. One time I was just making conversation with a woman 40 years older than me and she basically told me to bug off which was fine, but I found it amusing that she thought I was hitting on her when I was just practicing and enjoying basic social skills. Perhaps the worst thing about PUA training is that they encourage men who have poor social reading skills to start hitting on multiple women which not only creates itself a massive amount of social anxiety for him when the rejections occur, but creates discord and spooks the women he approaches for other men to talk to them. One of the best books I read on the subject suggested just talking to anyone and making friends. If you can make a dozen good friends (and they will have as much value as any girlfriend!), then you have the social skills to approach and meeting someone.
lmao no she won't
@@DarkAlan2 its ok buddy if youre hurt dont worry im sure youll find someone
@@friedhelminkursk503 we're not buddies, you lil lncel
@@friedhelminkursk503 youtube censored your comment, simp.
Step 1. Be Attractive
Step 2. Don't be unattractive
Step 3. ....
Step 4. Profit
You should observe couples in public. You might be surprised to learn that not everyone lives up to western ideals of beauty , and are still in a relationship.
@@ACTHdan The problem is that often you can't tell if they are actually dating, friends or siblings.
@@TheTrooper1878 I think it's safe to assume that some of them are dating.
@@Alresu Yeah some of them. Like 1 in 1000
This is so wrong and such a false notion. Being attractive does not do the justice. I know this for fact, there is a reason most gay dudes are attractive dudes, they don’t get women as easy as you think. It’s a combination of the two, if you have moderate or normal attractiveness , and a good personality, you are set! Personality is more important than looks. I was always out done by ugly dudes with more confidence……
Being the 5th boy in an all boy family with a single mother I had no idea what girls were about, your talks are very informative, TY!
Wow, right now I’m just trying to work my way out f this relationship. Being married, and a business at home has made it horribly difficult. (Also expensive, and infinitely more expensive as there’s property, and wealth involved. Had enough! Thanks for the helpful posts!
And remember lads there is absolutely nothing stopping her from calling the police and pressing charges if you're wrong about any of this. Contrary to popular mythology it does not have to be repeated unwanted advances to warrant a police complaint. If you say hello and she doesn't like it that's harassment. This kind of thing is just a really bad idea if you aren't wealthy, tall, and single digit body fat.
Wtf? Can you give a single instance of this happening? Where a guy says hello and is charged with harassment?
@@paulaagam5071 yeah man this guy screams out extreme anxiety and disgust towards the opposite gender. I’m no brad Pitt whatsoever but bloody hell it isn’t that bad. Lack of real physical experience and encounters with women must be the only reason for this guys assumption. Saying hello to a woman will not result in what he’s stated, never. How ridiculous.
@@alexanderbeck7953 if she finds that guy ugly, then that is very possible. Just because it never happened to you or anyone you know, doesn't mean it never happened. If men are talking about, it means that it happened more than once somewhere. And even if that doesn't happen everytime an ugly guy approaches, he will face insults, humiliation and social damage, especially if her friends film and post it on social media. And in most cases the woman is average or on his level, but deludes herself that she deserves chad.
@@alexanderbeck7953 Wanna know what's ridiculous? A white knight insulting men for having rational fears, bc you can possibly get online sympathy points from women? No, they won't sleep with you for being their white knight!
You are an angel Courtney. Thanks for everything you do. They are blessed to have you as their teacher.
For the past few months, there has been a girl at the gym that I find very to my liking. But I've never tried anything, I'm always afraid of being a little clumsy in those conditions. But a few weeks ago, she was busy on a machine that I needed too. I simply asked her if we could alternate our sets. She agreed without hesitation. We just chatted briefly about our techniques, then I went off to do the rest of my exercises.
