Why Did She Cheat on Me? Therapist Explains Most Common Reason Why

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  • @TwoFingerSaloute
    @TwoFingerSaloute Рік тому +98

    Unfaithfulness has to do with lack of integrity and honesty. Just tell your partner you’re not into them anymore and end it without cheating. Sure you’ll make them sad for awhile, but they’ll get over it eventually. Cheating causes an everlasting emotional scar….

    • @PowerCouplesEducation
      @PowerCouplesEducation  Рік тому +7

      Many people who cheat do not wish to end their primary relationship. They may be very unhappy in the relationship but unwilling to insist that their partner go to couples therapy with them, or that they end the relationship. Cheating becomes a way of trying to get whatever they are not getting with their partner without dealing with the underlying issues.

    • @TwoFingerSaloute
      @TwoFingerSaloute Рік тому +8

      @@PowerCouplesEducation but more often than not, they are in a sense ending it. They’re just prolonging the inevitability of its finality. They are selfish(not in a bad way. People have needs that have to be met). Whatever the reason for the cheating, it isn’t acceptable, period. If they can’t accept what might be driving them to do it, and counseling is presented but rejected, then just end it. If your partner finds out about it, they might forgive you once or will end it themselves. If they don’t end it immediately, the trust that a relationship needs to be successful is hanging on by a thread, which then in turn causes internal chaos.

    • @robertcarlclayton7724
      @robertcarlclayton7724 Рік тому

      @@PowerCouplesEducation couples therapy is gynocentric. Mostly feminist women therapist who try to lay a woman's poor choices on a man. Then the courts screw him over even if he was faithful. The whole system is rigged. That's why men are leaving the US to find partners.

    • @independenceday3764
      @independenceday3764 Рік тому +5

      @Power Couples Education, like OP said in OP, they lack integrity and honesty. Why wouldn’t a women want to have a conversation with her husband? That’s a sign of emotional immaturity. How quickly they forget their wedding vows.

    • @dannyadams7486
      @dannyadams7486 Рік тому

      @@Leslie-es5ijfun? I’m in you ready Leslie?

  • @edkolly7147
    @edkolly7147 Рік тому +32

    Once a cheater always a cheater and once a women cheats say goodbye and don’t look back no second chances !

  • @Benji2012.
    @Benji2012. Рік тому +29

    There is no excuse for CHEATING on someone you love and TAKE VOWS TO NEVER DO. It should never be ACCEPTABLE FOR CHEATING.

  • @henryzellman
    @henryzellman Рік тому +38

    Accountability is a woman's kryptonite, and this woman is spinning the hamster wheel as fast as she can to spit out excuses after excuse for cheating women's lack of integrity.
    The Sisterhood is above morals, apparently.

    • @adrianvargas9784
      @adrianvargas9784 Рік тому +1

      Best comment I’ve ever heard ! Every single women who has cheated that I knew (and yes I was the one who they cheated with ) would all blame the husband or the Bf on how some how they pushed them to this but every time I tried to make it make sense in my head at the end of the day it all came back to the same thing they did it bcuz they wanted to that’s it nothing more even the ones who cheated that had a good man who worked and gave them every thing still cheated I’ve been on both ends of the stick I have 4 baby mamas and 7 kids I’m 38 I’ve been with more woman then most men have in thee whole life time it’s nothing to brag about it ….it’s just been the cards I’ve been delt in this life ….I’ve seen it all and done it all …..what I did notice was most women cheated when it came down to sex I was told I was “bigger” “better” “how I did things he couldn’t do” ….all of these things would later come back to haunt me in my current relationship bcuz all I could think is now in my mid 30s some other me could come along and do the same …..my advice is to stay single if possible or make sure that the person your going to me with understands you once cheated or have been cheated but plan to never live that life again all cards out on the table and come in clean fresh start

    • @adrianvargas9784
      @adrianvargas9784 Рік тому

      To many typos to go back and edit them all sorry about the ramble rant lol

    • @annsheridan12
      @annsheridan12 Рік тому +1

      @@adrianvargas9784 “see what you made me do “ that’s toddler talk, that’s how they reason.

  • @everett894
    @everett894 Рік тому +39

    Everyone who cheats, cheats for one reason and one reason alone. Selfishness. Me before we. In that moment my desires are more important than whomever I pledged loyalty too.

    • @bgt63
      @bgt63 Рік тому +2

      100%

    • @elettramia6380
      @elettramia6380 10 місяців тому

      Not true, alot of women cheat because their male partners are already cheating on them in other forms such as porn, checking out other women in front of them and completely disregarding them as human beings, having Disrespectful conversations about other women with other men behind your so called partners back. And also many men physically cheat as well. If you believe you deserve monogamy while you yourself are incapable of being truly monogamous to your partner, then you really do have another thing coming. Sure some women cheat because they are selfish, they cheat on men who don’t deserve it, however that percentage of men is very, very small. Don’t be surprised when you receive your own energy and sometimes 10x back, I don’t feel bad for ya and neither will she 😉

  • @jayd495
    @jayd495 Рік тому +46

    Sounds like she is trying to make excuses for a woman’s lack of accountability.

    • @Wise__guy
      @Wise__guy Рік тому +2

      Yup. It’s never their fault

    • @haveyouflossedtoday
      @haveyouflossedtoday Рік тому +1

      She’s not saying it’s okay. It’s not. She’s just saying how women ever even think about cheating in the first place. As women, cheating is not generally something we want to do, ever. (At least not me and not most I don’t think). She’s just explaining the way it happens.

    • @michaelmelamed9103
      @michaelmelamed9103 Рік тому

      Nope

  • @kitdewd329
    @kitdewd329 Рік тому +13

    You forgot the most important thing. A woman’s behavior is based on feelings and emotions just like children are. That makes them intrinsically selfish just like children. Women expect to be able to do what they want to do and get endless second chances.

  • @dennishansel9526
    @dennishansel9526 2 роки тому +47

    New theory, same result. She's really not attached to you, it's just your turn.

  • @Censoredbyfscists
    @Censoredbyfscists 2 роки тому +125

    Mumbo jumbo. Modern women have little to offer a marriage.

    • @tonidukeman4591
      @tonidukeman4591 2 роки тому +7

      @number62
      What do you mean by that comment?

    • @markhaunert5029
      @markhaunert5029 Рік тому

      That's bullshit. Get out more

    • @tonidukeman4591
      @tonidukeman4591 Рік тому +10

      Wow! No answer because you have nothing to offer a woman….

    • @markhaunert5029
      @markhaunert5029 Рік тому +5

      @@tonidukeman4591 agreed. Sadly they're a dime a dozen anymore. Mgtow mentality.

    • @gonefishing4204
      @gonefishing4204 Рік тому +14

      How dare you? They have allot to offer like a bill for monthly child support and spousal support while they are with their new boy toy.

  • @genegene3348
    @genegene3348 Рік тому +23

    Did she just spend 7 minutes explaing what any man could have explained in 1.
    Very few women are ever satisfied.

    • @nikhook1114
      @nikhook1114 7 місяців тому

      The lies and excuses are just ridiculous.

  • @korenstewart7450
    @korenstewart7450 11 місяців тому +1

    Women cheat because their moral compass is not pointing in the right direction.
    No marriage is perfect.
    Most spouses offer 90% of what their spouse wants - but they chase the 10% their spouse does not offer in an affair partner.
    Communication is key.
    Always talk to your partner - every day if needed.
    There is no option that makes cheating a good idea.

  • @mariflowers7238
    @mariflowers7238 10 місяців тому +1

    I know there are differences in men or women cheating. I’m not saying it’s justified. But I did it after being married to my husband for 25years! We grew apart. For me I think it was just being bored? Then he cheated on me to prove a point. And then he left with the other woman.

  • @patriotdefender808
    @patriotdefender808 11 місяців тому +2

    Once you said evolution, I left the conversation.

  • @craigmacdonald5352
    @craigmacdonald5352 2 роки тому +39

    Women set impossible standards, and then blame men, for not measuring up, to them.

    • @tatianadaniel3569
      @tatianadaniel3569 Рік тому

      What are the impossible standards??
      Why do men cheat?

    • @genelewis2481
      @genelewis2481 Рік тому +4

      @@tatianadaniel3569 a certain height, physical fitness, strong yet tender, assertive but not bossy, six figure income, self assured but not arrogant. Should I go on??

    • @genelewis2481
      @genelewis2481 Рік тому +3

      Maybe it’s not him at all and no one will ever make this woman happy and she’s about to find that out.

    • @tatianadaniel3569
      @tatianadaniel3569 Рік тому +4

      @@genelewis2481 Most women aren't setting impossible standards. The women YALL are physically attracted to (usually IG MODEL type girls) want those things. Regular women that you could meet at the grocery store, the bank, the local café, Barnes and Noble, etc., want a decent looking guy whose somewhat financially stable or better and values her personhood.

    • @genelewis2481
      @genelewis2481 Рік тому

      @@tatianadaniel3569 I’m just going by the current dating site statistics. 80% of the girls are going for a guy that only fits into less than 2% of all guys. Most dating sites now include a “list” of what the girl or guy wants which makes it easy to track the numbers. Don’t shoot the messenger!

  • @Thesecondson312
    @Thesecondson312 2 роки тому +22

    Married women come on to me all the time, and it’s always the same lines… husband is a loser, a-hole, etc…
    It’s not like this woman says, where you guys are failing your wives in some respect; if you are failing, you know it. She says this because it’s her way of giving herself permission to cheat.
    Being the bad guy, I know very well the true reason. SHE IS BORED. Nothing in the world beats the natural high of that initial connection, and every woman alive wants to feel wanted above all others.
    You can see it in their eyes.
    Money, love, consequences be damned, if I’m bold enough to sweep her off her feet, they’ll open their arms wide, just to get that rush.

  • @fidel_cyclingaddicts5167
    @fidel_cyclingaddicts5167 Рік тому +11

    im embarrassed to even be seen with my ex spouse.. the cloud over my head is torture but the end result will be separation.. sad because we have kids but once that line is crossed it doesnt matter how much therapy or help you get. a man will never let go of that betrayal. its over!

    • @Bruce-e8h
      @Bruce-e8h Рік тому

      Look at yourself, I have seen a woman create a winner just by being supportive.

  • @robertcarlclayton7724
    @robertcarlclayton7724 2 роки тому +35

    If she cheats I need a lawyer, let her go to therapy.

    • @talisikid1618
      @talisikid1618 Рік тому

      That’s childishly stupid. You need counseling too. You need to learn the correct way to go forward after the divorce.

    • @tatianadaniel3569
      @tatianadaniel3569 Рік тому

      Have you ever cheated on someone?