After that, I saw her several times... But without necessarily paying much attention... I was quite focused on what I was doing, sometimes accompanied by my coach... But in the last couple of weeks, I've noticed all the signals you talk about in this video, except for the hair. Which seems normal to me, since she always ties it up for sports. But for the rest... the recurrent looks, the brief eye contact also recurrent, the smiles whenever we meet... And I also notice that she regularly trains near me, which did not happen before. And now, she says hello or goodbye every time, with a charming smile. Which she doesn't do with anyone else (this is a small gym, these things are easy to check :)).
Anyway, I think if I don't go for it, I'm the last of the morons!
What happened in the end?
I know it might sound weird, but there is nothing obvious, but it is chemistry, something hidden but you can feel it. When this kind of awkwardness is there, you two like each other. When it's one sided, that's a wrong feeling, maybe you need something else, not to be with this person, but you might lack something else that you need to find.
As someone who’s not the most garrulous person and had to do speech-language therapy growing up, this is so helpful. I’m terrified of approaching beautiful women and knowing the signs that they’re interested definitely helps. You rock, Courtney!
Just tell them you can grab them by the P
There is no need to be "terrified of approaching beautiful women". Women are people just like you, and often enough, external beauty is all they actually have. No need to put them on a pedestal.
It means you speak gold my friend and it requires a girl with golden heart to hear the message.Good luck!
Try talking to some fat chicks bro you'll be hardened up for all the hot ones after the behemoths have tried to spit fire breath at you.
they probably apply too much makeup or cosmetics, don't doubt yourself man
Women: Communication is key!
Also women: Here's how we communicate without really communicating so its on you to guess what were thinking.
SMH good luck gents
And we mean the opposite because we're cra cra.
I'm a keep saying for as long as I possibly can....
Men, Stop making the first move and trying to Read women. It's dumb, manipulative and a waste of time.
It's time for Women to "Women Up" and actually speak their damn minds. They are Adults! They can Speak! 🙄🙄
Women talk in girl code... never the honest communication they pretend to want
@@Anton5555sg Who hurt you?
@@Lord_Thunderballs Are you a woman?
A woman looking in my direction is not enough for me to approach her, even if she smiles, just smile back and move on. If there is no smile, don't smile back. I am very straight faced and this is often confused with a look of hostility when really I have not even noticed that person - the thing about being in a crowded room is that I tend to think about things that are going on and not what is happening with the people immediately in the room. One thing I have learned is that sometimes a woman will smile, flirt knowing full well she is with someone in order to start a fight with you and her plus one or partner, that is one really great reason to completely ignore any signals given off. I have heard of a lot of guys getting into a really violent situation due to a woman giving off a signal.
Thanks Courtney for helping me out on this one.
(I live in Miami) Last month, a girl hit the bar while I was enjoying my solitude and my beer. She suddenly starts talking to me and asking for opinion about what drink to have. She was interested. Plot twist: she was interested in me buying her a drink, not in me. I did buy her a drink though, because she earned it after talking with me for so long. She then said she was going to regroup with her friends and be back. I took a sip of my beer and walked the other way.
Why did you walk away?
@@sukhmann5623 because she wasn't coming back. she only wanted to take a drink out of my credit card. and I didn't want to swipe it all night long either.
Hello Ms. Courtney.
Been listening to some of your posts for awhile now and have since just subscribed. I can't say enough how refreshing it is to hear the personal integrity of an intelligent woman speak to her audience with the clarity and honesty that you do. As well as offering your opinion and calling out others immature methods of attracting (or not) the opposite gender. After a long term relationship, I have no idea how to go about the dating scene in today's volatile climate. Although I can attest that honesty, politeness, humor and good old-fashioned chivalry are proud attributes of mine that are in short supply and help carry my own integrity. Hearing your perspective is reassuring to learn that overthinking this stuff just isn't necessary.
Also, the main reason for my reply is hearing you mention where you're from, so I couldn't resist the opportunity to say hello to a North Coast neighbor.
Forgive my curiosity however; "West Side" or "East Side?" (Only Landers will understand). Either way, small world. How cool!