    • @robertcarlclayton7724
      @robertcarlclayton7724 Рік тому +6

      @@talisikid1618 3rd wave feminism is self centered BS. Women don't understand men or themselves. If she cheated he doesn't need therapy, she does. Take some accountability for your scree ups, don't try blaming a man.

    • @robertcarlclayton7724
      @robertcarlclayton7724 Рік тому

      @@tatianadaniel3569 no. I leave if I'm not feeling it.

    • @tatianadaniel3569
      @tatianadaniel3569 Рік тому +2

      @@robertcarlclayton7724 So your sentiments are the same regardless of the gender? Yeah, I agree.

  • @brucevolk9729
    @brucevolk9729 Рік тому +5

    The bigger stronger thing don’t hold water except for selfishness. When you mess around with the wrong woman who has a husband you can easily get yourself shot. The bigger you are the bigger mess you make. Don’t ever mess around with someone’s wife or husband. Anything can happen!

    • @nikhook1114
      @nikhook1114 7 місяців тому

      Happened where I live about 6months ago. Bartender was messing with the waitress and the waitresses husband found out. He went over to confront him and brought a gun. The husband is in jail and the bartender is 6' under. So the next time a women says my husband doesn't love me or shows no emotion toward me. Let me tell you, a man does have emotion. Try not to bring the worst out of him.

  • @dreambeliever3652
    @dreambeliever3652 Рік тому +4

    Look. You’ve got woman today eating Doritos in the basement on social media all day, not interacting with their kids while you have piles of week old laundry laying all over the place. She’ll still blame the dude because he made her that way. He’s working 65 hours every week. This is why men drink. Next dude comes by that looks like a better option?? Yep.. she gone

  • @gerlandkent6377
    @gerlandkent6377 Рік тому +8

    My, wife cheated on me while being married to me and had a kid by another man while being married to me she committed Adultry while being married to me thats a moral. Sin. I, put all of this in God's hands. God punished my wife here on Earth now my wife has stage #4 cancer I'm now legally by law separated from her. She gets nothing from me.

    • @obsolete208
      @obsolete208 Рік тому +1

      Hell yea, doesn’t happen enough but I’m glad to hear her life is falling apart.

    • @chrisburnsed6349
      @chrisburnsed6349 Рік тому

      Let’s hope she lingers in pain a few years.

    • @user-lv8yf2hh9q
      @user-lv8yf2hh9q Рік тому +1

      I feel for you but the feel-good story is a nice touch. Stay strong brother

    • @antoniobroccoliporto4774
      @antoniobroccoliporto4774 Рік тому

      You people are vindictive and brainwashed…you don’t even know why Jesus came ….you don’t even try forgiveness. Humans are not property. They wouldn’t stray if they were happy. If that was the case your with the wrong partner. Just forgive and go on with your life and not be a crybaby. Lately everyone just is so angry and it’s very unhealthy. We can go on when a relationship fails. We need to first love ourselves.

    • @JohnCunningham-sy5ug
      @JohnCunningham-sy5ug Рік тому

      KARMA.

  • @jeffmorrison6086
    @jeffmorrison6086 Рік тому +11

    What kills me is the fact that my ex-wife used to cheat all the time, I would get upset & called her a cheater & yes I used worse words. But I was considered the abusive one in the relationship. Granted, it was only her, some of her friends, & her useless family that claimed foul against me. Not once did they ever consider she instigated the infidelity & I was simply supposed to go along with it. Since I didn’t approve, I was the abusive one. Thank God we are no longer together, I filed for divorce & have been happy ever since!! And yes, like you said, I unfortunately supported her while she had a few years to find & confirm another partner, so I was used financially in a bad way.

    • @michaelmelamed9103
      @michaelmelamed9103 Рік тому +4

      Never divulge that your woman cheated on you, because you don’t want to be known as a “cornuto”.Get rid of that woman asap, because she will never be truly yours again.

    • @oldschooldude7729
      @oldschooldude7729 Рік тому +2

      At least you got your balls back, Jeff. Some men just tolerate shit for no reason.

    • @meathead5670
      @meathead5670 Рік тому +2

      Karma knows everyone's address. She will get hers. Just be thankful you don't have to deal with that anymore

    • @isaacoludayodaniel4147
      @isaacoludayodaniel4147 Рік тому

      What about the men they are cheating with? Can all men agree to stay off all once-married women so they find it hard to get a man to cheat with? Complicated? We can’t have that level of respect for one another until we respect the word of God.

  • @waltk7624
    @waltk7624 Рік тому +4

    From an old movie “ men cheat to save a marriage, women cheat to break up a marriage “ give it a thought 🧐

  • @DWBurns
    @DWBurns Рік тому +1

    Mine filed for divorce to make money. She expected me to pay her $1500 a month child support. My lawyer answered her lawyer with our plan to seek custody and go after her 401 K. She assured her lawyer I would sign and she would be done in a week. When my lawyer demanded financial statements from her her lawyer demanded $45,000 more.
    She demanded we get married, the day we got married I stopped all 401 K contributions she did not. I knew she wanted money. What she got was written out of her parents wills. It cost her millions, in an effort to take me for $250,000.
    I have offered her total freedom for half a million dollars, I get custody and each year I stay my price goes up $100,000.
    I better not catch any social diseases, she brought one in, I avoided it.
    If she had asked to just walk away I gladly would have done so but she wanted money, just to destroy my life. I had the last laugh, still am.

  • @harrywest2780
    @harrywest2780 Рік тому +4

    Do not get involved, never marry, no kids, life is good, lol in other words do not play you will not pay lol

  • @Jz-sv1ju
    @Jz-sv1ju 2 роки тому +9

    Such stereotypes these lady is spewing about men and women. Blah blah blah is all i hear. But what she is describing about when women leaving their men for a richer guy is called hypergamy, nuff said.

  • @mkkl1170
    @mkkl1170 Рік тому +5

    People cheat because they can. Then come up with a bunch of excuses to their spouses why when there caught.

  • @Ari-gold
    @Ari-gold Рік тому +1

    As someone who has been in many fights, size don’t matter at all. Also both men & women who cheat have no integrity and only think at that moment. That’s why most of the time they go back to their partners crying

  • @annsheridan12
    @annsheridan12 Рік тому +1

    However most of the time the WW ends up left out, divorced by husband and dumped by AP.

  • @mcmjr405
    @mcmjr405 Рік тому

    Great information! Thank you! I’ve added the book you mentioned, evolution of desire to my reading list!

  • @ryuk5673
    @ryuk5673 Рік тому +2

    You might be surprised what u could learn if you stop looking at this from an “evolutionary perspective!”

  • @davidbanner2826
    @davidbanner2826 2 роки тому +13

    They’re human they need variety……let them go tho don’t be a moron and continue the relationship or marriage

  • @robertreynard2916
    @robertreynard2916 2 роки тому +20

    Therapist: You forgot about weaponry. It doesn’t make any difference if the affair partner is bigger and stronger, it really doesn’t

    • @lorensr.bingham5217
      @lorensr.bingham5217 2 роки тому +1

      Now finally a man with knowledge! We know but they don’t! Ha Ha we win every tme dam what a great feeling to see all thst muscke crying like a baby!👍🏻👍🏻❤️

    • @genelewis2481
      @genelewis2481 Рік тому +2

      My ex’s AP was a little hunch backed computer geek that I could have snapped his neck like a pencil if I thought it was worth going to jail for! 😂

  • @robertkrzeminski1206
    @robertkrzeminski1206 Рік тому +2

    Men need to be loved ,women need to be cared for ....

  • @schellem269
    @schellem269 Рік тому +2

    I don't know, I knew a woman that got caught by her husband. Husband divorced the wife....xwife broke into xhusbands house and blew his brains out with a large caliber gun while he slept in his bed.

  • @Jack-zr3mx
    @Jack-zr3mx Рік тому +6

    Because they are grown children. Done.

  • @steveflem3652
    @steveflem3652 Рік тому +1

    It doesn’t matter why women cheat, it’s never right, leave and do your shit, don’t cheat, that’s wrong…

  • @BruceDavisdon
    @BruceDavisdon 9 місяців тому

    In the end- people cheat because they are of low character, lacking self control, self esteem and fail to understand and or remember the vows they made.

  • @AAFP58
    @AAFP58 9 місяців тому

    Cheating and switching relationships does not mean more satisfaction, all it means that a partner does not have patience and can't hold their horses , also your friendship circle matters because negative feeding by negative surroundings will screw up your relationship, also remember the 'Karma ' what goes around that comes around. I am not talking about abusive relationship because that has a different story than a normal relationship.

  • @davewyatt8362
    @davewyatt8362 Рік тому +2

    Does her husband get stuck paying for these children as that are not his? With the courts today I imagine he will get stuck paying all the bills!!!

  • @pauldamore92
    @pauldamore92 Рік тому +3

    Stay single. I believe Eddie Murphy said it best “HALF “

  • @peteverhelst2088
    @peteverhelst2088 Рік тому +1

    Why does anyone cheat, not just women, has to do with the fallen nature of humanity. As soon as you take God out of the discussion you can go anywhere with this. God created us for relationship with Him first but also with each other. When sin entered our world due to selfish rebellion ( Adam and Eve)everything fell out of place. I realize my point of view won’t be popular. I’m sorry but I start with the fact that the earth is the Lord’s and all who dwell in it. Psalm 8.

  • @DavidFerguson-k4u
    @DavidFerguson-k4u 8 місяців тому

    This isn’t “science.” It’s all about respecting each other. Ask yourself: if you cheated on your spouse and were caught, how would you feel? Can you live without your spouse? Basic stuff!

  • @timbirgenheier7155
    @timbirgenheier7155 8 місяців тому

    The man being cheated on is much more damaging, the reason I say this is because the man loses the kids, and the house leaving him al9ne and broke. It should be that whomever breaks up the family unit should forfeit primary custody of the children. Men's rights are a serious problem. Men get demonized and it is not right. We should all share equal rights with things in place that protects the innocent faithful person regardless of gender.

  • @DolanAm.
    @DolanAm. Рік тому +1

    If u kill someone, u gotta go to jail, judge what not ask u why did u kill? Same with cheating, no one wants to know why she or he cheated, cheating means cheating end of story.

  • @stallonebullard921
    @stallonebullard921 Рік тому +1

    Her referencing elden ring was the coolest thing about this video 😄

  • @hargoniyamaki5168
    @hargoniyamaki5168 10 місяців тому

    Cheating just tells you that your partner is selfish and ready to pack up and get out. It doesn’t matter ‘why?’