How pleasing to be listening to your Midwest values and intelligence. Thank you. Your content is superb. Have a grand day!
That is a fact
Agree Jeff. No tralior trash values here. ty
Hi from Cali 👋🏼. Thanks for these helpful tips. Ive always had a difficult time deciphering whether or not a girl is interested and wants me to make a move. Although context matters and I'm not going to make assumptions, knowing these general behaviors can give me some idea how a girl may be feeling. 👍🏼
Kinda sad that so many men experience so little kindness that a smile from a woman confuses them.
Just started watching your videos Courtney and while I myself am just starting to heal from a very deep traumatic wound from being with a woman who was total sociopathic narcissist, these videos are slowly helping me to recover and teaching me the signs and signals to look and what red flags to avoid. Have a blessed one🙏🥰
This is my 1st time
@@TravisAndrews-lb1kk here together boys my first time too. Total effin narcissist and we dated for 2 years.
Courtney you helped me so much with your bonus tip in the end. I never had a girlfriend and a girl chatted up with me for pretty much the first time in my life. I think I found someone super special and your words gave me the confidence I needed. I’m so excited to get to know her and maybe have her join my self improvement journey. Thank you so friquin much! I love you!
Sounds like you're saying she was the one that approached you which 99% of women don't do
Hows it going with this super special girl now? don't lie..haha
So hows it gojng?
Don't confuse a friendly nice person for one that actually likes you.
I'm outgoing and most women I talk to think I'm interested. It's annoying when I notice the signs. So eventually I have to show them I'm not interested in that way by bringing up a fake gf just so they'd get the hint.
Hope it worked out for you!
@@Grimwulf88 are they rude about it?
1:09 "The Glance"
2:52 Repeated eye contact
3:51 "The Smile"
5:25 Playing with hair (while giving attention)
6:33 Faces your direction
9:37 Talks to you
Pretty vague hints mostly, but at least I get where you're coming from. 🤷 I just don't think I'll ever be in the locations, or look the right way, to see if these work for me. 😔 At least anymore, at my age.
@Malice --- I think you're taking it too literally. 🤔 The one body language I have seen to be totally true is the facing the direction of interest.
Try it with yourself: When you're sitting down in a somewhat crowded area (even like a classroom), and you realize you're interested in someone or something then pay attention to which way your legs are facing. More than likely they'll be facing the same way. 🤷
EXAMPLE: Someone at a different desk/table/bench is attractive to you, but you're trying to listen to a teacher/TV/concert. You'll notice your legs are towards the attractive person while your torso is towards the the one you're listening to.
Now put together what is said in this video in the appropriate settings and you'll know if they're interested in you or if it's "just a glance" or coincidence. 🙂👍
@@BoMwarriorVlogI read and knew this “facing legs in the direction of interest” but you made it a bit more clear and easy for me to understand in some ways… thanks!
@@zuhairreza You're welcome! 😁 That makes me happy that I could help.
Man i have been clueless to the signs until now thank you for the tips
I don’t “approach” women I don’t know. That eliminates the need to guess. I’ve got plenty going on in my life and don’t really “need” romantic entanglements.
Yet somehow you're watching and commenting on this video. Makes total sense!
@@garmisra7841 Some people are just curious and like reading about different things. Doesn't mean hes desperate.
You asked how guys liked to get approached. So I’d like to give my 2 cents. This is me personally, and as honest as possible. Guys don’t care one way or the other how we’re approached. Literally, we don’t. It’s my observation that women are the ones that get spooked, and guys just simply don’t. Things don’t creep us out or frighten us when getting approached by a woman. Ever.
This could just be me, but I think I speak for the majority of the male population here on this one. Real talk, if a pretty girl walks up to me who I’ve never seen in my life and told me aliens are attacking earth, I would honestly react by saying “thank god, finally. We’re long overdue.”