  • @user-lv8yf2hh9q
    @user-lv8yf2hh9q Рік тому +1

    I think social media is no help either. Always scrolling facebook watching other people living their 'best lives'. They feel like they can better-deal you and they do.

  • @SeaBaker44
    @SeaBaker44 11 місяців тому

    If you were cheated on by your best friend 2 other friends + her ex superintendent + 2 neighbors ? Wtf do you have to say about to say about that?

  • @carljohnson6264
    @carljohnson6264 Рік тому +5

    I think , for men, the basic ideal , that makes them not understand women, is that a man wants a woman to love him for him.
    You bring up the guy “who starts playing video games…”
    You never hear this the other way around. Of course there are exceptions.
    If you are a man, there is one rule that remains constant.
    There is zero rhyme or reason to a females “love” or actions.

  • @robertgerner4176
    @robertgerner4176 Рік тому +3

    This is very simple, and I speak from experience. They are all looking for the bigger better deal. They come crawling back ( or in my case lie to you for 23 years). A far better video would be “ what does a guy do when a woman lies for years and has built a family around this thing/woman”. The thing is that men who have stuck around suspecting infidelity actually care about the kids. So unlike if the roles were reversed we/they wouldn’t take half out of spite. And yes I’ve been an at home dad for 24 years so yeah I could.

    • @oldschooldude7729
      @oldschooldude7729 Рік тому

      "The thing is that men who have stuck around suspecting infidelity actually care about the kids. "
      That's not a valid excuse in my opinion. The fact that men let women hide behind kids shows how soft they are and it proves why their woman strayed.

  • @Bruce-e8h
    @Bruce-e8h Рік тому

    “What drives us to cheat”. Huge Freudian slip. She’s a cheater and can’t stand to admit her low character.
    People in an originally strong relationship who cheat do so because they don’t see them sharing life together in the future. Wife wants kids, husband does not. Wife wants material life, husband does not care about fancy crap.
    Everybody knows this.
    Women cheat trying to avoid the lonely pain of loss. Instant replacement, instant relief.

  • @tom1959100
    @tom1959100 Рік тому +1

    You know...sometimes it's just in someones genetics to be morally bankrupt. My first wife was a beautiful country girl from a dysfunctional home. Her dad was a pos...beat her mom, cheated on her, would steal you blind, couldn't keep a job because of anger issues, had a moonshine stihl in the hills behind their house....plus her mom wasn't really rational mentally/emotionally. She said she wanted to live a good life...not how she grew up...and I believed her. Her dad died a couple of years after we married...and she turned out just like her parents. We were married for 16 years(divorced and remarried)...and I had custody of all 3 kids(7, 5, 4). I should've NEVER taken her back...she probably had affairs the vast majority of our marriage...and I and our kids have paid a price for me believing she had changed and taking her back. The old saying "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree" applies to daughters as much as it does sons.
    My 2nd wife was also beautiful...a HS and college cheerleader...and fairly privileged growing up...but also a grade-A narcissist...I vaguely understood what it meant...I just never realized someone could be that way to the core. We we're married for 12 years...and that was all I could handle. My kids couldn't stand her. In both of my first two marriages...we went to multiple counseling sessions...but nothing worked. This one had an affair on me as well. I had opportunities...but never did...I refuse to lower my standards, ethics, morals.
    My 3rd wife was a surprise....also beautiful. She was 50 when we married(I was 54)....and she looked like she was in her 30's. The first 2-3 years or so were the best I'd ever known....believed we'd be together forever. Then her mother got cancer, and passed away...leaving her the house(which I had talked her into) and $35K. Long story short...she really wanted to control me, where we lived, and wanted all the money if I died, and my kids to recieve none. Our youth pastor told me she was more about setting herself up than about US being happy together. So our marriage lasted only 4.5 years. AND...EACH of them slandered my name and reputation to gain sympathy for themselves. THAT hurt worse than anything...because I was good to each of them, and bent over backwards WAY TOO MANY times to keep each marriage together.
    EACH of my wives had a dysfunctional family in one way or another growing up. Again....sometimes it's just genetics and early psychological trauma of sorts early in life. But the bottom line is....they weren't real and genuine. Men can be the same way.
    It took me all this time to really and truly sit down to evaluate the past, and what all transpired...and understand who I was inside...and the type of lady who would be best for me. Now I know...I'm still decent looking at 63....but I don't believe I have it in me anymore to try. I have around a dozen ladies I know that want to have a relationship...but the best I can do is to treat a lady to a nice meal and conversation....then we each go back to our own homes. I wish I could find that "spark" again....but just the thought of further turmoil in a relationship makes me appreciate being single.

    • @allensmith2032
      @allensmith2032 Рік тому +1

      A narc can destroy your children and you they are evil to the core .I now have a daughter that is beautiful but is inside a horrible person .I saw a change around high school .Have not seen my grand kids and they are in college.Her mom controlled every thing in her life even who she married ,what house they bought her high school .She is all about money and looks .Her half brother was in Iraq and she never wrote him once .She was glad when her uncle died of a overdose ,so his mom could have piece in her life.I was a good father took her camping ,vacations ,things fathers do paid
      All my child support ,not a dead beat dad ,took her sled riding in the winters ,she was always happy .
      Back then they gave fathers visitation every other week end ,so I tried my best to have good memories.
      The change was so fast after her mom married a rich guy .She told me I was a horrible father .
      Then my new wife’s and our only son passed away .No empathy are fake empathy on face book to all her friends .I only hope my grand daughters don’t become like her a narcissist.They are so evil .

    • @tom1959100
      @tom1959100 Рік тому +1

      @@allensmith2032 ...So sorry you had to/and are enduring that, brother. It leaves lasting scars for sure. My daughter rarely communicates with me....but she's all about her other parent...the one who broke up our home with lies and cheating. For a while, as a teen, her birthgiver let her start drinking early and let her go out with even college guys, and come in whenever. We were definitely estranged during that time. Thankfully, she outgrew those days...mainly because I had taken them all to church growing up...and her convictions pulled her back.
      She will come up to me at ball games or get togethers and chitchat....but will never call or invite me to their home...even so, my situation isn't anywhere near as bad as yours. Her and her husband have always been horrible with money...and when I quit letting them borrow money when they got in financial trouble because they spent money on eating out/having fun before they took care of their bills...they got upset with me. I had help them out several times...but enough is enough. They'll both turn 41 later this year...and now together make around $130+ per year....and both their kids(my grandsons) are out of the house and working. So time will tell if their able to finally "grow up" financially speaking. She was my precious little girl growing up...but I doubt we'll ever have a close relationship again.

    • @iceman-ko6xi
      @iceman-ko6xi Рік тому

      You guys have the longest comment left on YT.

  • @rgrifferon
    @rgrifferon Рік тому

    If you have a cheater, it’s best to find out sooner than later. This is your chance to move on, so move on, don’t look back cheaters are not worth the emotional roller coaster, you could wind up supporting another man children.

  • @jimgrisier7012
    @jimgrisier7012 Рік тому +1

    I think that this speaker brings good thought to the topic. I believe that the problem and solution resides in the member participants. There are all kinds of reasons cheating goes on. The speaker tries to say this and not create a one size conclusion. My reason will be different than yours etc.
    What really matters here in the commitment of the parties. We all are expected to be thoughtfilled directed persons. In a perfect world, we would be. Many of us are not. I agree with what she has presented, but not in every case.
    In my opinion much of the criticism leveled at her is selfish and not well thought out. It seems that much of it is spoken from pain. Much is spoken from a not too thoughtful or well analyzed perspective. But see, that is from the responders perspective. There are many differing understands of this topic. That guy who wrote the book she refers will never stop updating it.
    I give her credit for preparing this video.

  • @k9companion231
    @k9companion231 Рік тому

    It’s called “Monkey Branching” as women always want to upgrade until they can’t. By this time women can no longer pair bond which equals box wine and cat litter.

  • @jamesdixon2860
    @jamesdixon2860 Рік тому +1

    A lot of talk while saying very little

  • @nickywaggs8672
    @nickywaggs8672 Рік тому

    It’s easy. The man’s value has gone down or she’s found someone with more value (better job, better health). It’s in her nature to level up, especially if you’re slipping. Don’t ever think she’s yours. She…will…cheat.

    • @doannad.1518
      @doannad.1518 Рік тому

      Not all women cheat just like not all men cheat. Cheating sucks, that’s for sure.

  • @manuelgchapajr2000
    @manuelgchapajr2000 Рік тому

    Selfishness, Self-centered, and just plain Evil

  • @gerlandkent6377
    @gerlandkent6377 Рік тому +2

    IM. NOT TAKING HER BACK.

  • @MidMo4020
    @MidMo4020 Рік тому +4

    I think when you’re telling women to keep a blueprint of what they need in a man to measure their partners by, you’re missing the fact that’s EXACTLY what they’re doing when they go through one after another. This video didn’t prove or disprove anything at all. And quite often nowadays, it’s simply about the sex.. that’s an integrity issue. Women always.. always.. need something to blame their cheating on. I have never heard a woman say “I shouldn’t have done that” ever. I’m 47, I’ve been in the restaurant business for thirty years and worked and associated with hundreds of women over the years. In the modern day, women cheat for the same reasons as men.. the sex. I’ve known plenty of married women who love their husband but fuck sancho.. no love, no shedding of a bad long term partner. They simply want to fuck sancho…

    • @bwfreel
      @bwfreel Рік тому +2

      Lots of truth in this comment

  • @carlmiller8138
    @carlmiller8138 Рік тому +3

    She cheats.. let her go, make sure she and her AP are gone. Then close the bank account and drain it. And moved to Vegas or Europe.

  • @marvin1690
    @marvin1690 Рік тому +3

    They do it because they like big tools, and once they get one, they will continue to search for bigger tools. If a guy is bigger than her dude, she will leave her dude for that guy… after they turn 40 they might slow down and be happy with one guy, but with this generation it’s hard to tell.

    • @chrisburnsed6349
      @chrisburnsed6349 Рік тому +2

      Yep I work with a few honest women who have admitted this in conversation.

    • @haveyouflossedtoday
      @haveyouflossedtoday Рік тому

      Hilarious . Completely wrong. Also….women hit their sexual peak about 40 when men are slowing down.