In summary, since men aren’t the ones usually getting bombarded with women at our door, we appreciate any approach no matter the form it takes.
Sums it up. Surprised maybe, but not frightened
I moonlighted at a bar that was a popular place for singles. We had a female regular who would walk up to guys and gently grab their balls and introduce herself. I actually asked her if she was a hooker and turns out, she wasn’t.
It’s very simple: generally speaking, a woman is not a physical threat to you. In all likelihood, you can simply overpower her if she became a threat. I don’t blame women at all for being weary of men they don’t know. You don’t know what a person’s intentions are. Women often have a natural barrier around them for the sake of self-preservation.
Naw...If she comes across as disrespectful or overly objectifies me, then I'm not interested.
@@lionsden5123 I hear this all the time, but I don't buy it. Not once in my entire life have I seen a guy attack a girl at a club. I've probably seen thousands, if not tens of thousands of guys talking to girls at a bar. 0/8,329 ended in an attack. Personally, this may be politically incorrect. I just think women are massive pussies. Constantly afraid all the time. Like man the fuck up hahaha
You deliver your messages very well. Respect.
¡Buenas tardes, Courtney! ¿Como estás? (I speak Spanish and English despite being a Florida man)
I am one of those guys who actively tries to improve himself the ways he can. I am also in the rare spot that a woman approached me, we still reach out to eachother. Regardless, you asked for advice, and I use my fear to avert terrible things, so here's some tips from a guy (I mean no hostility, the truth can be blunt, and you fine ladies deserve to know and be respected):
1. *A large amount of guys are direct and not taught subtlety or emotions.*
I wanted to address the elephant in the room first, or one of them. We constantly get pressured to "Be a man", "be dominant", "get xyz goal quick", etc. We, at the same time, do not get taught emotion as well or barely at all. We're left to figure it out ourselves, which can be very painful and aggravating at times. Which ties into the next point.
2. *A lot of guys feel weak and or pathetic in some degree when talking about emotion.*
Guys can seem very sudden to people with a planner's mindset, especially with their emotions. Due to societal pressures, we have an impulse to suppress our emotions or risk embarrassment. This is a large reason why we don't like approaching women: we don't want to be embarrassed or outright rejected again. I'll detail further below.
3. *Our minds are wired to be active and throw out things that do not work and are hesitant to do something connected to that tossed idea.*
A lot of guys are outright rejecting the idea of dating because of embarassment and a lack of knowledge or worse on failure. So, as humans have done before, we find a way to go around it to satisfy our needs. What I do know about you fine ladies (no, not trying to be cruel, but welcoming) is that you do similar, and have different ways of reaching those needs. Guys just haven't had much opportunity to do it how you did or learn how to. The next one will be brutally honest, but is relevant and important.
4. *Our minds become dirty a lot easier, whether we like it or not.*
In the prior points, I noted that guys are direct, and goal oriented easily. Be it a game we want, or a movie or comic book, or a degree, or a pet, whatever it is. As organic beings, it is natural to want dirty moments, so when that drive to achieve our own needs and goals sees someone we are attracted to? We try to achieve that desire to be fulfilled because our "alpha male and sigma male grindsets" (god, I hate those terms) takes over our rational side. Why? I'd be here all day describing evolution and history, but this is to inform all the people in the dark.
5. *For a last, lighter note: we do have feelings. We have the same or very similar needs, and our wants can be really simple.*
We can be really good people if given the chance, and this goes for everyone. Guys see chips they like? They take the chips. Guys see a movie they like? They buy the movie. Guys see someone or a friend or two to watch that movie? They go with what seems easiest. Go easy on us, ladies, so we can all be easy on eachother. I respect your personhood while others fear its wrath-likely-chance. We all have problems, and that is NOT a bad thing. It builds character.
I hope these help clear up some notions or ideas. Feel free to use this information, but never in cruelty.