    • @marvin1690
      @marvin1690 Рік тому

      @@haveyouflossedtoday they hit it @ 32 years of age, who you kidding?….and when they turn 32 a bad reputation goes along with it…..guys will be saying her name on all sides of town when the topic of hoes come up. And by the time she’s 40 ,,,,it should have made it to her ears by then, then she goes through depression and menopause and all that, and pumps her breaks once her name goes out. At that point she lucky if any decent man that knows her would give her the time of day. So when she does finally get a sucker, she’s ready to stop being a hoe, Because she finally learned that the guys she rejected would be the best thing for her. And the guys she accepted had many other thots throughout town and big mouths, she also learns that although females don’t hear about her stunts, men all over town, including the ones that never formally met her only know her reputation for being a hoe. And none of them will tell her he knows everybody that she got with, we men learn to be respectful and keep our mouths shut when in the presence of such a woman….funny thing what females don’t know is those guys are a small percentage…it’s not like 50 percent of black men, dog females…it’s less than 12 percent that do it, but that 12 percent is capable of running through 10 women at a time, and they make sure they have the girls miles apart from each other. And when they get busted they get instant replacements, because women find them attractive… too bad they don’t know if you got 100 men in the hood, that 88% watches the 12% run the women and run up into married women. These are the key factors in busting up black families…and they leave us to try and fix all the damage they done, less alone supporting these guys kids unknowingly….Half of that 12% wishes they could do it as well, and the other half is disgusted at what they see. This doesn’t apply to all women, just the 80% of them, the ones that cheat. I realize if I date 10 women, I can only expect 2 to be real.

  • @aiacha1
    @aiacha1 Рік тому +2

    Yep my wife chose to flirt with an MC biker one time and a 6 ft. 9 400 lb guy at a concert but I launched the biker to the ground and squared up with the giant and pushed and shoved most of the concert. But she tried

    • @chrisburnsed6349
      @chrisburnsed6349 Рік тому

      Goddamn liar! You just watched it all happen and cried inside is all you did.

  • @dannyadams7486
    @dannyadams7486 Рік тому +1

    Talk talk talk without saying $h*t

  • @smokedawg9371
    @smokedawg9371 2 роки тому +9

    Evolutionary world view ? Or Biblical world view ? It’s simply called “the sin nature.” Silly women led away by their lust ( desires.) Gynocentrism struggles to explain female Hypergamy. Interesting thoughts, I enjoyed you’re insights!

  • @markpack1111
    @markpack1111 Рік тому +4

    Totally true.. I've never had so many married and girls in relationships hitting on me as I have the past couple of years..
    Then again I'm a hunter and survivalist.. key
    And not obese...

  • @doannad.1518
    @doannad.1518 Рік тому

    She is talking about the biological factors that influence sexual desire. Women cheat more often when they are fertile.

  • @gastonblagustus4625
    @gastonblagustus4625 Рік тому +2

    Excellent, ça nécessité 6000 ans pour comprendre la femme des cavernes. Dans pas longtemps nous auront compris la psychologie des femmes de vikings 😂 merci beaucoup ❤

  • @michaelhall8373
    @michaelhall8373 Рік тому

    You overlooked the lie and the consequences of believing and acting on those lies.
    Feminism lies that women can sleep around like a guy can with no consequences when in fact there are a few of them.
    At a body count of five the ability to pair bond with a partner decreases therefore the divorce chances are increased, the higher the count the greater the chance of divorce, eventually a very high count she will never be able to pair bond.

  • @peterhudson5748
    @peterhudson5748 Рік тому

    Wait, what? Why does anyone cheat? Why focus on why women cheat? Do men cheat?

    • @anthonyagbojo1408
      @anthonyagbojo1408 Рік тому

      She said why men cheat. The issue is 70% of cheating women fall in love with who they cheat with and she is just trying to explore why that is.

  • @larryjones8928
    @larryjones8928 Рік тому +1

    Some women do it for revenge

  • @velardejl
    @velardejl Рік тому

    This is dumb. They’re overthinking. Men and women cheat because they’re open to it. A successful relationship takes work. When it gets hard, too many people look for that back door out of it. I’ve heard so many people I know say “they’ll give the marriage a try”. Gee, I wonder why they fail. Btw I’ve been married 30 years. My parents over 60.

  • @randybaumery5090
    @randybaumery5090 Рік тому +1

    She cheats because she DESIRES the other man, men more.

  • @twstvan93
    @twstvan93 Рік тому +1

    Evolution has been debunked which is the premise for your video being full of..well you know what.

  • @theprofiler8531
    @theprofiler8531 Рік тому +1

    I learned nothing today

  • @rogerrowsell5926
    @rogerrowsell5926 Рік тому

    It is said, "You don't miss a slice off of a cut loaf in the morning."

  • @sunnypai4031
    @sunnypai4031 11 місяців тому

    Watch the Clint Eastwood movie Bridges of Maddison County, it’s a movie about a married woman with children who cheats on her husband with a total stranger. Back in the day when it first came out this movie made a lot of noise and did well at the box office. A lot married folks liked this movie, I guess the baby boomer generation was big on it. People can learn a thing or two from this movie. Stay away from marriage.

  • @antoniobroccoliporto4774
    @antoniobroccoliporto4774 Рік тому

    Unfaithfulness also points to a societal view that one considers one’s partner as ownership . Insecurity rears it’s head when the other partner cheats on them . As if they are less than or considered not worthy of their partners love when cheating happens. Maybe in this modern age we need to be less possessive over our mate and there would be no desire to stray… and if they stray maybe it’s not the right relationship for that individual. To begin with. Forgiveness is an important ingredient in any relationship. Not looking to the others infidelity as an affront and starting conversation about issues maybe never discussed truly and openly would solve the extreme tension cheating brings on. All this should be discussed from the get go…ground rules if any and not in manner that is degrading to the other. I’m not saying open relationship. I’m saying forgiveness to validate a relationship not alienate it.

  • @raycialkowski4070
    @raycialkowski4070 Рік тому

    There are so many different aspects in relationships that play a part to say there’s just these couple in there is another injustice in our development. We are not that advanced as we’d like to believe we are in, especially in our younger days when our hormones are raging, and we don’t know what to do with them in our society Isn’t a very good moral compass to begin with communication of all kinds in every relationship are the core of the commitment to the relationship
    One thing to always remember men see better than they think that’s why women dress, and put on make up

  • @lazurzabound
    @lazurzabound Рік тому

    Sure, blame it on the male for cheating women. That didn’t take much research; nothing about women denying intimacy causing men to look elsewhere 😢😢😢

  • @karenlim7135
    @karenlim7135 Рік тому

    You don’t mention anything about the long term partner not being emotionally available or intelligent or not necessarily rich but a higher social status.

  • @jonathanwieler8863
    @jonathanwieler8863 2 роки тому +4

    Great episode. Many things to think about. Thank you.

  • @davidbehrman4920
    @davidbehrman4920 Рік тому

    When they get divorced they take all the money from the first guy and then they go with the guy they wanted To Do all the long

  • @davidlam3763
    @davidlam3763 Рік тому

    Trade up? What makes the woman think the next partner up is going to take her seriously the way she wants unless thats what each person wants and is okay with or there's no other options but remember if someone can do that to another person be sure there's a high probability it will also happen with the current person. 🤔

  • @hargoniyamaki5168
    @hargoniyamaki5168 Рік тому +1

    Biological imperative to create genetic diversity. We have known this for almost a century from the fossil record.

  • @yakfishin4912
    @yakfishin4912 Рік тому

    Does the word "Ho" ring a bell with anybody here?

  • @tidyisland830
    @tidyisland830 Рік тому

    This is simply horseshit. It comes down to the lack of integrity and a lack of character. One either has these traits or they do not.

  • @jayd495
    @jayd495 Рік тому +1

    How about just be honest and end the relationship. And that line getting out of the relationship without consequences. Lol. I am vindictive as hell. I would waiting until I video proof and every person in our life would get to see it. Lol

  • @yangvang9095
    @yangvang9095 11 місяців тому

    Why men or women want money not know nothing work ?

  • @saeedn8829
    @saeedn8829 2 роки тому +5

    It’s genuine desire not cheating.

  • @femckay
    @femckay Рік тому

    In other words he changes his theory every four years!

  • @Dave-hc6pp
    @Dave-hc6pp 10 місяців тому

    I’m 3 minutes in and I’m hearing a lot of crap. Doing a post mortem on my own failed marriage I can break it down to a few very important things that men need to do. Be a good partner. Women expect you to be a team player and they want an active and important role in the marriage. Be faithful. Women want a man who wants them just as much as they believe he wanted them on the day they were married. Pay attention to your wife. Don’t ignore her or go in the other room and close the door. It goes back to being a good partner. Have dates that involve doing fun things she enjoys. Do that and she’ll give it back in spades.
    I’m not going to get into the things women are or aren’t doing that motivate a man to not do the things above. Each marriage is different but you can bet it’s something women do that put men off from doing the things they need to do to preserve and grow the marriage. I don’t care if you disagree. As I said, this is a post mortem on my own marriage and the things I didn’t do are foundational to a good marriage. It also means, in my opinion that if men are doing these things, their wives are less likely to wander.
    If and when a woman wanders or seeks sex outside the marriage, the physical attributes of a potential partner are secondary because she’s already made up her mind to cheat. Most of the time, not always, you have only yourself to blame.

  • @dianefeinstein8951
    @dianefeinstein8951 Рік тому

    And then after several decades more research David Buss realizes that it all comes down to random collisions and two lit cigarettes. ❤Diane, Vancouver, Canada. FrNO10/23. 08:37 am

  • @VV-sn3fh
    @VV-sn3fh Рік тому

    I think the only reason people cheat!, In general, Is because people feel rejection at home, the rest is crap, wrong video. She is explaining why people mate but the title is about cheating.

    • @karenlim7135
      @karenlim7135 Рік тому

      So very true my friend…. YOU HIT IT!!! Thank you!!!

    • @isaacoludayodaniel4147
      @isaacoludayodaniel4147 Рік тому

      I agree

    • @jimnicosia5934
      @jimnicosia5934 Рік тому

      She said they cheat because the man becomes a high cost. Doesn't work. Can't work. I think it's boredom. She wants some excitement back in her life.

  • @imperialkevin1113
    @imperialkevin1113 Рік тому +1

    Great analysis of female nature.👍🏿

  • @rebeccahernandez3460
    @rebeccahernandez3460 Рік тому

    What about why men cheat?

  • @passthegravy7688
    @passthegravy7688 Рік тому

    I always thought that was the reason why women cheated. I was right.

  • @cavediver8385
    @cavediver8385 7 місяців тому

    Because they CAN.

  • @adamfindlay7091
    @adamfindlay7091 2 роки тому +8

    Well science only explains so much with regard to love/emotions relationships cuz theyre hard to explain!😊

  • @nickywaggs8672
    @nickywaggs8672 Рік тому

    Guys, you are always improving or she’s looking elsewhere. It’s just the way it is.