¡Adios, mi amigos y amigas!
Ignore her and focus on yourself kings 👑
💯
Dating should not be this complicated and things are only getting worse. Gentlemen, the juice is NO longer worth the squeeze.
Go, chase your dreams, not these women, and make something of yourself.
What if your dream is to have a family and a loving wife🤷♂️
@@liptongtr build a time machine. Even in the 90s things started getting hazy.
@@liptongtr Keep the hope strategy strong, times are different now and its more of a risk than anything
There is a very very small percentage of men who’s dream is to have a family and a loving wife. Not to say they don’t want one but that’s not a purpose most have. It’s usually a byproduct of you finding your purpose. If you watch porn, which you probably do. Stop, hold your seed, find your purpose and the rest will come.
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#1 1:09: The Glance
#2 2:52: Eye Contact
#3 3:51: A smile
#4 5:25: Touching her Hair
#5 6:33: She’s getting closer
So apparently every woman I work with is interested in me....
Wild how simply being a communicative human is now the equivalent of being interested. Seems like all of society has just become completely socially undeveloped.
Damn. This video hits so hard. Looking back and thinking about all of my social situations ive been in, i now realize that ive never once, not even once, had a girl interested in me. Feels bad man.
I had a girl (one of my employee's daughters) come sit next to me and started to talk. I basically did what Courtney did because of ethical reason. Dating the daughter of someone who works for me is a bad idea. She eventually got the hint.
I then reported it to my boss incase any retaliation happened
Have you seen the movie Shallow Hal?
@@visaman don't remember much about it.
That girl wasn't trying to date... she was wanting to make trouble. In case you live in a cave, girls love drama and trouble... especially over them
@Blue collar Hero weak is knowing what you want and don't want?
Most girls be off in their phones so if you one glances/smiles at you for more than 3 seconds at you then she really interested. Also i noticed they will find ways to get close to you. Women do things subtly so those first 2 signs you mentioned are the most important. I usually talk to a woman who is in close proximity of me. If she seems like she doesn't wanna be bothered; i move on.
I usually say a friendly hi/hows your day and make a lighthearted remark about the area we in or ask for help on something at the venue we both at, i compliment her on her style and i kinda gauge her reaction to that.
Women can try that with men too. I've had 2 girls walk up to me to start random conversation so i can confirm that works. You just have to say f it and go it for it. Thanks for helping us again Courtney. Have a great weekend 🌠
You get it! thanks for sharing your tips! Have a great weekend 😊
The best way to approach is to segment intend. Get out ahead of it and be in alignment.
I really appreciate your video Courtney, thank you. These are actually some things that boys--and therefore men--don't get told, and simply don't know. (Like me.)
Nice hearing these tips. Looking back I can say more girls were interested in me then I thought. Except I'm on the spectrum and so social signals don't register even more than the typical guy. I swear I'm as dense as a anime protagonist.
Well if you really buy into this I guess you are dense 😅🤣😅🤣
This could be. In college guys told me many women check me out, and I'm blind. Thinking back, many women DID give me signals, some very strong. Now, :lol: not so much, or I'm oblivious. Being on the spectrum is like a colorblind person trying to pick crayon colors.
@@alb12345672 yeah best example I have was walking back to the dorms and a car full of girls pulls up beside me. They all just giggling and hollering my name. My dense ass was mainly confused who the fuck they were and how they knew me lol.
Damn bro missed opportunities.
Thank you for all this Courtney and not hating on you or women for that matter. You really are a nice person. At 47 though, I don't care anymore and honest to God never thought I would reach a point in my to realize that relationships are way overrated.
I'm 50 and married and still don't think they're worth it. :) People bring way too much baggage into them with expectations and demands.
I think the only reason to have a stable commitment or marriage for the long term is if you want kids.
Ladies..definitely approach..I have had it happen a few times..and it was totally unexpected but flattering.
Thanks for the added tip.